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So depending on the rapport I had built with the person prior to actually meeting in person, I always, always made it a point to mention something about the fact that it was finally great to see them in person. For example, a line like, "it's finally great to actually see you alive and kicking." The person would always say something that came down to, "what do you mean?" and i would always say, online dating----is not easy, is it? People don't show up, chats don't go anywhere, or dates to meet n…
/r/seduction17/07/26 04:56 AM
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Everybody texts differently, and that's why I got sick of guessing and on my first dates, I always brought up the subject, and it was always a fun subject to talk about; the end result was also that I knew what that person liked/disliked about texting so it was never an issue. I had women tell me they got stressed about texting, others that they loved it and if the guy didn't text right away, they felt the guy wasn't interested, others told me that they hated it because guys didn't return the sa…
/r/seduction17/07/26 03:08 AM
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find the g spot, do the hook technique, give oral and feel for the clit to swell up, until the woman either orgasms or starts telling you to f her. Obviously, always listen to what the woman says...i've had a couple tell me to put in my whole arm in there...😶
/r/seduction20/06/26 04:18 AM
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It felt so boring. I didn’t even do any proper foreplay, there you go man, you're bad at sex like your ex said. I was fortunate enough that one of my early gfs told me the same thing, but at least she was kind to tell me, i know you're inexperienced, but focus on foreplay then on fvcking. That advice has served me well.
/r/seduction19/06/26 05:23 PM
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Ahhh....I see whare you mean. She dated a guy for about 3 years and he cheated on her, so her focus was work. Prior to me, two serious bfs. You ever lived in the EU? Mix of couples from all over. She was also an EU citizen with a cushy job. Legal degree and 6 languages. You think she she was working at McDonald's wanting to live in a third world country like the USA where lots of people don't even have health insurance?
/r/seduction27/05/26 03:06 AM
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may have happened? as in?
/r/seduction26/05/26 05:25 AM
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I had a buddy in the same boat, and then work sent him abroad and then he never wanted to come back. Women were chasing him abroad. I had to join the fun! 🤣 Life is crazy. In college, half of my freshman year i spent it in my dorm studying or watching movies in the kitchen lounge with a bunch of other nonsocial people. One night some girl came and asked if anybody was going downtown, she had missed her ride to a club. This in the 90s. Many of us were broke and no uber/lyft then. Taxis were expen…
/r/seduction25/05/26 05:00 PM
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what is RSD?
/r/seduction25/05/26 04:51 PM
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I was early 30's then, she must have been late 20's. She was from Poland, but lived in the UK where we met. Although her dad was from Hungary, mom Polish. I was having a blast in the UK, then i met her and i was like, who in the world is this?
/r/seduction25/05/26 04:50 PM
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very intelligent, spoke 6 languages, dressed very elegant, men would try to sleep with her, she would shut them down very politely, and the killers, she would cook,do my laundry, clean, and if itried to help, she would tell me, no offense but i wasnt good as her at these activities. And she had very firm boundaries. Only woman i knew who would go out, get hit on by other men, and would text,call me to tell me about it.Very trustworthy.
/r/seduction24/05/26 11:35 PM
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do you know if your communication skills were different? emotional vs logical? In the past i struggled when i dated women who were very emotional expressing their needs; for example, if someone said, you never listen to me. I took that as black and white---i never listen. However, what they were actually saying was, I feel like many times, you don't listen to what im telling you. Took me a while to learn this distinction.
/r/seduction24/05/26 06:34 PM
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then you might need therapy...question is though, how old are you now
/r/seduction24/05/26 06:31 PM
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from 28-32, main goal was always to get as many women as possible. Never settled down with any, but then I met this amazing woman and I couldn't imagine not sharing my life with her. Is like a switch went off. Same happened to a couple of my other buddies.
/r/seduction24/05/26 05:48 PM
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that made me bust out laughing!!!! Women aren't supposed to be visual? I had another friend packing a 10 inch dong. All he did was wear biker shorts whenever he had a chance. Women couldn't stop looking! Not only are they visual, but if they like what they see, they will fuck you in the parking lot of a restaurant. 🤣 Reminds me of Crawford checking out Rodman's dong... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Vz5hDSCaQE&t=170s
/r/seduction17/05/26 12:08 AM
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Bradd pitt is universally known as a good looking guy...i was in Belgium talking to some colleagues and i was telling them that i used to work with a guy as good looking as Rob Lowe (before his surgeries). If somebody told me that women threw themselves at men, I would have said, right. But this guy, looked just like Rob, and no matter where we went, there were always women telling him, here is my number, call me to fvck. Anyway, those Belgians were like, Rob who??? And I said, better looking th…
/r/seduction16/05/26 09:31 PM
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when you say approach, what did you tell them?
/r/seduction16/05/26 09:25 PM
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bunch of tards from Cali moved there. Ask them.
/r/seduction13/05/26 11:05 PM
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the women in Austin, Texas looked great! Lots of outdoorsy people, health conscious people, and the women tend to be friendly; it's been a while for me, but thank god for the ATX and the women there.
/r/seduction13/05/26 09:56 PM
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Well, that's interesting. I used to be under the same type of circumstances back in the day. Some girls wanted to date me long term, i didn't, but i wuold shift it to fwb's type of relationships by telling them, how about i wine and dine you, and then we 69it. Idea was, make some ridiculous statement that girls would find outrageous and go from there. Response i always got was...what did you say? And in a suave voice, i would say, you heard me, you know what's up, we go out, then have fun, but w…
/r/seduction24/04/26 01:34 AM
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"Hey, let's grab coffee" Yes, also this sounds confident. You're not asking, you're telling them to do something. What also worked for me 100% of the times was finding out what they liked to do, then insert myself in that activity. This does require being a bit creative and maybe funny. Example, girl says she plays soccer, then I followed up with questions about that activity about where/how often she played. Every time women went into details because the subject is the activity. I would then sa…
/r/seduction23/04/26 08:01 PM
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My roommate in college was 5'4, had a big d!ck and he made sure people knew. How? Biker shorts. I mean, i had to exit the room every week b/c there was some girl knocking at the door late at night b/c as he said, they wanted to ride the 10 in anaconda! He was also hilarious! If you weren't blessed with an anaconda, then next best step is to become a comedian. I'm not funny at all, and I had to learn to be funny. Why? Because my ex-colleague was bold, 5'5, and I saw picked up women every time we …
/r/seduction23/04/26 07:47 PM
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Indeed it is! Loved it there!! Damn allergies forced me out! 😭
/r/seduction05/02/26 06:26 PM
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For the average guy, nah, miami sucks. However, couple of my buddies are tall, good looking, they raided the place. Hell, we went to a club once, they were let in, I wasn't! 🤣 Turned out i was too ugly to be in that club!
/r/seduction04/02/26 07:51 PM
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the ladies in Austin, Texas were the friendliest. That's many years ago, though. Columbus, Ohio was great. Miami was the worst, unless you're a good looking guy with dance moves rivaling Vanilla Ice.
/r/seduction04/02/26 02:39 AM
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I used to go clubbing 3x a week by in the day! Is freaking simply, my man. Girl approaches you, step back, look at the girl, find something on her that you can compliment her on. I'm going to assume that you don't know this, but women take a lot of time to get ready to go out. I had one friend who would tell me, we are going clubbing, meet me at 11pm. We didn't leave until around 12is b/c she didn't have the right look/outfit/shoes/purse/makeup!!!! So guess what, all you do is, see the girl, com…
/r/seduction28/01/26 07:19 PM
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Her saying she is a bit sick, immediately i thought, that's her way out to say, sorry, but not feeling so well, whenever you initiate the sex part. Come back and update us...
/r/seduction14/01/26 10:35 PM
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Out and about? Nah man. Maybe at a bar, once. But out and about, I only know two guys who that happened to, and those two dudes were extremely good looking. Women would come up to them, give their phone number and say, call me when you want to fvck me. Straight up as that. Also, b/c of them, learned that the women on dating apps who say, not here for hookups, will hookup with you as long as you're good looking! Tough life for those of us who are average or below average looking!
/r/seduction06/01/26 07:12 PM
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title of post should clarify, if you're a guy, don't ask this...
/r/seduction06/01/26 01:03 AM
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When traveling in Europe, did one of those airbnb experiences. Met a guy who did bike tours. Many Single women travelers join those tours. End of tour he said, theres going to be a social event at my place tonight if anybody wants to join. I didn't join, but some older ladies did! I'm sure he didn't do that by accident.
/r/seduction03/01/26 10:00 PM
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Well, if you're already self-conscious about your age, that is on you. In my case, I just thought that women wanted guys in their age range, but never ever felt self-conscious about being "older." And once I dated one woman in her late 20's, then i thought, well, there must be others out there wanting the same and there were!
/r/seduction17/12/25 03:51 AM
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Once i was in the dating game again in my 40's, i didn't even bother looking at women who were in their 30's cause i figured they weren't interested in guys my age. Wrong. Ended up dating an early 30 something woman and a couple of late 20's. Yes, the late 20's we definitely knew it was a fling, but the 30 something had potential. You just have to be open minded and if there's a connection, age doesn't seem to matter. Of course, there are other issues to consider. Younger women---do they want ki…
/r/seduction17/12/25 03:19 AM
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no problem! And you will not learn, unless you start trying to deliver the jokes to women. Yes, some will not laugh, but the mindset is, ok, that didn't work, how come? what do i change? what should i have said better? You have it so much easier now because you can get on ai, give prompts, and see how women would react. At least that's what my nephews are doing, and I'm like, muthafuckas, you have it so easy now in terms of learning, practicing! You can use a freaking bot to help you come up wit…
/r/seduction26/10/25 03:10 AM
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Hate to say this, but practice, practice, practice. I started by talking to girls, falling flat on my face with them and then saying, I should have said this or i should have said that. But what helped the most was observing my male friends who were witty around women. They all had different styles, so then i began reading comedy books, and ideas stuck to me. Back then, there was no youtube to study from. It was trips to the library and getting a bunch of comedian books to get jokes. But obvious…
/r/seduction25/10/25 07:36 PM
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I appreciate your experience, but if I went by your "be authentic to your natural humor" philosophy and just stuck to what I was born with, I'd still be a virgin, cause most girls found my humor, "ruthless". Thanks, but no, dude! 😂 Tell me what god-given athlete didn't hire a coach to improve his moves? Take Mike Tyson. He was born with power, but he wasn't born with the peek-a-boo defense, the head movement, and the perfectly timed slips. Cus D'Amato coached that into him. He took a natural tal…
/r/seduction25/10/25 07:21 PM
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in dating apps, indeed, but back in my 20's, they weren't as popular and two guys i knew who were short, both 5'4, pulled in more women that most of us taller guys did. They were super funny dudes and didn't give a fvkc about approaching women and just talking to them. Women loved them. However, i'm pretty sure that if they used online apps, they would get zero swipes. But that's why they were out every weekend and learned a lot from them. One being, doesn't matter how you look but if you can be…
/r/seduction25/10/25 07:11 PM
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Yep, agreed 100%. Early on, the guys who were always successful with women told me, "dude, is easy. Be funny and don't give a fvck!!!" I think i was in my mid 20's when i finally understood that concept. But yes, women love funny guys, no matter the looks, height, weight. Ok, there might be a weigt limit... Anyway, When you don't give a fvck, you can speak your mind out, and women love it. Obviously, that means being "nice." And yes, if you're not a funny guy, like i used to be, you can train yo…
/r/seduction24/10/25 08:42 PM
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depends on the city you're in. For me, back when i was in dating apps, bumble was great in Philadelphia, New Jersey, but tough in the South florida area. I had some dates from Hinge in South florida, but in Philly, could never get a woman to commit to a date. Tinder---mixed reviews. Had a lot of ghosting on there.
/r/seduction23/10/25 05:48 PM
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yea, and forgot to say, the moms of the little girls who were at the park, of course, would tell him, you're so sweet, you're such a lovely boy, because what mom is going to tell a freaking 5, 6 year old, get away from my daugher, you creep! 😂😂😂 So he grew up believing that women loved him, and they did! Mind over matter, in this case, mind over women.
/r/seduction22/10/25 12:56 PM
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yea, i used to be mesmerized by that dude, but since we all hung, found out that when he was a kid, his dad used to take him to the park and he would make him go talk to the girls at the playground. Back then i thought, holy sh1t! that is really smart. Is like learning languages. My european friends make their kids learn languages at an early age simply by having them play with kids who speak other languages. According to that dude, his dad would tell him, go tell that girl her dress is pretty, …
/r/seduction21/10/25 11:09 PM
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back in my dating days, most of my crew---we didn't have the balls to go and talk to the model looking women. However, one of the guys we hung out with---he was short, bald, but born a comedian. That dude pulled women who were 10/10; dude wouldn't even settle for average looking women. His mindset was, women don't see me as a threat cause I ain't nothing to look at, so I'm gonna go and talk some smack at them. And he did, and women loved him. Back then, that taught me that it was all mindset. I'…
/r/seduction21/10/25 10:02 PM
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keep it simple man, women asked me for a video chat, nothing abnormal about that request. Do the same. Women can get away with asking more silly stuff because they got hundreds of men to choose from. We men get one match, and we think we met the one. Well, most of us average guys.
/r/seduction20/10/25 01:23 PM
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First and foremost, it is lose, not loose. And thinks straight man, if she has her IG address on a dating app---what are the odds the good time is going to be free, if you really think it will be an FWB? Anyway, the advice about the shoe on the face, good advice, however, to be less goofy, i would have simply asked to do a live video call becaus what is odd about asking for a live video call? However, saying, put a shoe next to your head---yea, anybody can say that's an "odd request." Back when …
/r/seduction20/10/25 05:56 AM
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yea, before covid, 2018, was the last time i was there...and the ratio thing about austin, yea, maybe that's true, but women were friendlier---at least that was my experience.
/r/seduction19/10/25 05:18 AM
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Worst place for dating for me was Miami, Florida. When I lived there, every single guy at bars/clubs looked like a model and at the clubs, they danced like professionals, Nope! Then went to Austin, Texas, and met the most women there---friendlier crowd. This is many, many, many years ago, although still hear the same about Miami.
/r/seduction19/10/25 04:33 AM
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I agree with you: confidence absolutely affects delivery, and yes, the same joke can land differently depending on who tells it. But here's the thing: the fact that you noticed the difference is exactly the point. You saw someone else get laughs with the same material, which means you had a real-time example of what works. That's valuable data. The question isn't "why are they more popular?" It's "what are they doing differently that I can learn from?" I was in the same place. I wasn't funny or …
/r/seduction17/10/25 07:50 PM
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What are you majoring in? Also, are you a funny person by nature---and this is a hard question because I've known many guys who believed they were funny, but they weren't. If you have never made women laugh or you struggle making them laugh, then you're not a funny person. One thing i learned back in the days when i sucked talking to women, if you're funny, you might have a chance. But the feeling worthless part---that is something women can spot miles away. That might not be helping you. I've g…
/r/seduction17/10/25 02:28 PM
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well, exactly that. have adult fun. get food in between the adult fun and continue the adult fun. WTF
/r/seduction14/06/25 04:04 PM
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cool story, bruh!
/r/seduction05/06/25 08:35 PM
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First: 5-foot-6 college wrestler celebrates his championship win with 6-foot-2 girlfriend Back in college, there was a guy, probably 5 feet tall or 5'1. Red haired, chubby, not attractive at all. He tried to date, and didn't go well for him. Crazily enough, about 15 years later, I ran into him and he was married with kids. He became a doctor and his wife was a normal looking lady, at least from the pics she showed me. As he told me, once he told women he was a doctor, looks, height, didn't matte…
/r/seduction01/04/25 04:35 AM
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"super hot latina at the bar" with a friend. You have a better chance of sleeping with the virgin Mary if you don't seal the deal with the latina right there at the bar.
/r/seduction16/12/24 12:43 AM
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my gf is one of those nice, naive women out there who will give you her info because she would think you're nice and social person and she wants to be a friend. Case in point, she was visiting a family member out of state at a hospital and there was a guy there she ran into the cafeteria who happened to be from her hometown, about her age. She texted me saying, omg, i just met this guy from my hometown blah blah blah. She is a social butterfly so when she told me that she gave him her fb name to…
/r/seduction17/06/24 04:40 PM
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yea.... but don't be shocked if she pretends as if nothing ever happened. I'm guessing you're young, but women do this a lot---ghosting and then just making up excuses. Of course, men do the same probably, but i only deal with women. 😂 Now, one time, was planning a third date with this girl i was seeing. Sent her an email with the activity that I planned for a saturday afternoon which we had both discussed for about 3 days and she was all for it. I sent h er a text and said, hey, got the reserva…
/r/seduction01/06/24 03:43 PM
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you don't like the ghosting thing....welcome to planet earth. People do as they please and they don't care for what you like/dislike. Why don't you go up to that woman and say, hey, why are you ghosting me? why can't you be straightforward? Easy.
/r/seduction01/06/24 01:28 PM
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many of my college friends who decided to have long term relationships when they were 19-22, regretted the fact that they didn't play the field in that time frame because that's when they had the most access to girls who wanted to have sex---at least in college; you got girls in classes, parties, clubs, etc; once they left college, meeting women wasn't as easy, and they would say, 'shit man, i should have just gotten laid a lot in college, and gotten a serious gf now '(when they were in their la…
/r/seduction22/06/22 10:36 PM
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hmmm...missed your opportunity, my man! If by serious you meant if she actually meant when she said, give it a rub, well yea, she meant that, and you could have rubbed it as she gave you permission to do it. What led you to believe she wasn't being "serious" ?
/r/seduction19/06/22 11:51 PM
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As desperate as you might be, ask yourself---how would this girl react we hook up and then i leave her? Yea, that's your answer right there.
/r/seduction11/03/22 02:00 AM
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Uploaded a profile....after not many matches, deleted it, put better pics (almost professionally done, friend is hobbyist at photographing), uploaded same exact answers as before. New pics got me more matches. Yea, humor helps, but unless I'm in person cracking them up, the pic is what's gonna get the swipe to the right----tested and proven.
/r/seduction04/08/21 11:43 PM
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Dated before the internet was here, dated while it was starting, booming, and dating now... I can summarize dating in the 90's....go out on the weekend, hope to meet somebody, shit didn't work out, look for tuesday/thursday night happening places, go out, hope to meet somebody, and when that failed, try the weekend again....cleanse and repeat. Online expanded things, so honestly, glad the internet came along.
/r/seduction13/06/21 04:34 PM
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I'm in Miami oh man, rough city to date in!
/r/seduction12/05/21 12:17 AM
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wow! What country is this that they have people walking on the streets, or are you in NYC? Hmmm....since you know where she is, why don't you go there and "bump" into her again and ask, so, I texted you, what happened? Weird she didn't reply given that you seem to be in an area where you might see her again.
/r/seduction11/05/21 11:11 PM
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right, that's why you come on here and tell your great strategy on how to deal with those jokes. Great job, great advice. You're killing it!
/r/seduction11/05/21 12:58 AM
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So much for that russian lady respecting you. Yea, great response, but why even deal with that type of shit?
/r/seduction11/05/21 12:18 AM
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Being good looking and funny allows you to bypass being bold or aloof. dude, i was being facetious....in other words, if you are funny and good looking, as you said, then "telling a bitch I'm ready for some deepthroat and maybe a side of ass worship" would be just fine!
/r/seduction13/04/21 12:51 PM
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Unless you’re really good looking and funny, most women will see your interest as a minor threat. hate to break it to you son, but it seems you failed the OP's basic premise if you want to use such language! 😁
/r/seduction13/04/21 02:45 AM
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This works, idky but it works it works because it is funny!!! An ex-classmate of mine was really good at naming things in a weird way, but when he said it, it was funny and women loved it; he looked like Urkel, but always had women around. Til this day i remember we were having lunch after class with a group of people, and there was a girl with a bunch of guys around her, across from our table. He looked up, saw that, casually said, look at all those vultures around that specimen---which one is …
/r/seduction13/04/21 02:40 AM
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Unless you’re really good looking and funny, most women will see your interest as a minor threat. i think she said just to be good looking and funny! 😁
/r/seduction13/04/21 02:32 AM
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approach, but approach non-threateningly can you give a past experience where this happened? Women that i talk to usually say, when a man approaches me, i got my bs radar goes up immediately. Of course, unless the guy is very good looking, then as one of my colleagues, said, not only am i smiling, but then i gotta go dry my privates. So the whole approach non-threateningly---meh.
/r/seduction11/04/21 12:33 PM
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so I pretended not to hear it. wouldn't it have been more fun to say, i would date you, but at the moment, i'm on a self introspective journey?
/r/seduction11/04/21 12:31 PM
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And she left because I didn’t marry her after 6 years. But that’s not the point. oh oh...regrets or now happily married or cohabitating or whatever? 😄
/r/seduction11/04/21 12:28 PM
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>One lesson I’ve learned from him, always go up to people and introduce yourself with a smile This lesson goes to anything, even work. I learned this in college too from a guy who was a twin brother of Urkel. But he was always laughing, for no reason. He was not out getting women, but as geeky as he was, people found him hilarious and he didn't say much, he just laughed. He never met you, he would come, smile, and say, what's up, whatever always smiling. That stuck with me because I realized, pe…
/r/seduction11/12/20 04:57 PM
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Caveat, I have been myself the entire and have zero desire to be fake and not "be myself' ahh, well that's nice to know because back in my early 20's, i used to be shy as fuck. However, once i got a job and my job included socializing with people, guess what, my so called 'myself' that i had been since i was probably born, had to learn to be social...well, after doing that in my job for so many years, now i'm definitely so social compared to when i was 19, 20. But if i lived by your philosophy..…
/r/seduction10/12/20 01:48 PM
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this is sad!
/r/seduction08/12/20 04:25 PM
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plenty of fatties happy with me! Unserved population is where is at, my man! :D
/r/seduction26/11/20 05:36 PM
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profiles looking to sell premium content...
/r/seduction25/11/20 10:44 PM
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most of the times i write a question about a girl's pic, never get any responses....
/r/seduction25/11/20 10:43 PM
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Ok but wouldn't guys be put off by a random girl being alone at a random place looking and smiling at them? I was about to comment, the basic tip to attract a man, smile at them... but yea, the chances that the guy thinks, girl must be smiling at somebody else behind hime are 99% so, next best thing, smile and talk to the guy. if you were to make a survey, i would guarantee 99.9% of guys wouldn't be put off by a random girl, at a random place, looking and smiling at them. :)
/r/seduction23/11/20 01:51 AM
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hmmm...all i know is that my friend...he is not even model looking but definitely better looking than average; Rob Lowe like, but not as refined? Women always and i mean always turn to check him out and he acts like an ass too! Yet, women throw themselves at him. Now he is flirtatious, maybe charming when he likes a woman, but if you're being told you're like a model, and you still feel unwanted, then there are other issues going on....just my unfounded opinion of course! :D thing that comes to …
/r/seduction22/11/20 02:41 AM
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There are many types of guys out there....I'm sure some of them don't mind 'hey lol' as a msg, but I personally find them dumb, insulting to my intelligence, and I just ignore them; and not going to go into what my other male acquaintances think about these type of messages, but i digress...however, since we do get these messages here and there, I've learned how to handle them...anyway, point of that is, if he replied a month later, either he had a family emergency, or he doesn't think much of y…
/r/seduction19/11/20 12:33 AM
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here is a weird tip, fortunately I was not raised in the usa, and was raised to be direct. After a date/chat/whatever, americans usually say, i had a good time, or that was fun...or we SHOULD do this again. This to me are empty phrases that mean nothing. Should is like, well, do we or don't we? Usually, on my first chat when it ends, if the person says, that was fun, I tell them, yea, when would you like to do it again? There is no guessing games, straight up to the point. Now, when a woman was …
/r/seduction17/11/20 03:13 PM
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