bobjimbobjim Archive

Upvotes	Title	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
407	Mark Manson: 6 healthy relationship habits most people think are toxic	bobjimbobjim	/r/seduction	31/05/14 10:28 PM
6	For those who are fairly well off financially... what is your response when it comes up?	bobjimbobjim	/r/seduction	03/01/14 11:28 PM
1	This guy is trying to set up coffee dates with 1000+ of his facebook friends. Interesting idea to break some AA and just get out there.	bobjimbobjim	/r/seduction	01/10/14 03:20 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
17	Rules I live by when texting That's pretty good. I use the "would you send that text to your buddies?" If no, then your being a little bitch, pussy on pedestal, etc. Try again.	/r/seduction	10/06/14 09:09 PM
2	[Oneitis]How I got over my oneitis. Haha that reminder. Good work.	/r/seduction	21/04/14 10:13 PM
5	How do you react when girls that rejected you start patronizing you (and you work with them) Don't shit where you eat.	/r/seduction	14/04/14 09:26 PM
12	[FR] Sent the same text to 4 different women, and got 4 different responses Instead of asking i usually just go with "i'm going to (insert fun location here) and you are coming with me" This is basically how I asked my (now) GF out for the first time and she brings it up a lot. I said "Hey we are going to [insert even/location/whatever] on [insert day of the week & time of day (evening/afternoon/night)]" Her friends ask her, "how did he ask you out??" She tells her friends: "Well he didn't really ask, he basically he told me I was going on a date." Her friends usually r…	/r/seduction	07/04/14 09:22 PM
17	Spent one day on this subreddit, got my confidence up. Already have a date with a girl I've been crushing on. Math tutoring is hardly shitting where you are eating.	/r/seduction	03/04/14 06:48 PM
17	What is the difference between persistence and neediness? I would say it follows /u/ctranger 's post a bit (link): It's perfectly ok for you think about her often. Embrace it, use it as a means to improve your relationship and what value you can offer her as a man. But ask yourself why you miss her, even though you see her so often.. There could be an insecurity there. Are you afraid to lose her? Needy. Afraid to be on your own? Afraid she might meet someone else? Needy. Your emotional well-being depends on her attention, presence and availability? Nee…	/r/seduction	20/03/14 07:32 PM
6	Discussion on hotness scales and how it effects future relationships As I have gotten older looks have mattered less and less or maybe my standards are just going down in that department. I'm not aging the best, and as I keep on thinking I won't get any girls hotter I keep pulling hotter and hotter girls over the years. It's not like the ones before weren't hot either. I had some hot sex crazed girlfriends. It probably has to do with me just being more confident and not puting girls on the pedestal at the end of the day. I don't find the best sex I've ever had an…	/r/seduction	17/03/14 06:50 PM
1	What about the (best) friendzone? The way I see it is a best friend you can talk about anything with, will talk about your girl interests with you, you don't get jealous when shes with other guys, she acts the same when you're with other girls and she will also help you get with other girls. If this isn't happening either your avoiding it because you don't really want her to be a friend, or she is because of the same reason. Usually it's always the former.	/r/seduction	07/03/14 04:38 PM
6	[FR] Opener that seems to work well for me. Pretty much what this top article on seduction when searching "threading" says	/r/seduction	06/03/14 03:53 PM
2	Can't seem to f-close... but k-close and I've come along way. "I like you because you're confident" [FR] I don't think you're doing anything wrong in particular from the report. From her actions it sounds like she's into you and that she doesn't want a ONS. Some girls just don't like fucking on the first night, you might have to wait 2... Get your text game going and take her on a date if you're into her. Have all the ideas and plan something for her, she likes the confidence.	/r/seduction	03/03/14 03:33 PM
2	Do you guys ever sit there, after a night of going out, and wonder what the fuck did I do wrong? Not trying to sound like an asshole here... but maybe it was because I was from California but in Australia I could pull girls that were +2 out of my range at least (I'm maybe a 7 on a good day - reasonable looking but I'm balding hard). Aussie girls just loved the accent, it was insane. They would seriously just want to hear me talk and say different things. My opening was pretty dumb most of the time too... it was usually "How the hell do you guys get drunk here?" I swear those drinking regula…	/r/seduction	26/02/14 08:01 PM
2	Meeting girls was too easy in Europe. Now I have AA. Basically all over Western Europe (England, Ireland, France, Spain, Germany, Austria, Netherlands, Belgium, Switzerland, Italy), Sweden, Czech Republic, Hungary, and Australia. Stayed in Hostels and Couchsurfed for the most part. You can find some really cool hikes in Europe, especially the alps (France, Austria, Switzerland, Germany and Italy), but there are also some nice paths along the Italian, French and Spanish coastline for instance Cinque Terre and Path of the Gods. Lots of beach too, es…	/r/seduction	25/02/14 02:32 PM
1	Meeting girls was too easy in Europe. Now I have AA. Here's a quick guide to hostels: Look up reviews at www.hostelz.com and/or www.hostelworld.com Pick a hostel that suites your needs. I would recommend finding a highly ranked social hostel that's clean and in a decent part of the city (find a couple sites and see if they are within reason via public transit/ walking). Some people are just straight up cheap, if that's you there are plenty of really shitty hostels that are super cheap. They aren't necessarily fun or a good place to get a night of …	/r/seduction	24/02/14 07:44 PM
1	Meeting girls was too easy in Europe. Now I have AA. I have a feeling it was mostly hooking up with fellow travelers and study abroaders. Getting involved on a local level is much trickier.	/r/seduction	24/02/14 07:31 PM
6	Meeting girls was too easy in Europe. Now I have AA. I realized that back home, people didn't share my enthusiasm for travel the way the travelers I met abroad did. So true, you'll meet people who do though. The thing is is not using it as a focal point. For the most part people don't give a shit about you, they don't give a shit about things you've done, and they especially don't want to hear about your gap yah or study abroad experience. I have serious wanderlust issues as well, and have stories on stories from travelling. What I do is back pock…	/r/seduction	24/02/14 05:29 PM
5	The difference between giving value and beeing needy /u/ctranger had a good post between the differences. http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/yx00j/what_are_the_main_differences_between_being_needy/c5zl6kx	/r/seduction	21/02/14 05:30 PM
1	Don't go out dead-set on getting laid! boner	/r/seduction	21/02/14 03:22 PM
1	Don't go out dead-set on getting laid! We don't fancy upvotin' your kind 'roun here. Scurry off now.	/r/seduction	21/02/14 03:22 PM
1	Calling on the knowledge of the past Use the sidebar and search. Go through the top upvoted posts. Read the books mentioned in the posts. It's a process that takes years sometimes. You won't learn it over night.	/r/seduction	20/02/14 03:32 PM
1	Kissing after blowjobs question for you guys... Use the search bar there first, it seems like a question that would be asked a lot.	/r/seduction	05/02/14 06:21 PM
2	Kissing after blowjobs question for you guys... /r/sex	/r/seduction	05/02/14 06:17 PM
3	What's a good substitute for video games? I used to be fairly addicted to video games in high school. Like any free time I had to play. First delete any games on your phone. That's pretty big. Second hide your games. If you don't want to play don't make it an option. I made the mistake of finding less and less entertaining games to play to curb myself. Before I knew it I became a minesweeper master mind. Third find a cool hobby.. brewing, woodworking, working on your car, guitar, sports whatever. Go on /r/seduction, read books recommend…	/r/seduction	04/02/14 04:34 AM
2	So, just got out of a 5 year relationship. Never diagnosed, but if I didn't play 5 hours of sports and outdoor activities a day I would have been.	/r/seduction	03/02/14 09:59 PM
2	So, just got out of a 5 year relationship. I try and listen, but continuously find my mind wandering to other things when they drone on, catching the last bit, and threading from that Dude, same shit happens to me. Usually you get a little pre-occupied with something. Why else would you be zoning on it? Try to guide it towards either what your thinking or just something youre more interested in.	/r/seduction	03/02/14 09:20 PM
3	Have you ever Successfully picked up a girl that was out of your league and how do you keep that interest going? One of my favorite quotes is a ShitMyDadSays: That woman was sexy...Out of your league? Son. Let women figure out why they won't screw you, don't do it for them. That being said I would say if you base it on looks only I have quite a few times. Keep the mentality that no one is out of your league, because face it they aren't. Once youre there it's the same shit as being with ANY other high value girl. Be your awesome self, work on your inner game, do the cool shit you would normally do, if you a…	/r/seduction	03/02/14 04:42 PM
1	Getting people to really listen to what you have to say Keep your stories in context. Do not dwell on a thought to throw out in a social setting just to throw it out. Adapt to the conversation. It's a way to take the lead if you are not the leader. If you find something to say and the conversation moves on from that, back pocket your thought, and find something else to say. For instance say your buddy is talking about the time they almost got arrested and you think oh shut I can one up them with my hilarious arrest story. Then the conversation gets s…	/r/seduction	01/02/14 08:06 PM
2	Short, baby face and skinny, how do I gain confidence and reply to comments about it? You probably need to change your workout routine and your eating habits to put on mass. /r/fitness can help more with this but what I'd do and ive done to put on mass is do low reps high weight pyramid style training and only workout 1 or 2 muscles per workout (the typical gym rat training sesh would be something like Back and Biceps, Chest and Tris, Shoulders and Legs, repeat) . Start sets low weight high reps, end your last set high weight low reps. Have a protein shake with about 20 grams of …	/r/seduction	01/02/14 07:51 PM
14	Text game: don't force conversation I'm not sure about the rest of you but I never open with 'hi'. Even girls I've known for weeks. My first text is usually something we have had in common (inside joke preferably)... If you don't have something to work with or haven't really met up before a hi might be ok. I just wouldn't expect her to develop a conversation out of it so I would use the direct approach and ask her out asap. 'Hi' is a way to get started but will only get you so far in the text game. If she throws out one or two con…	/r/seduction	01/02/14 07:36 PM
1	f-closing Cut it off and get closure. No need to stress over some girl you barely know. Outcome independence man, outcome independence. Send this one over: "ok, well it looks like you aren’t interested. Nice to meet you and moving on."	/r/seduction	01/02/14 12:05 AM
1	How do you deal with language barriers? This is huge, and a lot harder than it sounds. Make a concerned effort to do it, and if they try to speak with you in english don't let them. I had a lot of trouble with this in Germany because everyone is so goddamn good at english and it's such a tough language. This guy here successfully avoided resorting to english all the time. Taking an approach like this to learning a language is your best bet. And you are right people will find it cute/funny if you don't say the "right" word but an equiv…	/r/seduction	29/01/14 02:59 PM
3	I'm writing a short essay on the importance of nonverbal communication for a speech class. http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/1conyd/listen_to_her_actions_not_her_words/	/r/seduction	28/01/14 09:34 PM
1	Chickened out on girl at the gym. What should I have done? When she rolled over sarcastically/laughingly acting like you were offended would have been a good opener. Or something like 'wow that workout was intense I might have to try it sometime.'	/r/seduction	27/01/14 06:45 PM
57	Be bold when texting Pretty bold calling HB mom. I like your style.	/r/seduction	27/01/14 06:36 PM
1	One night stand went well - how would you set up a FWB arrangement? http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/1q1u03/how_i_set_up_a_fwb_situation/	/r/seduction	27/01/14 06:34 PM
8	Be bold when texting Yea, I should add a disclaimer of in context of being bold.	/r/seduction	27/01/14 06:31 PM
1	f-closing Shouldn't have asked to hang after 11. Youre coming across a little needy that way. Definitely chill a bit and text her. She might just be busy... if she doesn't want to hang again drop the "ok, well it looks like you aren’t interested. Nice to meet you and moving on."	/r/seduction	27/01/14 04:34 PM
97	Be bold when texting If I start thinking I probably shouldn't send something, I always send it.	/r/seduction	27/01/14 04:29 PM
1	Advice on backpacking game I love me some aussie babes. Most of them really like the American accent... it's easy game. I traveled alone for a while through Europe before I had much game and it wasn't incredibly difficult. I recently traveled through Australia and it was even easier. Meet people in your hostel as soon as possible but make sure it's in a social settting. Going to sites or exploring with them can be a plus but you don't need to. As long as you can come off as a social person in the evening you should have a…	/r/seduction	25/01/14 04:59 AM
2	Where to approach in these cold winter months? California?	/r/seduction	25/01/14 04:53 AM
5	[FR] Night out doing a Pub Crawl [I was #closed] I imagined this post was like this	/r/seduction	25/01/14 04:50 AM
1	[FR] Best text game Ive had so far. Dodging infinite shit tests leads to F-close. Transcript inside Plenty of guys there that don't know what they're doing.	/r/seduction	24/01/14 04:30 PM
1	How to Impress a Girl in Her Own Backyard: Where do you take a girl who knows the city better than you do? At least give her an idea of what you're doing so she knows what to wear. That's going to be one of her biggest issues coming into the date. If she is at the very least attracted to you enough to meet up she won't care that much what you end up doing. Ice skating is always fun unless she hates it. So maybe since you said you'd get back to her say what do you think about blah blah food truck and ice skating? I really don't think it's necessary to surprise her, but surprising is not a bad way to g…	/r/seduction	24/01/14 04:29 PM
1	[FR] Best text game Ive had so far. Dodging infinite shit tests leads to F-close. Transcript inside I dated a girl from tech. It was like she never met a guy before and she had a few boyfriends when she was there.	/r/seduction	24/01/14 04:16 PM
1	Let's talk about persistence. How much is too much, How much is too little? Unless he doesn't in fact have a new song on the radio... even then still a better opener than "hey whats up?" Even girls I've been seeing for a couple of weeks I still never open with "hey whats up?" One quote I liked on here was: "Would you say that to your guy friends? If you say 'No' don't send it." That doesn't always hold true but it gives you a better idea of what you should say.	/r/seduction	24/01/14 04:01 PM
13	[FR] Best text game Ive had so far. Dodging infinite shit tests leads to F-close. Transcript inside Great breakdown. This is what OP needed in the FR. OP offers a quick explanation for the silence, then eludes to canceling the initial froyo plans. I figure he can only do this because he knows the girl is now quite interested. There was definitely some initial attraction built previously, but the huge IOI that you can move down the path of 'canceling' is the "But I can if you do" response and also that OP is sarcastic in nature and she has responded well to that, which is sometime difficult get…	/r/seduction	23/01/14 04:21 PM
4	Endgame - What to do after you get the girl? I've been in the same boat on here. There are maybe one or two good posts: From Dating to Girlfriend - Basically still stay busy and do what you do, hang out with buddies without her. Don't change things for her. Don't game her, but don't become a needy lil bitch. Guide to having a hot girlfriend - There are a lot of things that might be applicable but apply it to your situation. I would say even some of the things in here you wouldn't think she would like, she actually probably would. What I've…	/r/seduction	23/01/14 04:03 PM
1	f-closing Yea maybe an unnecessary text. There was one quote I found on here that I liked... "Would you say that to your guy friends? If you say 'No' don't send it." I would have maybe either see if she ever texts you back, or send her a text about something you did that reminded you of an interaction you had with her. Otherwise youre just opening up a one dimensional conversation that will probably die. If you guys wrestled in the snow or had a snow ball fight or you both just hate/love the snow, maybe t…	/r/seduction	23/01/14 03:49 PM
1	f-closing I think your putting too much pressure on the end goal of sex. Even so you have the girls naked in your bed so your pretty much there. Might be reading into it a bit, but it could be the case that the women you are taking out are just looking for a one night fling and nothing more. I wouldnt put too much pressure on yourself in these cases. Not gonna lie, I have a pretty big problem with this, but it's not usually with the ONS types. I'm sure if you fuck her brains out she'd come back though. I …	/r/seduction	22/01/14 04:48 PM
1	How to keep her interested? Kiss her again and escalate in a private situation at the end of a date (or maybe beginning). Check out some kissing guides on here, even if you think you are good they can only help. I wouldn't ask her or be obvious about it or make it a goal to do it by date 'x.' If she is flirtatious and usually more promiscuous she will be looking for it sooner rather than later so don't put it on a pedestal and tear it up. If you don't make a move soon enough and you don't make your intentions clear it coul…	/r/seduction	13/01/14 02:35 AM
2	[xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 1/6/14 Meh, I wasn't always buying, I actually never bought anything. I tried one of time then we just started splitting everything ... this is when we were just friends and had no physical relationship. Then the next time we go out after getting more physical she wanted to buy for me and it caught me off guard. But yea other than that totally agree, insistence and persistence is key.	/r/seduction	09/01/14 03:32 PM
1	[xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 1/6/14 That's where I was going with it. Just caught me off guard since she was reluctant to let me pay/wanted to split all the time, then out of nowhere decides to pay.	/r/seduction	06/01/14 11:49 PM
2	[xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 1/6/14 Simple Question: What should I take away from a girl paying for a meal? Context: I've moved a recent friendship to a physical one. We always paid for our meals separately before. The last time I went out with her she bought my meal. I told her she didn't need to, but she insisted. I said I would get the next one. The thing is she doesn't have much money and I sort of do.	/r/seduction	06/01/14 10:39 PM
1	My Abridged Kissing Guide Yea i wish i remember how i got into it but im pretty sure i had a similar experience. I don't have any verification so to say but I'd say these two moves gets you the "amazing kisser" status rather than just a "good kisser".	/r/seduction	05/01/14 06:26 PM
2	My Abridged Kissing Guide Add a couple more in order: 1 . After you get the head turn as talked about above, and it starts getting passionate grab the back of her neck with a little hair and move her body in towards you a bit. 2 . Get some head turning action going. Don't stay on one side. Don't always use the tongue. If it comes out you can get it back in as long as you have enough lip going. 3 . Should have the Kino escalated, but don't be afraid to start moving your hands around her body. Start at the handles, I'll ty…	/r/seduction	05/01/14 06:12 PM
1	For those who are fairly well off financially... what is your response when it comes up? It's never in a pick up format really. It's mostly by girls I am more friends with. They always wonder why I'm not renting/living in the city and it's actually because I'm looking to buy, and they're always impressed when I say it. They say something along the lines of "soo you're single?", "Wait you're trying to buy?", etc. I feel like I should just avoid saying that altogether... but the amplifying approach looks like the way to do it if I spill the beans	/r/seduction	04/01/14 02:29 AM