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These men have ghosted, ignored and rejected 1000+ women in the previous years because they're not good enough for them. no i havent
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 08:26 PM
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Long version: “No means no unless it means ‘try harder,’ ‘I don’t want to look like a slut so make it look like it’s not my fault,’ or ‘I want you to take charge and ignore my protests,’” but bullshit games like that are bad for everyone, there’s no way to tell the difference from a real no so it just isn’t worth it, and the sooner we stop indulging these bullshit games the sooner they’ll stop. Assume every no means no and if she can’t communicate like a grown woman it’s her own problem. Short v…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 05:47 PM
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"I hate rainy days" doesn't mean that all days are rainy nor that I hate all of them. sure, that statement by itself doesn't mean you hate all days, but combined with insisting that nights could not be rainy, and any precipitation you might see at night is just influence from the daytriarchy, people might start to wonder.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/18 11:50 PM
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It’s less “all men will bang any woman that isn’t fat” and more “any women that isn’t fat will be able to easily find an inordinate number of men willing to bang her on sight”
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 03:34 PM
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I’m not going to make any claims on if logic-based vs feelings-based is a gendered issue, but I’m going to try to CYV based on the second half of your premise, that voting patterns would be reversed. First, there is a difference between facts and logic. If you start with bad facts and false assumptions you can follow a perfectly valid logical train of thought and reach an incorrect conclusion. Someone could still be a completely emotionless logical robot, but working with bad data and stil be wr…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/18 07:21 PM
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i probably wouldn't say i dont want to be friends, but i wouldnt want to be ​ i've been let down easy enough times that i assume anything that isn't OVERT sexual interest is a full on rejection
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/18 07:07 AM
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Young women aren't looking for a husband. They don't care if he has a job or if he's a slob or if he's a dick a lot of the time, they're having some fun and aren't imagining what a lifetime with him is going to look like. Once they get closer to an age where they want to settle down, suddenly the idea of spending your life in poverty isn't so much fun. i don't know if you were trying to, but you aren't really contradicting afbb or anything trp says. you're just explaining what someone might be t…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/18 07:01 AM
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Agree, aloof assholes aren't quality men ​ but aloof assholes get laid more than the alternative ​ hence literally everything about the world that led to this sub being created
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/18 06:37 AM
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umc careers cant make up for busted looks, but good looks can make up for no career. who do you think is sleeping with more young girls, the dumpy middle aged divorced dad, or the unemployed musician with above average looks? so in the end, it's basically about looks for everyone, and women have more easily attainable and a higher quantity of options for increasing their physical attractiveness. plus the bar is lower for women. "if they don't make themselves into chad they have only themselves t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/18 02:27 AM
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Bro I started posting on ppd specifically for this topic, and you're even driving me crazy with all these threads. We don't need yet another dumb term for this. Even if it does catch on, SRUGM would just turn into an insult with a bunch of baggage exactly like nice guy or incel. Like it or not, it's a personal problem. Trying to solve it at a societal level, like your discussion topics seem to be hinting at, will get you a bad case of aegrescit medendo. Adjust yourself, that's all you can do. Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/18 12:33 AM
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If you’re seeing sex as an equivalent trade off for scrubbing toilets, the relationship is already over. What’s the best case scenario here? He does what you want, and then you do him with about as much enthusiasm as he had for doing the dishes? That’s not fun for anyone. There’s also a million ways it can go wrong. If you tell him outright “no sex until you take out the garbage,” it’s extremely likely he’ll just get upset at being manipulated. If you don’t tell him outright, there’s a good chan…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/18 02:35 PM
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Thats silly. Saying a man who has gotten laid before never struggles is like saying “you have a (minimum wage) job so you must not be hurting for money” Ive had girlfriends and stuff but i still go through bouts of involuntary celibacy for months at a time during my single years. I thought that was just how it was for everyone until the average women around me started sharing their experiences dating. It was.... eye opening
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 02:30 PM
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One of my “favorites” is removing responsibilities and duties from traditional female gender roles but leaving the benefits, and removing the benefits from male gender roles but leaving the responsibilities. So you get these lopsided relationships where the woman demands a man that works a good job and provides for her and pays for everything, but asking her to cook or clean or basically contribute at all is sexist and backwards. Or even the “soft” version where she does have a job, but since wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 02:02 PM
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What bothers me about these studies is they always seem to use a metric, in this case “had at least 1 partner in the last year,” that obscures the whole picture. I always think of a girl i used to know. We hooked up a couple times, then she started dating someone. I went through about 14 months of involuntary celibacy, hooked up with one other girl, then another 6 months of celibacy. She dated the guy for about a year, they broke up, then she went on a 6 month hook up spree with around 20 guys. …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/18 08:21 PM
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Like a man could have been good when you were single, then slowly the woman falls into doing all the housework and then when they have a child, it's too late and they're stuck doing so much work. I think its way more common that the man is lazy all along and the woman just assumes he’ll change after marriage/kids Ive seen a lot of problems pop up in relationships because one person assumes the other will suddenly change all the things they hate after injecting irreversible commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 08:43 PM
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Theres a middle ground between mr checks-off-everything-on-the-list and the kind of guy that ditches a woman after he knocks her up. There are people that say both these things that are hypocrites, but its not necessarily always contradictory because “lower your standards” means “maybe a literal golden god is too much to ask for, how about settling for these mortal men that check off the rest of your list,” and “condemning single moms” means “stop sleeping with dudes that have ‘i ghost after i g…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 08:34 PM
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It is technically a sacrifice. If someone quits their job to be a full time parent, they are giving up the opportunity to get promotions and develop important job skills. Of course, I understand the sentiment. Personally, work is a horrible burden that I'm forced to do out of necessity to survive. Quitting is a sacrifice, but if I could quit and still retain those survival necessities, all I'm losing is something I hate.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/18 11:16 PM
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The typical AF/BB situation isn’t good sex with the BB though. Its more like the woman gets all the crazy kinky stuff “out of her system” in her AF years, then has obligation sex(ie pillow princess sex)with her BB husband. It’s like a gender swapped madonna/whore complex What people are talking about when they talk about AFBB is a woman who has a lifetime of eager and passionate sex, but no passion for her provider-partner. Your situation is implying the opposite, which I trust is possible but I…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/18 05:53 PM
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I don’t see your point. Nothing’s stopping anyone from choosing the life of a celibate shut in. If it’s a 10 times better option, just do it
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/18 07:31 PM
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This is a pretty good analogy. The difference is there’s not a bunch of articles about how “Good Neighbors” are the real assholes, and a subreddit dedicated to mocking people that let you borrow their lawn mower. With bonus follow up articles about “where have all the friendly neighbors that let you borrow their lawn mower gone?”
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/18 07:12 PM
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I don’t think it’s eminently desirable to most men, but I think it’s a common situation simply because a smaller amount of women than men are willing to be promiscuous. I don’t think a man that was seeking a committed relationship would be interested at all though. I mean I’ve been in those situations before. No desire to tie those women down though, it was strictly wham bam thank you ma’am.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/18 10:06 PM
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The shitty behaviors in those stories aren’t exclusively nice guy behaviors. Maybe the first one. Being a creepy stalker, giving one sided stories to peers to try to turn everyone to your side, the rage and threatening suicide when you don’t get what you want, etc, are all classic abusive relationship behaviors. Obviously someone who can get into a relationship isn’t a nice guy that always gets rejected. People probably don’t identify it as abuser behavior because the abusive nice guy has no pow…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/18 08:29 PM
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Don’t know how universally true this is, but it absolutely jibes with my personal experience. I was even told as much by a woman I had dated. I think her phrasing was that I’m “too good” for casual sex because I had a house and a real job. I was in a weird position where I managed to land a lucrative day job at a young age, but I was still drugged out trailer trash playing in my band at dives on the weekends. I basically only bought a house to have a decent place for band practice. It was probab…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/18 05:22 AM
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Hey, you asked why and I answered why. I don’t know what your rules are for a complaint to be a valid one.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/17 08:25 PM
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That doesn’t mean they did the same amount of work or had remotely similar dating experiences leading up to the relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/17 06:45 PM
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Because even for successful men, it’s 10 times the work for half the results of Existing While Female. Even the most ardent red pill haters that I’ve talked to will acknowledge that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/17 05:06 PM
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I agree there are a lot of similarities, but I think there are a few key differences. It’s very much like a situation with the two blind men and the elephant. Feminist theory is all about social constructs and male privilege being problematic, but in practice fight against men. Red pill theory is all about how women are terrible people, but what they’re really complaining about is social constructs and female privilege in the dating world. The common example is denying a man’s individual problem…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/17 04:52 PM
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never underestimate the power of male thirst the kind of women men choose doesn't actually say much about their preferences because a huge amount of men don't really have a choice. they might still despise that behavior but they decided it's better than being alone for possibly years at a time
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/17 08:34 PM
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I think ultimately all this preoccupation does is hurt them and amplify anxieties that cannot be alleviated. A lot of what makes it bad for men is the feeling of being second best and missing out. You’re not wrong, but I don’t think the solution is to force yourself to be in an emotionless state of zen about being relatively-to-literally celibate through your 20s. A lot of people seem to be in denial about how prevalent it is, and it ends up in dumb arguments about AWALT when that’s not really t…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/17 04:31 PM
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None of that is wrong but it doesn’t really explain why “you have to bust your ass for scraps” is not something that contributes to anger. I think it’s one of the biggest sources of anger
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/17 10:06 PM
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if a man wants to play he has to work Why does that make you not include it? That’s incredibly fucking frustrating, especially when you’re surrounded by people that don’t have to work at all. It also makes the dead bedroom problem worse, since even if it’s been over a year since your wife touched you, being single is twice the work for half the reward, if you’re lucky enough to get any at all. There’s no way out.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/17 06:39 PM
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And the reason you haven't done this is because you haven't actually tried. Fuck you, dude. This is so oblivious I can only assume it’s intentionally insulting
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/17 03:49 AM
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Modern marriage doesn’t make a whole lot of sense unless there are kids involved that’s for sure. There are basically no benefits for anyone, but makes things ever so slightly smoother when you have the added burden of children. I just don’t see how marriage on its own is a burden for women. Yeah she can get her own job now and it isn’t absolutely necessary for her survival, but we still have this notion of it being a man’s obligation to provide, especially within marriage. “What’s mine is mine,…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/17 05:14 PM
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That’s great and all, none of it is really wrong, but it doesn’t actually have any concrete advice on what to actually do. Be proactive and flirt. Well no shit, but if I don’t know how to do that, the advice is just kind of rubbing it in. Believe it or not, it’s actually kind of difficult to approach a random person and lead the whole conversation if you don’t even know the first thing to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/17 12:44 AM
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Huh. Guess I’m way below average then, since they typically run away(well... walk away moderately briskly) when I say hello. Or there’s something just absolutely terrifying about me that I just can’t see. I’ve managed to get a couple girlfriends though so it’s extra confusing. They weren’t even 2/10s.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/17 06:18 PM
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Why ignore all the blue pillers, such as myself Because relationships, even good ones, are a terrible burden with more expectations than benefits. Because I have 100 women as friends that wouldn’t touch my penis with a 10 inch pole. Because saying “my marriage is awesome” is the equivalent of saying the lottery is a sound investment strategy
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/17 06:49 AM
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just get out of the basement and have FUN :) C’mon son, you’re a gnat’s cunthair away from “just b urself.” There are a ton of steps between going out an hooking up and it doesn’t just come naturally for a lot of people. Most can’t even figure out step 2
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/17 04:14 PM
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girls that they interact with in their day to day life? That’s a thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/17 03:06 PM
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Tbh the drunken drug benders were more depressing than fun without the sex I mean that never stopped me, but still
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/17 09:37 PM
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Lol. “I’m going on so many dates but none of them are good enough #foreveralone.” She clearly has no trouble attracting people, so she would probably need specific advice about avoiding shysters or not doing things to drive men away. Hard to tell exactly what the specific issue might be. Also, according to the Instagram she seems to be in a 3 year relationship. Problem solved!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/17 03:14 PM
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if the lack of intimacy is so bad a man is pursuing other women, it's very much in danger of ending. that might scare her, but it's not the man's obligation to continue an unfulfilling relationship and she's not entitled to a relationship. he could just dump her on the spot. that may arguably be the better thing to do. this way gives her a choice and is exponentially less shitty than saying "have sex with me or i'm leaving you"
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/17 05:28 AM
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yes it is. if your relationship is dead, the right thing to do is pursuing other options. if that "scares" her into actually trying to fix the relationship, that doesn't make it the wrong thing to do. it's not a manipulative trick to start fixing your own life.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/17 04:47 AM
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this whole thread is emotional abuse trying to manipulate rp men into giving up rp op you are a psychopath
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/17 04:36 AM
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when you're in a terrible, neglectful relationship, creating distance and keeping your options open is ABSOLUTELY the correct advice. The only other good advice would be to dump her immediately.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/17 04:33 AM
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How does it get them laid less Because the message, especially when you’re young, inexperienced, and/or naturally more passive, comes across as “never approach women, never escalate sexually, having sexual desires is entitlement.” If you’re not already the hyper-masculine douchebro that feminist rhetoric is actually aimed at, you come to the conclusion that if a woman doesn’t unilaterally make every move in an encounter then you’re a rapist.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/17 04:04 PM
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It’s been said, but it doesn’t tilt the balance across the board, it just made things easier for the guys who would have already been winning. I can only offer guesses as to why though. One thing that makes sense is there is a significant portion of average guys who don’t offer much more than being a provider. In a bygone era, without the free-for-all hookup culture, that would have been viable to find a wife and settle down. Now, with that mindset you can’t even get started. You end up not even…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/17 04:56 PM
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Sure why not. Making it required by law is kinda silly though. And saying that opposition to that law is “woman hating” or “infringing on women’s right’s” is next-level asinine.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/17 09:40 PM
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The point I'm trying to make is that.. women are attracted to extroverts who are looking to have a good time Ok so exactly the opposite of the thing you said at the beginning of the thread. We have nothing to argue about then
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/17 02:24 PM
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lets just expct women to jump our bones because we bothered to take a shower Lol don’t get mad at me, I thought it was a ridiculous thing to say when you said it in your first comment in this thread. In the course of an hour you’ve gone from “all you have to do is shower and groom, it’s easy!” to “how dare you expect a woman to sleep with you just because you showered” so I quite honestly don’t have any idea what point you’re trying to make
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/17 02:15 PM
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below average men can use their wits and their charisma to get a woman. So... it’s more than just “basic hygiene and grooming”
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/17 01:25 PM
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do not do this if you are seriously depressed. it will make it worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/17 03:57 AM
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i dont know how to answer the question. if i knew what women wanted i would have solved this problem by now. but from a cynical point of view: an above average amount of money
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/17 07:18 AM
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Don't fucking suck at life all around and pussy comes to you. that's not even close to true. unless you mean something really specific by "don't suck at life"
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/17 06:20 AM
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i feel pretty incel most of the time since i sometimes get sex once a year if i try really really hard, but that's enough to be a normie to you lot. plus nothing about incel communities is helpful for anything but encouraging suicide still upvoted for "backpedal out of existence" tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/17 01:25 AM
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Nice Guys aren't nice, but nice guys are nice, but sometimes nice guys are Nice, and that's not nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/17 08:36 PM
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You'll definitely have to wait a year or two to establish "a certain lifestyle" that he'll have to continue providing. Make sure to quit your job, too! Then he'll have to also make up for lost opportunities in career advancement that you gave up to support the household and family! Plus you can bang your hottttt chad boss without any problems with fraternization policies Good luck!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/17 08:34 PM
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It's especially frustrating if you're in your 30s, burned out on relationships after divorce, and just want to get laid. 99% of the advice is for high school to college age dudes to find long-lasting relationships. Plus, you're immediately seen a scumbag for even wanting casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/17 08:05 PM
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It's not like women are stalking men and saying "be my friend" after friendzoning them. It’s not explicit like that, demand was a strange word for the OP to use honestly. Sometimes it’s things like calling when(and possibly ONLY when) they need a favor, or using the offer of hanging out to soften the blow of asking for a favor. I don’t even think these things are really conscious decisions(all the time). So you’re in this weird situation where you’re trying to back off out of embarrassment and r…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/17 08:38 PM
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Women have an advantage approaching because they aren’t seen as an immediate potential threat like a male stranger walking up to a woman is. I think it would only really work in a group situation though, because even if the initial approach works it would be pretty awkward to then be the 3rd wheel and start getting hit on. I also don’t think women would be great at the typical wingman duties, since if she talks up how great the guy is it just sounds like she’s interested in him. Plus she can’t “…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/17 08:11 PM
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Er... this might be a wild theory, but I don’t think the guys talking about how hard it is to get a date, and the guys referencing multiple past fwb situations have a lot of overlap.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/17 02:30 PM
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Tell you what, if you can get all of the RP users on PPD to agree on that Lol I might actually make that thread. I like a challenge "Chad" men literally can sleep with any woman they want just by demanding it. I guess we definitely need that thread then. Since I’ve seen plenty of “no one can sleep with 100% of all women.” We’ll all just be constantly talking past each other if we can’t even agree on what words mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/17 07:51 PM
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Can you point to any evidence that this is what's going on? Nope. Just a theory(or I suppose a hypothesis, technically) based on unpacking the logic. Basically, a “fake nice guy” and a “genuine nice guy” do essentially the same actions for different motivations. If you accept that both fail, what reason is there to even make the distinction? My conspiracy theory is just a guess at what the answer to that question is. I think it’s an interesting discussion on its own.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/17 07:32 PM
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Then you see both arguments as dumb. Which, if you ascribe any meaning to my post besides shits and giggles, was the only point I was really making.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/17 07:07 PM
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I dunno, why would you assume a guy that wants more than friendship is looking to use women’s bodies? I’m not really trying to make any point I was just repurposing NiceGuy arguments for giggles
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/17 07:01 PM
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Maybe we should construct a thing I tried this and it basically came out sounding like the red pill. Observe: — Fat Girls™ that complain about guys ghosting them after sleeping with them are entitled bitches that aren’t even good in bed anyway. By even saying that men who hump-n-dump are douchebags, you are proving that you’re just a shallow gold digger that’s trying to manipulate a man into marriage so you have a free room and board. No one is entitled to a relationship or even a call back. You…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/17 06:00 PM
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The claim is that this creepy NiceGuysTM exists. It doesn't say anything about whether genuine niceness is an effective/ineffective sexual strategy. I’m saying it doesn’t matter whether they exist or don’t. Then giving a theory on why someone would want to prove they exist, or that they’re a bigger phenomenon than they are. What do you mean by this? I didn't follow. It’s just a joke. I think analogies are dumb and only contribute confusion, so I made up a confusing analogy that means nothing Any…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/17 05:44 PM
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someone that browses sexist shit holes and thinks that Elliot Rodgers is a hero. without calling them all whores that only want to get raped by abusive assholes and that women should all be put into concentration camps the guy that can fuck literally every chick a minute after meeting them, doesn't exist Damn dude, leave those poor straw men alone. The Chad/alpha thing has always simply been rhetorical shorthand for “guys that have it easier” so I think everyone is in agreement on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/17 05:18 PM
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The Just World theory is that everyone wants to be good and tries to be good, thoughtful considerate, not selfish. Not sure where you’re getting this, but that’s not what the just world theory/fallacy is Just world just means you believe good things happen to good people and bad things happen to bad people. Reality is sometimes you do everything exactly right and still lose
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/17 04:42 PM
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1: Why don't NiceGuysTM see that their strategy isn't working and switch strategies? It’s a very slow “strategy.” One attempt may be years spent pining after one girl, so by the time you’ve tried it enough to notice a pattern, you’re a 25 year old virgin and have absolutely no context for what else to try, and can’t get coherent advice because you’re mentally 13 in this arena and everyone that “gets it” just kind of understands intuitively and can’t put it into words. 2: Does this simple definit…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/17 03:09 PM
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Well at that point you've done what you can and it's on them if they'd rather complain or try to fix their issues. Although I can tell you that "aim lower" doesn't work, and "approach introverted women" is only useful for mind readers.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/17 12:42 AM
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Give me a good reason why would shouldn't debate them Because nobody is on the other side of that debate. The topics inevitably become about people sympathetic to Actually Nice losers arguing about making sure the distinction is clear.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/17 12:34 AM
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I don't know what kind of advice you've given, but I find one of the most frustrating things about blue advice is it so often focuses on what to do when you're already dating or in a relationship. It's less than useless for guys who are stuck on even making a successful first contact.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/17 12:27 AM
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I don’t think the genuine users and the ones complaining about nice guys are the same women
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/17 06:32 PM
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“Just be yourself and wait and the right person will come along eventually” “Wtf where did all these entitled men come from?” Bonus: You can go from friends to romance as long as it you are genuine friends, meaning you were not sexually attracted at the start, otherwise that’s trickery. However, thinking a relationship can bloom from a friendship without establishing sexual intent from the start is, of course, entitlement. Women can intuitively read your intent and know if you’re a genuine nice …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/17 05:46 PM
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I'm genuinely curious since I'm someone that's never had a desire to reproduce, why is that selfish or troubling?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/17 07:59 PM
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Male Liberal-ish city but it's the southern US so that's relative Used tinder near constantly for 2 years between age 26-28 Only match I ever got made a comment on my tattoos and stopped responding so I'm pretty sure she honestly just matched me to make that comment
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/17 06:00 PM
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Ok so I looked up the laws in my state, all this is going to be based on those. Tattooing someone you can "reasonably assume" is intoxicated is a misdemeanor. Forcibly holding someone down and tattooing them against their will would be felony assault Sexual assault is a felony. Period. The laws here actually don't seem to mention anything about intoxication, which may be different elsewhere. I think a lot of the disagreement goes back to this. Combined that with intoxication being poorly defined…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/17 09:50 PM
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I dunno. I'm 32 and if anything it's harder, I've only gotten laid once since I hit 30. It's nearly impossible to meet anyone, even a friend group to just hang at the bar with, because at this age range they all have kids to take care of or they're that weird guy you bought pot from in high school who still lives with his parents. Maybe early 30s doesn't count but I honestly don't know what to do at this point since the only advice I got in my 20s when things were hopeless was "don't worry it's …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/17 04:39 PM
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I have issues with my (not quite) 100% inceldom that I need to get off my chest in a healthy way. To the point I think I'm developing psychological issues if they aren't there already. Therapists where I live are all Jesus based and the opposite of helpful, and every other sub that deals with these topics is a toxic echo chamber at best.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/17 06:43 PM
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where is all this resentment about being left out coming from? From trying Tinder for 2 years and getting zero matches, then hearing stories like this and getting told it's normal
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/17 08:02 AM
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If fat guys started a HAES movement and picked fights about it on the internet you'd probably see it more
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/17 07:48 AM
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Because the fat acceptance, anti fat-shaming thing is entirely aimed at women and it's still acceptable to treat fat guys as trash
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/17 07:01 AM
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get to fuck one or two a year say Judging entirely anecdotally, through my and my close friends experiences, that's far above average for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/17 04:46 AM
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As a fat guy who has been told flat out I'd be marriable if I was in shape I think it's not even a gendered issue
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/17 04:38 AM
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she's into me, I'm into her so we just bang once for fun I think most guys that are susceptible to the red pill shit haven't had these types of experiences like this, which is why they react how they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/17 04:22 AM
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What you - and other straight guys whining about this - don't get is that the bottom of the barrel straight guys offering strings-free sex to women are as attractive to us as gay guys are to you. Full stop. My problem with this interpretation is it doesn't jive with what the women I know actually do. Obviously everyone's experiences are different, but in my circles 20 guys per year is the low end for women. Obviously, that's not the lifestyle everyone wants, but for the women that do, doing so i…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/17 06:09 AM
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That's a plausible guess. Sadly, most girls I know also have hang ups and think they have to sleep with guys right away to keep them around. Whatever the reason, she thinks it's a low amount, and I can only imagine it's because she doesn't understand what it's like for guys out there. When I was single I was lucky to even get 1 date per year.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/17 06:10 AM
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Which regions would you say are "very weirdly hybrid" I see it a lot in big cities in the American south. Especially Texas and Florida.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/17 06:07 AM
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However, you will not find a single woman who actually thinks this on PPD. Well, for one thing you have to look at what people do, not what they say. For example I know a girl that says over and over she wants nothing to do with casual sex and gets nothing out of it and something something men are the worst. She's still had more partners in the past year than I have my entire life. I honestly think she doesn't understand the difference in experience. Like she thinks my experience is exactly the …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/17 09:52 PM
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Haha, well I'm already too old to smash until I'm 30, so that ship has sailed. And I know women who slept with 20-30 guys in 6 months because the were bored, and I doubt I could come even close to that even at my best. It's just two different worlds.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/17 07:45 PM
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It's a bit unfair for us to smash until we're 30,35 the average guy can't do that, is the point of it all
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/17 06:33 AM
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I definitely wanted it, however I've been conditioned to believe that "expecting" it is misogynist and entitled. It got to the point where I still get physically ill from anxiety whenever I try to initiate sex, even with a woman I'm in a relationship with. This is still something I struggle with. I still absolutely can't approach women for casual encounters because of this. Even after learning how common and how often the women in my life engage in ONS and 1-2 month STRs. The real pain point was…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/17 02:14 AM
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When you want to get laid, there's a much higher chance that at least one woman at a bar close to you is in the mood, than relying on one specific person to be in the mood. I wouldn't bother with relationships if I knew how to get laid lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/17 10:34 AM
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