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1	How can men prevent sexless, transactional or “bait & switch” marriages or long term relationships? Agreed. My question was more about detecting when someone who has a low libido is faking out, though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/01/24 05:42 PM
2	How can men prevent sexless, transactional or “bait & switch” marriages or long term relationships? I totally get it, because honestly the spark was missing from that relationship but against better judgment I listened when I was told that the “spark” thing isn’t real. It’s now a requirement, though, so at least I know I’m moving on the right path!	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/01/24 06:37 PM
3	How can men prevent sexless, transactional or “bait & switch” marriages or long term relationships? Solid point. That makes a lot of sense. It’s harder to tell when someone is forcing interest/attraction when you don’t have a different experience to compare it to.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/01/24 01:58 PM
4	How can men prevent sexless, transactional or “bait & switch” marriages or long term relationships? No, I’m worried about a guy masking his low libido. I was in a longterm relationship (4+ years) with someone who did and we had a dead bedroom for the last half of the relationship.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/01/24 01:55 PM
2	How can men prevent sexless, transactional or “bait & switch” marriages or long term relationships? How do you think someone can detect this or work to prevent it? (I’m a woman but I worry about this as well)	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/01/24 01:15 PM
1	Why is the term “partner” EVERYWHERE I honestly just like how it sounds better. When I was with my ex I referred to him as both my partner and my boyfriend. It just sounds better to me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/11/23 01:42 PM
6	Why women come to r/PurplePillDebates ? It’s interesting to see what the youth (and sometimes not so young) debate regarding dating. Occasionally I join in, but I have to remind myself that most people here are guys 19-25 without much dating experience (and from the looks of it confidence). My question is why are there married men here?	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/23 01:44 AM
6	Ladies' turn: who would you swipe on? Ignoring age, I wouldn’t swipe on any of these men enthusiastically. If I had to choose, I’d go with A. He’s the most attractive, his profile shows his personality, and I like the photo variety. I also like that his hobbies are up front. B is average-looking (send to have a nice body to me though), but the first photo is not flattering. His profile seems fine and so do his interests. For some reason his profile just reads as average to me. Very plain. C was an immediate no. Terrible photos, no p…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/09/23 01:44 AM
2	Why Should Men Get Married? Ah good point. I totally agree. There was a high profile divorce case in my state a couple decades ago where both partners were execs but the wife took a break to raise the kids. Ten years later when they filed for divorce her ex husband had to pay her x percentage of the difference between his salary and what she would have made during those ten years. It went all the way up to the state Supreme Court and she won. On top of that he also had pay her legal fees 😵‍💫 We’re talking about a multimill…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/08/23 03:29 PM
1	Why Should Men Get Married? Why’s this? Do you think it’s a trap/trick and she’ll never go back to working?	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/08/23 03:15 PM
15	Why Should Men Get Married? This is fantastic advice, especially regarding consideration of your future partner’s earning potential. I think men tend to overlook this and then it comes back to bite them in the ass later. If you know that you are deadset on never paying alimony out the wazoo, then maybe reconsider wifing up the unemployed bagel maker who doesn’t appear to have much ambition.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/08/23 01:14 AM
3	Are most women not sexually attracted to their partners? I think most women are in fact attracted to their partners, but value and perhaps prioritize more their partners’ other qualities aside from attractiveness. Though helpful initially, looks aren’t everything. If you get outside and simply do some people watching you’ll see many happy couples reciprocating attention, adoration, and (presumably) attraction.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/08/23 04:57 AM
1	CMV : women do not prefer bad men. They prefer strong men. I’ll prove it with one example. Man y’all have too much time on your hands. This is quite the scenario.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/08/23 04:50 AM
1	Question for Red Pillers How much of your dating history did you divulge to your partner? Did you tell her about the escorts? Just Curtis.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/08/23 05:16 AM
1	how important is oral / fore play for you as a woman in terms of how much you like a man? I prefer to be fingered, but it is important that he’s willing to engage in foreplay. There’s no sex without foreplay. It’s important to me that he’s as invested in my pleasure as I am invested in his. We should both have a good time. I don’t sleep with men who I don’t find attractive. That being said, I do believe that attraction can grow following a positive sexual experience. If my current sexual partner wasn’t as good as he is in bed, then I wouldn’t be as attracted to him as I am now, given…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/08/23 05:13 AM
–	How has your ex partner's life turned out compared to your own? I wish everyone the best. Anything beyond that is not relevant to me or my life.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/08/23 04:55 AM
0	Women Admitting That Their Promiscuous Pasts Prevent Them From Enjoying Sex With Their Husbands Being single for longer than a year does not make a woman more like to be a “304”. Some women remain single by choice and do not date; they might have a goal in mind and not want any distractions. Some women could be unlucky and not have many suitors. Other women could have been taking time to heal or work on their mental/physical/whatever health.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/23 10:48 AM
–	Current Obesity statistics USA and Worldwide If you aren’t overweight and don’t want to date someone who is overweight, then don’t date someone who is overweight. If you’re in a high-BMI area then it might take some more effort, but dating is effort.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/23 09:32 PM
1	Would you share location with your partner? Why or why not? My ex & I shared locations and it wasn’t a matter of control. Mostly it was a safety thing for us considering I was a bartender who always closed followed by a job where I sometimes had to work late in a rough city. He often cycled in some remote places (and it was cool to see his trail). It was also fun/convenient when I wanted to do something special for him and I’d know how much time I’d have until he got home.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/23 09:29 PM
3	Do women even want men to be successful in dating ? Like honestly?(22M) Shockingly, I agree with this.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/23 09:25 PM
4	Have you ever approached or thought about approaching a guy you liked? If not, why? I’ve considered it, but honestly I fear rejection so I don’t approach. I’ve done it twice with a 50% success rate.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/23 08:35 PM
2	Women of PPD: if you were being as brutally honest and critical as possible what do women look for in relationships Obviously this will vary by woman, but here are my lists off the top of my head: FWB: Highest criteria for level of attraction. Someone super sexy and sexually experienced. I’ve never had a ONS (don’t plan to ever change this), so the guy should also obviously be all the basic things a girl typically wants - kind, funny, able to hold a conversation, fun, etc. Relationship: Intelligence, loyalty, great sex, attractiveness, kindness, generosity, patience, a strong emotional connection, emotional i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/23 08:30 PM
2	For almost all of us here it is simply delusional to expect to be your partner's perfect spouse lookswise. I think that’s perhaps a part of the reason you made this post. As I read it I thought “Has this person never dated someone who they were head over heels for?” Because let me tell you - relationship glasses are rose-colored. When you’re dating someone who you’re really into and just head over heels for you’ll think “damn. How can this person get any more perfect?!” but you don’t mean that they have the best looks, career, education, etc. It usually means you’re discovering more and more things a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/23 11:36 AM
6	"The Hoe Phase" I beg to differ. I’ve had friends from various socioeconomic backgrounds go through “hoe phases”, from below the poverty line to Daddy’s private jet. Hoe phases usually spring from bad relationships, heartbreaks, and/or breakups. Or at least from what I’ve seen from my friends, coworkers, and peers. Regardless of money we can all experience one of those experiences.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/03/23 12:05 PM
1	You are offered 1 million dollars, untaxed. In exchange, you can never have sex/sexual intimacy ever again. Do you accept the offer? I’m a woman.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/23 03:45 AM
5	You are offered 1 million dollars, untaxed. In exchange, you can never have sex/sexual intimacy ever again. Do you accept the offer? Absolutely not. I’d rather continue living humbly with a vibrant sex life than have a measly million in place of my sexuality when I haven’t even had children yet. No amount of money is worth my sexual happiness. ETA - I’m a woman.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/23 03:39 AM
1	How can men find high libido women? Is it even realistically achievable? I think this is solid advice. How someone discusses/addresses/approaches the topic of sex will tell you a lot about their general attitude towards it. I think also once you’re in a relationship/once you’ve decided to be sexual with someone, it’s important to foster a sexual environment in which you both feel comfortable, respected, and safe. That can make a world of difference. This is also achieved through communication. At the end of the day, communication is key.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/01/23 02:24 PM
3	CMV: The real purple pill is that Wife + Mistress is the most trad arrangement for any kind of achieving man. But what if the mistress is another man’s wife? Is she then elevated (even slightly) from her label as a whore to her lover while simultaneously demoted from her label as a Madonna to her husband? (Just thinking out loud)	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/12/22 03:38 AM
10	CMV: Women don’t like porn because it raises the bar too high on looks and sexual performance I agree. This reads like it was written by someone who is not frequently around or interacting with women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/12/22 03:33 AM
9	Q4M: what should women know about sex? I was wondering the very same thing. I keep reading about men encountering starfish sex and I feel like it has to be hypothetical. Perhaps there isn’t a term there aware of for the scale between starfish sex and pro porn acting…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/12/22 01:12 PM
1	Have you ever met a man that you instantly were sexually attracted toward ? Absolutely. This has happened to me in person* exactly three times in my life. I knew from his photos that he would be attractive. We met at the bar area just to say hi and by time we walked over to the couches (maybe 100 feet if that) I felt dizzy with lust. I think part of the appeal was that I was fresh out of a relationship with my silly college ex (we were in a LDR) and he was an older foreign guy who dressed well, had an accent, and seemed genuine and caring (via texts). He was tall, had d…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/12/22 02:11 PM
5	What differences have you seen with the way women cheat vs how guys cheat? Read this in Dave Chappelle’s voice 🤣	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/12/22 12:57 AM
11	What differences have you seen with the way women cheat vs how guys cheat? I’ve heard this quite a bit and though I don’t personally know a huge sample size of cheaters, of the ones I do know I think this is true.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/22 10:11 PM
2	How would you react if your partner wanted to try non-monogamy? Omg yes this! Every poly couple/throuple I’ve encountered (whether online or IRL) have always has that look. Like they just look a certain way?	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/11/22 12:23 AM
1	Women on this sub, how important is it that a man you date pays the bills for you? If we’re taking dinner, then I don’t mind if a guy pays. That’s usually the case 9/10 times. I wouldn’t say it’s a requirement, though. If we’re talking my actual bills, then that’s a no for me. It would make me feel very uneasy if my partner paid my bills, as I’m more than capable and I see it as my responsibility as they’re my bills.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/11/22 10:16 PM
7	What Are The Weirdest/Most Random Reasons You’ve Lost Interest In Someone? He left a space before his punctuations “how’s your day ?” 🥴 He said women only need to run to keep a good physique. He didn’t know basic geography. He didn’t like dessert. He referred to his stomach as his tummy. Zero sense of style. Gym bro (aka basic bitch)	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/11/22 09:56 PM
4	What is a feminine woman? Which actions prove that someone is feminine? I think by “modern feminism” you mean radical (usually white) American feminism. There are SO many different sects and schools of feminism and feminist thought and they don’t all look like what’s shoved in your face by the American media and American social media.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/11/22 04:58 PM
2	Why r women soooo picky and more importantly what can guys do about it. LOL this made me laugh 🤣	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/11/22 04:51 PM
6	What specifically is regularly seen in porn that women can't do/is broadly unpleasant? Hm, I identify as a kinky woman and I find pussy slapping is OK (for me personally) under certain circumstances. I like when my partner uses his dick to slap my pussy - it’s fun. Sometimes he’ll lightly slap her when he’s about to change positions. It doesn’t hurt and it’s a fun little surprise.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/22 01:16 AM
1	What does attraction to a hot man feel like to you women? You described it perfectly. If I’m in close proximity to a truly hot guy and we’re alone then I start feeling hot in the face and tingles between my legs. My current main squeeze also drives me WILD just doing basic things. I always find myself wanting to grind in his lap and squeeze in his arms. When we first met I thought he was attractive, but it wasn’t until our second date that I got the “strong” urges.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/10/22 03:40 AM
3	Q4W - Would you date a man who did this? Agreed. The crying is a massive red flag. If she isn’t already in therapy then perhaps she should consider going. It’s def not healthy to hold onto so much self-loathing, pain, and anxiety around oneself, one’s past, or sex. Especially since it seems she might think marriage will change things?? I can’t even imagine what their sex life will be after marriage. Dude is headed right for r/deadbedrooms followed by r/adultery.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/10/22 01:21 AM
2	Q4W - Would you date a man who did this? I think that’s a pretty solid way to go. I hope you’re having luck out there ☺️	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/10/22 01:18 AM
2	Q4W - Would you date a man who did this? Lol I’m actually doing that now and jeeeeeez. So many red flags. I kinda feel for the guy :/	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/10/22 01:06 AM
2	Q4W - Would you date a man who did this? Why wouldn’t he make it past the first date or why would I laugh and leave? He wouldn’t make it past the first date because while coffee/drinks are fine just to meet up and preliminarily establish a connection, date number two has to impress. A walk in the park? That does not impress. If he told me I had to wait three months before we go on (what I would perceive to be) a real date, then I’d laugh and leave because I refuse to waste my time and I don’t play games. You’re either down or you’re no…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/10/22 01:01 AM
5	Q4W - Would you date a man who did this? I’m actually fine with coffee date coming first, but now you have to impress me for date 2. A walk in the park? There are plenty other men who would happily do much better than that. Next.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/10/22 12:54 AM
10	Q4W - Would you date a man who did this? This sub really loves the fanfic scenarios, but I’m bored so I’ll bite. Jake wouldn’t make it past the first date if he suggested a walk in the park for the second date. If, however, he did for whatever reason, I’d laugh and leave. Seriously.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/10/22 11:34 PM
6	If you get an abundance of OLD matches but can never seem to find what you are looking for; what do you think the problem is? I’m currently only on tinder and I pay to see who swiped on me. The number is currently around 10k. I have swiped right on less than 500 of those men and have been on dates with less than 20. I can’t say I’m looking specifically for a relationship (this is tinder after all), but I’m open to one with the right person. Honestly, when you get a lot of matches/swipes, sometimes it’s just hard to keep up. Having to juggle multiple conversations and compare profiles to see who you’d rather chat with c…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/10/22 04:48 PM
1	Do you consider age gap relationships less creepy if the perceived age gap is less? “This scenario only changes first impression” — this is exactly it. First impression of this couple is “oh another couple”, but then as you chat and find out their ages it becomes “this guy is a creep and this girl might be not be aware”.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/10/22 04:28 PM
2	Do you view sex as an equal exchange between the man and woman? No, it sounds perfectly normal. There’s nothing wrong with wanting sex, desiring to please your partner, or not getting a boner from looking at tits/ass/legs. These aren’t traits that make men weak or undesirable.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/10/22 01:56 AM
12	Do you view sex as an equal exchange between the man and woman? I really like your response. At the end of the day, it is an equal exchange, but sex is often riskier for women than it is for men for a variety of reasons. I don’t view things like “paying for her food” (aka a date) and a man investing his time into a woman (aka getting to know each other) as “prepayment” or additional hurdles. Rather, I see them as risk mitigation. I’d imagine most women (myself included) need to feel a certain level of comfort with a man before proceeding to sleep with him. T…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/10/22 02:19 AM
3	Do you personally know someone who had problems finding a long-term relationship because of past promiscuity? Yeah most of the high n count women I knew in college are married or in/have been in long term relationships. Sometimes it makes me wonder if it’s because they have more experience and therefore figured out what they like and want, but also I could just be a bit salty.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/10/22 01:17 AM
0	Not only is past promiscuity a good predictor of infidelity it accounts for twice as much variance in infidelity in women as in men. Only in the sense that it’s nothing new. It’s not personal to OP or OP’s beliefs, actually. I can appreciate opposing and differing opinions and mindsets, but I feel like this sub is mostly recycled content. That goes both ways, too.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/10/22 07:53 PM
4	Not only is past promiscuity a good predictor of infidelity it accounts for twice as much variance in infidelity in women as in men. Here we go again…ever week the same argument. I think the men in this sub would greatly benefit from taking screen time breaks and touching some grass.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/09/22 08:23 PM
4	A lot of marriages end in divorce and women are often filing for it - but in many of the cases: is it so wrong? I feel like this is pretty dramatic.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/09/22 02:07 PM
1	Rough sex Personally, it depends on my mood and my partner. Sometimes all I really want is a tender, intimate session with tons of kissing, handholding, eye contact, and giggles. Other times I really crave my partner getting rough, complete with spanking, slapping, and hair pulling. Maybe even some choking and degradation-lite. Regardless, tons of post-coital cuddling is required. I think this is true for most people, though; it all depends on their mood and partner. I have come across a couple anti-BDSM/…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/09/22 09:28 PM
1	Why are married people on here? What do you get out of this? They’re prob here just to gawk and watch, like most other people. I’m not married and I don’t typically have dating issues, but I find this sub interesting. Sometimes I comment. Separately, I’ve seen some married men in admitted dead bedrooms/with unfulfilling sex lives mention lurking and commenting.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/09/22 04:46 AM
1	Marry A Virgin But it Turns Out You’re Not Compatible I wasn’t responding to OP, I was responding to the poster above me. Specifically, his/her statement that sexual compatibility is a myth. Also, based on what I’ve read in this sub, I disagree with your statement, too. I haven’t personally paid for sex but I’ve read stories of it here and just because someone has had a lot of sex doesn’t mean they’re some sex god/goddess or that you’ll enjoy yourself every time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/09/22 03:12 AM
1	Marry A Virgin But it Turns Out You’re Not Compatible I disagree that sexual compatibility is a myth. There are going to be people who you groove with better than others in bed. It all comes with how comfortable you two are with each other and your own bodies. It’s easier to be comfortable with some people than others.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/09/22 12:11 AM
1	Q4W: How often do you get approached and asked out in public? I would say B. I do get approached quite a bit (especially at gas stations and grocery stores for some reason) but it’s not every single time. When I’m on vacation it’s a constant, but I think that’s because everyone is in vacation mode. You know, carefree, a little tipsy, feelin’ good, vibin’ etc. It’s hard for me to self rate because I want to say “just above average but not by much” but then certain experiences/factors make me feel otherwise, like the amount of attention I get, my level of fi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/08/22 11:05 PM
2	How much are you concerned with your partner's sexual history? In general the only red flags regarding sexual history I have are repeated STIs, abuse/violence, and sex tourism. DADT is how I would approach a prior history with sex workers. I have no problem with OnlyFans/cam girls/e-girls etc. so long as he isn’t/wasn’t addicted. Just don’t be stupid with money and we should be fine. This also means, though, that previously having sugar babies would be a limit. I think I might have contradicted myself here, but in the end responsibility is what matters.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/08/22 04:20 PM
1	CMV: Most women can cum from penetration and we should stop falsely claiming that they can't. I beg you to go outside and touch some grass. PLEASE.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/08/22 04:10 PM
2	CMV: Most women can cum from penetration and we should stop falsely claiming that they can't. I really don’t think it has anything to do with size at all.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/08/22 04:09 PM
0	Q4W - What are common complaints men have about women and what do you do to break the mold? A common misconception is that women just want to spend men’s money on frivolous things/items they wouldn’t purchase with their own. Personally, I like/prefer nice things. I don’t expect my partners to foot the bill because I have no problem paying for my nice things on my own. I let my partners know this, because I wouldn’t want them to assume that because I have a designer bag I expect them to get me another.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/08/22 07:39 PM
3	Female promiscuity Honestly, I feel bad for the wayward men and boys who fall for this pseudoscience bullshit. Go outside and touch some grass. Take a deep breath and try actually talking to a woman for once. Jeez.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/22 09:10 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread Kevin Samuels?	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/08/22 02:13 PM
2	what age should you prioritize marriage? I think your mid and early 20s are the optimal time to date around and try to find what you’re into as a person, as a partner/romantically, and in the bedroom/sexually. If you know that you’d like to get married and have a family one day, then it would perhaps be best to start dating with those intentions towards your late 20s if you haven’t already found your person. I think kids throw the whole plan off-balance, though. While I don’t think it’s necessary to have a million saved before having a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/08/22 03:33 AM
1	Women, how often have you ended up sleeping with a guy whom you were not attracted to right away? Up until my ex, never. The attraction wasn’t there immediately but the more time I spent with him the more I liked him and eventually I began to see him in a sexual way. Unfortunately our sex life wasn’t great. I’m confident that moving forward, I won’t do that ever again.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/22 10:40 PM
1	What's the best piece of dating advice given to you (that worked) and did it come from a man or woman? This came from my mother: “there’s good, better, and best”.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/07/22 05:53 PM
1	How were you treated differently when you got fit? (men and women) I was always fit/athletic and petite up until my thyroid exploded. I received a lot of attention. Once I gained some weight I noticed that the kind of attention I received and from whom I received it changed. Pre thyroid issues: I usually received attention from and was approached by mostly men who were also fit, I would say above average in looks, and tall. Also a little older (but I didn’t mind because that’s my preference), but nothing too crazy. Perhaps it’s because I was younger (early twen…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/22 07:10 PM
1	What makes women want to enter into a casual relationship? Not sexually fulfilling as in my sexual needs weren’t being met. Both in and out of the bedroom I always tried my best to please my ex but it never felt like he did the same. He was very much a “go with the flow” kind of guy and it definitely translated into the bedroom with the exception of anything kinky. It took me a while to convince him to spank my butt a little during sex. He showed no initiative, no desire to try anything new, and no concern for the fact that I wasn’t sexually satisfied (…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/06/22 04:20 AM
1	Who was your best sex? Your spouse? Your ex? Your FWB? Your ONS? And, if you had a one time opportunity, would you have sex with that person again? Do you sometimes fantasize about them? The best sex of my life is probably the guy I’m seeing now. He’s patient, like-minded, and experienced. He’s also very sweet and we have a strong sexual bond based on trust and transparency. I feel safe with him and he’s exactly what I needed when I needed it. #2 & #3 are irrelevant, as I’m currently seeing him. I 100% plan to sex him again and he’s the only person who I think about during sex and day dream about.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/06/22 04:16 AM
10	What makes women want to enter into a casual relationship? I just spent four years in a relationship that wasn’t sexually fulfilling. I tried asking my ex to keep an open mind, but he refused. It was fine until it wasn’t. Now that I’m single again, I want my sex life to be as fulfilling as it once was. I don’t really need an emotional investment to engage in casual sex. I need to feel safe with the guy. After two dates there should be enough of a connection there for me to trust him to the extent needed for us to hook up.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/22 12:01 AM
2	Are most modern women's standards for men too high? Why or why not? In your opinion, what are some of the things men are selling out for a LTR?	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/06/22 10:53 PM