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You're better off reading Kohut and Kernberg than to follow his pop-psychology jibber-jabber.
/r/TheRedPill10/12/14 05:37 PM
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A "red pill" psychotherapist is a psychoanalyst who vehemently adheres to Kernbergian metapsychology – that is, in the form of psychoanalytic psychotherapy.
/r/TheRedPill10/12/14 05:28 PM
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If girls aren't bored by the time 21 comes, and have access to clubs/bars in their college town/city, I'd be surprised if dating up isn't the case. At 21 you're an upperclassman as a junior/senior in college. Females are also psychologically "older" by two years of their male counterparts. Your male upperclassmen will have to compete with the gendered-age-gap immaturity relative to whatever male competition is at the establishment/venue you happen to frequent. It's not completely equal in terms …
/r/TheRedPill07/12/14 08:36 AM
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Do you tell these Mexican girls that you're Mexican?
/r/TheRedPill07/12/14 07:46 AM
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I'm talking about beforehand dude. Obviously you don't want to instigate people. But when it becomes physical by all means whatever reaction you do aside from more diplomatic means is understandable. The first problem is not the aggressor escalating things physically, it's the guy being in his damn cross hairs first and then inadvertently saying something to instigate/provoke him.
/r/TheRedPill28/11/14 11:53 PM
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He probably felted rejected here (Rejection Sensitivity or RS), so his flight-or-flight response kicked-in. I know it's your right to ignore him, but perhaps with more gentleness and empathy can go a lot of ways of diffusing potential interpersonal conflicts, if not, disarming them altogether. After all if he went up in your face about your eating habits, while presumably he's at McD himself, isn't that being hypocrite and nevertheless irrational social engagement for being "nuts"? Wouldn't stru…
/r/TheRedPill21/11/14 05:09 PM
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Even if Julien gets axed in the UK/AUS or wherever, it only proves the feminist propaganda that eroded in those societies. Suspecting folks seeking enlightenment to their life-long disenchantment will find so online, and that is when they can set themselves free. Hell, even Roosh V talks about the destruction feminist states, hopefully this will inspire man-children to rise up and seek opportunities abroad and to realize the destruction that such misguided political-machine it has become. Let's …
/r/TheRedPill19/11/14 10:12 PM
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+4. ??? +5. Profit (gain publicity) You need to realize that RSD can't advertise in the traditional sense, so they have to resort to alternative methods to solicit new followers. Even if he was overly aggressive and made a mistake, they capsized a perfect opportunity to self-promote themselves. Moms and beta-white-knights will gawk with awe, but they will walk away, where the suspecting young folks will come in and seek out Julien's methods.
/r/TheRedPill18/11/14 06:51 PM
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RSD is a young lad, more-so than Tyler by a decade, he will take it to higher heights, especially since TRP/Manosphere/Seduction/Pick-up has gone "mainstream" in its own might, on the internet.
/r/TheRedPill18/11/14 06:47 PM
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Tyler's recent videos explained how the mainstream media doesn't do a good job soliciting a balance opinion without inserting bias, particularly with the Elliot Rodger's tragedy. RSD thrives as an alternative anti-mainstream self-improvement company, so when young bucks sift through their videos and start piecing together the information themselves, they can ultimately draw conclusions themselves to determine what's worth salt and what's not. However, the issue right now with Julien will be addr…
/r/TheRedPill17/11/14 08:57 PM
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The thought and writing is more revealing and clear now. I don't disagree with it at all. In fact I adhere to it and don't care to run around like a madman in club with on a narrow time-frame to appease a bunch of female passerbys too. However, you do realize that TD is whoring around because he is a transient with a personality to sell? He offers a band-aid solution ultimately and doesn't offer a true long-term strategic plan for most people. And yes, you're better off being a genuine person, w…
/r/TheRedPill31/10/14 07:51 AM
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Basically Lasch simplifies the destructive culture that has manifested thus far in America. It's actually written in the 1970s and it is still and even more relevant today than the yesteryears prior. It'll save you a lot of time from incessantly theorizing and provide you with succinct and concise closure. The writing and thoughts are clear. It's a book to keep and cherish for the years to come.
/r/TheRedPill31/10/14 05:21 AM
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Ironically that is what he preaches - to be your own party wherever you go However, he is adamant about going clubbing is because it's where there's a concentration of filtered, hot women in abundance. I mean if you feel fulfilled and self-satisfied rock climbing or some outdoor shit (which Owen does himself) be our guest, but I doubt there will be many club-quality-looking women in those environments.
/r/TheRedPill31/10/14 03:48 AM
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The Culture of Narcissism: American Life in an Age of Diminishing Expectations by Christopher Lasch is an excellent read for analyzing narcissism in American society.
/r/TheRedPill31/10/14 01:36 AM
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You move the fuck on – stop wasting time being a consolation prize.
/r/TheRedPill01/09/14 04:57 PM
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How's the relationship with your mom? Most guys I know whom go for older single-mom have.. well mom issues themselves.
/r/askTRP25/08/14 05:12 AM
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Drug dealers are always "in the moment" and communicate with implicit and explicit intent with everyone.
/r/TheRedPill09/08/14 03:33 AM
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This is why he have preemptive aggression/rage/hostility towards almost everyone.
/r/TheRedPill09/08/14 03:32 AM
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You're right. The cycle of the internet will continue on with petty jokes and sensational politicization of nit-bit of the most mundane bullshit – and if it doesn't make you a cynic, then I digress.
/r/TheRedPill27/07/14 12:13 AM
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I don't know man, I learn a lot of shit on Reddit and the internet despite being drenched in it.
/r/TheRedPill14/07/14 05:06 AM
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For the most part, I don't disagree with this generalization. This is an issue of interpersonal relations, which is dependent on the threshold of respective tolerance for each respective party here. As such, each person has to figure out themselves how to navigate and decide how to respectively best approach their communication/relations for less blowback and maximized effect/productivity. It's very circumstantial and situational that is dependent on a context of sociocultural/political underton…
/r/TheRedPill07/07/14 04:08 PM
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Yes. Psychoanalytic theory can be applied and utilized more-so with TRP than academic psychology, as with all your aforementioned tenants about it
/r/TheRedPill07/07/14 04:06 PM
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Just to add to this: Academic psychology ≠ psychoanalytic metapsychology
/r/TheRedPill07/07/14 03:50 PM
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Just because I'm saying that passive-aggressiveness is a negative trait doesn't mean it results into a binary choice of choosing the dichotomy of "passivity" and "aggression". The issue is inherent that we're already acknowledging passive-aggressiveness in whatever context, literally and figuratively. Being sincere and assertive doesn't mean bending over back nor being overtly opinionated.
/r/TheRedPill21/06/14 02:08 AM
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You're forgetting that season tickets can be amount to "spending a shitload of money".
/r/TheRedPill21/06/14 02:03 AM
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By basically being more self-secure and communicate more assertively – "maintaining professionalism" can be subjectively anything. I would explore and utilized psychotherapy to figure our your self-weaknesses and insecurities that lead you to such power struggles in inter-gender relations in the workplace.
/r/TheRedPill15/06/14 12:32 AM
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Truly intelligence and successful people –not psychopaths– whom actually have emotional-intellegence seek to ameliorate and mediate interpersonal conflicts. They don't go out to passive-aggressively exacerbate hostile aggression and inflict personal agendas, tarnishing relationships by politicalizing it.
/r/TheRedPill15/06/14 12:22 AM
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Applying whatnot philosophy of stoicism shouldn't translate to being emotionally-unavailable.
/r/TheRedPill15/06/14 12:19 AM
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Don't self-depreciate yourself here; it seems that things have went well for you. Don't dwell on the past with "what if" hindsights. Why not consider volunteer work, social sports, attend festivals, bumming around a nearby city (if you aren't situated in one already) during your seemingly free weekends to bolster your socialization? Find something sociable to counterbalance your introverted setup and commitments. I won't consider restaurant work because that will only induce additional unnecessa…
/r/TheRedPill15/06/14 12:14 AM
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Restaurant waitstaff disproportionately incentivize and compensate females – and is very dependent on outward external traits, image, appearance, physical attractiveness, communication skills, customer service, and warm, charismatic, other positive-qualities personality-wise.
/r/TheRedPill15/06/14 12:07 AM
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From the stories and advice I hear, restaurant work and being apart of waitstaff can be an unending pigeon-holing life-suck – the money is quick and fast but you never really have to time to "sit-down" and reflect/asses your life trajectory. It is very much "living in the moment" and while this mentality is praised in the self-improvement world, conversely, it can also be destructive if overindulged without ideal hindsight and foresight. Also, the issue with restaurant work is that you can't nec…
/r/TheRedPill14/06/14 11:59 PM
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Idolizing older men for being the Jesuit god-complex as a rescuer/savior fantasy to their religiousness mean-making.
/r/AlreadyRed30/05/14 12:12 PM
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I'm going to have to ask: How much of a "girlfriend" is this 23 year-old girlfriend of yours?
/r/AlreadyRed30/05/14 11:56 AM
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Psychoanalytic literature explains a lot the "craziness" of bisexual folks.
/r/TheRedPill30/03/14 02:39 PM
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Keep it steady, it will pay off.
/r/TheRedPill01/02/14 04:47 PM
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Beautifully said. A large part of folks whom find TRP or studying PUA bizarre is the fact that they come from a place of stability and social-awareness. For someone whom have cultivated harmonious family and relationship dynamics, it just doesn't fit in their paradigm when others are not in it. What's worse is that they take a peak of such communities when it's full of dudes whom are earnestly lost and without guidance talking to others whom are respectively the same as well, while the community…
/r/TheRedPill22/01/14 07:33 AM
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It's available for free via digital borrowing through Open Library.
/r/TheRedPill14/01/14 09:48 AM
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Often times than not, it takes a situation and circumstance to open a lane up in your life to cause introspection and alter your preexisting reality into something better. Things will always look better with more awareness and actualization in retrospect. Hindsight is 20/20. It was a wake up call so keep truckin'.
/r/TheRedPill13/01/14 09:21 PM
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I'd like women to be confident in their own female domain but I wouldn't want them to psychopathically undermine and sabotage my role and duties as a male. However, we can realize that for many "betas" and weak-minded men without a strong identity/backbone will shrivel in front of an idealized non-psychopathic aka non-crazy female – being the issues stems from relating and socializing with females as a whole.
/r/TheRedPill13/01/14 09:17 PM
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I'm sure you can parlay the course load of a degree over time with night courses and self-study – although it prolongs your graduation, I'm sure within the timeframe is when a degree will really materialize and produce results (more technical/managerial position). This is my game plan if I ever go decide for IT.
/r/TheRedPill13/01/14 05:26 AM
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A lot of "outer game" is essentially arbitrary cognitive behavior modification – behaviorism. Internal game focuses on internalized psychodynamics. I'm oversimplifying here as there is just too much to write about it. Hopefully these keywords will lead you to some self-exploration on this.
/r/TheRedPill13/01/14 05:21 AM
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Women invented machiavellianism, men adopted it and refined it as their own natural advantage (physical strength) became outlawed and resulted in social ostracisation. This is basically what most TRP folks are going through; we all are here congregating from our respective lives and communities where it was inadequately and leading us into self-sabotage and inter-gender relationship roadblocks, where our respective environments did not warrant/support or provide disarming and empowering advice a…
/r/TheRedPill13/01/14 03:32 AM
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I know it's Psychology Today and it is still an inadequate write-up that seeks to resolute with equilitarian-equilibrium harmony in intimate relationships, but I think if we extended the purview with the usual evolutionary human theory looking at primitive sexual behaviors that we're all used to internalizing, then we'd have an even more impactful message. For the most practicalness of this write-up, we should realize that it is probably unlikely for the female role to self-indoctrinate and adhe…
/r/TheRedPill13/01/14 03:05 AM
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I'm curious to hear how it's working out for you now. I have found similar feels after taking an ethics class that introduced me to a lot of basic philosophical reasoning and logic, which obviously propelled me to learn more and definitely influenced a lot of my critical thinking – all for the better today.
/r/TheRedPill12/01/14 02:52 AM
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I suppose in an all-male school you could at least focus your attention modeling traits, microagressions, and characteristics of alpha males, while minimizing succumbing or being magnetized by females that can zone in on un-deconstructed/unexamined beta behaviors as a teenager/adolescent.
/r/TheRedPill26/12/13 08:09 AM
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Yup. The article is just a continuum more of the same old bashing the bureaucratic structure of schooling. Unfortunately, and fortunately, I jumped ship early have essentially stopped attending school since the 7th grade, instead spending my own energies and focus on learning the shit I wanted to learn, which is now materializing in my life pathway/trajectory. I had a juvenile probation officer for truancy and pretty much told the educational system to fuck themselves, and so far, I have no regr…
/r/TheRedPill26/12/13 08:06 AM
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I'm stumped man. So why are you here? If you don't want conversation and if you didn't want write a thesis then so be it. I don't know about you but I sometimes write long "theses" to a one-line Reddit comment; I do it for the sake of myself, to tap into my intellectual sphere taking it as an opportunity to organize everything making sense of the topic.. It sounds like you're fed up with academia? Anyways whatever. I'm probably not going to take your original comment of any more value because I …
/r/TheRedPill22/12/13 03:26 AM
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What the fuck man. Dude relax. I was genuinely curious about your exchange abroad and coming briefly back to America. If you don't want deep discussion about shit and just want to fucking self-righteous rant, by all means go ahead. While you're at it, why don't you just continue your one-liner spiral and make this sub into /r/seduction Maybe it was great for you "escape" the states so you can smothered yourself with pretentious snob-filled hollier-than-thou emasculated French dickwads.
/r/TheRedPill16/12/13 11:53 PM
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Can you contrast the differences between living in France and the US, in the perspective of TRP?
/r/TheRedPill16/12/13 05:55 AM
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puer aeternus TIL. I looked up this and I found this article that spoke home to how I grew up and pretty much sums up the social environment/cult I had to depart from. Your 20s is fucking limited guys, and it's one of the only times where it can have a monumental impact to changing your habits, thoughts, and personality for the long-term. Understandably, this is a bit more mainstream but if you guys haven't read Meg Jay's The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter -- And How to Make the Most …
/r/TheRedPill02/12/13 09:36 AM
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Because most people are breaking social norms and inducing the other person to break their own social norms by participating in your interaction, despite the fact that the media/movies idealizes a self-confident attractive guy whom will sweep a girl off her feet in the middle of daytime. To "cold approach", the execution must be be ripe with flawless reading of the other person's mental state, building rapport, and being socially appropriate in the right context/environment. Basically, on an ana…
/r/TheRedPill01/12/13 06:01 PM
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No worries. Your reply was what I wanted to elicit as sometimes I realize you've gotta be a bit provocative to stir cutting-edge discussion. Though undeniably, despite wanting to stir up some discussion, albeit in a discrete sensational way, with his semi-distinct background, I was a bit apathetic and didn't execute it well. Oh well, but yeah what I was trying to imply that Drake has roots as a "nice Jewish boy," if we want to be explicit. Here he is talking about his Bar Mitzvah, if you want a …
/r/TheRedPill01/12/13 05:52 PM
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Do you or anyone have full access to the article?
/r/TheRedPill01/12/13 05:41 PM
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Give me a break, it has no bearing on me if he personally follows Judaism or not – and the degree to which he does as well. Perhaps I should have exemplified some more but I meant to make a differentiation between him and other successful artists in today's limelight. Though, I can understand the negative reaction for the brevity of the reply; however, it was not my intentions to offend – if anything, it's with apologizes if I came across this way. I think his unatypical background and upbringin…
/r/TheRedPill29/11/13 06:01 AM
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Let's not forget Drake is part Jewish.
/r/TheRedPill28/11/13 08:30 PM
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I'd be weary about the girls whom take it semi-seriously too; they might have underlying, albeit subdued, angst and hatred. I like to think music is an external reflection of one's internal feelings as something they can resonate with. Just think about the the girls who went through their emo/punk rebellious stage as a teenager; and think of the girls whom are in their mid-twenties still embracing it wholeheartedly. I'm not denying their preferences in life, though I think we can closely look at…
/r/TheRedPill28/11/13 08:05 AM
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I came from the community by omission. It's pusedo-machismo-ism because simply without the posturing their egos (mine as well when I absorbed this mantra) will be crushed by reality. If you take Donald Winnicot's psychoanalytic terms of true self/false self concept, it's definitely posturing with a false self. Though, some generations of kids may be born into their environment and subsequently subconsciously follow this mantra through their culture and elders/surroundings, thus they may not see …
/r/TheRedPill28/11/13 02:03 AM
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Let's realize hood culture is psuedo-machismo-ism at its finest – posturing masculinity, rather instead internalizing the philosophy of RP and enduring the world with authentic self-actualized superiority. white women, latinas, and asians i don't think you met the opposite of how you idealize these types. work-class irish girls "southie-types", ghetto single-mom hispanic girls, and rachet cambodian/viet.. semi-ghetto chinese girls will equally test you incessantly as well in the black culture um…
/r/TheRedPill27/11/13 08:59 AM
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Oh the memories of the misc. section of BB way back when. Honestly, dude I would really look into reading up psychology to introspect whatever issue, wether it may be childhood trauma or arrested development, that is impinging on your belief system that is presently occurring right now. If you realize you do have repressed issues or unconscious internal conflicts stemming from the past, don't discount seeing a clinical psychologist to help you schematically map out and reinterpret/reparent the e…
/r/TheRedPill21/11/13 05:35 AM
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TRP is beyond cutting-edge in theory and social acceptance for the mainstream to comprehend, so it remains reserved for the truth-seekers whom are enlightened and actively desire pursuing radical transformative change within themselves, by internalizing a specially curated framework of mindset and purview. Nonetheless, this why the collective ethos, agenda, and theoretical framework is summed up metaphorically labeling itself under the umbrella as "The Red Pill", utilizing the construct of the R…
/r/TheRedPill20/11/13 07:33 AM
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I personally had felt it gave me a bump up physiologically when I was administered testosterone therapy two years ago. However, I'm already of ideal proportions and height and produced enough testosterone levels on my own prior, so I was medically discontinued to continue to take testosterone therapy as it did not improve my low libido/ED. (my pediatric urologist said I had low test while adult endocrinology said I had way too much test with the therapy; without it, my test level was/are normal …
/r/TheRedPill20/11/13 04:47 AM
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I have friends but not really any strong bonds so when it comes time to go out to bars and what not Have you considered intensely committing yourself through self-focus right now and level up your internalized purview/mindset, unhinged by your current friends? For me, self-focusing and gaining new social awareness and knowledge/calibration had lead me to a new onset of potential friendships that wouldn't have existed had I stayed put with my friends that know and relate to me of my, at that time…
/r/TheRedPill20/11/13 04:36 AM
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What documentary was this?
/r/TheRedPill19/11/13 12:43 PM
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What were you current test levels and what is the frequency and dosage you take now and thus far?
/r/TheRedPill19/11/13 10:14 AM
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As I type, there is a good chance I may unreasonably be demoted or actually be fired, to spend many days by myself in a far east asian foreign country, but I genuinely am not bothered, because I have faith in myself and my own individuality to be the most important denominator in this situation. What the fuck man. Can you explain your rationale here?
/r/TheRedPill16/11/13 10:07 AM
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It sounds like she's rationalizing and putting down her fellow 'Asian man' justifying her dating practices.
/r/TheRedPill16/11/13 02:09 AM
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They think that just because so many white guys have yellow fever they think they're hot shit. Yeah, once they climb the white-washed fence, they act despicably entitled. For most, the white guys aren't out the league or hitting it out of the ball park either.
/r/TheRedPill16/11/13 02:07 AM
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Seeing that you stumbled upon TRP randomly, I'm curious as to how was your life before and after learning and applying the concepts?
/r/TheRedPill12/11/13 01:23 AM
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I've been following RSD and /r/seduction for three years, knowing it inside out. However, I realize that a lot of the intellectual manosphere blogs such as The Rawness broke things down way more intuitively and applicable in my circumstance. I felt that I couldn't just go bombard and get blown out by 100 sets, to then rationalize and look like a fool playing it off as practice. I live in a dense and intimate area where I don't have the luxury yet to bounce city-to-city or relocate, like the inst…
/r/TheRedPill12/11/13 01:20 AM
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The DSM is more of a psychiatry modality. After all, it's coming of the American Psychiatric Association (APA), rather than the American Psychology Association (APA). There are a lot of controversies and disputes against the the entirety of the DSM and how unscientific in evidence and data for their diagnostic criteria as well – not every shrink supports the DSM. However, unfortunately it is used as a reference by insurance companies, (I believe) judicial system, and other whatnot organizations.…
/r/TheRedPill10/11/13 04:10 PM
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but the underlying cause requires a whole lot of therapy, and even that has very limited effect. Personality Disorders forms in childhood in which their early self is compromised and arrested in development, thus leading to a maladaptive coping and personality structure that becomes problematic in interpersonal relationships. It's going to be a tough cookie for therapists or anybody trying to access layers upon layers of defense mechanisms and distorted purview that is foundational right from th…
/r/TheRedPill10/11/13 03:48 PM
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I have respect for you acknowledging and asserting all of that of your family dynamics. My mother's dad was an alcoholic as well whom was ill very early-on in her childhood and eventually died in her teen-years, and due to life misfortunes and poverty in Communist dictatorship, my mom did not have the best child development that would lead to having a healthy sense of identity and self, let alone cultivate the subconscious skills to attract an alpha man. My dad was a playboy himself and was esse…
/r/TheRedPill09/11/13 01:14 AM
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Last year when I was studying psychology on my own, I learned from an old barrister lady (she has some medical misfortunes) that studied undergraduate psychology, having grown up with in a dysfunctional and emotionally abusive gamy; her words remain a grounding force in my life today speaking of my parent's relationship dynamics of Borderline and Narcissistic couples: it's whoever has the stronger personality, wins. You may not necessarily need to be an alpha 24/7 in all social circumstances, th…
/r/TheRedPill09/11/13 12:22 AM
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Have you'd delved deeper into her life story and family dynamics and connected her actions towards her life up to now? With that connection, I would have pressed on her to accept and live with her faults ridden with guilt. For a larger systems theory picture, the world would be much better if everyone lived in reality where their actions do have consequences and not be in denial or be excused. You may excuse her on your own front as her son, though does it resolve her internal conflicts of guilt…
/r/TheRedPill09/11/13 12:19 AM
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Shit. That's a tough dialectical position to be in; having a mother validating the foundation of TRP with her experience, while empowering yourself learning it because of such family dynamics. My mom dropped my dad for not being alpha (compulsive gambler and being a narcissist touting a lot of psuedo-machoisism for being a dreamer and a talker of doing XYZ that yielded no fruition) and we had to endure the struggle of financial and emotional burden ourselves. My dad 'til this day continues to ra…
/r/TheRedPill08/11/13 11:35 PM
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the last part sounds like the entirety of fashion as a whole. it's a lot of fantasy and escapism for the hopefulls as you said. though its a great way to meet a lot of people and wring out your emotional/psychological issues because of the highly confrontational and intimate nature of the industry
/r/TheRedPill08/11/13 07:23 PM
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I can relate having grown up in an insular area and demographics as a minority. It's intimidating as fuck to fight it out, but when you realize the freedom that unveils afterward, it's immensely gratifying.
/r/TheRedPill08/11/13 07:21 PM
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What does your mom agree on specifically?
/r/TheRedPill08/11/13 07:19 PM
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Nice story. Though, my question is why were you dating a single mom with all that jazz?
/r/TheRedPill03/11/13 01:57 PM
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Do delve more into this.
/r/TheRedPill03/11/13 01:54 PM
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Can you delve more into dating a girl with BPD? Sounds intense as hell.
/r/TheRedPill28/10/13 02:32 AM
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Got it. This sounds very blatant and direct, an all-or-nothing mentality that is working for you.
/r/TheRedPill13/10/13 10:40 PM
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I'm studying a bit of psychology particularly Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, and I think this can come off as invalidating to the person/girl. There must be underlying reasons that makes them feel that way or spruce up that question or need for validation.
/r/TheRedPill13/10/13 10:27 PM
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Intersubjectively-wise, you've surpassed their reality. Don't fall victim into their blatant passive aggressive sabotaging or regress into validating their realities. Move on and build a new ecosystem of positive people. Over come their efforts to undermine your growth. Just move on.
/r/seduction14/07/13 12:41 AM
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I hear you, good plan.
/r/seduction05/07/13 10:09 AM
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How did you ask her out? What was the interaction like? Sounds like a lot of initial resistance, if there is mutual attraction.
/r/seduction05/07/13 05:30 AM
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You can be friendly on a casual basis, but not necessarily a full-fledged in your social-circle-type-of-friend.
/r/seduction05/07/13 05:29 AM
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I can understand that and resonate with him. Unfortunately, pick-up and self-improvement does have its preconceptions -- I mean in the beginning I had my reservations and doubts, until I've stuck with it for a long while, to undermine my faulty belief systems and perception of myself that I realize the true essence of it all. On the outside, the whole community and approaches/interaction looks very superficial, which of course on the outside, it is. However, I think when we get to the gist and t…
/r/seduction05/07/13 02:27 AM
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While I agree with you, I feel like there's a story behind this post.
/r/seduction05/07/13 01:16 AM
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Very good points. Let's not forget, it's largely for the most part, superficially arbitrary in terms of human socializing. I think a lot of this can be said into the mainstream social networking sites out there as well. I think the biggest downside is that it allows you to be complacent about your own personal self-development and be dismissive of your supposed ongoing self-actualization. It is quite easy to be passive about things, and it's also quite easy to rationalize XYZ in front of the scr…
/r/seduction01/07/13 03:18 AM
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Can you delve more here?
/r/seduction01/07/13 02:27 AM
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I think this is a great opportunity to test how strong the trust is in the relationship. Who cares if she cheats. The earlier she does it, the faster you can move on.
/r/seduction17/02/13 06:39 AM
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Stop hiding. Just be honest about this and use it as a talking-piece to get to know more people (guys and girls). Kind of feel ashamed Work on more learning more psychology and developing inner-game. I feel you have a lot more personal stuff to overcome.
/r/seduction16/02/13 06:10 AM
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Just reply/communicate in sync with your emotions. If you we're both talkative, just continue the conversation and let your subconscious resistance kick in. Respond honestly that you're not interested and would rather relax/chill with the homies. If you over-think and break the flow with something arbitrary to cut off contact, then it could be picked-up/perceived as too harsh/being blown-out. Don't close the window entirely on a connection even with the other side wants to escalate-- still keep …
/r/seduction14/02/13 05:04 AM
1

Got any other recommended books?
/r/seduction13/02/13 03:11 AM
2

Don't worry about it
/r/seduction01/02/13 05:32 AM
2

So you made a grammatical correction after when she instantly pardoned the guy in front of you for the incident?
/r/seduction31/01/13 02:07 PM
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No worries. Excuse my constant editing if you happen to be reading just now. It's a pretty introspective write-up.
/r/seduction28/01/13 03:50 PM
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I was not invalidating your approach here. I think my advice confabulated with responding to yours. I was to shatter a larger collective unconscious about these power dynamics in general. First, I think a surefire way to bypass this it not to acknowledge the social dominance. If you don't acknowledge it, then the abstract of it becomes not only illusionary, but non-existent--in your conscious. If it's not existent, then you don't have to address that particular non-existent perception. You can d…
/r/seduction28/01/13 03:22 PM
1

I find being in the observation role keeps you present to the moment. Any social interaction from that state, will further play off as being the observant observer. No recourse for being observant. If the person presses back, then continue the social interaction and delve into an intimate conversation. Remember to make a connection all throughout. Intimiate connections forge lasting memories, that will be more beneficial then rummaging impersonal one-liners.
/r/seduction28/01/13 08:27 AM
2

There's a line between playfulness and seeking validation.
/r/seduction28/01/13 08:21 AM
2

You're projecting a lot here. Did you know, he talks about his mom in RSD videos?
/r/seduction28/01/13 08:19 AM
1

Learning each other's names is not as important here, rather it is better to focus making an intimate connection. Don't waste time with the interaction trying remember each other's names. The name will follow.
/r/seduction28/01/13 08:10 AM
2

I went with my brother, two of his friend and my best friend. First off the only reason I went to this club in the first place was because my brother took me once before and the music that was played was great. It wasn't addressed if you wanted to go to the the club. I dressed myself up for the night. Black top, jeans, new shoes. My bro and his friend complemented me on my new look because of the usual way I don't take much care in my appearance. I always where these big, blacked rimmed glasses …
/r/seduction28/01/13 07:59 AM
1

Get more romantically intimate.
/r/seduction28/01/13 07:47 AM
3

In this case, I would probably go with my normal way of dealing with someone. Doesn't seem like it. While somewhat passive-aggressive, it's not making a big deal out of something. Excellent execution of your own belief system here! Honestly, I think it would be the ideal time to implement higher level self-acceptance and self-validation. The more you have to be consciously aware and think that you have to out-meanvouer yourself, then as a result, by omission you will project a lower sense of val…
/r/seduction28/01/13 07:42 AM
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You're emphasizing too much on FB, and using it as a means of justifying why things went wrong. There's too many variables with something so subjective, to get Seddit to make an objective response. I really wanted to number close this one The real question is: why couldn't you number close?
/r/seduction22/01/13 02:31 PM
1

Clubs and bars are bastions of cluster-b personality folks. You can definitely have a good time, if you bring your own fun and group to the venue. Learning how to approach and general self-improvement is good, but trying to procure into that world for the chase, when it requires compartmentalizing your conscious for your pick-up objective, then it's just not worth your expended energies, or time. The Rawness talks very thoroughly about cluster-b people in general, and how you can get caught up i…
/r/seduction21/01/13 09:26 AM
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This can be a prime example of holding your cool, and believing that you're the prize, no matter what.
/r/seduction21/01/13 09:13 AM
2

And you also have to subconsciously acknowledge and wade through the "rich guys" and the party noise. The point of the article basically affirms having abundance rather than superficially, and outmaneuver others whom are, paying for conditional and contextual value--in the club. If you've already cultivated abundance that you've amassed with your own personality, then you can just cut the "middle-man" and the stated poor ratio of M/F "70/30". Now if you're going to have a good time, without stra…
/r/seduction19/01/13 11:47 AM
1

PM. Me.
/r/seduction17/01/13 02:18 PM
3

Not a bad proposition. However, I don't think it's an effective method for all contexts. If someone's ego doesn't mesh well with you, then it doesn't. Sometimes you don't feel like befriending them at all (despite the mantra of socializing and befriending everyone); you gotta set personal boundaries on what's explicit and what has leeway.
/r/seduction24/11/12 10:19 AM
2

Challenge: Progress and navigate the conversation towards an activity/hanging out without directly, outright asking her out.
/r/seduction20/08/12 03:26 AM
2

Having a point or goal is "too aggressive"? How is your "inexperience" relevant and support your answer to the original question? Creating attraction on Facebook and internet is tough. Open interpretation is left by the other person who reads your text. With face-to-face you can sub-conciously develop non-verbal and verbal finesse and intuition.
/r/seduction20/08/12 03:07 AM
2

Simple question: What was the point or goal of your conversation?
/r/seduction20/08/12 02:40 AM
0

Such a strong assumption to believe that an anon poster on seddit was offended, for posing a question. Illusionary beliefs, man.
/r/seduction20/08/12 02:39 AM
2

Get to the point, man.
/r/seduction20/08/12 02:14 AM
1

Keep pushing to connect with other people. Talk to everyone, so you don't feel pressured to talk to the "right" "friend". If you click with the other person, then the chatter will seamlessly get more comfortable - into intimate friendship mode.
/r/seduction20/08/12 02:12 AM
1

I watched a lot of RSD videos, but when you're oblivous, it doesn't soak in. Plus, most of his stuff are seemingly free-flowing thoughts. If you delve into psychology, it is said that people who are 'unconsciously competent' in their field, have a difficult time connecting and teaching newcomers. In a way, they are at a higher state of consciousness, thus going down is kind of hard. So you must strive to reach higher in your studies and development in order to get to the realm of the "master". A…
/r/seduction19/08/12 05:32 PM
0

I wasn't a social retard like a lot of people are before they discover this stuff, but I was just unnotable. Was it necessary to put other people down?
/r/seduction19/08/12 05:25 PM
1

Agreed. Reading such topics does help to navigate inner game paradoxes and fallacies, which sometimes can be a precursor to being able to effectively approach.
/r/seduction05/08/12 06:13 PM
3

Too much justification here. Abundance is a mindset. Being able to be outcome independent, knowing you have the ability to finesse away and talk to another girl. Frame is the overall vibe and theme you're projecting. Sexual frame to assert f-close. Dating frame is, well, you know date and seeking relationship candidcy.
/r/seduction05/08/12 06:12 PM
0

There are a million scenarios, which you can talk about females. Dissolve the ego, the need to "help" your friends.
/r/seduction13/07/12 06:00 AM
2

There isn't really one solid author that can best prepare you to seduce. To seduce well, your own mind has be in good standing, your understanding of psychology, neuroscience, spirituality (dissolving the ego, be less judgmental), etc. has to be "on point" as well. PUA videos will likely to teach you tactics, how to use your "weapon". Understanding psychology in general will help you understand your "target". Understanding neuroscience, nutrition, science etc. will keep yourself sharp for opport…
/r/seduction13/07/12 05:55 AM
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Avoid drawing from the external world (friends), rather, redirect introspection inwards (reflective reddit post), and seek consciousness (realizing, accepting, and embrace the context and situation). Many people in the world have their emotions interdependent/interlinked with their friends. There is a trust, a bond, that the other person understands, and can empathize with you. Think of the emotionally underdeveloped teenager girl who has to be in near constant contact with her BFF. It's easy to…
/r/seduction13/07/12 05:32 AM
2

You put your eggs all in one basket and came off as overly desperate. She's hot, she has many available options for her - doesn't seem like her life is as slow moving. Get to the reality where you're at the same level. Me: hell yes, im here ironing my pants for seemingly 30 minutes of entertainment. Im staying home Nice sarcastic self-depreciation.
/r/seduction27/06/12 02:23 PM
1

Recommendations for self-help/improvement books?
/r/seduction25/04/12 11:23 PM
2

I realize now that I've contradicted and jumped to conclusions in my post. I'd retract it, but I won't for it will serve as a reminder and not to make these comments without thoroughly thinking it through. I wasn't fully in tuned. Please excuse my post.
/r/seduction05/03/12 02:52 AM
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Work on your own interests and hobbies to build your own fun as a single guy. I wouldn't try to study or learn how to create fun for the sake of girls. You'll do things that you think would be fun for time, thus you'll play catch up and become outcome dependent. Get to the point where you can lead a girl and show her your own fun. At the end of the day, the females are mostly not going seduce you up. Seduction and self-improvement should revolve around you, not the girl.
/r/seduction04/03/12 09:10 PM
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That can give off the deception vibe. Usually having a Facebook means you're open with the philosophy of building an online social network. However, if you don't have one, you just don't have, then you don't have to add anyone. If you're lingering with Facebook and actively trying to hide or have a blockage on some, then the OP will have to face confronting questions. OP doesn't want to blatantly tell them that why (lack of social proof), thus he has to face ways to paint a nicer picture, maskin…
/r/seduction04/03/12 09:04 PM
1

Then make a new facebook, and add her. 1) Adding tons of people to your facebook, just for the sake of her? 2) Not really adding tons of people you know, then why have a Facebook? Just kill your Facebook, so you get out of the deception and skewed manipulation of social proof on facebook. No FB, leaves a narrow medium of communication; phone (unless you'll email). Why do they "expect" you to have more social proof? Did they outright say this, or are you formulating assumptions in your head? This…
/r/seduction04/03/12 08:59 PM
1

I don't disagree on "incrementally" or "very slowly", but I see that as a way to lessen the . The way I see it, is that you shouldn't give in. Don't let externalities phase you. Eventually, if you maintain your frame, then they'll give in. Though, I believe it's a natural thing for friends to give you shit tests if you seem different than usual (applying self-improvement/seduction). If you are no longer congruent and consistent with your former self, of course, there will be questions that will …
/r/seduction26/02/12 02:35 AM
4

I prefer the word solo, for one may not always end up "alone".
/r/seduction25/02/12 04:33 AM
2

Denying change is a character flaw, it shows you cannot adapt to the world. I like this.
/r/seduction25/02/12 04:16 AM
2

At one point, it's either you or them. If it's them, would you feel happy long term? Self-improvement revolves around building your own lifestyle. Submitting yourself to your friend's group think, is something that is holding you back. Otherwise, you wouldn't feel this way. People feed on their accustomed ways, beliefs and especially egos.
/r/seduction25/02/12 03:56 AM
1

Why subject your transformation to appease mininal comments and remarks? Being a self-sufficient includes defusing and handling confrontations.
/r/seduction25/02/12 03:46 AM
2

Nonsense. Either you do, or you don't.
/r/seduction24/02/12 09:44 PM
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