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I used match.com in 2015-2016. It was a lot of the same guys as on OKCupid, which I also used, but with the very low income guys screened out. I did pay for the premium OKCupid (and met my husband on OKC) because it allowed stealth reading of profiles. My method was to only reveal my visit on profiles that I would likely write back on.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 11:40 PM
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Please, think of the gorillas. They are a peaceful species and we should leave them be!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 03:49 AM
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I agree with you. I often leave PPD thinking it all seems so adversarial, but within my own marriage we are a team (which might be why we're happy. We both contribute and are not score keepers.)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/19 04:00 PM
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I think taking turns is fair, and that's what my husband and I did. I think like attracts like and people sort out to their own level. If you want someone generous, be generous as well. If you want someone financially successful, be so yourself. That's what worked for me, at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/19 03:52 AM
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Low self esteem. People with low self esteem tend to attribute malice where none was meant. They also put people down and tend to poison relationships. People with high self esteem tend to be more generous and forgiving of others' mistakes. So when two people in a relationship both have a healthy self worth, they give to each other in ways that sustain the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/19 03:11 PM
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All circumstances. If he bought it, and they didn't get married, the ring is not hers.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 02:49 PM
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You need to move to find better opportunities. I had to do it out of grad school, but am back home now that I've gained experience in my field. For a professional job like engineering, someplace will likely be willing to move you.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/19 11:36 PM
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The guys have an age fetish and she probably has some sort of frontal lobe dementia that is making her impulsive and less inhibited. Not at all what is typical in online dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/19 08:23 PM
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I think it should just be a step to certifying a birth when the hospital sends information for a birth certificate. By having that be a part of the process at the hospital, it takes away the awkwardness of a guy asking or a woman offering to do it. And considering there is a fair amount of paternity fraud, I think it's worth doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/19 12:15 AM
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So do men. Learning to listen to red flags comes with maturity.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/19 02:51 AM
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Of course I can't, but I'm allowed to think it's selfish behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/19 01:41 AM
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Most isn't all. Most people can drink a few drinks and drive home without an accident, but not all the time. It's about being responsible. Maybe it's hyperbole to say "unfit," but somewhere between having one drink and a few, it slides into not taking care of your future child. Kind of like most unvaccinated kids will be fine, but not all.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/19 11:58 PM
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Month 9, maybe, but really why can't they care enough not to drink at all? Have you ever worked with people who have FAS? It's sad, and it doesn't take alcoholism to get there.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/19 11:38 PM
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I'm not sure it should be illegal, but drinking while pregnant is disgusting. It's 9 months. If someone can't go 9 months without a drink for the sake of her own child, she's not a fit parent. People with FAS have a lifetime of problems, all because they lost the lottery when it came to mothers. What a world we live in where "don't endanger your baby for something as trivial as a drink" is controversial.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/19 09:18 PM
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I cook a lot and grow an herb garden too. Added holy basil and fenugreek to my garden this year to branch out to more Indian and Thai foods. I think TONS of women cook, lol. In fact, if you look at hobbies like cooking, sewing, knitting, crocheting, beading, jewelry making etc, they are mostly stereotypical feminine hobbies.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/19 02:57 PM
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It would depend on the reason behind the request. I would be uncomfortable if I felt it was controlling, but I'd be open to the conversation. I'm older, so I can remember when we weren't so connected digitally, and I think it was better. For me, it's kind of a moot question since I've never had an Instagram and deleted my Facebook a while ago. Would I give up Reddit? Some hobby forums? Maybe. I try to limit my time now and we both make an effort on vacations and weekends to limit our computer ti…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/19 04:17 AM
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The people here who don't accept this simple fact are generally not successful professionals. They're young and still in school, so their view is colored by what matters to young students. And of course, when you're 22 yourself, 30 seems ancient.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/19 10:28 PM
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As someone married to a guy who just finished his insane alimony commitment to his ex-wife, I can say alimony for life in that situation is false. Maybe it was like that years ago. Now, three years for a 10 year marriage is more realistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/19 09:55 PM
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I paid first, actually. We both offered to pay though.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/19 02:29 AM
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My husband and I alternated from date one.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/19 04:36 AM
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Because self confident people don't put others down. People with good self esteem wouldn't do it, but it wouldn't work on them either.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/19 11:14 AM
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My deal breakers: Unkind, dishonest, low self esteem The first two are self explanatory. Having a good sense of self worth is important to me because 1. I don't want to walk on eggshells 2. Lots of bad behavior comes from trying to make up for poor self esteem (negging, for example) and 3. People who like themselves are happier and make better partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/19 12:17 AM
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This was my experience as well. Also, a fair number of "Hello, dear" messages from con artists in Nigeria who used photos of US soldiers. That said, I went on 3 dates using OKC. The first was a man whose wife dropped him off. I learned that "available" did not mean "single," lol. Then I dated a guy for a year, but he didn't have a good temperament to be around my teens. I naively thought he did, but once I introduced him and we started spending time as a group together, our relationship only las…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 02:09 AM
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Apparently the women who don't like being mistreated are hiding in a hole in mongolia or something. Or they don't find you attractive. Or you don't find them attractive on some unconscious level, so you never ask them out.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/19 06:55 PM
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Can't change your view--it's fraud and unconscionable. Not sure if prison would serve any purpose, but I think there should be financial penalties if caught (pay double or triple back unless the father signs that he wishes to continue being the father, despite not having genetically sired the kid.)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/19 12:24 AM
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I look sort of crappy--kind of fat, but not too many wrinkles yet at 52. Still, I'm lovable and have happy relationships. I went from a 9 to a 2 over the decades, but I don't think it's as bad as people say. Got a great husband, wonderful family, and a decent professional career. People who don't build their lives and only depend on appearances are the ones who suffer the most from looking old. We all suffer from growing old . . .
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/19 12:21 AM
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This. I have adult children and love them dearly. If one did something awful, I would be hurt, angry, extremely sad . . . but I would still visit in prison and write daily letters. Because my kids are my everything to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/19 02:46 PM
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Cooking, fermenting, baking, gardening, traveling
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/19 02:44 PM
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Wow--thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/19 07:27 PM
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I know of a few, which makes me think its quite common as it's the kind of thing you'd only hear about from people you know very, very well. One dead bedroom I know of is a health issue, one is a lack of being able to communicate and the pain that has followed that, and the last is a woman who just said she was done with sex (they are divorced now).
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/19 04:24 PM
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I recently lived in NYC and some of the musicians on the street and esp the subway were gifted. There's that story of Joshua Bell playing in or outside the subway and barely being noticed.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/19 03:00 PM
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It takes time to learn to believe people when they show you who they are. No matter what the severity of the charge was, someone who will steal from an employer will likely fuck you over given the chance. I did the same, because I saw my ex-husband lie to people all the time, and then was shocked--SHOCKED--to discover he lied to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 02:20 AM
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I think you consider your ex a typical woman, when most people would consider her a typical felon. Not all felons are like that, but it's a very high risk bet to try to build a life with someone who has that sort of history.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/19 10:44 PM
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He's 60. Not that old to me, but old to the average person here.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/19 12:11 AM
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Not planning is just a reality. My husband and I had healthcare POAs written up before we were married just in case, but I don't think most people do that. What do you think of SS retirement benefits for the stay at home partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/19 06:03 PM
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The visitation thing is an issue because most people just don't plan. Hard to allow your girlfriend to visit if you didn't set up that paperwork yet, and you're in a coma. Until you get the rest of the government on board though, the main marriage advantages --- lower taxes, untaxed sharing of health insurance, and sharing of social security/medicare benefits--can't be fixed with more paperwork.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/19 05:33 PM
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Artificial womb greatly devalue the female reproductive ability and very bad for woman. I don't see that at all. It could all but eliminate high risk pregnancies. Plus, there is a convenience factor to it---I see it first being used by wealthy women who don't want to go through pregnancy, then career women and then eventually it may move down to the masses. It wouldn't have the moral stigma of using a surrogate just because you don't want to gain weight, etc. It could also move the age of mother…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/19 02:32 AM
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Ha! I remember doing that in my youth (reaching over to pull up the knob to unlock the driver's door). Locks don't work that way anymore, though--they unlock from the key fob. Somehow opening car doors has faded in the past 40 years or so. I can't say I miss it. Maybe it's related to car locks changing, since men still hold regular doors open for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 02:22 PM
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No, I couldn't. We eat in mostly, but enjoy going out, too. It's flipped--when we were dating we ate out constantly, and now we only go out a few times a month. But we still go out. We have a home theater, so we never go to movies. I'm an avid cook, so I could stay in for meals, but no travel is a deal breaker to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/19 07:40 PM
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White or gray hair on the young looks pretty cool, I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/19 05:58 PM
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Not just sex. Tendies too.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 03:43 AM
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I don't know if they would still do that. She was born in 66 and they moved her birthday to 67. We were in fairly rural Japan.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/19 06:34 PM
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I have never in my life believed in astrology, but I still used to enjoy reading my horoscope. My college roommate in Japan was born in the year of the horse (as was I). This was considered so horrible for a woman, that her family changed her birthday. Horses are stubborn, so of course, it's a bad sign for a woman--they were afraid she'd never find a husband with that birth year. Super silly, I thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/19 06:15 PM
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All people lie (mostly white lies to avoid hurting feelings). Most people don't cheat--those who do are likely liar types, or at least instant gratification types who can't see past the "now" to the consequences of their actions. As for fear of being beaten, good lord. Yes, that happens, but most women who are with normal men don't even consider this. Women with abusive men do what they have to do to survive and will hopefully wise up and move on from lying to leaving.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/19 05:48 AM
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If a woman (or a man) cheats, that's a character flaw. It's not your fault. If someone lies to you, it's also not your fault. People are responsible for their own actions, and trying to take responsibility for how others act isn't a good way to live. Take care of yourself and your own behavior, and let others take care of theirs. If you have people in your life who lie, cheat etc, you need to cut them out. Also, the idea that women are literally incapable of acting justly or fairly is just misog…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/19 03:10 AM
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I got a lot of those kinds of messages on OKCupid back when I was using it. One guy (they all start their messages with "hello dear" or some other off sounding greeting) had a picture of himself in uniform. As ex-military, I thought "Wow--a 4 star general is interested in me!!!). Lol. I did a reverse image search and found he was famous and married. I think the scammer outdid himself and would have been more believable with a more average rank. I got a lot of obvious scammers like that and young…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/19 07:55 PM
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I'm an INFJ, husband is an INTP. I think we're a really good match--alike enough since we're both introverts, but different enough to challenge each other and keep it interesting. I wouldn't want to change who I am. I'm generally very good at reading people and connecting with them, and that's important in my work.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/19 02:06 AM
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I'm 52 and met my husband online three years ago. Strangely, a lot of my messages were from guys much, much younger than me. I think there's a group of guys who think older women are easy pickings. There's another faction that want a sugar mama, but overall, I find the idea of dating anyone much younger than me kind of repulsive. My husband is only a couple years older than me, and it's great that we remember the same things--gives us sort of a shared background.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/19 04:36 AM
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They won't because they will pretend to like anything you want to do. They're being paid to give the illusion that they're enjoying themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/19 04:19 AM
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One reason is because they're living with a risk they don't know about. Even with protection, the cheater could end up passing on an STD or having a child out of wedlock. For a male cheater, an unexpected and unwelcome child means a financial strain in the form of child support, and for woman cheater it could end up causing paternity fraud if they try to pass the kid off as one from the marriage. It's not right to put people at risk without their consent, even if that risk turns out okay. It's l…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/19 08:51 PM
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I have no idea how this should be handled, but to me it is fraud. Laws likely need to be written to make this a legal fraud vs a moral one, but I hope he gets some money back (child support).
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 04:25 PM
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Eh, first dates that go well often start with coffee or beer and end with dinner. The reason for a cocktail for the first date is to be able to leave graciously if it isn't working out.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 04:13 PM
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I actually agree with this. Transitioning to middle age isn't as scary as young people think. It's okay not to be a young hottie anymore (a relief in some ways for an introvert). I think embracing each stage of life instead of fighting the natural progression is key. People who try to hang onto youthful roles past their time seem a little sad to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 04:22 PM
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Do couples really stop having sex around 40? I've never heard that, and am in my 50s. Seems like a myth the young tell about older people.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 03:26 AM
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i did something similar--I used to test INTJ when younger, but am (and was) an INFJ. I am good at logic and math, but that is very different from making decisions based on that. Given a situation where I can see a logical answer, but someone's feelings are at stake, I will almost always take that into consideration. Harmony in my relationships and family is really important to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/18 05:23 AM
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Aside from whether you think Myers Briggs is valid or not, this is a misunderstanding of F vs. T and also a misunderstanding of J vs. P. Here are more nuanced descriptions of the differences: https://www.myersbriggs.org/my-mbti-personality-type/mbti-basics/thinking-or-feeling.htm?bhcp=1 https://www.myersbriggs.org/my-mbti-personality-type/mbti-basics/judging-or-perceiving.htm
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/18 07:23 PM
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Without a ring, you should be furthering your career. Go back to school (it's not that hard with kids, as you can do most hours at home). Have something of your own to fall back on. Realize that without marriage and no work outside the home, you are not building any social security, and if you never go back, you wont even have Medicare. I hope he has set up an IRA in your name.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/18 06:06 PM
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No one is shutting down 90K a year. We're shutting down the idea that that's a living wage in NYC. Actually, I'm only thinking of Manhattan. Having lived there briefly when my husband and I were likely at the top of our careers, we were only middle class on several times that. Location, location, location. $90K is a great salary in Omaha, but not NYC.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/18 02:45 AM
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Can you live on 90K in NYC? My husband lived in NYC when we met, and that wouldn't even have computed in his area.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/18 02:37 AM
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i can tell you in my own divorce, my husband did not want to divorce and didn't sign the papers for four years. We got divorced when the court noticed and said we had to push it through or withdraw the petition. My ex would have been happy to stay married, just not faithful (he was in the military--faithful at home, cheating while overseas without his family). So I filed, but that's not the whole story, as I never cheated on him.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 03:33 AM
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I'm the opposite--so glad my parents divorced because I hate fighting (even still, as an adult, but as a kid I remember hiding from their arguments). Because they divorced, they each managed to meet new partners who were better for them. Their second marriages lasted over 40 years (mom passed, but dad's second marriage still going strong). Middle class people can afford divorce--my dads were a college professor and an engineer, so middle class but not rich. I flew cross country as an unaccompani…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/18 04:59 AM
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I'm in my 50s and just went through dating and getting married. I WAS much pickier than 30 years ago, in part because now I can tell when something won't work out, often in minutes. There are so many non-starters that I would have naively tried to work through when I was younger. None of them are on your list, except that a man who is in his 50's or 60s and doesn't have a career/class/respect has some other issues that caused that. I've also already had my kids--no time table involved, and to be…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/18 11:16 PM
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At no age. I'm in my 50's and got married last year. There is a whole world out there of middle aged people dating--it's not like people are dead in middle or old age. We date and marry other older people. PPD men say older women are gross because they are, for the most part, young and shouldn't see older women sexually. Why are they surprised that they don't want to date their mom or grandma? They shouldn't. Honestly, I found the messages I got from young men in online dating to be disturbing--…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 07:06 PM
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I was curious, so I did a quick search. It turns out the traits most associated with academic success and high IQ are INxx (including INFJ). Lots of info out there, some of it likely bullshit, but it appears that on average, perceivers score higher than judgers (with INTP having the highest IQ) and thinkers scoring higher than feelers. But the T/F, P/J distinctions were minor, with introversion and intuition having the highest correlation.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 04:46 AM
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Are you associating intelligence with certain personality types, or just saying that you see dumb ISXX/INFJ and smarter INTX people on incel boards?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 03:57 AM
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They actually do care about finances, except on PPD.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/18 04:39 PM
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This is true. I think competence--far more than looks/money/status--is the most attractive/sexy trait a man can have.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/18 04:35 PM
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This. Character plays a role in how people leave their partners. Finding a new partner before ending an old relationship is trashy behavior, not feminine behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/18 04:19 PM
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These are not gifts, but if they were, taxes on gifts are paid by the giver. The threshold is pretty high--the annual gift tax exclusion is $15K, but that's just before you have to subtract it from your lifetime gift exemption of over 11 million dollars.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/18 04:05 AM
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Actually, I said that because I remember you mentioning It. I think you overlooked some red flags and see her actions as typical female behavior, when they're not. It's easy to get sucked in. I dated a guy who embezzled as well. He told me about it, and I decided to overlook it. Then, I found out he was very in arrears on his child support. I broke it off, because he was spending money on me rather than his kids. He also dumped bacon grease down a garbage disposal while we were in a vacation ren…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/18 11:22 PM
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You have to be careful how you analyze things though. Suppose an embezzler makes her way into your life. When she later screws you over, it's that AWALT or AEALT? Or neither?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/18 10:31 PM
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That when you feel like you can't swallow right because food is getting stuck (especially bread, pills, dry chicken etc) it's probably actually a problem with your esophagus. Things might feel like they're happening in your throat, but it's usually further down. ETA: The importance of controlling your GERD so this won't happen to you when you're old.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/18 06:59 PM
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Same. My husband loves ordering stuff online.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/18 05:52 PM
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I'm a mom of young adults. I can't imagine telling my daughter to prostitute herself. It's absurd and gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/18 06:59 PM
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Are you really a woman? Because that advice seems so trollish, I'm having a hard time believing you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/18 06:52 PM
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Did you really type "globalists" with a star of david instead of an "a"? Wtf.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/18 03:21 AM
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Online. We were on opposite coasts, but I visited NYC a lot. Met on a vacation, then I took some travel work on the east coast (planned before we met, but this made dating feasible). We've been married about a year now.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/18 06:29 AM
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I'm a middle aged woman, too. I talk to strangers all the time, but not on the subway in NYC. I did in my apartment--it had a very neighborhood feel to it (awesome doormen, neighbors who were always cooking delicious smelling food, the occasional random dog in the hallway). The subway is just random people, and I learned quickly, no eye contact because of the crazies.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 04:26 PM
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I disagree. There will be AI taking jobs, and not hundreds of years from now. It won't just be service jobs, either. I could see AI being better than my radiologist, for example, at reading an x-ray. Truck drivers are on the way out, at least as we know them. Driverless trucks will be AI controlled on the freeway, then switched to remote human "drivers" who take the truck into the city. One truck driver doing the job of several. One radiologist doing the job of many. Hell, one speech pathologist…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/18 11:57 PM
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We went to a very nice seafood restaurant and got a lot of oysters on the half shell and cold seafood on ice. We were traveling together for a conference I went to on the opposite coast (I go to his, he goes to mine). Usually when we're home, I just make a nice dinner and we watch a movie in our home theater. There will be more dates as we're married
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/18 03:35 AM
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The writer is a hateful nutcase. My general thought on the post is it's too long (tl:dr).
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/18 04:17 PM
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This is more of an introvert/extrovert than gender issue. I'm in between--I need some interaction with others, but the list of those I care to see is small: basically my family and 2 best friends. I would be fine seeing only my husband on weekdays, and then the kids on weekends if they come for dinner. I visit with my friend who lives locally once every couple of months, and my friend who lives in NYC whenever I'm out there (every year or so).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/18 02:13 AM
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I didn't mean justice like "vengeance." I was thinking more of friends I've had, who have heard stories that were unfair, and they felt it was deeply wrong. More like they were outraged on behalf of someone who was treated unfairly.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/18 03:09 AM
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The people with autism I have known--and it's been a lot--are very caring. They may lack empathy in the sense that they have difficulty seeing the world from other perspectives, but they have had a strong sense of justice and fairness, and can often see truths that neurotypical people miss.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/18 02:38 AM
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Not at all. I'm in my early 50s and recently married, so I just went through all that dating stuff. I don't really care whether I'm attractive or not to young men, as they're children to me (literally, the age of my own children--I SHOULD look like a "mom" approaching grandma type to them). I have great kids, a career, a wonderful husband--looking "hot enough" for some stranger doesn't matter to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/18 02:49 PM
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Daily. I have a real life (work, husband, family) and don't learn how life is supposed to be from movies, which are fantasy entertainment.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/18 08:55 PM
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Who gets taught anything by a romcom?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/18 08:23 PM
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That's their story. You have no idea what goes on behind closed doors in a relationship. My ex seemed like the perfect guy on the outside, but he was a cheater (we stayed together through that) and a manipulator who lifted himself up by putting his family down (which eventually caused our divorce). Leaving him was the best thing I ever did not only for me, but also our kids, as that behavior was no longer normalized. My ex would have been perfectly happy keeping the marriage as it was, and he ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/18 05:00 PM
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I was going to post the same thing. Salted for most things. Unsalted for baking, but you can usually get away with salted butter if you cut the salt from the recipe. Buttercream is the exception--it's nasty with salted butter. In just the last year or so, I've started making clarified butter/ghee. Either type of butter works for it, and it is amazing for high temp cooking. So in our house, we always have salted, unsalted, and clarified on hand.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/18 03:26 AM
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Exactly what I was going to say. Instead of reporting, an investigation, and a trial, men in the family would kill the accused.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 02:05 AM
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feigned helplessness, hiding intelligence, not being direct to people who require that to understand, passivity, over attention to appearance (taking endless photos and selfies),
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 08:02 PM
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:-) The power of prepositions!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/18 03:35 PM
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Yeah, he's toast.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/18 05:36 PM
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To me, the fact that other women haven't come forward makes me question this. In my experience, that type of behavior would have been habitual. If it was a one off, and reported 35 years later when no one could know the truth, it really gives me pause. I'm not saying he didn't do it, but I hate to think someone's career could be ruined by suspicion of a crime that may or may not have happened decades ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/18 03:51 PM
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Well, I think that's heartbreaking if she really is manipulating him. I think to go from having no one, to having someone who is just taking advantage for financial gain is sad because everyone deserves to find someone who loves them, and I hope you are wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/18 03:20 PM
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Eventually, AI sexbots will develop standards and reject the kind of men who use them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/18 03:17 AM
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What do you mean by that? I would think that if you know someone (either gender) enough to marry and have a kid with them, you would know them well enough to know if they are the kind of person who would make a good stay at home parent. I'm not saying that's a requirement (plenty of great parents work), but you should be able to tell whether they're the type of person to provide education and enrichment or the kind of person who would have the kids watch tv all day. You should be able to tell wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/18 02:53 PM
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You sort of can, though. It's a lot easier to judge the character of someone you know intimately than a stranger running a daycare.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/18 03:34 AM
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I agree--never ever home daycare (even though i did it. I did fine. My neighbor across the street was a nightmare and to outside parents, we looked the same once our doors closed.) My kids did co-op preschool, where we paid a main teacher, but parents were expected to work some days. i enjoyed it as a SAHM, and I was able to see exactly what was going on.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/18 06:21 PM
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No, but you can't guarantee quality if you pay someone else. I was a reluctant SAHM, but I did it. I did some licensed home daycare, too, to make ends meet, and I saw how crappy some people's idea of childcare is.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/18 06:00 PM
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You do understand not all birth control is 100%, right? Not any birth control, even surgical sterilization. I suppose a hysterectomy is 100%, but that's it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/18 02:20 PM
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I met my husband online when we lived on opposite coasts. It worked because we didn't take it seriously until we met in person, and then we had the means to see each other. For younger people who are less established, I think they rarely work as the travel cost is too high. And our relationship worked because it started with us on opposite coasts, but I had a highly mobile job. I was able to move quickly and easily (and more importantly--temporarily) to see if it would all pan out. Would never h…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/18 09:11 PM
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I think whether you lose your hair would be determined by your mom's genetics, not your dad's
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/18 11:42 PM
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Me too isn't just for women; women who are predators should go to jail as well, and I have no sympathy for Asia Argento. As a mom of young men, I would have been outraged if a grown woman in her 30's had had sex with them. People laugh and say "nice" /southpark, but the truth is, a young guy could end up with 18 years of child support paid to their rapist if she gets pregnant. That's outrageous.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/18 02:46 AM
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Lol--I have a friend who hides her German knives because her husband doesn't always use a cutting board.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/18 05:27 AM
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I agree that things work best with similar education and career levels. For young people, I can see letting the woman's career go for a bit, but eventually, both partners will likely be working. For all the posts here about how a woman's career doesn't matter, I don't see many professionals in real life dating the McDonald's counter person. People want to date in their own class, for the most part. For UMC moms who stay at home and don't eventually pursue a career, there's usually some serious v…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 03:15 AM
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Women at 50 who have never had kids and want them are pretty rare, though. I remarried in my 50s (kids are grown; husband and I have no interest in raising second families). My best friend from jr high did the opposite--remarried in her 40s and had healthy twins at . . . wait for it . . . 47 or 48 (not sure of her age). Donated eggs--yay science. Her husband is a couple years younger than her, and they are raising his first, and her second family. Btw, the one 50 something I know who does regret…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/18 08:09 PM
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Yes. As opposed to Simon Osborne in The Black Adder . . . https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T3jIE3b-bhY
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/18 04:41 PM
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I don't think there's a correlation there. I'm an INFJ, very low neuroticism, high openness, and high agreeableness on the Big 5. My husband is an INTP, and he's far more neurotic than I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/18 03:43 PM
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That seems like a misunderstanding of the "F" factor to me--people with an F in their Meyers-Briggs aren't overly emotional. They make decisions based on how people will feel. I make a lot of decisions based on how it will affect others. Just because I care about others and how they feel doesn't mean I'm herd driven (I often have the dissenting opinion) and don't do social media.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/18 03:42 PM
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ding ding ding I work with the elderly (and am probably considered elderly here in my 50's, lol). I have not noticed a trend of one gender being more irritable than the other. If OP really means "irritating" then that's on him, as how can anyone predict what is annoying to anyone else? Maybe he has less patience for women. In my experience, though, people who are cranky are often dealing with chronic pain. The idea that it's about hitting "the wall" is absurd. It's likely more women are shopping…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/18 04:24 AM
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No. I'm blue pilled, but I think being frigid in a committed relationship is a shitty thing to do to someone who has sworn to have a sex life with you only. Withholding sex for any other reason than lack of attraction is manipulative and not a way to keep a relationship warm and loving over the years. Sex is important. Not nearly as important as trp makes it out to be, but it shouldn't be trivialized by using it as some sort of bargaining chip. And if things are so bad that sex is absolutely una…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/18 02:15 AM
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Married at 23, divorced at 37. Married again at 51.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/18 04:13 AM
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Being the other woman (or man) in an affair isn't nearly the moral equivalent of being the person who broke their vows. Your logic is way off. If you said why should a married person who cheated deserve fidelity in the future it would make more sense, but it would still be immature. Break up and move on. Maybe she isn't sending pics to you because she's decided that's risky behavior. She's not wrong. You're planning to cheat over some imagined slight. Imagine what you might do if she broke up wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/18 01:15 PM
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This. My parents divorced, yet my father was very involved. When my mom decided to move to the other coast, Dad paid for me to fly back and forth so I could still see him--at great expense to him (flying wasn't cheap in the 70's like it is now.) I also question the dismissal of step-fathers. Sure, there are low quality step fathers out there, but mine was golden. He died a few years ago, and I miss him so much. He was every bit as much my "father" as my dad from birth.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/18 01:31 AM
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Hah. In my life, it's the opposite--I book the vacations after asking if he has time off. My husband is glad to have me iron out the details without him having to bother over minutia (and I'm very good at scheduling things. When we went on our first trip together, he was stunned that we were getting into booked up restaurants when others were turned away. I told him I made contingency reservations so we wouldn't get shut out. I always do that when we travel--we may cancel, but we always have an …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/18 10:52 PM
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Not hot to me. However, I think a lot of internet guys overdo the dominant stuff. Good: being confident and competent. Bad: Being domineering and bossy. I have no patience for the domineering types, which is almost as unattractive as being a submissive milquetoast.. That said, some women are into submissive guys--it's not the same for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/18 10:47 PM
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Having multiple girlfriends is one thing, but having kids out of wedlock is another (which I took from "baby mama"). I think men with status are very careful about having kids. Maybe I'm conflating what I consider status (come from a good background and high earner) with status meaning approval from peers. Having lots of kids with lots of different women is usually a road to poverty. As is having kids from multiple men for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/18 02:00 PM
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I would say a man with a bunch of baby mama's sounds very low status, not high. I just don't know anyone who does that--it's like what you see poor people on tv doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/18 01:35 PM
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Nope, it's underrated. The people I know are happily married, including myself. Marriage is how you continue the next generation of a family, and family is everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/18 01:34 PM
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I don't think mgtow exists in a vacuum. People get hurt in relationships all the time. I think a lot of guys on the mgtow forum were hurt and aren't getting back in the game the way most people do after a time. I looked at the link, and yay--another bird lover. I used to volunteer in raptor rehabilitation--mostly feeding and cleaning poop up for birds of prey that would eventually get released after they recovered from their injury. Never mixed my hobby with "men suck," though. Eta: to be fair, …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/18 08:09 PM
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I think being prejudiced against women to the point that mgtow forum members are has potential to be harmful. Can you imagine being a woman with a boss who thinks women have no agency, sense of responsibility etc? I read something there once where a mgtow guy said women never buy homes. Glad my mortgage lender never heard such nonsense back when I bought my house. I'm not a fan of anyone who tries to hurt, betray, trick or mislead other people. There are crappy people of both genders out there, …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/18 06:39 PM
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Wait, what? Who is around me who I should have reasons to hate? If I had reasons to hate them, wouldn't I cut them from my social circle? I am not a fan of bigots of any sort, which is what the mgtow forum comes off as. I don't have people like that in my life at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/18 06:32 PM
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I have nothing against confirmed bachelors. Do what you want. It's the guys on MGTOW who write all the time about how women are ___ (fill in the blank with something demeaning). I understand that some guys on that reddit forum are just temporarily blowing off steam after a bad break up, but the people who stay, I would describe as losers. They're not losers because they don't want a committed relationship, they're losers because they don't just go live their life, like bachelors did back in the …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/18 06:17 PM
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I'm middle aged (50s) and there is a magic cloak of invisibility in some ways. It's not unwelcome, because if you're friendly and talk to people they always warm up. It's just that you have the option of being left alone, which young women don't have. Where I can't imagine seeing that invisibility though is in a store. I'm much more likely to be approached by salespeople now. Actually, almost any service related interaction gets me much more attention than when I was younger (and poorer).
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/18 11:02 PM
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As someone well past the fictional wall, I don't care. Life is more than looking hot and I'm happy in my marriage. I met my husband as an elderly post wall hag, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/18 10:50 PM
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I have adult sons, and they're both. If I had to pick one to the exclusion of the other, I'd go with kind. We are not on this earth for things like "hotness," and someone who never learns to be kind is a failure as a human being.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/18 01:22 AM
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Why don't people save for their own retirement? Your weird socialist totalitarian regime would be a pretty evil world--nothing like what we had 50 years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/18 09:11 PM
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This is true, and the "my kids always come first!" is an example if the "enfant roi" our society is plagued with. Your kids should never have to be around an unsafe partner (single/remarried parents who close their eyes to abuse are despicable), but your spouse is your life partner, your kids are not. I've also never understood the "I can't discipline someone else's kids" mentality. My parents divorced and remarried, and their second marriages lasted 40+ years (one set have passed, the other are…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 05:52 PM
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I wouldn't care and don't think it's important. I have one best friend who I see a few times a year, and another I see every couple of years. My husband just comes home and all his friends seem like work friends (he doesn't hang out outside of work). So what? We're both introverts and have family and each other. Family is who I hang out with--my adult kids come home every weekend for dinner, and often during the week as well to have a meal and hang out. That's more than enough socializing.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/18 03:13 AM
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This. Is it the lack of a dad, or the presence of a horrible mother? It seems like a lot of serial killers have domineering mothers, and the dad leaves. In those cases, is it the dad's absence or the mother's presence that plays the bigger role?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/18 07:10 PM
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Ha! When I was a kid, my dad came home with a Porsche 911 one day, Later in the week he complained about my stepmom buying orange juice. She stood her ground, though, and continued buying juice. They're actually both pretty frugal, but my dad goes a little crazy over cars.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/18 03:08 AM
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I'm pretty happy. I have a great family that gives my life meaning, and though my kids have moved out, they come visit a lot. We're in that phase where we're starting a tradition of weekend dinners over here. I also like my job (sometimes), though it's pretty high stress. I took a long break last year--kind of a midlife moment of purposeful unemployment and noticed that I was a lot less happy when I had less on my plate. I don't deal with unstructured time very well, it turns out. Something to t…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/18 12:52 AM
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I agree with this. I think I didn't feel like I hit a wall except in a good way (less harassment by strangers). But, I was divorced in my 30's and had kids. No rush in that department. Then it was a matter of finding a guy who I also thought would be a decent dad. I came to the conclusion very early that that was unlikely and put my kids at certain risks we didn't have to take, so I started dating in earnest when my youngest went to college. Found a wonderful partner and got married less than 2 …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/18 04:13 PM
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No. She just learned to be pickier. Can't date everyone, so best to toss the bad ones back quickly. I think her response was sort of passive aggressive. She would have been better off either making the dinner, and calling the night off early or outright saying "Please go next door and get a bottle" (and if the answer was more smirks, just calling it off and eating alone.) Either way, she made the right call in getting rid of him. I think a lot of women would rather hang out with cats than a smir…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/18 10:34 PM
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Women in the US and a lot of other countries have lower physical standards required to serve in the military. Even where the rates are equal they have been lowered to allow women to pass. Doing so (lowering the previous standards applied to both sexes so that more women can pass them... at the cost of lower physical fitness in the military) is benevolent sexism. This benevolvent sexism arguably puts both male and female lives at risk and lowers military effectiveness in order to pursue a policy …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/18 05:24 PM
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tell that to the ladies on r/whereareallthegoodmen I tried, but there weren't any. That's one angry sausagefest.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/18 05:26 PM
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blue, female, married caring for my family (kids are grown, but I still see them all the time.) Yes, I try to make time for my kids every week and my husband every day. Don't see my parents as often as I should and need to improve that, as they won't be around forever. My work, which is meaningful to me (allied health field)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/18 01:59 AM
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As a woman formerly in the military, I have to wonder how you determined the accusations were false. I was in in the 80's, and rape and harassment were absolutely rampant. No one ever reported it, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/18 06:55 PM
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You can get desensitized in a way. I am very introverted, but through my job I've learned how to fake it. I can go introduce myself to family and do my job in a room full of people watching and second guessing, push myself into a situation where I'm not really wanted (not every patient in nursing homes and hospitals is enthusiastic, though some are), disagree with doctors and let them know it, etc. All things I would have found difficult 10 years ago. At the end of my social butterfly day at wor…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/18 05:05 AM
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Or a strategy to find someone to love who would be a good partner. I don't have the cynicism you do about single moms. As a strategy that helps red pillers avoid them and helps single moms avoid trp, it's probably win-win
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/18 04:50 AM
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It wouldn't be a mistake, though. It would filter out people who think like that--I'd think that would be a step in the right direction.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/18 04:38 AM
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Why wouldn't you be in a position to do so? People should generally learn from mistakes, and if fast, easy hookups were a mistake, it's okay to stop doing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/18 04:09 AM
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People with "F" in their myers briggs profile tend to be kind because the "f" stands for making decisions, often based on how others would feel. I don't see them leaning towards cattiness. http://www.myersbriggs.org/my-mbti-personality-type/mbti-basics/thinking-or-feeling.htm?bhcp=1
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/18 03:09 PM
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I'm very happy. Maybe a 9 of 10. I have a great family--parents I enjoy spending time with, wonderful young adult children, a husband I adore. I also have a meaningful career. I haven't always been this fulfilled, but it's come to me in the past decade or so. I'm female, early 50's, recently married, and bp.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/18 12:04 AM
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This. I have a dear friend who is one of the former. He's super shy, kind of a hoarder, and wants to find a woman who is 30 years younger than him. He's already been divorced by one mail order bride, but he isn't wealthy, so she got a green card but not a ton of cash. He's been trying, but single for 10 years now. If he cleaned his apartment and looked for someone younger, but not in her 20's, he'd be more successful, I think. He doesn't blame women for it, though, and is well aware how fucked u…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/18 04:42 PM
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That's a good strategy. Too long would look psycho, but no indication of having read the profile looks like a hit and run. Not sure what most women get, but I'm in my 50's, okay looking but kind of fat, have a good career, grown kids, etc (so a pretty average 50+ woman). I got: 1. "Hi." (no investment, blanket messaging) 2. "Hello dear" (offshore scammer) 3. I know your profile says you're looking for someone over 50, but would you consider having some fun with me? (Thirsty guys younger than my …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/18 06:35 PM
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Haha, that's mostly true. I met my husband on okc, and he was the only person who ever sent me a message that was an obvious response to what I wrote. He's like a .0001 percenter in a sea of "hi" and various vague pick up lines. I did have a pic of me with a fish and a lot of guys commented on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/18 02:56 PM
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I think it should just be done standard on all births. Men have a right to know the children they are raising are their own, and yet in our culture it would be absolutely insulting to have that questioned. Testing all infants removes the stigma of taking the test.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/18 03:15 PM
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My stepdad was every bit as much my father as my dad is. When stepdad died, I was reluctant for a while to call him "stepdad" instead of "dad" when talking about it, because people seem to minimize stepfathers. He was the absolute best father anyone could ask for, and I miss him. Damn . . . I'm getting weepy now.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/18 10:29 PM
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No, the truth is it varies, and it depends a lot on the quality of the people in your life (which you have some control over). I work in nursing homes, and I see a lot of families at the end of a loved ones life. There are couples that are amazing in their support of each other, couples that are average, and I've seen a few couples that are just miserable. Why they wasted their lives together, I'll never know. Gender doesn't seem to matter that much as I see supportive wives, husbands, daughters…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/18 08:33 PM
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Huh. That sucks, though I consider making a cake and special dinner the main part of adult birthdays. I'm the same age (51, husband is 53). We acknowledge each others' birthdays, but gifts are (so far) dinner out, tickets to shows, or small weekend trips. We give each other attention and little things every day, so we're on the same page that birthdays and holidays are fun to celebrate together, but don't require a big gift. We've only been married 2 months and have known each other for about 18…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/18 07:40 PM
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Do many women forget birthdays? That seems pretty unusual to me. Despite being a stereotype, even men forgetting is odd at this point, as every phone has a calendar with an alarm on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/18 04:52 PM
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False on a couple levels: First, there are plenty of non-minimum wage jobs that women flock to, such as being a doctor, nurse, teacher etc. Second, people date within their social class. On this website, people talk about how you can't date a woman's career. IRL, I see professionals mostly dating each other. The woman may take a break to have kids, and might not even ever go back, but doctors rarely date the cashier at Wendys.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/18 11:46 PM
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Yeah, gray hairs don't hold color all that well and have a more wiry texture than hair that still has its color. I'm about 10% gray now. Sometime in the next 10 years, I'll likely have to cut it and quit the constant coloring. I'll be sad about that, because I think long hair is a lot less maintenance than short. I put my hair in a french braid for work. When it's short, I'll actually have to blow dry and shape it, something I haven't done since my high school days decades ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/18 08:28 PM
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About the" good old days"--you are absolutely right. I work with elderly people, and they tell me a lot. 50-75 years ago, molesters existed, adultery existed (with both men and women being unfaithful), domestic violence existed, child abuse existed--you name it. I love old people--to me, our WWII generation is full of a bunch of heroes, but they had their share of human frailty as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/18 09:10 PM
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I met my husband in NYC a couple of years ago. We lived on the UWS. There are a lot of misconceptions about NYC that I had as a transplant. One was that people would be rude (I found New Yorkers to be extremely kind and friendly.) Another was the man shortage. Seemed like there were guys everywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/18 09:59 PM
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Why are they less likely to leave?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/18 06:15 AM
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A prenup that included child support and custody issues would probably not hold up in court. If you do get a prenup, both parties should have their own lawyers This is for the protection of both parties, because only one person being represented could be a reason for the prenup to fail later on.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/18 07:03 PM
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Lol. I did.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/18 07:17 PM
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Oh absolutely--a broken marriage is a failure. It's something to grow from and learn from rather than repeat.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/18 07:12 PM
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Not as much as staying together "for the kids" does.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/18 07:04 PM
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No, some relationships should not continue. If you learned from it and don't have the same mistakes again, it's better than continuing with something that will never work. Some broken marriages can be fixed, some can't.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/18 07:04 PM
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Everyone fails at some things--there's no shame in failure; you're supposed to learn from them and go on. My favorite quote ever is "If everything you try works, you aren't trying hard enough." (Gordon Moore)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/18 05:23 PM
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I am not a fan of social media, but I look at Facebook a few times a week. I rarely post. No instagram and no twitter. I get snaps from my kids but never send any. I did okay with online dating, despite being older and overweight. Mostly, I filtered till I found the guy I knew (from like the second date) was the long term one for me. We just got married, so I guess it worked out. :-)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/18 10:48 PM
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If course it matters. I have a lot of respect for people with professional, trade/skilled, or artistic jobs (maybe their sideline--not necessarily a big source of income). I would not be interested in a guy who was in a dead end job and had no other interests or ambitions. It's just unattractive to me. My husband and I are both professionals.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/18 02:23 AM
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Seriously. I love being able to go places and rarely getting pestered by strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/17 06:48 AM
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No, you're right. A live in partner would have tenants rights
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/17 05:34 AM
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Mentally ill loser. Or 14 year old boy's creative writing project.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/17 08:00 PM
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I finished my bachelors at 38. School was a good place for me when the kids were younger because the scheduling is so flexible compared to work. I had been in the army before I had kids, but no other real work experience until I got my BA (I had a licensed daycare in my home for a while). After school, I faced the hard lesson that no one would pay me much since I had little recent work experience and an English degree. I bounced around a couple jobs between my degrees, but getting into grad scho…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/17 02:08 AM
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I disagree. I found getting an MS in my 40's made a world of difference in my earning power. I had been a single parent, living on the edge financially for years--we were okay, but renting and living paycheck to paycheck. Getting a degree in a practical field changed my life, allowing me to buy a house, travel, save for retirement, and make a decent contribution to my kids' college etc. Ymmv, but for me it was the way to go.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/17 12:57 AM
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It's called a middle or upper middle class upbringing. Pretty much the norm if one or both parents are professionals.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/17 12:40 AM
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Last year. We're getting married this month.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/17 02:04 AM
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I don't think it is an issue; I heard here that it was. My anecdata is nope--not a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/17 02:01 AM
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I hear NYC is awful for women, but I met my soon to be husband in Manhattan. We're in our 50s, so I think it's a myth.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/17 01:06 AM
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Ha. I was thinking, on a lot of cruises, my fiance and I might stay behind together, and let the younger people have a chance. Of course, we could be on a HAL cruise and be the youngest ones there, so I guess it would depend on what cruise we booked.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/17 05:18 AM
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No guys with low self esteem (I hate it when people are too sensitive/take things negatively when they weren't intended negatively. No one passive aggressive--I prefer frank and direct No one who is unkind and lacks the ability to empathize with others
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/17 12:00 AM
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I would think the number of people who say #me too would show it's not just people with money and power. I saw harassment and outright rape going on in the 80s --a fair amount in college but a lot more in the army. None of those guys were rich, powerful, or famous. The harassment is nothing new, but people talking about it publicly is.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/17 01:28 AM
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Women who say men are pigs are losers. It's wrong, and so is AWALT. Like attracts like. If all you see in your life is trash, you need to change something about yourself to attract better people.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/17 01:33 AM
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When women had no other alternatives.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/17 02:22 AM
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Butt they haven't. Divorce rates are the lowest they've been in 40 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/17 01:51 AM
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Same here, though my kids are raised. Everything is easier when a couple is putting in their best and looking out for one another. I work with people at the end of their lives, and see how valuable family is. People who don't take the effort, time, and risk to build one will never have that level of love, caring, and intimacy in their lives. I'm not talking kids here necessarily, but at least a partner who is really "family." To me, if all you are getting out a relationship is sex, you're doing …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/17 06:09 PM
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I'm kind of introverted, so I basically have one close guy friend and one close girl friend. My male friend and I go out to eat, often with boyfriend along. I used to contact him every day because he is depressed, and can be sort of a shut in. He's just gotten a long distance girlfriend in the last few months, so we don't do that anymore (I figure he is getting checked on, and hearing from her daily makes him happy). We used to travel together--I flew him out once and took him on a family trip w…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/17 01:52 AM
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Three years older than me. When I did online dating, I got messages from younger guys, despite me being kind of fat and 50. I figured they were looking for either what they thought was low hanging fruit or a sugar mama. I was pretty clear my age range was 50-60 or so--no interest in anyone young enough to be my kid. Even someone in their 40's, would likely be in a different place unless they had their kids very young; mine are grown and I'm done. Loved raising them, but not willing to take on an…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/17 02:50 AM
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Of course it's just anecdotal, but I'm 50, premenopausal, my nest emptying out. i have a great career that allows me a lot of personal freedom and choice, and a wonderful partner who I met a year ago through online dating. Sure, I don't turn heads or anything (and I did at 22), but I don't really care. Happy with my life--I have a great family, man I love, a job that is more than a paycheck, and financial security. You don't need every man to notice you (in fact, that was a pain in the ass.)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/17 10:02 PM
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Another quote from OP's history: I agree the clits shouldn't go to waste. She should keep it as a souvenir in a jar of formaldehyde. Or feed it to hungry cats. Yeeesh. Is it a joke? (hypocrisy here?) Or serious (disgusting nutcase?) Either way . . . .
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/17 05:05 PM
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It can, though. My parents divorced when I was young, and their second marriages were long lasting and happy (one still going on, the other set have passed). I work in nursing homes and see couples who clearly still love each other after 50, 60, even 70 years. Love != lust.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/17 07:34 PM
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I don't see the rise of cheap hedonistic outlet as a good thing, precisely because too many people will chase after those illusions and miss out on the real things that matter in life. Life isn't about watching tv, doing drugs, or jerking off to porn--those are all instant gratifications that feel good in the moment but do nothing to increase your real happiness or inner sense of self worth. In reasonable quantities, it's okay, but when they take over, they lead to a life without meaning. I want…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/17 04:46 PM
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Learned/feigned helplessness, vanity (selfie addiction), having a sense of self too tied to relationships with others. Nothing wrong with femininity (or masculinity) but these are examples of bad traits when taken too far.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/17 07:22 PM
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Dead beat dads are easy to find, especially if they're self employed and under report their income.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/17 01:32 AM
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The problem with financial abortion is it benefits the man at the expense of the child.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/17 05:47 PM
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I think the comparison was pretty apt.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/17 04:31 PM
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Huh? That's idiotic
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/17 04:32 AM
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16 and 26 is creepy AF. 22 and 32 is fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/17 11:03 PM
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Wow, congratulations! I hope you have a long and happy life together. :-)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/17 04:17 AM
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I am staggered too. My partner is my very best friend and when we aren't working, we're generally together. Even going to the store or doing housework is fun because he's around. Sex matters, but it's not close to being everything. Of course I have other friends, but they aren't nearly the same level of intimacy as a partner. I am also shocked at how little some people are willing to put on the line for love. I mostly read this forum in "omg, look at this train wreck" mode. Anything worth having…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/17 03:13 AM
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While I'd agree it's harder to date as an older woman, it's far from dire. You don't need lots of men rushing to meet you; just one. There is a certain invisibility in middle age that I find comforting since too much attention from strangers is a pita. That lack of attention didn't stop me from dating though. In some ways it made it easier to tell what was genuine. Maybe because I measured success as finding a partner instead of lots of dates, I found the new dating world to be just fine. So yes…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/17 03:07 PM
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How do you age out of the dating market? There are senior citizens on okcupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/17 12:07 PM
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Here's the thing--older, past their prime divorcees are exactly what other older past their prime divorcess are looking for. So if you define cream of the crop as young, then yeah--probably not. But for people looking to date their peers, I don't think being middle aged and having some baggage is unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/17 08:07 PM
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Why not? After the initial setback of divorce, why can't people be happy?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/17 07:59 PM
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I'll buy the huge age gap being an issue--when I was young, anyone over 30 seemed ancient to me, and I think that's the norm for the under 22 set. But the idea that anyone older who is single is unwanted "for good reason" is pretty insulting. There are all kinds of older singles out there, and they aren't all crazy. You don't have to have a partner. I was single between my mid thirties to late 40's because I was busy raising my kids. I saw that as my priority, along with getting an education so …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/17 07:56 PM
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I lived on the west coast when I met my partner, who lived in manhattan. We wrote daily for 2 months, then dated when I was in nyc on a vacation. I came back a month later to work on the east coast, and we dated every weekend. We live together now. So 3K miles, but I am not young and have a career that allows for mobility. I wouldn't advise it for someone who couldn't or wouldn't move.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/17 09:50 PM
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That's a false stereotype from bygone days, or at least not true for Manhattan. I lived on the upper west side last year, and people were extremely friendly there. They had a "do your own thing" attitude, but were helpful when needed and friendly to people open to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/17 02:04 AM
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Cuddling. Skin to skin contact without sex. Longtime love, history, and shared family. Being best friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/17 07:43 PM
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Character? Because you want to be able to look at yourself in the mirror and be someone worth liking? Because not being compatible doesn't mean you are actually "enemies"? By cheating, you are becoming someone who is basically undateable to most women who actually have their shit together. If you omit your cheating history in the future, you are setting yourself up for always having a secret, deal breaker problem, that "justifies" another round of cheating. Seems like a fucked up plan to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/17 05:40 PM
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I think the examples of how to stand out are awful--engage in conversation that shows you completely lack any social skills? I would rather be noticed for doing something inspiring or worthwhile, but this guy is advocating being a misogynistic, annoying douche. I hope he's really young. Also, self improvement can occur without putting others down. Part of learning not to be a douche is killing the ugly inside.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/17 07:02 PM
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I'm glad I'm not the only one who thinks of Brave New World when reading about the current dating scene.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/17 06:55 PM
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The difference is men couldn't do this by financial circumstance. They could come into good fortune, so to speak, and would have the ability to own property, vote, whatever. Women were not able to do this by law. It's an enormous difference, even if poverty kept most people down.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/17 08:16 PM
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It's rare, I think, but I'm not the kind of woman who would be cat called anymore. Still, it happens to me occasionally in NYC. Never in regular middle class suburban places. I imagine my experience is magnified 1000x for young women.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/17 07:25 PM
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No. In the past, women couldn't vote, couldn't own property in their own right etc. Women also faced discrimination in education, and while a few exceptional women busted through that, the majority did not. Edited to remove inflammatory statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/17 07:15 PM
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Thank you. I would say for stating the obvious, but apparently not.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/17 06:12 PM
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Or men. Getting your heart broken is a part of life
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/17 01:14 AM
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Then don't have an arrangement like that. Right now, almost by default, anything earned by either member of a married couple is owned by the couple. Here's an illustration. I make about $50/hour. Obviously, if I stayed home with a kid (mine are grown, but if I were younger), my contribution would be different from just the cost of chores and child care, which is less than my potential earnings. We as a family would be giving up my income in order for me to stay at home. Some people value that. O…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/17 08:55 PM
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In that arrangement, it's not "his" wealth. It's the wealth of the couple, no matter who is contributing what.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/17 08:41 PM
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It's real in the sense that there is less attention from random strange men. However . . .by the time it hits, it doesn't matter. You don't need 100 men hitting on you, you need one who loves you. Also, your average 55 year old man doesn't actually want to date an 18-22 year old. A few do, but most men want someone who is in a similar place in life (similar class, similar age) Like tends to pair up with like, more often than not.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/17 06:37 PM
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Hm . . I do think a large number of red pillers may be INTJ's (just a hunch based on many of the INTJ's I've known not being great with social cues--hence more likely to get frustrated dating). You said, "-J are the cold hard facts without emotion types who are more likely to be in trp" but that isn't the case. The J is about order, punctuality etc, not cold hard facts. Just as an example, I'm an INFJ--I make a lot of my choices based on people's feelings. I'm a big picture person who likes stru…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/17 06:53 PM
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I don't think the J/P would have anything to do with pill type . Judging vs perceiving is really poorly named. Judgers like a plan, perceivers are more likely to want to decide as they go. J's are more likely to have a to do list, P's are more likely to just wing it. Not a pill issue whatsoever.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/17 11:29 PM
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I was going to ask the same thjng. I know some stay at home dads; one is my brother in law. They seem to be in happy families, and I don't see them getting shit for staying home.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/17 05:14 AM
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Yes, a stay at home partner should do the bulk of the homemaking. However, the guy in this article is a controlling, narcissistic freak. They should not get married, but not for the reasons he thinks.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/17 06:39 PM
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It's ok to be picky. I'm grateful that I was choosy and willing to be alone for a while. I didn't complain about it, but it meant that when the right guy showed up in my life, I wasn't stuck in a subpar relationship, unavailable because of a fear of being alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/17 02:56 AM
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Common values are much more important than common interests.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/17 10:38 PM
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For a ONS, 16-30. For relationships, up to 10 years younger than they are, though that would vary. I don't think your average guy wants a woman way younger than him unless it's casual sex. Cute things can become annoying over time when you're not in the same stage of life. There will always be guys who compartmentalize their relationships with women, and they would probably aim younger. Obviously, when you look at appearance and sex only, younger is better (barring some fetishes). Many men, thou…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/17 04:00 PM
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Same type and pill view here.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/16 01:16 AM
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More like GILF action. I just can't imagine it without getting grossed out.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/16 09:34 PM
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Having guys as young as my kids message me. I have a s.o., but when I was looking, I really meant my dating range of 50-65. Young isn't appealing to me at all for dating
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/16 10:12 PM
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I'm getting ready for work, so I can't really respond to everything, but there is a big misunderstanding about the purpose of the PT test in the army. It is to test if you are physically fit. Yes, men tend to do better on the run and the pushups. When I was in (decades ago) I did better than most men on the situps. None of the PT tests tasks are practical--they're just a measure of whether you are fit for your category. Older people have lower standards than younger people in the army, too, but …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/16 11:36 AM
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This is me as well. I loathe crocuses, the harbingers of spring.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/16 10:42 PM
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I would not do a paternity test and stay on as a parent. Not the kids fault, and she needs her dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/16 12:28 AM
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Trump won because people see Hilary as corrupt. That and manufacturing has died, and small town America is struggling. Average Joe with few new world job skills wants to be heard. Trump at least appeared to be listening to regular America. No one of voting age gives two figs about gamer gate or ghostbusters
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/16 10:36 PM
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Gross. Just like when frat boys do this, it's disgusting and a violation of privacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/16 12:29 PM
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I'm not even sure what you mean. I think someone being a good man is mandatory for him to be worth dating. The whole nice guy tm thing isn't about goodness at all, but whiny entitlement. Anyhow, I would not date a guy who never paid unless he had some financial issue (and really, even then, we could go to super cheap places ). In early dating, who makes the first step doesn't matter to me, but it might for other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/16 05:45 PM
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Well, that's where we differ. I figure if I like someone enough to go on a date with him, one of us can spring for it. In my relationship, that someone was me, gender roles be damned.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/16 04:27 PM
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It separates the cost out into my costs and his costs instead of our costs. And yes, it's less romantic to pull out a calculator on a date. It's awkward, too. How would you split it? In half? By what you ordered? Then paying. Two credit cards? Fumbling around for cash?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/16 02:18 PM
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To me, it doesn't matter who pays, as long as it's not "dutch". I paid for our first date, and we generally take turns. Some dates are expensive, some not. It really doesn't matter and we don't keep track. I don't like the idea of going Dutch on dates, because it seems too cold. (I'm a woman, btw--realized my response was gender neutral)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/16 01:55 PM
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Of course. It's common courtesy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/16 10:14 PM
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Because it's a false premise. Men are better and deeper than TRP gives them credit for (and so are women)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/16 02:55 AM
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I'm not the poster who said that about men. I agree, it's mostly false, but I also think women being primarily venal is also false. (If you surround yourself with shallow, greedy, shitty people--of either gender--that's a lifestyle choice.)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/16 06:12 PM
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You really don't see the irony in this? Aren't you doing the same thing to women?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/16 02:32 PM
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Lol. :-)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/16 03:47 AM
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I can see it now . . . Goat teachers asking their students, "Wouldst though like to live deliciously?"
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/16 02:52 AM
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Neither. Either one would be successful and last indefinitely if there was some sort of way to have offspring. Otherwise, women would last longer as they have a longer life expectancy. But we're fucking things up pretty well now with both genders (hint: greed, indifference, all the negative things that are poisoning our world are human, not gender traits.)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/16 07:43 PM
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Two things. Yes, it is difficult and undervalued. After a period of poverty, you can regain financial independence. It took about a decade, but I out earn my ex husband. People who reduce being a stay at home mom to the cost of cleaning and take out, miss the point. It's having someone who loves the family taking care of it. No one will teach and guide your kids the way a SAH parent who cares will. You just never see it (I do see a lot of trashy parenting, in addition. Not every home parent does…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/16 09:19 PM
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The idea that "nurturing requires no skill" is staggeringly ignorant. I work in a medical field where the hard part isn't telling people what's wrong. It's getting them on board and coaching them to change. You can't do that with science alone, and any allied health therapist (physical, occupational, speech) who just bluntly said "do this" would have pretty poor outcomes for their patients.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/16 03:00 AM
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If.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/16 10:54 PM
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This. How can someone have intimacy if they are withholding such a huge thing? It wouldn't even be possible. Sex, yes. Acquaintance type relationships, yes. But not anything deep or real. I guess that's okay to the OP, but I bet it wouldn't be okay with the women he's with. And yes, I would agree it's manipulative. And cowardly.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/16 06:01 PM
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So you're okay with a 16 year old boy and a 40 year old man paying the same for insurance? The reason the boy pays more is that statistically, he's more likely to get in an accident. A 16 year old boy is also more likely to crash than a girl the same age. If you want to call it agism that adults pay less than kids/young adults, that's fine. But to have a flat rate for all isn't how car insurance works right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/16 08:56 PM
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The car insurance doesn't fit there. That's based on age, gender, credit score etc and isnt some random privilege. An actuary determined the risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/16 04:42 PM
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Those terms have been used for decades
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/16 12:35 AM
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Worse. Wolff is an author. The OP substituted women for voles.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/16 12:32 AM
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Yes, but I don't think they are average. Most lonely people would not find satisfaction from a lover unable to think on his or her own.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/16 06:59 PM
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I think you underestimate men and their humanity. The ones I know are not so one dimensional.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/16 03:42 PM
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There will be a stigma to sex bots. Really, they would provide pretty much the same thing as prostitution, though I bet they could be programmed for household help, too. Heck, maybe it could even ge a real job. It would still be a thing, though. It couldn't provide that feeling of connection, because it wouldn't have free will. Maybe someone "off" could feel love for a programmed machine, and I wouldn't begrudge them that comfort. I dont see Joe Average being into it as a replacement for women, …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/16 03:36 PM
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As a mom of two sons and one daughter, I am relieved to discover my sons didn't require any money. But TIL that the financial support I've given my kids doesn't count . . . For their dad, they were expensive. The fruit of my labor that I spend on my family must make me an outlier. Or something. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/16 07:40 PM
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There is a lot to social work outside of welfare. Michael Savage isn't someone who has credibility with me, as most times I've heard him on the radio he's come off as a bigot.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/16 07:24 PM
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Oh no! Our military needs taxes to finance them! So do the doctors at the CDC and rangers at the Forestry Dept. They must be unproductive leeches on our society! These men (and women) are claiming to be independent when they need the productive male (and female) population to finance them through their taxes! You are arguing that we have a public and private sector, which is true. What that has to do with genders self selecting into the jobs that interest them, I have no idea. I think you have s…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/16 07:06 PM
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I prefer quiet shy guys. I'm an introvert and like being with another introvert (someone else who thinks large groups are hell on earth).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/16 11:01 PM
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But there are men who struggle, too. I don't understand feeling amusement or satisfaction at that. I was a struggling divorced mom 10 years ago. Now, I do fine thanks to learning some skills. Just remember your current state is temporary. For those on the bottom of the earning ladder, there is hope (get an education that pays!) At the top, one stroke, one round of depression, one car accident, can knock you down. Even with savings, there are no guarantees. Build the life you want to live, help o…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/16 04:22 PM
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Even if you don't like it, you can ask someone to start their own thread without being rude. The way you put it ("womenz" and saying it's not all about females) makes you sound like you have a chip on your shoulder. I'm just guessing you come off kind of aggressive and angry. I thought it was a valid point, as being kind and sensitive to others is a human issue, not a gender one.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/16 09:22 PM
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The answer to why this happens to you is right here, for anyone who cares to look.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/16 06:08 PM
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Blue pill. Two things they would likely downvote me for: I think women aren't really discriminated against much in the work force anymore (outside of isolated incidents). I think the wage gap is mostly due to taking time off and not negotiating well. I would argue that women need to learn to negotiate better, but that's on us, not "equality." Also, I think someone in a monogamous relationship has some responsibility to have sex with their partner, even if they're not in the mood. Seems like dirt…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/16 11:33 PM
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RP is the equivalent to radical feminism, I think. Both are fringe beliefs that seem common on the Internet, but you rarely meet people like that in real life. Your average person isn't manipulative or a victim or unable to empathize but you would think that's the norm by reading reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/16 09:14 PM
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And I think that kind of guy would just as easily swing to another woman if he found someone younger, more attractive, sexier, etc. I've never understood how that isn't a form of hypergamy as well. Same end result. It happens, for both men and women, but not all people--not even most people--are like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/16 03:07 AM
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This really isn't true. In my field a PH.D. is 4 years after a 2 year Masters. Almost no one does it unless they want to be a professor, because it won't increase your income.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/16 02:53 AM
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Most of the messages I get on okcupid are young guys looking for an older woman. Some are really, really young (college age) looking for casual sex. Others are slacker guys in their late 20s to early 30s who want a relationship with a sugar mama (my assumption, but these only started recently, after I added some info to my profile about my work). I'm just not interested in casual sex, and while I would support a partner who was having financial trouble, I couldn't do that for a young, healthy gu…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/16 07:01 PM
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But there are other high paying fields other than engineering. My graduate school cohort had 1 guy. I could choose to think men don't want to work hard. Since our token man dropped out (and was the only drop out ), I could say men just aren't good at speech language pathology. But nope. Not a lot of men seem to be interested in it, and our token male happened to not have it in him to study enough. I wouldn't assume men are inept and lazy because they don't care to be speech therapists. The idea …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/16 02:43 PM
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I would feel uncomfortable taking something from someone I wasn't interested in just because I could. It seems mercinary and kind of like using someone to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/16 07:49 AM
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It's not always true. I've seen men in unhappy marriages rationalize cheating, but then leave and be faithful. I wouldn't have much faith in a cheater, though. While not all are "forever cheaters" it's enough of a character flaw to make me pass.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/16 10:57 PM
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I don't see how it would work. You would have some young men abandoning their kid, then growing up and 15 years later, wanting into their son's or daughter's life. Then, you'd also have some men with an awful lot of children. Of course, this happens today. The "alpha's" with 8 kids from 5 different women are not likely to be paying much support as it is, but this would put an official stamp of approval on it. Maybe if there were a consequence. You can have a financial abortion, but it comes with…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/16 04:07 PM
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Well, initially awful (me too--divorce creates poverty and change for both people). But now, he's doing fine. He has a partner who is much better suited to him. They fight a lot, according to the kids, but it's healthier in that she pushes back (whereas I spent too much time crying in the bathroom because I hate fighting and internalize my anger.) We are both better off for splitting up, and so are our adult kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/16 03:44 PM
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I'm a woman, an army veteran, and a feminist. We should have a draft for both genders, or neither. And we don't have a draft now, but women should have to sign up for selective service like men.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/16 01:08 AM
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I would rather clean a toilet than have sex with the hottest stranger in the world. Nothing seems grosser to me than having a total stranger in my personal space. And of course, afterwards, it would be worse than lonely. Lonely and used . . . fun times!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/16 11:18 PM
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Men have it better now in family court than they ever have. My father got hosed in the 70's. Now, men generally get joint custody and more women work (so alimony is much more rare).
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/16 10:41 PM
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Yes, but that's because a lot of men would rather stay in a bad relationship than move on. When I told my husband I wanted a divorce (over 15 years ago), he was dumbfounded. He hadn't been listening to me for years.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/16 04:11 PM
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Yes, I agree with that. If someone twisted it into taking advantage of others, it could be considered power (got my boyfriend to buy me . . . ) but I think that's pretty scummy behavior and I don't think that many women do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/16 04:01 PM
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Lol. I said upgraded (by airline employees). Actually, I got more upgrades and free drinks from female stewardesses than anyone else--flying used to be a lot more fun than it is now. No one upgrades me anymore either, because I'm middle aged and flying has become something to endure. But, at least now I can pay for my own upgrades.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/16 04:45 AM
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Key words being "direct" and "influence." I don't think young women do as much "directing" and "influencing" of others as they're given credit for on these forums.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/16 02:50 AM
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I disagree. Getting other people to do what you want is power. Just getting random gifts is different.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/16 02:01 AM
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It really is. A woman who gets what she wants by manipulating some guy to do it for her is setting herself up for failure in life. Unless things go perfectly, but life is rarely perfect. I'm not saying young attractive women don't get a lot thrown at them. I used to get first class upgrades, warnings instead of tickets (still get these--guess cops don't like ticketing mom types either). None of those bennies are power, though, because they come from someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/16 01:49 AM
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I think the idea that women lose power as they age is just wrong. Both men and women usually are at their earning peaks in their 50's if they are professionals. I also question whether women become more radical as they age--is that true? I wouldn't assume so just because Gloria Steinhem says so.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/16 05:11 AM
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My sons were making fun of it at dinner one night. I was curious, then horrified.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/16 02:40 AM
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Okay. I meant insulting and incorrect.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/16 12:32 AM
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This. What she said was just insulting to young women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/16 07:38 PM
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That I could see. People place too much value on the things that matter only temporarily in life (appearance, money, etc). Some people of both genders do that, others don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/16 02:21 AM
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But there is a difference between unconditional love and being there for your partner. I would expect a partner to be open and cry on my shoulder. Actually, holding back and being aloof would be less attractive to me than being genuine. The same guys complaining about the lack of depth in women's love talk about women as numbers (an HB9 vs an HB7) and use dread game on people they're supposed to love. Pretty sure they'd move on if their gf gained 50 pounds or put some conditions on how she maint…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/16 02:19 AM
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George Washington. That he was such a tremendous leader and yet was able to step down when he could have ruled on showed wisdom and shaped our nation. Mr Rodgers. He stood up for what he believed in (when asked by fundamentalists to castigate gays etc, he said God loved them just the way they were--mind you, he did this decades ago as a minister, when that wasn't an easy position to hold.) He brought people together. He taught a generation of children. He loved his family and cared for others. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/16 05:58 AM
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No. I don't think most people cheat in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/16 07:02 PM
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This is spot on. Other than the shape, why couldn't the woman be the key and the man be the lock? It's an analogy after all. The reason the woman is considered the lock is a presupposition that she is trying to stay chaste. It just doesn't make much sense (and yes, I get what the analogy is going for, but it's a poor one).
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/16 02:58 AM
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Yup. I find bulky, muscular guys kind of unattractive. I dated a football player wayyy back in the day, and he was just so dull. I think I associate muscles now with not being very bright. Not fair, I suppose, but I tend to like geekier types (in my age range of over 50)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/16 03:44 PM
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Actually disagree with this. I know a lot of professional couples, and for the most part, the high earning men I know have high earning wives. That may not be a factor in their attraction, but it seems that people pair out with others of their social and economic class.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/16 07:33 AM
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Strength of the relationship, but also the woman's (or man's) character (both genders cheat. Not as much as this forum seems to think, though). I think it's pretty trashy to start a new relationship without formally ending the first one.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/16 05:13 AM
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Neither. There are men and women who possess empathy, and those who don't. And how much varies by person (not gender) as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/16 05:08 AM
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Not my type. I'm too introverted and don't want to be around an extrovert. He be dragging me to parties I don't want to go to, and inviting friends over all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/16 07:59 PM
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No. No. No. Chad has social skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/16 05:25 PM
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Huh. I strongly prefer weird beta guys in their 50's (throw in all of above, plus make them quirky in some way. Comic book collecting a plus, attempted comic book writing even more. So maybe not quite like the guy described as I prefer someone with some passions/ intense hobbies. Looking at past boyfriends, the one who truly bored me was the alpha/jock/football player. Nothing against him, but we had nothing in common.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/16 03:20 AM
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Weak people can't apologize.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/16 02:18 PM
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Those are great quotes. My problem with the red pill that its end goal is empty. I work with people who are ill, often near the end of their lives. There is nothing red pill about the elderly couples I see who spent their lives sharing and loving each other. Where is the love in dread? In purposely manipulating your significant other? Red pill seems very immature to me. It's a video game approach where women are treated like objects.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/16 02:46 AM
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Yes, I think that's what feminism is. Equal rights and equal opportunities, knowing that men and women often make different choices. I guess there are feminists who take it too far now, but I don't think they're heard that much outside of college campuses.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/16 03:57 PM
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The misogyny. They come from a family with a lot of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/16 01:47 PM
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Well I hope they choose well and have lifelong marriages, if that's the route they go. There is always so much concern here about assets in a divorce. I think you're about 40 years too late for that. My father got divorced in the 70s, and it was assumed that my mom would get custody. It's not really that way anymore. I've also raise my kids to at least try to take responsibility for their choices. If you're in a marriage where one partner stays home, that partner deserves to be compensated if it…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/16 01:44 PM
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I'm a woman, was a single mom, and when my son was briefly bullied I supported him hitting the bully back. He actually went a little overboard and squeezed the bully's neck. No one told a teacher because it was all not supposed to happen. That ended it, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/16 01:50 AM
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Well, if that's what TRP is, then sign me up! But of course, that's not all it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/16 01:47 AM
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I know my adult sons know about it since they told me. They find it pathetic, though. I could see them reading TRP for a laugh, and I think they have in the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/16 01:46 AM
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To me, it's a sign of low self esteem and a lack of trust. Makes the jealous person appear small and illustrates that he or she thinks little of the other's integrity. I have no patience for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/16 04:00 PM
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Conflict avoidance. I am working on that because it is a problem later in a relationship, especially if I'm growing dissatisfied with something and not expressing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/16 02:00 PM
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I am civil and friendly with a huge variety of people. The way other people choose to live falls under the category of none of my beeswax.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/16 05:02 AM
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No change. I don't know any red pillers in real life and I'm so post wall, a red pill guy wouldn't probably even talk to me (unless he needed some health care, I guess.) I will say that when the OT where I worked commented on my gait being abnormal, I wondered if he was negging me. Nope--just a little awkward and he meant it kindly. I think TRP is toxic and false (other than improve yourself and get your self worth outside of validation from the opposite gender). But a red piller in his 50's or …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/16 08:00 PM
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Not ridiculous. People can change, but only someone obsessed with political correctness would think there was no risk in marrying a former playmate model with substance abuse problems. People who place too much value on their sexuality and looks are bound to have self esteem issues as they grow older (to me that would be the playmate model potential problem.) And all addicts are selfish. It's just what addiction does, and it's why you can't be one and be a good parent at the same time. That's tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/16 01:59 AM
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This is me, too. I've been accused of being demisexual. It's almost like I can't be attracted to a stranger. The thought of casual sex is horrific to me and I can't even picture it being anything but awkward and something to be endured. In a relationship, I'm fine, though, and with one exception, I've always dated friends and coworkers.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/16 02:17 AM
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I'm the same way. I broke up with a guy after a romantic getaway, because he poured grease down the sink. When I tried to teach him that that wasn't ok, he laughed and said he knew, but it wasn't his house we were staying at. He showed me he couldn't respect somebody else's condo that we rented and I figured I would see that disrespect directed at me in the future if we kept dating
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/16 04:15 PM
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Lifts heavy weights? Really?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/16 05:05 AM
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Values Personality Stability Sexual Skills Looks I will say there is a set point for looks (they don't matter unless someone doesn't meet the minimum. My standards are pretty low--mostly, I wouldn't date someone who was over, say 300 pounds.) Values matter so much--do we find the same things important? Not looking to date someone who places their religion high on their values list, for example. When I was younger, I dated a guy who was strikingly good looking for a few years, and my ex husband w…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/16 03:58 AM
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How is it familiar?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/16 03:32 AM
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He took Seroquel and I think it helped. He would be fine, and then get in a mood where he would just become angry and out of control. Those incidents were usually caused by something no one could control (a tax bill, poor service at a store, bad day at work, etc). 99% of the time he was an extremely nice guy, and less than 1% he was frightening. I couldn't deal with the 1%, or the fear that anything could set it off. I wasn't afraid for me (he wasn't violent)--I was afraid he'd get hurt, because…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/16 02:52 AM
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One of each. My female friend has tons in common with me and we can go weeks without talking and pick up as if we were just together. My guy friend I call, write, or text everyday and he checks in as he has pretty severe depression. I'm kind of his check in person, since he won't tell his guy friends how bad it really is ( he doesn't want to bother them. I tell him to bother me, and he seems okay with that )
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/16 01:43 AM
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One thing I've learned is to eliminate "noise"from my life. I lean libertarianish, but am not a joiner. Not a member of any party (the Independent party is an oxymoron). So until the ballots are formed. I'm neutral and letting it go (I have no primary vote). I can't stand trump or clinton. Like sanders as a person, but that would get him a dinner invite rather than a vote.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/16 01:32 AM
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That's a very large generalizarion. Who you consider a friend is a personality thing, not a gender one. And the idea that women can't be good and true friends is ridiculous. Kind of depends on the quality of the people you know. I personally am super selective---tons of acquaintances, but only 2 true friends who could call me anytime for help. It's not because I'm a woman, but.because I'm an introvert.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/16 01:25 AM
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Pretty sure someone that red pill is actually blue and having some fun. That's how I read his (probably her) posts.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/16 01:11 AM
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I have not found that to be how autistic people act. I'm sure some do, but there are very sweet, caring people out there who are not neurotypical. Being autistic is different from being an asshole.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/16 01:00 AM
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I hate saying women (or men) do anything in general since every one is unique. I don't mind men with autism. The last guy I dated had undiagnosed autism, and I adjusted by being very direct about what I expected or wanted, since hints would have gone over his head. At 1 year, it was the longest relationship he'd ever had (by his 50s), and I think it was because I took that approach (as well as noticing and adjusting for some sensory issues he had). He also had diagnosed bipolar disorder and low …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/16 12:54 AM
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I don't think this means very much. Only an idiot would hire based on a photo or looks compared to a resume and experience. Plus even those who normally wouldn't let looks influence them were forced to choose. Maybe there are some slight underlying prejudices, but there always will be and most people can get past them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/16 03:59 PM
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Women want to look good, so some wear makeup. And most who wear makeup want some attention from men. How that logically means they want men to lead them, I don't know. Don't see the jump to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/16 07:30 AM
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I think it is the eggs, but I'm not 100% positive. It's quite a risk for older women, but I think she would have aborted if testing had shown Down Syndrome. We had a scare with my daughter (and I was only in my early 20s) because testing showed she had a high risk of having it. Declined amniocentesis because we wanted her no matter what, but I will admit to crying with happiness when the doctor said she had no birth defects.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/16 07:19 AM
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Agreed on that. But frozen eggs from when you were younger? I think it's a win for science!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/16 06:58 AM
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I'm happy. I have wonderful grown kids who are productive and doing well. I have two friends who would help me bury a body if need be (not that I would ever need to, but that level of friendship.) I have a great career that is meaningful, and I can work as little or as much as I want. I'd make 6 figures if I worked 40 hours, but I choose to work part time. I don't have a partner, and wish I did. It's the one thing lacking in my life (ironically, I'm taking the only piece of good advice I ever se…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/16 06:56 AM
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How is that degenerate? It's called starting a family after you have the means to support one. The best parent I ever met is my friend who had her kid at 40 something. She had her life so together by then, she was amazing.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/16 06:41 AM
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I guess I don't find those numbers very disturbing. I got married at 21, and it was a mistake. I'm happy that my daughter has finished college and is planning on grad school--better that she has some skills before starting a family. I plan on offering to pay for her to have her eggs frozen if she gets to 30 without getting married, because she may want kids when she's older. Seems okay to me. For men or women, early 20's is too young to marry.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/16 06:34 AM
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Weddings are a celebration. If you want one and you and your family can afford it, why not? I would rather spend the money in other ways, but I think judging what people think is worth buying is a waste of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/16 06:23 AM
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Huh. I think if someone makes a rape accusation, the police should always be involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/16 02:08 AM
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I think most (or at least a lot of) women call themselves feminists; it just seems to mean something different online.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/16 01:40 AM
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I don't think anybody would ever argue that the two have the same monetary value. You can hire a nanny, you can hire a housekeeper. I'm a single woman and I hire a handyman. If a couple chooses to go 40 years 30 years etc with one member at home (and I come from a family like that,) the stay-at-home spouse provided something intangible and should receive some sort of retirement. If, after staying home for decades, she gets nothing , then she took all the risk of working within the household for …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/16 01:11 PM
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That is easily purchased. I don't think alimony makes sense very often, but I look at my own parents. Married at this point for over 40 years--what would my stepmom do at this point? She has been a rock to the household; should she get nothing if it fell apart with her a senior citizen? No, she would justly get alimony, and my dad would hire a housekeeper (actually, they already have one). If you left a job after 30-40 years, you would likely get some form of retirement; same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/16 06:37 AM
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No, it's more like this: woman married for 30 years and marriage falls apart. She gets alimony because she's older, unlikely to enter the work force, and it's a form of retirement. I've never seen it for short term marriages. I was married for 15 years and that was considered too short for alimony. These cases where women get awarded permanent support are career length marriages.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/16 06:05 AM
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I don't know . . . I walked around NYC with a friend a few months ago, and he meticulously made sure he was on the outside. I thought it was kind of hot, and I appreciated it. We're both old, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/16 03:21 AM
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Generally, I think all people know that divorce brings poverty. I think men often overestimate the amount that they're taken to the cleaners (they're happy to have a stay at home wife, then wonder why they need to pay for the transition or in the case of someone who put in a career at home, alimony). As for the woman in that link, I just skimmed, but she seems heartbroken. Seems like her husband's midlife crisis is going to ruin both their financial futures.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/16 03:00 AM
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I don't think women should be equal to men or vice versa. They should have equal opportunity, and usually, they do. I think opportunity is based more on class than gender nowadays.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/16 04:21 AM
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Uh, not feminists. Parents. Pretty sure dads (and moms) want their underage daughters unmolested.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/16 01:38 AM
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I agree with this. However, in addition, I think pimping should be a life in prison level felony.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/16 09:04 PM
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All redditors lie all the time . . .
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/16 03:39 PM
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I agree that would be true, but i havent met people like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/16 03:27 AM
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There are plenty of women who travel and engage in hobbies or new activities on their own. I traveled as a young adult and still do. When I want a friend to come along, I call him or her up. ??? It's a personality issue, not a gender one.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/16 06:06 AM
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Huh. I don't have twitter, but when I look online, I see wastehertime starting Dec 24th and wastehistime starting yesterday. Maybe I'm not seeing all the posts or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/16 04:12 AM
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I think it's childish but it's a response to wastehertime2016. I don't have Twitter, but it looks to me like waste her time came a lot earlier but was less catchy. The outrage for waste his time and the lack of it for waste her time (plus the difference in how much they caught on) is interesting. Both seem dumb to me, and not worth getting upset over. Anyone of either gender who would treat others so poorly is an ass, but I think this is supposed to be a joke
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/16 01:40 AM
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A man who would condemn you as a faggot for saying you're bisexual isn't even worth being friends with; why bother? Guys who aren't bigots can be great, though. I have two best friends--one guy and one woman. My female best friend and I can go weeks without talking, and it's like the time has never passed. We're just in synch no matter what. My guy best friend, I talk with every single day. I'm always stunned at how thoughtful he is and I value his insight from a different perspective. (And no, …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/16 06:35 AM
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I'm a very post wall feminist, so I'll luckily never be in that situation. But from my younger days, I would have (and did) find that approach annoying. Never was into dating strange guys I met-- they were always coworkers, friends, or friends of friends. And omg, if some guy I met started randomly touching me on the small of my back etc I would find that an enormous turn off.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/16 08:40 PM
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Uh. . . I have never heard anything like that. Cheating is a character flaw, and as a feminist, I would hold women to the same standard as men: have a little honor and self respect, and don't do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/16 08:38 PM
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Aint nothin' wrong with ABBA! I (still) love them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/16 07:00 PM
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I lived in Japan for a year and South Korea for a year as well. In both countries, white guys who lacked social skills but were good looking were very successful with women. I think because the "lack of social skills" was written off as a language difference. Especially in Korea, I saw some guys not realize they were being used. One in particular paid off a girl's balance at a bar that pretty much pimped her out. He thought they would get married, but she turned right around and indebted herself…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/16 09:23 PM
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I think that's more personality than gender related. I've known both and women who are very sensitive.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/16 09:04 PM
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My youngest went to private schools, but for my oldest, the increase was mostly the college years. I (and my divorce decree) consider anyone under 23 in college to be a child still as far as support is concerned). I never had goal of spending the minimum raising my kids. Of course it could be done for less.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/15 11:16 AM
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Horse manure. I think about earning more money to support my kids -all the time- (and am on a travel contract to do so right now, rather than at home where I would rather be). I'm a daily shoulder to lean on for a male bff who has issues with severe depression. I would like to see some evidence of feminists thinking they want to be provided for and just pursue personal interests. However, I have nothing against personal interests--no matter your gender. Write that novel! I wrote my crappy novel …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/15 03:44 AM
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Totally agree with this. Raising a child grows in expense as the kids age--little kids who need preschool are relatively cheap; my college kids cost me more per year than my entire income when I was young.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/15 08:30 PM
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Some things to consider about child support in general: 1. It is independent of marital status so not worth avoiding marriage to avoid supporting children 2. This is anecdotal, but child support accounts for a bigger percentage of the cost of raising a child in the early years. A young child is cheap to raise; an older one, not so much. My example: I got about $5K per year per child. Early years, 5K was a huge part of the cost--way over more than half. Later years? Let's see, last year--Tuition …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/15 08:26 PM
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It would be interesting to see new opera. Closest thing to that I've seen is Hamilton (a hip hopera, it's been called). Pretty blue pill. I kind of think art will mostly reflect the time in which its created.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/15 04:18 PM
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It's because there is a lot of melodrama in opera. Plus, you can spin it any way you want. Blue pull would say chocho-san was taken advantage of and cpt Pinkerton was hypergamous. Red pill would say he was just spinning plates. I will say the lesson from Pagglici is true, though, as it's hard to love a clown.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/15 03:54 PM
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One thing to consider is that 60 year olds are appealing to older women. I get propositioned on online dating by young guys now and then. But anyone under 45 has an smv of zero to me. Just not even in the realm of possibility, even if by most they'd be considered attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/15 11:27 PM
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How old are you? Odds are she has no interest in you other than being friendly. Although they exist, most women aren't cougars. Waving and saying hi is not flirting. Also, asking if all women do something is dumb. People are individuals.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/15 12:40 AM
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And women did the dangerous work at home, working long hours as well unless they were wealthy. Many died in childbirth. Life was harder for all . . .
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/15 09:12 PM
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Lol. If I were a guy, I would steer clear of anyone who referred to themselves as a princess. But I wouldn't need trp for that . . .
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/15 04:16 AM
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In just my family, I have an aunt who is an automotive engineer and one who is a civil engineer, so yes, cars and roads. And one of my best friends is a scaffolder, who yes, has worked on oil rigs. She has always commented that people are so surprised that she can do that when she doesn't even have a penis!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/15 04:13 AM
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I was a very happy (divorced) single mom. Much happier than when I was married. And over time, I learned to support myself as well as a man because I got a career rather than a job. Being a parent is the most rewarding experience of my life, but I'm glad my daughter got her college degree and knows that grad school is important as well for her career plans. FWIW, I pretty much didn't date as a single parent because I felt the guys who were interested in me weren't high enough quality to step int…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/15 03:51 PM
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Um . . . why not? I used to teach in a K-2 school (speech therapy) and the male kindergarten teacher was awesome.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/15 09:55 PM
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Maybe. I'm definitely blue pill, and I believe in personal responsibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/15 09:26 AM
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I agree. It's a character flaw in the cheater, not something caused by their partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/15 03:16 AM
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I see patients and have to make clinical decisions. I still have to do research. Granted, working is easier than grad school was, just because then I saw patients and went to school at the same time. If you have a job where you do the same thing all the time, you didn't pick a very challenging career. (Edited to add: I enjoyed school. I guess not everyone does.)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 02:46 AM
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The thing is, college is the easy part. Graduate school is harder. So is the military (I've done both). Actually--just working a job while being a parent is harder. College--no matter what you study as an undergrad--while challenging to college kid, is a stepping stool. You learn to do it and move on and up to more responsibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 02:40 AM
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I just don't see the connection between being against slut shaming and partner count. I think people should build the lives they want to live (and live and let live as long as they aren't hurting others). I couldn't even imagine having a ONS, but I am okay with other people being into that. I think if I encountered red pill tactics in the real world, I'd end up laughing (and leaving). Life's too short for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 02:29 AM
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Omg, this. I always think, who would want to have sex with a stranger when they could have sex alone? For me, there is no such thing as casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/15 12:31 AM
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I don't buy the premise of hypergamy in modern America. If you look at it as going for "something better" while in a relationship (looks, etc), there are both men and women who do that. If you look at it as trying to make the best financial match, I just don't see that in a world where women work. I think people tend to end up with their financial equals.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/15 07:21 PM
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I think it's really sad how a lot of people base their value on how much money they make. I agree. After a certain baseline of providing basic support, money shouldn't matter. I don't understand valuing people by their income. Look at that former hedge fund manager who bought that toxoplasmosis drug and increased the price from $13.50 to $750. Sure, I bet he's rich. A shittier human being would be hard to find, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/15 07:16 PM
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No, young women should be all they can be. I know plenty of professional women with good marriages. I am very happy that my daughter is headed to graduate school next fall (well, if she gets in). Women should be able to support themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/15 06:21 PM
4

I was on a coffee date recently, where I could tell the guy was disappointed in what I do for a living. In chatting online, he had misunderstood me and thought I had a much lower level job. Maybe he was intimidated because he makes a lot less than me? I don't know, but I could sense a change when he found out I have a professional career. I'm past child rearing age, btw, so it wasn't related to that. I don't think all men are like that--I'm sure there are some who would prefer a partner who brin…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/15 06:15 PM
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I really disagree with this. Both genders need both love and respect for and from their partners (a relationship would be empty if it was one sided on either of these things.) Reminds me of my marriage, though, since my ex used to say things like "respect is earned." I think if you don't respect your spouse, you are married to the wrong person.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/15 03:36 PM
2

All way too young for me, but only number two is appealing. I'm taking those fedoras as ironic, and I bet he's hilarious.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/15 04:11 AM
2

I thought he looked like the night stalker, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/15 04:07 AM
3

I think it's also a woman's responsibility to pay for half the support. That said, at least how it worked out for me, the early years, my ex paid more than half. As the kids grew up, the amount he paid in child support became a smaller and smaller percentage of the actual cost of their support. Last year, I think it covered about a fifth (college tuition, a car, 2 vacations, medical insurance and bills, a root canal and tooth extraction--it's not babies who are expensive, but rather college kids…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/15 10:09 PM
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Child support doesn't cover the full cost of raising a child--I think it was assumed that women pay as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/15 02:58 PM
4

This is me, as well. It's always personality first--and I tend to like smart, quirky guys with a lot of emotional intelligence, which is pretty rare. I can't even understand the concept of casual sex or a ONS, because I could never be attracted to someone that quickly.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/15 03:48 AM
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No, not women, drama queens. There are men like that, too. It's a personality issue, not a gender one.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/15 09:45 PM
5

This is private stuff--why is she airing it in public? No, of course it doesn't confirm the alpha widow concept--it's a single anecdote and we have no idea what really happened between them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/15 09:25 PM
2

I get the impression that that's exactly what they think.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/15 11:50 PM
1

Female, moderate blue, INFJ
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/15 07:50 PM
5

Same here. It's made me realize there is still a purpose to feminism. I get accused (tongue in cheek) by my kids of being sexist because I step into gender roles no problem (automatically do the cooking, kind of traditional, was a stay at home mom for years, etc). Feminism seemed like a movement that was needed in the past to get the vote etc, but didn't seem relevant anymore to me. I found out on reddit that misogyny is a thing, though, so I was wrong. I wouldn't date anyone who used red pill t…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/15 04:34 PM
7

Omg, who cares about "likes" on Facebook? That's just empty validation from near strangers. Make some good friends who are there for you and cheer you on in real life, and do the same for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/15 08:34 AM
3

I had mine tied right after my third child was born, and it was surprising how long my recovery was. It was a bigger operation than I had thought it would be. If I could time travel, I would push for a vasectomy.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/15 03:03 AM
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It can be a challenge to find a doctor who will tie your tubes if you are young and childless. At least it used to be (maybe laws have changed.)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/15 12:47 AM
1

I don't think so because that's assuming a lot about "the right guy" and "the wrong guy." Some women don't like alfalfas. I didn't like them when I was young and still find them dull. Unless he was the nerdiest alpha in the world (or the most alpha nerd), I suppose, but I've never actually met someone like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/15 11:58 PM
2

People are crazy (and I'm talking about those who think they have any say in whether a stranger has kids or not).
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/15 11:47 PM
1

See, I don't have a problem with the last part. That's just honest if it's true. I would start out with "our sex life sucks and we need to work on it" before the covert dread, though. I read a red pill report a few days ago where someone made his girlfriend uncomfortable on purpose by commenting on her age and how it's getting up there. It's that kind of stuff--making your partner less confident by undermining her that turns me off. I would have no patience for that, as I think friends don't do …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/15 06:47 PM
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We have different definitions then. I would call a request for a cup of tea, a direct request and not manipulation. Putting on makeup or your best foot forward, also not manipulation to me, but less direct, so I could see how you could call it that. The thing is, most of what I see TRP call for is what I would call manipulation in a bad way (emotionally abusive). All I can control is myself, so if I were dating someone who started to neg me etc, I'd march his ass out the door.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/15 06:28 PM
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No, staying at home with parents isn't a marriage partnership. Assets accrued during a marriage are joint. It's how it works in this country, so if you don't like it, don't get married and maintain a separate residence from your SO to keep your assets completely unmingled.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/15 05:52 PM
4

Without abortion, it's a myth that women are in total control. I got pregnant twice on birth control. The progesterone only pill and the sponge. I was among the less than 1% on the pill and the 9% on the sponge. Think of that 9%. You get 1000 girls using that, and over a year, 90 will be pregnant! On the progesterone only pill, it's under 1%, but you'd still have 5 girls or so. Birth control reduces risk of pregnancy but none eliminate it. (I was married when I got pregnant--they were just genui…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/15 05:42 PM
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I think one of 2 things can be inferred from the article: 1--The writer had a terrible mother OR 2--The writer is nuts He said his mom had to give him up to the state. That's an act reserved for truly trashy parents or those who are dealing with such exreme mental illness that they can't cope. Which is it? I don't know, but I do know that you can't generalize his bad experience with a single mother to all single mothers. Example: My stepfather was a wonderful man who always treated me as his own…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/15 05:30 PM
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I agree people need to think carefully about their finances before marrying (and please, if your partner is a stay at home parent, contribute to his or her IRA as well as your own). Having one partner stay home is a joint decision and should be made with eyes open. However, once that decision is made, both people are earning half, no matter which one is going off to work every day and which one is being supportive. Spouse not supportive and a stay at home person not necessary? Then don't make th…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/15 05:25 PM
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Manipulation by either means (physical or mental) is vile. I've known men who were physically abusive AND mentally abusive, and women who were the same. They're not the norm, but be careful who you choose to be with. It's not "their own mental/social manipulation game." Women who do that are disgusting as well. And again, not normal behavior in men or women.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/15 05:01 PM
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Men do that as well. It's a personality and character issue, not a gender issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/15 04:19 AM
3

But why? I've known one man who had something like that happen to him. His wife decided she didn't like sex at all. In part, it was because she's never had an orgasm, and in part it was because it turned out they were infertile (he'd had a vasectomy that wasn't reversible). So gradually, their sex life turned into nothing (they're in their late 50s.). That wasn't a plan, though, it's just the sad way it turned out over years of marriage. And I know way too much about their sex life because he an…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/15 04:00 AM
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No, you don't have to lie to undermine someone. Manipulating is a selfish and covert way of getting what you want. Take dread game. A guy who has been rejected too often for sex could overtly ask his partner what is going on (do we have differing libidos? How about quickies/oral to make up the difference; maybe he's initiating at a time that is just bad--end of day and wife needs to recharge with a bath/shower first--whatever. These are things adults work out together by communicating verbally a…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/15 03:29 AM
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It's more than presenting your case to change someone's mind. When I go ask for a raise, I present my accomplishments and value to my boss. Manipulation would be to subtly undermine my coworkers in front of the boss or to try to maneuver myself into someone else's job. Manipulation is an ugly, narcissistic personality trait. Personality matters to me. I find negging, dread game etc to be disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/15 08:59 PM
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