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Thank you, that's something I will consider. We were concerned about his social life and being exposed to the real world. I feel like if you do not prepare your child for the real world then you have failed them as a parent. Thank you for the reminder. It's hard because we want to do everything we can to protect our children and we can't. Especially him being a boy, I have always tried to remember to teach him that it's okay to show emotions. I tell him, it's okay that you're mad, honey. It's ok…
/r/MensRights20/04/25 12:27 AM
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I know but I was just saying that I do personally
/r/MensRights18/04/25 02:30 PM
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Actually, I do care otherwise. I don't know why you would assume I don't. It just made me think about my son and made me worry that he's going to get taught this stuff. I don't really think it's fair that you assumed what I do and do not care about.
/r/MensRights17/04/25 11:27 PM
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I'm sorry that your nephew is going through that. I have a five-year-old son and I worry about him because of this kind of stuff. I'm actually kind of talking to his dad about homeschooling him instead of sending him to school this September. I really don't want to have to worry about an active shooter situation number one and number two, I don't want him being taught that kind of stuff.
/r/MensRights13/04/25 10:58 PM
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Yes but then there should be shelters for men or shelters that allow men as well
/r/MensRights12/04/25 01:21 AM
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Not all of us. Some of us were raised properly and taught not to hate men simply because they're men. Some of us still believe in appreciating men's efforts.
/r/MensRights04/04/25 06:47 PM
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I've said the same thing for a long time, the laws need to change. I'm willing to help start it but I do know I'm fighting an uphill battle. I know the odds are stacked against me. It doesn't matter to me though, I'm still going to do something to try to promote some kind of change.
/r/MensRights29/03/25 11:44 PM
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That happened to a friend of mine. This even after he took care of his daughter on his own from the time she was a newborn until she was 5 years old. Mom thought drugs were more important but then when she decided to show back up like nothing ever happened, she took him for child support. The courts didn't care that he had taken care of his daughter on his own and that he provided everything his daughter needed. As far as they were concerned, he owed $5,000 in retroactive child support. Then she…
/r/MensRights29/03/25 11:04 AM
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I saw one in a thrift store which I bought just to burn. It read: put trash in its proper place. It was a bunch of repeats of the men's symbol for the public restrooms. They were in a trash can.
/r/MensRights29/03/25 07:52 AM
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And trust me, I have shown men through my actions that I'm not like that. I will say I understand how you feel. In other words, I understand your apprehension. I have put in a lot of work towards men's rights. I plan on doing more on this platform as well. I'm sorry that you've been treated so badly. I really am, I don't mean that in a snarky way.
/r/MensRights29/03/25 05:57 AM
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Fair enough but I still don't think it's fair that you're grouping me in with all women
/r/MensRights29/03/25 05:55 AM
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Don't assume to know me based on an internet conversation. I find that offensive, you can't assume how I am now or how I would be 25 years ago. I've never been one of those women who hates men simply for being men. I don't hate men at all and never have. Again, please don't attack me because of the experiences that you've had. I understand that you may be jaded but please don't group me into the category of women that you've had to deal with. You say Not all men well, I can say not all women eit…
/r/MensRights29/03/25 03:46 AM
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Yes I would. Please don't attack me because of how you're treated on a regular basis.
/r/MensRights29/03/25 03:44 AM
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By the way, I don't disagree with you at all. You're absolutely right but you're speaking for all women and that's not true of all of us. I've been in some other subs and trust me, I can't believe they're actually serious. It reads like satire to me.
/r/MensRights29/03/25 02:21 AM
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You're speaking for all women though. That's not true of all of us.
/r/MensRights29/03/25 02:20 AM
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I think it was TV and social media. I think it also started in the 70s with the women's revolution. I think that collectively as a society though, we saw it shift about 6 or 7 years ago. Things weren't like this when I was younger, dating is not the way I remember it even 25 years ago. I'm saying nowadays because things weren't like this when I was younger. Men were respected and were more often treated as the head of the household. It's not like that anymore as we know. I'm all for equality, wh…
/r/MensRights29/03/25 12:53 AM
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Not all of us, my dear. Unfortunately it is the majority of my gender nowadays but I assure you, we're not all like this. We may be far in few between but we're not all the same.
/r/MensRights29/03/25 12:33 AM
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Thanks
/r/MensRights28/03/25 03:13 AM
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That's happened to me. I've had them go, you must like being a slave. I just tell them yep, I'm completely happy. It makes me feel fulfilled to take care of people I love.
/r/MensRights28/03/25 02:51 AM
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Well all of that is just messed up. I'm saying that any man who wants a traditional household is automatically labeled as controlling when that's not always the case. I'm really sorry that your relatives had to go through that. Some people suck.
/r/MensRights28/03/25 02:20 AM
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All of this. Like I said, I'm aware of that some men use it as a way to be controlling. However, not all do and I think it's sad that any man who wants this is automatically labeled as controlling. It depends on what the couple has discussed and if they're both on board with it. However, it shouldn't be just automatically assumed that he's controlling.
/r/MensRights28/03/25 02:19 AM
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I know right. I worked at the same time that I was a housewife but it's a pretty easy life. I don't understand why these women frame it like they're being oppressed. I would go back to that life in a heartbeat if I could. I think that they just believe whatever they're told to. It's sad that they're so brainwashed that they've lost the ability to think for themselves.
/r/MensRights28/03/25 01:11 AM
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I know right, if you want to support me then more power to you lol. I figured that's what it was, this whole feminist thing. You're right, they will take any issue and spend it into the exact opposite to suit their agenda. It's like they don't even hear themselves when they speak. They will hate all men because a few have hurt them but yet turn around and compete with each other for high value men. I swear, they don't think about the irony, they just believe whatever they're told to. It's really…
/r/MensRights28/03/25 12:18 AM
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I get that and I actually agree with you. I'm saying that the idea that men who just want someone to stay home being controlling is nuts to me. Why does that automatically mean he's controlling?
/r/MensRights28/03/25 12:16 AM
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I agree, it should just be laws against violence. That's it, no specific gender. Unfortunately, it's been this way for eons.
/r/MensRights27/03/25 02:25 AM
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I don't think he did, there was never any mention of that. I'm sure they would have brought it up if that was the case. Like I've been saying, they almost lost their house over her sinking so much money into that thrive thing. In fact, her parents moved in with them for a while to help them save the house.
/r/MensRights27/03/25 12:18 AM
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I'm just saying that people are glorifying her because she is unfortunately deceased. That's not okay. Let's not pretend like someone was a saint just because they are sadly no longer with us. What he did was absolutely horrible, I don't disagree with that. I'm just saying let's look at both sides of the coin. She wasn't perfect.
/r/MensRights27/03/25 12:17 AM
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Okay now you're just speculating. Meanwhile, I'm stating facts. You can't go off of what you think the situation was.
/r/MensRights26/03/25 02:59 AM
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I understand that but that does not negate the fact that shannan was financially, emotionally and verbally abusive.
/r/MensRights26/03/25 02:52 AM
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Clearly you didn't watch the videos and I'm not blaming you for that. I'm not saying that what he did isn't wrong, not at all. He is where he deserves to be for sure. He should have just divorced her. However, there are several videos where she was emasculating him and verbally abusing him and that's not okay either. She was a financial burden on him. She didn't have a real job and thrive was a pyramid scheme. They actually almost lost their house because of her doing that. She was sinking a lot…
/r/MensRights26/03/25 02:42 AM
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Well of course. I said that I don't understand why he did it meaning that it's hard to comprehend because most people aren't like him. However, Shannan was verbally and emotionally abusive. If you ask me, she was even financially abusive in a way.
/r/MensRights26/03/25 12:58 AM
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I know I'm probably going to get a lot of hate from a lot of women for this but I feel like this may be partly why Chris Watts snapped and did what he did. I will never understand why he harmed his daughters but the rest of it, I can kind of understand why he snapped. She was constantly invalidating him and emasculating him, even on camera. It was, Chris does whatever I tell him to. She was an emotional and financial burden on him and I agree that he should have just divorced her and not killed …
/r/MensRights25/03/25 07:30 PM
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I can assure you that there are some of us out there. Just like OP, I'm one one of them. I'm actually really glad that she posted this.
/r/MensRights23/03/25 07:07 AM
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It means that a woman told the story but told it from a man's point of view
/r/MensRights12/03/25 02:42 AM
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It sure does and I remember what you're talking about
/r/MensRights11/03/25 01:02 AM
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Omg, I just threw up in my mouth a little while reading this. It's such an outrage that this happens. I'm getting to where I can't stand feminists at all whether they be toxic or not. I understand that the idea was supposed to be equal rights but that's not what they actually want. They want to have all the rights and men to have none and they want these double standards. It's okay for them to do something but if a man does it, he's horrible.
/r/MensRights11/03/25 12:36 AM
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I have no idea. They're mentally ill I guess.
/r/MensRights10/03/25 11:49 PM
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Why not? It would cut down on men being falsely accused of rape.
/r/MensRights09/03/25 06:14 AM
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Yep, it happens to men all the time. They get accused of something they didn't do and then even when the person who accuses them recants, their life is still ruined. They are still labeled a rapist.
/r/MensRights09/03/25 06:14 AM
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This is specifically for dates. I'm sorry if you misunderstood.
/r/MensRights09/03/25 05:24 AM
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I go through the same thing even though I'm a woman. I make these arguments and they either do that or call me a pick me or just straight up say I'm a traitor.
/r/MensRights06/03/25 02:09 AM
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Really, poor girl?! She murdered her child!
/r/MensRights05/03/25 06:55 PM
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Girl, are you mean? I dealt with almost the same exact kind of shit. He's back living with his parents after the divorce and his mother thought it was a good idea to invite his ex-wife to spend the night. I used to think I wouldn't mind dating a single father but not with all the drama that comes attached to it. No thanks.
/r/MensRights02/03/25 10:21 PM
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In the future my friend, date people for who they are now, not who you hope they'll become.
/r/MensRights02/03/25 10:20 PM
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He wasn't
/r/MensRights02/03/25 10:20 PM
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Yeah I suppose that's what it was. They were one of those families who seem to think that even though a divorce happened, nothing was supposed to change. I can't tell you how many times I told him that they were still married except on paper. I just couldn't see doing it for another 6 years until his daughter turned 18 but looking back, it would have been the rest of our lives. No thanks.
/r/MensRights02/03/25 10:18 PM
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I know that this was not directed at me but I dated a single father and these were all the reasons I decided not to date him. Not only that, his ex-wife was constantly causing drama and he allowed it. She acted like I was the reason they divorced and they had been divorced for 5 years when I met him. No thank you.
/r/MensRights02/03/25 02:46 PM
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I think there's very few of us but yes, we exist.
/r/MensRights23/02/25 06:46 PM
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This is true. These are the same women who complain that men don't want to date them. Some men don't want women who are comfortable with showing their bodies off to everybody. They make that conscious choice, they have to live with the consequences.
/r/MensRights19/02/25 07:45 PM
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I know right 🙄🤦
/r/MensRights17/02/25 04:45 PM
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I know and it's fucked up
/r/MensRights17/02/25 03:31 PM
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Exactly
/r/MensRights17/02/25 02:49 PM
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I don't know why it's not seen as SA when a woman does it
/r/MensRights17/02/25 02:24 PM
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LoL probably. It just seemed to me like he was trying to get women on his side like I'm not like all the other men. It just seems like he's trying too hard.
/r/MensRights17/02/25 12:10 PM
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He's trying to get laid
/r/MensRights17/02/25 12:26 AM
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I've done that with my son's dad. He's cried and I've actually stood there and held him until he was okay. I don't understand that either. They ask them to be vulnerable and then mock them when they are. Make it make sense.
/r/MensRights17/02/25 12:24 AM
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Exactly and I'm sorry that you've had boyfriends treat you like you were being clingy for wanting affection. A lot of people don't seem to see that it's a two-way street. Especially women, they think they're owed respect and that they don't have to show any back. They seem to forget that men are taught to hold in their emotions and then they want to tell them be more vulnerable with me. Then when they are, they call them weak. If you expect a man to be vulnerable with you, you have to show suppo…
/r/MensRights16/02/25 12:20 PM
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That is so true
/r/MensRights15/02/25 01:46 PM
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That's great
/r/MensRights14/02/25 07:27 PM
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I heard that's pretty common. What baffles me is I can hear my neighbors talking about their partners like he better be a man. Meanwhile, they're talking about what a piece of shit he is and how he owes them everything you were talking about. They tear him down yet expect him to treat them with respect. If you expect to be treated like a queen, be sure to treat him like a king. It's really not that hard. Somehow it is for them.
/r/MensRights14/02/25 07:26 PM
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I find that really ironic seeing as how they're always talking about how men think their owed Edit: typo
/r/MensRights14/02/25 05:10 PM
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Your mom sounds like a great person
/r/MensRights14/02/25 05:10 PM
10

I'm a woman and even I hate Valentine's day. It's gone Way beyond what it originally was. It started in the Victorian era and it has become way too commercialized much like Christmas. I would much rather someone just spend time with me eating snacks and watching movies then spending all that money on roses that are going to die in a week anyway.
/r/MensRights14/02/25 05:10 PM
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I did a search for something else and this post popped up. I know it's a year old but hear me out. I genuinely can't understand how those women are even serious. To me, it reads like satire. They're completely serious and I'm sitting here like, are they even hearing themselves? I just laugh at it. I find it entertaining because they're just so fucking out of touch with reality. Since I think it matters to the comment, I'm a woman. ETA: I'm starting to dislike much of my own gender. It's very rar…
/r/MensRights13/02/25 02:28 PM
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Australia has entered the chat There are actually a lot of people in Australia who do not believe that men can be victims. In fact, there are laws that pretty much state this.
/r/MensRights13/02/25 03:41 AM
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This is why more people need to learn that there are no laws protecting you against revenge porn. Once you send that stuff, it's out there.
/r/MensRights13/02/25 03:40 AM
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Okay but never mind the fact that this person is Indian and has been to India. Did you just completely gloss over their entire comment?
/r/MensRights13/02/25 03:37 AM
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The problem is that you replied to me instead of the guy that I was talking to so it seemed like you insinuated that I was dumb. I understand now.
/r/MensRights10/02/25 05:16 PM
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I didn't watch the Superbowl and I hate toxic feminism
/r/MensRights10/02/25 03:47 PM
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Screw you
/r/MensRights10/02/25 03:43 PM
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Not all of us are negative and stuck in victim mentality. Don't group all women together just like you don't want women grouping all men together.
/r/MensRights10/02/25 03:00 AM
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Even as a woman, I was with you until you said that.
/r/MensRights10/02/25 02:57 AM
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He's still in jail and I don't think anything has happened to her. She's supposed to be a witness but the way she's talking about him, she's going to sway the jury.
/r/MensRights03/02/25 10:01 PM
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I'm going to when I find out who it is
/r/MensRights13/01/25 08:02 PM
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Not as a witness. You are not supposed to talk about anything related to the case before the trial. Are you just another one of those women who comes in here trying to bash men?
/r/MensRights13/01/25 04:37 PM
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It's absolutely no problem. If he is found to have actually done this, of course I will cut him off. However, I have strong reason to believe she set him up out of retaliation. I'm not going to let this go.
/r/MensRights13/01/25 04:13 PM
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Even as a woman, I agree that believe all women is a horrific idea. Toxic feminism is the worst thing that ever happened to the world. I know it sounds like I'm defending a child molester but I have strong reason to believe that she set him up.
/r/MensRights13/01/25 04:11 PM
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Thank you, I didn't know that was a thing.
/r/MensRights13/01/25 04:09 PM
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Also, he has been trying to prove his innocence and he is planning on sending her a cease and assist letter through his lawyer.
/r/MensRights13/01/25 03:43 PM
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Of course not. I'm just saying that as a witness, she should not be discussing the case before the trial. What she is doing could sway the jury. It's also going to hurt her credibility.
/r/MensRights13/01/25 03:42 PM
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I'm going to as soon as I find out who his public defender is
/r/MensRights13/01/25 03:41 PM
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I'm not going to share it with the prosecution because that will just give them time to prepare against it. Once I find out who his public defender is, likely tomorrow then I'm going to submit that evidence to them.
/r/MensRights13/01/25 03:39 PM
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Thank you. I found out last night that he actually has a bond hearing tomorrow and he filled out the paperwork to speak to a public defender. As soon as he finds out who they are, he's going to let me know so I can submit all of that.
/r/MensRights13/01/25 03:38 PM
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I understand that now. I'm sure that his lawyer will look into that. I'm also going to make sure that his lawyer knows about his ex shit talking him. She is supposed to be a witness but she is talking about the case and trying to sway people to her side.
/r/MensRights13/01/25 03:08 AM
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I'm sending the screenshots I have of her running her mouth on Facebook to his public defender once we find out who it is. I'm truly sorry about your friend. IDK his ex but I am trying to "offer her support" in the hopes of getting her talking. I believe he is innocent.
/r/MensRights12/01/25 08:50 PM
10

Thanks
/r/MensRights12/01/25 08:46 PM
10

Thank you
/r/MensRights12/01/25 08:46 PM
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Thank you
/r/MensRights12/01/25 08:16 PM
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I'm sorry for being snarky. I just felt that it was important that you read the post and you didn't. I agree, when someone's Liberty is that risk it's always best practice to do what you can to help. I think I'm going to wait and find out who his public defender is. He goes to court on the 28th at 9:00 a.m. he said he doesn't have a lawyer yet. I talked to him over video visitation yesterday. I told him to tell me when he finds out who his public defender is. I was able to message him over their…
/r/MensRights12/01/25 08:12 PM
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He's already in jail which you would know if you had read the post. I'm talking about turning the posts of her talking shit about him online into the prosecuting attorney or should I wait and send them to his public defender?
/r/MensRights12/01/25 08:05 PM
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Yep exactly
/r/MensRights21/12/24 02:37 AM
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I agree, absolutely revolting and shocking.
/r/MensRights21/12/24 02:32 AM
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Just sickening. You know, if women were called out for the stuff that they do to men, the world would be a much better place. It's like it's okay for them but if a man does it, he's a perv who deserves to be in prison.
/r/MensRights06/12/24 06:41 PM
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As a woman, I find this pretty creepy myself. It's almost like they're fetishizing gay men or something. That's just gross and it's not okay.
/r/MensRights06/12/24 02:45 AM
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It's a double standard
/r/MensRights03/12/24 06:25 PM
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Exactly
/r/MensRights28/11/24 02:18 PM
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That's SO fucked up
/r/MensRights28/11/24 09:34 AM
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It's funny that you say that because it's a double standard. It's fine if it's for women but it's not fine if it's men is how they seem to think. They're allowed to talk shit and even wish death upon men simply for being men. The minute somebody says something similar about them, it's, you're sexist. It's projection.
/r/MensRights28/11/24 08:01 AM
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Okay, what the hell did I just read? So she didn't get in trouble for engaging in sexual acts with a teenager, a young one at that? That just shows you the double standard. It's so funny because women always want to scream about double standards yet they're the ones who are doing them. The courts are biased against men as well so it really doesn't surprise me that this happened. Well, the fact that he got charged with back child support. Do you know if she ever faced charges?
/r/MensRights28/11/24 07:10 AM
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Awww thank you I don't say these things for credit, it's something I believe in strongly. I'm tired of people acting like men shouldn't have any rights simply because they're men. I'm also tired of the women who call me a pick me girl. Not that it bothers me to be called that. It's more like they're mad at women like me for having what they really want so they get at us because we refuse to jump on their bandwagon. Not sorry, I'm not going to hate an entire group of people just because they thin…
/r/MensRights28/11/24 07:04 AM
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What brought me here is my experience in helping out a friend financially because he was paying back child support. He was providing for his daughter and even took care of her on his own from birth until she was 5 years old because her mom ran off to do drugs. Then she decided to take him for child support when she came back and got custody because we all know how much family court loves moms. So I helped him financially so he didn't have to worry about how he was going to pay his bills and risk…
/r/MensRights19/11/24 01:54 AM
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Bullshit. It's his baby too.
/r/MensRights12/11/24 10:21 PM
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That's heartbreaking 😔
/r/MensRights26/10/24 03:27 AM
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Exactly. Something is seriously wrong with her and it's not ADHD. The fuck?!
/r/MensRights25/10/24 12:24 PM
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I remember that and while she's 12, she knows right from wrong. I blame their mother for not getting her the help she needed. They claim she has ADHD but that's something else. ADHD doesn't make you do that.
/r/MensRights25/10/24 11:25 AM
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Good because fuck that bitch
/r/MensRights24/10/24 01:23 PM
5

Me neither. I can't stand feminism in general.
/r/MensRights23/10/24 12:46 AM
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I know right. She gets on my fucking nerves. Her music, if you can even call it music, sucks and she's a talentless piece of gutter trash.
/r/MensRights23/10/24 12:41 AM
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All of this, the ol' double standard.
/r/MensRights23/10/24 12:39 AM
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I'm a woman and I do. There's nothing good about it. It's just a fancy label for man hating cat ladies who blame men for their unhappiness. It's ironic that they don't see that their attitude is what's keeping the men away. Then they call women who refuse to jump on their bandwagon of self loathing and projection, pick me's. Edit: a word
/r/MensRights22/10/24 07:04 PM
1

Oh ok
/r/MensRights21/10/24 10:57 PM
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I see nothing wrong with this comment except for where you said that they are put away against their will. Who would willingly go to jail?
/r/MensRights21/10/24 09:54 PM
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As a woman, I think it's because they're mad at those of us who choose not to participate in their toxic feminism. They think all men are the enemy because a few have hurt them. They don't seem to understand that their attitude is the problem. They're their own worst enemy.
/r/MensRights14/10/24 09:16 PM
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That's so fucked up. So basically, she committed legal murder.
/r/MensRights21/09/24 12:05 PM
-1

When it comes to maternity care, yes. We get worse treatment. This is especially true for women of color. They are most affected by maternal deaths. Otherwise, I don't have enough information to form an educated opinion.
/r/MensRights19/09/24 11:51 AM
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Yep, it's contradictory and they don't see it lol.
/r/MensRights11/09/24 03:49 PM
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Both IMO
/r/MensRights26/08/24 03:19 AM
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I'm not sure
/r/MensRights23/08/24 12:34 PM
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Exactly. If you have nothing to hide, you have no reason to get upset. When I found out I was pregnant with my daughter, her dad and I had split up a couple of months before but I know she's his. I wasn't with anyone else. I still offered him a DNA test without him needing to ask just so he would know for sure. That way, he would never wonder. He said he didn't need one because he knows she's his but I insisted. Why? Because number one, he would know for sure and number two, I HAD NOTHING TO HID…
/r/MensRights23/08/24 02:04 AM
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Good. I've always believed that DNA tests should be done in the hospital before acknowledgement of paternity is signed.
/r/MensRights23/08/24 12:57 AM
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Because they lack the ability to think objectively
/r/MensRights22/08/24 09:43 PM
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Yes
/r/MensRights14/08/24 11:20 PM
3

I'm so sorry this happened to you. It happened to my brother as well. He ended up spending 6 months in county because of her period he's still with her for some reason.
/r/MensRights09/08/24 06:57 PM
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I'm a woman and I agree with this. Why is it okay for them to do it to you but if you disagree with them on something or call them out on their behavior, suddenly you're an abusive manipulator?
/r/MensRights09/08/24 06:04 PM
1

This is not excusing it, this is explaining it maybe. I think that because women are taught to be catty and competitive with each other, they are not friendly to each other very much.
/r/MensRights08/08/24 06:14 PM
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But of course then it's still the man's fault for rejecting them. Don't you know all men are bad because a few have burned them? /s
/r/MensRights07/08/24 09:29 PM
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I hate those groups. They say that they were started as a way to protect women and that's what they say on their but let's be honest, we all know what it's really for. I want saw somebody that I knew on there and I called her out for posting him. I know him and I know that he would never do what she was accusing him of. I immediately screen grabbed it and sent it to him. He's currently suing her and I think he's going to win.
/r/MensRights07/08/24 09:28 PM
2

Yeah, they really do.
/r/MensRights06/08/24 05:08 AM
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I know right, I've been saying this for years.
/r/MensRights05/08/24 08:38 PM
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I've unfortunately had to deal with people like that. They view you disagreeing with them as a personal attack. They're exhausting to be around. I limit my interactions with people like that as much as I can.
/r/MensRights05/08/24 04:50 PM
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That and they don't seem to realize that they're their own worst enemy. They just think, I've been burned a few times, all men are bad. They don't stop and think, my bad attitude is what keeps men away from me. Then they call other women pick me girls because they see us getting what they want. A couple of weeks ago, I was called a pick me girl on here like three times in one day. I just found it entertaining and moved on.
/r/MensRights05/08/24 04:49 PM
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This reminds me of something that I saw on google. Actually, I was curious so I googled it for myself. I believe someone shared it here. It was two pictures of the striking difference between when you google, my husband yells at me versus my wife yells at me. When someone googles, my husband yells at me, a domestic violence hotline is the first thing that pops up. When you google, my wife yells at me, it says, she probably feels unheard and overwhelmed. It's just a really striking double standar…
/r/MensRights05/08/24 01:26 AM
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I agree. I don't see what the hype is. Maybe an unpopular opinion but I don't see what the hype is about Lana Del Rey for that matter. If you ask me, I think she's trying too hard. I'm not saying that she's terrible but at the same time, she's just full of herself and like I said, trying too hard. I just don't know how else to put it.
/r/MensRights04/08/24 11:15 PM
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I think it's just unfortunately become the norm. I think it's also sad that people view fathers taking care of their children as babysitting. I don't know where this thing about fathers supposedly being the incompetent parent came from but it needs to stop. I've noticed that on TV and in movies, fathers are portrayed as dumb and incapable of caring for their children. Women want to be taken care of but don't want the men to have any rights. That's what they would really say if they were telling …
/r/MensRights04/08/24 09:14 PM
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Sure. It would solve the alternative that some people do of just walking away like nothing happened. I understand not wanting the child but go about it legally. I also think it would solve the problem of forcing men to parent when they don't want to.
/r/MensRights04/08/24 06:01 AM
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Once again you have made me laugh. I agree, that was very smart in terms of business on his part but then again he's always been pretty smart.
/r/MensRights02/08/24 04:47 AM
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I have to say I agree with everything you've said here. The reason why psychopaths and sociopaths are so successful when it comes to relationships and businesses is exactly for the reasons you said. They put on this false persona and they charm people. People fall for it and end up getting tricked by them. That's exactly how it happens.
/r/MensRights02/08/24 04:43 AM
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Those last two sentences are where you're the most wrong, my friend. I have stood up and spoken out against things like this. Even though it happened to me, I still blow the whistle when I see things like men getting falsely accused of things. I understand that you've had some bad experiences but please do not project all of women's behavior on to me. Besides, you would be doing exactly what you say that a lot of women are doing. You're accusing me by virtue of being a woman as being complacent.…
/r/MensRights02/08/24 04:41 AM
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Thank you for that very vivid description. I have seen both Marilyn Manson and the Genitourters before. I remember even in 2003 when I saw him on Ozzfest, people were protesting even then. I was like come on now, we're way past that. When are they going to stop doing this? I remember at the end of his DVD guns, gods and government, he was preaching from the satanic bible. I remember him saying something like, first he was reading from the King James version of the Bible. Something about your chi…
/r/MensRights02/08/24 04:39 AM
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That part. I'll admit that I have attracted a couple of fuck boys in my life but I just look at them like they're not good people. That doesn't mean that I view all men as the enemy. I won't let a few bad apples spoil the bunch if you will. Just because a few men are bad doesn't mean all men are bad. I wish women would stop thinking they're all bad just because a few hurt them.
/r/MensRights02/08/24 03:48 AM
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I'm sure they do and it makes me angry when they lie about it. This is because it has actually happened to me. I have been a victim of both rape and domestic violence. That is a very serious accusation and you should never say it unless it's actually happened to you. I'll give a good example of how I feel about it. Remember when Evan Rachel Wood came forward saying that Marilyn Manson abused her? She had absolutely no proof of anything she was saying. I'm sorry but I feel like if you're going to…
/r/MensRights02/08/24 03:46 AM
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I'm not really sure but unfortunately that seems to be the way things are now
/r/MensRights02/08/24 03:45 AM
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Oh I know
/r/MensRights01/08/24 04:44 PM
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I live in the US but I had some lady who was in Australia argue with me and say men can never be victims of domestic violence
/r/MensRights01/08/24 02:51 AM
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It's sad that people need to be told that men can be victims of domestic violence
/r/MensRights31/07/24 11:23 PM
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I can't afford to get him a place. I'm going to talk to my landlord about seeing if I can put him on my lease. I'm going to show him your comment.
/r/MensRights30/07/24 04:31 AM
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I know and it's messed up
/r/MensRights30/07/24 03:29 AM
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I know when I worry about that. He said that the whole reason he was going to leave during that fight is because she swung a baseball bat out of him. He ended up leaving and when she tried telling the police that he hit her, the neighbor told the police that not only did he not hit her, he wasn't even there during the time she was claiming he hit her.
/r/MensRights29/07/24 07:21 PM
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I agree
/r/MensRights29/07/24 04:09 PM
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Unfortunately, no. He still hasn't left her. I just tell him that I love him and I'm here to listen and when he's ready to leave, I will help him move. I hate it because of course you can't tell them to leave but I hate that he's still with her even though she treats him like that. He said the biggest problem is that he's not on the lease and if he leaves, he won't have anywhere else to go. That not being on the lease though I think would be in his favor because at least he's not locked into tha…
/r/MensRights29/07/24 04:08 PM
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My brother's gf said: don't leave or I'll tell the police you hit me. This was when he was trying to leave the house during an argument. Thankfully, the neighbor heard what she said and responded that he'd be happy to tell the police what she just said. Edit: they were outside
/r/MensRights29/07/24 05:24 AM
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Thanks for sharing! I'll pass it along to my male friends.
/r/MensRights28/07/24 07:59 PM
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Maybe lol
/r/MensRights28/07/24 05:12 PM
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Yep, you know, like a unicycle. 🤭
/r/MensRights28/07/24 05:18 AM
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All three
/r/MensRights28/07/24 02:15 AM
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You as well 💜
/r/MensRights27/07/24 10:34 PM
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You're welcome. I'm the same way. I largely stay in my house these days. There's nothing out there I really care to be involved in.
/r/MensRights27/07/24 08:25 PM
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Well you're entitled to your opinion and I'm sorry you went through all that but my opinion is still the same. I stand by what I said and I will never be in another relationship.
/r/MensRights27/07/24 08:24 PM
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Thanks 😊 I don't know, maybe I'm a little jaded but that's just how I feel about relationships now. The thought of marriage terrifies me. I just can't understand why anyone would want to tie themselves down to somebody like that and give up their freedom. I can't understand why anyone would even want to be in a relationship anymore. I mean, I may not be rich or anything but I'm happy with my life. I don't have to factor in another person and I can spend my money the way I want to without consult…
/r/MensRights27/07/24 04:39 PM
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Well, for what it's worth, this internet stranger is proud of you. Most people only judge you because they're jealous of you. You took a path that they didn't and they regret it. That's not your problem. Congrats on your early retirement and I wish you all the success in the world.
/r/MensRights27/07/24 04:37 PM
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I'm sorry but what is the 1-2-3 scale?
/r/MensRights27/07/24 04:00 AM
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I'm a woman and I approve this message. I'll never be in a relationship again. I love my freedom.
/r/MensRights27/07/24 02:12 AM
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You need to figure out what you're passionate about and invest in that Edit: Also, I know it's hard but try not to worry about what other people think about your relationship status. People are going to judge you for not doing what society expects you to do. Don't worry about what they think. Edit 2: People are going to call you selfish for not doing what they do. A lot of them won't admit that they're miserable and only did it because they were told it's what they were supposed to do.
/r/MensRights27/07/24 02:04 AM
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Don't you know? Speaking negatively about women even if it's the truth is misogynistic. /s
/r/MensRights27/07/24 02:04 AM
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A friend of mine's girlfriend seems to be treating him just like that. She only seems to care about what he does for her. She can't even be bothered to spend time with him. It's always: "I'll spend time with you later"and later never comes. She's sure happy to take his good income and live in his house which he owns though. He's a good man and she doesn't deserve him. She uses him and takes him for granted. I can't wait until he finally dumps her and takes his life back. He's better off without …
/r/MensRights27/07/24 02:01 AM
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I'm a woman and I agree with this. I can think of much better ways to spend my time than in a relationship. People waste so much of their lives on them when they could be single and live their lives the way they want to.
/r/MensRights27/07/24 01:55 AM
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I know that this isn't directed at me. I'm a woman. However, I gave up dating because of a few failed relationships. I'm by no means 100% innocent. However, I picked the wrong people and I'm done putting myself through that. My life is calm and quiet and I enjoy it. As far as men, I'm sure it's hard for you because some women are either entitled or worse yet, falsely accuse you and ruin your lives. I don't blame you for not wanting to date. Besides, relationships aren't all they're cracked up to…
/r/MensRights27/07/24 01:30 AM
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slow clap 👏
/r/MensRights24/07/24 06:23 PM
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Why are you here if you obviously don't care about men? I'm sick of people like you coming in here and spouting this kind of bullshit. That is not what this sub exists for. If you want to go spout your sexist bullshit, do it somewhere else.
/r/MensRights24/07/24 06:22 PM
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That part. I was thinking the exact same thing. The fact that she's claiming that he's abusive and then emptied the bank accounts and canceled his credit card and reported it as stolen is super suspicious. Especially because like you said, it was done in such a short amount of time. I honestly rolled my eyes at this not because I think he's lying. I believe him. Just because she's pulling all the typical shit that women do when they are actually the abusers. I was in a domestic violence shelter …
/r/MensRights24/07/24 06:19 PM
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Yep exactly
/r/MensRights24/07/24 05:05 AM
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Maybe hate is the wrong word. I do seem to notice a common theme where they all talk about how pretty much all men are the same. They make poor choices and then complain that men won't just overlook them.
/r/MensRights23/07/24 08:10 PM
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Well bemoan their own choices and wonder why men won't overlook them
/r/MensRights23/07/24 08:09 PM
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I'm a woman and I agree with you. All they seem to do is talk about how all men are the same and how they hate men and men are all typical. They all seem to hate men yet can't understand why they can't keep one. Typical toxic feminism stuff.
/r/MensRights23/07/24 07:46 PM
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I'm a woman and even I think it's a stupid show. The central theme also seems to be hatred of men. Talking about how all men are typical and they all cheat and don't know what they want etc.
/r/MensRights23/07/24 07:44 PM
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Thanks
/r/MensRights22/07/24 07:01 PM
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lol 🤣
/r/MensRights22/07/24 06:56 PM
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I agree. If you ask me, that woman also seemed mad that her husband was paying attention to another woman in general. Her attitude seems to be, how dare he focus on another woman for even 5 minutes? That whole post was all about her and how she felt. It was really disgusting and honestly, I would not be surprised if he leaves her. It sounds like he's getting fed up with her anyway.
/r/MensRights22/07/24 06:55 PM
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Exactly. I just got called to pick me for the second time today. This is because I once again called out a woman's behavior towards her husband. He warned her that he was not going to put up with childish mind games and she did exactly that and now she's surprised that he has been staying with a friend and is not answering her messages. As I said in my other comment, play stupid games, win stupid prizes. It sounds to me like this has been a pattern and he's finally tired of her shit and he's lef…
/r/MensRights22/07/24 06:53 PM
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Exactly 🤣
/r/MensRights22/07/24 03:52 PM
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Either way she has blatantly ignored his requests and it's not okay. I understand why he's getting fed up with her.
/r/MensRights22/07/24 03:51 PM
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You're welcome but it was really no big deal. I was just looking at it objectively. I just noticed the double standard. If a woman voices having an issue with something her partner did, it's supposedly fine. If he does the same thing, suddenly he's an abusive asshole. It's just a common theme on Reddit and really the world anymore.
/r/MensRights22/07/24 03:24 AM
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Even as a woman, I find it gross. It's just unsanitary and unhygienic. Not only that, it stretches your pores out if you do that for long enough.
/r/MensRights22/07/24 03:20 AM
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Apparently so lol
/r/MensRights22/07/24 03:19 AM
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That part and as someone else pointed out, who TF wears makeup to bed anyway? Who is she trying to impress?
/r/MensRights22/07/24 03:10 AM
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Yep, that's exactly what I'm saying.
/r/MensRights22/07/24 03:09 AM
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I feel the same way and I'm a woman. I got attacked yesterday when I defended a man who was simply calling out his girlfriend for repeating a behavior that he asked her not to do. They don't live together and it's his house. He asked her to stop wearing makeup and sleeping in his sheets. He said either take it off before you go to bed or just don't wear makeup at my house. It seems like a reasonable request. However, because he was getting fed up with her because he was having to once again repe…
/r/MensRights22/07/24 02:29 AM
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I'm a woman and thank you! This is what I've been saying for a long time. When I argue this, they call me a pick me girl and dismiss me. It's okay. It doesn't bother me. I just laugh at them either literally or internally and just go back to what I was doing.
/r/MensRights21/07/24 08:59 PM
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Aaand there it is, the attacking the women they call pick me girls. Women like me and a few others who are in here sometimes. They say that we devalue ourselves and that we do it for male attention. No, we just don't act like this because we know what it takes to be a partner. Some of the other stuff was like basically, I want a man who will think for me. I shouldn't have to do anything or even think about anything. Where the fuck are these women coming from? Toxic feminism is the worst thing th…
/r/MensRights21/07/24 08:28 PM
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My friend and I were just talking about something like this the other day. Women dress in attention getting clothes. Then they get mad at men looking at them. That's the short of it. The long of it is that they get mad if it's a man that they don't find attractive or that society does not deem as attractive looking at them. Now, if it's someone that they are attracted to or has a lot of money, suddenly it's fine that they're getting stared at. They won't admit it but that's why they do it. They'…
/r/MensRights21/07/24 08:24 PM
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Yep and they do this and then lament about how they can't find a good man. I saw a post yesterday where it was this really long list of things that you should and should not do that this woman wrote. It was honestly kind of disturbing and I felt sorry for anybody who dated her. Then again, at least she warned them. I went on a date with a guy who insisted on paying but he said he appreciated that I at least offered to split the bill before we even went on the date. He said, nonsense. I'm the one…
/r/MensRights21/07/24 08:19 PM
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No it doesn't. I haven't pursued it, I'd let him do that. I genuinely care about him as a person. If he wants something more then fine and if not, that's fine too.
/r/MensRights14/06/24 02:46 AM
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That's very true. When you grow up in chaos, you equate chaos with love. Healthy relationships seem boring to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 12:37 AM
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I can see what you're saying though. If you grow up in a toxic family, it's normal to you. You tend to pick toxic partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 12:13 AM
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That's not necessarily true. I was with a guy like that and I saw how unhealthy his mom's behavior was.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 10:17 PM
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I know that this is 2 months old but I did a search for something else and stumbled on this. That's exactly it. They have quasi relationships with their sons. It's called enmeshment and emotional incest. I dated a guy whose mom was like that. Do not recommend.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 10:14 PM
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Thank you 😊
/r/MensRights11/06/24 05:10 AM
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I understand why you would say that and I'm sorry for what you've been through but he's starting to. He's starting to open up more. Edit: I agree with your last sentence but he has a safe place with me. I'm not going to hold it against him later and I think it's messed up that women do that.
/r/MensRights09/06/24 05:51 PM
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Yes and he's trying but it's difficult because I'm left-handed and all he has is right handed guitars. He's talking about stringing One backwards for me. Another cool thing is that he also has the Type O Negative waa waa pedal. After Peter Steele died, they sold their gear off. He ended up getting his hands on that and was showing it to me because he knows that they're one of my favorite bands.
/r/MensRights08/06/24 06:48 PM
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He actually has, he builds guitars for a living. I've taken interest in that. He has the first one he ever built and he says it's not playable. He has to take it apart. I told him that it doesn't matter, he should keep it just because it's the first one he ever built. I told him that I noticed that he was getting faster at it and he said that was a compliment.
/r/MensRights08/06/24 05:14 PM
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Okay, thank you. I will definitely try that.
/r/MensRights08/06/24 08:41 AM
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I won't and I've never understood women who do. They do that and then they're like, wHy dOn'T yOu tAlK tO mE aNyMoRe? They also wonder why they get cheated on. I hate to say it but sometimes the person being cheated on did something to contribute to it. Sure, the other person should just leave. Sometimes the other person cheats because their partner is treating them badly. I know doing that is not only counterproductive but just wrong.
/r/MensRights07/06/24 08:21 PM
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Thank you so much I know exactly what you mean and I hate it too. It's like when people say, I'll pray for you. They may as well have come out and said, I don't care.
/r/MensRights07/06/24 07:54 PM
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Thank you for your thorough response. I will keep this in mind. It was more in the vein of, I know that you never want to try to force a man to talk about anything. Just let him know that you're there to listen if he does want to talk. I appreciate it though and I will definitely keep it in mind as I said.
/r/MensRights07/06/24 06:48 PM
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Exactly. That's something I've said over the last few years since I watched my friend go through all that. I don't tell a lot of people this but I actually helped him pay his bills while he was going through all of that. He would have lost his house if I had not and there was no way I was going to let that happen. He had just closed on it like a couple of months before he got hit with that. I didn't even know it was happening until I saw him post about it on facebook. He was saying how all this …
/r/MensRights07/06/24 02:07 AM
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Thank you for saying that. I hope he has an easier time moving forward as well. I so agree with you about how men are put through the ringer. I was just commenting to someone else about how I watched a friend of mine go through it with his daughter's mother. She disappeared for the first 5 years of their daughter's life and he cared for her completely on his own. When she showed back up deciding that she wanted to pretend to be a mother, he ended up having to pay her child support. Because he ha…
/r/MensRights07/06/24 12:44 AM
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You're exactly right. When I left my ex, I did everything I could to stay away from him. I didn't constantly be calling him and texting him and trying to stay on his radar. In fact, I went into hiding for 3 months until I felt that it was safe to come out. She did the exact opposite of that. You're right in saying that if only the courts opened up their eyes and saw this. All too often, abused people are forced to have to interact with people who abused them because they share children. As we kn…
/r/MensRights07/06/24 12:41 AM
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Exactly and I'm hoping to at least contribute to that a little bit. I know, she was a beast. I watched that whole trail and I was outraged at the people who were immediately siding with Amber Heard and saying she was the victim just because she's a woman. I was like, if you even look at the pictures of Johnny Depp during their relationship, you can see that he's the real victim. The other thing that pissed me off was that she claimed that he blacked both of her eyes the night before they went to…
/r/MensRights07/06/24 12:02 AM
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Thanks
/r/MensRights06/06/24 09:37 PM
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I know, she does it to me too. Sometimes I'll just be outside getting some air for a minute and she'll pop up from around the corner and meow at me and then go back to what she was doing. She's a smart little cat.
/r/MensRights06/06/24 09:09 PM
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I'm very aware of that and that was part of my motivation for trying to do this for him. Not only that, I really do just really care about him as a person. He's a sweet man and he's a good man and he deserves better than how he's been treated. I do think it's really sad that women are taught to view men through that lens.
/r/MensRights06/06/24 08:54 PM
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No, I'm not after his money. I make plenty of my own but go off. First of all, he invited me into his life and secondly, he's the one who said he wanted to keep hanging out but go off since you think you know so much.
/r/MensRights06/06/24 08:45 PM
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No, I'm not trying to manipulate him. I'm trying to make him understand that if he chooses to open up to me, I'm a safe place for him to do so. I'm sorry that you've been hurt by women but it's not okay for you to group me into that category with them and assume I'm being manipulative. Also, since you think you know so much, he contacted me. He was the whole reason we started hanging out. He asked me if I wanted to hang out and then he said he wanted to make it a regular thing. I have not forced…
/r/MensRights06/06/24 08:43 PM
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I do all the time. For example, he builds guitars for a living. I gave him a compliment about how they're looking better. He was showing me some of his work and I said, yeah, it looks really good. I said I also noticed that you're getting faster at it but the quality of work is just as good. He said thank you, that's a compliment. He said that nobody had ever really noticed it before.
/r/MensRights06/06/24 08:41 PM
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That sounds amazing
/r/MensRights06/06/24 08:40 PM
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I would honestly be okay with that. That's not to say that I have an ulterior motive for that to happen. I genuinely do just care about him as a person. I can tell he's been hurt a lot and I want him to know that there are people in this world who care about him despite what he's been through.
/r/MensRights06/06/24 08:33 PM
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From what I've heard about them, I'm sure I'm much better. They either use his insecurities against him or they treat him like a bank account from what he's told me. Of course I'm not perfect but I definitely wouldn't do that.
/r/MensRights06/06/24 07:37 PM
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You're welcome
/r/MensRights06/06/24 06:47 PM
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Yep and that's what I plan on doing. I never wanted to force him to open up to me. Some people seem to think that that's what I was trying to do. I just wanted to let him know it was an option is all. I will definitely keep this in mind.
/r/MensRights06/06/24 06:46 PM
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I also wanted to help figure out how to do all that. I'm actually going to school right now to get my MSW to focus on those issues. It's about time we start recognizing men as victims and start helping them. They shouldn't have to lose custody of their children just because they go through a divorce and they shouldn't have to be homeless because they chose to leave a relationship where they were being abused. It's 2024 and that attitude of men being the aggressor all the time needs to end. I've …
/r/MensRights06/06/24 05:55 PM
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I understand what you're saying and I also completely understand that men are given the short end of the stick and family court and also when it comes to domestic violence. That being said, I still don't think it's fair for you to basically verbally attack me because you think that I'm like all the other women you've encountered. You say you want equal rights and I'm all for that but you're doing the exact same thing you claim to be against. Sure, I can see how you have your guard up because of …
/r/MensRights06/06/24 05:51 PM
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I don't see how this is a request on how to manipulate him. I understand that your guard is up but I absolutely think it's unfair for you to assume that I'm trying to manipulate him. Let me tell you something, yes, toxic feminism has gotten way out of hand but there are still good women in this world just like there are good men. I could be the same way as you, I could have the same attitude. I've had a few men hurt me but I don't assume that you're all that way.
/r/MensRights06/06/24 05:49 PM
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I could say the same thing because I've had quite a few men treat me the same way. I'm cautious but I'm not going to assume that all men are going to treat me the same way. That's basically what those of you who have commented negatively on this have done. I can understand why your guards are up but I don't think it's fair to say that I'm going to be treating him the same way simply because I'm a woman. You talk about equal rights and wanting them and I'm all for that but if you think about it, …
/r/MensRights06/06/24 05:48 PM
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I can understand why you feel the way you do but you definitely took this the wrong way. I'm not one of those feminists looking to infiltrate the sub. I asked this because as somebody said, if I were to do it on relationship advice, I would be told by a bunch of women to stop hanging out with him because he's a man and he's dangerous. That or as they also said, he must have used them and all the other ridiculous things they think.
/r/MensRights06/06/24 05:45 PM
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I'm not trying to wheedle my way into his life as you put it. I'm just letting him know that unlike most of the women he's dealt with, I do care about him and that he can open up to me if he wants to. That's what you do for friends, you listen to them and you be there for them when they need you. I'm sorry that you think that I'm doing anything differently. I can understand why you have your guard up but I'm not one of those women. And by the way, I didn't force my way into his life, he invited …
/r/MensRights06/06/24 05:42 PM
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Not necessarily but it's not like I wouldn't be open to that. However, I really do just care about him a lot. I don't have ulterior motives for saying this. It just makes me mad that he's been treated that way by so many different women. He's a good man and doesn't deserve that.
/r/MensRights06/06/24 05:39 PM
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Well, damn. I'm sorry you've gone through that. I can completely understand though. I understand what it's like to close yourself off too because you've been hurt.
/r/MensRights06/06/24 05:39 PM
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This is very good advice, thank you. I didn't think about that but you're right, I can never give him true comprehension because I don't know what it's like to be in his shoes. I don't know what it's like to be a man and be treated the way he is. The way a lot of men are. I don't know what happened but this whole toxic feminism thing has gotten out of hand. I mean, it never should have happened in the first place but it's getting ridiculous. I swear, I want to tell some women, I get it, you hate…
/r/MensRights06/06/24 05:37 PM
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Yeah I definitely notice a pattern and that just gave me a bad taste in my mouth. Like seriously, the only reason they got a hold of you is because they needed a favor? I wouldn't call them friends. I'm sorry you were treated like that. Did you have fun on your cross country trek? I'm sorry your ex cheated on you. I know what it feels like to be cheated on and it's one of the worst feelings in the world.
/r/MensRights06/06/24 05:34 PM
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Oh, I would definitely never do that to him. I also believe in never airing an ex's dirty laundry no matter how bad the breakup was. There are certain things you just don't do. Like I had a pretty bad break up with an ex and there were some things that he told me that I still haven't told anybody because well, he told me those in confidence. He told me during our relationship and I promised him I wouldn't say anything and I haven't. It wasn't for anybody else to know.
/r/MensRights06/06/24 05:30 PM
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Yes but I'm not going to lie and say that if it didn't go somewhere else, I wouldn't be open to that. I would just take it very slowly. I'm not doing this because I have any ulterior motives, I really do care about him.
/r/MensRights06/06/24 05:29 PM
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Thank you for your thoughtful response. I'm aware of that it's insulting to a man to try to take on his struggles for him. They're taught to shoulder everything. I just want him to know that he doesn't have to and that if he chooses to open up to me, he can do so without fear of me judging him. He said he's had a lot of women do that. I can understand why one would close themselves off after having that experience but I want him to know he doesn't have to do that with me.
/r/MensRights06/06/24 05:28 PM
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I'm certainly not planning on it. I've been invited to speak at my local domestic violence shelters breakfast to this october. I'm going to tell my story but I'm also going to touch on how the Duluth model is outdated and how men need to be recognized as survivors more than they are. I'm going to use the opportunity to try to raise more awareness on that. If they get mad at me then so be it but they shouldn't be because well, domestic violence affects all walks of life and all genders. It's 2024…
/r/MensRights06/06/24 05:24 PM
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I understand that. He's a man and like you said, he's human and he's not a toy.
/r/MensRights06/06/24 05:23 PM
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He actually does have this outside cat that runs in sometimes. She is pretty independent but she's his cat whether she wants to admit it or not is what we've said lol. She does this thing that's adorable. He lets her in that apartment and then he leaves for work or whatever he's going to go do. Every time she hears somebody pull up to the apartment, she meows and goes running to the door. It's adorable. I've told him, she's your cat. She might think she isn't but she is.
/r/MensRights06/06/24 05:22 PM
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I don't feel like I'm entitled to that, I just want him to know that I won't judge him if he does. A lot of people have been thinking that and I can see why but that's my fault because I probably should have been clearer. I just mean that like I said, I wanted to know that he can without fear of judgment. He said that a lot of people have judged him on his past. He's had women laugh at him for opening up to him. I understand that it's all too easy to close yourself off when you've had people hur…
/r/MensRights06/06/24 05:20 PM
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I completely understand. I just want him to know that he can without fear of judgement.
/r/MensRights06/06/24 08:28 AM
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Thanks. I also try to find stuff to compliment him on but it's always genuine.
/r/MensRights06/06/24 08:16 AM
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Thanks
/r/MensRights06/06/24 08:15 AM
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Thank you and I'm sorry that happened to you. You didn't deserve that.
/r/MensRights06/06/24 08:08 AM
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I do hug him quite a bit. Usually when I first greet him. Sometimes he'll leave me at his house while he's working and when he comes home, I greet him with a hug and sometimes even dinner.
/r/MensRights06/06/24 08:06 AM
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I would completely understand that. I just want him to know he can open up to me without fear of judgement if/when he's ready.
/r/MensRights06/06/24 08:02 AM
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Thanks 😊
/r/MensRights06/06/24 07:59 AM
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I've been doing that lately. I empathized with him on how hard it is to be a man in the dating world now. How you have to be careful because you never know if a woman may falsely claim that you assaulted her. I talk about silly stuff with him too. For example, earlier, he asked me if I remembered the noid. It was a mascot that domino's had in the 80s. I said yes. He said, see that's why I like you. You're younger than me but not so young that you don't get my references. You also don't judge me …
/r/MensRights06/06/24 07:54 AM
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There are good women out there. I'm sure more male friends are good for him. However, this came across like he shouldn't be friends with me because I'm a woman. Maybe I misread your intent so forgive me. Please extrapolate.
/r/MensRights06/06/24 02:54 AM
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I'm a survivor of domestic violence and I agree with this. It needs to be done away with. It's assuming that men are the aggressors.
/r/MensRights06/06/24 02:43 AM
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