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bmorealpha/r/askMRP24/10/18 03:47 PM
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bmorealpha/r/askMRP05/11/18 02:43 PM
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I feel you.
/r/askMRP07/11/18 07:59 PM
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And there is plenty opportunity. I have not found anything yet beyond circumstantial evidence. But I will keep looking and if I don't find anything. I still feel like based on what little evidence I have she has done something. If she cant admit to it that would be a dealbreaker.
/r/askMRP07/11/18 07:59 PM
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So you are suggesting that up and leave my kids in an unstable household alone with a weed addict and any dealers/friends she might invite over. I may have to do this anyway but I atleast need to have my own frame stabilized. My plan is to work on myself for atleast 16 months and then decide if it is worth it or not. Im leaning towards it not being worth it.
/r/askMRP07/11/18 07:57 PM
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We did go out on our anniversary. I booked tickets to the dinner theater. Called and told her I had tickets already and she could come if she wanted. She says well I have to come since you already bought the tickets. I told to put on something sexy, she did. We went out I kept convo to a minimum since I didn't wanna mess up anything. We had a few drinks and a decent date. Went home had sex. And I hate fucked her to exhaustion. Thought I was about to pass out really. Felt good to get some of the …
/r/askMRP07/11/18 07:32 PM
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Im working on being stoic and unwavering but I have a long way to go. Just taking it day by day. Thanks for the comment.
/r/askMRP07/11/18 07:25 PM
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I think you are right although she didn't seem opposed to the recording. While I was thinking logically as in if you want to be heard wouldn't the speaker want the person to hear everything and think about the speaker's words. That was a failure because women and men don't think alike. The apology part was several months ago before I read the post on not to expect an apology from a woman. Yeah im often indecisive because im trying to do things just right...but it will usually end in bad leadersh…
/r/askMRP07/11/18 07:23 PM
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I didn't ignore my wife I often tried to be kind and include her in things, I just didn't stick around for her bad attitudes, which go on all day really depending on how much she has smoked. Mornings are usually the worse time. I have not gotten to the KINO aspect yet I'm still reading the 1st book NMMNG. I am reading it for a 2nd time, not rushing really because I want to internalize it. Your right I'm not a good communicator and may in fact have undiagnosed Asperger's. I am usually not aware o…
/r/askMRP07/11/18 07:17 PM
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That's true sometimes I just read too much without knowing how to even operate the most basic concepts.
/r/askMRP05/11/18 07:43 PM
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Man you read this situation like a book. Your insight is impressive. I do pretty good on the physical stuff. I started 110 on the bench and 140 or the squats. But the mental stuff is like a lifetime of hurt so im slowly working through it. The family is definitely not helping so im working on getting them out of the house. Im definitely a killjoy because I'm always trying to set good examples for the kids and taking them out, planning, and engaging them in all kinds of fun activities. They look …
/r/askMRP05/11/18 07:41 PM
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Please point the red flags on my side so I can continue working on those. Your advice is sound. I will continue to read through the sidebar for the mental aspect. I realize I may need to go through therapy for myself too. On the level of butthurt I believe you are right because other posters have pointed that out. Destruction of the ego is not an easy task but I will give more focus to this task. Resetting every morning has been an enormous challenge because grudge holding has been an active spo…
/r/askMRP05/11/18 06:29 PM
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Good advice.
/r/askMRP05/11/18 05:36 PM
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I think taking action and starting the conversation is a good move. I don't really have anything to say other than victim puke so I wont go there. I just want basic respect and sex and I don't see how talking will negotiate that.
/r/askMRP05/11/18 05:33 PM
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I agree thanks for the advice. One question how do I embed comments I want to reply to on reddit?
/r/askMRP05/11/18 05:30 PM
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Yeah its certainly my fault. Thanks for all the advice guys.
/r/askMRP05/11/18 04:48 PM
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We haven't talked relationship since I swallowed the pill. She keeps insisting on counseling and I say that we can talk face to face. I then compromised and said maybe we could turn it into a listening session where I STFU and even record it. She still disagreed and insist on counseling stating that she will find another way to communicate. Idk what that means except long emails or letters I guess. Cant force her so idk.
/r/askMRP05/11/18 04:47 PM
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The apology thing was before redpill. Backing out of anniversary date was a bad move. Negotiations for relationship talk im confused on....should I just have agreed to go to counseling. She said she wanted to talk I agreed but she wouldn't talk without counseling. Your comment is much appreciated.
/r/askMRP05/11/18 04:39 PM
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What about 1000 ft rope....its not all good until the rope is tightened. I don't feel like its a war on my end but she is engaging in silent treatment and no sex. I try to engage and initiate but I cant control what she does. So I just try and stay consistent with my reading and lifting. I try to include her when I go out with my kids she turns me down, but then looks regretful with all the fun we have had when we return home. I feel like NMMNG has been helping me unpack some things. I hope I'm …
/r/askMRP05/11/18 04:36 PM
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Steel sharpens steel, you have a point.
/r/askMRP05/11/18 04:24 PM
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Seems like sound advice.
/r/askMRP05/11/18 04:23 PM
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I guess you could be right about the gaming, right now I don't find her very attractive due to bad attitude and drug use. At that time I was expecting apology back in July, I have since swallowed the pill in October. I read the post about don't expect apology so I moved on. Already talked to lawyer and basically was told I would be screwed so my my best 2 options are wait for 1000 ft rope or leave. On the sex going almost 3 months without it is hard I don't know if that is validation or just a b…
/r/askMRP05/11/18 04:23 PM
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I threw them out at the time of my orig post. Cold war seems to be getting worse and I was worried because it is uncharted territory.
/r/askMRP05/11/18 04:17 PM
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I could be I would call it socially Impaired. But to your point I only suggested this because I cant see how counseling would help if she is not going to follow the advice of the counselor. How can someone address every issue if you are victim puking for an 1hr flat.
/r/askMRP05/11/18 04:15 PM
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I could withdraw for 15 min but I don't think that is a factor since she will be away in another room smoking weed anyway, just ships passing in the night really. If I'm around her and try and talk there is no conversation reciprocated. If we go out there is just bad attitude. In light of the cold war I did ask her out since she rarely will hang out with me. I understand that was wrong. But going out with someone who will basically not talk and just basically frown at you all night....I wanted t…
/r/askMRP05/11/18 04:13 PM
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My question is about coldwar for STFU which is kinda confusing because STFU seems like it just extends the cold war. Im going about my daily business and trying to build a frame and getting things done. But not communicating except for kids related things seems to be noneffective. I agree about airing out grievances during counseling. What about going to hear her grievances since she connects this cold war to not having a conversation about her grievances. Im thinking about not giving in unless …
/r/askMRP05/11/18 04:02 PM
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Right now that's(lift and reading) exactly what im doing, my question was about cold war for 3months and counseling?
/r/askMRP05/11/18 03:28 PM
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Im confused should I game someone if they are showing bad behavior. Wouldn't that be rewarding bad behavior. I withdraw my time and don't initiate that often for the same reason, she tries not to sleep near me but I initiate anyway only to get hard rejection for last 3 months. admittedly Im blue pill guy the final straw was the weed plant incident. I definitely get out of the house, I go to gym, I go out every weekend with my kids. I visit my sick grandmother atleast 3 days a week for 3 hrs or m…
/r/askMRP05/11/18 03:27 PM
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Im new so I don't know how to embed your comments in my reply anyone help me out on that one... Regarding my addiction, you can say its BS but obviously you are not me and you are not the person experiencing the withdrawal symptoms...As far as tobacco I mainly smoke weed out of blunts that are made of tobacco leaf so that could be a causing factor, but I don't smoke cigarettes. My wife did smoke weed and tobacco during our 1st child pregnancy unknowingly because she didn't know she was pregnant …
/r/askMRP05/11/18 01:38 PM
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Yea it actually is the lawyer said all i could do was try to get it on record that i am the primary caregiver using text messages. This has a small chance of working since we split a lot of the parenting duties right down the middle. Lawyer says in my state infidelity is a nonfactor and judges consider weed abuse to be a joke. Says i most likely will pay her and could lose house. Lawyer says its better to agree on everything out of court before going to judge.
/r/askMRP24/10/18 10:34 PM
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I will check this book out this weekend.
/r/askMRP24/10/18 10:28 PM
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That was my 1st post. I have bought some new clothes and cologne but not a whole wardrobe. In terms of being a fun guy well i usually bring the fun stuff like comedy shows or concerts, movies, new cool restaurants for us to do together. I dont hang out with friends a lot which is my fault. So im reconnecting with friends and fam. In terms of anti weed im not anti weed im anti addicton really. Her addiction has really come between me and our kids. I tried to deal with it but her addiction gets wo…
/r/askMRP24/10/18 10:27 PM
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Thats true, lead by example is the best leadership. We argue over this all the time because she actually subscribes to "do as i say and not as i do."
/r/askMRP24/10/18 07:11 PM
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Thats true. I will let her know what I need in the marriage. If she chooses weed then I will work on me and put my financial affairs in order before initiate divorce. Probably will end in divorce anyway since she may be cheating.
/r/askMRP24/10/18 07:08 PM
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Very sound advice. Anger phase is scary because its hard to know which way to go. Worried about divorce rape. But i have started to work reading trying to internalize NMMNG and lifting. Social life outside of kids needs to be fixed. Financials could be better...not too much debt except credit card about 2k and home loan about 120k, car loan 21k.
/r/askMRP24/10/18 07:07 PM
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How am i going to put a stop to anything if i can only control me? Which means my kids will still spend half of their time with her if we get divorced. My lawyer said the judge does not take weed addiction seriously in my state since we have rampant heroin and crack use so.....
/r/askMRP24/10/18 06:38 PM
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Im confused because i cant make her do anything, if i leave then my kids will be in unstable environment. Im definitely taking this time to focus on me. Im wondering if i should wait 18 months for me to really put the time in working on me before i give ultimatum.
/r/askMRP24/10/18 06:34 PM
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Roger that but....should i give the hard ultimatum. Should i go to mediation to air out grievances. I have not figured out if i should give ultimatum from position of weakness or give the ultimatum anyway since drugs and reckless behavior are in involved. I didnt agree to mediation because im still looking for proof of infidelity as well as im confused if i should give ultimatum during mediation. I was considering giving hard ultimatum regardless telling her its weed or the family and to include…
/r/askMRP24/10/18 06:29 PM
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I agree that is my biggest fear. I feel like if I leave then there would be nonstop partying and all types of shady people around my kids. And when i say shady i mean friends and fam some of whom are known killers that hang around with other felons and all types of shady weed dealers. Honestly i feel like she feels i dont love her because i have not beat her like her dad did to her mom. I also feel like i could fall back into the addiction and screw up my life. Growing up without my dad i always…
/r/askMRP24/10/18 05:28 PM
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