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| 191 | I felt this. Love and life are so much more than your relationship status.I agree with you, us women are enough the thought of a single woman is scary because it means one less LVM/ NWM can access free emotional labour. Pick-Me's actually shiver because no one ever told them that they could opt out of exploitation. There is so much emphasis on women being partnered as this will give us purpose and create sense of our experiences/ worlds. Whereas men seek partnership not to extend themselves, emotional/mental support etc. but to perform support to gain the benefits of … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 08:13 PM |
| 7 | Should I use sex as a vetting strategy?Thank you so much for this. I really felt a lot of anxiety and pressure when it came to sex. But what you said clarified a lot. I also had a lot of anxiety around being fetishised and dealing with the effects of it, such as the whole Madonna-whore complex. I will take my time when it comes to sex. Especially because I am inexperienced and to ensure that I can fully process the interactions with a level head. I think that I will rather vet heavily and even past the 3+ months before I decide to ha… | /r/askFDS | 22/04/21 04:49 PM |
| 2 | I'm a porn addict, my wife forced herself to watch with me instead of asserting healthy boundaries. Now we are divorcing, she resents me. It couldn't have been the porn. Anyone? 🤡Ugh this man had the audacity to bring out the tiny violins. I bet she was doing the bulk of all the labour in that relationship, and because he’s an LVM he’s shocked that his pickme bangmaid finally grew some balls. All I can say is, I hope that sis gets a fat cheque after this divorce and she can live her best life taking care of her actual kids and not an LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 05:29 AM |
| 19 | All my male friends want to date me and I feel pressured when I rejected themThe last part got to me. And that ‘moment’ is always attained through either violence or coercion. Damn, this is so true!!! | /r/askFDS | 14/04/21 04:09 PM |
| 34 | Found this on a relationship sub. Women think this kind of behaviour is endearing ?! Nah sis 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ makes me wonder what else he thinks gets done by magic. Some guy commented and argued with me about how men do more domestic labour lmao I can’t handle this sub. I never want to be married.Men feign incompetence to get out of labour/ responsibility. This is why women should never overstep and try to compensate for incompetence. This is the epitome of social freeloading. Do not even look at men that don’t have basic life skills nor the compassion and consistency to apply those skills meaningfully in a partnership. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 03:05 PM |
| 41 | All my male friends want to date me and I feel pressured when I rejected themThis hurt to read and confirmed a lot of the sentiments that I had. I’ve come to realise that these male friendships also haven’t been mutually beneficial and in grooming me/ vetting me for a romantic relationship, they are toxic and it is abusive. This was confirmation for me to divest from heterosexual male friendship and companionship. It honestly does nothing for me. Thank you | /r/askFDS | 14/04/21 03:00 PM |
| 20 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 6 - BDSM. Kink. Sex Work. Polyamory. ENDGAME: CANNIBALISM.Yes! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 01:26 PM |
| 200 | Found this on a relationship sub. Women think this kind of behaviour is endearing ?! Nah sis 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ makes me wonder what else he thinks gets done by magic. Some guy commented and argued with me about how men do more domestic labour lmao I can’t handle this sub. I never want to be married.This was insane to read but so true. A lot of men think that housework is magically done. I remember when my mom would take trips for work, my dad was always flustered and confused. And outsourced that labour my mom did onto my sisters and I (we were literal children). The audacity never ceases to amaze me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 10:54 AM |
| 42 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 6 - BDSM. Kink. Sex Work. Polyamory. ENDGAME: CANNIBALISM.I love these episodes! I just wish that Savanna said a bit more . Maybe its just me and she’s just not naturally chatty 🙈 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 10:40 AM |
| 1 | Sorry but no, withholding sex isn’t a real thing because nobody’s entitled to your body under any circumstances. In her BIO she calls herself a psychologist. 🤡its the sad music in the back for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 07:19 AM |
| 19 | Polyamorous, Every bi woman on dating apps feel this video I am certain.Lmfao. This is hilarious. The main talking point is always “hUmAnS aRe NoT NAtuRaLLy MonOgAmous” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 09:44 PM |
| 43 | Of course Reddit somehow convinced her this obvious case of porn sickness is ok...People then have the audacity to say that porn empowers women or its also made for women. And its not attached to reality. Where sis??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 03:50 PM |
| 57 | The biggest problem with "sex positivity" is that it put the cart before the horse.This is so true. I feel that we are now at a point in our society where men are using the tools of empowerment that women found ie Feminism, to continue the exploitation of women as labour, 'romantic partners/ bangmaids' and sponsors of their lifestyle. While using 'feminism' to make women police each other and essentially uphold the values and systems of patriarchy. It breaks my heart to see the tools that women created being used against them to further subjugate us under things such as 'choic… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 06:22 PM |
| 57 | "IM HIS FIRST LOVE. HE'LL ALWAYS COME BACK TO ME."sis. I used to feel so cocky and brag about my exes 'coming back'. Now I just feel sad that I had no boundaries and allowed abuse and mistreatment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 06:16 PM |
| 260 | At Least One Good Thing Came From The Vice Article!I think that the only reason that most men are mad at FDS is because they have operated in a system where they could do the least and still win the most. Edit: people get mad when the thing that was once free has a pricetag. And in this case its men that are emotionally and mentally sound, and don’t perpetuate misogyny in their relationships. Women are mad because they have conformed to the notion that they need to be able to “do it all” (bangmaid and #girlboss) to get a decent guy. Whereas they… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 01:55 PM |
| 13 | Roasting my past libfem pickme self 🤡Thank you for sharing this! I used to be such a cool girl. I would make vulgar jokes in front of men, be anti-woman and actively compete with other women for the attention of men. What did I get in the end? I kept attracting LVMs and alienated myself from a female empowering support structure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 05:27 PM |
| 194 | Chris Meloni Demonstrating Why We StanThis man is built like a fridge. Honestly, in 2021 the only thing men have is the audacity | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 08:35 PM |
| 71 | Reminder to myself and others: Just focus on yourself honey.Just keep being steadfast and strong. You are whole and complete, everything else that comes into your life should compliment you. You’re doing wonderfully! It only gets worse plus people will have the audacity to shame you. THEY will start asking you about your “biological clock” or threaten you more by saying that you won’t find a man. Ugh and don’t get me started with the “who will care for you in your old age”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 04:26 PM |
| 242 | Reminder to myself and others: Just focus on yourself honey.The worst thing is that these women will shame you. Or look at you pitifully because “you haven’t lived a fuller life”. Or infantilise you because you weren’t dumb and rushed into a marriage without vetting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 03:04 PM |
| 58 | 👑 Listening to this on repeat! It’s valid for me to happiest single. Marriage and babies don’t have to be my life goals 👑You’re really lucky to have realised that a lot sooner. I’m embarrassed to say this, but when I started my level up journey I just wanted to date/ meet men. And levelling up seemed like the best way. But even in that time doing those things wasn’t linked to my joy or satisfaction but men. Even in my level up, pickmeisha still had to come through. I would still love to be in a relationship one day. But the thought of not being in one doesn’t fill me with dread or anxiety. Being single used to fee… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 01:40 PM |
| 15 | Question about men on reddit, are they particularly low value, porn sick and sexist or they represents the general male population in the west?Lol. I’m taking notes How to know if he’s high value: “Never heard of/ uses reddit” ✍️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 12:48 PM |
| 206 | 👑 Listening to this on repeat! It’s valid for me to happiest single. Marriage and babies don’t have to be my life goals 👑This is so true. Learning to be single this past year has been so hard! I’m slowly undoing the internalised patriarchy/ misogyny that demonised female singlehood. Initially when I was doing activities/ levelling up ie. hiking, french lessons, I was doing it because I wanted to ensure that I was able to appeal to men. And also “accidentally” bump into the love of my life. But through growth and self discovery, I have been learning that I am the love of my life. And investing in myself isn’t to fi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 11:57 AM |
| 12 | US rep successfully argue against Bill that would provide $6 million in childcare grants. Conservative men want us to be submissive bangmaids, liberal men want us to be their #girlboss bangmaids.This man knows what he’s arguing for. But he also knows that he doesn’t give a fuck about women, so why even bother with a succinct argument? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 02:32 AM |
| 14 | Male Pandering At Its Finest.. Embarrassing.True. Men are literally at every corner. Plus the HVM are too busy living fulfilling lives to see this nonsense. So what does she stand to gain??? 😭😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 02:30 AM |
| 2 | US rep successfully argue against Bill that would provide $6 million in childcare grants. Conservative men want us to be submissive bangmaids, liberal men want us to be their #girlboss bangmaids.I’m so sorry. 🥺 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 02:29 AM |
| 1 | Don't give him a pennyThat’s way better. I was scared that he was emotionally unstable and would try and use violence. Thanks for the clarity! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 06:43 PM |
| 2 | Don't give him a pennyI wouldn’t give this man a dime. How can you ‘invite’ me out but still expect me to go dutch. However, if he does show signs of violence, aggression or anger, then I wouldn’t want to be caught up with such a man. So I’d pay my share if that were the case then block him. The only thing worse than a stingy man is an unstable one | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 05:32 PM |
| 92 | Male Pandering At Its Finest.. Embarrassing.This is embarrassing. What does she have to gain from this? Aside from a misogynistic dusty sliding into her dms to applaud her | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 05:28 PM |
| 60 | US rep successfully argue against Bill that would provide $6 million in childcare grants. Conservative men want us to be submissive bangmaids, liberal men want us to be their #girlboss bangmaids.Masculinity and patriarchy have always relied on someone being fucked. And that happens to be women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 05:26 PM |
| 1 | Of course the comments are filled with disgusting men 🙄Wasn’t this guy in a film where he was actually abusing women? Life really imitates art | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 05:20 PM |
| 187 | US rep successfully argue against Bill that would provide $6 million in childcare grants. Conservative men want us to be submissive bangmaids, liberal men want us to be their #girlboss bangmaids.As an African woman, I’m reminded that despite the tools of oppression being used against me are different, women are still fighting the same nonsense globally. Women need spaces like FDS is because systemic oppression has not changed, it has only evolved to suit 2021. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 04:46 PM |
| 25 | Don’t let them baby trap you ladies. Very bad things can happen.This is the tea. Its a last ditch effort to recover their failed life, and to brag and say “I contributed to humanity”. Like no dude, you just furthered generational poverty and a destabilised family. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 06:39 AM |
| 63 | Don’t let them baby trap you ladies. Very bad things can happen.This is so true. This man doesn’t care about his wife. Her pain and her trauma is just an inconvenience to him and his pleasure. He even had the audacity to say “my mom isn’t so nice to his wife”, he can blatantly see that she doesn’t have a good support system but he’s not intervening. This man does not love his wife, only what she can do for him. And because the situation doesn’t look like his fantasy family, instead of helping her and trying to adjust he’s just blaming. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 06:34 AM |
| 4 | Help me unpack this post. It rubs me the wrong way but I don't know how to articulate it. Some dude I know posted it, no idea about HVM or LVM in his case.I hate posts like this. I have noticed it in black communities especially!! It is inherently misogynistic. But from the perspective of a WOC, the reason why we have to do so much and embody such “MaScULinE” traits is because the men in our communities often tend to be unable to do basic things. This is a very deep topic that should be discussed especially within POC spaces. But inherently, women will act like masculina’s and pick me’s when in a society that doesn’t support them | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 05:48 AM |
| 6 | What we learn from Gamestop and Wallstreet brosI love this so much!!!! Thank you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 05:34 AM |
| 31 | Here are awesome RED flags to watch out for when vetting men. Found them in a Kristen Leo video. Link is in the caption.I agree too, interests like sport don’t make you a HVM or LVM. It all just depends on the relationship towards these things. Its like having a partner thats a gamer and games to relax. Relaxing and toxic dependency have a major distinction. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 01:00 PM |
| 31 | Here are awesome RED flags to watch out for when vetting men. Found them in a Kristen Leo video. Link is in the caption.That modesty thing is so true! The Madonna whore complex coming out at its finest!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 12:58 PM |
| 8 | Men having a laundry list of things required in a woman while doing the bare minimum. Men will have the audacity to make yourself look dumb for this...Yoh sis!!!! Same!! I actually met this guy on hinge and he looked cute. Plus he had an amazing personality! But when we had a video call I was shook 😬 he looked older and he was 20kg heavier. Plus his personality was not it. That was the end of online dating for me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 09:04 PM |
| 3 | Just a reminder: if a man is rude or stereotypes women from his own race, bet he will also mistreat you.Its true. Most men act from a space of elevating their masculinity. And unfortunately they will fetishise certain races to elevate that clout! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 06:12 PM |
| 5 | Just a reminder: if a man is rude or stereotypes women from his own race, bet he will also mistreat you.That is disgusting! I am so sorry you had that experience. Please watch out for these men that will not see you as a woman but as a social currency to help elevate them in society. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 06:11 PM |
| 74 | It’s literally so funny to see how man react when genders are literally reversedThis is for all the men and the pick me’s that cross post our content calling us female incels. Here is what the “equality” you want actually requires. Yet they will never understand this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 12:06 PM |
| 13 | Just a reminder: if a man is rude or stereotypes women from his own race, bet he will also mistreat you.Same sis!!! And at every point men like this make it seem like you’re privileged to be dating them! Plus they expect you to perform to get basic stuff ie dinner dates etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 04:49 AM |
| 18 | Just a reminder: if a man is rude or stereotypes women from his own race, bet he will also mistreat you.Plus he will only accept a fetishised version of femininity!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 04:47 AM |
| 8 | My father is a LVM, and I began to learn not to marry the same man like my father.Sis!!! I have the same situation. One thing I have been learning is that no matter how HV you see your mom as, she is still making the decision to stay. She has decided that he is the best she could find and keep as a husband and father to her kids. I suggest going to therapy, because a lot of the LV nonsense your dad does is normalised and may impact how you engage and view other men. To ensure that you don’t repeat that curse make sure you deal with all the resentment and any other feelings yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 03:34 PM |
| 1 | Protect yourself from "Time Vampires".This hurt to read but its so true. I let a guy waste 3 months of my time, no dates and I had to initiate calls. And every time I tried calling him out he would blame it on the pandemic, even when restrictions were lifted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 03:21 PM |
| 119 | Men want to trick you into doing it ALL but won't even pay for your dinner or celebrate your birthday anymore. Dont fall for it.Im actually so pissed. Because in more modern times this behaviour has been normalised. Men are actually surprised that you demand basic things such as dates and emotional intelligence. And are surprised that you don’t applaud them for doing something basic like keeping themselves clean. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 05:40 AM |
| 31 | I am so glad that more and more women are realising that casual sex is a complete scam for women.I totally agree. I hate liberal feminism because nowadays “liberation” is presented as being readily available for male consumption. Whilst miraculously telling other women that this is what “liberation” should look like. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 04:28 PM |
| 10 | Thank youI love this for you! These men aren’t shit. One of the quickest ways to ruin a women’s life is by allowing the wrong man into her life. You’re only going to go up from here! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 04:14 PM |
| 177 | Being decent isn’t difficult“Boys will be boys” is a cop out for either lazy parenting or men who purposely perpetuate misogyny and are gaslighting you simultaneously for their actions | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 08:27 PM |
| 5 | 9/10 the men that lurk, comment or post screenshots from FDS, are men that feel disenfranchised from normal “masculine” circles. And in an attempt to regain power, they enter female only spaces to try and obtain an “authority” or “power”.Quite frankly it’s disgusting. They cross post so they don’t soak in their LVM-ness alone | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 05:13 PM |
| 32 | What LVM really mean when they say...This is the real tea!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 04:31 PM |
| 10 | I am so beyond done being the mommy-maid-therapist figure and I honestly think I will remain single for the rest of my life. Love is simply not enough.This man is disgusting sis. Start planning your exit. Stop helping this man. Don’t sleep with him and start treating him like a roommate in the meantime. That means do things for yourself only, such as cooking and cleaning. Don’t even give him access to your anger. Now start looking for an apartment and start setting yourself up to leave. This man is a dusty who has wasted 6 years of your life. Plus you’re 24, you can literally pick any man you want. Start recovering and go to therapy too! This … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 02:36 PM |
| 389 | What LVM really mean when they say...My other favourite is: “I’ll take you out for dinner after we see how this goes” what he actually means is: “I want to waste your time, and force you into performing as a girlfriend to prove worthy for a meal” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 02:18 PM |
| 29 | Relationship Ambiguity Is The New Backlash, and It's Dangerous and Effective Because of Its SubtletyIts moments like these when I realise that the plight of women has not changed. Just the tools of systemic oppression have, only now its harder to detect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/21 07:14 PM |
| 5 | Proud of myselfWell done! This is one step in the right direction. And that direction is your true high value form | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 01:26 PM |
| 2 | To all of us who grew up in households with toxic borderline abusive fathers, and mothers that stayed, just being in this group means we won’t continue that generational curseThank you so much! I will definitely check it out | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 01:52 PM |
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