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It works. I had a performative male classmate who talked shit about the women he f****. At parties he would sweet talk and act soft to girls who didnt know him already. He walked around with "cool" style and performative shit like a pearl necklace
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 02:21 PM
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Why should men prove they like women for anything other than sex? If youre gonna be strawmanning a worldview on a whole gender, the burden of proof should lay on you
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 09:32 AM
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Thats just not true. Youre taking general statistics and applying them to where they dont belong
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 06:38 AM
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Debating is not a good idea to reject a man who's cold approaching 😅 we dont wanna get murdered
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 03:24 AM
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I think you kind of misunderstood what im getting at in my comment, but I was also a bit unclear. My point with the comment is to ask where OP is from, because social norms are different in different places. You cant take advice on the internet without because everything will be according to where the commenter is from. You will get completely opposite responses from different people, which seems to be what you have experienced as well. If you only take into account your local community however …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 06:12 PM
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Thats what you have to do if you have to put on new coffee and you and your coworker both have to wait for it to brew Im norwegian though, we only talk to strangers on the internet, on the mountains and when drunk
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 03:55 PM
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Where are you from where it was socially acceptable to go up to random people and talk to them?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 02:19 PM
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Its a risk you would have to take! Especially if youre girl-next-door-pretty and are also a supportive partner. Some guys get crazy inflated egos from that, but some guys appreciate what they have. Would you take the risk?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 11:35 AM
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Experience doesnt really matter as much long term:) In my country we have an expression: practice makes master Relationship experience can be annoying as you might be the starter girlfriend (I was for two guys). But my now boyfriend was raised right, and has the right values, so he treats me right even though im his first!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 08:34 AM
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With a situationship theres more stress, risk of STDs or violence, crazy behaviour, spouts of loneliness, rejection and other things that take up your time. With a marriage theres a consistency and trust there. In busy periods of your life, your partner can support you and be your cheerleader, and you can focus on your career. In less busy times you can do the same for your partner. Youre two people having each others backs. Its also more stable for potential children
/r/ExRedPill25/05/26 01:37 PM
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Turn off your location for him, dont go to locations in your usual routine and dont go to the gym at night Youve only been together a year so you may never know if he’s actually violent
/r/ExRedPill25/05/26 10:27 AM
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Well thats easy. If he has treated me like shit I wont be in the mood anyway You write this like its intentional to try manipulating men. But for most women libido is tied to intimacy, respect and general life stress. Even a lot of men will lose attraction with disrespect, or will get significant post nut-clarity afterwards
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 12:59 PM
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I think this is true for the most part. Except for people who have real busy, but high-paying jobs who would prefer their kids to have a stay at home parent. Still, if people prioritize their career so highly they should consider if they actually do want children and will have time to show up for them
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 03:24 PM
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I know women like this, and men dont even see them as women. They think its all due to standards, and refer to the less appealing women. But they dont even consider the unappealing women and their perspective The difference is stark actually in how much youre noticed. As a young teen I had cystic acne, but ive had a glow up since. Some dont ever get that glow up, and will continue to not be considered at all
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 06:28 AM
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No because im in a happy relationship. But hypothetically, when single I did sleep around a little and I also have an easy time orgasming. Its even easier in a long term relationship or with fwb (practice makes perfect...), so I usually did that, but its never been much of an issue for me. Maybe I did sleep around because I was on the lucky side of the orgasm gap, who knows
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 02:18 PM
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the same woman who says she hates being objectified can still want to be desired, chased, touched, admired, complimented, posted, flirted with, and sexually wanted by the right man. Well I do like being objectified by my SO when I know he respects me and loves my personality as well. How is this a debate? OP has completely misunderstood what women are complaining about
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 02:19 PM
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Nope. My bf doesnt like it, and i still give it to him. I dont wanna coerce him
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 09:14 AM
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Touché. Especially coercing his then-gf to "reluctantly give an occasional bj" is such an asshole move
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 09:07 AM
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The type of person who complains about Manic Pixie fantasies isnt often the same woman with fantasies of being swept up by the rich guy. Yep. Often its either neurodivergent women or bpd women that get the manic pixie dream girl treatment
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 10:53 PM
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I say the same is true. Men who prefer women without beards are creeps
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 06:22 PM
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Cause evolution has made it so you ignore your disgust response when youre h****. And optimism. It worked for me eventually!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 06:01 PM
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Nice try ragebaiting
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 05:46 PM
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I get what youre saying and i do agree. And i think most women and men naturally adjust their preferences without any of this league crap The keyword is most though. Cause what do i do when one of my best friends sends me images of hot country guys that sometimes verge on looking AI? 😅 She keeps being played by men who are only looking for fun. She isnt the type to seek advice either, so i really cant tell her
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 05:11 PM
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Based take
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 11:08 PM
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I guess the men around you are angels then 😬
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 08:18 PM
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I guess you havent been to Norway. Girls are more educated here, so its more common with the woman having higher education and man in blue collar than the opposite. Maybe also higher income, but thats adjusted with loans and starting work later
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 08:17 PM
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For example, multiple reviews in behavioral science and economics find that women often report higher perceived risk across domains and tend to be more risk-aware on average (e.g., Croson & Gneezy, 2009; Cambridge research on gender and risk assessment) Yup. Women are more risk-averse. That also makes some type of decisions a little more draining as we will weigh our options more and try to predict the outcome
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 08:14 PM
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Maybe Im blue pill in this instance but I think people are generally good. Only a couple percent of people have the more "malignant" personality disorders. However I do believe that the environment and upbringing matters a lot. And people in positions of power will justify their actions to be able to look themselves in the mirror
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 11:09 AM
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For the most part everyone feels and gives love through all the "love languages" Yeah, I agree. And if any one of them is omitted I feel neglected
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 08:53 PM
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Is it a red flag to have it on there but not at the top? My top ones are acts of service and physical touch, but I do want flowers occasionally and for gifts to be well thought out And is it a difference in if its a red flag if a woman makes well thought out gifts for her boyfriend, friends and family?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 01:36 PM
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Orgasm has plenty of health benefits plus you get to test the chemistry beforehand It is risky though
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 01:32 PM
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I feel sex through love. Wait, what?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 01:31 PM
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Yeah this
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 10:15 PM
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Having kids 😆
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 11:50 AM
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Yeah youre right its not just western society. I just didnt want to get into an argument by making a too broad blanket statement
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 05:15 PM
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😂 seems like it yes! And if you make the mistake of only mentioning one perspective in a paragraph reply you will get angry whataboutism replies
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 08:53 AM
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Agree with everything youre saying here. This comment section just shows a lot of men dont get it. OP is talking about some reasons why a lot of western societies have lower birthrate and people in the comment section is just downplaying it and calling it narcisstistic. Its a huge demograpic problem and we should do more to prevent population collapse
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 07:43 AM
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Yes complain. We should be complaining more to politicians. Politicians need to take it seriously and do everything they can to prevent lower birthrate. Economic incentives and laws do help somewhat even though it doesnt reverse the culture
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 07:39 AM
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But calling it a bad deal ignores that many women choose it freely and find meaning in it. Im going to choose it even though I know its a bad deal. And we should talk about it like OP does. Its a demographic problem when enough people choose to opt out in a country
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 07:34 AM
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The way ive heard it used among broader friends is that its irrational small things. Your definition could fit as well, but it also fits with describing general compatibility
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 07:02 PM
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When I was on dating apps I either did it for approval or I filtered for personality. It was too overwhelming though, just turned into spam Had much more luck with irl dating. But even that I went through multiple relationships that were fine but we were too different. However I met my boyfriend of 1 year through mutual friends and we're super compatible 🫶 Tl;Dr Dating apps sucks, irl dating better, meeting through mutuals best
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 07:00 PM
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Maybe im old but google doesnt help me get what that means <image> Do you mean that its a unserious topic but it actually has a deeper meaning? Because I could agree with that
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 06:50 PM
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Its not just men who needs to get over it. Ive been at predrinks with different girls who will talk about icks as if its a serious topic. Ofc most dont take it seriously, but lots of people do and not just on reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 06:08 PM
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Honest good dudes are not rare. This isnt the biggest problem. Problem is that some of those guys are desperate for relationship experience and dont know what they want. So they will get with any woman they find attractive and seems okay enough, will mirror what they think the woman wants, and slowly realise its exhausting to pretend
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 11:11 AM
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If the fewer suitors was due to more men collectively preferring to be single over dating women they didn’t like, yes, women’s dating problems would change Yeah. If men were less desperate to get relationship experience we wouldnt have to be as picky when vetting Right now the burden is on us to figure out if we're compatible, if we like the guy, and if the guy actually likes us. Thats exhausting
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 11:08 AM
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Yes its exactly this. Thank you for understanding our side a bit!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 11:03 AM
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class clown type of vibe Yess this. Im also the girl version of that. Being able to banter while flirting is SO important for attraction And I guess those traits, humour, confidence and reading the room a little does make someone popular as well
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 11:53 PM
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I dont want them to walk on eggshells, but I do appreciate them being considerate. That being said, i have a humorous personality, so people who know me well enough know im not that easily offended by jokes aimed at me. But I wouldnt want a random guy to joke at my expense
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 03:24 PM
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This. Childs welfare > parents lifestyle But before the fetus is properly developed its right that the woman has a choice. Childbirth is way more dangerous than abortion, and pregnancy makes huge changes to the body and impacts the womans career more than the mans
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 11:12 PM
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Not an exception. A lot of women dont use dating apps. Even women who you see on dating apps may have deleted the apps and given up on it. So theres a lot of women you wont get to meet any other way than irl
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/26 05:24 AM
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bffr girl. Those guys he linked are NOT unattractive. Might not be your type personally, but those last two are very conventionally attractive. Youre the mirror image of men who say Margot Robbie is mid
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 01:22 PM
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As an autistic woman i feel compelled to answer this because youre using autistic women as an argument for why men shouldnt need to develop social skills 1/2: Men often will go specifically for autistic women, knowingly or unknowingly. The situations youre describing matches my experiences, even as an extroverted autistic woman. Ive gotten into relationships and situationsships easily both through dating and through friend groups. To be honest, some of that has been leaning on predatory. My curr…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 03:12 PM
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Yeah youre completely right that it can be location dependent of course. Especially if you live somewhere where the cultural norms clashes with your ethics and morals there will probably be mostly profiles that arent decent options for you I think the questionnaire thing definitely could have some lying involved, but it would also be easier to spot early on if theyre honest or not. If they wrote "very tidy" but their sink is filled with dishes, breadcrumbs everywhere, and mess all around, they a…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 02:56 PM
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Tbh im sure a lot of the options are decent. But how do you filter out hundreds of profiles that seem decent enough? The issue is the dating apps. Theyre not actually useful in filtrering out profiles on compatibility. Ive even used a roommate webside that is better than the big dating apps. In addition to the normal ones like education and job it has parameters like: Tidyness: Very tidy, tidy, chill, "a little mess hurt no one" Party habits: multiple times a week, on weekends, occasionally, rar…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 02:37 PM
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I have some questions and comments to the examples youre listing here man: "I'm short and unattractive" There is a time and place for everything, but usually this is annoying to hear. Youre complaining and youre seeking approval from others, thereby laying the burden on them to deal with your insecurities. Both guys and girls do it, and its often interpreted as pick me behaviour. You also display that youre insecure, and people are more scared to banter with you in case youll go home and cry (so…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 02:16 PM
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Youre almost right, but youre also missing the mark on this. Confidence is encouraged, and youre right that you shouldnt show it. Confidence is attractive when its a quiet underlying confidence making someone stable in their self image. "Showing" confidence is more a lack of displays insecurity Judging if someone is actually stable in their self image is really hard to do online though. Obvious insecurity is easy to spot, but if you actually are confident in yourself this doesnt show through tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 02:15 PM
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I also want to say that there is an exception in this situation: its usually not the same person who then preaches purity loud to everyone. When someone has had lots of bad experiences sleeping around like SA and other trauma, its quite normal (even for normies) to share that with other women. I think this goes more under activism I just wanted to shoot that in so im not misunderstood. But i dont believe this is the type of conversations youre talking about in your original post
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 01:14 PM
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In this post youre making the mistake of lumping together different women who have different mindsets and live different lifestyles. Then you accuse women of being hypocritical in the last sentence Sure, a lot of women also change morals and lifestyle throughout their lives. Some also preach their hypocrisies loudly for attention or online clout. But most of us are normies (and i think most humans) and dont wanna be super hypocritical. If someone has had a phase of sleeping around but are done w…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 01:10 PM
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Honestly, i only think this is applicable to a lot of "general basis" takes that ive seen online. Ive shared my story and ive seen a lot of other people sharing stories as well, and it gives a better picture of why the younger person isnt necessarily more desireable For example, I was 18, autistic and with raging ADHD and in a relationship with a guy 5,5 years older. I was the opposite of mature for my age. We moved in together when i was 19-20. He was a crutch for me not being independent, beca…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 04:29 PM
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Fair enough! Im in the mixed camp myself
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 07:39 AM
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Btw OP, you might have the wrong flair. The views youre discussing in this post isnt blue pill, its from female dating advice tiktok/social media belief, while blue pill is more "normie" /general societial views. I think pink pill might be the correct flair?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 07:24 PM
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I understand the reasonings and to some extent can agree with the "wife/husband priveleges things"... But cooking is not one of them! I think in a lot of cases they shouldve left the non-committal partner long ago. I wouldnt be suprised if the lack of commitment shows up as lack of effort in the relationship as well. So its not that they shouldnt cook for them, its that they should have adult conversations about the future and dump the person if theyre not on the same page However, I do think bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 07:19 PM
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Ive been in multiple ltrs and had multiple flings and ons and I think the findings are accurate. Especially the first one, cause practice makes perfect If you also take anecdotal reddit posts into account, remember that people usually dont post and write about their normal experiences. Posts of complaining of deadbedrooms, cheating and people seeking relationship advice are more likely, because thats more taboo to talk about compared to their real life network. And if youre in this subreddit you…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 11:02 PM
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Manic pixie dream girl is the correct expression. Its a movie trope of a quirky but attractive woman that only exists to teach depressed men how to live their lives to the fullest. A lot of neurodivergent women (Adhd and autism) + bpd and bipolar women are reduced to this trope and get guys putting us on a pedestal without getting to know our actual personalities
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 09:52 AM
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Once had a fwb that accidentally left it out in the shower when i went to the toilet once. Pretended i didnt see it, and the next time i went to the toilet it was gone
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 01:31 PM
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But theres is no amount of hair fixing or beard changing or clothes that can fix a 5 or below. Oh it will help a lot, because a lot of men dont do it 😅 for women, a lot of women do makeup, and its viewed as fake anyway. But even if youre not lucky in your face card, business casual clothes and a clean beard and hair style helps A LOT
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 10:18 AM
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Same here, though in extended social circle theres been divorces instead. My parents + aunt and uncle, boyfriends parents and maternal grandparents have loving marriages. However, parents of my 3 neighbour friends all divorced after their kids grew up. And my paternal grandparents had a lot of resentment because my grandfather cheated, but they stayed together Honestly i dont think anecdotes here will provide anything. I think people unknowingly seek out others in the same life situation as them…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 09:36 AM
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Main issue with autistic women is that they don’t have femininity because autism is basically just hyper male brain. I see your line of thinking but its quite a stretch 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 03:18 PM
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Until you suggested women are understanding of autistic women. No they are not. They are fucking mean Yeah, agree 💯 This is why if i havent found my right group of girls, its sometimes easier to hang with guys. Guys that ive been around (biased due to studying engineering) seem more tolerant to social awkwardness and often are awkward themselves An upside for autistic women is that on a very general basis I think autistic women are forced to learn to mask and learn social rules more than autisti…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 03:07 PM
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This rings true for me at least. When my partner and earlier partners have been sick or hurt their leg or something ive "mothered" them because I cared. But my libido is completely turned off then
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 12:20 AM
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Because resentment builds over time in a relationship. The resentment is one of the causes that lowers attraction
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 12:17 AM
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Personally in previous relationships ive only had fantasies of others in a rough patch. I dont believe its that the relationship is doomed as its normal with ups and downs. However I dont believe in "thought-crime", but I dont think you should entertain it either. You should pour that energy into your relationship or work. If its about a friend ive distanced myself a little or set clearer boundaries
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 08:05 AM
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Probably from one of the many countries with an eldering population crisis on the horizon. Not every woman's gonna get 2,1 kids
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 09:40 PM
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What are you even talking about in the first paragraph? Im almost a tunnel engineer, building infrastructure, but that seems impossible from your scenario
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 09:35 PM
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You swear at your mom?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 06:51 AM
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some people have passion for debating True in my case 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/25 03:38 PM
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Might be bad luck or that most people are coupled up around you, might also be that youre emotionally unavailable. If youre insecurely attached (anxious, dismissive avoidant or fearful avoidant) you might subconsciously choose people it wouldnt work out with. Do you think you could have a fear of intimacy, commitment, or being deeply hurt in a long relationship? Or fear of being rejected without a «reason» to write it off?
/r/ExRedPill12/09/25 11:39 AM
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Your argument doesnt take into account that the biggest dating apps are predominantly men
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 09:53 AM
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Youre so right, and thank you for the work youre doing
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 08:32 AM
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In my experience in norway its disproportionately women who volunteer for various causes ive been in (mostly related to school and university, but also environment and activism). Even if the study is mostly men, its still mostly women who volunteer. More men volunteer if alcohol is involved...
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 08:29 AM
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Some thinks i didnt see others mention: complaining all the time talks badly about everyone around her without trying to see their side of the situation. Maybe okay if she clarifies its just venting and that she knows shes biased toxic doesnt care about self improvement in her personality
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 04:51 PM
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Im not talking about other people
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 04:44 PM
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Im just talking from my personal standpoint
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 04:41 PM
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I think it seems like a somewhat correct observation
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 04:36 PM
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Yup. Im a redhead and in my country something like 30% of people are carriers of some MC1R gene. My bf has a red moustache. We arent even known for redheads, we're known for blondes
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 09:53 AM
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autistic Uh, autistic people are usually more comfortable with direct communication than the average person. Are you mistaking it for RSD (rejection sensitive dysphoria) which some autistic and a lot of ADHD and bpd people have?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 08:29 PM
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Oh, wow :/ I guess its because your take is "biased". That rule doesnt really fit this topic tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 07:36 AM
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I think you maybe shouldve flaired this as "discussion". I dont think a lot of people really disagrees with you, because youre absolutely correct. Its just that people dont care enough, same with avoiding slurs etc
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 07:27 AM
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Thats true, it helps with financials Personally I believe thats a good thing. Couples are more likely to have children -> incentivicing couples helps low birth rate in my country
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 05:31 PM
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Thank you for that very in-depth response!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 03:25 PM
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So this is what my friends look at when theyre doing ethnoguesser...
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 03:17 PM
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Youre correct in this, but I dont think it answers OPs question. I for one, think its a reasonable assumption to make that romantic love to some extent is lacking in the end part of a lot of relationships and marriages
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 03:08 PM
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Wdym chastised? Public pillory like in medieval times? Yeah, rare Held accountable in friend groups? Sometimes, depends on the friend group and if its a pattern. Its not uncommon to get compassion fatigue and set boundaries on complaining, especially when theyre so in the wrong like this
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 03:01 PM
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<image> Third on the needs pyramid of Maslow Personally I would maybe think self esteem and self growth was more important. But maybe thats because I already have love & belonging
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 02:54 PM
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Agree, but then its on the woman honestly
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 10:04 AM
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Thank you! I wish you the best of luck as well 🥰
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 06:26 PM
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No, im not trying to make any assumptions. It just seemed that way by how he said he "played along". Thats why I asked if they talked about intentions beforehand 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 06:21 PM
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Yes youre right! Neurodivergent women (and maybe men also?) experience more SA than NT women. It definitely can be both a combo of the things I already thought and also that abusers seek out ND women I initiated with some men, for example my current bf. I also could "vet" him through him being in my social group and my friends also knowing him which helps a lot 🫶
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 06:19 PM
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Pearl Davis was demonetized on YouTube Its a platform of a private company, not goverment Andrew Tate was arrested for several months. Not because of free speech, because of allegations of human trafficking, rape and bodily harm Those arent the same thing as USSR or even what its like on russia now. Russian influencers cant speak their mind on gay rights or ukraine without risking arrest Although the example of the Norwegian tourist who was denied entry to the US because of a JD Vance meme and h…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 01:18 PM
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Same. Ive been avoiding fuckboys since I lost my virginity to one and started reading some redpill/manosphere shit afterwards. I warn my friends when I think theyre being naive and are in situationsships with fuckboys. They warn me when they think those I go for have boundary pushing/rape red flags. Its a symbiosis 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 01:07 PM
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Seems like she was upset because you lied to her, or "played along" as you said. Or were intentions maybe not discussed beforehand? Im just wondering, if you could get any woman, why "play along" with someone who youre not attracted to? Why not just have friends with benefits with someone you think is attractive and is on the same page?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 01:04 PM
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If my son did this, I would disown him. If your son or daughter was super interested in lego itd be smarter to get them into some technical lego competitions. Yes, lego costs money, but if that interest continues youre likely to end up with a robotics or cybernitics engineer
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 12:56 PM
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True, lego is way too expensive 😩🫡
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 12:51 PM
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Personally I want both in a man, so we have the same interests. Me and my boyfriend are both close to being engineers, and we built a Lego set (that I got as a gift) on our first "date"
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 12:51 PM
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I was successfully able to call out how long the relationship would last, who would leave who and if he was going to cheat or not and in 4yrs, I only ever got one of those questions wrong That seems like youre very emotionally intelligent if you can predict outcomes like that. I would probably see that red flag of thugs /fake thugs, but making a prediction like that means being good at understanding peoples behaviour
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 11:30 AM
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I dont do those things though. Im faceblind and dont care much for facial symmetry or conventially attractive face, as long as they take care of their body. I dont like "bad boys", and prefer other in STEM as im in engineering
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 11:21 AM
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Thanks for this. I read similar advice some years ago, and tried to implement that. I did reject more men, but still some got through "The filter" Look how he acts with other people's boundaries I think my problem with this is that its hard to identify others boundaries, if theyre not communicated while im around. Theres loads of intrinsic boundaries in my society like personal space, so I give that. But how am I to know what someones boundaries are except for that? I dont wanna go push peoples …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 11:12 AM
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Do you think that women can spot red flag behaviour in other women, that men tend to miss? Probably yes. But I think its more that those who are red flags are good at playing pretend when they want to
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 11:05 AM
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Thank you for this 🫶 Definitely helps with vetting. Id honestly given up, but my boyfriend is from my social circle. So other friends wouldve told me red flags + I could observe him beforehand without him trying to "act" like a green flag I think the biggest struggle has been that some men are quite careful about consent the first time. But a lot of the men ive met have seemed to think that consent once is consent always and that I will always be in the mood. Then it doesnt matter if I make excu…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 11:01 AM
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I think I just do not see most of the red flags to be honest with you
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 01:49 AM
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I mean the answer is this because it is a consistent pattern. Agree, and i dont think its victimblaming when its just trying to problem solve. Issue is ive not been walking in the same valley or something similar. Ive been with quite a varied bunch actually, though mostly students. Ive tried identifying red flags with observing people, avoided fuckboys, seeing if they do anything manipulative, and if they say something i pry into it asking questions to see if theyll reveal anything suspiscious. …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 01:39 AM
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Oh well yeah agree with body attraction. Im definitely shallow in that regard
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 01:30 AM
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Ill take that pillowcase if its lightning mcqueen
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 01:22 AM
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Thats appalling... Just put a batman and joker mask on
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 01:12 AM
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Same here! I thought it was because of facial blindness tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 01:10 AM
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This is so interesting. Im autistic as well, but have moderate faceblindness. I can kinda recognise societal attractiveness, but facial attractiveness doesnt really matter to my attraction to a guy. Im guessing you maybe dont have the faceblind thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 01:06 AM
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Not having a job is quite obvious I agree... I think its very difficult though to judge whether someone is a rapist, sexual coercer or boundary pusher. Ive tried to identify manipulative behaviours or observe if they dont respect other boundaries. Maybe its just that Im autistic, but its very hard to read people. Or maybe I dont communicate boundaries in the correct manner, idk
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 12:17 AM
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Not regularly, but still more than usual for a nordic country. Maybe they think Im not typically nordic because I dress more cottagecore, but I definitely am Its always creepy when its in daytime. Its not socially acceptable here to approach strangers like that. Those who do are are intentionally disrespecting a strangers personal space. Does not apply if its to say something like "you dropped this" or a quick compliment about my outfit, thats appreciated. When someone talks to me and I notice t…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 11:50 PM
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Yeah. We're not mindreaders, at least im not. People usually dont tell you theyre an asshole up front
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 11:33 PM
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I think youre onto something. Attachment wounds can be triggered and even develop in a relationship or in a breakup. I myself have been bitter from dating (but more to SA/rape trauma than breakup), and healed after close to a year. I see many similar behaviours in both men and women online, and only hope most people heal eventually. I imagine it must be quite hard for those who experienced deceipt and cheating Im not sure Ill believe in either gender difference on how often it occurs though, or …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 11:26 PM
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Since you have the answers to all these dating problems, maybe you could solve this: "Close to all men Ive been with for more than a couple times have either raped, SA'd, coerced or pushed my sexual boundaries. Probably my fault as im autistic, so am I communicating my boundaries wrong or am I missing red flags?"
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 11:20 PM
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Yes thats sad when money is lost that way. My country is more egalitarian where usually custody is shared equally. Stay at home parents, and "stay at home wives" are quite uncommon, so not really a larger issue
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 01:37 PM
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We agree its not the same. Being used for your money isnt great, its absolutely horrible. But personally id rather be used for my money than for sex Money you give to everyone. You give it to the guy or gal at the store, you give tax to the goverment, the bus ticket, the liquor store, your crippling gambling addiction... (jk) Sex you dont give to everyone, unless youre Bonnie blue. When having sex with someone you give them your trust, and its an intimate act. To find out everything was just an …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 01:16 PM
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You mean to be used as nothing but a wallet vs to be used as nothing but a bangmaid? Theyre not the same.. But personally I know which one I think is worse You can use the same logic in your last paragraph to argue the opposite point, and its still not a good argument
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 12:22 PM
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Yes. Ive been the starter gf thrice now, 2nd time I was definitely just a placeholder. When I initiated breakup after he never followed up on putting effort in, it came to light he had wanted to break up for months. Like he had been certain, he was just postponing it. I can understand being unsure as I was for a while. But how can you be certain and still initiating sex with someone? Absolutely disgusting behaviour, it made me sick to my stomach 🤢
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 12:20 PM
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Im sorry about your experience like that :/ The comment Im referring to writes it like "women" instead of "some women", which I think is quite absurd. I can definitely agree a minority can weaponize it purposefully If it has been a repeated problem it probably is either something youre doing or attracting that can be changed. It could be: Higher cleanliness standard or more of this behavior in your area / local dating pool You might be attracted to other traits that often coincides with this beh…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 02:15 AM
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Good mindset! 🫶 I try to operate with that if you feel youre doing around 60-70%, thats more likely 50/50. However if you feel like youre doing 80-90%, then thats when its quite unequal. And I like the idea of equital relationship, not just equality or keeping score
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 09:34 PM
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Sounds like very good life advice! I aspire to have a home big enough before having kids, to where everyone in the family can have a comfort space
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 04:57 PM
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Doesnt really support your argument no :/ although i definitely could have been more charitable in my response, arguing it supports your argument is a fallacy fallacy We all do chores but my life was far more easier single than married on that front. Sounds like youre good at doing your chores, possibly better than your partner? Maybe chores increased with kids? Correct me if this assumption is wrong, but it doesnt sound like youre the type of slob described in OPs post. So how does it apply to …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 04:54 PM
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Haha, yeah 😂 Honestly, I warned him many times, he had seen my room and the home I grew up in, and I also wanted to live in a collective before living with him. He did an ultimatum for me to move in anyway. In retrospect one can kind of think of my messiness then as his karma for age gap relationship + pressuring me to move in 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 04:45 PM
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My man. If your original comment was meant like bluestjuice suggested, I dont think that was supporting your argument Feel free to expand if that wasnt what you meant however
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 04:41 PM
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Yes, this Unless youre the type to be happy being miserable, critical and nagging (or passive aggressive) theres not any power in being resentful about having done a lot of chores. I want to be happy, in my feminine and loving my man. For the most part I can do that, and Im probably too good at surpressing emotions. However when I keep doing chores or extra things for a longer period I get resentful and a passive aggressive comment might slip. I dont want that. But in fear of being a nagging bit…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 04:37 PM
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Thank you! And oh, wow. He thinks that we do the chores because we want power or something? Has it ever occured to him that we might do the chore because the chore needs doing? Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 04:29 PM
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Oh wow, thatd never happen here to our basement, surreal to even imagine it😂 My dad is allowed to have a mess in the basement. He's a machine engineer, but thinks he's also an electrician, car mechanic, plumber, mason, carpenter, technician, smith, beer brewer ++. He often needs to buy duplicates of tools because he's misplaced them. But my mom is just happy he doesnt collect expensive cars or something 😂 And even though he'll always procrastinate on the house projects that actually needs doing …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 04:27 PM
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Aha good on her for being able to have some rooms up to her standards. My parents kind of have a similar thing with the basement, however the kitchen and entrance is a mix of boxes with hoarding building materials, crumbs and powdered coffee on surfaces, and coffee cups/dishes everywhere "in case it can be reused" 🤦‍♀️ Me and my brother turned out the opposite with kitchen cleanliness haha
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 03:51 PM
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Could you expand on that expression "to use as a cudgel" and what you mean by that? I tried googling, but didnt really understand/it seemed like it could be ambiguous. Im not native english :/
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 03:46 PM
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Do you have pets? Ive never heard of anyone vacuuming everyday that didnt either have pets or OCD 🤯 But I guess trauma can be a likely cause as well, im sorry about your upbringing :/
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 03:41 PM
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Yeah, he does it in a mansplaining way too, does yours do that to you as well? I usually find it endearing when he explains things to me, and its often about interesting stuff, or things I know but have forgotten! But I have to draw the line when its actually mansplaining chores or engineering geology (my education). The latter I can kind of laugh off, but the former is just so annoying to me when theres built up resentment around chores
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 03:39 PM
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My first relationship was like this in the start. I was an 18-year old with raging adhd, he was 23 and was a neatfreak. Caused a lot of problems in the relationship, but its probably the one trait im happy about learning while in that relationship. Now im the neatfreak
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 03:27 PM
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My dad does as well, and my mom has just given up 😫 Crumbs etc. invites fruit flies, gets moldy and disgusting, and Im also gluten intolerant so it spreads gluten everywhere, to all food items that sit on the counter
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 03:21 PM
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nagging about cleanliness tends to correlate with the loss of attraction Youre close to getting it, but for women (like me) who hate nagging the full process looks more like this: He doesnt contribute in certain chore/chores in general -> communicate once -> he improves but gets right back after a week -> girl doesnt want to nag so does the chore -> Resentment builds -> loss of respect and attraction -> nagging
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 03:17 PM
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My boyfriend as well. Ive had to tell him that if he's going to micromanage he can do the thing himself. Its especially annoying when if Ive done most of the chores and cooking, and he will get up from the couch to comment on the way im cutting garlic 😐
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 03:10 PM
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Not a nagger, more of a resenter but: They're few and far apart many act cleaner in the start If you communicate they say they'll get better when they know they wont It seems to be a taboo? People dont really talk about it before visiting someones house, and dating apps dont have a cleanliness option to my knowledge. I remember being single and using a website to find roomies/a collective and wishing that the cleanliness part in your bio was on tinder/hinge as well 😆
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 03:07 PM
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Ive done a similar split in all my relationships as well 🫶 Imo it can build resentment if theres no switch-ups. But if you communicate and both are willing to plan ahead and do more chores before a busy period then its really nice for the relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 02:52 PM
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Fun fact: The difference in where men and women carry fat also means women have less health risks at the same body fat percentage! Most health risks are for when fat is around internal organs (visceral fat) which men have more of. Whereas women tend to store more fat under the skin (subcutaneous fat). Though genetics and body composition also plays a part
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 11:00 PM
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OP really does not have empathy for women. The way he's talking about women's desire, and arguing for generations of toxic relationships to reset female desire shows no human value whatsoever to women. And besides it wouldnt work. History has already abused women for millennia before our age
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 01:01 AM
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You get it 🙏
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 12:54 AM
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Well im a woman and 5% isnt even close, its more like 60% around my age. Or I guess if you count the whole world my type is men from my country, so thats <0.1% of the world. Where is that statistic from, and how was it measured? Is it based on the whole world and all ages? Or is it from who swipes on who on dating apps?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 12:16 AM
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Its a bit baffling you even need to put studies on this. Being physically attracted to your partner is kind of a prerequisitor for a good relationship for both men and women
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 11:45 PM
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Good for her that youre walking away. Wanting her to break her rules is a huge red flag for you that youre pushing on other boundaries as well
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 09:36 PM
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Its sad the guy feels used. Its more likely she's scared that he will leave immediately after if she sleeps with him
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 09:18 PM
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Lmaoo😂
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 05:00 PM
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A lot of people in this subreddit use arguments about pair bonding to explain situations that would be more accurately explained by attachment theory
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 02:53 PM
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Oooh yeah spartan people are quite interesting. And engineering with streets, aqueducts and sewer systems are suuuper cool. And I like how romans were just like "gotta catch them all" to including religions and gods. I guess I am into roman history as well haha
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 12:49 AM
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I think thats a myth 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 12:47 AM
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>If women barely want one average guy now, why would they suddenly crave multiple? Yeah, this right here 😬If you finally find a guy who's great, youre compatible yadda yadda *and* he does his part of the chores without weaponized incompetence - why the hell would you complicate things by bringing in another man?💀 Hypothethically for there to be an incentive you'd have to normalize three income household or something. And even then theres a bigger incentive for another woman with income + sharing…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 12:45 AM
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Yeah - Im not sure Ive ever been asked by a guy what my hobbies are on a date actually. Ive been on a couple dates with women and we talked about it. With men, even when Ive asked them Ive had to volunteer any information like that because they dont seem to be curious about it 🤷🏻‍♀️I guess you could drop hints to make people curious, but I dont really wanna be manipulative in that way My memory is quite bad though and ive been on a lot of dates, so I might have forgotten some people who did ask …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 12:34 AM
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I think travelling totally can be a hobby, but it depends how much effort is put into it. Someone has a friend group that travels, and tags along their travel plans occasionally ~ I guess you can say hobby, but its not something you do on the regular You have a work/lifestyle where you regularly travel (f.e 2 weeks on 2 weeks off job), and in your afternoons + non-travel free periods you plan everything youre going to do, find the cheapest way to do it and you research local customs and language…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 12:23 AM
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I love history!! And i think a lot of women do, its just not usually ww2 or roman empire kind of history. For me I especially like how life was for peasant women in the last 1000 years, fashion history and how social classes impacted following of the trends, powerful female figures in history, and I have periods where I get into obscure royal family trees 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 12:12 AM
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I can agree with that. I dont really think about traditional marriages a lot as its really uncommon in Scandinavia
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 08:14 AM
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Well thats fair. Its hard to be able to read the mind of whoever youre dating though. A fear like this can easily turn into either anxious or fearful avoidant behaviour, which wont be good for either you or your partner. Make sure your fear doesnt lead you to seek too much validation or end a relationship that could be great prematurely
/r/ExRedPill03/08/25 08:04 AM
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Now we are stuck in a limbo of women dating on and off to find their Prince Charming which usually ends in heartbreak and idealized but fictional male characters. Yes, unfortunately :/ Im not sure it was that much better before, when women were raised to be super naive etc. Now we're maybe less naive, but some of my single friends have quite high standards (in personality + compatibility!) before they would go for a guy. But you dont need to have all your interests in common. And people arent pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 07:53 AM
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We usually "hate" power unbalances after having experienced relationships where the power imbalance hurt either us or the relationship (or both). Interesting point on how society grooms us into romanticising power imbalances. I wonder if its inherently biological or if society plays a larger role. And it would be interesting to see if changes in media (f.e. disney princesses saving themselves instead of by a prince) will lead to less harmful relationships for gen z and gen alpha
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 11:01 PM
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I don’t want someone who feels as though they’re compromising on attraction in favor of stability. I understand your feelings about this But there is a point where you have to be rational. Are you going to settle down with the hottest, most beautiful girl youve ever seen? Probably not, as they wouldnt give you the time of day. Would you still be attracted to a girl whos cute with a pretty smile or something, without a 10:7 hip waist ratio? Hopefully, yes?
/r/ExRedPill02/08/25 10:42 PM
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I think youre vastly underestimating how much women value personality and general stability and cleanliness for sex drive I can promise you it does not matter that a guy has a pretty face and abs if he leaves dishes in the sink when dishwasher is empty, and doesnt use the toilet brush after nr2. Or if he has "pumped and dumped" a lot of women. Maybe that guy will manage to get drunk one night stands, but women with some critical judgement skills will leave him once they figure out how he is
/r/ExRedPill02/08/25 10:06 PM
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No. However I will make the assumption that men who are notorious fuckboys or only have ons and very short flings (not much longer situationsship) either have avoidant attachment, or are so terrible in bed or personality wise that they cant get anyone to stay with them. Not a 100% conclusion, but enough to make me stay away
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 09:19 PM
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To do some introspection about if theyre a people pleaser, codependent or anxiously attached. To make sure that while they can be empathethic theyre also valid to set boundaries with people who take advantage
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 12:04 PM
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Yeah im not advocating for these type of marrying-early relationships at all. Especially not with age gaps. I was in an age gap relationships for years starting at 18 (but mentally i was immature for my age as well) and although I dont think my ex meant to groom me intentionally I still have a lot of his personality traits and habits years after the breakup. Some good, like im very strict on cleaning, but some bad, like fatphobia. So i dont support age gap relationships when one of the parties h…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 10:54 PM
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I dont think any generalisation like this can ever be true. I think its also more about attachment style than gender Personally I prefer to date one person at a time. And if I have a fwb I will stop sleeping with them if I become interested in someone. Cant say ive done this all my life however. My preference is because I have experienced that mixing things up, even just talking to different people, can become chaotic and toxic. However ive also got dismissive avoidant tendencies, which I dont t…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 03:01 PM
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Haha yeah. I thought it was more about that if you marry early before youre "set in your ways" youre more likely to grow together and develop similar values. Same with if you marry someone from same background/hometown youd be more likely to have similar values. While now we focus more on being aware of our values and what we want from our life, and find people who are already compatible with us Neither is a foolproof method, though i definitely prefer the latter to the former. However my boyfri…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 10:30 AM
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Option C) mostly have gone for first option /giving too many chances, and still be accused of second option by strangers on the internet 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 10:24 AM
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Yep, and ive got pretty privilege as well. But in other ways, like with adhd, Im very stunted. I still dont give up my goals and dreams
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 07:47 AM
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Thats very pessimistic of you
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 07:37 AM
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Good point!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 07:23 AM
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That sounds a lot like avoidant attachment, which can be healed with inner work
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 12:50 AM
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While I dont think id be a good fit with a person i medicine, Id argue there are upsides as well that might make it worth it for some people you can always admire the passion for helping others in your partner its easier to let go of trivial resentment from things like dishes in a sink etc if the other person has an "excuse" while making dinner you wont see then slouching on the couch, because theyre still on their way home from work This one is mostly a joke but: if you both dislike co-sleeping…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 12:46 AM
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I can kinda see what you mean logically with more success driven, surpressing emotions and that leading to less empathy (or less emotional availability). However I think theres too many leaps and uncertainty that any numbers on how significant this link is would just be guessing a number out of your ass if you dont have data to back it up Personally Im attracted to ambition, but I will be a bit put off by very successful people who dont seem to struggle. They probably have struggles as well that…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 08:30 PM
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Wow, really! I live in Norway as well. Ive been able to have deep emotional bonds in male friendships before. It was different than for women, but more so that I was able to emotionally support my guy friends, and they gave me more honest opinions than a female friend would
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 08:26 AM
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Nope, ive tried being celibate while single and it doesnt last for longer than a few months 😂 hookups are how ive gotten into relationships as well - and its really the stereotypical way to get into a relationship where im from (Norway)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 08:04 AM
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Oh im so sorry thats how it is for you 😔 maybe we're in different parts of the world and I didnt consider these expectations of men could be more engrained
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 08:02 AM
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A vagina doesnt stretch in the way you think, but what youre thinking of is caused by weakening of pelvic floor muscles. This often happens after child birth and women can be presribed pelvic floor exercises (like pegels) to better it Think of it like how you poop. Your asshole isnt widened by a huge dump, and contracts easily afterwards. But if you were to birth a melon through your asshole youre likely to get some tears and strain some of the muscles. Fun fact: since these muscles are close by…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 01:50 AM
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I think almost all humans need deep emotional bonds with people. Society promotes emotional bonds in female friendships, but it can be taboo and harder to find in male friendships. Initiating emotional bonds is hard if you dont have much experience with emotional intimacy, so I believe it can be hard to get out of this loop for men. Im an autistic woman and not the most emotionally intelligent, so Im not in a position on how to give a how to guide on how to initiate these emotional bonds. Howeve…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 04:52 PM
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It sounds like youre maybe trying to reframe it as a good thing and it does help a little tbh. I appreciate you being realistic I do think he's slightly anxiously attached, and i know ive got some dismissive avoidant tendencies im working on. Anyway, you need to figure out how he feels about you. He tells me all the time hes super lucky to have me and that "I chose him". He doesnt know what his love language is but i think its words of affirmation. I guess this is a good sign, or could it just b…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 11:27 AM
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What do you mean by dating phase? We're bf/gf and talking about me moving in in about half a year, and future plans about where we could live where both would have jobs. Are we still in dating phase? But f.e. he wont post me on social media and I am his first gf. Ive also been the starter gf twice before which I think is why ive got a fear of it. I also asked him what he would describe as his dream woman before meeting me and he joked "girls who are interested in me" and I was "fake offended" in…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 09:35 AM
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Aahh how can I get over the fear then? Our personalities align very well and we have the same humour and similar values. But what if im not his dream woman? Im scared of being the starter girlfriend tbh as ive been that twice before
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 05:31 AM
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Ehh im a woman and do this as well. But Im also autistic so idk if its not normal
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 07:26 AM
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Nice outfit and makeup Not being too hungry in case the place doesnt have glutenfree + no maizenna food Bed has bedsheets on Checking if it was me or my boyfriend who paid for the last date Googling "questions to ask significant other" and skimming results / having a few Qs prepared
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 07:23 AM
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No Id be happy my boyfriend chose me out of all the other girls he couldve chosen. Rn im working on an insecurity about me initiating with him and an irrational fear that he settles for me because im pretty and took an interest
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 02:34 PM
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I’m surely not gonna put in the effort to become a foodie and do all the research for these women, I have other interests. This is the issue. I know its just one specific situation here and doesnt give a 100% indicator of who you are as a person. But if you dont want to put effort into this, chances are you wont put effort in other areas as well. Some examples: What attractions youre going to visit on a travel, how youre going to get there and where you will sleep. Where your kids will go to kin…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 02:20 PM
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Agree. OP is confusing bossing someone around with wanting someone to take charge of logistics. Showing leadership skills early on will (maybe) lessen the chance that she'll have to take all of the mental load of the household
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 01:58 PM
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Theres a lot of men being upset about either. Anecdotaly ive seen more people being upset about not being able to find a relationship than not being able to sleep around. But I agree that ive got more sympathy for the former group than the latter
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 11:09 AM
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No way i could rate people like that. Im also faceblind so
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 05:14 AM
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No necessarily push back just uncomfortable glances and people talking about you behind your back... We're conflict avoidant in norway
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 11:12 PM
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Yeah its a cop out because its not socially acceptable to give a honest answer. At least not where I live with the jante law
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 10:56 PM
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If youre talking about podcasts or rankings in social setting or public I feel like thats just the only socially acceptable thing to do. But social setting is also talking from a scandinavian perspective with the jante law. You can either say 6-7/10 if you look average, 5/10 if youre really ugly or 10/10 if you reject the ranking system. If youre ugly or average and rank honestly youre looked at as having low self esteem and fishing for compliments/people get uncomfortable. If you rank yourself …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 11:04 PM
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When i was on dating apps i was quite open. Problem was that almost everyone matched with me and about half sent messages. It was overwhelming How am i supposed to filter from your "hi" whether you understand consent and if you leave dishes in the sink instead of the dishwasher?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 09:29 AM
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Some of the redpill takes here seem so accusatory or talk about pretty privilege as if its a big societal problem that society needs to focus all of its resources on. No shit Sherlock, the world is unfair. Didnt your parents teach you that? Theres war in europe and other countries, genocide in many countries, civil wars, corruption, homelessness etc. Its fine to complain about your dating problems etc. But some of the posts here and other places complain about these things as if politicians has …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 03:12 PM
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Yeah that conclusion shows a major flaw in OPs logical inductive reasoning
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 01:05 PM
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There are many things that can be an absolute truth, and that when tested can be closely tied to the absolute truth. F.e. if you're pregnant and its been a few weeks thats binary. You're either pregnant or you're not. A test can have false negatives or false positives, but if youre further along its very likely that taking two pregnancy tests will give you the correct answer Human behaviour isnt as black or white. Its more nuanced. I can completely get behind the psychology of redpill. A lot of …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 01:02 PM
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Hes nerdy and really stands his ground on his morals about changing the story of the witcher. People respect that
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 09:59 PM
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Might not need a "project" either, they could move together. Ive seen so many stories where people who move from the US to an EU-country or other country with strict rules on food additives and so many people lose weight. Ofc i dont live in the US so idrk what the food is like there
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 09:57 PM
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I refuse the notion that its a binary choice of a "red pill" or "blue pill". I believe in science and that the truth is known when its proven and not simplified Redpill is generalisations where some assesments are vaguely based on science. Womens behavior and thinking stated so matter-of-factly, and much of it directly opposes my thinking. Redpill imo is more like myers briggs where there can be some correlations to general human behavior. But its not the absolute truth and the real world is muc…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 09:02 PM
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Bdsm can come from trauma or other mental things. Maybe he healed his trauma or attachment wounds unbeknownst to himself?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 11:23 PM
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For me your hypothesis holds water. Ive had better experiences with casual sex in fwb and situationsships than drunk one night stands, but ive also had worse experiences. For me, a drunk ons isnt that fulfilling, and even though I may come, its not worth it compared to the internal shame i feel around the +1 bodycount. Exception if its a funny story, first person after a breakup or we really connected as a "couple for one night". With situationsships and fwb its usually been the man that catches…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 05:50 PM
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Hmm. I can see how it can fit for some autistic people then. But wouldnt it be better with a word like “non-nuanced” that doesnt also describe a group of people?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 05:28 PM
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Agree with your take here But as an autistic woman I have to ask - whats autistic about OP’s alternative timeline?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 04:56 PM
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Dont say y’all to a woman as if that blanket statement is true for all women, or as if im somehow responsible for what other women do. I just explained how this not true for me and im not responsible for what you believe other women to do
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 04:53 PM
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Agree with your take 🙏
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 04:50 PM
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Yeah I get what you mean. There is a lot of “do they” etc. You need empathy and to realise that those people have been through bad relationships with a lot of and possibly also trauma. It doesnt reflect general society’s or general adhd partner’s view’s on adhd Id say Im a optimistic person as long as its rooted in realism and being within reason. Id never swallow the adhd-equivalent of blackpill, but would swallow an adhd-equivalent of redpill (if there was a version with less generalisations, …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 04:48 PM
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AuDHD woman in a happy relationship here with a NT man Youre confusing «evidence around us» with «my anecdotal experience + this internet horror story about an abusive relationship» If you and your partner has similar interests or not isnt related to ND. Theres a lot of debate and differing opinions about this so I wont go into it With the ADHD_partners subreddit you have to remember that its a support group for those people who are struggling the most, and seek advice or to vent on the internet…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 04:02 PM
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Good questions to ask! I think the best insight one can find is to both read social studies papers where people with an education on the topic has analyzed differences AND to watch videos on people who are expats in different countries and their observations on the difference. And also if people in that culture can agree with the observations on a general basis. I have only done the last part, and am an engineering student - not social sciences, so Id take my own words with a grain of salt here …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 03:16 PM
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I think both can be true. Some high-earning women can have it harder because some men are intimidated. Some can have it harder because of shrinking dating pool. Some have it harder because of a combination of those things. Same with the rest of your examples. The statements arent mutually exclusive and you havent actually disproven the premise that “men are intimidated by strong independent women”. The statement is quite easy to dispute however, based on the fact its a blanket statement generali…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 03:06 PM
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Agree, but its generalising of both men and women Im so tired of the generalisations in this subreddit tbh (apologies for ranting in my reply to you). Not everyone, but a lot of posters and commenters here take anecdotal experiences, internet horror stories and non-nuanced statistics and make blanket statements. Then people who are “accused” by the blanket statements disagree because of disagreeing with the generalisation. Sometimes those posts gets more comments in total and are favored by the …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 03:02 PM
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Beer goggles does help 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 02:21 PM
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Not everyone. I can only speak from anecdotal experience in my social circles. But with guy friends in my social circle (engineering students who go to bars and drink) that arent fuckboy-level hot, it really is more about how they present themselves. Some guys are more charming and have a lot of luck but get rejected romantically, probably because theyre lowkey alcoholic. They guys that dont have much luck arent that good at showing women theyre interested. That, or they go for a social studies …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 02:21 PM
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How lol? I dont have a telepathic power that I can just transfer a message on the subreddit rules to everyone that is the same gender as me Ik not everyone follows all of the subreddit rules and debate etiquette all the time and that the mods wont have time to oversee everything. Theres a lot of logical inconsistencies, generalisations and anecdotes here. But its kinda nice that the subreddit somewhat tries to make room for good debates, dont you think?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 02:09 PM
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Im a little confused on what youre arguing here. Are you arguing that the debates on hook-up culture is more polarizing in the US? Or are you arguing that there are more discussions on hook-up culture in the US than Norway? I can only speak from my experience, but I could agree with the first premise vs whats on the internet. But talking about hookups and situationships seems more common here than internationally. Internationally (english speaking forums) there is also a lot of discussions on ot…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 01:59 PM
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Jokes and ragebait is supposed to be under the automoderator comment
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 11:00 AM
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A lot of men on here have mindsets that would be a dealbreaker for many women in relationships. Fully subscribing to any pill is believing wholeheartedly in a generalisation on a whole gender. I see so many arguments here going "women think this" "most men do this". In real life, if youre not able to have more nuanced opinions, that will be a dealbreaker for some Things like vowing to never marry because youre afraid of divorce means not trusting that youve picked a significant other that wont b…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 10:58 AM
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Absolutely not. Hyperattractive men are more likely to be fuckboys. Sex with fuckboys = more risk of feeling used afterwards. I was naive and lost my virginity to a fuckboy in a situationsship with a lot of false promise and future faking. I felt super used. I vowed to never let that happen again and have avoided people who look like fuckboys ever since. It started as a habit, but after a while I get the ick when they look and act like fuckboys
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 10:44 AM
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pre-occupation with casual sex/hook up culture is also a bit of an American thing Not really. In Norway casual sex is way more ingrained in our culture than the US. Some other european countries and other countries have way more casual sex or are more preoccupied than the US. Its so bad here in Norway because we are a very shy people, that except for online dating you usually have to sleep with someone before going on a date. And you cant be emotionally vulnerable either, so you have to accept c…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 10:35 AM
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Drunk 🍺
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 10:21 PM
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In periods where ive been single theres been many men id been interested in getting to know better. We could have a class together and talk for a bit, be on a group project, or sit by each other in the bus for a field trip. But its not usual here (Norway) to ask a classmate to grab a coffee if you havent already hooked up. Its happened in high school, but then i didnt realise it was a date. The only times its turned into something more outside of that was with alcohol involved When random people…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 09:37 AM
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Yeah, Im creeped out when strangers talk to me in pick-up fashion. Its not socially accepted in my country, so it sets of alarm bells when some actually do it
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 09:27 AM
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Do you work from home? Im curious if you dont have any male colleagues or classmates Also understand if you dont count them in this context. Dont shit where you eat 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 09:25 AM
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Yeah we dont talk to strangers in my country
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 09:23 AM
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I think they were trying to rationalise how men can get trauma from rejection
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 08:07 AM
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Thats horrific. Im so sorry that happened to you
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 08:05 AM
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Yeah i wouldve thought "This is when I get murdered"
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 08:04 AM
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Fuck i just realised ive fallen for their bait before 🤦‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 12:09 PM
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Thanks for your suggestion, ill keep this in mind for a later time I didnt actually expect anyone to see my comment. Ive also made the mistake in my comment of assuming genders
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 10:02 AM
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How can this person complain when there are starving kids in africa? - my parents probably to this argument
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 02:00 AM
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Oh i never fully figured that out. Either so/sx or sx/so if I remember correctly
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 12:50 AM
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The way you write comes off more as entp than entj for me. Im entp myself btw. Not saying thats a good way to type someone. Mbti is just for fun anyway Your writing is a bit chaotic and gives off vibes that youre leading with extroverted intuition (Ne) and auxilliary introverted thinking (Ti). With entj one would expect a little more structure. Entj leads with extraverted thinking (Te) and auxilliary introverted intuition (Ni) Im not going to assume whether youve read it into the cognitive funct…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 08:29 PM
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Entp 7w8 What about you?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 08:20 PM
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Im ENTP 7w8! Im quite sure that I fit the type pretty well, but mbti aint gospel This subreddit is a bit addicting to be honest. Its gold for picking apart logical inconsistencies in arguments. Im the stereotypical entp that will have a lot of joke arguments, devils advocate approaches and use logical fallacies jokingly (if the other person starts). I dont do sarcastic and joke arguments in this subreddit, but I recognise so many logical fallacies and baseless generalisations in arguments on her…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 08:16 PM
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I know the question wasnt headed to me, but going by the assumption you want input from other entp women as well Im an entp woman and I consider myself very feminine. Im quite stable emotionally, empathethic and like to dress feminine (not hyper-feminine). But my humour is quite dark and many would consider it masculine
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 08:11 PM
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Same here! Entp 7w8 with AuDHD. I think my personality type is quite accurate, but mbti aint gospel
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 08:06 PM
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Entp here as well! 🙌
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 08:03 PM
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That being said, more women would probably date a sex worker over a man who buys sex. Maybe this is true, maybe its not. Theres more factors at play than being attractive. Personally I would rather date someone who once paid for sex work or had a onlyfans subscription while single, but for moral reasons and being disgusted I would never date someone who sold sex We dont have any basis here for deciding which factors weigh more to compare probability of either group being more or less likely to b…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 07:29 PM
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Aha thank you :P I imagine it has something to do with that OP wanted non-nuanced answers. Commenters with nuanced opinions are led to either avoid commenting, or forced to just choose one box
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 07:17 PM
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Havent seen this example very often, but I have seen it on here and other subreddits. Ive both seen people actually do the "just-world-fallacy" and a few comments where people are incorrectly accused of it (directly or indirectly) and it derails the debate. Personally I didnt think it happened enough to where id personally make a meta post about this. However, Im going to do some guesswork here, that since OP is a mod theyve seen a fair share of posts and comments here This just feels like a str…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 07:05 PM
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Wow, very insightful answer! I havent thought about it like soothing your inner child before. Havent thought about the pendulum either. Thanks for your wisdom!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 06:54 PM
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Appreciate that you pick apart arguments like this. Im also super peeved about generalisations in this subreddit
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 06:48 PM
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Being bitter is not the gold standard of attracting women. I wish you elaborated on this argument. This is the golden point of your post. I wish men who turned into incel, blackpill and [some] redpill content understood that if they turn out bitter it will damage their chances further I can only speak on anecdotes here. But personally im an autistic woman and still pick up on bitter vibes quite easily and am put off. Ive discussed redpill with girlfriends and they are also put off by bitter vibe…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 06:45 PM
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Interesting take! I think maybe me and you agree, but that we have different definitions of echo chamber and support group I dont believe in a "healthy" echo chamber really, I believe thats just a support group or safe space. If I were to imagine what a "healthy echo chamber", is, it would be if the culture in the [group, subreddit, community] is to be aware that the support group is biased. Is this what you mean by "healthy echo chamber"? For me in this case i dont believe it is an echo chamber…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 06:24 PM
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Heres why your post comes off as bait (and I personally think it is bait, but I enjoy picking apart arguments anyway). Yesterday you made a non-bait post where this is the conclusion: People will take the few comments they say on here and use it as a representation of the general opinion. It's weird in my opinion. Then in this post, you go on to make baseless generalisations that contradicts what you complained about yesterday. You need to back up your generalisations if youre going to use them …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 06:09 PM
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Youre so real for this 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 05:39 PM
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I respect your detailed response. And I respect you responding with an open mind. I must admit I was a bit afraid it wouldnt land well when Im nitpicking your post Do you know these men who have lots of sex and very few female friends? Not very well. Ive encountered some in class environments etc. I can think of a few groups of guys where some of the guys had fuckboy phases. Some had female friends and some had none. There was actually one mainly guys-friend group i was in a few years ago that h…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 05:31 PM
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I know you asked for a direct answer, but my answer is it depends If you're paying a prostitute in a 3rd world country where women may not have many options → Buying is worse If you're paying a prostitute without researching whether she could be groomed or a victim of sex trafficking → Buying is worse If you're paying a prostitute because of reasons like youre struggling to get laid, dont want to lead women on or want to avoid drama around feelings and youre certain she has made the choice to se…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 04:51 PM
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I can agree with your main point here. But youre making many generalised takes about women, that detracts a lot from your argument. Im going to pick-it apart very strictly here, because I think you have a good point and I hope it can help you get your point across in further discussions. Youre not the only one making generalisations on this subreddit Some generalisations dont apply to most women, some are too simplified and some are at fault of correlation ≠ causation. Using a lot of generalisat…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 04:25 PM
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Apologies for assuming your argument was US-based when using a picture of US Congress/senate Norwegian perspective: the leaders on the right side tend to be women and men tend to be leaders on the left side. But it does not at all reflect the main portion of politicians in those parties. Theyve been accused in media for fronting female as leaders to gain more votes from women. I think thats only partially true. I also think its easier to become a leader in a political party if you have some qual…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 01:26 PM
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This debate is so us-centric
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 10:51 AM
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So find yourself someone who isnt the average woman Go find your stacy, ill find stacys mom
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 10:42 AM
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Im so tired of men trying to tell me what I want in a man
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 10:32 AM
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Definitely a good mindset to have, thanks for your tips! And seems like an interesting job to have, youre probably making a lot of impact on people there!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 03:58 PM
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Thanks for the insight! And yeah, its easy to fall into the example you wrote. But then theres not much point in debating here. Im hoping to both gain perspective and empathy for people, but also to provide insight that will help people in an echo chamber towards a more fulfilling path. Gloating is just not very productive then, it doesnt make people receptive to input 😅 Maybe its futile and delusional to think our perspectives helps, but im stubbornly optimistic 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 03:43 PM
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My bad, youre completely right that hypothethicals arent a logical fallacy Sometimes hypothetical scenarios are unrealistic or irrelevant and can derail the debate though. If the scenario is unrealistic or irrelevant there are often errors in logic and fallacies instead when trying to rope the scenario back into the conclusion. But a hypothetical scenario can often be useful as well
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 03:38 PM
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You do you!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 03:30 PM
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Weeeell, I just explained why this isnt "most women" 😅 of course if you manage to be balanced, thats great and most women will be attracted to that. But if you take it too far with game that gives off fuckboy-vibes, most women who arent in category 1, 2 or 3 will be put off So being one as a guy is beneficial because you can have fun being one then turn it off when ready to settle down. Yeah you can do that! Hopefully if you do this you stick to category nr3 and try to avoid hurting people. I de…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 03:26 PM
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Yes, definitely a two-way street! Not everyone is funny and good at banter and not everyone will have the same humour. However some people might have the same humour as you and have potential for banter if you get to know them more, or become more comfortable. Some personality types are more comfortable joking around than others. In my experience I can make people more comfortable with joking by both joking around a lot and also having a chill and confident energy so they arent afraid i'll take …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 03:09 PM
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Its not as black and white as this. Being charismatic can help you land more opportunities to get girlfriends. It can also help to being confident which is atractive. And if youre more secure and have a sense of humour, engaging in banter is a really good way of flirting However you shouldnt write off the advice from older adults. Parents or other older adults will typically tell young men that getting girls is all about being kind, respectful, and patient, when that’s simplistic advice that obv…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 02:55 PM
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Good observation! I definitely am in camp nr2, and I appreciate you dividing it even further. I'll have to keep in mind that i should try to avoid gloating Do you have any further observations on what can come off as gloating vs helpful? Obviously I try to be humble etc., but good intentions arent everything
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 01:58 PM
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Agree and this is such an important point honestly. I want to shed light even further on that i think the behaviour gap between reddit and real life leads to further social isolation for those who already have the majority of social interaction in online echo chambers A lot of political reddit subs have so much complaining, bitter vibes and people automatically disagreeing or misinterpreting people's arguments I really enjoy that this subreddit has so many varied perspectives, and isnt as much o…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 01:53 PM
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You're complaining about the strawman fallacy after committing the anecdotal fallacy
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 08:23 AM
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Because theyre logical fallacies (Edit: No theyre not). Imo hypothethicals are nice when youre just debating for fun, where you take a devils advocate stance anyway. But in serious discussions they have a tendency to derail the debate
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 08:15 AM
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"I insulted my girlfriend and she didnt like it. Hurr durr women stupid."
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 08:13 AM
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Yes ive seen that fathers health can also be important! If the father drinks a lot before conception it could increased risk of pregnancy complications + health risks for the kid. Even fetal alcohol syndrome could be linked to the dad. More research is needed, but im just so sad for all the mothers who have denied drinking during pregnancy and not believed
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 08:03 AM
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Thank you! These exerpts are quite interesting. They suggest the increase is quite big Child health: Compared with fathers between the ages of 25 and 34 (the average age of paternity in the United States), infants born to men 45 or older were 14 percent more likely to be admitted to the NICU, 14 percent more likely to be born prematurely, 18 percent more likely to have seizures and 14 percent more likely to have a low birth weight. If a father was 50 or older, the likelihood that their infant wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 07:53 AM
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A lifepartner, father of my child, team player, someone who will support me through thick and thin and appreciates I will do the same for him, respects me and is honest, actively works against me being the default parent, equity in work vs chores and emotional labour, doesnt gamble our money away, funny and appreciates that im cringe, communicates until we agree on issues so we can have an united front (especially important when raising kids), we balance each other out with our strengths and wea…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 10:39 PM
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Its worth a rewatch! Currently mid-rewatch to culturally educate my boyfriend about atla and lok, its great 😁
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 09:39 PM
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Unalaq was the guy who was so tired of humanity he fused with the evil spirit to become the dark avatar. His goal waw to unleash death and destruction to reset humanity or something <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 08:58 PM
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Know this is off topic, but have you ever watched legend of korra? Your philosophy sounds like Unalaq from season 2
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 08:49 PM
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Lets have all. Boobs, beer AND politics. Political discussions are best when youre shitfaced and all parties can play devils advocate with absurd takes anyway 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 08:47 PM
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You could be right. I dont have an opinion on the intention of why mother's age and effect on offspring is brought up in debates. I dont have enough observations to form an opinion
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 06:07 PM
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Depends on where you are from I guess In my country (Norway) most people need a two-income household for a house. You can get cheaper housing on the countryside, but then its also harder to find a relevant job for two people. Stay-at-home parents are rare in our culture, so it could be hard to find a partner who would accept this as a solution Its a pet peeve of mine because our goverment keeps complaining that young people wait too long before having kids, but dont recognise the reasons behind …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 06:00 PM
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Thanks for your insight! Ik this isnt a human right, but I want to raise a kid in a economically stable environment, and with access to a garden for the child to play in. Thats my reasons for delaying 🙏
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 05:29 PM
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Based
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 05:12 PM
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Yeah. It is what it is 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 04:56 PM
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If you go with the assumption that raising a kid through poverty is a viable choice, then yes, youre right
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 04:52 PM
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I think more research is needed to quantify the effect. Now the question is, where do you gain funding for that research? 😬
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 04:50 PM
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The motivation is likely just to shed light on that father's age also matters. Sometimes this is missed in debates, and only mother's age is taken into account Sorry that it makes you feel worse for having to delay having kids, but it doesnt help to ignore the scientific consequences In asshole-speak: Facts dont care about your feelings
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 04:41 PM
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Both men and women are waiting because we have to be wage slaves for too long before getting into the housing market
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 04:39 PM
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Yes, but I want to shed a light on that women arent either (but have a bigger say than men) Imo capitalism is the most deciding factor of delaying to have a kid. Im almost 25F, want a kid, but I want to finish my degree and worked for some years and own a house. It takes too long to get into the housing market in my country, and you usually need to go through one or two apartments beforehand Edit: Also, flair checks out
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 04:32 PM
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A lot of guys in my social circle are like this, both friends and classmates. Im an engineering student. Unfortunately theyre just a bit socially awkward, and some are a little too arrogant about being an engineer. They manage to offend women when talking to them, or are shy and get too shitfaced before trying So I would guess they dont fit criteria nr6, but that doesnt matter. I dont fit criteria nr6 either. My boyfriend is one of these guys and he’s such a catch, I love him
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 01:14 PM
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😂
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 06:08 PM
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Maybe this is a weird take but i find comments like this kinda wholesome. Maybe its the positive mindset 🤭
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 06:05 PM
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I think there are some valid points and insights to all sides. I dont think redpill, or most other ideological, political, religious or philosophical thought processes are "created" with the purpose of hating or oppressing certain groups. Exceptions of course, like nazism, or Juche (religion in North Korea). Most are incoherent though as you say. I think you can identify with some parts of redpill without agreeing with all posts made by people who identify as redpill themselves. Personally I hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 05:56 PM
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My own relationship leans traditional. “Traditional” IMO is [...] So I modeled what I wanted in life after them. Thanks for the insight! Glad you found a relationship dynamic that works for you :)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 05:43 PM
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I dont think Id be able to stay with my partner if he got our [hypothethical] child's DNA tested and didnt have a conversation with me beforehand. If he came to me with his fears, assuring me its nothing personal but that he's seen horror stories online and just wants to soothe his fear Id support him in getting a paternity test or ancestry DNA test. But if he doesnt respect me enough to communicate beforehand, and just makes a decision without talking about it I would not be able to look at him…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 05:37 PM
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I dont think Id be able to stay with my partner if he got our [hypothethical] child's DNA tested and didnt have a conversation with me beforehand. If he came to me with his fears, assuring me its nothing personal but that he's seen horror stories online and just wants to soothe his fear Id support him in getting a paternity test or ancestry DNA test. But if he doesnt respect me enough to communicate beforehand, and just makes a decision without talking about it I would not be able to look at him…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 05:30 PM
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Very good point, I have the same views I think that its very reasonable if a man said beforehand that he would like a paternity test and that its nothing personal, just because he's heard horror stories online and don't want that little "what-if?". The consequence of finding out after many years is just so big, that its reasonable to want insurance beforehand. There are some similar horror stories that I think me and other women fear though. I think these fears play a part in why some women are …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 05:22 PM
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Yes im aware of that :) OP asked "question for redpill"
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 04:48 PM
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Wholesome, and good traits to have. Hope your wife knows how much you appreciate her! 🫶
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 04:45 PM
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Wholesome!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 04:40 PM
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Good point! I notice this a lot on reddit as well compared to non-anonymous social media
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 04:35 PM
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Agree with your thought process here. Please remember though that the whole responsibility of society's problems dont fall on you! Its okay to do your part in bettering society, and then not dwell too much 🫶
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 04:34 PM
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Do you also identify with nihilism? I find that you can be realistic about truths in society, like wars and human catastrophes, and still be optimistic about your own life and that things will work out. Its not super productive to be sad all the time about the wrongs in your world if you dont have much power to do a lot about it. Personally I think your life will be happier if you focus the energy to better the world when you vote, volunteer, donate to charities and be an activist, and then just…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 04:29 PM
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The entirety of [...] Lets not hijack OP's question with a general debate. People still have different opinions within redpill. OP's question was about individual redpillers relationship goals, not "Whats your generalised take on redpillers relationship goals". Edit: misread your flair. But I think youve stated before youre a redpill or pinkpill woman - so I'm curious what are your goals for a relationship? Are you more traditional, modern or a combo, and is there any specific reasoning?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 04:08 PM
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Thanks for insightful replies and interesting questions! I think i can agree on your observations. Though theres so much variations in between humans, you cant really predict the behaviour and standards of one person just given their gender. Culture can give an better indicator, but its still just guesswork. In some ways, im a typical Norwegian woman, but in other ways im the opposite I would say that my standards definitely increase depending on how fit I am at the time. I am much less forgivin…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 05:54 PM
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Honestly, I think your mindset is pretty healthy. If I had a daughter I would probably advise her to stay away from men objectively more attractive than herself and prioritize men who approach men and pursue her because men will absolutely "fuck down" for a short term thing. Hmm, I can see your point, and especially wanting to save a potential daughter from being used. I dont think I can take this as approval that my mindset is healthy, as we're probably both affected by the same echo-chambers o…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 04:13 PM
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Im not sure really. When i think deeper of your question I dont think my standards have changed much based on my own perceived attractiveness. I avoid "pretty-boys" (fear of fuckboys) and like the more down to earth guys. I have moderate faceblindness so honestly ive cared more about body than face. Body standards have varied with fitness and not perceived attractiveness. I dont really like talking about leagues and stuff, but physically ive really tried to avoid dating "above my league". That w…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 03:33 PM
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Thanks for good follow-up questions! I'll answer one at a time: So you'd be more likely to turn down a guy who wasn't very muscular during the period in which you were going to the gym very frequently, but became more forgiving when you were less fit. Yes in the period when i was 22-23 after me and first ex broke up, i did turn down guys who werent muscular, didnt powerlift or didnt go to the gym. In a shorter period i was a bit obsessed with their 1RM SBD (one rep max in squat, bench and deadli…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 03:19 PM
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You're welcome, I hope the advice can help even though its more complicated online 🫶 Im also autistic actually, and have looked at a lot of advice videos and online advice on how to approach topics like this to avoid offending someone 🤭 struggled with rsd when i was younger, and have had a few people with RSD symptoms around me and it can be hard to tiptoe around. A calm approach has worked for the most part, except for my bpd roommate who gets triggered when I react calmly. Hopefully this appro…
/r/ExRedPill30/06/25 02:43 PM
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Ive been on/off gym since I was 16, and have a recurring autistic special interest in stength training and bodybuilding. I nerd more about it than actually train lmao. In periods where im super into it, I have higher standards for that I want my partner to go to the gym as well. I'll talk about how my standards have changed throughout three relationships from the age of 18-25. I started of more shallow, wanting bigger muscles and a physique and strength that take years for most people (or about …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 02:27 PM
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I also think theres too much of this on tiktok. Female dating advice on tiktok is quite similar to redpill content honestly. Its also very easy to get dragged in, because many talking points do make sense. But the combination of all this advice gets very onesided, and with the algorithm on social media, one can fall into an echo chamber When youve seen your partner engaging with this content - can it be more innocent explanations? For example if a very misandrist post pops up and it show your pa…
/r/ExRedPill30/06/25 01:48 PM
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First I want to adress this: I also know he has more than one gun so that's another thing. I'm really stuck and I need help. If you have a fear of him using the gun I dont know how to help you, and I hope you seek advice in other subreddits as well. If you dont think theres even a small chance he might use those guns, heres what I would do. I would focus on reducing toxicity that might make him reject critisism immediately. Be calm, logical and fair. The consequence of his behaviour is losing yo…
/r/ExRedPill30/06/25 01:34 PM
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Can you clarify your questions? It sounds like some words are cut out from your sentences, so its a bit hard to comprehend what youre asking
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 08:32 PM
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Hmm thats an interesting point, I think you may be right! I dont think im the worst contender of getting "The ick", but ive definitely felt it
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 08:13 PM
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I would say you need to be «healed» enough that you don’t abuse your partner, are toxic, or very avoidant. But being on a healing journey can take time, and I think being self-aware and working on it is maybe the most important. I have multiple parts of myself I’m still trying to better and heal while I’m in a relationship. The first is that I’m AuDHD, and working on being more organize and avoiding periods of burnout and depression/fatigue. I’m also still figuring out some food intolerances, an…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 04:37 PM
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Why do so many posts about attraction on this sub have to be so black and white? Why say "almost 100%"? Some will say 100% biology, and you say almost 100% societal. Why not say "a large part" and acknowledge that there are very many factors playing a big part into attraction? Is it to get a clickbait title or do you genuinly believe its almost 100%?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 12:44 PM
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I was supposed to write a paragraph about this actually! Since i dont know what its like to not be a woman, I cant be certain. However i know what an instinctive biological urge can feel like at other times. For example when I see a cute baby, I feel an instinctive want/urge to have a baby myself, even though im not yet in a financial position for that and am only 6 months into a relationship I havent surcombed to my urge of having a kid yet, and that urge I do feel strongly. So my thought is th…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 07:47 PM
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Theres a balance where they are confident without being arrogant. Personally I like my men slightly on the arrogant side, as long as they have self-irony so we can have sarcastic jokes at each other. I think confidence being attractive is better explained by why low confidence can be unattractive. Theres many unattractive traits about low confidence. Its craving constant approval, which can be tiresome. It can be being very sensitive to critisism, and blowing up or crying in arguments so I have …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 04:47 PM
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Agree with some of what youre saying here. Culture and your own morals also has a big sway over the human psyche. Therefore I have some notes: They simply cannot help it. I dont like this take, and its also a bit misleading. Your choices arent determined by your biology. Though biology does have an impact on your decisions, its more complex than that. Maybe than sentence is just you simpifying your take though, and i dont think its very harmful in this case. But imagine biology-driven instincts …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 11:15 AM
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No i do not place men in categories
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 08:22 AM
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alcohol usually. And being delusional thinking the other person cares more than they do I dont watch porn. And if i use a vibrator i feel empty after coming once, not a great time
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 03:45 PM
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Im so sorry:(
/r/ExRedPill26/06/25 10:41 PM
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No, I like to pick and choose
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 07:12 PM
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What? Most of the women who commented here have the flair "no pill"
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 09:28 AM
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Thank you, I was asleep when getting asked to elaborate, but I stand behind this
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 09:27 AM
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same here. I need the emotional closeness
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 10:43 PM
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Thanks for your answer!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 01:33 PM
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Do you think thats your subjective opinion or do you believe this is an absolute truth?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 12:23 PM
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Now, its also important to mention Im from Norway, so hookup/dating culture here is different. This video explains it well: Dating in Norway - Lindmo
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 12:22 PM
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Not sure if im a "high value" girl or not, but people tell me im attractive. When I used to have hookups it varied a lot on how I came off. If I came off as anxiously attached I'd either get ghosted or it turned into a relationship. If I came off as avoidantly attached they would (without fail) message me to meet me again, or stalk me to show up at the same bar etc. I know this doesnt necessarily answer your question, but thats my anecdotal experience. I think behaviour also matters. I think if …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 12:22 PM
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Good point
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 08:58 AM
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Agree with this
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 08:44 AM
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Agree with your cherrypicked examples ;) Would be interesting if you did a part 2 with redpill tropes that does not hold true for most basic girl/normie women
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 11:27 AM
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Not completely bluepill, but probably on the blue/purple scale: -My advice to you would be to be a good listener. Prioritize one-on-one conversations in quiet spots. -Make sure that when you say something, it has a purpose. That might lead to some people gaining respect for you and stopping their speech to let you talk, or maybe even shushing someone who talks a lot to let you speak. -Another advice could be to be good with body language communication, however I don't know how to this myself as …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 06:06 PM
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True in romantic sense. Or I guess it could lead to being targeted by men who don't like women who talk a lot 🤐
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 06:03 PM
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Yeah, probably true, I'm not well-versed in the definition of prostitute vs sex worker honestly
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 06:00 PM
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Ive heard enough arguments that relationships are transactional and I can somewhat agree, if the premise is that all human relationships are transactional. However, that doesnt mean women in relationships are sex workers, as your title says. I know you said women arent prostitutes, but I still dont agree that women are sex workers. If you go with this premise, then everyone who engages in sex is a sex worker, because all relationships are transactional. And then, what term are you supposed to us…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 01:55 PM
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Also, this is all assuming the main arguments of OP held water. I can just provide my personal experience as a HL woman, but when I initiate or let my boyfriend initiate I dont think of it as transactional. Here's my side of some of OP's arguments: Would she sleep with the same guy if he had no ambition? Firstly, when I was in a period of my life where I just wanted fwb and short term relationships: I did not care at all. The rest of answers is assuming in a committed relationship. Depends what …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 01:48 PM
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I did read OP's post, and I saw they said women werent prostitutes. OP still said sex workers in the title though. That includes prostitutes, but also non-prostutute sex work like* onlyfans, escort, sugar babies, pornography, cam models, stripping and lap dancing. The closest thing to a relationship here would probably be escort service or sugar babies. Personally, I dont find OP's arguments to hold up. Theres too big leaps in their logical reasoning. *its debatable if the listed examples are se…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 01:23 PM
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I get your take, because human relationships are transactional. But OP's take, equating this to women being sexworkers... Thats just too many logical jumps. I could agree if it was a joke argument, I am an ENTP and do enjoy wild takes as jokes. But if OP is serious, there's something wrong with their logical reasoning
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 10:57 AM
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What a strange take. Have you ever been in a happy and equal relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 10:53 AM
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That example is not a good example. I had a almost 3.5 year long age gap relationship that when we started I was 18 and he was 23. I didnt have the confidence to speak up about myself. Now, 3 years after the breakup, i still have a lot of his personality traits. I dont think he meant to groom me, but because he was older I assumed he was right in every way
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 05:58 AM
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Heavy on the lineage thing! Both of my names are quite rare (my mother and father combined their rarest names) and both are connected to my field of work. So i dont want to remove any of them 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 10:06 PM
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Exactly this!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 06:57 PM
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Strawman argument. I was just answering your question
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 05:35 AM
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Cooking, cleaning, childcare, laundry, emotional labour of the whole household, keeping all of their lives organized, making sure he eats healthy and go to doctors appointment
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 05:32 AM
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If you, as a woman, are unable to do well at "talking to women" then your personality factually sucks. The only reason you're in a relationship at all is because men don't value you for your personality. First sentence does not imply the second. Thats just your sexist thinking showing through Im bi and can admit I suck at dating apps, and this means its hard to date girls on dating apps. Met my bf through university however. While he probably liked me for looks at the start, he's said multiple t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 05:15 AM
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Yeah thats true about dopamine! Im bi, and its really not the same at all when swiping on women. But idk, all of my relationships have been organic meetings, and especially my boyfriend now is in my friend group. I think thats way better, as its much safer when someone is already vetted out by your friends. Ive only had either mediocre or traumatic experiences when meeting on dating apps
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/25 09:19 PM
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It’s fucked because I’m probably just one of the hundreds of dudes they’ve matched with on an app that I gave my socials to and they probably forgot that they ghosted me so they just see cute guy on their stories and reply cluelessly I think you may be correct in this take 😅 used to do this when i was younger, however i also have moderate faceblindness, so maybe thats just me
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/25 09:00 PM
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Oh yeah i hate rejecting cookies and cakes. Its so awkward because i dont want to offend them, but i dont want them to feel bad that theres not a GF alternative either. I try to just be quiet and avoid the situation. Drinking coffee helps with blending in
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/25 04:42 PM
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Oof thats harsh :/ I dont think this is very bad around me, but im from norway which is really progressive. Not really a provider mindset for men. However if you were very picky with food as well, thats a huge turn off because that says something about your personality. Went on a date with a guy at my gym for sushi, but he only ordered nigiri because half the things he couldnt eat. (I was also restricted and can not blame him for that at all!). But the other half he just didnt like the taste of …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/25 04:36 PM
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Oof im sorry about that :( As a girl it hasnt been a problem for me really. Ive had two boyfriends while being glutenfree and both have been really good at avoiding contamination. Maybe thats the bare minimum, but its sure as hell a lot better than my family 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/25 04:25 PM
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Hmm. What if I believe a man should hold the door open and carry my groceries? Would that make me misogynist?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/25 12:26 AM
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Yup. Unfortunately in my country (norway), sex early on is the norm to get into relationships. So you gotta take the risk
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/25 12:24 AM
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Me personally: I am a contrarian. From my experience, whatever "normies" believe in is usually false, so I think about my decisions based on data and not based on the common sentiment. And more often than not, I am right. What? I get being against jumping on a bandwagon - but saying what "normies" believe in is usually false is still a logical fallacy. Youre right to make decisions based on data and not common sentiment. However it seems like you have some immediate assumptions and biases, and t…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/25 12:05 AM
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Well, obviously everyone should be funny ;P If I answer seriously though, I would guess I prefer those qualities. I prefer not to be around unfunny, serious people, and it seems to be reprocicated
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 11:29 PM
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Same here 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 10:49 PM
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Anybody (man or woman) who adheres to these social expectations or uses phrases like the above are reinforcing misogyny. I guess Im a hypocrite and am reinforcing misoginy 😬 The expectation for men to pursue, initiate, or "lead" is born out of misogyny Men are expected to ask women out. Men are expected to propose. Men are expected to be charming, to be funny, and to do stuff to court the woman. Well, I like all those things in a man, I guess thats misoginyst of me. Luckily my boyfriend thinks i…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 10:44 PM
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there are arguably more women/people in general who are so rejection-sensitive that they’re actually uncomfortable and hesitant to reject people Yeah, i hate rejecting people. It makes me feel like a total bitch. Im not even conflict-averse and am only just slightly a people pleaser
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 09:13 PM
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Imo theyre not losers, but maybe that makes me a loser as well 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 08:18 PM
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Might just be because im studying engineering and have engineering students around me - but in my experience the vast majority of men are awkward around women
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 08:06 PM
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Interesting, thanks for answering!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 05:33 PM
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Shouldve been clearer in my above comment. I dont mean to say that i dont think theres not an advantage. I just think the analogy is exxagerated. But thats also why I asked the commenter if they think its so bad, to get some perspective
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 04:46 PM
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blue pill likes to emphatically proclaim that there are ample opportunities to meet people, mingle, and date in 2025- even outside of college Ive never seen blue pill proclaim that. Not saying its never happened, but I think thats a strawman. Even in subreddits like XXchromosomes ive seen more complaints about dating apps and lack of opportunities than the opposite. From my observations majority of blue pill also thinks theres too little opportunity to meet people organically compared to earlier…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 04:42 PM
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Whats the point of having sex with someone outside of a relationship if you dont get orgasm and need to use toys instead? If the guy doesnt care and his ego would be hurt by bringing toys into the sex theres no point Actually not. Some stds like chlamydia and gonorrhea can make women sterile, but very rarely or more rarely for men. Its also more likely to lead to deadly infections. The infections can also cause cancer but im not sure if thats more common for women vs men. However men are less li…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 04:20 PM
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I do know two girls who get self esteem boost from rejecting men (from the rejection in particular). One has bpd and one is super spoiled with issues. So i think definitely some women get that, its just not most women
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 03:53 PM
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Do you really feel like this? I feel like the Marie Antoinette example if I complain about being overwhelmed on dating apps, but I dont think it really applies to the sex gap Its like "let them eat cake" but Im gluten free. So if I eat anything but homemade (analogy to relationship) the cake tastes bad (analogy to little orgasm with guys who dont care) and I have a high chance of getting ill (analogy to getting BV, fungus or chlamydia) Edit: of course cake is still better than starvation in this…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 03:51 PM
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Thats a perspective I didnt think about! Condoms arent 100% safe
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 03:46 PM
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What do you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 03:44 PM
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Agree with everything you say OP, and I think you worded it very good as to not be "anti-man". Will read comments and see if I can get some other perspectives though
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 03:43 PM
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When I was 17 I had a period where I was super tired of school, was out drinking a lot and then I dated three weed smokers and one lowkey alcoholic guy. I had baaad commitment issues with these guys, because i didnt actually want to be with them long term. After that Ive only dated good guys and steered away from red flags and f-boys. So my 2 cents from my anecdotal experience is that women who do this are either going through a phase or is also in those environments. You wouldnt want to be with…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 03:35 PM
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I agree with what you say! And also, the last paragraph is true for me as well :P I want my bf to simp for me, as I do for him, but I know thats not actually what a simp is and that Im using the word wrong I dont think anyone really wants to be a bad person. Of course i dont know what its like to be a psychopath etc. but I dont think its in human nature to want to be a bad person. I just think some people care less about being a good person, and I also think some people (like dictators who murde…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 03:21 PM
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Thats fair! I get that my original comment is very short so it can be interpreted multiple ways depending on your pov I do think a lot of self help and introspection is connected as you say. But I dont think redpill is very introspective on morals and values. While it give men tips on how to date, it seems to me that its more focused on "this is how society is whether you like it or not, and these are steps to get accepted". And not very focused on "Am I being a good person and having good value…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 07:27 PM
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Oh I get that! And a positive thing with the "reversing the table" is that youre using an expression that is already well known, so I guess it does reach out to more people!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 06:07 PM
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Its kind of implied when you use that as an example :P I assume it wasnt intentional, but it was funny regardless
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 06:06 PM
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This is a bit hard to answer all your questions at once here Could you clarify what youre asking? What do you mean by "that"? No I dont think they are opposites. But theyre not exactly the same either Thats a strawman. OP is saying that redpillers hold women way more accountable than men. And while I do see their point, I was confused when there wasnt mention of the hate towards certain charicatures like "chad" and "simps"
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 06:04 PM
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Yeah this was kind of funny. Dishwashing is dirty, youre all there with your hands in soapy water and food clumps. Im imagining OP salivating at the thought of a woman washing dishes with long yellow plastic gloves. To each their own 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 05:03 PM
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While I do agree with you that this approach is better, and somewhat incentivices self reflection - I also wonder: why is much of relationship lingo lately is about what someone brings to the table? Relationships really dont have to be as transactional as "I provide X therefore I expect Z and Y". Its helpful to somewhat see a division of labour if theres a big disparity. However its not the most helpful expression for those who arent that great at self reflection and who have a hard time acknowl…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 04:58 PM
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Im sure women who cheat on their partner and commit paternity fraud use all kinds of excuses. That however, does not mean that the child best interest shouldnt be considered when making a law
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 12:19 AM
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No, thats how the law is in Norway. The child's best interest is put first. And i agree with that thinking
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 11:11 PM
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I agree. Of course i think there should be some sort of justice for paternity fraud. It would need to be so that the best for the child is center, and also protect fathers rights who have raised a kid and suddenly find out its not biological. F.e. Some people find out when kid does ancestry DNA test and find new family
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 11:15 AM
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Thats a great point! I was confused at first, because i see a lot of hate towards "chads" and simps. But I guess red-pill isnt really supposed to be very introspective, and more "self-help"
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 10:23 PM
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Completely agree with you! Only dominant side i want is in the bedroom 😂 id hate for someone to control my life
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 10:09 PM
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Thanks for that! For me itd be ok if my boyfriend jerked off to porn or something while in a relationship as long as he didnt choose porn over me. Say we're long distance for a while, or Im too stressed to feel in the mood. Thats completely fine by me. Im not a very insecure person though, so i guess not everyone would be ok with that
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 09:10 AM
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All the power to onlyfans girls, but I want my bf to be with me and give his romantic attention to me, not to simp over some other girl. It wouldnt be a dealbreaker that they had subscribed to someone previously, but then of they didnt unsub after starting to sleep with me, that would make me feel weird. I dont want there to be a third person in the relationship... Also, if they spend a lot of money on a popular onlyfans girl, id think thats a financial red flag. If its a more unknown girl in fi…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 10:23 PM
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Thank you, you as well!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 06:48 PM
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Yeah i definitely think the two party system is unfortunate in the US. We also have a parliamentary system so the Stortinget (congress) has more power than in US and Russia. I do think we have a bit too many parties however! People voting for loads of tiny parties is kind of a vote throwaway. They wont get any seats/mandates anyway, and it gives more power to the biggest parties because the small parties struggle with getting above 4% to get equalization mandates/seats on the storting. This is e…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 04:01 PM
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Yeah ive heard its more polarizing! And honestly i can understand it a lot, but ofc as a norwegian im way more left leaning than both democrats and republicans. I can understand being angry at people voting trump. Just the abortion politics alone is enough for me that i couldnt be in a relationship with someone like that, but also just the constant blatant misinformation by trump. I dont think id be very good friends with a trump supporter either and wouldnt go out of my way to nurture a friends…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 03:27 PM
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Yeah its kind of been tabu in Norway for a while as well, and it felt a bit surreal to talk about it tbh. In earlier relationships i was more politically active (and figuring out my position) so it was also more natural to talk about it then. Honestly I wouldnt judge a lot of people on what they vote for. But there are a few certain parties in my country i would withhold some judgement until there was an explanation of sorts. Two if the bigger ones is because the party leaders and other people i…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 03:10 PM
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No I dont think its rare that its supported. However ive never been in an interracial relationship (closest to that is an one night stand with a swede lmao) so i cant speak on the experience of that and if theres any comments. My guess is that it'd matter more if religion is involved, f.e. the ethnic norwegian is from a practising christian family, or the brown person is muslim which is quite common. Then I guess the family might raise questions to make sure the couple is on the same page about …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 02:40 PM
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Yes theyd be completely okay with that! Only exception is that they love my boyfriend, so in a hypothethical situation that person would have to be even better personality-wise 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 02:35 PM
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I get a general feel. I like dark humour and politically incorrect jokes, and you can tell somewhat if people are serious. I dont bring it up until its relevant, like f.e. This is an election year so me and my bf talked about who we've voted for earlier, and thats about 6 months in For me, im more flexible on the tax policies and privatisation. Id like for them not to be pro-centralisation, but its not a dealbreaker. Im inflexible on immigration, environment, abortion and disabled rights. Those …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 11:36 AM
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Yes, thats at least how it seems to be in Norway 😅 and yes, its also easier for men to transfer to women than women to transfer to men. I think male-to-female transfer rate is like 30-40% while female-to-male transfer rate is like 10-20%, but its quite a while since I read a report on it so might be that i remember wrong!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 10:09 AM
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Im not american but in Norway (chlamydia place no 2) we struggle more with guys not bothering to get tested. Had an ex not bothering because he didnt want "a q-tip up his dick". Women have easier std test and more consequences for std (becoming sterile). Std testing is free (and makes the rest of the dr appointment free as well), and its commonplace with women to get tested after every time you had unprotected sex. Unfortunately a lot of the guys ive been with seem to think that if theyve slept …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 07:53 AM
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My anecdotal experience has been mixed but leaning towards the opposite🤷‍♀️ so i guess we would need to find some actual studies
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 07:33 AM
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I prefer relationships and most of my ons have been where the guy was drunk so that does make it harder to come. In relationships it has varied on how long since we last slept together, and can last anywhere from 30 sec to 20 minutes/when I say i cant go anymore. And also, if we try a new position or something my boyfriend has sometimes only lasted a few pumps 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 07:31 AM
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Personally ive been very empathethic towards guy friends when they talk about no luck on dating apps. Im not an outlier either. When i was on dating apps i was the typical woman who gets overwhelmed from thousands of matches and hundreds of unopened messages
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 07:19 AM
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In social science, like any science, you can prove and disprove a trend or pattern with statistics
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 07:00 AM
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Thats a point you would want to put in your post. If youre in a romantic relationship you assume exclusivity unless otherwise agreed upon. If youre going to have an agreement in this hypothethical scenario it needs to be in the main post
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 06:55 AM
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Its the same! I was about to use it as an example actually, but decided to keep my comment short
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 07:57 AM
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Would love if all people who claimed red pill was like this, but unfortunately, and as you probably have seen, that isnt the case. The red pill community is colored by behaviors of people who claim redpill. Saying we should ignore that and accept redpill, leans on being the "no true scotsman" fallacy
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 07:23 AM
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Itd be fine by me! Im close to finishing my engineering degree with a very high earning potential. As of now, my boyfriend is more well of financially than me, but we split food bills because his rent is like double of my rent (i live with people and he lives alone). However ill finish engineering school before him, and then I wouldnt want that he paid for a lot when Ill be earning money
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 07:01 AM
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I agree. Some of the examples are just social skills
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 02:04 PM
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Absolutely not! Even with disability genes (adhd and autism) theres no way id do that. Im very against eugenics
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 08:54 AM
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For me, i feel unsafe if they allude to sex too early or, give f-boy vibes. But I can not say this had been a good predictor, even though you weed out f-boys. I do not have a good creep/rapist filter. Especially a filter to avoid men who think consent the first time means eternal consent For a longer relationship the "safe" feeling is when he not only accept me as i am with AuDHD and dark humor, but loves me for it. Also, that hes dependable and would be there for me in an emergency or if i got …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 11:03 AM
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I agree with your title, at least that fits my anecdotal experience. Or not masculinity, but demonizing men. And noticing yourself leaning towards misandrism because of repeated trauma even when you dont want to. You have to actively work against it and heal through your trauma to relieve the resentment towards men because of some men overstepping boundaries. I dont agree with all your viewpoints however! I dont think its a mistake that men are empathethic towards past trauma. I wouldnt want to …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 10:50 AM
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Yes, but only if i can feel that theyre hitting on me. Im quite friendly normally, and also have winking tics that can look like flirting. Sometimes older men or other people can misinterpret that and I get a panicky feeling
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 09:31 AM
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Was about to disagree on my anecdotal experience but i have adhd so i guess that explains why i cant focus lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 08:15 AM
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No! Many reasons for not attracting women. Ive three times been the first girlfriend, and two times the second "body" to a boyfriend. Theyve just been nerdy, in their early 20s and kind of awkward around women. If the reasons for not attracting was because of a bitter incel or redpill look on life and women however, id definitely think they were a loser and would never date them
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 07:57 AM
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This is just hypothethical since Im in love with my boyfriend 🫶 1. Marijuana at least once a month? Ehh, too often 2. Devout Christian? No, Im atheist. I respect religions but we would be incompatible 3. Dislikes physical exercise? No, I enjoy strength training and hiking 4. Doesnt believe gay marriage should be legal? Absolutely not 5. Would you date a man who believes that abortion should be illegal? No 6. Porn at least 3x a week? Idk, havent been in a relationship with a porn addict and dont …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 06:25 AM
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Bisexual, and no. I can feel sexy, but sexual attraction is only related to how a man or woman might feel about me. Can relate to being socially conditioned to being your own voyeur
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 12:14 AM
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Oops do I need to delete reddit when im in a happy relationship? :P This is an exciting sub with a lot of different viewpoints. I find that interesting, regardless of its relevance to my life
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 12:00 AM
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Oh, i realise now i may be more low-maintenance than I thought. I dont really believe in burdening others with my issues, and id rather clean the drain and remove others toilet stains than be a nag 😅 How can i avoid motherering a partner later in life? Thats literally my worst fear in life, being stuck in a relationship like that
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 11:53 PM
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Bro, calm down. I agree with your title, you shouldve kept it at that. Completely disagree with your post, I think most men (and women) can be loyal in fulfilling relationships. I barely know anyone who cheated or been cheated on in exclusive romantic relationship, and thats from a culture with a lot of casual sex. Stastitically its a minority (like ~20-25%) of people who have cheated in their lifetime, and I would guess even smaller than that who are chronic/serial cheaters
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 11:38 PM
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Having been burned by almost every guy ive been with more than 3 times crossing a sexual boundary, some also doing SA, stalking and rape. Obviously this cant statistically be normal, and I think i miss a lot of red flags because im autistic. My current boyfriend is from common friends which is really nice because i could get to know him without him faking a personality for me. I addition it helps that my friends also know him and would tell me if they noticed any red flags to be wary of
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 11:23 PM
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Im a total opposite, but i hope you find your lifelong travel friend!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 11:02 PM
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Yes, its a thing ive seen on tiktok! From what i gather, girl pretty is more model type pretty with unique features or style. Think Dove Cameron or Anya Taylor-Joy. And what they mean is boy pretty, is a more girl next door type with "basic" pretty features and often a more cute look. But a lot of the examples of celebrities are listed as either, so honestly i think its just personal preference for the most part
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 06:42 PM
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Female gaze online is vastly overexaggerated. Peoples preferences varies a lot. In general I think the female gaze can be explained as a trend where men may idealize very buff bodybuilders on testosterone more than the amount of women actually attracted to that body type. Except for this, I dont think the concept is very useful. I think female gaze can also to some extent explain the phenomen "girl pretty" and "boy pretty" which has been trending on social media. However i dont really understand…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 01:59 PM
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Might just be some countries. In norway theres a lot of jokes about both male and female genitalia. In northern norway theyll say "fittekaldt" (cold as pussy) and "kukvarmt" (hot as cock). People joke about both "kukost" (cock cheese) and "rekesalat" (pussy that smells like scampi). I would guess its within a 30-70% margin of equal jokes
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 12:07 PM
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Women lovebomb as well, and i highly doubt majority of lovebombers are in this subreddit
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 11:21 AM
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I agree with your take. I dont think a lot of people in this sub are the type to lovebomb 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 11:19 AM
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Unrelated but i love your flair
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 11:18 AM
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Having had casual sex isnt the same as consistently having casual sex with chads
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 09:46 PM
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Thats true if you have avoidant attachment. Its called "phantom ex". If youre healthy you dont really compare people in that way
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 05:02 PM
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Yes, but women are also taller Quick google search and maths: Denmark men height 181.6 cm Women height 168.7 cm Men are 7.46% taller USA men height 175 cm Women height 162 cm Men are 8.02% taller England (couldnt find UK easy) men height 175.3 cm Women height 161.6 cm Men are 8.47% taller Proportionally the men are about 8% taller in Denmark, USA and England
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 02:08 PM
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Yes, but you dont have to worry that this will turn into everyone. Even though many people will naively try to go for "fuckboys" and get hurt, majority of people learn from their mistakes and learn to filter out fuckboys
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 01:59 PM
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Yeah. The "high/low value" thing is mostly echo-chambers from either redpill community, or toxic female dating advice on tiktok. More healthy people look at compatibility, similar life style, life goals and if you have a good time together
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 01:44 PM
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Healthy mindset!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 01:43 PM
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This isnt majority women. Probably more common when women are younger, but a lot will learn from trial and error that (some) men look at sex differently and many men dont actually respect their sex partners. Of course there is the loud minority who consistently go for fuckboys and never learn, but from what ive seen with my girlfriends who do that, you would want to avoid getting into a relationship with them anyway 😅 one is bpd, one is spoiled and one has other issues. People with green flags w…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 01:41 PM
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The risk of being stuck in a marriage with kids and a partner who doesnt contribute, doesnt show up for you and stresses you out. I dont want to divorce if i have kids, but my biggest fear is being stuck in a bad marriage with kids
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 11:01 AM
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Heavy on the serve his plate before mine. All those small acts of putting your partner before yourself can go unnoticed but i still do them. And if i have candy, even if theres only one piece left and i really crave it, ill still give my bf the last piece
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 10:27 AM
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Youre probably from a different country than me, but in Norway its quite normal that both parties do romance! However generally theres less romance and courting here. People are very awkward when sober, and usually you have a one night stand first, and if it went well, then you go on a date
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 10:23 AM
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Im saying this because I experienced being with a guy who was very anti-romance. He wouldnt buy me real flowers on a special occasion because they would just die out. I bought him flowers in his favorite color, picked wildflowers multiple times etc. But he bought Lego flowers once for my birthday because itll last forever. He generally was just not a very romantic person While my current boyfriend will light candles multiple times a week because its cozy. And yes, those candles will be used up, …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 09:50 AM
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This Splitting the bill isnt a dealbreaker, but it can be a red flag. Not because I want to be provided for, as Im almost finishing my engineering masters. But, because i dont want to be in a relationship with an anti-romance man or a redpill man, and these people are also in the category of splitting the bill. In a relationship I want a date/hangout once a month to avoid the spark diminishing. How am I supposed to tell the difference between if you want to avoid an entitled woman and if you hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 09:47 AM
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Do you mean how its hard for a stay at home spouse to leave an abusive relationship because they have a gap in their CV and maybe also lack of education?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 09:37 AM
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Plenty of women do that, including me. Its just that these women have longer more succesful relationships and then go off the dating market. The older you get, the more the dating pool will be filled with people who are single for a good reason
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 09:29 AM
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If you came to norway and university culture youd definitely see baddies hooking up with nerdy men. I think its more about confidence. Nerdy men studying engineering, having a good social group with their classmates (also mostly nerds) and therefore being more confident on bars. Confidence shines through
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 09:27 AM
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The "all men suck" phase I think is more likely to happen after experiencing r*pe and sa with multiple people. At least thats from experience from me and the women around me. Its harder to stay logical and non-bitter when youve experienced trauma and it takes some time to heal the bitterness
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 09:16 AM
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I agree. Knowing how to drive when youre in your mid 30s and maybe thinking of starting a family, and owning a car is vastly different. Its almost a dealbreaker if you want a family because of emergency situations And i dont have my licence yet, and im mid 20s and almost finished with my engineering degree. Thats also because of medical reasons, i have adhd and just wasnt mature enough when i started practice driving at 19-20. Im practice driving currently and will probably need 3x the practice …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 02:40 PM
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You put this perfectly
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 09:40 PM
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This is why its better to date in your social circles, because theres an incentive to treat people with respect
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 09:05 PM
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I dont really care that its offensive, but its often incorrect or generalised based on quotes and old religious beliefs It seems like a lot of redpillers mix up stereotypes of hookup culture with avoidant attachment. I think a lot of the behaviour can be better explained with attachment theory
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 07:57 PM
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Yeah i agree, that sounds like a good sentence to say. Especially the thing about genuine connection is nice to make sure they feel respected
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 11:30 PM
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Maybe there is something your friends know you havent said in this post. Are you somehow insulting the women youre dating, even if accidentally? Maybe they take it wrongly, as if you mean you dont want something serious with them specifically and is turned off by that?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 11:21 PM
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Yeah if youre emotionally unavailable you may get the ick from secure people because youre scared of commitment or getting hurt in a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 06:53 PM
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Attracting avoidant people often is due to one being emotionally unavailable
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 06:34 PM
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It seems like you go for women who are only attracted to avoidantly attached people or that dont respect themselves. If you go for women with secure attachment and self respect youd find women are more attracted if you help out, give gifts and do things like hold the door open, carry bag, pull chair out etc
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 05:33 PM
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I’ve also experienced this once with a guy shorter than me. I could just see in his eyes he got so uncomfortable when he met me, and I’m just slightly above average height. He did some were rude jokes to me and proceeded to take me to a bar where they had weight scales in the entrance and comparing our weights… Im not and wasn’t even overweight, and didn’t wear baggy clothes either I’ve also dated a guy that was 20cm shorter with me and had no problem with that. He ended up dumping me due to we …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 08:43 AM
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Ive heard a lot of American cities have food deserts where the only practical way to get food in everyday life is fast food
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 09:59 AM
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Ah, i mean sleeping as in sleeping together, as in having a lot of casual sex
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 04:41 AM
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How? Wouldnt it be the oppsite since we're not celibate?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 04:34 AM
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Being heavily dependent on oil does tend to make a country score high on climate scepticism unfortunately. Not sure why there are so many racist and anti-immigration people here though
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 08:27 PM
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Lmao youre veeeery wrong. We dont like making small talk so here sleeping with someone is an icebreaker before you start dating
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 07:32 PM
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Okay, cool to hear :) i wonder what you'd think of northern europes dating, i mean sleeping culture 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 07:10 PM
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No i dont think its too different in that regard. Biggest difference i think is that there are way more racists and climate sceptics in norway than in sweden
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 07:08 PM
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Well, its not the same with rules like "kiss on 1st date" make it or break it. Dating used to be very uncommon and everyone just started out a relationship with sleeping with someone at a party or finding someone to go home with, but with tinder there can be "dates" before sleeping with someone. The norm is to just go home and "watch a movie" together, or if youre shy or its tinder: grab a coffee or go for a walk and then go home with each other. We're way too awkward to just kiss without sex (e…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 07:02 PM
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Where in Europe are you from?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 06:51 PM
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Hahaha im just starting to wonder if the social awkwardness in norway actually benefits us a bit compared to the US. You'd think itd be worse, but for example the "dates are like job interviews" isnt too common i think cause people are too awkward. And since its socially acceptable to be fwb its not too vague
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 06:50 PM
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I agree. Northern europe does not claim the UK. The culture is very different in a lot of ways, especially when it comes to sociability. In norway it would absolutely not be okay to try making small talk with strangers (even if they dont seem busy) and when there accidentally is some iceabreaker its very awkward conversation. Its not ok to sit down beside someone on a bus if there are empty seats, and if there arent its expected to stand if its not very crowded. Binge drinking and sleeping cultu…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 06:41 PM
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Whaaat. As a Norwegian i always thought the Dutch were similar in culture, especially when it came to sexual liberty. And this was before the pandemic as well?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 06:34 PM
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Eh, here its guys and girls both. We're not too fan of double standards here ;) (though some definitely do here as well)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 06:32 PM
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Cant get pregnant if you're already pregnant 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 06:31 PM
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Yup. No one would risk being stuck at a restaurant, trying to make small talk and being super awkward. Sleeping with each other is always a nice icebreaker 😂 During the pandemic a lot of single people try to "date" cause of social distancing so its like go for a coffee or a medium walk, and if its not too awkward you sleep with them. And I think some try to sleep with the same person a few times to limit social contacts, until its too awkward and they ghost each other. But that's my take coming …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 06:30 PM
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Can you specify where in europe you are from? Cause in northern europe its the opposite
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 06:25 PM
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In my country the US is conservative compared to us. Im Norwegian but im pretty sure it goes for all the Nordic countries. Its more common to sleep with each other before you go on an actual date. Even with tinder its usually meet for a coffee, go for a walk and then go home to them or go straight home to them and watch a movie at their place. We're quite socially akward and most people dont want to risk being stuck at an actual restaurant with someone they dont mesh well with. Sleeping with the…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 06:22 PM
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Yes!! Its more taboo for men to talk about their feelings with each other and be intimate, so thats a huge reason why men often take many years to get over an ex
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/21 10:16 AM
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Naah, most of what I do is Trying to be cool to try to get friends that wanna hang out and invite me to stuff Working towards grades and making an impression so ill get a good job when im out of uni Trying to influence people to my ideological/ political beliefs like saving the environment and utilitarianism Like, even tho i dont consciously think of these things while doing it, most of it is some of those underlying reasons. A point about trying to impress the boys and girls i fancied definitel…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/21 08:50 PM
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The first comment literally says he makes 1000 a week and doesn't pay rent cause he lives with his parents... so that's at least 4000 a month which means he pays 12,5% of his income in child support
/r/PussyPassDenied03/11/20 10:54 AM
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When me and my partner both are in jobs I'll probably be the one who earns more and id say we both are the same level of attractive. The area he is better than me in is self-discipline, organization and patience. As I have severe Adhd that's sorely needed and one reason I look up to him a lot for that I think the people talking about this are missing major points though and it's that there are more to relationship than just attraction and money. Relationships are about two people who love each o…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 03:39 PM
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You're forgetting that the women will then have a baby with 50% of her genes and 50% "chad"-genes. Which will probably already on the first generation make the offspring not an incel at all, and if not it doesn't take many generations either
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 02:59 PM
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