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Do your have a guest bedroom? My husband likes to sleep in total quiet, and he often snores. If the snoring is loud enough then I can’t sleep, and like you, I like sleeping to the sound of rain or a fan. So our comprise is that we sometimes sleep in separate bedrooms and sometimes in one bedroom together. It works out great for us. Maybe it’s worth considering?
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/24 01:35 PM
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Great comment.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/24 08:45 PM
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Are you a similar type to the girls he was looking at? The porn addiction May make sense.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/23 06:19 PM
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So from what I’m reading he’s a sex addict. He needs a lot of therapy / reflection if he really wants to change this, otherwise anytime you have conflict he may fall back into old habits. He can of course change, anyone can, but he needs to really want to and take constructive steps to do so. Beyond just stopping, what else is he planning to do? You sound like a kind and caring woman and good wife. If you were my good friend, I would want to see you in a happy and loving and faithful marriage. I…
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/23 05:31 AM
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At Soho House way more than 4% are gay 😂 more like 30%
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/23 02:52 PM
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To be honest men with six packs are more likely to be gay. I’ve been a member of a private club for a decade that has a sauna and I could usually tell who’s gay or not based off their ab definition. Gay men are very competitive with one another and care a ton about their appearance. It’s not that masculine men don’t care about their appearance, they do, just not as much 🤷‍♀️.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/23 09:05 AM
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Get an oil diffuser and put a few drops of essential oils such as cedar and tea tree oil into it. Use for about one hour daily. Most pests hate those scents. Our whole building has silverfish in it and we completely got rid of them form our apartment by doing this. Also small bags of lavender and cedar wood will deter pests.
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/23 09:59 AM
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Same! never say no to my husband. Even if I’m not in the mood I still love intimacy with him, so I make sure he knows I’m always available. He never feels deprived and I love knowing his needs are being met.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/23 06:58 AM
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I have an amazing husband all to myself. Why would I settle for less? You don’t have to either. There are plenty of high quality men in the world who want only one wife.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/23 01:27 PM
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If the birth control made you gain the weight, I would stop taking it.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/23 07:17 AM
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Same thing happens to me as well. I have nothing to hide, yet it is somehow anxiety provoking 🤷‍♀️
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/23 08:19 PM
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Warm tights with long wool socks on top that are hidden by my knee-high suede black boots, as long as there is no snow. In the case of snow, long wool socks hidden by my snow boots 😂
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/23 10:42 AM
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It can be helpful to see how a potential partner interacts with a group to learn more about him and vet him, and if you have any females you trust, you can ask them what they think of him. The key point is that they have to be good people and in stable relationships, otherwise I wouldn’t take their advice. He also gets a chance see that you surround yourself with positive and healthy people. You can always mention the party to him and see how he reacts. If you do invite him and he seems a little…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/23 08:03 PM
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I have a simply trick for that. I’m in so many groups that no one ever bothers to read through them all, hence I never get kicked out of anything 😂 Obviously this doesn’t solve the root of problem - which is being punished for having “different beliefs” - but it does fix the symptom. Maybe you don’t want to be a member of groups with mods like that anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/23 06:43 PM
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I’m sure other women will give you better advice - I just want to give you a hug 🤗 and say that in my opinion, it sounds like you loved him. I also think you will be able to love again, when you meet the right man.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/23 12:27 AM
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As men get older some of them who were “players” reach a point where they want a deeper connection and a family. They may then look back on the women they dated over the years and focus on one or two that they realized would make great partners - and realize they let them get away and then attempt to contact them. So this is where a woman having the qualities these men would look for in a wife becomes important. This could be what happened to you. Another possibility is that you changed during t…
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/23 02:59 PM
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Wonderful advice!!!!!!!!!!!!
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/23 11:32 PM
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You dodged a bullet.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/23 08:10 PM
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Other things that may be useful are to partially filter potential partners based on how long they have been using an app, aka single + how long they have been living in a city (if you’re in a city, because cities can corrupt.) A man whose been on dating apps the last five years is totally different from the man whose been on them the last five months since a break up. I’ll give you some ancedotes, keep in mind I live in a major European capital. A male friend of mine (I have both female and male…
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/23 04:11 PM
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I think they can work if you use them judiciously. But if you don’t vet carefully and aren’t super picky about who you meet, they can be a huge waste of time. Me and several of my friends all met our partners on dating apps. My husband is the man of my dreams and we have the same values- so I can only say it did work for me :)
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/23 03:55 PM
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In the case of some of the women killed by Ted Bundy, kindness and wanting to be helpful ultimately led to them to becoming his victims. It seems like an extreme example but it’s what happened. He pretended to have a broken arm and asked women to help him carry things to his car, where he then drugged and kidnapped them. I’m very kind and helpful and I think of this sometimes to remind me to not trust strangers.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/23 07:50 PM
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Sunscreen is toxic and sunlight helps us produce vitamin D and improves our moods. That said, sun exposure also damages and ages our skin. There are natural sun blocks that I use daily. Firstly, green tea is a natural low-SPF sunblock. Secondly coconut oil and other oils also provide a mild and natural SPF.. Thirdly, aloe Vera protects against the photo damage of sun exposure and hence reduces skin aging. Personally I do use mineral based sunblock when I spend a large amount of time in the sun. …
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/23 08:47 AM
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There’s no way that childhood isn’t painful and traumatic. It is compliment to you that you’ve grown past it and haven’t let it define you. On the other hand, if that’s all you take from my comment and what you zero in on, it may show you have more work to do.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/23 09:28 PM
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I think when you live together you’ll naturally become neater and more organized. Especially coming from your painful and traumatic background, I hope he is understanding and ready to to give you time to improve. With your motivation, I’m sure once you adjust to living in cleanliness and order you’ll grow accustomed to it and start to like it! My husband was brought up in a spotless German household and he’s super organized. I grew up in a loud chaotic house. Not like what you grew up in, but to…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/23 04:13 PM
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How are you health wise? How are your thyroid, your B vitamins levels and your iron levels?
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/23 10:25 AM
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I love Thorne basic B. Thorne in general is one of my favorite brands.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/23 10:30 PM
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Just wait until he has better chemistry with someone else and wants to keep seeing them. You’re young now, but as you get older the women he hooks up with will stay young - assuming he is able to pick them up. I’m being honest here: Maybe it works for now but in the long term, I’d give it a 99% chance of it ending your relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/22 04:55 PM
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I don’t have any advice to add, as there is good advice here already. I just wanted to say I look forward to welcoming you to the tribe after your conversion :)
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/22 11:42 AM
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Right? Is that small talk at an orgy? An icebreaker? 😂
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/22 10:26 PM
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What parties do you attend that people ask you that?
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/22 09:59 PM
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Audrey Hepburn, Grace Kelly, Kate the Princess of Wales
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/22 04:21 PM
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People can change if they want to. The reason most people don’t change is that that they aren’t intrinsically motivated to. I suggest really trying to not focus on the past but rather just on how things develop between you two. If he hasn’t really changed it will become clear and if he has, and he is everything you want, then don’t let the past get in the way of the future.
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/22 12:15 PM
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LOL nice one
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/22 08:19 PM
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Where do you live? We can help you find some resources for abused women local to you. I see you posted 12 days ago about your boyfriend taking away your driving privileges. I’m sorry to say this but you’re in an abusive relationship with a man who may at some point pose a serious danger to your life. Your risk will be highest right after you leave him. Please seek support somewhere local and please leave him once you have a plan of where you can go and most importantly, without him knowing where…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/22 06:15 PM
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Yeah honestly his comments made me uncomfortable. Has he done things like this before?
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/22 03:09 PM
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Just throwing this out there...do you think he may be interested in men and want to keep you as a beard?
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/22 12:35 AM
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He will only change when he decides to change. It has to come from somewhere within him and it will likely take him years of therapy to improve if he decides to it. The chances of all of this happening are unfortunately low. You could spend the rest of your life waiting and hoping, in other words, sacrificing what you truly want, in the hopes he changes. If you imagine your ideal life with a partner, wouldn’t it be nice to be with a man who you don’t need to hope changes? Are you willing to sacr…
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/22 10:30 AM
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It’s been my experience that if you need to ask if your partner is a narcissist, 95% of the time they are. It’s basically impossible to have a happy life with a narcissist unless they go to therapy and really try to change but to do that, they would first need to admit there’s a problem. Is he will to admit that anything is wrong with him?
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/22 07:12 AM
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What kind of 33 year old man sleeps with a 14-year old? That’s not normal or healthy. You were groomed.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/22 07:48 PM
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I had an ex who preferred chubby women whereas I have always been slender. It was a red flag and I suspect he was in the closet. He made me feel like women who were chubby 5/10s were more attractive than me which objectively wasn’t true. Not saying it’s happening to OP but I wouldn’t date a man like that again. Also the thing about him preferring women with short hair I find strange. Just my experience and opinion.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/22 09:45 PM
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That’s great advice!
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/22 07:07 AM
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You are right that it’s possible for some men to have unemotional sex with random women. That doesn’t mean it’s what men should aspire to. People - both men and women - who want polygamy or open relationships tend to be narcissistic/ selfish and and not make ideal partners IMO. Monogamy is harder and yet it builds a deeper connection in the long run. There are enough high-quality men who want a monogamous relationship. If you want monogamy do not settle for a man who does not. IMO the best men w…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/22 09:05 AM
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You just made me realize something with your comment, thank you for the idea it makes so much sense. How much alpha you want in a man depends on how much alpha is in you. It’s so simple yet it explains so much.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/22 07:11 AM
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I am glad you got helpful advice. I wish for the best for you :)
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/22 10:40 AM
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Can you please edit the description and add that you met being his sugar baby? It’s important information for us to have to give you proper advice.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/22 08:22 AM
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Run away and block him everywhere and don’t look back. Get out while you still can. I hope you listen OP.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/22 08:32 AM
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This 👆OP please read her comment carefully.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/22 10:19 PM
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Please Share some examples of the kind of dresses he was showing you. It would help us to understand.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/22 05:53 PM
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Amazing response!!!
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/21 04:05 PM
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Love your advice!
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/21 03:39 PM
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Great comment!!!
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/21 08:53 AM
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Your friends are giving you bad advice. Some of the best advice I’ve ever heard, and what I stick to is, “be very careful who you take advice from.”
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/21 11:13 AM
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What a great comment and what wise words!
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/21 08:20 AM
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I understand why you feel upset and I agree with the other posters - you need to take a step back from social media. Is it worth ruining a good relationship over who follows who and who likes what? Remember: High value men will always have women interested in them. Always. If your bf is high value and I assume he is because you’re here - you just need to accept the fact that women will be after him in real life and online. Keep in mind it doesn’t matter what women throw themselves at him, as lon…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/21 04:43 PM
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Look into derma rolling for your skin. You can buy small size needles for almost daily use and larger to use every six weeks. They will help make your pores look smaller and reduce small lines! The best results comes from rolling “aggressively” and using the right products before and after. Also remember, it’s your feminine energy men will fall in love with. Yes, they have to find you attractive as well, but there’s are tons of beautiful women who can’t hold onto men because they don’t have the …
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/21 11:31 AM
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100%. Usually these people don’t admit to themselves that that is what they are doing, but deep inside they know. The best advice is to be very careful who you take advice from.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/21 11:58 PM
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You just need to find the right person and may need to shop around because a lot of therapists are not very good, many are quite bad, and a few are exceptional. I found an amazing therapist who changed my life. She was a psychologist who also offered somatic experiencing. I tried a few before her who were not very good. She really helped me to learn and feel boundaries and to communicate better with a partner. I’m a much better woman because of her. After doing therapy I found it easy to get men…
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/21 07:00 PM
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That’s exactly what I was trying to say. If he’s the right man it isn’t going to matter. There are several of us pointing this out to you.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/21 09:10 AM
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Keep in mind you’re also more likely to get divorced if the woman was using birth control when you got together, less likely if you take a honeymoon after your wedding etc. There are all kinds of statistics that tell you different things. You know your man and how committed he is to you and how strong your connection is. I would focus more on that and less on statistics because, as other commenters said, they can be very misleading.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/21 07:24 AM
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Love this!!!!! Great anecdote and I agree 100%. Sometimes my husband will show me a photo he took of me and gush about how good I look in it..and I look at it and think “I don’t look so good... I guess he must really love me!”
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/21 08:37 PM
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You really do. Right now you have a choice and the chance to take a healthier path -away from him and ultimately you will be much happier in the end even if it’s harder at first. I usually don’t believe in telling people what to do because sometimes they need to learn something, and if they don’t learn their lesson now they may end up in worse situation. However in this case I’ll tell you what I think you should do because I’ve been in your position before and I know how heart wrenching it can f…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/21 08:27 PM
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He doesn’t speak to you respectfully because he doesn’t respect you. Can you imagine living the rest of your life with that?
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/21 08:13 AM
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Great post!
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/21 09:59 AM
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I think the bf is a little too obsessed with being healthy but I also think overall he’s on the right track. Tap water is very bad for you, it’s definitely better to eat local produce etc and don’t get me started in chicken and chemicals. I think you two should communicate about this more and he should tell you why he only eats those things and you should tell him that you have to be able to decide what you eat and don’t eat. He should agree to respect your choices. Otherwise it will not work.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/21 06:41 AM
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This 100% - spot on.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/21 05:48 AM
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I moved in with my now-husband one year before we got engaged, and two years before we got married. If you have a good relationship and a man who also wants to get married, I don’t see the problem. The issue would be with men who are resistant to marriage in the first place. I know plenty of couples who recently got engaged or married after living together first.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/21 05:21 PM
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Chantelle + wacoal are my favorites.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/21 08:56 PM
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100%
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/21 05:05 PM
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It seems like he wants it both ways. Exclusivity shouldn’t have to be agreed on when HE wants to START a new relationship and apparently exclusivity doesn’t need to be ended when HE wants OUT of a relationship. He literally created this problem by snooping through your phone. Cut your losses- this man is not a keeper.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/21 05:02 PM
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Am glad someone else mentioned this. Yes it’s about depopulation. Confuse people about gender roles, get them on drugs to change their sex and then guess what these children will never be able to do when they grow up? That’s right, have children. Endocrine disrupters on the other hand are PROVEN to be bad for fertility. I recommend Rebecca Fett’s book “It Starts With the Egg.” The number of things that will disrupt your hormones is endless: drinking from plastic water bottles, using non-stick co…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/21 06:01 AM
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100% agree with you. Great analysis and best comment yet.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/21 06:50 AM
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Maybe she had dreams or wishes that she pushed aside for years and now she wishes had made more time for them. You should ask her if she could go back in time, what could she have done differently so that now she wouldn’t feel this way?
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/21 06:47 AM
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The less you focus on them and the more you focus on being happy with yourself and building a strong relationship, the easier it will be to deal with this. Yes there will always be younger prettier women as we go through life- that is just nature- but emotionally mature HVM don’t want just the prettiest youngest girl, they want the woman they connect to who makes them a better man. Meditate, read, work on yourself, garden, get to know your partner better - these are examples of activities you ca…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/21 08:31 PM
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She probably thought since many men in the redpill forum are in their “anger” phase towards women and quite detached emotionally form women, that we would somehow be the female equivalent of that ...
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/21 05:18 AM
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I’m know how you feel because I’m super picky about what I eat as well and I have very healthy looking skin because of my diet. No gluten, no dairy, no sugar. I found a man who is also into hhealthy eating and because of that it is not an issue. Look for a man who is interested in vitamins and quality food and he will be more likely to get why you eat whatever it is you eat. Someone with a poor diet will be more put off by it.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/21 07:15 PM
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OP you have the Right intentions to look for a masculine man and to want to be a feminine woman. It sounds like you didn’t have any feminine role models that helped you to understand male / female dynamics. I think what some of the other commenters took issue with is you saying you “demand” to be treated a certain way. It’s not feminine to “demand” a man treat you in a certain way, but rather the way to do it is to present a feminine energy that makes men want to treat you a certain way and if t…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/21 11:42 AM
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You’re doing a great, keep your chin up and it will all work out for you. You are doing lots of really good things and the combination of your self-reflection and desire to improve will get you where you want to go. I feel very good things in your future. Not everyone has the good fortune to be taught from a young age how to set boundaries and what makes a man a good man. Some of us have to struggle more and stumble before we find our way. That is nothing to be ashamed about - it makes us compas…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/21 08:37 PM
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If you’re paying 2/3 of bills you shouldn’t be doing all the housework esp. since they aren’t your bio kids. That is energetically imbalanced.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/21 01:45 PM
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Same thing used to happen to me all the time. Totally horrifying and disgusting. I don’t have any advice but keep the knife and whistle handy, and maybe consider taking out a phone and filming them? Or blowing the whistle right away? That may not be a good idea if you’re alone with them but then you call them you’re live streaming them and then sending the video to the police. Or call someone you trust on video perhaps?
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/21 03:00 PM
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This is a nice thread. I don’t ask my SO why he loves me but sometimes he tells he loves me because I am such a good person and because I am wise and beautiful.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/21 07:22 PM
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Admire their beauty as well! I have a friend so beautiful I nearly lost consciousness the first time I met her. She is also super nice and kind. You can imagine men go crazy for her. I just try and focus on how nice she is inside and out and how happy I am to be her friend and don’t take it personally. If I were a man I would be in love with her too 😂
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/21 02:53 PM
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That must be hard - massaging them is very god because you’re showing yourself love. Are you wearing the correct size bra? Most women don’t and hence their breasts are not properly supported and they sag sooner than they would otherwise. I recommend going to a professional lingerie store (not Victoria’s Secret - high end or department store) - and having them find your true size. If you have larger breasts you may need to wear a bra while you sleep. Otherwise my advise is to keep massaging them …
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/21 07:13 AM
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They are just fooling themselves and they will learn the hard way that in each relationship, there can only be one dominant person.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/21 01:22 PM
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Amazing comment. 100% true.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/21 11:04 AM
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Be careful with using fake scents - they are endocrine disrupters and can mess up your hormones. Rebecca Fett talks about it in It Starts With the Egg. Even if you don’t want to get pregnant you want your and your mans hormone levels to be healthy. Nothing feminine about a woman with too much testosterone lol. Scented detergents and cleaners are proven to unfortunately have negative effects in the endocrine system so just not worth it.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/21 03:48 PM
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So true. They pretend to love freedom and democracy but really they are communists at heart and want to erase anything that doesn’t for their narrow-minded agenda.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/21 04:32 PM
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Being a rpw is about your energy not your age. It’s about having beautiful feminine energy and being able to complement strong masculine energy with it. It is true that many women are naive in their 20s and waste their time sleeping around instead of finding a partner to marry and have kids with but it doesn’t mean every woman in her 20s needs to settle down with the first decent mans she finds. I found an amazing alpha male at 32 and am so glad I didn’t settle down with any of my past partners.…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/21 07:12 PM
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I think men care more about the body for one night stands and more about the face for longterm relationships as a general rule. Of course varies man by man and by what his type is but I think there is another important element that needs to be considered. When a high quality man looks for a wife, the most important thing he looks at is the kind of feminine energy a woman has, her qualities of being nurturing and a good mother in the future. He has to be attracted to her (or she wouldn’t be someo…
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/21 05:43 PM
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Great post! This is so true. Women who are unhappy with themselves look to tear other women down who remind them of what they are not. If you are a beautiful high-quality woman, they look at you and in comparison feel bad about themselves, so they mentally try and find reasons that they are better than you. Deep inside they know the truth. Women who know they are valuable want to lift others up because they do not need to give themselves a false sense of superiority. Instead, they want everyone …
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/21 09:29 AM
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Great comment and I agree! Men want women who are sweet and caring and low-drama. I recommend checking out Rene Wade - the feminine woman is her website - she has some great content and talks about how men fall in love with a combination of things: women they perceive as high value (ie classy not slutty) and women who know how to be vulnerable (ie they can open up in a mature way about what they think and feel and know how to listen.) High value Men DGAF about where you have travelled or what ca…
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/21 10:57 PM
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Great reply!
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/20 01:09 PM
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I see where you are coming from. The other commenters are right - we do not know what is happening in their relationship and there could be a reason she is uncomfortable that has actually little or nothing to do with you. I can relate to your situation: 60% of my friends are female, the other 40% are male so I have close friends of both genders. I am in a very happy relationship and some of my male friends are too. I am very careful to respect boundaries and make sure their partners do not see m…
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/20 12:55 PM
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Those are great suggestions. I would also add try some meditation or yoga with deep breathing and make sure you exercise regularly so that you feel grounded in your own body. Pets and plants are also great for anxious attachment style. When it comes to friends, try to choose to spend time with friends who are secure about who they are, not petty or jealous, and who are in healthy relationships. This talks about the different attachment styles and how to build self-esteem: Attachment Types
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/20 09:59 AM
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Oh and I definitely have found I attract a large amount of men who fall into one of two categories: men who want to protect me and love me, and men who want to exploit my “cuteness” which another commenter rightly said men equate with vulnerability. The key is to pick the men who want to protect you as partners, but who also don’t treat you like a child. My fiancée loves to feel like he is protecting me and I love how that makes me feel.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/20 02:35 AM
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I have had the exact same thing my whole life. I actually was insecure for a couple years because men always called me cute and I felt like it meant I wasn’t as good looking as women called hot or pretty or beautiful. Then one day I went on a message board for men where a woman asked what it means when they call a woman cute, and to my surprise, coming from the 30+ men who answered it, calling a woman cute was unanimously a bigger compliment than calling her pretty or hot. It means there was som…
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/20 02:30 AM
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He’s got attachment issues...steer clear and focus on yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/20 06:54 PM
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Yes I know quite a bit about attachment- here are some good interviews about it: Daniel P Brown in Bulletproof Radio And Paula Sacks on Attachment Disturbances in Dating Once you understand your attachment you will pick up on patterns and be able to make much wiser choices.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/20 10:12 PM
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Check our attachment theory and look at the parents. Usually women with issues with other women have something with their maternal figures and women with issues with men have issues with their father figures. As an example, I have a friend who is an amazing friend to female friends but has terrible issues with men- she acts like a different person with men she dates. As I got to know her better I discovered her mother is a kind and loving woman and her father is selfish and cruel.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/20 10:24 PM
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Breaking up when you live together is really hard, and especially after you’re quite committed emotionally and expect to spend your lives together. Did he explain to you what changed to make him say that? I would try and figure that out. Stay strong and you will find another man who is so happy to take the next step with you and so glad that this guy blew his chances. There are a lot of good men who are trying hard to find good women. I would add it depends of course on the man. My sister follow…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/20 12:09 AM
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It’s not too late for you! You sound very responsible and caring, men love those qualities. You also really sound like a good person and believe it or not, smart men want to be with nice kind girls, not bitches. I met my current fiancée at age 32 and he is a 6’1 CEO - and trust me I am not a great cook. Prioritize Spending some time taking care of yourself getting in shape taking care of your skin and hair you and you will be in a good position. He told me his criteria when looking for a partner…
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/20 08:41 AM
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You seem like a very nice and kind person from your post and comments. I can understand how you feel which is why I’m replying. Women who have been beautiful when young suffer more as they age. Women who were never very good looking do not experience as much of a change in how others treat them as they age. They will never know what it was like to be the prettiest girl in the room so they do not notice when they are not anymore. I think that when women have children, they some how give a part of…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/20 09:25 PM
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Reddit has some very mean who get off on being mean. They rip into vulnerability to feel powerful. It’s not personal to you. No way for anyone reading this to know if “it was your fault” or if he is a serial cheater etc or had mommy issues. They are simply saying it was your fault to feel good in comparison. This is one of the few sensible comments I read here. Better sooner than later for sure! You sound like a calm and kind person, there are plenty of good men out there who maturely tell you s…
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/20 02:54 PM
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This is great advice! My boyfriend is also like this - alpha male who values family and closeness. Feel very lucky to have found a man like him. RP men tend to be jaded or even damaged in the sense that they are afraid to get close to a woman which is sad because emotional intimacy is a richly rewarding experience. Many of them were rejected or hurt one too many times. That said, many women are superficial and don’t inspire men to be better men and lead to men becoming too RP to enter into a hea…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/20 03:26 AM
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Check out the essential day spa forum about skin care. Most people don’t know what they are talking about regarding skin care and may inadvertently give you bad advice, but that forum is a wealth of information second to none on the internet. In any case my routine: Morning: Face mask made of egg turmeric and match 3-4 days per week Face mask made from raw organic honey and organic kefir 1-2 per week Organic natural oil (rose hip or argon etc)applied to face mixed with an organic serum and an or…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/20 02:59 AM
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I think every woman’s physique and body structure is different. Many women can lift heavy weights and still look feminine. I - cannot. I stick to p.volve workouts mixed with some gym stuff. I’m petite with a small bone structure and was an athlete in my youth, so always had a fair bit of muscle and build it easily. I do lots of working out with my body weight and some weights for my core/back/legs ie dead lifts and squats, but if I start bench pressing my chest looks bigger and more muscular as …
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/19 06:38 PM
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I recommend reading the book called Getting To I Do... basically her advice (which works) is that masculine men are designed to want to pursue a woman - a feminine woman. When two people are together one is always more dominant and one more submissive. By letting him be dominate at first you’re letting him bask in his male power. You take away his chance to show you what a masculine energy man he is if you approach him. What you can and should do is signal him your interest - smile at him and ho…
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/19 06:05 PM
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