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I grew up in the UK Midlands (between Birmingham and Coventry) and in my teens and 20s most of my female friends were dating men 5-10 years older with houses and cars. In fact, the more working class/tough background they were, the more likely the guy was older, whereas my middle class, from a nice family, female friends dated guys in their peer group more.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/17 11:26 AM
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"You're bitter about them aging? Then stop aging yourself." that's false equivalence. Men become more attractive as they age. "Men can pretend that they age like wine" it's no pretense. "The only thing a man over 30 has going for him in terms of sexual attraction is more maturity and career stability" And that's the biggest thing they are judged on.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/17 11:24 AM
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That is a really inspiring story. Thanks for this post.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/17 11:57 AM
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I'd be interested to read a level headed opinion of this cologne thing that is somewhere between "omg rapefugees" and "I refuse to talk about this as long as white men still rape". It was barely even reported here in the UK, I only knew from reddit and a friend who reads conservative magazines.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/17 11:54 AM
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How is your life going now? Still married?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/17 11:49 AM
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I think both Red Pill and SJW-ish subs cherry pick the craziest of the other side and claim they are "all like that".
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/17 11:48 AM
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Not sure if you have read it, but its a general book on how to be sly and manipulative in life (not just in dating). Considering BPers probably lean left wing the book is more Trump-ish. My friend said it struck him as a book Emperor Palpatine would have told Vader to read.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/17 11:42 AM
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I discovered the PUA scene in 2008 after making a promise to myself to improve my confidence and social life and diving into every self help/dating help/conversation skill guides I could find. Kept an eye on the "men's online world" ever since and ..I can't remember what actually bought me to the RP sub. I remember seeing it for the first time and being shocked at the amount of info and how indepth it was. My "PUA rebirth" had led me into some not-so-great relationships so I was very interested.…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/17 11:35 AM
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and the "dating over 30" sub may as well be called "red pill proven".
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/17 11:30 AM
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so basically women can't love. They are either using men for sex or money.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/17 11:47 PM
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my opinion is that accurate descriptions of flirting are inherently embarrassing both for the men giving them and the women who receive them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/17 11:43 AM
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I'm disappointed by this thread, I was expecting a heart warming tale that would push me toward the blue light, of how the OP dropped his defenses and became empathetic and gentle to win his wife's trust and respect. Instead I get this dumpster fire..
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/17 04:46 PM
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I really dislike just to expel some unwanted fluids from my body I need to go through all kinds of hoops yeah this sounds like a good marriage
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/17 12:15 PM
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maybe hypnosis was too literal. Intense charisma maybe, an intense (or intense feeling) connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/17 11:19 PM
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It could be they picked up some kind of hypnosis thing naturally/accidentally just by being intense? There's this fat ugly PUA hypnotist (forget his name) who has a harem of girlfriends and walks into clubs, looks at a woman intensely and works some kind of spell.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/17 11:10 PM
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I had an acquaintance who was "falsely accused of rape" and used to rant about it on facebook. He's 5.4 tall and fat by the way. From what I could gather, from his various ramblings, he latched himself onto a group of attractive "alpha" friends on a work conference, they all got drunk together in hotel room one night, one of his female colleagues initiated sex with some of the hot men, and when they were finished (and she was half asleep) he assumed it applied to him as well and climbed on the b…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/17 06:50 PM
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there was a general trend on the MGTOW sub that every famous accused rapist was innocent. Either that, or it was no big deal, drunk girls are fair game, etc. It was the one thing I couldn't go along with there.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/17 02:35 PM
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I don't know. I lean mostly Red Pill/MGTOW right now (in that I've had sucky relationships and spent my life watching women prefer cocky dominant guys, and feel feminism wants to censor my honest experience), but I don't understand the manosphere support of rape and rapists. I thought we were most of us victims of bullying/"alpha" guys (the kind who rape and coerce) ourselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/17 11:46 AM
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I was inexperienced late in life and groups of friends have always been able to tell. Exactly how they did in the "40 yr old" movie, seeing that he was uncomfortable and not really joining in with sex banter. Yes you could try and act, but people have always "sniffed me out" for mocking.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/17 10:33 AM
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The current cultural narrative is that all women are desperate for those hot little guys but they can't date them because they're just so darn insecure and bitter.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/17 10:29 AM
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If anything I think culture accurately prepared me for my teens, for example, the reality that the nerd doesn't get the girl in "Saved by the Bell" - she thinks he's sweet but wants the jock.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/17 01:54 PM
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I used to watch a lot of stuff like Friends as a kid just because it was on and I was sitting with family.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/17 02:08 AM
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I saw a lot of rom coms as a kid from female relatives putting them on.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/17 02:00 AM
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For what it's worth I think comedies like Saved by the Bell had some effect on me and expectations I had - but I was very isolated as a kid. Yes, I was in school and socialized at lunch time, but I didn't really talk to girls much, or understand any flirting I was seeing around me, and a lot of my classmates saw eachother outside of school without me (I was in a church community) so I was often out of the loop.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/17 01:59 AM
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I still believe women have more options even when you take away the non-datables - they still have more attractive, potential dates around them. I'm not saying that gives them a happier life - obviously it comes with a trade off of harassment, exploitation, etc - but it is a difference in experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/17 10:25 AM
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I actually had this experience - I used to hang out with a lot of gay friends at college, and I spent some time going to a "gay church" - a left wing/progressive church under the group "metropolitan community church" which I liked because of the loving atmosphere, charity work and interesting realistic way of looking at the flaws in the bible while keeping the basic message of love. I found a lot of men giving me compliments - "you're deep, you've got layers" kind of thing, taking an interest in…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/17 10:18 AM
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I'm not sure it is in all of them..maybe for the first, enjoying the power of being hot and turning the tables (like what sarah silverman describes in her memoir, if you ever skim it in a store/library), for the "wall", just general acceptance and peace that comes with time, and maybe the luck of finding someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/17 03:00 PM
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I agree with that. Everyone knows from Simpsons etc what to expect from a loser husband but a difficult female partner can be a shock.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/17 08:48 AM
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The friends/girlfriends who I've talked to seem to have experienced it at 2 main times - late teens, after sleeping with a few boys and realizing they want romance less than the boy bands/movies claimed, and 30s ish, when "being treated great because hot 20s girls are the most desirable people on earth" drops off suddenly. these have been particularly unlucky/troubled people though.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/17 08:47 AM
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I've always seen it as just being in love with a friend who doesn't love you back, but I think the post PUA/RP definition is that the guy is rejected BECAUSE he was a friend, as in, he should have been more distant and cool to make attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/17 08:28 AM
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I have 2 ideas of it- -when a person uses someone for relationship-style comfort and closeness (not the same as friendship), without intending to date them, leaving the other person feeling that a relationship is just around the corner. -Or it can be when 2 shy people like each other, potentially could date but just leave it too long and never get flirty or create chemistry. The second option was my idea of the zone as a teen. I never imagined it would become the sexist buzzword it is now. Mainl…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/17 08:20 AM
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The only time I had unrealistic sense of my worth in dating was when I was 15 and had a crush on a beautiful friend, being very isolated and having only knowledge from tv shows like "boy meets world" and "saved by the bell" to follow. At 16, being around more people, and having big peer friend groups for the first time, it was clear to me what guys who dated a lot had that I didn't - tall, loud, outgoing, sporty, early competence in things like driving and work, socially easy going. I'm not sayi…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/17 07:18 PM
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Most of them have had bad divorces and stuff. Their first choice was to be with a loving partner. They chose MGTOW because they felt that choice had become impossible.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/17 10:38 AM
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in my not so big experience, a disliked dominant stance is better to come down from than a disliked non dominant stance. If your girlfriend asks you to calm down and go more easy, you can do that and look good, but if she has you marked down as a wimp, that is much more difficult to bounce back from.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/17 10:32 AM
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what about heros with a dark/unpredictable side, IE, Bond, Dirty Harry, Indy Jones. Bruce Willis is a bit bland and straightforward compared to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/17 05:53 PM
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I wonder, can a potential genetic bad boy be crushed by life, such as, being raised in a repressed environment, and if so can he reclaim his birthright with RP behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/17 05:52 PM
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So is Darth Vader at the end with pasty bald head the ultimate attractive husband...
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/17 05:51 PM
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you notice that the uglier the person the more romantic the dreams? An overweight teenage girl I know is mad on boy bands, romance films etc while the "hot" girls are much more cynical and realistic...And you've only got to browse a male incel or Asperger sub to know how sappy their dreams are.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/17 09:30 PM
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some of us honestly have experience with exes who responded and in some cases asked for this. I know they don't represent all women, but there's not many places outside of the manosphere for help with a female partner who genuinely is childlike and asks for parental type male partners. If you ever browse a forum for mentally ill people (which I have) a lot of the women on there are specifically wanting a parent-like partner to take charge of them and mainstream/feminist people don't want to know…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/17 09:24 PM
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Your list sounds great, and I went through a lot of the same stuff myself, but - to me she just sounds abusive and controlling. I mean stopping you working out? With all due respect it sounds like you put tons of effort into (I admit successfully) figuring out how to make it work with an emotionally abusive woman, however I would like to know why you thought this work was worth it compared to just leaving.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/17 09:21 PM
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I always knew girls preferred cocky teasing guys - it wasn't untill I discovered dating/PUA books that I discovered some unlucky men were actually trying to change themselves into these guys and not just giving up. That was the first time I had hope for my dating life.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/17 09:16 PM
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I think it's just that the image of the noble working class manual worker is popular in culture, strong but held down by the man. A lot of working class people know and admire relatives like that but no one has reason to root for some ugly guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/17 09:11 PM
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