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Funny, I can't tell if you're supporting MRAs or mocking them.
/r/MensRights27/05/12 07:01 PM
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It's okay for me, as a man, to be told that statistically I can't multi-task. But point out to a woman that statistically, women are more risk-averse than men and they'll often get very angry about it. especially if you point out that their risk-aversity explains why women are less successful in certain walks of life. You have every right to get mad about being told you can't multitask and you are showing it right now. When have women's rights supporters ever told you otherwise?
/r/MensRights27/05/12 06:37 PM
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Gives excuses of not hanging out. This is all that matters. Move on.
/r/seduction26/05/12 07:14 PM
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Sometimes I ask whether men have any important issues that society should address, and usually have to qualify it with, "regardless of whether said issue is more important than female issues", or "assuming that addressing it doesn't take away from any women's issues". What sorts of answers do you usually get?
/r/MensRights06/05/12 12:02 AM
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Let's break this down into a decision-making table thing with possible outcomes... 1. OP decides to have sex with this girl; her line is bullshit and she doesn't actually need to be in love to have sex. Outcome: OP is lucky as shit and things go well with the chance of a possible casual relationship. 2. He decides to have sex with her; her line is not bullshit and she does need to be in love to have sex. Outcome: He gets laid but he also could get a clingy girl chasing after him or a possible ra…
/r/seduction06/03/12 01:26 AM
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Because it's a symptom of your neediness. How can you know a girl is "incredible" after only a few days of knowing her? Sure, if you fucked her and want to get to know her more, you should definitely start going out and do fun shit. It's called dating. However, I think it's silly to close yourself off to all other girls shortly after you hooked up with someone who you just met.
/r/seduction25/01/12 03:11 AM
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The real question here is why are you in an exclusive relationship with a girl you only met a couple days ago?
/r/seduction25/01/12 12:26 AM
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I genuinely do not care about karma. However, I am very curious as to why my post was downvoted. I think this is good advice and I would like to hear why people disagree with what I said.
/r/seduction22/01/12 05:11 AM
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Get over it. You know how there are some "hot" girls or celebrities that your friends dig and you don't? Or how there are those girls you want to bone that your friends think you're crazy for liking? It's the same thing for girls. Everyone has different tastes so even if you're not the handsomest hunk in the bar, chances are someone in the world finds you attractive enough to date/fuck/marry. Also, there are girls out there that don't care about physical attractiveness as much as others.
/r/seduction21/01/12 06:24 PM
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Communicate. Yes, it is possible that she was tired and wanted to sleep. However, it is also possible that she doesn't usually do one-night stands and felt uncomfortable about it. Maybe she couldn't remember your name. Maybe her dog died the other day and she needed support. The possibilities are endless. The point is that you will never know why she won't have sex with you and you certainly won't get to have sex with her unless you open your mouth and talk to her like a human being. "Hey, you s…
/r/seduction21/01/12 06:08 PM
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Yes, rejection can be temporarily disappointing. However, it is not normal or healthy for you to be experiencing sustained negative feelings such as anger from being rejected. I suggest you read this book on cognitive-behavioral therapy: Intimate Connections
/r/seduction21/01/12 05:52 PM
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This is just a symptom of social anxiety. It sounds like you think that people are not interested in what you have to say and that if you don't work to maintain their interest, they are going to walk away. This is generally not the case. A lot of people (at least the ones that are worth being around) will genuinely listen to what you have to say. I'm not saying you should speak one word a minute, but if you talk calmly and clearly, most people will listen.
/r/seduction21/01/12 05:43 PM
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Also: call, don't text. I have learned these things the hard way.
/r/seduction20/01/12 06:21 PM
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But there's three other studies proving that agreeableness negatively correlated with attractiveness. First off, it's very difficult to hash out the exact conclusions of a study when you're only reading the abstract, which is all that we have at the moment. However, even if we are basing our argument off of only the abstracts of these articles, I don't think they would support the notion that agreeableness is negatively correlated with attractiveness. Let's look at each of the three studies: Stu…
/r/seduction07/01/12 07:14 PM
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Here is another example of the seduction community taking a scientific research study and blowing its conclusions way out of proportion. Let's start off with this study asking women about their preference for men with certain personality characteristics, namely those of the Dark Triad. The results of this study suggest that men with high levels of narcissism, psychopathy, and Machiavellianism are likely to have more sexual partners than males without high levels of these same traits - an interes…
/r/seduction07/01/12 05:52 PM
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I don't think there are any concrete ways to become interesting. I think the main point to drive home from that advice is that you should try to be passionate about something that you enjoy doing, whether it be playing a sport, working, doing a hobby, etc. It will give you a "life" and make extraneous things like girls, media, and other trivial matters seem less important because you have something to turn to if things aren't going your way in other places.
/r/seduction28/12/11 03:39 PM
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You need to get rid of the attitude that you are a "loser." Putting a label like that on yourself is not only counterproductive to your drive for self-improvement, but it also doesn't make any sense. By definition, a "loser" is someone who literally never does anything right. This kind of person does not exist anywhere but in your mind, when you look at yourself with shit-colored glasses and dismiss every success you had in the past and focus only on the failures. A cure for this is to examine t…
/r/seduction28/12/11 03:32 PM
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I made an account and was trying to see how to do the "meet me" thing like you said. However, unless I'm missing something, it looks like they changed the format of the website so you now have to message people you want to talk to. Is there a different way of getting matches than what you were talking about here?
/r/seduction26/12/11 09:58 PM
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How long after sex are you waiting to contact these girls? And when you do, what are you saying?
/r/seduction17/12/11 02:48 AM
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I like to finger bang my girlfriend while at the dinner table.
/r/seduction02/10/11 02:04 AM
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I'd like to see more of these from girls. Very eye-opening.
/r/seduction04/09/11 03:49 PM
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In cognitive-behavioral therapy, they call this the "Brushfire fallacy." It's the idea that if one person looks down on you for something, they will tell everyone they know and soon everyone is going to be laughing at you/looking down on you. The reality is that most people don't care about what's going on in your life nearly as much as their own. Also, a lot of people would probably feel sorry for you or give you encouragement if they heard something didn't go so well with a girl. In my opinion…
/r/seduction12/07/11 02:01 PM
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There is no "it" factor. You are not lacking some fundamental personality trait that sets everyone else apart from you and makes you an inferior person. The fact that you have some anxieties about yourself and behavior in social situations means that you are normal. No one is ever 100% confident and everyone has doubts. The most important thing is that you continue to put yourself out there. When you stop and think about what you're doing and see how dedicated you are to improving yourself as a …
/r/seduction04/07/11 05:27 AM
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This belongs on the Misc., not Reddit.
/r/seduction27/04/11 11:16 PM
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Read up on some cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT). Two good books for that: Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy Intimate Connections
/r/seduction19/04/11 12:13 AM
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Yes, but you probably aren't nearly as anxious as some people in this subreddit (that's why it's called approach anxiety). They never end up talking to girls they find attractive because they don't "feel" like it at the time and, afterward, it eats at their confidence and self-esteem when they think about their failure to open.
/r/seduction16/04/11 03:23 PM
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Why wouldn't you laugh with them about you coming to the party? It was probably a little odd for them to see you if they think you're an introverted engineer. Just keep your cool and go along with it then grab yourself a drink and have a good night. You said one of your friends is loaded with instinctive natural game. You could have found a somewhat attractive girl and told him you're interested in talking to her and asked him for some tips. That would have been better than nothing.
/r/seduction16/04/11 03:19 PM
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It is also possible that had you escalated more she still would have gotten with the other man. I'm not saying this to prevent you from getting more physical with women when you want to but just so you realize things aren't always so black and white and you can do everything "right" and have a girl still fall for someone else.
/r/seduction16/04/11 12:14 AM
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"Fake it till you make it" worked for me for awhile but then a few things happened and I fell from my throne because of some cognitive distortions I had been holding onto my entire life. While it's great that you are having success, I would also suggest you read some literature to see why you were so socially anxious in the first place just so you can keep your head up if things go bad for a little bit. I would suggest you read the book "Intimate Connections" by Dr. David Burns. It talks about c…
/r/seduction11/04/11 04:40 PM
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All this means is to not put the pussy on a pedestal. You can show a girl you like her without making her think you love her more than any other girl in the world (the study says girls only kind of liked guys who said they liked her the "most"). Be realistic and let her know that you think she's cool but if you fawn over her and show doubt that your life would ever be the same without her, she'll drop you like a ton of bricks. This is why inner game is so important. If you have your shit togethe…
/r/seduction11/04/11 04:31 PM
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She wouldnt let me break up over this in hopes that we can fix this Huh? Sounds like she has you on a leash dude. I think she's not as attracted to you because, similar to your self-perceived lack of control over whether or not you're allowed to break up with her, you're sacrificing your own desires for what she wants and that's unattractive to any woman.
/r/seduction27/03/11 10:36 PM
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Can we get a TL;DR for the TL;DR?
/r/MensRights24/03/11 03:57 PM
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Intimate Connections - Dr. David Burns
/r/seduction16/03/11 12:35 AM
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Little pet peeve of mine but increased negative feelings after missing out on a pick-up would be positive punishment. Negative reinforcement is actually the removal of something negative that reinforces behavior. For instance, if you felt very stressed or anxious right before approaching a hot woman, you might just say fuck it and leave the situation. By doing so, you eliminate a lot of the anxiety you just had, making you feel less shitty. This negatively reinforces your behavior of not approac…
/r/seduction03/02/11 02:03 PM
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