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| 1 | Sexual breakthrough for menBasically, if I had known 10 years ago that dating apps would make dating extremely difficult, and I had it "good" in high school, I would have went the fuck boy route instead of the dork/nerd one, which I am just now barely climbing out of | /r/seduction | 06/11/22 04:34 AM |
| 17 | How many women have you approached with romantic interest in the past year?Zero | /r/seduction | 31/10/22 04:24 AM |
| 19 | I think I’ve made a realization about the “female gaze” and why it seems like women tend to underestimate the importance of looksIt probably is, but it's more about frequency. If you spend 8+ hours at work around series men, or just guys in general like myself, you will rarely be around single women all the time. I'm 26, and people keep asking why I haven't had a girlfriend yet. | /r/seduction | 30/10/22 05:59 PM |
| 11 | Sexual breakthrough for menThis is an excellent question. Right now, I have a luxury apartment near a bunch of bars and cafes, and have been here since May. But I haven't gone to these bars alone yet, and I've only been to the one maybe 3-4 times with other people who happened to invite me. These aren't friends, either. I only have a couple people who I would consider to be friends, as many others live across the country. I make $70k+ a year in a "LCOL" area, but the rent for this place is not cheap. Still, I'm doing it f… | /r/seduction | 29/10/22 09:44 PM |
| 1 | Hit listHow can I maintain a list when I don't see single women on a daily basis to begin with. I'm not in high school anymore | /r/seduction | 29/10/22 05:59 PM |
| 8 | Online dating is pretty brutal and insaneYeah, but you need a shit ton of money to move to NYC or even LA... you probably want to pull in $10k a month. I will stick with Buffalo | /r/seduction | 29/10/22 06:50 AM |
| 2 | Tinder - too high standards?How is that having too high standards? Here in the US, I can't get more than 5-10 likes on any dating app, and I made my accounts over 2 months ago. Now you're using gold and I'm on the free version, but still. | /r/seduction | 28/10/22 03:17 PM |
| 1 | Getting Likes on TinderI used to be selective with my likes when I first made my profile. Now, a month in with barely any likes and matches, I feel compelled to swipe right on 90% of the girls. | /r/seduction | 26/10/22 03:45 PM |
| 2 | Dealing with looking much younger than my age (31 m)I don't know, I look like I'm 20 but I'm 26. I never really get traction on the apps, and I haven't really tried IRL | /r/seduction | 25/10/22 11:42 PM |
| 1 | Is your sexual life going to be lower or over once you're past the age of 25?Buffalo, New York I've had my profile looked at several times | /r/seduction | 25/10/22 11:41 PM |
| 2 | Is your sexual life going to be lower or over once you're past the age of 25?I will PM it as I don't like posting them on this profile | /r/seduction | 25/10/22 11:40 PM |
| 14 | It’s not rocket scienceIt's usually me looking at the women, not the women looking at me. | /r/seduction | 25/10/22 01:47 PM |
| 11 | Is your sexual life going to be lower or over once you're past the age of 25?I'm 26, on 4 dating apps and never have success. I'm a virgin. I live in the city center, pay $1800 in rent. Now I go to the gym multiple times a week (5'10" 150lb). I have 1 match on Hinge, who has only replied to me a week after matching. So I need to really level up and catch up. | /r/seduction | 25/10/22 05:35 AM |
| 2 | New rule for men looking for an LTR or marriage: Don’t court her unless she’s your girlfriendI've been on 6 dates. I almost never get matches on dating apps. Everyone IRL knows I struggle with this including my immediate family, but nobody has any solutions or "referrals". And when I ask make coworkers if they want to go out, I get the run around (a lot of them are 10-20 years older) | /r/seduction | 18/10/22 02:40 PM |
| 1 | New rule for men looking for an LTR or marriage: Don’t court her unless she’s your girlfriendThen where would you look if you are a beginner? I'm a 26 year old, 5'10" 150lb virgin with a great career and his own place in the city | /r/seduction | 18/10/22 03:25 AM |
| 1 | I’m to passive with girls and i feel that’s hurting my date gaming.I have more questions than answers here. Do you know this girl or is she random? What did the conversation look like? How old are you? | /r/seduction | 13/10/22 05:00 AM |
| 1 | Men who are unsuccessful with women share two characteristics: they self-victimize and make excusesI'm in a similar situation to this guy. I wouldn't even say it's unusual. I'm 26. I moved to the city center recently and make over $70k. | /r/seduction | 13/10/22 04:04 AM |
| 1 | What day of the week is best for dates? Which are the worst?For me it means nothing. I work 1pm to 9:30, so I lose either way. | /r/seduction | 12/10/22 09:32 PM |
| 1 | I'm drived by the purpose of being a lady's man, and I don't know if it's a good idea26 right here And also, what am I supposed to do if I work around a bunch of dudes ??? | /r/seduction | 11/10/22 11:39 PM |
| 10 | Wanna try out online dating? Here's some tips.Great post, but for #5 I don't really have any stores. Doesn't help I'm a virgin either. | /r/seduction | 04/10/22 07:54 AM |
| 4 | Any tips for going out with the intention of day gaming?I don't understand why practically every comment is against this... there's a channel called "Social Animal" dedicated to it. Not necessarily 10 grocery stores a day which I think is extreme though. | /r/seduction | 01/10/22 02:52 PM |
| 2 | No issue getting dates but physical escalation is a mystery for meYou are lucky to be in Toronto. I live just south of the border and feel like an alien in my own hometown. No matches or anything. I go to Toronto and am envious that it's an hour and a half-ish away. It's not like id book a hotel room on the hopes that something will happen. | /r/seduction | 25/09/22 03:36 AM |
| 2 | Don't women get bored of the same questions.What's the Fuckboy Smirk | /r/seduction | 24/09/22 05:26 PM |
| 1 | How many of you on here have actually improved with women after spending time on here?I've been reading the suv now for 5 years. I'm 26 and a virgin still. But since I started coming here, I've travelled halfway around the world, done 3 cross country road trip, and graduated college. Now I live on my own in the city center and just got a new car. It's on me to get out of my comfort zone. | /r/seduction | 22/09/22 10:26 PM |
| 5 | Reminder : Do not let seduction be the primary focus of your lifeFunny you say evenings. I work afternoons and evenings so I have no social outlets. And I agree, compared to other guys I think I spend WAY too much time thinking about this stuff. In fact I've been called out on it, and it seems awkward when IRL I have conversations with other guys about it | /r/seduction | 22/09/22 05:00 PM |
| 9 | Reminder : Do not let seduction be the primary focus of your lifeYes to all of those... but what is your point? Every night I must resist the temptation to mindlessly Jack off | /r/seduction | 22/09/22 04:23 PM |
| 26 | Reminder : Do not let seduction be the primary focus of your lifeWell when you're a virgin at 26, not overweight or stinky all the time, living on his own in a brand new apartment in the city center, with a brand new car, how can you NOT focus on it 24/7 | /r/seduction | 22/09/22 03:44 PM |
| 3 | Cold approaching in a bigger city?Just go to SF then. Why not try the midtown farmers market? I used to go there and there were plenty of hot girls | /r/seduction | 18/09/22 02:31 AM |
| 1 | OLD is not your friend.Well this is why it's my enemy https://imgur.com/a/E7DEsZ8/ I don't even look ugly. Yet if I were to voice my frustrations about this, I will be called the I-word. | /r/seduction | 17/09/22 05:09 AM |
| 7 | Let's stop saying "looks don't matter" because they absolutely do to the vast majority of peopleIf they didn't matter then I would have a match on Hinge by now. I have a completed profile, decent pictures, and I respond to girls' prompts. This does not mean they'll like me. | /r/seduction | 13/09/22 08:31 PM |
| 1 | I slept with 56 girls in a year and this is what I learnt...(Part 2)That was never addressed. | /r/seduction | 12/09/22 03:02 AM |
| 5 | Make a habit of talking to all strangers, not just attractive women. Seduction is a subset of being generally charismatic with people.This is the basis for Social Animal's videos. He makes people talk to everyone which loosens the nerves https://youtube.com/c/SocialAnimal | /r/seduction | 06/09/22 01:55 PM |
| 17 | I’m never too sure what the hell to do when women are acting wild at clubs, parties etcYeah I agree, there was this outdoor new wave concert/party the other day that drew maybe 2-300 guys and girls in their early 20-30s (I'm 26). I was there for a short while, but it's so goddamn loud that you have to SHOUT to talk to anyone. But I went to a jazz concert later that night with a famous and talented guitarist that I like, but because he's had a long career, 90% of the crowd was 55+. The older couple sitting next to me even acknowledged this. To be fair, about 10% were maybe mid-20s-… | /r/seduction | 05/09/22 02:52 PM |
| 1 | Downtown Toronto Daygame and Night game with a groupI live 1.5 hours away | /r/seduction | 02/09/22 08:46 PM |
| 2 | How do I meet girls and make friends as a loner?I see nothing here of interest, other than maybe the 20s group in my city https://www.meetup.com/find/?location=us--ny--Buffalo&source=EVENTS&eventType=inPerson | /r/seduction | 30/08/22 01:41 PM |
| 1 | How do I meet girls and make friends as a loner?You tell me if you see anything on here worth considering... https://www.meetup.com/find/?location=us--ny--Buffalo&source=EVENTS&eventType=inPerson | /r/seduction | 30/08/22 01:38 PM |
| 4 | Best sources (books or YT channels) for non-bullshit game, social skills and seduction?Social Animal: | /r/seduction | 28/08/22 06:00 PM |
| 64 | What do I say when women ask me, “how many girls have you slept with”?I am one. Would it work then? | /r/seduction | 28/08/22 01:47 AM |
| 1 | Balancing going out and working on yourselfYeah I'm in a similar position. Except I work 1-9:30 which leaves almost no social opportunities during the week. | /r/seduction | 25/08/22 02:13 PM |
| 6 | I started cold approaching women. Had no idea this is so easy!Hindsight is 20/20 | /r/seduction | 25/08/22 02:01 PM |
| 206 | I started cold approaching women. Had no idea this is so easy!Yeah, I should've seen this post 3 years ago when I was actually in college. To be fair, there have been plenty of girls I've sat next to over the years. Everything became platonic. At this point I'm ready to go scorched earth. | /r/seduction | 25/08/22 01:49 PM |
| 2 | Question: How to know whether you’re giving up too early or walking away with your self-respect intact?Might I recommend the YouTube channel Social Animal? He has dozens of videos of guys (and even some women believe it or not) approaching, or has he puts it, "talking to strangers". He has even said he had approach anxiety before and used to watch "pickup videos", before trying his own thing. His philosophy comes down to engaging with everyone, and since I started watching more of his videos last month (I saw one of his videos last year but this was before he started the subscriber challenge I th… | /r/seduction | 24/08/22 02:04 PM |
| 1 | How do I start approaching people?Yes I highly recommend this channel as well | /r/seduction | 24/08/22 04:39 AM |
| 1 | First Date: Why is it bad to talk about past relationships?I very rarely use the number system. I use it more as a way to illustrate things because I have no other way to do so. You are not the first person who's told me that. | /r/seduction | 23/08/22 02:42 PM |
| 3 | Day game or cold approaching is advanced shit. Stop killing your self and go game at a dive bar.Yeah exactly, it seems as though 20 years ago it would've made sense to go to a bar where there'd be a high likelihood of meeting an attractive, possibly even introverted single lady. Today, there's a specific type of woman that will go there that I'm not into, because most girls in my age demographic are either still in college or have other ways to meet guys. | /r/seduction | 23/08/22 02:39 PM |
| 3 | How do I spit game to a random girl?You need to watch every video on the YouTube channel Social Animal. Here is the most popular video, and here is "his philosophy": https://youtu.be/N2iS4A7XI7M 1/ About the importance of realizing that talking to people is first and foremost a side effect of expressing yourself. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0lKRM76uFeI 2/ About the importance of having a healthy relationship with your desire https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bZAgGiDf2lo 3/About what people miss about confidence: https://www.yout… | /r/seduction | 23/08/22 04:10 AM |
| 1 | First Date: Why is it bad to talk about past relationships?What if you've been too busy in life to date? What if the time wasn't there? Why is it an issue? I'm not going to date a land whale just so I can say I've had a girlfriend. | /r/seduction | 23/08/22 12:31 AM |
| 1 | First Date: Why is it bad to talk about past relationships?No luck, next to no matches on apps (I'm not swiping right on obese women or girls with bipolar or other mental disorders), perhaps I'm too picky. But I don't think I'm going for girls who are out of my league. A good friend of mine is probably a 3 at best, and his girlfriend is a 6-7. No reason for me to aim low. | /r/seduction | 23/08/22 12:29 AM |
| 7 | First Date: Why is it bad to talk about past relationships?And that's the thing, I literally have nothing to hang onto. I'm still a virgin, so there's no FWB or anything. I don't know why it's assumed I've had a relationship. | /r/seduction | 22/08/22 01:46 AM |
| 8 | First Date: Why is it bad to talk about past relationships?What if you have 0? I've been on 6 dates at 25, the last girl found it peculiar that I've never been in a relationship. | /r/seduction | 22/08/22 01:19 AM |
| 1 | How can I (M22) ask her (F21) to shave down there?I have never told any woman either of these things. I actively conceal it. | /r/seduction | 21/08/22 05:00 PM |
| 2 | Question about cold approach and ageAs perverted as it sounds (obviously I'm not into any girl under 18, I'm 26 but look 4 years younger), I have the same issue. Asking what school they go to is about the only option. Which I've done. | /r/seduction | 21/08/22 04:59 PM |
| 2 | Are there any skinny guys here that have no trouble getting women?I'm 6', 150lb and have an 8 inch dick... and the only person that has seen it is me. | /r/seduction | 21/08/22 04:55 PM |
| -11 | How can I (M22) ask her (F21) to shave down there?Sounds like a good problem to have. I just turned 26, am a virgin myself and can’t even find a woman to come back to my $1600/mo apartment, let alone order her to shave her public hairs!!! Lol | /r/seduction | 21/08/22 09:26 AM |
| 2 | How do you deal with the cringe of rejection?Either I've never paid attention to this or I'm an ogre, because I don't get the looks like that very often. It HAS happened, but it's once in a blue moon, and of course I never capitalized on it. Therefore I won't be going by these anymore. If I do, I'll be 50 by the time I get a date this way. | /r/seduction | 21/08/22 05:44 AM |
| 0 | I get approached in the club and get told I’m very good looking by women but then don’t secure the bagYou are lucky. The one friend I do have has repeatedly told me he hates clubs and bars. Hold onto your friends because after college it's damn near impossible to meet anyone. People settle down. | /r/seduction | 20/08/22 07:43 PM |
| 1 | I get approached in the club and get told I’m very good looking by women but then don’t secure the bagDo you go alone | /r/seduction | 20/08/22 07:26 PM |
| 1 | Here is how to keep your mental health and know where you stand with a girl: If she likes you, she will, within reason, make time for you, respond to your texts and generally like you even more if you're also nice to her.That's almost impossible when you're never around women like myself. So I have to go out of my way to farmers markets, the park, and even bars, hoping I get the IOIs. I don't have that kind of time. | /r/seduction | 16/08/22 09:56 PM |
| 92 | Thailand a bad idea?They don't call it "Bangcock" for nothing | /r/seduction | 16/08/22 04:03 PM |
| 2 | If I cut off every woman who didn't reciprocate my effort I would only have about one date every year or twoI don't know, I feel as though women with lesser value are hard to find or ugly. I already make $80k at 26, which is not enough, but I don't really know what to go for. A cleaner? McDonald's cashier? I'm lost | /r/seduction | 15/08/22 03:49 PM |
| 1 | my goal is to go out every weekend for 3 months periodNo, it was more of a bar actually | /r/seduction | 15/08/22 12:44 PM |
| 2 | my goal is to go out every weekend for 3 months periodThat sounds like a good plan to me. I just went to a small nightclub for the first time ever last night and as soon as I went in, the music was piercingly loud. That's how you know it's the club. I went with a group of gay guys I met at my apartment's neighborhood party, who invited me there. I figured why not go with a group first rather than by myself? | /r/seduction | 14/08/22 04:21 PM |
| 3 | I just went to a nightclub tonight with a bunch of gay guys. I'm a straight 26 year old virgin. What should I do the next time I go?NO! Lol I'm going after the girls. But I don't know how. Some are on groups, others in pairs. The music is so loud that you can hardly think. I have never asked a girl out like this, and as I said, I'm a virgin. But everyone talks about how alcohol and the bar makes one thing lead to another. I don't get it? | /r/seduction | 14/08/22 03:33 AM |
| 0 | I want to give a shout-out to Ruben from Social Animal. I think he makes "approaching" simplifiedTo me it feels like one of the only options left at 26. I'm 3 years out of college. I find bars and clubs attract a certain type of person that I'm not into, and apps are similar actually. I guess we can call it what it is, yeah, but I personally have no problem with the idea of doing it. In some ways it's how many of our parents met, as there weren't apps. Or through friends, work or school/college. But with many of these same circles being dominated by dudes, in many instances we are segregate… | /r/seduction | 12/08/22 05:24 PM |
| 2 | I want to give a shout-out to Ruben from Social Animal. I think he makes "approaching" simplifiedYeah well that's the thing, he is intentionally avoiding PUA terms like "cold approach" and "daygame" and "opening" (like at 2:21 in this video: https://youtu.be/zxa2GBvcSEk?t=141) and just call it talking to strangers. Which I think makes it sound more natural and less like a "hobby". | /r/seduction | 12/08/22 03:59 PM |
| 3 | I want to give a shout-out to Ruben from Social Animal. I think he makes "approaching" simplifiedI see where you're coming from. There are a couple videos where the guys look like they have no issues at all, almost like they're just naturally good at it. Or, it's possible that they couldn't do it without having someone to go back and debrief with. At this point, so many guys have probably hit him up that he won't accept any more people for the challenge. | /r/seduction | 12/08/22 03:11 PM |
| 18 | I want to give a shout-out to Ruben from Social Animal. I think he makes "approaching" simplifiedI get where you're coming from, but I think for a lot of guys (like myself), texting and everything else is putting the cart before the horse. I am not ugly. I barely get any matches at all on the apps (I've since deleted my accounts). I haven't been on a date since January, and I've only been on 6 at age 26. Step one is approaching and getting a number, and he's great at explaining how to do this. Step two is what you're saying. And I agree that there's much more to the puzzle than just approac… | /r/seduction | 12/08/22 02:45 PM |
| 142 | Where can I find smart (or nerdy) women?Where do you find them when you're 3 years out of college? | /r/seduction | 10/08/22 02:12 AM |
| 1 | Where to meet women in early 20s? Should I give up?Next time I'll go fishing. I know girls aren't into the whole drone or photography thing, and given the fact that I'm not jacked, it won't work in my favor. Not sure what to do instead. Bring a book to read? Eat food? | /r/seduction | 09/08/22 08:25 PM |
| 1 | Where to meet women in early 20s? Should I give up?Agreed | /r/seduction | 09/08/22 03:48 PM |
| 4 | Where to meet women in early 20s? Should I give up?I got "approached" by a senior couple a few weeks back, with my drone. But the girl walking her dog 10 minutes before just kind of looked in my direction, didn't say anything. | /r/seduction | 09/08/22 03:47 PM |
| 25 | Where to meet women in early 20s? Should I give up?I don't know about that. I've brought my camera to the park, I've brought my drone there, sometimes I'm just chilling in the folding chair. And I walk to the park. The few attractive girls I see there are either running around the lake path or on a blanket or hammock. None give signals or come up to see what I'm doing. Old people? Sure. School is about to start up, so it's possible the volume of people will increase in the coming weeks. | /r/seduction | 09/08/22 01:46 PM |
| 1 | Stuck? Just stop focusing on womenWhat you're saying makes no sense. By no means am I complete, but I would say I'm well rounded. I have semi-interesting hobbies like cooking and creating new recipes, rowing, photography, good taste in music. I go out in public a lot since my friend circle is pretty much nonexistent. This has done nothing since I moved to a sense urban neighborhood in May. No one is falling over me. | /r/seduction | 05/08/22 10:38 PM |
| 3 | Stuck? Just stop focusing on womenYes. Every weekend I go out to the park and either practice photography or read on a bench. I go to the farmers market. I go to restaurants. And I walk to each. Nobody is going to come up to me. I will have to cold approach to get anyone's attention. | /r/seduction | 05/08/22 08:14 PM |
| 1 | This girl who lives next door to my apartment and has a boyfriend keeps dropping hints that she's alone while he's at workWhat do you mean by that? | /r/seduction | 24/07/22 05:10 AM |
| 2 | This girl who lives next door to my apartment and has a boyfriend keeps dropping hints that she's alone while he's at workAgreed 100%. I hate that she's showing this over the top interest and is clearly taken. Yet girls who are actually single would not piss on me if I were on fire. | /r/seduction | 24/07/22 03:19 AM |
| 2 | This girl who lives next door to my apartment and has a boyfriend keeps dropping hints that she's alone while he's at workShe literally lives next door to me. Her door is at a 90 degree angle and we're both tucked away in the same area. I just met her BF the other day, and was very cordial. I even asked if he could give me a free meal at the restaurant he works at. | /r/seduction | 24/07/22 03:18 AM |
| 1 | This girl who lives next door to my apartment and has a boyfriend keeps dropping hints that she's alone while he's at workHe lives with her, I met him. | /r/seduction | 24/07/22 12:44 AM |
| 2 | This girl who lives next door to my apartment and has a boyfriend keeps dropping hints that she's alone while he's at workWell I'm inexperienced with women and I feel like it would be ah unethical thing to do at this time. I know I wouldn't want that to happen to me. I would rather wait with a hard dick than to be in that position to be honest. | /r/seduction | 23/07/22 11:57 PM |
| 1 | Do not ditch OLD. It’s better than Cold approach.Sounds like me! | /r/seduction | 22/07/22 02:33 AM |
| 3 | Do not ditch OLD. It’s better than Cold approach.That's the thing, I don't know anyone like that. I have a tiny social circle and am actively trying to rebuild one. Most people I know don't live within 500 miles of me. The people on IG who know people that I know, most of them I've never even met before. So I can add them on IG, but they probably won't follow back even if we do have mutual followers. They don't know who I am. | /r/seduction | 22/07/22 12:16 AM |
| 2 | Do not ditch OLD. It’s better than Cold approach.How the fuck are you even supposed to meet a girl in IG? I'm 25, I have 200 followers and haven't posted since May of 2021. This translates to my lack of good pictures on the apps, despite the fact that I look pretty good in person. Hence why I will do better at least in the short term, offline. Let me go follow some random girls who share mutual friends with me, DM them and I'll tell you what happens afterwards. It's a waste of time and stupid. | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 10:19 PM |
| 1 | An observation from the 10 day sports camp I'm attending. Some people seem more sociable than others, and I can't figure out why.Well I get what you're saying and you're right, the issue is that as a guy, particularly me, I have limited options to date. At age 25 I've only been on 6 dates. Most guys at least have had a relationship with a girl. I have trouble even talking. Which is why cold approach appeals to me, because it acts as a shock to the system. And I would even talk to dudes and groups of people. But the apps have never worked for me, and even if they did, again, I feel as though it would be taking to girls put… | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 04:34 PM |
| 1 | An observation from the 10 day sports camp I'm attending. Some people seem more sociable than others, and I can't figure out why.I mean I don't really like bars or clubs though. People put on a façade here. Whereas at a place like this, I get to see people in their natural environment But I will say. I appreciate you taking the time to analyze my situation here in any regard. | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 04:08 PM |
| 1 | In our predominant era of "hookup culture" how do you view sex?I wouldn't know as I'm a virgin anyways here at age 25. But I'm trying to change that. Don't know what I want. | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 03:40 PM |
| 3 | How to naturally approach women?You kind of dodged what he's looking for there. I'm doing a sports skills camp right now, it's 2 weeks. Most of the women/girls there (coed sport) appear to be high school age or potentially early college, but it's difficult to tell. I'm 25. So I see the appeal of a grocery store or coffee shop or the park, as opposed to a loud stinky bar or club. 20 years ago talking to a woman at all of these places (including bars and clubs) would not have been stigmatized. Today, you are a creep if you appro… | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 08:47 PM |
| 2 | QUESTION: If I want to get good at game, should I aim to start out not trying to get laid and just approach?Great question. I've been watching videos from a guy named Social Animal and it's inspired me to go out and do it. | /r/seduction | 19/07/22 11:23 PM |
| 1 | Older people (50+) walking by will sometimes say "Hello" to me. Younger people, especially women, will not. What does this say?Like I was just at this Italian food festival. I actually ran into a guy from high school, but how would I talk to women here? I don't get it. There are cooking classes, but they're expensive and infrequent. A lot of people get into relationships early here. I think this just isn't a great area for single men, which is why I am considering cold approach. We have clubs, but they are janky, and I'm not a bar person to be honest. | /r/seduction | 19/07/22 08:28 PM |
| 1 | How do you go out with an attractive girl in a 10-day sports sessionYeah true | /r/seduction | 19/07/22 08:21 PM |
| 1 | Older people (50+) walking by will sometimes say "Hello" to me. Younger people, especially women, will not. What does this say?Well it was good practice regardless. If that's a high stakes, socially uncomfortable situation, telling a random girl she's cute must be even easier then. | /r/seduction | 19/07/22 08:21 PM |
| 1 | Older people (50+) walking by will sometimes say "Hello" to me. Younger people, especially women, will not. What does this say?Well I'm trying to do everything I can to build these friendships. The problem is, as I've stated, I am not in a position to do so. I work in aerospace, with older dudes in engineering, I also work from 1-9:30 at night, so this leaves out any kind of activities that happen during the week for the most part (except for what I'm doing right now which just happens to be in the morning before work). So it isn't as if I'm not trying, it's just that I'm not playing with a full deck of cards here. Ther… | /r/seduction | 19/07/22 08:20 PM |
| 1 | Older people (50+) walking by will sometimes say "Hello" to me. Younger people, especially women, will not. What does this say?Is the bar really the standard for "mating scenarios?" I can't be bothered to go there. I feel like it doesn't attract people who want anything long term and this has been well established. I just posted a thread about talking to girls at a 10 day sports training camp, which is a "hobby" as commonly espoused here. | /r/seduction | 19/07/22 04:05 PM |
| 3 | How do you go out with an attractive girl in a 10-day sports sessionWell of course not. I'm saying that because some of them look close in age, it can be tough to tell how old everyone is. Some of them seemed to wear jerseys from their colleges, but they still looked younger. OBVIOUSLY I wouldn't talk to a 15 year old, I was more so describing the demographics and the challenge that may come with that. | /r/seduction | 19/07/22 03:13 PM |
| 1 | Older people (50+) walking by will sometimes say "Hello" to me. Younger people, especially women, will not. What does this say?Even in a couple? What if I'm addressing them both | /r/seduction | 19/07/22 11:55 AM |
| 0 | Older people (50+) walking by will sometimes say "Hello" to me. Younger people, especially women, will not. What does this say?Yes, at least starting out I will travel a bit further out to a neighboring city. As long as I can do it discreetly, I don't give a damn what other people think. Still, I want to get it right so it doesn't come off as awkward. I can relate to the dude in this video very much. At the same time, a bar is no place for me. | /r/seduction | 19/07/22 06:53 AM |
| 0 | Older people (50+) walking by will sometimes say "Hello" to me. Younger people, especially women, will not. What does this say?Did you not read where I said they are a couple? If she was single it would be one thing. But I think you're assuming a lot of guys are into cuckoldry here. I was being nice to both of them. I was treating both as a unit. | /r/seduction | 19/07/22 06:51 AM |
| 1 | Older people (50+) walking by will sometimes say "Hello" to me. Younger people, especially women, will not. What does this say?Ironically I've volunteered in the past, and some of my friends or people I knew actually got LTRs or marriage out of it. I haven't given up on that and am looking for opportunities. I also started taking this sports class, coed, but I'll say a lot of the girls actually look under 18 so that's a no-go. | /r/seduction | 19/07/22 06:20 AM |
| 2 | Older people (50+) walking by will sometimes say "Hello" to me. Younger people, especially women, will not. What does this say?For every 90 girls out of 100 who reject with a boyfriend line, there will be 10 who might be open to an advance. That is enough motivation for me to throw conventional logic and wisdom out of the window. What you are saying is reality of course. But my reality is not aligned with this. I'm 25, a virgin, I have friends but many of them have girlfriends or are even married, or are casual daters. I am not in this position and need to take any measures necessary to get there. Time is not on my side… | /r/seduction | 19/07/22 06:19 AM |
| 1 | Older people (50+) walking by will sometimes say "Hello" to me. Younger people, especially women, will not. What does this say?Think about this, how would this guy stand out on an app when he can be seen MUCH EASIER in person https://youtu.be/TiV0oBZaiKo | /r/seduction | 19/07/22 05:27 AM |
| 1 | Older people (50+) walking by will sometimes say "Hello" to me. Younger people, especially women, will not. What does this say?Good advice. | /r/seduction | 19/07/22 05:09 AM |
| 1 | Older people (50+) walking by will sometimes say "Hello" to me. Younger people, especially women, will not. What does this say?No, because that's a generalization of all men. If you were to put me on trial and get character witnesses, guys and girls who know me would say I'm a very compassionate, friendly and open person. So I want my public facing persona to give off that vibe before I approach anyone. I don't dress like a hobo or a salesman for example, and I try to smile at people when I walk by. You can say I'm socially unaware or awkward. But that doesn't mean I'm going to close myself off. | /r/seduction | 19/07/22 05:08 AM |
| 6 | Older people (50+) walking by will sometimes say "Hello" to me. Younger people, especially women, will not. What does this say?Holy shit what a coincidence! I will say though, I wonder if some of those are cherry-picked. Even if they are, this is what I'm talking about in a nutshell. Interesting, because how are you supposed to cold approach any girl if you get hit with an antagonistic or overly defensive vibe to begin with | /r/seduction | 19/07/22 05:02 AM |
| 1 | Older people (50+) walking by will sometimes say "Hello" to me. Younger people, especially women, will not. What does this say?Well you're talking to the virgin here, but I don't consider myself an incel. Now you say men working harder to bag women. Well I think cold approaching is one method of many in the toolbox. I refuse to be pigeon-holed into dating apps that don't work, as in I'm lucky if I get a match a month. And before you bring up improving your profile, everyone has their own advice on that. I've already deleted the apps for the 5th time in a year because I'm not wasting 30 minutes a day swiping on women who… | /r/seduction | 19/07/22 04:52 AM |
| 1 | Older people (50+) walking by will sometimes say "Hello" to me. Younger people, especially women, will not. What does this say?Great insight here. Nothing to argue with or disagree on. I guess it might be a generational thing which is unfortunate, because you'd think us younger folk would be the ones who would be the most open to making connections. But I was wrong. | /r/seduction | 19/07/22 04:40 AM |
| 1 | Older people (50+) walking by will sometimes say "Hello" to me. Younger people, especially women, will not. What does this say?Not once did this cross my mind. It's just being friendly isn't it? If I'm passing them by, why would it come off as an attempt to cold approach? | /r/seduction | 19/07/22 03:55 AM |
| 1 | Older people (50+) walking by will sometimes say "Hello" to me. Younger people, especially women, will not. What does this say?What do you mean? Like a nice guy? That's not what I want to portray myself as. | /r/seduction | 19/07/22 03:54 AM |
| 1 | Older people (50+) walking by will sometimes say "Hello" to me. Younger people, especially women, will not. What does this say?Well then I guess in that sense it's a good warm up, even though it was just a benign and innocent attempt at a greeting for 2 people walking by. | /r/seduction | 19/07/22 03:53 AM |
| 3 | Older people (50+) walking by will sometimes say "Hello" to me. Younger people, especially women, will not. What does this say?No I won't. But I'm so desperate for affection and a date, that no matter if I'm at the gas station or the grocery store parking lot and I see an attractive woman, I feel as though I want to talk to them. But something internally blocks me from doing so, and I miss my opportunity. Dating apps are useless for me at the moment. | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 10:37 PM |
| 6 | Older people (50+) walking by will sometimes say "Hello" to me. Younger people, especially women, will not. What does this say?Perhaps you may not, but some women will. I know very few women in my personal life other than my immediate family members like my mom and my sister. Cold approach will be a step in the right direction to changing this. | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 10:33 PM |
| 18 | Older people (50+) walking by will sometimes say "Hello" to me. Younger people, especially women, will not. What does this say?Well yeah. I didn't think about it like that. By this logic, I imagine approaching a woman alone will lead to an even more irate or anxious response. It would be my job to defuse that or try and avoid giving off a creepy vibe in the first place (which I wasn't doing). | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 10:32 PM |
| 5 | Older people (50+) walking by will sometimes say "Hello" to me. Younger people, especially women, will not. What does this say?Well I wasn't looking for approval. In fact I get ignored from time to time and that's OK, it's basic rejection. But typically, it would be considered out of character for me to say hello to any stranger. How can I be expected to cold approach if I can't even look a stranger, old or young in the eye, and say hello? This is a step in that direction. | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 10:31 PM |
| 3 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?Well in the last 4 days, I've talked to maybe 15 strangers, including couples and acquaintances I randomly ran into. Each time I did this the conversations were fluid and engaging. As a matter of fact, this morning I had my social skills therapy session and we practiced just this. Mind you, my therapist is an attractive grad student. So I think I've improved a lot with socializing. Talking to girls is another story. One thing I noticed this past weekend: I said "hi how are you" to maybe 50% of t… | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 08:25 PM |
| 2 | [FR] daygame at the park and on the streets, 2 approachesWhat's wrong with approaching women at the park | /r/seduction | 16/07/22 05:15 AM |
| 1 | Talking to girls update! July 10-15Hmm, really interesting how this is working for you. I deleted all 4 of my app profiles the other day as I barely got any matches across all of them. I'm hesitant to go to a bar alone. There are festivals all over the place here, I'll have to try it there. Maybe I can finally lose my virginity at age 25. | /r/seduction | 16/07/22 03:57 AM |
| 2 | I just came back from a 4 mile run. I only talked to a old woman who had a shirt that was similar in interests to mine. But I left feeling empty. How could I have approached this differently?Just randomly walk up to a girl? I mean I guess so. I need to practice saying hi to everyone I see again. Before the race started, I just looked around at everyone. Didn't strike up conversations or anything, because have of the people running appeared to be retirees or the mall walkers, and the rest were the kinds of people I mentioned in my original post. | /r/seduction | 16/07/22 03:07 AM |
| 1 | If I just sit in a busy park for hours on end, why can't I attract women?Well it wasn't | /r/seduction | 16/07/22 01:24 AM |
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