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Ew ew burn the nest down
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 01:30 AM
30

SF problems.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 07:31 AM
11

They probably are rude enough to try to go 50-50 on anything you plan, or even expect you to cover it since it was “your idea,” even though they requested you put the effort into arranging everything. Imagine marching up to some man and demanding he plan and pay for a date for you when he hasn’t offered. Yikes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 04:07 PM
14

Yeah I think a version of that might be: she’s visiting HIS city so he volunteers to show her around, and then he takes her somewhere nice, and then later performs cunnilingus (but honestly I’m not in favor of casual sex in general) But none of that involves somebody asking you to play tour guide for the day
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 07:07 AM
29

And redditors will be like yOu dOdGeD a bUlLeT she doesn’t deserve you anyone so shallow to care about [insert literally anything including whether he was polite or whether he had a basic hygiene or something to talk about other than his anime porn] isn’t worth your time blah blah
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 05:18 AM
127

I’ve asked men directly why it would be worth it for me to take my time meeting someone who’s leaving And they’re always like oh it will be FUN And I’m like…why is it fun to get to know someone who is leaving? Literally what is fun about it…? They just mean sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 05:15 AM
32

They’re busy worshipping SAHM and all of their sacrifices in the comments too, and I think the difference is that THOSE women are suffering like they should be. Whereas if a woman is getting what she actually wants it’s evil!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 12:48 AM
45

You have to be willing to be the housewife-slave of a POOR man not just a rich man!! Maybe you’re supposed to also have a job so you can contribute 50-50 at the same time that you NOT have a job so you can “stay home with the kids”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 12:40 AM
179

The anger at this woman is absolutely bizarre. She’s offering to play the role that many (most) actually-wealthy men want her to play. I did the exact opposite— I’m living the “girl boss” life & have a very high-earning and demanding career— and I totally respect this, except perhaps that it’s risky for her. (And Reddit men would be JUST as salty at me for my parenting preferences because my partner will be a more hands-on parent than I will and we plan to hire help.) These dudes are just freaki…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 12:37 AM
6

Beautifully said— deserves to be its own post!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 05:46 AM
79

Unfortunate but incredibly unimportant compared to everything else they did
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 11:36 PM
181

I saw a man comment the other day about a movement to “reclaim” the swastika symbol in the tattoo community. He was like “fuck fascists!” Which yes I agree: fuck fascists! But what you’re mad at fascists for is the fact that you can’t get a swastika tattoo without being judged? Like really, a whole world war and genocide later and this is the hill you wanna die on? He may very well oppose fascist ideology in general but the fact that anyone still wants to reclaim this makes them look like they h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 10:33 PM
79

This is such powerful advice. When viewed through this lens, the vast majority of my relationships with men made my life worse, not better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 10:25 PM
78

Seconded— I know her personally and she is an INCREDIBLE human being and a force to be reckoned with She also wrote a book about this called Nobody’s Victim which might also help you work through your experience, feel less alone in your trauma, and think strategically about what you want to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 10:22 PM
6

Exactly, it’s so forced. And then I’ve had a couple of them get disappointed that I’m not making more effort to stay in touch etc…and that’s actually a subtle problem because it turns out, “staying friends” kinda means continuing to use the women you dated as your emotional support system.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 05:36 PM
61

Ugh gross and you’re so right. Start breaking down boundaries about respectful sexual behavior and you end up with BDSM, “I’m coming out as poly,” CNC, “aCtUaLlY it’s technically ephebephilia” and god knows what else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 04:28 AM
49

My opinion on this has changed over time. I think it’s important to be kind & decent about your exes— we all know “all my exes are crazy” is a red flag. But over the years I actually tried being friends with some of my exes, men who I genuinely liked & respected even though we weren’t compatible, and I just…didn’t want to. I had moved on from them and genuinely didn’t have the desire to maintain those friendships. I feel like that’s healthy. Why do you need that weird dynamic in your life?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 04:26 AM
159

The thing to me about “jealous/insecure” accusations is that it implies you’re being irrational about whether your man will cheat It makes no sense when the behavior you’re supposedly “insecure” about is literally cheating If you’re upset that your boyfriend is going to a strip club, looking at porn, or declaring that he’s poly & moving some sisterwife into your house, you’re not scared he’s going to be unfaithful, you just noticed that he already was!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 03:47 AM
161

My fiancé went on a bachelor trip for his cousin and when every other man went to the strip club he stayed back at the Airbnb by himself— and now he doesn’t keep in touch much with that cousin. There are absolutely HVM out there who have values and stick to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 03:30 AM
198

“That’s not normal, have you made an appointment with a doctor?” But honestly block & delete
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 09:26 PM
27

This was too sad and disgusting to even read the whole way through. I hope his selfishness catches up with him someday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 09:03 PM
43

Divorce would have been the only “win” option there!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 09:00 PM
13

Yeah totally. A lot of the time it felt like they’re thinking “okay I’m 33, everyone else is getting married, I am READY! Let’s go ahead and marry this chick I already happen to be dating!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 04:30 PM
10

Many of them are successful career women too! Usually not quite at the same level but I know and admire a lot of these ladies. But we live in a culture where they think this is the “right” way to do things :( Like oh he’s ready to get married so now we’re going to get married
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 04:29 PM
12

One of the things I appreciate most about my fiancé is that he understands that my career comes first. He has a great 6-figure job, but I still have the “bigger” job (and I’d never want to marry someone with the same career/earnings as me because you truly have to make your career your top priority to achieve that, and I want my partner’s top priory to be our marriage and family.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 04:30 AM
8

Ma’am that’s what you did see
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 03:52 AM
33

He got confused and switched the numbers around
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 03:52 AM
76

I went to an elite graduate school where my classmates were mostly male. During school, a small handful were married already, many were single, and many were dating someone. Within 1-2 years of graduation, almost ALL of those men had proposed to someone, whether they’d been dating 6 years or met after graduation. But each of those guys realized he had found his soulmate at the exact same time, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 03:47 AM
27

If their situations had been reversed and she was in the accident, he’d have left her for dead
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 03:42 AM
21

I so agree with this, and I’m so sick of people complaining that ghosting is rude, mean, cowardly, or even “sociopathic.” I bet every woman has had an experience of a man losing his freaking mind after being rejected, before she ever started ghosting anyone. I made the dumb mistake of wasting my time arguing on another dating sub about this, and the number of people who claim that everyone DESERVES a clear rejection truly shocks me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 03:16 AM
37

I genuinely think men do this either out of laziness (excuse to not shave for a month!) or because they want to experiment with their look & see themselves with a beard, without having to admit it and risk seeming vain, or like they sincerely care how they look, god forbid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 06:22 PM
19

Yep, it’s an absolutely deal-breaker for me. My fiancé has a head of thick, wavy, shining chestnut hair. He has much prettier hair than me. It’s the one thing everyone I’ve dated has in common
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 10:31 PM
8

Not surprised, but the world is better off without him of course. I hope Gabby’s parents find some peace & closure in knowing that he’s gone. At least he won’t have the chance to disrespect her family and her memory by lying about her throughout a trial.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 12:21 AM
2

Fair enough!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 06:23 PM
2

At that point, I wouldn’t be comfortable going ahead with this wedding unless we mutually agreed to skip having groomsmen/bridesmaids altogether, and no bach parties period. That way he could avoid being surprised 😇 But I’d want that to be HIS idea. It sounds like he probably already goes to strip clubs with his friends in instances that you don’t know about. I’m sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 08:43 AM
1

I’d love to see you move out while he’s gone. I realize it’s tough financially but I promise it would be worth it. Re: the rent/breaking the lease, does anyone know if one option, and I know it’s risky, is to just refuse to pay him? OP would need to evaluate for herself whether her ex & the landlord would bother coming after her or just decide it’s not worth the hassle though…but I’ve heard enough stories of deadbeats doing this & getting away with it so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 08:36 AM
11

Sally Rooney is the author of one of my favorite pieces of writing of all time— her essay “even if you beat me,” which was about her experience being the world champion at debate. She actually was the best in the world, and won the world championship! I was so impressed with that, and with her writing, and with a central theme of the piece, which is about owning your abilities and best-ness as a woman. I was so bummed when Normal People was so freaking depressing in comparison and I won’t even s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 08:02 AM
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Well, what could make him look more guilty than having Bill Cosby on his side. Does Harvey Weinstein wanna chime in too?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 08:42 PM
1

Does anyone know a reliable way to find marriage records?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 01:35 AM
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You said “men do not experience love the way we do” and “in a man’s eyes, love is weakness. That’s why they only ever push for love in scenarios where a woman is sacrificing a part of themselves for a man” etc So I stand by my objection and my original reply 100%.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 05:07 PM
17

Ugh do they? I’ve never heard that phrase— and certainly have never heard a successful man say it :) Aka sounds like some manipulative bullshit from men who will never make it to the “finish line”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 04:36 PM
7

I feel like Europeans and Hollywood people do this all the time. Strange.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 04:32 PM
5

The advice in the post is transactional and advocating for selling yourself to someone much older in exchange for resources, based on a scarcity mentality that you have to either settle for immaturity or settle for prostituting yourself to a gross old man That is not FDS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 04:30 PM
8

Gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 04:03 PM
6

My fiancé and I are both in our early/mid 30’s and we’re “fully grown up” I assure you. If you’re still “growing up” in your 40s and beyond…yikes. It’s lovely to grow as a person throughout your whole life, but pretending it’s a binary between “immature young man” and “sagging old mature man” is sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 04:03 PM
14

There are better ways to get money in your life than prostitution, and they’re actually easier. I’m a self-made female millionaire in my early 30’s and I’m marrying for love. My fiancé is a high-earner too, and only 2 years older than me. He’s a tall, handsome man with an amazing head of hair and a big thick dick and he’s a kind, thoughtful sweetheart. I didn’t settle on one single thing I wanted and I’m sure glad I didn’t settle for prostituting myself to old “rich” (probably not even that rich…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 03:59 PM
49

I’m so sorry, and this is freakishly familiar to those of us who met someone similar
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 03:48 PM
114

Literally no one is more “disrespectful” in a “debate” than some random man are you freaking kidding Also anyone who views “threaten to punch in the face” as a reasonable debate tactic, to KEEP THINGS CIVIL of all ironies, is completely disturbed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 08:12 AM
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I literally don’t even believe a man like this that she cheated. He sounds delusional and selfish AF. Even if she did, well…if that’s what she needed to do to extricate herself from this situation, I can have some sympathy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 08:09 AM
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Go for someone with a good heart, who sees other people as full human beings— especially people who are more vulnerable than him. Even (especially) if he’s been raised to assume he can just bulldoze these people, but instead he shows empathy and respect. I think men like this are more common among centrist, liberal, and progressive men, but men all over the political spectrum can fail at the basic “I see other people as real human beings” test
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 08:06 AM
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And after that he will think he can get a “better” woman than he could before he was a doctor etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 07:15 AM
9

Is this in Europe?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 05:57 AM
10

Too identifying, but I appreciate the support!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 05:35 AM
257

This poor little girl! Where the fuck are her parents?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 03:11 AM
417

Any nice young ladies feeling proud about dating med students need to read the battle stories of all of the women who “put him through med school” “we dated 7 years and he said he wanted to propose once he finished residency”…and then once he’s finally a doctor the guy felt he deserved to “upgrade” to a woman who never saw him struggle
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 03:08 AM
135

Apparently his “best option” is to leech off this girlfriend in perpetuity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 03:06 AM
12

I love that energy! I hope it will normalize over time, but not without a big ugly fight. Your suffragette point is spot on, have you seen those cartoons of them from the time? Portraying them as evil ugly old bitches destroying the home & family, etc etc, the same old shit it always is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 02:46 AM
37

Yes! Meanwhile the simple fact is that almost any woman who wants to get married certainly has the option to receive an engagement ring as long as she doesn’t lower her standards. So why settle for not receiving one if you do want one? It’s a lack of confidence and nothing more. No one is “missing out” on a good man who would be a perfect husband with the one little catch that he won’t buy a ring. If he won’t buy a ring, he’s either cheap/selfish and won’t ever prioritize your desires above his …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 02:40 AM
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Unfortunately FDS could never have “good PR” because the strategies here strike at the foundation of male supremacy over women. And whenever anything threatens the dominance of a more powerful group, they’ll find a way to frame it as evil and disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 02:35 AM
30

It sounds like he had some serious body image issues. To be clear, I don’t feel bad for him— just another man hurting as many women as he can get his hands on instead of getting some much needed therapy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 12:51 AM
6

Imagine being 31 years old and being this spineless and morally flimsy. I am the same age as this “sister” and I do not know a single living breathing adult woman who would nEeD AdVicE about this issue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 12:48 AM
14

Ugh I once thought he was hot. How far he’s fallen that he’s in Louise Linton’s vanity project, yikes. In addition to being a freaking predator.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 12:36 AM
119

People tie themselves up in knots debating this but look around at the real world. I’m a successful woman, I went to an elite grad school and all of my friends from school have gorgeous rings. All of my professional peers have gorgeous rings. All of the wives of my male classmates and colleagues have gorgeous rings. I have a gorgeous ring. My diamond is enormous and conflict free. I love it, and yes, it was expensive. I wish I could show it to you ladies, you’d love it! There was never any quest…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 12:34 AM
50

As if mob mentality is ever a good thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 12:10 AM
221

It’s because masses of Internet men are infuriated by women standing up for themselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 12:10 AM
129

It certainly doesn’t sound like he is capable of being in a relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 12:06 AM
129

This is horrifying. And I also think it’s important to keep the outrage focused on the monster who beat a child to death. Even though the temptation is to focus on the mother for not stopping it, and I’m horrified that she didn’t, she was surely afraid for her life too— because a man decided to be a murderer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 12:03 AM
183

Pure humiliation for everyone involved
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 12:01 AM
6

Is he a stray dog
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 08:39 AM
18

Seriously. This was 70 years ago. Most of these men went and worked in an office that he left by 5pm, while he was there he wasn’t on a computer all day and he had secretaries to help him, once he got home he never had to answer an email in the evening, and he could support his whole family with that job…what on earth is the problem?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 03:06 PM
15

I noticed that; every inch of this is implying that work is extremely traumatic. Sure, the office is stressful, but now that women work too we’re just expected to deal with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 03:04 PM
45

My exact thought. These two people passionately hate each other. He’s taking out his hatred of women on her, and she now rightfully resents him for this abuse. Why would you have a second child with this creature?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 02:58 PM
39

I’ve developed a hard-won comfort level with just sitting on my ass sometimes and not feeling guilty about it. The way men AND women are conditioned about this is such a mess. I think it’s messed up to be “man at a dinner party” level of useless and entitled, but it’s also a leftover bit of patriarchal conditioning to feel, as a woman, like everything is your responsibility. Sometimes it’s not my turn, not my job, not even my business and I’m going to sit there in my peace. So I love this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 02:49 PM
1

Haha I didn’t know about the sock brand actually! Fun
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 02:40 PM
42

This man needs serious therapy, for his wife’s sake. I have a pinch of sympathy for him because he clearly doesn’t want to feel this way and the pornified society we live in got him here. But! He has to take responsibility. We all know it’s porn. He should have made sure he dealt with his issues with women’s bodies BEFORE he had a kid. He also should never have sat on his as for 13 MONTHS failing to satisfy and appreciate his wife until she gets upset and hurt and suspicious without going right …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 02:10 PM
127

He’s so mad you didn’t chase him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 02:34 AM
42

Seems fake yeah. I’m sure women this naive are out there but…I’m not buying it. Women in these situations know perfectly well that losing the main means losing the support, and they’re often vulnerable to real abuse because of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 02:29 AM
4

Women don’t shame men for not “conquering” women, we shame them for being undesirable to women. And we should.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 12:33 AM
36

I’m sorry that these men keep foisting this garbage on you! There absolutely are people out there with strength of character, who stick to their values. I think the idea that every man will cheat if he has the chance is overly pessimistic; if that were true there’d be no point in dating or relationships at all. I hope single women will focus on vetting versus just accepting this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 12:28 AM
4

Because one of the functions of living in a society is that you naturally meet people in an appropriate context— usually! You’re going to run into people who you have something in common with. People you meet through school or work have a similar achievement level to you— people who you meet shopping or dining or doing fun activities have similar tastes and preferences…people you meet through friends KNOW YOUR FRIENDS. Now OLD has made it possible for some guy to “meet” you without ever particip…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 08:28 PM
5

She sounds like a good girl!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 07:41 PM
68

I’m sorry but I just don’t think it’s worth it. Every time I dated a man from OLD, I wished I’d never met him. There’s a reason you wouldn’t normally meet these guys without OLD. Let the life you’ve built for yourself do some social selection for you like it was meant to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 04:51 PM
5

Gotcha, before you edited the comment I couldn’t tell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 04:48 PM
15

Imagine not trying to save your own family, sickening. Oh she froze? Carry her! Die trying! Jesus. The only people who can be relied upon to almost always sacrifice and be heroic are mothers for their kids. And I guess you never know how you’d react in an emergency situation until you’re in one…having been in scary situations a couple of times, I know I’ll try to protect people. I was once in a building where they were telling us to run & hide from a potential shooter, but I was there with older…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 04:47 PM
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Yikes she’s putting her life at risk. Sadly I don’t think there’s any point trying to talk some women down from their dangerous choices, they’ll just get mad at you for not being “supportive.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 04:39 PM
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My only hope is that SOME women and girls have been scared away from using it by seeing how unstable it really is, and how quickly OF would throw them to the wolves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 04:22 PM
16

Usually you need IB for that! So I’m hoping it’ll be rough. But I’m sure they’ll figure something out, a SPAC or something
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 04:21 PM
84

Young girls with big butts?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 04:19 PM
3

…which he has
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 04:25 AM
78

Yeah the problem with that is then he fixates on you and you’re the first person he shoots. I was nice to the weirdest, creepiest, most disturbed kid in my middle school out of pity and he just started drawing violent sexual cartoons of us and following me around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 04:23 AM
103

Survival rate is going to be a % of people who survived, not a hard # of people who survived. So that accounts for men outnumbering women in these situations— of all total women, what % survived, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 04:20 AM
6

I think it’s the idea that younger guys don’t want to settle down. But you’re much better off being a man’s first deep, true love and having him excited to propose in his 20’s than some 30-something who is desperate to lock something down. Men propose in their 20s all the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 04:01 AM
5

Isn’t this just like a pic from the Jetsons? Relax dude
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 03:53 AM
168

You’re doing God’s work
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 03:51 AM
81

This cheered me back up after reading this mess, thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 03:38 AM
238

Not just getting a dog, RESCUING one He thinks he’s doing his new slave a favor
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 03:37 AM
231

He’s literally looking for a live-in sex slave but wants to know what she’s bringing to the table
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 03:37 AM
37

The nail is literally trying to escape from that ring
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 03:34 AM
3

I mean ready to make sacrifices in order to live by his principles. I think a lot of people have political opinions they want to share on Twitter or whatever but when push comes to shove they only live by their “values” when it’s convenient for them. So something as small as returning a lost wallet instead of keeping the money, or bigger things like telling the truth even though someone will get angry about it, or speaking out against injustice even if it could cost him his job, etc. Strength of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 08:57 PM
25

Yes! Don’t waste your time! You’ll never get it back. Recently saw someone say “and then we dated for 4 years!” like that was a GOOD outcome! Delaying a breakup for 4 years is just 4 years you won’t get back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 08:53 PM
20

Wait, I think that’s a good thing? If you don’t care whether your partner desires you or not that’s a rapist mentality. Men should lean into this by: pursuing women who are actually interested in them, taking care of themselves so that they are desirable, behaving in desirable ways, making sure their female partners are turned on for sex and enjoying it. This is in your hands fellas!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 08:29 PM
47

My least favorite thing is when someone reminds me about the slug guy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 08:27 PM
1

I think that just depends on all the people involved. An HVM with kids who was widowed etc certainly isn’t unworthy of love or a bad person, but think of all the emotional baggage that comes with that…someone grieving a beloved dead wife, raising kids on his own, probably traumatized. The question to ask yourself is: is this my top-choice situation or am I settling because I don’t think my top-choice situation is attainable for me? Maybe to a woman who is widowed or divorced with kids, a man who…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 04:38 AM
1

Ugh sorry you have to deal with that! I hope it eases your experience in the long run
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 03:11 AM
19

I love this list! The one I’d add, that’s most important to me: The way he handles sticking to his principles when it’s inconvenient for him or requires personal sacrifice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 03:10 AM
57

I have been period-shamed exactly once in a relationship and I told the man that he had no business dating women & should try his luck with other men, and left his house without another word. He later complained that this comment “hurt his feelings” and that he was “worried he’d never see me again” — which just goes to show that I should never have let him see me again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 12:50 AM
90

Absolutely not. Men are human beings. They are capable of being honest, being loyal, and having strong moral character. Some people are also genuinely monogamous. It’s just that people who aren’t naturally monogamous are really, really convinced that everybody else is faking it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 12:46 AM
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I hear you— I’m not a dedicated or long-term Reddit user so I have no advice, but definitely a pickle and hope it’s not getting you too much harassment or derailing your other sub. I do wonder if you have the risk of being ousted from leading the other sub/a revolt against you there if they think of you as “FDS” just based on the hate I’ve seen. If it were me I might delete everything FDS specific from this account and start over with FDS screening on a different one, but I can see how that’s a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 12:43 AM
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It might sort itself out as your hormones change a bit with age/the novelty wears off. But honestly, you just need to make a firm decision within yourself about what your boundaries and priorities are, and then stick to them, especially when it’s challenging. Sex is no different from anything else in that sense. (I had a crazy high libido in my teens like you’re describing, but I had sex for the first time at age 20, in a serious relationship.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 12:40 AM
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This is my FDS-dedicated account, I saw that suggested here somewhere. I don’t need people trashing me about FDS on subs where I’m just looking for shampoo advice or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 09:07 PM
16

How old are you, if you don’t mind me asking?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 06:25 PM
17

Agreed! Paying the bill isn’t compensation for being a woman, it’s a vetting opportunity. These little things are a signal of what the entire relationship will be like. Fights about finances are one of the leading causes of divorce. You don’t want to be with someone who has a tit-for-tat mentality, who is bitter or resentful, who views relationships (or finances) as you vs him. You want a man with a big, happy heart, who is eager to show you he values you, and who will stay eager to be caring an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 04:14 AM
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The difference between a woman who fucked 100 people and a man who fucked 100 people is that the man had to hurt a lot of people to do it. Can a man like that change what he WANTS? Sure, happens all the time— men get older and want a partner, a family, a home. Even PUA “gurus” have settled down or found religion. But what they want is their problem, and not the important question. Can a man like that change his behaviors? That probably depends on the individual, and again I don’t think it’s the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 12:51 AM
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FDS mods are fucking heroes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 08:42 AM
28

As FDS women we know too well that hatred of women is a powerful force and that anyone who dares to be a feminist in public is going to get attacked. So I genuinely believe it’s more complicated than that— and it’s well know that this scandal about her family was dug up and popularized by people who hate Jia for being a feminist (aka Reddit, Twitter.) I’ve read both that blog post you linked and Jia’s side of the story (https://jia.blog/listen-i-wanted-quar-gossip-too) and I’ll never know how he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 05:47 AM
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I think it’s possible to know and experience the kind of everyday sexism and misogyny perpetrated by successful-to-normal men: inappropriate bosses at work, sexist comments from frat boys in college, being treated like shit by fboys on dating apps, gross comments from douchebags in a bar, catcalling from losers on the street… …without ever encountering the openly-horrific, ugly, pathetic hate that incels spew online. You mostly have to be online and aware of those spaces to see men openly admitt…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 05:18 AM
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My extremely gorgeous ex was like this. Dude was shredded— I thought it was admirable self-discipline but nope, just an eating disorder. Had to deal with him having an emotional meltdown practically every time he had a real meal, and watching everything I ate. I actually gained weight during that relationship because he’d starve himself, then go off the rails and order all this binge food and want me to “indulge” with him. What a waste of time. I remember once he was doing pull-ups and I thought…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 03:23 AM
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Never, ever, ever share this information with a man you might like. I’m so sorry this happened to you and good for you for choosing yourself! Wishing you healing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 03:15 AM
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He’s certainly right that I don’t care
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 03:10 AM
19

Confusion is the feeling of someone lying to you. If you are truly CONFUSED, you are getting contradictory information. Reality doesn’t contradict itself. Someone is lying to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 08:44 PM
8

God did not create me for any “job.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 08:39 PM
79

It’s also embarrassing, makes you look bad…and if nothing else, think about the lifetime of suffering you’d be passing down to your kids if you carry on those genes :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 08:36 PM
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Nope! Unless it’s for your safety. Story time! When I was 19, I naively went to dinner with this guy (who was a gross playboy but very smooth— I never really entertained him because l he was so much older than me that I literally didn’t think it would be a date and laughed at him.) He paid the bill while I was in the ladies room so there was zero awkwardness and we could just head out when I got back. This stuck in my memory as being quite slick, so when I was all grown up and had my own money I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 06:49 PM
19

Oh my god
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 05:58 PM
17

💯 Parts read word for word like some fetish shit I’ve been exposed to
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 05:54 PM
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Sounded like some fetish shit to me. “I love dancing to his every tunes, like I don’t have a mind anymore” -> sounds horny, sounds just like the “bimbofication” fetish people
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 05:53 PM
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Oh good point, it could definitely be that. The immediate vibe I got was actually just “this is somebody’s fetish bullshit.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 05:50 PM
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Well, exactly! That’s one of the reasons I hate OF and I’m sad about what’s going on there! In addition to being exploitative on its own, it’s absolutely a funnel to prostitution. And some of the girls who ruined their futures doing OF are absolutely going to switch to escorting now. Or stripping and then prostitution. Or “sugaring.” And from what we hear from women who escape that life, those “husbands” are going to (TW) rape them, force them to do anal, strangle them, or worse. So I’m sorry to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 05:47 PM
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I’m sure a thousand copycats will pop up to take its place, and women will feel like they ought to try them since they already made all this content for OF. And lots of young girls will get deeper and deeper into sex work for less and less money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 11:02 PM
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Exactly!! I’m more saying that I have it easy because I’m rich, because no one can call me a gold digger. So I’m not really doing much by being open with these preferences. But all women deserve to have and proudly own their preferences and desires!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 10:20 PM
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Unwashed in this life and unwashed in the next
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 10:13 PM
121

Can we please re-stigmatize sex work. Like yikes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 10:11 PM
18

Not at all surprised when some handmaiden-to-the-patriarchy bullshit gets love on Reddit. “But women are LUCKY to get to do porn for cheap!” And all the neck beards will agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 10:10 PM
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I obviously don’t support sex work, but I feel so badly for women who have permanently become porn stars because they expected a long-term income stream, and now the money is going away but the stigma will live on forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 09:42 PM
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Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 08:58 PM
121

Yet another chore 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 08:58 PM
226

Yeah at least this guy is gonna die soon, if he exists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 05:47 PM
47

What the fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 05:46 PM
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I’m on the dark net, and happily you can’t really just hire a hitman. Any “hitman” you’re “hiring” online is the FBI. You have to either be mobbed up or do your own murders in this life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 05:46 PM
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To be frank, I’m slightly rich myself and that makes it much easier. It’s pretty expected that wealthy women will have high standards and want nice things. It would be comical to call me a gold-digger (not to say no man ever has, it’s just even more dumb and funny than usual). But I’m still not going 50-50 with anyone. The money’s not the point. I agree it’s so sad that women are bullied into pretending they don’t want anything. And your Walmart comment 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 05:01 PM
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He’s definitely our family’s ex-doctor now— and unfortunately he owns his practice or however that works; it’s just him & a number of nurses in his office. Thank you for taking the time to reply. Looks like lawyer time if she wants to pursue it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 04:52 PM
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Even Beyoncé got cheated on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 04:46 AM
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I do believe that HVM try to be friends with other HVM. My dad is HVM, and my parents’ friends appear to be as well. Not a single couple in their social circle where a man doesn’t absolutely love, cherish, respect, and dote on his wife. I have HVW friends with what appear to be HVM husbands and those are the couples we socialize with most. So I wonder if knowing a strong couple like that and getting invited to things they host, etc, could help people run into more HVM?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 04:45 AM
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I’m so so sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 04:38 AM
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My dad is a HVM and I feel very fortunate to have grown up with that role model. My fiancé is HVM (that I know of so far) and I’ve dated 2 others (as far as I know— haven’t spoken to them in years.) I believe some of my friends’ husbands, my family members, and my parents’ friends are as well, but you never know what’s going on behind closed doors. And I have high standards— these men are all productive, absolutely dote on the women in their lives, and are unfailing kind, considerate, and ethica…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 04:37 AM
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I understood your point, and I agree with lying if you feel unsafe. But I think declining to answer a question is a better vetting strategy, if (and only if!) it’s someone you still want to get to know and you feel safe doing that. Just like it’s a red flag when a man lies to us, I wouldn’t feel like my best self telling him a lie if (and only if!) I am expecting him to grow to trust me. I also want to know how people react to those boundaries. If I’m never going to see him again and I’m just ge…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 04:20 AM
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How many times did he “fix your plate”? I bet we know the answer. My fiancé & I get each other something when we’re up, like normal human beings. I’m making myself a cup of tea, would you like something? Oh he’s getting up to make himself a sandwich, make me one too! …but honestly he gets me things WAY more often than the other way around and I appreciate it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 02:29 AM
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My mom recently dared to disagree with her male doctor and request a test to make sure she doesn’t have a the serious disease that killed my grandmother, since she had the symptoms. The doctor got offended and his ego bruised and wrote this long, angry comment IN HER MEDICAL RECORDS saying she was refusing to comply with his medical advice and implying that she’s crazy. He literally lied about their conversation in his note, although of course there’s no way to prove it. Now thanks to this note …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 02:22 AM
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Same. It’s tough to do, and it hurts, like there’s nothing wrong with the guy and you care about him. But better to move on and wish him well from afar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 08:39 PM
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Thank you! Just bizarre to me. Choosing your food is half the fun in a family-style or buffet situation, but maybe I’m just choosy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 08:33 PM
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I do want steak, caviar, and fine wine, and Gucci bags. And I get them, without any particular effort or stress on my part. What on earth is the point of settling for this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 07:26 PM
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This is so bizarre to me— I know it’s a cultural difference. I’ve never seen it happen. Don’t you want to choose for yourself what to eat and how much???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 07:24 PM
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🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 01:19 AM
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I really HATE liars and I’m not comfortably lying. But! There’s a big old exception in my heart for 2 scenarios: Someone is going to hurt you or someone else with that information. It is none of their fucking business. In a perfect world we could all say “I’d rather not answer that” without consequences but we all know that isn’t possible. If someone in a job interview asked my previous salary I lied my ass off, with glee. It’s now illegal many places to even ask that, but what they’re really as…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 11:51 PM
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Like the royal family: don’t complain, don’t explain
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 04:32 PM
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What she should do is never speak to him again, and warn people about him (his family could probably use a heads up that he supports slavery— his job & school too)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 12:22 AM
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Oh, they just feel rejected. And we all know how rejected men behave. Men aren’t great at being able to tell when a woman actually likes them. Men with less confidence and social skills really read into the smiling, laughing etc. I’m an extrovert, I tend to be chatty, I tend to smile and laugh when talking to people. I can’t tell you how many man have confronted me about how they “know” I am like…secretly in love with them or some nonsense. These are literally people whose names I forgot, who I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 12:04 AM
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Wow he’s SO CLOSE to getting it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 11:53 PM
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He’s openly and seriously advocating for slavery. People like this should be shunned from society.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 11:41 PM
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So proud to say I’ve never heard of this dude and I won’t be looking him up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 11:39 PM
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Unfortunately, this man actually just doesn’t give a fuck how you feel
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 06:31 AM
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The thing is, so many men think women were put on God’s green earth to support them BECAUSE their mothers put so much effort into giving them a good life It’s so sad to see men twist a mother’s love and sacrifice into “my mom sacrificed everything for me…and that’s what women are supposed to do”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 06:30 AM
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I played a game a few years ago that was a beautiful work of art— completely nonviolent, visually stunning, and the gameplay was a metaphor with a lot to say about what makes life meaningful. And I was like oh, wow, this is experiential, interactive art— and of course this medium can be art. But it hadn’t occurred to me before because the rest of them are like, PEW PEW PEW I AM THE LORD AND MASTER OF SHOOTING MY IMAGINARY GUN FUCK U “Gamer” is a negative attribute. It’s impossible to spend a ton…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 07:16 AM
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It’s just silly and made up It was not difficult to dump my first sexual partner, nor the guy who gave me the best sex The man I had trouble quitting was someone I never even had sex with. I knew we weren’t compatible long-term so I never gave in even though he pursued me aggressively for years, but I was so attached to him for his good qualities. No sex but plenty of bonding!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 06:47 PM
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This was an important vetting moment for me with my fiancé Our first trip that we took together as a couple, I got food poisoning. I was honestly embarrassed to be puking my guts out on our romantic trip but he absolutely took care of me and doted on me Once after we got engaged I had an injury where I couldn’t easily get up and get myself stuff around the house without pain, and this man brought me every single thing I needed or wanted for like 3 months, did every chore, and when I would get sa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 06:18 PM
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Unless he’s already very tall, strong, and athletic with leadership skills and charisma he’s asking for an axe to the face and it’s just funny
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 01:31 AM
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Less than zero. Like, actively working to make the world a better and more fair place for women, whom he inherently respects as human beings. Everyone has blind spots, but if you find someone who is genuinely concerned with this issue (and not just virtue signaling) he will always be able to learn and grow, and any leftover cultural misogyny you find can be fixed quickly. If a man has a meltdown for being corrected about sexist assumptions, dealbreaker. The appropriate response to being told you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 08:29 PM
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“I wish I could go back in time to an era in which I would have been immediately murdered”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 08:23 PM
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🌶💀🌶
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 09:34 AM
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Oh my god NO 💀 I mean I love Taco Bell. I think it’s fine to consider marrying fire sauce, but no one should marry the man who hands her the fire sauce packet Literally better to marry the sauce 🌶
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 09:32 AM
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I know we live our lives on our phones now, but don’t neglect his actual living space, especially if it’s someone new. You might find legal records that prove he lied about his age or finances, meds for mental illnesses or ED or sexual health, illegal drugs, just laying around his house. Those are just things I have actually found, I’m sure there’s plenty more. I’ve found anti-psychotics, herpes meds, viagra in dudes’ bathrooms. And tons and tons of SSRIs, which may not be a deal-breaker for eve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 02:01 AM
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I’m sorry to say it, but you shouldn’t trust anyone until he’s earned it— and he can’t earn it by only being honest to your face. You need to be able to verify things he can’t lie to you about. I’ve snooped on everyone I was even casually dating for almost a decade and over half of them were lying about something. Sometimes I had a gut feeling, but some of them surprised me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 01:56 AM
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Yep, you just watch for it. If he has Face ID, you can speed up the process by turning the phone off and back on when he’s not paying attention so he has to put it in. Needing to use their phone for something while they’re driving works well too, but only if they aren’t as secretive about it. Can we play your Spotify? What’s your password? Oh no my phone died, I need to call my mom back, what’s your password?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 01:52 AM
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A proposal is one of the most beautiful moments that two people can share— or it should be. I’ve been proposed to 8-9 times or some nonsense and sure, a couple of them were worthless half-assed gestures from resentful men trying to last-ditch save the relationship. But the one I accepted was one of the most meaningful, significant, and exciting moments of each of our lives. I can’t even describe the overwhelming happiness of deciding to spend the rest of your life with an incredible partner. The…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 01:18 AM
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…Taco Bell makes a specific packet for this?! Or just one of the ones that say “fire” or something? That’s literally trash from the ground
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 01:12 AM
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I absolutely shopped for it— I wanted to get exactly what I wanted & I had been looking at diamonds for fun for years before we met. And then we went shopping together and he learned about diamonds and we compared a bunch together, and then he told me to get the one I liked best. And then you bet he paid for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 01:10 AM
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Your engagement ring should be the most expensive thing he’s ever bought (for himself) in his life, and 2-3X more expensive than anything he’s planning to buy (for himself) for at least a few years after the wedding. Goals you two share/investment assets like property, a house etc are different, and a car is an “it depends” because they’re often a necessity and so easy to finance. But my ring cost more than our car.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 01:05 AM
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This is extremely made up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 03:59 AM
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Let me guess, they think women have diminishing value as they get older? Like, the usual argument but with a worse graph? Yawn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 11:54 PM
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Ma’am my engagement ring cost nearly $40,000 — men online can go cry about it, why would I care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 08:21 PM
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I think that she changed their living situation to one he couldn’t afford, and it might not be fair to expect him to pay half. Which she isn’t. However, it’s completely fair to ask him to pay whatever he was paying before in rent. Who knows whether she’s asking more or less than what he paid before— and not sure why he thinks he deserves to live rent-free and benefit from her good fortune if he agreed to have separate finances. I also think she should leave him for his toxic, resentful, entitled…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 05:44 AM
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Yeah I think a big part of it is policing other women by punishing women who are seen as too assertive, “aggressive,” etc and keeping them in line. Toxic femininity by women towards other women would be like: saying that feminists (or FDS!) are just bitter and ugly and can’t get a man. Thinking every woman should look and act like a contestant on Miss Teen USA instead of being her authentic self. Etc. Toxic femininity by women towards men…lol no. Can’t really see what the problem would be and no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 05:38 AM
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I’m not a conservative, and some people feel that way, but I don’t think it’s always as simple as “fuck brown people I want more money.” Let’s say you already donate to social support for the poor in your community via your church, but meanwhile you genuinely believe the left is going to push your daughters on to OnlyFans. I can see where those people are coming from even if I disagree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 05:35 AM
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I’m not a conservative. I never have been but even if I was tempted, I will single-issue vote on reproductive rights. However, I could see women who aren’t strongly pro-choice* being truly, deeply horrified by liberal pro-sex-work stances and believing retrograde Republican policies are more pro-family and ultimately their better option. I don’t think it’s always about my money, my taxes, my guns, denying social support to economically disadvantaged women. I think sometimes it’s about having bee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 05:32 AM
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Yeah, I am neither a conservative nor a socialist and I’d still be interested in hearing both perspectives. I don’t think I’ve literally ever heard a political debate with an explicitly pro-woman perspective from all participants!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 05:22 AM
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I dated TWO different boys who marched up to me and announced that they had shaved! In this really proud way, like they expected me to be excited. In their defense we were all teens in high school so hopefully they moved on to bigger and better acts of self-care or whatever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 01:34 AM
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What rock are those commenters living under? I work in tech and traveling that often, with those salaries, isn’t just possible— it’s the norm. Pure sour grapes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 11:27 PM
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Yeah every time some droopy old scepter tries to justify the idea that any young woman would want his saggy ass by claiming that...being good at sex somehow takes DECADES of experience? Loser please. Being a fulfilling and considerate lover is something that a HVM could probably master with a specific woman he cares about in...weeks? Days? But decades of being useless to women isn’t going to somehow make you a sex god. Instead of useless and young you’ll just be useless, old, and ugly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 12:20 AM
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I think this may have to do with the prevalent culture wherever you live/ whatever sort of group you’re around? I tend to have wonderful female friendships, while also being smart/successful/pretty/fashionable. But I went to an Ivy, and I have a demanding career, so almost all the women I meet are smart and successful. Most are also pretty, and almost everyone (being type-A achievers anyway) is pretty athletic. So in context I’m not shockingly different from the women I’m around; they’re my equa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 06:43 AM
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In college I volunteered at a “feed the homeless” charity— we would be in the kitchen making these meals and it was really fulfilling work. Unfortunately they had the volunteers (including teenage girls like myself!) working alongside homeless men & men with criminal records. These other workers weren’t drug addicts or obviously mentally ill, just people who had fallen on hard times or made mistakes, and they were trying to re-enter society. The idea of this place was to help these men get some …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 05:15 AM
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I think he kinda DOES need to meet you at your income level, or close to it. Money is the most potent, distilled form of power that exists in this earth. Money is a tool for enacting your will on the world. If you have enough money, you can just decide something, and make it be true. I started earning serious money in my early 20’s and it changed absolutely everything for me. Now thanks to some good investments, I am a wealthy person. Not “do anything I want and buy elections” rich but “could li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 05:36 PM
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You can actually report him to LinkedIn themselves, since he’s using their platform to threaten and harass you. He deserves to be banned from the platform for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 06:33 AM
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Seconded the police report. If he does try to slander you, having already filed one should help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 06:32 AM
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I totally thought this was going to be about Philip! I’ve never heard of DMX and it seems like I should keep it that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 05:20 PM
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Random aside, Amy from Gone Girl helped cement a breakup with a NVM ex: we watched it together and sat there at the end kind of shell-shocked, both seeing ourselves and each other in the roles, both certain we needed to just break-up before I pulled something like that. This was a long time ago; I obviously should have just left him much sooner. I’ve been compared to Amy a few times and I’m always flattered, TBH. Rock on with your color-coded sticky notes Amy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 11:31 PM
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Yeah I’d love to give her money for a legal case, therapy, safe groceries... I’ve prioritized my own financial well-being for a long, long time and I could easily afford to. I know a lot of other FDS queens have their finances in order and might feel the same way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 06:10 PM
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Thank you, I needed to read this today. I’m in the process of cutting a toxic male friend out of my life (and wondering if the “no male friends” camp might really be right...) I’m proud of myself for ruthlessly cutting him out for his attitude towards women (and children 🤢) and his reaction of sending me a long, mean email only reinforced that. But there’s still a part of me that’s tempted to break no-contact, because it’s recent, and he’s a manipulative narc, so it’s not as easy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 08:20 AM
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I live in one of the most expensive cities in the US and I can’t even have dinner at a real restaurant for just myself for $50 unless I’m drinking water. But the solution in that case...is to earn more, and go on fewer dates, with women you’re actually eager to pursue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 10:41 PM
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The night I met my fiancé, it actually was champagne at the Ritz. Literally. Why settle for less? (We had a meet-cute in person at a benefit for the arts, not OLD. But yup, it was at the Ritz. And yep, he offered me champagne and that’s how we had our first conversation!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 10:36 PM
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Fuck this so much. I honestly deleted uber over this. Making small talk with strangers is tiring and uncomfortable, and I refuse to make chitchat on demand with every Uber driver. All I ever wanted was a silent ride, and I was happy to pay for it. I tried everything to convey this, hoping I would find the magic formula where I could have a silent ride without anyone getting pissed off. I tried smiling and saying “I prefer not to chat if that’s okay” and “I could really use a few minutes of quiet…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 10:22 PM
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“Tall” huh— this dude is probably calling himself “tall” at 5’10 or something. (Random side note, I actually ran into Trump in person at a charity event a long time ago and he doesn’t SEEM tall in person. And when you see pictures of him he doesn’t really look tall IMO? He manages to be so dumpy that it negates it!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 02:59 AM
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Yeah I know it’s not really relevant but this might be the ugliest man I have EVER seen? Just looking at him is disturbing, watching his (neck? fat? ew) wobble and quiver as he talks was revolting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 12:21 AM
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Yeah if someone I was dating needed to call his exes to gloat...we wouldn’t be dating one second longer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 11:31 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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