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| 12 | First Date Tips | Conversation | bogues04 | /r/seduction | 08/06/22 01:51 AM |
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| 1 | 40 % of Asian Women excluded Asian men as potential dates, whereas only 11 % excluded White men .I think it’s kind of a mutual thing neither side really likes the other. There are obviously exceptions but for the most part I found this to be true. | /r/BlackPillScience | 29/07/25 01:42 PM |
| 1 | 40 % of Asian Women excluded Asian men as potential dates, whereas only 11 % excluded White men .What does that even mean you are ill equipped to raise a black man? He would be half white too. You would just raise him as a man like you would any kid. | /r/BlackPillScience | 29/07/25 01:22 PM |
| 3 | Study finds out body count truly matters in both gendersI don’t find this to be true at all. The best sex i ever had was with a long term partner. Yea you can occasionally have good sex with new partners but you also have a lot of bad sex as well. | /r/BlackPillScience | 26/06/25 09:44 PM |
| 1 | Lost my spark in daygame — even after thousands of approaches. Anyone relate?How old are you? Reason I’m asking at a certain point you have accomplished what you want to accomplish. Most of us get into this to try to fix their bad dating situations or just want to learn how to date better looking girls. Also a lot of us want to prove to ourselves that we can. You aren’t obligated to do it for life. It became unfulfilling to me over time and I wanted to try to find a person to settle down with. You can still put the skills you have learned to use when you need to. | /r/seduction | 24/06/25 07:49 PM |
| 1 | What do married looking women want?There’s a Chinese proverb for this. Man who fish in other man’s well often catch crabs. Go find your own well to fish in. | /r/seduction | 07/06/25 03:41 PM |
| 1 | Do men really have different physical preferences in women they would date?That’s definitely not a shocker she was head and shoulders more attractive than the rest. Did anybody say no on her lol? | /r/seduction | 18/06/24 01:13 PM |
| 1 | I can’t pick up women but succeed on Tinder datesEven the best in the world fumble. You just have to forget it and move on. Learn what you did wrong and try to fix it. I still laugh about a few I screwed up from my younger days. | /r/seduction | 04/05/24 11:25 PM |
| 1 | Is intelligent conversation generally a turnoff?Yea it will only work on a small percentage unless you just happen to hit on a topic you are both passionate about. I wouldn’t get to deep especially early on. | /r/seduction | 19/09/22 05:17 PM |
| -8 | I slept with 56 girls in a year and this is what I learnt...(Part 2)He was an evolutionary failure. He did some great things for us but his line is dead. It’s a shame he didn’t pass on his intelligence to his offspring. 99.9 percent of people will be completely forgotten within a generation after their death. The only real part of you that will carry on after your death is your offspring. If just one of your ancestors woke up and decided they didn’t want to have kids you wouldn’t be here. If you think about the struggle life was for most of human history it’s ag… | /r/seduction | 12/09/22 05:29 AM |
| 10 | I slept with 56 girls in a year and this is what I learnt...(Part 2)I definitely was. I was using it as a source of validation and honestly a way to validate that I was good enough for the women that turned me down when I was younger. None of it was healthy for me. Took a lot of self reflection to really figure that out about myself but it stopped being fun and more of a way to feed my ego. | /r/seduction | 12/09/22 05:06 AM |
| 3 | I slept with 56 girls in a year and this is what I learnt...(Part 2)Lol you obviously can’t read. I’ve never advocated people not learning seduction. It’s a useful tool in life all men should learn. It gives you the tools you need to go get the woman you want. There are people that will agree that becomes unsatisfying at a point, some will disagree that’s fine. It’s a message board if you don’t have the balls to discuss things than move on. | /r/seduction | 12/09/22 05:01 AM |
| 5 | I slept with 56 girls in a year and this is what I learnt...(Part 2)Lol it is a sad way to live life IMO. Your body count counts for nothing in the long term. It took me many years and lots of wasted time to come to the conclusion I was only doing for my own ego and insecurity nothing more. When OP gets older in life and he can’t live that life anymore what is he going to have? It comes to an end for everybody I just think it’s a smarter approach to learn game than use it for better purposes besides running up a ridiculous body count. | /r/seduction | 12/09/22 04:54 AM |
| 9 | I slept with 56 girls in a year and this is what I learnt...(Part 2)Lol yes it does it the only thing of you that will survive your death. It’s literally the main goal of any species. Pass your genes on or you were a failure evolutionary speaking. | /r/seduction | 12/09/22 04:47 AM |
| 5 | I slept with 56 girls in a year and this is what I learnt...(Part 2)I literally said it was me personally. I don’t believe it to be a fulfilling way to live life in the long term. Sitting here saying all men would love the lifestyle is inaccurate. This life isn’t meant for most men I’ve seen it ruin a lot of good men. If OP wants to do it that’s his business but most men really deep down don’t want the life when they actually live it. | /r/seduction | 12/09/22 04:45 AM |
| 12 | I slept with 56 girls in a year and this is what I learnt...(Part 2)That just means you picked a shitty woman. At least that guy has kids and a legacy from his life. Will anybody care how any women you sleep with? | /r/seduction | 12/09/22 03:13 AM |
| 7 | I slept with 56 girls in a year and this is what I learnt...(Part 2)It’s not about throwing shade. This isn’t for everybody but I think it’s a good skill for men to learn. They need to be able to get women they want. It’s just more of a proceed with caution type thing. It can jilt you sleeping with all these women. I had lots of fun in the beginning but than I realized how shallow it was what I was doing. I started because I was deeply insecure and thought by doing this I could prove something to myself. It sounds great until you live it and realize how many peo… | /r/seduction | 12/09/22 03:08 AM |
| 12 | I slept with 56 girls in a year and this is what I learnt...(Part 2)I don’t find it fulfilling at all but it’s just me personally. Sleeping with a bunch of girls will jade you or at least it did for me. I have slept with around 30 girls since February and it’s honestly made me extremely unhappy. It’s a nice skill to learn to pickup girls but I’m only going to use on girls I want to be with potentially. I’m 37 I’ve had a good run but I want something more serious. | /r/seduction | 12/09/22 03:01 AM |
| 5 | I had a few one night stands this year and realized I am a relationship guyWhat makes you think they enjoyed it if they block you…. Girls almost never do that if they enjoyed it | /r/seduction | 03/09/22 10:19 PM |
| 1 | 40 matches and 0 dates. Conversations never start or die after one or two messages. What am I doing wrong?I only swipe on women I would at least have sex with. I would stand by my number of at least getting 1 of 10 out on a date. I’m not like insanely attractive either I would rate myself a 7 out of ten. The key is to move quickly and ask them out for a drink. I don’t take a ton of time getting to know people online it’s pointless till you meet them in person. | /r/seduction | 01/09/22 03:37 PM |
| 4 | 40 matches and 0 dates. Conversations never start or die after one or two messages. What am I doing wrong?That would be absurdly low. I probably go out with maybe one in 8-10 that I match with. | /r/seduction | 01/09/22 01:29 PM |
| 5 | Is getting with MILFs any different than getting with girls my age? Any pointers?I find milfs are much easier to pull than younger girls. They are much more direct and if they like you they will normally go for it. Just be more direct than normal and deflect if they start making fun of your age. Some will not hook up with younger guys so don’t get discouraged if you get rejected. | /r/seduction | 01/09/22 04:58 AM |
| 5 | As a girl, how do I hit on a girl?Do you know if she is straight? That’s the first thing you need to figure out. Ask her about guys she is dating. You just probably need to feel it out a little. If she asks you that would be a good time to talk about your sexuality. | /r/seduction | 19/08/22 04:12 PM |
| 2 | Has a girl ever lost interest in you but somewhat became interested again in the future?This should be the end game for all of us. I mean hooking up with people is great but it’s so much better when you care about the other person. Pickup just gives you the tools to get the girl you want. | /r/seduction | 18/08/22 03:56 PM |
| 1 | Has a girl ever lost interest in you but somewhat became interested again in the future?Yep it gets rarer and rarer the deeper you get into pickup. Your heart kills off the vulnerable side so it makes much harder to emotionally attach to people. | /r/seduction | 18/08/22 03:53 PM |
| 3 | Guys of r/seduction, what is your rejection ratio?I would say closing 10% of the numbers you get is very good. | /r/seduction | 16/08/22 04:58 PM |
| 1 | Fake STD resultsInteresting I thought they did test for it but maybe not. I know most don’t test for Herpes since it really doesn’t cause any issues. There are over 50 strains of HPV only some of them effect the genital area. I think they can test what strains you have but I’m not sure. | /r/seduction | 15/08/22 05:43 PM |
| 1 | Does anyone else have to get absolutely shithoused to do well at bars/clubs?Ugh would definitely not recommend this! | /r/seduction | 15/08/22 05:05 PM |
| 1 | The instant you show a girl too much interest, she plays hard100% she needs to know you are willing to walk at any point. Very good post above! As long as you hold this frame for your relationship things will stay good. The moment you lose it that’s where you start losing the girl. | /r/seduction | 15/08/22 04:46 PM |
| 4 | do women in general see PUA or anything related to PUA as a red flag?Exactly men need somewhere to go better themselves and get encouragement. The black pill movement is devastating for young men. There is nothing wrong with men helping each other become better with women. They have nowhere else to go entertainment does a poor job of showing how it just leads men to false hope. The nice guy doesn’t get the girl like in the movies. | /r/seduction | 15/08/22 04:32 PM |
| 5 | do women in general see PUA or anything related to PUA as a red flag?What’s funny a lot of the most feminist women I’ve seen in my life like to date very masculine guys. It’s like they forget all the stuff they spew out when it comes to their own romantic life | /r/seduction | 15/08/22 04:24 PM |
| 1 | Fake STD resultsYea but if you already have it you can’t be vaccinated and I think there is only a vaccine for certain strands. Your body doesn’t cure it you will always have it once you catch it. Herpes really isn’t a big deal or doesn’t cause any damage but HPV can cause cancer | /r/seduction | 15/08/22 04:18 PM |
| 1 | Fake STD resultsHe probably has something like herpes or HPV that can’t be cured. | /r/seduction | 15/08/22 03:57 PM |
| 2 | Which type of women are attracted to beta males? This is a serious questionI didn’t say there weren’t misogynists in that movement. However they did shed light on issues men face that are completely glossed over by society. Nobody cares about men at the bottom of society. Do you not think there are some bad elements in the feminist movement? | /r/seduction | 15/08/22 03:11 PM |
| 2 | Which type of women are attracted to beta males? This is a serious questionBro a lot smarter guys than me and you have already written that paper. There’s a whole men’s right movement in case you haven’t seen it. Again yes I have read many feminist studies and I agree they do have it worse than men in SOME ways and attention should be drawn to those. However, as a whole men have just as many serious issues that need to be addressed as women. | /r/seduction | 15/08/22 03:03 PM |
| 1 | Which type of women are attracted to beta males? This is a serious questionWell yea we can all be confident when we don’t care about the outcome. The goal is to be confident no matter who you are talking to whether it’s Rosanne or Megan Fox. That’s the part that takes work and years of practice to not be nervous and shy around someone you are attracted to. It’s a journey man you can’t help you are an introverted shy guy. You can try and improve yourself to overcome it the best you can. You probably will never be the life of the party but you can learn to represent your… | /r/seduction | 15/08/22 02:58 PM |
| 1 | Which type of women are attracted to beta males? This is a serious questionYes women do have it worse than men in some areas but to broadly say women have it worse than men across all aspects of society is just false. I mean even if you look at basic standards women live longer than men, men are as I mentioned far more likely to be homeless, men are less educated than women, and I could go on and on. We could both sit here and cherry pick stats and studies but neither of us can definitively say one sex has it worse than the other. | /r/seduction | 15/08/22 02:52 PM |
| 1 | Which type of women are attracted to beta males? This is a serious questionWell it’s arguably the biggest factor for women. Shyness and lack of confidence are huge turnoffs to women. I understand your pain because I was very shy most of my teens and early twenties. I started getting much better results with women once I worked on this part of me. I’m still not an extremely out going guy but I did outwardly start showing confidence and my results changed significantly after that. | /r/seduction | 15/08/22 02:44 PM |
| 2 | Which type of women are attracted to beta males? This is a serious questionHaha ok buddy keep up the good fight. Do you know what anecdotal means? I just provided you real facts that men have a harder life in those aspects that you glossed over. I could show more FACTS as well. I’m not arguing men have a harder life than women but to say women have it way worse than men is just false. | /r/seduction | 15/08/22 02:40 PM |
| 3 | Which type of women are attracted to beta males? This is a serious questionOk well I could sit here and name many ways men have life way worse than women. Provide some examples of how women are oppressed or have harder lives than men. Here’s just a few ways men have it worse: Men are more likely to be homeless. Men are more likely to die on the job. Men are incarcerated at a much higher rate. Men have have fallen behind women in higher education. Men are more likely to be victims of violent crime. Men have higher suicide rates. | /r/seduction | 15/08/22 02:32 PM |
| 1 | Which type of women are attracted to beta males? This is a serious questionYou have to look at the hard coded biological reason women are attracted to confidence and dominance in guys. Women in the past and present had to invest enormous resources into raising kids they want a guy who could provide and protect their kids. It’s hard wired into most women to desire that type of man. | /r/seduction | 15/08/22 02:26 PM |
| 2 | Which type of women are attracted to beta males? This is a serious questionHuh….I’m just curious under what metrics do women suffer more. I can name a bunch where men suffer way worse. We each suffer in different ways but I don’t think men or women suffer more than the other. | /r/seduction | 15/08/22 02:21 PM |
| 3 | Went from incel to 2 lays in under a month but still have a lot left to learnLol life doesn’t work that way. You won’t get quality girls that just want to have sex by not taking them out getting to know them. If you just want sex expect the girls you find to not be of the highest quality especially if you put zero investment into them. | /r/seduction | 15/08/22 01:57 PM |
| 1 | How to initiate touch?I always try and sit beside the girl on dates way easier to initiate than sitting across from them. I usually start with letting our legs touch if she is fine with this than I escalate further. | /r/seduction | 12/08/22 09:44 PM |
| 5 | How to become FWBsI think there’s a lot of truth in this post. A lot of times one person is hiding their feelings towards the other. I have been on both sides of the coin. It just ends badly every time if feelings are there. I do also think it does effect peoples ability to form attachments in long term situations. I can definitely say it has changed how easily I develop feeling towards people. I think it’s only over time that you exactly realize the costs and benefits of it. I’m definitely way better with women … | /r/seduction | 12/08/22 09:37 PM |
| 1 | How to become FWBsI think you can do it as long as you keep your feelings out of it. However, if you have any feelings towards the person I wouldn’t venture down that road. Someone almost always gets hurt. If you can keep it casual it’s fine but definitely don’t go down the road if you want something more. | /r/seduction | 12/08/22 09:28 PM |
| 1 | Just had another ONS and I'm starting to doubt that the lifestyle is for meIt’s not for everybody man. I don’t enjoy it like I used to. I’m looking to settle down but I want kids one day so I have to get to it. There’s no shame in realizing it isn’t for you. You got to do what makes you happy the good news is you got the skills to go find someone you want to be with. | /r/seduction | 29/07/22 08:06 PM |
| 1 | What does it mean when a girl says she likes men with an attitude?It means she likes a cocky guy or one with an edge about them. | /r/seduction | 28/07/22 03:56 PM |
| 2 | Why can’t I bring myself to respond to attractive girls on dating apps? 23MYou are letting your fear of rejection and insecurities about not being good enough dictate how you are with girls. Don’t worry about always trying to say the right thing. You have to detach yourself from any one specific result you have with a girl. If they reject you what do you really lose? If you don’t try you never had a chance anyways. Also sorry to hear about your past trauma I would talk to someone about it. Just don’t get discouraged even the best get rejected. Just don’t let your fear … | /r/seduction | 26/07/22 02:48 PM |
| 2 | How to tell other women you've been dating you found someoneYep I use the slow fade but this can really backfire sometimes if you get an I’ll timed text or call with the chick you want to be with. Just be prepared. | /r/seduction | 26/07/22 02:31 PM |
| 1 | Random sex textIf you are one of those dudes why do you even care? Just forget her and move on! | /r/seduction | 26/07/22 02:09 PM |
| 2 | Fuck me baby ?? CringeNo because this would be the only time you probably would say this. It’s a major turn on when girls say shit like that. | /r/seduction | 22/07/22 01:54 AM |
| 5 | How do casual hookups work?Here are couple of things to keep in mind as you get started. just be prepared to burn through a lot of partners if you want to just have casual sex. Most women are cool with it for a time but there will always be a point where you either take the next step or they will move on. It’s very rare to find a girl especially a quality one who is good being a fuck buddy indefinitely. Be upfront about your intentions. Don’t lie and say you are looking for a relationship etc if you aren’t. you also need … | /r/seduction | 14/07/22 05:19 PM |
| 2 | What's the best lesson you've learned on your seduction journey?I honestly think it’s great. If they are happy then what else matters. | /r/seduction | 12/07/22 02:22 PM |
| 1 | What's the best lesson you've learned on your seduction journey?Quality over quantity. Never compromise on your standards. Don’t get jilted and uncaring. Treat girls with respect and be truthful. If you have real feelings for a girl go for her you don’t get that feeling with every girl. This one is honestly the one to take to heart. I missed out on several really good girls because I thought it was cool to sleep with as many girls as I could. There will come a point where it just becomes normal that you sleep with a lot of women and this is when I had to rea… | /r/seduction | 12/07/22 02:21 PM |
| 1 | How to seal the deal?The key when you are ready to go all the way is getting in a spot where you can. I usually start making out heavily with the girl on the couch. This usually leads to heavy touching this is when I take them to the bedroom. It’s a lot easier to get them there once they are turned on. If they aren’t sure just go back to making out and try again. | /r/seduction | 12/07/22 02:39 AM |
| 2 | What is an effective way of finding a fuck buddy?You almost always have an outbreak within the first 20 days if you catch it. You could go years without another outbreak though. | /r/seduction | 12/07/22 02:31 AM |
| 1 | what do i do about not being enough?That’s not really even super small. Average is around 6IN I think it’s more or less you are self conscience about it. | /r/seduction | 11/07/22 06:08 PM |
| 2 | what do i do about not being enough?I saw a study one time men with the really large penises were way more likely to be cheated on. I was skeptical of the study but a lot of women don’t want a massive penis they prefer something closer to average. | /r/seduction | 11/07/22 06:05 PM |
| 1 | Do I have to be touchy with everybody too, though?I’m the same I save most of my touch for the one person I feel most connected with. I’m not touchy at all with most people. I crave it from people I’m intimate with though. | /r/seduction | 11/07/22 06:02 PM |
| 3 | Sedditors from nine years ago or successful sedditors disappear after a few years? Why is this?This it gets old at times and eventually most will meet a girl that checks all their boxes. If you meet someone you find really special your desire to seduce new women will go away because they won’t compare to her. | /r/seduction | 11/07/22 02:41 PM |
| 11 | Got humbled for the first time in cold approachThey should but they won’t as most women won’t. Just how it is unfortunately. | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 08:12 PM |
| 7 | Got humbled for the first time in cold approachNotice I said most. I’ve talked to numerous women I have met and a lot of them complain that guys don’t hit on them. And it’s not that they weren’t attractive it’s just guys don’t approach them. | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 05:32 PM |
| 20 | Got humbled for the first time in cold approachThey aren’t getting that dolled up to just party with their friends. Most of them want to get hit on. | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 04:51 PM |
| 2 | How do I initiate something with my boyfriend if I get nervous every time I try to?Tell him you want him to fuck you while you are making out. This should get his blood flowing lol. I know it might be hard to say but sometimes direct is the best approach. | /r/seduction | 17/06/22 07:37 PM |
| 2 | Three f buddies and still feeling aloneI’m there too I want a family I’m 36 but I almost sabotage myself with good girls because I’m so used to just trying to bang new chicks. I’m actively looking for a girl to settle down with but I can’t seem to find one that checks the boxes I’m looking for. | /r/seduction | 15/06/22 09:13 PM |
| 1 | First Date TipsDo you guys have any success on coffee dates? I have never actually done a coffee date I always do drinks or an activity type thing. | /r/seduction | 08/06/22 04:54 PM |
| 2 | First Date TipsSit next to her if at all possible. Touch as soon as it feels comfortable. Start with leg touching and work from there. Since you can’t pull her try and hard close a second date with better logistics. | /r/seduction | 08/06/22 01:53 AM |
| 6 | Would it be weird to ask a women for permission (verbally) before making a move?Yea I think it depends on the situation. I tend progress in baby steps if I’m meeting a girl for the first time. In this situation he knows the girl so I think he needs to be more decisive. | /r/seduction | 06/06/22 10:53 PM |
| 1 | How do I proceed?Sounds like you could have brought this chick home that night. If it was cold don’t you think it might be a good idea to warm up at your place…. But I get it you are really young this one was in the bag but you blew it. | /r/seduction | 03/06/22 09:17 PM |
| 2 | Seduction 101: Prologue Part 1 - The State of SedditYou absolutely need to be yourself. Everybody has qualities that are attractive you need to build on those. If you aren’t a funny guy don’t try and be a comedian. I have a system that works for me because I know my strengths and weaknesses. I’ve over the years taken bits and pieces from different people and morphed it into something I can do. I’m naturally a confident/cocky person so I lean into that with girls. I’m not the best storyteller or comedian so I don’t do that type of stuff as much as… | /r/seduction | 03/06/22 05:36 PM |
| 1 | Super paranoid about my 1 body count at 27 years old. Need some advice + my life story.Sounds to me like your issue is lack of confidence. You have to fix this before you are going to have any success with women. I can’t tell you the difference it makes when you interact with women confidently and assertively. Fake it till you make it starting out. I would definitely do online dating as well as cold approaching. | /r/seduction | 03/06/22 02:31 PM |
| 1 | Is it possible for a guy that is 6/10 physically to end up with girls that are 8,9 or 10/10 physically, if the guy is smart, dresses well and works on his game?Yes it is. You have to bring something to the table though money, social circle, or some other unique quality she might be into. | /r/seduction | 02/06/22 06:48 PM |
| 1 | How do most of you even find dates ?You should do both. Online is like passive income not a lot of investment but it can get you a decent amount of girls to hookup with. But you definitely get better quality in real life. | /r/seduction | 02/06/22 04:57 PM |
| 1 | Being yourself doesnt work unless you are a player by defaultIs this online dating? If so this is probably right. This definitely isn’t the case meeting girls IRL. | /r/seduction | 02/06/22 01:11 PM |
| 1 | Being yourself doesnt work unless you are a player by defaultIf you really can’t approach live then meet them online. You can meet girls online and date them that way. Just get some decent pics and work on your text game. Also you can approach the fear is something everybody feels. If you didn’t you would be probably a psycho who doesn’t feel anything. It’s natural to be afraid but ask your self what does it matter if they say no? It doesn’t mean anything you will probably never see them again so who cares. | /r/seduction | 01/06/22 02:42 AM |
| 2 | how does sex just happen??Amen I have been told the same thing by girls. They say it shows a total lack of confidence when the guy asks. I never ask to kiss them or anything. When you get good enough and can read the signs you already know she wants to be kissed. | /r/seduction | 01/06/22 12:27 AM |
| 1 | Why do females like muscular, tall men ?I’m 5’10 165. I work out but I’m not a big guy at all. Sure would it be easier if f I was 6’4 of course but it really doesn’t matter that much when you I’m person and around them. | /r/seduction | 31/05/22 06:41 PM |
| 1 | Thinking about dating/hooking up so much I’m losing focus on my career goals. Advices?John Anthony is a good one. He’s a dick but his game is very very good. | /r/seduction | 31/05/22 04:48 PM |
| 19 | how does sex just happen??You have to escalate things physically first. Very rarely will a girl just let you skip all the physical steps and go straight to sex. If you go out with a girl I recommend always sitting next to them not across from them. The first thing I usually do is kind make my leg touch there leg. If she doesn’t move her leg away and leaves our legs touching I move forward start touching with my hand usually on the back first than if she seems comfortable with that I will start touching her leg. The point… | /r/seduction | 31/05/22 03:26 PM |
| 1 | Being yourself doesnt work unless you are a player by defaultI mean look at your mentality and attitude how would a girl be attracted to it? All is see in this post is anger and no confidence. So no I don’t think you should create a new fake “persona”. I don’t know you personally but I’m sure you have some attractive traits. You can only be you man, girls are really good at seeing through fake confidence. It took awhile to get to where I’m at but if you keep at it you can get there. | /r/seduction | 31/05/22 03:12 PM |
| 0 | Being yourself doesnt work unless you are a player by defaultThis is bad advice. You need to always be yourself or it won’t feel authentic. Here’s the key though you have to change certain aspects about yourself that’s unappealing to women. I was painfully shy when I was younger and still am in some social settings. However girls perceive me as slightly cocky now when I go out with them. You have to highlight your good traits and downplay your bad ones. If you aren’t funny don’t try to be. I’m not a comedian at all I can be witty but I’m a shit storytelle… | /r/seduction | 30/05/22 03:49 PM |
| 23 | Honest question for women: why aren't women having sex all the time?Because a small percentage of guys have all the sex. An average guy sleeps with less than ten women in his life. It’s feast or famine for most guys. So the women sleeping around are most likely messing around with the top 20% of guys. | /r/seduction | 30/05/22 03:19 PM |
| 1 | Couldn’t perform after a date last night. Is that typically a deal breaker?Ok if you were in your 30’s I would have said get your testosterone looked at. Yea just chalk it up to performance anxiety then. The key is not to worry about it when it happens. If you worry or panic in your head it’s over I’ve had it happen. Next time it happens just relax and engage in more foreplay. I’m 36 but it’s happened to me a handful of times usually when I’m drinking. I always just make a joke about it to the girl. | /r/seduction | 30/05/22 03:04 PM |
| 1 | Couldn’t perform after a date last night. Is that typically a deal breaker?How old are you just curious? | /r/seduction | 30/05/22 02:42 PM |
| 0 | I am deeply terrified that I missed out on the human experience in life. I have never hugged, never kissed, never had friends, never done anything that didn't have an "economic" value assigned to it. Virgin at 30.Don’t listen to this! Seen plenty of “sub 5” guys with girls. This is just an excuse. | /r/seduction | 11/05/22 03:36 AM |
| 1 | Struggling with oneitisYea I’m 36 i think I’m at my peak with girls right now. You’ve got time. | /r/seduction | 06/05/22 01:34 PM |
| 1 | Why do some guys (like me) think that girls will like them if they are NICE?It’s a bad habit I used to do the same. You have to change how you view yourself instead ask is this girl good enough for me. Just be who you naturally are with everyone you are comfortable with and stop worrying about if you lose her. If you’re the type of guy that has women around you won’t care if you “lose” one. Just be yourself and not the nice guy and it will pay off. | /r/seduction | 04/05/22 03:16 PM |
| 1 | would you rather have sex with one girl for life or will you keep having sex with different girlsOne for life. I’m a monogamous guy but I like to have fun while I look for her. | /r/seduction | 29/04/22 03:42 AM |
| 3 | no teasing or push/pullOk there’s a lot to respond to here. I’m going to have to hard disagree with the female being more afraid. I mean minus approaching her in an alley or somewhere like that the guy most likely will be more afraid due to approach anxiety. In friend groups guys tease each other as a sign of endearment. I only tease friends and people I’m comfortable with. I don’t personally recommend teasing at the start of the interaction it’s kind of something to do once you are already engaged. It’s just a good w… | /r/seduction | 28/04/22 02:57 AM |
| 7 | no teasing or push/pullTeasing if used correctly builds attraction so well that I think you are discounting it. You don’t need to constantly tease or disqualify them but if used effectively you can create a lot of sexual tension. It also depends on the girl read your audience if she’s super insecure it’s going to probably offend her. | /r/seduction | 28/04/22 01:35 AM |
| 1 | Guys that go around campus getting girls number. How many girls have you slept with?If you close 10% of the people you approach that is elite, close meaning bang. That might seem like a low number but realistically that’s a very high close rate. | /r/seduction | 22/04/22 02:33 PM |
| 8 | Have you met like extremely handsome guys who could walk into any place, literally any place, and girls would be all over them? Not just bars..Lol yep had a buddy like this that was 6’5 and looked like a model. If you bring your girls you were trying to pick up around him just forget it. I used to hate going out to bars with him because of it. | /r/seduction | 22/04/22 01:05 PM |
| 1 | I think there’s something wrong with my way of speakingThat’s your core problem your attitude. It shouldn’t be a nightmare it should be that girls dream because she’s about to meet you. Confidence is big with girls and if you aren’t confident fake if till you make it. Everybody has self doubt and deep down insecurities you just got to learn ways to overcome them. | /r/seduction | 06/04/22 01:52 PM |
| 1 | Being a PUA is destroying meThe problem is you have to be authentic or girls pick up on that. If you are presenting a fake person you will have to keep presenting that person to keep them. Just be you but enhance it a little to attract them in the beginning. Don’t get discouraged not every girl will like you. | /r/seduction | 06/04/22 01:27 PM |
| 22 | If a women sees no value in you she will never respect you no matter good of a person you are or how good you treat herWell you dump this person or move on. No sense in chasing someone that views themself superior to you. The only thing you can to do to add value is remove this person from your life. | /r/seduction | 29/03/22 02:34 PM |
| 1 | Banged girl from my school and now she's talking to other girlsJust be upfront about your intentions. Just don’t make any promises you can’t keep you should be above a lot of the drama this way. | /r/seduction | 29/03/22 02:04 PM |
| 3 | How can I (22M recently graduated) get my own ‘college experience’?You sadly can’t I wasn’t great with women at that age and blew many opportunities. It’s ok I just lived it out in my early 30’s. I was confident by then I knew who I was and girls feel that. I still get rejected it doesn’t bruise my ego anymore. Now I’m dating a girl I would have never snagged in my 20’s. | /r/seduction | 21/03/22 10:17 PM |
| 1 | visiting her town: how do you smoothly ask a girl you already met with if she has a boyfriend right now?That would be her decision not yours. You probably won’t end up dating her so just let it play out. If she doesn’t mention she has a boyfriend then don’t assume she does. If she has a boyfriend she shouldn’t hang with you at all. | /r/seduction | 09/03/22 03:18 AM |
| 1 | Is there anyone here who went from barely getting with girls to now getting with many?It’s a lifetime of gathering experience, learning, and figuring out who you are. I am much better picking up girls at 36 then I was at 22 I just have fewer opportunities now. I’m just trying to land the best wife I can get now. I just started dating someone that I would have never gotten in my younger days because I didn’t have the skills yet. | /r/seduction | 08/03/22 10:39 PM |
| 1 | To you tell girls you're sleeping with your lay count if she asks?I just say I don’t keep count. | /r/seduction | 08/03/22 10:26 PM |
| 1 | Cant hold long, interesting, flowing conversationIt’s not what you say it’s how you say it. You can literally talk about anything you just have to make it interesting. The key is to get her to talk, honestly when I’m hanging with girls it’s usually them talking 80% and me 20% I just steer the conversation. | /r/seduction | 08/03/22 09:50 PM |
| 0 | visiting her town: how do you smoothly ask a girl you already met with if she has a boyfriend right now?How about you just go out with her and see what happens? If she doesn’t mention a boyfriend you are in the clear. Just approach it as if she doesn’t. | /r/seduction | 08/03/22 07:08 PM |
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