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[Perimenopausal women] have better values and goals, more discipline, and are better matches overall than someone with no direction in life. This is how I know that your rebuttal is pure cope narrative. Your argument appeals to the notion that every younger woman against who you are competing in the RMP lacks "direction in life." This is simply not true. If your partner could have a younger (and less delusional) version of you, you'd be a power user of FDS and /r/datingoverthirty.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 04:29 AM
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[a lot of] young model-attractive athletic men, many of intellect or burgeoning careers, are pursuing or involved with very successful attractive women who are either making more money than them, older than them, or both A lot of them drive home after 5-6 drinks at happy hour too. Role models waste their potential with poor choices all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 01:58 AM
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The dating marketplace is LTR where money really matters eventually. Sexual marketplace has way fewer expectations as far as finances go. Good distinction.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/20 05:11 AM
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Huh? Oh I get it, you use British spelling in your comment history. Yes, I am a 'Paki' and I know that Anglo women despise us. Your American sisters do too, but they'll slum around with a white-washed one if I'm taller and fitter than they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/20 05:07 AM
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While I aspire to your egalitarian outlook, I believe that u/HOLYREGIME is referring to financially-stable female sub-5's chasing male 8+'s and ending up on human fleshlight duty. Anecdotal evidence: I played club lacrosse in college and count a number of chads in my friend circle. Given the job market in the late aughts, most of us moved to the DC metro area after undergrad. My chad buddies smashed strong, independent 30 somethings (which DC attracts by the planeload) far more regularly than ou…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/20 03:26 AM
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Financial stability increases the risk tolerance of individuals engaging with the SMP, regardless of gender and orientation: BBs (self-aware or otherwise) can afford to enter covert contracts with single moms, sugar babies, and recovering carousel-riders Curry-, Rice-, STEM-, and shortcels can recruit conventionally attractive sex partners through prostitution and/or geoarbitrage Women can exchange financial/social capital to attract otherwise unattainable partners (age and/or looksmatch). Keepi…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/20 03:13 AM
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I've been able to engage in occasional ONS with women who are either heavier than I am (5'11, 170 lbs, sub 20 5K runner) or are involved in domestic situations for which I am ill-equipped to tolerate (kids, ex drama, poor life decisions). As you noted in your own post history, men too benefit from casual sex going mainstream. For a brown guy, my n-count is respectable. If I grew up in Pakistan, my only sexual partner would have been a miserable spouse. Can you marry others in the south Asian com…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/20 05:32 PM
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Did you find that being south asian [hetero male] hurt your dating prospects? I was able to lose my v-card at a predominantly white uni (to a white classmate) because it happened in 2008. The blessed event occurred because a) we had mutual friends and b) my classmate was willing to "give me a chance" instead of swipe past my brown ass on Tinder (which hadn't been invented yet). I have several male cousins who went to US schools in the mid 2010s and still have theirs. 12 years later, my flair is …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/20 05:23 PM
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In reality most men and women don't "get angry" at others for pursuing what they want This is true. PPD hosts a vocal minority of men who expend brain cycles on the implications of the contemporary SMP. As a South Asian American male who participated in the SMP before and after the mainstreaming of dating apps, I've enjoyed a front-seat view. In reality most [Westernized] men...have had a mix of casual sex and relationships If you change "most" to "a shrinking minority", this is still true. The …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/20 04:50 PM
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pretty fashionable young women Your anecdotal evidence < my anecdotal evidence + data
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/20 09:14 PM
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Of course a hetero woman is going to think favorably of it. Market forces (i.e. the abundance of hetero men relative to hetero women) give one side a lot more leeway in personal grooming, dietary discipline, and dread game than the other. See the account behind this post - regardless of his attitude towards women or life in general, he would be able to find a relationship quite easily in an East Coast city. My own observations were made during a 2017 trip through San Mateo, San Carlos, Redwood C…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/20 09:07 PM
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I've been. If you have enough $$, it's awesome. Great weather (except for the fires), lots of outdoor spaces, fun bar culture. If you have enough $$ and are attracted to men, it's heaven.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 09:55 PM
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Living in the US, it's easy to find fat people with the potential to lose the weight and become attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 07:46 PM
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When I lived in DC, my social circle included multiple Bay Area transplants. The dudes were ecstatic to meet make eye contact with women who took care of themselves and dressed in a feminine manner. The dudettes were bummed about how the ripped physicians wouldn't swipe right, despite them having a whole two X chromosomes.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 06:19 PM
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I barely see unattractive women with better looking men Move to Menver or Man Jose
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 05:00 PM
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I'm a firm believer that if most men just took care of themselves really well, they'd be a "chad" to some girls. How about the tooth fairy, Santa Claus, or Jesus Christ? (Balistreri, Joyner, Kao 2015) [Discussing adolescent sexual history] While over three-quarters of white, black and Hispanic men report being in a relationship, just 65% of Asian men report any romantic partnership. We highlight variables for which there are significant gaps between men of different racial and ethnic groups. As …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/20 03:04 PM
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I think the real advantage of cougars would be for a dude who is good looking and really fit, but also doesn't have great game or isn't very smooth/confident picking women up. As a veteran of the exurban bars to which cougars flock, this reflects my lived experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/20 05:42 PM
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Male attention will always be abundant and easily accessible. Look at you distancing yourself from the femcel identity - it's as if male attention validates you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/20 04:36 PM
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Obviously sexual assault victims are going to be traumatized by their experience. However, it's unlikely that victimhood will preclude their ability to earn a living afterwards. Pramjee's case is the first thing that pops up on Google - not that he was eventually cleared of the charges. It will be the first thing a HR person sees, not to mention a potential date. So yes, rape allegations stick around.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/20 04:33 PM
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whose life has been destroyed forever by a false accusation Armaan Premjee fought back and was finally exonerated.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/20 04:22 PM
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ruin their lives and be sex workers Tell that to them, I dare you. What a utopia True, FDS femcels like yourself would be left ever further behind.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/20 04:15 PM
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Also something I’ve noticed is less attractive guys, average guys, are more interested in short term, hook ups *with you. Monogamous LTRs are a concession; one that even they appear unwilling to make in your case. The men interested in a LTR with you would turn your stomach.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/20 01:19 PM
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As a conventionally unattractive person, it's tough pursuing intimacy in the contemporary US dating market. I applaud all the uggos (male, female, straight, bi, gay) still shooting their shot despite years of rejection and blue balls.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/20 05:46 AM
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We can if we're comfortable being labeled miS0gyN1sTs
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/20 08:57 PM
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When I write "experienced," I mean "experienced in sex, dating, and relationships" - it's not just n-count (which I don't know). I've gotten second-hand feedback about my performance (in the bedroom and as a potential bf), and the consistent critique is that I don't have relationship experience. Which is true - my only relationship was 18 months long and ended in 2015.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/20 02:12 PM
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While I've had one-night stands with women to whom I wasn't attracted, I do not pursue formal relationships with them. Since I present as inexperienced, they don't mourn the missed opportunity.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/20 02:07 PM
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emotional inexperience My behavior in a nascent relationship (conflict averse, too available) belies the fact that sex and romance are not abundant in my life. Conversely, I have excellent game when interacting with women to whom I am not attracted.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/20 11:27 PM
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Between the LTRs, there's membership in one or more soft harems. I don't fault people for maintaining their momentum - just wish some of it would rub out off on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/20 09:19 PM
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bored larping male whose brand of sarcasm hits the FDS demo perfectly. Totes no Y chromosome in that comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/20 09:05 PM
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It may be his 18th, but its my first. Let me enjoy this, please.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/20 08:50 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/20 08:47 PM
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The appeal is that I like them: we've gone to concerts together (on their dime or 50/50), we can shoot the shit and talk about edgy stuff like RP, they laugh at my jokes, and they're cute. I agree that cuckholding is always a risk for lower-tier men like myself, but the heart wants what the heart wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/20 08:46 PM
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What do you think are the likely outcomes of these two situations specifically and these types of situations in general? The relationships don't last, and the woman always ends them out of frustration with her boyfriend's emotional and sexual inexperience. That said, the chillest women I know have very high n-counts. While I wish to date them, I remain in the friend zone because they know how low mine is. South Asian male in the SE US - I was in the first boyfriend's position at 24, and since th…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/20 08:36 PM
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Good luck to you. I mean that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/20 05:49 PM
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refresher to learn R You should stop already and go to straight Python (pandas, NumPy). I'm learning the hard way that R alone doesn't sell a resume. I cycle and lift, plus yoga, volleyball, eat balanced healthy diet of about 1350 calories daily, am learning how to write comedy, taking an advanced excel course as a refresher to learn R, plus beauty treatment shit, amongst other things. That's wonderful! As your own comment history on this particular username (nee May 5, 2020) suggests, you don't…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/20 04:22 PM
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But most people want to be their best for their partners and try. For most men, our "best [efforts]" encompass actions and decisions made prior to the beginning of a relationship. My "best" includes running and lifting on a regular basis, avoiding starches after 7PM, and pursuing online coursework for professional certifications in my free time. I do these things to improve my candidacy as a sexual/romantic partner, not because I've started a relationship with a woman who deserves my "best". In …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/20 03:24 PM
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Peanut gallery here: you're one of the most rhetorically adept misandrists on this board. Why play at being obtuse?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/20 03:10 PM
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I'm 24 and let me tell you, I've seen some things With this gem in your post history, I'm going to leave you to your gross generalizations and self-loathing that masquerades as candor. Good lord.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/20 02:16 PM
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Being young isn't just the time to sow your wild oats, it's also a time to grow and mature, because the vast majority of young people are stupid, impulsive, and don't know what the hell they're doing. That's a gross generalization of young people. The median age of first marriage (for het men and het women) was still below 25 as recently as 1981. I wouldn't say that all those marriages were healthy, but most of the folks commenting on this board came from unions dating back to that time frame. A…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/20 01:35 PM
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You made a good point, so all she has left for rebuttals are ad hominem attacks.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/20 05:35 PM
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#couplesgoals
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/20 09:40 PM
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Tangential reading from the Financial Times' "Alphaville" blog (the excess return of an investment relative to the return of a benchmark index is the investment's alpha). Here's a relevant excerpt: More choice [inherent in online dating] means women do not have to participate in the pre-existing social power structures that limit their options. Some may quibble this doesn’t apply to developed nations, but the online dating phenomenon is intersecting with culture in a major way in emerging market…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/20 04:34 PM
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You guys need to understand that when women complain about no good men ...they mean no good attractive men ...thirsty nerds are always there they just don't want them Who says we didn't understand that from the beginning? Most hetero males on this sub understand that nuance - provide hyperlinks that disprove me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/20 09:51 PM
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The mods of the sub where she posted this censored the most candid responses. I hope she has the good sense to view her post in Ceddit.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/07/20 11:18 PM
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why arent you all banding together to propose legislation? or at least some of you? we have been, it's getting the votes needed to pass that remains an obstacle: New Jersey (2019) Kansas (2011) Tennessee (2008) I know that you posed this question to be coy, but it really just furthers the narrative that privileged women expect men to do all the legwork, including digging up info that you could have found yourself. At least give up the poop chute to your boyfriend tonight.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/20 02:20 AM
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Be aware, you're conversing with someone who wrote this earlier this evening.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/20 01:32 AM
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it is almost guaranteed to breed some instability or fallout in most men Yeah, it does. One of my HS buddies became the token Asian on a D3 lacrosse team, which meant he got good at recognizing the IOIs women threw at his teammates. Dude has caught multiple girlfriends cheating on him (which means he should probably try uglier ones, but that's a different conversation).
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/20 01:19 AM
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I'm not even trying to be mean this just seems like the reality we all need to work together around in order to have respectful relationships all around. Holy shit, is u/atreethatkeepsgrowin TheOGJammies 2.0? She would always try to "mansplain" [which is a thing] her rationale for posting misandrist shit, just like this. PPD is not your safe space.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/20 01:09 AM
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y0u WaNt mAnDAtoRy RaPe! There it is, folks! Actually, it's the second time I've seen you write that this evening. Here's the first.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/20 12:49 AM
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this is why women are having "just sex" with most the select cadre men whom they deign to engage in the sexual marketplace And FDS was born out of their general frustration for being pumped and dumped yet again. If there's anything good about the sub, it's that most of the participants have abandoned post-hoc rationalizations for their poor user experiences, and now circle-jerk each other's revenge fantasies. Swap the genders and you could say the same thing about Braincels.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/20 12:32 AM
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I like how you stay positive, Brad.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/20 11:32 PM
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When committeeless asked you to clarify which part of his statement you found to be "gross," I replied with your username to imply that you, as a human being, are gross. After reading this gem, I hope you are never allowed to own a firearm or work in law enforcement.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/20 11:22 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/20 11:14 PM
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It's an American acronym for School Resource Officer, the LEO assigned to a school. I'm not surprised that you can dig up the straw man argument "men shoot up schools" but cannot search for an unfamiliar term with the internet browser at your fingertips.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/20 11:12 PM
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Indeed, all school shooters have been men. Indeed, all FDS mods are misandrists. As a proud FDS participant, why don't you put your own misandry to good use and become an SRO?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/20 11:03 PM
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a hint about how men and women behave differently State your narrative outright, please
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/20 10:53 PM
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How are FDS tactics manipulative, to those of you who think they are? It's less that they're manipulative, and more that FDS is modded by sociopaths. Exhibit A. Exhibit B. EDIT: That particular mod appears to have had her account suspended, which is unsurprising. She was one Tinder rejection away from becoming the first female Elliot Rodger (Supreme Lady?)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/20 10:19 PM
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When looking for a life partner, my advice to women is date all of them: the bad boys, the cool boys, the commitment-phobic boys, the crazy boys. But do not marry them. The things that make the bad boys sexy do not make them good husbands. When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner. Someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated and ambitious. Someone who values fairness and expects or, even better, wants to do his share in the home. These men exist and, tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/20 09:35 PM
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anal
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/20 03:49 AM
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You got caught reading from the teleprompter, take the L (like a man 😉). Surely you have other hobbies besides Reddit misandry.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/20 03:41 AM
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Why would you assume a pretty girl has a bad personality? Personality is meaningless if you know that she won't match with you on an app, or even exchange greetings on the sidewalk. As an undesirable man who has a spent a decade and change languishing in the US dating market, I know how attractive women invest their scarce time and it's not with the likes of me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/20 07:12 PM
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For guys who struggle, do you talk to them too As a South Asian man living in the US, I exclusively date and fuck women to whom I am, at best, vaguely attracted. The last time I slept with a woman who weighed less than me (5'11 and 173) was 2016, and before that, 2011. and it just doesn’t work Post-nut clarity is a thing and all the NoFap in the world can't get me excited about a chunky single mom who is also bummed about the prospect of dating an Indian man, especially when she sees Chads all o…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/20 07:06 PM
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Lol, I live very frugally because I still have student debt and must contend with a very competitive real estate market. No Machu Picchu or ski trips in my profile album because I can't. Women appear to want fit, tall, and employed men, ideally Caucasian. Women with less abundance have to trim that checklist, and I'm getting the ones willing to try their first Asian. Lucky me!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/20 03:34 AM
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Fine. I changed it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/20 03:26 AM
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all states are required to "establish paternity" before assessing CS on never marrieds. Like you said upthread, us Reddit incels confuse biological paternity with legal paternity. In Minnesota, a guy has to describe how he was cuckholded before the court considers imposing a genetic test. I'm sure most states are friendlier to men, but MN isn't all that unique. why would your wife you live with and are married to have to "produce" the child? Like the most state governments, men assume that child…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/20 10:30 PM
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marriage itself creates a rebuttable presumption of paternity, you have a 1-2 year window (dependign [sic] on the state) to dispute paternity and divorce and not pay CS I'm aware, and the 1-2 year window BS is the result of legislative activism by misandrists. Just like sexual assault EDIT: in Connecticut, there should be no statute of limitations. there is NO LEGAL IMPEDIMENT in the US to a man paternity testing his own child It's the de facto impediment caused by mothers who refuse to produce …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/20 10:08 PM
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you're right - government shouldn't mandate a paternity test. Rather, government should preserve the right of both parents (equality, lol) to seek genetic testing to determine paternity of the alleged offspring. And government should protect women and men alike from the burden of supporting children who do not carry their genetic lineage. In before "wAt AboUt aDopTeD kIdZ?" - if you signed tons of documents to support a child who wasn't yours, you're obviously waiving the rights proposed in my f…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/20 09:31 PM
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Why is it such a big surprise? Who is surprised? Screencaps plz. What surprises me is the subgroups of women who are attracted to me those who outweigh me those who are older than me those with more offspring than me (I have none) those with more marriage experience than me (I have none) If anything, I'm surprised by how quickly my looks (I'm South Asian and living in the SE USA) stop mattering when one of those bullet points befalls a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/20 09:16 PM
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When men are older, resources can be used as a door to sex but what you are selling is the possibility of being her betabuxx, you're not sexually attractive. Though, at the same time; doesn't matter, had sex. If a woman has the resources to be her own betabuxx, she can adopt this mindset as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/20 03:52 PM
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less children "fewer children" because children are discrete units
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/20 01:13 AM
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Men who are extroverted, conscientious, agreeable and emotionally stable are generally more attractive to women than men who are introverted, disorganized, self-centered and neurotic. With the pillars of patriarchy toppling the former will find it even easier to attract women and the latter are already having less sex and romantic experience. Before we die out, many of us will succumb to political philosophies that (for better or worse) unshackle us from tax burdens on behalf of the children we …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/20 11:19 PM
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Speaking as one, it's true that we complain too much, or at least complain via mediums where our loneliess can be contorted into cartoonish misogyny. looksmatch For the rice- and currycels in my wolfpack, this is shorthand for "weighs no more than I do" and "age < my age + 10". I can see the value in speaking (and writing) without artifice.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/20 10:59 PM
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Why should a female 5 waste time with her so called "looksmatch" when men on average look uglier than women simply because they don't care about appearance as much? If she believes that the best use of her time and youthful metabolism is pursuing the most attractive men willing to date (or at least fuck) her, she should carpe diem. A mature sexual palate requires no small amount of experimentation and notches, and she deserves all of it! And if she can lock down Chad for the long haul, even bett…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/20 10:49 PM
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Because men are too lazy to do it themselves, they will stay where they aren’t happy out of laziness. vs. I’m not saying TRP is right I’m just saying women take a lot of BS and won’t call time on a relationship when a man would. So do men wallow in apathy or jump ship at the first sign of trouble? - you can't have it both ways and call it a coherent argument. Spend less time reading FDS and your rhetorical skills might recover.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/20 06:34 PM
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South Asian American male here: I have a stereotypical assortment of rice-cel, curry-cel, and cape-cel friends from college and work. We're in our mid- to late-thirties, and the few of us who have entered terminal LTRs and/or marriage have done so with women who are, in general, amused by their existances. And yes, one of them became insta-dad to a hapa (Caucasian biological father). There isn’t a single women I know who has gotten into a relationship with a man she didn’t find attractive just f…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/20 06:12 PM
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The post you are citing and the one featured here were written by the same person.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/06/20 02:56 PM
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I frequented that sub for years before I was banned. This particular redditor's journey has been textbook wall encounter, and her complete lack of self-awareness (coupled by that particular sub's enablers) provided me with a great highlight reel. I checked the properties of the following [anonymized] screencaps - they were taken during summer 2019. Just look at the descent: searching for new vines upon which to monkey branch perceived SMV inflated hypergamy train pauses for a crew swap I was hop…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/06/20 02:44 PM
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Social work and most nursing jobs are emotionally taxing, way more than being a construction worker or a brogrammer. And I've worked as a CNA - some women made fun of me for it, despite the fact that it requires incredible strength: changing briefs, turning people, and ambulating them for an entire shift is work.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/20 09:55 PM
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It boils down to his perception of the abundance and accessibility of other Hannahs within his dating pool. As a veteran of multi-year dry spells, 2-3 months is nothing. For a guy who perceives an abundance of alternate Hannah's within reach (former college basketball player in nursing school, for instance), 2-3 months is an unreasonable ask.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/20 06:07 PM
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if i bang jack on Friday and my friend bangs him on Sunday we are not "sharing" him, because there is no relationship Exactly. Graham Kelly and Ken Heslep did not "share" Graham's former boss, the Honorable Katie Hill.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/20 05:58 PM
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Rebel Wilson's entire comedic ouevre is portraying sexually confident female characters who are markedly less attractive than their castmates. Audiences eat it up because women rarely sexually assault men. If her roles were recast as male ones and given to Jonah Hill or Aziz Ansari, audiences would be traumatized.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/20 12:31 AM
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Yeah, I'm waiting to see if MSM drags Chris D'elia for being an actual pedo.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/20 12:05 AM
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Yes. I am a Bangladeshi American male. Thanks to racist tropes like Van Wilder's Taj character, not to mention American media's righteous indignation about sexual predation among South Asian men, my reception by unattached women in [plausibly] social situations (house parties, HHs, running meet-ups) is distinctly cool. And yes, I know this because I make approaches: introduce myself and attempt to display social capital, because they sure as shit aren't seeking me out. I wonder why some guys onl…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/20 11:56 PM
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My own data is admittedly anecdotal. I'm American-born Bangladeshi and 36. I was lucky enough to attend college before the swipe apps arrived, so I was able to lose my v-card and build some relationship reps. the Today show article Being South Asian, I am well aware of women who provide all the unpaid labor in the household. It sets a very poor example for their sons. However, as men and women everywhere keep delaying marriage, men are getting used to running our own households. Most of the lone…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/20 09:10 PM
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What exactly are you giving to a committed relationship that you aren't getting? It's about the package I'm offering vs. the package offered to me. I'm 5'11, fit (BMI ~23, 43:17 10K), childless, never married, and scrimped my way into having enough $$ for the downpayment on a SFH in my region of the US. I was a fat South Asian who couldn't hack it in pre-med, so I've had to work my ass off to get where I am, and humble myself by moving back in with my parents to build up my down payment nut. Tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/20 08:54 PM
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Low-tier men are a convenient punching bag for romantically frustrated women. Because a handful of self-proclaimed incel males committed mass shootings (or in Minassian's case, weaponized a van), profiling us as one-dimensional antagonists has become rhetorically expedient. While I am grateful that people can see through this gambit when the president of the US employs it ( Latin American migrant worker= "MS 13", person of Muslim faith = "terrorist), I wish they'd extend similar courtesy to us.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/20 06:38 PM
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Numbers, for all of that. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/20 01:10 PM
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Quick comment on your rhetorical strategy before I call your bluff. "10-20 years ago" is an arbitrary period that neither OP or myself specified. Also, I'm contending that OP is not from any of those countries, given the level of entitlement present in her post history. but I digress... better 10-20 years ago Yemen - yes South Sudan - was stuck in a civil war between 1983 and 2005, but their drought situation has significantly worsened in the past decade Bangladesh - Absolutely. They had fewer p…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/20 08:25 PM
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Not sure what that stat [women think 80% of men are below-average looking] is Christian Rudder, founder of OKCupid, published this blog post in 2009 after reviewing data from OKC user base. ...women rate an incredible 80% of guys as worse-looking than medium. Very harsh. On the other hand, when it comes to actual messaging, women shift their expectations only just slightly ahead of the curve, which is a healthier pattern than guys’ pursuing the all-but-unattainable. But with the basic ratings so…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/20 06:06 PM
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OnlyFans will come to serve as a metonym for social media voyeurism and the entitlement it engenders.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/20 05:55 PM
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Yes, the Westernized world is fairer to women. Unilateral economic advancement is achievable, and in first-world nations besides the US, single mothers can rely upon a social safety net in lieu of an abusive, or worse, undesirable man. I see a lot of posts from men decrying modern women and the modern world Westernized men are still coming to terms with the reality that sex is going to be harder to obtain than it was for our fathers, let alone our grandfathers. When women have no incentive to ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/20 05:52 PM
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This is the correct answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/20 04:21 PM
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That sounds awesome, actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/20 03:04 PM
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I'm not going to have enough $$ to travel for another 4 years or so, but I'll pass that along. As far as prices go, if you're an undesirable guy, sex will always be costly. That's why Asian American guys compensate by defaulting to medicine or STEM!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/20 04:52 AM
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Why would it not be? How would you like to be consistently underpaid relative you female peers, or forced to cough up copay every time you ejaculate?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/20 12:34 AM
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I wouldn't call death threats interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/20 11:18 PM
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I'm looking for anecdotal evidence. What about you? Sounds like you're in search of a narrative.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/20 10:37 PM
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I've been him and I have my charms. I frustrated her because my curry ass cannot generate tingles, seeing as I've had far fewer sex partners than my predecessors. Not all women despise bottom 80% men - it's just that online dating has rendered them alpha widows. Not that I blame them: if you grow up on filet mignon, a Big Mac will always taste like shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/20 08:55 PM
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In the US, they are usually paid less for doing the same job as a man. Unless they have great insurance (which most don't), their reproductive healthcare requires huge copayments. Maternal leave is usually unpaid. So the stuff women do best, they are not compensated for at all. When women are given leadership roles or positions of prominence/notoriety, they are placed under extreme scrutiny (see AOC or Melania Trump). Regardless of political affiliation or cultural significance, they do not get …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/20 08:47 PM
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Most don’t even know what they want to eat for dinner this evening Tangential: have you ever heard a male describe himself as "hangry?"
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/20 07:38 PM
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"Society" is a nebulous concept. While most of us accept the capitalist paradigm, where you live and what you look like has tremendous implications on your lived experience as a sexual being. do women attempt to organize society to maximize access to alpha males They can't - they're dramatically underrepresented in government and in the boardroom. In Saudi Arabia, they're specifically excluded. my hypothesis is that the vast majority of what motivates women is access to Chad That's an oversimpli…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/20 06:55 PM
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However, I think as long as prostitution exists, men whether they are ugly or not will have options to have sex without having to put in the necessary work that entails regular courtships. Ugly Bangladeshi American on the East Coast checking in. My wolfpack is comprised of similar. We do not engage prostitutes because most of them (outside of high end escorts whom we cannot afford, or legal ones working out of a Nevada brothel) are victims of economic coercion, if not actual human trafficking. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/20 05:52 PM
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The only guys I know who have only had one or two partners in their 20s are guys who had girlfriends for that entire time - even average guys get laid a lot more than that Do you have any Asian American male friends? This is normal for us.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/20 07:45 PM
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bona fide
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/20 11:43 PM
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For sure, I'm down with professional journalism. And white people don't have a monopoly on recognizing injustice, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/20 11:40 PM
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I'm sorry for assuming that you live in the US. Btw it doesn't really make a difference My own anecdotal experience suggest that it does. But my perspective is obviously limited.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/20 03:59 PM
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That's a great question and one that I cannot even begin to answer. If OP is ready to cougar it up, she could move pretty much anywhere!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/20 03:20 PM
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based
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/20 03:15 PM
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lol. Most people on the streets are asking for justice, equity, and police officers to stop cosplaying Seal Team 6. This is a riot.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/20 03:12 PM
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You guys told me in the BB thread that it doesn’t matter how little money a man has, there’s always a woman willing to use him for it. In many states, she may be better off apply for WIC, TANF, and Medicaid than suffering though duty starfish dinner at Applebee's with a beta. Medicaid is always extended to impoverished single mothers - impoverished men, not so much. Also, pumping a simp for his money is as easy as signing him up to your OF account or meeting up at Costco for a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/20 03:07 PM
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Move to a city with far more single men than single women and ask for whatever you want. Here's a convenient map.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/20 02:56 PM
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I trust more on self interest than I could trust any emotion The definition of empathy is "the ability to understand and share the feelings of another". I think it's awesome that you're encouraging women to pursue the best deal possible. And it's not lost on me that you avoid women who are incapable of discerning reality from fantasy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/20 02:38 PM
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Any other reason would be the wrong reason because any other reason implies that she has a better option, and she should go after that one. Empathy is based. Never thought of it like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/20 02:20 PM
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Does any of this resemble reality? Background: I worked in technical sales for a series of IT firms, and most of my work buddies are male network engineers or architects. I've been to several of their weddings. In two of them, the BB dynamic was obvious because the bridesmaids all had chads for dates and the groom's side had a near - stag table. I don't even get plus ones anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/20 06:01 AM
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It's sexist to claim that women inevitably cheat on the beta males with whom they form LTRs, or that they resent those guys for not having more game. Of course, someone with a rich, diverse sex lives will miss it if he/she chooses to settle down with a boring, less experienced partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/20 01:31 PM
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People can be martyrs and sacrifice their old sex life. Isnt that why DeadBedrooms is such a big sub?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/20 01:13 PM
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When looking for a life partner, my advice to women is date all of them: the bad boys, the cool boys, the commitment-phobic boys, the crazy boys. But do not marry them. The things that make the bad boys sexy do not make them good husbands. When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner. Sheryl Sandberg's endorsement of AF/BB. By the time the formal relationship arrives, the woman has acquiesced to the reality that her days of high attraction are over. Hopefully she is…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/20 06:27 AM
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Thanks for your efforts as mod. I will be more careful about how I engage with my ideological opponents.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/20 01:24 AM
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I apologize, but I don't understand how what I wrote was discourteous. Jim66 made a convoluted acronym that I (and several others) found to be pithy and humorous.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/20 01:20 AM
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I'm grateful for communities like this one where people can be candid.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/20 11:34 PM
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Personality, attitude, and social capital make up for a lot, but only he gets an audition. Bumble and other apps that enable height filtering allows women to dismiss large swathes of decent suitors. Case in point: I don't think we would have met if not for [the matchmaking service]. I think - I had a weird dating app strategy and honestly, like, didn't go out with anyone who was under 6 feet tall. And you don't know Kevin that well, but he's under 6 feet tall. NPR edited that height bit out of t…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/20 10:42 PM
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Egg metaphor is perfect. I'll take it one step further - stores will destroy unsold, brand-name eggs rather than sell them below cost and condition shoppers to expect future high-quality eggs at a substantial discount from MSRP.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/20 10:35 PM
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I'm not saying 2-4 new partners per year is extreme. It sounds like a healthy tempo, honestly. I'm saying average men are lucky to get 2-4 first dates per year. I don’t filter people by n count lol. You don't have to. Our faces and our heights do the heavy lifting.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/20 10:05 PM
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Those women are gorgeous, every one of them. Average is dinner line at Chik Fil A.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/20 09:24 PM
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No ugly fat woman "improves" a party. Take her to Columbus, GA (Fort Benning) or Fayetteville, NC (Fort Bragg). She'll do great.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/20 09:23 PM
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Ilybinilwy Kind of a Rorschach test to figure that one out. High IQ
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/20 08:54 PM
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The sexless men are those men who don't make the minimum standard for a relationship to even make sense to any woman. So we are supposed to "Change Your View" or nah? This looks spot-on to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/20 08:43 PM
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Unattractive man here. I have cultivated great friendships because I bring joy and laughter to other people's lives. We all deserve to die alone, although I am admittedly far likelier to than my more desirable peers.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/20 08:20 PM
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Many valuable men and women have non-existent sex lives and die alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/20 08:17 PM
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A good friend moved from NYC to Redwood City (SF suburb) for work in 2017. He's gotten into much better shape since the move, but the women he dates have gotten progressively worse (not personality-wise, just heavier and less feminine). The reason is that the Bay Area is a sausage fest, so women can be pickier about their partners while simultaneously neglecting their own appearance. Not shaming them, because guys have done the same thing for millennia. guys aren’t just fucking down in terms of …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/20 07:12 PM
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/thread
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/20 06:42 PM
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I think that’s pretty standard for late twenties to early thirties men. Among the men whom you're willing to date, yes. The rest of us can only dream of those numbers.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/20 03:10 PM
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Bottom third of the "Results" section: We also find that the ratio of female effective population size to male effective population size (Nf/Nm) has been greater than one throughout the history of modern humans, and has recently increased due to faster growth in Nf than Nm.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/20 10:46 PM
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How do we know that? science
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/20 07:53 PM
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I don't disagree. Most men who hire escorts do so because we cannot recruit a suitable sex partner on our own merits. And iof the het female responses to the OP are any indication, the act of hiring as escort is tacit admission of a man's inherent lack of sexual worthiness. Erstwhile escort clients would do well to characterize their visits as "one-night stands", equivalent to the ONS that their prospective partners indulged in.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/20 07:31 PM
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if I'm expected to be accepting of a woman's sexual past, I expect her to be understanding that men don't have the same privileges opportunities in regard to sex This. As a South Asian male, I am not a sexual being, at least to women who are not struggling with their weight and/or child support. The only way for me to conceivably boost my n-count to something on the low end of respectable would be to bankrupt myself by flying to NV or take up sugaring.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/20 04:15 AM
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It's a hypothetical, although DoT recently featured an OP on the topic (see screenshot in post).
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/20 03:27 AM
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EDIT: Comment history suggests you're an Amy Bishop in the making. These keystrokes were wasted. Women always have options for sex Agreed. women do not cheat at the same rates as men In pre-modern and non-Western societies, absolutely. Patriarchy gonna protect the patriarchs. For modern, Westernized women, citation needed.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 05:20 PM
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Men People are only as loyal as their options Bisexual men just happen to have the good fortune to be attracted to men as well, which broaden their pool of potential partners. And when it comes to getting laid, men are quite pragmatic about our options and the requisite recruitment strategy.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 05:17 PM
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I think I’d just ask why a woman would do that and think there’s something up with her mentally I admit that there's an implicit gender dynamic in my post - men are far likelier to be hiring escorts than women. However, DatingOverThirty hosted a lively discussion about a woman doing just that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 05:14 PM
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It's refreshing to read the prose of a woman larping Jordan Peterson.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 01:57 PM
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Agreed, you're not.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 01:51 PM
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Obviously an escort, this just shows your [sic] incredibly socially inept & desperate Buyer's remorse, sure. Your hypothetical boyfriend's actions belie a much lower SMV than your initial estimate.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 01:48 PM
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I respect your commitment to equitable relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 01:41 PM
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human trafficking I have relatives in India and Bangladesh - that shit exists. But so do escorts and sugar babies. With the C19 Depression upon us, there are going to more of them. Just look at the SexWorkers sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 01:37 PM
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That's what I'm saying. A lot of [ostensibly] het female contributors are ragging on the escort because of they infer that only low SMV men pay for sex. And the thought of being linked to a low SMV man is nauseating.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 01:27 PM
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