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| 3 | How do you screen out cheaters and abusers when you are planning or going on dates?School is definitely more of a middle ground and a great place to try and meet people. Places where it's common to try and make friends help get rid of there being a single implication. Group hobbies or events where people are expected to talk also. Small talk is good and disarming because it creates a reason you guys could be talking from shared interests. And having a casual aditude helps that as well. Unfortunately I think it's mostly based on her past personal experiences. It's a harsh world… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/23 10:36 PM |
| 4 | How do you screen out cheaters and abusers when you are planning or going on dates?That honestly feels kinda worse. I know that sucks for guys but it makes you feel kinda like prey for someone to come out the gate with that much attraction. If a guy wants to go on a date from just seeing you it creates an implication (you find them sexually attractive) that makes a lot of women uncomfortable if brought up too soon or suddenly. Meeting people at group outings that your friends know creates a lot of comfort for women. Since people know him already he has a history of past treatm… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/23 08:18 PM |
| 7 | How do you screen out cheaters and abusers when you are planning or going on dates?This is why most women avoid dating apps and only date friends of friends. To actually be safe meeting a stranger is way more work than asking your friends if they know any single guys. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/23 07:09 PM |
| – | Question for Women - Are the Majority of Men too ugly to date or hook up with?A lot of women would never hook up with a guy no matter how attractive he is. I'm so sorry you are experiencing this, I understand how soul crushing it can be when you feel like no one wants to be around you. I think anyone with self esteem issues should avoid dating apps like the plague. They are a business ment for making money not helping people. There are very few women not trying to make money on only fans left on dating sites at all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/23 06:59 PM |
| 4 | When women have bad relationships they are told to “pick better” but when men are, we assign blame to womenAbortion is an alternative to pregnancy not parenthood. Also If you get that lonely I would suggest volunteering at senior centers or food banks. There are lots of people desperate for attention if you actually look. I am a woman and I understand what true loneliness is. As a child it would have changed my life for an adult to volunteer with the poor and be kind to me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/23 06:42 PM |
| – | CMV: I think women on these subreddit are more likely to get men to have negative perception of women than redpill communityAt first it was mostly to see what all the ideas here are. I am really into anything mental health or just human relations related. But then I connected to a lot of the pain some men here have felt. I was very alone for a long time as a child and just understand how badly a spirit can hurt. I mostly just stick to fourms with people who are more "other" or "outcast" in some way because I relate to them better. Sometimes the ideas can make me feel kinda defensive but feeling that way won't change … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/23 04:19 AM |
| – | The women that go viral are not representative of average womenWe may have different opinions but I truly hope that you become fulfilled and happy through your endeavors in that. There are very dangerous issues men do face in my opinion so having attention drawn in general is good. Things like men's mental health and long prison sentences for slave labor are huge issues. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/23 01:10 AM |
| 8 | The women that go viral are not representative of average womenI have seen a few posts from you and I just wanted to say that I'm sorry your life has been so unfair. I'm sorry that you have had to feel so alone and I'm sorry you have only met others that took out their own trauma on you. It takes sooo much strength to keep opening yourself after being hit but that's how healers are made. I hope you find a purpose that fulfills you and that more people see and feel the love in you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/23 03:59 PM |
| 6 | CMV: I think women on these subreddit are more likely to get men to have negative perception of women than redpill communityI also have OCD and Autism. Pattern recognition is so strong and we have to be careful we are not setting our own patterns. I'm really sorry you are suffering this way. It's not your fault your brain works the way it does and you don't deserve to be mistreated for it. I would recommend therapy for sure, you really need ERP as someone with OCD. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/23 03:43 PM |
| – | If women leaving jobless men is okay because no money, men leaving sick wives is ok because no sex. Either both are ok, or neither are okI am so done with seeing this honestly. Men suffer just as much if not more in uncivilized society. You obviously don't know how much pain people can inflict on each other. Men abuse the fuck out of other men for fun and for resources when not in a civilized society. A few men here think the threat of rape against women is what society was made for but that is laughable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/23 11:31 PM |
| 21 | One of the worst pieces of advice in dating: have similar interestsYou need both shared interests and shared values. If you only have shared values you will respect your partner but not like being around them very much. Sharing yourself through your interests is vital to relationship building. If you only have shared interests you will like hanging out with them but not respect them. You shouldn't have a relationship that will just bring you down overall so you have to have both. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/23 09:09 PM |
| – | What is the most memorable date you have been on?I'm sorry this happened to you and that it's your most memorable date. Its very sad how you were judged and the toll that had to take on you. I know a lot of good women who don't care about height ( I know a few who's husbands are shorter than them) and I hope you are able to connect with good people like you deserve. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/23 09:28 PM |
| 3 | Should men be friends or even partners with women who claim to hate men?It's a personal goal for me to be able to be like this. I still sometimes let myself feel personally insulted but it's getting better. I just really want to be able to help the people that others think are not worth it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/23 04:08 PM |
| 3 | "Touch grass" is awful advice. Social interaction and getting better at social skills is a two way street. You need two people who are BOTH willing to have a social interaction, it's not something you can do on your own. People seem to forget this.Thank you for the amazing work you do. I know jobs like yours can be extremely draining when you are helping so many people who have issues that are so emotionally charged. You are a kind, giving and strong person. I'm glad the world has you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/23 03:56 PM |
| 3 | "Touch grass" is awful advice. Social interaction and getting better at social skills is a two way street. You need two people who are BOTH willing to have a social interaction, it's not something you can do on your own. People seem to forget this.What helped me the most was group therapy with others who have similar issues. It creates a safe place to bond and practice talking with others. If talking to people is this hard then therapy is definitely the answer. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/23 03:51 PM |
| 1 | "Touch grass" is awful advice. Social interaction and getting better at social skills is a two way street. You need two people who are BOTH willing to have a social interaction, it's not something you can do on your own. People seem to forget this.Do you invite them to do other activities? Like maybe play board games at your place or go see a movie? I have hobbies that mostly draw in socially awkward people so most of the time I have to awkwardly push people to start hanging out.. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/23 03:33 PM |
| 1 | CMV : “Looks don’t matter” is not a common theme in culture. It’s the opposite.I am so sorry that people have treated you that way. I truly wish I could hug 5 year old you and protect you from all that, my heart aches for you. You are not bad or repulsive and anyone who tells you that is showing what they look like on the inside. You are a strong and capable person, never let them take that from you. Even though people have been cruel you are still trying to grow desperate them, that is such a huge feat. There are more good people out there and from how much your inner sel… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/23 05:42 PM |
| 0 | Most women aren't on dating apps. So how are they getting relationships or having sex?I have never personally met someone who goes out to coed events multiple times a week that struggles to date. I have known many guys who struggle and every single one has either not been super into going out and meeting people or only does male dominated hobbies Also when I said clubs I ment like event clubs. Most women don't go out to bar like places to meet new people. They go to have fun with a group they already know or want to get to know better. Also women are usually super open to being f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/23 03:41 AM |
| 1 | CMV : “Looks don’t matter” is not a common theme in culture. It’s the opposite.I just wanted to say that I'm sorry for your experience. I am so sorry that you have had to suffer because of the way you were born. I wish people valued looks less sooner, it damages so many people who are beautiful inside. Over time though most people do start to realize the outside means nothing when you have to start living life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/23 06:52 PM |
| 0 | Most women aren't on dating apps. So how are they getting relationships or having sex?Dating is a social activity so you need to be in the "in crowd" to have a lot of success. There are more women who are very social so the men who are have a lot more options and is probably where guys thinking girls want to share men come from. Most younger women I know are meeting people at school and clubs. They do things like take art or sport classes and ask newly met people to go for drinks which extends their social network. People who date a lot are doing something almost every day. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/23 06:35 PM |
| – | Why are Pick-Up Artists (PUA'S) looked down upon?I think the biggest downside is they have killed cold approaching for everyone. Women no longer tolerate random men coming up to them because we honestly assume that's what they are. My experience with puas is that they don't take no for an answer and keep bothering you. It makes you hesitant to acknowledge random men. It feels kinda like acknowledging the people trying to sell you things in city streets. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/23 06:22 PM |
| – | Thought dump re: Pump and Dumping/being used for sex, and Casual SexI just disagree with this and it's why I counsel younger women to not have sex too quickly. I think things like debt should be discussed before sex IF you want to only have sex in a committed relationship. This was originally in response to a guy lying about saying he wants to be in a committed relationship. You shouldn't say you want one unless you know what that entails and means. Which is effort and owing explanations of your feelings to your partner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/23 09:20 PM |
| – | Thought dump re: Pump and Dumping/being used for sex, and Casual SexOkay I know only two women who would have had sex that quickly. We draw like people to us. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/23 09:14 PM |
| – | Thought dump re: Pump and Dumping/being used for sex, and Casual SexMost cases are not this extreme. Obviously if you find out something unexpectedly big it's different. But if you are saying you want to be committed you should be asking a lot of questions first. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/23 09:12 PM |
| – | Thought dump re: Pump and Dumping/being used for sex, and Casual SexWell if a woman is having sex three dates in I don't think she is looking for a committed relationship first. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/23 09:10 PM |
| – | Thought dump re: Pump and Dumping/being used for sex, and Casual SexBut if you're at the point of a committed relationship mindset you wouldn't change your mind that fast. You would want to talk things out and try some stuff first. If you can disconnect in one day you were not that committed. Which means the person that said they were was either lying or really needs to evaluate themselves socially before being social again. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/23 08:55 PM |
| 10 | Women, is the 2x sub a representative sample of women?I have not read 2x but I do know that many people who post a lot online have had social problems at some point. Which means they are extremely likely to have had other issues too. I have spent my whole life around people who have had some kind of issue and the world can be fucking dark. Like really dark. I think the darkness of the world is just over represented online. But it is still good to not turn away from how much damage any one person can do to others regardless of gender. Trauma is a cy… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/23 08:39 PM |
| – | CMV A lot of "bad dating advice" actually comes from not listening to what was actually saidI'm really sorry for your circumstances. I hope things get better. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/23 08:10 PM |
| 2 | The mockery directed toward's peterson's crying on live Tv is proof of women's loathing of weak emotional men.This is really awful. making fun of mentally ill people is not funny.. I understand some people have darker humer and you may personally find it funny, but to post about it online is too much. Nobody chooses to suffer from delusions, it's a literal nightmare. If you ever develop a mental illness one day I hope no one makes fun of you like this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/23 12:00 AM |
| 1 | The mockery directed toward's peterson's crying on live Tv is proof of women's loathing of weak emotional men.It should definitely matter. It doesn't to me personally and it's why I would have trouble on something like a jury. When the person who murdered someone starts balling their eyes out I feel crushed inside. It's incredibly painful for me when anyone hurts and that is not always good. Sometimes people need to suffer the consequences of their actions and not have others feel badly for or defend them. Of course there is a line in there for a certain amount of forgiveness. Which is why it's good we … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/23 11:51 PM |
| 1 | I think the biggest problem in dating is that women are simply not honest about what they are attracted to, and despite the fact that men have learned this they are simply told: “so you’re going to tell an actual woman what she wants?” When men say never take dating advice from women.To be honest hearing you say it sounds extreme is a little comforting... having parents who cared is something I used to be really salty about never having. But at least they were as bad as I thought you know? Him and his whole family are very wealthy and cruel people. Thank you for connecting with me though, it ment a lot. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/23 05:08 PM |
| 2 | From a selfish male perspective, feminism and 'childfree' women are great for us.Assumptions are a thing yes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/23 04:44 AM |
| 0 | I think the biggest problem in dating is that women are simply not honest about what they are attracted to, and despite the fact that men have learned this they are simply told: “so you’re going to tell an actual woman what she wants?” When men say never take dating advice from women.Things like this don't start late enough in life for your potential partners to influence it too much. Of course people can work really hard for years in therapy to get over learned behaviors (many do) but things taught in childhood really stick. That's where people tend to develop their outlook of the world and self esteem. I am 30 now but growing up the older men I knew where awful about this stuff. I had many grown men comment about my body shape or hair. Or tell me I should wear lipstick or … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/23 04:29 AM |
| 2 | I think the biggest problem in dating is that women are simply not honest about what they are attracted to, and despite the fact that men have learned this they are simply told: “so you’re going to tell an actual woman what she wants?” When men say never take dating advice from women.People's childhoods shape the way they see themselves and the world. I am much better now but I have also had many years of therapy. If I had not had the ability to do that I would still be subconsciously using my abusers words. The human brain is actually incredibly easy to brainwash with the right repetition. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/23 04:12 AM |
| 8 | I think the biggest problem in dating is that women are simply not honest about what they are attracted to, and despite the fact that men have learned this they are simply told: “so you’re going to tell an actual woman what she wants?” When men say never take dating advice from women.For me it was my father. The few times I saw him growing up he would tell me to always look pretty and not talk too much. Also to make sure to appear weak to men and never weigh over 130 pounds regardless of how tall you are. When I started having an eating disorder he told the other adults to not worry because of how much better I looked. I was never overweight. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/23 11:03 PM |
| 15 | From a selfish male perspective, feminism and 'childfree' women are great for us.I know many more women than men who have never had casual sex. I know more men who have not been in relationships though. Why complain about something you are not getting now that you never would have gotten before and that the same number of women are not doing. I definitely think there are issues men face btw, some extremely heartbreaking. I don't understand the complaint about casual sex though. Is it that you want more women to have casual sex or that you want the women who have casual sex t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/23 08:12 PM |
| 4 | The real reason for forever girlfriend / f*ckzoned womenI think the real reason is that almost everyone is terrified of change. Even when we are miserable we get used to our own brand of misery and become complacent. When people are at the point of living together it's a complete life change to break up and people find excuses to put that off for very long periods of time. They might even have plans of one day changing that but subconsciously keep finding things to put it off for. Life is so hard already people are hesitant to shake everything up. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/23 07:38 PM |
| 0 | Have you ever tried look at dating from opposite sex's perspective, by making a fake account?What advantage could it offer that would help me get anything I want? Which is only for my loved ones and myself to be peaceful happy and together. I would never have sex outside of being in love because it is traumatizing to me and I refuse to take advantage of or use another person for obvious reasons. So what advantage could I have? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/23 12:13 AM |
| 1 | Have you ever tried look at dating from opposite sex's perspective, by making a fake account?But some guys here constantly complain about and demonize women that find more men ugly than attractive. Why are men able to care about physical standards but not women? This isn't me personally, I don't understand attraction the same way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/23 09:36 PM |
| -1 | Have you ever tried look at dating from opposite sex's perspective, by making a fake account?She will learn like every other woman that they are only offers for sex. Then she will be part of the small percentage into that or get off dating apps forever like the vast majority of women I have met. Power that would only hurt you is not really power. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/23 09:29 PM |
| 6 | Is effort a paradox in dating?Honestly our society has done a shit job at handling all disabilities so this is definitely an issue that needs addressed. Relationships in particular are tricky because they rely on another person with their own life and wants, we can't compell anyone into giving away their own self. But asking someone to mask all the time is way too much also. I hate going out in the general public from how hard and stressful it is. This is what makes me reconsider my stance against prostitution honestly. I do… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/23 06:02 PM |
| 1 | There is nothing wrong with todays dating worldI didn't really have close friends but the guys I would hang around who played mmos with me in high-school would get broken up with for playing the games too much while still in high-school.. Some of these guys would get really lucky with the girl they found too. But games are made to be super addicting. I honestly believe there should be more regulations on the tricks games use to over stimulate people. A lot of the men I suspect where somewhere on the spectrum also so they are especially sensi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/23 04:54 PM |
| 1 | Have you ever tried look at dating from opposite sex's perspective, by making a fake account?So you think only 20 percent of the entire female population is less attractive than her? So most women older and more overweight than her are more attractive than her? Guys here talk about how women only like the top 20 percent of men but then put a young only overweight woman as a 2... so then the majority of the female population must be around that since most are overweight or worse obese.. If people are not put on the one through ten scale proportionally to population then why are men here … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/23 04:05 PM |
| 3 | Are men always expected to be the entertainers on dates? Or maybe even in relationships?Yeah I just disagree with how performative it is I guess. I see it as normal human behavior that only feels performative to me because I am autistic. Most people don't even think about doing it and find it fun. I'm sorry you don't enjoy it though. It sucks when your life is more difficult when you are not even doing anything bad or wrong. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/23 01:45 PM |
| 4 | Are men always expected to be the entertainers on dates? Or maybe even in relationships?It means the general populace will find you a bit awkward. There is very little right and wrong. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/23 01:26 PM |
| 2 | Are men always expected to be the entertainers on dates? Or maybe even in relationships?When performing a social activity a bit unfortunately. I feel the same way but being social is a skill for a reason. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/23 01:18 PM |
| 0 | Q4W: Where would you ideally like/be open to find your partner (school, work, club, bars, apps, etc). Can you rank/score them in order of preference?No not really, every costume will accentuate your features. Why would you want your cool outfit to not look it's best? If a woman is wearing more than comfort clothes than she put a lot of thought into what things matched the mood and vibe of her feelings at the time of getting ready. Women that dress up everyday enjoy it and make it something they really get into and express themselves though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/23 04:07 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: Where would you ideally like/be open to find your partner (school, work, club, bars, apps, etc). Can you rank/score them in order of preference?It's about what mental space a person is in. At a sporting event or even in class you are going to be there for a set time and you know socializing is expected. At the store you are in do task mode and get out so it can be mentally jarring to switch gears into stopping and managing emotionally charged social interaction. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/23 03:59 AM |
| 3 | Q4W: Where would you ideally like/be open to find your partner (school, work, club, bars, apps, etc). Can you rank/score them in order of preference?Dressing up is fun and a way to express how you feel. Women are also a lot more into cosplay and Halloween costumes. Feeling and playing a part in your head is fun too. I feel badly that a lot of men are conditioned to stifle this part of themselves. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/23 03:47 AM |
| 2 | I cannot understand why any person looking for a serious relationship would not support the FDS 3-month for sex strategy.You don't need to be an object to be used by someone. In the English language we use it to imply a relationship where one person purposely takes more at the others expense. Some women worry about a guy only wanting sex from them. Or some guys worry about a woman only wanting them for money or even free dinners. People even worry about getting used for attention or just for others amusement. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/23 02:13 AM |
| 5 | What makes you say no to a second date or a first date?I agree you shouldn't dump on someone but you don't have to talk about your mental health in a way that Is seeking anything. Letting someone know you can't go to concerts or places with loud music because you have sensory issues related to autism is just talking about your personal life and limitations. Even thinking about addiction a past alcoholic might bring that up to let them know they can't go to bars or alcohol heavy events. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/23 12:29 AM |
| 9 | What makes you say no to a second date or a first date?To be fair if they significantly affect areas of your life they should be disclosed early. Also talking about mental health shouldn't be so taboo just because you can't see it. You wouldn't tell someone in a wheelchair to hide it until after the first date. Don't talk about your struggles endlessly but mentioning part of who you are is okay. A lot of mental issues are lifelong. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/23 10:17 PM |
| 6 | CMV : women genuinely want attention and affection from their man, and attention and affection genuinely causes attraction towards that man to dropDo you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/23 10:10 PM |
| – | I like this: Catholic stance on women working and family units, dual income, growing together, means justifies ends instead of ends justifies meansI am sincerely eternally grateful for the help you give to people. I try my best to help everyone I can but death and sickness are so hard. For you to be able to face that kind of fear (much of which comes with anger or harsh feelings) and still offer your help and comfort makes you someone very special. People that can be there for those who are dying are very special souls in this world. I can only hope my loved ones all have someone like you in the end. Thank you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/23 09:32 PM |
| 1 | Straight Women: Is an unattractive man or an attractive woman preferable to you? (Please read post)I would make out with the woman. The issues isn't that I'm not straight it's that since there would be zero attraction either way I would take the one that makes me feel less gross. Him being such a bad person would haunt me forever where making out with a woman will just be really awkward and uncomfortable for a few minutes. Plus at least it was with someone I could personally like some. Also even if everything is shown to be safe a woman still feels more comfortable because there is just somet… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 04:54 AM |
| 9 | Women in no kids relationship with a man who severely outearns you: do you reciprocate his contribution in any way?What about kids specifically turns life into something meaningful? Also what does a meaningless life feel or look like? Sorry I don't understand exactly what you mean. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/23 05:36 PM |
| 3 | CMV: Approaching Tons of Women as a strategy to not be alone will always workOh yeah I was just trying to offer more actual advice sorry! I also don't agree that school teaches social skills, people who are more adapt socially are just a lot more likely to pick them up over time. This causes the social gap between people to just get bigger and bigger over time. Then you get to high school where some kids have silver tongues and others eat in a bathroom stall by themselves.. I don't think this is an easy problem it's a life halting one and that should be recognized more. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/23 06:13 PM |
| 5 | Why don't women understand that men have to work and have money?I'm not ignoring what they say though.. they said most. It's very clearly not most women so how should someone respond? How would you respond to to "why do most men beat their children? Also narcissism is a mental disorder and not something that can be picked out from comments. It's also incredibly damaging to the mental health community to use diagnosis as slurs. I have actually spent most of my life involved with the mental health community but that's for my autism and OCD. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/23 05:57 PM |
| 6 | Why don't women understand that men have to work and have money?They only say not all to try and weasel out of their own words because they still say most. So if you see more than half of woman never being like this you will bring up its not a problem with women. His personal experience says nothing about common female behavior. The responding poster was bringing more context to a very narrow lense that said nothing on its own. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/23 05:48 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Approaching Tons of Women as a strategy to not be alone will always workNo many are just autistic and need ways to understand. I can honestly relate to a lot of the ways they try to make sense of things, unfortunately they have just been fed some toxic stuff. Most of the guys here are not bad people and it's not even fully their fault they are here. Our society has really failed neuro divergent people honestly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/23 05:43 PM |
| 2 | CMV: Approaching Tons of Women as a strategy to not be alone will always workWhen you find yourself behind socially you have to put in a lot of work to catch up. Unfortunately you are the only one that can do it. Therapy and self help books help a lot. But you have to actually put in the work from them or they won't help. I also found myself very behind socially. It was a painful and hard experience I wish others didn't have to go through. Unfortunately if they don't nothing will change. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/23 05:37 PM |
| 10 | Why don't women understand that men have to work and have money?He literally says "why don't women understand men have to work and make money". WOMEN do understand that so the question is confusing. If he ment specific types of people he should have said so. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/23 05:18 PM |
| 9 | Why don't women understand that men have to work and have money?My husband had to ask me start giving him an allowance because he just can't not impulse buy. We both grew up super poor and now he is desperate to buy things while I hate even spending a dollar I don't have to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/23 05:09 PM |
| 3 | Why don't women understand that men have to work and have money?Because the op asks about women in general so he gave an answer about women in general. The post describes a specific kind of woman but that's not what it asks about. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/23 05:05 PM |
| 0 | Marriage is not healthy for Red Pillers or the women with them.They polled other pages. I wonder if it's because the guys on other pages are more likely to be in a relationship already? I would stake my life on my husband choosing a sexless life with me over having a bunch of random sex. Even with him having to deal with the added kids. He actually hated that life though ( hooking up ) he was empty then. Sex being too important is bad ( definitely not saying its not important at all) because sex could stop for many reasons for varrying amounts of time. Ther… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/23 06:35 PM |
| 1 | What is more important to some ones happiness- their partner or their job?It depends on the person and their own experiences. It also depends on the partner and job. If your partner helps you grow the way you want and uplifts your life it adds a lot. But a partner can also be the opposite of that. As for the job it depends on how fulfilling it is to you. Either how much money you make or how much good you can do. We can't just pick partner and then choose from any partner, the same for jobs. You have to choose from what is actually available to you from each set. Even… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 07:23 PM |
| 3 | Given we are living in an age of sexual liberation and mutual promiscuity; why is there still a narrative that men “use” woman for sex?No action by itself can set the standard. It's like reading body language, one sign means nothing but a cluster of them is a red flag. If this happens to a guy once it was probably just unlucky. If this is consistent behavior he is doing something that is clearly coming across the wrong way. Everyone has a right to change their mind but if you are consistently disregarding others feelings it makes you an ass hole. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 07:04 PM |
| 2 | Given we are living in an age of sexual liberation and mutual promiscuity; why is there still a narrative that men “use” woman for sex?I don't disagree with your side here but calling people names helps cement yourself as the enemy. Which makes it easy to dismiss everything you say. You can say this guy would not have changed his mind regardless but there are also other people reading. And I understand this is just a debate sub but like... there is way too much pain here to think of it only like that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 06:49 PM |
| 3 | Given we are living in an age of sexual liberation and mutual promiscuity; why is there still a narrative that men “use” woman for sex?Or because MANY women don't like and won't do casual sex. I realize a lot of women are into this now but the majority still are not. Just look at the avrage amount of partners a woman has in her life.. those are not having casual sex numbers those are trying serious relationships in search of the one numbers. These are the women who say they get used for sex not the minority sleeping around. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 06:42 PM |
| 1 | Women say look out for signals to approach, what are the signals?This is pretty sad. I hope you never have to deal with a relationship where either you or your partner are unhappy. Depression and resentment are powerful and contagious. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 06:30 PM |
| 1 | Women say look out for signals to approach, what are the signals?So the point is to trick someone into being with you? How do you keep that up forever? And won't you get jaded having to perform everyday? Plenty of people fall in love with not "chads" for who they are. So by doing this you are destroying your only chance for love since the only women you will draw in are the ones who want that type of guy. And you are also using someone else through deception.. I think guys that look for partners too late have this problem. I noticed that most women who leaned… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 06:22 PM |
| 1 | Women say look out for signals to approach, what are the signals?So you don't want your partner to be happy? Sorry I don't understand. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 12:39 AM |
| 2 | Women say look out for signals to approach, what are the signals?But if you had a fish that wanted to be caught they would know more than the fisherman... that fish is always there and knows what attracts it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/23 10:27 PM |
| 2 | Women say look out for signals to approach, what are the signals?And the fact that they are are implying women don't want a relationship. Fish don't exactly jump for joy at being someone's dinner or conquest. This analogy assumes men have to force or trick women to be with them. I don't personally know many men who want to have to trick their partner into being with them. That sounds extremely taxing both emotionally and physically. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/23 10:25 PM |
| 5 | Women say look out for signals to approach, what are the signals?I personally very much understand how hard body language and learning to speak like a neurotypical person is. I am so sorry you have struggled through no fault of your own. Some of my very close friends are guys that desperately want a partner and my heart aches for them. I know relationship don't fix anything by themselves but it feels bad being excluded for how you were born. What helped me with body language the most was treating it like any other learning topic. I watched hundreds of videos … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/23 09:40 PM |
| 1 | current trends in Purple pill subredditI guess I just don't see how it's a woman problem. I have been around A LOT of very bad people. I have also delt with a lot of people just a lot of people that had very hard lives. People are abused and then abuse, this is not a gendered issue. The biggest issue is how much our economy and politicians abuse us all. That pain and hardship will show up in many ways. I know a lot of very kind and self sacrificing western women I also know many men who are the same. To be honest the biggest differen… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/23 11:04 AM |
| 1 | current trends in Purple pill subredditHonestly people have been fairly nice to me personally. It mostly can be hard to hear some of the more dehumanizing things against women in general. And a lot of times those comments will be followed by others just agreeing. I understand they are most likely just venting but it can still be demoralizing. This is especially true because I am a more sensitive person, hence why I try and offer help and advice to people. I would guess most of those really wanting to help are fairly emotional. That's… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/23 06:56 AM |
| 9 | Rizz (charisma and game) is the vast majority of what men need to date successfullyI agree with you. Charisma is king in any social interaction. When someone understands how to get certain reactions they will almost always be able to get that reaction with enough effort and understanding. My husband has a lot of charisma and women just give him things all the time. It was so crazy to me the first time I saw it. He is able to get along with anyone but for some reason women in particular will just let him have products and food for free... Sometimes I am even there with him and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 10:22 PM |
| 2 | What do you think of the stereotype that woman are deeply complex creatures with a myriad of wants and needs whereas men are simple creatures that are very easily satisfied?Everyone's desires are more unique than they would think. But I ment women assuming men are more simple than them because of this narrative being passed around. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 09:42 PM |
| 4 | What do you think of the stereotype that woman are deeply complex creatures with a myriad of wants and needs whereas men are simple creatures that are very easily satisfied?Everyone is complex. There are people in the comments saying different things about who is better at what. They are mostly non malicious but also mostly baseless. In a psychology class my teacher told the class that there had actually been research done and surprisingly people with brown eyes had more emotional stability than people with blue eyes. She had a fake research page she had made that looked pretty real. Everyone scanned it over but people with brown eyes just kinda assumed what they w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 08:13 PM |
| 1 | A lot of the toxicity around pill spheres has to do with missing out on young love and stunted social development as a resultYeah that is so unfortunate and sad. We have definitely failed those who struggle mentally as a society. I think all high school students should be introduced to therapy to help normalize it. Plus they could always use someone to talk to during those years. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 07:10 PM |
| 1 | A lot of the toxicity around pill spheres has to do with missing out on young love and stunted social development as a resultRage is not the only alternative to constant despair. I used to feel really badly about not having a childhood at all. Living in the present saved me. I don't blame people for feeling badly about missing out but blaming others just sinks you deeper into your own misery and validates the awful self image you have. Therapy can help and if you can't afford that there are so many YouTube videos from therapists about how to get your life back. If a missed or past experience is influencing you negativ… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/23 10:53 PM |
| 0 | Would you date these "overweight" women?The statement " I am not generally attracted to black women " would be fine. The statement " I am not attracted to black women " is not. Making a blanket statement that excludes people you have not seen, when you need to see them for said decision, comes from somewhere. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/23 08:04 PM |
| 6 | Legalizing Prostitution would solve most of the issues western men face and women know it CMVBecause a woman choosing to leave her home country to do sex work or starve is not actually making a choice. Also if you read the stories from those women most are promised things like maid jobs and then told when they are stuck there that they have to do sex work or be handed over to the law system or worse. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/23 04:33 AM |
| 8 | Legalizing Prostitution would solve most of the issues western men face and women know it CMVThis is the biggest problem with sex work being legal. There will never be enough willing women to meet the demand of willing men. Without sex trafficking legal prostitution would be much more expensive than the avrage person would be willing to pay/afford. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/23 02:22 AM |
| 7 | Talking to women "as people" first usually gets the guy friendzonedIt's too much escalation at once. Flirting should come before asking big questions. Flirting starts with things like noticing them staring at you consistently or initiating more encroachment into your personal space. From there you could escalate into flirty banter. You keep taking baby steps well before serious intimate conversations. Women are more reactive in their attraction and it has to build. It is really jarring for someone in the friend category to express sexual desire for you, she has… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/23 06:26 PM |
| 5 | The idea that men's dating issues is merely the result of them having to treat women as an equal now is to reductive and dismissive of their actual dating issues.Just because something is not his fault does not mean other people are shallow for excluding him for it. People have to be selfish when looking for a partner in that they look for the qualities they know they want to live with forever. Caring deeply for personality could make someone even more likely to reject someone who is autistic since their looks can't make up for it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 11:50 PM |
| 2 | Women here advise guys to "touch grass" and "talk to actual women" yet stigmatize and threat profile men for approaching themThis exactly. It's not that people will think you are some evil person and you have every right too do it. But people's actions and considerations say something about who they are. And even though it may not be the best thing first impressions set the tone for how you view someone. It is incredibly difficult to overcome a bad first impression. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/23 08:16 PM |
| 5 | I hate to say it but a lot of the ideas you have about finding partners and relationships is the result of being chronically onlineIt's not that women are used for that it's that some people want to use others and one thing they want is sex. In my personal experience I have seen and heard from a lot of autistic women who had men use them for sex. And with sex being so personal it's a very traumatizing thing. Sorry if I didn't understand what you were saying. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 08:35 AM |
| 2 | Question 4 Women: Has PPD and TRP made you less trustful of men or dislike them?At one point I definitely noticed I had to take a break from this sub and talk to more random guys irl. Hearing some of the stuff here can really jade someone. Not only are people typically frustrated it's a very impersonal connection. The worst thing about speaking to someone online is you really lack that human connection. People really need to have almost "rose colored glasses" with the people they speak to. Not that they should over look things but that they need to have more empathy and con… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 08:27 AM |
| 5 | I hate to say it but a lot of the ideas you have about finding partners and relationships is the result of being chronically onlineIn my personal experience autistic women get used way more often in early life. They are much easier to control and abuse because of how women are socialized. Them having kids does not mean a man ever valued them. The men who want to use women for sex look for easy targets. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 07:34 AM |
| 10 | What do women who post on venting sub-reddits feel about this particular response from males?People have different levels of empathy and understanding. You clearly have high empathy and relate right away to the struggles of others. Reading their struggles will just make you feel bad. People that have more trouble understanding others could benefit from reading stuff like that. For some people they need more substance to put themselves in others shoes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/23 12:42 AM |
| 4 | Married women with children experience greater intrasexual competition than their male counterparts -Definitely personal experience then. In mine the vast majority of kids I knew had uninterested or abusive fathers. I grew up in poverty and involved with cps. My own father didn't care about his children and just wanted a new wife because our mother gained weight. His new skinny wife hated us kids so he dropped us. It's unfortunately a cycle because most of those poor kids raised this way will do the same. People seek the type of love they are used to. Also I'm not saying I knew a ton of good mo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/23 06:25 PM |
| 7 | Dogs are messing everything up.I will counter with that it is in fact cats who are ruining everything. They are normalizing abusive relationships! They will bite you one minute then rub all over you the next. The other day my cat jumped on my desk to get head kisses and then promptly pushed my bowl on the floor with said forehead!! This is true love. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/23 03:10 AM |
| 13 | CMV: Western men have always been an undateable messProbably because being a housewife and mother is not valued by society honestly. It's hard to survive off one income and the work women do as mothers does not have a monetary value assigned while they still need one to live. The husband's work is paid with real monetary value and men historically held that over women. Just look at how many men here talk about how it's unfair for a housewife to get money after a divorce. She won't have the experience required of every worker in our society and fi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 02:14 AM |
| 5 | Q4M: What do you, personally, do for women in general that they fail to do for you ?This is a fair point. And while I don't think anyone would owe someone something just because they spent time and money on them, it's something to keep in mind. We should all try to think about how other people are feeling so I feel like women should think about the effort of the person asking them out. If you say yes to a date planned by someone else it should mean there is consideration there so maybe put some thought in yourself? A cute card or flowers or baked goods? Investing in someone, ev… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 01:29 AM |
| 10 | Women's selection criterion have changed, but men have remained largely the sameNone of these sound too crazy though? Women also have all those things. And if they don't then you should raise your own standards. Instead of advocating for people to settle in unhappiness we should encourage everyone to to find partners that want to go grow with them. Also in my experience attractiveness usually directly relates to effort (skin care, working out, style, haircut, grooming) I understand how difficult socialization can be when you have trauma and other barriers. But dating is a s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 01:02 AM |
| 12 | Women's selection criterion have changed, but men have remained largely the sameAre you saying it's too much effort for them or they literally can't do it? And which preference exactly are the ones that can't be filled? Sorry just a little confused. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/23 09:19 PM |
| 11 | Women's selection criterion have changed, but men have remained largely the sameThis is so true. I don't trust anyone who doesn't think they need to change things. No human being on this planet is perfect and all of us should be constantly striving to be better. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/23 09:14 PM |
| 6 | Is it inaccurate to say "men basically built the world"?This point is so good, thank you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/23 07:42 PM |
| 7 | Could it be that women just do not like men that much?It came off like you ment me personally and if you didn't intend that then sorry for the misunderstanding there! And I only meant that I have a lot of awareness and understanding of my thoughts, actions and feelings. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 10:36 PM |
| 9 | Could it be that women just do not like men that much?Well I'm very certain I know myself better than you do.. I have also spent the majority of my life being painfully introspective and studying psychology. I don't even "hate" my past abusers anymore. It's hard for me to feel hate when I am too aware of the person inside. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 10:06 PM |
| 12 | Could it be that women just do not like men that much?Hmm that is true but also not my experience. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 09:54 PM |
| 2 | PPD Users Survey Responses (Cont.): Height, Fitness, Difficulty Dating, and N-CountI guess what I don't understand is what is the point of removing only the plate spinners instead of all outliers? If you did one removing all outliers why make one only removing plate spinners at all? I can't understand what data that would show specifically? That only men are plate spinners? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 09:27 PM |
| 2 | PPD Users Survey Responses (Cont.): Height, Fitness, Difficulty Dating, and N-CountHe only took out outliers who self reported as plate spinners. He didn't take out outliers who self reported as anything else (the women who would have been removed). Plate spinning is something typically only men use the term for. On top of that current relationship status does not mean they never had the other relationship types. So only removing plate spinners makes no sense when they could have either just started doing that or someone recently entered a different type of relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 08:57 PM |
| 2 | The Open Secret: Passport ChixWatch 90 day fiance to see rich Americans try and buy people of all genders! It really is disturbing and I'm glad people keep bringing attention to stuff like this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 08:39 PM |
| 2 | PPD Users Survey Responses (Cont.): Height, Fitness, Difficulty Dating, and N-CountIt's not though because of the highly gender specific relationship type he took out. He didn't remove all outliers just the ones who used the gendered term. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 08:29 PM |
| 8 | Could it be that women just do not like men that much?But you can't pretend to speak for all men? The men I know all want women to have the lives they do. Even the lower class working men I know would be revolted by what you just said, implying that women owe men anything. I have men close to me that have never had a partner and would absolutely fight you on this point. Most people care about people in general and don't want to see people not be free to feel and do as they wish (without directly harming others obviously). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 08:05 PM |
| 1 | Have you ever met a man that you felt was "too nice"?I think when women are worried about too nice they are worried about someone who can't ever stand his ground. A complaint I have heard about too nice for example is if a family member of the man is insulting his partner he shouldn't just smile and laugh it off. He should stand up to them and defend his decision to be with her. I personally don't believe it's too nice but just too passive. And then you have the over the top nice love bombing narcissists that everyone should watch out for. Any gen… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 07:56 PM |
| 1 | PPD Users Survey Responses (Cont.): Height, Fitness, Difficulty Dating, and N-CountYou say you don't have an agenda but it's hard to believe when you point out how many more male virgins you would have to take out over female but didn't mention how weird it is to only have so many male plate spinners taken out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 07:45 PM |
| 23 | Could it be that women just do not like men that much?I don't actually believe this is true but if it is then what discussion can really be had? It would only be a good thing that people no longer have to do things against their will, things that caused generational trauma. I know this is not true because I know many women who love and adore their partners. I think my husband is literally the best human being on this planet and I hate when we are apart. He was homeless when we started dating but he was also my dream because he stood up for the weak… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 07:39 PM |
| 1 | PPD Users Survey Responses (Cont.): Height, Fitness, Difficulty Dating, and N-CountBut the men with zero n count would be altering the number also then? Just like you probably wouldnt want to include an unemployed person in your example also. Most men have slept with a few people. What purpose does removing high numbers from mostly one side (there are non plate spinner women with high numbers) and then leaving the outlier low numbers serve? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 06:58 PM |
| 1 | PPD Users Survey Responses (Cont.): Height, Fitness, Difficulty Dating, and N-CountSo you took them out for no reason? Just because you don't "think" they represent the the general population? I know more men with high n counts than I do men with low ones. If something doesn't fit your theory it means your theory is wrong. It does not mean manipulate the data to fit your theory. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 06:09 PM |
| 6 | PPD Users Survey Responses (Cont.): Height, Fitness, Difficulty Dating, and N-CountIf your filtering out outliers it shouldn't just be plate spinners it should be anyone with a very large number? What purpose would filtering out a specific relationship type serve? Especially since their status doesn't mean they have never tried the other types. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 07:29 AM |
| 6 | "Don't fuck a man on the first date because he will ghost you" is terrible advice. And here is why.It's not just about how long a guy would be willing to commit to lying about his intentions. Waiting gives you more time together for you to vet each other and see if a long term relationship would even be possible. Someone that is worried about getting used for a one night stand probably doesn't want to sleep with people who would not be compatible relationship wise. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 01:19 AM |
| 2 | Change my View : Men have a way more calculated and performance oriented Dating Strategy then Women.The majority of the women I knew in high-school look the exact same at 30. Well except for me, I am told I went through a glow up. But that's honestly normal for the women in my family and I always hoped for the same. I remember being a child looking at pictures and wondering how these gorgeous women came from such plain and awkward teens. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 06:28 PM |
| 7 | Is playing video games an ick be honest?I think the biggest difference is that they research the best ways to make video games as addicting as possible. You can definitely find games that are better than others but the biggest titles out there all even have gambling built in. I also love video games, which is why I know how much more addicting they are than hiking or artistic crafting. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 01:41 AM |
| 2 | Things that women support the most are about avoiding the responsibility that women being equal implyHow is it fair for the woman to have to go through a painful and expensive medical procedure though? Maybe if when men signed their rights away they also had to get a vasectomy? That way both people have to go through medical procedures that could potentially make you infertile. Abortions are still a lot more expensive and invasive though. This sounds silly to me honestly but it's the only way to make things "fair" in the way that's spoken of here. Men can't get pregnant so it always confuses me… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 10:11 PM |
| 5 | Men who want to move abroad to find love - why?Men do get validation. Women don't. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 08:18 PM |
| 5 | Men who want to move abroad to find love - why?I don't understand how men say that men wanting to sleep with women should give them validation. I have known men who fucked couches and peanut butter.. I don't think much validation can be had knowing you are as attractive as a jar of peanut butter. Men only get validation from women because we don't get turned on by the breeze blowing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 07:55 PM |
| 5 | For the first time since 2010, the percent of women under 35 who have not had sex in the last year has surpassed that of similar aged menWomen all know a man does not have to find a woman particularly attractive to sleep with her. There have literally been games played by men to sleep with the ugliest woman. Dating may not scratch an itch for you but for a lot of women getting dressed up and going out somewhere to meet someone new is the fun part. A woman would be much happier if she had a bunch of offers of time rather than sex. A lot of men say it's not worth hanging out with a woman if you won't have sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 01:38 AM |
| 13 | For the first time since 2010, the percent of women under 35 who have not had sex in the last year has surpassed that of similar aged menI think it's similar to a man getting a bunch of dates with women who only want to use him for the free dinner. Yeah he is still getting a date, which is a fun and exciting thing typically, but it means nothing and makes him feel used. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 10:54 PM |
| 3 | CMV: Men are frustrated, and potentially giving up, because of wildly differing opinions from women on the core aspects of relationships.I think women write about relationships a lot because it's interesting and fun to a lot of us. Most women I know also read and watch fantasy but live life just fine not actually being a wizard or vampire. I have found a lot of women are just more interested in the relationships between characters in general (friendships, siblings, enemies). They want to know how those characters feel and why they do what they do. A lot of men I talk to don't like too much of that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 05:37 AM |
| 4 | Maybe this is the male birth control we need.I really hope this becomes widely available! Hormonal birth control is super rough on the body so this would be an amazing alternative to couples. It would also give men a good birth control option that can't be tampered with. As a child I saw an adult party where a man came dressed as condom man and threw condoms at everyone. I later heard him talking about how he had poked holes in them all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/23 08:33 PM |
| 2 | So, who's fault is it? Why?I don't mean if someone is threatening your life it's your fault.. I mean that if someone breaks your legs you are the only one who can get them to work again. You will be the only one who can change your life circumstances. I suffered severe abuse as a child and I spent a lot of time thinking the world was not fair. I was not wrong but being right didn't change anything, putting in effort did. I can now live a normalish life where before I could barley even speak words to anyone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/23 04:45 AM |
| 8 | So, who's fault is it? Why?I think many people would rather It be out of their control so they don't have to change themselves and work past their limits. The problem is that even if your circumstances are not your fault you are still the only one who can change them (past trauma and abuse for example). Change is scary, hard and uncomfortable but nothing is more necessary for a fulfilling life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/23 09:06 PM |
| 3 | Sex Tourism/Mail-Order Bride Weekly Discussion ThreadI am so sorry that happened to you. I hope you have had the room to heal. I know many victims, myself and husband included, who were abused by men that were never reported. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/23 09:01 AM |
| 2 | What do women first think of when trying to obtain a man?This is true but it's hard to convince people to take worse treatment now for a benefit later. Also it can be hard to stop wearing because makeup can make your face breakout more. When I used to wear makeup I would get some acne which would make me want to wear more makeup. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/23 10:00 PM |
| 4 | What do women first think of when trying to obtain a man?My first thought would be something like " I would love to get to know that person". And I would probably be picturing being able to have an intimate conversation. When I find someone really attractive I want to know everything about them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/23 09:53 PM |
| 5 | Would you expect your gf/wife to help in a life threatening situation?Yeah the thought is honestly pretty dark.. But to be fair there are situations where I would only get in the way in a physical altercation. It was super hard for me to learn how to just let my husband handle the things he is better suited for / I am super weak at. It's a tough lesson that the want to always help can be harmful. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/23 09:43 AM |
| 2 | Would you expect your gf/wife to help in a life threatening situation?I am so sorry you feel this way. Even if you can't believe not all women are like this please value yourself enough to never be treated as disposable by a partner. For what it's worth I would do anything for my husband. We live to be the best version of ourselves for each other. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/23 09:36 AM |
| 2 | Could "baby trapping" be underreported and much more common than we think?It's a situation that no one can know for sure till they are in though. You can believe fully you would run back into a burning building to save your loved ones but when the time comes you freeze. Pregnancy changes your body chemistry and the process of getting an abortion is made to be as emotionally impactful as possible.In many places you are required to watch a video and then see your ultrasound and be asked if you want to listen to its heart beat. Many times there are also protesters outsid… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/23 10:43 PM |
| 1 | Would you rather date a man who is left wing economically but socially conservative or date a man who's right wing economically but left wing on social issues?I would rather be alone than with either of them. I just would not be able to find them attractive. A perceived lack of compassion would kill any ability to connect. If I had to live with one of them I would find the second man more tolerable day to day. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/23 11:17 PM |
| 1 | Why do women have long term relationships with guys they don’t physically desire?That makes sense. I'm glad you know what works for you. It just leads to more pain overall when people try to force things. I hope you find someone that makes you feel special. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/23 12:59 AM |
| 2 | How I imagine life as an attractive woman is likeToday I learned that my husband is a hot girl. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/23 06:03 PM |
| 1 | Why do women have long term relationships with guys they don’t physically desire?That's fair! No one should be with anyone that makes them feel uncomfortable. But the physical is very important in those relationships still. You can really want to have sex but still control yourself. I think it would be important to look at how much self control they have in other parts of their life to see if waiting is something they always do. Women are more risk averse than men in general. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/23 05:40 PM |
| 4 | Why do women have long term relationships with guys they don’t physically desire?That's super fast though. My husband nor none of the married men I know would have the relationships they value now if they had followed this rule. My husband and I even dated long distance at first. Just keeping open communication and watching how much time she is committing would be better I think. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/23 05:22 PM |
| 5 | Why is attraction important when selecting a life partner you will spend 50+ years with?I have known some men who left marriages purely because they never had sex, very sad. But you are okay with no sex right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/23 10:38 PM |
| 2 | Why is attraction important when selecting a life partner you will spend 50+ years with?It's not important as long as you don't expect to have sex. Sex while not being turned on is painful to a woman. But things like ivf or adoption could solve this. If she's a good mom your sexual needs shouldn't matter anyway? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/23 10:04 PM |
| 3 | Why is attraction important when selecting a life partner you will spend 50+ years with?That's true they could always have separate rooms and just co-parent. After the baby there is no need for sexual intimacy, being good parents is much more important. This could work for some lonely people maybe? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/23 09:54 PM |
| 2 | If The Red Pill is not misogynist , why do they always seem to go out of the way to portray anything women do in a negative light?What if she isn't having kids? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 09:43 PM |
| 1 | "Why I Went Looking For A Wife Overseas": A happy relationship between a Western man and a non-Western woman where both partners are happy and in love with each other should not be looked down upon. [WATCH VIDEO]What does status even mean? No one is better than anyone else. Two people should always be equal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/23 02:14 AM |
| 2 | i truly believe most women are oblivious to how attractive thier partners are, and women value being competent or the illusion of being competentHmm that is a lot of hobbies. To be honest you are definitely way above avrage on effort. All the men I have helped/ try to help besides you have not been continually social and building friend networks. What do the women you are friends with say? You don't have to tell me I am always compelled to try and give advice if I can. I am truly sorry that life is so unfair for you in that area though. Every person should be treated on an individual basis and if people invalidate your personal experienc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/23 02:10 AM |
| 5 | "Why I Went Looking For A Wife Overseas": A happy relationship between a Western man and a non-Western woman where both partners are happy and in love with each other should not be looked down upon. [WATCH VIDEO]They hate the men like Ed who want to use the power imbalance to mistreat women. The majority of men in the media who go over seas do so to exploit women so I think it creates a certain view of it. If a man happens to meet a woman he clicks with ( just not having a weird race fetish) and wants to treat her like an equal partner then many women would find that sweet. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/23 09:44 PM |
| 2 | i truly believe most women are oblivious to how attractive thier partners are, and women value being competent or the illusion of being competentI'm sorry you struggle that much. Honestly this is why I don't agree with the advice to wait too long to try and find a life partner. The sooner you figure out what you want the more options you will have. Do you make friends with the women you meet? Women love being able to hook couples up that seem compatible. And they will know when other women happen to be single and ready to date. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/23 09:01 PM |
| 4 | i truly believe most women are oblivious to how attractive thier partners are, and women value being competent or the illusion of being competentSo then what hobby did you pick up that took you out frequently? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/23 08:41 PM |
| 2 | Most people agree that there are not enough high value men for all women, but we don't agree what causes itThis is just what I have personally thought and what I have seen and heard from other women. I have been in many women's groups in my real life and online. I am still just one person but I have seen many passionate long lasting relationships start because of these highly valued traits. I have heard a few women obsess over physical traits but in my experience they never had good relationships. Most of the time they just wanted to date around and had more fun with actual dating than forming deep c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/23 05:27 AM |
| 1 | Why is a man "responsible" for making a woman cum?Voluntary and enthusiastic are both required to not cause trauma to a woman. Even sex with a partner you love feels wrong and painful when not in the mood. If a society needs to rely on causing trauma to continue it should not continue. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/23 04:38 AM |
| 4 | Most people agree that there are not enough high value men for all women, but we don't agree what causes itI find that the things women talk about men lacking the most is spiritual openess, deep emotional understanding and daily grooming habits. I understand that looks play a big part in first impressions but I have seen men that are honestly pretty unattractive continually hook up with women because of these traits. A lot of women's attraction comes from mental stimulation and guys that know how to use that do VERY well. Women also tend to value having a deep spiritual connection and being able to t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 08:51 PM |
| 1 | Can you realistically generalize the genders, or is it impossible?Harvard uses and recognizes EQ. Their testing shows the same repeatable and predictable outcomes. For example they say that those with high EQ make the best leaders. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 08:20 PM |
| 2 | Can you realistically generalize the genders, or is it impossible?Harvard uses and recognizes EQ, they have tests for it as well. They say it has a strong correlation with your ability to successfully lead a group. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 08:16 PM |
| 6 | RP and related manosphere ideologies are only going to result in women becoming even more selective, less sexually available, and purposely choosing to avoid men altogetherI agree with all of this. My husband has also expressed how stressful it can be to always feel like he can't slip up even once. And that all his effort to always learn more and be better doesn't count because of who he is. He has grown so much and broken himself Many times to understand and help the people around us so him feeling this way makes me incredibly sad. I think people have gotten too caught up in things not being their responsibility. If someone or some group has harmed you it can be … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/23 07:33 AM |
| 2 | Google exec fired after female boss groped him at drunken bashThis is the kind of stuff we should be fighting to help! Men are not always taken seriously when reporting abuse from a woman. That's definitely not right, this should have been investigated. There are some people I watch on YouTube that have also started to call out more overlooked abuse against men. I am happy to see this get attention. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/23 10:09 PM |
| 0 | How are men supposed to meet women these days?Honestly as someone with OCD I can understand this. I wonder if the same therapy would work. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/23 11:54 PM |
| 1 | A study of the ok cupid graphs and how they're more damming than initially discussedI have never seen something turn a woman from "why are you near me" to "let me have your babies" like an acoustic guitar xD I see videos of this all the time too, you can literally see all their defenses melt into love in like 10 seconds. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/23 01:43 AM |
| 1 | Most men here put “pussy on a pedestal”I think that something men don't take into account about this is how uncontrollably violating it feels to be intimate with someone you are not excited about. They would be unappetizing or plain options if the relationships didn't involve intimacy. If a relationship would come with feelings of being violated then it would be a toxic relationship. It doesn't mean that man is toxic, just that a lot of women feel strong negative and scary emotions in sexual situations when not turned on. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/23 07:13 PM |
| 0 | People dont chose what they're attracted toThis is really mean.. there are a million reasons he could be lacking matches. Maybe his profile just sorts for only women he would be compatible with. Why assume such negative things?? Just because someone's experience doesn't match your own does not mean it's wrong. You can't look at someone else's life through your lenses. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/23 06:44 PM |
| 3 | Men are annoyed with women,but women are afraid of the potential of the collective power of men.The other way they keep people in these jobs is guilt. They know no one will be there to take care of the people in need if they don't go in. It's unfortunate because it takes a big a heart to go into these fields, they are severely mentally draining, and it's that same big heart that traps them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/23 07:31 PM |
| 1 | would you lose interest in your man if he lost in a fight to alpha ChadI would lose respect if my husband didn't back down from an inconsequential fight. If he lost a fight I would only be concerned for him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/23 09:37 AM |
| 2 | Not tonight honey…This is one of the most helpful comments I have read here. This is exactly what is ment when people say to work on communication. The partnerships that reach this level of communication, in my experience, are extremely strong and passionate. Feeling understood and emotionally cared for is something most people will fight for. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/23 10:36 PM |
| 5 | Not tonight honey…20 minutes would barely be enough time to get in the mood for most women. And sex while not in the mood feels extremely violating. This is bad advice to give a woman because she will grow to resent her partner by doing this. Addressing relationship issues would be a lot better. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/23 10:15 PM |
| 4 | Redpilled men come from a similar background with a lack of real challenges or adversity, and that's why they have a hard time dating.I am so sorry you were robbed of a childhood. No one deserves to grow up how you did and many people failed you. It's not much but I will be thinking of you and sending good thoughts. I understand deep isolated suffering and my heart breaks for you. I hope you can shape something comfortable for yourself. Btw you do clearly have a lot of perseverance and mental fortitude. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/23 01:07 PM |
| 2 | Childfree culture is a hiccup due to the recent invention of birth control and will disappear in a few hundred yearsYeah I understand. I guess I figured most people had reasons that could potentially be delt with and came from somewhere. From surrogates to free housing and childcare, good education, no mental illness or disease. Many of my "childfree" friends are that way because they don't want to pass on mental illness. If most of those things happened I would have a child but it seems so impossible that it made little difference in my head between not wanting them no matter what. But I can see it is a titl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/23 04:29 AM |
| 1 | Childfree culture is a hiccup due to the recent invention of birth control and will disappear in a few hundred yearsI am very sorry that offended you so much. It made sense in my head but I will think about this in depth. I don't want to invalidate others. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/23 09:59 PM |
| 1 | Childfree culture is a hiccup due to the recent invention of birth control and will disappear in a few hundred yearsMaybe but words do evolve. It makes sense to me if you are planning to never have them. I have only heard childless used for people planning on or trying to have kids but don't have them yet. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/23 09:51 PM |
| 1 | Childfree culture is a hiccup due to the recent invention of birth control and will disappear in a few hundred yearsI don't think most people would think about this when deciding what to call themselves. Childfree is just the accepted term for not going to have children. Myself and most of the childfree people I know would have kids if the world was in a better place. It's more to avoid the suffering of themselves and potential children. I only know one person who would never want them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/23 09:42 PM |
| 1 | The whole “Women reward bad guys with sex” complaint isnt just misogynistic. It’s misandranistic too.That's why you should be a good person for yourself. Become what you really feel is a good person. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/22 03:34 AM |
| 1 | The whole “Women reward bad guys with sex” complaint isnt just misogynistic. It’s misandranistic too.Yeah I guess I was mentally differentiating immediate or physical payoff from societal future. I think you are definitely right about me not considering all pay off. I just don't believe morals should change by other people's behavior or immediate rewards. Even when all kindness got me was used by other people and never given to me I still wanted a kind future. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/22 11:50 PM |
| 1 | The whole “Women reward bad guys with sex” complaint isnt just misogynistic. It’s misandranistic too.Yeah everyone does. But you need to decide for yourself what you value and find important. Other people will agree or not. I don't change my morals or get upset when people don't want my brand of kindness and self sacrifice. I just understand they where not ment for my life. I value people being happy and even if they treat me badly in return I still want that for them and will fight for them to experience what I think is good. If you can easily change what you value you don't actually value any… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/22 11:24 PM |
| 3 | The whole “Women reward bad guys with sex” complaint isnt just misogynistic. It’s misandranistic too.Interesting, thank you for explaining this to me. I tend to take things pretty literally and can get a bit confused from it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/22 11:19 PM |
| 1 | The whole “Women reward bad guys with sex” complaint isnt just misogynistic. It’s misandranistic too.Oh you changed your comment I think? I am not a Christian either but I believe true happiness can only be attained by spreading it to the world. So really my own morals are also selfish, I find happiness in others and community. Without those around me being happy I can't be so I selfishly try to impose my idea of happiness and kindness on others. I believe being selfish is human but people need to really think about how to get what they want the most. My morals align with the future I want. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/22 11:11 PM |
| 1 | The whole “Women reward bad guys with sex” complaint isnt just misogynistic. It’s misandranistic too.But they typically don't? I constantly see men get angry. I am also very emotional so my friends tend to feel okay opening up to me. All of my male friends have been extremely emotionally motivated. To be honest I don't think I have ever met any one person who was not emotionally motivated most of the time. In my experience the people who say they are logical are the most emotional. Controlling outbursts does not make you a logically motivated person, your actions do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/22 11:03 PM |
| 1 | The whole “Women reward bad guys with sex” complaint isnt just misogynistic. It’s misandranistic too.Sorry about that! I do sometimes have trouble understanding people. Thank you for engaging with me anyway. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/22 10:58 PM |
| 1 | The whole “Women reward bad guys with sex” complaint isnt just misogynistic. It’s misandranistic too.Everyone will have their own morals and be drawn to people with similar ones. They are very important to have for yourself. But morals in themselves are not attractive, conviction is. It is why you will unfortunately see some women find bad men attractive. They also have the same bad morals but it is the conviction that draws them. I know what I would fight and die for. I have done it before and I would protect someone again if put in the situation. My husband finds this extremely attractive and… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/22 10:52 PM |
| 0 | The whole “Women reward bad guys with sex” complaint isnt just misogynistic. It’s misandranistic too.But your own morals should get rid of the need for benefits? Relying on benefits to be moral seems incredibly disingenuous and dangerous. I would assume women just don't want men that have to rely on other people's gifts to form their own moral opinions. Also people typically want someone's behavior and mindsets to line up. So the only people doing this are those who lack their own morals and that is probably the main reason they struggle. conviction is attractive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/22 10:03 PM |
| 6 | What’s the most disheartening thing you’ve seen in your local dating marketThis is devastating and I'm just so very sorry you have experienced this kind of loss. Losing people this way creates deep wounds that are hard to heal. No one else is to blame for someone killing themselves though, there are rare exceptions to this. Suicidal thoughts are a deeply personal problem that is caused by other mental health issues. Blame can be tossed around a lot in these situations but the only real person at fault is our shitty mental health care. I have been in an in patient facil… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/22 09:46 PM |
| 5 | What’s the most disheartening thing you’ve seen in your local dating marketI know it might not mean much but I am really sorry you have these thoughts about yourself. I have had very similar ones and have been to some dark places. Things can always get better. Even if the issue you have now is never fixed humans are durable and can adapt. You can find your own happiness and purpose inside yourself. Everyone will suffer for things outside of their control and we have to learn how to cope with that. I used to be really upset about the fact that most people have parents w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/22 09:38 PM |
| 0 | The whole “Women reward bad guys with sex” complaint isnt just misogynistic. It’s misandranistic too.Self morality is an extremely important trait though. It's one of the things I love most about my husband. Humans need purpose and without morality it's hard to find that. I don't understand people who can't find joy in helping make the world a bit better. I want to say they need therapy and support but I also know people are different so I am still forming thoughts on that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/22 09:13 PM |
| 3 | The whole “Women reward bad guys with sex” complaint isnt just misogynistic. It’s misandranistic too.The main problem is that it builds resentment towards women. Also the same problem that countries who legalize prostitution have. Way more men are willing to participate than women. If men want to have casual sex they need to understand they are sharing a small pool of women with a lot of men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/22 08:50 PM |
| 4 | The whole “Women reward bad guys with sex” complaint isnt just misogynistic. It’s misandranistic too.I always find that guys who say this forget that anger is an emotion. I have seen way more men explode in anger than women just like I have seen way more women break down in tears. Men tend to explode while women tend to implode but both are just as emotional. Also contrary to popular belief men go through many more hormonal swings each day than women who have a month long scale. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/22 08:35 PM |
| 1 | The whole “Women reward bad guys with sex” complaint isnt just misogynistic. It’s misandranistic too.For yourself?... I have never understood this line of thinking. Why do you need a benefit to be a good person?? And if you do are you really a good person? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/22 08:11 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Most people want monogamy.I was more so trying to joke about it sorry. But birds do seem a bit more obessesd than any other animal I have owned. They are parrots. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/22 07:58 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Most people want monogamy.Man my birds constantly masturbate.. they get so many new toys and play time.. but no, they just want to rub one out on their bowls.. MULTIPLE TIMES A DAY.. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/22 12:21 PM |
| 3 | Women, can you date someone who has absolutely zero dating / sex / relationship experience? And is over the age of 30? With next to no libido?Find something else to live for. Pick any cause you think is worthwhile. If you hate your life that much devote it to a good cause. I hope you can find your own purpose and eventually live for yourself. But really don't let yourself delve too deep Into acceptance of dispar. You deserve to feel your own purpose and happiness and if you keep trying you will. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/22 09:31 AM |
| 0 | What arouses you about your partner?Any time I see him being altruistic honestly. I just stare at him thinking about how perfect he is and can barely keep from touching him. Also when he is focused he looks extremely attractive. He has such a safe strong and capable aura. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/22 12:46 AM |
| 3 | Female friends should not hesitant to wingmanIn my experience women are definitely willing to help you find other women who want the same thing! They just won't help someone be immoral about it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/22 10:06 PM |
| 1 | Female friends should not hesitant to wingmanMost women I know always try to wingman for their male friends! Even for more "player" type guys. They just suggest them to different women looking for different things. I think this is why so many women say to make more female friends! Your friends will try to wingman for you and in doing so make you appear a lot more attractive since you are clearly safe and also know how to be more than just a sex partner to women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/22 10:03 PM |
| 2 | What do women mean when they say they want a "Man written by a woman?"I was someone who crushed on fictional characters when fantasy was all I had! Definitely never read romance novels and stuck mostly to fantasy. Knowing other women now, who did the same, we never liked the same characters. I think the women who do this are the same as men who do this. Most of their life exists while they live in a fantasy and they like the characters they relate to. So for me I always fell in love with the socially awkward optimists lol. Or men who were not great at something bu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/22 09:55 PM |
| 3 | What do women mean when they say they want a "Man written by a woman?"I also loved the Witcher books but had to just ignore my inner cringe from most of the women! Ceri getting molested by and staying with her group after the desert actually made me put the series down for a few months. The creatures and environment were amazing enough to bring me back though. Mostly because I am kind of used to badly written women after growing up on anime.. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/22 09:33 PM |
| 1 | What differences have you seen with the way women cheat vs how guys cheat?Right no one can demand anything. But they are also free to leave if they want an exclusive relationship. The vast majority of the time infidelity does mean a break up. When you don't have trust you don't have much. If a man wants to step out of the relationship it should be discussed before said stepping out to give both people a choice. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/22 10:01 PM |
| 1 | What differences have you seen with the way women cheat vs how guys cheat?If you agreed to that. Many people in relationships would not agree to have a relationship if that was the case. So lying about having sex outside your marriage. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/22 09:59 PM |
| 1 | This is the worst time in human history to be dating.Those are two not super rare scenarios. What about having to marry a man if you want any kind of life? All women had to do that when they couldn't own anything themselves. Being forced to pick a man means rape is very likely for you. Unless husbands where okay not having sex at all? This was especially true for gay women. At least gay men could live some kind of life alone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/22 09:49 PM |
| 2 | This is the worst time in human history to be dating.Yeah I can't even begin to guess what problems in dating today could be worse than a child being forced to marry.. or having to marry your rapist, which even happened to my grandmother. Her and her spouse really hated each other and ended up divorced at old age. And I refuse to speak to a man who raped a woman so my grandfather is bitter and alone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/22 09:05 PM |
| 1 | What differences have you seen with the way women cheat vs how guys cheat?Sorry I would talk more but you purposefully avoiding the point about lying makes me think you might be trolling. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/22 08:49 PM |
| 1 | What differences have you seen with the way women cheat vs how guys cheat?Well my husband and I have been together for ten years and never had a problem sooo. We are more in love each day. My married friends have been married about that long without issue as well. I think it's more people who think like you that can't be happy. I'm very sorry. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/22 08:47 PM |
| 1 | What differences have you seen with the way women cheat vs how guys cheat?You can't make the decision on how big a deal it is to someone else. I didn't say anything about forsaking all others. I said that after you enter a relationship and agree to exclusively sleep with your partner that it's wrong to go against that without a discussion. And there is nothing wrong with a partner leaving if they want to stay in an exclusive relationship. My husband has had times where his sex drive was lower due to family death and stress. That didn't give me the right to go and slee… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/22 07:53 PM |
| 6 | What differences have you seen with the way women cheat vs how guys cheat?It's not about the sex, it's about the lying. I never had casual sex but my husband did. I already knew his past when we got together so it's something I accepted by entering a relationship with him. We both expressed wanting a loyal partner and that doesn't just change unless discussed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/22 06:01 AM |
| 2 | Do the men in here that struggle to get laid not have any women in there social circles?I think playing into more niche similarities could help you? Vegetarian and vegan women are always complaining about how hard it is to find a man with the same diet. Most won't date someone who has a different diet because it almost never works out. I have had friends date a guy purely because he was veg. Sorry if this is unwanted advice this is just a big topic in vegan communities. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/12/22 11:04 PM |
| 1 | It is possible to change?Yeah it very much is. My own brain has definitely beat me more than anyone else has. I hope if you do try mindfulness it's as life changing for you as it has been for me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/12/22 06:36 AM |
| 1 | do you treat guys well during casual sexI have never had casual sex but I definitely think I would treat anyone well. My first year in college there was a guy I knew that apparently had issues ever being able to have sex because he couldn't get hard. The other guys in that group were really mean to him for it.. I always found topics like that awkward but I felt really badly for him. I hung out with him once and his friends started making jokes about him trying something with me. We didn't feel that way about each other ( I never consi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/12/22 06:01 AM |
| 4 | There is a strong expectation of equality bias in this subI'm truly sorry if your experience has led you to believe this. I think I am pretty lucky that I don't ever see this kind of behavior. But I stopped tolerating abusive people awhile ago. What rights do women have that men don't though? I should definitely know this information is all, I feel pretty badly not knowing actual laws that are against men. It's something I really should have already known and paid attention to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/12/22 05:32 AM |
| 0 | There is a strong expectation of equality bias in this subThis is all based on how you view strength though. A society full of physically strong men could fall to one full of intelligent planers. They might not be able to overpower a closknit group with instinctual cooperation. Everyone is equal because everyone has a place to contribute and society makes us stronger. The disabled deserve the same rights as everyone and they don't need to be thankful to others for treating them as humans. The other more selfish reason is that we will all be the weak on… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/12/22 05:25 AM |
| 3 | It is possible to change?Mindfulness and realizing your thoughts are not you. Our brain is a tool that can work both for and against us. Intrusive thoughts ruled most of my life but learning to only live in the present definitely saved me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/12/22 01:39 AM |
| 1 | Addressing Two Common RP MisconceptionsI think it could also have to do with general mental health. I tried to kill myself as a teen and looking back I would go through it all again to be with the people I now love. But then I had no one so nothing to look forward to. I didn't know hope was a real thing in our world. My experience taught me hope only ever led to more pain. Also it depends on how likely you are to escape your situation. I have so much fight in me now but if I got sold into sex slavery I would very probably kill myself… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/12/22 07:52 PM |
| 5 | The double edged sword of high expectations for menI was in the same place as you at your age. I didn't have any friends because I was too awkward and I was soooo lonely. Desperately so. Unfortunately abusive men love women like you the most when they find you. Love bombing is a really good drug when you have suffered so much alone. My advice would be to seek therapy before trying to date. Even women with experience can easily be fooled by abusive men. Obviously not all men are abusive but the abusive ones will go out of their way to try and win… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/12/22 06:08 PM |
| 3 | What's your stance on the post Roe v Wade vasectomy advocacy?I definitely agree that no one should be pressured when it comes to their own body! I have personally only seen this subject brought up as a way to show men how important bodily autonomy is, even when it comes to preventing more abortions. I'm sure some people have probably heard this and taken it as serious and even more will use it to troll. It sucks that ideas always get taken wrong somewhere. But I also think it's important to be having any possible conversations that can help with the fact … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/11/22 09:42 PM |
| 2 | Should anything be done about the low birth rates and high single parenthood in western countries?A couple not being forced to stay together if they have too deep of issues is ruining the concept of settling down? I don't know a single decent person that has no family and child support. The only people I have met like that are narcissists and/or abusive. I'm definitely not saying all people that are in that situation are like that. I have just been around a ton of broken families through my experiences in life and this is my lived reality. I also think that young relationships can be high ri… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/22 07:25 AM |
| 15 | Should anything be done about the low birth rates and high single parenthood in western countries?You say women generally enjoy. So what about the women who don't? What about the women where that would be nothing but misery? And if a women can't choose a partner based off who she wants then that is rape. If a women is required to have a partner she has no choice. You talk about mental health but we have no way to compare. If someone doesn't know they could have a better life that doesn't mean they are happier than the person who does. It just means they have not actually gotten to feel that … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/11/22 04:03 PM |
| 5 | Should anything be done about the low birth rates and high single parenthood in western countries?Your language makes me feel like you are specifically talking about women. I'm sorry if that's not the case. But in my experience myself and my girlfriends were mostly met with men not ready for anything but casual stuff early on. It's how a lot of young women get tricked. They keep saying no to casual but then a guy comes along willing to lie and abuse. I think a lot of women do want to settle down earlier. And I think that scares a lot of young men. Even the guys who had never had a girlfriend… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/11/22 03:50 PM |
| 21 | Should anything be done about the low birth rates and high single parenthood in western countries?If this is true should humanity even keep existing? If human survival relies on raping women and forcing down others I would think humanity should end. There are so many solutions we have not tried so why default to the one that enslaved women, even if it "worked". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/11/22 03:34 PM |
| 3 | It’s male projection that women will at least EVENTUALLY want to settle down with an Average Adam eventually. No relationship IS better than a bad or monotonous relationship, this cannot be stressed enoughI support your quest for positivity and empathy! Thank you for being someone who still tries, I appreciate you very much. You definitely made my day a bit brighter. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/22 06:37 PM |
| 1 | How did your fathers example affect your dating life?My father only cares about his own image and money. He sent us a few expensive gifts while being happy with other men who beat us actually raising us.. he also subjected us to the worst person I have ever personally known, a purely evil woman that he married for a bit. they were so good for each other.. I spent a little while confused about what love and boundaries are but eventually this just cemented in my head what qualities really matter. And some slight trauma around receiving gifts xD In m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 07:37 PM |
| 2 | The "30+" figure for women hitting the wall largely depends on how fit you are/where you're fromPeople say lots of things when they are upset or feel wronged. Don't take anonymous comments online too seriously. The women I know in their thirties get hit on all the time. My mother is dating a man 20 years younger than her apparently. Your life can always get better, unless you take that chance away. If you are wanting more friends please message me! I have a wonderful group of people who are all very kind, but also very nerdy lol. We play D&D a lot. I also know single men your age that are … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 07:18 PM |
| 2 | What are your actual dealbreakers?No drive to improve themselves or the world around them. Being mean or abusive towards animals. Being a narcissist. Other personality disorders can be managed and addressed. Maybe this one can but I unfortunately have too much trauma from this one. I honestly believe most things can be worked through if someone is committed to improving their own and their partners life. These are also the only things that could chip away at my bond with my husband. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 06:54 PM |
| 5 | What are your actual dealbreakers?I am also childfree and have found that most men are okay either way. Even when I ask my male friends about future children they say that's a choice their future wife would make. I also have many married childfree friends. Well some are going to be adopting so not truly childfree. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 06:51 PM |
| 1 | What are your actual dealbreakers?Edit: sorry question for men. Oops | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 06:46 PM |
| 1 | Question for Red Pill: How do you explain women who don’t date “bad men”, never cheat, have male friends that aren’t interested romantically or only date average men?Yeah I don't honestly know much about how hormones influence the way people perceive you.I just assumed that is what they were talking about. Since I had recently heard people talking about birth control and hormones. Although I have also heard that women's hormones actually fluctuate less than men's. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 12:05 AM |
| 1 | Being non-NT and looks-oriented is a very bad combinationJust because other people say they have something without being diagnosed doesn't mean it's actually that common. OCD is one people say they have all the time but actual OCD is fairly rare. My OCD comes with lots of anxiety and I can definitely say it can be life destroying. I am on the spectrum as well but that doesn't come close to effecting me as much as my OCD. I think disorders need specialized help, being left handed takes very little help. Society is set up in a way that benefits certain … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/22 07:44 PM |
| 1 | The line between encouraging people to work on themself and being confident in who they are? (coming from a male perspective) 29mI don't think you should look at improving yourself as becoming someone else. Some things change more than others but overall life is one long journey into becoming an individual. At no point in life will you be done changing, resisting that actually just causes more problems. I think people will give advice for the things that advanced their lives, you need to look for what will advance yours. Only you will be able to find the answer for that. You should try to become confident in your own life… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 10:32 PM |
| 2 | I always thought dating apps were easy for very attractive women. I was wrong.This is honestly amazing advice. I have always had severe social anxiety. I avoided conversations unless I had a reason and this just made it even worse because there was always some kind of pressure there. Learning how to have small talk for no reason really helped me learn better communication skills. It also gave me a confidence boost because I found that most people will be chatty if you let them and it made me feel more normal and liked. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 10:21 PM |
| 1 | Question for Red Pill: How do you explain women who don’t date “bad men”, never cheat, have male friends that aren’t interested romantically or only date average men?I don't know how much this actually matters but it apparently effects the way men smell to woman. Typically people with similar hormone levels find their way together. So women with high estrogen will subconsciously like the smell of men with high testosterone. Birth control can completely change a woman's natural hormone levels. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/22 06:55 PM |
| 4 | Your relationship should not depend on sexual attractionI actually think this is true. But sex tends to also be extremely important for people. So breaking up with a boyfriend or girlfriend over this does still make sense. It's not cruel. But when you find the person you want to spend the rest of your life with you should value them more. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/22 04:24 PM |
| 2 | Your relationship should not depend on sexual attractionThis is honestly really hard to hear. I can't imagine not wanting to be with my husband because of how he looks. Why even get married if you don't want them forever? Would you be fine with your husband leaving you if you became deformed from sickness or injury? What if you gain weight after pregnancy? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/22 04:19 PM |
| 3 | Who’s really the bad guy here?This is actually fairly common advice women give each other. Like "watch how he treats wait staff and service people". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/22 12:01 AM |
| 2 | Men of PPD overestimate the importance of height, muscles, and bravado and underestimate the importance of emotional vulnerability (a form of confidence), showing empathy/taking her words seriously, fashion/grooming, and demonstrating wit and intellect. Also confidence looks diff. v than cockiness.I am really sorry this has been your experience. I'm sorry that anyone ever used you like that. And I'm also sorry I don't have more to add I just understand the pain of being alone except for people who want things. I hope you receive better in the future. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/22 06:45 PM |
| 1 | Dating App Improvement Ideas.I am sure some women are fine with hookups! I have just only met one woman like that and she discovered later she was only like that because she thought she didn't deserve love. But similar people do group together. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/22 08:17 PM |
| 3 | Dating App Improvement Ideas.This is what mostly kills dating apps I think. All the women I know only lasted a week or two on them before they realized they much preferred being single to having guys just trying to hook up. I tried e harmony once, I had to pay money then too, which had a personality test and matched you with people by percentage of similarities. I was hoping that would make it easier to find someone with the same values. I still had mostly guys messaging about wanting casual relationships. Granted I was you… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/22 08:06 PM |
| 2 | the income pillThis is very true. I honestly really hate gifts that don't have sentimental value. The thought that someone thinks they can buy my affection makes me feel pretty sick. I really hate the whole concept of money in general and people that have a lot of it are the biggest contributors of suffering in the U.S. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/22 05:09 PM |
| 2 | the income pillI chose my partner, who was homeless at the time, over the fairly wealthy ass hole men I had the option of dating. My first serious boyfriend was very wealthy, I didnt even know that when we started dating, and he was extremely self centered. He actually still tries to reach out every so often even though its been over 10 years. He was very upset to lose me but I could not handle the abuse or non caring attitude. He is still alone now. Seeing someone sacrifice for others is what melts my heart. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/22 05:01 PM |
| 1 | How many women expect their partners to do unreasonable amounts of housework?This was an excellent post! This is something I have seen a fair number of men get broken up with for. My husband and I have both made more than each other at points and this is how we always treated housework. I feel like it's just about wanting to help each other. We have also both had depressive episodes where one of us did a lot more work than the other. During those times we want to do everything we can to help the each other. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/22 09:10 PM |
| 4 | Would you rather date a younger guy who looks older or an older guy who looks younger?This is the answer for me as well. I don't care what my husband looks like as long as we can be together for as long as possible. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/22 06:56 PM |
| 2 | Just Realized that the reason why women on here dismissed so much "loneliness" of men is because women know that no matter what If they truly want, they will be in a relationshipI really was not trying to. I apologize if it came off that way. I truly thought they did but I am assuming I am wrong. I'm sorry for assuming something about you though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/22 06:38 PM |
| 2 | Just Realized that the reason why women on here dismissed so much "loneliness" of men is because women know that no matter what If they truly want, they will be in a relationshipSorry I must be a little confused. I am a woman and I thought they ment all women are granted social networks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/22 06:36 PM |
| 7 | Just Realized that the reason why women on here dismissed so much "loneliness" of men is because women know that no matter what If they truly want, they will be in a relationshipThis is not true at all and I'm sorry you think that. I had to fight really hard to be able to have connections with people. Most of my family treated me like garbage and I was way too awkward to have any friends who were not trying to get things out of me. I was upset at the world for my life but the only thing I could really change was myself. It has taken me a very long time to build my family and support system, a ton of therapy as well. I spent so many hours studying how to be someone peopl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/22 04:30 AM |
| 4 | Just Realized that the reason why women on here dismissed so much "loneliness" of men is because women know that no matter what If they truly want, they will be in a relationshipI think we should try to move as far from this line of thinking as possible. No one is "below" anyone else. Some people are not compatible but that says nothing about their value. Assigning value to individual people is honestly very sad and dehumanizing. Both genders should be taught to understand how toxic that is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/22 04:22 AM |
| 7 | Just Realized that the reason why women on here dismissed so much "loneliness" of men is because women know that no matter what If they truly want, they will be in a relationshipDon't lower your standards. No one should. You will eventually meet the right person. And if you don't the pain from toxic relationships can build a lot of trauma for both people. You should focus on your own life purpose and goals while just trying to meet as many people as you can. I'm really sorry you have been so lonely. No one deserves that and unfortunately the world can kinda suck sometimes. My hope is that with enough understanding and compassion people will naturally come together more.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/22 04:18 AM |
| 2 | Dating would be a lot more easier for both sexes if most women made the first moves.I agree that this should be pushed as normal! A lot of women are told growing up that if you act too interested it will turn the guy off and that they need to have the "chase". I think too much traditional dating advice is being given to non traditional generations. When a women really wants a specific guy though she will usually do this already. I am very shy and never went out of my way to speak to anyone. But when I reconnected with my now husband I went really hard into the chase myself lol.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/22 07:46 PM |
| 1 | For all this talk of “the Wall”, I think in big cities (certainly London in my experience), men need to be alive to the fact that there are a lot of women out there who are totally fine with remaining single well into their thirties and potentially foreverI live in the suburbs and it's very liberal here. There isn't ever any conflict or crime but everyone around here is very liberal and mostly socialist. I think similar people just end up around each other. We also have a strong sense of community still. Everyone in my neighborhood helps each other and passes out garden grown vegetables. I can't wait for my fruit trees to finish growing though. I do think that regardless of politics a strong community is ideal for a happy life. And even though I … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/22 06:49 PM |
| 1 | the problem isn't sex the problem is that men are still expected to be traditional while women aren'tI think we disagree on too many things to be able to talk about this stuff I'm sorry. Thank you for taking the time to chat with me though! And thank you for being kind even though we disagree. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/22 02:45 PM |
| 1 | the problem isn't sex the problem is that men are still expected to be traditional while women aren'tWho cares what women in the past promised? They should not have had to promise anything to get basic human rights. I very much agree circumcision is horrible and should be gotten rid of though. I thought you ment being able to use them. Sorry about the misunderstanding. Also women overall being worse off financially speaks to a broken system not anything about women. Our work practices in this country were set up with men in mind but that leads to women not doing as well. Both genders are just a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/22 11:13 PM |
| 2 | the problem isn't sex the problem is that men are still expected to be traditional while women aren'tThe draft should be abolished completely. It's a violation of rights. There is no need to force that on women when we should remove it altogether. Also how can it be a right to "experience your genitals" when that comes at the expense of someone else? Men have just as much freedom to buy a house as a women? If a wife buys a house it's her husband's house too. Women also pay taxes. CHILDREN are the main recipients of social help and those children have both a mother and a father. I also fail to s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/22 10:44 PM |
| 1 | the problem isn't sex the problem is that men are still expected to be traditional while women aren'tPeople having rights doesn't have to "work" though. People should have freedom and their own rights no matter what. A society without freedom is one worth destroying. I don't think this is something that can be rolled back honestly. Once a human has a taste of freedom they will die fighting for it. So I guess I just don't see the point in trying something that is both immoral and hopeless. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/22 05:56 PM |
| 0 | Why over emphasizing superficial things like looks leads to a downfallI have to agree this is something I couldn't understand. The idea is just kinda repulsive honestly. Not that I want to be insulting, I won't judge someone for that. But I also wouldn't date someone like that. My husband speaks as if he only wants me. He would be the most attracted to me no matter what I looked like. If I didn't have him I honestly would just never date again. I only value deeply spiritual connections for romance. Otherwise I wouldn't even be able to have an intimate relationship… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/22 01:50 PM |
| 2 | Why over emphasizing superficial things like looks leads to a downfallIt's probably because this is not all men. My girlfriends and sisters have all dated men in the past who picked at their appearance constantly. They would even point out other girls and say things like "I wish your boobs were as big as hers". They would insult how they looked compared to their celebrity crushes and point out attractive friends. These were all nerdy "nice" guys too.. yay anime and video game scene lol. Obviously there are good men who don't do that. I just think these experiences… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/22 12:14 PM |
| 1 | People who complain about the pull yourself up by your bootstraps philosophy will still use it for dating.I think part of the problem is that the "mouthpieces" of this movement to help men mostly offers advice and suggestions that hurt women. I feel like there are things we as a society can do but when the average person only sees hate coming from something they will assume that is all they have. I see many more men advocating for prostitution or how women having rights is bad for society than I do men saying we need social classes in school along with therapy. Maybe subsidized dating classes for ad… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/22 05:45 PM |
| 2 | People who complain about the pull yourself up by your bootstraps philosophy will still use it for dating.This comment is amazing. I had to go through a similar realization. I was very abused and alone as a child. Up until 8th grade I didn't have a single friend. I moved schools every year due to running from bills and was just odd because I was never given the chance to interact with people who didn't hit or degrade me. I couldn't bring myself to speak, out of fear of retaliation, so I just watched people. I became obsessed with thinking that if I could just get a guy to like me I would never be al… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/22 05:28 PM |
| 1 | Let's say due to a population crisis your government started issuing lump sum payments to women who had kids. How much would the payment have to be to move the needle for you?There is no amount of money that would make me have a child. I would only have a child if I fully believed they would grow up in a kind and loving world | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/10/22 11:57 PM |
| 1 | Women do not prefer staying single to settling. They prefer staying single to risking rejection.This is actually really true. I don't know many women who ever started hardcore flirting and pursuing someone until they had vetted him for partner status. Women will bend over backwards for someone they really like because they have already decided they want to date him. And we tend to also pursue pretty hard because losing that person feels like more of a loss when you have already imagined them fitting into your life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/22 07:22 PM |
| 2 | What value does a man bring to a modern relationship?I would say getting better at reading body language. You can tell when someone is receptive to being spoken to as soon as you greet them. Any time I have seen videos of men trying to ask women out who rejected them I could tell right away the woman was not at all interested in being spoken to. Women can definitely be guilty of this too but I see it a lot more often from men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/22 08:20 PM |
| 8 | Women are not wrong in saying that the average guy is an undateable mess. The mistake they make is believing that the average woman is not.I can say I would much rather not be in demand period. The only feelings that come from someone wanting only your body is disgust. I'm not at all saying being alone or not being wanted is not extremely painful. I knew that place very well my entire childhood. But hitting puberty and having men start checking me out only made me feel more broken and disgusting. I think maybe it's kind of like how men would feel having a women want to live with and be supported by them while knowing said women is … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/22 05:05 AM |
| 21 | Women are not wrong in saying that the average guy is an undateable mess. The mistake they make is believing that the average woman is not.I think it is all in how you choose to view things, and also how much effort you put into fully being present in every situation. People always joke about me finding almost everything interesting and fun but this is something I choose to do. This first hit me really hard when I was trying to get over my nightmares. I had a few lucid dreams eventually and did everything I could to turn my nightmares into those. I was told how practicing mindfulness of my present and meditation could help me lucid… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/22 01:50 AM |
| 2 | EVEN if you could FORCE monogamy and "redistribute" love and relationships, you can't force a woman to genuinely love you and you FEEL the differenceIf most women really view most men as unattractive then nothing will work short of taking away choice, which is wrong. I don't believe that though, I think each women finds a very small amount of men attractive but they each view different men. And I think what could help is having socializing be a skill that is taught in school. We have moved so quickly to an online world that we have stunted this ability in mass. I had to work really hard at learning to socialize myself. I do think this proble… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/22 06:03 AM |
| 1 | EVEN if you could FORCE monogamy and "redistribute" love and relationships, you can't force a woman to genuinely love you and you FEEL the differenceThank you so much for this! I didn't really agree before but you made some good points. I think your definitely right about people being more happy about being virgins when they meet their forever partner. I slept with someone I didn't want to before my husband because of the perceived expectation of sex in a relationship. Changing how we view sex in general is a wonderful idea. I sometimes think that men on here want women to have to be reliant on men. Which always sounds bad to me because of h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/22 05:56 AM |
| 1 | EVEN if you could FORCE monogamy and "redistribute" love and relationships, you can't force a woman to genuinely love you and you FEEL the differenceSorry about that, I honestly thought you were trying to take a dig at me. I started talking to many people and got a little worked up. Definitely not ideal and I clearly need to work more on my ability to hold these kind of conversations. I have always been fairly emotional and have tended to just help others when they need that kind of care. I am great at becoming emotionally invested in and caring for others. I have hoped I would get to the point where I can more easily have non emotional conv… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/22 09:40 PM |
| 3 | EVEN if you could FORCE monogamy and "redistribute" love and relationships, you can't force a woman to genuinely love you and you FEEL the differenceWhy do you think you know the general population better than someone else? I don't look out my window and assume. I go by what I see on TV and from social media. Also from my friends in very public positions. I know I dont know the entire general population, no one does. Also I'm sorry you felt the need to be mean. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/22 09:02 PM |
| 2 | EVEN if you could FORCE monogamy and "redistribute" love and relationships, you can't force a woman to genuinely love you and you FEEL the differenceI see your comments a lot and I have come to really respect your opinions. You seem to take into account your emotional and rational self, which is needed to come to working solutions. Do you think people being less promiscuous would bring more people together? I am honestly curious because from what I understand about women no sex at all is much preferable to a mediocre relationship. Maybe if we took the expectation of sex out of a relationship this would work. Personally I would much rather ha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/22 08:59 PM |
| 3 | EVEN if you could FORCE monogamy and "redistribute" love and relationships, you can't force a woman to genuinely love you and you FEEL the differenceRight, and from what I see the general population falls in line with what I said. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/22 08:38 PM |
| 3 | EVEN if you could FORCE monogamy and "redistribute" love and relationships, you can't force a woman to genuinely love you and you FEEL the differenceSorry I won't DM because I am extremely risk adverse and won't take the chance of vulgar things being said or shown to me.. not saying you would! It has just happened and I am deeply effected by such things. If you needed help I would take the chance for sure, but not over a disagreement. I'm sorry about that, and I'm sorry if it's insulting! It has nothing to do with you and everything to do with my own fear. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/22 08:37 PM |
| 4 | EVEN if you could FORCE monogamy and "redistribute" love and relationships, you can't force a woman to genuinely love you and you FEEL the differenceYou are basing this off who you know as well. We all have our own social sphere. I would trust unbiased survey statistics more but those are hard to find and I have never seen one asking rich women why they would choose a partner with more money. Although I think the biggest reason someone would do this is if they plan on having children. The women is a lot more at risk and can potentially become bedridden for a long time. So to answer you question I would trust the general population more but I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/22 08:33 PM |
| 3 | EVEN if you could FORCE monogamy and "redistribute" love and relationships, you can't force a woman to genuinely love you and you FEEL the differenceYou said according to biology though. So how is it biologically worse for a woman to gain weight? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/22 08:17 PM |
| 4 | EVEN if you could FORCE monogamy and "redistribute" love and relationships, you can't force a woman to genuinely love you and you FEEL the differenceOkay we have different theories then. My experience says differently. The women I know all looked for and found men they connected with and could be best friends with. They also all dated at their own socioeconomic level, ranging from extremely wealthy to very poor. Ironically though my husband was in a much worse financial situation than myself when we started dating. What makes me swoon is seeing him be a good person. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/22 08:16 PM |
| 2 | EVEN if you could FORCE monogamy and "redistribute" love and relationships, you can't force a woman to genuinely love you and you FEEL the differenceHow so? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/22 08:10 PM |
| 1 | EVEN if you could FORCE monogamy and "redistribute" love and relationships, you can't force a woman to genuinely love you and you FEEL the differenceI think the problem is that men would want sexual things out of this relationship. If it was just a partnership with no sexual intimacy you might be right. Without 100 percent desire sex is disgusting and traumatizing for a woman. Being alone is 100 times preferable over having sex you don't want even once. I don't think men feel this same visceral disgust and fear. Honestly after learning about how trauma can be passed on I have started to wonder if maybe this is from so many female ancestors b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/22 08:09 PM |
| 2 | EVEN if you could FORCE monogamy and "redistribute" love and relationships, you can't force a woman to genuinely love you and you FEEL the differencePeople are afraid of being taken advantage of so they tend to date in their own socioeconomic level. Men just happen to be less risk adverse and will trade security for other things they want. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/22 07:58 PM |
| 3 | EVEN if you could FORCE monogamy and "redistribute" love and relationships, you can't force a woman to genuinely love you and you FEEL the differenceExactly, women biologically hold onto fat easier and also go through pregnancy. It's much more disrespectful for a man to gain weight... I don't believe it is disrespectful for anyone to gain weight, but by biological standards men have a much easier time not gaining weight. Also by biological standards women need some weight (specifically a stomach pouch) to protect their uterus. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/22 07:56 PM |
| 17 | The only "80/20 rule" on dating apps is that 80/20 is literally the male-to-female user ratio on themThat might also have to do with the type of woman that would use tinder. More likely a woman who values looks if she is open to casual encounters. Every woman I know who wanted a connection couldn't last more than a week on dating apps. They even tried using the more personality based ones but were flooded with casual offers. It honestly just makes you feel gross. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/22 07:19 PM |
| 1 | Q4W - which of the following two men would you rather have?I am so sorry that happened to you. I agree that is a huge problem. No one should have to deal with unwanted touch, and it's disgusting if anyone says otherwise. This isn't exactly what I was talking about though. It's the way your body goes into fight or flight mode at perceived advances when not wanted. How traumatic the situation is, I would rather go back to being beat senseless a thousand times over than be touched in a sexual way even once when i don't want it. That doesn't logically make … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/22 07:00 PM |
| 31 | Q4W - which of the following two men would you rather have?Honestly I have found a lot of men don't understand how disgusting and traumatizing unwanted sexual touch is. Even someone you want to be with can be traumatizing if you are not in the mood to be touched. I don't think men have this same visceral reaction, at least not any I have talked to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/22 07:08 PM |
| 1 | q4w: Who is your female role model on who you are trying to become?You don't actually care to learn anything if you only ask questions to the people who fit your narrative. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/22 02:23 AM |
| 3 | q4w: Who is your female role model on who you are trying to become?I never had a role model. I do what I think is right and make sure to always be true to my own moral compass. I have failed before but i always learn ftom it. Maybe the earth? Because in the end all I want is for this world to be full of happiness and love. And it gives me many answers when I meditate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/22 09:33 PM |
| 1 | Do you women go through similar struggles like men go through?This is a great comment in my opinion! Humans created the language we use to understand the world. With that we assume so much. Only you can make your own reality and decide what you are going to feel. External forces will always be there but you control your own sense of the world, how you connect to it. We each have so much power to influence our world and touch the people around us. But it takes time, patience and practice to learn how. Many people don't want to put in that much effort so ins… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/22 01:56 AM |
| 2 | Do you women go through similar struggles like men go through?Thoughts are involuntary but engaging them is a choice. I have struggled severely with OCD my whole life and the best thing I have learned is that thoughts are not who you are. Your brain will throw all sorts of nonsense at you but you have to make the choice of what you focus on. This is way easier said than done but is necessary unfortunately. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/22 01:48 AM |
| 1 | Opinion: Andrew Tate was a net positive overallHe did unfortunately. He said if he could make the laws he would not allow women to drive. I am so strongly against him because of how strongly I feel about helping men. I watch a few male therapists that give a lot of insight into male problems and mental health issues. For instance, there is a big problem with people not thinking much about women hitting men. That's horribly sad and damaging to the men that go through it. The loudest voices, that speak about it, tend to say things like "men sh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/22 09:27 PM |
| 1 | Opinion: Andrew Tate was a net positive overallObey means listen without question. That is extremely unhealthy. And yes, the men that wrote the Bible are wrong. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/22 09:17 PM |
| 3 | Opinion: Andrew Tate was a net positive overallHe has said women should obey their man. Obey is a word that entails a completely one sided relationship. He has said he believes women should not be allowed to drive. Believing only one gender has the right to drive is pretty misogynistic. If he had said we need to make the drivers test harder that's fine, but he blanket said women shouldn't. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/22 07:49 PM |
| 6 | Opinion: Andrew Tate was a net positive overallHe has said many times that the only way to have a happy relationship is for women to "obey" their man. He also said he believes women should not be allowed to drive. When confronted with statistics that show women are better drivers he said that believing statistics is stupid and you should go with personal experience. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/22 07:43 PM |
| 1 | Why do people here make it sound like it's impossible to find a virgin girl "these days"?Sex does happen in a relationship but there is no point in having a relationship with someone who wants something more casual. When you are looking for a life partner it's a waste of time. The very relationship oriented women I know all met their husband's by around 24 because they only looked for men with the goal of being a husband. How does dating men your friends can vouch for mean he has a lot of options? And even if he does that doesn't mean he won't commit. Many of my friends husbands, mi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/22 07:27 PM |
| 4 | Why do people here make it sound like it's impossible to find a virgin girl "these days"?But that's online dating. The women I know, myself included, who tried to use it only got offers of non serious relationships. They quickly realized, two weeks tops maybe, online dating is for hooking up so they dropped it. Women who want a serious relationship won't waste time looking for a needle in a haystack and will instead look for options with more guaranteed results. Many times they will date pre vetted men so they know the guy is looking for the same thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/22 06:33 PM |
| 2 | The Red Pill’s biggest shortcoming and why men need to actually work on understanding women (and how to do it)I had never felt the urge to sleep with someone I just met. Nothing about the human body is really that attractive. My husband also doesn't have most of those traits but so many people look up to him. He isn't tall and doesn't have a big build. His voice is also slightly higher pitch and he lost his hair at 20. Women still flirt with him constantly. He is also literally the most amazing human being I have ever seen and I would do and give anything for him. No one could ever compare to his compas… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/22 01:23 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Wanting a virgin/low body count woman isn't about pussyAll the women I have known with fantastic homelives have had many more relationships than myself or others with severe trauma.. they always knew when they weren't being treated right while I desperately clung to bad people to not be alone. The women I have known with bad upbringings typically stayed in toxic relationships years longer and therefore had even more trauma and less partners. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/22 10:24 PM |
| 2 | The Red Pill’s biggest shortcoming and why men need to actually work on understanding women (and how to do it)What is beta though? My husband is the whitest of knights and I consider that extremely masculine. Everytime I see him defend someone weak or try to cheer someone up my heart swells with so much love and pride. When he is taking care of and nurturing people or animals is when I feel the most motivated to do the same. Nothing feels better honestly and we love feeding off each other that way. He is also almost exactly my height. It is really convenient for sharing clothes lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/22 06:56 PM |
| 1 | Do your partners identify as feminist?My husband and I both identify as feminists. We both very much care about defending people in general. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/22 04:59 PM |
| 7 | Are Women aged 18-25 adults, that are capable of making decisions that will impact their lives?It means people will judge those who participate in those things harshly. People tend to look down on behaviors they find morally reprehensible. At 18 a teenager can look out for themselves as long as no one is taking advantage of them. This is why people look down on such a big age gap relationship. Most people find taking advantage of naivety wrong and will warn young adults of the danger. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/22 08:01 AM |
| 9 | Are Women aged 18-25 adults, that are capable of making decisions that will impact their lives?No? It should remain legal and also socially unacceptable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/22 07:56 AM |
| 7 | Are Women aged 18-25 adults, that are capable of making decisions that will impact their lives?Just because you are legally an adult does not mean socially you are one. Legal does not mean that it should be socially acceptable. It is legal to cheat but I still think it has no place in a relationship. The law does not take into account daily lived lives and people have to make their own moral judgments as best they can. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/22 07:49 AM |
| 1 | Women here, what advice would you give to your sons going into dating?I am very happy you have such a fulfilling life now! Sorry if I misunderstood. I am trying to learn how to communicate with people better and appreciate your response. Everyone will have their own difficult journey and I really hope they can make it through like you and myself. I can easily see how these things are not equal but that is because I know the feeling behind both. Some people don't and will feel like their pain must just not matter. Even if you do care about their pain, but to a less… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/22 08:36 PM |
| 1 | Women here, what advice would you give to your sons going into dating?While I agree with you I don't think it is helpful to compare trauma. If someone has always been alone but never been hurt sexually they will not be able to really feel the difference in pain. If you show compassion to other people first they are much more likely to show it to you next. I'm so sorry that happened to you and I understand how nothing feels comparable. Unfortunately a lot of people don't understand that. And since this is an overwhelmingly male sub many won't. I always like to say … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/22 07:56 PM |
| 1 | AI Researcher wants to find a long term monogamous partner to have biological children with - rate his profileIf I were single this would absolutely be the kind of guy I wanted to find. Well minus the having biological kids part. He seems like a rare treasure of a soul and I hope he finds the love he deserves and gives to the world. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/22 12:47 PM |
| 2 | Most men that aren't having sex are otherwise fairly normal dudes, not women hating misogynists like reddit and society would lead you to believeSo make sure I know what the other person is wanting? I do tend to assume people can feel similarly to me, that they could find happiness in what I can. This gives me a new perspective to try and form thoughts around thank you. It's a little hard with how distasteful I find casual sex but I am definitely moralizing there. I need to remember my morals are my own. At the end of the day I want people to find their happiness but I can't change the world instantly. People that are in the middle of su… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/22 06:00 PM |
| 5 | Most men that aren't having sex are otherwise fairly normal dudes, not women hating misogynists like reddit and society would lead you to believeHonestly this really hits me. I really have to think about this for awhile. It can be hard for me because the guys that hurt me where not kind and didn't take no for an answer. But at the same time I have met many more men willing to be open and supportive than women. And since I am a women I can't really imagine more than that being given to men. I feel like this speaks more to trauma and defensiveness but that doesn't mean kind people deserve that treatment. Also I will listen whenever someone… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/22 05:37 PM |
| 2 | Most men that aren't having sex are otherwise fairly normal dudes, not women hating misogynists like reddit and society would lead you to believeI am honestly curious what you mean by this? I would love to get to a place to give better advice. And I know I don't understand a lot. I really want to learn from others too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/22 05:17 PM |
| 4 | Most men that aren't having sex are otherwise fairly normal dudes, not women hating misogynists like reddit and society would lead you to believeWhile I appreciate you saying this, because underneath I am still desperate for acceptance, I don't think I have any more empathy than anyone else. I understand the pain that comes from never receiving empathy so I make the choice and active effort to be this way. Anyone can learn to express empathy and connect with others, they just need to know how. I choose to look at my suffering as an opportunity to have enough insight to help others. Also I understand many people here have probably not bee… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/22 04:17 AM |
| 22 | Most men that aren't having sex are otherwise fairly normal dudes, not women hating misogynists like reddit and society would lead you to believeI am so sorry you have not been offered much empathy. If you have been handed a rough situation and don't branch out to a ton of other people the world will seem pretty dark. I also think our society is drowning in issues and that makes it hard to look out for others. You have to be able to create your own happiness in your mind. External situations will always change, things will begin and end. You have to be comfortable living in your own mind and with your own character. Then you can start dr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/22 10:22 PM |
| 10 | Most men that aren't having sex are otherwise fairly normal dudes, not women hating misogynists like reddit and society would lead you to believeWhy do you think women don't have empathy? I feel horrible for anyone that struggles with loneliness. I was such an awkward person and had no one for a long time. I was so jaded from the abuse my parents put on me. But even though I was just hurt it was still my job to become a warm person. Because that's who I want to be and because no one else can do something like that for you. If someone tells me they are lonely I will feel for them and want to help. I feel a very strong connection to people… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/22 08:46 PM |
| 1 | [Q4W] Build your perfect partner with the following attributes and limited points.Hey I have some facial blindness too! Live action TV can be difficult when characters have the same hair colors. Anime is easier because they keep very individual hairstyles and outfits. Sorry, I don't really have a point to my comment I have just never met anyone else with this xD. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/22 09:36 AM |
| 1 | height in dating doesnt matter bc nobody is actually *that* tallThank you. I have spent a lot of time studying mental health. I have also had to unwind this from my own mind, which is hard when you think you're wrong for wanting to in the first place. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/22 09:29 AM |
| 0 | height in dating doesnt matter bc nobody is actually *that* tallHe didn't because gaslighting is much more than a single comment. It is a process through which they make the other person unable to have any faith in their own thoughts and memories. It is a slow and crippling process. It's kinda like saying hitting someone once means you tortured them. Many people have hit, shoved or thrown something at someoneone. It's not a good thing to do but it's not torture. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/22 09:04 AM |
| 1 | It’s women’s nature to exploit men’s sex drives, they evolved to be this wayHow can you know that, where is your proof? I'm so sorry you have such a skewed view of human relationships but you can't pretend other people feel the same. Honestly you really could benefit from therapy and shouldn't be in a relationship until then. Do better for your partner and for yourself. Edit: Also I'm sorry if that came of aggressive but your views could really hurt people. I know this is more an emotional stance but treating living people as anything less than valuable poisons your sou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/22 01:39 AM |
| 2 | Why women have counterintuitive delusional demands in datingI have seen many lives destroyed and ended early by the drug use of their parents. So many children are abused and killed directly from the drug use of others... The most horrific abuse I have seen is always from addicts. I will never understand how abortion could be worse than pimping out and beating your children. Which is also what happens to most foster kids. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/22 08:17 PM |
| 1 | How common is it for women to settle down with dorky/unattractive men while fantasizing for more masculine, attractive men?I wouldn't think it's that common. I don't think of others but I do fantasize about different situations with him. Also people don't always want things they fantasize about. There are characters in shows my friends really like but they only like the idea. It can be fun to pretend to like certain things that you would never actually be able to tolerate. The same way role-playing different personalities in d&d can be fun. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/22 07:36 AM |
| 4 | Why are there so many lonely young people now? (Particularly men).You are waiting for someone else to fix something only you can. Life would be better if you had a lot of things. I spent a long time being sad about not having parents who cared at all. I knew I could never just have that kind of relationship later in life and I have to live with not knowing what that kind of love feels like. I still sometimes get sad seeing holiday family stuff. Everyone will have different experiences, their own ups and downs. You have to be able to have peace with yourself. W… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/22 08:15 PM |
| 1 | CMV: There are far more “Amber Heard’s” out there than women let on.Where are you getting these numbers? Rarely does an abusive relationship not involve all the different kinds of abuse at some point. When being sexualy abused you are gaslight into believing you are at fault or deserve it. Women that can gaslight their partner will likely cross the physical line eventually. Calling physical abuse irrelevant is also pretty sad. It's a huge part for men and women. I have known many men who struggled with past physical abuse. My own experiences tell me men use psyc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/22 05:02 PM |
| 5 | CMV: There are far more “Amber Heard’s” out there than women let on.What do you consider abuse? I have seen a lot and in my experience young girls get the worst abuse.. as soon as someone is big enough to fight back rates of abuse go way down. That takes much longer for young girls and they also tend to be more docile in general. Abuse against men is horrible and needs fixed. But we don't need to go around minimizing others abuse because of that. My husband suffered severe abuse himself so this topic means a lot to me but there is a lot of misinformation. You al… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/22 12:55 PM |
| 1 | Why is there a discrepancy in what men believe how women respond to men crying in relationships compared to what women believe how women respond?This would all depend on where you pick people from. People are created through their experiences so if an area traditionally forces something on a specific gender they will be more likely to have the trauma. But if you took 100 babies of each and raised them the same I would say yes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/22 01:50 AM |
| 1 | Why is there a discrepancy in what men believe how women respond to men crying in relationships compared to what women believe how women respond?Just because you say you don't find something negative does not mean it's not negative. Finding your partner less attractive for crying would be a failing on their part. It means they are not emotionally mature enough to have relationships with others. Women don't find their partner less attractive for crying, damaged or emotionally absent people do. Having a preference for personality traits is different. If you prefer people more or less outwardly emotional that's fine. But if outlier situatio… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/22 09:11 PM |
| 2 | Why is there a discrepancy in what men believe how women respond to men crying in relationships compared to what women believe how women respond?Saying one negative trait about women, that both genders can have. You said they can't handle their partners emotions. But for men the one trait you mentioned was giving their all to take care of their partner or goal, which both genders can also do. Also I am just talking about that one comment not you as a whole. I am sorry that I was not super clear or if I offended you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/22 01:46 AM |
| 2 | Why is there a discrepancy in what men believe how women respond to men crying in relationships compared to what women believe how women respond?Honestly this breaks my heart. I remember the first time I saw my husband break down. I had Honestly started to believe he just was not bothered by things. This was for like two years.. Knowing that he had so much pain he was hiding hurt so deeply.. I had to work so hard at getting him to continue to open up and share more but he is much more relaxed and easy going now. Unfortunately instead of society fixing this problem for men I feel like they are just trying to also push it onto women. Emoti… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/22 09:53 PM |
| 0 | Why is there a discrepancy in what men believe how women respond to men crying in relationships compared to what women believe how women respond?I think it was more a comment on the fact that you give too much cradit to one gender. People in general are more self centered and just like there are less women willing to support others emotionally there are also less men willing to put in effort for others. There are just as many women empathetic enough and willing to bond with their man while he cries and breaks down are as there are men that would sacrifice their wants and effort for their partner. I personally think both people should do … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/22 09:20 PM |
| 2 | Unless her life is in danger, there is no reason any woman should be unhappy in a relationshipI think the fact that abuse exists and is well documented shows how false this is. Gaslighting wouldn't be a thing if it didn't work. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/22 03:35 PM |
| 1 | What common takes from women do you disagree with?I don't feel as if emotions like that can really be measured. The amount of fear and shame someone feels will be different from person to person. Maybe the person willing to put themselves in that situation doesn't fully process the risk or doesn't even believe in them at all. Some people naturally feel more invincible than others and some have constant intrusive thoughts. Some women have never had pleasure from sexual acts and dont have a libido until meeting a caring man. Also people fight str… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/22 05:43 PM |
| 1 | What common takes from women do you disagree with?True good and bad are human made concepts. I disagree after that but that is just my opinion and experience on what Is healthy and damaging. Also what would lead to more fulfilling relationships. I have been wrong many times before though so I am always open to changing my opinions with new information. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/22 07:12 AM |
| 2 | What common takes from women do you disagree with?My advice to them would be to only sleep with people who they can form deep connections with. I believe that sleeping with people without an emotional connection hurts your ability to bond from it. I don't think it's healthy to immediately satiate every desire in the easiest way possible.. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/22 05:06 AM |
| 4 | Emotional Men (Ye or Nay) - Be HonestAbsolutely! My husband and I have put so much work into our emotional health. He suffered a lot and felt like he wasn't supposed to ever share his emotions or seek help. His abuse was much worse than mine while younger but he still stayed stoic through it all.. He just shut off. Now he expresses so much more, and smiles a lot more too. He takes more time to explore his emotions and reactions to small things. He says that he feels things more deeply now and truly loves the people around him. Him … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/22 04:24 AM |
| 1 | Ladies - Would you 2nd guess your boyfriend/husband if other women didn't find him attractive?Absolutely not. My husband is the greatest person to probably ever even exist... I have also just always wanted him. When I see him go out of his way to help animals and people I fall for him all over again, which if often. I strive to be more like him and even though I don't think it works for all relationships, I will always follow him because there is just no one I could have more faith in. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/22 03:54 AM |
| 33 | What common takes from women do you disagree with?Prostitution is not empowering or good for women, neither is porn. It's bad for men too really.. sex should not be a commodity to be sold. This goes for just in general ads and websites as well. Selling people is damaging to relationships as a whole. I feel a little bit like so much sex being sold in the media has just put more distance between people. It has told us to expect certain things, even if those things don't work for us personally. In my opinion it would benefit a lot of people to try… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/22 03:44 AM |
| 13 | Most men ignore the women they claim to wantOof this was me as well. Between my home life and people at school thinking I was weird high school was pure hell. Most guys back then would definitely not consider dating a nerdy girl. I did have 2 boyfriends eventually but they picked me because of how inexperienced and easy to control I was. I also tried online dating in college and the only guys that messaged would end up letting me know they wanted something casual so I never even met anyone. I honestly got so lucky my childhood crush/hero … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/22 03:20 AM |
| 9 | Women don’t seem to listen to men here nor care about what they are saying. This is perhaps most evident in their continually responding to every complaint men make about dating by implying they only want sex, when a good number of men here want companionship.I think it is mostly people who have been hurt by the opposite sex a lot. Our own biases from lived experiences are extremely hard to overcome. But I think there are also plenty of people who do listen and are open to their empathy. You can also have empathy for someone while knowing there is nothing you can do for them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/22 01:52 PM |
| 5 | What does lack of emotional connection really mean?I think you need to be secure in your emotional connection to yourself to really be able to emotionally connect to others. So I would work on that first. You can do things like making sure you are fully in the present in the moment, meditation and grounding exercises are helpful. You can also focus on self reflection and awareness, why do you believe the things you do or feel the way you feel. After you find an answer for yourself you can then explore all these same things with your partner. Gro… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/22 07:23 PM |
| 7 | The process of 'wooing' a woman is important for men to form a successful relationshipWe can get it back! People are just hurting and it's up to those who can to heal others. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/22 01:42 AM |
| – | [Q4All] To what extent does mental health actually play a role in strategized dating?I knew my husband as a child and both of us delt with a lot of abuse and trauma. Working through our issues together has created a bond so deep nothing could challenge it. We both still have our own struggles but we know how to support each other. A relationship therapist I watch has even said to find a partner with a similar background, you will have a lot to bond over. And you will also tend to be growing in the same ways. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/22 01:40 AM |
| 1 | Guys cannot claim they have low standards if they wont date overweight women.Yeah that's not good advice to give someone. I could see how some people may have a life path geared towards making a bit more money but overall those two things are meaningless to a healthy relationship. I think a lot of people miss out on improving things like reading body language, conflict resolution, vulnerability, and patience. Also the ability to form and be part of a community around you. These are the things people look for in a healthy relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/22 12:55 AM |
| 3 | Are women attracted to ambition or results?For me personally it is ambition. My husband had a really rough upbringing but has always been 100 percent set on achieving whatever he sets his mind to. His unwavering desire to achieve anything he decides is inspiring and very attractive. At first I didn't know how much I believed in the ability to never give up but now I admire this man more than words can explain. I would follow him in absolutely anything because I can always trust in his desire to do good. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/22 12:46 AM |
| 1 | Guys cannot claim they have low standards if they wont date overweight women.Relationships are not a product though. You can't give a relationship to someone, it is a joint experience. You are not improving yourself to improve some arbitrary value, you improve to make yourself more compatible with others. Most people don't turn down dates because they think that person is lesser, they do it because they would not fit with their life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/22 12:32 AM |
| 1 | Guys cannot claim they have low standards if they wont date overweight women.No one should demand anything from anyone else. Choosing not to date someone does not mean you are demanding anything from them. It also does not mean you don't think they are " worthy " it just means you don't want them to be your partner. No one will ever be perfect and everyone will have their own individual struggles. Things that are easy for some will seem insurmountable to others. Most people will find someone who will grow in the same direction as them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/22 11:58 AM |
| 1 | Guys cannot claim they have low standards if they wont date overweight women.If others also want to become more useful for you is that a bad thing? Learning how to better lift others up gives them the chance to lift you up. I know there are those who will just use others but honestly it is worth the risk to find the people who want to help and love. I don't think your wrong for just wanting to protect yourself, it is very understandable. Choosing to be alone can feel less painful than being outcast and I'm so sorry you have had to feel so much hurt. There are many people… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/22 11:19 AM |
| 0 | Guys cannot claim they have low standards if they wont date overweight women.I don't understand why improvement would be a bad thing. The ability to learn and grow is one of the most beautiful aspects of being human. My husband and I bond a lot over our passion to improve ourselves and the world around us. Also you can accept someone without dating them. There are people I love that I also know I need to accept for who they are because they are very set in their views and emotional understandering. But that then comes with limits in my ability to have a fully open relati… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 05:28 PM |
| 5 | All of this back and forth is pointless, women will always have an extreme advantage ONLY because men are way hornier and therefore want and need women way more than women will ever want or need men. It all comes back to this very basic fact.This is very true. I used to not really see the appeal in sex and didn't even know women could have an orgasm until i was 20. My husband has had a healthy sexual drive since he was young and has kept that all his life. After I learned more about foreplay and different kinds of simulation my sexual drive has become quite a bit higher than his. I think the idea that men always have a higher sex drive can be harmful because it made me think something was wrong with me. If my husband wasn't feeling … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/22 04:30 AM |
| 3 | The "80-20" rule claim is incorrectThe average number of partners a women will have in her life is four to six. I think one night stands just kinda suck for most women. I knew very few in my life who ever had one and they didn't do it for long. Most women need at least some type of relationship. I think that is why the kink community does so well, they are still getting to know each other and bonding over a shared interest. Also the guy is more likely to care about your pleasure. A lot of men have no interest in really learning h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/22 01:42 PM |
| 2 | The vast majority of men would prefer a relationship to constantly trying for hookups. Women however only give their attention to the ones that only want sex.I think the ambition to just always want to be and do better is the most important. Its fulfilling to spend life learning how to be better communicators or more empathic. To keep improving the things around you and build a better life. Having a partner want to move forward with you is vital. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/06/22 12:32 AM |
| 7 | GSA (genetic sexual attraction) is so weird and seems to be against what evolution intended for us.I normally don't even like vulgar jokes but this almost made me spit out my orange juice laughing. My husband was at first very confused and then proud of me for finding it so funny xD. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/22 04:30 PM |
| 2 | New article: 50% of single US adults are not looking for relationships or casual datesI don't think that at all.. I have personally been abused by women. I have been through the system and around many abusive adults. I just think one non abusive parent is a million times better than two abusive ones. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/22 03:00 PM |
| 4 | New article: 50% of single US adults are not looking for relationships or casual datesI just have to say there are a thousand things worse than only having a mother... my mother was not great but my father is barely human. There are plenty of single moms who don't abuse their kids and they are much better off than those being starved and beaten by two parents.. It's not that I don't think children benefit from having both a mom and dad but abuse is a much bigger influencer to struggling in adult life. You would be very surprised how many docile adults are willing to hit and berat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/22 02:39 PM |
| 2 | Women do not have an inherently deep or complex sexualityThank you for all that information! This is very helpful and gives me a lot to look over. Also thank you for being kind, I could have tried to look deeper myself but neglected to do so. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/22 06:20 PM |
| 1 | Women do not have an inherently deep or complex sexualityThey gave the same tests to women as they did men and did not get that result. It's definitely a possibility, it has just only been proven that women can literally be registered as an object so far. But there is more we don't understand than we do so. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/22 05:42 PM |
| 1 | Women do not have an inherently deep or complex sexualityIt's just not the same. The studies are talking about literally viewing a women as an object. They way the brain processes them can be the same. That is not the case for men. I think both genders can be shallow though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/22 05:18 PM |
| 1 | Women do not have an inherently deep or complex sexualityhttps://api.nationalgeographic.com/distribution/public/amp/science/article/bikinis-women-men-objects-science I don't know how to find the actual study but they are finding women, unlike men, can literally be viewed as an object. In further studies they found that this can be found in women as well. But they are also viewing women as objects and not men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/22 04:50 PM |
| 4 | Women do not have an inherently deep or complex sexualityThis is such good advice. I had to learn how to do this stuff to make friends in general. When you overthink every action and reaction you miss truly connecting to those around you. I also know what it feels like to soak up the feelings of those around you, a lot of women do this, and its very preferable to feel relaxed and joyful. This can be really hard if you don't know how to open up or relax at all but is absolutely crucial. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/22 03:20 PM |
| 3 | is making a woman laugh one of the most important qualities for a man ?I think all personality traits are going to rank differently for each person. For me personally being funny is the number one draw for me to want to interact with anyone, followed by how aware someone is of the people around them. Laughter makes you overall happier and calmer. It's easier to build a relationship with a stranger after breaking the tension with such good feelings. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/22 07:42 PM |
| 1 | How many women here are actually in shape?I'm thin but definitely not in good shape. I just have an unhealthy relationship with food because of my OCD, sometimes I will become convinced that if I try to swallow food I will choke. I am working on adding more actual exercise because all I do now is stretching and meditation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/22 08:06 PM |
| 2 | Women how does your sexual attraction work?For me it is something that has to build. I can mostly tell when people are objectively attractive but nothing about a human body specifically turns me on. I also have some issues with facial blindness so maybe I just don't value bodies that way? I was instantly attracted physically to my husband but I already had an idea of him. As a kid he used to beat bullys up and actually talked to me some lol. I was very lonely back then. But even just seeing my husband doesn't turn me on like that. I need… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/22 07:36 PM |
| 2 | People who say men aren't vulnerable/don't open up emotionally/aren't as good at expressing/processing their emotions: what are examples of what this would actually look like?I think it mostly looks like someone who "wants" to handle everything on their own. My husband has had a hard time with this. He used to want to always say he was fine and could handle everything on his own. But eventually doing that will break you. There is a lot of joy and comfort that comes from sharing your entire self with someone. A lot of times that can end painfully but if you keep your heart open people will feel that and you will draw in similar people. I think being open is incredibly… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/22 05:41 PM |
| 2 | Sugar Dating RealityI am very happy some of it can resonate with you :). Also thank you for being kind. Talking to people is honestly scary and I treasure interactions that are positive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/22 03:32 PM |
| 2 | Sugar Dating RealityI knew him as a child for a bit. I used to follow him around because I was too shy to actually talk to people. He moved away one of the times children services was called and I didn't see him for years. He just happened to message me online as an adult and we never stopped talking. So to be honest I think I just got lucky. The men I dated before picked me because of how vulnerable I am. To meet people I would say to do what my therapist is having me do to make friends. Find people with similar i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/22 02:40 PM |
| 3 | Sugar Dating RealityThis is a very bad thought. I'm truly sorry your suffering so much though. Honestly what drew me to this sub is that my husband had some of the views I have seen here when he was young. I looked through his Facebook when we started dating heh. He would never deny how strong love can be now though. I do think there are many good points about issues that men can face though. Loneliness is so hard.. and men are taught to suffer alone. You don't have to be a man to be alone though. Many young girls … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/22 05:11 AM |
| 1 | Women. What percentage of men do you meet in your regular day to day basis that you are attracted to?I don't talk to a lot of new people in depth so none. I honestly find the human body kinda disgusting but a person's personality can change my view of them. I find it gross to even shake hands but then cant keep my hands off my husband. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/22 03:56 AM |
| 2 | The reason men think women's attraction is complicated and intricate and easily lost is because most of them are only on the cusp of being attractive to a womanIn my experience it mostly just draws in men that are abusive. I don't think anything about having social anxiety is really attractive, day to day it just causes a lot of problems. But I don't think it is really an unattractive thing either. It's just one of the things that person needs to overcome. I also don't think vulnerability is a weakness though.. I think it makes people stronger when they are sharing themselves with others. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/22 01:42 AM |
| 2 | Women who’ve dated tall men. Are you able to go back to shorter/average height men or have you?When I was younger I dated a guy who was like 6 foot 3 I think. I liked it a lot at first because I had low self esteem over guys telling me I was too tall, I'm 5 foot 8. After him I dated a guy who was a tiny bit shorter than me and then my husband is 5 foot 10. It might just be because I am obsessed with him but he is the perfect height. We always fit just right together and we can share some of our clothes too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/22 01:29 AM |
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