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Lifestylebjm0987/r/seduction15/07/24 01:53 AM
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Conversationbjm0987/r/seduction19/07/24 08:09 AM
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Logisticsbjm0987/r/seduction05/10/24 11:37 PM
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I hate these comments because they just tell people to quit. I knew this comment was coming which is why I said I’m also dating other girls. When you advance through your game you can sometimes find value in being patient with things, but it does come with the caveat that you need to be hyper aware when you are simping.
/r/seduction06/10/24 02:45 AM
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I hate these comments because they just tell people to quit. I knew this comment was coming which is why I said I’m also dating other girls. When you advance through your game you can sometimes find value in being patient with things, but it does come with the caveat that you need to be hyper aware when you are simping.
/r/seduction06/10/24 02:44 AM
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That’s more or less my tactic if you will. I’ve sent her like 1-2 texts per day over the last week on Instagram. She’s back in 2 weeks. Might just heart the last text she sent me and leave it until she’s back
/r/seduction06/10/24 01:22 AM
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Haha I will acknowledge the odds are not in my favour. Who cares if it doesn’t work out, but this girl is a rocket. I’m texting her back and fourth pretty consistently. I’m just not a talking stage guy and like to ask out girls pretty quick after matching, so that’s why this is so foreign to me.
/r/seduction06/10/24 01:15 AM
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Fantastic point
/r/seduction20/07/24 11:24 PM
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I have decent game and I’m a tall fit good looking guy, but I find myself not always relaxed on dates and needy still. The comments on this post have been amazing though and I’m feeling like I have a new perspective
/r/seduction20/07/24 11:17 PM
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No. It’s been maybe 2 weeks since I’ve been laid. When I lose interest in girls I generally cut them off my roster. I don’t really like stringing them along, but I’m starting to think I need to have backup side pieces to live that abundance life and prevent that neediness
/r/seduction20/07/24 11:12 PM
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I’ve just had first dates with them this week. No smash. I’ll probably fuck 20% of the girls on a first date, 30% goes to a day 2, and 50% usually break up with me.
/r/seduction20/07/24 11:05 PM
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Very well said. The effort I’ve put into losing weight, having better style, and excelling in my career is definitely something I’m doing for myself as a priority, but I would be lying if I said I’m not trying to excel in these aspects of my life for women. You make really good points about doing things for myself, and really the byproduct is going to be attractive women falling into my life. I like this better than the perspective of trying to level up for women and the byproduct having a succe…
/r/seduction20/07/24 11:02 PM
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Yeah it’s definitely recent. I had fantastic game 7 years ago until I got into a relationship. Now that I’ve been broken up for a year and finally in great shape I’m getting a ton of interest from girls. Still often not the caliber I’m looking for, or real connection. I feel I’m still chasing and being needy even if they’re pretty much falling into my lap. For example, one of the best looking girls I have ever seen approached me after I nervously eye fucked her while freezing 2 days ago after a …
/r/seduction20/07/24 12:42 AM
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I am absurdly picky, yet at the same time I do feel dating women is a sole source of my happiness. That’s def where some neediness comes in. I don’t know if I need to put more work on finding girls of better quality or check my expectations.
/r/seduction19/07/24 03:08 PM
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Yeah the issue is that I’m desperate to find my wife and feel that I’m on a timeline since I’m turning 30 next month. There’s also the fact that my ex of 7 years cheated on me and made me feel like I’m not good enough. So I think theres some self esteem issues for sure. I’m on the apps for hours a day which is why I went out with so many chicks this week. But im realizing that devotion is in fact needy. I’m still wicked nervous doing cold approach, and have only done a few over the last 3 months…
/r/seduction19/07/24 02:41 PM
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Lol 3 ghosted me so it’s not a flex.
/r/seduction19/07/24 02:18 PM
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Can I hire you as my therapist, and how much do you charge? Haha. These have been the most revolutionizing comments I have had in a Reddit post on dating topics.
/r/seduction19/07/24 09:15 AM
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Wow you summed this up so well. I got out of a 7 year relationship last year and I’m approaching 30 and want to settle down and find my life partner and have kids and what not. I’m trying to have agency over my dating my dating life, and take this pursuit seriously. You made me discover that this mentality isn’t ambitious or tactful, but is in fact needy. I don’t really know where I get my self esteem from, I have lots of it, I know my worth, but I get discouraged sometimes with girls I feel are…
/r/seduction19/07/24 08:53 AM
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I’m 29. I weight train 3-5x per week, cardio 2-3 times a week, and follow a strict diet and track my calories. Weight loss is 90% diet
/r/seduction16/07/24 12:17 AM
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If I had to pick a camp to sit in, I would be in the looks matter camp. I’ve been into game for years but since prioritizing my looks my results have been inanely better
/r/seduction15/07/24 03:53 PM
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No. I don’t have any shirtless pics because it’s a bit tryhard. But you can tell I look athletic by my outfits. There’s some shirtless beach pics on my instagram that is connected to my dating profile that girls can dig for.
/r/seduction15/07/24 03:52 PM
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You can’t control that so why bother bitching. Be well groomed, have nice hair, take care of your skin, and maybe get some good dental work done if you’re really concerned about your face. I can guarantee anybody can be reasonably good looking if you take care of your face
/r/seduction15/07/24 03:51 PM
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I’m not meeting with these girls on Skype if that’s what you’re asking lol.
/r/seduction15/07/24 07:25 AM
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I mean getting a date through the dating apps. Since getting good photos and getting in shape I have over 150 likes in each app right now I can just pick from and have a good chance of getting a date pretty much whenever. Now I’m getting picky with my online dating because sometimes if the connection isn’t there you’re dedicating an entire evening to 1 girl.
/r/seduction15/07/24 07:24 AM
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I got a photographer specifically for dating profiles. They’re really high resolution, but they look like they were just taken casually by a friend. A photographer will definitely help you with posing. To be honest it’s kinda weird, and you’re doing a lot of movement and funny steps, so the end result in the photos it looks natural and dynamic and candid. Standing still and smiling for the camera is not good posing. If you can’t get someone who offers this maybe get a family/wedding/engagement p…
/r/seduction15/07/24 06:27 AM
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Yeah of course. Women know what genuine confidence is vs when you’re faking it. As difficult as it is to workout every day and lose weight I feel that it’s easier than trying to manifest new mindsets and study outer game for your confidence gains. Knowing you look good makes you a natural, and that’s why I believe it should be the number 1 priority in all men’s pursuit of having agency over their dating life.
/r/seduction15/07/24 06:13 AM
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Of course
/r/seduction15/07/24 02:44 AM
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I bought nice clothes and hired a professional photographer. Made such a difference I can get a date every night of the week if I want. It’s still hard to match with girls over an 8.5, so i usually go on 1 online date every week or 2 with my best matches so it’s worth my time.
/r/seduction15/07/24 02:25 AM
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