blamezuey Archive

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-2	First date ran me through Are We Dating The Same Guy. I'm conflicted. I hope you can excuse me if I caused offense somehow…	/r/MensRights	29/05/23 03:38 AM
-1	First date ran me through Are We Dating The Same Guy. I'm conflicted. You may well be observing some aspect I neglected, but my desire was to elaborate on the aspects I wanted to draw consideration to, so I did.	/r/MensRights	29/05/23 03:35 AM
1	First date ran me through Are We Dating The Same Guy. I'm conflicted. Thank you very much for your consideration..! I rarely get positive feedback when I say things here, but it’s always with sincere intentions that I attempt nonetheless	/r/MensRights	29/05/23 03:27 AM
0	First date ran me through Are We Dating The Same Guy. I'm conflicted. I would say the exact same thing I said before, but rearrange the s’s from “she” to “he”. Though internally, my feelings are impacted by these sorts of issues in that i had a long-term male friend of great importance to me, who continuously keeps getting deeply involved with super damaged women, and they relentlessly suck the life out of him in a wholly self interested and thankless fashion. I continuously endorsed he involve himself with women who took agency for their own healing, and come to …	/r/MensRights	29/05/23 02:56 AM
-2	First date ran me through Are We Dating The Same Guy. I'm conflicted. I can’t feel disgust for someone who surely meant no harm by their actions.	/r/MensRights	29/05/23 01:12 AM
-25	First date ran me through Are We Dating The Same Guy. I'm conflicted. Hi, lady here to weigh in. Firstly-… you are entitled to feel whatever feelings you feel. They are an essential part of your personhood. How those feelings are expressed is best regarded a matter of true consideration, but their presence is always of significance and even beauty. I know men are taught to sublimate their feelings, but feelings are what make our experience meaningful and human, even the difficult and undesirable ones. Equitably, this girl is also entitled to feel what she feels. U…	/r/MensRights	28/05/23 10:21 AM
9	Imagine not understanding that the word “Incel” as an insult can be upsetting to people who are insecure about being single I remember when I was younger and the term incel was introduced to my understanding by my liberal college-y SF friend group (who were ridiculing them with extreme disdain). I dont like when people feel comfortable ridiculing people instead of trying to understand them. Doesn’t sit right. I did some research and decided this was a tragic group of people desperately in need of compassion and recognition of their humanity so they could have some HOPE of healing from this deplorably unhappy state. s…	/r/MensRights	20/03/23 03:37 AM
-5	Victim of “are we dating the same guy” Facebook group. They posted my name and picture. People get so caught up in the details that they miss the bigger picture-…. The humanity we all share. Our nature isn’t our gender. It’s our humanity. What makes us all alike is vastly more then anything that makes us different.	/r/MensRights	18/03/23 02:05 PM
2	What do you guys think of this statement? “The only reason you hear men 32+ saying they want a young “pure” women is because they want to get away with substandard treatment. “ Ive noticed even atheists ascribe to “religious” thinking, in regards to ascribing moral value judgements to what is obviously previously installed survival mechanisms. Nature rewards certain behaviors by making those a feature of one’s impulses. We are at an evolutionary impasse where we are questioning those behaviors and how we want to proceed, with little to no regard for the actual personhood to all that are caught in the thrall of these goal-defining biologies. Its as exciting as it is stu…	/r/MensRights	18/03/23 07:19 AM
2	What do you guys think of this statement? “The only reason you hear men 32+ saying they want a young “pure” women is because they want to get away with substandard treatment. “ I think the biggest issue is that people put very idealized moral judgements (ex; GOOD people want THIS and NEVER that) on what essentially amounts to legitimate biological impulse. Ascribing the predilection to youth as some kind of unforgivable failure of character strikes me as profoundly and repulsively shallow in their comprehension of all the evolution/survival mechanisms that dictate vastly more of our “personhood” then some arbitrary and self serving morality judgement on another person’…	/r/MensRights	17/03/23 04:55 PM
1	What would the feminists do during war? https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=EShUeudtaFg	/r/MensRights	24/02/22 09:51 PM
2	This was a Facebook post I had to share because the comments were horrible. Women were praising the girl for finally using the "oppressors" ways. Because one of the sources says that over 80% of the victims are women, too. Either way you slice it, whether its 20% of men or 40% of men, the established fact is that men commit more acid attacks, which means more of the women are victims. And i as said, do you have a source for your claim? Why wouldn't you see the necessity of making yourself actually valid if someone is uncertain about just automatically believing your opinion? Without evidence, what you say is just opinion, and opinions can…	/r/MensRights	24/05/21 12:00 PM
1	This was a Facebook post I had to share because the comments were horrible. Women were praising the girl for finally using the "oppressors" ways. NO! MY SWEET FUCK HOW COULD YOU INFER THAT MEANING! I WOULD SHAKE YOU IF I HAD YOU HERE! I WOULD!!! SHAKE!!!! YOU! okay, now that that is out of my system. No. I absolutely do not believe women should ever rape men. Of course not. Legally? Holy fuck. At the risk of being dismissive, i wonder if some... aberrant form of perception is... affecting... things... for you. But that isn't a factor i should assume. Benefit of the doubt time. Do you have a source on those statistics? Also... oh man. I do…	/r/MensRights	23/05/21 11:59 AM
0	This was a Facebook post I had to share because the comments were horrible. Women were praising the girl for finally using the "oppressors" ways. You seem to be able to tell when I'm making assumptions about you, but you don't seem to be able to tell when you'e doin' it to me. I dunno dude. Seems like theres too big of a disconnect here. You seem unwilling or unable to hear what im saying to you. Im not necessarily tryin' to shoo you off or anything... but i cant keep engaging in good faith if you can't frikkin understand me. So i jus dunno. I can engage you if you give me something real to go on, but in the meantime, we got a lotta tail-…	/r/MensRights	23/05/21 11:23 AM
0	This was a Facebook post I had to share because the comments were horrible. Women were praising the girl for finally using the "oppressors" ways. Can you please show me the thing i said that made you feel that way? Because i certainly don't feel that way and if I misrepresented myself, its important to me to speak and be understood with clarity. I would appreciate your input on helping me reframe my words to not inspire that sort of feeling. No one should get raped, or have their trauma minimized.	/r/MensRights	23/05/21 08:07 AM
-5	This was a Facebook post I had to share because the comments were horrible. Women were praising the girl for finally using the "oppressors" ways. I didn't do that. Can you demonstrate what i said that indicated that? Im willing to listen to opposing views, naturally	/r/MensRights	23/05/21 06:46 AM
-6	This was a Facebook post I had to share because the comments were horrible. Women were praising the girl for finally using the "oppressors" ways. That is wholly inaccurate. You are projecting an identification on me as "enemy", because neutrality on a ambiguous topic and a willingness to withhold judgement until all the information NECESSARY to make an informed judgement was unavailable to me. This doesn't appeal to your desire for grandiose value judgements that validate your feelings of fury towards women. But if you would like to explain your interpretation of what that article inferred that i didn't catch, i would be happy to listen.	/r/MensRights	23/05/21 06:11 AM
-14	This was a Facebook post I had to share because the comments were horrible. Women were praising the girl for finally using the "oppressors" ways. Hello! So i read the article. I can't make a very solid assessment of the article. I see it says that countries in the west made rape gender-neutral.... so the resistance to the proposition seems pretty localized to India. From my understandings of things as i know them, i know that the frequency/violence/ difficulty of getting justice in the matter of male-on-female rape is higher in india then what we in america even remotely deal with. The indian women may be exposed to variables particular t…	/r/MensRights	23/05/21 03:43 AM
11	This was a Facebook post I had to share because the comments were horrible. Women were praising the girl for finally using the "oppressors" ways. Its not accurate to make sweeping generalizations, and this sort of behavior should be deterred, men or women. Facts will empower your position, not assumptions and projections. Unless you have an exact incidence of something being said, it doesn't represent a powerful talking point... it does the opposite.	/r/MensRights	22/05/21 07:28 PM
7	This was a Facebook post I had to share because the comments were horrible. Women were praising the girl for finally using the "oppressors" ways. The comment below yours sites sources that contradict your claims. What do you think about this? Do you have sources to validate your opinion?	/r/MensRights	22/05/21 07:23 PM
9	What do you guys think of this Yes, its so important to consider things on a person by person basis and not make sweeping generalizations. Those sorts of things only feed into the divisiveness that is dragging down our country.	/r/MensRights	21/05/21 12:33 AM
1	Maybe there's hope? I consider you quite lovely. Truly. It takes a lot of heart to keep yourself open to other people's truths. Id love to speak more with you soon, if you like! I am going to try to cover some essentials before i conclude for now. Firstly, i am very sorry that you were mistreated so by the women you placed in such a valued position of trust and intimacy. There was no reason at all any of those disagreements should have ever escalated like that, and you truly deserved a calm, loving, rational discus…	/r/MensRights	19/05/21 09:31 AM
2	Maybe there's hope? Ooh. Im always so happy to see when someone puts sincere effort into responding! And politely! Ahh! Nice, nice... Please excuse me if my reply isn't as tidy and well structured, my brain is falling out slightly. In regards to caring about things that are false, the values and concerns thereof... what i really was intending to say (and i totally concede a possible lack of precision on my part as a possible culprit) is that when someone believes something, the process of unentangling them from an …	/r/MensRights	19/05/21 08:23 AM
2	Maybe there's hope? It would be negligent to presume that the most reliable earmark of intelligence is the inclination to agree with you. We all come from different experiences and priorities, our own cognitive dissonances and projected personal meanings. I urge you to consider, if you think you are not vulnerable to cognitive dissonance, your lack of vigilance almost ensures you will bumble into misperceptions. Part of being understood, is extending understanding. Not just conceptual understanding, i mean REALLY a…	/r/MensRights	19/05/21 04:42 AM
1	Maybe there's hope? Because we humans all tend to the presupposition our own flaws are sympathetic and human, and the flaws of others inhuman and immoral.	/r/MensRights	19/05/21 04:32 AM
1	Maybe there's hope? Same!	/r/MensRights	19/05/21 04:29 AM
2	Both sides in a relationship can and probably should change. But why one side who refuses should be ashamed while the other side is a hero? If you can remember we are all hurting, it really helps soften your approach. Being a true misogynist is a rather miserable and pitiable condition as well. So angry and isolated from affection and meaningful relationships. That sort of anger always cuts both ways. They are undoubtably miserable people with horrific coping mechanisms.	/r/MensRights	19/05/21 04:23 AM
2	Even though it's meant to be 'humour' what do you think of this MRA depiction? I haven't seen the majority of you guys act anything like that. You guys have legitimate concerns. Would it sound crazy to say i think there is some forces in the world that definitely want to sow dischord in the populace, so we all fight each other instead of turn our attention to the actual issues. Mainly all in relation to. The Super Hyper Rich Elite.. i think the OVERWHELMING majority has little inkling this is such an effective tactic to keep us from effecting any real change. Change that w…	/r/MensRights	19/05/21 04:18 AM
1	Half of HPV cancer patients are men: nobody cares and there is virtually no campaign to vaccinate men. Transgender men not getting HPV test is news. There is a book i really like called lucifer principle! They talk about biological impulses that shape behaviors people take for granted. They totally address what you said there! That book is really great.	/r/MensRights	19/05/21 04:08 AM
1	Both sides in a relationship can and probably should change. But why one side who refuses should be ashamed while the other side is a hero? The best relationships have a comfortable and enthusiastic willingness to compromise so both parties are happy. If both parties compromise equally, on things where they feel they still feel content... thats great! Both partners ensuring the other is happy with the compromise, and content with their own as well. If only one partner compromises, that is officially a crap situation. But overwhelmingly relationships require some level of compromise, and invariably suffer without it. There is a chanc…	/r/MensRights	19/05/21 04:05 AM
2	Both sides in a relationship can and probably should change. But why one side who refuses should be ashamed while the other side is a hero? Hello! May i offer suggestions? Since it doesn't feel feasible to leave her, unfortunately it is up to you to try an alternative approach to succeed in helping shift her behavior. A thing thats important to remember is all people are generally products of their environment, with scanty exceptions to the rule. Her task/reward style may be different then yours or also very fixed-... she may also have depression or ADHD that makes conventional completion of tasks difficult. But for discussion's sak…	/r/MensRights	19/05/21 03:56 AM
2	Both sides in a relationship can and probably should change. But why one side who refuses should be ashamed while the other side is a hero? Fellow lady- i hope you don't mind if i swoop in here and share some thoughts and observations. I hope my suggestions don't feel unwelcome. I do hope that what i say impresses you as important/meaningful/compassionate. I have found that.. if you feel like you're stepping on toes... you are, hehe. it may be tempting to plow forward because you feel you have to tell the truth, but i've learned no one appreciates having their toes stepped on. ..You don't have to compromise your message or self resp…	/r/MensRights	19/05/21 03:18 AM
3	Both sides in a relationship can and probably should change. But why one side who refuses should be ashamed while the other side is a hero? If we aren't in relationships to mutually worship, treat, and pamper each other adoringly, BOTH partners. then thats at best a pretty dusty relationship, and at worst a dictatorship.	/r/MensRights	19/05/21 02:47 AM
1	My dad really opened my eyes to the silently negative assumptions made about men that I'd never thought of before. The pathos here is heart tearing. I truly hope you can find the heart to keep going. I have been extremely suicidal, in life. There is a purpose for you that will inspire you, if you can bear to keep looking. For me, my drive is i want to give people the kind of affection and understanding i wish i had in my life. There is much joy in giving. And so much work in the world. Theres no shame in wanting to die, this shit can suck so bad, no one could rightly blame you for it, but it would be much be…	/r/MensRights	19/05/21 02:43 AM
2	The biggest misandry in my view: Assuming that what works for women should work for men. Really? Like. "I didn't see it that way at all" would imply you don't agree or relate with anything i said. I suppose i accept that its possible, but i am full of misgivings. Are you suggesting feeling love isn't important in your life? That you don't experience sorrow? It takes all sorts, but i would wager if thats the case, you are in a minority i find curious if not worrisome. Basic human nature usually contains those emotional experiences, or a deep desire for them, as a standard.	/r/MensRights	19/05/21 02:31 AM
1	Parenting Hi OP. I'm unhappy to hear of your troublesome circumstances. You know, though... being able to identify those impediments (like anxiety, depression, etc) within yourself takes so much self-awareness and and self-evaluation, that alone is a testament to your character right there. It is hard to stand aside ourselves and really unapologetically look at our own behaviors and how they affect others, let alone feel a drive to action regarding it. Its a mentality not a lot can engage (man or woman), …	/r/MensRights	19/05/21 02:23 AM
1	What are your top 3 most important men’s rights issues? Or like, where you... you know,...like... affirmed its true? Edit: two likes, why did i do this to myself. Whyy.	/r/MensRights	19/05/21 01:33 AM
1	The biggest misandry in my view: Assuming that what works for women should work for men. I am a person who cares very much about feels-... man or woman. I love people. We all need help processing what certain events mean to us, and learn from others the emotional tools to help us help ourselves, like self-awareness, cognitive behavioral therapy techniques (which was actually introduced to me by a male associate, who is the type who fully and enthusiastically ascribes to more traditionally male emotional expressions... but he is a passionate proponent of its practice!! Simple things,…	/r/MensRights	19/05/21 01:29 AM
1	What are your top 3 most important men’s rights issues? Do you have any sources on this...?	/r/MensRights	19/05/21 12:53 AM
12	What are your top 3 most important men’s rights issues? I think funding is the issue, but its more likely from a scarcity mindset. Like "we need to have LESS shelters so men can have MORE? Nuh uh, men are why we are in those shelters in the first place, so fuckem". The real solution is that we don't need less women shelters, we just need MORE men's. Money needs to be reassigned in the national budget, that whole government spending shit is bonkers and corrupt and that needs to be addressed in conjunction with addressing men's issues if we want people…	/r/MensRights	19/05/21 12:47 AM
1	The biggest misandry in my view: Assuming that what works for women should work for men. Another redditor was talking about stoicism, and how he used it to compartmentalize, refrain from making judgement values on the feelings and accept them, etc etc. As a woman, one of the most effective emotional tools i've utilized is compartmentalizing emotions, and that takes some good amount of stoicism, so you can create some distance between you and the feelings, as to identify and sort them and express them in efficient, constructive ways. It takes some stoicism to be able to calmly say "i…	/r/MensRights	19/05/21 12:38 AM
4	Assumed Pedophile - tired of it I hate how this criticism of men, is preventing so many kindhearted, wonderful men from enjoying the human connections with others that make life worth living. Its so sad. I think we can all understand the necessity of supervision, but come on ladies.. what happened to innocent until proven guilty? Alienating people is not gonna make anything safer, just sadder.	/r/MensRights	19/05/21 12:19 AM
11	What are your top 3 most important men’s rights issues? Am lady- why the fuck don't these things matter? We wanted equality. All this dismissal is just so damn disingenuous to that fair and reasonable entreaty so hard-won by our predecessors. I'm so disappointed in the hypocrisy.	/r/MensRights	19/05/21 12:03 AM
1	Too harsh? Interested to see the response (if there is one) Oh man, i thought i was on "popular" instead of "home", while on the phone app reading this, and i thought to myself... "wow. Im amazed this is on the main page! People really need to have a dialogue about this stuff. This is important. Yay relief." Then i saw it wasn't, and felt bummed. Why can't men be shown compassion too? Or at least, authentically and sincerely given a chance to have a discussion on the matter and given the consideration any human deserves..? Even if someone 100% disagreed …	/r/MensRights	18/05/21 11:49 PM
1	I require some critical feedback please. Please be my friend.	/r/MensRights	10/05/21 07:27 AM
1	I require some critical feedback please. Maybe its because im stoned, but either way, my brain totally just exploded. :0	/r/MensRights	10/05/21 07:26 AM
2	I require some critical feedback please. Oh god! First you totally agreed with me? And THEN YOU EXPANDED MY IDEA WITH EXTRA SMARTNESS?!?! eyes sparkle why aren't all redditors like you.... wistful, adoring sigh	/r/MensRights	09/05/21 11:55 AM
5	I require some critical feedback please. What in the fresh hell did i just read. My god. My critical feedback is "god fuckin damn, dude." No, for real... like.. you should definitely make the report. I am a woman and i endorse this. Wait, ultimately it might hurt your kids. Aw jesus. This is. Whoo. Jeez. First and foremost, OP, write your kids letters. I mean, don't send them cuz they are still babies and your ex wife will certainly dispose of them, but still. Write them. Date them. Keep em safe. Pour your heart out, say everything you…	/r/MensRights	09/05/21 07:01 AM
5	Boys are raised by women, but then all of the problems are somehow just men's fault? Its not a position thats always easy, most certainly. People do not like the idea of compassion and generosity conveyed to persons/groups that they feel are unsympathetic in how their dysfunctions manifest. Like when i learned what incels were, way before they gained the notoriety of violence, i tried to defend their obvious, obvious need for help to my liberal friends who took great joy in ridiculing them, and they did not take me seriously one iota... i was distinctly scorned. these are a pret…	/r/MensRights	08/05/21 06:40 PM
1	Campaign to make men modify their behaviour to make women feel safe. I see stuff like this cropping up more and more often. How is this any different to telling Muslims that people walking down the street don't know they're not a terrorist, for example? Hrrhhh, something about how you said "not for some woman who doesn't care about me at all"....it just struck me as so sad, some kind of lonely feeling to me. I don't know i've ever considered a stranger caring about me or not before, in entire my life... i suppose i always presumed generally everyone is going around on autopilot for the most part, largely not giving a fuck about any strangers they came across, given the standard person's natural inclination to, reasonably i suppose, be wrapped u…	/r/MensRights	08/05/21 04:51 PM
2	About that Pink Recession… That idea was phrased so compellingly! I am almost certain to repeat your sentiment in the future during discussions.	/r/MensRights	08/05/21 03:34 PM
1	Campaign to make men modify their behaviour to make women feel safe. I see stuff like this cropping up more and more often. How is this any different to telling Muslims that people walking down the street don't know they're not a terrorist, for example? Oh, you are wonderful. What gentle words. So reflective of a considering soul.	/r/MensRights	08/05/21 03:14 PM
17	Boys are raised by women, but then all of the problems are somehow just men's fault? What i find so tragic is with all this going on-... who the hell ever stops to openly acknowledge "men are human fucking beings who deserve love and compassion too"? We are all flawed. We all get scared, we all make mistakes, we all have a natural tendency to be selfish. Even if shit was unbalanced in the past, why judge every dude NOW because of it? There is like, this mood of "fuck men", when men themselves have been horribly fucked over by bullshit in society as well. Sure, maybe men dispropo…	/r/MensRights	08/05/21 12:05 PM
1	I feel like boys/men have lost hope or just feel unneeded in this modern society. 24/7 "girls are better bombardment." Hi, i hope you would welcome a female perspective on some of the stuff you said! I think it is so tragic that men are so scrutinized and barred from interactions with children. Most men aren't pedophiles, yet they all suffer the burden of association. Getting to play with children is one of the sweetest joys of life, as they are so easy to amaze and inspire unrestrained glee in. They haven't had the chance to become hardened by the world, and it can be such a respite to enjoy those types of trul…	/r/MensRights	08/05/21 10:50 AM
16	Boys are raised by women, but then all of the problems are somehow just men's fault? My gosh, the state of things! Ahhh. I am wholly sincere. I am so sincere, people often are shocked by the candor of my open affection for people. Nope, i agree with you, like for realsies. Edit: just for the record, first- am chick. Second- on the overall matter, i consider that men are incredibly important in the role of their children's lives, and women can be horrific hellbeasts. I actually have experienced and witnessed countless peoples experiences of shitty horrible mothers. Third- i actua…	/r/MensRights	08/05/21 10:13 AM
17	Boys are raised by women, but then all of the problems are somehow just men's fault? Hey, i dont think your heart was necessarily in the wrong place with what you were saying, but i think you got downvoted (tbh, justifiably) because your tone is.. you know... not very kind or understanding. Men are people too, y'know? Everyone wants their suffering to be considered with compassion... thats part of what this subreddit is all about, i think. Im not a regular here, so i dont know a ton about it, but.. i hope you decide to reconsider your approach in the future, because people reall…	/r/MensRights	08/05/21 10:10 AM
4	Boys are raised by women, but then all of the problems are somehow just men's fault? Ooh, excellent post, so well reasoned. I laud you! I am also interested!	/r/MensRights	08/05/21 10:04 AM
36	Boys are raised by women, but then all of the problems are somehow just men's fault? Chick here-... My parents stayed together, but my dad was the only parent that made me decide it was too fucked up to commit suicide and leave him behind. If it was just my mom, i woulda bounced long ago. Lets just say, "shes not a hugger".	/r/MensRights	08/05/21 10:02 AM