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hi, i am feeling way better. reading my post history through like this one is frankly shocking, i was in a terrible state back then. battling massive insecurity combined with a (temporary) long distance relationship over summer my gf and i are still together, i had therapy and realised my problem was insecurity as opposed to the studies themselves. things like this dont even touch me now where they would bring a crippling wave of anxiety before. i still have insecurity problems definitely, but n…
/r/ExRedPill04/12/18 08:39 PM
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i think therapy would help you a lot because that was all that worked for me when i had exactly the same problem as you
/r/ExRedPill10/11/18 01:03 AM
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mate, if a flat earther explained to you why the earth is flat using his evidence and proof, would you believe him? probably not, and why is that? because the idea of the earth being flat doesn't cause you as much anxiety, so you dont feel so uncomfortable with the concept. this just sparks up your anxiety so its got you fearing its true
/r/ExRedPill08/11/18 08:01 PM
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for me, just observing things around me, really observing - not through a RP lens. i think it did first take some therapy for me to gain the ability to actually do that. now that i have tho, i can say that there is just SO MUCH stuff i see regarding men women, relationships and sex that contradicts it. and that is as a 20yo college student. i really honestly do not often see the things they claim, all the sex/relationship shit that goes down is far more complex and varied than the RP would have …
/r/ExRedPill29/10/18 12:23 AM
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thankyou, definitely still got a way to go to feeling totally happy and well, but i feel way more in control now i was so desparate back then, going back and reading those posts i cant even believe it was me, its crazy
/r/ExRedPill11/09/18 11:11 PM
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hey thanks a lot, i made this post when i was doing REALLY badly. no I didnt read the whole article i just read a bit and panicked everything you said is very true. im doing better now mentally and can see things much more clearly now. i really was in an awful way when i posted this, complete desperation. nothing anyone could have said would reasure me but reading it back now is really helpful, thanks for replying
/r/ExRedPill11/09/18 12:47 AM
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proof you should look at it? try look into attachment styles in relationships (e.g. anxious attachment, secure attachment etc). reading about these things - which are "proven" - it helped me come to the conclusion that there are different types of people in relationships. therefore claiming that behaving in one specific way (like the redpill) will guarantee to keep you in a relationship and ensure you never get cheated on just doesnt work my therapy is helping me realise that redpill is just a s…
/r/ExRedPill11/09/18 12:39 AM
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thankyou ive really been looking for something discussing evo-psych. i'd heard that it's not really reliable/ is basically pseudoscience but wasn't sure why. that's really helpful next time i come across someone making a claim based on that
/r/ExRedPill22/06/18 01:56 PM
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I don't understand how people do it, but i know that they do. that's what makes it so suprising. it happens. people cheat, and i think it would be naive of me to think that ill never be cheated on
/r/ExRedPill22/06/18 08:36 AM
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thats a really good idea. actually im seeing my GF for 2 weeks away from home (we're long distance atm) and i wont have wifi. it will be a good chance to do that
/r/ExRedPill21/06/18 11:59 PM
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Wow dude...all of people in your real life that have been cheating have all been men...and you are worried that your GF will cheat on you? yes, this is because of reading all the redpill and "blackpill" stuff. also i have seen some of my female flatmates from uni cheating on their long distance boyfriends. so i know it happens both ways. yes i could see why she would be worried. she doesn't seem to be though. sometimes i wonder why she doesn't - sometimes i take it as meaning "she's not as inves…
/r/ExRedPill21/06/18 09:58 PM
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wow that's really really interesting, thanks a lot
/r/ExRedPill21/06/18 09:55 PM
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thankyou
/r/ExRedPill21/06/18 06:32 PM
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you know it's funny you say that. because my dad very recently cheated on my step mom, with a coworker half his age. in fact, every one of my experiences with cheating in my family (my step dad, my uncle, and my dad) have ALL been men. but then i get concerned when i see actual studies? idk it seems like no matter what my in real life experiences are, these studies always plant doubts in my mind, despite very often my actual experiences going against them. i guess you are right. i wonder what th…
/r/ExRedPill21/06/18 06:16 PM
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First of all, why doesn't this apply to your girlfriends thinking as well? it does to a degree, but it's not the same. the whole point of this study (and the general theory of female hypergamy) is it applies mostly to females in other words it is female nature to be hypergamous, and "date up" or whatever, whereas it is not male nature. it's the whole concept of guys dating/marrying down status, whereas a women looks for someone higher status. because she can basically, because women have a highe…
/r/ExRedPill21/06/18 05:54 PM
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i suppose, it's just that if something like this study is saying is true, then it's saying that this is just how people are. biologically, it can't be changed. that's sad that's why the only thing that can make me feel better is something disproving it.
/r/ExRedPill21/06/18 05:51 PM
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a bit unfair, i think you're being a bit rude. i really never have or do consider myself redpill im just a 20yo who somehow stumbled across it and ever since it's caused me a great deal of anxiety and made me feel generally shitty about life it's anxiety to the point of obsession - i hate that i even know what the redpill is, but i keep reading new stuff. no matter how hard i try, i KEEP finding things that make me feel bad. then i come here in the hope someone can prove it wrong. because as muc…
/r/ExRedPill21/06/18 05:49 PM
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yes i have heard of that. i suppose CBT is something that aims to correct that
/r/ExRedPill19/06/18 02:49 PM
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it really is an eco chamber i think youre absolutely right. its really just hard to break out of this cycle of thinking once it seeps in
/r/ExRedPill18/06/18 11:29 PM
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i think definitely there is too much. all these sites trying to sell the "secret" to keeping a girl attracted to you
/r/ExRedPill14/06/18 07:57 PM
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I think we need to be weary of evolutionary psychology. I haven't looked into it all that much, but I think that it's often thought to be pseudoscience. Or if not pseudoscience, rather it is incorrectly applied. So huge leaping conclusions that aren't really reliable. Could be useful to read into it more. I definitely need to/will
/r/ExRedPill13/06/18 06:01 PM
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Thanks man
/r/ExRedPill13/06/18 04:41 PM
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No I wouldn't, but I know myself. I can control myself. I can't control her, and I don't know what she feels
/r/ExRedPill13/06/18 04:40 PM
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But people will tell you that’s not how they act, not how their partners act, not what they value. Believe the people providing you with first-hand accounts of their experiences, and remember that the pillers are an intensely small minority of people. I guess what makes it so hard is that according to pillers, those people are just fooling themselves. They want to pretend they aren't, but mostly they just don't even realise what they really want This causes a big issue for me with my GF. I'm con…
/r/ExRedPill13/06/18 02:36 PM
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Wow what you say actually makes a lot of sense. I guess in a way it does appeal although it makes me feel awful. I've been wondering why I'm constantly drawn to these things. For example yesterday, I was bored, and felt the urge to browse /r/braincels. Like, I know it's just going to make me feel awful. I know it's bad but I go there anyway It's like an addiction or something. Thanks a lot, you gave me loads to think about.
/r/ExRedPill13/06/18 02:33 PM
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I'm just so upset i ever read these things. Every day the thoughts of them consume my time as I try to find things to convince myself that RP and blackpill are fake. I try convince myself but they are impacting me so much. They've completely changed the way I look at the world, relationships, people etc. and I hate it. I WISH I could just stop thinking all this shit and wipe it from my mind. It's making me very depressed about life and causing me so much anxiety
/r/ExRedPill13/06/18 01:19 PM
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Interesting, I actually find these pills to be very discomforting. I get extremely anxious over them being true, because I don't want them to be true. I feel that I was much happier before I found out about them, because they paint a very dark and disappointing view of life. It's changed my worldview. I'm way more cynical and jaded - everything I see I relate it to how it's relevant to RP or blackpill. To the point I wish I'd never read them so I could live happily and "oblivious" They certainly…
/r/ExRedPill13/06/18 01:15 PM
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I heard evo psysch stuff is pseudoscience or just wrong sometimes, is that true? Like bio truths...
/r/ExRedPill12/06/18 08:42 PM
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But people do care about how hot someone is, even if they don't like to admit it. We're animals, we're shallow by nature, right? It's hardwired in us to detect good genes - facial symmetry, body shape, strong jaws etc. because that will produce the best offspring with the best chance of surviving I mean I'm saying this because I want to be disproven but really I can't find something that does...
/r/ExRedPill12/06/18 07:04 PM
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I suppose it's true but equally sad if it is But then I don't really agree because although I had doubts previouslu and felt tempted, currently in my relationship I have no desire to find someone better because I just want her. Im totally satisfied with her
/r/ExRedPill07/06/18 02:00 PM
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They do occassionaly back up with studies e.g. studies on oxytocin etc. But I realise they are cherry picked, often unreliable (small sample size etc.), or just making huge conclusions based on the data when it's not really appropriate
/r/ExRedPill07/06/18 11:29 AM
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I agree with you partially I have skills I love that I'm proud of like music and my drumming. Those things do really help me to self validate yeah If you have them, you would not be worry anymore if your GF will stay or not, because whatever happened, you know that you are going to be fine To an extent yeah and sometimes I feel like this a little if Im in a really good mood. But a lot of my paranoia in cheating comes from a fear of being deceived rather than just cheated on. As in, what if she c…
/r/ExRedPill07/06/18 10:06 AM
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This is very helpful, thankyou very much
/r/ExRedPill07/06/18 01:18 AM
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Thanks, but I shouldn't have "oneitis" for my GF of nearly 6 months? Is that what it means? Cos I mean I feel I do have oneitis for her in the sense that I love her and at this particular moment in time, I dont want anyone else
/r/ExRedPill07/06/18 01:17 AM
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While I suppose it's nice to not feel its all women against me, it being all humans in a way is equally upsetting. Ofc it would just be nice if there really was "true love"
/r/ExRedPill06/06/18 04:48 PM
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I definitely have very low self esteem yeah. Some women actually like men who can cry on their shoulder, yeah? I guess, but like, how do you know that? A woman might SAY that because they think they want it, but don't actually? If that makes sense. I guess the idea behind TRP is saying that evolutionary, biologically speaking or whatever, it's just simply not the case that women would be attracted to that aspect of males. But is that just biotruths/evo psych which is bullshit? IDK
/r/ExRedPill06/06/18 02:55 PM
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Hmm thanks I guess TRP has made me think that females cheat much more aswell. In fact if hypergamy is true for women, wouldn't that make cheating more likely/common in women? Since they are always looking for something better, and when they find it, why would they stay? Are women in fact always looking for something better? That's the issue
/r/ExRedPill06/06/18 02:52 PM
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Me too
/r/ExRedPill06/06/18 11:28 AM
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That's nice to hear I suppose, thanks Sorry if this a too weird/personal question, but have either of you said you love each other yet? After 3 months
/r/ExRedPill05/06/18 07:12 PM
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So you're saying I shouldn't share problems I have (e.g. telling her I'm not feeling good with our long distance relationship because of my paranoia/trust issues) until I've already overcome the worry?
/r/ExRedPill05/06/18 01:22 PM
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I guess the worry is that ALL women would find it unattractive. It's not that they would consciously think and judge, instead the worry is that subconsciously they'll lose attraction, whether they like it or not
/r/ExRedPill05/06/18 08:55 AM
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Showing weakness is only unattractive if you don’t plan on acting on it. I think that's a really good point, thanks
/r/ExRedPill04/06/18 10:32 PM
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yea, i guess the answer is probably moderation though like most things right? like if we never show anything, that's frustrating for the other person but if we're constantly crying about our insecurities and not helping ourselves then that's obvs bad too im hoping that its a balance, rather than any sign of insecurity being unattractive, but i really dont know
/r/ExRedPill04/06/18 10:32 PM
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