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Lmao yeah. I was a little fascinated when I stumbled upon this sub initially because I do like analyzing things, but I've never seen such gross overcomplication and overanalysis of simple and obvious things. Not to mention, literally the same shit stated over and over again in different words. It'd make you laugh and roll your eyes at the same time.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 04:57 PM
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It's not about moral and immoral, but those two things just don't go together. No worries though.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/22 08:13 AM
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You're planning to get into a serious relationship/marriage while being on the lookout for getting gangbanged by strangers? LOL
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/22 07:49 AM
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The bottom rung of womanhood talking about the true side of men. Interesting.
/r/AntiFeminists15/06/22 09:51 AM
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I don't fit into the red pilled or blue pilled category either. I'd say I have some traits of both and it's not like I've carefully picked them, but this is just who I am. For instance, I "saved" myself for my husband sexually. But it wasn't just for the husband, I wasn't interested in sharing my body with someone I wouldn't spend my life with anyway. I let my husband be the ultimate decision maker most of the times when we disagree, but not out of subservience. Rather because I like to keep lif…
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/22 06:15 AM
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Eh, I've seen many posts about how women should be allowed to have their standards when it comes to physical attractiveness. They do care about looks too, as any normal person would. And they definitely do care about financial stability as well. No man would want to do all that for some ordinary woman (who is willing to make zero compromises herself) unless he absolutely didn't have options, and they don't talk about what makes them so extraordinary to deserve all that, that's the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 01:05 PM
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Yeah, they seem to believe all of them deserve "HVM" by virtue of being women. They never talk about how to be better women who are actually worthy of those ideal men and relationships, or how they would add value to those supposed HVM's lives. Why would a good looking and financially stable man be willing to provide for you expecting zero financial contribution from you, do his equal share of household work and childcare, and on top of that, worship the ground you walk on by showering you with …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 10:07 AM
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It isn't. It's just that FDSers seem to call anyone who isn't being an entitled bitch a pick me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 04:12 AM
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The problem is that N count alone cannot represent good impulse control. Who has better impulse control, a highly attractive man who could be pulling multiple women every week but is fairly picky and sleeps with only a couple of new women every year (and therefore manages to have a cumulative N count that is classified as 'high' by say late twenties), or an unattractive man who would fuck anyone if given the chance but simply doesn't have options? These are two extreme cases, but this is just an…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 05:09 PM
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I do love my partner and while he may piss me off a bit at times, I cannot imagine a life without him/ with anyone else. Together 5.5 years, married 2.5 years. I think 95% of our time spent together is happy time in general. What I love the most : We can really be ourselves with each other. We pretty much always speak our mind and don't have to sugar coat things. It seems like so many people struggle with basic communication with their partners and are always worried about hurting feelings, and …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 06:44 AM
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Well yeah. I should mention that I'm from a more conservative non western part of the world though, so this is not as rare, but still not very common in the people of my generation + socioeconomic class anymore
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 03:16 PM
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Lost mine at 26 to my husband. No religious reasons, I just didn't want to give access to my body to anyone other than the man I was going to spend my life with. It's just the way I am. No regrets.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 04:09 AM
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This sub has seriously downgraded recently. I used to enjoy reading some of the posts, but now it's like every single post is borderline hateful and full of bias and you hardly see any neutral, unbiased posts at all. The men here are no different from crybaby feminists with perpetual victim syndrome who think men are responsible for every minuscule problem in their lives and get mad when others don't acknowledge that. As someone who thinks both men and women have their fair share of problems in …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 03:28 PM
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Lol men want to be the special ones. They want women to be putting out quickly, but only to them. Most of them do not even have any special characteristics which entitle them to this special treatment. Also, when women are quicker to say yes to sleep with more attractive men, they're again called hypocrites because they put out to Chad but not to them. As if they aren't more interested in hotter women themselves, it's another story if their standards are awfully low and they take what they can g…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 11:51 AM
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For me, even 20 would be a high count, but I also come from a conservative country and was a virgin myself when I married. My husband had a count of 40+. He hoed around for 2 years after breaking up with his ex. Disgusted, not really. Surprised, yes. Because this is a huge number in a country where women are believed to not sleep around commonly, and because despite his past, he was willing to wait it out with me (I was pretty clear about no pre-marital sex since the very beginning and we dated …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 01:07 PM
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If wife has sacrificed her career for the sake of marriage with mutual consent of both - say moving to a different country to be with her husband, or for the sake of childcare, and then finds some side gig where she's making a bit of money while also taking care of the major chunk of SAHM duties, I would agree she should be keeping her money separate and it's still the man who is supposed to be the provider. BUT, the women of that forum preach that women shouldn't ever sacrifice their careers, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 06:44 PM
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Haha this sums up FDS women so accurately. They are against the traditional set up where the husband was the dominant one who made and managed money while wife took care of the home, and are also equally against 50:50, prenups, paying for stuff, etc. To them, 'HVM' is someone who expects absolutely nothing out of them in a relationship while giving everything - he splits all household chores and childcare and wants zero financial contribution from his wife while borderline worshipping her. It's …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 06:23 PM
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Problem is that if evolutionary wiring is a strong influence, so is societal conditioning. Society is changing and more of the men and women now have traits that were stereotypically attributed to the other gender. There are definitely women who like to get around with a lot of men and there are men who don't , there are women who are with men that are less well off financially AND happy in their relationships, and there are also men who catch feelings for 'sluts' and can't let go. You think all…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 04:00 PM
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We did make out a lot but I never really felt like I was losing control, even if I was turned on physically, I knew what I had to do. Very clear communication with your partner about this helps. It was often difficult for him but he never seriously tried to persuade me into going all the way, because he knew it wasn't going to happen, and he respected my values. He didn't have the same value system as me, he'd slept with other women before me (not that I cared), but he knew if he had to have me,…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/21 12:04 PM
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Besides improving chances with men, it will also be great for your health and overall self esteem. And honestly, at 19, you have plenty of time. Just go at it gradually and consistently, you might hate the loose skin at first but it will get substantially better while you will still be in your prime. All the best!
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/21 05:56 AM
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It's true that getting to the stage of obesity is bad in itself even if you do revert back to decent shape and you probably wouldn't have the body you would've had, had you never gotten obese. But losing weight is definitely better than staying fat any day, so don't have second thoughts about that first of all. If this is about men, a decent man would appreciate that you at least made the effort to upgrade your health and appearance. You gotta do the best you can do to repair the damage at this …
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/21 05:28 AM
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Eh no. Most men who are super successful in dating market also have wide social circles and a good amount of male friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 03:58 AM
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Yeah as if men are talking about Bertha who weighs 250 pounds and wears braces and inch thick glasses when they say they like nerdy girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/21 11:32 AM
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Speaking only for best friends who I know in and out - I don't believe they're necessarily catches considering their physical appearance, education or career. But I do believe they're catches in terms of their value system, which is something rare to find these days. So it really depends what the man in question is looking for. There are also women I'm kinda friends with and we have a good equation but they have trouble with relationships. They're clingy/ expect too much from men/ inflate their …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 07:44 AM
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I read that nudes and stuff are still allowed though, just not full on sex videos? I don't see there being a major impact in that case
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 11:41 AM
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Yes, I think so. I remember a short and chubby girl with just a decent face from back in high-school. She was one of the popular girls, and dated around a lot because she was VERY outgoing, friendly and had a large social circle. If she was a shy and timid introvert, I don't think she would be doing nearly as good just based on her looks. You've to consider that many guys are awkward themselves and they'd feel better with a girl who can make them comfortable and is easy to talk to. Only remarkab…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 08:29 AM
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This sub REALLY exaggerates how much men and women hate each other. If you get off the internet and look around, you'll see many people dating each other pretty normally and happily lol. MOST of the people aren't radical feminists or MRA's
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 07:12 AM
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If highly attractive and desirable guys are willing to sleep with mediocre looking slutty women then that's on them lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 04:52 AM
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They're much like equivalents of each other despite looking like polar opposites. Both occasionally have good points to make but are ridiculous more often.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 06:05 PM
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Well, no? She's pretty much making a conscious selfish choice to get the 'best of both worlds'. It's not some one time accident. If you loved your partner, you couldn't be that selfish.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 08:24 PM
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Omg I thought of this sub (and similar subs) all the time while watching it. I basically fast forwarded the whole thing and found it to be bit of a snoozefest but yeah, plot literally seems picked from here lol. Billie is the classic deranged modern sexually liberal American woman who got passed around lower east side, got screwed over by bad boys, then disguised her sexual past and eventually settled down with a perfect provider, however she just cannot stop craving that alpha bad boy rush. She…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 07:56 PM
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Not attracted. I'm somewhat socially awkward and introverted myself, but I wouldn't find that attractive on a man, honestly. One of the reasons why I got so seriously involved with my now husband was because he knew how to make my awkward self super comfortable, and bought out the hidden extrovert energy in me which only comes out with a handful of people. To most guys, I just came off as stuck up/hard to get to know. If the guy is socially awkward himself, I think we'd be doomed.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 01:14 PM
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I do think of an ideal relationship as one in which the man has atleast a slight degree of dominance, although he is perfectly respectful towards his woman. It's a bit complex though because I am not naturally very submissive and agreeable, however I do appreciate a man who can make me want to follow his lead. I can't submit to just any man though, I can't see myself submitting to a man with a weak personality and demeanor. It is only fun if he's worthy of taking the lead.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/21 10:51 AM
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Lol non binary is nothing but a new fad. There's no use getting analytical about their dating prospects.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/21 04:10 PM
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Well we know we cannot just sit around and feel "entitled" to food. This is why bust our asses 40 hours a week, so that we have something on our plates. We do something to get something. Similarly - you only deserve something from your partner if you're ready and willing to give it all back. That's all I meant lol. Have a nice day
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 04:56 PM
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Parental love is by default supposed to be unconditional. I agree every child deserves it. Romantic relationships and adult friendships, though, are completely give and take relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 04:47 PM
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Basic respect, yes. Being loved unconditionally and put on a pedestal, no. I don't see how that's toxic. Ofcourse many people don't get what they deserve, we were talking about those who feel entitled to things they don't really do anything to deserve
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 04:43 PM
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Ofcourse, there's nothing praiseworthy about being a doormat, whether you're a man or woman. But women seem to have entitlement issues when they speak these platitudes like "every woman deserves a man who loves her unconditionally/who makes her feel like the most beautiful woman" and what not. Every woman includes every woman - even women who are total bitches and no, they don't "deserve" all that. A good woman who does exactly the same for her man is the only one who deserves that. I feel like …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 03:26 PM
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I'm a woman and I find all the self esteem boosting hoopla going around these days to be ridiculous. Sentences starting with "every woman deserves..." are stupid in themselves because you don't deserve anything by the virtue of being a woman. Neither do men. You deserve what you make yourself worthy of.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 01:34 PM
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Being short, skinny (especially skinny arms), not muscular. I'm a taller than average woman and have relatively broad shoulders for a female, so that won't work with me. I want to feel smaller compared to the man I'm with. Balding - somewhat of a receding hairline is perfectly fine. But if bald scalp has started to show, I don't find that attractive. I wouldn't mind if my man loses hair later on but for initial attraction, I would need some hair on your head. Soft looking, feminine, baby face - …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 02:55 PM
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Rarely do FWB sort of casual relationships transition well into actual serious relationships. I think you were doomed from the beginning. It might sound old school but I wouldn't advice starting out with casual sex if you're looking for something serious.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/21 09:38 AM
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If you find an understanding and supportive partner, you should be able to do both. It won't be an easy road to walk but that's the bitter truth about being a woman - you want a career but that clock never stops ticking.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/21 03:39 AM
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This is fit for women who laze around in their couches all day while their men are out grilling themselves. But for women who have a career and work just as hard as their men, no. Though I definitely don't support being a bitch about everything. I personally do most of the housework along with a full time job, but not because I think it's my obligation as a wife. It's because I know my man hates doing this stuff and I love him enough to just let him do what he want. However the minute he starts …
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/21 10:24 AM
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