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I had one eyebrow raised, but as soon as the "24 hours" popped up, I started laughing the rest of the way through. 👏👏👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 08:07 PM
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You should always end relationships that you do not want to be in. You do not owe anyone else anything. You can end a relationship for any reason. You can try and be nice and respectful about the breakup (some people will react terribly no matter how much you try to break up with kindness- doesn't matter, that is not your responsibility), but you do not owe anyone anything. And if you need to move to block and no contact or even PFA orders because they're being an ass in response to the breakup,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 01:06 PM
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No. Fuck no. No. No. No. Never.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 11:44 PM
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Every single one of you should feel this to your core. Shoulders back and head up. Never let anyone disrespect your dignity or self love. Make good choices and rock that crown. 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 07:07 PM
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I had gaslit myself so hard that I thought I had PMDD. I mean, it didn't always happen every month, but it seemed to happen often: mood swings and meltdowns right before my cycle. Then I ended it and for 5 months I had no PMDD, maybe some mild crankiness that was easy to recognize and keep in check. Like what? Then we attempted reconciliation and lo and behold: "PMDD" slowly makes a comeback. Oh, but this time I notice. I notice that he starts fights and skillfully pushes buttons. I notice that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 02:56 PM
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That is chilling. Always try to notice, accept, and believe the red, orange, or yellow flags. It could save your or your child's life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 11:06 AM
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Pickmes gaslight themselves. I don't know if I was a pickme as much as a victim of narcissistic abuse, but the behaviors look similar: trying to excuse poor treatment low standards for treatment trying to put poor treatment in the best (false) light possible blaming oneself for poor treatment denying the reality of the poor treatment hoping the poor treatment will stop or lessen I hope she realizes that it wasn't funny and that he should have been strong and supportive for her or at bare minimum…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 10:43 AM
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He whined that if you married a dime and then she gains weight, you'd be "paying a pig" the rest of your life. Does he want to be in a married relationship or to pay for a sex worker/child care provider/homemaker??? And most women work outside the home as well, so how exactly is he "paying" her? Any lady who sees that guy in a dating scene needs to run. He doesn't want a life partner. He wants a servant that he "pays" for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 10:29 PM
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One girl wanted to become a doctor ever since I knew her in elementary school and had her parents send her to private school, private tuition, etc. In the end, she only became an optometrist. She only became an optometrist? I'm not sure what the point of that part of your post is. If she has other qualities that you want to bash, ok, but shitting on her for working hard through her academic progress to then establish herself in a healthcare profession doesn't make sense?? (She is a doctor of opt…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 05:37 PM
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So, here's what you can do. Focus on doing well at your job. Keep making money and work on a savings nest egg. Start updating your CV. Network. Find another job. Consider utilizing a therapist to help you navigate that outcome and your moods over these issues. They can help support you while you deal with the current work issues and while you plan and implement your next move. Life will always put struggles on your path. It's life. That never changes. You can't control that. You can't control wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 03:23 PM
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When men have entire placeholder families, complete with placeholder children.....and waste women's time, labor, and reproductive capabilities. They do it all the time with their baby mamas or second marriages to the younger model wife 2.0 and society does not SHAME these motherfuckers like they deserve. Shame them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 01:00 PM
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80,000 pennies is 800 dollars. He threw an abusive manchild tantrum over 800 bucks. The emotional health of the mother of his child or his own child wasn't even worth 800 dollars. At least the shelter will put it to good use.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 07:05 PM
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Also, MIND YOUR OWN DAMN BUSINESS This can be applied to so many situations. Love it. Use that mood for life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 05:09 PM
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Men benefit from having everything taken care of in the home, plus their children are raised for them, plus women bring income into the household as well....and they get regular sex. The one thing men do not get is the ability to have SEX with other women without consequences.....and that's the ball and chain?? Fuck that noise. What are most men bringing to the table? Chores, children, STIs, anxiety, stress, unfulfilling sex, violence, and heartache. And then people make fun of spinsters or old …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 11:08 AM
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less agony, more hope 👏👏👏 Great work on leveling up. Take good care of yourself!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 10:42 AM
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You wonderfully confident young lady!! You set healthy boundaries and stood your ground. Good for you. He is trash. Don't worry about what he does for the summer. What do you want for yourself in the summer? Keep those standards high and keep making great choices. Take good care of yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 01:29 AM
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All the serial cheaters claim they have "sex addiction". Save the evidence you have and send it to a trusted friend. Don't let him gaslight you and don't gaslight yourself. Someone who can do that to you is disturbed. You deserve better. Take good care of yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 07:11 PM
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Sex workers charge anywhere from 100 to 500 for a session. I'm not saying we should compare dating to paid rape, but.....if you do compare 2 walking or coffee dates to a sex work session.......no, nuh-uh, nope, hell no. My brain can't even fathom why women would do that to themselves. Do they really think their dating value is 100 times less than an active sex worker paid for by a NVM? Do not have sex with men after 2 or 3 dates. Just don't. If a man doesn't want to be with you enough to wait 4 …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 03:28 PM
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Therapists need to learn to recognize abusive situations and establish protective practices to better help patients. The only option once abuse has been identified is to get the victim into individual counseling to help them manage and, hopefully, get out of that situation. There should be a shift towards this approach over the next few decades, especially since the risks for a patient staying with an abuser include sexual assault, injuries, cPTSD, and even death. I'm sorry a narcissist happened…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 02:32 PM
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After reconciling with my abusive narcissistic ex, we had a couples therapy session that he left angry about, he accidentally slipped up and told me: "I have to punish you." It was so awkward and we both looked at each other during the heavy silence and then he shamefully tried to withdrawal it and clarify. My empathetic brain tried to excuse his behaviors because after all, I had hurt him by leaving him...and he still wanted to be with me now, so he must love me right? No, he meant exactly what…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 01:00 PM
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You ready for some society levels of gaslighting? Men are involved in twice as many fatal car and van accidents as women. Men are more likely to cause death from behind the wheel. But sure, women are worse drivers. 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 07:21 PM
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I'm so sorry you have had to go through that. Life isn't fair, but it is incredibly unfair for a partner to be betrayed and mentally abused and emotionally tortured by lying and infidelity. Nobody talks about this, but the reality is that every time someone has sexual activity with you under false circumstances: it is some kind of sexual assault or rape. If you would NOT have had sex with your partner if you knew they were having sex with others, your consent was not obtained. This needs to be a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 03:36 PM
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Howorker 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 03:30 AM
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DARVO DARVO refers to a reaction perpetrators of wrong doing, particularly sexual offenders, may display in response to being held accountable for their behavior. DARVO stands for "Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender." The perpetrator or offender may Deny the behavior, Attack the individual doing the confronting, and Reverse the roles of Victim and Offender such that the perpetrator assumes the victim role and turns the true victim -- or the whistle blower -- into an alleged offender. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 09:49 PM
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We don't have to organize anything. They are enthusiastically doing it to themselves. 🤷‍♀️ My abusive Next reacted with denial and rage when I brought up that his porn addiction was detrimental to himself and relationships. He didn't want to hear it. He literally puts different types of porn on rotation because otherwise it gets dull....and he got into some seriously sickening types of porn. When I first met him I was trying to be "sex positive" and excused it all. "It's just fantasy." 🤡 Fuck th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 05:57 PM
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There are sociopaths who don't have the decency to shower between women... Safety tip: always require a shower and excellent hygiene before sex. Even if you use condoms, even if he uses condoms with a cheating partner, you can still be exposed to skin that the condoms don't quite cover.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 05:17 PM
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Violence as part of immediate self defense or in defense of others is the one time that violence...is the answer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 04:02 PM
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If someone does something to hurt you, if they use you or abuse you, it's ok to feel anger. Men get to feel anger. They get to feel anger AND take awful actions with it. Women are supposed to play nice. It's patriarchal bullshit. Both genders should be handling their feelings of anger in ways that don't damage themselves damage others damage property All healthy outlets for anger should be used (venting, exercising, punching a pillow, throwing rocks, whatever....). It's fine to be angry. It's wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 06:41 PM
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I thought she was mocking the patriarchal aspect to pointless breakup sex (almost always initiated by NVM/LVM), occurring when some sweet lady is trying to make sense of why the relationship is dead. I mean, that what many guys do, right? Sweet talk the sad lady out of her panties and after that release (usually only theirs): they look at the lady like she's a whore to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 06:19 PM
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Not only is it her fault that he cheated on her...but she needs to apologize to him for his cheating. 🤡🤡🤡 Dick is low value and abundant, but she thinks community dick needs apologies while it makes dirty meaningless swings through the pickmeforest. Welcome to the ultimate level of pickmehell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 06:15 PM
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The Female Dynamic Strategy 👏👏👏 dy·nam·ic /dīˈnamik/ adjective (of a process or system) characterized by constant change, activity, or progress. (of a person) positive in attitude and full of energy and new ideas. noun a force that stimulates change or progress within a system or process.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 02:01 PM
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This is so true, that we need to share what FDS is about to anyone who is open to listening. It really is a wave of feminism that stands on a strong foundation of equity for women and resistance to the misogyny still inherent in patriarchal systems (including sex pos BS). FDS is probably THE next major wave of feminism. FDS is about refusing to let others use or abuse you recognizing that the burdens of parenting and running a household are unfairly balanced on the shoulders of women, even thoug…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:17 PM
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I'm sorry that happened to you. I'm sorry he wouldn't read the articles and he didn't even try to do the right thing. He should have read the articles and he should have been there for you, willingly and respectfully, with kindness. You deserve better from a partner. For any male lurkers, if your loved one loses someone in their life: listen if they want to talk hug if they want hugs sit and be quiet if they want rub their back while they cry on the bed if they want ask them how you can help and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 05:06 AM
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It's like kicking someone when they're already down and it's disgusting....especially when it's crystal clear that you did nothing to deserve whatever it was you were upset over. My ex was narcissistic and I realized at a certain point that he took delight in bothering or hurting others at times, but he especially enjoyed hurting or upsetting me. power control a boost to his low self esteem conflict addiction Whyever the hell it was, it was abuse and the exact opposite of how a loved one is supp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 10:53 PM
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What is worse is when not only do they not support you, but instead, they actively tear you down. I can remember telling him about rude treatment at work from colleagues....and he instantly took their side and started mansplaining away why it was ok for them to be rude to me.....🤡 Or the time that I was aching in pain and crying and reached out to him for comfort like a hug or verbal support...and he yelled with rage at me and then gave me silent treatment for hours. There were worse scenarios t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 05:32 PM
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Alcohol addiction doesn't make someone pay for rape with escorts or cheat on their partners.... His wholesome image was a mask. Don't gaslight yourself or others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 03:26 PM
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Those types of women are ultimate Pick Mes and he is scum. She needs male validation, and her preference is to "win" a man. She wants to be the chosen one because inside, her self esteem is so low, that she needs that external validation to survive. Here's the thing: It will never stop for her. There will be a new John Mulaney in her future. That high fades fast once she has "won". She will get bored of him and find a new target. And just like he cheated on his wife, he will cheat on her too. Ch…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 03:22 PM
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Excellent hygiene: body, teeth, nails, hair (clean and groomed) Average height to above average Full thick hair Facial hair neatly groomed/clean shaven Broad shoulders Narrow hips Lean muscular Nice hands Agile/not clumsy Dick with girth, preferable average to above average length
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 04:48 PM
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Throw in some earbuds, pick the right time of day, and mowing isn't bad at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 01:44 PM
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He wasn't even her friend. Friends don't lie to, cheat on, use, or abuse you. They don't try to tear you down in subtle or not so subtle ways. Friends support you. They cheer for you. They have your back. Even if a long term relationship was ending because of healthier reasons (not just because the person was done using the other), someone who is truly your friend at the bottom of it all, would make sure you fully understand why it is ending and would do so in a way that remains caring, respectf…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 01:31 PM
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Rape Profit Industry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 11:04 PM
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Have you thought about moving to a different area? It's not the best idea to live near your ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 04:07 PM
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So question: I once pointed out to an ex that a hole-filled t shirt, cargo shorts, and ratty sandals weren't appropriate attire for a nicer tavern/brewery we were going to be checking out. Was that coercive control? I don't think it was because it's more of a social dress code situation, but please let me know if that's not appropriate!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 11:36 AM
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Apparently too many men, and the societies they brute forced into existence, have been using gaslighting as social control for quite some time.... It's time to stop that shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 03:02 AM
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The good news is that it doesn't matter what the HR office does. It matters what the LAW is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 05:10 PM
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Age discrimination only applies to the workplace and its environment....not asking younger co-workers on dates. HR will laugh that shit right on out of the office. If anything, the old scrote is opening them up to a sexual harassment issue if the scrote persists and bothers the younger co-worker. Because one of these things is not like the other. 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 03:07 PM
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Romeo and Juliet laws should be the norm. Older people should not be having sex with teenagers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 12:50 AM
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👏👏👏 Well Good Luck fucking Jane!!! Love your energy and your standards in motion! 💙
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 07:27 PM
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I was wondering: did her friend message her and let her know that the husband was complaining that she had not responded back fast enough?? I feel like something is missing there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 05:40 PM
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"Legacy" wanted the kid named after him wanted the kid to play video games 🤡 wanted the kid to "learn about life" from him 😂 because clearly, his entitled, lazy, selfish, parentally coddled, arrogant, orgasm, gaming, and alcohol addicted, lying, cheating, using and abusing, narcissistic self (that has been handed everything in life) has anything worthwhile to offer a developing human wasn't willing to adopt was willing for me to pay for surrogacy if I didn't want to be pregnant with and birth hi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 05:22 PM
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Self care and self love should be taught to all daughters. Reciprocity of relationships of all kinds should be taught to them. Daughters should be told that they should have appropriate physiques for their body type and they should eat and exercise to be HEALTHY. Daughters should be told that they should look most like what their body is supposed to look like when healthy....that people look all types of ways and that is to be appreciated, not rejected. Daughters should be taught that their wort…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:20 PM
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This is a delicate topic with layers and a variety of scenarios. The dynamics of abusive relationships are complicated. Are there probably red flags all along? Yes. Should women be blamed because they missed the red flags? No. Should women try to recall what those red flags are once they understand and should they educate themselves and others on the early red flags? Yes. Abuse very well may occur almost out of nowhere. Frequently, it escalates slowly over time and during that escalation, trauma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:08 PM
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Here's the part that most messed up: Even if her moans turned him on because his brain has been programmed to associate her moaning sounds with sex...why didn't he have the self control to resist masturbation and redirect his thoughts towards supporting his partner?? What's more, why didn't he have the self control to keep it to himself, no matter how he handled it? Just 😟🙁😕☹🤯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:01 PM
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Years ago my NVex laughed and said his friend called short petite women "spinners" because they could spin on his dick. He also told me his other friend would say "15 to 50", meaning that any female person between those ages was fair game for sex.... ....and what I should have done was "DUMP HIZ AZZZZZZ" because even though he lied his face off about not being like his friends, he was probably worse than them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 02:13 PM
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But like jfc they sure like grooming others but not themselves 🌋 🤣😂🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 08:19 AM
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An important line of questioning: Why are men more likely to be higher on the narcissistic spectrum? Is it biological or cultural? Can it be changed?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 02:26 PM
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"But he's such a nice guy..." 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 12:47 PM
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“Hallmark/big corporations” non-celebrators These guys. 🙄 It's just an excuse to LV/NV their way through life. Think about it: they get to claim ethical superiority AND they don't have to spend any money or put forth any effort.....just by saying "I don't support corporate holidays." I guarantee that any one of these guys is low value in MANY other aspects. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 10:29 PM
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Truly aware guys (and not the ones who are faking it to get sex, attention, or money) are attractive on another level.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 03:08 AM
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And on that last note: Do NOT tell men what they did wrong, during texting, talking, or dating. Leave those RED FLAGS for the next lady, like little bread crumbs so she can see her way on out the door just like you did. Otherwise, the LVM/NVM will refine their game, making sure to hide their flags better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 01:24 PM
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Orgasms. Orgasm addiction is more important to him than his wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 01:52 PM
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Do not have crushes. They do not serve you. No crushes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 07:50 PM
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Because they want to deny and/or justify their porn and orgasm addictions. They are losers with zero accountability, so instead of saying: "Perhaps this unprecedented access to sexual stimulation, and my frequent use of it, is causing changes to my brain and behaviors. Perhaps my use of porn is causing me to seek out twisted fetish porn and having effects on my relationships and my actual sex life...maybe I should evaluate this and consider making some healthy changes." it's all "duh, my dick fe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 07:48 PM
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Suspicions are usually valid. Gut intuition exists for a reason and the human brain is amazing at pattern recognition....so when something is "off", it knows. Trust the gift of fear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 01:54 AM
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Make sure you have contingency plans for these scenarios: Even if you have childcare or they reach school age, you may need someone who can watch your child if they get sick and have to be sent home (and you may not be able to leave work). Who will that person (emergency contact) be? What is your game plan if you get sick, injured, or die? Who will take care of your child for short or long term in those scenarios? During your planning, make sure you have those issues resolved and plan any legal …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 10:31 PM
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Some people are just cheap all around. Some people are cheap towards others or in certain areas, but then indulge themselves when they think it's an acceptable area to allow indulgence in. Both are red flags because there's lots of judgment, conflict, and misery there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 08:12 PM
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Don't ever, for any reason, do anything to anyone for any reason ever, no matter what, no matter where, or who, or who you are with, or where you are going, or where you've been... ever, for any reason whatsoever...for a fat, unhealthy, alcoholic scrote (unless it's block and no contact 😁).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 01:13 PM
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Don't let love cloud your judgment, when your judgment should clarify your love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 01:11 PM
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👏👏👏 Thank you for sharing this incredibly heartwarming, hilarious, and on-point cherished memory. Happy Friday!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 04:26 PM
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"Try kicking it with no sexual agenda"......checks notes "better wingmen" 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 11:44 AM
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😂 My covert narcissistic ex did this. He did exactly this!! He would abandon me and didn't make sure to introduce me or help me out with conversations. And worse, he didn't check in with me. I literally knew nobody at first and then years later, I still didn't know them well. Then when I pointed out how socially awkward and rude it was, he was angry at me for being upset by his poor behaviors and there's a DARVO!! But that's how it always went: his bad behaviors were always my fault and he was n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 05:48 PM
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Surviving abuse from a covert narc is near and dear to my heart. I'm so sorry that you have had to go through that too. You deserved a partner who would attentively and considerately take you to get medical help and comfort you during illness. Be strong. Focus on self love. Take good care of yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 02:25 AM
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Not only do men who have beautiful and sexy fun wives with high libidos STILL watch porn, but many of those men CHEAT too. 🤡🤡🤡 Accountability on the part of those porn sick men, what's that? 🙄🙄🙄 Let's blame others for our actions instead....it's so much easier than taking personal responsibility for personal choices.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 07:00 PM
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That's what prenups are for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 04:03 PM
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My narcissistic ex liked to make me orgasm often.... and it was never about me. It was never about my joy or pleasure or making me feel good or satisfied. It was never about sharing intimacy with me. It was about him. It was about his ego, his "skill", his performance, his effort, and his sexual satisfaction. I finally understood that it wasn't about me at all when I started asking to bring toys into sex. I wanted to try other stuff that made me feel good. He was offended by the use of toys. Tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 12:40 PM
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Don't forget gaming addicts...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 09:16 PM
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Delusional...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 11:23 PM
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I've been using reddit a long time, almost since it's beginning. I'm pretty sure it started with the white ladies being nasty in retail settings. You can check it out on urban dictionary. (Also Dane Cook, 2005) When BLM took off, it later got spread to be used in other areas. But people started calling the bitchy "let me speak to your manager" soccer mom haircut types, "Karens" many years ago. It was like, "Ok, Karen."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 05:47 PM
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I thought Karen started as a derogatory term for entitled white women harassing retail staff........? Pretty sure it stemmed from the ladies with the whole "I need to speak to your manager." attitudes. Then later it was used to describe anyone being bitchy to others without good reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 03:32 PM
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"strange and hateful" 😂 It sounds like the perfect forcefield shield to ward off NVM/LVM. 👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 01:35 PM
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Which is absolute nonsense. The youngest ladies are neither emotionally mature enough nor physically developed enough for pregnancy and childbirth (their pelvic bones and nutritional stores are not ready, not even by age 18). They are literally still growing themselves. The optimal time (muh biology) for pregnancies and childbirth is early to mid 20s. Within modern culture and changes in socialization, that age number increases to mid to late 20s due to emotional developmental changes of young l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 06:27 PM
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The cracks start showing through well before years into it though. There were red flags there before the baby, they were either missed or ignored or excused.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 09:00 PM
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And he only paid her 50 bucks for it too. Well, 50 bucks and a cheap dinner. 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 12:52 PM
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Stunning arrangement. Nice skills and self care!! 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:28 PM
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This is NOT just an issue of porn sickness. This is literal objectification of their partner. Change this to any coveted toy, game, object and the result is the same: They do not see their partner as a human. They see her as an object to share. "Hey, want to try my bike?" "Hey, want to play my new PS5 with me?" "Hey, want to borrow my new lawnmower?" 🤢 Granted, another side to this is the men who also see their partner as an object, but they don't like to share..... 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:27 PM
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You should know that video calling can be captured, so it's actually quite easy to record videos. Screenshots are also easy to take, even during videos. Be safe out there, ladies. Make good choices.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 02:22 PM
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FDS principles start with a baseline that women are equal humans deserving respect for their autonomy and right to exist in this world. Women should not be used by men for sex, emotional labor, childcare, household maintenance, ego boosts, etc... Our societies have mostly developed in such a way that women are ending up in situations of inequality with regards to their intimate relationships and child rearing because LVM/NVM mostly take and don't give. FDS principles are so simple: Always strive…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 02:05 PM
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This exchange was so wholesome. L💙ve it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 03:22 PM
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peaceful self love wisdom
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 02:43 PM
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Hehe, I'm picturing you posing regally, standing tall and shoulders back, crown balanced perfectly on your head, ignoring his pleas, while you calmly point your finger at the door. 👑 👉 🚪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 03:12 PM
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Women are the visual creatures. Not only do women focus on the aesthetics for the homes and ourselves and everything else....but when men actually put effort into their appearances and fashion choices, we appreciate the visuals. Men aren't visual creatures. They objectify other people's bodies for their sexual gratification. That isn't the same thing as being "visual" at all. Men are objectifying creatures.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 11:07 AM
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Red flags, early on or later on, that's a swift block and no contact. All women need to feel that and live that. We can't get time refunds. Shoulders back and head up. I see your crown!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 09:49 PM
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The loneliest I ever felt was when I asked my ex to please comfort me when I was in physical pain and he refused to even pat my back or say anything reassuring. I got very upset, rightfully so, and cried and told him how wrong he was for treating me that way and I made it clear that I didn't deserve his emotional abuse. The next morning he put on headphones for 8 hours and refused to discuss it or apologize for his actions. He acted this cruelly towards me even if I was seriously ill, but he exp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 08:43 PM
14

I guess she loves that he spends 90% of his time on FB while she cooks and cleans....🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 04:29 PM
4

Shallow Ditches Because as soon as her looks change with age or if she gets chronically sick or injured, they just ditch their "partners" and go find a younger one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 07:58 AM
116

My inspired rant: Girls and women have been socially taught (for waaaaaay too fucking long), that their primary values were as aesthetic objects for sex reproduction household tasks caregivers It's bullshit. Men reaped all those benefits. Men took and take advantage of the access to sex and didn't/don't make sure that women were/are satisfied, nor did they step up their aesthetics and hygiene games. Men took and take advantage of reproduction and either abandon the kids or don't take equal or go…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 05:11 PM
7

We men actually reach peak form at midnight of our 52nd birthday... 🐸
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 04:49 PM
47

If you're 17, "pulling" older guys, you have boobs, a vagina, and inexperience. Good luck with that. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 09:05 AM
9

No. Not if those are thoughtful and conscious choices that you have made after reflecting on the relationships and how they affect you. It would look more impulsive, volatile, and temporary if it were the result of a personality disorder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 11:00 PM
96

This almost always seems to happen too. I literally explained it to my last ex within the first year of dating. I described how it always seems to happen. And I get it, I do. You both expose your faults over time and you each have to learn whether you accept the other person's individual weirdness. If you mesh then you can continue on and if you don't, hopefully you can both go your own ways with grace and a better understanding of yourself and what you want/need from a partner and relationship.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 12:32 AM
268

He's clearly trying to progress forward on a different path of his choosing and she's like "Hey alcoholic, it's ok to keep drinking." What an absolutely clueless and classless move on her part.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 04:39 AM
67

and men want to 'marry down Power and control
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 05:48 PM
5

Liking Shakespeare is still seen as a requirement for being regarded as smart. Maybe by old rich white men. Those days are changing fast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 03:25 PM
93

Lies Lack of empathy Yelling during arguments Silent treatment Uses his parents without shame, and harshly criticizes them as well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 02:27 AM
7

"Never look back"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 02:23 AM
11

Narcissism. It's a lack of empathy and a culturally supported attitude of self-centeredness. Probably the best thing about so many women raising male children alone without a "father" figure.... maybe, just maybe, future generations of men will grow up with more empathy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 09:12 PM
35

Great job on having boundaries and holding them up. Great job on taking care of yourself and refusing to let others bring you down. Thank you for sharing your strength!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 08:23 PM
0

The only people self victimizing in this thread are the ones who tried to bring in unrelated side issues for zero reason instead of just applauding this young lady embracing a confident attitude and strong boundaries with regards to how she deserves to be treated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 07:49 PM
1

I think you are trying to attach completely unrelated issues onto this lady's video posting and it makes zero sense to do so unless your intent is to bully or start drama. If you want to discuss makeup color choices, skin care choices, cultural appropriation, and the struggles of WOC, there's much better avenues than casting misplaced negativity at the young lady in the video.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 07:30 PM
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The bottom line is this: Women should use whatever color foundation they enjoy using for themselves. Anyone who tries to criticize another woman for choosing a shade that she wouldn't choose for the other woman is just trying to force that woman to do what she wants. Bullies do that. Bullies try to tear others down. It's important to choose what one wants for ones self. It's important for other women to support other women and to tell them: "You do you, do what you want, do what you like. It's y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 07:06 PM
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It probably is what the young lady would look like with a tan, but tanning is a short sighted answer with long term problems for the skin. IOW, how are you going to tell her she can't be the color she is or could be, depending on how much she wants to damage her skin in the sun? There are women of all colors who also purposefully avoid the sun or don't avoid the sun, or who choose to go lighter or darker with their foundation, depending on their own personal preferences for their skin tone. Usua…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 04:21 PM
5

It probably is what the young lady would look like with a tan, but tanning is a short sighted answer with long term problems for the skin. Let her do what she wants. It's her body and face. Don't drag other women down. Men do that to women enough already. Positive support of other women, including the little things like makeup choices, is so important.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 10:57 AM
16

People don't hang out in a car for hours to "chat". Either they are hooking up in the car or they are hooking up somewhere else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 10:57 PM
12

Gaslighting Round 2 Hospitals and safety Better Medical Care US versus other nations This isn't a childbirth problem. This is a U.S. healthcare problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 12:55 AM
13

This post is some top tier gaslighting. the lithotomy position has become the standard for hospital childbirth even though it's not the ideal way to deliver THE standard is not ideal......and yet it is THE standard. the government is tracking (and publishing!) c-section rates and there are guidelines in place to reduce the number of women who end up delivering via c-section. They have said this for 30 years.... The hospital is not some evil place trying to rip your baby out of your body by the f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 11:06 AM
14

This is lovely to hear. Other people's toxicity can definitely aggravate PMDD symptoms. If you ever do feel like crying or have mood swings because of PMDD, that's ok too. Just have a self care plan in place to deal with how you might feel and definitely include "avoiding people who aggravate my symptoms" in your plan since it has helped. Take good care of yourself. 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 06:48 PM
284

He knows exactly what he's doing. Nobody in their right mind thinks a laminated piece of paper is appropriate for a gift between adults. He's taking financial and emotional advantage of her. He knows.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 06:28 PM
11

She needs to reach out to RAINN.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 07:48 PM
143

"Most serial killers were a byproduct of no father" of no father no father 🙄 ...but let's blame women.......
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 07:44 PM
27

Except as others have pointed out, someone wearing a skimpy mask is asking for it. Please wear the best masks you can when in public. Protect others and yourselves. 💜 (the mask outrage is clear and disturbing evidence of the unbelievable degrees of entitlement swarming through our society, regardless of gender)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 12:36 PM
-5

Robberies do harm people though. The employees would be harassed by corporate; corporate would probably slash their hours budget or make their lives awful with security measures or perhaps even blame them or fire them. The insurance company would just process the claim. I think I would head to a beach and relax.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 01:50 PM
59

You might want to check out r/NarcissisticAbuse. I think you will find some answers there. Also, check out some of the reading suggested from both subs, including "Why does he do that?" by Bancroft.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 06:57 PM
2

I will check it out. Thank you for the information.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 01:59 AM
3

Yelling at a video game..... that's not a red flag or anything. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 09:41 PM
127

Let's reframe that: It's time for you to look for a man that adds to your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 08:21 PM
76

This is a wonderful safety tip. It prevents sexy times from happening way too fast and it helps keep women safe from rape or murder. Win-Win. If any potential partner objects to this safety plan: red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 08:19 PM
539

👏👏👏 That's some terrific self care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 06:02 PM
12

Is someone sleeping or living with that LVM... ever? I don't believe it. He should definitely give his unnecessary cash to a HVM attorney who will take good care of his HVW.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 04:57 PM
73

Eeeeek....another example of how women are blamed for the problems created by LVMs....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 02:17 PM
82

"Is this normal?" 😂 Haven't we all watched our favorite sitcoms and romcoms where the leading lady has to follow "the rules" while the leading man leeches off her, wastes time gaming, and tells her when she can speak? In all seriousness, that lady needs to boot him and get into therapy pronto. I hope she makes it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 04:26 AM
60

No crushes! Crushes aren't healthy and they take your focus away from your own leveling up. Men have to prove that they have high value for you, interacting in a healthy way with you within your world, consistently over time. Crushes don't do that in any way whatsoever. Men need to pursue the leveled up you and earn your favor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 04:45 PM
6

Your observation is spot on!! It can be hard to let someone go, when on paper, your interests overlap so much and you always have something to talk about or activities to share and enjoy together. If he's a cheating narcissist abuser who doesn't actually care about your wellbeing as an individual and only wants your companionship when it benefits him and he has no other preferred option right then(but will drop you like a hot potato when something better for him is available), that reality of th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 01:46 PM
13

I think it's absolutely disgusting to victim shame. It takes women 7 times on average before they leave an abuser. For those trapped in narcissistic abuse, those women have been: love bombed isolated gaslighted controlled devalued discarded repeat It doesn't happen overnight. It can be subtle and occur long term. Those types of interactions create trauma bonding. The narcprey spends much of their time confused because the narcissist denies reality and it makes the victim question their intuition…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 01:29 PM
23

This post is well thought out. Thank you for putting this out there!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 02:53 AM
49

Don't tell men what you are looking for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 12:14 PM
23

This is brilliant. It is the best way to handle that entire situation. It prevents them from mirroring what you want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:28 AM
1

😂 you made my night
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 06:21 AM
9

Yep. Much of it makes me mentally face palm, shake my head, and have a "gurrrllll, what was you thinking?" moment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 02:56 AM
42

apples and grenades is brilliant
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 02:29 AM
97

He is probably mentally and emotionally abusing her, so try not to put her down. It's awful for women trapped in those because they may not be pickmes as much as they are trauma bonded and abuse survivors. It doesn't start out that way and it's a tough trap to extricate yourself from. The worst ones are with the cheaters (which this guy seems like he is) and almost certainly: that poor lady has been gaslighted to hell and back and has no clue what her reality is with him (she is probably miserab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 01:15 PM
38

😂 He probably wants threesomes, but you know, only the FFM kind not the MMF.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 01:20 AM
117

Exactly. He said "play" because he just wants to have sex with a single focused partner or "close to it". Sex. Sex. Sex. Most men just want to get their dicks wet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 12:25 AM
6

Not sure, but it seems ok if you round up on the odds halved. 16: youngest 15 21: youngest 18 30: youngest 22 40: youngest 27 60: youngest 37 85: youngest 50 Of course, most relationships where the ages are closer together seem more healthy and balanced. There's less possibility of "grooming" or one party being disadvantaged (emotionally/financially/etc...). It might be healthier if the dating rule is adjusted at 30 as being "age ÷ 1.5 plus 7". 30: youngest 27 40: youngest 33 50: youngest 40 60:…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 07:02 PM
28

It's a joke, a parody of the actual woman who does those. We can't judge that guy in the joke video. We know nothing about him. (I like the idea of volunteering at an animal shelter though.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 03:42 PM
82

It's like the siblings who cooperate with their father, grandfather, uncle, step-father, etc...... so they won't go after their little sisters. 🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 03:38 PM
153

It doesn't help prevent it. It enables them and gets them one step closer to being willing to try it out IRL once they have access. They need a therapist and treatment, not indulgence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 03:37 PM
78

😏........................🌙🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 03:33 PM
42

Grooming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 03:31 PM
7

Hmmmm, that part where she says "if your friend you haven't seen comes along in 5 years and we have plans then see the friend". No. He better figure out a way to work the friend into your plans or pick different timing with the friend around your plans. People who actually give a shit about the person who should be most important to them don't bail on plans. They figure out a way to make it work and be inclusive without leaving their partner or the old friend hanging. That's HVPeople standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 03:29 PM
38

He married a woman in her 50s, not someone younger than 25. And it followed the dating age rule (age divided by 2 plus 7). Seems ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 02:56 PM
13

And don't ever forget: if you have observed them lie to others, especially big lies, they also lie to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 12:58 AM
117

Sounds like he's trash and he's marrying trash. Enjoy your shiny car and take good care of yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 09:10 PM
24

Cheating is sexual, emotional, and physical abuse. It's sexual abuse because they are getting you to consent to sex without the knowledge that it isn't in the context you think it is. It's emotional abuse because even if you don't discover the cheating, their efforts on cheating mean that they are taking away from their efforts on your relationship and they are at least risking you experiencing the hurt of betrayal. Nevermind the obvious damage if you do find out. It's physical abuse because the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 01:06 PM
4

Make a red flag list. Put everything on it that he did that made you feel hurt or let down. Make a self care/ self love list. Put some nice things on it that you can do for yourself on the daily and in the weeks and months to come. (Candle lit bubble bath, manicure, new necklace or potted plant, walk in the park, reading a book in the sunshine, etc... whatever types of self nurturing that make you feel content/calm/happy/peaceful/appreciated/valued) Start doing those things. Make a goals list. W…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 01:01 PM
8

Here's the other issue: As someone else mentioned, men like that would have been "weeded" out during ancient tribal days. As civilizations progressed and murder became illegal, that means more narcissistic men were able to live and reproduce. Narcissistic males don't always produce narcissistic children, but if you look at households with narcissistic parents, it does seem to be common for at least one or more of the children to end up with narcissism. Which makes sense right? Narcissists lack e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 12:40 PM
18

NVM=NVM LVM=LVM Women who are looking should never settle for less than HVM. Never settle!!! It's better to be alone than to be in an imbalanced relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 11:49 PM
108

There have been studies that this is NOT the best way to treat people who are attracted to children. It is actually more likely to lead to them eventually acting out. Instead of treating the underlying issues leading to this antisocial and mentally unwell attraction to children in a mature adult, he and his partners are pandering to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 11:44 PM
11

Ladies, never forget: Kids will almost always treat Mommy like Daddy treats Mommy. Don't make babies with NVM/LVMs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 09:26 PM
14

Gaslighting on a societal level: stomping it out, one leveling-up FDS HVW at a time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 06:58 PM
71

NVM/LVMs seem to be high on the narcissism spectrum. Narcissism is NOT good for societies or individuals affected by narcissistic abuse. A strong degree of self love and confidence is important for every individual, but it has to be reasonably balanced with the needs and wants of others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 06:53 PM
4

Little steps. Keep moving up that ladder!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 06:31 PM
108

Exactly. Loud and clear to all women everywhere: Nice for What? I have a strong feeling that FDS is the next wave of feminism and sex equality. We are fed up with NVM/LVMs and the societies they built that cater to their egos and eggplants. We are fed up with their violence and sociopathic use of women and children. HVM better get on our FDS train or they can be left in the dust with their pathetic excuses for brethren.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 06:25 PM
2

😶.....🧊😱🧊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 03:32 AM
14

Don't explain to them. It only makes it worse for the next person. If they know how to fake it to increase their odds (even though it isn't their natural inclination), they will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 12:36 PM
55

Porn is garbage. I used to think it was harmless if it was made and viewed by consenting adults, but the more I learn about it: it's garbage. And it's relatively new garbage. I'm worried for the future generations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 05:55 PM
12

Don't worry about dating right now. You can still date, so you can learn what you do and don't like, but don't worry over it. The odds of finding a more mature guy who does want a committed relationship increase past the age of 25. For now, focus on yourself. Make sure that your life is whole without a man. Make sure you can support yourself. If the right HVM comes along, he will pursue you. In the meantime, practice screening for and rejecting the NVM/LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 05:52 PM
6

Most men may be sensitive or sex-crazed. They are not loving or kind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 04:03 PM
2

Sex, attention, money, or reproduction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 04:01 PM
65

When I talked to the nExt about my needs that weren't being met and I tried to be clear and give him a chance to meet them: Him: "You're always complaining." "You talk too much." "Why can't we just have fun?" "We didn't have plans." "I stay up late for you more than anyone else." (When I complained how he was making time for his buddies in the late evenings, but always told me he had to get to bed early for work even though I had free time in the evenings. We had separate homes. FYI, he used thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 12:08 PM
3

😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 10:04 PM
5

It's gaslighting. The vast majority of men are lazy POS within the household and child rearing. Studies have proven this time and again. They're just mad that women are calling it out and realizing that there's no reason to put up with the imbalance any more. Seriously. So many men cheat. Why bother? He can never give you or your family his 100% (whatever that looks like- it's probably 30% minus whatever problems he creates) if he's trying to cheat all the time. Meanwhile those men like that exp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 12:48 PM
7

Projection. Just cross through the part that says "what women want" because they don't actually care anyways and you have the list of what NVM/LVM want....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 12:42 PM
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That is kind of you to donate eggs. Thanks for being awesome and thinking of others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 04:05 AM
4

Something to keep in mind: people committing acts of pedophilia, beastiality, or rape are also committing acts of objectification. Objectifation is not for people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 12:49 PM
1

We don't know why she is making those statements. Verbal abuse is wrong, but this could be more appropriate if there is context, if this is in response to his own abusive behaviors, and if it truly does end here (or not, because she might have some fury that needs to be unleashed several times). For instance, if I chose to throw something like that out at the man who sexually abused me or the one who raped me and hit me, I would be upset if you were to judge what I had to say to them. It's not k…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 12:44 PM
10

Which would explain her gut intuition insecurity response. She should level up and try to catch him. That way: if he's not cheating they both win. If he's cheating, she'll feel more confident with ending the marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 11:49 AM
22

I'm so tickled over how similar all the LVM exes are. They have been churned out from some sort of societal factory... 🤖🤖🤖🤖🤖🤖🤖🤖🤖🤖🤖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 06:39 PM
6

Well, it's time to fix that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 06:18 PM
6

As others have pointed out: lockdown is a great way to focus on self care and leveling up. Get your meds where they need to be and take good care of yourself. 💙
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 05:51 PM
26

Don't force yourself to date men you don't find attractive. Be patient. Maybe you could try meeting men through friends, family, or co-workers or through mutual hobbies instead of OLD?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 03:09 PM
17

🖤💙💜🧡💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 03:06 PM
16

This seems like a good way to screen for men who use Asian ethnicity as a fetish. Do you think the other options are true? That Asian men might fetishize women of other ethnicities? I wouldn't put it past male depravity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 08:48 AM
2

Thank you! I bought them for myself. I think my last ex, with narcissistic tendencies or possible NPD, bought me flowers like.... 3 times over 12 years? The first time he sent them to his own home last minute (LDR) so I didn't even get them. I asked him to press and dry a few of them for me and he didn't bother. The next flowers were from a grocery store, years later. At some point I let him know that I would appreciate a real bouquet arranged by a florist. He ordered flowers that came in a box …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 07:19 PM
6

Closed minded or intolerant people and argumentative people can be the absolute worst to deal with, no matter what their personal views. It's exhausting to interact with them and that degree of negativity they exude is sandpaper to the spirit. Surround yourself with positive, open-minded, and tolerant people when you can!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 12:35 PM
9

This is long distance (unfulfilling and imbalanced). You're an option not a priority (unfulfilling and imbalanced). You're willing to try and he's telling you that he's not (unfulfilling and imbalanced). The truth is that if someone wants to be with you: they make it work even if it's difficult. You are showing that even though it's difficult, you would try. He is not. Do you really want to waste your time and energy on something that you know is already unfulfilling and imbalanced?? Do you real…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 02:45 PM
21

Why do you want to reach a man who doesn't care about you? He's hurting for himself, not for you, sis. Write the letter to your past self about how awful he was. Then mentally give your past self a hug and tell your past self that you forgive yourself for putting up with abuse and for putting up with any behaviors that disrespected your worthiness. Then write a letter to your past self about what you're doing to level up. Write a letter to your future self about what type of relationship you des…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 12:55 PM
8

This kind of thing happens a lot. My friends notice too, when I tell them these stories they can't understand why I'm such a magnet for this kind of attention. It's possibly body language. You can take a self defense course and work out so you can feel more confident in your ability to handle anything extreme. Practice and think about what to do. Keep your shoulders back and chin up. Sunglasses are a great idea. Don't talk to strange men. Set boundaries. Ignore them and know what to do if they c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 10:18 PM
20

She gave him sex. Now he's just testing to see if he can get sex and relationship benefits. Will he actually follow through? Doubt. In fact, I bet the only reason he told her about sleeping with the co-worker was because either the co-worker or another colleague was going to tattle....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 07:38 PM
2

Blackhole level of consumption is a major red flag. If you ever meet someone who is almost always entertaining themselves: run. It may look like excessive porn, internet browsing, podcasts, books, shows, movies, anime, music, video games, or even sex (or any double or triple version combo of any of those options). The last ex (raging narcissist) would usually have a minimum of 2 entertainment avenues ongoing at most times. He was lazy, entitled, and coasted through life by putting in bare minimu…
/r/askFDS13/09/20 05:02 AM
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I have recently left an abusive LTR for the second time (with frequent desire to leave it throughout the years) and this sub is helping me stay strong and not give in and return to being his doormat. It is amazing that everyone here has volunteered their thoughts, advice, experiences, and memes to support and empower women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 03:52 PM
1

Wait, so what are we looking for? Something in the middle?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 09:21 PM
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