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I agree with this. Any wife can have duty sex with a dude. If she genuinely wants to kiss you passionately a lot of the time, she finds you very hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/19 10:38 PM
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Look in the same way that there are women who are evil and only use men for money or your resources, Danny Devito is an outlier. I hate when people bring up one case in a sea of opposing cases and say “See?! Obviously your point is wrong!”. If it weren’t so unusual you wouldn’t have noticed it, and you wouldn’t even bring it up here as some sort of “Gotcha!”. This proves nothing, only that Danny Devito is good with women. Not to mention dating is different back when was different than it is now,…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/19 12:40 PM
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That wasn’t my intention. Again I am not looking for sympathy or any of that shit. I don’t have some sort of disability, I don’t think I should be able to park in the handicapped parking spot or that I should get a check from the gov’t. I also don’t think people should give me things for my misfortune or that I need help. I am disappointed with how my life turned out, however my severe disappointment and feeling of failure hasn’t ruined my relationships, hasn’t ruined my ability to get and keep …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/19 03:43 AM
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My current gf didn’t have sex with anyone before she met me, she wasn’t even ugly or anything, just had severe social anxiety and very awkward. She was also 4 years younger than me, being 20 when I was 24. We’ve been together for two years. Regardless of my happiness with her, my sense of missing out and overall feeling of failure is still there. I still wanted casual sex, a low n-count woman isn’t going to make me be okay with my failure and my intention of dating her wasn’t to make me feel bet…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/19 03:23 AM
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So this is my experience and my feelings on it, although it seems to be agreed upon. I don’t hate high n-count women, I never really have. I hate the fact that I myself couldn’t have a high n count. I never got casual sex at all in my life, and partner I had was through a relationship. I came to this realization when I dated a girl with an extremely high n-count and I couldn’t be with her. When I talked about it with people they all said it was because I was insecure, that I couldn’t “live up” t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/19 01:05 AM
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Have you been on tinder? Or to a frat party?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/19 10:40 PM
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Well to be honest I’m very disappointed with my life too. I have the “preferred” life in that I’ve been able to form long lasting relationships and have loyal and intimate relationships with my exes and current gf. However I have never had casual sex, and it’s not like I didnt try to get it, it’s that the universe kind of said “you’re not having it”. Tbh i would give away all my past relationships to be hot enough to be a Chad and get casual sex. I would value a casual hookup through tinder or a…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/19 09:57 PM
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I mean if that’s what his specific goals are and it makes him happy, then who cares?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/19 09:42 PM
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Of course you can find a woman that doesn’t find him attractive, the fact is that most women would find him attractive and thereby would have casual sexual with him. Who cares about the outliers, it’s the fact that Chads appeal to a larger quantity of women. It’s impossible to be attractive or unattractive to everyone, but certain men with certain features just appeal to more women, that’s the reality of things.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/19 09:39 PM
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Sure. I don’t blame women for not wanting casual sex with me, I blame myself for not being hot enough. This did not go the way you thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/19 09:38 PM
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I’m gonna assume you’re tall and put your height in your bio, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/19 03:12 PM
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Still though, behavior can only make up a small amount for your looks. Casual sex is more or less determined by your looks, and when it comes to looks other physical aspects can make up (I.e if you are short, but have a good looking face, then you can still get laid and vice versa). I don’t think personality really is key for casual sex at all, a woman knows within 15 seconds if she wants to fuck you and will do whatever it takes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/19 02:41 PM
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I mean it might be you’re just not as attractive as your brother.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/19 01:55 PM
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Seriously, I hate this thing incels and sometimes redpillers throw around that the bottom 80%ers aren’t procreating and having some sex. They aren’t having an abundance of sex whatsoever, maybe even only in relationships and a hookup once or twice in their lives with a fat chick, but they’re still having offspring as there are plenty of short and average to below average looking kids. If it was really only the top 20% having sex, we’d only really see Chads walking around tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/19 01:51 PM
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Even if that is true, a single mother would imply that she had sex with a Chad who pumped and dumped her, resulting him in being good looking. Lots of Chads out there with single moms, even if she makes him act like a beta, odds are they’ll take after their dads and be tall and attractive so it won’t really matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/19 01:48 PM
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I am aware that getting laid a lot will not make me overall more happier, but it will tell me I am attractive, and have options in the dating world. It will make me happy in that aspect of my life, it doesn’t fix the whole, and to be honest that aspect and me being specifically happy in that regard is what matters most to me. As someone who has never had casual sex, I feel like I missed out on the human experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/19 02:49 PM
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I’ve always wondered if fetishes arise because it’s what they prefer, or if it’s the only thing they can get. I say this because my friend before meeting his gf of 7 years had no interest whatsoever in Asian women, however she was the only woman who has ever shown any interest in him. He then somehow developed an Asian fetish shortly after starting to date her.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/19 02:03 AM
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M, 25, I don’t even know Mostly a person you are close with you are not sexually attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/19 04:45 PM
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Yes, but more likely they use the possibility of sex to manipulate men way more even if they don’t have any intention of having sex with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/19 10:48 PM
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That’s sad. What did Billy ever do to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/19 10:40 PM
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Correct me if I am wrong OP, but didn’t she actually work for Amazon in the very beginning and was one of their first accountants?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/19 10:36 PM
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OP what view are we supposed to change here? Also link what CMV you’re talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/19 10:33 PM
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I know. I was being sarcastic, because in reality if looks didn’t matter then it doesn’t matter if I changed my face, it’s all “spiritual”
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/19 11:17 PM
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If you’re not deformed this is probably not the case. Actually it’s just called being average looking, and average isn’t attractive. So? I’m not gonna start mutilating myself for other people That’s fair for you to think, and I respect your choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/19 11:07 PM
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So? We’re social creatures, how can you expect a person to feel like they’re good looking if nobody else thinks so? You can tell yourself you’re the hottest guy ever, but if no one else thinks so then you’re just unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/19 10:53 PM
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I’m curious why you bring up mental health about plastic surgery? There’s nothing wrong with changing your face if you don’t like how you look and aren’t getting the attention you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/19 10:45 PM
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No. Fact is that for many men and women, without these things their presence wouldn’t even be registered yet everyone always screams about how it’s the inside and personality that matters. Look, if the inside is what truly matters, then it doesn’t matter if a person changes their face either by shopping at Sephora, or heading to an doctor to give you an implant, they’re still the same person right?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/19 10:44 PM
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I also dated a conventionally hot woman and attest to this. I dated her before Venmo became a more wide spread thing, but I guarantee if she put it on her social media then she would get money just for being hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/19 07:56 PM
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When tall and attractive guys who mention they are 6 feet think they’re qualified to give advice on tinder. I get you’re trying to help, but just because you get matches for being attractive doesn’t mean you’re some “master” on tinder. You can have any kind of pic or bio and women will still message you to smash. “You just gotta have a witty bio and interesting pictures bro” says to an average looking short dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/19 12:11 AM
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The being less attractive one is me. I didn’t lose my virginity until I was 18. I ended up being a nice guy, but it was because i thought it would give me an edge up being that I wasn’t good looking and my niceness would be better than all those “assholes”. I mean I learned I was wrong pretty quick, but yeah being bullied and rejected kind of steered me into that direction.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 09:48 PM
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I think you are right. I would say I’m lucky in that with all of my relationships I had sex before we got together, and the sex never died down while in them on their end (depression is s good boner killer). But overall, I’m aware of my lack of options. I’ve pretty much tried to get more options for the last decade, but I just can’t get more desirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 02:16 PM
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Wow you perfectly described me as the “beta”. I was aware of my status, it’s just weird to see it written down. No I’m not happy or proud about it either. I wouldn’t say finding a gf is very difficult, if I set out to find one I can get one within a month or two, but casual sex is very difficult to come by for me and I will go months or sometimes years without attention from women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 05:46 AM
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I mean you can just go anywhere. Most men are normal looking, but I’m going to doubt you notice them because they more or less just fill up the scene.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 05:39 AM
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I can agree with this and the Clark Kent thing. Tbh most women kind of want the hot but socially awkward guy. They want the kind of guy who can get hit on, and holding his arm will make the other girls jealous; but she’ll know that he won’t cheat because he just has no idea what to do if a random woman offers him sex like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 05:37 AM
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Pretty much this. Most women aren’t interested in me, so I just kind of took that women that are wouldn’t act any different and wow what a goddamned difference that when they are interested. Making sure they come to see you, asking you to take a shot at a party or playing a drinking game, literally doing whatever it takes to be around you, texting you constantly, trying to get you to come over. It happens so infrequently in my life that when it actually happens to me it’s hard not take notice. F…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 02:44 PM
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People can and do age very bad and both sides use celebrities who we have watched age well as a basis for “See?! My side ages well, yours doesn’t!” When it’s obvious these celebrities have both money, and more or less the time to devote to proper training and nutrition. Plus over 98% of people on camera have had some sort of cosmetic surgery done somewhere along the line. I’m sure if Steve Carrell didn’t get famous, he’d look like any gross 50 year old dude, but money has a way of making aging v…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 02:22 PM
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I can agree with this. I know a mom who had her kid at like 22 (I think?) and she still looks fantastic. Of course she is only 26 now, so we’ll see what happens. Still she doesn’t have the “single mom” look to her at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 02:18 PM
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Could you show me any of these? Maybe I’m just a big ol dummy, but I’ve never seen it tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 12:21 AM
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Can you maybe give examples of women steering men to the monasteries and homosexuality? I never see that, the hobby thing yes but it’s for a different reason than you might think. They steer the undesirable men toward hobbies so that they can meet a woman who might be interested in a relationship or just being happy and doing something you love to do (although it’s unlikely you’ll never find a partner doing a relatively social hobby). What they are trying to do is steer men away from casual sex …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/19 11:59 PM
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Only on Wednesdays.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/19 05:35 PM
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I’m 26 and I still look relatively young looking. Most people don’t even think I’m my age, whether that’s a good thing or not I am unsure. Not like it’s made me attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/19 01:19 AM
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Dude... c’mon it’s Chad. Chads get laid, most dudes become MRAs because they are frustrated with the lack of sex. You’ll notice most MRAs are incel or beta looking dudes, I’d rather be hot and get laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/19 01:13 AM
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Yup. A fat girl with a personality will make a great friend. And don’t worry I’m aware I’m not desirable or heavily desired by women, otherwise I’d be having the casual sex I want. I have no problem with shallowness, I just wish i was hot enough to benefit from other people’s shallowness.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 11:07 PM
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I’m aware. This happened like 4 years ago so it’s pretty much old news at this point. I still don’t really have many options but I doubt I’m gonna do the same thing again
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 08:40 PM
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Pretty much. And it’s not even like I couldn’t find someone that hot but had average or below average chicks hitting me up, I didn’t have options period.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 06:47 PM
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This is my experience. I dated a girl who hated white people (I am white), but she was like one of the hottest people I had ever met. If I had more options and she wasn’t hot I would not have dealt with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 01:32 PM
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I just stopped getting advice from women. They gave advice for the kind of men they want for the goals they themselves want (I.e their advice is relatively good for getting a relationship), but I wanted casual sex and they’re obviously not gonna help me with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 03:14 AM
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But they still fuck Chad.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 03:13 AM
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Wow that shit genuinely depresses me. I have never had anyone do that to me. What was the point of telling me that other than to brag?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 03:07 AM
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there’s plenty of trashy sex to go around if that’s what you want. I tried that, it didn’t really work out for me. The only sexual partners I’ve had are through relationships. It’s obvious I’m not hot enough for casual sex otherwise I’d be having it. Hell if I had the options for casual sex I’d break up with my gf now.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 02:03 AM
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I wish I had that problem. I’d trade all my relationships for casual sex any day of the week.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 01:38 AM
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Handsome is the same as hot. Handsome implies you are sexually attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 03:26 PM
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Well if I was hot then I doubt I would necessarily have this problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 02:37 PM
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Now why do you say that? I obviously don’t love myself whatsoever which is why I want to be hot so I can love myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 02:32 PM
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I’ve read through all of this. However I just want to be hot, get a bunch of IOIs. I’m on tinder to fuck, people do it all the time, I’m just not attractive enough for it to work. I was honestly just thinking of getting a chin and jaw implant to become hot. I wanted to be wanted because I am hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 01:58 PM
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I have already been regularly keeping my style and grooming well above the average man for over a decade at this point. I’ve never been a nice guy. But I’ve always been what women want to be in a relationship with, not what they want to fuck. Also there are plenty of Chads who don’t even have to do anything and get laid all the time (check out some posts on /r/tinder). If I really need to try this hard, what does that even say about me? I sure as hell don’t get IOIs or any attention whatsoever. …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 08:08 AM
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Maybe, but it depends what your goals are. Are you looking for regular casual sex with lots of women? Then yeah you kinda need to be Chad.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 07:52 AM
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It depends what you’re low value in.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 07:52 AM
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And maybe to add it’s caused misery and inadequatecy to the have-nots who can’t engage in this. Being an average looking guy, I can’t engage and to be honest it has been devastating and caused nothing but misery. I honestly have no problem with promiscuity, given the ability to I would also be promiscuous. Sadly I’m just not one of the attractive men
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 07:45 AM
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I honestly don’t see my situation changing. I’ve achieved everything else I wanted, except this. So unless I get some surgery to make me more attractive than I am average, I don’t see what the point is in accepting I lost and missed out and will never get this. I would trade all I have for it tbh, even my current relationship. All I want is casual sex, I see no point in anything if I can’t have it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 07:40 AM
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I’m not being sarcastic.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 04:57 AM
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Oh well I’m a pretty stupid person, so at least it’s consistent.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 04:27 AM
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I don’t think I’m being too difficult. I don’t want to fuck someone who doesn’t even want to really be there. I want women to be attracted to me. I feel like I’m not asking the world here. Edit: but I am aware that it’s not gonna happen for me, I’m just not hot enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 04:26 AM
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I don’t blame anyone else but myself for not being hot enough. Also you could’ve just not had a kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 04:25 AM
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Yeah but hookers won’t actually want me. It’s partly the sex thing, and the other is validation in that women want to fuck me. It would imply that I am indeed attractive and that would mean a lot more to me too. I feel like if I really have to pay directly for that then I’ll just feel even worse and more unattractive than I do. I already feel average looking, that ain’t gonna help.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 04:20 AM
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What do you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 04:16 AM
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But I don’t want to be average looking. I want to be hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 04:15 AM
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I mean it wasn’t exactly my choice to not have casual sex, the choice was kinda made for me tbh. And it’s not overrated to me, maybe to you, but to be fair you’ve had the ability to make that choice, again the question was never asked of me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 04:15 AM
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I don’t even think it’s all about the sex, it’s about the validation and the feeling of being wanted for it for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 04:11 AM
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Ah, I didn’t know that was a rule. My bad. Edit: added “didn’t”
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 04:09 AM
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But all it implies is that I am average looking, and that’s not exactly a victory.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 04:09 AM
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Nah. The thought has crossed my mind, but for it to count for me the woman actually has to want to be in that situation with me and want to fuck me, not count down the minutes until I finish. Appreciate your answer though.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 04:08 AM
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I feel like the third one is gonna happen more than the others though.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 04:04 AM
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Pretty much. It gave attractive men just more access to casual sex, but otherwise to many average looking men it didn’t change anything. Average looking dudes can still find gfs and wives and shit, but it didn’t exactly give them access to fuckin em casually.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 01:02 AM
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Maybe not on this sub, but on other areas of the internet yeah. Mostly that as a man being in a relationship wasn’t a victory, it’s just an consolation prize. Casual sex and being desired by many women is the only victory there is, and if you can’t achieve that then you’re a failure.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 01:00 AM
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The only game for women is honestly 1 of the following: 1.) Be attractive. Hell you don’t even have to have an attractive face, you can be average or below, just make your body is on point and you show it off. That’s about it. 2.) Lower your standards and just go up to dudes and say you want to fuck. If a guy isn’t interested keep lowering your standards until you find a guy. It’s pretty much the same shit that is told to guys when they are having romantic troubles.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 12:57 AM
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I agree with this. It’d be the same as going to a hooker, having sex with a person who wants nothing to do with the situation but is doing it because she “has” to.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 12:54 AM
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Finding a gf is relatively easy for me. Getting casual sex is probably the most difficult thing in the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/19 09:14 PM
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Are you hot? You mentioned getting IOIs isn’t uncommon, then it doesn’t matter. You’ll do fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/19 08:47 PM
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Usually because that’s like the first person who has shown any interest whatsoever in them since their last relationship which can be any unspecified time. They don’t necessarily have the options to try to date someone and find someone else, it could be months or years til they find someone even slightly attracted to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/19 08:43 PM
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My feeling is on it, people will people and they aren’t going to change. Why should they change for you? They obviously are okay with however they are. Can’t really blame a person for being an asshole or crazy, at some point we should be able to see it and get ourselves out of it. Am I victim blaming? Well I guess so, but to be fair I’m blaming myself coming from someone who was a victim. I’m cool with people telling me that I did a dumb thing and made a bad choice, hell I’ll own up to it every …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/19 02:44 PM
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I’m almost certain I have, it just hasn’t been told to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/19 06:00 AM
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But here’s a question: do you find guys that are attractive doing the same and not feel they are creepy? I think the incels go a bit far with the “If you’re not even 8/10 don’t even think of being in the same city as a woman” shit, but it’s plain to see that there will be men who are hot and don’t have to follow the same rules. So I guess, do you find those dudes creepy because they are doing creepy things or just aren’t attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/19 02:34 AM
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I think there is a small subset of men who won’t be considered creepy. These are the dudes who were the jocks in high school, the frat boys in college and some financial guy in his career after. But this is very very small . Being an average guy, I’ve been called creepy before, maybe not to my face (and I guess to no one I know). Still it’s extremely demoralizing, it makes you feel like you’re a rapist, a psycho, a dredge of society and extremely unwanted and unworthy of love. You kind of have t…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/19 02:27 AM
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Yes we do. When a guy ends up with a shitty partner, we just say “dude, that’s why you never stick your dick in crazy”. Don’t get me wrong we feel bad about it happening to them, but at some point we’re gonna say “you really should’ve seen the signs.”
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/19 02:13 AM
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I agree and disagree with this. Am I allowed for that? Anyway while I agree it isn’t important in the grand scheme objectively, to some people however it is very important. It truly depends on the person, to a majority of men it’s important usually because they aren’t having it regularly. Chads don’t see it as important because they’ve already got all their validation and proof of how attractive they are because the number of partners they’ve had. Women don’t usually see it as important because …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 11:22 PM
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You sure? I think plenty of woman are fine having casual sex with Chads, not necessarily average or below average looking dudes. If they weren’t they wouldn’t keep doing it. Many women have their “fun” stage before they necessarily settle down. Success depends on the person.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 05:58 PM
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Nah, that shit is super weird. I guess whatever gets you off gets you off.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 02:26 AM
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Sure, but you said that for every successful woman there is a successful man, which isn’t the case. Also it can be successful for women too, obviously they ain’t on tinder just to talk.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 02:25 AM
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Actually one guy could get 10 women, while another guy gets none. There is not somebody for everyone, some men just cannot attract partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 12:51 AM
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It’s lack of options. When a guy is without options, you will find he is willing to let some smaller, even a major argument go. For some men, it’s just better to swallow their pride than to be alone for an undetermined amount of time. Yeah you may not like yourself after, but there is at least sex with someone you at least find attractive enough to be seen with.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 12:49 AM
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Yeah i never got the hating women part, it’s not really their fault they don’t want me. I only hate myself for not being hot enough to get laid regularly.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 12:42 AM
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I mean the sex is only readily available to attractive dudes, not your average looking guy. I’m average looking and it’s obviously not readily available to me, but I can see it’s readily available to a hot dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 01:08 AM
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Well to be fair PPD is where people discuss things pertaining to sex. Lots of dudes on here are average to below, with a few Chads supposedly thrown in there. Of course if you’re in community or place that talks about sex, you’ll find lots of men complaining about not getting sex because getting sex is much more difficult for men. The Chads get laid just fine, it’s your average and below average dudes doing the complaining.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 01:07 AM
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Damn, sure are a lot of single mothers who had a kid with a hot dude and they decided to leave the kid’s life. I don’t have a problem with single mothers, but it’s interesting that these men were obviously not showing their “fatherly” side, yet still could get laid. Also again they are more attractive for relationships and partner, but I doubt if a woman wants to just fuck, she’s caring if the dude is gonna be a good dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 12:59 AM
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And your point is?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 03:30 PM
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Probably men. Men tie it to the validation of their looks. Based on how much sex you can get, is how attractive you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 03:29 PM
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By being one of the hot ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 03:27 PM
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You don’t need that. Just walk outside and see how women treat you on a regular basis or throughout your life. You’ll find your answer pretty quick if you actually think about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 03:25 PM
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I’m probably gonna get it for myself. I wouldn’t say I’m ugly, just have average features. I’m gonna probably get a new jaw and chin, maybe cheekbones too. I’ve been to therapy for it, and my therapist even agreed that it would be a good decision as I really don’t want to accept my facial faults. I have no desire to be content with my averageness, only to be attractive and have lots of casual sex while I’m still in my 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 03:22 PM
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Nah it just means he’s average or below. Either way he’s unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 03:16 PM
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Lol I’m sorry, 50?! Bruh I lived in a major city on the east coast for years, that’s not even close to average. If anything that’s way above average and can only be done by Chads.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 03:13 PM
3

Why barefoot?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 03:11 PM
5

Oh those don’t count. It’s the same thing as going to McDonalds or the grocery store. Not like the woman wants to be there
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 03:06 PM
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Lol let’s see if they can actually get a younger women. You know only like the top 20% will be able to accomplish this.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 06:54 AM
3

What’s the backstory with this drama?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 09:14 PM
1

What is the red pill and its obsession with reading? I don’t really read all that much. I can’t concentrate and I have mild dyslexia so I can’t find enjoyment in it, but I will read if I have to. I do listen to a lot of audiobooks instead, I find it easier to comprehend. I tend to listen to a lot of history books, but that’s about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 03:24 PM
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Oh, I now see it’s a “CMV”. I thought it was just a discussion and I was agreeing with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 05:07 AM
1

I think it’s true. To be fair, we only really notice above average people in general, both men and women. Average people more or less are ignored because they don’t stand out unless they are extremely good at something or call your attention in some way. Below average people are actively avoided for being below average. They may get “noticed”, but we just pretend to not notice them. We only talk about the top 20% because we only notice the top 20%. The bottom 80% usually don’t even register.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 04:57 AM
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We haven’t even begun to hit the peak yet. Make contraceptives are coming out, women have gained more ground in the professional world and already go to school more likely than men. If you think the haves and have nots in terms of sex are striking now, just wait 10-20 years. We’ll be seeing that gap widen way more than we ever have before.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/18 04:15 PM
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God so many women complaining about this. We get it, you hate hooking up.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/18 05:56 AM
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I don’t know what to tell you man. I guess keep making your intentions known upfront, if they’re down, cool. If not, then just walk away and go to the next one.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 11:49 PM
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I’m not really sure what your issue is then? Also to your comment before, this isn’t the friend zone. You are at least getting some attention and still getting sexual related times. You’re like a person who is middle class saying “gee, now I know what people in poverty feel like”. If you’re not getting the sex you want then you need to find other women or switch up your approach. If your approach works on many other women and not these, then just move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 11:36 PM
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I would say that if there was a variance in my experience whatsoever then I would agree with you. It’s not like these women were from the same group or came from the same walks of life, in fact everything about them was extremely different from each other in noticeable ways. If they were all different in pretty much every way but one, but acted the same, it feels like there’s a noticeable trend where the only thing that’s in common is their gender. It could very well just be me, but it makes me …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 06:37 PM
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Yes, I would 100% Casual sex and ONS with 1 or 2 relationships thrown in Proud and attractive Honestly I just want to be attractive and have a lot of women think I am sexually attractive enough for casual hookups and I have never had one at 26. All of my sexual partners have been in relationships which implies I am not attractive but rather at best average. And I don’t want that. In fact I’d trade all of my relationships for casual sex any day
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 06:05 PM
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Great. I’m telling you that it is always immediate for me if it’s gonna happen at all. I have found that women either make their advances known, or it’s never gonna happen. I used to think it could build over time, until I actually had women interested in me (even in just a relationship sense) and they made it so overt that it made me realize having women interested in me was so uncommon that the signs are easy to see. Again, either it happens immediately, or it doesn’t happen at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 03:38 PM
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And I’m telling you in my experience, that isn’t how it has happened for me. It’s all been pretty uniform in terms of their advances of me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 03:26 PM
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In my experience, any time a woman was or is interested in me (and it’s uncommon enough to where I can really notice difference) she makes it quite apparent. My current gf kissed me on our first date even though she was super nervous to do so. If she wanted to fuck him, she would’ve at least made him aware of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 03:22 PM
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Yeah but it’s unrequited sexual tension. Essentially he’s interested in her sexually, she is not.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 03:12 PM
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I think this is actually the best explanation of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 03:12 PM
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And your point? Obviously if a person is thinking about it frequently it means they want it, but cannot get it in the frequency they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 03:08 PM
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Still though, when it comes to getting laid or some other purely sexual situation, it’s about being sexually and physically attractive. Having a good personality will net you a relationship, even a great loving relationship, but it won’t have you slaying pussy. Trust me as someone who can easily get into relationships, but have an extremely difficult time getting casual sex, this is pretty much my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/18 04:09 PM
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You’re funny. I’ve known plenty of fat funny guys that don’t get laid. A hot dude can have an abysmal personality and still get laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/18 04:05 PM
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I was being sarcastic. My point is that to be a “fuckboy” you have to have the genes that make you attractive because only attractive dudes get to be fuckboys
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/18 03:59 PM
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There is a gene, it’s the genes that make you attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/18 03:52 PM
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Get surgery to make yourself more masculine looking. I get that everyone here likes to bash it, but if you’ve got a babyface it means something in your face needs to be changed. It’ll be pricey depending on where you live, but you’ll find you’ll get the attention you want once you get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/18 12:25 AM
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Honestly, just become attractive and you won’t be turned down as much. Improve yourself until you get the attention you’re looking for and you’ll notice the resentment will go away.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/18 12:06 AM
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No, all of my exes have been loyal, so have all of my friend’s gfs. The internet makes it seem a certain problem is way bigger than it really is, because the things regarding super negative or positive things are the only ones that get noticed or have any traction. But it definitely happens, just maybe not as much.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/18 12:03 AM
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Right but my point is that perosnality wise, women and men will be willing to let go of some glaring personality problems as long as the person is hot to them especially when it comes to casual sex. I think a personality is important to forming a relationship, but plenty of women even here have admitted that the dude can have the personality of a bar stool, or can be an enormous asshole, but as long as they are hot they will still fuck them. Hot guys can honestly have any personality they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 11:53 PM
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To all women? Impossible. But you’ll find that most women (like 80%) will want the personality that’s attached to a strong jaw.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 06:45 PM
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Absolutely, it really isn’t hard especially with tinder.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 06:43 PM
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Nah my current gf is 22. I don’t want to get married to her now, I know she’s not ready to make those choices yet. Hell even at 26 I don’t even know if I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 04:32 AM
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Yeah but you can reduce a woman to her body when it comes down to marriage. Now am I gonna marry someone I’m not at least minimally attracted to? No. But I’m not gonna marry some 21 year old girl who is smoking hot because there’s no way in hell she’s ready for that responsibility. Fuck sexual partners in this case, if I go into a coma the day after we are married, is she ready to make the decision to pull the plug or not on me? I feel like a 28 year old might be more mentally prepared for somet…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 04:29 AM
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100%, there’s no way a 21 year old is mentally ready for something like that. It ain’t the age, it’s the mental maturity i just do not think a 21 year has to be married.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 04:23 AM
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Yeah but a 21 year old is not ready for marriage. When I was 21, I sure as hell wasn’t ready, none of my friends were either. You have a bad view of marriage. Marriage is so much more than just a sweet ceremony, it’s a fucking commitment. It’s a monetary one where you both share your finances and share your debt. It’s an agreement that when you are dying in a hospital bed and are in a coma, that person can choose to either pull the plug or not. It’s even more than that, but those are the big one…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 04:22 AM
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26 28 year old. Why the hell would I marry a 21 year old?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 04:16 AM
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Of course it’s logical. I wasn’t saying this as a negative thing, but rather just a reality thing. People can find their SO attractive because of certain personality, compatibility, etc to make up for it, but they are only attractive in their eyes, and we are talking for a more LTR situation. STRs and other casual sex situations is pretty much 100% sexual attraction, with very little leeway at least compared to LTRs. People like to frame that below average to average looking guys get laid, but m…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/18 07:25 PM
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Mind blown.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/18 12:41 PM
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Sure but if you don’t want long term then you need to be hot to get laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/18 12:36 PM
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Damn someone really wants to cheat, huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 04:19 PM
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Because you are not taking any of what I said. You have such a image of yourself that you think everything you say is literally the gospel and annoyed when people don’t take what you say to heart and change the way you want. Again, you keep missing the part about how I am different than you and my goals and aspirations are as well. You’re like a redpiller or incel who scream “all women go for Chad!” and either ignore it or reject it because the idea that another person doesn’t fit your worldview…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 02:27 PM
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Your point is moot because the choice was never given to me and I missed out on that point in my life. Now I’m older and I have to live with the fact that my 20s are almost over and have been nothing but a failure in that respect being stuck in relationships when I would’ve much rathered and still would rather be out fucking women. Also stop telling me what you think would be best for my life, you’re not the one that has to live it. You do not know all, so stop thinking you’re on some higher int…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 04:32 AM
1

I still think it depends on the struggles though. Not every pretty girl has the same struggles, a lot of them have ones that are fixed or can be fixed by their looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 03:51 AM
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Ah I see, I misunderstood. I guess it depends what “needs” they have though. Every case is different.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 03:47 AM
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I would post a pic of her, but my ex pretty much fits the bill. She had a trust fund so she never needed to date down to be provided for, but she would get offers from dudes to pay her rent, take her to fancy restaurants, buy her stuff, one even offered to pay for a vacation with her to some place in some nice part of the world. It was very eye opening to see “pretty girl privilege” in action up close. But the kind of girls you are looking for would be someone who looks like this https://instagr…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 03:43 AM
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Fair enough, I can respect that about you. However that scene interests me, and not being able to be a part of something I want to be a part of is pretty devastating to say the least However we’re just gonna have to agree to disagree, because neither of us are going to meet in the middle here on this.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 03:07 AM
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Let me ask you something. What is your gender and have you had casual sex? Also I don’t care what was the norm 40-50 years ago, or that I would have a “preferable” situation. It doesn’t make my situation better now. Shit next you’ll tell me my life is better than people who lived in the Middle Ages cause I have indoor plumbing.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 02:19 AM
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Explain a bit further for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/18 11:54 PM
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Not everyone is good for that kind of relationship. You keep thinking everyone is the same and have the same goals. You’re right, I would 100% take casual sex over any relationship I have ever had. But all this is because I was never even given the choice, maybe it would be different if I was hot and banged a lot of women and then decided “hey maybe this isn’t great” but I didn’t get the choice to do so, and I still do not. Edit: had an extra sentence, it was just repetitive of what was said bef…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/18 07:40 PM
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Here’s the thing though, men like the OP of that post don’t get the choice in it, they’re more or less stuck with not having it all or very little if they do have it. For me, the only women I’ve ever had sex with are in relationships, and I hate that about me. I want casual sex, but every time I’ve ever tried to get it I can never do. Like when I’m single, I don’t get the “choice” when I want to start dating seriously and looking for a relationship, I have to if I want to have sex and it blows. …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/18 06:43 PM
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Good way to look at it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/18 11:52 PM
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If you’re hot then you’ll be just fine. If you’re not hot then you’ll find your failures will outweigh your successes by a large margin.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/18 09:19 PM
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Shit I must be super unattractive if I don’t get approached at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/18 06:47 PM
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There was a post on 4chan where some guy put a pic of a girl in very revealing, sexy clothing and he was asking “how can a woman dress like this and not be asking for it”. One of the replies was “But anon, they are asking for it. Just not from you.” Women are very horny and want sex, that’s why they go on tinder (and also maybe some validation). But women can be super selective with their men because of how many choices they have on average (for sex anyway), so they usually go with the hottest g…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/18 11:38 PM
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I’m not sure what you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/18 08:30 PM
1

I don’t even whine though, people say I’m one of the most optimistic people in the world when they talk to me. Im just being realistic about it, how is that whining?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/18 06:57 PM
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You’re missing the point, it’s not about the sex. It’s knowing that people want to have it with you. And if I’m someone last option because they just want to fuck, and have to jump through hoops to even fuck someone who is ugly, then what’s even the point. All it does it prove my point that I’m not attractive enough to get the attention attractive people.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/18 06:48 PM
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I was on Tinder, I got plenty of matches, just no one who wanted to fuck me. I’ve gone out plenty of times with my friends to bars, clubs, whatever and wasn’t having much luck. I have a huge group of friends and we used to have a house in a major city where we threw parties all the time. Didn’t get any offers for casual sex, pretty sure I put myself out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/18 06:38 PM
1

Yes but Idris Elba gets offers from plenty of other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/18 06:35 PM
1

But if you’ve never been one of those casual sex partners, then you’re not attractive because no one wanted you for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/18 06:28 PM
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Sure, but there are lots of women who like it and will usually only do it with attractive men. You don’t have to fuck every woman, just be the one chosen by the women who do just want to fuck
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/18 06:27 PM
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You wouldn’t happen to have the study would you? I’d be interested to read
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/18 06:24 PM
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Yeah but the mirror can skew it and for a lot of people make them think they are more attractive than they aren’t. On the other end, sometimes they can believe they are uglier than they really are. Either way the mirror is a bad comparison, selfies are too because the image is skewed. If you’re getting the attention that’s related to casual sex then you are attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/18 06:06 PM
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They are a small number tbh, at least in college and their 20s. Provided a guy is hot enough, many women will just fuck them because the opportunity is there.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/18 05:56 PM
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The mirror can skew things and for most people can make you believe you’re more attractive. Are you getting offers or interest from women for casual sex? You don’t have to fuck, but is the option there? If not, then you’re average at best. People treat average people just fine. I’m average looking, maybe slight above that and people treat me just fine, most people are just very nice to me in general and are welcoming to me to talk to them. But I don’t get offers for casual sex and I can’t just t…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/18 05:31 PM
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But casual sex is pretty much looks based, and tbh why wouldn’t it be? It’s sex, and most women have offers from pretty much every end wanting sex. If she chose to have sex with you, considering all the other options thrown at her, then that means you’re attractive because you were chosen out of all the other men. Plus it also means she just desires you in a carnal and natural way.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/18 05:25 PM
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True, true. So maybe it’s not just the act, but having the ability to get it, and having women show interest in having it with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/18 05:08 PM
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I think that’s true as well, but I would say those are all just green lights to casual sex. Like if they are acting like that around you, then it’s pretty much a green light, except the compliments thing because a compliment doesn’t automatically mean “I’m down to fuck”. But the flirting and acting nervous are pretty good indicators of “you can fuck me”.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/18 05:07 PM
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Truth be told though, the men that get “poached” while being in a relationship are usually the same ones who get casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/18 05:04 PM
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It’s really the only way to determine whether a man is attractive or not. Plus if you’re like me and you’ve only had relationship sex but never chosen for casual sex, you’ll realize it’s because you’re not attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 03:25 PM
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You’re joking, but you’re def right. My biggest failure in life is that I’m not a Chad.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 03:05 PM
1

Yup, not really anyone’s fault either. I think if more men got to experience casual sex then the number of affairs would go down. But you can’t really change the natural urges and sexual interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 03:03 PM
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Yup. I’d argue that people who didn’t have casual sex and fun in their 20s are the ones most likely to cheat on later spouses provided that spouse had their fun. For men who don’t get a lot of attention, the fact that someone is even slightly interested in you is enough to possibly throw away their relationship. Like I’m pretty sure if I didn’t have to put in effort and a woman showed interest in me and she was hot, I’d 100% have an affair with her for as long as possible. I’m not saying this is…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 02:52 PM
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Not much they can do about it either. But casual sex for men who aren’t in the like top 20% is extremely difficult, meanwhile women can get it whenever they want. Women don’t realize this, so they think it’s cause men don’t feel they can stack up and are jealous for that reason. But it’s more that men just feel they missed out on something, and are stuck with the failure.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 02:47 PM
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It’s fine, do what you want. However I had a situation like yours where one of my exes rode the cock carousel and then decided to date “someone like me” who never had any hookups whatsoever and my sex was limited to relationships only. I couldn’t be with her, and to be honest it had nothing to do with her. I was mad because I didn’t get to have that experience when I was younger, I didn’t get to sleep around with a bunch of hot women who weren’t relationship material because I honestly wasn’t at…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 02:20 PM
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