breadcake5245 Archive

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5	Should I take my husband’s word and just drop it? That says a lot to me, if he apologized and said he’s fully committed to you. I would personally give it another shot. Especially if y’all have kids together.	/r/RedPillWomen	11/09/23 07:07 PM
2	Should I take my husband’s word and just drop it? I think it says a lot that he told you and wants an honest relationship with you. He could have never mentioned it at all. He stopped it with her and ultimately decided he wanted to stay with you. It also depends on how he opened to you about it… was he apologetic? Did he say sorry, and that he never wants to do it again, and he knows you’re the one? Do you think you can emotionally & mentally move on from this? He may truly feel bad about it and want to move on from it. So I guess it depends on…	/r/RedPillWomen	11/09/23 07:05 PM
2	Clothes: my husband doesn’t buy them for himself; what do I do? I buy my husband clothes all the time. He hates shopping. If he doesn’t like it, I return it. Over time, I have learned that he has a few brands and styles he likes best, so I stick to those. I would look for clothes that are made of a comfortable material, simple and can easily match other clothes (like a capsule wardrobe), and that have a flattering fit (my husband likes the slimmer fit pants vs baggy work pants). He likes Carhartt, LLBean, Orvis, Bonobos, Levi’s, BirdDogs, Chubbies, and Adida…	/r/RedPillWomen	04/09/23 01:47 AM
2	How do I, 18F, get HVM to take me seriously? If being non-white is roadblock for you to finding a man, then I would find a church, or community where you feel you fit in better. There are traditional men of all races. White people are actually a minority in the world, there is a ton of diversity in the US. Women of any race can be traditional women, wives, and homemakers. European, African, Asian, Latin American.. you can find it on every continent.	/r/RedPillWomen	29/08/23 01:33 AM
8	how do i level up in terms of getting my career and school life together? i really need someone older than me to guide me Financially - I chose a college where I wouldn’t accumulate too much debt. Then I chose a major that I knew would guarantee me employment after graduation. I chose accounting and became a CPA. I worked part-time in college, ate at the dining halls (included in my meal plan so I didn’t have to pay extra), I didn’t go out to eat much, I shopped at thrift stores, I didn’t drink often (alcohol can be expensive), and I found mutual friends who were in the same boat as me. Don’t get into trouble and s…	/r/RedPillWomen	29/05/23 01:02 PM
1	As RPW, what are your opinions on age gap relationships? You’re 22 and he’s 45. The biggest consideration for me would be that if you wanted to have kids with him, he’d be an old dad and wouldn’t have as much time with his kids as someone who is closer to your age. He will die much sooner than you, especially because women tend to live longer than men. You could end up a widow in your 50s or even 40s if he doesn’t take care of his health. Right as your kids are entering adulthood and could benefit from the guidance of their father. I know husbands can…	/r/RedPillWomen	08/05/23 01:25 AM
12	Can someone kindly assess me unicorn list and tell me if I need to lower my standards? No, you don’t need to date outside of your race if you don’t want to. Don’t marry a guy you aren’t attracted to. It makes me sad to read your replies! You are not “low value.” That term is not helpful to women at all. Please don’t think of yourself as low. You have a lot to offer! I think your list of things you DON’T require is sad. 😔 You should get love and affection and respect from a relationship. The biggest thing holding you back is the height. I was attracted to tall guys too. Of course, …	/r/RedPillWomen	11/04/23 04:52 AM
7	Can someone kindly assess me unicorn list and tell me if I need to lower my standards? I am also 5’8” and my husband is 5’10”. He is almost always taller than me, even in heels. We have three kids now, so I don’t wear heels nearly as often, and when I do, they are shorter heels than I used to wear since I need to be more steady to chase after my toddlers. Plus he wears shoes too. If I were you, I’d go down on the height requirement a bit (5’10” is still taller than you, and in shoes, he’ll be close to 6 feet), go older on age (you are 32, so I’d go up to 45), be open to guys who a…	/r/RedPillWomen	11/04/23 04:34 AM
1	Can women increase their dating value or worth to men at all? Most people date within their race, it’s okay to have that preference. You will find someone. It sounds like you’re a catch, maybe just keep going on dates until you find a good match. Let your family and friends know you are looking and see if they know anyone they can set you up with! Not sure what age range you are looking for, but I’d look for men up to ten years older than you if you aren’t including older guys. Or older if you are comfortable with that. And since you said you are Christian…	/r/RedPillWomen	10/04/23 06:31 PM
5	Not quite sure what else I can do to prove my worth Seems like you’re wasting energy on this man when you could find another who would cherish you. You’re young and you have so much to offer. I don’t use this phrase often, but you should know your worth! You can still find a great man and have a wonderful family someday. Your past does not define your future. You can and will still be a great wife and mother if you fully commit yourself to it!	/r/RedPillWomen	10/01/23 04:07 PM
1	All about being Feminine There was a news story going around about a 14 year old boy who was killed in a cattle accident on his family’s farm right before Christmas. Cows can be dangerous!	/r/RedPillWomen	06/01/23 01:51 PM
1	All about being Feminine Oh sorry they’re not on YouTube! They are on Instagram and Facebook, and they also release an annual paper copy issue. It is a bit pricey ($40ish) but it’s high quality, no ads, and has lots of great content! An excellent magazine to have on your coffee table or just lying around for you to read.	/r/RedPillWomen	05/01/23 05:38 PM
4	All about being Feminine Check out Evie Magazine if you haven’t already! They post a lot about femininity.	/r/RedPillWomen	05/01/23 02:59 PM
4	All about being Feminine I was wondering this, thanks for sharing that. She has like six or seven kids now? And is always baking and cooking gorgeous (and messy) things from scratch… she MUST have someone watching them right? A nanny or a regular babysitter/family help? I have three young kids and a lot of times I can’t do that. I’m a 24/7 SAHM and while I do include my kids in a lot of what I do, sometimes I can’t handle them making a huge mess in the kitchen for me to clean up later, on top of doing everything else. A…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/01/23 02:57 PM
3	How often are you asked about your sexual history? Yep.. when you’re a virgin, you kind of have to tell them before they start. It would have been real awkward if not. I bled more than I thought I would. Maybe it was the white sheets with no towel. 🤦‍♀️	/r/RedPillWomen	20/12/22 01:05 AM
9	How often are you asked about your sexual history? So I never really “dated,” my husband was my first real boyfriend at age 21. However, I did have several other guys trying to date me before I got engaged. All very high quality men. Tall, well-educated, marriage minded, handsome, wealthy or getting there… Not a single one asked me about my sexual past. Though I didn’t have a sexual past to speak of if they did. But I have never been asked this question. Even if I were asked about it now, I would feel very awkward answering it (even with a “body…	/r/RedPillWomen	20/12/22 12:32 AM
1	I have a higher libido than my bf but I still caught him wathching porn instead of having sex with me Sounds like a porn addiction, which is a serious problem for a relationship. Porn is a slippery slope to weirder and weirder stuff (and illegal, horrible, disturbing, evil stuff too - porn drives the demand up for CSAM because people need more and more depraved content). If you’re early into the relationship, and this is a hard boundary for you, I would have a serious conversation about it and see if he’s willing to change.	/r/RedPillWomen	14/11/22 09:51 PM
5	I have a higher libido than my bf but I still caught him wathching porn instead of having sex with me I agree, that’s not controversial to me at all. Actually my husband and I have a rule that we don’t watch porn at all. Especially coming from a Christian & traditional background, this is a hard boundary for us and our marriage and sex life is all the healthier for it.	/r/RedPillWomen	14/11/22 09:47 PM
5	Virgin at 20 - INFJ - Conflicted Losing your virginity means a lot more to certain people than others I suppose. I personally do not recommend sleeping with your friend. If a long term relationship/marriage is what you want, I would start dating or courting. Many men will appreciate that you don’t have a past to deal with and would scoop you up. Don’t waste it on a friend. Let your first time be special with your husband (or someone you love).	/r/RedPillWomen	23/10/22 03:14 AM
3	Dear US ladies, how hard it is to come across high value man in US? Is chivalry also almost dead there? I know a ton of amazing and “high quality” men. I live in the Southeastern US. You won’t have to search much for great men if you yourself are a high quality woman. I have noticed that there is a trend that my husband and guys like him go for: Not overweight / being (at least reasonably) fit; Don’t curse, drink too much, smoke or do drugs; No kids; No tattoos; Healthy lifestyle; Good relationship with family; Positive attitude/no mental illness or have it under control. We have friends who are v…	/r/RedPillWomen	14/10/22 07:15 PM
3	When the good guy is also very sexual too early But yes, I would agree that you should both respect each other’s boundaries as best as you can.	/r/RedPillWomen	03/10/22 03:08 PM
18	When the good guy is also very sexual too early The key to successfully being celibate until marriage is to have a short courtship/dating/engagement. If you are with someone you are sexually compatible with and that you find attractive (and who finds you attractive) it will be hard to wait, especially for a long time. Also, limit your alone time. In our society, where couples are alone a lot, it makes it harder to stay accountable. I wouldn’t be alone with him at his house or yours if you truly want to commit to being celibate. Being alone in…	/r/RedPillWomen	03/10/22 03:07 PM
4	Boyfriends timeline is different than mine I agree, this isn’t nagging, this is advocating for herself and her best interests. Back in the days when courtship was the norm and parents oversaw their daughter’s courting and prospects, the father would never let a man string along a girl for this long with no intentions of marriage. In this modern era, most women have to be the ones to advocate for themselves instead of their fathers.	/r/RedPillWomen	01/10/22 05:15 PM
9	Boyfriends timeline is different than mine No… this would be a dealbreaker for me. Another serious conversation needs to be had about this and if he can’t understand your viewpoint, then it’s time to move on. There are plenty of great men out there who want to commit to a woman, get married, and have kids. I have seen so many women waste years on men like this. A few years ago, I had a friend who broke up with her boyfriend after NINE years. Never a proposal. Yes, men string women along like this. She started dating one of his friends (H…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/10/22 01:42 AM
3	Worried my boyfriend will burn out Having friends and building a network of people is very productive. These people can benefit him professionally someday. They are the ones he can call for advice or just to vent for his mental health. They are the ones who will help him in a time of need. It also feels good to help and be there for your friends in return. Human beings need social connection. I make sure my husband gets his “guy time” with his friends and family. He always comes back refreshed and happy after laughing and having …	/r/RedPillWomen	16/09/22 11:59 PM
2	Man's view on IUDs Thank you for sharing. I spent very little time on birth control but my husband didn’t like it when I was, and I’ve never gotten back on it since. Even now being done having kids (says my husband, not me lol), he still doesn’t want me to get back on it. I am so thankful my husband not only supports fertility awareness method of birth control, but encourages it. He knows how to read my charts and knows all the rules like I do. 😂🤍	/r/RedPillWomen	01/09/22 09:51 PM
6	I am a messy person. Hire a personal organizer to come in and organize your home. The professionals are so great at it, and it will be much easier to maintain! Definitely worth the expense, it’s an investment that pays dividends in your marriage, your time spent cleaning, and your feelings of peace and relaxation at home.	/r/RedPillWomen	31/08/22 11:08 PM
1	I discovered I want marriage and children a bit late in the game. Where to go from here? That really depends, but I don’t necessarily think so. Does he have positive married influences around him? Or are all of his friends single, anti-marriage and child free? Having happily married friends is VERY important for other married couples, IMO. Who you surround yourself with has a big impact on your life. Especially if he has a great and supportive wife, I think he could grow to love it! Married men earn more, live longer, and (contrary to popular belief) have more sex than single men. A…	/r/RedPillWomen	26/08/22 06:47 PM
7	I discovered I want marriage and children a bit late in the game. Where to go from here? Aww I don’t have great advice here but I wish you the best of luck! I would definitely try to have conversations about marriage with him. Figure out the best time to talk to him (for my husband, it’s while we are driving in the car, right after sex, or Sunday afternoon after he’s has a restful night of sleep). Hopefully he changes his mind about marriage. It is wonderful to have that security, that outward and public profession of commitment and love, the same last names as your children, and al…	/r/RedPillWomen	26/08/22 01:43 AM
9	How you met your husband I met my husband when I was 13. He was friends with my older sister. He stayed friends with her, and would come over and hang out over the years. The week after I graduated college (I was 22), he was fresh out of law school and randomly invited me to a pool party he was having. I hadn’t seen him in years but I was friends with another girl going so I went. We were immediately both attracted to each other and started dating the next day. He called me every night, we invited each other to eat and …	/r/RedPillWomen	24/08/22 04:58 PM
7	Ladies, what are some things you wish your mother had taught you? I wish my mom taught me to sew as a child. She is an amazing seamstress, used to make clothes for us and can alter or tailor any piece of clothing. She even did my wedding dress with intricate and delicate beading all over it. I had to learn how to sew as an adult (started a few years ago) and it’s not the same. She always talks about how useful sewing is and I wonder why didn’t teach me? I wish she did. My daughter is 4 and I already let her help me do everything, including sewing, cooking, gar…	/r/RedPillWomen	23/08/22 02:07 PM
7	I’m struggling with my weight. Well you pointed it out yourself, emotional eating and nursing both have you consuming a lot of calories. I am also breastfeeding and a SAHM so I understand eating out of boredom and from hunger. It’s really hard. And starting is the hardest part. I started tracking my calories (tracking first, not restricting). I was surprised at how much I was unknowingly eating. Then I found out how much I needed to cut down to lose weight. My stomach got used to eating less (took a few weeks). Keeping myself…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/08/22 02:27 AM
11	For the women that wanted to be housewives from a young age: what did you major in? Accounting. So if I ever needed a job to fall back on, I’d have one. And it’s useful for budgeting/financial planning/investment purposes.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/08/22 02:14 AM
14	My father has potentially ruined most men for me Yeah I have a similar story with my parents. No one measures up to my dad. My husband comes close but he’s still not like my dad. He is truly a rare breed. He had multiple women proposing to him before he married my mom. And my mom looked like a literal supermodel when she was young, married my dad at 19 six months after they met, and my dad was her first kiss. I am not as gorgeous and graceful as my mom sadly, haha. They’re still married today and people sometimes comment about how “hot” my par…	/r/RedPillWomen	11/08/22 09:00 PM
4	On a break with my man and in pain I am sure you have so much to offer to another man, who will cherish you for it! My husband said he used to have nightmares that I’d break up with him while we were dating lol. He’s so sweet. There are still lots of men who want meaningful relationships, and who come without the baggage.	/r/RedPillWomen	02/08/22 02:56 AM
24	On a break with my man and in pain Good job sticking to your guns. I wouldn’t contact him again after the two weeks are up. I’m sorry this is so hard. You still have plenty of time to find a new man, one who doesn’t have this aversion to commitment, but rather a man who can’t wait to commit to you. There are tons of amazing guys out there looking for a nice girl to start a life with. Spend time outside, surround yourself with family and friends, exercise, cook things you enjoy eating, read some books, and do some fun hobbies. Sen…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/08/22 02:33 PM
0	Is it bad to be dating someone that a friend used to date? I don’t see anything wrong with this… they were never serious and it sounds like she was the one who didn’t want to see him anymore. You are free to date who you want, and I wouldn’t even mention it to your friend until it feels more serious or it comes up organically. You don’t need her permission, it’s not like you’re dating her ex-husband. He didn’t deceive you at all either by “liking the friend,” he just listened to you when you said you had a boyfriend and told him you weren’t interested. …	/r/RedPillWomen	24/07/22 06:26 AM
3	Momfluencers Farmhouseonboone, EvieMagazine, cynthialoewen, _sweetmagnolias, mrsprairiewife, shortandsweetliving, femininehomemaking, kassie.at.home Those are some good ones. Some of them don’t have a huge following but they’re exactly what you described - motherhood, homemaking, cute outfits, cleaning, etc. I’m also one but I don’t share it here so I don’t dox myself lol. I hide my kids faces too, and rarely share them. My content is centered around what I do, my likes and dislikes, recipes, things I have l…	/r/RedPillWomen	20/07/22 01:56 AM
2	Fitness… r/CICO changed everything for me! Counting calories (and eating the number of calories needed to be in a deficit) has been so empowering. And it gives real results.	/r/RedPillWomen	13/07/22 10:50 AM
4	My husband doesn’t earn enough to support the family I desperately want. Wow well if you’re already doing that, then your husband needs to understand the reality of the situation. Either he changes jobs or you don’t have financial stability to have children. If you’ve already minimized your expenses to very little and live frugally, he needs to find a higher paying job. They are out there.	/r/RedPillWomen	12/07/22 06:27 PM
2	What does it take to be a high value man? Work through any anger or depression issues you might have, have a good relationship with your family, live a healthy lifestyle (don’t be an alcoholic, don’t smoke, exercise, eat well, sleep enough, get sunshine), and being motivated to always keep improving and succeeding in life.	/r/RedPillWomen	12/07/22 04:46 PM
11	My husband doesn’t earn enough to support the family I desperately want. No, you shouldn’t depend on going into credit card debt to pay for your family. You are right that parenting (and life in general) more challenging when you have less money. But you sound smart (just from these comments). You could look up families who follow “FIRE” (financial independence, retire early), and get tips from them on how to be super frugal? A lot of these bloggers have Instagram and YouTube pages explaining how they budget, what they buy, and how they live. I look at their pages wh…	/r/RedPillWomen	12/07/22 11:57 AM
19	My husband doesn’t earn enough to support the family I desperately want. I agree! Do NOT push motherhood aside if that is what you desperately want. It is incredible and life changing and so fulfilling. I will say that I feel most men change once the kids come along.. there is a greater sense of urgency to work and earn and provide. When kids come along is when gender roles really get highlighted.. the woman is pregnant and vulnerable, the men see that and want to take care of her. One thing that REALLY helped us was moving closer to family.. family support makes a w…	/r/RedPillWomen	12/07/22 11:46 AM
23	Field report: My Captain protected and provided for his first mate Amazing. I belt that felt so good, to take his lead. Awesome job! You are lucky to have a good man who will stand up for you like he should. Also, I have never had an OB tell me how much weight I have gained or be rude to me (and I have three kids). So he is 100% right to switch OBs!!	/r/RedPillWomen	09/07/22 09:59 PM
4	I need advice I think you’re on the wrong sub. And no offense, but you also sound like you might be a child, so maybe go to your dad (or another male role model in your life) if you have questions about the birds and the bees.	/r/RedPillWomen	09/07/22 04:42 PM
43	High Body Count Woman (27 years old)-Advice on finding a decent guy where we can accept one another's pasts? Girl. I got sick reading this. I hope you are in therapy. Stay away from any Red Pill forums. They can be toxic to women and that’s not what you need right now. You don’t need to feel extra shame and guilt about being a helpless victim of a vile and horrendous crime.	/r/RedPillWomen	03/07/22 12:24 AM
3	Division of labor as a SAHM - what should I expect? Exactly this. We need to be taught domestic skills from a young age to be successful at this. Otherwise, it’s a big learning curve and makes it so much more stressful!	/r/RedPillWomen	01/07/22 02:42 AM
3	Division of labor as a SAHM - what should I expect? Same here! I love cleaning and cooking, and have always loved kids too, so it’s really fulfilling for me! I love seeing other responses like this.	/r/RedPillWomen	01/07/22 02:39 AM
2	Division of labor as a SAHM - what should I expect? This is such a great response! My husband does less than yours does, but he works a lot of hours and travels for work too. So our family that lives closeby sort of “subsidizes” what he would do. Thankfully, we have a big family and they help me out with the house, cook meals, come over to hang out, and babysit the kids. That way when he’s home, I’m well rested and things are taken care of. It works out because he can also rest and we can hang out when the kids are down. A good support system can…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/07/22 02:37 AM
2	Division of labor as a SAHM - what should I expect? I’ve been a SAHM for four years and I have three kids. I think what you suggested is a fair split. I do basically all of the cleaning, cooking, meal planning, and taking care of the kids all day. He helps with the kids most nights for a few hours by playing with them and helping me with bath time/ bedtime (though I do that alone sometimes, and with three young kids it’s a lot). With homemaking and raising kids, it’s like any job - it gets easier with experience. Being a new mom is HARD. Being wi…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/07/22 02:28 AM
-5	I (26F) think the guy I’m interested in (30M) is porn sick That is disgusting and you are right to be concerned about that. I’d also be upset if my SO was looking at porn of women who look very different than me. Because that’s showing what he really is attracted to and desires. That hurt me just reading it.	/r/RedPillWomen	24/06/22 12:44 PM
1	Starting over at almost 30 I wrote this assuming that you’re leaving your ex — which you should. The problems are only going to continue. Leave the country if there aren’t any dating prospects there, and go to a more populated area if you need to. There’s also nothing wrong with living with your family until you’re married. It saves a ton of money and it’s very normal outside of the US.	/r/RedPillWomen	22/06/22 11:08 PM
3	Starting over at almost 30 You are 28, no kids, marriage oriented. You really aren’t in a bad spot at all! Keep yourself healthy, find a good church to attend, connect with your family and friends, and tell them you’re looking to date. There are job openings all over right now, live below your means and pay off debt. You can find lots of cute and new dresses and shoes at thrift stores, workout at home, and cook at home (bonus that you’ll need that skill when you have a family!). You will find someone, you truly do have ti…	/r/RedPillWomen	22/06/22 11:05 PM
6	Being a homemaker/SAHM in this economy… Like how often do you buy yourself things, even if it’s from a thrift store? What soap do you buy your kids? Do you coupon, and buy all the cheapest items at the grocery store? I’m honestly curious. My husband makes more than triple that and we’ve even had to tighten up our purse strings.	/r/RedPillWomen	22/06/22 02:34 AM
6	Being a homemaker/SAHM in this economy… Wowwww on only 40k? That’s incredible! You must give me all your frugal secrets!	/r/RedPillWomen	22/06/22 02:32 AM
3	Being a homemaker/SAHM in this economy… I’m a SAHM and it’s even more important to be home now than before. Childcare is difficult to come by and it’s very expensive. Especially for my three kids, it would cost a lot. We also save money on gas by me not having to drive to work, I cook all meals at home and stick to a grocery budget, we do free/low cost activities, are involved with our church, have play dates often, free babysitting from grandparents, etc. I also workout at home because even finding a gym with childcare is a challenge…	/r/RedPillWomen	22/06/22 02:30 AM
10	Pornography Porn is not acceptable in a marriage, or ever. Porn has tons of horrible effects on the brain, relationships, and in society (contributes to rape, violence, human trafficking, child trafficking, etc). It’s absolutely toxic, no one should consume it. Just have sex with your spouse. If they need to masturbate, they can use their imagination.	/r/RedPillWomen	12/06/22 01:45 AM
3	How to deal with men who are close to you but are not your husband? So your husband wants you to accept a man who raped you into your daughter’s life? That’s a hard pass and he shouldn’t tolerate it either. Wow.	/r/RedPillWomen	08/06/22 10:13 PM
8	How do you get over your boyfriend looking at other woman online My husband doesn’t. And I don’t look at or talk to other men.	/r/RedPillWomen	08/06/22 02:42 AM
10	Which is better- husband with low or high body count? That is absolutely horrifying to hear about the actress being assaulted , oh my gosh	/r/RedPillWomen	02/06/22 08:06 PM
55	Which is better- husband with low or high body count? Low	/r/RedPillWomen	02/06/22 08:04 PM
1	What to do when your partner is in a heated situation? I don’t want to undermine his masculinity but I also really dislike this type of confrontation. Sounds like he’s a normal guy and you handled it well. Your anxieties aren’t totally unfounded though. I would be weary of who he gets into altercations with. Some people are more prone to violence than others. Avoid “dangerous” areas of town if you can. Most people aren’t going to kill over a fender bender, but some might if they’re unhinged.	/r/RedPillWomen	01/06/22 11:23 AM
16	I don’t feel sexual chemistry with my boyfriend I would break up with him. You shouldn’t marry someone you aren’t attracted to.	/r/RedPillWomen	29/05/22 03:57 PM
11	Losing a little weight and change in SMV Yes girl. It will. Lose that weight, grow your hair out, take vitamins, dress in feminine clothing, wear a light scented perfume… you’ll be a whole new woman!	/r/RedPillWomen	25/05/22 05:28 PM
1	Considering moving in before engagement You’re right to set this boundary. I didn’t live with my husband until one month before the wedding. I wish I had waited until after the wedding too. My husband was very marriage minded and didn’t delay to propose. I was not shy about telling him I wanted to get engaged/married, so there was no confusion on his part. Definitely make it known to him that you need a proposal before moving! And stick to it. If it’s important to him to be with you, he will honor this. If not, don’t waste any more ch…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/05/22 02:40 PM
7	How do you feel about "settling" for someone? If you have doubts this early, I’d be hesitant to stay with him. When my husband and I were dating, we were inseparable, I couldn’t stop thinking about him, I wanted to always be with him. Eight years later and I still think he’s the best guy I know, and I still look at him and think he’s hot. A part of that is because he and I both make health and exercise a priority. If that’s a priority for you, I’d talk to him about it. It’s about more than looks - it’s about values and beliefs too. Whoever …	/r/RedPillWomen	16/05/22 04:36 PM
6	Is your man the spiritual leader? Yes. We switched from Baptist (my background) to Presbyterian (his background). We baptized our kids like he was baptized as a baby. He prays with me and the kids every night before bed. He is able to quickly reference Bible verses, stories, sermons, and lessons and apply it to our discussions. I support our family by getting us ready for church, staying up to date on the events at church, organizing small group meetings and events, praying for him, teaching our kids the Bible, making sure they’…	/r/RedPillWomen	10/05/22 07:22 PM
1	Say a kid has an illness that requires antibiotics to treat. What should a wife do, in your opinion , if her husband says no to the antibiotics?( He did “research” online and turned against them) This seems like trolling, but just in case it’s not, please listen to your doctor and give your child antibiotics.	/r/RedPillWomen	07/05/22 06:37 AM
2	What can you do when you can't get over an unfulfilled desire and it's making you resentful? This is so tough, I totally see what you’re saying about sibling dynamics. I think if he really doesn’t want any more kids, he needs to make that really clear and not send mixed signals. Ask him to really do some praying/introspection/soul searching for a few weeks because this is very important to you and you need a final answer. And if the answer is still no, then you unfortunately will need time to grieve. Also, he should really consider getting a vasectomy unless he’s okay with the risk of a…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/05/22 12:53 AM
40	My husband doesn’t find any older women attractive and it scares me. Maybe that will change as he gets older. In ten years, he will be 56 and you’ll only be 37. Most 20-30 somethings I know wouldn’t look twice at a man 55+ (unless he is abnormally fit, well dressed, and wealthy). Also if you’re married, he made a commitment to you. Aging is a part of life. The best thing we can do is age gracefully and build a life we will be happy with and proud of as we get older.	/r/RedPillWomen	28/04/22 09:45 PM
16	What questions to ask before you think of marrying a HVM? How’s his relationship with his parents, your future in laws? How do you both plan on taking care of your parents as they age? In your home, or nursing home? How are his spending habits? Does he have any major debt? What are his parenting philosophies? Is he against yelling at kids, spanking, etc? Would you like your future sons to turn out like him? Do you genuinely like being around him? Do you feel like you encourage each other to be the people you want to be?	/r/RedPillWomen	25/04/22 10:39 PM
1	My doctor just discouraged me from having another child What?! My OB encouraged me to go for a fourth lol. He has six kids of his own.	/r/RedPillWomen	24/04/22 01:20 AM
32	Accepted to graduate school at 25... sacrificing my dreams of marriage and motherhood? Depending on your job, one of my friends is an SLP and she works 3 days a week, and is with her son the rest of the week. Though she can’t fully stay at home, it’s a good balance for her and she makes good money while she’s working.	/r/RedPillWomen	18/04/22 07:45 PM
12	Is it a red flag if my guy does not offer to help me when I’m sick? Every “care package” I’ve ever received has come from a woman. It’s definitely more of a feminine thing to do. If you tell him explicitly you don’t feel like cooking or something, maybe he would offer to drop off some food? That seems more like something a guy would do. Definitely don’t let unspoken expectations mess up the relationship if you like him a lot, especially if he’s busy with work and his kids. Sounds like he’s a hardworking dad to me.	/r/RedPillWomen	08/04/22 11:46 AM
1	What careers/jobs should women have before hopefully being SAHW/SAHM? You could become a seamstress for a business, like Joseph A Bank or a wedding / formalwear store.	/r/RedPillWomen	08/04/22 11:31 AM
12	Mrs. Midwest is so pretty. Valeria Lipovetsky is gorgeous 😍 and so fit after multiple kids!	/r/RedPillWomen	07/04/22 08:07 PM
19	Interreligious dating If you are a Christian and want to remain a Christian, no. The Bible is clear on this.	/r/RedPillWomen	07/04/22 12:42 PM
20	Thoughts on cooking for boyfriend? I cook for my family and girlfriends, and I cooked for my husband while he was still my boyfriend. He liked that I knew how to cook and proposed after 10/11 months.	/r/RedPillWomen	04/04/22 02:06 AM
1	Cooking Buy a cookbook with recipes you like and practice making them.	/r/RedPillWomen	03/04/22 07:46 PM
2	Opinions on arranged marriages? I would do it if I were you lol. I’ve had some arranged marriages in my family (Slavic) work out really well.	/r/RedPillWomen	02/04/22 01:15 AM
11	Starting to become afraid of having kids, because I'll be an older mom (30F) I’m all for having kids young. But 30 is definitely not too old! You’ll still be younger than a lot of other moms if you start soon. You may not have any of the health issues your family had. And even if you did, with modern medicine, basically any complication can be taken care of. The chances of your baby having special needs is much less than the likelihood of them being perfectly healthy. Medicine, nutrition, and science has advanced so much. Sounds like you already take good care of yoursel…	/r/RedPillWomen	22/02/22 04:21 AM
20	How many of you make lunch for your husband/boyfriend/partner? Yes, but my husband works from home and so I just make an extra of whatever my kids and I are eating. He loves it. And honestly it’s the least I could do.	/r/RedPillWomen	03/02/22 12:29 PM
3	What are your thoughts on arranged marriages? Both of my grandmothers were arranged married at 17 and they stayed married until death, with husbands who loved and doted on them. I’m pretty sure all the women in generations before them were also arranged marriages. My parents got married within six months of meeting (mom was 19). It wasn’t until my generation when things really changed. I got married in my early 20s and honestly wish it had been sooner.	/r/RedPillWomen	07/01/22 02:49 PM
5	Baby fever to young In many cultures today, it’s still normal for women to get married at 18 and have long happy marriages. As long as you have family around to help (or can afford to pay for high quality babysitters/nannies), you can still go to school, travel, go out on dates, etc.	/r/RedPillWomen	29/12/21 11:06 PM
8	Walking away from work to be a stay at home mom - should I do it? As a a SAHM, I can honestly say I’m not stressed and truly enjoy my days with my children. I have time for all the housework and cooking. My husband never wants me to go back haha. Some days are hard and it’s an adjustment to not have any (or much) alone or adult time. But I wouldn’t trade it for anything.	/r/RedPillWomen	22/12/21 12:30 PM
12	Engaged Christians & Premarital Sex Don’t move in together until after the wedding if you want the best shot. We moved in together a month-ish before the wedding (because both of our leases had ended and we had no one else to live with in our area) and our willpower did not last long in that situation. I would definitely get a mentor couple involved in this situation. Or talk to your premarital counselor. Pray for him. It is really hard to wait 30+ years to have sex, especially when you’re engaged to be married, and the urges are …	/r/RedPillWomen	18/12/21 11:02 PM
6	Debating ending it with my fiancée, utterly lost. I’ll also add that yelling around children is very harmful to their development. Even doing it occasionally (when I have been stressed out and at my wits end) makes me feel extremely guilty. I can’t imagine having a spouse who yells around the kids often.	/r/RedPillWomen	18/12/21 05:46 PM
8	Debating ending it with my fiancée, utterly lost. Many problems you have before marriage only become amplified afterwards, and especially after having kids. If he has anger problems now, it’s going to be worse when you have a baby who wakes you up at night (and you can’t keep the house as clean as you want) or a loud toddler who interrupts his TV/conversations/etc and won’t go to bed on time. If you have a baby with this man, you’ll be tied to him forever. It’s better to have a broken off engagement now than be a single mom later on. Think real…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/12/21 05:44 PM
0	Boyfriend told me he doesnt want to get married? It really depends on your beliefs, and if you’re willing to compromise or not. For me, being raised Christian, I have strong beliefs about marriage and it would be a dealbreaker for me. I would take some time to think and pray about this relationship.	/r/RedPillWomen	13/12/21 07:29 PM
5	New mom feeling resentful Yep as a mom I can totally relate.. If you’ve barely been getting any alone time or help, you’re probably feeling frazzled, overwhelmed, exhausted, frustrated.. especially with your first baby (which I felt like has the biggest learning curve). Your hormones and body are still recovering and changing. And I definitely wouldn’t want to leave my exclusively breastfed baby with someone else at eight weeks, just to have to pump at a party, and socialize when I’m feeling exhausted. Mom of a newborn e…	/r/RedPillWomen	10/12/21 02:58 AM
0	Do men really want to get married? You don’t want to be in a position where you’re pushing him to do something he doesn’t want to do. Giving an ultimatum for engagement sounds like it would be awful (I’ve heard some women do that). I don’t know if you can convince a guy that marriage is a good thing. My husband was very marriage oriented when we met, he was the only guy I ever dated, and we got married young. Maybe that’s why I don’t understand this situation. He might be a great guy, but if your values aren’t aligned, then maybe…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/12/21 10:01 PM
52	Do men really want to get married? I don’t know why women tolerate this. If you are both marriage minded and want to get married, there is no reason to wait years and years. He should know by now. It’s honestly disrespectful. Just my opinion. Marriage isn’t like having kids. What are his fears? If money is an issue — you can have a small, affordable wedding, he can still work on building up his career, save up money, and wait to have kids. But if he’s not going to commit to you now, and you invest your prime fertile years in him …	/r/RedPillWomen	09/12/21 07:44 PM
8	What Makes A Woman High Value? I definitely agree with your point on temperament! He doesn’t want a wife who is always screaming at the kids, plops them in front of the TV all day, drinks alcohol every night, is in a bad mood, gives up on her appearance or doing things around the house. When you’re in the thick of raising multiple young children, you need a good attitude, motivation, resilience, and optimism to get through the challenging moments. It’s hard work, especially if you pull your weight at home by cooking, cleaning…	/r/RedPillWomen	03/12/21 01:23 AM
6	is it a problem if i only start dating at 22 First, I would tune out anything you read about SMV and “the wall.” A lot of that stuff is exaggerated and can be really difficult for women to read. Don’t let it get to your head, I would stop reading it. You are a beautiful, healthy 20 year old girl. I would focus on what you enjoy doing, like exercise, school, extracurriculars, reading, learning useful skills, and your friendships with your girlfriends and family. Great job on not participating in hook up culture or one night stands!! That’s …	/r/RedPillWomen	20/11/21 12:11 PM
1	They lied to me. I watched the women in my workplace do this for three years before I had my own. I watched them FaceTime their husbands/nannies and say goodnight to their kids while we worked late. I watched them wave to their families outside the windows when we had to come in on families. I watched them get talked about by our managers when they had to leave a little early to pick up their kids. I watched women be so uncomfortable during meetings because they really needed to go pump their breast milk, but th…	/r/RedPillWomen	20/11/21 11:49 AM
3	What does she bring to the table? My husband got me a $2,500 engagement ring and I thought that was so expensive, I felt bad. Then I had a co-worker almost laugh at me, and said she told her boyfriend he had to propose with a $10k ring from Tiffany’s or she would say no. He worked at Papa John’s at the time. When she asked me to be in her wedding, I said no because my husband hated her. I am shocked at how entitled some women are. Also I’m sorry if women aren’t allowed to comment here, please delete if so.	/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen	25/09/21 05:59 PM