breadfruitbanana Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
642	What do you wish someone had told you about men when you were 14?	DISCUSSION	breadfruitbanana	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	31/10/21 08:30 PM

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3	If you’re scaring them, you’re doing something right. Agree. It’s not even bravery. It’s just being healthy and well balanced and not seeing seeing normal human behaviour as somehow threatening because you’re used to servitude.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/04/22 07:58 AM
270	I just got dumped mid-abortion I had a friend who had a guy refuse to pay for more than half the abortion because it wasn’t “fair” to expect him to pay more. After a brief discussion about how fair it was that she was the only one who had to have a traumatic medical procedure - he continued to complain - so she decided to troll him. She told him that that was fine because she’d been waiting for a sign on whether she should abort or have the baby and now he was making an issue she’d decided to keep it. He begged her to abort. …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/02/22 03:05 PM
70	A message to male lurkers: So what exactly is it about FDS that triggers you? Men are mad because this sub makes it harder for them to exploit women. They also hate the cognitive dissonance the sub causes. They want to be able to exploit women AND feel like they’re the good guys. This sub makes them feel like they just might actually be the bad guys, so they go on the attack, say we are wrong and evil … and voila - cognitive dissonance resolved: FDS bad, scrote behaviour good.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/12/21 08:21 PM
81	Woman sees tornado and frantically moves her kids to safety. Husband questions her sanity, slights her for “scaring the kids,” and foolishly goes outside. All of this - and also they just act like little princes. Their ‘staff’ of women are supposed smooth out all the rough corners in life for them. What they’re really saying is “oh dear really, can’t you find a way to manage this problem so it doesn’t disturb me? It’s terribly inconvenient don’t you know. Mother would never have allowed this kind of kerfuffle, it’s just too bad.”	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/12/21 09:41 AM
120	Woman sees tornado and frantically moves her kids to safety. Husband questions her sanity, slights her for “scaring the kids,” and foolishly goes outside. It’s also really crappy risk management. Risk management 101 is to minimise risk when the cost of doing so is low. So avoiding a car crash by never driving a car again is high cost. Wearing a mask for covid is relatively low cost. Believing your wife and taking action as if there is a hurricane is low also cost. Arguing with her is high cost - because if you’re wrong you and your kids are dead, and if you’re right you’ve damaged the relationship. It’s a lose/lose scenario. This guy is literally …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/12/21 09:35 AM
3	The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 40 -Scrote Decode: John Cena & His Insane 75 Page Girlfriend Contract Just watched the Conan video too. It’s hilarious.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/12/21 09:24 AM
86	What are some early on signs he’s a cheater? Insecure. Seeks external validation for his self esteem. I learned this when a female friend of mine cheated on her boyfriend. She was totally against cheating in theory, and didn’t want to leave her boyfriend (she ended marrying him, they have 2 kids, still together). But she was feeling insecure and needed the instant validation cheating gave her. Never trust an insecure man.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/12/21 02:08 AM
8	For the men who complain about dead bedrooms, how does it feel to be the architect of you own misery? Yep. It’s funny how being exploited in the daily isn’t sexy after 10-15 years.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/12/21 07:25 PM
19	Telling women to “just communicate” with their uncaring, oblivious, self centered partners is the advice equivalent of asking, “Have you tried turning off and back on again?” My partner is totally like this. We have an big conversation about how he is letting me down, usually be exploiting my emotional labour or treating me as his PA. He apologises and promises to do better. And. That’s it. A few weeks later it’s like we never had the conversation. I realised that to him it was all about just making me happy again in the moment. Once we had made up the problem was ‘solved’ and he just forgot about it. Like most men, my husband is more emotional than strategic. He oft…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/21 12:23 AM
6	Telling women to “just communicate” with their uncaring, oblivious, self centered partners is the advice equivalent of asking, “Have you tried turning off and back on again?” Absolutely. Relationships need to be reciprocal. Asking one person in the partnership to shoulder all the emotional load is exploitation.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/21 12:14 AM
16	I left a perfectly good man because FDS made me believe I could do better. And you were right Absolutely Buying the family presents and planning everting might be fine now while OP in her 20s and no kids. But come back and talk to me when she’s done it for 20+ years and the last 15 years have been for 4 people AND she’s never had a day off. When over two decades she’s never been on a holiday where she’s not the tour guide, and she’s never had anyone buy her a decent gift and her needs never ever come first. There was a lot wrong with him. It would have eventually killed her love for him.…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/11/21 09:40 PM
163	What do you wish someone had told you about men when you were 14? Thank you so much everyone! Turns out I got much more than 2 minutes! I told the kids I posted here and they’ve asked me to read all the posts aloud. I’m reading them out right now to a 12 year old boy, a 14 year old boy, and two 14 year olds. They’re discussing and debating. I’ll share the highlights of their comments!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	31/10/21 10:58 PM
94	What do you wish someone had told you about men when you were 14? This is a golden nugget of wisdom!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	31/10/21 10:21 PM
73	You’ve heard about baby trapping. Be wary of baby and marriage trapping (by his family) I absolutely know a woman who this happened to. She dumped him, after he complained that she didn’t wear enough matching lingerie while being totally low effort himself in every aspect of the relationship. The family stepped in and pressured him to Hoover her back up. They got back together. Within weeks she was pregnant, his family gave them a house etc. They’re still together now. Last time I visited he had worn a ditch in the sofa playing video games.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	31/10/21 08:37 PM
8	Make sure you are his first option. Men can fake and pretend you’re his #1 because they’re lonely, when in fact you aren’t the one they want. My husband is 5 years younger than me. We met when I was 27. Can recommend. (Before him everyone I dated was 5-10 years older).	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/10/21 08:38 AM
15	No words. Rest in beautiful peace, Agnes In my western country one women is killed every week by someone she once called family. That’s old pre covid stats too. I’m sure it’s much higher now.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/10/21 11:46 AM
54	Men have become so comfortable with violating women’s boundaries that they don’t feel any shame in admitting to it In my country rape in marriage was considered a contractual right until I was about 12 when it was made illegal. I remember it being debated on the news for years. People seriously argued that the new laws were going to damage the institution of marriage and would inevitably lead to the breakdown of families. Seriously!. The contract of marriage was seen to include the right to sex, many people successfully argued that if men didn’t get sex (i.e legal rape) on demand then they would leave the ma…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/10/21 07:47 PM