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Due for a small upgrade mainly some new tees. Will go with short and long sleeve henleys. Will go through and dump anything I don't wear or that is unattractive.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 10:50 PM
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You're right, I have wasted a lot of time. As for following the program; I'm losing weight (on my way to 90kg), hitting my training sessions (4 every week), eating to the plan (2,600 cals/day), work is great and I'm making more money than ever (my biggest lifetime red area- just landed a $50k deal which will come through in Jan), the kids are on track and all this shit is finally starting to make sense. I know I have a long way to go but fuck me, I'm on the right track. Maybe I don't articulate …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 08:16 AM
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What is it about positive affirmations that you believe is jerk-off nonsense?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/21 10:12 PM
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Think this also has a lot to do with diet. I know when I'm eating clean I rarely smell bad.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/21 11:21 PM
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OYS #40 Early 40s, 193cm, 97.8kgs- (lightest since April this year) Mistakes from this week: Too much thinking. Story of my life right now and ties into the last two OYS’s. Re-reading them is painful and I’m forcing this whole vision issue. It’s like I’m trying to figure everything out at once and the problem is so big that I can’t see the forest for the trees. I’m taking more action than I was and this week has been more productive than last. I have only focused on what I’m not doing rather tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/21 10:46 PM
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OYS #39 Still working on my vision but have largely left it to the side for now. This last week has been incredibly busy and I have other things that require more attention. After last weeks post I have been working my Nice Guy behaviours again. There's still a reticence to upset the apple cart so to speak and I still worry about what others would say if I were to do X - insert following mission here. I think this is a big factor in my lack of change. As I am identifying these limiting beliefs I…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 10:48 PM
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I have been switching too much between higher fat and high carbs on different days and finding myself in energy purgatory. Going to stick to high carb low fat for the remainder of this 60 DoD. I'm training multiple times on some days too (weights + martial arts) so this will be better for my recovery too. Aiming at 2,400 cals (200g P, 250g C, 66g F). Christmas party season has started here and I'm making a point to drive to all of mine which will limit any alcohol consumption.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 10:27 PM
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OYS #38 From my last OYS three weeks ago I spent the better part of a week trying to and failing to define my vision. I have many goals which tie into tit but the overarching vision itself is elusive. I obviously spent way too much time thinking about this and less time actually doing anything about it. I re-injured my shoulder and ankle, got sick and three weeks later here we are. One think I do know is that my vision and the actions needed to take it will require huge change. I had previously …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 10:56 PM
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In! I'm working back from shoulder and ankle injuries so my commitment is to rebuild my strength while dropping 6kg (99kg right now). Running a 3 day a week A/B full body program. Squats/Incline Bench/Chins day A and RDL/OHP/BB Rows day B. Abs and arms as optional extras. Weights are light but that's ok for now. Working from home with a home gym has made me lazy so I'm going with The Rock for two reasons. Firstly to get my ass out of bed early (5.00) and actually go to the gym (I also have a gym…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 10:27 PM
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OYS #37- RESET- Week 6 Stats- Age: 42- 193cm – 98.6kg (Down 0.5kg)- Goal of 90kg. Relationship: Wife 40- Together 21 years- Married 17 years- Kids 11 & 9 Read: Dead bedroom fix, NMMNG x 2, MMSLP, MAP, Saving a low sex marriage, Rational Male, The Way of the Superior Man, Bang, Attract X- Psychic and Mental Seduction, Own Your Shit- Conquer Life, Man Up, 12 Rules for Life, Atomic Habits, Models In addition to reading the sidebar I am listening to TWOTSM. I read this two years ago and read it quic…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/21 11:58 PM
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When this happens I have been focusing on other things but there is definite resentment there. Resetting during the evening is a great idea. Will also help me get out of her head when initiating. Like you said initiate without expecting success. Rinse and repeat.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 03:24 AM
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OYS #36- RESET- Week 5 Stats- Age: 42- 193cm – 99.1kg (Down 0.2kg)- Goal of 90kg. Lifting- Squat- 90kg*5, Bench- 57.5kg*5, Deadlift- 100kg*1 Relationship: Wife 40- Together 21 years- Married 17 years- Kids 11 & 9 Read: Dead bedroom fix, NMMNG x 2, MMSLP, MAP, Saving a low sex marriage, Rational Male, The Way of the Superior Man, Bang, Attract X- Psychic and Mental Seduction, Own Your Shit- Conquer Life, Man Up, 12 Rules for Life, Atomic Habits, Models Finished Models audiobook yesterday. Really …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 11:51 PM
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OYS #35- RESET- Week 4 Stats- Age: 42- 193cm – 99.3kg (Down 1.1kg)- Goal of 90kg. Lifting- Squat- 80kg*5, Bench- 50kg*5 (reintegrating lifting into base building block after injuries) Relationship: Wife 40- Together 21 years- Married 17 years- Kids 11 & 9 Read: Dead bedroom fix, NMMNG x 2, MMSLP, MAP, Saving a low sex marriage, Rational Male, The Way of the Superior Man, Bang, Attract X- Psychic and Mental Seduction, Own Your Shit- Conquer Life, Man Up, 12 Rules for Life, Atomic Habits Finished …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 09:39 PM
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OYS #34- RESET- Week 3 Stats- Age: 42- 193cm - 100.4kg (Down 0.3kg)- Goal of 90kg. Lifting- Running a base building block before resuming heavy lifting. Week 2 of 5 before heaevy lifting resumes. Relationship: Wife 40- Together 21 years- Married 17 years- Kids 11 & 9 Read: Dead bedroom fix, NMMNG x 2, MMSLP, MAP, Saving a low sex marriage, Rational Male, The Way of the Superior Man, Bang, Attract X- Psychic and Mental Seduction, Own Your Shit- Conquer Life, Man Up, 12 Rules for Life Have shelved…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/21 12:11 AM
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Ah I've missed you too mate. You're right. I didn't add my goal weight here. It hasn't changed though. Still 90kgs.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/21 10:51 PM
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OYS #33- Stats- Age: 42- 193cm - 100.7kg (Down 1.3kg) Lifting- Running a basebuilding block before resuming heavy lifting. Relationship: Wife 40- Together 21 years- Married 17 years- Kids 11 & 9 Read: Dead bedroom fix, NMMNG x 2, MMSLP, MAP, Saving a low sex marriage, Rational Male, The Way of the Superior Man, Bang, Attract X- Psychic and Mental Seduction, Own Your Shit- Conquer Life, Man Up, 12 Rules for Life Just bought Models and will start reading this week. RESET- Week 2 Physical- Down 1.3…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/21 02:18 AM
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"Do you lack mental discipline?" Yes. That's changing. "You know that 5×5 StrongLifts starts with the empty barbell, right?" Trained 4 days last week plus shoulder rehab. That's going ok. Keto is not for me. Have used it successfully in the past to drop weight but it's a short term fix. Eating like an adult is a better approach for me. Simply don't each stupid shit, get enough protein and we're good. "Doesn't matter, got Laid." True. I know the steps I need to take. It's just taking action from …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/21 12:50 AM
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OYS #32- Stats- Age: 42- 193cm - 102kg (Fat Cunt) Lifting- Returning from injuries- Deadlift- 120kg x 5, Squat- 120kg x 1, Bench- 40kg x 8 Relationship: Wife 40- Together 21 years- Married 17 years- Kids 11 & 9 Read: Dead bedroom fix, NMMNG x 2, MMSLP, MAP, Saving a low sex marriage, Rational Male, The Way of the Superior Man, Bang, Attract X- Psychic and Mental Seduction, Own Your Shit- Conquer Life, Man Up, 12 Rules for Life RESET- I have been putting off posting here for the last couple of mo…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/21 12:36 AM
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You've got the main and side effects switched. 100%. Yes I do. Thanks again for your time. This would be painfully obvious to you as it is to me now reading my comments back with new perspective. You seem committed to a dancing monkey phase. I think it's an unnecessary waste of time, but it's your zoo, not mine! Nah just another faulty assumption on my part. I'd much rather avoid that pain.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/20 06:27 AM
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"Operant conditioning my wife" is a misguided mental model that flirts with a Dancing Monkey mentality. A much better goal is to operant-condition yourself to value your own time and attention. So it's really a mental shift in the intenion of the condititioning. Conditioning me also gets the desired result from her (or any other woman) and the nice side effect is putting me on the path to life abundance. I had assumed that everyone has to be a dancing monkey for at least a small window of time. …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/20 03:44 AM
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Great advice. Never go full retard.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/20 08:28 PM
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Make sure when you do this, it's natural and not the Ultimate Covert Contract. Don't do it in a "keeping score" sense, but rather a "I'm going to hang out with you because you're being pleasant and it makes me feel good to be around you" sense. Thanks mate. I was going to use this initially with hard no's so I'm not sitting there rewarding unwanted behaviour. Ther rest of the time my wife is 95% pleasant to be around.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/20 06:07 AM
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OYS #32 Stats- Age: 41- 193cm 94.4kg (down 0.6kg), Waist- 35.4” (down 0.1 of an inch) Lifting- Squat- 140kg, Deadlift- 170kg, Incline Bench- 95kg, Standing Press- 60kg Diet and Alcohol- On track! Dread Level- 2 Relationship: Wife 39- Together 20 years- Married 16 years- Kids 11 & 8 Read: NMMNG x 2, MMSLP x 2, MAP, Saving a low sex marriage, Rational Male, The Way of the Superior Man, Dead bedroom fix, Bang, Attract X- Psychic and Mental Seduction, Own Your Shit- Conquer Life, Man Up, 12 Rules fo…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/20 11:11 PM
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Often just watching it to the point where I forgot about the text and realize later that hadn't replied. Great point and that's exactly where I'm at right now. Text comes in, take a breath, let the anxiety happen and ignore it (the text). I think that's the way you truly become comfortable with the anxiety response which is by acknowledging it and letting it happen and not just ignoring it like I used to do.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/20 11:32 PM
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If you're struggling with patellar tendonitis I would strongly suggest checking out kneesovertoesguy on IG. Some of his exercises are unorthodox but the success rate is incredible. I had tendonitis and tracking issues for years after 30+ years of basketball and had to quit the game multiple times. A couple of weeks of his training and I could jump and run all day. It was that quick for me and that response is not uncommon.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/20 11:30 PM
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You’ve been here over a year and only gotten fatter: “ Own Your Shit Weekly - October 29, 2019 bluepillbandit 1y OYS #1 Stats Age: 40- 6'3" 93kg”. You’re an undisciplined, defensive liar wasting your life and everyone’s time here. On Nov 17th you bullshitted all sorts of goals like quitting drinking, losing weight, “exercising” for 10 mins per day, etc, and after just one week you gave up! Why don’t you try actually doing something instead of bullshitting yourself and journaling? Mate if you're …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/20 06:53 AM
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OYS #31 Stats- Age: 41- 193cm 95kg (down 0.5kg), Waist- 35.5” (down 0.3 of an inch) Lifting- Squat- 140kg, Deadlift- 170kg, Incline Bench- 95kg, Standing Press- 60kg Dread Level- 2 Relationship: Wife 39- Together 20 years- Married 16 years- Kids 10 & 8 Read: Dead bedroom fix, NMMNG, MMSLP, MAP, Saving a low sex marriage, Rational Male, The Way of the Superior Man, Bang, Attract X- Psychic and Mental Seduction, Own Your Shit- Conquer Life, Man Up, 12 Rules for Life Reading: NMMNG- 50% No More Mr …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/20 10:50 PM
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Mate go and post on /r/askmrp and put some more detail in there. Lots more detail. You'll likely get the same sidebar response you already have but this isn't the place for those questions.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/20 10:07 AM
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Nice guy written all over this text and why is this post like 90% about your wife? You're right. My early OYS's were lacking in meaningful detail and I'm trying find that balance. Maybe I've overcorrected and am now adding detail for details sake. There is a lot about my wife in there but I'm trying to come at it from my perspective by using those examples. Reading it back again there is a lot of mental masturbation going on. ​ If you had to point a finger at one thing that is really holding you…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/20 02:51 AM
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Thanks mate. That makes far more sense.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/20 02:25 AM
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Needy is probably right. Monk mode can't hurt. Not like I'm going to miss out on any sex right now. keeping up your link Can you explain this mate?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/20 12:13 AM
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Cont. Family- Stepped up to coach my daughters sports team. Old coach had to pull out and it was going to be a hodge podge of parents helping out on different weeks which would be shit for consistency and terrible for the moral and skills of the team. I’ve wanted to help out previously but until now there was no real opportunity. Threw my hat in the ring and they couldn’t be happier. All the mums already calling me coach and telling each other how great it will be. More importantly though is I h…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/20 11:22 PM
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OYS #30- Been at this nearly 13 months Dread Level- 3 Stats- Age: 41- 193cm 95.5kg (down 0.5kg), Waist- 35.8” (down 0.7 of an inch) Lifting- Squat- 140kg, Deadlift- 170kg, Incline Bench- 95kg, Standing Press- 60kg Relationship: Wife 39- Together 20 years- Married 16 years- Kids 10 & 8 Read: Dead bedroom fix, NMMNG, MMSLP, MAP, Saving a low sex marriage, Rational Male, The Way of the Superior Man, Bang, Attract X- Psychic and Mental Seduction, Own Your Shit- Conquer Life, Man Up, 12 Rules for Lif…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/20 11:21 PM
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Dude- this might be the first week you’ve written down the same goal (90kg), congrats. But what is going to get you there is consist calorie tracking and eating under your limit. Thanks mate. That's exactly what I'm doing. As per last week, 2,400 cals a day. I think you’re an alcoholic, and you couldn’t even make it 30 days dry, and you “had a serious talk” with your wife too. The clear sign of an alcoholic is lying, all the time , about everything. All you do is write bullshit here and accompli…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/20 06:09 AM
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OYS #29 Stats- Age: 40- 193cm 96kg (down 1kg), Waist- 36.5” (down ½ an inch) Lifting- Squat- 140kg, Front Squat- 130kg, Deadlift- 170kg, Incline Bench- 95kg, Standing Press- 60kg Relationship: Wife 39- Together 20 years- Married 16 years- Kids 10 & 8 Read: Dead bedroom fix, NMMNG, MMSLP, MAP, Saving a low sex marriage, Rational Male, The Way of the Superior Man, Bang, Attract X- Psychic and Mental Seduction, Own Your Shit- Conquer Life, Man Up Reading: 12 Rules- Jordan Peterson (80%) Mission- To…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 10:55 PM
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OYS #28 Stats- Age: 40- 193cm 97kg, Waist- 37” (up slightly but to be expected after adding carbs back in to diet) Lifting- Squat- 140kg, Front Squat- 130kg, Deadlift- 170kg, Incline Bench- 95kg, Standing Press- 60kg Relationship: Wife 39- Together 20 years- Married 16 years- Kids 10 & 8 Read: Dead bedroom fix, NMMNG, MMSLP, MAP, Saving a low sex marriage, Rational Male, Own Your Shit- Conquer Life, Man Up- Bedrous Keuilian Reading: 12 Rules- Jordan Peterson (70%) Mission- Have freedom and be au…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/20 11:26 PM
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This is good feedback and from what I have posted in the last year I can understand your point of view. I am taking a different approach though and building my foundation again so the next 12 months don't look like the last 12. Edit- I am working on my 3 month MAP and will post more concrete goals in the next OYS.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/20 07:50 PM
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Yes. I did write that. It was referring to the time since my previous OYS. My goal right now is to get consistency and open are with greater purpose. That might not seem like a great goal to you but it's what I need. Other goals will follow and I'm ok with that. I had a full medical mid year when I got my test levels checked. No issues. Liver function is fine.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/20 07:20 PM
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You may need to revisit the definition of alcoholism. 2 drinks on 2 different nights of the week does not meet the criteria. In the last 3 weeks that's about 4 or 5 days with a couple of drinks.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/20 06:05 AM
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I don’t know your history, but it could also be that your improvement itself was novel and causing attraction for a while. If your improvement has leveled off, the novelty is gone. Thanks mate. This makes huge amounts of sense.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/20 03:29 AM
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Was your kino playful or needy? If my wife shrugs off kino, I’m probably going to slap her ass. If she accepts kino, I’m probably going to slap her ass. The point is that I don’t really care. Needy and forced. What happened to your attractiveness in the last 3 months? I am leading a little less and doing a little less. That could be it. She is about 3-4kgs heavier and is less confident in herself so maybe I'm reading into it too much and need to just do it anyway. Or maybe I just need to not car…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/20 11:38 PM
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OYS #27 Stats- Age: 40- 193cm 96.8kg, Waist- 36.5” Lifting- Squat- 140kg, Front Squat- 130kg, Deadlift- 170kg, Incline Bench- 95kg, Standing Press- 60kg Relationship: Wife 39- Together 20 years- Married 16 years- Kids 10 & 8 Read: Dead bedroom fix, NMMNG, MMSLP, MAP, Saving a low sex marriage, Rational Male, Own Your Shit- Conquer Life, Man Up- Bedrous Keuilian Reading: 12 Rules- Jordan Peterson (30%) Mission- Be a strong, authentic and powerful man so I can provide a life that I want and to gui…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/20 10:46 PM
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You care too much what other people think mate.
/r/askMRP26/10/20 08:01 PM
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If that's where your head is at don't get one. Simple. If you find something of meaning and still want it in 6-12 months then go for it. Also, trying out a henna tattoo to see what reactions you get is gay. There are other ways to increase your SMV that just require more work.
/r/askMRP26/10/20 07:51 PM
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In choosing to play this game, what do you do when fashions change? French cuffs and added jewellery are great and all but you can always pocket the cuff links and roll up your sleeves.
/r/askMRP26/10/20 07:37 PM
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Great post! I have always judged myself on my "potential" and it's a huge limiting factor.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/20 07:23 PM
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Thanks mate. That makes perfect sense.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/20 04:23 AM
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That’s because you have motivation instead of discipline. You go 100% when you’re feeling motivated but completely stop as soon as the motivation dissipates, which it inevitably will. Lightbulb moment. Thanks mate. This applies to so may areas of my life right now. Someone who can see the holes in your plan that you are missing? Fix your mindset and you’ll see what a gift that is. I used to think that too. The negative is his default response to any plan. He does have valuable insight once we ge…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/20 11:50 PM
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Thanks again mate. AA will be first in line if I get back to that place.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/20 11:45 PM
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Good call. Need to get my head out of my own ass. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/20 11:43 PM
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Thanks mate. News is off and I already feel better. Noted on STFU too.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/20 11:42 PM
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You're right. Reading back through my was painful noticing how many excuses I have been making.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/20 11:40 PM
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I agree. I definitely have a problem with drinking. I'm the same way with food too. I have binge eaten for as long as I can remember. I have my food under control for now. It all comes back to frame. Drinking and eating in excess is in my wife's frame not mine. That's something that took me a long time to realise and accept.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/20 03:09 AM
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OYS #26 Stats- Age: 40- 193cm 95.7kg, Waist- 36”- Lifting- Squat- 140kg, Deadlift- 170kg, Incline Bench- 95kg, Standing Press- 60kg Relationship: Wife 39- Together 20 years- Married 16 years- Kids 10 & 8 Read: Dead bedroom fix, NMMNG, MMSLP, MAP, Saving a low sex marriage, Rational Male, Own Your Shit- Conquer Life, Man Up- Bedrous Keuilian Reading: MMSLP, NMMNG Mission- Be a strong, authentic and powerful man so I can provide a life that I want and to guide my children to do the same. Notes: Ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 11:32 PM
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Thanks man. I really appreciate the response. This is quite similar to the approach of /u/Sepean . Be aware and modify your behaviour accordingly. It's very easy to have a malicious mindset when dealing with shit tests and I've felt that recently. I am very aware that my anger is entirely directed at myself and is mostly ego protection. Stopping that is much harder however. Like you guys say though. Be aware and modify accordingly.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/20 02:05 AM
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OYS #25 Stats- Age: 40- 193cm 97kg, Waist- 35”- Down 1kg Lifting- Squat- 120kg, Deadlift- 170kg, Incline Bench- 95kg, Standing Press- 60kg Relationship: Wife 39- Together 20 years- Married 16 years- Kids 10 & 7 Read: Dead bedroom fix, NMMNG, MMSLP, MAP, Saving a low sex marriage, Rational Male, Own Your Shit- Conquer Life, Man Up- Bedrous Keuilian Reading: WISNIFG – started again from scratch Mission- Work in progress. Notes from this week: Solid week. I’m more motivated than ever right now. Sti…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/20 02:55 AM
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That's all that counts. Go for six but understand the - reality - is that your SO doesn't fucking care. Do it for you. Maintain the discipline. And know that 6 is fucking hard. I have realised recently that this isn't a huge area for me and while I need to keep my foot on the gas I'm not going to see any significant improvements in attention because of it. Like you said I need to keep it going for me. Depending on how low your iron is there are some killer organic sources of buffalo and elk live…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 01:42 AM
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Clarify dude's comment on your weight. I'm not off any wagon. If anything I've been more aware of what I eat. I have been sitting between 2,500-2800 cals per day the last few weeks. 250g protein on average. Weight has been between 95 and 98 during that period. Waist has been between 35 and 36 during that period and is currently sitting at 35" at 98kg. I'm eating between 200-250g of carbs per day so the fluctuation and additional weight is probably mostly water. Visually I have the top 4 abs visi…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/20 03:09 AM
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Less than a month ago you reported 95kg weight, now you’re up 3 (6.6lbs)?? You get your dick wet 1 time and you’re off the wagon? Off the wagon? I can only go by what the scales and tape measure say. You're welcome to come over and measurement me yourself. You are much better writing specific actions, stick with writing down the goal, reviewing if you made it or not, then what you need to do. Like do you have a weight goal? What is it? A protein goal? What is it? Stop with the vague “plan” like …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/20 10:36 PM
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Yeah that's meant to say the last 5 weeks.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/20 10:14 PM
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OYS #24 Stats- Age: 40- 193cm 98kg, Waist- 35.5” Lifting- Squat- 120kg, Deadlift- 165kg, Bench- 100kg, Standing Press- 60kg Relationship: Wife 39- Together 20 years- Married 16 years- Kids 10 & 7 Read: Dead bedroom fix, NMMNG, MMSLP, MAP, Saving a low sex marriage, Rational Male, Own Your Shit- Conquer Life, Man Up- Bedrous Keuilian Reading: WISNIFG (50%)- on hold Re-reading: MMSLP- 25%- on hold Mission- Work in progress. Notes from this week: Finally got angry enough at myself to take some much…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/20 07:12 AM
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With regards to rule 9, I'd suggest that you write your post, then reread it and look for every time you used a "she" and try to rewrite it from your point of view, your perspective, your actions, your thoughts, your desires. I have been doing that with my OYS to help remind me that it's about me, not her. Thanks mate. I will keep that in mind.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/20 12:39 AM
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You're going to get a ban for rule 9 tomorrow. Self awareness doesn't matter because the idea is to unfuck your mindset. No stress. I wanted to show a clear example of AWALT land. I'll see out my ban and it won't happen again.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/20 12:38 AM
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Did Sepean have to put your penis in her vagina? That's where its meant to go??? No wonder I've been having problems.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/20 12:32 AM
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OYS #23 Stats- Age: 40- 193cm 95kg, Waist- 35.5” Lifting- Squat- 120kg, Deadlift- 165kg, Bench- 90kg, Standing Press- 60kg Relationship: Wife 39- Together 20 years- Married 16 years- Kids 10 & 7 Read: Dead bedroom fix, NMMNG, MMSLP, MAP, Saving a low sex marriage, Rational Male, Own Your Shit- Conquer Life, Reading: WISNIFG (50%)- on hold Re-reading: MMSLP- 25%- on hold Mission- Work in progress. Highlights from the week: Mini FR- This is slight deviation from the usual OYS process but I feel it…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/20 10:02 AM
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Good call. Duly noted.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/20 11:46 AM
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I can understand your vision. Getting your joints and mobility sorted is definitely a key and I cannot recommend that group highly enough.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/20 10:49 PM
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He has a paid service but gives a ton of info away for free. If you want to plug his knee stuff into another program I would suggest paying for one month and getting as much info as you can.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/20 10:40 PM
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I’m in great shape, but the cardio I do on my own is steady state and low impact. I’m trying to protect my joint health. Two hours of the casual sport messed up my knees. Low impact cardio won't protect your joints. It just means they're weak. Check out The Athletic Truth Group or kneesovertoesguy on Instagram. I'm over 40 with 35 years of basketball and 20 of martial arts and my knees have never been better. You need to keep strengthening these joints to the point that you can play anything wit…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/20 04:52 AM
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Get down to 200lbs and Evaluate. -Get comfortable with pre-covid lifts. BP: 225 (5x5) <==met Squat: 225 (10x5) OHP: 135 (5x5) deadlift: 315 (1x5) <==met. Once all are “met” I’m not going to add any weight. I will be going for more reps instead, to preserve my joints for the long run. You're the second mid 30s guy in this thread talking about not lifting heavier to try and protect his joints. I'm over 40 now and my joints are better than ever. Even after 35 years of basketball and 20 years of mar…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/20 04:47 AM
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OYS #22 Stats- Age: 40- 193cm 95kg, Waist- 36”, BF- ? Lifting- Squat- 120kg, Deadlift- 165kg, Bench- 90kg, Standing Press- 60kg Relationship: Wife 39- Together 20 years- Married 16 years- Kids 10 & 7 Read: Dead bedroom fix, NMMNG, MMSLP, Saving a low sex marriage, Rational Male, Reading: WISNIFG (50%), MMSLP- 25% Mission- Work in progress. Highlights from the week: This week was ok but there’s still so much I can do better. I need to take the wins but not be complacent with any progress I have m…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/20 01:39 AM
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Wait, you hit all your morning routines in the past week when prior you hit none? That’s a big change! No I didn't hit any morning routines. The entire week was a shitshow. Beware going Rambo, it’s an admission you’re a scared , confused bitch that can’t handle modern life which is the easiest time to be alive. You’re probably going Rambo because you’re in your head all the time, ignoring/escaping reality and your jolted when you do have to interact with wife. This is my reading too. I'm in my h…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/20 05:48 AM
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OYS #21 Stats- Age: 40- 193cm 96kg, Waist- 36”, BF- ? Lifting- Testing maxes this week for new programming next week Relationship: Wife 39- Together 20 years- Married 16 years- Kids 10 & 7 Read: Dead bedroom fix, NMMNG, MMSLP, MAP, Saving a low sex marriage, Rational Male, Own your shit- conquer life Reading: How to win friends and influence people (audiobook-60%). WISNIFG (50%) To Read: NMMNG, MMSLP, Sidebar Mission- Work in progress. What I Learned This Week: Reading an older post from /u/stra…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/20 02:35 AM
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I’m glad to see you can admit failing on the morning routine- and the only damaged is your ego, but I hope you gain the confidence to set a goal and work toward it instead of wallowing in fear and passivity over fear of failing. It’s ok to fail because most of the time you can handle the consequences. Own your choices. Addressing this is such a huge priority for me right now. I can vividly see how this fear has been holding me back over the years. In so many areas. Awesome to see bed time going …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/20 01:36 AM
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OYS #20 Stats- Age: 40- 193cm 94.9kg, Waist- 35.75”, BF- ? (waist down 1” this week) Lifting- Bench- 5x10@70kg Relationship: Wife 39- Together 20 years- Married 16 years- Kids 10 & 7 Read: Dead bedroom fix, NMMNG, MMSLP, Saving a low sex marriage, Rational Male, Reading: How to win friends and influence people (audiobook-60%). WISNIFG (50%), Own your shit- conquer Life (65%- a fairly high level cover on all MRP topics. So far doesn’t allow the deep work to be done though- it is however a good re…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/20 02:50 AM
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Thanks mate. I appreciate the feedback. It all helps. Yes lots of wasted time. This I will have to refine over time. Son can't walk the dog by himself. 40kg dog and 35kg boy. I enjoy that time though. Kids sleep times are a result of my drunk captain-ness and is high on my my priorities.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/20 10:38 AM
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Ok. This is my morning routine and I will do this every day. Morning routine- 6am Wake, meditate (15 mins), walk dog (30 mins) 7am Gym 8am kids ready for school Current Evening routine- 5pm finish work and walk dog (30-60 mins) 6pm dinner, study, tv 8pm get kids ready for bed 8.30-10pm- kids finally asleep and I can move on Goal Evening routine (as far as I can get right now) 6pm Dinner and family activity (just me and kids is ok) 7pm kids bath and getting ready for bed 7.30 kids in bed- read to…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/20 10:00 AM
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Fair call and challenge accepted. I'll do a month then reassess with the information I have then.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/20 09:51 AM
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I am making steady progress even if it isn't at the speed that I wish. I need to remember to factor this into my internal value measurements and stop thinking in "end state" terms when evaluating myself. I'm signed up for the infinite game and not the finite one. If every day I am 1% better than the day before, 1% closer to my current goals/MAP/Future Me/Mission, then I have momentum and I need to acknowledge that that in itself is an accomplishment, no matter how rookie it may be or how far my …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/20 03:17 AM
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OYS #19 Stats- Age: 40- 193cm 96kg, Waist- 36.75”, BF- ? Lifting- doing ATG (athletic truth group) training for legs and two upper body workouts a week Relationship: Wife 39- Together 20 years- Married 16 years- Kids 10 & 7 Read: Dead bedroom fix, NMMNG, MMSLP, Saving a low sex marriage, Rational Male, Reading: How to win friends and influence people (60%). WISNIFG (50%), Own your shit- conquer Life (55%- a fairly high level cover on all MRP topics. So far doesn’t allow the deep work to be done …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/20 03:09 AM
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OYS #19 Stats- Age: 40- 193cm 96kg, Waist- 36.75”, BF- ? Lifting- doing ATG (athletic truth group) training for legs and two upper body workouts a week Relationship: Wife 39- Together 20 years- Married 16 years- Kids 10 & 7 Read: Dead bedroom fix, NMMNG, MMSLP, Saving a low sex marriage, Rational Male, Way of the Superior Man, Mindful Attraction Plan Reading: How to win friends and influence people (60%). WISNIFG (50%), Own your shit- conquer Life (55%- a fairly high level cover on all MRP topic…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/20 02:47 AM
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Is this true? No, of course it's not true. Drinking does something to you. That thing that it does does gives you some result. That result is something you like. That's how our brains work. It goes "hey remember that thing we did? We liked that. Let's do it again." In your case I smelled BS because you literally spent the first part of your OYS going over all the things alcohol does for you...lead to sex sometimes, led to porn binges, led to hiding from behaviors, etc. And then moved right on to…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/20 01:46 AM
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Thanks mate. I'm feeling stronger and stronger about the "why" every day.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/20 12:58 AM
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Ok. Game on. Bullshit. Let's not lie to ourselves about this, because it's going to come back and haunt you later. Drinking does benefit you. It does help you achieve your goals. But the benefit is supporting faulty mindsets that you currently have and the goals are short term, covert contract ridden goals. From a broad goals based perspective, I would do far better in achieving any and all of them without any alcohol. Work, getting jacked, family, etc. In the present there is no current goal th…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/20 04:28 AM
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You're right. They're definitely more goals than a mission. Back to the drawing board on this one.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/20 03:03 AM
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Good call. This is hugely relatable to food for me as well. Just have a piece of cake, etc.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/20 03:01 AM
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Relationship- Family- Kids are on their way back to school and transitioning in over the next two weeks. I have been spending more time with them of an evening but still need to get out of my own head. Wife- Initiated 3x. No sex. As mentioned above I struggle talking about sex or admitting that I am a sexual person. Really struggling to do the work, better myself and be that fun, outgoing guy. I am going to say what I want though and I did just that last night. I would normally not want to rock …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/20 01:07 AM
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OYS #18 Stats Age: 40- 6'3" 96.7kg (down 1.3kg), Waist- ?- BF- ? Lifting- doing ATG (athletic truth group) training for legs and two upper body workouts a week Relationship: Wife 39- Together 20 years- Married 16 years- Kids 10 & 7 Read: Dead bedroom fix Reading: How to win friends and influence people (50%). WISNIFG (50%), Own your shit- conquer Life (45%- a fairly high level cover on all MRP topics. So far doesn’t allow the deep work to be done though- it is however a good read for a short ter…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/20 01:07 AM
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Today is day 2 of no drinking. No sugar or junk either. Aiming for 30 days minimum for both. They are a lot of uncomfortable questions but that's necessary right? I'm going to take those questions and add them into my OYS. I'll also get back onto NMMNG. I've never read a book that made me feel worse which shows the work that needs to be done. Thanks. As far as initiating every day goes I'm going to take yours and u/dust2dust45's advice. I was approaching this purely from a sales perspective. So …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/20 06:11 AM
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You're right. I have approached MRP so far with a minimum of effort. Working on my routine now.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/20 05:59 AM
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For me initiating every night and not getting butthurt about rejection is an accomplishment. That's step 1. I'm that guy that would arrange for the kids to be looked after, cook a beautiful dinner, arrange for a nights worth of drinks and then crack the shits when she didn't want sex at the end of it. Covert contracts and ego validation wrapped up in one nice guy package. Repeat this behaviour along with lying about finances and it's not hard to see where things went wrong. I can already see whe…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/20 04:48 AM
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OYS #17 Stats Age: 40- 6'3" 98kg, Waist- 37”- BF- nudging 20% Lifting- Deadlift 1RM- 170kg, Bench- 95kg, Squat- 130kg Relationship: Wife 39- Together 20 years- Married 16 years- Kids 10 & 7 Read: Dead bedroom fix- a very high level coverage on MRP topics. Reading: How to win friends and influence people (30%). WISNIFG (50%) Mission- To be a leader and subject matter expert in my industry. Be a multi-lingual leader and centre of influence within my community. Be a leader and protector of my famil…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/20 03:06 AM
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OYS #16 Stats Age: 40- 6'3" 96kg, Waist- 37”- BF- nudging 20% Lifting- Deadlift 1RM- 170kg, Bench- 95kg, Squat- 130kg Relationship: Wife 39- Together 20 years- Married 16 years- Kids 10 & 7 Read: Doesn’t matter. I’m starting all of this again. Reading: MMSLP (this was the first huge spark of motivation for me so I'm going back the well), then WISNIFG then NMMNG. Mission- To be a leader and subject matter expert in my industry. Be a multi-lingual leader and centre of influence within my community…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/20 02:55 AM
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Yeah you're probably right. When I first did this last year I tried to set some mission that was bigger than it needed to be and it ended up being an arbitrary set of boundaries for me that eventually had no relevance. I do see that it can be a fluid position. I will get to work on putting it together.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/20 01:08 PM
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OYS #15 Stats Age: 40- 6'3" 97kg, Waist- 37”- BF- nudging 20% Lifting- Deadlift 1RM- 170kg, Bench- 95kg, Squat- 130kg Relationship: Wife 39- Together 20 years- Married 16 years- Kids 10 & 7 Read: Doesn’t matter. I’m starting all of this again. Reading: WISNIFG. Mission- Too early to concern myself with this Hard Reset. I am starting from scratch. I realised I was approaching this with a cup full mentality. So much of what I was reading made perfect sense to me. It was logical and almost so basic…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/20 04:33 AM
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OYS #14 Stats Age: 40- 6'3" 93kg, Waist- 35”- BF- ? Lifting- Deadlift 1RM- 170kg, Bench- 85 Relationship: Wife 39- Together 20 years- Married 16 years- Kids 10 & 7 Recovering Drunk Captain/FO to Wife Captain. Read: MMSLP, NMMNG, The Rational Male, MAP, The Way of the Superior Man, Bang, Stress Less Accomplish More. Reading: WISNIFG- Read 20 more pages since last week. Mission- To be a powerful, complete man so I can help others be the best versions of themselves. Physical/Diet- Moving to a meat …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/20 02:23 AM
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OYS #13 Stats Age: 40- 6'3" 93kg, Waist- 35”- BF- ? Lifting- Deadlift 1RM- 170kg, Bench- 85 Relationship: Wife 39- Together 20 years- Married 16 years- Kids 10 & 7 Recovering Drunk Captain/FO to Wife Captain. Read: MMSLP, NMMNG, The Rational Male, MAP, The Way of the Superior Man, Bang, Stress Less Accomplish More. Reading: WISNIFG- I've been lazy on my reading. Book to be finished by next week. Mission- To be a powerful, complete man so I can help others be the best versions of themselves. Phys…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/20 03:11 AM
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OYS #12 Stats Age: 40- 6'3" 94kg, Waist- 35.5”- BF- 18% (nothing here has changed in the last 3 weeks) Lifting- Deadlift 1RM- 170kg, Bench- 60kg x 10 Relationship: Wife 39- Together 20 years- Married 16 years- Kids 10 & 7 Recovering Drunk Captain/FO to Wife Captain. Read: MMSLP, NMMNG, The Rational Male, MAP, The Way of the Superior Man, Bang, Stress Less Accomplish More. Reading: WISNIFG Mission- To be a powerful, complete man so I can help others be the best versions of themselves. Physical/Di…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/20 11:32 PM
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OYS #11 Stats Age: 40- 6'3" 94kg, Waist- 35.5”- BF- 18% Lifting- Deadlift 1RM- 170kg, Bench- 60kg x 10, Ring Dips- BW x 5 Relationship: Wife 39- Together 20 years- Married 16 years- Kids 10 & 7 Recovering Drunk Captain/FO to Wife Captain. Read: MMSLP, NMMNG, The Rational Male, MAP, The Way of the Superior Man, Bang, Stress Less Accomplish More. Reading: WISNIFG MMSL – sections 3, 4, & 9 Mission- To be a powerful, complete man so I can help others be the best versions of themselves. Physical/Diet…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 11:08 PM
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OYS #10 Stats Age: 40- 6'3" 95kg, Waist- 36”- BF- 17-20% Deadlift 1RM- 170kg Relationship: Wife 39- Together 20 years- Married 16 years- Kids 10 & 7 Recovering Drunk Captain/FO to Wife Captain. Read: MMSLP, NMMNG, The Rational Male, MAP, The Way of the Superior Man, Bang, Stress Less Accomplish More. Reading: WISNIFG Interesting note that I need to rethink my end size goal. One night last week I topped out at 97kgs. Heaviest I've been in about 5 years. Although it wasn't muscle I was still carbe…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/20 03:00 AM
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OYS #9 Stats Age: 40- 6'3" 94kg, Waist- 36”- BF- 17-20% Deadlift 1RM- 170kg Relationship: Wife 39- Together 20 years- Married 16 years- Kids 10 & 7 Recovering Drunk Captain/FO to Wife Captain. Read: MMSLP, NMMNG, The Rational Male, MAP, The Way of the Superior Man, Bang, Stress Less Accomplish More. Reading: WISNIFG NMMNG MMSL – sections 3, 4, & 9 I actually went back and read Steel’s Detailed Guide to the Married Red Pill again. I remember this was the first thing I read from the sidebar but I …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 11:24 PM
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> How did staying sober and not stuffing your fat face distance you from your kids? Sounds more like projection of how it made you feel. Yes could be projecting. They probably didn't notice at all. > So you don't lift for a few months then immediately decide to go for a 1 Rep Max. Sounds pretty fucking stupid to me. > You have mentioned ego several times. It sounds like you know you are being jerked around by it. I'm lifting all the time. It was specifically the deadlift but 100% ego and insecur…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/19 12:36 AM
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OYS #8 Stats Age: 40- 6'3" 92kg, Waist- 35” Relationship: Wife 38- Together 20 years- Married 15 years- Kids 10 & 7 Recovering Drunk Captain/FO to Wife Captain. Read: MMSLP, NMMNG, The Rational Male, MAP, The Way of the Superior Man, Bang, Stress Less Accomplish More. Reading: MMSLP, Ego is the Enemy, Listening to TWOTSM More on MMSLP than the other two this week. Taking my time and taking notes this time through. Reading Up Next: NNMNG, WISNIFG Reading On Hold: The Art of Seduction, Clear Your …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/19 06:55 AM
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That's an incredible amount of weight lost already do congrats on that. I like the minimum effective dose strategy so I have more options available when I do stall.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/19 01:43 AM
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OYS #7 Stats Age: 40- 6'3" 92kg, Waist- 35” Relationship: Wife 38- Together 20 years- Married 15 years- Kids 10 & 7 Recovering Drunk Captain/FO to Wife Captain. Read: MMSLP, NMMNG, The Rational Male, MAP, The Way of the Superior Man, Bang, Stress Less Accomplish More. Reading: MMSLP, Ego is the Enemy, Listening to TWOTSM Started reading MMSLP again and it's incredible how much I missed on the first pass. I was still so angry I wanted to get through it as quickly as possible. Ego is the enemy I'm…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/19 12:27 AM
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Agree with the above. I also have this which is like Multi Orgasmic Lite. It sounds ridiculous but the basic tenets are the same. I love Mantak's material but I can find it a bit laborious. This book cuts right to the chase without a lot of the unecessary background info. It's all about breathing and changing your attitude towards your point of no return. https://www.amazon.com.au/Secrets-Sex-Wizard-EJACULATION-MASTERY-ebook/dp/B07HH2XV4L
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 11:13 PM
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Goal: Maintain strength as I cut - Maintain lifting 6 times per week Action: Eat 1500 Cal/day I think you're shooting yourself in the foot here and risk spinning your wheels on the cut/bulk cycle. I know 130lb girls who train six times a week and eat way more than that. Slower more consistent fat loss will yield better muscle retention and I would suggest you could be eating closer to 2k cals/day and get the overall benefits of retaining more muscle, better energy levels and less hormonal fuck u…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 11:02 PM
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OYS #6 Stats Age: 40- 6'3" 92kg, Waist- 35” Relationship: Wife 38- Together 20 years- Married 15 years- Kids 10 & 7 Recovering Drunk Captain/FO to Wife Captain. Read: MMSLP, NMMNG, The Rational Male, MAP, The Way of the Superior Man, Bang, Stress Less Accomplish More. Reading: MMSLP, Ego is the Enemy Reading Up Next: NNMNG Reading On Hold: The Art of Seduction, Clear Your Shit, Book of Pook, Mission- To be a powerful, positive force in my own life and the lives of those around me. Notes from thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/19 10:57 PM
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OYS #5 Stats Age: 40- 6'3" 94kg, Waist- 35.5” Relationship: Wife 38- Together 20 years- Married 15 years- Kids 10 & 7 Recovering Drunk Captain/FO to Wife Captain. Read: MMSLP, NMMNG, The Rational Male, MAP, The Way of the Superior Man, Bang, Stress Less Accomplish More. Reading: MMSLP Reading Up Next: Ego is the enemy, NNMNG Reading On Hold: The Art of Seduction, Clear Your Shit, Book of Pook, Mission- I had what could only be called an epiphany this week. I was washing the dishes and it hit me …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 11:08 PM
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Is the meditation from the book Stress Less, Accomplish more, or a different book. Meditation is on my list to explore! Yes from that book. It's not a "clear your mind" meditation but rather a mantra meditation. Super easy. It starts with mindfulness, then the meditation part and then manifesting at the end. I heard an interview with the author Emily Fletcher on Ben Greenfield's podcast. https://bengreenfieldfitness.com/podcast/lifestyle-podcasts/how-to-meditate/
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/19 02:31 AM
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OYS #4 Stats Age: 40- 6'3" 94kg, Waist- 36” Relationship: Wife 38- Together 20 years- Married 15 years- Kids 10 & 7 Recovering Drunk Captain/FO to Wife Captain. Read: MMSLP, NMMNG, The Rational Male, MAP, The Way of the Superior Man, Bang, Stress Less Accomplish More. Reading: Stress Less, Accomplish More (re-reading) Reading Up Next: Ego is the enemy, MMSLP, NNMNG Reading On Hold: The Art of Seduction, Clear Your Shit, Book of Pook, Mission- To be a strong, powerful individual leading the life …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/19 12:05 AM
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I don't have any more answers but have adjusted my routine to try and get more quality time in. Basically getting up earlier and making sure there's less rushing going on. Managed to get a little time this morning. Made a few passes, some kind, etc. I'm taking a longer term approach with this too. Focus on the war more than the battles so it's not a futile project if we don't get too much time on any one day.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/19 01:38 AM
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The standard advice is to start gaming during the day, so she's primed at night. But that really depends on how far you are along - which by 'I haven't really swallowed the pill' implies to me not far. That's your biggest barrier right now. What's stopping you? You're right. I'm not that far along. As far as gaming during the day that could work. Outside of before we head to work would you suggest gaming via text? There seems to be differing opinions on how best to use the text machine from what…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/19 10:13 PM
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OYS #3 Stats Age: 40- 6'3" 93.5kg, Waist- 35.5” (Pappayats Olympic Lifting Program): SQ- 130kg, Clean Pull- 160kg, C&J- 75kg, Snatch- 60kg Relationship: Wife 38- Together 20 years- Married 15 years- Kids 10 & 7 Recovering Drunk Captain/FO to Wife Captain. Came across MRP in August 2019. Haven’t truly swallowed the pill and this is my biggest problem so far. I didn’t post last week because I was ashamed that I had fucked up. Not lifechanging fuck ups but I wasn’t being the person I wanted to be. …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/19 12:40 AM
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I remember struggling at first with the concept when I found RP. 'What if I don't feel like cleaning today' - if I was single I'd leave the dishes and that's congruent and that's my frame and isn't cleaning the house and being proactive just another form of dancing monkey. And so I started doing shit, being proactive about getting stuff done - but in my mind I was dancing. I'd moved from choreplay in my beta days to a new covert contract in my early RP days. At some point the habit formed that h…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/19 05:13 AM
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Early on is the time when you have to start to reset the lazy habits and start getting shit done proactively. I won't moralize about your drinking - but get your shit done, then if you have time, have a few drinks. But don't treat it as a reward for getting stuff done. Daily drinking is at odds with most of my goals so it needs to go anyway. It was also my go to covert contract play so again it needs to go for sure. Is she yelling or just being impolite? There is a time for STFU and a time for s…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/19 03:43 AM
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OYS #2 Stats Age: 40- 6'3" 95kg, Waist- 35.5” (Pappayats Olympic Lifting Program): SQ- 130kg, Clean Pull- 160kg, C&J- 75kg, Snatch- 50kg Relationship: Wife 38- Together 20 years- Married 15 years- Kids 10 & 7 Recovering Drunk Captain/FO to Wife Captain. Red Pill Aware for about 4 months. Started making myself accountable on Oct 8 2019. Keeping a spreadsheet that I update daily. Read: MMSLP, NMMNG, The Rational Male, MAP, The Way of the Superior Man, Bang. Reading: The Art of Seduction, Clear You…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/19 01:04 AM
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Agree 100%. Easier said than done but I'm getting there. There's so much other shit I could/should be doing. I'm definitely not truly OYS yet but working on that. Happy to be on the way now rather than still lying to myself like I have been. Thanks for the rocket.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/19 02:41 AM
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OYS #1 Stats Age: 40- 6'3" 93kg, Bodyfat- est 15% (Pappayats Olympic Lifting Program): SQ- 130kg, Clean Pull- 160kg, C&J- 75kg, Snatch- 50kg Relationship: Wife 38- Together 20 years- Married 15 years- Kids 10 & 7 Recovering Drunk Captain/FO to Wife Captain. Red Pill Aware for about 4 months. Started making myself accountable on Oct 8 2019. Keeping a spreadsheet that I update daily. Read: MMSLP, NMMNG, The Rational Male, MAP, The Way of the Superior Man, Bang. Reading: The Art of Seduction, Clear…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/19 12:19 AM
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