TheRedArchive

~ archived since 2018 ~

bloobird08 Archive

View 2 posts and 224 comments by bloobird08 on TheRedPill subreddit and various other subreddits related to The Red Pill community.
Search in:
In subreddits:
More
Filter by year/month:
Upvotes Comment on Subreddit Date (UTC)
1

He is legit a faggot, read his post asking how to help some guy through a dry spell. He isn’t even good friends with the dude. Real closeted homo cuck type shit. He also posts in red scare which is a podcast for women and gay men Hot tip.. some red pill dudes are just closeted fags who are jealous of women and wanna be them. The whole “women fuck chads”/obsessing over attractive men.. real closeted homo shit!
/r/askTRP02/01/20 10:44 AM
1

You sound gay. You’re like deeply invested in some dude’s sex life and you don’t see anything weird about it? Lmao. Just suck his cock already, faggot
/r/askTRP02/01/20 10:29 AM
11

I think you just have anxiety about your appearance. I have known guys who think “Hourglass figure with decently sized breasts” is legit like a 9/10 body. Why do you think Scarjoh got so famous even though she’s a mediocre actress? A true hourglass is actually pretty rare so you should cherish it and maintain it; most women try to fake it with clothes and push up bras. As long as you have a nice face, then you’re going to be really attractive to most men. Just stay fit and take care of your skin…
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/19 07:17 AM
8

Yeh, I don’t know where this idea comes from that men prefer tall women. I guess it’s because women glorify the modeling industry. Ive seen tons of tall attractive guys dating girls who are no taller than 5’5, so clearly many men like shorter women.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/19 07:12 AM
13

Well you said you are thick, I don’t want to be vulgar but to prove a point: thick women that aren’t fat are usually seen as very attractive by most men when they’re nude because they tend to have good assets (T and A). Also facial beauty and body proportions are way more important than being tall. Tall height is masculine so if anything, guys like shorter women better. You might be in his league but you just have low self esteem, especially since you’ve dated equally attractive men in the past.…
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/19 06:52 AM
1

Yeah because they’re delusional. It’s even been studied that men overrate themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/19 08:45 AM
3

Not many women do this though. It’s usually the opposite.. average looking men ignore women in their league and they chase and hit on hotter women and hold out hope that one will eventually bite. Men are usually the ones hitting on women, it’s not the other way around. I’ve seen it happen in real life and even seen men say it online that they’d rather be single for a long time than “settle” which usually means dating someone in their league, if they’re like a 4-5. A lot of men don’t want to date…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/19 02:58 AM
6

Or maybe those women have a pretty accurate view of themselves and you are underestimating their appearance?? I mean people often compare random women to famous women who is a “10” when she had hair and makeup done/ wearing a very expensive outfit.. Not really fair comparison when you’re comparing it some random woman in poor lighting wearing minimal makeup wearing mediocre clothes who hasn’t had a hair/makeup team. Also men who’ve had trouble with women or even if they imagine that the woman wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/19 03:19 PM
10

Men substitute money and favors when they lack the masculinity to keep a woman around.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/18 10:07 PM
4

What’s your body type? Like if you’re a thin person with small breasts and he’s worried about your “breasts and hips being too big” I would say that’s a giant red flag that he may be hiding something from you.. Also about pregnancy, I’ve never been pregnant myself but I’ve noticed many women look tired but let’s be honest most eat like shit, they simply eat all beige and don’t get enough nutrition. If you eat well and healthy in pregnancy it will show in your face. Another red flag is that he wa…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/18 05:46 AM
5

Are you sure it’s a perceived slight? Because there is a such a thing as being rude and if a man can’t take ownership of when he acts poorly towards his SO then this proves he isn’t a leader. My ex was like this, passive aggressive and mean to me when he started failing at life, but he would try to convince me I was “imagining it”. Nope. I have learned it is extremely important to find a mature man who can communicate his feelings in a healthy way without blaming you or the relationship will fai…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/18 05:30 AM
2

Man.. this sub really thinks pretty women can’t be funny? Seems like something an incel would think “oh they’re hot so they have no personality” is a pretty jaded view.
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/18 01:27 AM
1

I’ve known some pretty women who are funny. I am a woman though, so it’s not like I’m attracted to them. They’re just my friends, I don’t see them in a sexual way although I know guys find them hot. I think the problem though is when it comes to men, if a woman is hot, he will see her hotness first and foremost and he will treat her differently than a guy friend. It’s not that easy to be funny when a guy is lusting after you and creating a sexual dynamic. It’s a lot easier to be funny when someo…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/18 01:22 AM
1

Tina fey is more cute than stunning. I still think it’s pretty hard for a super hot girl to be considered funny, because even if she is funny, men will still be too blinded by her looks to care about her humor. Hot women are treated differently by men.
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/18 01:18 AM
1

I find it really funny that all of a sudden it’s popular to be a netflix pizza type. I’ve always been a homebody. It’s just who I am, I don’t think I brag about it, but I do think it’s something important to tell potential friends/boyfriends because if they’re someone who likes going out/drinking a few nights a week or have a giant group of friends they’re always with, then we probably won’t work out long term, and I’m not interested in short term stuff.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 09:44 AM
7

I think it could be their fatness providing a comedic edge. Same with men. People have talked about how Jonah hill was funnier when fat. It’s a thing! Also kinda works with gawky/lanky people or weird looking people.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 09:33 AM
2

That’s why you need to find someone who you feel emotionally connected to, usually emotional connection aids physical attraction. There is no easy answer here. You just have to keep at it.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/18 01:37 AM
-8

So basically you’re a butterface? Maybe try therapy. Lower your standards. No one is going to be perfect for you
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/18 10:37 PM
7

Agreed. Especially the younger generation now knowing how to use apps and such to edit their photos to look like supermodels. It makes us think there are tons of 9’s and 10’s under 25, but there aren’t. I’ve worked with a lot of college women and I’ve noticed in person vs. real life.. many are overweight or just average looking and makes themselves look hotter online with poses and such.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/18 05:09 PM
1

Incredible? There are nude photos of her. You don’t need to imagine what she looks like, just go look it up. Men were even commenting saying she looked worse naked.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/18 03:24 PM
5

Another thing is that when people judge women, they are usually judging them with clothing on. There are certain naked body parts that may affect a woman’s SMV for better or worse, but you won’t know until you see them fully nude. I recently saw some nude photos posted of Kendall Jenner from a photo shoot. A lot of people were saying she looks less attractive naked and I agreed lol. Something weird about her proportions. Some women do look better with their clothes on, I think a lot of tall flat…
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/18 08:25 PM
21

Great post!! I don’t get why women bother to follow Instagram models. Nothing good can come of that. They are also deceptive photos and bad for a woman’s psyche. They edit their photos, even the unedited ones are being posed and taken in certain lighting to make them look hotter and cooler. Even if you are confident, consuming these photos will play with your head. this video is an example of these deceptive pictures. These women don’t completely look like their photos. They edit their noses to …
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/18 05:48 PM
0

I get it, but she already told him she wants him to take the lead and he hasn’t. I’m sure he can put 2 and 2 together.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/18 04:47 PM
2

Even if the guy could change... Why is it OP’s job to mother this guy into being a stronger guy? I don’t understand why you think it’s her job. Most adults already have enough on their plate, they don’t need to embark on a “let’s make my ex a real man” project. Men should have masculine role models. It’s not a woman’s job to help them find them. Also https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/9fyas8/comment/e6161h8?st=JM4ECWL2&sh=c9945a79 This dude seems pretty hopeless. Not sure what more s…
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/18 04:59 AM
3

I guess I just think of it differently. I think betas/shy guys etc. are that way because it’s deeply ingrained. There are betas who work at it and still will never be as masculine as a natural alpha dude. A lot of it seems to be genetics honesty. I mean you look at TRP and a lot of those guys still struggle because they are trying to be this masculine type and they’re just not. I think it’s best for these super-beta guys to just lean in to their sensitive side and stop fighting. Maybe get into a…
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/18 04:42 AM
3

Betas can improve but they won’t completely change. I don’t see a point in telling him exactly why she dumped him. I think it will also make work awkward. She needs to think of herself in this situation as well, not just him.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/18 04:32 AM
1

Being in shape doesn’t guarantee much though. You’re still going to age and look considerably older than a 30 year old guy and be competing with those men who not only look younger/healthier but also have a little more in common just by being closer in age. A guy who’s 5 yrs older vs. 20? Who do you think will have more favor? There are plenty of guys in their 30s who are fit and have enough money to marry. You would have to have a LOT of money, like billions, for your 50’s to not be a factor. T…
/r/TheRedPill03/09/18 05:47 AM
1

If a young girl is attractive and nice to be around, she won’t have trouble marrying a guy close to her age with decent money. You’re going to end up with the leftovers if you wait until 50 to marry. Just a thought.
/r/TheRedPill02/09/18 06:47 PM
0

Her future value is unknown, then why were trying to make her feel better by saying some popular hot girl at her school is going to gain weight? That makes no sense. You have no proof at all that op will better and the popular chick will look worse in a few years, the most we know is most white guys marry white women, even fat white women, so your assertions are just stupid all around. Again you’re shooting the messenger. What part about that white men generally do not find black women attractiv…
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/18 10:59 PM
1

red pill is about reality, not what people “should” do. I’m not trying to be rude when I say this but I really don’t think you grasp the point of this sub. It’s not to blow smoke up people’s asses and tell them that they’re higher value than they are, which is what you’re doing.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/18 10:47 PM
1

No I’m suggesting that if they try to get white men to commit to them, they will usually get rejected unless they are exceptionally beautiful - which op clearly isn’t. It’s not my fault that white men prefer their own race. Stop shooting the messenger and get real
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/18 10:28 PM
0

Those are exceptions. Red pill doesn’t operate on exceptions. You clearly know nothing about this sub so not sure why you even post here.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/18 10:23 PM
1

That’s how women are when they don’t have dating experience. Being rude to her about being naive is incredible stupid.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/18 09:38 PM
1

What do you mean why? Because black women aren’t seen as attractive or desirable unless they’re super model status. Even then it’s iffy. That’s just how it is. How many white men do you know married to black women? Women want commitment, they don’t want some guy to just fuck then and leave. Again you’re delusional. Stop blowing smoke up people’s asses.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/18 09:35 PM
1

Youre delusional. You called someone a “fucking mess” and can’t even explain why. Maybe you should make your case.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/18 09:32 PM
0

It’s incredibly uncommon for white men to commit to black women long term, especially dark skin black women with “animalistic” features (her words). Again, false hope. Yes, she actually should bleach her skin if she wants higher value men. That’s the cold truth in America.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/18 09:29 PM
1

Honestly and i say this only to be helpful you are a fucking mess. So you like to insult desirable women and praise the undesirable. You’re clearly a loser.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/18 09:27 PM
1

She’s also black and poor. Do you live in America? You’re very ignorant if you don’t think race makes a huge difference in a woman’s dating life. Black women have been shown to be the least desired of any race.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/18 09:22 PM
0

She’s not “skinny”, she’s average weight. Look in the last paragraphs. This, combined with her saying she looks “masculine” and has dark circles at only 15- hard truth is she’s an average looking (at best) black girl. She’s not Tyra banks, she will not have the same choices in her 20’s as pretty white women will. You definitely are giving her false hope.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/18 09:19 PM
0

Literally most of it is wrong, I don’t even know where to start. For one- If op is going after white guys, she is going to have to compete with white women, and that probably won’t end well. Most white guys marry within their race, so she’ll have slim pickings. Also no evidence that the hot curvy white girl is going to gain weight in her 20’s. You seem to be giving op false hope, not sure why. Maybe you like an underdog.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/18 09:12 PM
1

Most of what you’re saying is total BS.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/18 09:07 PM
6

I don’t know, it seems like a lot of guys come to Trp because they’re kind of deadbeats. I’m not sure what generation you are, but I’m an older millennial and so many modern young guys are physically weak with little ambition, it’s no wonder they complain of hypergamy being out of control these days. The internet really did men dirty, it bred tons of weak gamers with no drive to better themselves. I don’t think hypergamy were this bad back in the 70’s when more men were gainfully employed and ph…
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/18 07:23 PM
1

I don’t like dating either but I think it’s you need to do it a lot to find the best possible fit. It’s part of vetting.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/18 07:08 PM
8

Exactly. I also think it’s deadbeat guys who whine about hypergamy the most because they don’t want to put in effort to keep a woman. If you’re broke and unsuccessful and still manage to get a hot gf, I think it’s just a cold truth that you’re going to be in danger of losing her to a “better” man if she comes to her senses and the opportunity presents itself. This is why Trp emphasizes men to improve.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/18 07:01 PM
3

Tax breaks and being able to visit in the hospital are good enough reasons.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/18 06:55 PM
5

For example: if she's 20 and stunning, an RP dream girl, and she's still with her first BF who is a beta dude who doesn't lead and doesn't have much ambition. Yes, I think this is settling. I feel like rp doesn’t address this but it happens a lot to the young and pretty. They don’t know better/don’t know how to vet or they have low self esteem.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/18 06:38 PM
46

She came up to you and gave you a monologue just cause a customer wanted to buy you drinks? Yikes. Keep your distance.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/18 05:50 AM
15

I agree. I couldn’t pinpoint why this post didn’t resonate with me but I think this is it. Like, a beautiful girl could grow up in an abusive home, or have social anxiety or some mental illness, and despite her beauty, she won’t have high self esteem because she has internal struggles. This is why you see these hot young women essentially dating losers who cheat, are below their league, or have no money- they believe deep down that they can’t do better, so they settle for these men. Beauty alone…
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/18 03:07 PM
7

The average man is a fat dude who makes 50k, so, not exactly a catch. It’s no wonder that society values beautiful woman more than the average man. To put it in vulgar terms- good pussy has high value. Some beautiful women just have low self esteem so they don’t play the game to their advantage and end up dating losers. Also the pinnacle of beauty isn’t a VS model for many men. Modeling is run by gay men and women. Many straight men prefer shorter women as they tend to shorter torsos which resul…
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/18 02:52 PM
5

I feel like this post is kind of confusing? Lol. Are you saying the beautiful girl in photo is supposed has high or low? See, I think many beautiful women know they are beautiful but they’re still insecure and envious of other women in some way or form. Many women are insecure about their looks because they crave to be “perfect”. There is a reason plastic surgery is a billion dollar industry and most clients are women- and many already young and beautiful.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/18 04:18 AM
4

I barely wear any makeup, I have a beautiful skin and nice features without. Try again.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/18 07:15 PM
3

No one goes from a 2 to an 8 with makeup. If you think an average looking woman is a 2 without makeup then you need to get your head checked or something. And about plastic surgery, I’ve learned many men don’t care if you have fake tits or ass, as long as it doesn’t look freakishly fake. There are more procedures now (like fat transfer to chest or bum) that can result in a natural look.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/18 07:10 PM
37

I think a lot of issues that women find in relationships come down to societal problems of the gender roles. Women being brainwashed by the society/media to want to be accomplished and work hard, but this is not how most women derive happiness and self esteem. It’s basic gender psychology. Most women derive happiness from spending time with loved ones, feminine geared hobbies like reading, art, aesthetic styling etc, and nurturing others (children, animals). Women don’t get genuine satisfaction …
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/18 12:12 AM
11

If you’ve been dating 8 months and haven’t connected on a deeper level, you likely never will.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/18 04:18 PM
3

Yeah it may be different where you live, but I know that a lot of women just don’t really enjoy discussing politics. It’s definitely more of a man interest.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/18 11:44 PM
19

To be fair, politics are weird to talk about on a first date. I’ve also found some men who are super interested in politics are angry whackjobs. Seeing a guy’s social media filled with political shit is a red flag to me, shows he takes life way too seriously and will be a drag who can’t just have fun and make jokes
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/18 07:59 PM
10

People do that on a date? Yikes.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/18 02:22 PM
7

I think everyone has different definitions of boring. I don’t think this is something you should worry about. It’s cliche but just be yourself. Would you be happy with the male version of yourself? If you would, then you’re fine.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/18 02:18 PM
2

I haven’t had that experience. My last ex who rarely did it said he wasn’t that into vaginas. He also had some kind of ocd and really weird about smells. it had to have no smell at all, even a faint smell was a “no” for him.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/18 02:12 PM
-2

Ok there’s not THAT many reasons lol. Men are more simple than that.If he’s not gay, he is either just lazy or thinks he is bad at it. Either way, it’s not good at all that he never does it. I’ve had exes who did it a lot and ones who rarely did it. The ones who rarely did it usually don’t change even if you ask. And one of those exes, I found out through his friends that he got a blow job from a man before he met me, so it’s not out of line to suggest that some men who rarely do it are gay and …
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/18 08:57 AM
6

I just mentioned the gay thing cause I’ve read online that a lot of gay men have enjoyed sex with women because they like the feeling of being inside a vagina but they have no interest to get their face close to a vagina or to look at the vagina. After learning this, men who never give oral to women are suspect to me. Does he care to look at it, at least?
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/18 09:42 PM
2

It could be a few reasons: he is not confident that he’s good at it, he’s lazy and selfish in bed, or he’s gay (I’ve done a lot of reading online, seems like gay men find vaginas disgusting so it would make sense they never want to get that close to them).
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/18 09:32 PM
3

You’ve been dating him 6 months and you’re already frustrated with him. Not a good sign at all.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/18 05:26 PM
1

that has an unintended effect though, becomes an issue where she feels like she is mothering him then she won’t respect him.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/18 05:24 PM
1

I don’t know, I think when you have a serious disorder like this, it tends to override what you learned in your upbringing. You can try to raise an aspergher child to be normal but there’s only so much you can do because they just don’t understand or care about norms. You can’t force a grown man to care about clothing when he just doesn’t.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/18 03:01 PM
2

Sorry but I don’t think you do. I mean, not trying to insult you, just saying. The whole talking about weird topics is an aspergher’s thing. You said you think he should be able to talk about other things.. lol.. it doesn’t work like that, it is very asperghery to hyperfocus on certain topics that many people find odd and can’t relate to. He can’t just turn that off- his brain doesn’t function like a normal person. Op will never be able to change this guy. The sex drive thing is also typical of …
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/18 02:41 PM
1

You definitely should not be with a man that you think is like a 4 year old. Also, the no sex thing would bother me personally. You have to make the decision on what you can and can’t deal with.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/18 08:49 AM
1

I don’t think you understand aspergher’s at all.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/18 08:42 AM
4

I personally think a man making a lot less money would cause issues for both parties. There are exceptions of course, but do you really want to bank your future on being the exception? The good news is you have only been dating 2 months so you don’t have much invested, if you can’t handle this then you know what you need to do.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/18 09:08 AM
1

Are you sure she’s not just wearing padded bras or push up bras? A lot of super thin women really don’t have naturally large breasts. They also have implants now that look natural, google gummy bear implants. There’s also fat transfer to the breasts, which looks very natural. There are normal women who have implants or have had surgery done now, and the results look natural, it’s not that uncommon. I’m just mentioning these things because a lot of people don’t seem to register that fake breasts …
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/18 03:23 AM
2

Agreed. I briefly went out with a guy who even took some cheat shots at me when he found out about the way I grew up, basically implying I had never worked hard in my life, meanwhile I had a college degree and he didn’t. I had been nothing but nice to him, and then he has to go and make me feel uncomfortable like that? Lol, bye.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/18 08:10 AM
2

So you’re both recovering alcoholics? Are you both in therapy? I think this should be your priority.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/18 04:10 AM
1

Monica belluci isn’t an ectomorph, more of a mesomorph.
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/18 12:11 AM
1

Well duh, you live in Appalachia. In cities and UMC areas, the outlook is better. I will say when I was on okcupid though, the men weren’t very good looking. Not sure about the women. Once the swiping apps came out (bumble, tinder), I think a lot of attractive men left okcupid because swiping apps are designed for attractive people who don’t need a bio to garner interest.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/18 07:46 PM
2

I’ve known women who have never been with alphas who feel like anyone less is a compromise. I don’t think you necessarily have to been intimate with an alpha to get alpha widowed. I mean, shows like the Bachelor? I mean how many low smv women talk of their ideal man and then stay single for long periods of time because they can’t obtain him? If you’re the type who constant thinks about and crushes on high value men, then you will likely be unhappy with an average one. I think men do this as well…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/18 01:07 AM
3

I guess that’s true. My ex wasn’t attractive enough to get attention from pretty women though. He wasn’t very outgoing, so that might be part of it .
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/18 09:13 PM
2

I dated someone when I was younger who wasn’t very attractive but made a great boyfriend. He was maybe an inch taller than me (I’m only 5 foot 3) and wasn’t very gifted below the belt, to be blunt, but he bought me things, made me laugh, and went down on me daily! We started fighting towards the end, though. I do think these men make better husbands, generally, they will try harder to please a woman above their league. It’s fine as long as you are compatible and can get along and live with them …
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/18 02:42 AM
3

I would’ve checked his porn history if I were you. Move on. It’s called a “kink” for a reason.. it’s not normal. I’m also not sure how someone goes from a 100k job to 40k. What field is he in? (This is not really relevant, I’m just curious).
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 04:55 PM
3

“Many”?? I think that’s being a little generous..
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 04:50 PM
5

Lol I’m sorry but ectomorphic woman with big boobs and ass? That’s called surgery, in 99% of cases. Are you talking about Columbia or Brazil? Cause plastic surgery is HUGE there. It’s not their genetics, so don’t be so hard on yourself thinking you’re inferior by nature. Everyone is insecure about their body in some way. Stop comparing yourself to insta models and spend more time in person with some real people. You’ll see everyone has flaws, even beautiful women do.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 05:38 PM
5

Honestly, if a guy can’t handle that you sucked 2 dicks, he probably just doesn’t like you. This really shouldn’t be something you’re obsessing over. Just say you’ve done oral. That’s all you need to say.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 05:00 AM
5

It’s funny, because I knew this fat girl who is a virgin and acts as if she’s alpha widowed.. neurotic, way too picky for her smv, etc. I really think virgins past a certain age have some screws loose. The may as well be alpha widowed because they’re so delusional about their expectations.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 04:58 AM
2

I feel like missing a leg would decrease rmv because the challenges it presents, but who knows.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/18 05:20 AM
2

In my opinion, you can kind of estimate your RMV by just seeing the kind of guys that approach you and try to get to know you IRL. I think the problem though is younger people are relying more on the internet now even for connecting romantically. Dating apps being more common than men doing cold approaches, it can be tricky for young women to figure out their real smv. I think men who are out of your league won’t bother taking any interest in you and your life, they will maybe have one or two co…
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/18 04:59 AM
13

you want to stay with a man who lacks respect for you and cares about a gross fetish more than your feelings? Then stay with him. Your choice.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/18 04:45 AM
4

A lot of the Mgtow guys are bitter about stuff. I wouldn’t take them seriously, especially about not giving some aimless guy a chance. A lot of those guys probably wouldn’t date the female equivalent of lab partner, or they would but they wouldn’t be very happy about it. As for your lab partner and the flowers, that’s kind of an awkward situation. Have you gently let him down? Be careful about leading guys like that on. I made that mistake when I was younger and it created a lot of drama. He act…
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/18 05:11 AM
1

I am 28 and I barely look any different from 23 to 28. I am starting to think I am some kind of outlier but like.. I don’t feel like I am? Lol. I mean I know there are women my age who also look younger. people tell me it all the time when meeting me, they assume I’m a college kid because I am not fat and I have nice skin then I tell them my age and they’re surprised (It’s not just men doing this to hit on me). i don’t know how people come to these conclusions that 28 year olds all look much old…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/18 08:44 AM
1

Are you below his league? Are you insecure in your sexual ability? I don’t know why else you would be worried. If you’re below his league, then just keep him happy in bed and be good to him. Maybe watch some instructional videos to learn more sexual stuff. Ask him his favorite positions. Just make an effort. He may see you as more attractive than you see yourself, who knows! Maybe he thinks you’re a solid 8. Most men would be more than happy with an 8 who tries in bed.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/18 09:45 PM
4

If we are being honest, leaving wouldn’t be that bad of an idea. She doesn’t respect the guy. She can go into monk mode, then find a guy in her league, or just find another guy below her league again that she doesn’t respect, just like this guy. I don’t think she has as much to lose as people are claiming.. she will most likely end up in a future relationship that is the same or a little better.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/18 09:36 PM
2

I think some select members do coddle women though about how their problem with dating HAS to be their age when they post about how they’re 26 and post wall. I find it a little ridiculous, lol. It’s not everyone, just a 1 or 2 people on here. It comes off more like negging than real advice.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/18 09:19 PM
1

I think I meant to respond to redmatrix, he said something about lifting weights, I think I read it wrong though lol.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/18 09:03 PM
4

I guess I didn’t explain that well, I think my whole point is that if you’re really having trouble attracting men when you’re like 28 or whatever age, then you have done something really wrong. You shouldn’t have trouble attracting good men unless you’re like 35+ with kids. Women who complain about how they’re too old and men don’t like them is usually not their age, it is cause they got fat or they haven’t taken care of themselves, but no one in their life wants to be honest with them. We need …
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/18 08:54 PM
3

Where does it say that he has an alpha personality? The way she’s described him is that he’s very kind and does nice things for her, that sounds pretty beta IMO. There’s not any guarantee he will attract another hottie if he has low smv. Unless he is in a certain percentile of wealth, of course, but that’s doubtful. I’ve dated a guy below my league because I fell into the idea that looks aren’t everything and all that. I don’t think he ever attracted anyone like me ever again. He actually contac…
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/18 08:35 PM
2

If she’s considerably out of his league, why would him lifting weights be a bad thing?
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/18 06:44 PM
4

A man's SMV can grow with age (at least into his 40s), but only if he stays fit and continually develops his finances, status, etc. What percentage of men do both of these things though? Just like women, many men get fat as they age, and they don’t grow much in their careers..
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/18 06:42 PM
1

I don’t think we can rely so heavily on the OKC study about age, because it was an online study. It’s like trying to apply what men look at in porn to the women they date. People quote the study as if to say that women above 22 (or whatever age) are being ignored by men, and it’s just not true. There’s also another layer in that some men are using dating sites mainly looking for hookups, and they might message the youngest women because they think younger = dumber and they can “fool” them more e…
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/18 06:01 PM
2

Probably the biggest red flag is that he’s only had one girlfriend 10 years ago, and he described her as “crazy”. That is all he said about her and his ONE serious relationship?! Red flag, IMO. A mature 35 year old man will be able to look back at a young relationship more neutrally, like “we were young and immature, she got crazy and I didn’t know how to handle it” etc. I highly doubt he was the perfect boyfriend when he was 24, seeing as he’s still a beta at age 35. Bad sign that he doesn’t se…
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/18 05:26 PM
8

Lol, right? Those are the young ages that incels list when they talk about smv decline.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/18 05:17 PM
10

Ok, but she already doesn’t respect the low-smv guy, and lack of respect does not bode well for marriage prospects. I think there is a happy medium between low-smv and Chad that she can obtain commitment from. Hypergamy is only bad for women if you reach above your league, rather than across like you should. It’s only low smv men who think hypergamy is automatically awful in any situation, because they don’t want to lose their gf who is hotter than them.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/18 05:10 PM
7

Men that are hung up on the past are either depressed, losers, or both. It’s not natural for men to be thinking backwards. Something is wrong here. Limp dick” as Dr. L puts it (stole this from someone in another thread lol). If you’re in love and in it for the long haul, I suggest gently asking him how he feels emotionally. Is he struggling with his career? Does he feel like a loser? Is something wrong in his family? Is he having in good health? Does he have regrets? You need to get to the botto…
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/18 05:06 AM
2

You clearly know nothing about scientific methods and theory.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/18 10:52 AM
1

Is it possible you’re not opening up emotionally to them? Have you ever been described as shy?
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/18 05:11 AM
11

Ok.. From your op, I thought you meant that you have had relationships but the men just aren’t emotional within them. I don’t think you have provided enough details for anyone to diagnose what’s wrong with you over the internet, lol. Are you attractive, what type of guys do you go out with? How do you respond when they try to physically escalate things? Personality, career, SEC? Where do you meet these men?
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/18 05:01 AM
2

That’s not long enough to get to know a man, lol. Especially not long enough for a man to open up emotionally.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/18 03:50 AM
10

You can’t just hold out forever, a decent guy with options will move on.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/18 03:48 AM
4

There’s a bunch of articles and studies citing different causes of divorce, just google it. I’m not going to copy and paste all of them. It’s also kind of common sense that that makes a marriage work wouldn’t have much to do with something that happened before it, it has more to do with people being compatible and having the resources (money) to make the marriage work.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/18 02:40 AM
12

Sex is important to a man’s satisfaction in a relationship, so that could have something to do with it. How long are you making them wait? Unless you’re both completely abstinent, withholding sex for long periods doesn’t work these days. Sex also helps couples bond emotionally, provided that you like the person a lot prior to sex.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/18 01:47 AM
2

Ok, even if it was a good study, it is still just ONE study. If you know about scientific methods, you can’t use one study to prove a rule, you need many studies. There have been many other studies that cite different primary causes for divorce other than premarital sex. I just don’t think it holds much weight overall when so many other studies cite things like financial struggles and communication issues. It also doesn’t help that many people marry for the wrong reasons (not in love, but they j…
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/18 01:29 AM
3

Yes, but those are famous men. They don’t represent the average man. We can’t base rules around outliers. For example, George Clooney. He was a very beautiful man when he was younger, and is very good looking now. But how many average men have EVER looked like George Clooney? Very few. I also think George Clooney’s fame and wealth elevate him above most men. So overall, as a rule, I think men and women in general just don’t age well.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/18 12:57 AM
4

The study you are referring to about premarital sex was funded by Christian groups, not scientists. I’m not going to watching some random YouTube video to learn about causes of divorce. I read scholarly articles, like an educated person would.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/18 07:59 PM
3

It’s not “maybe”, unless you want to stay in the dark ages, there have been modern comprehensive studies done on why marriages fail. Marriage originated out of the need to ensure financial security for children, so it’s no surprise that financial issues are the leading cause of divorce. The idea that premarital sex causes divorce is based in religion, not science.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/18 07:09 PM
4

I think marriage dissatisfaction has a lot more to do with financial issues than premarital sex. Men used to be able to support a family on a middle wage salary, but now it’s become difficult, so it’s no surprise this causes marital stress and fracture. It’s common for people to imply causation (premarital sex) where there is little to none.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/18 06:37 PM
6

Most women who have taken care of themselves won’t look bad by 28. i think if a woman’s completely lost her looks by 28, that’s probably a sign she was never truly beautiful to begin with.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/18 05:52 PM
8

Idk, I guess I don’t agree. My parents live near a lot of older couples and a lot of the men don’t look any better than the women. Maybe you can find certain examples but I think most older men just don’t have much sex appeal. They have status and wealth but that’s different than women lusting after them.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/18 05:44 PM
1

It comes off like a lie which makes catfishing more likely. I guess it doesn’t matter, it’s just.. disingenuous if it’s not her and she’s just posting some random’s insta story.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/18 08:13 AM
6

Interesting. I don’t think I’ve known any men who name those celebrities as their ideal.. shows that beauty is a bit subjective. White women can have hourglass figures, I guess they are more petite leaning hourglasses though and maybe that doesn’t register as a true hourglass to some. There’s also a spectrum of white women, some have more melanin than others. Italians are white and traditionally have more melanin than a fully British person, for example.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/18 08:02 AM
2

Ok but she put “just posted”, as if it was very recent, so you have to see why it raises an eyebrow to some? It’s an Instagram story post, they expire within 24 hours, so it does seem a bit odd.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/18 01:43 AM
11

In many places, Caucasian leaning features are more widely seen as more attractive. Ever noticed that lighter skin black women are seen as more attractive than the darker? That goes back to whiteness being valued.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/18 01:39 AM
8

To be fair, that man is a celebrity, he was in many hit movies, so his wealth and status elevate him above most older men. I don’t think that same 70 year old man would have the same sex appeal in any sense if he was some random guy at the office. Some men seem to think that all older men are desired regardless of celebrity status or wealth and it’s not true at all from what I’ve seen.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/18 01:31 AM
1

That’s great, but the date is from weeks ago 🤔
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/18 12:15 PM
1

I mean, if you find sex to be work, maybe you need to examine why? It should be fun for you as well, you shouldn’t be looking at it as some kind of chore that only benefits him. If you feel like it’s a chore, you need to examine why. Do you just have low sex drive? are you not attracted to your partner enough to want to please him? Have you never enjoyed sex with anyone? Are you confident in your body?
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/18 02:33 AM
9

I think expecting 3x every single work day is a bit much. Has he told you outright that he expects this? I think you can talk to him about it and come to some kind of happy medium. Daily sex can also help intimacy, but it doesn’t need to be multiple times. Also, I think as a woman, many women have reactive sexuality, but you can’t always rely on your partner to get you in the mood every time, sometimes men just want a quicky and don’t want to do foreplay so sometimes you may need to work a bit a…
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/18 02:23 AM
2

Yep. A man’s version of thick is usually normal/ fit with boobs over a B cup, small waist, decent size butt. Like Margot Robbie is actually kind of thick if you look at her lower body. They’re not talking about plus size models. I find many men like that body type, it can be very sexy and feminine, but since a lot of women are overweight, it just isn’t all that common anymore to be thick in a good way.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/18 08:07 PM
3

I don’t think you should gain weight just to be with an “alpha” man. My opinion is that men with fat fetishes are flawed alphas- they might be masculine but they have something seriously wrong in their head to want women to be unhealthy. Your BMI is healthy so I would mainly focus on toning up if I were you, then see what type of guys you attract after that. Remember, your face and your presence matters as well for attracting men. If you don’t have a classically beautiful face, you may find you …
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/18 07:52 PM
3

You won’t want to hear this, but I would suggest really limiting or even cutting off your interaction with the friends who talk badly about fit women. Think about if you meet your goal- they will likely start talking badly about you too out of jealousy. You don’t need that negative energy in your life. You may find as you get closer to your goal that you prefer to be around people who look more like you because you’ll have more in common. Nothing wrong with that.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/18 02:13 AM
1

Why would a man pick you over a woman who is already fit? Overweight women like to think their personalities are somehow superior to fit women, but they’re usually not. Awalt.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/18 12:40 AM
1

Ok, you’re going off the deep end here.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/18 03:35 PM
1

No, I’ve never seen a pretty woman be rude to a busboy. Again, most beautiful women I’ve known were kind. I’ve honestly known more ugly women who were hateful, mainly because they’re jealous of higher value women (even if they don’t say it outloud, you can tell sometimes by the way they speak negatively of beautiful women they don’t know, assuming they’re stupid or some other negative trait). I suppose we have had different life experiences. Also, this entire sub is condescending to ugly women, …
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 10:57 PM
1

They're often fine with people at or above their perceived social level - think Mean Girls - but they are brutal to those of lower standing. Ok, I just don’t think these hot, mean girls are as mean to other women as you think. I know it does happen, but I think it is mostly a trope that gets played out in movies and doesn’t happen as much in real life. They might gossip behind people’s backs, but all women do that. I still think men perceive the pretty ones as “bitches” more because of the roman…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 06:13 PM
2

I can name plenty of utter bitches who are also hot - they're pretty but they aren't attractive, they're repulsive to be around. I don’t mean to be rude, but is it possible these hot women have romantically rejected you or ignored you, so you perceive them as bitches? I’m just asking because I haven’t met many beautiful women who were genuinely awful people. I think women who are less fortunate in the looks department should try to emulate beautiful women, not be bitter towards them and tear the…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 08:52 AM
3

Nope. Run. I’ve had first dates with guys who “joke” about sexual things/future kids/marriage - all duds. High quality men with good senses of humor know how to make jokes that don’t involve this unhinged, presumptuous “you’re my future wife tehe!” nonsense.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 07:43 AM
7

True. I’ve noticed many men that make very high salaries are dominant and confident as a result of their money and education, but it’s almost to a fault. There are downsides to a high powered man- stubbornness, inflexibility, workaholic etc. A man earning a lower salary in a more low-key job may be more social, laid back and easier to get along and live with.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 12:22 AM
7

I think people also don’t factor in men with lower salaries who are good with saving and investing. Investing properly can grow your wealth quite a bit. A man who makes a blue collar salary who knows how to invest is generally a better option than a white collar man who is a spendthrift and doesn’t save or invest for his future.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 12:07 AM
8

It is no surprise that women choose the masculine types who earn less because the alternative is a weak/fat beta who might make the same or even less (It seems there are many betas nowadays that don’t have enough money to fit the standard of a beta bux). I would say this is just an adaptation for modern times. Pre-internet, the beta men in all industries used to be fit, manly, and confident. Not so much anymore. Of course, this applies to women too. Women have gotten more fat/masculine post-inte…
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/18 11:49 PM
2

No offense but she has awful skin. She looks middle aged.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/18 09:27 PM
3

Yup. I have a strong jawline so there’s no way I would ever cut my hair that short lol. We are supposed to call women beautiful and brave when they cut off their hair, but most of them look worse.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/18 04:28 PM
1

You would need to wear jewelry and makeup to look fem with a boy cut.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/18 04:15 PM
1

I don’t know what that means.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/18 12:44 AM
5

People don’t pay med students to lecture masses of people. They pay a seasoned doctor that has been in the field for years.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/18 08:47 PM
12

Maybe it’s personal preference. I don’t know. I can’t look up to her masculine nature and obvious lack of self care. If I’m going to listen to a red pill woman, I want her to look more like me- long hair, feminine, keeps up with her looks etc. I don’t want to listen to some woman who isn’t attractive enough to get a high value man. The fact that she isn’t attractive also colors her perspective on certain things. Attractive women are treated differently, have more opportunity with men, more optim…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/18 08:17 PM
9

She might act red pill but she doesn’t make any effort to look feminine or attractive. She looks like a typical masculine feminist.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/18 06:54 PM
1

I am thinking it is simple: the career oriented women who struggle with relationships typically aren’t attractive enough. If you’re a plump woman making a high salary, you probably won’t get a guy with a higher salary than you.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/18 06:43 PM
4

Tbh, those men whose eyes lit up when you said “elem ed” were probably more thinking along the lines of “ooh, education.. teacher. Feminine, kind, caring”. I highly doubt they were thinking, “ooh!! She could be my SAHM!” Men don’t think like women; they’re not as future oriented. A man and woman meet, the man is mainly thinking whether he’s attracted to her or not and if he’s having a good time and getting to know her. He’s not envisioning her as his SAHM so early in the game (unless he’s a mass…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/18 08:53 AM
0

Simple solution for single men in high earning careers- marry a woman who was born into some wealth. If you’re a desirable man, you can surely pull this off in some form. Look at her father and what he does. If he’s a janitor, then don’t date her. Very simple! I also find that wealthy men tend to have beautiful daughters because these men were able to marry a beautiful women and procreate with her. There is more ugliness and obesity among the poor, or those who grew up poor.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/18 08:34 AM
3

I think women in general just get stressed out easier when it comes to working, whether they’re career oriented or not. Im not saying that to bash women, I just think since most women are feminine (but they try to act masculine at work) it can be stressful to “play pretend” in that way. It’s just not natural. Also, I think even lower paid and more feminine type careers like education and childcare can be stressful, not only because you have to deal with a classroom of unruly kids but also I beli…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/18 08:25 AM
1

Likening friendship to dating isn’t a good idea. Very different dynamics.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/18 04:28 AM
1

i would recommend try getting to know her a bit before the date. Give her a phone call, even. You might find out more about her and find you don’t like her enough to pursue the first date, so you can eliminate people before the date even begins and you don’t have to deal with the weird “who will pay” business. This works for women as well. Process of elimination! Work very well if you’re dating strangers, like many people are because of online dating. I had been chatting online with a guy once a…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/18 04:25 AM
5

There are also less women in high paid careers overall. Women earn less than men because they consistently choose careers that pay less bc they’re more suited to most women’s preferences (childcare, education, etc like the OP said.. many of those careers earn than 30-50k (max) in US) Then you factor in attractiveness, and women who are 7+ with a high salaried career are nearly nonexistent. I mean how many women who earn 100k+ can be described as “beautiful”? Many of them are fat or plain unattra…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/18 04:12 AM
6

We also have to take into account that there are is a bigger pool of women in education, retail, and childcare than in STEM careers, lawyers, doctors, etc. The latter are still male dominated fields. All I know is that most men with high earning careers will at least want a woman who is college educated or looks/acts classy and clean cut. Not many high powered men want to commit to some tattooed hipster who works at Urban Outfitters or a skanky Applebee’s waitress. It’s crazy how many women youn…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/18 03:55 AM
8

I don’t know about that. Straight men in general are not touchy feely with their friends the way women are. It’s more of a woman thing to hug friends. Does the woman on this board initiate the hug? I think most men prefer minimal touching when greeting people unless they’re from certain cultures. I’ve seen men do that handshake thing with a pat on back with other men and hug women, but the woman initiates the hug.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/18 01:25 AM
4

Are you American? I know very few men who enjoy being hugged tightly by anyone other than their partner. Maybe it’s a cultural thing.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/18 11:14 PM
7

A guy who no longer feels comfortable hugging other women, because it feels like they're being unfaithful This is normal? I don’t know any adult men who think it’s normal to hug women, unless they’re family.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/18 11:04 PM
1

I thought you said your BPD is stable though? If you’re attractive and reasonably stable, I think you can look for men with steady finances. You say you can’t get financially stable men to commit to you, but have you tried? I thought this way about myself for a while, then it hit me-I’m not putting myself in a position to meet these men, I was shy, anxious, and had low self esteem and so I was acting in ways that affirmed my low self esteem (not going out and meeting men, staying with incompatib…
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/18 10:59 PM
2

This is what I was thinking. It’s an arrangement that can work but it is not trad gender roles. If it was, he would already be established in his career, not “in progress”. If he is focused, it should be ok. I personally have had bad experience with men past a certain age who are still “in progress” though, so I would avoid these types.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/18 12:45 AM
3

Did you make it clear to him that you want commitment before sex? Maybe you need to communicate better.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/18 09:34 PM
1

What type of men are they? How would you rate their looks, career, personality, age? What are you like? It is hard to give advice without details, but it sounds like most of the guys you’re meeting only want to get laid. Also where are you meeting them? If you’re using tinder, try bumble or okcupid instead. I’ve heard of women having success on bumble.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/18 08:42 PM
32

Most men who give their partners money usually trust them enough to give them a debit or credit card with an upper limit. If you have to ask him for money every time you get gas or grocery shop, this is a red flag.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/18 08:38 PM
2

I agree that men want chaste women, but wanting and obtaining are different things. It is not common anymore for tons of beautiful women to retain their virginities past 18-20. Tinder and hookup culture has become very commonplace so much that some women do it just because their peers are. You can whine about this all you want, but it’s just the reality. Any man’s ideal would be a virgin supermodel, but it’s not realistic. You need to adjust your standards or be alone, plain and simple. Everyone…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/18 08:17 PM
1

I agree that it sounds like bad vetting. I don’t think you are an awful woman, just misguided. Lending someone money may have been a bad move, but it was also a kind thing to do. If you want marriage, it is important to find a guy who can at least keep a job. He doesn’t have to be wealthy, but finding a man who isn’t always struggling with his job and money is important. Money is a sensitive issue for many, so your elders aren’t going to tell you stuff like, “don’t date broke men” because it sou…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/18 07:54 PM
1

Well op “ran away to another country”, so there’s a good chance she’s not that close to many people. There are people who are introverted or not super social who are not that close to family or friends, like they have maybe 2 people who they tell anything to.. I don’t think it’s THAT weird. I personally don’t tell many people things. It’s just my nature.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/18 09:53 PM
1

True. I guess it’s a sticky situation. I still think just telling your family and friends to not mention the engagement part is the best course. We also don’t know anything about OP’s family and friends, maybe they’re not even close and didn’t know of the engagements- who knows.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/18 09:41 PM
1

Hmm,I don’t know- I’ve had family meet my LTR’s and they never told them anything about my exes. Unless you have a family member or friend who is an obnoxious blabbermouth, then I don’t think they would find out. I personally don’t keep obnoxious people in my life because they’re a liability. I guess it depends on the family and friends.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/18 09:33 PM
1

She’s had 2 failed engagements, and she wants marriage. Men who are marriage-minded will definitely raise an eyebrow and think that she might change her mind at any moment - not good. She should downplay that or leave it out altogether. Just call them LTR’s and not failed engagements.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/18 09:27 PM
1

I don’t think you should tell your partner every single hairy detail. There are some things best kept to yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/18 09:13 PM
4

Two failed engagements? Why? That might be a red flag for some, among some of the other things. You need to downplay your baggage in any way you can, especially when you’re in the beginning of a relationship. If you fly out of the gate with all your skeletons, you might scare a decent guy away. Focus on being present and kind when you meet men. Don’t pull out all your baggage and expect the guy to swoon and say “wow you’re so interesting and not like other girls!”. High quality, marriage-minded …
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/18 09:07 PM
2

I agree with this part about men asking really early on. The guy I mentioned asked me very early on, like second or third date within the first month. I was immediately suspicious of him why he was asking so soon. He also kept praising me as the prettiest he had been with but then negged me. (In hindsight I should’ve cut him off then, he couldn’t even keep his compliments consistent, as if he was bipolar or something) Then I soon found out some really bad things about him. Low quality (I’ve deta…
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/18 08:48 PM
2

Well I shared my experience and he turned out to be an abusive drunk. You have still provided me with no evidence that these friends of yours are high value. All you’ve said is “well I knew some guys who broke up with a girl over it” then you failed to elaborate on the quality of men they are, so I’m going to assume they’re not the best.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/18 08:40 PM
3

This isn’t going to get anywhere. I just think you are wrong that there are tons of decent looking men who are incels. Even a super skinny, awkward guy I knew could get laid (trp would call him a beta but he did fine). It isn’t that hard. It’s only hard if you’re unattractive or unhygienic.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/18 10:33 PM
1

Just because a relationship “fell apart” doesn’t mean that it 100% hinged on her n count. There are a variety of reasons a relationship can end. The guy I dated who asked my N was mad that it was higher than his. It turned out he was a big drinker and confessed to me that he hit his ex, he was low value. Therefore, the relationship would’ve fallen apart even if I was a virgin, because no way was I committing long term to an abusive drinker.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/18 10:17 PM
1

I think it’s a lot more demeaning to women when a man brands her a “slut” for not being a virgin, but ok. Men can’t blame all their issues on women. They need to take responsibility sometimes and realize when their standards are too high.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/18 09:44 PM
1

You don't know any decent looking guy that constantly gets friend zoned? Change “decent looking” to “ugly or fat”, then yeah, sure. A lot of men who think they’re “decent looking” are quite unattractive, but no one has told them the truth about their looks. I knew a guy exactly like that. I was the only one who was straight up with him because he whined about girls not liking him. I told him you can’t be overweight and hit on cute girls and expect to get laid. There is a small percent of fat men…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/18 09:32 PM
2

Im just saying he didn’t ask and he’s literally wealthier than the majority of men, so take what you will from it. Also, it’s possible he just, you know, was rational and felt the past is the past. Discussing exes is a stupid thing to do anyway. Smart people know this.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/18 09:28 PM
2

How do you know they married the good girls? Would a man necessarily shout from the rooftops that his new bride fucked 50 guys before him This is my exact point. There’s no way to know the truth, unless she has a town reputation, in that case obviously don’t marry her because that’s just asking for drama. In any other case, you’re better off just observing her behavior in the present and how she acts around your guy friends, strange men, family etc.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/18 07:21 PM
1

High-value men in general are going to be able to identify and read liars. I don’t think high value men bother much with it though. They’re too busy working to help build a life for the future and pursuing hobbies to care about something that happened a few years ago. My dad is wealthy and he provided a life for my mom where she didn’t have to work. My mom and I are close and since I’m an adult now, she told me my dad has never asked her about anything from the past. She went to college and part…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/18 07:10 PM
1

It's fairly easy for any decent looking man to be an incel. The only incel I knew irl was a fat dopey looking guy. He wasn’t “decent” looking.. I think you’re fooling yourself if you think so many good looking men are incels.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/18 07:02 PM
1

Actually there are people in the west who expect a virgin. It’s delusional, but it is a thing. Are you familiar with the PPD or incel subs? They’re crawling with guys who start raging about sluts and how they need a virgin because every other woman has lost her ability to pair bond. In actuality, incels are just losers and women don’t want to pair bond with them.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/18 07:02 AM
5

Do you think you would be able to tell the difference between a Good girl who pretends to have a low n-count vs. one who actual has a low n ? Women are better liars than men. That’s why trp is always complaining about how manipulative women are. AWALT.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/18 06:30 AM
1

Well, there is more evidence pointing in one direction, bud.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/18 06:28 AM
1

Are you waiting for marriage?
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/18 03:24 AM
5

I don’t think your argument holds up. Most people who marry in early 20’s, college age, have been dating their spouse for at least a few years before. A lot of girls who just get “knocked up” in early 20’s don’t marry the guy, they just have a baby daddy. Unless they were the town bicycle in their teens, they simply wouldn’t have much time to rack up a high N. Then you add in the fact that people marrying so young are mostly conservative and religious- logic would say most of them have a low N.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/18 03:12 AM
5

Well, attractive virgins are basically unicorns. The only virgins I have heard of, past 25.. were fat. One guy, 2 girls.. all like 20+ lbs overweight..
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/18 03:02 AM
7

I don’t think that’s necessarily true, because many people who marry in early 20’s come from religious or conservative backgrounds and are discouraged from having a high N.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/18 12:46 AM
4

See, you say yours is high (not sure what high is to you) but the thing is, even if the number is relatively low, a man who who lacks confidence will neurotically obsess over that she’s been with someone else and will drive himself nuts. Neurotic men can’t be captains..they will drive your ship into the wall.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/18 12:43 AM
1

Stats also show that divorce is highest for people marrying in their early 20’s, and I would presume most of those people have low N’s. So, there is conflicting data there.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/18 12:37 AM
1

I mean, 1 is a low n-count. Unless he’s 14 yrs old, a man will be limiting his options a ton if he can’t handle that she’s slept with a man before him. Maybe a man’s confidence needs to be worked on if he cares about a low n-count. The men who care the most and want virgins seem to be mainly incels, so there seems to be a correlation here. “12 a year” is a little ridiculous, I mean obviously no man wants a woman who’s been with 60 men. But less than 10? 5? This isn’t necessarily high, unless a m…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/18 12:30 AM
2

I don’t know what other women’s experiences have been, but I’ve only had dated one guy who asked and he surely wasn’t captain material. He made 30k a year, was very immature and jealous overall, and kept insisting I was the prettiest girl he had ever dated while simultaneously negging me randomly. I realize now he was a massive beta and learned from that experience I need to vet better. I’m curious about this, maybe I should make a thread asking about the quality of men who ask about n count. Th…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/18 08:12 PM
3

I mean, statistics show that age is precisely the problem. A lot of modern women in their early 20’s are still rather childlike and they are not given the tools to vet properly. Late 20’s have much better vetting ability and get it right more often. TRP talks badly about women as they get into those ages, but those women are more likely to stay married (therefore, not end up divorce rapists). I was treated like a child by everyone when I was 20, it didn’t help that I still looked very young, so …
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/18 07:55 PM
1

Lol, ok. being too lazy to google is the reason you’re misinformed.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/18 07:52 PM
1

The hard truth is plain women need to make up for their looks by having higher RMV.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/18 09:16 PM
1

Probably not, but on the other end, caring too much about a woman’s sexual past doesn’t secure trust for her either. I think it’s a red flag if a guy needs to know a bunch of details about sex you had before him, slut or not. It can be a sign that he is controlling. I think people confuse controlling behavior with an alpha man sometimes. Controlling men are weak and afraid but they posture as having an ego.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/18 09:06 PM
2

Are you serious with this story? This is really, I mean REALLY uncommon.. Most high quality men wouldn’t rip their children away from their mother. That’s ridiculous and stupid behavior. Children need a nurturing mother figure.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/18 09:00 PM
1

Yikes. I just clicked on the first link and immediately spammed with a porn site. Let’s look at the hottest actors - Ryan Gosling - married to Eva Mendez Channing Tatum- was married to Jenna Dewan for years Brad Pitt- married to Angelina Jolie for years Ryan Reynolds- married to Blake lively Armie Hammer- married to a gorgeous woman, dont know her name. Bradley cooper- married a supermodel Jamie dornan- beautiful wife That’s just off the top of my head, none of those women are 6’s.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/18 08:52 PM
2

She said herself she is average looking and that she has wrinkles in her early 20’s. If she’s not attractive, she likely won’t have that many options as you think. That’s just the market.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/18 08:50 PM
2

Well obviously a man is going to say “don’t lie about it” lol. Duh. But for women who want to secure commitment from a conservative guy, lying is just what they should do. As long as the girl doesn’t give off a super sexual vibe, they won’t know. Men lie too, it’s not like lying at the beginning stages of a relationship is unheard of. Many men exaggerate their wealth or “peacock” to secure better women.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/18 08:45 PM
1

From what I’ve seen, many of the hottest Hollywood actors are married to pretty hot women. At least 7’s, which is not mediocre looking, it’s above average.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/18 08:35 PM
1

If you’re willing to date women your age, sure. But most younger beautiful women now aren’t conservative, especially the top tier beautiful ones, they border on thot territory..
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/18 08:33 PM
1

They should hide their past or just not bring it up. Unless you have tons of party photos that you can’t remove off the internet, it’s quite simple to just lie and pretend you never slept around. People lie all the time, not sure why that situation should be any different.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/18 08:29 PM
2

Sorry, do you live in North America? This may be a culture thing. Otherwise, if you live in the US, I’ve no idea where you’re getting your info from. A man of decent Smv (not low) might have to choose between the two. There are not tons and tons beautiful conservative anymore for men to just have their pick. That era is long gone.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/18 06:35 PM
0

You would think so, but no. Asians have a different BMI scale than white people. Google. She needs to lose the weight or she will only attract some lame, ultra nerdy, mouth breathing weeaboo. I knew a chubby Asian girl once, her boyfriend was horrendous.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/18 09:52 AM
6

Too bad that a lot of early 20’s marriages end in divorce these days. Look it up. Late 20’s is a better idea.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/18 09:36 AM
5

A lot of men who messed around in their 20’s don’t make great partners later on. Usually those men are the top tier Chads who have had their taste of every flavor, yet when they turn 35, you expect them to just pick 1 flavor and stick to it? Usually does not work like that. Many will turn 35, 40, etc and “commit” to someone then end up cheating because they’re so used to having whoever they want. It’s better to date a guy who’s mildly attractive and hasn’t messed around in his 20’s. He hasn’t ha…
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/18 09:29 AM
4

You’re saying some good looking man has the choice between a boring average looking girl and a hot one, they’re going to pick the former? I don’t agree. Not from what I’ve seen.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/18 09:16 AM
6

Good points. Most men exaggerate how much sex they’ve had, probably why op has been led to believe that all men in their 30’s have screwed around in their 20’s. Realistically, this is a small percentage of men who have sex with everything that moves then finally settle down at 35.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/18 09:06 AM
8

I don’t find this to be true.. Looks have proven to be more important than a slutty past, and many party girls are hot. Most men would rather commit to a 7+ reformed slut over an ugly/average girl who’s been in nun mode her entire teens and 20’s. It is what it is.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/18 08:53 AM
3

It seems like your main problem is not being social. You need to just stop being bitter and get out there. Being angry will only push others way. Improve your skin, eat better. Otherwise why would a top tier man want you if you have “wrinkles in your early 20’s”? Sorry but it’s true, it is abnormal to be wrinkled so young. Working on your body would help, like others have said. You can’t change your face much, but you can improve your hair and body.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/18 08:45 AM
3

True. I was talking more like just on the beach or around my home lol. Wildlife photography is pretty hardcore though. You need giant expensive lenses and they tend to work under really rough conditions in exotic places. Lots of traveling. I don’t think I could handle that, I’m very much a home body lol.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/18 01:08 AM
3

Photography, mostly places and animals. It’s too bad this type of photography isn’t that lucrative, because I’d love to make a career of it. I’ve always been interested in animals as well. I volunteered for a shelter a while ago. Currently getting into healthy and organic cooking. I like fitness and yoga.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/18 12:50 AM
2

Yes, but she may have let herself go or something. There’s no proof that she looks exactly the same as when they dated. If he is attracted to her though, I think it’s a bad idea if they keep in touch. Even worse if they live in the same area. I remember there was a thread asking if the opposite sex can be friends. Most people said no because of the potential for affair or attraction.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/18 07:21 PM
3

I agree. The “don’t worry about it” responses seem a bit lax. Married people being platonic friends with their hot ex is some epic blue pill nonsense. I think it could be a form of virtue signaling, like “look at me, I can be friends with this person I used to have sex with. How cool and progressive I am” eye roll. Most of these people have no business still talking to their ex and are walking the edge of an affair, if not fully having an affair already.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/18 09:35 AM
3

Maybe your ex didn’t share your sense of humor? There are different aspects of personality that people connect on and some people are more serious than others. I love a funny, lighthearted man who I can laugh with. Sadly, many are taken. I don’t think it gets discussed much, but I’ve always noticed that funny men are highly coveted, right up there with wealth.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/18 10:33 PM
2

Is she attractive? This makes a huge difference. it would be blue pill to think her looks don’t come into play.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/18 09:28 PM
1

I don’t know if anyone has said this, but just make sure your field is in demand. People who get grad degrees in high demand fields get jobs a lot easier and faster when they graduate. It will save you a lot of stress in the future. Look for fields that have high projected growth in the next 10 years.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/18 12:41 AM
1

So this isn’t completely on topic, but I am having some mixed feelings about my life track. I’m in monk mode and applying to grad school this year. Since things are kind of up in the air, and I might move away from here, I’m not going to be dating for a while. The problem is I’m feeling lonely and miss having a companion. I have this feeling like I’m messing something up and should just be dating right now? Like worried about “wasting time” not looking for a husband. I want to go to grad school …
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/18 09:23 PM
5

If you had trust issues in the beginning, you shouldn’t have married him.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/18 08:06 PM
1

.5 difference doesn’t matter in real life. Most men are never going to have the choice between a 9.5 and a 10. It is irrelevant. That’s my main point. Rpw is a place for women to maximize their traits to secure commitment from the highest quality man they can attain. It’s not a place for men to debate which woman is the absolute hottest by .5 points to them. It just seems like the men talking about these women are ego flexing over women they’ll never get.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/18 07:37 PM
1

You just said basically all men would like that woman, now you’re changing your tune. No offense but you are basically proving everyone else’s point that there is variance in men’s preferences. It seems like you just changed your mind depending on the day, lmao.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/18 07:06 PM
1

Married 6 months and you have this level of distrust? Sorry to break the bad news, but you have made a huge mistake. How long were you together before you married? You know, I think it is advised on RPW that you shouldn’t live together before marriage, but sometimes living together can save you the trouble of marrying a cheater or someone you can’t trust. You don’t always know what a man is doing behind closed doors.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/18 06:57 PM
2

Although I see what you’re saying, I think there is a little more variance than “all men would prefer THIS exact woman”. Key word-little more. I’m mostly agreeing. So this girl’s photo you provided, never heard of her, but let’s use her as an example: what about if a man prefers a similar body to her, but he likes blondes with blue eyes and bigger boobs (assuming she has brown eyes, I can’t see her eye color). Most high paid actresses have blue eyes, which suggest that blue eye color is pretty u…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/18 04:20 AM
3

Yes, and the lifestyle of a young cocktail waitress and a 35 year old corporate guy is likely to be very different too. He works 40 hrs/week and the waitress works nights and weekends? How are they going see each other and build a bond? Then you bring in the natural differences between a younger and older person, and it’s pretty much doomed.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/18 04:07 AM
1

If you’re high libido and actually with a man you’re attracted to, there should be no issue. You said in another comment eh was an alcoholic which is known to lower libido. I would rather be single than with a man of that caliber! I’m sure you would, too.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/18 01:00 AM
2

“No fault of their own”? Sorry if I’m wrong, but I thought the whole red pill mantra was to take responsibility for relationship failures. In trp, men are taught this. Here in rpw, we are taught how to vet better and take responsibility for finding the right man? Is this not what rp is all about?
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/18 12:54 AM
2

I suggest getting into hobbies and focus on working towards a goal. When you have clear goals, you will be less likely to care about stuff like that. Also, at your age, I wish someone would’ve told me to vet men better! Bad relationships can distract you from your true calling, so be careful. Honestly, I think bad vetting is what leads to hypergamy in women. Hypergamy can come from not feeling satisfied in a relationship, which is more likely if we didn’t choose the right person to begin with.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/18 12:42 AM
6

I agree. There are (reasonably) attractive women with good careers. Maybe if a woman is a 9, her career won’t be relevant, but for average and slightly above women? Career matters. Also, the older a woman is, as her looks decline, the more her career matters. A 45 yr old man likes two women- both 38, one works as a waitress vs. one with a wealthy, high earning career? As long as wealthy one has kept up her looks, she will be more desirable to most men in their 40s+. Also with wealth, attractive …
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/18 12:23 AM
2

Whether men like it or not, the truth is if they need a detailed 4 page essay about their partner’s past, they’re probably massive betas who need to work on their confidence and get over their paranoia and insecurities. After dating a man like this (we were in college and he failed out, too) I am working on myself and also honing my vetting skills to attract better men. Also, just to be clear, I gave him no reason to be insecure - I was a studious homebody, I was not a party girl, didn’t have ma…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/18 05:35 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter