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Some of those, if the dude is smart and stays put will come back to bite their ex in the back... no? any examples from your experience?
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/23 10:16 PM
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Yeah, I get it, lose lose situation created by her. So, did you settled out of court? What would've you done different not to waste time and resources if you could've started over? I bet that if there are kids involved ahe tried to use them as pawns.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/23 06:20 AM
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Great insight. The proving of her irresponsability with noney, was that with bank statements from before and after court?
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/23 06:17 AM
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Cool. Thanks for the answer. What about her attorney, just lame? How did u attorney defend you on the savings withdraw?
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/23 04:18 AM
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And when they get back to you reasonaly soon, say everything is good with children, send a picture of them, and say they'll get back on arranging something that's best for the children's interest soon, they just need time to think thing through...? Just leave it alone or answer the email with a simple... I'm looking forward to hearing back on that soon... and wait a few days to check on the children again by email and on the arrangement or do I just don't answer now and wait a few days to answer…
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/23 03:34 PM
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Lol, yeah I can see one feeling thay way. On the other issues I kinda expected not to get anything answered, just the children part that really gets me. It feels like with 3 emails a week tops I have to choose 1 email for the tax return matter and 2 emails regarding our children one week, and the next week I send 1 email asking her to pickup the rest of her stuff, and 2 about the kids again. I appreciate you taking the time to answer and share your experience. Thank you
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/23 04:58 AM
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It's either text message or email. Everything's polite. Answer's to text don't answer questions made and are like a day later or just mean to stall conversation. I'm switching to email only. Besides the kids there are other matters like tax return an a few of her personal belongings to be picked up yet, small things but thag have to be comunicated/talked about too, so Monday instead of asking about the kids I'll send and email about this miscellaneous things and Wednesday i ask about the childre…
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/23 04:27 AM
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Thank you
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/23 03:45 AM
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Hey, English is not the first language here, now I see how it comes across. I also posted without review the text too much. What I mean is that the 2.5yo already uses words as comunication quite well compared to the 1yo who's comunication isn't quite verbal yet. Thanks for pointing that out though
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/23 03:42 AM
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You seem to be a seasoned warrior. How bad is it if they find this reddit account and read everything here and use it in court?
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/23 03:33 AM
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Thanks for this, I'll keep the first sentence as advice for life. I just gotta find the line in between that and still be fighting for me and my children.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/23 03:21 AM
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Really? I did not know that. Yes, if I do on my own and she shows up with an attorney to court I'll just get ripped bc idk how the court system works. Emotional abuse is hard to prove and it happens so under the radar that whoever has a spine/heart reacts strongly in self defense to the mind fuckery received, at least until they figure out whats going on
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/23 03:17 AM
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Hey, but the landlord probably won't event let me stay even if I pay the rent each month. She gave notice she's moving out and that counts for the two of us. The only way to stay is if I can get the lease to be only in my name, and I do not qualify for that application. I did want to stay for a couple months here so the separation would go smoother for the kids, but now I don't have the kids, she left the house, and I won't be able to keep renting the house. Even if I can that won't be for more …
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/23 03:11 AM
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I've been reaching out every day for a week, I'll slow down.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/23 03:01 AM
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I don't want conflict. I want to see my kids that are suffering, one day I'm in their life the next day I'm not. The funny part is that's in great part why the relationship ended is because when I realized things wouldn't change and there were toxic patterns were affecting the kids I was able to tone down my emotional reaction and avoid conflict for 95% of the cases, that made the attempts to get a reaction greater until the day I was assaulted. Holding her actually accountable for her actionsnf…
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/23 03:00 AM
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I'm trying to use them sparsely ($$). They want to focus on the divorce itself to make best use of my money. And advised that I moved on my own with the temporary motions. Besides calling every family law firm how do I find free consultation attorneys?
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/23 10:07 PM
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Thank you sir. I appreciate this comunity. She hasn't been reaching me over the phone, I have reached her over text daily about the kids, follow up on email every other day, I send other e-mails about other issues such as tax return, emails she won't answer e-mails, and it will take forever to answer texts. I'm going to the address where the kids are at some poit next week, I'll figure out a way to recor the interaction, I don't want an altercation, I want to see my kids I want to hug them, and …
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/23 04:45 AM
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Why 4 months? Did you file for custody right away and it took that long to figure that out? Were you without a house that you could host the kids?
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/23 12:27 AM
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Yes, bank accounts were 90% wiped before I could do anything. I have no dv accusations agains me, things didn't work in between me and stbx, and I regret that the kids are suffering because of that.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/23 10:57 PM
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