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It might be a little rough at first because what has been normal for you the last 30 years is getting town in 2, that's alright hang in there and create your new normal.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 06:55 AM
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Yea they are all impowered women with the "yes we can" mindset. They claim to be independent strong women while receiving child support and alimony. You go on dating apps and most the women say they have kids and a house. As soon as I read that I think "that's weird, I have kids and can't afford a house because I pay child support, I wonder how she has a house"? Hmmm makes you wonder. Anyone ever think about the big switch that is going on with our money? So if you get divorced and have to pay c…
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 02:55 PM
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I got what you are saying and in most cases I give her plenty of blame. I was simply trying to draw the picture for everyone to be able to see how protective the exinlaws are and how they turned their backs on me.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/24 11:07 PM
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Lots of people not married have kids. I would say you don't get them as a result of marriage. Sure you are probably more likely to though.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 02:44 PM
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Yup the man gains nothing in marriage or a commitment. It's the girl that pushes a man for commitment, but then it's the girl who's benevolence towards the man runs dry once the honeymoon fase wears off.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 11:19 AM
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Get a car that cost 1k or 2k and only put liability insurance on it. My ex bought a car for our daughter and tried to get me to pay half. She tried to get me to pay the insurance. She took me to court. Judge said typically in a middle class family cars are a luxury for kids not a necessity. So he said I didn't have to pay. My daughter has never driven the car to my house as it stays at her mom's. I have never even seen her driving it. I don't want the car at my house. I still pick up my kids eve…
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 01:56 AM
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I never had this kind of impact on another's life but I was very much in to helping everyone in my neighborhood keep their small engine equipment running. Everyone had problems and I was the only one who knew how to fix it. It gave me purpose and it gave me chances to bs with each neighbor guy while I worked on his lawnmower. My ex hated every minute of it because it made me look good or something.
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/24 09:46 PM
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Yea this right here. I have had to take my decree with me whenever I go somewhere with the kids incase she calls cops on me. She sends emails all the time saying I have to pay this or that or do this or that "because the court order says so". Then I read it all again and send her the portion that pertains to what she is saying. I've had to do that so many times it's crazy. Why when she knows we both have copies does she think it is worth it to lie about what it actually says?
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/24 02:53 PM
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Short answer: yes Long answer: I was raised Christian, very Christian and divorce was not in our vocabulary. We had 3 kids so figured it was worth staying together for them and I knew how hard it would be for me with child support. I imagined life without her sometimes but was committed to being committed. She gave me the divorce that I was too scared at the time to do. 8 years later now and I'm not really practicing my upbringing. I just got out of another long term relationship (not married). …
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/24 11:40 PM
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I get sick of the girls on the apps who give a list right away "if you don't have xxx and you don't do yyy then swipe left". Like common man I just saw your pic and you are already scolding me. I countered this buy writing on my profile "if you have credit card debt, don't bother me". That should eliminate all of them.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/24 10:46 PM
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I've been divorce 8 years. I've been in a relationship with this girl now for maybe 7 years. Her ex was a toxic narcissist and so was mine. It was so convenient how we understood what each other was going through every time our exes would harass us. I couldn't imagine us being with anyone else who would be as understanding. My girlfriend just had a massive win over her ex that pretty much put a muzzle on him. He's not even allowed to talk to her, he has to talk through someone else per court ord…
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 12:53 AM
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Exactly. It's funny how I have a moral issue with me lying to my coworkers but I have no moral issue with lying to the vultures in family court. The thing is a lie anyway so I might as well join in.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 12:41 AM
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How did you find out she was doing all this?
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 12:39 AM
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Exactly he's not there to be my friend. My ex and I have been divorce 8 years, she has been remarried probably 5 years now. I have never spoken to her husband nor have I been within 10 feet of him. Although sometimes I joke around and say what if him and I hit it off at a gathering and started joking about shit. It would pass the ex off so bad and he would be sure to be punished after the event was over.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/24 02:35 AM
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It's so hard for me to grasp that these humans are born and raised on the same planet as us. If I ran out of money and Afair fog so I decided to come after one of you guys for some your wealth, I would be an Asshole. To them that is just being an independent women who can do it on their own without the man. The irony is funny when you think about it.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/24 05:50 PM
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Exactly. Except the way she desired me was more like the way a child desires a toy. No thought ever goes into that child's head that they may have to work at times to keep the relationship with that toy alive, water the flours if you will. That thought never crossed her mind. It was only "what can he do for me"? "How much manipulation will I have to do to get him to do more"? And "how far can I push him before he breaks and starts pushing back"?
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/24 03:51 PM
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Absolutely and I can list maybe 50 of them. But I guess I wasn't educated on how to deal with and process those red flags. I knew I wasn't perfect either. I didn't know exactly what I wanted in a girl at that point. The only thing my brain could process was that I thought she was pretty and she liked me.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/24 02:48 PM
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Yup that's the way it goes. My ex is a teacher. I had a small apartment a block from school. Her parents lived on the other side of the school from me, right across the street from school. My ex acquired the house next to her parents which was a block and a half from me. Her parents have gotten to watch our 3 kids probably more than time than the placement I get. I would never be asked to watch them outside of my placement. I know her dad treats the situation as if he is the father figure to the…
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/24 02:08 PM
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Eventually you are going g to have to put a stop to that. It's not going to work at all once you have a new women friend. I bet your ex is really just using this as an opportunity to check up on you to make sure you aren't happier without her and to make sure you don't have a lady friend.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/24 08:37 AM
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Thank you. It's like we form our goals as children and know what we want as we are entering adulthood. We are prepared to encounter obstacles along the way from outside sources.The one thing we are never prepared for is that the women in our life will be in opposition to our steps toward that goal. We just aren't prepared to have to fight someone within our own walls of our little kingdom we are trying to build. Also for me the formula went like this...the prettier she is, the more I give in. Th…
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/24 02:55 PM
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Man you said it right " no women will be able to help achieve my goals". They fight you tooth and nail. It seems like they are only able to look at daily tasks and do t understand big picture. A lot of guys have a 5 or 10 year plan, a place that they can picture themselves being in 5 years. They work towards that goal. Women don't see that and they try to dismantle that commitment. Trying to explain your goals to them can be like herding cats. I am 43, I was a very week 21 year old but had goals…
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/24 09:56 AM
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I wouldn't call it a failure for husband's when your wife has multiple side relationships and then she files for divorce ripping the family apart. If my kids turn out bad now it won't be my fault it will be the fault of title IV-D.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/24 08:36 AM
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She would become a beast every holiday. I began dreading them all. Way too much anger for what was supposed to be a time of heightened excitement. I had to drag all the totes up for the fall decorations and then so she could put them away while I was dragging out the totes for the Christmas decorations. After that it was her yelling because I wasn't helping the way she needed me too. Then we had to go in to dept everytime for presents. Like the person won't know how much we love them unless we a…
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/24 10:00 AM
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Yea that word "enabled" is key. I definitely enabled my ex. I always thought she would change if I was nice and patient. It didn't work, that only enabled.
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/24 08:13 PM
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Not sure what a scapegoatof the family is. Perhaps it involves being harder on a child treating them like it's all their fault? I don't think my mom was a narcissist but she did take on a very dominant roll over My father and became very critical of everything he did. It like that at first, my parents were the traditional old fashioned dad leading the family while mom followed. The change came in when we got our first TV. We didn't get one until I was about 11. Our house had zero pop culture inf…
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/24 05:53 PM
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I didn't. When I made those vows I knew that there would be plenty of days where we would be thrown some nasty curves and I knew I would have to learn how to get through it. My ex expected every day to be slow pitch, underhand, right down the middle of the plate.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/24 12:18 AM
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I am also sure she is willing to kill me for the life insurance. She had it court ordered at the divorce that I keep paying for the life insurance policy while keeping her as the beneficiary for the life of the term policy. The term should end here I think in a couple years when I turn 45.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/24 05:58 PM
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One thing that I'm not clear on because he didn't say is that they started a business and he 10x his income, but does that income come from the business? You said she took it over, are you working for her at this business? I believe the business will be able to be split if you have lawyers or she may have to buy you out.
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/24 05:54 PM
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My present is just putting away $100 each paycheck I to savings so that when emergencies happen I do t have to rely on her parents. 12 years of marriage and probably 6 months total in that time that she did not have to ask her parents help with the bills. I paid cash for everything before I met her, we had loans, credit card debt, second mortgage, and handouts from her parents while together. Since being apart I have payed almost everything cash except for car loan and lawyer loans.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 01:39 PM
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If she packed her stuff but hasn't left yet, then she might want to see if there is anything left worth saving g it for. Don't beg her to stay, do t tell her you want her to stay. That shit only makes them leave. I have found that women rarely say what they mean or mean what they say. If you want her to stay you would probably have better luck acting as if you don't give a shit if she leaves because she is replaceable.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/24 11:37 PM
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Nobody had a gun pointed at my head but what we did have was a women who manipulated and told many lies all the way to the alter. If someone was a narcissist long before meeting you, and you have zero experience up to that point dealing with a narcissist, then it might be hard to recognize the signs. The only fault I will accept was that it wouldn't have hurt me to be more of an asshole to her from time to time. Instead I was always willing to take one for the team and show unconditional love. W…
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 04:57 PM
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I also don't agree with "both are at fault".
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 04:52 PM
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This is going on with me right now. Been divorced 7 years with 3 girls. They were 9, 8, and 3 when we divorced. For years there mom would try all kinds of alienation tactics, I was just too good of a dad or at least far better a parent than her for the kids to treat me poorly every day. Now they are 16, 15, and 10. It's not going well for me. Her alienation tactics seem to be working quite well. I don't really think there is much I can do about it other than wait for them to be adults and see if…
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/24 12:51 PM
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I would submit bank statements from the last 6 months showing record what was in there. Then you show the date it was removed and show the date her divorce papers were filed. That is marital assets that you should be able to get half of.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/24 03:17 AM
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Do you promise? My women just turned 38. [Crosses fingers]
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/24 01:10 AM
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This reminds me of a conversation I had with my boss recently. He is a very intelligent toolmakesr/designer/engineer for our company and deserves everyone's respect throughout the company. He makes probably 120k-140k a year. When he goes home his non working wife complains to him about everything while not doing any housework. I explained to him that his wife is in competition with him. She is trying to stack up next to him but has nothing to stand on and that the only way is to drag him down to…
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/24 08:13 PM
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Yes me too. I would down grade her quickly from fiance to girl friend and reevaluate the situation soon after to see if there is change. Otherwise be prepared to walk away.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/24 11:19 AM
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If she keeps bringing up emotional stuff I would just respond with "allow me to invalidate your feelings by telling you that since you left me, you also left your sound board".
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/24 06:40 PM
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I think this is so funny how they think its us oppressing them. But it's what they care about and it's what they are good at. They dont know how to adjust the carburetor or the valves on the lawnmower when it's starting hard. In most cases when both parents are working a lot of hours, it is the women who get uptight about the mess. It's not us oppressing them, it's nature. Many tribal people would have the men go out and hunt while the women stayed home and made beef jerky from last night's kill…
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 06:55 PM
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I think this is so funny how they think its us oppressing them. But it's what they care about and it's what they are good at. They do t know how to adjust the carburetor or the valves on the lawnmower when it's starting hard. In most cases when both parents are working a lot of hours, it is the women who get uptight about the mess. It's not us oppressing them, it's nature. Many tribal people would have the men go out and hunt while the women stayed home and made beef jerky from last night's kill…
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 06:55 PM
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I think this is so funny how they think its us oppressing them. But it's what they care about and it's what they are good at. They do t know how to adjust the carburetor or the valves on the lawnmower when it's starting hard. In most cases when both parents are working a lot of hours, it is the women who get uptight about the mess. It's not us oppressing them, it's nature. Many tribal people would have the men go out and hunt while the women stayed home and made beef jerky from last night's kill…
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 06:54 PM
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If you are good enough for her then she shouldn't need anything more like marriage to then make you good enough. Perhaps she is t the one.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/24 04:23 PM
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What you describe is very similar to my situation. I met her while she was going to college. I lived near the college. We dated while she was there. I wasn't going to school so I looked up to her. When she graduated she moved back by her parents which was a couple hours away from where I lived. I soon moved to be by her. I felt like getting away from my family and the area would be good for me. I sacrificed all of myself to make her happy and she also never reciprocated. Now I have 3 kids in thi…
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/24 04:29 AM
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This just proves my point that we men should have multiple wives. On their own they get bored. When there is another female present they feel pressure to out perform the other. As soon as they have the feeling of exclusiveness they try to control everything, when there is the feeling that we men have options, they try to please their man and listen to them.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/24 06:49 PM
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She divorced me once she realized she could no longer control me. My biggest mistakes were allowing her to control. I shouldn't have given up so much of myself to please her. I would've found out that she either would've left me sooner or never would've gotten married. I was too young, maybe 22 when we began talking about marriage. Neither of us knew what we wanted.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/24 06:42 PM
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Yea I used to believe that one as well. Meanwhile waiting for God to fix what dosnt want to be fixed, there are plenty of other women who either need much less fixing or have already been fixed. Go find them and then thank God for them.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/24 06:48 PM
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Embrace who you are. If you are single right now, then be OK with that. In fact be proud of it. Don't let others make you feel like it is your shortcoming. Embrace as if it's your best trait right now. You have to live with you before you can learn to live with a women or another women.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/24 06:42 PM
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Because a lot of times the daggers they throw at us are only intended to make us angry hoping that we will act out on that anger and be violent so that they can use that against us. What funny is that people who actually are violent or toxic do not need any accelerant other than normal life to get them going.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/24 06:39 PM
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Yea that was very similar to my situation as well. Father Inlaw would help with a lot of shit and then criticize me. Ex wife spent all our money so she had to ask for help from the parents every month. Then they would tell me I was parenting wrong. It made for a situation where I had to choose between yelling at them and telling them off or pay the bills. It was a very co trolling situation.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 03:51 PM
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Ha yea there were a lot of red flags. I used to sit at the kitchen counter with MIL and we were shaking our heads about my then soon to be wife. We just couldn't understand why my ex had to bring everything g she did to her mother for approval. MIL would tell me right there that even as a kid every little toy project she had going on she would have to bring it to mother to get a "GOOD JOB" out of her mom. Then I married her. This turned into daily calls to her mother and unloading every stress o…
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/24 11:02 AM
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Most of those rings are pretty worthless to begin with. It's all marketing that made us think diamonds are so rare and so expensive. Everyone you see trying to sell a ring on a local listing is usually asking about 30% of the cost they nought it for. They will be lucky to get their asking price.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 11:09 PM
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It's not that I'm bitter. It's more like you train people how to treat you by your own responses to situations and by how you treat people. I had to learn not to be passive. This can piss people off when they are used to you being passive. Learning how not to give a fuck what people think is the key.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 04:33 PM
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If you treat a women like they add little value and could be replaced in a very short time, they will work hard and add great value to your life. If you treat women as though they add great value to your life, they will do nothing for you, drag you down and grow apart. Men find joy in the accomplishment of a journey while women find joy in the journey towards an accomplishment. We are two very different people and we do not think a like. This is why you are better off treating them like they are…
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 12:46 AM
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Mine came out with the truth once she realized she wanted a divorce but was too scared to do it herself. She unloaded on me what she had been up to for the past 8 years. I had only been aware of the past 6 months.
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/24 12:51 AM
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Man I stopped listening to what my ex said about me. All I do is gain more and more confidence.
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/24 09:16 PM
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If you can't learn to live with yourself again, how can you learn to live with someone else?
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/24 06:59 PM
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You need to file a motion to enforce placement. Have every instance documented and if poli e were involved, get those police reports and file those along with the motion. Also file all documents that show she is behind in childcare.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 04:39 AM
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Yea narcissists are always jealous of any level of success their spouse has.
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/24 11:56 AM
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Wish I would've had a prenuptial with an infifidelity clause.
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/24 11:55 AM
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My ex wife spent 4 years in college for her degree, and took 6 years after college before someone hired her for her degree. During those 6 years she worked a couple jobs one of them fired her. For me I am the type of person who didn't belong in school. I had a 1.5 GPA in high-school. I failed algebra 1 and a few other courses in high-school and had to take them over. I scored a 15 on my ACT score in high-school. College was not even on my radar. I have worked for the same company for 20 years, I…
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/24 03:57 AM
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My situation is somewhat similar. My dad wasn't a pastor but rather he took on a roll of doing a lot of assistant pastoral duties in the church while being a teacher in the Christian school. Sex before marriage wasn't an option. I married a women who had been graduated Bible university. I thought everything was gonna go right. I was divorced 12 years later at about 36 years old. I waited a year to work on myself and try to figure out my new belief system that was developing. I now haven't been t…
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/23 11:07 AM
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Lol no, I couldn't even get her to smile at me when I walked in the door from work while we were married. It seems like her idea of marriage is to love bomb until commitment and then take full control of her husband leaving him with no free will.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/23 03:03 PM
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I do have a heating pad under the Covers. This weekend I will be installing a tent camping wood burning stove that I bought on amazon.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/23 07:31 PM
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Most everything was the same for me. I finally realized it was because I was too nice to her.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/23 12:20 PM
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Thanks, tell that to my ex who is asking permission from the court to take more money from me so she can fulfill all of her pleasures.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/23 12:18 PM
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I am poor due to child support. 65k a year but I have to live in a camper in Wisconsin. It was 9 degrees this morning. My space heaters aren't enough.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/23 12:21 PM
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Wisconsin 3kids She has 68% custody, I have 32$ $972/month I make around 65k she probably makes around 47k No alimony
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/23 12:17 PM
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Find a girl from church they said. Don't be unequally yoked with unbelievers they said. I found a girl from church who was in her senior year at Bible university. She had 9 boyfriends that I am aware of during our marriage that I know of. One guy she was making out with and giving head to a week before our wedding. I didn't find out any of this until 8 years married. Forgive others their trespasses they said. Be reconciled with your wife they said. Cleave to your wife they said. I forgave her fo…
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/23 09:18 PM
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"My wife told me for years what she needed and I was never able to change" Unless we are talking about you doing so.e really bad drugs or drinking a 30 pack in a day, I do t agree with you needing g to change and be someone else's or be someone you are not. My ex tried to change me constantly and told me what to do to make her happy. It never made her happy. Every hoop I jumped through there was always another to jump through. You are the way you are and that is who she married. Make no apologie…
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 09:08 AM
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Zero credit card balance. I went 5 years post divorce with not even owning a credit card. It made me proud. Not advisable though because I went to buy a new car and realized I could've had better credit. I got an Amazon secure card to fix my credit. Card balance near the end of the marriage was around 10k she would have our tax return and my bonus spoken for 6 months before they came.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 09:00 AM
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Coming from someone who trusted God to provide me with a Godly women, dont do that. Instead trust your gut feeling. That little voice inside telling you not to marry and have kids is the only voice you are going to hear once you are a few years into marriage and kids. Once the dust settles on your family life you will hear that inner voice again telling you you should've listened to That voice. How does your family know that that isn't God telling you to not have kids? I'm not here to bash God, …
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/23 01:57 PM
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Yup my GAL is a horrible person. Every question is loaded with a tone of voice that reminds me of the lady from monsters Inc that would harass Mike for not turning in his paperwork. In court if I or may lawyer makes a good point the GAL will speak up and defend my ex as if she is also the lawyer for the ex.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/23 10:48 PM
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That pisses me off.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/23 02:53 AM
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Wait what? So you file a motion asking to review custody and then in your second page of the motion you tell the judge you still know what he did last summer? Never heard of this.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/23 02:52 AM
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Yea he was not considering it at all. He was was preemptively rejecting that idea before it was said.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/23 02:50 AM
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So I dont know what s Corp is but if you made 100k but only paid yourself 24k means that you would only show a w2 to the court with 24k. The court might know of your business but I don't think they would investigate. The remaining 76k in the business would probably be taxed, reinvested, or put away as capital for later buying power? Also of that 76k you would need to be purchasing stuff "for your business" that you would also use for yourself as 24k obviously isn't enough to live on.
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/23 06:47 PM
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Yea isn't it crazy enough that we have to pay enough to put us in poverty, but then we still have to deal with an ex wife always trying to call the shots Backed by a court system who looks at them as the main character when it comes to parenting. Then if we don't find some way to appease the women she takes us to court and the court treats us like we are some drug dealing alcoholic who shouldn't have and place in the kids lives. Women want us to be manly but when we stand up against the norm we …
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/23 06:53 PM
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How do I find out for my state Wisconsin?
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/23 09:08 PM
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When my kids were smaller and my ex wife would contact me midweek to tell me about a birthday party this weekend, I would always tell her I need the parents contact information so that I can make the arrangements when my kids are with me this weekend. Sometimes it was hard to get it out of her because she needed to be the one that communicated with parents. But I just told her "OK I guess they probably won't be able to get to the house or get a gift without the proper communication. She learned …
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/23 07:58 PM
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Did your dad work a lot because of child support? If like me then he didn't even have enough money to rent an apartment after support was withdrawn from each paycheck.
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/23 11:35 AM
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I think it's funny how when we empower women it's acceptable, but when we empower men it's sexist and misogynistic. If it's good for the goose then it's good for the gander. This is a sub for men who are divorced or going through it. It should probably be implied that we are all heterosexual males here and our kids were made through hetero sex. I don't want my son sticking his dick where the poop comes out. I've never even stuck it where the poop comes out with a women. I make no apology for my …
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/23 09:55 PM
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I am going to build on what you have said here. Those kids need a man in their life far more than a women. A women's roll to her children starts to diminish once they are done breastfeeding. A women purpose to her children is the survival of the baby. Once breastfeeding is done they begin their terrible 2's. This is where women get frustrated and annoyed with their kids behavior. That is because they are emotional beings. They do not know how to discipline consistently, fairly, and lovingly. The…
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/23 10:03 AM
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Pearl and Fresh n fit were good wakeup for me, however they won't fix it. Move on from those guys to Patrice O'Neal. Have unbreakable confidence in all of your decisions as a man. I have turned my dead bedroom around with my women by listening to Patrice. Let her know that there is nothing special about her pussy. Let her know that is the only reason you are interested in women. Let her know that if she is done with you that you aren't gonna cry or beg, that you are goi g to immediately move on …
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 03:50 PM
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Marriage is giving half of your possessions to the state so that it can be divided when you part ways. In most cases it's the women who stands to gain or benefit from that kind of contract. They quite literally are rewarded for taring their family apart. Why would anyone want to enter into that kind of contract.
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/23 11:58 AM
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This is sad. I can also remember my ex waiting until I fell asleep so she c I understand wake me up to argue about something I apparently said or didn't do. Sleep deprivation is what it is.
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/23 06:36 PM
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I think using the word "guzzling" is a bit on the extreme end Like An All or Nothing term, I would remove that and then keep cock whore that will be fine ;)
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/23 11:21 AM
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Congrats to you that you have a successful LLC. Since you are making extra income with it couldn't you use the LLC to your advantage to make it look like you aren't making more but still benefit from it? For exapmle you made an extra 40k. I'm assuming 40 is on top of money you were already living on? So if you were to save up some capital and buy a car with LLC money and it has company name on it you now don't have to pay for expensive car. You probably just need a beater for personal use. Or if…
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/23 01:30 AM
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I wish I had known that everything I was told when I was a little boy about how boys should treat girls is all bullshit and made up by the women. You should never listen to a women when she is telling you how she wants to be treated. Once you do it she sees it as a weekness and losses respect for you. They speak out or react only on emotion and never on good logic or reason.
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/23 02:47 PM
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I had a little rule for myself when the ink was still wet on the divorce papers. If there was a night alone where I was feeling like shit or maybe the ex had sent me some nasty emails that day, I was to not use anything other than my brain as a coping mechanism that night. That meant for me no.... alcohol, video games, porn, or women that night. I didn't have a problem with most of those on most nights. I just didn't want to create a dependency. I took lots of walks at night to clear my head.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 10:41 PM
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Yea the court will tell both parties they aren't allowed to talk bad about each other in front of the kids. What that actually means is that mom is allowed to talk bad about dad all she wants but if dad says anything about mom, it will make it's way back to the court gardian the next time you guys are in court and it will make it into the guardians final report that dad talks bad about mom.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 08:08 PM
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My ex has run a smeer campaign with my 3 kids since the day we split. I can always tell when she casts a new spell figuratively speaking because when I see the kids at a school function or a school sporting event, they won't come up and say hi to me. If I approach them they will get a weird and nervous look on their face almost as if to say "dad I can't look happy around you, mom is watching". This usually happens when my ex and I are having a disagreement. Ad time goes on it's almost like she r…
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 05:53 PM
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The court masquerades themselves as the entity who puts the child's interests first. However the only concern of the court is the equal distribution of the assets and who the money is coming from and where it's going to. Money is there only concern. I have a court order with my ex-wife and it's about 18 pages long. It outlines all kinds of stuff such as placement and how to handle our holidays and stuff like that. It also talks about child support and payment for variable expenses. It really is …
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 11:23 AM
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I am not married to her but I have been with her 6 years. Dead bedroom as well. Talking with her did nothing. As I am learning from some sources on the internet, women become extremely board of their rutine with the guy and will try to find a new one so that they aren't board. They get board when you become predictable. Unfortunately it is in our nature as men in order to try to establish peace in our life we stay as far away from chaos as we can. We make it to work on time, we work hard at our …
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/23 09:47 PM
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Even the man though? Has any man had experience with lying in family court and getting away with it? I understand family court is not criminal court and hearsay is actually allowed.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/23 08:05 PM
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My ex lied on the stand about her wages. Because she is a teacher I had already looked up on a website her wages and my lawyer had it printed out and showed it to her on the stand. The judge had no reaction or response.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/23 05:59 PM
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Women are given the advantage in court because they know the women won't manage the money well and that they will put the money right back in the system to generate sales tax. Men on the other hand without their wife spending their money anymore would come out to n top managing their money well, building a savings and building wealth with mustual funds and stocks. The system is rigged to pat itself on the back any chance it can.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/23 05:54 PM
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I'm not even married to her, we do t even have kids together. We both had kids on our own before we met. We've been together 6 years. I never wanted to move in because I knew all the nitpicking would start. 7 months ago I lost my apartment and it was too hard to afford another with paying child support. So I chose to move in. I can't wait to move out so we can rekindle the relationship. Really nice girl. Wonderful personality. She just can't help being a women and getting after me about dishes a…
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/23 08:14 PM
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4 months is the shortest divorce case I have ever heard of. I took a lot of walks on those lonely nights to clear my head.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/23 09:49 AM
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Tiktok wasn't a thing then lol.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/23 08:14 PM
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Sent her dad after me to scold me after our first ever mother's day. We had no money. I made a card. Not good enough. We would rather have a card that someone else wrote that I just put my signature on it as if I own it.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/23 08:05 PM
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Im with you there, and maybe a bit further. I actually don't want my kids to have any or perhaps I don't really want to be involved if they do. Marriage to my ex was 12 years of a marathon and raising kids with her by my side was lots of times me being the dad and mother like figure. Then I went through the divorce. Now I have been dealing with Lyme disease for the last few years. There isn't any energy or strength left for grandkids. I'm not even sure if I'm going to have the strength to be rig…
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/23 05:59 PM
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We had only a few handful of months throughout our 12 year marriage that we didn't have to go to her parents for money. Well I should say she went to them. A steady stream of $250-$400/month nearly every month for 12 years. She will never change so long as her parents keep enabling her. Now on my own for half a decade, even with paying child support I pay every bill and have a little left over. I am able to put a little away for emergencies. It's so crazy how they don't even have a good working …
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/23 05:51 PM
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Yea this may be what Happened in my case. I live in a small town. There are two layers in town. One is strikes fear in everyone. It's always a race to see who retains this one lawyer. The slower person gets the leftover lawyer. I didn't want to have to deal with small town politics. I figured these two lawyers go to court and argue and then when court gets out they probably go to the local bar and grill and have lunch and a couple drinks with each other and probably sometimes with the judge. I w…
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/23 02:52 PM
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In marriage counseling my my ex asked me to give one good reason why we need to stay together. I said because we vowed to. She then yelled at me in the car afterwards saying that I gave the wrong answer. I was supposed to have talked about all the nice thing is that she was and that I wanted to be with her for all those nice things. No I was definitely only there still for the kids and because of the vows.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/23 04:53 PM
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I would start leaving her notes around the house as well. That's how she wants to communicate. There are things she isn't doing in the house. She might get the point with notes.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/23 09:11 AM
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"build her world over my well being" I like how you put that. Mine did this too however I have never found the words that you used to describe it like that. My ex was so bad with holidays and birthdays that I no longer celebrate them. It is such a relief to not have to stress about getting the perfect gift which ended up feeling more like a sacrifice to the gods that you knew would not please them regardless of what you purchased.
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/23 05:39 PM
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I agree. That is how someone talks when they don't want to come out and say they are a homewrecker.
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/23 02:40 AM
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Divorce Court and family court make all kinds of rules that they expect the two of you to abide by just so that they can masquerade themselves as the authority in the situation and someone who cares. Once the dust settles on the divorce hopefully you will realize that's the only thing the court is actually there for and the only thing they act on is where the money is coming from and where it's going to. They only care about the money. Countless men and women will take their ex to court because …
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/23 11:20 AM
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You will find a way to make distance. My ex and I have 3 girls. It was almost impossible to have a conversation when we were married, everything had to be about her or what she wanted. It was almost always an argument. In divorce it got much worse. You will have to draw boundaries. Inside my house is for my kids and I, she is not welcome. Phone calls and texting are for friends who get along. I demanded for the first year that she only communicate via email and ignored ever text until she sent i…
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/23 12:28 AM
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In my 6 years of being divorced, my ex was in my apartment 1 time within the first month of separation. She acted like she owned the place and had an attitude. I drew the boundary right there and have never allowed her back since.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/23 06:43 PM
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My advice is when you take the kids back to the ex and return to an empty home with toys all over, if you feel the urge to cry do it. That is the perfect time to get it out. This will help you move on. Soon you won't feel like crying anymore. Create new memories with the kids. When you have them next time you can reflect on the fun thing you guys did last week or that funny game you played with them. Soon you will forget the hurt.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/23 03:15 AM
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Yup the court appointed Guardian is going to ask you what the living arrangements are at your apartment. Mainly she wants to know that there's one bedroom or if there's two or three. I think they also want to make sure that kids aren't sleeping on the couch and sleeping bags on the floor. You're going to need beds as well. You can usually find bunk bed sets at thrift stores like Saint Vinnie's for pretty cheap.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/23 05:59 PM
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My ex wife had 9 different boyfriend's during our marriage and I was a little bitch for not dumping her after the first one. She finally left me for the 9th guy. I never so much as flirted with a women during our marriage. I waited a year to heal myself. I met a girl and started seeing her. After 3 months of vetting her I introduced her to my kids. My ex flipped out and warned me that "it's risky bringing our daughters around my new girlfriends boys because the most common place where assult hap…
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/23 11:32 PM
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Yea I would mostly agree with this. My ex had me so busy every day, almost to intentionally keep me from spending quality time with the kids. Even though I only have 28% placement, I still spend more quality time with them now than I did when married.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/23 08:08 PM
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I was the best man at My Best Friend's Wedding. Everything about the wedding was your typical backyard garden wedding. It had the white lattice with beautiful flowers going up all around the lattice. The white folding chairs. All kinds of family and friends came from far and wide to share in the moment. I never had a thought in my mind that anything was different until the wedding officiant pronounced them man and wife but did not use the phrase" with the power vested in Me by the state of.." al…
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/23 11:05 AM
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I am open to the idea of marriage as in a verbal agreement between me & her and let's say maybe her family and my family. For me there is no other way of marriage. Otherwise it's just a contract with the state.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/23 09:46 AM
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I think she would be labeled a "codependent". Unable to be alone, depends on another person being there, unable to find fulfilment with oneself.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/23 05:47 PM
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My ex-wife took full advantage of every opportunity in the divorce and left me with very little while she made out very well. It was so tough to go through and although she is a toxic person I no longer place all of the blame on her for me getting screwed. I slowly became more educated about the process of family court through Subs like this and many others and YouTube as well. I very quickly changed my distaste from her to that of the system we live in. Yes she is a toxic person and has zero em…
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/23 02:38 PM
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I would agree.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/23 02:25 PM
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Your house, your rules. If you don't agree with the phones being in your house then collect them from the kid(s) when they enter your car and place them in ex's mailbox. Let the ex know they are in there to be collected and that they aren't needed at your house. This limmites her ability to spy on dad if that's what you suspect is going on. Also let ex know that scheduled phone calls/video chat with your phone is still an open line of communication to show that you are not just trying to control…
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/23 02:25 PM
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Yes this is an important one that people don't often think about. If you guys have lived in your area for quite some time and are grounded there make sure you get it in writing that the child has to attend a certain School in your District until graduation. Having that in writing would keep her from moving away with the child. Also would not be a bad idea to have it in writing that if she chooses to move away then she will be responsible for bringing the child to you rather than you driving 2 ho…
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/23 01:59 PM
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You have to realize that in divorce court the only thing they actually care about is where the money is coming from and where it's going to go to and the division of assets and debts. Everything else that they write into their divorce decrees is just fluff to make it look like they care.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/23 01:54 PM
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I remember getting married at 23 and my wife was 9 months older. I was so you and was soon hit with the realization that I wasn't ready for what hit me. My problem was that we live in a world where men were tough men and ruled the home many years ago. In more recent years there has been a lot of activism for equality. My wife had a very strong willed personality and was not interested in me calling any of the shots. She found many ways to talk down to me and criticize me. One of the critiques th…
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/23 12:48 PM
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Why does he need a DNA sample if he knows the child is his? Or are people assuming that she due to her flippantly throwing it away and moving on that she may have been unfaithful earlier on in the marriage?
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/23 12:27 PM
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No it did no happen spontaneously, it happened because she wants support. She is trying to soften you up. I remember the huge blow I gave my ex wife when we were starting the divorce process. She asked me if we were still going to take care of each other once in a while. She was floored when I said no.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/23 05:58 PM
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It sucks because in a lot of the cases women push mean to start a family. Once the kids are there and your priorities completely change from party life to taking care of a little life, then the women starts complaining that "we never do any or go out anymore". Well you wanted a kid and priorities change after that. I'm in no way saying that you can never go out, I'm just saying it happens a lot less.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/23 01:33 AM
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It sounds like you are justifying a bad decision by making another bad decision. Choosing not to build wealth because you are already expecting her to leave and clean you out is not using good judgement. Build wealth while single, find a good girl, sign a prenup or just live with them. This girl is already planning her exit strategy if she won't sign
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/23 01:04 PM
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I have called the sheriff for similar case while at my x wife's house. I showed the deputies the court order and then they went into the house and came out with my kids.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/23 02:47 AM
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I have a great time with my 3 girls Everytime I am with them. It's not so much that I need a happy Father's day as much as I want a happy divorcee day. I want a day where I can forget about her where she isn't emailing make demands and telling me how worthless she thinks I am.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/23 06:31 PM
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The point in waiting a year doesn't mean that you are undatable for a year. It just means that you have a wound from your divorce wether it be emotional or psychological, the year wait helps to close that wound the best you can so that none of that residue ever spills out on the new relationship.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/23 05:54 PM
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I agree with not going on dates yet. If you still wish for things to be right with her, then I feel like you aren't ready to move on to someone else.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 11:21 AM
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Instead of saying "ok" you could fire back with telling her that kind of gadget can stay at her house as you have your own gadgets and don't want to be responsible for lost or damaged items at your house.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 04:15 AM
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Just something to chew on...why do we hear about troubled kids or weird kids having daddy issues? Why do we hear about kids acting out in school because their dad ran off? Why do we hear about kids in the inner cities committing crimes where there are no dad's in the family? Why do we never hear of anything like this when the just the mom isn't present in the kids lives?
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 03:20 AM
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This was for me too. My best year out of the 11 years we were married was the last year where I broke off the mental chains that she had on me. I used to work a 10 or 11 hour shift 4 or 5 times a week. She would have me working around the house until 9:30 pm after I got home everyday. Then she would yell at me for falling asleep the minute my head hit the pillow. Then she would wake me up around midnight to confront me about something I supposedly did or didn't do that hurt her. It was such a re…
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 03:13 AM
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Marriage is nothing more than an agreement to the state to get involved in your personal life and disperse your things back to you or your spouse when you split up. I think marriage is a good thing but I'm not sure why we ever let the state get involved. You both get to know each other, you both get to know each other's families, you are all in agreement that this is a good step for each other. After that you can have a little ceremony or do t even get that fancy. If I was to say for example "ma…
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 04:49 AM
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If I had went over a year without meeting my 2nd wife's kids or me not introducing my kids to her, that would be a major issue. What if there is a personality issue? What if the kids are beeing raised poorly? You can tell a lot about a person by how they are raising their kids. I would kinda want to meet them just to know how they are interacting with their mom or the mom with them.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/23 04:07 AM
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