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Not a problem. I appreciate the poise and grace of natural femininity though. Most people are bad actors and you can tell when someone is faking. True you can be multifaceted. But people who are naturally multifaceted are much more intriguing and enjoyable that ones who are juggling masks and fake personas.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/21 02:36 PM
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Assertive isnt the same as dominant. Assertiveness is about standing up for yourself. Dominance is about imposing your will. I would absolutely want my girl to be able to stand up for herself. And yes i know men like that. Truth is they aren’t very dominant to begin with. They got wealthy through inheritance, connections, nepotism/cronyism. They just hold high positions and people assume they must have dominant personalities but they get rolled a lot by people who a naturally dominant especially…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/21 02:07 PM
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I agree. Some vocal feminist seem to think that sexuality isn’t a natural disposition of mankind and needs to be regulated
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/21 01:57 PM
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People can chose to do anything but that doesn’t make it a natural disposition. Dominance and femininity are diametrically opposed so it’s likely that a woman is faking one or there other. Same with masculinity and submission
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/21 01:48 PM
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Its weird because it contradicts a lot of modern narratives around gender and sexuality. -That women dont care what men think -That sexual desirability is a non-factor in women’s decisions -That there are no inherent differences between men and women -That being attracted to femininity is oppressive. -That presupposing that femininity is the default state of MOST women is oppressive. -That a women who is open and comfortable with her femininity is inherently harboring internalized misogyny. -Tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/21 01:45 PM
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Because power and dominance usually coincide.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/21 01:32 PM
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My career is great and rewarding. but that’s because ive made the sacrifices to be able to do something rewarding. Most jobs don’t directly improve society. Many jobs exist for the comfort of wealthy and upper middle class peoples. Many others exist just to make wealthy people more wealthy. All while yielding a net negative effect on the earth and global society as a whole. More over most people have jobs not careers, with limited growth prospects. There are jobs and careers that do directly ben…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/21 01:23 PM
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Exchanging independence for excel spreadsheets is better? To me its much less fulfilling than doing things that directly benefit your family - and I have a great career.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 06:22 PM
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I wouldn’t mind picking up the financial slack during those times
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 06:18 PM
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Speaking to the fact that you’re married. You find it helpful?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 02:35 PM
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Im saying whats the point? I work because I need to. There more to my life than my career. If I was able create a suitable partnership where I can maintain a good standard of living while dividing roles and responsibilities I would absolutely do that. That is the purpose of marriage. It seems that some women are are hell bent on overlapping roles for the sake of equality but it is inefficient as far as the partnership is concerned
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 02:07 PM
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Im saying whats the point? I work because I need to. There more to my life than my career. If I was able create a suitable partnership where I can maintain a good standard of living while dividing roles and responsibilities I would absolutely do that. That is the purpose of marriage. It seems that some women are are hell bent on overlapping roles for the sake of equality but it is inefficient as far as the partnership is concerned
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 02:06 PM
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Why are you in this sub lol? No offense
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 02:02 PM
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Ok I removed that part. Now?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 01:12 PM
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Thats a cop out. With the dating you described, you cant tell me seriously that every guy you date/sleep with in that way is a serious prospect for an ltr. If you are monogamous you shouldn’t constantly find yourself being single because you should be methodical and intentional about the men you let into your life in the first place. What you are describing isnt monogamy. Fucking around and then pairing off just to fit in with social norms isnt doesn’t make you monogamous. I know women who are t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 12:57 PM
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Do you believe that you need to sleep with everyone you are interested in? Some people definitely find a partner early snd build a healthy relationship. What you call normal is indulgent pleasure seeking not building a partnership. Just because its become the norm doesnt mean its productive or a standard to aspire to. It doesn’t take years of fucking around with multiple people to finally get it right. Especially when you approach dating maturely with a goal in mind
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 12:21 PM
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Dating to what end?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 12:15 PM
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My point is that women forgo family planning to advance in their career. The women who fit into the strong independent women trope often wear theirs degrees and titles as a badge of honor
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 11:07 AM
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True but if you ultimately want to be a wife and mom why pour so much energy into a career/corporation? Exercising your brain doesn’t have to mean slaving to the rat race
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 09:45 AM
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Why pour so much into a career/corporation if you ultimately just want to be a wife and mom? It seems like misplaced priorities.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 09:43 AM
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There are very few reasons for men to cry after childhood. Outside of the death of loved ones I haven’t felt compelled to cry. What is this obsession with men crying?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 09:40 AM
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You also dont have to fuck everyone you have a slight interest in. Thsts not monogamous. Theres a difference between being polyamorous and having multiple suitors
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 09:32 AM
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Thats poly. Not monogamy. Theres no way each of the people you are dating seriously have a chance to be the one. You are just indulging in a poly lifestyle. Which is fine just own that
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 09:30 AM
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I wasn’t trying to make it seem that way just speaking from my perspective as a man. Women are free to apply any standard they want for selecting men. This is MY standard for vetting women. It doesn’t have to be universal Women should absolutely vet men based on their past. Often they down and wonder what went wrong. Most people aren’t monogamous period. A lot of heartache come from trying to turn hoes in to housewives and househusbands
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 05:36 PM
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Thats just not how monogamous people are. The ones that are “one person at a time” types are that way regardless if they are single. Sex isnt an opportunistic thing for them. For example - if I say Im straight but I just fuck men from time to time, then im not straight im bi. If I say im monogamous but frequently have casual partners them im not monogamous im promiscuous/polyamorous Monogamous people also vet partners well. A string ltrs is just as telling as a long list of casual encounters.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 04:41 PM
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Those are just words. Promises not really mean much without action. And love is a fickle emotion. It take much more than love to sustain a relationship. Many people don’t realize that and they are ready to bounce once the high is gone. Breakup and divorce statistics confirm this. Promiscuity tells me that you prefer variety and short term commitment. People that TRULY want monogamy and are cut out for monogamy wont spend years going from person to person. The show a natural aversion to that life…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 04:31 PM
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The is no physical dividing line be your single life and relationship life, there is just life. How you move in one aspect of life usually indicates how you move in others. Poor communication, financial, social skills dont turn themselves around when you enter into an ltr. If you like sexual variety, multiple partners, and short term commitments, then thats what you like. There’s nothing wrong with it just own it. A guy would be a fool to think that sort or preference would change in a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 02:23 PM
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I dont believe that you are monogamous if you are promiscuous. No problem dating them, just dont see them as long term material. Many of the promiscuous women ive met weren’t honest with themselves about being poly. They wanted traditional/monogamous relationships but still want to be promiscuous. It doesn’t add up. They obviously like variety and short term commitments but still try to paint themselves as traditional wives. Theres no point in going for a traditional relationship with a woman wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 01:47 PM
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I believe that someone can and should regardless of their skill. I believe that I a guy betrays you (yes you) or crosses a line you should whoop his ass. Women snap on men all the time especially in relationships where infidelity is suspected or confirmed. Despite being physically weaker. I dont see the issue
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 01:01 PM
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Im speaking on untrained fighters
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 12:57 PM
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You could tho if you did it right. But that confirms my premise. Women hate violence because they want to be able to cross boundaries with impunity.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 12:54 PM
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Ive rocked and taken down dudes twice as strong me. And Ive seen it happen plenty of times. And Ive seen dainty women whoop ass. Fighting is more about mechanics and finesse than brute strength. Ive training hand to hand and with advanced weapons. Guns are a force multiplier not equalizer. The goal of a gun is to destroy. Hand to hand combat can be scaled in its application while guns have universally deadly intent. A woman with a gun =/= a man. A smaller man with a gun =/= a larger man.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 12:53 PM
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I wouldn’t escalate from a slap to a gun unless he showed lethal intent. Even with a bigger guy. I dont see your premise
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 12:44 PM
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No. I have no hesitation to throwing down with a larger dude if he crosses a line. Ive taken down bigger dudes and Ive had smaller guys give me hell. Some people are all bark no bite. If a bigger guy fucks with me Id hit him before grabbing my gun. I generally dont fear other men no matter their size. If I get hit, I get hit. Why are you so trigger happy lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 12:42 PM
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In an unprovoked attack against her? Absolutely. Let the bullets fly. The woman who was slimily scheming with her friends and cheating behind her gfs back got what she had coming though. I wouldn’t be mad if I was on the receiving end if I did something like that. I know what I did was wrong and I accept the consequences. I would probably dodge the hit or something but I wouldnt be mad about it if I knowingly violated.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 12:36 PM
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I get that its illegal but I dont think its wrong. If I cross a line with someone I accept that they are in the right if they throw hands at me. A lot of people are slimy and they violate knowing that they wont be on the receiving end of an ass whooping. I’ve crossed line, ive been checked and ive stood my ground and vice versa. This thinking upsets peoples (mainly women) moral/aesthetic sensibilities. I think those who object want the freedom to violate with impunity. Most me know that If you c…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 12:31 PM
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Women hate retaliatory violence because they dont want to be on the receiving end of it. Men don’t care. If a dude violates beat his ass. If I cross a line you can throw hands. Mutual combat
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 12:15 PM
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Some people deserve to have their asses whooped
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 12:12 PM
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Some people simply deserve to have their asses whooped. If I cross the line with someone I cant be mad at them for wanting to throw hands.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 12:10 PM
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Yea that’s moreso immaturity and insecurity manifesting than fear...not wanting to be “seen” as gay...that goes away with age and maturity hopefully
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 01:33 PM
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True but ive seen this topic come up on here and some things said are ridiculous. Like not talking to a girl in passing who is minding their own business on a college campus, in the grocery store or at the park. Ive hit it off with plenty of women in these places, just by being conversational. They ones who weren’t interested simply said no thanks and I left them alone. I’ve also been approached by women and gay men minding my own business in public. Its just not a big deal I couldn’t imagine go…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 01:16 PM
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Its not that I was comfortable. I believe than people should be able to express the their sexuality. If someone flirts with me and I am not receptive to it, they didn’t do anything wrong. Shoot your shot. If they aren’t feeling it, then keep it pushing. There is nothing wrong or unnatural with a man approaching or flirting with a woman. Human and animal sexuality has been operating without fail for millennia. No need to add artificial barriers or constructs to it. People live, people fuck, and p…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 01:03 PM
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Ive been hit on by gay men. I had 2 openly gay and very flirtatious roommates in college. One was 6’6” about 250. It can be mildly annoying at worst, but no different than a girl im not into flirting with me. Its just not that big of a deal. I couldn’t imagine ranting about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 12:50 PM
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In every animal species sex and reproduction goes on business as usual. Human women have found a way to make it an issue. I dont know any men that walk around guarding their assholes around bigger gay dudes. We brush off advances and if someone wants to take it there then we respond in kind. Women supposedly have a visceral fear of men yet do their damndest to be around men, be in male spaces, and court male attention, and generally navigate the world using their sexuality (subtly and overtly). …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 09:45 AM
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When you have kids fall back and let them make all the decisions. When they throw tantrums over dumb shit make sure you always give in to their demands so you don’t violate their agency. Enjoy I can accept that there are people who a better leaders and decisions makers than me. It doesn’t harm my ego. I go to these people for wisdom: sages, coach, mentors. I also accept that this ability like all other human traits lies on a spectrum.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 06:01 PM
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My lifestyle doesn’t accommodate that state of mind. I would surely be broke homeless and dead. It isn’t arrogant to say that some people are more mentally and emotionally mature than others. All you have to do is observe society. Other people are free to make similar assessments of me. I assure you it doesn’t hurt my feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 05:49 PM
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That had nothing to do with being poor. I can’t trust the judgement or leadership of someone who can’t make up their mind and who is unwilling to rationalize their actions and decisions before making them. I wouldn’t trust a 5 year olds judgment for that reason, and there are people in this world who haven’t matured emotionally and mentally past childhood. Even in their 20s and 30s. It has nothing to do with arrogance
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 05:39 PM
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In defense of the redpill, I believe that anyone who is unnecessarily fickle, capricious, and overly emotional lacks agency and shouldn’t be taken seriously - man or woman..
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 04:21 PM
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They are non monogamous but want the benefits of monogamy
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 03:16 AM
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The main issue is that a promiscuous woman will pretend to be monogamous if she sees you a a bf type. She’ll put on a act but ultimately her need for attention and variety will manifest in unproductive ways in the relationship and lead to its downfall. Promiscuous women aren’t honest enough with themselves to be openly polyamorous and will still insist on monogamy- especially when the baby fever comes
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 05:10 AM
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Young nurses are zombies. Alcoholic party girls in their free time but will insist on a relationship if you seem stable/grounded mentally. The long shifts create this
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 05:06 AM
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Women in the medical industry are for short term pleasure only lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 04:41 AM
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My point is that a woman who has good relationship qualities and is actively seeking a partner would easily be able to find a relationship. The only quality women that I find in that age range are ones who recently got out of a long term ltr. A woman who has a high parter count (to me) is polyamorous, not monogamous and is unwilling to be honest with herself or she is continuously getting pumped and dumped meaning she lacks discernment and doesn’t vet men well.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 04:42 PM
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I’m only skeptical of women who claim to be monogamous and have high number of sexual partners. Either she doesn’t know herself of she lacks discernment. Bad for Ltr either way. I assume any woman who is still single in her late twenties that has been ACTIVELY dating/seeking ltr is not relationship material. Especially if shes racks up a high number during that time
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 04:28 PM
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I have a hard time believing that all women here who vilify the RP have always been perfect gfs/prospects meaning: Never Dishonest, Never Manipulative, Never Weaponized their Sexuality, Never led a Man On, Never used men for Attention, Always Caring and Supportive, Never developed affection towards another Man, Great Communication Skills, Great Conflict Resolution skills, Not Fickle, Emotionally consistent, Never Cheated Good women dont stay on the market- they pair with good men
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/21 11:39 AM
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I never said majority, and i never said disproportionate. I never implied. You did
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 08:51 PM
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Throughout this ive prefaced what ive said with “not all” “on average “. Idk how you gathered that i was making sweeping generalizations. I made it perfectly clear that I wasn’t speaking in absolutes. I know i did on multiple occasions. You’ve been cherry picking. Go back a preface everything I said with “some” if it helps to ease your need for specificity. That should go without saying. There are few behaviors that apply broadly to every human.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 08:36 PM
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Nah i did different things with them. No moment was more or less special than the next. But you are going too deep into this. But the there are plenty of stories about men getting left for other men. You can’t be that dense. Through out the internet, in books, fables and lore. Its a trope that has existed throughout time. It doesn’t need to be in a database to be valid. Enough men have lived it. Women lie men lie. That was the original point. Men have been left for men perceived to be more mascu…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 07:56 PM
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Still interchangeable. None of the women have made my life materially better or worse. They were just companions at different points. We had sex, ate a few meals, went on some trips - the experiences are more or less the same. Some annoyed me more, some smelled different, some were more funny. But still more or less the same. There’s not much new under the sun. Women and people in general are more alike than they are different. We tend to value people with overlapping interests more. Though, the…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 06:13 PM
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No one said it was easy. Women are free to make a claim for power as they desire. I personally dont care. The onus is on them to back it up. You want something, go get it. Simple if you lose oh well. If you die oh well. Nothing lasts forever
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 05:54 PM
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Women are bad at sharing their affection. If she’s cheating she damn near loves the other dude. Not the same for men. And young men maybe. In your mid twenties you know the difference between a cute girl and a good girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 05:49 PM
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Me are able to look at attractiveness in isolation. Shes not better, just cuter. Its just one of those differences between men and women. Subtle I know. Women are interchangeable to many men. It sounds harsh but its the truth. Women are more calculating and utilitarian in their assessment of men...on average
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 05:41 PM
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Sometimes. More skilled rulers have learned that you its better to rule by cunning than by brute force. And they know that if you do have to be heavy handed you do it out of the public eye. Take Obama for instance. He was no different than any other ruler but he was very charismatic. Trump on the other hand made many enemies and alienated a lot of people. Again my point stands. There is no referee. Power is gained through charisma or force. If women were meant for power they would have it. There…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 05:35 PM
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Then she isnt good at holding power. Again there is no referee. All is fair in the game of power. The ones that are good at holding it - especially in modern times are- good at masking their ‘bad’ deeds. A woman that is good at holding power can effectively navigate or get rid of her enemies while maintaining an image of civility. Women are bad at playing hardball so they lose. If they were meant for power then they would have it. Stop moralizing and get over your childish notions of fairness. P…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 05:20 PM
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Thats because i dont need a peer reviewed dissertation to make a point. Women cheat on men. I can guarantee that the reason is not because the hold their men in high regard. Men do not cheat for “better” they cheat for more. I wasn’t saying that my argument might be wrong, i was saying that my assessment of you might be wrong - apparently I was wrong about the white part People that value true intelligence in partners tend to be swayed less by visceral responses, mainly because they are able and…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 05:13 PM
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If women were good at getting and holding power then they would have it. Thats how power works. If you cant get it or hold onto it then you don’t deserve it. There is no referee.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 04:53 PM
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You assume that a low value woman cant be married or sexually attractive. A woman can be both of those things an lack discernment, character, moral standards, and self control. Thus low value
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 04:47 PM
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Yes people can do the same things for different reasons. I’m not justifying anything. The game was the game before you and I got here, and the game will be the game whether you or I accept it or not. It existed 1000 years ago, 100 years ago and it exists today. I’m just putting it in plain English. I might be wrong but I assume that you aren’t that hip to social dynamics and their history outside of your relatively comfortable, sheltered, white, middle class, modern existence.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 04:40 PM
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Or be openly non monogamous
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 04:24 PM
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No, it follows that men are polygynous. Different heads of the same snake Intelligence doesnt yield the same visceral, pussy tingling effect that sexual polarity does. Sexual polarity is less of a factor for you. We weigh intelligence with our conscious minds we dont with sexuality
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 04:11 PM
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Moreso less pressure. You can go with the flow instead of treating the relationship like a race with checkpoints. You also know that younger women are more fickle and that the relationship probably wont last even if she doesn’t know it, and you make peace with that. Most women understand the game by 18 so i dont know where the naivety argument comes from. No one can be manipulated or controlled with out their consent. If ive been manipulated in the past it’s because i let it happen
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 03:53 PM
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25% of marriages 40% of relationships. Rates of male and female are approximately equal over a lifetime. Definitely non trivial numbers and these are only estimates based on reported cases any case this is a lot considering the intent of a monogamous relationship and marriage. That was the defense. Women cheat and leave men for other men they perceive to he more masculine, attractive, popular, well off etc or they leave or cheat with the intention of doing so. Hypergamy is also expressed in STRs…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 03:41 PM
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What year in human history did these things stop being true?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 03:31 PM
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Not just rich dads and princesses. Tech bros, finance bros, music and entertainment industries, Sales. The quality of the girl on your arm can def score you points, connections, and opportunities in these circles. Thats why i said upper middle class. This is a cinderella fantasy that just doesn’t happen that often. Well off women arent out here saving poor men in statistically significant amounts. You misunderstand. Female hypergamy is less about jumping class and more about optimization. Woman …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 03:28 PM
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Many women date men for the sake of having a parter. Many women also date men that they are not fully attracted to for the sake of having a partner. Many women settle for men that are less than the ideal partner that they have in their head or for a man that may be less attractive than a man in her past for the sake of having a partner. Many women will engage in sex with a man this closer to this ideal given the opportunity even at the expense of their current partner. MANY, but not ALL. Hence t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 03:08 PM
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Depends on how much she uses her rational mind. Hypergamy and polygyny are reflexive. You need to first be aware of your own hypergamy and 2 you must recognize it a something that you want to correct. Many women do neither because its so inbuilt. Thats why cheating or breakups are attributed to “It just happened” or “I’m not feeling it anymore” Attraction is like a light switch it women. This is something that transcends civil society thats why when its brought to light many shame or deny it bec…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 02:56 PM
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Infidelity and divorce rates indicate otherwise. Women typically dont divorce or cheat on men they are attracted to. Women also arent fawning in droves over soft skinny cute boys, thats the point. I dont deal in absolutes and and i dont reconize fringes as the norm. ON AVERAGE and absent social conditioning, women are attracted to stereotypically and phenotypically masculine men, and ON AVERAGE men are are attracted to stereotypically and phenotypically feminine women. ON AVERAGE most men are ph…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 02:39 PM
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Exceptions to every rule. My argument is based on collective collective male experiences that have made it online, film, print,and visual media across time. I agree that personalities and values lie on a spectrum. You and you circle are on the low end. I have close friendships with people like you but I am well versed, well read, and well traveled enough to know that you aren’t the norm
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 02:05 PM
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Im not excusing anything. I don’t think anyone should cheat or enter into monogamous agreements that they do not intend to honor. I’m breaking down the game the best way I can. I have no stake in this argument
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 01:40 PM
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I like analogies. The simplest way I could break it down.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 01:37 PM
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As a man i say yes you should expect that. Im pretty consistent with my effort. You are consistently punching above or below your weight. If you want to fuck someone then you want to fuck them if you dont you dont. There’s no need for any ulterior motives. Date people that you are truly attracted to. There shouldn’t be a wide spectrum in your interest level
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 12:04 PM
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It doesn’t have to be trading. It could be a lease or a test drive. The point is that its a car. This car isn’t giving me the the same issues as my other car. Or maybe my other car is fin but i just want to take this one for a spin. In any case i have no emotional attachment. After all its just a car. I need to get from point a to point b. I didn’t say that one was better just different . Although female infidelity tends to be more destructive because of the attachment she develops to other men.…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 11:57 AM
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I want women to be honest and consistent. If you want a polygynous lifestyle then be openly polygynous. If you want monogamy the be monogamous. The same should go for men. Don’t make monogamous agreements when you desire polygyny. Make a decision and stick with it
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 11:51 AM
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So much for women intuition. Or are men infinitely cunning master manipulator geniuses? You know by age 5 that mfs lie. Learn discernment and stop being quick to enmesh yourself with people you barely know.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 11:43 AM
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But she leaves to repeat the cycle with another man, smart.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 11:30 AM
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Nah its not the same. Getting a the same honda with a better paint job isnt the same as trading it in for a Bentley. Thats the difference in men an women
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 11:29 AM
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Also this is another example of the apex fallacy in women’s minds. All men did not do this to climb the social ladder - upper middle class and upper class men did/do because they are vying for status in these circles. Middle class and poor men (the vast majority of the male population) have nothing to gain by doing this. Female hypergamy on the other hand is carried out at all levels of socioeconomic strata. In middle school, in the projects, in the suburbs, in shantytowns and favelas. Its enter…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 11:26 AM
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Its not trading up its trading in. Like when your favorite sneakers get too dirty so you buy a new pair of the same style. When women cheat they usually feel that the new man is “better” in some capacity. Women are more or less interchangeable to men. A cute feminine woman is a cute feminine woman no matter how you spin it. Regardless of her clout/money/“career”. Except for men who work in status oriented industries or hold status oriented positions, those things simply dont matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 11:12 AM
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Money, Clout/Status, and Assets are largely irrelevant to men when selecting women. Women on the other hand screen for these consciously or unconsciously even for casual sex partners. Men like women that are cute and fun to be around. A man’s attraction to his partner wouldn’t change if he met a woman that was marginally more feminine. A woman’s opinion of her man would be altered if she perceived him to be marginally less masculine than other men in her circle. There is very little grey area wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 11:05 AM
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Damn thats fucked bro. People disappoint me
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 01:38 PM
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Situational awareness is being able to assess the credibility of a threat rather that just blanket labeling everything that makes you nervous a threat. Your conscious mind should balance your unconscious reflexes. Thats like the cop “I thought he had a gun/ I feared for my life” defense. Its a lazy primitive way of navigating life.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 01:32 PM
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Lol a guy told me he realizes the juice probably won’t be worth the squeeze so his mentality is “lets just cut to the chase” OLD will be success rate will probably be the same regardless so a super direct approach can be a time saving cost benefit thing. Like you probably wont become a couple/wont get married/wont have kids - so lets just skip the formalities. Thats why OLD is useless. Talk to women in public lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 01:23 PM
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The orgasm gap is bs. Dont keep fucking people that dont make you cum. Simple
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 04:01 AM
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Things like that can be found our early on-thats a first date convo. Many incompatibilities are obvious from the beginning. People choose to ignore them for the sake of having a warm body next to them
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 03:59 AM
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Fair enough. To elaborate I was more of a doer, but I ignored personal branding and social media partially due to shyness and insecurity and partially bc I didn’t think it mattered. My mentor convinced that it does so i tapped into it and its helped professionally but I’ve become disillusioned by the shallowness of it all.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 04:30 PM
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The solution to that is to be someone worth marrying/coparenting with. The ones who are dont stay on the market very long. And the dont have a string of str/ltr
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 04:16 PM
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Why? I’m white collar and my work has status benefits but i dont see it a being better a plumber. Especially on raking in half a million. Is it ego? To me status is just a tool to make money, internally I really dgaf about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 02:45 PM
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A decent job, a high status job, and hight paying job are different things. I make good money but spend a fraction of it. $150k is plenty like wtf else you need materially out of life. Besides ego spending
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 02:42 PM
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Lol why wouldnt you date him
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 02:39 PM
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Why I said wants lol. Its a aimless clusterfuck to me tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 01:33 PM
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Thats what im saying tho. I wouldn’t fuck someone that was bad at sex more than once. Assuming the sex is great and the vibes are great, how is anyone being used. I also get confused when women say this - What is the end goal? A wedding, kids, and a white picket fence? What people call ‘serious relationships’? They are usually just as fickle as casual relationships. Breakup and divorce statistics can attest to this. I dont need a gf to have sex. And I certainly don’t need one for money. So the c…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 01:25 PM
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I dont get that sentiment. I you both enjoy the companionship and sex its a win win. You can be manipulated for money. But I don’t understand feeling manipulated out of sex
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 01:12 PM
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I agree. It just reads funny lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 01:05 PM
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Politically, feminism wants to expand the rights and privileges. Socially, feminism is a check on men and the game. Women and men (and humans in general) are locked in a state of simultaneous cooperation and competition. Feminism seeks to minimize the competitive aspect (bc if women they play the mens game against them straight up they will surely lose). They do this by regarding the competitive aspects of society and male nature as shameful. All while promoting cooperation. It puts men into a p…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 01:04 PM
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Lmao lie about everything
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 12:50 PM
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I’ve always been active in my community, have a lot of professional, entrepreneurial, academic, and athletic accomplishments. I have been genuine in my efforts to improve the world around me and the quality of life of the people in it. Somehow when I bought a couple of designer sneakers and had a couple more attractive women around me, I started getting more IOIs. My work was valued more. Suddenly I became an “inspiration” rather than an average dude with accolades. People wanted to interview me…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 12:12 PM
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I dont think thats a human thing. I cant see any reason to lie about your desires. I like cute fit submissive women. Anyone offended by that can suck my dick lol. And its not that cut and dry. If you average and assholish you will do better with women than if you’re average and nice/chill.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 11:51 AM
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Not saying that the dont enjoy sex. Im saying that there are often other underlying motivations for their promiscuity that they may or may not be consciously aware of. When evaluating someone as a potential partner you should be aware of this
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 09:09 AM
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Also having more than a couple of ‘serious relationships’ is a red flag too. How many times do you need to go through it before you learn?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 09:03 AM
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Exceptions to every rule. IME there is a huge over lap. Enough to recognize it as a pattern. Hence my post
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 09:02 AM
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Its moreso about the inconsistency and lack of intentionality. Many of the sluts I know want LTRs but seem to feel that casual encounters with dozens of sexual partners is the way to get there. Makes no sense. If you want a ltr, date with intentionality and only give your time to likeminded prospects. Building a healthy monogamous relationship is easy if you are smart about it. If you want a poly lifestyle then own that. But know yourself and know in certain terms what you want. Trying to poly y…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 08:58 AM
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If it happens more than a few times that means you lack discernment and don’t learn from past mistakes. Take the time to vet your partners. Head over heart
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 08:47 AM
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Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 01:42 AM
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You get it
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 07:48 PM
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I have a “meh”/take it or leave it attitude toward casual sex, despite having a high sex drive. I happy with my sex life. With maturity I’ve learned that I don’t need to give in to every whim and desire that my body has. I have a full life that brings me enjoyment. Fucking indiscriminately is pretty gross to me though. There is a large overlap between the women I have casual sex with and the women I would date. A cute face and good conversation is a pretty low bar to set when deciding who to fuc…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 07:43 PM
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Pointless is what way? No more pointless than any other observation one might make. Nothing is hard and fast. And PLENTY of men fit this mold? Im sex positive. number isnt a factor. If you feel the need to lie to maintain your lifestyle thats a problem. I you use sex for validation thats a problem. If you don’t care enough to vet your sexual parter’s-also a problem. Otherwise fuck away. It’s hard to believe that someone is able to have a huge n count while also desiring monogamy. More people are…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 04:58 PM
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My assessment was gender neutral and applies to both men and women. Saying Sluts are women who like sex is a gross oversimplification. Sluts use sex for validation. Sluts are manipulative and dishonest in their sex lives. Fucking 1000 people doesn’t make you a slut but the former are usually true about the individual if that is the case
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 01:21 PM
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My assessment was gender neutral and applies to both men and women
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 01:16 PM
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Why do you and other women in the sub continue to make the argument about women. You are conflating women with sluts. My assessment was gender neutral. Having a large number doesnt make you a slut. Sex for validation and sex to fill a void does. A sex life characterized by lying and manipulating does. True some people (men and women) practice a promiscuous lifestyle openly and honestly. My assessment is of people who are promiscuous and functionally non monogamous enter into monogamous agreement…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 01:15 PM
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I wasn’t speaking only about women. Nor was I shaming anyone
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 10:12 AM
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Hence the fickleness I mentioned
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 10:12 AM
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I was gender neutral in my post. My assessment applies to both men and women. These are simple observations from on persons lived experience and shared stories throughout in major US metros , small towns, island nations and world travels. Not a hard and fast rule. Im happy with my dating life and hold no ill feelings towards any women. I accept that life is complex and people are fallible which I why I made it clear that this wasn’t moral judgement. Just simple behaviors pattern recognition
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 10:07 AM
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I was pretty gender neutral in my post. My assessment applies to both men and women
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 10:01 AM
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Yes. Women don’t have a monopoly on this. These behaviors are equally abhorrent in both genders
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 09:53 AM
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Not interchangeably. I used them as adjectives but I didn’t type the each time throughout. You have fair points. I attribute the failure of these relationships to a lack of honesty with oneself and a lack of intentionality and preparation. The healthy monogamous relationships that I witness exists because they new in their early adulthood what kind of relationship they wanted and they nurtured and developed the skills in themselves to be the best possible partners. Analogy: Say I am a former ath…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 09:49 AM
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I cook very well but I wouldn’t want to cook every meal for me and my girl. Having a woman that can’t cook is infuriating lol. Also when women cook for me there is a nurturing, feminine energy that they exude that I love. Hard to describe. But I suppose its the same feminine energy that compels men to enjoy the company of women in the first place
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 09:33 AM
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I never assumed that. The issue is that some ‘Sluts’ choose monogamous/pseudo monogamous relationships knowing that they dont want them. They never nurture the skills for them. The fact that someone would knowingly enter into a monogamous agreement with someone else knowing deep down that it isn’t what they want is pretty ridiculous. If you want variety then be poly/non monogamous. But own it. Be honest with yourself and others about it. Don’t pretend to want monogamy. And don’t spend your early…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 09:26 AM
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This kind of proves a point about the dishonesty thing
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 08:40 AM
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I just observe behaviors. N count doesn’t necessarily matter. Character does. Promiscuity is often but not always indicative of certain character flaws
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 07:44 AM
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You’re missing the point. See the edit
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 07:43 AM
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You’re missing the point. See the edit
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 07:42 AM
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No. These are observations about sluts in general. And I thought I made it clear that I was referring to both men men and women. You assumed I am referring to only women and are conflating women with sluts, and have taken a defensive position. I dont need to engage in self destructive behaviors in order to observe them. I make a point to keep the company of people whose character I admire. Some enjoy casual sex, but they do not use sex to validate their egos or as a pleasure drug.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 07:40 AM
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My experience is that they love to be validated by fucking moreso than they love to fuck. A subtle difference. Its a tool to feel good or get what they want rather than an shared moment of sexual expression.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 03:10 AM
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Yea I suppose im speaking moreso about people under 25
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 03:04 AM
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I actually wouldn’t call them headcases - Just the average insecure person. I haven’t met or known of many sluts that weren’t the slightest bit manipulative and attention seeking. Or that was willing to be 100% open and honest about their dating life among partners and prospects
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 02:58 AM
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Lol. I was essentially defining a slut in this post. Slut = Promiscuous headcase TLDR lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 02:47 AM
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My point was that a number alone doesn’t make you a slut. It is the mindset of the individual. Sex is cool. A lot of sex is cool. Using a lot sex to fill a void is unattractive. Using sex to advance through the levels of some perceived sociosexual hierarchy is unattractive. Sex should be about sex. And this post was gender neutral. The same phenomenon occurs in guys yet women tend to ignore this for whatever reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 02:28 AM
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I know lovely sluts too that are amazing as platonic friends or maybe casual partners. But their undesirable habits and behaviors tend to reveal themselves in LTRs. Attention seeking, narcissism, and insecurity for instance. For many (not all) sex is used to fill a void. My social circle now is pretty blase about sex. But I make sure to only keep the company of emotionally mature people. I have a high sex drive but I dont feel the ‘neeeed’ to have sex. When I do act on my desires it is because I…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 02:16 AM
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My argument is that these behaviors more often than not come with sluttiness. To quote another commenter “I have never met a well adjusted slut” I agree sometimes its nice to fuck for the sake of it. I used to give the benefit of the doubt more freely but upon closer inspection I have found that promiscuity has been a symptom of deeper issues in others. The overcome this someone would need to intentionally take a break from fucking and dating as SERIOUSLY work on themselves. They would need the …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 01:52 AM
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See my edit. Thx
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 01:26 AM
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See my edit. Thx
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 01:26 AM
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See my edit. Thx
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 01:26 AM
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