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bk2747/r/Divorce_Men05/04/26 04:12 AM
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A pop to the jaw is EXACTLY what they want so they can take you to court as an unfit, violent parent. That’s how you lose your kids, don’t fall for the rage bait. I’d also put the mother in check before the dumbass dating a woman with children, she’s the culprit in all of this. I’d hit them with the uno reverse card, if he’s acting an ass in front of the children, get it on dash cam and send it to your attorney, let the courts know that the kids are in an unsafe environment.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/26 06:32 PM
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Lawyer up, do not ever re-marry, focus on your kids, STOP COMMUNICATING WIRH HER FRIENDS AND FAMILY! Takeaways: You didn’t want to press charges, you left YOUR HOME, and you bailed her out???????? That nice guy crap is going to get you absolutely screwed over in the end. You are teaching your children to reward bad behavior. You should have absolutely pressed charges, you should have been in a lawyers office the next morning, wtf is wrong with you?? You asked how some of us are so quick to turn …
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/26 06:32 PM
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Get that custody agreement locked down, let the courts know you don’t want your kid moved 6 hours just to see your kid.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/26 11:49 AM
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Military has it too. 10 years and 1 day of marriage qualifies spouses for 50% of the service members retirement which is basically lifetime alimony. You have no idea how many men are walking around only collecting 25% of their base pay due to divorce. Imagine serving in the 20 years, breaking your body down in numerous ways, deploying overseas, sustaining injuries, not to mention the guys who deployed to combat, only to lose half of your ur retirement to your wife! I was 4 years shy of being scr…
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/26 08:20 PM
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Stay the course, don’t fall for the Okie doke. Keep contact to a minimum.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/26 04:12 AM
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Don’t be stupid.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/26 12:53 AM
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$7500 MORTGAGE?!?!?!?!??!?!?!!
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/26 05:39 AM
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Send yourself screenshots and lawyer up. KEEP YOUR DAMN MOUTH SHUT!!!!!!! You have the right to remain silent, any stupid shit you say can and will be used to gaslight you and flip the script in family court! Get yourself tested for STDs, no more sex, no more affection outside a peck on the lips to keep her off your trail if even that. Don’t change your normal routine but slowly pull away affectionately. Get your money squared away, lay low until you’re ready to serve her. I cannot stress this e…
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/26 05:36 AM
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It takes time. I went hermit crab for 2 whole years, only left my apartment to go to work and the gym, only time I “got out” was to go see my son and taking him on outings over the summer. I got out of debt and got in the best shape of my life. First month I came out of my shell I had multiple women clawing at me. I had a lot of fun with one and another came into my life full time and the last year with her has been amazing. You have every right to have that chip on your shoulder, as lame as it …
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/26 03:42 AM
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Youre still in love and you haven’t moved on emotionally. See, I hate my ex wife and I do mean I HATE her, I don’t even know if she’s in another relationship nor has our son indicated to me that he’s been around another man besides the men in her family. She’s blocked on everything except the phone and the only communication we have is about our son, besides that we don’t talk. I haven’t even wished her a happy birthday since the divorce. We’re not friends and we have no relationship, that’s how…
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/26 08:12 AM
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You need to pump the brakes with this one, 4 months is not enough time to be doing something like this. Also, unless you all are moving in together and she’s going to be playing step mom, they don’t need to meet each other. Especially since you are aware that your ex is on demon time, why on earth would you bring chaos into the house? You’re thinking with the little head and not the big one. 4 month relationship and you’re involved with a woman with kids (with an “S”) and you’re already trying t…
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/26 06:44 PM
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Walk away
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/26 04:50 PM
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So far we’ve got Defamation of Character, Solicitation of Murder, and possibly Murder for Hire. What do you mean find out if you can press any charges against her? she’s committed at least one felony, possibly two as well as a civil tort. Where’s your attorney? Where’s the warrant for arrest? Why haven’t you pressed charges? Where’s the restraining order? What are we doing here??????????
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/26 01:53 PM
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Holy shit 🤯🤯🤯
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/26 03:06 PM
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The woman you divorce is not the woman you marry. Shes not your wife anymore, she’s not your buddy, not your pal, nor your friend. There’s nothing left between the two of you. She hates you, her only goal is to screw you over and take as much as she can. Stop talking to her, stop telling her what you have going on, she’s the enemy and you need to navigate accordingly. You’re making every textbook mistake that men make during this process. Offering her money without an attorney present, cordial c…
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/26 03:20 AM
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Unfortunately yes because my son was a result of it and I wouldn’t change things if it meant he wouldn’t be on earth with me. Now if we didn’t have a kid then ABSO-FUCKING-LUTELY!!!!!!!!!‼️‼️‼️
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/26 08:29 PM
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Lessons to take back to the states with you. Never move into a woman’s domain. Yes, it was her parents property but still falls under her domain, always get your own place. Move to another country for you, not for a woman. If the only reason you moved to that country is as for her, that’s a no-no. As you stated, you have no friends which is shocking after 2 years but it happens. You always want to learn the language and carve your own path and settle down. That way you can have friends, a suppor…
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/26 04:22 AM
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https://youtu.be/_yB-ixMQzJk?si=77AbQmljfLPPhF_7
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/26 03:56 AM
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Watch Coach Greg Adams on YouTube. Read a book called The Free Agent Lifestyle.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/26 03:49 AM
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It’s called Monkey Branching. She wouldn’t have initiated if she didn’t have another guy to fall back on. Women fall out of love gradually so by the time you get hit with papers, she doesn’t even like you anymore, most of the time she hates you at that point AND she’ has a boyfriend. Meanwhile, you’re still in love trying to “make it work.” Also, do not move out of your own home. That’s your damn house, only time you leave is if a judge orders you out.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/26 03:48 AM
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Sooooo, you immediately ran into another relationship post divorce and already getting married again after a year……. WHAT COULD POSSIBLY GO WRONG?! 🫩🫩🫩
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/26 02:39 PM
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20 year marriage, you absolutely are going to be on the hook for spousal maintenance (Texas version of alimony), Texas has done better on child support but it used to be one of the worst states to get hit with. You need to fight for primary custody, that’s going to be your best chance at making it out with your finances in tact. Hopefully she’s not a SAHM, that’ll bite you in the ass but if she works, you need to go scorched earth. The biggest issue is division of assets. The house, retirement, …
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/26 02:33 PM
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ATTA BOY! Exactly what I did, and I was ruthless.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/26 02:26 PM
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The only communication you two should have is about the kids. You need to go monk mode, hermit crab, whatever you wanna call it and work on yourself. Ain’t no way you should be going through this roller coaster with an EX WIFE. Key word: “EX.” Let her move on and you need to heal emotionally and move on yourself. Focus on the kids. Stop trying to be buddy buddy grab ass with her, the relationship is over, she’s onto the next guy. Plain & simple
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/26 03:26 PM
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Where’s the police report and have you pressed charges? As far as the other stuff, SHE doesn’t call the shots, which is why you need to lawyer up.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/26 04:59 PM
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Do not give her a penny more than what’s on paper. My ex wife tried the same shit after 2 years of cold shoulder and being difficult, she tried to act all nice out of nowhere. We were talking like we used to and everything, then boom, she asked for an extra $300 in child support. When I told her no, we were right back to square one and at each others throat. Remember, she’s the enemy. If she needs more money then she can get a better job or find a new guy to pick up the tab.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/26 04:01 AM
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AD Army here (12 years and counting), File for divorce right now and let her go. Also, at 5 years she doesn’t have to say what she does and doesn’t want, she doesn’t qualify for any of that shit to begin with 😂 Outside of spousal support which the state MIGHT require unless she waives it, yall haven’t been married long enough for alimony or retirement and you haven’t no kids. I’m telling you right now, fucking file this week. Don’t be a goof troop and try to make her stay, she’s giving you an ea…
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/26 05:36 PM
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2 years. My plan was to stay single for 6 years (the length of the marriage) but women continued to approach me, I was just past 2 years when I was invited over a woman’s house , wasn’t a good 5 minutes in the door before she was all over me. We hooked up every day for a whole week and it was awesome. Around the same time another woman approached me and I literally had to say “no” twice, 3rd time she wasn’t taking no for an answer. That was last year…. We literally just finished and I’m getting …
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/26 03:28 PM
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10 years and 1 day of marriage and the spouse gets 50% is the actual regulation. Just like californias alimony law
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/26 04:10 AM
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The Army has a California alimony law with retirement. 10 years and 1 day of marriage and she’s entitled to 50% of his pension, just like 10 years and 1 day of marriage in California equals lifetime alimony. The payment comes directly from DFAS. I’ve seen several SNCOS get crushed with this
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/26 04:09 AM
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Fellow AD soldier here, No kids and she makes her own money, the Army has a spousal support regulation HOWEVER, that only goes into play if A) she goes after it and B) the divorce addendum says otherwise. I beat it because my paperwork specifically states “both parties waive any right to spousal support or alimony.” You’re going to have to fight a contested divorce, I say it’s worth it. No kids is a blessing and will probably save your ass. You also need to fight for your retirement and TSP. You…
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/26 03:59 AM
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Yes.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/26 12:40 AM
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The moment I filed
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/26 03:06 AM
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Stop wasting her time and file for divorce. Also, you’re a pos for putting her health at risk. Assuming the infidelity was with men, bringing germs back to her, smh. Keep your mouth shut about all the other shit unless you want her to have sole custody. Or better yet, let her have sole custody and go live your new life. Whatever.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/26 06:15 AM
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Yes, when the marriage eventually ends and divorce is looming, 80% of men drag their fucking feet and wait to file or retain an attorney. Most men are still in love and want to work it out, the rest are afraid of what they’ll lose in divorce. Meanwhile, the wife already has a boyfriend lined up and an attorney retained. My personal experience: The first attorney I called, the clerk put me on hold after I told them my name, the actual attorney picked up the line and asked me my name again and my …
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/26 07:58 PM
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Questions to ask an attorney. The system ain’t changing and the longer you wait, the more time she has. I get it, you’re starting down everything you worked for going up in smoke but this is the penalty for marriage, should’ve never walked down that isle. High earner with a SAHM, it’s GGs for that estate. Laws aren’t going to change because men keep getting married and whatever’s going to happen is already set in stone, you just haven’t lived it out yet. Go Retain An Attorney….. NOW. If you have…
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/26 07:46 PM
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Don’t get married Don’t get married
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/26 01:07 PM
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The fact that you even have an open line of communication with her or even got in the car to give her a ride in the first place. The guy she’s hooking up with didn’t get up to give her a ride, the guy(s) her cousin hooks up with didn’t give them a ride, yet here you come. Move on with your life. Full transparency: My ex wife can’t call me for shit. Not a ride, no handy work, she can’t even ask me what time it is. I wouldn’t pull her out of a burning home, nor would I call 911 and she is fully aw…
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/26 04:25 AM
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Your situation is not the norm, the vast majority of men who move out are severely penalized which is why you see “everyone, even attorneys” say to not move out. If the vast majority of people who don’t know each other are saying the same thing then obviously there’s truth to the matter.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/26 03:47 PM
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It’s a trap, don’t do it. You’re almost there, don’t fumble at the goal line.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/26 07:45 AM
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Always lawyer up no matter what. You’re painting the picture of what might happen based on other people’s experience but you haven’t gone through it yourself. Absolutely fight for primary custody, and most importantly, fight to give her the least amount of money possible. Also, stop talking to her all casual and what not, She’s not your friend. No more physical contact either, not even a handshake, not even a damn high five, she’s officially the enemy. I’m not saying be mean to her or anything, …
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/26 08:30 AM
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Just keep the lawyer. You might fuck up on draft and have it kicked back, lawyer will get it right the first time and be done with it. And that’s nothing against you personally but if that’s the only thing keeping you from being done with the bullshit, just see it through. No point in risking a hiccup at the last second.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/26 03:08 AM
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Waste of time. Them moment you step through that door, the marriage is over. Once you bring outside entities into the marriage, it’s over. The vast majority of marriage counselors are women and they usually side with the woman. My personal experience: we went to 3 different marriage counselors, all women, every single last one of them had a negative opinion about me listening to her bullshit ass sob story before they met me….. Then they met me and heard my side of things, then they gave her the …
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/26 03:25 PM
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You need to consult an attorney, file as the plaintiff. There’s only so much “advice” we can give you. We have no idea how long you two have been married or your total amount of assets. We don’t know what you own that the state will consider marital property. I’ve you’ve been married less than 10 years then you’re usually on the hook for spousal support, not alimony. Also, it doesn’t matter if she pays or not, if you bought the house after the marriage, it’s marital property and she’s entitled t…
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/26 05:18 AM
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Basically, the marriage ruined the relationship. You should’ve filed for divorce the moment she mentioned couples therapy before you guys even hit the 5 year mark. Also, you should’ve ran the moment you heard “heal” and “childhood trauma.” Hell, you shouldn’t have gotten married in the first place after being together for so long, signing a contract with the state only made the breakup more complicated. This is a textbook bait & switch. She didn’t want to be your wife, she just wanted a wedding.…
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/26 03:06 PM
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Kick her to the curb and move on. Duh?
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/26 05:04 PM
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Yes, just move forward with it. No “let’s work this out” or “it’s best for the kids.” Etc….. Absolutely no family interference, just remain on common terms and move forward with the divorce. If I stuck with the original plan, we’d probably still be friends living down the street from each other or the next town over. Instead, we’re 1000 miles away. To make matters worse, I moved on which caused even more friction between us. Not only that, I had to fight against her in court, and I won. My child…
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/26 04:24 PM
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Facts! We agreed to a mutual divorce and were on great terms, paperwork kept getting kicked back, we agreed to “work on the marriage.”……… 1 year later I’m filing again, she’s making a false claim against me and using our child as a weapon. Now she’s the enemy and I have nothing but hate for her, and there’s no mending the relationship, ever. Should’ve just stuck with the original divorce. Smh
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/26 05:06 AM
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You guys have GOT to stop spelling “Lose” with two O’s. Like, I’m begging you.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/26 04:38 PM
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Trust me, I agree. I’ll let him know in his teens. I agree with everything you’re saying. I’m not putting anything into a child’s ear.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/26 02:09 AM
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I rented but was the only person on the lease. I lived in a state that allowed it
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/26 08:39 PM
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What will you do when your son is facing the same circumstances and you chose to lie to him rather than have the 1 on 1 conversation and explain exactly what happened. I don’t want him to be deaf, dumb, and blind when it comes to women. It’s in his best interest to know that his mother made false accusations against his father, tried to steal money, and used him as a pawn for a paycheck. I’m not saying tell him now in elementary/middle school. But the day will come before he leaves the home. I’m…
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/26 07:29 PM
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I won. I stopped listening to women and kicked her out of my house, saved my life. I went on the offense and my son wants to live with me. Before he goes to middle school, she can either change custody the easy way, or I’ll drag her ass to court non stop until she goes bankrupt. Her choice. My son and I have a bond that is unshakable. Why don’t your kids speak to you anymore? What happened?
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/26 04:47 PM
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Bringing up extreme scenarios to justify lying to your kids. Hey, whatever helps you sleep at night. Now when your kids go through the same shit down the road, don’t try to come in and be Super Dad 🦸🏻‍♂️, keep lying to them 🫡
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/26 04:44 PM
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So you’re committed to lying to their face? Awesome 🫡
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/26 04:31 PM
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How did they react?
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/26 04:29 PM
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Exactly. My son was roo young at 5 and still too young at 8. Once he hits his teens and ask questions, we will have the talk in private and I’ll tell him EVERYTHING. Ill be damned if I ever lie to him in order to protect her.
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/26 04:28 PM
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“You weren’t doing the right thing by telling her the truth.” 🫠
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/26 04:25 PM
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They need to know the truth.
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/26 04:23 PM
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Manipulation tactic that women rely their beta cuck husbands to play along with. Telling them it was mutual is literally lying, Never lie to your children. If you fucked up, own it. If she destroyed the house, let it be known. Especially if you have sons, why would you lie to their face and watch them walk down the isle to their demise? Makes no sense. If their old enough, tell them EXATLY who is initiating and why. Don’t sugar coat but down talk down about her. You can get the point across with…
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/26 04:22 PM
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Follow through, do not go back on your word. You already fought, you walked around for 3 years with a dry dick. Time for her to hit the road, shack up with the next guy. There’s a whole world out there and women you haven’t met yet. Lawyer up and Get it done 🫡 Do not fall for any manipulation tactics.
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/26 04:14 PM
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She moved on way before you moved out. Just focus on the kids and block her social media. You can post whatever the hell you want btw. We don’t take orders from strangers that we’re not related to.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/26 03:51 AM
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NEVER MOVE OUT OF YOUR OWN DAMN HOUSE! EVER!!!!!! You wouldn’t have moved out if that were your bother living with you, so why would you let someone who isn’t related to you just shack up under your dime? Makes no sense. Get your rear end back in there. Lawyer up and get the paperwork going. The longer you wait the more bs you’re going to have to deal with in family court. Also, stop emotionally crashing out. Men operate via logic, not emotion.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/26 02:13 AM
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You’re a better man than me because she wouldn’t have been able finished the sentence talking shit to me like that before I knocked her into the next zip code. THIS IS WHY YOU DONT RETIRE WOMEN! This right the fuck here. Busting your ass 70hrs a week and that’s the thanks you get? Serve her papers and kick her ass to the curb. Message to men: all that “my hands look like this 💩 so her hands look like that 💅🏻” mentality will get you absolutely nothing but a slap to the face when it’s all said and…
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/25 05:13 PM
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Im sorry, but you’re a fool.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/25 08:07 PM
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I did my divorce online for $200. Never step foot in a courtroom. I was quoted $5k for a contested COURT dispute. Not an u contested clean break.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/25 04:27 AM
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She got you hook, line, and sinker! Sorry Bro, you got finessed. Now she gets to cash out it in a divorce. She found a sucker & licked it. Don’t be angry at her; this is on you for being worth millions and not only getting married in the first place, but getting married to a broke woman. I’m sure you lead with your wallet, treating her to high lifestyle while dating, especially if you told her how much you were worth, she said “oh shit, jackpot!” She played her role like a pro, probably gave you…
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/25 03:51 PM
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You’re on the wrong subreddit. This belongs in [r/relationships] or [r/marriage]. This is a sub for men who are about to divorce, have been divorced, or are currently mid divorce process and need help. However, you are asking for assistance so here we go, It’s the obesity and the debt, not the porn. All these couples on Onlyfans and webcam sites literally make their own porn and collab with people. There’s also couples in the porn industry. I personally have always been a consumer of porn and my…
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/25 05:04 PM
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Wait, hold up. The math isn’t mathing. If the assets are being split 55/45 her way……. That means you still get over half a million in assets….. How wouldn’t you have enough to pay CASH for a new home for yourself after??? Also, if she gets the lion share of the assets, how are you on the hook for alimony? That makes literally no sense. Also, how is she entitled to your retirement??? That also makes no sense. The mutual fund, if invested jointly… okay, but your personal IRA gets split in a divorc…
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/25 02:43 AM
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Stop “admitting” to your mistakes. Stand on business.
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/25 12:24 PM
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Men have to stop getting married in the US. A family law attorney will have to risk their license and fight to disrupt a $150B industry
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/25 10:51 PM
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Don’t be ashamed, she deserves everything she’s getting. All she had to do was play her role but she chose to cheat instead. To hell with her 🤷🏿‍♂️ My ex wife moved into a one bedroom apartment with her mother around the same time I closed on a home, I couldn’t help but laugh. Don’t feel bad, she betrayed you, and shoutout to your mother for protecting you, she saw it coming. Moving forward, stop dating broke women. I get it, leading with the wallet, giving them the gold life, all they have to d…
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/25 05:37 PM
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Sheeeeeeeid, I would’ve left sooner 😂😂😂
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/25 03:58 AM
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Just wait. Wait until you’re finalized. Take your time to heal emotionally. New cat isn’t going to fill the void. Be patient.
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/25 03:06 AM
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File an appeal
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/25 07:43 PM
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She kicked YOU out? Didn’t know you were her son. Get your ass back in YOUR house. You haven’t slept or eaten in days, over a damn woman?????? Get a grip, sir. Also, she shut off YOUR phone? Again, are you a grown man or 15???? Why are you on a woman’s phone plan??? I need you to square all of this away ASAP. After the divorce, never ever re-marry. Marriage isn’t for you. I wish I would get bent out of shape over a woman who embarrassed me in front of people and plotted behind my back with no co…
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/25 08:07 AM
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Jfc 🤦🤦🤦🤦🤦🤦🤦
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/25 07:59 AM
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Nope, don’t hide shit. Tell the truth.
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/25 12:49 AM
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Lady, he did all of that and you did have enough self respect to walk away, only person you need to take issue with is the woman in the mirror. Since I’m usually advising men of this situation, I’ll give you the same advice. You need to move out. You shouldn’t be living together anymore. He’s not your husband, he’s not your boyfriend, he’s not your friend. Furthermore, you should t have been dealing with a man with kids anyway. Block everyone from his side, speed up the process with divorce and …
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/25 05:01 PM
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If it were up to me, my ex wife would disappear yesterday. I would absolutely LOVE to be a single parent to my son. I could get so much more shit done for him. Also, parenting is the easiest shit ever. When he’s with me Im actually more organized because of his schedule.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/25 06:04 AM
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THATS MY POINT!!!! I didn’t even have that story and I literally described their mindset, and I don’t even know these people! She’s his aunt but you are NOT his uncle. You aren’t family, that’s how they’re looking at it. Get that through youur head and leave her family alone. I’ve known my ex wife’s family since I was 15 years old, half my life and guess what? We no longer speak due to this crazy thing called DIVORCE. At the end of the day, push come shove, they’re going to stand behind their bl…
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/25 05:07 AM
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I saw the bullshit immediately. I wanted to divorce her after year 2 but I listened to the women in my family. I filed after year 4 and again, listened to women and pulled back the filing. 2 years later I’d be filing again and barely made it out with my finances in tact. But I always noticed the bullshit. I didn’t have my head in the clouds. I will say it’s probably because we dated for so long before marriage. High school sweethearts, together from 15-28. Married at 22 but once we lived with ea…
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/25 04:45 AM
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Yall are weird in my opinion. The fact that you would even give two shits what her family thinks about the divorce is wild. But we’re likely from two different cultures so I guess, man. My ex wife and her entire family are blocked on social media, what reason do any of us have to speak to one another ever again? This is probably a factor of why you guys are divorcing in the first place. Family all up in the damn marriage. Only person I spoke to during the divorce was my ex wife and my people, in…
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/25 04:40 AM
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🚨GET OUT NOW!!!!!!! ABORT! ABORT!🚨 WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR!!!!!!! Talk about the fucking stars aligning! Please for the love of god file and get out of there! 😭😭😭😭😭
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/25 04:32 AM
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This is kinda on you, she’s been asking for a divorce for a couple years and you’re still married? Basically holding her hostage at this point, and now look. I wish you had good men around you to tell you get out of there. Now you’re at risk of wealth destruction if shit goes left in court. Get out now before you get that big pay raise. Fight tooth and nail for the kids, I’ll be damned if I let the house go without a fight as well. But absolutely do not give it to her, push comes to shove, sell …
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/25 04:30 AM
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Filing as the plaintiff saved my life. I also wish you had a male attorney but if this one checks out, I guess. Chill out with the paranoia, you need to keep your emotions squared away so if she does play dirty, you react with logic instead of emotion. Reach out to some men you trust in person and get whatever you need to get off your chest. Dad, brothers, etc… And you don’t have to get “hosed” financially. That’s why you fight tooth and nail for EVERYTHING. She’s not your friend, she’s not your…
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/25 04:23 AM
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Why wouldn’t I be serious? Sounds like you’re not serious about divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/25 04:16 AM
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Why do you care if her family speaks to you? Why are you trying to communicate with her family at all? You divorce her, you divorce her family as well. Move on.
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/25 04:14 AM
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“There’s an old saying in Tennessee — I know it’s in Texas, probably in Tennessee — that says, fool me once, shame on… shame on you. Fool me—you can’t get fooled again!!!!!”
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/25 09:02 PM
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If she re-marries, does it alter the child support?
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/25 05:15 PM
9

Understand that the moment she asked for divorce, you were officially single. She already fell OUT of love with you and she’s already moved on emotionally. She likely already has a boyfriend that you don’t know about. You still being nice trying to play house validates her. She’s probably thinking “wow, what a loser.” I’m not saying to be a dixk towards you or anything, but stop being nice to her. She’s not your wife anymore, she’s not your girlfriend, she’s not your friend. She’s the enemy, you…
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/25 02:03 AM
3

$3k for RENT?! Good lord, where do you live?! 😭
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/25 08:44 PM
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This is on you. Like, why the hell are you still living with your ex in the first place? That’s screw up #1. And then, thinking you can just date Willy nilly while still cohabitating was screw up #2. You got too comfortable too fast. Screw Up #3 and the worst one, why the flying fuck are you talking to your ex wife about your new relationship? Why are you “being open” to begin with? And yeah I’m sure the response is “well, she did it!” But you know good well there’s a double standard. Not condon…
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/25 08:43 PM
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Just chill out man. The WORST thing you can do is go running full sprint back into the dating market. Dating has changed since you first asked your ex wife to be your girlfriend, you need to learn the ropes. ALSO, you need to work on yourself. If you took a financial hit during the court process, recover the lost funds. Hit the weights, hit the pool, hit the running trails, get into Jiu Jitsu or Muay Thai, whatever you’re into. Get some therapy as well. Divorce is the equivalent to a death. Just…
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/25 01:10 PM
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Just remember to Laugh in private but keep it stoic around the kids. Continue to check in and make sure their okay with the new partners coming in and out. Don’t lose sight on what’s most important.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/25 02:33 AM
1

How long are you on the hook for alimony?
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/25 11:23 PM
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I block my exes
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/25 10:10 PM
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Never let a woman get you this bent out of shape. The anti woman villain arc is NOT the way to go. You’re supposed to move on and become more successful. That’s how you get back at her.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/25 12:18 PM
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I saw the sneak attack coming. She accidentally showed her hand because of a career change I made, it threw a monkey wrench in her plan and I caught it. We had been together for almost 15 years at that point and she really thought she could sneak up behind me 😂 I filed as the plaintiff and headed to my new job location. fast forward 2 years and she’s sharing a one bed room apartment with her mother……. At 30 years old 💀💀💀💀💀
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/25 01:39 PM
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FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCK NO! The day she EVER asks me for a PENNY outside of child support is the day I drag her to court for full custody
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/25 10:39 PM
1

I’ve heard of that to, even worse in Texas; if you let ANYONE stay the night, you can’t kick them out at all. Boyfriend/girlfriend/etc… My mom called the cops on her boyfriend and I listened to a County Sheriff explain that she legally cannot make him leave. This was 12ish years ago and from what I’m tracking, the law hasn’t changed. But bro, Georgia saved my life. She tried to put no income on the child support addendum, they made her out minimum wage at 40hrs a week and they deducted his child…
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/25 07:46 PM
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You keep the house, she keeps her business or you take your cut, do not go easy on her, no Mr. Nice Guy. Screw her. Also, she’s doing you a favor, hotter women in the nursing world. You got this.
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/25 05:02 AM
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Best decision I ever made. Quality of life went through the roof after dropping the dead weight.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/25 08:16 PM
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I was in Georgia and only my name was on the Lease, as long as she had somewhere else to go, it was “gtfo.”
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/25 03:35 AM
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Glad my ex wife didn’t have the balls to play in my face like this, lord knows I wouldn’t be able to type this comment due to my life sentence. Find out his name and run a background check. You can also have a clause that no new partners are introduced to the children for ______ years. Also, that “nesting” crap is for the birds, I would’ve kicked her to the curb personality (I actually did kick my ex wife out 😂). Hang in there, don’t do anything stupid, she’s almost gone. When you meet Step-dumm…
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/25 02:25 AM
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I understand so I’ll offer advice, The last part where you said you feel emasculated. Gonna let a 2 bit whore bring you down? I understand she was your wife and you loved her but please take her off the pedestal. She’s trading her marriage for the streets. From the streets she came, to the streets she shall return.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/25 05:29 PM
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D I V O R C E H E R
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/25 04:11 PM
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My current girlfriend also had a hysterectomy for the same thing a year before we met. Glad I wasn’t for that, I’ve seen similar stories during my research. Even women giving their accounts.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/25 04:58 AM
2

Best decision I ever made was divorcing my wife at 28. Got out just in time
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/25 04:55 AM
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I stayed off the dating market until I got my shit together. Just shy of two years. Had plenty of interactions but I didn’t make myself available until I was in a better headspace. Got my son for the summer, after he went back to the other parent I took a trip to see a girl I met at a Jiu Jitsu similar and kept in touch with. We fucked like rabbits for a whole week, it was awesome. Came back home and another girl from work approached me with interest, we talked for a while and hooked up after a …
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/25 04:50 AM
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How long were yall dating?
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/25 12:06 AM
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That’s on you. I’ll represent myself before I sign off on a woman’s terms. She didn’t trick you, she didn’t bamboozle or hoodwink you, she KNEW you and she knew you’d roll over. Plain and simple. So instead of wallowing in it, learn from it. Take this lesson and grow a spine. She only won because you didn’t fight. This is one of those Man Up moments.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/25 03:04 PM
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Im aware of the Why. Women drive the economy so tax free money to women, they’re going to blow all the spousal support, alimony, and child support. Men are physically capable of work longer, he loses his house, family, retirement, and earnings in divorce so he’s no longer able to retire early, so now you’ve got a slave, I mean someone in the workforce. The kids get fucked over. Traumatized and depressed so the wind up on pharmaceuticals, Develop behavioral issues, rebel against authority, so the…
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/25 08:27 PM
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The reason men endure is because men are in love. Women fall out of love gradually as they prepare to exit the relationship so by the time they file, they hate you. This is why they go after men to clean them out in court, have affairs, or immediately move on to another guy (monkey branch). They’ve already moved on even though the divorce hasn’t even been filed. Goofball men on the other hand put up with years of bullshit and don’t dare file for divorce because of A) culture that frowns upon it …
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/25 03:32 PM
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You need to file as the plaintiff. You see the writing on the wall, you see the red flags, you see all the other stories, but you won’t pull the trigger. She hasn’t done anything about the anger and resentment because she doesn’t like you. The coldness proves it. She already fell out of love and doesn’t like you anymore. The only reason she hasn’t left is because there isn’t another man lined up to monkey branch. You either lawyer up and kick her to the curb or stick around long enough for her t…
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/25 03:26 PM
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Because they have an incentive, the payout. Not to mention for the majority of women, all they wanted was the wedding. 90% of all alimony and child support payments in the United States are made from men to women. Then add pension, 401k, homes, etc…. There is a huge financial benefit for women to divorce men. Imagine if a law passed tomorrow eliminating all Alimony/ spousal support and limiting child support to $500 per child regardless of income. The system would implode and you’d probably see …
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/25 03:23 PM
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Divorce (and marriage) in the United States is a $1B industry designed to extract resources from the man. The goal is to, A) keep you in the work force forever; No retirement for you, no chance to pay off your mortgage which is why they take the house, and destroy your wealth with child support, spousal support, alimony, and division of assets. B) Enrich the woman. Women drive the economy with their reckless spending. Tax free money from ex husbands, especially the states with lifetime alimony, …
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/25 09:13 PM
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Never get a female lawyer. Go find a man to speak to. Also, never EVER leave the “fAmIlY hOmE” aka, YOUR HOME. Go to your bank and get a new checking account, no more joint account bullshit. Find another attorney with good reviews and get a new consultation. WHICH SHOULD NOT BE $800 JUST TO FUCKING TALK.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/25 06:06 AM
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Dude, file as the plaintiff and get tf out of there.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/25 06:21 AM
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DAMMIT! I wish you had e posted here when she first moved out. Her leaving the house was your ticket to freedom, I’ll bet my own house that she talked to a lawyer who told her since she moved out, she’d lose out on the home if she filed. She played you like a fiddle. Getting the family back together? Pfffffft, that shit was over back then. PSA: NEVER GET BACK WITH AN EX!🔊 Once she moved out last year, that was it. Marriage over, relationship over. But you men, majority of American men, still wea…
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/25 06:14 AM
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Be very careful during this time. A daughter at “out of the house” age, another daughter in her freshman year, youngest heading to middle school. I need to to be a rock through this process. This is where you pay the price for being born a man, no room for emotion, no room to fold, bend, ir break. All 3 kids are at an age to where something like this, the LAST thing they need is for their father to collapse. I know you’re going through the worst stage of your life and it ain’t gonna get better t…
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/25 10:49 PM
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There was no cycle of despair, I filed as the plaintiff. I hate my ex wife, that’s why I’m thriving now. I don’t care that she’s the mother of my child, she’s my sworn enemy. That doesn’t mean that I treat her poorly, doesn’t mean that I bad mouth her, shoot a frown at her, etc, none of that. Deep down inside, I hate her. A burning hatred, I’ll never forgive her, I’ll never be her friend. I met an amazing woman 3 months ago (2 years post divorce) and we’re officially dating. You guys are still i…
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/25 06:39 AM
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She doesn’t love you anymore; there’s nothing you can do, do NOT try and save the marriage. Get out of there. Save yourself
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/25 05:34 PM
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LETS FUCKING GOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/25 08:55 PM
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DAMMIT!!!!!! This whole time I was like “man, I hope he didn’t get her pregnant.” FUUUUUUCCCCKKKKKK!!!!!! I literally threw my phone, in sorry man. Listen to your fellow physician and beat feet out of there. Get back with your attorney and let him know everything. Have a camera rolling at all times when you’re around her. Get your shit and gtfo, get that divorced finalized as soon as possible before you start making any big money. Don’t re-marry.
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/25 08:44 PM
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To be fair. He said not to take pictures, you basically said “F-U” and did it anyway. Besides that, let him stay over there for good. End the weekend visitations and let him make his own decisions. You can’t force a relationship, especially when the brainwashing has taken its course, he’s clearly sided with the mother. Let him be. Focus on the one you have primary of and pour into his future. All you really can do. Not all, you can try to see if you two can have a private talk but none of us on …
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/25 08:35 PM
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She’s back on the dating market. Just like when you first met her. It’s advertisement for the next man. Mine lost a shit ton a weight, got a car, and is supposed to be some church woman now.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/25 08:04 AM
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Pay for a consultation with a divorce attorney. NOW. File as the plaintiff, do not give in to any demands, do not move out of your house, keep your cool through the process. LAWYER.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/25 01:28 AM
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You can do this. Take the time to talk to your kids both together and individually. A private brunch or dinner. Allow them to get it all off their chest. Even at 51 you can recover financially, physically, and emotionally. You already have the right mindset. She’ll play victim, boohoo poor woman tears. She’ll cry, court of public opinion, you’ll be the devil, etc.. blah blah blah. Fucking send it. Be free. Hit the gym, 6 pack abs by the end of summer and execute your plan. Take a trip overseas, …
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/25 01:55 PM
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You need to speak to an attorney. Even though you’re likely to avoid financial ruin since you both have high income. Be prepared for her to put false allegations of child abuse. You have GOT to be prepared MENTALLY to take on family court at your age PLUS your wife turning into your sworn enemy. It’s unfortunate that you guys had kids so late. This one’s gonna be a banger, but you’ve got to see it through. I worry about the soft spot you have for her. If you’re not prepared to view her as the en…
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/25 05:15 AM
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I started training Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. Won my first tournament after only 4 months of training. Currently in the best shape of my life. Also got into guns as in tactical training. Currently building a load out to include body armor, night vision, etc… There’s a range an hour from me with veteran instructors that offer pistol and carbine courses. Also, on top of Jiu Jitsu as a sport, I got into the Gym for health and looks. At 6ft tall, 19” biceps and a full 6 pack & v-cut. Finally, got my money…
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/25 01:27 PM
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Everyone’s case is different. Go talk to an attorney.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/25 12:08 AM
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Simple, I stopped giving a shit. I’m sure she’s been bent over plenty, however, I have no idea. I don’t follow her on any social media and she keeps it away from our son because she knows there’s lines not to cross when it comes to that (my wife did not walk over me in divorce, I filed). So there are boundaries established. Set your own boundaries and don’t react. You shouldn’t be following her on any social media or anything btw. My ex wife is not allowed in my home either. Continue to work on …
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/25 06:42 AM
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Why are you even keeping track of her like that? She should be blocked on all social media, the only communication should be for the kids. Get a hobby, start rolling Jiu Jitsu, take a trip to Thailand or something. Get her out of your mind. She’s the enemy who destroyed your family and separated you from your kids. Fall out of love with her.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/24 04:10 AM
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Tbh, this is the problem with western Men and this is why the divorce statistics are the way they are. You kept your house, you weren’t financially destroyed, and you got primary custody of your kids. The vast majority of the men here lost everything and barely see their kids. And that isn’t an attack or anything, I’d love to give my ex wife a huge hug. Been divorced for a year now, together since we were 15 and divorced at 28, would love for us to be alone and just hold her for a while. But i h…
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/24 09:43 AM
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Dude, there’s cameras in and out of the police station, you don’t just get arrested for a DV that allegedly happened at their front freaking door and just sit there looking goofy. Run the damn cameras back then sue her ass for fraud and defamation. This is one of those situations to where if you as a man are getting steamrolled like this by your ex and you refuse to A) go o the offense or B) stand up for yourself, then you need to walk away and save yourself. This is a case where you say F*ck yo…
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/24 08:57 AM
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Didn’t see any mention in here of you talking to an attorney. You’re just making educated guesses on the entire situation. Go see a divorce attorney and get the ball rolling. Stop offering her cash, stop trying to reason with her; stop trying to roll over and play good dog. She’s a bull in a china shop, there’s no stopping it. Lawyer up. Also, you didn’t “miss” the warning sings. They were right in front of you, you knew exactly what the deal was and you took it. And that’s not to disrespect you…
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/24 07:44 PM
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Everything will be fine as long as you DO NOT RE-MARRY!!!!!
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/24 07:54 AM
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Yes. And custody will depend on your state and how court goes. You need to speak to an attorney. Also, this one’s on you. Made the decision to marry based on HER terms and stuck around long enough for her to qualify for alimony. Hopefully it’s not lifetime in your state. She showed you exactly who she was off the back and your instincts were screaming for you to walk away. You still signed the paperwork. AND she had a kid in tow. Absolute Madness. There’s still hope but you’ve got to act now, th…
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/24 07:38 AM
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Talk to men or join other spaces full of men. I started rolling Jiu Jitsu and it was the BEST choice I ever made.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/24 06:13 AM
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Court of public opinion. Demonizing you to gain sympathy. But here’s a question….. why do you still follow her on social media? Block her on everything.
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/24 09:16 PM
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I just focus on my son. Plus, the shit she pulled that sparked the divorce made it easy for me. She is my sworn enemy for life and I will never view her in another light. Have I had “bad” dreams about her? Yup. Thoughts of her being intimate with other men triggering anxiety and other negative thoughts? Absolutely. Can’t help it, I loved her. Still love her to an extent. But at the end of the day, she is the enemy who destroyed our family for $10k a year.
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/24 06:46 PM
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Nothing. Get her nothing. Keep communication to a minimum.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/24 04:10 AM
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That’s why you don’t go running back to the dating market after divorce, let alone BEFORE the divorce is even finalized. You can’t be that desperate for a relationship. Dude, just chill out. Get the house sold, get this shit finalized, get some damn therapy, do whatever you need to do to bounce back emotionally, physically, and financially. THEN, down the road, organically meet a woman in your vicinity. Delete the daggon apps and get over this hurdle.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/24 04:20 PM
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Do not get married, she’s already got an exit plan. Look at the marriage laws, the divorce rate, look at this thread…… You STILL want to roll the dice at your age?
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 01:26 PM
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Walk away, Make sure you get alimony and spousal support.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 04:40 AM
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I forgot about the fucking commonwealth 🤦🏿‍♂️🤦🏿‍♂️🤦🏿‍♂️🤦🏿‍♂️🤦🏿‍♂️🤦🏿‍♂️🤦🏿‍♂️🤦🏿‍♂️🤦🏿‍♂️🤦🏿‍♂️🤦🏿‍♂️🤦🏿‍♂️🤦🏿‍♂️🤦🏿‍♂️🤦🏿‍♂️🤦🏿‍♂️🤦🏿‍♂️🤦🏿‍♂️🤦🏿‍♂️🤦🏿‍♂️🤦🏿‍♂️ Now I’m over here in Arizona pissed tf off. You’re a better man than me cause wheeeeew boy 💥
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 02:09 AM
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You need to file a police report and press charges for kidnapping. Even in communist states, You have equal rights to the children. if you didn’t consent to such a move, and she just upped and grabbed the kids n bounced to another state, it’s literally kidnapping.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 01:56 AM
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Gotta watch out for those parental red flags. This is something that most men overlook. The daughter usually takes after the mother. My ex wife went down the same path that her mother did with her father. Her father divorced her mother and I divorced her. We married young so I didn’t have the knowledge but if we were dating now, marriage would be out of the question. Outstanding job mustering up the courage to leave. We need to see more men filing as the plaintiff. Also, you’ll make that $600k b…
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/24 01:55 AM
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NO KIDS AND NO FINANCIAL TIES?! SHEEEEEEEESH! 🎉🎈🎊🎁🍾 Man, depending on the state, you can file Pro Se online yourself if it’s uncontested. If she wants to fight you for money, simple get an attorney and serve her papers.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/24 07:54 AM
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So let me get this straight. You’re in the middle of a hellish divorce, your wife is trying to hit you over the head for $1M, you’re on your SECOND attorney…….. AND YOURE DATING?! CONSIDERING GETTING RE-MARRIED?! Wheeeeeeeeeeeew! You haven’t learned a thing, huh? 😂😂😂 And why are you playing mediation musical chairs? GO TO TRIAL!🗣️ I scrolled and saw that you’re out of state, you might need to go back for the sake of probably getting new legal counsel and getting the ball rolling. This is a terri…
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/24 07:46 AM
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Me! 🫡🫡🫡🫡🫡
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/24 08:28 AM
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Let her go but you need to file as the plaintiff, do not let her drag you through court. You need to go talk to a divorce attorney. Also, she is not your friend. She will use the children as weapons and will try to squeeE every penny out if you. She’ll put you on the streets without a second thought. No more intimacy, no kissing, no sex, no sensual physical touch. You need to detach emotionally. The downfall of most men if you guys try to save the marriage to the very end. Meanwhile, she’s alrea…
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/24 06:50 AM
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On top of the advice here, please Talk to an attorney this week. Idk what state you’re in but 24 years? We’re in lifetime alimony, sell the house, cash settlement territory. To hell with all the feelings and other emotional bs, there will be time for that. Right now, you need to be focused on not getting cleaned out. Go see an attorney, pay for the hour consultation. This shit ain’t no joke.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/24 06:43 AM
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Nah nah nah, it takes two to tango. Understand that your current mental state is her ticket to retirement. Guilt tripping you to shell out cash because it’s “all your fault.” You need to lawyer up and file as the plaintiff, do not let her drop the divorce hammer on your head. She doesn’t want to be with you anymore but I bet she wants a damn paycheck. And both families can go to hell because guess what? Not a single family member will be there with you in family court. They’re not going to help …
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/24 02:10 AM
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Yes. Why torture yourself like that?
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/24 01:33 AM
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$250 to file Pro Se online. Thankful every day that I got out when I did 🫡🙏🏿
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/24 05:22 PM
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I bout crashed my car reading this and I’m not even driving. SHE HAD $100k IN CREDIT CARD DEBT, LIED TO YOU ABOUT IT, AND YOURE PAYING IT OFF?! 🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯 My brother In Christ, credit card debt is NOT martial property. You need to house that extra money from the part time job to fund an ATTORNEY!
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/24 03:02 AM
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Let her go Your edit comment will be your downfall. Have you not learned from other men? That mentality is how you end up on the streets with no access to your children. She’ll divorce you to kingdom come, steal your house, steal your kids, hit you over the head with child support, maintenance, spousal support, alimony, everything. Meanwhile you’re in the corner with the 🥺 face talm bout some “I love my kids.” You need to get your head out of lala land and come back to reality, if you don’t get …
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/24 02:59 AM
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LETS FUCKING GOOOOOOOO 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/24 05:29 PM
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Don’t take her back, also, any way she can get her own place? The longer she stays the more it’s gonna cost you if you get hit with alimony. She needs to go. No co-habitation. If y’all wanna play roommate, she needs to pay rent. Don’t wanna do that? Hurry up and file and get rid of her.
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/24 07:35 PM
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Have you consulted an attorney? Also, don’t you dare move out of YOUR house.
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/24 07:33 PM
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Cheaper than a wife
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/24 07:10 PM
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Mine called my job (federal) and said that I wasn’t supporting my family in a last ditch effort to get money because someone else told her to. We were together since we were 15. Almost a year later and I STILL can’t believe it. But that’s just how women are 🤷🏿‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/24 07:05 PM
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You’re a fucking pussy, dude. I can see why she lost all respect for you and just started doing whatever the hell she wanted. What “Man” does this? What example are you setting for a son? To be a little bitch and let a woman drag her nuts across your forehead? The two top comments have enough “advice.” I’m here strictly on bullshit. I’m almost not even mad at her tbh, the fact that she felt comfortable enough to do all of that speaks volumes about you. Might be in your sons best interest that yo…
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/24 06:16 PM
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It’s my fault so there’s no need to ask. She was a shitty girlfriend, I had a plethora of options, and I had about a dozen job locations to choose from. I can back near my hometown to be with her, married her and out a kid in her. No one to blame but myself.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 08:36 PM
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🎯
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/24 07:53 PM
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“I haven’t filed for divorce yet.” Just go ahead and let her and the courts know that you don’t value your life and you want to be homeless. All this shit and you’re dragging your fucking feet, whistling Dixie. You wanna get the ball rolling or are you gonna wait tell you get bent over in court? Since everything’s just a joke and a game to you. Supervised visitation? Zoom calls? For what? And you’re still playing Mr. Nice Guy. This is what’s wrong with men. Your 6ft 200lbs asses let some 4ft 11i…
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/24 07:51 PM
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Go see an attorney and file as the petitioner. At 14 years, you’re on the hook for a lot of shit. The infidelity might just save you but you have GOT to get rid of that soft spot in your heart for her. You either get on top of it and save your own life, you you do the typical husband thing and try to “save the marriage” while she drags you through court, steals all of your money, and you end up on the street. Up to you. Mark my words, that good guy shit will wind you up homeless
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/24 11:06 AM
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Get an attorney. Also, quit with the soap opera, remember that there’s a child involved that isn’t stupid and sees everything. Just chill and focus on the road ahead, you’re about to finally be free of the ball and chain of marriage. Focus on planning you and your son’s future. You being all emotional and broadcasting yalls laundry out to everyone is how you lose in court. You’ve got the high hand, don’t fold under pressure. Also, block her entire family and get ready to drop the “friends” as we…
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/24 08:29 PM
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She could probably join the US Gymnastics team for the Olympics with all the damn acrobatics she was doing for those other guys
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/24 06:17 PM
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FUCK NO!!!!!! I’m not even reading the story, HELL NO! SHIT NO! FUCK NO! Edit: I caved and read that bullshit. SHE GOT PUMPED AND DUMPED! Listen, At least 1 of those guys were already there before the separation. She attempted to monkey branch and it failed. All those guys hit it and quit it, now she realizes that it’s either come back to you and stick around long enough to get a kid or cash out on a bigger settlement or BE ALONE! She didn’t anticipate the current dating market, she figured that…
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/24 06:08 PM
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At least the next year my ass. That soft heart of yours is going to land you in a casket or behind bars. She’s having mental breakdowns, suicide talks and all the other jazz? She needs to go. Now. Worst mistake I made is not getting rid of my ex wife when she was in that state. I stuck around long enough for her to complete her villain arc. She used our child as a weapon and tried to screw me over. I missed the opportunity to gain the upper hand by trying to “be there for her.” Don’t be me. You …
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/24 07:50 PM
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I really hope you took the advice of the top comment. You need to see an attorney and prepare yourself for war. She is not your fucking friend, she is officially your sworn enemy till death. Can’t believe you signed the fucking petition without legal council. Talking about crying n shit, over a bitch? Ima need you to reach down and grab your fucking balls, bro. And you better not move out of the house. Don’t give her shit without a fight, take her off of all financial accounts, no medical insura…
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/24 06:14 PM
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Ah, you’ve encountered the elusive Apex Predator. Lucky you are that she would bestow such wisdom upon you. 🙂‍↕️
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/24 11:37 PM
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Yup! They win the battle, we win the war. IF we keep the our heads on straight. Many men turn to drink or run into another marriage. Many other men fold and become beta cucks, trying to cling onto their “family” on that “I wanna see my kids” shit. But for those of us who stay focused on the bigger picture. We in the war, the very very long marathon to recovery. My ex wife used our son as a weapon for a paycheck and sabotaged my work move. I had to go forward and leave my son behind while I moved…
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/24 06:26 PM
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Nope, I would’ve just stayed boyfriend and girlfriend and had the kids. Would’ve been much easier. Also, time for a divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 11:35 PM
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This fucking guy 😂😂😂😂😂😂 There’s enough good council in the thread. You need to file for divorce tomorrow, keep your children with you and send her ass packing.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 05:04 PM
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Just file, dude.
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/24 11:40 PM
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Starts with the food. 95% Food, 5% Gym. Drop the alcohol, drop the tobacco, no fast food, nothing deep fried, no candy, no soda (“Zero” versions are fine). Consistency. You understand the concept of training. As far as “programs,” you need to do your own research and build one that fits your body type and goals. Follow body-builders and fitness guys and learn proper form and technique. I watched a lot of Hunter Labrada, Samson Dauda, and Shaun Clarida videos. Start out with, Monday: Chest/Tricep…
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/24 06:25 AM
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Im Active Duty so we have gyms on base, I already knew how to workout so after I dropped the dead weight, I could finally put in 2-3hrs like I wanted, lost about 50lbs in 4 months. Could’ve became a PT tbh. Started rolling Jiu Jitsu, fucking game changer Got out of debt, lived paycheck to paycheck the whole marriage. Now I cringe at having less than $10k (still less than a year post divorce, just give me some more time). Finally, I’m back in college, building my future. I will NEVER re-marry. I’…
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/24 03:51 AM
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Rushed into a damn marriage and saved a leftover woman whose time was running out. Now she’s got a guaranteed paycheck for the next 20 years. Smfh. Today is Monday, I expect you to see a divorce attorney by yesterday. Hope you’ve learned your lesson. No more marriage. HOLY FUCKING SHIT I JUST READ THE REST, YOU MADE EVERY AMERICAN MAN MISTAKE IN THE BOOK 😭
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/24 04:13 PM
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Can’t really complain when you went 100% in on a single mother. 🤷🏿‍♂️ I keep saying, y’all dudes be tryna play step dad, the biological father got the hell away from her but then here you come with the superhero landing 🦸🏻‍♂️ Take this as a valuable lesson and never do it again.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/24 12:59 PM
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Lawyer up, file as the plaintiff; kick her to the curb. Do not re-Marry. You’re free now, congratulations 🫡
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/24 12:37 AM
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Im actually facing a similar issue. I’m in the process of promotion in my job field which would add just under $50k to my income over the next 2 years thatll have me netting well over 6 figures. My only fear is my ex wife finding out and taking me for more child support. Trying to figure ways to hide it but it’s very easy to research. I would look up the laws on the window she has to ask for an increase in support.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/24 03:00 PM
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How will the kids benefit? Most women blow the money. Rather than pay her; he can start his own college fund.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/24 02:58 PM
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Don’t fall for this shit. Fuck her, lawyer up.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/24 07:54 PM
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If you’re able to move “back home,” parents or siblings, I’d start there. You might have to go full monk mode. No contact or anything with them. A lot of guys end up chasing their tail with the whole “I wanna see my kids,” shit. Meanwhile their flat broke and can’t do shit for them anyway. A friend of mine said “fuck it” and fell off the face of the earth (moved to the opposite side of the country near me). Turned his entire life around. Pays his child support online through the state website vi…
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 09:37 PM
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No such thing. Let her move out and file for divorce. No reconciliation, your soft heart will be your downfall. Go see a divorce attorney.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 05:42 PM
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Going Monk mode instead of the dating market was the best choice I made. Debt free, best shape of my life, now the women are the ones approaching and showing interest. Still healing,
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/24 11:07 PM
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Thats what they do. You’re living rent free in her head
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/24 11:03 PM
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Together for 12 and only married for 1, smh. The marriage ruined the relationship. It’s just a simple fact of love, she’ll be in and out of your dreams even after you move on, just don’t overthink it. Remember, a divorce is the death of a family, just as you may see dead loved ones in your dreams, you’ll see your ex wife from time to time. I, 7 months post divorce, dream of my ex wife (Together 13 Married 6) probably twice a week. I know I still love her, but I hate her for what she did and I wi…
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/24 06:20 PM
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This is a question for your divorce attorney, make an appointment and file accordingly, asap.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/24 07:24 PM
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I’ll take Discovery for $400, Alex.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/24 10:54 PM
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You need to drop what you’re doing and go see a divorce attorney
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/24 08:52 PM
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BINGO 🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯 Alot of men won’t admit it, but we ignore BLATANT Red Flags and go all in on a pos woman, then want to complain when we’re in family court! I’ll be the first to admit, my ex wife was a shitty girlfriend, I still married her, out a kid in her, she was a shit wife, all the red flags were there, I wanted to leave after the first couple years, we separated twice, i STILL stuck around. I can’t be shocked now, post divorce, that she tried to ruin me financially and used our kid for a che…
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/24 05:48 PM
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YEEEESSSSSSS!!!!!!!!! I don’t hate her, I hate what she did! BUT I THANK HER EVERY DAY!!!!!! I’ll be debt free in THREE DAYS!!!!! I’m in the best shape of my life! I’ll see five figures cash for the first time in my life this year! And guess what? It’s only been 6 months POST DIVORCE! She didn’t get any of what she went after! I landed on both feet and took the fuck off! LETS FUCKING GOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/24 02:14 AM
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Exactly. I tried to give our son a better life and took a job across country after turning down a job overseas. She wanted to travel Europe, I wanted to get out of debt, buy a house, and settle down so our son could grow. She pulled the rug, weaponized our child, and made a false report against me for non support…. WHILE STILL LIVING WITH ME AND PAYING NO BILLS. It was too short notice for court because I had to start work, so I moved cross country alone by myself. This was last August…… in thre…
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/24 02:10 AM
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That was her way of convincing herself to leave. My ex did the same thing to me, it’s all good
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/24 11:48 PM
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According to her social media post, she’s doing fantastic. I could give a fuck less, I only care about our son which she is alienating me from.
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/24 05:02 PM
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When she cut off sex
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/24 09:59 PM
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Go see an attorney bro
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/24 04:05 AM
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I have a rule, no weddings. I will end a friendship in a heartbeat if I have to. The only marital advice I have for men is, “talk to a divorce attorney beforehand so you know what you stand to lose in a divorce.”
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/24 07:48 PM
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They suppress the truth so men keep signing certificates. It’s a billion dollar industry.
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/24 02:21 PM
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I disagree. There was no man in my family or corner to educate me on 21st century marriage in the United States. I had no clue about the divorce rate, how women change, or anything. Found out in real time.
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/24 02:20 PM
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I’ll never understand goofy ass men who get into relationships with divorcees that come with children in tow
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/24 04:44 PM
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Well, go get some damn hearing aids and go see a divorce attorney and file as the plaintiff
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/24 02:45 PM
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You’re only a year post divorce and already trying to date. Go sit down somewhere. You’ve already got a bad Vice being alcohol. You need fix that, and do yourself a favor, take a year off the dating market and work on yourself. Pick up a hobby, hit the gym, square your finances away. Just spend a year on self construction. You’re hot off a divorce, give relationships a break.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/24 07:40 AM
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My ex wife and I share a 6 year old. We’ve had 1 private conversation in 6 months. She’s blocked on all social media. We have absolutely no relationship whatsoever.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/24 06:05 PM
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Block her
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/24 12:24 PM
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Used our child as a weapon
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/24 04:58 PM
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Worst mistake of my life was Marriage at 22. Best decision of my life was divorce at 28. Filed as the Plaintiff! Got out before 30!
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/24 12:36 AM
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You don’t. She is the enemy for life. Block her on everything and move on.
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/24 04:38 PM
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How tf are you on the hook for alimony, half the cash, and 401k after only 5 years?!
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/24 11:29 PM
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I have her blocked on everything accept the phone because our son and I FaceTime every day. Besides that we have absolutely no communication with each other. I have no idea who she’s fucking and I couldn’t care less 😂
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/24 08:05 PM
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NO!!!!!!! First off, I wouldn’t have moved out of MY home. This gives her leverage in family court, it will be used against you. Besides that, this is the bait & switch. Her monkey branch broke and she’s trying to double back to you as a safety net. Get the rental property and file for divorce as the plaintiff. Focus on getting your finances away. The kids still need a college/trade fund. Time to get in shape and get your life back. Leave her ass in the dust. Stop prolonging the process. Get ahe…
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/24 05:32 PM
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Not right now a only 7 months post divorce and I’m almost debt free, in the best shape of my life, and will likely enter home ownership next year. My policy is stay take off the dating market, the length of the marriage. So mines was 6 years and 8 months. Got another 6 years and 1 month until I even entertain the idea of dating again.
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/24 02:11 AM
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Fuck em, block em, don’t re-marry. Go stack money.
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/24 08:34 PM
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Nope. Get ahead of it, go see a divorce attorney today and file as the plaintiff. She’s not your buddy, she’s not your friend, she is officially your sworn enemy. Do not move out of your house.
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/24 11:13 AM
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Wtf
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/24 10:51 PM
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Look at it this way. Your oldest only has 4 more years at home and your youngest has 8. While you and your wife were busy being miserable, I hope the college fund or trade school funds are squared away. Forget the woman, the only thing on your mind is making sure those boys are straight. Especially the oldest. These next 4 years will set the tone for early adulthood. He needs a strong male presence to guide him. Sports, academics, teaching him about life and especially finances. You being down i…
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/24 09:04 PM
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Niiiiice 😎
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/24 08:46 PM
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I do have some questions and I don’t mean any disrespect. Why is your income 21k Pounds in your mid 30s? What have you been doing since 18 to where your income is so low at this point in life?
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/24 08:44 PM
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My son is 2000mi away from me, even though we FT every day, it still hurts. However, what keeps me going is the fact that his mother sealed both of our fates. I’ll be debt free in 2 months, I’m able to focus on progressing in my career, and when I move back to where they are, I’ll be in a house with no debt outside of a mortgage and a 6 figure income. This is all while paying child support. So while she used our son as a weapon for a paycheck, I kept my wits about me because this is a game of ch…
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/24 06:02 PM
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Block her
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/24 08:41 PM
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There will be more divorces but not for the reason you stated. You didn’t experience a “uniquely modern” anything, that was more like a “Unicorn” situation. You’ll be hard pressed to find anyone on this sub, or the real world who had their wife’s mother taking care of them. That’s some wild shit tbh 😂 More divorces will happen because men from all racial and wealth groups are waking up, walking away from the prison of marriage, and taking our lives back while we still can. And everyone isn’t bro…
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/24 03:42 PM
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Still a little quick. I’d take a few more years off the market personally but if it works for you then send it. Just don’t be so quick to hop in another full blown relationship. Don’t move a chick in and under no circumstances do you ever sign another marriage certificate.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/24 03:31 PM
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Better shit it out. Reach out to family, pull OT or get a second job, or if your state allows it, do everything and file with the courts yourself. But you need to get the ball rolling.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/24 03:23 PM
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Go see a divorce attorney tomorrow and get ahead of the game. File as the plaintiff.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/24 07:47 AM
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Correct. No more cohabitation. The house does not need a “woman’s touch.” No such thing as a “Man Cave” the entire house is my cave. No; you cannot move in. Marriage is out of the question, you can take the next guy to family court.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/24 05:27 PM
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Only person to blame here is yourself. You’ve let this behavior from in laws go on for 2 decades! Now you’re on Reddit seeking advice? C’mon now. Your options were to put your foot down or send her back to her family 20 years ago! You either let the bullshit continue or end the marriage. Since she has a well paying job, a divorce shouldn’t hit your pockets too hard but who knows. Never allow outside family into your marriage. Either check your wife or get rid of her. Also, I would’ve rearranged …
/r/Divorce_Men29/02/24 05:34 PM
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HELL YEAH!!!!!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 love reading shit like this. One of the last things I told my ex was “you’ve got Karmic Debt that I’d never want to have, Karma is gonna whoop your ass one day.” It’s been 6 months post divorce. I’ll be debt free in April. I’ve also lost over 60lbs and am completely yoked, our son always tells me how tired and upset she is all the time and I just laugh on the inside. I wish nothing but the worse for her 😂
/r/Divorce_Men29/02/24 04:52 PM
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Fuck no, I can barely stand the sight of her. We stopped having sex months before the divorce anyway.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 09:38 PM
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We’re here for you, bro. You’ve got a lot of living to do, and it’ll be a whole lot better when you’re single and free
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/24 10:50 PM
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Go see a divorce attorney, this is your way out
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/24 06:18 PM
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Why are you so eager to jump back into the dating pool? You that desperate for a mate? Just keep your relationships transactional and focus on raising your kid. Or how bout take a few years off the dating market and focus on yourself. Just chill out.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/24 08:36 AM
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File for divorce and move somewhere else where YOU can afford to live on your own. Stay single for the next 8 years and get your life together. Plain and simple.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/24 08:18 AM
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Just remember, you love your kids more than you hate their mother. That’s what I have to keep reminding myself. I spoke to my ex wife yesterday while on FaceTime with our son and I cracked a few jokes with her and everything, while simultaneously remembering that I may still hire a hitman someday. Don’t run into another relationship. Get your finances straight. College fund or trade school fund for the kids still need to happen, remember that they didn’t ask to be here. Get in the gym, level up …
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 06:02 PM
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We will never be “friends” again. She is the enemy. I’ll save face for our son, he’ll never hear me speak ill of her outside of “the talk” when he gets old enough to have the conversation about our divorce, but besides that, she’s dead to me. She’s been blocked on all social media and we do not converse outside of very brief FaceTime calls about our son or vehicle maintenance (she drives my old car). She can go straight to hell. And no, my feelings won’t change with age, I hold grudges.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/24 05:39 PM
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Why are you even still talking to her? Why haven’t you blocked her in everything? Have you learned nothing or do you have some cuck fantasy?
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/24 02:01 PM
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Stupidity.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/24 01:36 AM
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Go talk to a divorce attorney and get ready to have your world turned upside down.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/24 08:43 AM
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Nope and she better not because I’ll just rock her fucking chin.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/24 08:21 PM
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You ever heard the term, “you’ll lose em how you get em?” Yup. And that’s a basic Male mistake. She’ll either be cheating or in the middle of a divorce, she’ll tell you about the entire situation, she’ll rebrand herself as a victim and the other guy is “abusive 🙄,” then here you come, super hero 🦸🏻‍♂️, Captain Save-A-Ho. But here’s the kicker, once that tactic works, it now becomes her go-to. She sugared you up, you bust a few nuts which clouded your judgement, now she has the blueprint on how t…
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/24 08:20 PM
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She did what is called “Monkey Branching.” Basic female survival tactic.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/24 08:32 AM
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And the thing is, no matter how much we try to spread the word, it’ll either get silenced or fall on deaf ears. I told a younger guy (19) the other day, “they’ll tell you to talk to your father, your pastor, her father, and all these other figures before the marriage. The only person you need to consult before the marriage is a Divorce Attorney. Pay for an hour consultation, lay out your plan, your current and projected income, and find out what you stand to lose in the event of a divorce.” Stra…
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/24 08:40 PM
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It’s no longer a “system,” it’s a multi billion dollar business and it will never die. That’s why anti marriage content gets silenced. Men are Cannon Fodder for family court.
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/24 08:36 PM
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My ex wife gave me the greatest gift at 28…….. A DIVORCE BEFORE 30! 🫡🎉🥳🎈🎊🎁🍾 Life is good, baby! 😎
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/24 08:34 PM
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Don’t let your guard down. If she had the high hand, or had successfully Monkey Branched; you’d be sleeping in your car or couch hopping. She’s not your friend or your ally. Do not get all Buddy Buddy grab ass with her, and for the love of god do not sleep with her. She needs to stay in a guest room. Don’t let your guard down and do not share personal information with her. Do not discuss finances or other relationships. If it’s not about the kids, it’s not a topic of conversation. And this is no…
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 05:28 PM
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Yeah bro, chill the hell out. Women are supposed to be the emotional ones, once we as men abandon logic and start to move with emotion, it always ends in disaster. Take a break from dating for a few years. Build yourself up emotionally, physically, and financially. Clean up any and all debt, get yoked, and get over the divorce. Do some mongering and experience a few women, come back to the dating market in the late 2020s with a new mindset. DO NOT GET MARRIED AGAIN!
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 10:17 PM
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Never apologize to her for shit ever again. Once it’s finalized, block her on everything
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 06:13 PM
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She hasn’t changed her name on a lot of stuff, her voice mail is still her stating my name. Our divorce papers clearly say her maiden name is restored. Last time I saw her she was still wearing her wedding ring. I just let it be. I love our son more than I hate her. The divorce is finalized, she’s not coming between me and our son, nor do her and I have any sort of relationship or communication with each other. We do not follow each other on any social media platforms either so it’s not that big…
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/24 07:30 PM
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She did you a favor. Focus on squaring your finances away and getting your daughters through college. She saved you from lifetime alimony, thank her for finally freeing you from the shackles of marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/24 07:27 PM
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You started dating too soon. Might as well break up with this one and hit the reset button 😂
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/24 07:25 PM
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She can keep that shit. Take your L and move on with your life, all that “give me that back” shit is for the birds. You should t have gotten married in the first place, learn your lesson and don’t do it again.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/24 07:22 PM
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Miss about her? Absolutely nothing. Miss about the marriage? Time with my Son.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/24 05:37 PM
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She’s always been like this and you put another kid in her? C’mon now. I’m not condoning her actions but let’s take some responsibility for yours. You should’ve been out of the marriage years ago, yet you stick around and get her pregnant AGAIN. You need to get out of there. Get the police involved and file as the plaintiff. You should be able to put money aside if you make almost as much as she does. Ain’t no way y’all are spending that damn much.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/24 05:28 PM
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They didn’t like her before or during the marriage, my friends were a huge support system during and after the divorce
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 09:54 PM
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Yes. Her mother was a nutcase and her parents divorced while we were both in HS. I was a huge support system for her, but having no father myself and being 15/16 at the time, I had no clue that I was looking into my own future. Her father and I spoke several times as I progressed through my 20s, we even talked about the divorce between him and her mother. Everything he told me was a mirror image of shit she was doing. Fast forward a few more years, I’m divorcing the daughter of a divorced mother…
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 09:07 PM
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This hits even harder seeing relationships between fathers and sons destroyed. I charge daughters to the game, but sons? It’s personal because our son is 6 and shit like this is one of my biggest fears.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 09:02 PM
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You know what? Fuck em. I don’t know you and I couldn’t imagine the pain, but fuck em. All 4 of em. If they want to side with their mother then so be it. You did all that you could do. Time to go Monk Mode and get your life together. I imagine you have 5 more years of child support for the youngest but you can make those payments without any contact. Cut em all off. No college fund (if you were even able to save for one), don’t help them with shit. Block em all and I would even go so far as to s…
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 08:55 PM
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Court of public opinion. She’s trying to build a village for support. She needs to be the victim to garnish sympathy. My ex wife did the same thing. She sabotaged the marriage and ruined a cross country move (I took a job in Arizona and moved from Georgia). She realized that the world was too big and scary without a man to leach off of so she Uno Reversed and weaponized our kid for child support and child tax credit. She ran to her family and her church so they can save her during the transition…
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 08:41 PM
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I just deleted a very large comment that would’ve probably gotten me a Reddit ban. All I can say is Screw her. File as the plaintiff. Don’t give her anything that you don’t have to, give her nothing if possible. Talk to an attorney now and get the ball rolling.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 09:03 PM
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Block her
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 08:55 PM
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I hope my ex never does because all I’m going to do is cut her off mid sentence and tell her to shove that apology up her ass.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 08:48 PM
11

Oh, I know it gets better. It’s only been 6 months post separation and I’ve cleared almost $30k of personal debt. I’ll be debt free come March. However, I will never forgive her. She didn’t cheat (that I know of, but she probably did), but she weaponized our child and tried to bring financial ruin upon me. She is my enemy until the end of time. I hold grudges and throw people away. She’s dead to me.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 08:47 PM
3

😳
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 08:42 PM
4

A HUGE strain on our relationship was that I absolutely refused to pay her student loan debt. I lost a lot of myself during the last few years of our marriage, but that’s one thing that I never budged on.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 08:35 PM
1

For you https://youtu.be/OLcYiDR3PT8?si=_uzYlBVXQ_LytI8c
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 02:48 PM
4

Im active duty, this is going to be very rough. You had no business getting married at 21, especially to an almost 30 year old woman at the time. You married a Pro who’s probably been in the military net for quite some time. You need to be ruthless. She’s going to weaponize the child, probably tell you that you’ll never see her again and blah blah blah. Also, be prepared for her to weaponize the military against you. Don’t take no bullshit from her. Stop apologizing, basically, quit being a bitc…
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/24 11:05 PM
8

No more marriages for you. Shouldn’t have done it a second time. Stop getting married.
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/24 10:39 PM
3

I initiated because she intentionally sabotaged a cross country move and weaponized our child for financial gain. She attempted to present me with a separation agreement so she could continue to use me for health insurance and other benefits. I countered her with divorce and through the process, my initial child support was reduced from $1350 to $631. The plot was also revealed, she had already consulted an attorney and everything, I had to go out of town for 2 weeks and deal with a family emerg…
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/24 08:23 PM
3

Get a divorce
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 10:56 PM
1

Stop caring. And I know that’s easier said than done. It’s easy for me to say “fuck her” but I know I’d be sick if I saw her with someone else. However; I’m fixated on building for our sons future so I keep that in the front of my mind.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 10:39 PM
2

Talk to a divorce attorney and file NOW. You’re already going to take that hit, you got married in the west, the kids were doomed from the start. Childhood trauma and the whole nine yards, it’s already going to happen. The marriage ruined the relationship. Face the loss head on and accept it. Focus on getting out of any and all debt and better your life.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 05:50 PM
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NEVER STOP THE DIVORCE! Once you initiate, that’s it. The marriage is over, the kids are going to be ruined down the line. It is what it is. Never reconcile. Shouldn’t have gotten married in the first place. Her stopping the divorce was a shit rest to see if you’d fold and you did. Now she knows that she can walk over you. You need to file as the plaintiff and do not move out of your home. Go speak to a divorce attorney like, yesterday. You’re probably going to need a restraining order as well. …
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 05:44 PM
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Im sure my ex wife is getting ran through, I couldn’t care less. You can see my 6 pack through my t shirt and I’ve cleaned up almost $30k of debt in 5 months. I’ll be debt free in March and I’m plotting on a nice, big ass house for me and our son next year. Fuck her and that marriage 😂
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 06:34 PM
2

A lot to unpack here, first off, you’re a better man than I’ll ever be because I would’ve 👩🏻💥🔫 But anyway, I recommend you get a full STD test and try to keep your composure. Hurry up and file for divorce, no need to spend all year trying to be inspector gadget. Only thing I disagree with is trying to go after the men, they didn’t make any wedding vows to you, hell, she probably told them that it was her house and she’s single. Hurry up and get rid of her.
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/24 10:22 PM
2

I never mentioned that, did I? Not only that, the cardinal rule of marrying overseas is that you don’t bring her back to the states, you learn the language and move over there. Countless western men are married expats living overseas.
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/24 08:56 PM
6

All men are in love, most women are in business. It would behoove him to stay away from marriage
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/24 08:53 PM
10

Do not get married in the US.
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/24 08:50 PM
11

DAMMIT! We’ll, stop talking about your personal life with her. If it doesn’t have to do with the kids, then y’all have nothing to talk about. She’s not your friend, y’all aren’t buddies, you’re not together anymore. You shouldn’t be following her in social media and the only topic you two speak about are the kids, nothing else besides a stone wall. You’ve got to take responsibility for your actions and start the road to recovery. Delete the dating apps, go Monk Mode for a few years. While you’re…
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/24 05:49 PM
7

First of all, nothing she says or does should “enrage” you. You brought a foreign woman back to the US, probably on a K1. You broke the cardinal rule of dating overseas so all of whatever went down is 100% on you. Secondly, why do you have any contact whatsoever with your ex? Block her and get on with your life. Third, are you debt free? Is your house paid off? Have you recovered emotionally? Have you taken care of yourself post divorce? These are things that need to be squared away before you d…
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/24 05:43 PM
4

Love the I’ll be your downfall. I wish I had of filed the moment she suggested marriage counseling. I listened to everyone else telling me to “make it work” and “just work with her,” Only to end up divorced and on child support anyway PLUS going months being disrespected in my own home. Contact your own lawyer now and get ahead of it, File as the plaintiff. And yes, do not ever move out, that’s your home, she can leave. You need to fall out of love. She’s not your friend, y’all aren’t buddies, t…
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/24 05:18 PM
4

Yes and no. The “Yes” part is that She used our son as a weapon against me and tried to have my wages garnished. I beat the false suit but came out on the B side of custody as I was in the middle of a job transition out of state. I immediately got to work on myself, lost 60lbs in 4 months (jacked and ripped) and have cleaned up almost $30k of personal debt in 5 months ( I’ll be debt free by March). The “No” part: People around me are singing my praises for all the progress, last time I explained…
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/24 04:36 PM
5

You don’t “ask” for shit. You file for divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/24 04:28 PM
3

Yikes, that got worse and worse. My head dropped when I read “we live in CA.” Sorry dude, your best bet is to go ahead and sit down with a divorce attorney so you know exactly what you stand to lose. Yes, you can and have gotten a lot of info on here but with your situation, you need to consult an attorney. Even with all your money tied up with the business, you’re in CA and she was a SAHM. Lump sum settlement plus child support is likely. You’re also late likely going to have to sell the home a…
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/24 11:48 PM
2

I still have a strong desire to be a divorce attorney and eventual family court judge. I also want to bark up the tree on sitting down with whatever state politician and get some laws changed.
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/24 09:31 PM
2

Yup. Even better if you have a critical skill. I saw a thread of a guy who was self taught bi-lingual in French, was a helicopter pilot. Got hit with some wild ass numbers in a divorce. Bro emptied his bank account and bounced to a former French colony in the Caribbean. That’s where I got this whole idea from, it was genius! Think about it. India used to be a British colony, everyone there speaks English, imagine getting shafted in court in the US so you just move to the other side of the planet…
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/24 09:26 PM
2

I told someone recently that they should move overseas and start life over. The reply “how? I only speak English,” former British colonies all over the world where the National language is English. Guyana in South America, bordered with Venezuela, Brazil, and Suriname, National language is English. I’d be gone! OP needs to bounce
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/24 09:05 PM
2

Sit down with a divorce attorney and after this is all over, do not get re-married
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/24 08:15 PM
2

Now don’t be stupid and get re-married. You’re free now 🫡
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/24 08:26 PM
1

This!
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/24 09:06 PM
3

DONT DO IT! GET RID OF HER!
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/24 06:02 PM
4

YES! But I have to give credit where it’s do, it’s my mindset. I’m not out here trying to find love or date. It’s only been 5 months. I’m in the best shape of my life, I’m talking a borderline stage ready physique. I’ve cleaned up 60% of my personal debt. I’m on track to be debt free outside of a mortgage by March. Next year for my 30th birthday, my plan is to get the keys to a new home. My full circle plan is to have it paid off in 4 years. The marriage lasted 6 years and 8 months. I had nothin…
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/24 04:08 PM
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Absolutely, but having that much money to lose plus 21 years of marriage, this guy is either an old Gen Xer or young Baby boomer. There was literally no one telling them NOT to get married. No such thing as “red pill” back then. And “No fault divorce” didn’t get introduced until ‘79. Reason why we’re not waking up until now.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/24 09:37 AM
1

$84k in future payments here, I never scoffed at it, I KNEW I got off light as a feather. Just don’t re-marry and get out of debt (if you have any) as fast as humanly possible.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/24 09:32 AM
0

🫡🫡🫡
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/24 09:31 AM
2

Hold up, are you currently married?
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/24 09:30 AM
11

Absolutely not.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/24 09:28 AM
4

I read further down than I should have. A lot of you guys need to hire a hitman.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/24 09:27 AM
8

$84k in future child support, that’s it! Slap on the fucking wrist. I couldn’t build myself up to anything with that anchor of a wife dragging behind me for six years. Got out before 30, it’s only up from here!
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/24 09:24 AM
6

I’m saying! I’m glad I got divorced and red pilled while broke! I will never EVER re-marry
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/24 09:21 AM
8

That was a minor reason, but more men universally should based on that alone. The majority of marriages over 6 years are either borderline or totally sexless. More men should start walking out over lack of intimacy.
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/24 11:12 PM
14

“To be clear, we have many issues” Dude, get a fucking divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/23 01:33 AM
3

LETS FUCKING GOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!! 🫡🫡🫡🫡🫡🫡 DO NOT GET RE-MARRIED!
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/23 08:19 PM
3

Just put her name
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/23 01:57 AM
2

Hell yeah! People don’t see the bright side of divorce. And I get it, for a lot of us, it brings financial ruin. None of the men in our family warned us, which is bullshit. Society still pushes marriage on men, knowing that there’s an 80% chance that the wife will sabotage the marriage. It’s all by design. But for those of us who don’t get financially destroyed, divorce SHOULD be a rocket boost to the stop. Most guys fuck up by re-marrying. Literally, all you have to do is get out of debt, get i…
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/23 01:28 AM
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Outstanding! Slam dunk divorce, hurry up and get it done. You’re free now. Remember, she did you a favor! Do not ever re-marry! Get in the gym, get ripped, get your money together, get back on your grind and go crush it in life. Happy Life, No Wife! Congratulations on your divorce! It’s only up from here! YOURE FREE!
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/23 08:13 PM
2

Here https://www.youtube.com/live/R2JRlr5F6SM?si=S2UOpbgqnv2VCyOD https://youtu.be/ZAZqtf0KPMs?si=rsghiNfeu3YVbPhJ https://youtube.com/@TheUnpluggedAlpha?si=it8Bp65Yo_5w5LFE
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/23 09:36 AM
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Ah, there it is. Notice how I mentioned finances in both comments. It was easy to put two and two together, I suspected financial ruin. Please don’t turn to vices. I ate myself up to almost 300lbs because of the stress from the shit my ex wife pulled in our divorce. 4 months later I’m 215 and absolutely yoked out of my mind. However, I was not ruined financially. You need to take a step back from relationships and address the financial aspect of the divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/23 09:34 AM
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It is what it is tbh. The 2 bodies don’t matter unless you make a big deal of it. There’s nothing wrong with being a faithful husband. I had sex with 1 woman for 6 years, kinda like….. a faithful husband would. Get out of your rut. Hit the gym, get your money squared away, stamp your passport. There’s a whole world out there. You don’t have to go on a sex tour or hit a brothel, I’m literally saying to travel and get some fresh air. Maybe look to settle down somewhere else. Learn a new language, …
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/23 09:24 AM
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Do not re-marry. And you said she filed after 20 years? I would imagine you’re probably in your 50s. That’s a “Gray Divorce,” and I would imagine you got hit with alimony. Focus on recovering emotionally, physically, and financially. Your entire world should revolve around retirement, not getting into another marriage which is almost guaranteed to end in divorce. Get your head out of the sand. Go get laid.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/23 08:56 AM
13

Why are you living with an ex? I swear, you guys do this shit to yourselves.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/23 11:30 PM
20

YOU BETTER FUCKING NOT! She got dumped and now she’s trying to crawl back, she’s betting on you being stupid enough to take the bait. If you take her back. You’re a fucking fool. She doesn’t want you, she wants a paycheck! You’re her meal ticket, she does NOT love you! Don’t be a sucker. If you take her back I hope she cleans you out.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 11:39 PM
4

Divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/23 11:57 AM
6

The last thing you need is for her to get any female sympathy by you showing up trolling. Unless you get called to speak against her, just keep it professional. You’ve already won the battle, don’t lose the war by trying to be funny.
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/23 09:20 PM
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This is a sub for men, however, do not waste your youth with a 2x divorcee, father of 4. If you’re dating 10yrs up for financial security, find a single - childless 34 year old man. Start your own family. Don’t fall for the silver tongue crap.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/23 02:54 PM
1

You’re a fool if you do. You two shouldn’t even be talking to each other if it doesn’t have anything to do with the kids. Only connection y’all have moving forward are the children. This is the time to get in the best shape of your life and square your finances away so the kids can be set up. They shouldn’t have to go take out student loans and rack up debt when they leave the nest (if there’s any left in the house). Also, if all of the kids are out of the house, there’s this wonderful place cal…
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/23 09:04 PM
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