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it's usually not an "i can fix him thing" the losers just happen to be very physically attractive, but women very rarely want to admit they are with someone just because of hot they are. As for the ones who go the losers who aren't attractive. I have no idea, but they're usually losers themselves and have serious issues they need to work through so in that case the pairing is actually appropriate.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 07:50 AM
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the women they're with are either very ugly or complete limp noodles in bed. Most guys aren't that interested in working their asses off to keep pulling new hookups. We aren't women we actually have to put in the effort to get laid even the super-attractive ones with options. So unless the girl is super ugly or just refuses to do anything about bad sex men are generally happy with the partner they have.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 07:47 AM
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A good upper-class lifestyle, enough money to support her staying home full time to care for the family. Big House, safe community, vacations and not having to spend life worrying about spending money on good date nights. Now that doesn't mean she can't work if she wants to, but if I found a girl like this with my income and resources I would happily let her be a SAHM if that's what she wanted. The man should also match the level of commitment she has and make she he's taking care of himself and…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 07:42 AM
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Most women don't. Unless there's a big financial gap she's not going to magically start thinking you're a sexy beast after hearing your salary, and in the cases where there is a big financial gap they usually just see you as a meal ticket. I've experienced it more than enough times at this point to the point I actively try to avoid talking about financials because of how many women will fake interest because they see dollar signs. I'm not saying money isn't important, but there is 0 chance I'd e…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 03:01 AM
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I see you completely missed the point. It's not on the same level but harsh reality no one gives a fuck you make six figures. lots of people do and if you're some scrawny/fat awkward dude girls simply aren't going to care. The guys who get rich and then do everything else are the ones who leapfrog past the genetically gifted guys because most of them don't reach the same level of success that they do. This is from someone who's been very wealthy borderline his entire life, but took a long time t…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 02:57 AM
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true. Most of those guys tend to end up being blackpillers. I know quite a few post highschool and college who still think the only thing that matters is how their face looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 02:55 AM
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Lot of high income people (especially salaried ones) tended to be the uncool "nerds" in highschool that girls ignored, so while they're very successful financially now that's about all they have going for em, and unless you're in the market for a a gold digger most women aren't going to drop their pants at just your money if you aren't at least somewhat hot or have good social skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 11:50 PM
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prenups are joke if you're a guy. Between no-fault divorce garbage and some places just outright throwing them out even if you get one she'll probably take you to the cleaners regardless if you're the one at fault or not. If you're getting married as a man you better be 100% sure about the person you're picking because you won't walk out of a divorce with much in this day and age.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 11:42 PM
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If she's making you pay for this shit you're an idiot and need to dump her ass an find some self respect. If she's paying for herself and asking you to come. A) it's very clear she's in charge of the relationship and B) you're energy does not match hers so you aren't compatible. I got out like 5-6 times a week to do a lot of different activities I've had relationships end because other people couldn't keep up with it and that's fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 07:53 PM
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Mines simple. Kept yourself in shape and took of yourself into your 30s and 40s? It's not gonna matter. Become a fat slob? Bye If anything I find older women who've taken care of themselves more attractive than a lot of 20-somethings.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 07:48 PM
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Most have gotten terrible at it and when the tinder boom happened it became the "easier" way to meet women. Reality is these days OLD is about as hard if not harder than cold approaching and requires a different skillset. But if you'r good at OLD and bad at cold approaching you're probably going to bomb whatever dates you do get because approaching a woman is just being capable of striking up a conversation. Most women are psycho tiktokers who think they're 12/10s and how dare you glance in thei…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 07:41 PM
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if you don't have any kind of social circle. Cold approaching won't help you in any form.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 07:34 PM
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Nah women have it stupidly easy when it comes to casual dating. Unless you're incredibly unattractive and extremely overweight you will have 0 issues getting average looking guys lining up to date you. What they don't have it easy for is locking a guy down because that's the scenario men have all the power. Women crying they can't get their exact checklist is comical when large amounts of guys who in a lot of cases put in far more work than the women complaining barely get any attention at all t…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 06:53 PM
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Basic civil respect sure. You want my actual propres respect as in I see you as an equal then you have to earn it, but this applies to both genders. Men defaulting to being overly respectful to women turns you into a simp and makes you look weak just how it is. A lot of guys who go from struggling to doing well with women say they lose respect for women along the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 06:44 PM
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the percentage of that is probably in the single digits, but yes if a fat person has a genuine health issue I'm not going to hold it against them unless they're one of those woe is me types who think it's a free pass to not even try. White people are on average blessed with good metabolism genetics and they still manage to be the fattest demographic because they can't stop stuffing their faces.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 06:40 PM
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Also, many wealthy and successful men don't care about buying a house. They'll either buy an apartment or rent because they travel or need to relocate for work repeatedly so renting is much less headache. As an investment real estate is currently a joke so there's not reason to buy until the crash happens. I own real estate because I got it beforehand but a lot of people obsess over home buying. I have no reason to buy a home I need to maintain by myself while single. Women on average aren't as …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 05:55 PM
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it's a mix, but not being in shape is stacking the deck out of your favor. People say muscles don't matter but that only means "don't become a giant body builder" the ideal male body is lean (12% body fat is the most sustainable) with a good amount of muscle. Basically, if you're overweight. dating apps will be harder and you better be one hell of a conversationlist and flirt because you aren't going to create sexual attraction with just your appearance. If you're in really good shape suddenly y…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 03:12 PM
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lots of guys also think being athletic doesn't make you any hotter either lol, but yes that is also a factor. Women tend to be a lot more forgiving if you have a nice body. Especially your back. Women love a good back.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 03:05 PM
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Just bring up flirting in this sub. These guys think it's some alien language.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 10:58 AM
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That's not usually what they're talking about but you're half right. The issue is the vast majority of women constantly tell men they value things they don't. Women want men to be masculine and we keep feeding young men the narrative that masculinity is "toxic". It's because of this constant assault that people like Andrew tate manage to grip onto impressionable young men. There's also the fact that women are picky. They do care how a guy looks and they keep trying to act like they don't. You se…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 10:54 AM
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These guys think charisma and confidence are all about being emotionally manipulative and just feeding women pick-up lines. They can't understand there are multiple ways to be charismatic.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 10:52 AM
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idk why do women date walking red-flag abusers and obvious losers despite preaching they don't want that? People don't walk around with "I'm a high-maintenance bitch" plastered to their forehead. If the initial chemistry is there I'll give dating a chance and obviously, I'm more willing to give a girl a chance the hotter she is. You'd be surprised how many women can flip a 180 and start acting like they have domain over your life decisions once the honeymoon phase ends.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 01:06 PM
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depends on how much of a shitty person she is. Most sane people will just take it as a compliment and move on. If you're dealing with one of those women that has a giant overinflated ego she might take it as a personal insult you dared to ask her out.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 10:06 AM
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99% of women aren't worth "changing for and growing with" If you're high maintenance and make my life more difficult you better have something truly special for me to not ditch you and move on. I have my life. My life is great. I'm not cocking up shit because some girl thinks dating me for a couple of weeks entitles her to altering things.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 10:03 AM
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It isn't. If your goal is to be better with women being a "toxic" male will get you far more attention (assuming you're good elsewhere). Women on the internet like to preach a lot of objectively false shit and that is probably number 1. THEY LOVE "toxic" masculinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 10:00 AM
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If you respond to them by showing negative emotions. Most likely whatever girlfriend you have at the time will cheat on you or leave you entirely. While saying "he doesn't have the same spark he used to" or something like that. It's just the nature of the beast. Women expect men to be their emotional sponge and then expect us to never show any otherwise we end up being perceived as weak, and that inevitably leads to being seen as less masculine and cheated on.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 09:58 AM
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There is no upside for me to commit to one girl if she isn't ticking every box. I have options why would I commit to someone without thoroughly vetting them first? That's how you end up getting divorced in 5 years with some bitch taking half your wealth that she did nothing to earn. Women initiate most divorce. Divorce courts are completely biased towards women and will barely even consider you worth hearing as a man so there is close to 0 reason for any man who isn't desperate to put a ring on …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 09:47 AM
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Women gate sex. Men gate relationships. Large chunks of women think they're hot shit and deserve a HVM or even a top percenter when they aren't even close to that. Those men have 0 reason to commit to a woman like that so at best we'll hook up with them if not ignore them entirely. Lower value men here only want those model girls who have 0 reason to even look at them, but at the same time their league of women are delusional and think they're hot shit as I said before. The end result is everyon…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 09:50 PM
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yeah but why should they date uglier, pickier more bitter older women anyway? If they're getting younger girls more power to them. If I'm still getting 20 somethings when I'm well into my 30s, I will keep dating 20-somethings who don't have a giant pile of baggage. Unlike men, the pool of good women shrinks as you get older. Women like to joke that 30+ men let themselves go but they age far more gracefully than 99% of the women I see. When you see a woman in her 30s or 40s that actually takes ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 09:27 PM
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Not specifically this sub, but I used to respect women a lot more before, and like every other dude the less I respected women the better my success rate with them has gotten. I used to also think that dating advice from women was a good thing. I know tell every single man I know who's gotten advice from women about dating to toss said advice in the garbage where it belongs.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 09:18 PM
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Talk to people? To list. I've met women. Dancing (class and clubs), Rock climbing, at social mixers, On the train back from a trip, chilling at the bar, at a concert. The only things I haven't used are OLD and the GYM. OLD because it's shit and the gym because it's my me time and I don't talk to anyone at the gym. I put myself in locations doing things I enjoy and in turn, I tend to meet women who share similar interests. Guys like OP clearly only go after Instagram thots because they're always …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 04:07 PM
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you gotta keep the friends somewhat entertained. It's a ticking time bomb if you don't make them all like you in some way you will eventually get cock blocked because if her friends are getting bored or feeling left out she will feel pressured to ditch you for them, and it is very unlikely a girl is going to ditch her friends for some random dude she's talking to. Unless you're an actual stud. You'd ideally move her someone else once you charm the whole group so she's and her friends are okay wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 03:25 PM
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Those girls I'd believe. Some women have said their hobby is "traveling" and they've not even left their state when I was in the US or even been around the EU when I was in Europe. Either way 30 or 12 is a massive number. This isn't a poor shaming thing it's just a lot of women default to saying traveling as a hobby because it makes them seem more sophisticated and it's very easy to see right through it. I'm sure you've had men say they're interested in "insert hobby here" to try and charm you. …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 02:46 PM
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get your shit in order and date whoever you want. The women crying about men dating younger women are usually the type mad that "all the good men are gone". It's thinly veiled jealousy because they can't attract the men they want anymore. Just don't start cradle robbing.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 12:17 PM
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There's a middle ground. Most "basic" women may as well be amorphous blobs with no thoughts of their own, and the only thing they have is that they're hot. It's the same thing as women who constantly talk about men not having any personality. I am genuinely tired of hearing a girl talk about how her hobby is "traveling" for example. It's not your hobby you've probably left the country twice and that's code for "I'm hot and I want a dude to take me on a trip"
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 12:10 PM
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That's cause you guys go after the same exact type of woman every time whether you realize it or not, but yes people aren't as shockingly unique as they like to think men or women. Most are rather boring without much to offer and do the same things everyone else does.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 11:36 AM
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It is mutual in today's society because most women simply do not have the skills to handle it and be a stay-at-home partner. I can probably count on one hand the number of women I know who are better cooks than I am. Some of them would probably burn water. Our parents generation girls learnt how to cook as a baseline. These days you're lucky if your GF is capable of making a sandwich. It makes me appreciate it more when I run into a girl who can actually cook. Any man who thinks having a partner…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 09:35 AM
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yeah no that's a double standard. Guys not caring and causing a scene as much doesn't change that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 09:27 AM
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If I'm trying to get my rocks off and some hot girl gropes my ass. I'm not passing that up because of moral grandstanding. She just removed all the effort required. You guys also aren't fooling anyway. We all know you're dying for attention like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 09:26 AM
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Same difficulty. The average guy is an order of magnitude worse at it because social media has ironically eroded most people's social skills. Being able to cold approach is just being able to hold a conversation which sadly most people aren't capable of doing. Especially when a large chunk of men seem to think cold approaching is sprinting at a girl full speed going "OMG YOU"RE HOT CAN I HAVE YOUR NUMBER?" and then being shocked when it doesn't work.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 05:30 PM
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no, he's saying most modern women suck at it. Which is true.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 05:27 PM
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works so often it's almost funny. "I want to take things slow and not rush things". K I'm going to go hook up at the nightclub. Suddenly a couple of days later they change their minds.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 05:41 PM
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By not being average. You want those top-percentile women? Get yourself as close to that realm as possible. 99% of guys can get to at least a 7/10 by doing a proper glow up and no I don't care about your "but I'm not tall" crap. Get in proper shape (8-15% body fat with muscle). Get a good job. Become a big part of your social group. Learn how to flirt and interact with women. You have to show them that you're worth their time and if you aren't born adonis you aren't doing it with looks. This won…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 06:37 PM
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Women are blatant and shameless about it to a concerning degree and they think it's completely fine for them to do it because the man should "provide". It's become almost comical how many women think they deserve a 5-star restaurant as a first date.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 09:20 PM
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you don't let the internet rot your brain into thinking that everyone is a terrible person. What you should be taking from stories on places like this is that you should live life in a "trust but verify" way. Expect people to be good by default but don't be naive. You'll find that most women in real life aren't the tiktok pyschos who think "I'm a queen" while being a 2/10. Case and point. The internet would have you think 99% of women expect a dude who's 6ft+. I can tell you with 100% certainty …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 09:24 AM
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birth rates have gone down because people can't afford children
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 05:59 PM
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They have. The higher percentiles of men have almost significantly improved in the last 100 years. We're in better shape, better conversationalists and make FAR more money than people in the 50s. The difference is the average dude in the west isn't as interesting because they've become sedentary people working 9-5s and not doing anything of real interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 01:56 PM
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it's not fear. people like this are just that deluded and out of touch.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 01:53 PM
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Some seem to think all women are snakes who just take advantage of men at every opportunity as a man who does have a large amount of wealth and resources, it's a pretty significant chunk of women who try to do this. Men also do it to other men but the percentage is significantly smaller.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 09:36 AM
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It might be because I just enjoy the game I don't see it that way lol, but you're right that is a pretty accurate description. Once you get good at the game the whole process of moving women from kinda into you to super into you is a supremely good ego boost as a guy haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 06:29 PM
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Would me having a side hustle and working towards a six pack make me competitive? Or is competition more aggressive than that? I'm not actively competing against any other men. I'm simply just working on my own goals without being in competition with anyone. I'm not rich, my side hustle isn't making money, but I'm trying. Does that count? yeah that works. Competitiveness is more about having drive and goals than anything. Don't be content as a fat couch potato working some 9-5. That's your "aver…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 06:23 PM
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read body language I do and I'm probably an order of magnitude better at it than you are. The "obligated to talk" part is those first 2-5 minutes where you see if they're showing any interest if they don't you move on. If a women really doesn't want to talk to you a guy with any sense can tell. You really seem to take offense to the idea that women can be as boring as men. Sorry honey most women are just as boring as most men are. For someone mad about people saying "men are better" you seem to …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 06:18 PM
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self-assurance, Competitiveness, mild aggression (not violent). Most men are by and large spinless they're like a blob with no real personality to speak of and are agreeable to anything. This is especially common around women where you see men agreeing with everything they say being as poile as possible, laughing at terrible jokes. WHY? Grow a damn backbone and have some standards. There is such a thing as toxic masculinity but we've gone so far in the other direction that men aren't being men. …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 06:03 PM
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basically emotional manipulation, it's not really manipulation it's just having a flirty conversation without coming across as a simp lol. Women react to getting emotional spikes so it's mostly a case of being teasing and not always positive. You shouldn't be a super agreeable nice dude that's boring. Make fun of her, call her out, disagree with her that's how you create a dynamic conversation. Are you always nice and polite around your bros? Why is a pretty girl any different?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 05:58 PM
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I mean someone is always going to be "pursuing" but that doesn't need to be a bad thing. If it's two well-adjusted individuals without crazy bagged to get in the way that courting is just part of the fun. I quite enjoy courting women for example. Once you've been dating for a while both of you should feel secure with the other if you don't something is off.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 05:45 PM
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because we grew up being assaulted from all sides (more genz) with "OMG MEN BAD FEMINISM YAY" the lack of masculinity in men is the actual crisis affecting men in the modern age and most of the stuff men learn in the 20s these days is how to reverse that brainwashing shit like social media did to them in their teens. It's also why men are struggling in the dating world because women despite what they say like "toxic" masculine men.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 05:43 PM
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You're either dense or just completely missing the point, so I'll make it really simple for you. This is after the whole "is this guy worth my time" question I'm not talking about being blown out or the girl telling me to fuck off. This is when she's fully engaged and giving me her attention. Most women are actually quite willing to talk, but I'm guessing you fall into the pile that thinks they're oh so special that almost no guy is worth their time. I love women it's just that unlike a lot of m…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 05:23 PM
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you seem to have missed the "started showing interest" part. If they didn't like me as a person they wouldn't start reciprocating especially when they start trying to make me stay when I'm trying to end the conversation after they bore me. If a woman is genuinely disinterested I don't waste my time or hers by trying to drag it out I move on like any rational person. Or are you one of those "STOP APPROACHING WOMEN" cultists on the internet who keep trying to spread the myth women don't actually l…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 04:58 PM
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Yeah one of my exes told me the same thing, and if you ever use bumble it's hilarious how terrible women's openers are on that thing. They expect men to give them the greatest opener known to human kind but 99% of women just go "hey" and expect it to work .
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 04:51 PM
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no they really aren't. If anything their social skills are worse on average. They just aren't held to the same standard especially when it comes to interactions with the opposite sex. Women get away with all the behaviours that end up getting men labeled "creepy"
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 04:50 PM
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have you ever thought the reason why most women you men approach for conversation just isn't that interested in having a conversation with YOU? no shit that's why they're a wall for the first 2-5 minutes. Women aren't interested in talking with any man if they aren't supremely good-looking at first. You either prove you're worth her time and make her interested or move on that's how the system works. The painful part is when they do start showing interest and you realize you spent 5 minutes tryi…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 04:47 PM
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advice is already out there mate guys in general just don't like what they hear. If you aren't genetically blessed as chad by default you looksmaxx and learn game that's really it. Get in shape (8-15% bodyfat with a bit of muscle), groom well, get a stylist (preferably a woman), get a good haircut (if you're balding shave it). Looks are actually the easiest thing to improve because there's very little nuance to it. you just get ripped and dress well. Looks are probably the most important thing (…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 04:40 PM
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already happens it's called hotwifing
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 03:08 PM
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the day simps vanish is the day you will see women's standards plumet so yes. Men having a backbone and self-respect would have a major impact on the dating market. Women get so much validation at every turn that a large chunk of them have incredibly inflated ideas of what they're actually worth.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 03:08 PM
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ignoring a woman is attractive. If you do approach at bars try talking to a girl you like in a group last or barely at all and if she has even a minute interest in you she'll suddenly start trying to get your attention any way she can.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 03:06 PM
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The funniest part is after all that I still mostly date women. Despite all the dumb bullshit on subs like this. Once you learn to accept gender stuff and ignore stupid bullshit that doesn't help you spread by feminists, terminally online women and pill doomers. Most people are by default quite decent to converse with and date. Part of learning to be a man is learning how to actually attract women with your personnel circumstances.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 03:03 PM
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Men could stand to have some more backbone and filter better yes, but paying for the first date isn't a big deal. The mistake men make is going for some fancy ass dinner date as a first date. Don't do that. Go get ice cream, go for walk etc. If the girl gets mad about that GOOD that's a sign you should dump her ass and move on. Dinner dates should be shaved for 2nd or 3rd dates minimum.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 02:52 PM
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You'll get to the point where you can quickly tell which girls are interested and which ones just gave you their number as an "ehh maybe". The "ehh maybes" are very very unlikely to show you any kind of real appreciation if you get a first date at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 02:49 PM
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Dating men is way easier than dating women, according to what bi people (men and women) say. I'm a straight dude so idk if it's true. Bi Male. It's true. The funniest part is that gay men have higher standards than most women, but dealing with them is so much less annoying than women that it ends up not feeling like it. If you're ever wondering just how attractive you are as a man. Dress up well and go to a gay bar. Everyone wants to be entertained but men in general are better at actually carry…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 02:41 PM
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Muscles 100% matter. Whenever a girl says she likes "dad bods" what she means is a guy who actively works out but isn't super lean. The male ideal is between 10-15% bodyfat at that point most women will see you with your shirt off and think you have a nice body. If you fall above that but have a good amount of muscle definition in your arms, shoulders and back you fall into "dad bod" which some girls do actually like or even prefer. The point is don't ignore talking to women until you get there …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 08:55 PM
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That wouldn't surprise me. Either way I hate OLD in general. People have forgotten how to TALK to each other, and it's sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 06:59 PM
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surely men can be reliable co-parents even if they are no longer married to the mom? they can be but a lot of mothers take full custody of the kids and expect the dad to just be an ATM so they barely even get to interact with their kids. Women are incredibly vindictive in divorce court
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 05:18 PM
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It's an interactive piece of media first and foremost so that's good for people who are kinesthetic learners which a lot of people are and the current schooling systems basically leave them behind since nothing is really built for them. Lots of fields are actually using video game like teaching methods in their training now (the most obvious being drivers or pilots using sims). I taught my little cousins how to touch type using a video game as another example. Sure if you stick a kid on candy cr…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 05:11 PM
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Video games are fine. What we need is social media purged or regulated and especially have minors removed from all of it. There now people don't grow up seeing unrealistic bullshit at every turn and thinking that's how life is supposed to be. People are terrible at actually socializing because stuff like twitter and tiktok have ruined both their expectations and especially their attention spans. Seriously don't get this thing with some women where video games are so bad when they're the ones who…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 04:39 PM
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tiktok and instagram are 100 times worse. Lot of video games are actually great pieces of media especially for kids. Women just don't like having their tiktok scrolling tossed back at them because that's the actual vegetable epidemic but you know that makes women look bad can't have that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 04:38 PM
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I stopped using the apps almost entirely a couple of years ago because my social life is so widespread that I see no reason to sit there and swipe when I could go do something fun and run into someone who shares that same interest. Most dating app dates I've gotten have been a giant waste of time because generally speaking the women HVM would actually want to date aren't really on there anymore. It's still decent in you want a quick hookup but even then I'd say nightclubs are better for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 12:46 PM
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he'd probably have about as much struggle on dating apps. It's not the early 2010s anymore where tinder was an all-you-can-eat buffet. Doing well on dating apps has become about as hard as doing well cold approaching or socializing. Does he even like Salsa? If he's going just to hit on people it's not shocking he ended up with a poor reputation. I flirt constantly at my dance classes but I'm also there to actually learn dance.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 11:31 AM
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why most women never consider proposing to a man I can't think of any guys that if they wanted to get married wouldn't propose themselves so my guess is the women know that and would rather avoid being told no. Can only speak personally but if I'm with someone and haven't proposed it's because I don't want to not because I"m scared to or anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 11:26 AM
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Women do the same thing so I don't see why it's a big issue when men do it. It's how people work. It's not pretty but that's how people are, and don't try and pretend women aren't just as mean about it. We have more than enough examples where that is very much not the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 11:23 AM
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They should have their eating habits monitored and regulated that's for sure, and don't hit me with "BUT MAYBE THEY HAVE SOME MEDICAL THING" The amount of fat people that are fat for reasons out of their control is tiny. The vast majority are just too lazy to get off their ass and put in the work to lose weight because it requires discipline and drive something modern society seriously lacks. Body Positivity is a joke I can't believe we live in an age where we tell fat women they're perfect as t…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 11:21 AM
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as a nerdy guy who eventually found a pair of dumbbells. YUP! Most nerdy dudes look like they were dressed by their mothers are either fat or skinny fat (which frankly I think is worse because it means you're genetically blessed but too lazy to use it) and are a complete bore to talk to.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 07:46 PM
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Most of the population is unfortunately not taking care of themselves. The most common body fat % in the US is 25+ (which is fat as fuck btw).
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 07:44 PM
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The fucking tiktok girls who are a cancer on every gym they go to poisoned the well for everyone else because of how much their stupid shorts about "creepy" dudes (actually dudes who just happened to glance in their direction) making their "workout" harder blew up
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 07:43 PM
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The finance bro isn’t going to date his cashier at the convenience store. THANK YOU! It boggles my mind that these women in low-playing dead-end jobs think that a guy making a quarter mil and up is going to marry them. A lot of us do care about our potential partner having a career of some kind.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 07:38 PM
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most "average" dudes aren't actually average and if the average is out of shape with no personality then the bar is so low they should get off their ass and fix it. Looks are the easiest thing to change. Stop being fat. get a stylist. whiten your teeth. Stop crying you're under 6 feet and change the stuff you actually can. I don't even think looks are the most important but out of the things that matter dating (looks, money, status, game) looks are the quickest thing you can actually level up Mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 10:40 AM
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SHOCKER it's a chubby woman who probably doesn't get much attention. This just reads like "stop hitting on my friends it makes me jealous" as for the idea it wouldn't make much money because women do in fact go to clubs to get hit on. They also go to have a night out with the girls but most (keyword most) are also there expecting to have some kind of interaction with the opposite sex. Even TAKEN women don't mind being hit on in bars and clubs because unless you're a complete caveman who can't st…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 10:35 AM
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it's called social flow it's not about confidence it's about reps. If you don't talk to people throughout your day you can't suddenly expect to be a genius conversationalist the second you walk into the bar that night.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 10:27 AM
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It has fallen on its face before at which point I say "have a nice night" and quickly head as far in the opposite direction as possible. My mates and I have a good laugh about it later.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 10:21 AM
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this is just a giant paragraph saying you're scared of being rejected lol. There's no "jestermaxxing" with flirting.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 10:19 AM
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why do you want to inflict this person on some poor dude. She's clearly better off staying single with that kind of mindset. Hell, I fall into her requirements and i wouldn't touch that with a 10-foot pole.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 08:09 AM
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Damn, it's almost like having good conversational and flirting skills can make up for your looks if you aren't super hot already.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 08:30 PM
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that's pretty much my dating range in my late 20s. Not entirely by choice. Women past a certain age gap start getting really insecure about it lol. Notes from a man who has regularly been hit on by 40-year-old women only to have them 180 once they heard my age.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 08:26 PM
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I go to an old style speakeasy a lot so I could see this working as a complete joke open. Helped by the fact I'm usually wearing a suit there to begin with. Oh and guys do it because if you haven't noticed on subs like this a lot of them think "approaching" means "run up and blurt 'omg you're hot can I have your number" no you goddamn caveman you're supposed to have a conversation first. I personally like opening with stupid shit like that in more social environments because I outright enjoy bei…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 08:21 PM
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I mean I'm mostly thinking "god he must be boring to talk to at social gatherings" because someone who thinks all flirting is cringe must not make for a fun conversational speaker. It's a pretty basic social skill since it's quite literally just good conversation with some edge thrown in when there's an attractive girl on the other end.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 08:13 PM
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no it's a genuine question in this scenario because the average person isn't going to find all flirting "cringe" if that's your response to a basic social interaction it's not out of left field to think you're on the spectrum.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 08:08 PM
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I mean not actual MILFS, but a women in her late 30s or early 40s who really takes care of herself is INCREDIBLY attractive. Moreso because, unlike her 20-something contemporaries, she actually has to work to look fit and hot. Lot of the 20 something girls like dudes just stumbled into their genetics and then have nothing to give past that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 08:06 PM
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Excuse me madam, I couldn't help but notice your style and find you to be very attractive and was wondering if I might obtain your number and socials for the purpose of courting and potentially having sexual relations with you ngl I'd probably use this as a joke opener because I'm cracking up just reading it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 08:04 PM
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uh what? Fliriting is just conversation with some sexual overtones to show intent. Are talking about canned pick up lines or something? If you think all flirting is cringe then sorry for the cliche but you must really not be social at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 08:03 PM
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It's almost entirely a bay area thing is probably why. Every other major area NYC, Miami etc. I've lived in a lot of them hasn't been remotely as bad to the few weeks I spent in LA where it felt like I ran into one of them every time I turned a street corner, and I spent a LOT longer in all those other areas.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 06:30 PM
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you can't really describe em in text because it's not a look or anything. You just learn to spot these narcs overtime from experience. Comically women like to complain about how narcissistic and self-absorbed hot men are, but these types could be a 2/10 and still think they deserve movie stars just because they have a vagina.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 06:59 AM
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Mostly the lifestyle. Richer people who've put themselves in a good position also tend to have more free time. I barely even work anymore for example so I can choose to social a lot more than the average person throughout the week, and on top of that I can devote most of my time and energy to things I want to learn and the gym. A side thing is being rich also means you can afford to get stuff done like hair transplants if things like that are hurting your ability to be happy with yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 06:52 AM
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Most sane people have preferences, not requirements when it comes to dating. The reality is if you aren't a raging nutjob who thinks the world revolves around them you care more about how you vibe with a person over whatever fairy tale "ideal" you've imagined in a partner. Everyone has an ideal but you never know who you're going to run into that just so happens to make you crazy. Maybe it works out maybe it doesn't but people who turn down potential partners they seem to actually like over asin…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 06:48 AM
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They eat it up almost regardless. As long as your look is good enough women will feed off charisma more than anything else. You just need less of it when you're more genetically gifted.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 06:31 PM
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I do ignore feminists and vegans they're usually insufferable. Anyone who has to make blanketly clear they're a feminist is probably going to spend the entire evening telling you how awful the patriarchy is. There are very few things I can think of that will make me leave a date faster than having to listen to that or a trumper.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 06:17 PM
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both mean less than your game. As long as you aren't morbidly obese or like 5'2 (granted I know a 5'2 guy who gets laid all the time) you're in good enough range for most women to talk to you at which point you just need to be able to charm them. I was able to get dates long before I got lean and I'm not tall. Your face from grooming and style mean a lot more for your initial impression. People can't even see a six pack like 90% of the time since it's under clothing. The whole looks obsession is…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 06:13 PM
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should they just be fat then? what is this moon logic?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 06:09 PM
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I swear everytime I see date post about "WOMEN HAS CRAZY STANDARDS" it's just "she shit tested me and I was too insecure/dense to fucking notice"
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 04:42 PM
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I'm 99% sure it was a shit test and she was trying to gauge his reaction. Clearly he failed epically since his response was to fucking walk out.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 03:47 PM
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it was a shit test she doesn't actually care if she only cared about tall hot guys she wouldn't have gone on the date in the first place
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 03:43 PM
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that was a shit test. She was already on a date with you she doesn't care she wanted to see if you were insecure and weak about it. I'm 5'7 the number of times a girl has been into me to slap me with the "but you're kinda short" line is pretty high. They're checking to see if you're gonna be a little bitch about it or just deal with it. Women know a lot of dudes are insecure and bitter about the whole height thing so it's almost the go-to shit test for anyone who's not 6ft and up. The appropriat…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 03:42 PM
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because women are treated as infants as have no control over anything so we need to justify and excuse anything they do that might make them look bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 03:35 PM
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unless it's bad, no one will notice anyway unless you're an idiot and decide to broadcast it to the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 10:43 AM
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Terrible idea. That's banking on the woman to make a move which isn't very likely to happen. The ideal is to actually try and get a date there and then depending on the location if you're at the mall or park you could go get coffee if it's going well. Guys have this weird idea that "approaching" means running up and going "hey you're hot can I have your number?" No you dumbass you approach and build a rapport then ask for the number. I've had women proactively give me their number when the inter…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 10:42 AM
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chubby with high standards. Great combination. Any woman complaining she can't find a "good man" is the same as the men they disparage who constantly bitch that no girl will give them a chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 10:43 AM
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Depends how much you improve. If you go from overweight and broke with thinning hair to properly in shape, finances sorted, properly shaved head + beard (or hair transplant) and start dressing like a successful man then you'll find your dating prospects are going really well. Losers have this idea that post 30 every women is damaged goods and they can only be "betabux" but the reality it's not much different than your 20s and you'll probably start seeing a lot of the women have more substance to…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 05:37 PM
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You control it. It also helps you look more masculine because the more in tune you are with your primal desires without being ruled by them the more it comes across in your mannerisms. It lets you tap into that "bad boy" vibe without really having to be one and can do a lot for men who need to add some edge to their image.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 04:34 PM
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extremely mismatched pretty bed. Slightly off not that big a deal. Also, people's libido can change. Most dead bedrooms could be fixed by the man just being better in bed. Let me tell you something unless the girl borderline asexual she isn't gonna turn down sex with her BF or husband if he's actually good at it unless he's trying to fornicate like a rabbit at every opportunity.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 04:32 PM
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similar to my experience. In fact when I think a girl might be worth more than FWB scenario I'm the one who tends to hold off sleeping with her because I don't want her to think it's a casual thing from the get go. Not always the case, but when a girl is willing to sleep with me right after a night out or on a first date, she doesn't intend to see me again at least that what it tends to feel like to me. I have no idea why people are so up in arms about people getting their needs met. If you aren…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 07:57 AM
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Most of these guys would be broke single or not lol. The guys who have fun being single are the ones who are single by choice. People who are capable of making a lot of money generally aren't so socially inept they can't attract some kind of partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 09:02 PM
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Correct. Men get attracted mostly based on visuals. Attraction for women is primarily based on how you make them feel emotionally and at least 80% of that is conversation. Men don't realize that you don't need to look like Chad you just need to look presentable and well-groomed for most women to talk to you. You don't even need to have anything in common just be able to keep a conversation going while showing intent.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 10:39 AM
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5'7 but please keep enjoying your little pity party it's one of the most fun parts of coming to this sub on my breaks.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 10:36 AM
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nah loser men have convinced themselves their only standard is "be skinny" but they care about a lot more than that. I've seen the women loser men go after they have a very detached view of what an "average" girl is. Men are almost entirely visual in their attraction. Women care but only up to a certain point.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 10:13 AM
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Attention to women is like sex to men. In a man to women interaction, a man is looking for sex while a woman is looking to be showered with attention. It's why men who are learning pickup are taught to not shower the women is praise and things like that because if you just give a women attention she's already gotten what she wants out of you. One of the best examples I think of is if you see a group of friends talk to the girl you're interested last or barely at all when starting out and her int…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 09:29 AM
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if someone adds something to your life as a friend then they're worth keeping around, but if you're one of those guys with a "lot of female friends" that's not a good sign because it generally means you're one of the weak guys that women keep around because they don't find you threatening or sexually exciting at all. They'll talk to you but they're going to go sleep with and date the more masculine men you aren't friends with.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 09:26 AM
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But why is it usually supposed that flirting is a simple skillset that one is born with? it's not? It's a skill like anything else and you're only going to get better at it by practicing. Also the direct approach is a form of flirting you just need to have a large pair of balls to pull it off successfully which guys starting out rarely have.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 09:22 AM
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What if I like being single? I don't see any need to be in an LTR at my age when I'm surrounded by gorgeous single women every weekend. Why the hell would I lock myself down to one this early?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 09:20 AM
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They're both pretty bad. I'd say it goes to women's heads more mostly because the difference is much more stark. If you're an obese girl you're invisible and then you'll suddenly have every man within view start looking at you once you get skinny. Happens to guys too but women care less about looks than men do
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 09:16 AM
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The entirety of the red pill aims at making men the ultimate walking wallet if this is what you pulled from red pill advice you're never going to get anywhere. Red pill is flawed in many ways, but that's not what it's trying to preach.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 09:13 AM
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Women and it's not even a contest
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 05:56 PM
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Yeah Idk why these guys want pity. Red pill or just general advice from successful guys is always actionable and yet these dudes always have some excuse as to why they can't get in the gym or learn pick up or start making more money. Pathetic platitudes like "they should like me now I'm ENOUGH" may be cute but it's not gonna fix your situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 05:44 PM
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the wall is proven to exist every time a women over 30 opens her mouth and says "all the good men are taken". The wall doesn't mean "you lose all chance at a relationship" it just means your options shrink. It happens to men too. No longer make 6 figures and have a 6 pack? You're probably not getting as much attention from women as you did before.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 05:38 PM
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They aren't being told to settle. They're being told to stop being delusional. There are scores of women right now who heavily overestimate how much worth they actually have because stuff like social media and dumbass simps who will take anything have inflated their egos beyond belief. Like we have 5/10 women working dead-end jobs thinking they deserve a guy who makes 6 figures and has a 6 pack. Honey, you aren't even in the same universe as that man why should he pick you? NO ONE should be sett…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 11:54 AM
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Women get constant help from society, are told they're perfect the way they are when they're single, and also quite frankly every woman knows that the moment she wants to stop being single she can just pop open any dating app under the sun and start shopping around within a week. low-status men (the ones crying) by comparison are told they have no value implicitly and explicitly at every turn, are borderline invisible to women, have been told they're in the wrong by society for years growing up …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 11:49 AM
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Considering women like to tout how good they are at picking up the "ick" or spotting red flags it's pretty easy to assume they decided to turn off those things for that one "bad boy" who got them horny. Now in the scenario of that person going through some kind of depression and becoming abusive that's different that's a massive personality shift and no one can see that coming, but frankly at least in my experience that's rarely the case. I can be empathetic for these women in the moment, but it…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 11:43 AM
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A) they're hot B) they're really good with that one person C) they find someone as dysfunctional as they are Also, they might just not like you. I am also capable of talking to anyone but It's not like I turn it on for people who aren't worth the effort. Some people think I'm a straight-up charmer and another group thinks I'm a complete asshole because over the years I've gotten to the point where I just do not feel like wasting social energy on people I don't want to with.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 08:13 PM
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Low sex drive means low testosterone, and I know modern society likes to act as if high T is a bad thing but men really want that to be high. It's not men "living for sex" it's just that when our body chemistry is correct it naturally leads to having a high sex drive. Low Libido men unless there's some other issue aren't the fit healthy successful ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 08:08 PM
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nah man in general should have a high sex drive. Being able to control it is just part of being a healthy male, but it's part of our biology going far back to our ancestors. It's not about being obsessed or having nothing to live for besides sex, but simply a natural part of being male. That in turn fuels the rest of your biology and drives things like ambition in the workplace. A lot of male innovation over the centuries has been driven by men wanting to impress women and that's nothing stoppin…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 01:48 PM
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Low Sex drive in men is an indicator that they're lacking nutrients that are essential to male biology, and on top of that a high sex drive in men pushes them in other areas. It's not "being obsessed with sex" people like that are a completely different issue and it's less about libido with them more that they lack self esteem, and struggle to actually get any. People who are capable of getting sex usually aren't obssed with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 04:54 PM
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Was at a bachelor party, went to a upper level strip club. One of the guys that was with us, dropped $6,000 on a stripper. They didn't fuck, no extra services at all. He was just smitten with her, and was convinced she was going to come back to our penthouse suite to hangout with him, and be his girlfriend, that didn't happen damn, that's some stupid right there.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 02:49 PM
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This is explained by stupidity moving on. Someone forming Parasocial relationships is usually a sign of either needing mental help or just being a moron hard to tell without actually talking to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 02:48 PM
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low libido in men is a bad thing. Male sex drive governs a lot in us. Having a low sex drive can make you make less productive in other areas.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 02:44 PM
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Unless you're a very small subset of guys you don't just naturally have confidence talking to people, let alone women. Some of us are naturally socially inclined sure, but PUA stuff is just social skills specifically targeted at making you better at talking to women you find attractive. You don't get to that true confidence level overnight you get there by putting yourself in the situation over and over until it's second nature. The Pickup stuff that isn't "say this one line and she'll immediate…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 06:35 PM
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That's what most of the advice is (aside from doomer ass black pill). We aren't going to sit there and tell fat broke men they're amazing the way they are (that works for women because they play by different rules). We will give them actionable advice if they want to succeed in dating. they need to get their ass in the gym. Groom and style themselves and learn pickup/game. I'm sure me telling that same guy he's amazing and the right women will turn up might make him feel good and make women look…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 06:23 PM
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I tell men they should be talking to women to entertain themselves not to impress her. That's the big difference you should be completely fine if she decides to tell you to fuck off. Also true confidence with women is basically pick-up confidence. You get that natural confidence talking to women after doing it over and over.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 06:18 PM
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really not but keep having your pity parties
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 06:16 PM
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Yes. I yell this shit at anyone with spitting distance who struggles with dating. Until you change your mindset you're never going to be successful. If more men had self-respect suddenly the parade of entitled women start vanishing because they aren't getting showered in attention from simps. When I run into a woman who thinks she's better than me I barely even give her the time of day and then suddenly she's interested later.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 06:13 PM
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Correct because if you expect things to go well your body language immediately changes, and that plays a massive part
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 06:11 PM
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they are. You are an idiot with your head in the sand.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 06:07 PM
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yeah, I have the same thing on the other end. I'm well off and I intend to live like it, but at the same time I'm highly educated and well-read so I expect that from my long-term partner. I will forgo model looks to some degree is the person is from a good background and can properly hold a conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 06:07 PM
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No it's the Reddit thing of thinking everyone that isn't a boomer is broke and living paycheck to paycheck. They can't fathom younger people might actually be well off.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 06:04 PM
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uh no? Wealthy people come in all shapes and sizes and if you go to any major city you will find guys raking in money from 20 and up. There's a reason people like me shit on "average dudes" because they act like they deserve anything when a lot of us are younger then them, richer than them and fitter than them but they think model women should give them attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 06:04 PM
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large chunk of men don't have any. It's half the reason we're in this goddamn mess and so many women have inflated egos about what they deserve lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 05:57 PM
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It'll be skewed because women assume most "house husbands" really just expect to sit and home and watch the game without actually taking care of the house work. If dudes want to be house husbands without having negatives attached they should (cue angry lazy dudes) go hustle and get themselves to a point where they don't really need to work anymore and can live passively. I'm a house husband by default because I don't need to work anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 05:51 PM
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highly doubt it. Maybe someone will prove me wrong but we as humans are very visual creatures and it's quite unlikely someone will be receptive to flirting if they don't find you at least somewhat good-looking for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 07:16 PM
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we'd be significantly less advanced than we are now. So much stuff was created because a man was trying to impress women. Male sex drive governs a lot more in us than just our desire to sleep with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 04:27 PM
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nah that's just another thing you toss on the pile of BS women say to make themselves look less shallow than Men. There is some truth to it though. Everyone has a looks barrier and once you cross or meet it everything else comes into play. The thing most pill doomers don't realize is that looks barrier isn't fucking chad as they all seem to think. Chad just has to work less for the other stuff because he's created attraction based on looks alone so he's just opening his mouth to not fuck up whil…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 04:24 PM
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that just means you guys suck at making your intentions known. Most nice guys are so scared of making it clear they like someone romantically that they just automatically toss themselves in the friendzone without the woman even doing anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 04:12 PM
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uh, this would be creepy if the dude looked like brad pit. Dead facial expression. Just staring her up and down with comically bad body language. There's a massive difference between looking at women with an open confident expression (smiling, good eye contact, open body language), and the dumb shit you guys seem to think is "just looking" I'd be creeped out too if some random was looking at me like a goddamn serial killer.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 04:06 PM
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women gate sex. Men gate commitment is why it's technically easier to get a relationship over a hookup. At the same time, any man with self-respect has much higher standards for a LTR over a random hookup. If I see some hot drunk party girl while on a night out, I'll hook up with her, but it's pretty unlikely I'd do more if she doesn't have anything interesting to talk about. Outside of the desperate people who'd take anything the genders are flipped when it comes to which section requires highe…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 09:15 AM
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Exact opposite if you have some level of class about it. If you walk up with confidence and good body language while looking good and speaking well it signals high value. Let me put in this way do you think a women is going to look down on some who has the guts to go talk to her over the dudes starting at them in the corner unable to even open their mouths? Just try not to make a habit of only doing it while drunk. The only women who "look down" on it are the nutjobs who think talking to them is…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 09:09 AM
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I know why I'm attracted to extroverts because I want my partner to be the same energy I am. I don't need some goddamn homebody who thinks spending 6 out of 7 days a week in the house doing nothing is a good way to live. It's boring to me and gives me cabin fever. People are attracted to others who fit into their lifestyle. The ones who hit on everyone regardless of compatibility are probably desperate and will take anyone who says yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 09:41 AM
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I expect a woman to ask to pay because I like declining. If she's insistent it's pretty obvious we aren't getting a second date but if she's not it both indicates to me that the date is going well and it lets me "be the man" but refusing to let her pay. I was raised very traditionally and my mother would probably slap me if a woman ever paid for my entire date.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 09:39 AM
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Same as long you aren't a fucking creepy perv being "that guy" is a giant bag of who cares. If anything the women in the group who I've flirted with are some of the people who want to hang out with me the most because they love the attention lol, and yeah if I'm not at a social gathering or late my phone start exploding with texts "get your ass out of bed and come here"
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 02:27 AM
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Doubtful since I'm "that guy" and people routinely blow up my phone if I'm not at a social gathering. You can be "that guy" and still be a big part of the social circle as long as the women in it aren't nutjobs who think any kind of male attention is paramount to sexual harassment. Like the guy above you said they love listening to my stories of pickup comedy. Quite often the women will point out girls who were giving me eye that night too.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 02:25 AM
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It rarely is but making yourself look as good as possible is good advice. You're never going to hurt your dating prospects by getting in better shape or learning to dress yourself better.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 06:22 PM
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The people who struggle tend not to go out much. Social outgoing people of either gender don't struggle with meeting new people; if they are single for a long time, it's because they want to be. Most of the toxic dating stuff while sometimes there IRL is mostly confined to online dating bullshit
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 06:22 PM
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yes, but only if they're hot welcome to the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 10:43 PM
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Teenage fears. Men have this deep-seated fear that they aren't good enough to sleep with that starts around puberty, and women have a deep-seated fear they're only good enough to sleep with. A very large percentage of the population carries that teenage fear around with them well into adulthood until experiences prove otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 10:41 PM
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Live Music, Lots of people, Dancing. The alcohol is just a bonus they could be serving fucking prune juice and water and I'd still go to my favorite bars because the environment is why I'm there not the alcohol. People enjoy the nightlife because it's where you go to cut loose the alcohol just happens to make people less in their own heads so socializing becomes easier even for people with good social skills because it makes people less closed off. Now people like you being in the bar is a big d…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 06:14 PM
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Never go to women for dating advice especially the ones online. You'll get the most useless info possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 06:10 PM
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why would I cold approach an ugly woman in the first place? You think I'm going to waste my time walking up to and trying to converse with a woman I don't find attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 01:40 AM
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"Hoe phase" doesn't matter and people take sex way too seriously This idea of "used goods" is hilarious at best. Sex is part of dating and we as humans are hardwired to enjoy it so of course we're going to seek it out. As for LTR commitment, I don't really consider myself any pill but I agree with a lot of Redpill stuff because it's the one most focused on getting guys to improve themselves. If I'm going to commit to a women she has to fit into my life in a way that benefits both of us. I'm supe…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 01:38 AM
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0 friend of any kind is one of the biggest red flags I can think of. Forget dating I wouldn't want to interact with someone like that for very long because if you don't have any kind of relationship in your life there's something you aren't doing. Being introverted doesn't mean living like a hermit.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 10:09 AM
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“excuse me, sorry to bother you. I just wanted to say, you look very pretty today" take out the sorry and you've just learnt how to cold approach. Yes it is that simple. You can and will get blown out occasionally, but it is incredibly rare if you have a basic understanding of body language, and even then most people are by default quite friendly and happy to have a conversation even if it's short.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 04:34 AM
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you guys aren't going after overweight women and we all know it, and if you are please find some standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 01:25 PM
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that's because BP only exists to benefit women. It's just there to circulate the shit advice women give about dating so they don't come across as shallow as their male counterparts
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 01:32 AM
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Yes, this is why game exists. There are also stories of attractive dudes failing because they lack the ability to approach and hold a conversation properly, but don't tell the doomers that their heads will explode. The reason men get told to improve physically is because it just makes your life easier. If you focus on improving the game while making yourself look better, the result will be a man who can pull women.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 01:29 AM
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correct it is not enough to be an "average" bloke even though average in a sub such as this really means "I have below average social skills, don't really go out much, don't do much of anything interesting but hey I'm nice and have a paycheck" Like come on most of you aren't even in good shape.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 05:58 PM
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A) she looks pretty drunk B) you failed if you don't check if she's with a friend or not C) you don't just fucking walk off you try and talk to both of them first if you aren't a little bitch
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 11:46 PM
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they don't have much of a line at all when it comes to masculine behaviors at least as a whole. also lol no masculine traits are still the main thing women find attractive and men losing that masculinity is why so many struggle to attract the opposite sex. Women will shout till they're dead that they don't like "toxic" masculinity but their actions as a gender speak a lot louder and the more you tap into that darker masculine nature the more and more women will respond to it. I have literally se…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 11:42 PM
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we should go back to that era of calling fat women fat. Less Obese ugly bitches with inflated egos sounds like a great win for everyone. Body Positivity biggest mistake society ever made.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 03:11 PM
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they fall into the whole "boss babe" meme of women that was spawned from feminism yes. People have this very comical view that all feminism has been positive. Trash like those tiktoks are a direct result of telling women they don't need men and that men should be worshipping their existence because they're "so perfect". Is Feminism bad? No has it spawned a lot of entitled women because the message got warped pretty bad along the way? 100%. Idk why people are so allergic to admitting women are as…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 01:36 AM
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we believe women bitching and moaning from women with 0 evidence all the time, but god forbid men talk about their experience. Get the fuck out of here with your misandrist crap you just don't like women being painted in a bad light.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 11:46 PM
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no it's the "progressive" feminist women who are by far the most judgemental about this stuff. The traditional women are actually a lot more willing to actually talk things out. The more SJW a women gets the more you have to become a stoic machine to deal with her when it comes to dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 11:44 PM
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unless you learn to go out alone and cold approach yes it's a big hindrance. It's simple statistics if you aren't putting yourself in repeated positions to go up and talk to women you aren't going to meet one to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 11:40 PM
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Yes all 5. Women should have the same opportunities as men I just don't want to have to listen to them whine about how hard they have it still when they clearly don't anymore. I'm also against women being shamed for wanting to be traditional wives and not work. I thought the whole point of feminism was to give women options. If some of them want to be tradwives while their husbands works that's their decision. Redpill isn't really anti-feminist it's just cutting through the bullshit about women …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 11:37 PM
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You just have to look at how each gender acts. Men communicate very directly with each other and women. While women gravitate towards indirect communication. Men are logical creatures while women are far more in tune and therefore controlled by their emotions. The biggest thing men want out of women is sex while the main thing women want is attention. I can keep going but you get the gist. While there are exceptions to the rule men and women operate in very distinct ways when it comes to their p…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 10:01 PM
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no they still have a billion options they just don't get their pick of quality anymore. Ugly Fat bitches should never have been picky in the first place but desperate simps inflated their egos and now they think their 300lb asses are "beautiful" or some shit. I swear some of the outfits these ugly bitches wear on nights out hurt my eyes. I'd date a single mom personally but she'd have to be something special. Fat women are a complete no. You have to do so fucking little to be attractive as a gir…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 10:19 AM
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Red Pill is telling you to understand how women work and work to get yourself to a point where they will choose you. Blackpill is just nihilistic bullshit that assumes if you weren't born genetically gorgeous you have 0 chance and should just give up. Red Pill is more in line with PUA mentality where almost anyone can get themselves to a point where hot women will be attracted to them. Blackpill is that whiney kid in highschool who smells like shit mad his handsome friends get to sleep with beck…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 10:15 AM
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Men and women are VERY different psychologically the fact we keep trying to pretend they aren't is one of the biggest pitfalls of modern dating advice
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 10:12 AM
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because OLD is a shitshow and most of the better options are getting off it women included. Any dude who is capable of getting good matches on OLD is most likely using it for casual sex none of my longer flings have come from it
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 02:35 AM
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what? SAHMs the good ones anyway just want to be taken care of. The traditional setup is you are the man provide all the financial support and she takes care of the house and it works. The actual problem is that dudes are broken losers and want a submissive tradwide and can't hack it. While the women want to be SAHMs while having 0 house skills. If you want to be a SAHM and do nothing but take care of the house you better take care of the fucking house.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 02:32 AM
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because most men don't really start peaking before their mid 20s and then really start living when their 30. Also anyone who peaks early and stays that way gets taken off the market and doesn't post on social. Women crying they can't find good men tend to not be worth it for those good men the same way most dudes crying how great they are and how women pass them over are usually not even in the league of "good man"
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 02:29 AM
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uh no it just feels weird for me to treat my female friends like it's a business meeting I'm not gonna go and fist bump women now am I? A hug is just the natural progression when you've known a woman for a period of time and you're good acquaintances. A hug for women has the same level of sexuality as a fist bump for a guy to me. Granted I also just don't bother being friends with women I actually want to sleep with. Too messy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 11:40 PM
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