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It’s hard for me to imagine this playing out in reality, because in most cases an attractive woman wouldn’t need to ‘lead a man on’ in order to get him into bed. I’ve had a crush on this one girl for years, she was dating a friend of mine and once they broke up a few months ago I asked her out - she just straight up said she didn’t want to date me, but was open to having sex. Obviously I did, even though I initially wanted something more serious. If she had led me on and promised something roman…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 04:00 PM
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Definitely. Probably the top criteria for me are kind, funny, sexy. And by sexy I don’t mean ‘physically attractive’, it’s more of a personality thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 03:21 PM
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Not like actually dumb, but not as intelligent as me? Yes. Actually, that was one of the biggest comments my friends made about the longest relationship I was ever in. They said she wasn’t ‘intellectually equipped’ to be with me. It actually pissed me off. I don’t want to sound like I think women are only good for sex or whatever. This girl was such a sweet, kind, silly, loving person, and she just melted my heart. I’ve never laughed as much in my life as when I was with her. I certainly liked h…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 02:40 PM
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I disagree. Love without lust is just friendship. I love my male friends but I don’t want to fuck them. Lust without love isn’t the basis for a solid relationship, but love without lust is a death sentence. Having both is the bare minimum.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 06:32 AM
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If a woman genuinely likes me and is attracted to me, she’s going to want to have sex with me. If she doesn’t want to, she probably doesn’t like me that much and the relationship will go nowhere. It’s not so much about the actual sexual act as what it implies. If a woman will fuck some other guy on the first date but not me, she should go be with that man and stop wasting my time. Any romantic relationship that doesn’t include intense physical desire is dead in the water. It’s not about ‘giving’…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 06:12 AM
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I’ve got my own maturity, wisdom, and life experience lol. If I want to have a deep conversation I’ll talk to myself. That’s not what piques my interest in a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 05:41 AM
1

More confident, more sexual, more open minded, more ‘weird’. The kind of person who has no filter and just does and says whatever they feel without caring what anybody else thinks of it. That’s the only kind of woman i want.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 05:23 AM
2

Not really. I see women every day who get me going, or I’ll think back on past sexual experiences, and I masturbate more or less every day
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 12:13 PM
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I think you’re reading it backwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 07:07 PM
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Lmao you’re talking about the Canterbury Tales? Yeah, a fictional character in one book is definitely representative of every religious order that has ever existed in history.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 02:18 PM
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What is ‘the monks introduction’? There have been literally thousands of religious orders throughout history.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 01:01 PM
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I know plenty of guys who are as good looking as him who haven’t had the success he’s had. And im kind of similar to him on a smaller scale. Fairly average looking, but doing much better than other average looking men I know. If looks and social skills are both variables, I think social skills count for more than looks, though looks matter too.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 11:34 PM
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That’s fair, a lot of these guys don’t seem to have much sense of self-efficacy or desire to engage with the hard work of personal transformation. But also I think if more men were made aware of these alternate paths, and they were presented as something admirable and honorable, they might find their place there. Modern culture is very materialistic and sex-focused, and I think a lot of these guys don’t even consider the possibility of doing something radically different. Those who seek out thes…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 09:25 PM
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Most religious orders were populated by both types
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 08:40 PM
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Joining a religious order used to be a pretty common path for the younger sons/daughters of a family who didn’t have a clear path to married life laid out for them - it wasn’t necessarily something they sought of their own free will, but it provided a haven for people for whom a traditional family life wasn’t in the cards. Obviously you can still become a monk if you really want to nowadays. But it was, in fact, an outpost for failed bachelors at certain points in history which may have provided…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 08:11 PM
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For me, if there were one factor which has the greatest influence on dating success, it would be sociability. The man I know who has had the most success with women is physically attractive, but he’s also one of the most sociable people I’ve ever known. And he wasn’t always physically attractive, he was obese when we were in high school, and over the course of like a decade got in shape, found a style that worked for him, and has just relentlessly tried to fuck every single attractive woman he m…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 07:31 PM
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🙏 🙏 🙏
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 07:20 PM
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I don’t feel judged per se, but I feel a lot of my friends and male family are kind of confused and incredulous by my lack of desire in pursuing marriage and family. It’s not like they’re calling me scum, they just really don’t get it. For them it’s the center of their entire lives, and they can’t wrap their heads around a person just not caring about it. They feel like they have to do it in order to be a real man.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 07:06 PM
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To red pill males, if you’re not trying to lock down a tradwife, you’re a degenerate, nihilistic, hedonistic. To blue pill men/women, if you’re not capable of being in a long term reciprocal relationship with women, and just want sex once in a while, you’re a misogynistic, emotionally stunted man child. I think asociability is much more common in men than in women, and there’s a large portion of men who don’t really want to get married, but don’t want to die virgins either. And some men who prob…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 06:52 PM
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Probably not lol. Most modern churches have had to resort to basically becoming entertainment venues to get people through the doors. Hence these megachurches where they have choreographed rock concerts with people being flown around on stunt wires. People just aren’t religious like they used to be, they expect to be gratified and entertained.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 05:54 PM
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Most of the religious young men I know still engage in casual sex without any social consequences. Modern religious culture is a lot more lax in general, it has to be, because religiosity is declining rapidly across all wealthy nations. Churches are fighting to retain people’s attention rather than being the unquestioned authority they once were.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 05:49 PM
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Ah thought you were replying to my original comment, my bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 05:44 PM
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My point is that naturally asocial men in modern culture often view these solitary pursuits as a kind of defeat because they’re pornbrained and influenced by modern dating culture, whereas in the past the psychological barriers to embracing that type of life would have been lower, because the culture placed a lower value on male sexual conquest than we do now.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 05:44 PM
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How many shepherds do you know in modern society who earn a living wage? If you want to pay your mortgage nowadays, assuming you live in a wealthy nation like I do, you’re basically forced into a highly social work environment where your social behavior is scrutinized on a daily basis.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 05:37 PM
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Modern society has a radically different view on male sexuality than was prevalent in the past. Chastity was considered a virtue for much of history, at least in monotheistic cultures. Who nowadays aside from Mormons and Orthodox Jews actually presents male chastity in a positive light? Really boomers are where this shift happened imo. Boomer men always seem perplexed that I’m not trying to fuck everything in sight like they were when they were my age. To them, that’s what being a man is. The ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 05:30 PM
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Most of those highly solitary jobs literally do not exist anymore, or not in large enough numbers, or they don’t pay a living wage. The US is transitioning to a service economy, where the good paying jobs revolve around socializing. But it’s true that an asociable man could still take a job on an oil drilling platform, or a container ship, or a national park, etc. But the bigger issue is that modern culture attaches so much value to dating, sex, and relationships that even men in traditionally s…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 05:14 PM
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I agree, and I think modern men are hurting because there’s not really a social role in our society for men who cannot attract a long term mate. We used to have monks, artists, philosophers, sailors, cowboys, career soldiers, hermits, men who were accepted and sometimes even admired despite not being suitable for marriage for one reason or another. Nowadays a lot of people consider a man to be a failure if he dedicates himself to his craft, and doesn’t have the time or energy left over for roman…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 04:35 PM
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Yes in the first 5 years, basically dead bedroom for the other 5, which is when all the problems started. She was actually pretty chill when we were in school, but over time she turned kind of mean. So the sex didn’t really justify it either lol. I’ll admit she was very intelligent, well read, intellectual, and my friend is too. That was the main thing he liked about her. But there are plenty of smart women out there, it really did not make up for what an unpleasant person she was.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 07:36 AM
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That was literally his mindset. It was sickening to watch because she was basically rotten to the core as far as I could tell. And she wasn’t even that hot lol. She’s poly now with a stable of uggos wrapped around her finger.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 04:18 AM
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Not just lonely, but low self esteem. I’m lonely but I would slap a bitch to Jupiter if she ever pulled that shit on me. But yes, there are men who put up with that and worse. Not even necessarily unattractive men. One of my best friends is very tall, handsome, charming, and had tons of admirers when we were in high school together. He ended up in a 10 year relationship with a girl where he worked 60 hours a week to pay all the bills, while she cheated on him, pressured him into threesomes he di…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 03:42 AM
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I dated a girl who wanted to start an OF and we made content together. The money was pretty good, and there was a certain ego thrill to getting paid for fucking a hot girl with a bunch of people watching. What I didn’t like is that she had to actually engage with these guys, respond to DMs, make custom videos for them, etc. I asked to shut it down and she did, but there was some resentment because she made a lot of money. That put a strain on the relationship that it never quite recovered from. …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 03:48 PM
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Sexually obsessed? Yes. Otherwise, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 03:21 PM
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I agree. I’ve always felt a need to compensate for my looks by being really good in bed. I’ve had to work hard to build attraction with the women I’ve dated, but once I get them there, there’s a ton of passion and lust, and they’ve enthusiastically done some very freaky stuff with me. I can confidently say that my sex life has been far more wild than what most attractive men have ever experienced, although I have a lower number of partners overall.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 04:09 PM
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This is just my personal experience, but I’m not very attractive and I’ve experienced about half the things on OP’s list. Women don’t take one look at my face and immediately want to fuck me, but the women I have dated lusted after me, initiated sex, did kinky things with me, wanted to have sex frequently. I’d suggest men take a more balanced version of OP’s view. A women not immediately wanting to have sex with you on the basis of appearance alone isn’t the end of the world. But if a woman does…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 03:55 PM
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I don’t want to make assumptions but also these guys must be fucking up in some major way if they’re getting security called on them. I’m basically imagining the scene from Smiling Friends where Dr. Psychotic tries to hit on a waitress.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 03:34 AM
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Nothing really. I was sad, I guess? I don’t want to blame the men here not knowing anything about them, but how tf do you get security called on you for asking somebody out? I’m not even hot, but short of being like ‘show me your tits, bitch’, I’m failing to imagine anything I could do or say to get that reaction. I wish I could be a fly on the wall for these interactions to see the moment it all went wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 12:28 AM
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For me ‘real life’ interactions work better than these contrived meetups and social events. By which I mean meeting people at work or through friends. My advice to young men who struggle to meet people? Get a job in retail or food service. There were so many women who would never have swiped right on my face or said yes to a cold approach who took an interest in me because we were bored working a slow shift and got to talking about life. I feel like these meetups and hobby clubs and such have a …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/25 02:51 AM
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I find lesbians weirdly attractive. Part of it is that I just like short hair, but something about a woman who acts more masculine and assertive gets me going too. Generally I prefer very cute, feminine women, but I would certainly be willing to try something different.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 03:57 PM
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In my early 20s I was always interested in older women but felt like I was too young for them to take me seriously. Now I’m getting to the age where I’d have more of a realistic chance. Haven’t really considered dating older women in a while but maybe it’s time to give it a try. The was this one woman I did some work for in my early 20s who was like 55 but looked incredible. Whenever I’d finished my work she always invited me to stay for dinner and drinks. We’d sit and have cocktails and chat fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 06:04 AM
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True, maybe I should be trying to meet divorced women lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 04:31 AM
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Nothing against women my age or older, but a lot of them are partnered up or not prioritizing dating. I don’t really intend to get married or have kids so I’m mostly looking for casual.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 04:18 AM
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Very true. I’m 28 and hooked up with a 22 year old recently, but she made jokes about me being an old man. And I’m 28 lol. Still got probably 50 years left on this bitch, don’t know who I’m gonna fuck for the rest of my life. Use your youth while you’ve got it. Do not wait around if you want to get married.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 11:05 PM
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The lesbians I know have the most outlandish rizz. They understand women 110%, which I guess shouldn’t be a surprise. But this is good advice. Listen to lesbians. They love women, obviously, but they’re not idealistic. They have no illusions about how women really behave but somehow manage not to become bitter. It’s admirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 07:46 PM
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It has nothing to do with dominant personality traits. I admire my boss a lot. I’m working at my first job as a cook, and he’s always taken the time to train me, mentor me, teach me new things about food, answer any questions I have about how the business operates. He’s never raised his voice with me, he’s always calm and understanding when I make mistakes. At the same time he is a no bullshit kind of guy. Very serious, very focused, very blunt style of talking. He expects me to work hard but he…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 11:51 PM
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Reading your other comments, I see what you mean. I enjoy game nights with friends but most people who go to these things are already coupled. If you’re specifically trying to date there are other places where you can meet way more single people in a night.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 07:43 AM
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This comment genuinely makes me kinda sad lol. That’s literally a perfect environment to make friends. I mean what’s wrong with hanging out and playing some games?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 11:18 PM
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I’m not sure if you meant it this way, but isn’t the whole point of the post you’re responding to that having friends help you socialize is a good idea, and it works? Like maybe that guy couldn’t go to the club solo and pick up a girl, but isn’t that why it’s a better idea to try and make friends and be part of a social group if you’re not so hot women are throwing themselves at you?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 11:16 PM
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I have a coworker who’s a lesbian, and she said one of her exes deliberately crashed her car during an argument, launching her face first into the windshield and putting her in the hospital. I was like ‘so that was the end of that, right?’ And she was like ‘nah we dated for a few more years’. Completely anecdotal, and I’m not basing my entire opinion of lesbians on her, but I’ve never met any man who’s told me a story like that … I was like you are fucking crazy lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 05:16 PM
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Exactly. Thinking about her face didn’t do much for me, but imagining me her whispering in my ear and dominating me drove me crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 05:33 AM
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Not really, I just thought she was interesting and sexy. Something about her personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 08:32 PM
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“You don’t understand how the world works, bro. Ask Perlexity AI to learn the truth” 😂 😂 😂 can’t make this shit up. The founding fathers and revolutionaries were terrorists in the technical definition of the term. They carried out attacks against civilian targets with the goal of furthering their political agenda. They were terrorists.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 05:58 AM
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This country was founded by terrorists.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 05:29 AM
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I feel bad even talking about this woman in this context lol, cause I still think she’s awesome. But when I was 26 I fell in love with this 33 year old girl who was a raging alcoholic and looked about 40. Completely average or below average in terms of face, body, had a mullet and dressed like a lesbian. She was perplexed by my interest, but I thought she was so cool. Very smart, very individualistic, very bold, assertive personality. She had a lot of unique hobbies and interests. Traveled the w…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 03:13 AM
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“You think it’s ethical to kill a sociopathic capitalist who ruins people’s lives for profit? Have you ever considered that people who rape children are exactly the same as you? 🤓”
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 11:54 PM
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It doesn’t make a huge difference but it’s still cool,
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 09:39 PM
1

Luigi isn’t attractive just because he’s hot. Not saying that him being good looking hurts, but also he blew a healthcare CEO’s brains out and a lot of us want to do that too. He’s just an admirable person.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 07:43 PM
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What he did was based and people admire him as a result. What’s wrong with that?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 07:40 PM
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Well, if nobody has given you honest feedback up to this point, why do you think that is? Women will give harsh feedback if you make them feel comfortable sharing that. So why don’t they feel safe sharing these things with you? It’s never easy to hear, but you can get that feedback if you really want it and push for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 06:29 PM
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I don’t think that’s true at all. Women have always tried to be kind to me. Are they always honest and helpful? No. But they’re not there to teach you how to be a man. They are just surviving the same as everyone else. It’s your job to figure out life and decide who you want to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 05:59 PM
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Yeah but nobody is going to do that because you would probably start sobbing and they don’t want to deal with that. Figure it out on your own. That’s life.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 05:56 PM
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Why not just mind your own business and be happy with yourself? If you’re obsessed with other people being tormented because they don’t act like you, that’s doesn’t seem very happy to me. Obviously you like yourself and your life, so why not just enjoy it?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 04:40 PM
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Then why are you complaining? If you’re happy with your life I’m happy for you. But you’d sound kinda pissed off.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 04:36 PM
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If that’s how you conduct yourself, I respect that. But you’d better get used to the way the world actually works if you want to get anywhere. I’m not saying it’s good or fair, but it’s reality. Life sucks. This world is a god forsaken mess. Learn to navigate it or separate entirely. And frankly I respect that. There are times when I want to move to a cabin in the woods and be alone forever because of the BS I have to deal with. I have massive respect for anyone who chooses to be alone so they c…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 04:31 PM
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Yeah they just see that you don’t feel good about yourself and will say literally anything to try and smooth over the situation so you don’t start crying. It doesn’t really mean anything, they just genuinely want you to be happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 03:31 PM
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They’re literally just trying to be nice. Women are socially conditioned to consider people’s feelings and try to make them happy. Would it really have been better for you as a young man if women were like ‘Ew you’re gross, I wouldn’t touch you with a ten foot pole’? Sometimes you have to read between the lines. I was like POW skinny when I was young and insecure about my body. Women would always say, ‘being skinny isn’t a big deal, I think you look good!’ But they didn’t want to sleep with me. …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 03:08 PM
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Yeah I mean that’s tough, but also it doesn’t make you a victim. If you’re autistic and don’t understand basic social dynamics, you’re not being exploited. You just need to work a little harder to learn the things everyone else is learning.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 03:05 PM
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Apologies, but may I ask what exactly you’re referring to? I know it’s a debate post but I agree with OP and want to participate in the discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 03:00 PM
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Everybody lies lol. Welcome to the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 02:54 PM
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If you take people’s words at face value, that’s your fault. Not just in dating but in everything. If an employer tells you that they treat their employees like family, would you believe them, or would you turn and run the other way? You have to learn how to read people and observe their behavior, see what they’re really doing. Actions speak louder than words.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 02:51 PM
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Idk man when I was in high school the girl I thought was hottest was dating this like short chubby Jewish guy who was a drama student. I wouldn’t describe him as an asshole but he was definitely a cocky son of a bitch. Not the world’s nicest guy but far from the worst either. He was always friendly with me. There was one guy who bullied me when I was in school but he got no bitches because he was an insufferable racist asshole, and was balding at 16 due to taking steroids. There’s nothing immora…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 02:49 PM
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I was definitely the guy who asked his mom how to date at one point. But looking back I was just being stupid. Can’t really claim I was a victim. Real life was happening right in front of me and I caught on fairly quick.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 02:23 PM
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Yes that’s possible. I got some crappy advice from girls when I was 14 and I’d believe it, at first. Then I’d look at their boyfriends and be like ‘huh …’
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 02:15 PM
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Exactly. I’m not that attractive whatsoever but there have been times im describing to a woman how irresistible I think she is and what I would do to her and she starts giggling and blushing and getting nervous. I have no game whatsoever, but real emotion is powerful. That’s always been my strategy. Most of the time they just tell me I’m a disgusting pervert but sometimes it pays off like you wouldn’t believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 07:59 PM
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Seriously 😂 I can’t believe the deranged, horny things that I say when I’m really down bad for a girl. And they seem to enjoy it. Even if they don’t fuck you it’s an ego boost to see a really attractive woman be turned on by your compliments. Makes you feel like your words have power.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 07:27 PM
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I feel lucky in that I’m kind of a loner. I’m not very attractive, I’m not rich, I’m mentally ill, but I also have no desire to get married or have children. I like being alone. I’m able to get hook ups once in a while. I’m certainly no player, but something comes along every few months or so, and it’s enough for me. I’ve been with some pretty hot women, certainly hotter than I am, and I think my lack of emotional neediness helps a lot. I’m not trying to lock them down, I don’t care if they slee…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 08:29 AM
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A lot of men do this. I’ve always done the opposite. It is genuinely easier to flirt with women who you think are super hot. I’ve hit on a lot of women who were completely out of my league. Most of them were like ‘ew, why is this little nerd trying to fuck me?’. But also I’m amazed at the funny, bold, charming things that come out of my mouth when I’m looking at a woman and just astounded by how beautiful she is. It’s like some evolutionary instinct kicks in and my brain is just like ‘get her pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 11:03 PM
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If I’m interested in a woman, I’ll approach her and flirt with her. I’ve never really considered how I would signal a woman to approach me. I feel like that’s more of a woman thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 03:49 PM
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Lines are when you crush up drugs and shape them into a thin line to be snorted. Pills are like prescription painkillers, anti-anxiety drugs, and stimulants/uppers which can be used recreationally.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 06:08 AM
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One of the biggest, most cathartic revelations of my dating life was that I didn’t struggle with dating primarily because I was unattractive or awkward - it’s that I have a pretty low tolerance for socializing. Nothing against women in particular but after I finally got in a serious relationship it was just a bit much for me. I love being alone, sleeping alone, being free to make important decisions without considering the opinions of others. It actually boosted my confidence a lot when I realiz…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 05:11 AM
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I’m like 7 inches, which doesn’t sound that huge to most women because a lot of guys exaggerate their size. I’ve had women ask me my size before hooking up and when I told them 7 inches they weren’t that impressed. Then when they see it they’re like ‘what the fuck’. It’s hard for me to really gauge my own size relative to other men as well because i haven’t seen that many dicks lol. It’s the same thing with height. I’m exactly 6,1” barefoot. People always tell me I must actually be 6,3” because …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 05:03 AM
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You don’t need the vast majority of women to find you attractive to have a good dating life. It’s like the IRA said to Margaret Thatcher ‘we only need to get lucky once’ Most of the women I’ve slept with probably didn’t find me that physically attractive, they just thought I was funny. Or they were bored and horny and I was in the right place at the right time. That’s why OLD is a bad idea for most men. Like yes when a woman is swiping through tinder and has thousands of options, she’s going to …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 01:54 PM
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I love my job 🤷 rich people have responsibilities too.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 01:53 PM
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I mean yeah if you’re looking for a scientific study on how to date I don’t have one. Most of the studies that exist on the subject are worthless anyways because they’re just poll-slop that can’t be replicated. My experience is anecdotal, but how else are we supposed to talk about what ought to be an intimate, emotional human experience?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 08:49 AM
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That’s honestly all you need lol 😂 never apologize for being you but be kind as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 08:31 AM
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Being blunt and direct and assertive doesn’t necessarily mean being really masculine and dominant. I’m a very emotional person, growing up I had a lot of female friends, and I feel like it helped with talking to women when I got older. I definitely have a feminine side and I’m not afraid to show it. That’s what I really mean by having no filter. And I don’t want to say that looks don’t matter at all. Even though i don’t consider myself attractive I’ve stayed in pretty good shape. That’s really t…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 08:19 AM
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My personality is basically just that I have no filter and will say any crazy thing that pops into my head. To me it sounds like your friends are trying too fuckin hard. I don’t mean to be harsh, I didn’t lose my virginity until I was 20 and I’ve had some year long dry spells in my dating life. There are times when things got very dark and lonely for me. But what keeps pulling me through is that I really don’t care about impressing people and just do and say what I feel. My game is that I have z…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 08:07 AM
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I’m not a player lol I already said that. I’ve had a pretty average dating life with a few wins, many defeats. But the wins are so fucking outstanding that I don’t look back with any regrets. If your condition for happiness is that you have a 10/10 dating life where you get to fuck every single woman you’re attracted to, then yeah, you’re going to be miserable forever 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 07:51 AM
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Tinder really fucked me up and I’ve vowed to never return to it. Good news is that I meet much more attractive, kind, and open minded women in real life. Most of the women I’ve dated are women I worked with or went to school with, met at social events, etc. it’s cliche to say ‘touch grass’ but holy mother of god do some people here need to touch the grass and realize it’s really not that fucking difficult. Living your life online and hating everything is pretty much the most painful thing you co…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 07:45 AM
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I’m 28 years old, a raging alcoholic who downs half a bottle of whiskey per day, I wasn’t considered cute or handsome even when i was 20 years old, I’m balding now, I’m severely mentally ill, and make $40k/year. And I’ve still had sex with beautiful women and been in relationships with women who truly loved me, and none of them ‘wore the pants’ at all. I have known men who’ve been in situations like you describe, and imo it’s because deep down they actually wanted it. I’m not the kind of person …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 07:33 AM
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Because what a person does with their dong in their own time is incredibly revealing of what their true personality is. I’m thinking of my closest friends here - we’re very open about our dating lives and talk honestly about what’s going on in our lives. I can’t imagine any of these guys having an AI girlfriend because we’re actual human beings who care about love and passion and want to experience these things with actual flesh and blood human beings. Like what the fuck. Maybe I’m just getting …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 07:24 AM
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Because it’s fucking gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 07:13 AM
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Yeah if any man I was friends with told me he was in a ‘relationship’ with an AI companion, I would cut him off, permanently. Just proves he can’t handle any type of relationship where he’s not 100% in control, and can’t handle disagreement or conflict. Which would probably make him a shitty friend as well as a shitty boyfriend. Whether you have sympathy for ‘lonely’ men or not, calling some fucking language learning model artifice your girlfriend is completely repulsive and I’d be looking for t…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 06:48 AM
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The men I know who contribute most to their marriages are traditional Muslims. They very obviously feel intense pressure from everyone in their lives to ‘be the man’ and make sure their family is well taken care of. I can’t really imagine any of these guys getting divorced, it’s just not part of their culture. They’d rather work 80 hours a week than have their wife get a job. It’s individualist American culture that makes people feel like they can step out on their marriages the second it become…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 12:24 AM
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David Lynch was my hero. His dedication to his craft, his authenticity, his honest, compassionate way of speaking. His unapologetic willingness to be misunderstood in the interest of doing something new and original. He is exactly what I think a man and an artist should be. Stefan Burnett from Death Grips is up there for me too, and for similar reasons to Lynch.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 04:15 PM
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Sounds like words that would come out of my own mouth 😂 when I was a kid I’d act superior to everyone and adults would praise me and gratify my ego. Now I’m an adult and there’s no one to gas me up. It’s been a big adjustment.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 10:57 PM
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I wish I’d been humbled more as a child. Like ‘Even if you’re talented, you still have to get along with the other kids if you ever hope to have long lasting friends or get married’. Instead everyone acted like I was going to be the next Mark Zuckerberg, which isn’t even something I wanted. Now I’m wrapping my head around what went wrong and working towards fixing things but I feel like I’m just now learning things most people understand by the time they’re 21.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 10:45 PM
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I relate to this comment a lot. My parents were extremely loving and supportive, but they also thought I was a child genius. I’m a pretty smart man, but I’m not Leonardo Davinci. They let me get away with anything as a child because they expected great things from me. As an adult, I feel like I can’t function in relationships or the world in general because suddenly nobody gives a fuck how smart I am if I can’t fulfill basic social responsibilities. And I never learned how to do that, never had …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 10:26 PM
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I’m not at all opposed to age gap relationships when they work, but I did recently, for the first time as a 28 year old man, feel that I was too old for this 22 year old girl I was crushing on. After talking with her and learning more about her life, I realized she was just a kid trying to have fun and experience new things, whereas my life is pretty serious and boring (in a good way). I still like her as a person but my desire to date her dissipated - I can’t stay out till 2am on a weekday drin…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 02:59 PM
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Replace ‘comfort’ with ‘survival’ and yes you’re right on the money
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 07:22 PM
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Sounds like a good way to get strangled 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 06:57 AM
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No, I’m borderline OCD level obsessed with cleanliness and simply could not live that way. My skin would be itching every time I stepped into her apartment.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 03:20 PM
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I appreciate your open mindedness, but let me ask you this: have you ever actually dated a sex worker? I had an onlyfans page with a long term gf for about a year. It was her idea, but originally I was all for it. She was hot, we had a great sex life, and I wanted to show it off. In time I realized that while I don’t have shame around sex, I’m a deeply private person and don’t want that aspect of my life to be a commodity for the enjoyment of weird perverts online. And ultimately they were there…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 07:45 AM
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It’s objectively true, in that plenty of misogynistic attractive men are loved by women. If they like getting fucked by them they can’t say the bigotry is a deal breaker 🤷
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 01:20 AM
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I’d ask what the offense was, and I’d need to see proof, as in documentation. I would also look up the case myself if public records are available. If she refuses to share the nature of her crime and prove it, I’d assume the worst. If it’s something like public nudity I wouldn’t judge at all, I’ve gotten freaky in public places that could potentially have landed me on the SO list. If it’s anything to do with children, or sexual coercion of another person, I’m out.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 06:57 AM
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It always surprises me lol. I grew up watching porn, so when I think ‘big dick’ I think of some 10+ inch hog. Then in real life women are like surprised by how big my dick is and act like they’ve never seen anything like it before. Maybe they haven’t. I can see how porn could really do a number on guys who are average or below average, even I feel barely above average when compared to those guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 05:58 PM
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Slightly over 7 inches and thick, nothing really exceptional but bigger than most.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 03:42 PM
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I once got laid based solely on the size of my dick. It was a tinder hookup, and it was literally the only thing she was interested in about me. But we didn’t really vibe that much on a personality level, and she stopped texting me back after a few ‘dates’. So they won’t stick around forever just for size alone. I certainly wouldn’t say that having a big dick means I ‘never have a problem’ getting laid. I’d probably have much more sex with a small dick and a prettier face. It’s like you said, th…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 02:39 PM
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1950s woman. I see a lot of people saying they’d take the modern woman because they want an equal partner, but frankly I wouldn’t be surprised if the 1950s woman was more headstrong and resilient than most modern people. A lot of women who were adults in the 50s would have worked during WW2 and faced all kinds of challenges we can’t imagine today. Nowadays everyone has a n x i e t y. Modern women are no more impressive compared to the women of the past than the average modern male is compared to…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 10:49 AM
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My take: personality matters a lot more than looks with women, but personality is largely a matter of innate psychological temperament, and it’s no easier to change your personality than it is your body: you can dress it up and put some flair on it, but you can’t change it to something else entirely. Men don’t want to acknowledge this because of the bs our society teaches, that ‘you choose your own mindset’ or whatever. They’d rather be blackpilled about their looks that their personality, becau…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 05:28 AM
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Being self amused and unattached to outcomes, pursuing lots of options simultaneously, looksmaxxing, pursuing romance/sex openly without pretending to be ‘just friends’ first, demonstrating value through social proof and life accomplishments
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 08:31 PM
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Implementing red pill strategies is how I got my first gf. Contrary to what many say, red pill is popular because it works, and many men have used those ideas to improve their dating lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 06:21 PM
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Personally, as a not very attractive or confident man, I’ve had more success with online dating than in person. Over text I can send well thought out messages and jokes and show my intelligence, whereas in person I tend to sabotage myself with awkward body language. By the time you get to the in-person stage with online dating, you feel like you know the person somewhat and can be more secure that they like you too. Online dating seems like the optimal system for socially awkward men, and I doub…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 07:48 AM
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I’m not sure therapy is helping women that much either. Many women are disappointed by therapy, or they continue for months/years without significant improvements in their mental well being. Therapy just kind of sucks as a means of addressing mental health issues, which are usually caused by external circumstances.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 04:50 PM
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Emote more. A lot of men tend to have dry, reserved, unemotional personalities. Women generally don’t value stoicism the way men do, and most men can’t pull off the ‘strong silent type’ thing in an attractive way. Basically, overreact to everything all the time, and pretend that everything is a much bigger deal than it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 06:30 AM
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Walk around Mississippi, it’s lard central
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 07:17 PM
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So Democrats are what, conservative?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 07:16 PM
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He became addicted to Benzos and decided to avoid the withdrawals by being put into a medically induced coma. He had to go to a shady doctor in Eastern Europe cause no Canadian doctor would agree to do it. In the process he suffered brain damage and hasn’t been the same ever since. He forgets words, cries a lot, makes incoherent posts on twitter. It’s pretty sad really.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 06:42 PM
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He was a good psychologist before he went insane. His downward spiral over the past 5 years has to be one of the worst I’ve ever seen.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 05:26 PM
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I personally love anal, it’s my main kink. I don’t think I could go without it long term, but I don’t mind waiting a while if a woman needs to be more comfortable with me. I told my last gf I liked anal but didn’t try to do it with her until like 6 months into the relationship when the mood was right. If it was permanently off the table that might be a deal breaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 04:19 PM
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People repress their own sexuality because they feel society expects it. Your previous comment basically laid out the influences which lead to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 04:49 PM
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What of it? They’re horny af in a way which modern films very rarely are, regardless of their age rating.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 04:47 PM
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So basically, they’re sexually repressed?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 04:28 PM
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You mean the sexual revolution which happened in the 1960s? Things have changed a little bit since then. Open expressions of male sexuality in particular are much more shamed and repressed in the 2020s, and even women have become more prudish in their attitudes. Compare a movie like Friday the 13th or Nightmare on Elm Street to modern films which are reluctant to feature sex scenes because Gen Z feels they ‘don’t contribute to the plot’.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 04:20 PM
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That has nothing to do with sex in and of itself. We’re far more accepting of LGBT and other marginalized identities, but far less accepting of open expressions of sexuality, particularly in ‘real life’ interpersonal environments
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 04:06 PM
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They have less sex, hate sex scenes in media, and are less sociable in general. Something like 45% of Gen z men have never asked a person out on a date in person. You can’t be an authentically sexually expressive person without occasionally making someone uncomfortable. In the past that was accepted as a part of life.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 04:04 PM
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This is very true, but it’s easy to come to view women as asexual when they never want sex with you in particular
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 04:03 PM
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The current generation of young people are much more sexually repressed than boomers, Gen x, or even millennials were at their age. You’d have to go back to the silent generation to find people more repressed than we are.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 03:53 PM
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Gable was known to be an introverted person with a cynical view of the Hollywood social scene. I see the attitude expressed by the quote as being specific to him, rather than some general statement about male nature. I kind of relate to it because I’m a loner myself and hate dealing with other peoples emotions. I don’t use prostitutes though.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 01:15 PM
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If you ask a woman if she considers herself a feminist and she says yes that’s a good thing, it shows she has self respect. If she tells you ‘I’m a feminist’ within 10 minutes of meeting you without being asked she’s probably obsessed with it and will be utterly insufferable.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 05:41 AM
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I love a woman with a tummy. Especially if she’s wearing some low cut jeans with a little bit of a muffin top … oof. I also love body hair generally. Not just the bush but legs, arms, armpits. I’ve never been turned off by body hair in my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 05:02 PM
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Doesn’t cause it, doesn’t stop them either lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 03:32 PM
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I’d wager that people who kill themselves are more likely to have tried meds and therapy than genuinely happy people. In my experience, there’s a direct relationship between how miserable a person is and how much therapy they’ve done.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 03:11 AM
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We’ve created a society so fixated on comfort that any degree of discomfort or unhappiness is viewed as a ‘disease’, when in reality, that’s just life. Life hasn’t been pleasant or comfortable for most living things since life began.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 12:37 AM
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This is what amazes me. I know guys who are ‘players’ and the amount of time and effort they’ll dedicate to having sex with a woman once is astounding. I don’t think the guys on this sub really comprehend how much work these guys put in. It certainly isn’t ‘easy’, although it seems to come easy to some people who naturally have a lot of social energy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 09:54 PM
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Ok, so you have meaningful connections outside your marriage, but you’re opposed to encouraging your partner to have an active social life outside your marriage?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 10:03 PM
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This is how married couples end up old and alone in their house with no meaningful connections beside eachother. Not something I’d want for myself or a person I love.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 08:11 PM
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Partners should encourage one another to maintain an active social life which is separate from their marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 07:59 PM
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Women aren’t honest about what they want, or may not even know what they want. They say they don’t care about muscles, but when I started lifting weights, I got tons of compliments on my body, women feeling me up at work, even making negative comments about other men’s bodies during sex. I went on a date with a woman who said early on that women ‘aren’t looking for some kind of bodybuilder’ apparently in reference to my physique. Then when we had sex for the first time, she was running her hands…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 05:24 PM
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Ikr? Imagine if women bought artificial replicas of male genitalia so they could pleasure themselves without interacting with men. That would be so fucked up.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 08:31 PM
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I agree, it’s highly offensive to compare any group of people to wild predatory animals.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 03:06 PM
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If you switched the question to ‘would you rather be in the woods with a bear or a black man?’ I have a feeling you’d get it, although it shouldn’t change the answer
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 01:26 PM
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I see women as being just like men, I don’t really believe in ‘innate psychological differences’ between us beyond a few trivial things. I’m also a solitary person and skeptical of people’s intentions, so I’d describe my feelings towards men and women as ‘wary’.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 08:48 PM
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As a bisexual man, I can confirm that women absolutely have higher physical standards than men. I’ll have fit, handsome, charming men hitting me up on Grindr while simultaneously getting zero matches on Tinder with the same photos. It’s so obvious to me I can’t believe there’s any debate on this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 08:27 PM
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I definitely have a type, to the point that there are women who are widely considered attractive I would not sleep with given the opportunity. I do think my preferences are more strict than most men’s, but I’m not alone in that either. Personality can also be a deal breaker, if a woman is good looking but I don’t like her, I’m not willing to spend time with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 05:55 AM
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Why do women feel they are entitled to a ‘hero’? Men don’t expect the women they date to be to ‘heroines’. Wtf does that even mean? Are you looking for another person to rescue you and solve your problems?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 09:50 PM
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Women are ‘blamed’ for wearing revealing clothing if they claim that they don’t want people looking at them or admiring them, or more specifically, because they make videos confronting men who they believe looked at them. Not because wearing such clothes provides a valid excuse for them to be sexually assaulted. I have literally never seen a man say that here, or heard it in real life. I’m aware a significant number of men do think so, but I’ve never heard it expressed - because they know most p…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 05:17 PM
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‘Each and every time a woman is sexually assaulted, attacked, etc. the first question men asked is ‘what did you do to cause him to behave this way’ This is hilariously untrue lol. It happens, but not every time or even most times. Most people feel bad for women who are violently attacked.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 05:08 PM
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We’d spend more time warning them about bears if it weren’t assumed people already know bears are dangerous. I guess we shouldn’t assume that lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 05:01 PM
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Bears are generally non-hostile, but there’s a non zero chance you could encounter a hostile one. With men it’s the same, but your odds are generally better. When you consider how many men the average woman interacts with in a lifetime, and how few of them are violent, there’s really no comparison.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 03:52 PM
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Bro I’m not fighting in the next war either ✌🏻
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 05:06 PM
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This is one of the few things I find that men are actually fairly open about. It’s an extremely common source of frustration, one I’ve talked about to many friends, and had many friends express to me. Even men who get laid regularly deal with jealousy, heartbreak, not attracting the caliber of woman they really want, fumbling ‘the one’, etc. Attractive men still feel the squeeze of hegemonic standards and rising competition in the dating market, especially if they’re not rich.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 09:13 PM
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Personally I miss the days when people kept their problems to themselves instead of turning on the phone camera every time they feel like crying and complaining.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 10:19 AM
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If people really knew and integrated that belief, they wouldn’t ask half the questions that get posted on this sub - I’d wager that’s why the response is so common. “Why did my ex make fun of me for being broke then leave me for a guy with no job?” Because he’s hot and you’re not. It’s the only honest answer you can give to most men’s posts here. It should be more obvious, but it’s a hard pill to swallow for many people.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 08:43 PM
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6/10 women have plenty of options aside from 6/10 men - she could easily date someone more attractive if she really wanted, or find another man of equal attractiveness who’d be happy to commit. Frankly I find the premise a bit of a head scratcher cause I don’t know many 6/10 men who can regularly pull 8s. If this hypothetical man is you, maybe you’re better looking than you realize, or have pretty good game? Either way, it sounds like you know what you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 02:12 PM
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These guys who swipe ten thousand times per day aren’t healthy - that’s like hours and hours on end with your eyes glued to Tinder, every single day. I’ve done it myself so i know it does work, but it’s completely dehumanizing and not worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 11:44 PM
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Just because people act nice doesn’t mean they are nice. I’ve known men who were accused, with good evidence, of horrific sexual and violent crimes. I’ve since dissociated from those men, but I can’t deny that they were always kind to me and a positive influence in my life. Many people live a double life. Just because you have female friends doesn’t mean that women are all love and light.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 09:58 PM
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Tbh, all the female friends I’ve had were either women who rejected me but who I still wanted to spend time with, or women I rejected romantically whose company I enjoyed. There is a romantic subtext to most male/female friendships, I won’t say all, but most. It’s somewhat rare for a straight man and woman to be buddies with no subtext at all. That said, I’ve had female friends throughout my life, some of them quite close. I’d say I’m better at it than a lot of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 03:36 AM
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Probably true, but men in dating spaces are more likely to be gym goers
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 09:17 PM
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I’m sorry, but a person with relatively abundant dating options saying they could be unhappy if they compared themselves to those with exceptional dating options doesn’t make much impression on men who can’t find a single person of relatively equal attractiveness to be with. Ultimately, if you really wanted what your skinny friends have, you could do what I did - go to the gym 4 days a week, every week for 5 years while eating a high protein diet. The difference is that if you did that, you woul…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 08:20 PM
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Why would you be upset about men dating skinnier women when you still clearly have plenty of options for both fat and skinny men who are interested in dating you? If I had the pick of several women to date I wouldn’t be worried what anyone else is doing either. As for why I match with these women, I’m really not that picky and find chubby girls attractive, but most of the time when I meet up with them they’re like 50 lbs heavier and it’s obvious from differences in hair and style that their phot…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 05:25 PM
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My first attempts at love were all harshly rejected and I’ve never really gotten over it, in that I’ve never been open to caring that much about somebody since then. Even if I wanted to I’m not sure I could. Some of the women I’ve dated as an adult have accused me of being cold and distant, not really caring about them. I’m not sure how different I’d be if I had better experiences early on, maybe it’s just the way I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 05:45 PM
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The only part of a relationship it can replicate is texting and video chatting, no touching, no sex, no activities, none of the good stuff. Texting is easily my least favorite part of a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 02:07 AM
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Women generally do not sit around going on about how ‘logical’ they are. They may be egotistical in other ways, but the obsession with rationality is 99% of the time a male trait.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 02:45 AM
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I wish women who dated genuinely bad people had higher moral standards (and vice versa), but I still want to participate in the dating world like any normal person so it is what it is 🤷
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 05:45 PM
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Sex is just one form of social validation. If some guy in my town was a known wife beater and I gave him a big double thumbs up every time I saw him in public, then washed his car for free once a week, that would be also be ‘rewarding an asshole’. Having sex with a person is one of the greatest forms of social validation, so the moral value of the person you’re sleeping with is relevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 01:11 PM
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They’re probably with intelligent women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 04:04 AM
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Men are judged as socially awkward because they’re intelligent - intelligent people get along perfectly fine with each other, but have a hard time relating to people significantly less intelligent than they are. The same is true of the inverse, but when people of average intelligence struggle to relate to those smarter than them, they’re not labeled ‘awkward’.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 09:28 PM
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Being prosocial and altruistic doesn’t make you a good person, because human society itself is not moral or admirable. The reason people (men and women) like ‘assholes’ is because they’re antisocial enough to resist the social conditioning which turns most men into castrated, ‘cooperative’, lab rats. Even if these men might be borderline sociopathic, that’s preferable to someone who will bend over backwards to follow the rules of a society which does not give a single fuck about him - a society …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 11:22 PM
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My advice to men is if you want women to be kinky with you never treat it as a test of attraction and commitment - I said exactly that in my comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 04:33 PM
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Hey I’m all for that lmao. Sounds like you just don’t like anal, but plenty of people do.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 04:16 PM
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I never advised that men ‘pester’ for it. By the time it happens it should just feel natural, not like some big event. And if she never wants to do it then that’s that. Every woman I’ve done it with had already done it and enjoyed it before they were with me, so it’s just a matter of them feeling safe and comfortable enough to try it with someone new.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 02:54 PM
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I tell women upfront what I like and let them try it if and when they feel comfortable with no pressure on my end 🤷 if that’s manipulation then yeah, I’m Machiavelli lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 04:04 AM
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If we’re talking kinky sex (which I feel like we are), I would recommend men just be patient and open minded. I have a pretty good track record with getting women to do kinky stuff with me, despite not being the best at dating or the most attractive in general. Most of it comes down to making them feel safe, like you’ll stop immediately if they’re having a bad time no matter how turned on you are, and making them feel free to be slutty without being judged by you. The best way to get women to do…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 09:48 PM
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Yes, definitely. I have friends who are attractive and charismatic enough to make women instantly respond in a way that they never do to me, and it makes me feel awful. Experiences like that are a big part of why I’m so antisocial as an adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 05:09 PM
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Money can’t buy you a new ecosystem when this one fails
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 09:12 PM
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At least she doesn’t look like her lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 03:50 PM
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My dad is pretty much the definition of a ‘beta male’, but he’s pretty comfortable with himself and a happy person. My mom is an intense lady, she’s been a cop, journalist, and now works in special education. Very energetic and assertive. Im more masculine than my dad, but I’m also attracted to strong, assertive woman, I have a huge crush on this girl I know who does roller derby, skydiving, and is putting herself through grad school.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 03:17 PM
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It’s not just Americans. Aristocracy is a worldwide phenomena - people seem to have some instinct that certain people deserve to wear special costumes and live in fancy houses and tell everyone else what to do, while they themselves deserve nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 11:45 PM
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A lot of men consider it to be an effective strategy for keeping a woman’s interest. I’ve met a few fuckboy type men who will semi-ironically encourage you to be meaner to women, ignore them, disregard their feelings, etc., because it makes them want you more. It’s not just women either. A lot of people have a hard time distinguishing arrogance from confidence - the same reason men like Andrew Tate and women like the Jenners, despite the fact that they’re extremely unlikeable and act superior to…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 11:34 PM
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Sure, but for most women that initial crush is not enough to motivate her to take her time with a nervous mid 20s virgin male. She better realllly like you, or better yet don’t tell her you’re a virgin until you already hit 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 09:15 AM
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Unless they’re religious, most people don’t get to the romantic attachment phase of dating without having sex first.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 08:16 AM
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No, you can’t expect women to tolerate mediocre sex for the benefit of virgin men lol. You really really really should not expect that, because it is not going to happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 06:57 AM
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Eh I mean I’ve lied about plenty of things to them to save their feelings. I didn’t tell them about the time I almost got alcohol poisoning when I was 19 either 😂 but some people have a more honest relationship with their parents and I understand why it’s important to them
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 12:07 AM
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Whenever they’d ask I’d just say I ‘talked to a few people’ or ‘went on a few dates’ recently but ‘we didn’t click’. Usually this was even true. At a certain point they just stopped asking, since I’d basically refuse to say any more than that, and they got the picture.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 11:43 PM
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Yes, everyone tells you that you have to study to do well in school.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 05:58 AM
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Hell is other people
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 06:05 AM
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See on gay apps sending dick picks isn’t ‘harassment’ lol. Some men have nude photos of themselves in their profile. Most gay men are happy to see dicks or at least neutral because they like dicks - whereas women act like you just made them watch an ISIS beheading video.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 05:27 PM
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Why would I want to date a girl who’s going to attribute events in her life and my own personality traits to the conjunction of Neptune and the Big Dipper?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 06:51 PM
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Yes, though I don’t really blame men for it. Women are attracted to strong, happy, self confident men, and society is set up to make everyone as miserable and insecure as possible. Many men today are fat, anxious, depressed, have ED, are addicted to alcohol nicotine weed or harder drugs, and God knows whatever else is in our food air and water driving our testosterone levels down by the day. Many were raised without fathers and were prevented from facing normal, character growing challenges as b…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 06:54 PM
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You think Alladin is less physically attractive than Jafar? 🤔 🤔 🤔 his character design is meant to symbolize ‘old gay ugly effeminate man’.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 11:25 PM
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Would you say no to pleasurable experiences if they were freely offered to you? I’m guessing not. If women live hedonistically it’s because they don’t really have to seek it out, it just happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 05:43 PM
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Don’t worry. With inflation, we’ll all be making 6 figures before long.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 09:21 PM
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Bro’s never received a blowjob 💀 he ain’t never had that throat stroker deluxe
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 05:30 PM
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Tbf I’m a depressed mf and have urges to kill myself even when in a relationship but … sex and love are like the 2 things I’ve experienced in life that were actually worth the trouble. Everything else - career, hobbies, travel, whatever - is ultimately just bullshit. Human life is a meaningless ordeal. If you don’t even get to experience the best parts of it, I don’t see how it could be worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 05:12 AM
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Some fascinating reading for you: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Analogy
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 04:43 AM
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That’s like asking ‘why can’t women just ignore body standards in the media and feel good about themselves?’ Some do, others succumb to social pressure.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 01:22 PM
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Why? Having unfulfilled desires is painful, that is just a fact. For some people the sexual impulse is stronger than others. Imagine living your life hungry and never being able to eat.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 01:20 PM
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I’ll help my son by never bringing him into this shitshow in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 02:21 PM
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Nature is a meat grinder. Most natural beings live painful lives and die violent deaths. I don’t particularly care what evolution ‘wants’ me to do. Evolution isn’t a moral authority, it’s a blind and aimless process with no particular end goal.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 03:33 AM
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Wait they do??? 😮
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 06:00 PM
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If you’re trying to buy a house, or get your kids into a good private school, then yes, young men and carpenters are competing against old men and highly paid professionals. And your social status is directly tied to these markers of financial success.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 05:30 PM
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You don’t think men compete for finite social and financial resources?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 04:40 PM
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Probably because other men are our competition when seeking social and financial success.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 04:30 PM
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Philosophically I agree, but most humans have derived their sense of meaning from their role in society. When humans lived in small tribes no one questioned their purpose because every individual was essential to the survival of the group. In modern societies no one is really ‘essential’ unless they’re exceptionally skilled at some useful task, so we derive our sense of meaning from our value in the social marketplace. And in this sense, men are far more superfluous than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 04:25 PM
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Being an adult man just feels so pointless. You’re human but not really part of society. Nobody looks at you, nobody talks to you, nobody has a smile or a kind word. Nobody sees any value in you, besides maybe your parents if you’re lucky. If you try to connect with people, most view you as an annoyance and a burden. You can’t show your authentic emotions. You’re completely disposable to everyone, and it’s unlikely you have anything to contribute to society which someone else couldn’t do in your…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 03:49 PM
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I’ve always found this to be a dishonest talking point. Humans need relationships to be happy. Being happy ‘on your own’ is a very modern concept with little basis in the history of our species. It’s absolutely natural for a human to feel sad in the absence of strong relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 08:17 PM
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That’s the nature of an age of consent. The actual number will always appear arbitrary under close examination, but we still need to draw the line at some specific point.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 07:17 PM
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Sexual attraction isn’t based on morality
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 07:14 PM
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Absolutely. I’ve done it many times. I had a gf who would take forever to cum - like 20 minutes minimum if I was giving her oral. It was often physically tiring and not exactly sexually exciting for me, but I was glad to do it, because she put a lot of effort into our sex life and I thought she deserved it. We tried to be available whenever the other was horny unless we were like seriously depressed or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 03:53 PM
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Lmao what? If I see a hot girl in tight clothes I’m supposed to worry about her personality before I declare her attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 04:43 PM
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I hate this. I’m a decent looking guy and often get compliments on my appearance, have decent social skills, but I’ve never been very successful at dating. The guys I know who do the best are 100% the type who act like they’re the main character on their own TV show. I simply don’t see myself, or anyone, as being that big of a deal. I don’t see life itself as being particularly meaningful. To go around with this inflated self importance seems like a childish fantasy, yet if anything, adults take…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 10:56 PM
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Take a deep breath, relax. Anxious body language is very similar to threatening body language, which is how a lot of socially awkward guys get put in the ‘creepy’ box. If you catch yourself feeling tense take a breath and loosen up. Talk more slowly, less forcefully. Don’t fidget. If you’re going to pick up a glass or something, do it slow and steady.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 07:34 PM
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Being an average guy in the early 2000s wasn’t that bad because it included some measure of prosperity. Being an average guy 25 years from now will probably consist of living in a pod while you work 60 hours a week at an Amazon fulfillment center and go home to your AI chatbot wife. I think that’s why so many guys are so insecure.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 04:50 PM
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Sometimes women make jokes about me being boring. I have interesting sounding hobbies, like writing, filmmaking, painting, but in reality they consist of me sitting quietly in my apartment and working for hours on end. I don’t like to party, I’m not enthusiastic, I don’t have an edgy sense of humor, and I’m not planning on changing any of those things. So if women say I’m boring, I’ll just respond with ‘Yep. Im a grandpa’. After all, I’m not here to entertain them, and it would be more unattract…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 02:55 PM
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Maybe she shouldn’t have married him then lol 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 04:27 PM
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Really just a lack of common interests and goals outside of having a great sex life. We were loyal to each other, but ultimately just not meant to be forever. It’s a shame, but we had some happy years.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 06:06 AM
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The best sexual chemistry I’ve had was in a very egalitarian relationship with a high body count slutty feminist girl. I cried in front of her, we split bills, and were generally very open with each other. She was also the most unquestionably loyal woman I’ve dated. Once I broke my phone, and she instantly offered to lend me one of her old devices. It had all her texts and social media accounts logged in, I did a little snooping (unfortunately), and found that she instantly shut down every man w…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 04:08 AM
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I don’t care about money at all besides providing the basic needs and comforts of life. I’m an artist though, so women like us even when we’re poor lol. I don’t have the best game in general, but talking about the things I’ve made and the projects I’ve worked on is enough to get at least a friendly interest out of most women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 05:05 PM
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It’s better for them because when women cry, they’re comforted, but when men cry, they’re shunned.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 09:07 PM
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From age 20-25 I was with a girl who was close to my ideal of physical beauty, was hornier than I was, and the kinkiest person I’ve ever been with. The sex was just mind-blowing. We didn’t have a ton in common personality-wise if I’m being honest, but we genuinely liked each other, and we stayed together for years because we spent most of that time in bed. I think it was inevitable that we would part ways eventually but goddamn if I don’t miss the crazy, passionate, filthy sex we had all day lon…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 08:46 PM
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I’ve definitely seen women I consider ‘attractive’ that I’m not attracted to. My preference is thicc women so there’s a lot of tall skinny model types that I would agree are ‘hot’, but would choose a girl with an average face and a big butt over them in a heartbeat 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 09:55 PM
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There have been times I have resented my sex drive. It seems like it serves no purpose other than to torment me and waste my time. Even when I’m having a lot of sex, I’m never really satisfied. I always want more. It’s a thirst that is never quenched. It wasn’t until I started getting laid a lot that I understood why most religions hate sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 11:17 PM
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It could boost your game to a higher level if you’re already able to get sexual experience, but if you’re struggling, it’s not the solution
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 03:58 PM
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You generally have more sex in monogamous relationships, that’s where I’ve improved the most I would say.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 03:31 PM
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Just fuck a lot, it’s really tho only way - which makes this discussion a bit pointless lol. Being good at sex can’t help you get laid, because you have to get laid to get good at sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 03:04 PM
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Be more egoistic. You should be more worried about what you want from the relationship than what she wants. Be unapologetic in asking for the things you want, and don’t do anything you wouldn’t normally just because she wants it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 05:45 PM
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I can’t say whether he’s happy, whether he wishes he was married, although it seems to me he could marry easily if he had the desire. And these notions that Leo is dating young women because he’s ‘chasing his youth’, they’re ‘easier to control’, or because ‘women his age intimidate him’ just ignore the obvious: that young people are hot and fun to have sex with. I don’t think it’s any more complicated than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 04:57 PM
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I’d probably just cycle through 5 year-ish relationships with younger women like Leo.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 03:48 PM
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I don’t think there’s much trust in marriage anymore. Divorce is too easy, and men usually get the short end of the stick. If she’ll commit to you indefinitely without the legal contract, which she will if you’re hot, I don’t see the need.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 03:42 PM
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If I were so attractive I had my pick of women, there wouldn’t be much to gain from marrying one of them for life.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 03:22 PM
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I’d be nice to them, but I wouldn’t commit. Just casually date around, keep a few regular FWBs, hookup when I feel like it. Never get married.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 03:00 PM
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REM sleep is an objective thing which can be observed in brain scans, and which has been studied extensively. We don’t have a formula for what brings happiness to a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 04:20 AM
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Im not sure intimate relationships are meant to be measured quantitatively
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 03:44 AM
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You could keep a journal and record your thoughts about all aspects of your relationship, including your sex life, as well as your shared interests, life plans, and simply how happy you each are. I think that would be more useful than a spreadsheet of how many orgasms you give each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 11:40 PM
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Keeping data isn’t wrong. The fact that 3/4 of your chosen metrics are about sex is a bit sus.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 11:10 PM
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It makes me think of people who say they’re attractive to fit physiques but ‘don’t want someone who spends all their time in the gym’.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 09:14 PM
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My hairline has been receding the last 5 years or so, and I’ve been doing the buzz cut for 2 years now. I’d say it hasn’t hurt my dating life in any obvious way. Things have actually gotten better for me during that time, which id credit to putting on muscle and losing facial fat. I don’t think I would look good with a shaved head and chubby face.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 11:34 PM
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It’s true that straight men commit most violent crimes. It’s also true that they’re the majority of those who serve in the military and perform other rough, dangerous, socially necessary jobs. The fact that a large majority of men are straight means they will be overrepresented in almost all positive and negative roles compared to queer men. ‘Social issues’ are present in every subset of the population. There are social issues among straight men, gay men, women, old people, black people, which w…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 04:33 AM
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He’s young, rich, famous, and not bad looking these days. Hot women will fuck much older and grosser men than Jonah who aren’t nearly as famous.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 11:21 PM
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Don’t expect people to change once you start dating them. The way she dresses and acts and behaves online when you meet her is the way she’ll be forever, or at least that should be your mindset. If you don’t like her the way she is then don’t date her 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 10:34 PM
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I’m sure Jonah Hill never goes to any parties or social events where available women are present 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 10:32 PM
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I dated a girl who was pretty hot, she was a great person and not at all ‘crazy’. Besides making me very happy, it didn’t effect our relationship in any obvious way. It had some not so great consequences for her, however. She would get catcalled and hit on often, including by authority figures like teachers and psychologists. Guys were constantly in her DMs trying to fly her out somewhere, even asking her to marry them. She was self conscious about how people watched her in public. It’s a little…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 07:19 PM
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A scam? To get what, lemonade? It sounds like she was lying to you, but I don’t think it was a ‘scam’.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 07:41 AM
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My dad is very socially awkward and cringey, I’ve never really seen him be passionate or romantic with my mom. They’re great parents and they don’t fight, but there is zero genuine attraction there as far as I can tell. I do resent my dad somewhat for never teaching me the importance of good social skills. But at the same time I relate to him because in many ways we are the same. Both loners who are more interested in things than people. Possibly autistic or schizoid. I just wish they’d never ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 07:37 AM
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Yes. Physical attraction is the foundation of a passionate relationship, once that goes, it’s basically over unless you’re 65+ years old and have spent a lifetime together. It’s also a values thing. Your physical health effects your ability to perform basic tasks, to travel, go on walks/hikes, and experience the world together. Personally I have never been more than 20 pounds above my ideal weight without making serious changes to my diet and activity level in order to get back where I like to b…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 05:22 PM
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Romantic love isn’t unconditional
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 05:16 PM
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Or find a way to reinvigorate the attraction. Sometimes you just need to get out of a rut.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 11:18 PM
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You can get bored of an attractive person. Even if your partner is hot, at a certain point your sex life becomes routine, and it’s hard to keep the passion alive. It requires mutual effort and communication. An attractive person can also become less so with time if they gain a lot of weight, don’t take care of their skin, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 06:26 PM
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You can be good looking and bad at relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 08:22 AM
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The ‘alpha’ part of ‘alpha widow’ seems to imply that only a highly masculine man can make this impression.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 08:14 PM
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I’d keep calling her kitten and bat my eyelashes at her whenever I flirt
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 07:10 PM
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For the sake of conversation what makes Gordon not an alpha? Why classify him as a sigma?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 05:18 AM
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How is Gordon Ramsay independent of the mainstream when he make a a living on his celebrity?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 04:40 AM
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Women weren’t offered a choice between automated communism and having a career. Getting employment and earning their own income was a way for them to attain the financial autonomy which working men had, because they considered it preferable to being dependent on working men.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 04:03 AM
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I guess most women would rather be dependent on their own ability to earn a living than on a man’s who might not be around forever.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 03:50 AM
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The SAHM is dependent on two things: her husband, and her husband’s job. And while you can take direct responsibility for your work performance, a SAHM can’t make her husband any better at his job, or stop him from blowing all the money on gambling if he’s determined to.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 03:45 AM
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You’re still financially dependent on your spouse’s job as a SAHM, you just also have the additional intermediary of a husband who may or may not be an addict, abusive, or just plain dumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 03:39 AM
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Working from home earning your own money =/= being a stay at home mom who’s financially dependent on a man
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 03:37 AM
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Gordon is not a sigma by your definition. He’s the leader of his own corporations and runs like ten restaurants. He can’t just ignore societal norms, and he’s certainly dependent on validation from the customers who keep his businesses solvent. He might behave aggressively on TV, but he’s not going around screaming at guests and investors, I can tell you that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 04:18 PM
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When he was a producer on the Chris Rock Show, he did it in person to a lower ranking member of the team
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 04:10 PM
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Cause he did it to an employee
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 11:37 PM
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40% of women can’t cum without clitoral stimulation.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 06:50 PM
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He has a life. He likes meditating and reading books and playing guitar. Being a party-bro isn’t the only way to ‘have a life’.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 05:58 PM
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I was actually just thinking about that myself lol. Maybe I lucked out as a virgin, ending up with a girl like that. Gave me a way to stand out from the crowd.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 05:11 PM
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It’s a lot more effective too, most therapy is useless.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 04:50 PM
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Sex is more fun than therapy lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 04:34 PM
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Keep in mind other women cum super easy - basically guaranteed to have an orgasm with any halfway decent guy who can last 10 minutes. For those women, they probably just remember the hottest dude they’ve slept with, not the most ‘skilled’ one.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 04:34 PM
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Frankly I‘ve never much cared about being someone’s ‘best ever’, I think it’s something insecure guys worry about. But I was her first serious long term relationship, and relationship sex is generally better than ONS sex, so it’s not that shocking I was better than a bunch of Tinder matches.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 04:16 PM
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Tbh I used to wonder if I was bad at oral because of this, but with more experience I’ve realized she just had a particularly hard time cumming. She never came from penetration alone in her life, whereas other women can orgasm within a few minutes of you sticking your dick in without doing anything fancy. There’s a lot of variety in how sensitive women are to orgasm. Most guys who’ve been with a few different women could tell you the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 04:10 PM
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I was a virgin until I was 20, and the first girl I dated had a 35+ body count. My first few times with her were a little awkward, but once we got in a groove she said I was the best she’d ever had, mainly because I was the 2nd guy out of everyone she’d been with who made an effort to give her an orgasm - the other guy did not succeed. I obviously didn’t have exceptional sex skills, but I was willing to give oral until she came, even if it took 30 minutes. I also encouraged her to use a vibrator…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 11:46 PM
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One, but I’ve only met about 4 women in my life that I’ve had romantic feelings for. She’s 7 years older than me and drinks a lot, so she looks older, and was never all that hot to begin with. But I truly relate to her and crave her company, I think about her every day even if I haven’t seen her in weeks.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 08:38 PM
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Yeah, and he was a once in a generation mutant. Some people are born with an obsessive genius and require no other motivation.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 08:31 PM
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So what? That last 1% is a doozy
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 08:06 PM
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How is it evolutionarily ridiculous to care for someone else’s child? Can you not see the benefits to humanity, ‘the tribe’ or whatever, to take in kids who don’t have someone to raise them? We’re not chimpanzees that smash other people’s babies against the rocks to promote our own genes, we’re an intelligent, social species.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 07:57 PM
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Babe wake up, new copypasta just dropped. Edit: OP’s history is a fucking gold mine, I seriously thought this was an ironic post. “What would be some badass military style call sign for a hot air balloon pilot”
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 08:11 AM
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I’ve recently arrived at this place naturally - I still enjoy sex, but I don’t have any desire for a close romantic relationship. As long as my physical needs are gratified, I don’t mind being alone the rest of the time. Honestly it feels great, almost like a superpower, and I hope it never changes. Frankly I believe that love, especially the romantic variety, almost always depends on a delusional view of the beloved as being somehow ‘better’ than everyone else. You block out the unappealing asp…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 07:01 AM
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Most of those homes are paid for by dual income families. You used to be able to afford it with 1. That’s what I was responding to, as you claimed that the average wage today could provide an equal standard of living as it did 60 years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 06:58 PM
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Because the towns where houses cost $200k have $7 minimum wage and few well paying jobs. “How are they affording rent if they cannot afford a house” Ever heard of a ‘credit score’? Trust me, many renters are wondering the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 06:48 PM
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The average wage today is like 40k, most people 60 years ago owned homes. The average house in my area is like $650,000. The math doesn’t quite add up.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 06:39 PM
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If all I had to buy was a pig I’d be set. How much can they cost anyways, a couple grand? Nowadays you gotta pay for a $500k+ house and a family health insurance plan. Even with both spouses at work that’s beyond the reach of many peoples’ budget.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 06:21 PM
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Lol what? I’m not talking about economic trends since the 18th century, im talking about the past 60 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 06:00 PM
4

I’d consider myself part of the movement in a way. I’m a very motivated person and I have goals, but they don’t involve making money or pursuing traditional markers of success. Mostly I work on artistic projects, hobbies, and personal fitness. I hate consumerism and hope to contribute as little to the economy as possible. I’ve never worked a 9-5 in my life, I’ve always been self employed and worked odd jobs. I don’t want to dedicate the majority of my waking hours to perpetuating mindless greed.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 05:31 PM
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It’s a fact that buying power for the average consumer has declined significantly while corporate profits are higher than ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 05:25 PM
3

I’ve done CNC before on an ex-gf’s request, so have most of the guys I know. I don’t know 1 guy who is into CNC for his own titillation. It’s a predominantly female fantasy, and not surprising when you take an honest look at what turns women on.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 10:03 PM
2

Yes, but by being married they’ve made an explicit commitment to a romantic relationship, whether or not they feel romantic towards each other at any given moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 10:47 PM
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If you make a mutual commitment to a romantic relationship, then it’s still a romantic relationship after the limerence is gone. But if there’s neither commitment nor limerence, I don’t see any basis to call that a romantic relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 08:47 PM
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If there’s no romance or commitment, why would we call FWB a romantic relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 08:28 PM
2

I dated someone who was significantly less intelligent than I, but probably at least average or slightly above it. I don’t know if I could handle someone who is truly dumb, but if they were kind and authentic it could possibly work.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/23 04:50 PM
5

I often see older women I think are hot, probably not as hot as they were when they were 25, but still hotter than most young women. I definitely plan to find a partner who’s on the same page as I about staying fit and taking care of ourselves into old age. It really isn’t that hard, most older people can look nice if they keep the weight off, stay out of the sun, and continue to put effort into style/grooming. I don’t plan to have kids so that means more time/energy for us to work out and cook …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 05:22 PM
4

If women are already interested in you, there’s no need for game. Most men don’t get that kind of spontaneous interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 09:02 PM
11

In my experience, women are more rational than men, mainly because they’re not as secure in their opinions, and are used to being criticized whenever they express their beliefs - as a result, they’re more likely to consider opposing points of view. Men view their opinions as an extension of their ego, and once they’ve committed themselves to a certain belief, you’re not going to talk them out of it, because it will make them feel ‘less than’ to admit they were wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 05:44 PM
4

Hot take, I don’t think the Madonna/Whore complex is the terrible, dysfunctional thing feminists make it out to be. Sexy people often have an impulsive, hedonistic element which means they truly wouldnt be the best option for a long term partner. Men and women aren’t wrong for seeing things this way, they’re observing an objective reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 01:13 AM
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I’ve been working out consistently for years, and I don’t do it to spite anyone or because I’m angry. I’ve just gotten used to how my body looks and feels when I’m fit and get very uncomfortable if I start to slip out of shape. More than looks, I just enjoy feeling the strength and power in my body. I’d tend to agree that spite and grief are poor motivators for long term fitness success, but it’s a better outlet than alcohol or video games, that’s for sure. I did get picked on as a kid for being…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 01:14 AM
1

I commend her for waiting until she was financially stable to try for children, even if it didn’t work out. The hard facts are, if you conceive in your early 20s during peak fertility, you will likely not have the financial and social resources to provide your child with a decent life, because it takes until like age 35 to earn a decent wage in our fucked up economy. This video is a sad reflection on the state of modern capitalism, not one woman’s individual choices. She tried to do the responsi…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 06:45 PM
1

I really don’t understand how a chatbot is a replacement for a relationship. There’s so much more to a relationship than text messaging - like actually touching each other once in a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 04:38 PM
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I think all these women look sexy, and imo preferable to thin girls, I wouldn’t consider any of them fat. Most I wouldn’t even call chubby, besides the one on the far right. I’d guess they’re around 25-30% body fat, I’d consider 30-35% to be chubby, and 35%+ to be fat. Even then, there are some fat women I find attractive, mostly because they still have an hourglass shape, and their tits/ass are bigger than their stomach.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 04:33 PM
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I really can’t imagine ever wanting to interact with an AI ‘girlfriend’. That’s my personal bias, and one I think a lot of men of my generation will maintain. Whether the next generation will feel the same is a harder question. To me, texting is one of the least satisfying parts of a relationship. I date for sex and in person love and companionship, not to flirt over the DMs all day long. It just seems unsatisfying. Sexbots are more promising, and I would fuck a sexbot for a laugh, but there’s o…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 03:14 AM
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I’m not RP really, so the answer is definitely no. I’d assume there’s either something seriously wrong with such an woman, or she has an ulterior motive.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 04:01 AM
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Because it doesn’t work
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 06:34 PM
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I’m not sure if porn counts as sex work, I ran an Onlyfans page with a girl in the past and I enjoyed aspects of it - in the end I was too emotionally attached to her and wanted pure monogamy, so I became jealous and we stopped making content. I would try it again with a girl I didn’t have romantic feelings for, like a FWB. Getting paid to have sex with hot women is definitely an ego boost and the money can be pretty decent. As far as in person? I’m bi and I could see having sex with men and wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 07:28 PM
2

Is this ‘Brad’ in the room with us right now?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 08:48 PM
9

So men don’t bend the truth for their own benefit or employ double standards?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 05:17 PM
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What do you feel is your main obstacle to dating here? Looks or personality?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 05:12 PM
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I think most people who are making the comparison that the guy looks ‘so much worse’ are just taking the pic at face value, instead of considering the more masculine attributes the real man would have which would close a lot of that gap. And I’d estimate the girl’s height is around 5,5” based on the background and her proportions.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 03:45 PM
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One big difference is the app doesn’t make the man any taller - he’s way below average height for a man, but as a woman she’s in the normal range. And part of it is the nonverbal cues like facial expression and posture. If the ‘man’ was taller and making a more masculine facial expression he wouldn’t look bad at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 02:29 PM
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Because the girl looks like a feminine girl, and the man looks like a feminine man. For the same reason a Chad in a wig wouldn’t look fuckable to most heterosexual men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 10:06 PM
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I plan to remain fit and mentally sharp into old age so I can support myself. If that fails, suicide. It might sound bleak, but I don’t see it as a worse death than cancer or Alzheimer’s or a stroke, or any of the other ways old people go. Aging and death are not pretty. Even if you’re partnered, it’s probably not going to be a fun time. At least I won’t have to watch the love of my life die in front of me or vice versa. The good news is that with future medical technology, people will remain ph…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 12:37 AM
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I guess what I mean is I’m surprised they wouldn’t be into some hot younger male celebrity instead, as there are plenty of those. And I definitely knew girls whose crush was Zayn Malik or whatever, but it seemed like more were into older dudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 04:41 AM
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Is there a difference? I mean as a guy if I was attracted to a celebrity I’d definitely be down to sleep with them irl. Is it more hypothetical for girls?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 04:36 AM
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I will say that when I was in high school, I noticed that girls my age seemed more into 35+ men like Robert Downey Jr. or Chris Hemsworth than men closer to their own age.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 04:01 AM
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The 20th century was one of the worst eras of human history, so it’s not a very high bar for comparison
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 03:43 PM
5

Someone tell the kids this, they must not know, since they’re killing themselves in record numbers
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 06:32 AM
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I don’t really have a strong opinion on the far right, as I’m not a leftist or right winger. Your comment is a great example of the behavior you’re describing tho lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 12:46 AM
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You don’t have to take my word for it. Put on some incel YouTube channels, let the algorithm do its thing, and within a few hours you’re watching Hyperborea conspiracy videos.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 12:44 AM
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Most political extremists begin with an interest in relatively moderate content, then progress from there to more extreme views. Red pill/manosphere content is a common entryway into the far right, and fascist groups make a conscious effort to draw new membership by appealing to them with more ‘normal’ content about how to get a girlfriend, get in shape, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 12:30 AM
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The list of terms and traits the FBI screens for is about a mile long. None of these ‘red flags’ have any significance on their own, it’s how they fit a pattern.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 12:27 AM
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Or maybe widespread opioid addiction, mental illness, and climbing rates of suicide among minors are evidence that something is actually wrong in our society.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 08:26 PM
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Trying to act like a ‘cookie cutter chadsona’ might seem like it works if you’re starting at a baseline of zero dating success, because even fake confidence is better than no confidence, but authentic confidence will always be superior. It really is about evolution, and most of it is doing less not more. Does putting on a fake persona to earn the respect of others sound like what a confident man would do? Really the key thing is to stop being a people pleaser and feel entitled to say and do what…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 08:18 PM
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I used to think like this too, but once I developed my confidence more, I realized that it is simply better to be that way. There are no cons to being more masculine, confident, and socially intelligent. Even if it didn’t bring dating success, I’d rather be the way I am now than the way I used to be - what’s the point in being authentic if you’re insecure and don’t go for the things you want?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 08:15 PM
4

Well if a person isn’t looking to make improvements in their life before a relationship it’s doubtful they’ll start once they are in one
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 09:50 PM
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You don’t feel a desire to improve your life or mature as a person unless you’re in a romantic relationship? What about your individual well being?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 09:26 PM
2

You can hope, but it would be smarter to find someone who already has a more moderate relationship with alcohol.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 08:43 PM
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You should date someone who is already committed to changing and developing and will do so with or without you - not someone who changes only because they’re with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 08:34 PM
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If you choose to date someone who drinks heavily, you shouldn’t assume that’s going to change down the road. It might change, but you can’t count on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 08:33 PM
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Oh yeah I hate materialism. I believe in spending as little as possible to make The Line go down, and rich people whining about it is the best part.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 03:11 PM
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Yeah, i probably work 20-30 hours a week on average, I can sleep as much as I want, and have a significant amount of free time every day. My hobbies aren’t expensive, and I get sex from FWB. Getting married and supporting a family would be such a step down in quality of life for me that it’s not even funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 03:05 PM
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They’re not. Men will put it in the effort needed to make themselves happy and comfortable, but not the effort needed to extend that same quality of life to a wife and kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 02:55 PM
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This is my life. I’m living quite comfortably on ~35k a year and have little interest in moving up from that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 02:54 PM
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The international status that the US has enjoyed up until now is driven in part by our massive consumer spending - and a lot of that spending comes fro men peacocking for women. This is an issue in Japan currently - in the 80s men worked long hours so they could buy fancy suits, big watches, and take their dates out to expensive restaurants. Now a lot of Japanese men work the bare minimum necessary to rent a small studio apartment and buy a new video game once in a while. Back in the day, Americ…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 02:52 PM
1

So the world will be fine if the countries which consume everything decline in population, because the productive populations are still growing
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 08:34 PM
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Yeah, and the producing populations are all in poor countries lol. Wealthy nations have the consuming population.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 08:32 PM
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Virtually everyone in wealthy nations consumes more than they produce. Having kids is a net negative for the world unless they work in a sweatshop.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 05:05 PM
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If you can inspire intense devotion from a small number of people it’s unlikely you’d be incapable of forming connections with anyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 02:25 PM
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It is a binary to some extent. Either a person is capable of forming friendships with other people beside yourself, or you are literally their only option for socialization. Most people would find the latter to be unappealing. And most people feel more special when a person who is capable of making lots of friends chooses to devote time and attention to them in particular.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 08:39 AM
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Would you want a best friend who’s incapable of making friends with anyone else besides you?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 07:40 AM
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What are you, fuckin Charles Darwin?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 06:26 AM
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Lmao I have the same basic biology as every other male and I’m not gonna catch an STD in a porta potty for some mid pussy.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 05:17 AM
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Well they shouldn’t because it would be fucking stupid. Hoping men might have an ounce of self respect and not want an STD isn’t blue pulled
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 05:01 AM
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I get compliments on my looks fairly often, I wouldn’t consider myself ‘hot’, but physical attractiveness isn’t the main obstacle. I have decent social skills as well and usually make a good first impression. I’m funny and diplomatic; I’m the guy who never has beef with anybody and can always get a laugh out of my friends. My main issue is that I’m extremely individualistic. I don’t consider others’ opinions when making important decisions, and I’ll always do what I want at the end of the day. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 03:23 AM
1

Simple: always be on a hover board.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 09:27 PM
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Ehhh idk. I definitely wouldn’t, I don’t think most of my friends would, and not because we’re exceptionally desirable. I think a lot of guys believe themselves to be that horny and desperate, but if opportunity knocked, they’d realize they do in fact have standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 09:25 PM
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To me the purple pill is about accepting that women are basically like men: if a 10/10 girl threw herself at me, I’d probably fuck her in a porta potty with no condom. If a more average girl was interested in me, I’d be vetting for shared interests, long term compatibility, etc. This doesn’t make me some evil opportunist, it’s just human nature. When you dangle a shiny object in front of people’s faces, they jump at it. Ironically, RP traditionalists seem to expect women to be far more ‘rational…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 08:23 PM
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“Why are poor people so obsessed with money?”
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 05:35 PM
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Being tall, exercising, and pursuing success isn’t a ‘Tate mindset’. You can do all those things without being a narcissist douchebag. Men have been doing it for thousands of years without his ‘advice’.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 03:50 PM
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Idk about ‘rejected’ cause that would imply they’re asking me out, but being too nice is a turn off for me because it reads naive - and I assume they’d probably find me off putting as well. The nicest girl I know is honestly kind of dumb and interested in childish things. The women I like tend to be smarter, more self interested, and pessimistic about people. I think ‘nice’ should be reserved for people you know and trust, and the proper attitude towards the rest of humanity is ‘respectful but w…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 03:22 PM
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People here are way too fatalistic. My dating life has had very extreme ups and downs - the highs are very high, and the lows are very low. By far the biggest factor in determining my success has been my attitude, sense of self esteem, and motivation to improve myself physically and mentally. I’m not going to tell you that ‘anyone can choose to have a positive mindset’ or some bullshit like that. Life can be brutal, and it’s completely understandable to go through periods of hopelessness and des…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 06:46 AM
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Unlike a heterosexual man who isn’t attracted to any men at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 04:23 PM
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Deviating from the norm in general is a good strategy for men. I was pretty insecure about losing my hair in my mid-20s, but once I shaved my head, started lifting weights, and dressing more edgy, I actually get more attention than before, when I just looked like another white dude with brown hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 03:29 AM
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Except that most women who are matching with men on tinder are attracted to men, and are not homosexual
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 01:14 AM
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There’s nothing wrong with Grindr besides the fact that OP is presumably not gay. Gay men can easily find dates and hookups on Grindr.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 12:28 AM
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They think they’ll have that once they become high value enough, which is unlikely but not impossible.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 08:54 PM
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Being a SAHM is no longer an attainable goal for most women, because most men cannot support a family on a single income. This is an economic shift which has nothing to do with feminism. Even if a woman wants to be a SAHM, she’d be smart to develop some career skills in case she’s divorced or widowed, the husband is disabled, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 02:10 AM
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People don’t actually want that, they need money to purchase goods and services
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 01:43 AM
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Because people want to. That’s proven by the fact that these role reversed relationships exist at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 12:59 AM
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Have you heard of professional cuddlers? I’m not sure if that would violate your ethics as well, but I see it as better than paying for sex, and some of the women who do it genuinely enjoy it quite a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 06:15 PM
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Humans aren’t meant to be content alone. We’re born to have strong relationships with each other. That’s our primary function in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 12:50 AM
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“If you have your own business, you won’t need a relationship to be happy” The capitalist mindset summed up in a sentence.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 12:47 AM
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I’ve dated OF girls and created content with them, I wouldn’t mind doing it again, but I’m also not a provider male and don’t plan on being legally married ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 09:43 PM
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I’m an ass man and love thicc women with wide hips and narrow shoulders. Face honestly isn’t as important to me, pretty is better of course, but I don’t have a clear image of the ‘perfect face’. If you have this body type I’m already in love with you: https://cf.girlsaskguys.com/q2586580/1077931a-1248-474a-93bb-41d53e936b94.jpg Edit: this is a controversial opinion apparently lol, why are y’all hating on a simple PAWG lover?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 03:42 PM
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Men get bored of their wives too lol. It’s pretty much inevitable when you’re exclusively fucking the same person for decades. Which is why men do leave their wives for younger/prettier women. As for why a man would stay married? Because everyone gets old and fat eventually, and the young hottie you left your wife for probably isn’t going to stay by your side when you’re going through chemotherapy, because she can pull a young, healthy man who’s not dying in a hospital bed. That’s the benefit of…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 10:04 PM
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Did you go on a date before you lost your virginity? Maybe had a crush on someone who reciprocated slightly, even if it didn’t work out? Took a date to the homecoming dance? Sex is one thing, but when you grow to adulthood with a total absence of romantic attention, being treated as repulsive by most of your peers, it does something to you. However, you are correct that my social failure in early life was the result of some difference in me which has always been there and is still present today.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 11:02 PM
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That may be the case, but it doesn’t help if you’re trying to fit in with the young people who are living today. Like how it would be normal historically for a 15 year old boy to fight in a war, but most people today would find that odd.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 10:46 PM
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This guy posts in every thread about how the only option for short men is women who regularly go to psych wards. Sounds weirdly specific.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 09:06 PM
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As you said in your OP, there isn’t a better option for men. Ultimately, if you want to have social relationships at all, you have to accept the possibility that someone might not appreciate your attention. It’s not that big of a deal and it shouldn’t be ‘traumatic’ unless you’re being aggressive about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 06:57 PM
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Yeah, even when she wore bras. It seemed to depend more on her activity level than what she was wearing. After a shift at her retail job she’d be sore even with full support because she was bending and lifting things. If we were just hanging out and going to the park or a restaurant or something she was perfectly comfortable without one.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 06:32 PM
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They were big enough she would get backaches and such, but that could happen even if she wore a bra. For exercise or walking long distances should would definitely put on a sports bra, but for day to day activities it didn’t seem to be a problem for her.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 06:25 PM
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For some women it is. I dated a woman with E cup breasts who usually didn’t wear a bra because she liked how it looked and it made her feel sexy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 05:56 PM
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I don’t care that much, not to the point that I’d encourage a woman to dress differently than she naturally does - as far as what I find most attractive, I like curvy women, so anything that shows off her figure is a plus. Fitted jeans and a tight t-shirt are what really catch my eye. I love crop tops as well, and when women don’t wear bras, both because it’s sexy and it shows confidence and sensuality. I also enjoy dresses and more ‘traditional’ attire, but more as a ‘once in a while’ type thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 05:07 PM
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Women settle too. Most of the time, people make an effort not to let their partner know that’s the case
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 05:22 AM
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“I love to spend hundreds of dollars per day on things that basically everyone enjoys”
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 01:15 AM
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Ding ding ding
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 01:13 AM
8

imo women just get less out of relationships than men do. They’re also acting in their self interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 07:02 PM
6

I mean, I don’t care. Most human relationships are transactional and I accept that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 06:40 PM
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Ok. Most men would rather settle than be alone and sexless.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 06:22 PM
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This it true, but it’s not men’s fault, it’s just too difficult for most of us to get someone we genuinely like and are attracted to, so we settle for what we can get.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 05:34 PM
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I prefer it, frankly. Bring back the 1920s beauty ideal.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 04:06 PM
1

No thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 05:30 PM
1

Maybe you picked a bad analogy lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 05:04 PM
1

It’s not like those other guys are awkward or anything. Above average looks plus average charisma equals slightly above average results, that’s about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 03:49 PM
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The thing is, this guy does ‘train’. He talks to people constantly, and he puts in an effort to charm everyone he meets whether he stands to gain something from it or not. He’s charming to ugly women, to old people, to little kids. And it’s not effortless for him, he just tries way harder than most people.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 02:56 PM
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If that were true, my friends who are roughly as attractive as him should be having roughly similar success with women, but they don’t. Not even close.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 04:45 AM
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The guy I personally know who has the most success with women is pretty good looking, tall white handsome etc. but I know plenty of guys who are just as good looking who don’t have the same success. He’s just really funny and talkative and has no shame. He’s an alcoholic and was going through a very rough period at one point, but I watched him chat up some girls by telling them how his house was filled with so many discarded beer cans that fruit flies and spiders were propagating in them and cra…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 12:08 AM
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So then why should women be concerned by the possibility they might be unhappy in their old age if they reject traditional gender roles?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 07:53 AM
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People weren’t any happier in the past when these rigid gender roles were in place. The Prohibition movement began because women were sick of their husbands blowing their entire paycheck at the bar, leaving nothing for their family. If they’d had the ability to earn an equal wage themselves, they and their children would have been far better off. And society has always been shit. I notice that ‘traditional values’ didn’t stop two world wars from occurring in the past 100 years, or the millennia …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 07:51 AM
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Clearly it does, as a significant percentage of young men self report that they rape women, some of them unaware that what they’re doing is both wrong and illegal.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 06:13 AM
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Rape culture doesn’t mean society considers rape to be a-ok, it means that society perpetuates ideas which make rape more likely to occur, often with the perpetrator feeling that what they’ve done is not actually rape. For example, up until the 1970s it was legal for a man to rape his wife in the US, because the public perception was that you ‘can’t rape your wife’.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 05:22 AM
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My theory is that the experience you describe is not relatable to the vast majority of men who are capable of expressing interest in a woman without getting hit by an SA charge.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 05:09 AM
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It’s just a fact of life that pestering people can be an effective strategy, even if they resent it at first. It’s not only the case in dating, either. There’s a reason why ad campaigns are often extremely obnoxious - even if people feel like they hate the ad, they’re still giving it attention, and over time it works it’s way into their subconscious. I’m a very introverted person, and a lot of my friends are essentially just people who decided they were going to befriend me, and kept at it even …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 04:21 AM
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It’s an example of rape culture. People are taught that ‘rape’ means a man holding a woman down in a dark alley while she fights and screams, and don’t associate the word with less overtly violent forms of sexual assault like sleeping with an unconscious or reluctant/coerced partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 04:19 AM
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Then what’s your point? That some content creators suck just as much as FNF? What’s the relevance of that?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 10:26 PM
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It’s a term used pretty broadly in academia, particularly sociology. it’s not a RP thing specifically.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 08:53 PM
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Yup. It’s like playing pretend with little kids lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 07:53 PM
2

Yup. Crime stats and historic events. Feel free to look them up.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 06:06 PM
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Just because something is illegal doesn’t mean it’s not part of culture. For example, America is much more violent than other nations, despite violence being illegal, because we have a culture that glorifies violence and egotism.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 05:53 PM
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According to this study, there’s a lot of ‘morons’ then. Out of 1882 college aged men, around 6% reported raping somebody. And criminals are products of their culture as much as any other individual.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 05:25 PM
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It’s not just a matter of law, but morality, and what constitutes valid sexual consent. The fact that some men will have sex with unconscious women, or use threats and coercion to get their way, and not consider it rape, is rape culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 04:34 PM
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I’m emotionally burnt out due to long term depression and don’t have the energy to be confident or charming anymore. And I’ve lost the ability to relate to people who haven’t spent the past 10 years fantasizing about suicide.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 04:29 PM
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Many rapists don’t consider what they do to be rape, because they think it doesn’t ‘count’ unless she’s fighting back and begging you to stop. That’s rape culture. https://washingtoncitypaper.com/article/393579/rapists-who-dont-think-theyre-rapists/
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 02:48 PM
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Many rapists don’t consider what they did to be rape, because they believe it only ‘counts’ if the girl was fighting back and begging them to stop. https://washingtoncitypaper.com/article/393579/rapists-who-dont-think-theyre-rapists/
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 02:46 PM
2

Not all art is made by the same entity, and some of it is actually not garbage. Is Fresh n Fit the pinnacle of human creativity?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 02:42 PM
1

I’ve always been a bit of a social outsider, and its not just dating I struggle with. Im in my late 20s and I’ve been in 1 relationship, also the only woman I’ve had sex with. On the plus side, we were together for 4 years, and she was close to what I’d consider my physical ideal. So I don’t feel deprived compared to the average man. I’d consider myself to be above average looking, and I’m not socially awkward exactly, most people find me fairly likable. But I don’t feel a sense of belonging wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 06:46 AM
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My grandmother and grandfather most likely got married because of an unintended premarital pregnancy. I doubt they would have stuck together in the long term without that happening, as they were very different personalities. But they felt a sense of responsibility to each other, and both of them committed fully. I think when you spend that many years together, share the experience of raising a family, you can’t help but come to love each other. I know my grandpa was definitely very sad when she …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 09:58 PM
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Well then it’s up to the man to build up that interest, often in the face of total apathy. That’s the double standard.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 01:07 AM
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They can be, but they often don’t feel a need to charm men during the early stages of dating unless they’re very attracted to him. It’s on the guy to carry the conversation until she decides to open up a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 12:29 AM
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Looks do affect your dating pool, but even if you’re good looking, your dating pool will shrink with time as people pair off.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 07:06 PM
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If a woman is good looking and past childbearing age, I don’t think she’d have a bad time dating. There’s divorced men who already have kids, single men who aren’t looking to start a family, and so on. Everyone’s dating pool gets smaller as they age, it’s just a fact of life, but it doesn’t necessarily have to do with how good looking you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 06:52 PM
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Gaining 30 pounds will hurt your dating prospects whether you’re 20 or 50. If she got back into shape, I’m sure she’d get more interest. ‘the wall’ isn’t some hard line that you cross and can never return, it’s just the point where you stop taking care of yourself and become fat, aged due to drinking/smoking/sun damage, etc. If you improve your looks you can cross back to the other side.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 06:38 PM
5

Was this written by ChatGPT?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 07:37 PM
2

Hahahaha what? If that’s where your Nazi mind goes that’s your business.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 03:58 PM
1

My point is you can quantify a person’s dating market value based on a number of factors. There is an economics of dating, and of social relationships in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 03:48 PM
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I’m not the OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 03:37 PM
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Looks aren’t the only factor, there’s also age, personality, money, status, etc. Together they determine how desirable a person is, and thus how much attention they’ll get in the dating world. Sexual market value would still exist even if people dated solely based on personality, as some people’s personalities are more desirable than others.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 03:30 PM
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Attractive people are more desired - they command a greater market value in the dating world than unattractive people. Human relationships have a transactional element whether we acknowledge it or not, which is why you don’t see beautiful young women dating old men unless he has money.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 02:43 PM
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They’re unnerved by bitter men who demand an explanation for why they’re not attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 07:57 PM
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I think a lot of socially unsuccessful men believe that their problems are going to have enormous repercussions for society at some point in the near to mid term future, but I’m not sure that’s likely. Society doesn’t ‘need’ most men to be successful. The norm of history is that some people succeed, more fail miserably, often through no fault of their own, and the winners build a new world where the losers are forgotten. It’s not fair but it’s how it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 07:41 PM
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Most men treat women the same. Most human relationships are transactional.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 07:30 PM
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They lie to you because they can tell you would get mad if they told the truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 07:28 PM
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Carl Jung
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 03:57 PM
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Women today have much better odds of achieving financial independence than their mothers, and far better odds than their grandmothers. Economic opportunity in general is declining, but for women it’s an improvement over where they were 100 years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 04:22 AM
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Something which I think is true from RP ideology is that Dark Triad traits, when present to a moderate degree, make people more likable, not less. This is true not only of male-female relationships, but of all relationships. A lot of men on this sub could stand to be more egoistic. They’re self conscious, self hating, desperate for approval from others, fearful of rejection and judgment. You should go into social interactions thinking not about how you can please others, but asking what you can …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 02:57 AM
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They do see that their prospects are worse than their father’s generation, and not likely to improve anytime soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 12:41 AM
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Women still have somewhere to go. The women of today are among the first few generation who have the option of supporting themselves, of financial independence. For men it’s just an age old burden which returns less in value every year.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 11:21 PM
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They’re not? Didn’t realize you know my friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 09:25 PM
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Great points. All the really rich men i know date and marry rich women from a similar income bracket. Their wives are generally educated and successful. My perception is that there’s a stigma against wealthy men marrying women who aren’t ‘accomplished’ in their own right. It’s all about setting the future kids up for success with an engineer and a lawyer for their parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 09:12 PM
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If these guys wanted to meet virgins, they’d go to church. Instead they go to frat parties and tinder. It’s pretty clear where their priorities are.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 09:07 PM
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By getting to know men who have a lot of sex with women and seeing who/how they date. Most of them are successful on Tinder, and/or go to parties, bars, clubs. Not many virgins in those scenes.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 08:42 PM
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Seriously. I haven’t met a single sexually successful man who cares about virginity. For most Chad types it’s a turnoff if anything, they’re out there fucking high n-count party girls. The only men I’ve ever met who cared about virginity were self hating 4chan autists and alt-right dudes who live with their parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 07:27 PM
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You can have a great sex life without being a Chad. If your girlfriend only wants to fuck you every other month, you have greater issues than your looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 07:04 PM
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That’s pretty much what sublimation is. It has a generally positive connotation in psychology.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 05:45 PM
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AI porn is horrible, it’s generic, cold, and lifeless. I’m certainly not turned on by it. I don’t see VR porn as being a substitute for relationships either. I feel like this argument is made by men who are already porn addicts and don’t have much experience with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 08:02 PM
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I think a sex bot could be fun, I’d give it a try, but I don’t think it’ll replace dating any more than the fleshlight has. It just serves a very different purpose than real human sex and romance. More of a toy than a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 07:04 PM
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I don’t blame men for having social/emotional problems. Life is very hard, and society can be cruel. You say I don’t know what ‘the real dating world’ is like. What exactly gives you special insight into the dating world beyond what I’ve observed in my own life?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 09:40 PM
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Individual anecdotal observation is a terrible method for determining truth, but even then, most RP ideology doesn’t gel with my experience. I’ve seen plenty of attractive women dating fugly dudes, and better looking men who remain alone because of social/emotional problems. Most couples I know are just average looking women dating average looking, average income men.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 09:03 PM
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Yeah but given the option they’ll take the hottest women, every time. Most men just don’t have that option.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 08:27 PM
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Maybe it would be more accurate to say ‘humans are hypergamous’, as most men basically seek the exact same thing as women: sex with as many attractive members of the opposite sex as they can realistically achieve. All that’s really been revealed in the last 100 years is that the patriarchal idea that women ‘don’t like sex’ had been conclusively disproven.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 08:03 PM
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Yes, and what I learned in the psychology and sociology classes I took at university is that the population samples used for most polls are not representative of the general population, because the population that responds to polls is skewed from the average in significant ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 05:50 PM
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I’m relatively ambitious, but I care less about relationships than most people, and I don’t mind being alone for long periods of time. Most normal people care about being loved more than about goals and hobbies, and that’s fine. It’s quite normal when you consider that for most of history and pre-history, people expended the minimum effort need to hunt/grow/gather food and basically just hung out with their friends and family the rest of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 05:48 AM
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In general no, I don’t put much trust in the social sciences. The data itself means something, but the interpretations imposed on it are often subjective and unprovable. If you don’t need polls or studies to know these things then what is sociology for?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 05:29 AM
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These polls barely count as science. Psychological and sociological ‘data’ should always be taken with a grain of salt, even more so people’s interpretations of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 05:20 AM
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“Why would you want to have sex with women when you could work 40 hours a week instead?”
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 05:17 AM
2

Come on, he’s clearly saying that the left called people racists for expressing ‘genuine concerns’, not that Brexit itself is racist. The press is just the medium by which the public gets their views. If you can’t parse that, I can’t help you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 10:34 PM
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He said the press deemed those who expressed what he called ‘genuine concerns’ as racists, not that they were racist.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 09:20 PM
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He said it was nonsensical, not racist. Because Brexit fucks Britain over far more than it does the EU
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 06:23 PM
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‘This generation’ doesn’t believe in the rewards, that’s kind of the point. That’s why more young men are refusing to enter the rat race.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 06:18 PM
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“What’s so great about Jesus? He wasn’t even rich!”
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 07:45 AM
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This is true, but in these cases, men are usually just transcribing their emotional reactions into rationalist language so they can front like they’re not emotional.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 12:57 AM
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Those girls aren’t posting on Reddit bruh. This sub self selects for introverted and intelligent women. How many women do you know irl who are active on forums?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 05:22 PM
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There was a dude at my old job who is quite ugly by most people’s standards. He’s babyfaced with chubby cheeks and no chin, looks like he’s constantly pouting his lips a bit, and has a high hairline. Kind of like Andrew Tate without the muscles lol. Pretty much the only thing he has going for him is that he’s tall, and a relatively responsible and organized person, even if he’s not especially smart or charismatic. That being said I learned one of my coworkers had a crush on him, to the point she…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 10:56 PM
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You certainly can achieve success with these more superficial traits, I won’t deny that. A fit, handsome, wealthy man will have an easy time dating. But, especially if he has a red pill mindset, he’ll always be afraid that someone richer and hotter will come along, or that his partner views him in a transactional way. When a person is drawn to your charisma, who you truly are in deep inside, they become incredibly devoted to you. To me that explains why people like Jesus could convince men to ab…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 02:49 AM
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I think personal charisma is underrated and misunderstood by both camps. Women are drawn to personal charisma more than they are looks, wealth, social status, or any of the other things red pillers are grinding for. If you can make her feel alive, she’ll want you more than the richest, most attractive man in the room, because most people in this world are mentally broken. The ‘light’ that we all start with as children has gone out inside of them. So instead they offer their muscles, numbers in a…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 02:37 AM
2

All of the goodness and happiness in the world cannot compensate for the extreme suffering of even a single innocent individual.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 12:02 AM
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That’s not very compelling as a justification for bringing a child into a world where terrible things can and will happen to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 11:48 PM
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What is the point then?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 11:03 PM
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If life sucks, why bring more people into it?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 10:49 PM
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“People were raising families of 5 on one coal miner’s salary” And what a lovely time they must have had!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 10:30 PM
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No. Both because of the reasons you listed, and because of more fundamental ones. I don’t think things are generally worse today than they were in the past … but they’ve always been pretty bad. Human history is a long and tragic saga of pain, disease, and violence. Everyone in this thread is chiming in with how much worse their great granddaddy had it - well maybe he shouldn’t have been having kids either, during the Russian civil war, or the great famine or 1713, or whatever crazy shit they man…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 10:30 PM
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If anything it’s a cliche that roided out bodybuilder dudes are often dating equally roided out bodybuilder women, who may be petite and attractive, but look like they could kill most men with their bare hands.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 10:47 PM
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Are you willing to consider a woman if you don’t meet by touching hands as you both reach for the book she just dropped, then looking up into each other’s eyes with a lingering gaze, as a nearby string quartet bursts into song? Because if you don’t meet like that, you’re basically settling.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 01:03 AM
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I think it would be a mistake, both for yourself and for the hypothetical woman you’d like to date, to narrow your dating pool only to people who instantly dazzle you with their looks. There’s nothing wrong with taking time to get to know a person, and develop a growing attraction based on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 12:49 AM
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What I’ve heard often from women, and seen a few people express in this thread, is that there are a lot of average-ish looking men whom women have basically no opinion on. It’s not like the male created beauty system where everyone is placed on a continuum of attractiveness, to the point you’ll see men call someone a ‘6.5’ or other weirdly specific descriptors. My understanding is that, for women, the men who are around the center of the attractiveness bell curve have the potential to be attract…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 12:46 AM
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I’m okay with it. I’m a decent looking guy, but not so attractive that every woman who sees me instantly wants me to hit on them, knowing nothing else about me but my appearance. Why would I expect that, unless I was some kind of supermodel? Aren’t there women you’ve seen who don’t instantly blow you away, but that you would still be interested in dating? As in “oh she’s cute,” but not ‘eyes bugging out of your head like a cartoon character’ hot?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 12:38 AM
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Capitalism and overwork. That’s why you see the exact same patterns of social isolation playing out in Japan and South Korea, arguably worse than in the US, despite being much less feminist. People are burnt out, depressed, tired, and have no hope for the future. Not exactly a recipe for social confidence and libido.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 06:56 PM
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The main thing that gets people (men or women) to try something kinky, which is maybe a little beyond their comfort zone, is being extremely turned on in the moment. It stands to reason that the more attracted a woman is to a man, the more likely she’ll be to engage in kinky sex with him. This is more about sexual chemistry than just looks, however. In my experience, as a very kinky guy, the most important thing is to never slut shame: make women feel good about being nasty with you, tell them h…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 06:42 PM
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For an attractive woman ‘as much sex as possible’ would be getting gang-banged every day. Going on dates with 2-3 men within a month and sleeping with more than 1 of them is a far cry from that. Most people in the modern dating world like to consider more than 1 option at a time - otherwise you have to start over from step 0 every time a prospect doesn’t work out.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 09:57 PM
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If you view sex as immoral, then sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 09:43 PM
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You are 100% free until you say the magic words ‘we’re together’. If you want commitment, you have to ask for it, explicitly. Talking to someone and going on a date or two doesn’t guarantee their commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 07:30 PM
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I consider myself purple pilled because I expect women to make rational, self interested choices in their dating life the same as men do, and I don’t hate them for it
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 06:56 PM
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Most men don’t have the option to be a provider for economic reasons. Buying a house for your wife and kids is quite a bigger hurdle today than it was a generation or two ago. Throw in a couple college educations, and you’d better hope you’re a millionaire.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 04:46 PM
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Pump and dump dudes would beg to differ.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 10:16 PM
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Relationships in the past were more transactional, since women couldn’t earn their own living, and divorce was prohibited. It’s only in the past 100 years or so that a woman can marry a man just because she likes him, not because she’d be homeless without him.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 08:11 PM
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Continue to romance your partner throughout the relationship. Take them on surprise dates, buy them flowers, set aside time which is solely for being romantic, not talking about bills or groceries or who’s driving the kids to school.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 06:22 PM
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Men don’t love their female partners unconditionally. Nor should they - romantic relationships come with responsibilities and obligations. If your partner consistently fails to uphold those responsibilities, when they have the option to do so, you should stop loving them. The only unconditional love that exists in this world is a parent for their child, and even that is scarcely guaranteed.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 06:09 PM
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Einstein, Feynman, and von Neumann were all socially fluent, and Einstein was known to be a ladies man. People didn’t like Tesla because he was fucking insane. It’s true, in general, that people (men and women) are only loved unconditionally by one person, and that’s mom. Men can be respected for their financial status, but they can also be respected for their personal charisma. The man I know who has the most success with women isn’t the richest or the handsomest, but the one who puts the most …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 06:01 PM
1

How about genuinely loving the person you plan to spend the rest of your life with?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 05:57 PM
1

Honestly I feel exactly as is described in the OP, and not having a wife and kids isn’t even why. I certainly could get married and have kids if I wanted to, but I don’t - because I hate society with a passion, don’t want to participate in it in any way, and definitely don’t want to bring new lives into this shitshow. So it’s a chicken and egg thing - I’m not getting married or having kids because I don’t feel like a participant in society. And the modern economy makes it so unpleasant to be a p…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 05:53 PM
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Society is out to get you. It’s all one huge exploitation engine.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 03:34 AM
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I should specify, I’m male and talking about men doing this to other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 10:57 PM
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This is my problem, frankly. Men and women I know have often encouraged me to be more open, but they’re not prepared to hear about my very socially unacceptable issues. That’s why it’s generally a bad idea to ask people to ‘open up’.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 08:17 PM
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It’s not even a women thing. Men do this too, they’re just less likely to actually ask you to be vulnerable. But if you reveal your vulnerabilities to other men they will use it against you. This is why I lie to everyone lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 08:15 PM
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It’s possible they have some kind of major issue which makes it hard for them to find a partner: mental illness, alcoholism, obesity, etc. I say that because I’ve dated in the past and still get complements on my looks, but have stopped seeking out partners as my depression has gotten more severe. It seems to put women off immediately, and I don’t have the energy to pretend to be happy anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 07:12 PM
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he wasnt saying that you should've approached, just telling you not to make retarded judgements when you didnt even talk to the girl
/r/TheRedPill16/10/16 06:32 AM
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why should anybody fight for a military that puts it own soldiers through MK Ultra, Hamburger Hill, Syphilis Testing, then sends them home with irreversible trauma to become homeless beggars or blow their own brains out? Military is for cucks, plain and simple.
/r/TheRedPill16/10/16 06:24 AM
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