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ADVICEbreemakin/r/RedPillWomen21/01/23 12:17 PM
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breemakin/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 07:50 AM
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We don’t do anything for valentines - gift giving isn’t really either of our things. We may go away on a weekend soon. That would just be for my benefit because he works away a lot so doesn’t really like to take trips away whereas I’m cooped up at home and love to go places.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/23 08:45 AM
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Giving someone your number is expressing interest but then it is the man’s responsibility to “chase”. In this day and age, it can be a bit risky to just approach random women. It’s nice for women to make a move to show her interest and allow the man to confidently pursue her.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/23 12:07 AM
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So we’re not allowed to flirt now?
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/23 11:06 PM
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Yes, I agree. I’m definitely into monogamy which goes against TRPs whole “spinning plates” thing and I also hate the idea of my husband “negging” me (my feelings would be hurt lol). It’s not my cup of tea lol.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/23 08:16 AM
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I would never date a man who said to me he was “red pilled”. For me, that just doesn’t align with what I want in man. My husband doesn’t even know what the red pill is beyond the Matrix 😂 Despite this, like him, many of his friends and my own friends are traditionally minded. None of them use the internet like I do (they wouldn’t even know what reddit was lmao) and they’d have no idea about TRP but they are still in traditional relationships and marriages. I try not to label people because I am …
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/23 05:47 AM
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Oooo this is totally off topic but do you have any resources for making those things? Any good communities? I’m in a lot of homesteading groups but there’s a lot of men doing the murderin’ of animals in there (which is great for them) but it’s not exactly what I’m into 😂 Also totally agree with you about those men being in an echo chamber. You attract what you put out into the world. If all you do is whinge and whine about how bad all women are, that’s all you’re gonna get. No self respecting, d…
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/23 05:33 AM
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No. You know yourself you are capable of love. You love your family, your love your friends and you are capable of loving a man. Also, please don’t listen to any more red pill content aimed at men. It will either A) ruin your self esteem so much that you only date weak-minded, low value losers who take advantage of you; or B) ruin your perception of men so much so you become bitter and resentful and never have a fulfilling and happy relationship. At your age, focus on your schooling and making g…
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/23 05:30 AM
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If it wasn’t you, she’d find someone else to harass for some other reason. Unfortunately, some people just have nothing better to do.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/23 11:17 PM
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Even though I’m married, I spend the majority of my days alone and will do for the rest of this season of my life. At the beginning, I was very lonely. I would pout and sook and cling to my husband when he finally came home. It was miserable. One day I just decided I was not going to be miserable anymore and instead took it upon myself to feel content with my situation. I obtained many more hobbies and found simple pleasures in being alone (such watching pride & prejudice and eating cheese and c…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/23 11:24 AM
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Yuck 🤮
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/23 11:58 AM
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The UTI thing, yes. Cotton undies saved me. I will forever be indebted to granny panties. 😂
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/23 11:21 AM
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I feel the same for some reason. I own a black pair of jeans and a lighter wash pair of blue jeans. They’re both Levi 501s (I think) which I find to be flattering on my body shape. (I also have “work jeans” which are basically so I have a chance at life if I step on a brown snake lmao). If I’m wearing jeans I always seem to wear a super frilly, feminine top to compensate or I don’t feel like myself. I’m also not super feminine by any means (life/personality-wise as I pretty much run our hobby fa…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/23 11:19 AM
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If it doesn’t make you happy, then, no, you shouldn’t. Relationships should be mutually beneficial. It doesn’t sound like this relationship provides any benefit to you at all. Honestly, who cares if you’re alone with cats/dogs/rabbits. Isn’t that a better option than being with this horrible excuse for a husband?
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/23 06:39 AM
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women who wear modest clothing at the gym are all misogynists or uncomfortable in their skin. That’s not what she said at all?
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/23 11:51 PM
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You too! Keep daydreaming, it’s fun! 🥰
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/23 10:35 PM
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I’m 25 and just married! We are also planning for me to be a SAHM and we own our own house (we’ve been together 7 year and this is our second, forever house). My goal before kids, though, is to go to Europe so gotta do that first and then it’s baby-time! My husband wants to start now but we’ve come to an agreement lol! It’s so fun thinking about the future.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/23 04:29 AM
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I also do love a good grandma vibe. What I do is, say, wear a long skirt with a tight/more revealing top. I also like to wear shorter dresses but I make sure they’re flowy. I definitely feel uncomfortable in clothes that cling to the skin all over especially since I enjoy food and beer and any bloat I have is noticeable since I’m thin. 😅 I just either show chest or legs but never both. I’ve found it to be a good medium.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/23 01:43 AM
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I agree with this second statement you made, for sure. I’ll always tell my friends “no wifey shit for men who won’t even call you a girlfriend”. I still don’t understand how your first comment was meant to communicate that?
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/23 10:24 PM
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This is totally irrelevant to the post? What point were you trying to make?
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/23 07:28 AM
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If you want to read my comment below it might give some more perspective on how mental illnesses impact relationships. It’s taken a lot of work on both parts of us to be happy, content and balanced. If you just have the sads sometimes then that’s perfectly normal and any partner (who is emotionally mature) will understand that’s just life. Severe mental illness is different and more impactful on a relationship - even if the mentally “well” partner is doing their best. Please let me know if you h…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/23 08:16 AM
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As a 25 year old with some serious ass mental health issues (and now more unfolding woohoo ADHD?) the best thing you should do is get into therapy. I nearly destroyed my relationship by avoiding medical assistance. Now that I’m properly medicated, in therapy and have a better understanding of why I do the things I do (and my husband has also made an effort to speak with my psychiatrist and do his own research to understand why and how my brain is the way it is) my entire life has changed. I stil…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/23 08:09 AM
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I’d personally rather eat glass over have my in-laws move in - even though I do love them. Perhaps you can compromise and send your sister a bit of extra money to help out instead of having them move in?
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/23 04:01 AM
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Thank you. Survivor bias is ridiculous. Childrens’ safety should always be a parents’ first and foremost priority. It doesn’t take much effort to change your shirt and wash your hands for the sake of your children.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/23 10:25 PM
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No, women should be with them if they want. I’m trying to point out a flaw in their argument and how TRP constantly contradict themselves.
/r/ExRedPill22/01/23 08:46 PM
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Actually, men sperm quality goes down every year between 2-9%. Even though men create new sperm, the sperm that they create is worse (got extra tails, too slow, etc). This becomes extremely evident around the age of 35-40 depending on the man. They are much more likely to produce a genetically unviable baby (miscarriage/stillbirth/medically necessary abortion) or a live baby with physical/mental disabilities even if they’re having a child with a 20 year old woman. TRP places such a great emphasi…
/r/ExRedPill22/01/23 09:38 AM
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Thank you, I appreciate the sentiment. The totem is a sentimental object that used to belong to my friend. Because it was her immediate family that caused her death, her extended family (who are all lovely and live in Croatia) never got anything physical to remember her with. I wanted to hand deliver the object myself and connect with her family.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/23 02:15 AM
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No, actually, that’s not the case. Obviously, things would have to change around his absence at work but we would go during the slow part of the year (which works out well because it’s winter here but summer in Europe). He also took 4 weeks off spontaneously to go to visit my family for Christmas last year (busy period) so 6-7 weeks is very doable with planning. I agree our relationship is worth preserving 100%. I’m just so confused and frustrated. His only reply was “most people don’t get to do…
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/23 01:57 AM
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Before the wedding, we were planning to go together. Now he’s changed his mind to no one is going.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/23 01:53 AM
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I sound crazy? 😳 My friend is very dead so I can’t give it to her anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/23 01:52 AM
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No ahahaha I love him but the man wouldn’t know how to plan an overseas trip if someone held a gun to his head 😂 that’s not his forte lol
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/23 09:47 PM
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I’ve tried to have a mature conversation but he just won’t explain to me what’s suddenly the problem. I’ll go any time. Later in the year, in a years time, in 3 years time. It doesn’t worry me so long as I go. All of my responsibilities (mortgage, bills, animals) would be taken easily care of when I was away.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/23 07:02 PM
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Thank you for that perspective. This situation just sucks. I’ll resent him forever if I don’t go and he won’t be happy (at this stage) if I do go. Ugh. I’ve decided to leave it alone for a week or two and bring up some of the discussion points that other commenters have suggested. I’ll leave the ultimatum for now.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/23 06:59 PM
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Hi! So, we are actually purchasing part of the business that my husband works for. He does already work long hours but it would not increase after the purchase. We would probably actually have more flexibility. His job as he knows it would essentially not change at all. Thanks for your very constructive criticism. I have tried to get to the bottom of it but he won’t give me a reason at all which I find immature and frustrating. I will leave it alone for a week or two before bringing it up again …
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/23 06:56 PM
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No idea! I’d love for him to go with me!
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/23 06:48 PM
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Yes, always supportive and he wanted to go with me. We talked about to extensively. He doesn’t like the idea of me going alone (but I did travel extensively in SEA alone when I was 16-18 and travelled to NZ several times alone since we’ve been together. I can definitely handle myself and am a confident solo traveller but I totally understand if he didn’t want me alone) and he wanted to come with which is great of course. I love being with him and prefer it that way anyway. Like I said, finances …
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/23 12:51 PM
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Thank you for commiserating with me. Our savings are joint. I’ve probably contributed an additional $35k to our joint savings (not including the savings I already had for the trip totalling $20k). All of our money is joint. I just don’t understand why he would tell me he’s happy for me to make the trip and now change his mind? Nothing has changed? :(
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/23 12:33 PM
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I agree to an extent. Asexuality is real. Some people don’t feel any sexual feelings. My BIL is one of them. He is perfectly healthy (actually a health nut) in every way. Grew up very normal. No traumas. It’s just a thing. It’s probably technically a mental illness but it doesn’t harm anyone so 🤷‍♀️ His gf is also asexual (she’s the one that told me all this) and they met in an online support group. They have a happy life but neither are interested in sex until it comes to the point of them maki…
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/23 08:18 AM
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What’s the difference between childlike and childish? Sus vibes
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/23 04:04 AM
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Weird I haven’t been banned from there?
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/23 05:51 AM
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I’m not the “traditional” type but I still find benefit in this sub.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/23 12:07 AM
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Men and women’s RP dating goals dont often align so a dating app for TRP would likely not be productive. For example, I’d never date a red-pilled man. My husband wouldn’t even know what TRP was if you asked him, lol. Think about what you want in a very basic sense (marriage, kids, religion) and be upfront when dating. It’s likely the most productive way.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/23 11:41 AM
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Yes! Thank you! I was aghast reading some of these comments. When you have lots of little ones at home, both parents need to help out with parenting or something’s going to snap. I also can’t imagine my husband ever sitting on the couch watching me run around and do all the housework, cooking, childcare, etc while he relaxes.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/23 01:14 AM
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You deserve what you put into the universe. If someone isn’t returning the effort that you put in, leave. Don’t sit around and wait for someone who is going to suck you dry. By the time the relationship finally ends, it will take you so long to get back into the dating scene and you’ll lose valuable time. Cut it off while you still have some self respect and strength.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/23 01:06 PM
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Are you a virgin?
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/23 01:04 PM
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https://www.abc.net.au/triplej/programs/hack/false-rape-allegations-myths/13281852 Some good reading!
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/23 01:03 PM
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I know a lot of women my age (24-25) who date down. Like, really down. It has always puzzled me. They repeat the process over and over and still wonder why these guys don’t step up to the plate. They have poor hygiene, are on drugs, are cheaters, have dead end jobs, etc. They will tell me they want marriage and to be young mothers, etc but seem to repeat the process over and over with the same sort of yahoos and then proceed to get hung up on said yahoos and waste another 6 months of dating time…
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/23 12:22 AM
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How many is a large number? Statistically, very few rape allegations are false.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/23 12:09 AM
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THANK YOU. When I see people in RP spaces talking about women hitting “the wall” as if a 25 year old woman doesn’t look basically exactly the same at 30 (barring any weight gain/other unfortunate issue) I just have to roll my eyes. Many men in RP spaces seem to think they all age like fine wine and have nothing to worry about - they’ll all be getting 22yos when they’re 65! Like, have you seen the average middle aged man lately?
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/23 12:07 AM
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Do you want kids? Like, could you see yourself at 60 with no kids when all your friends are starting to have grandkids and be happy and content with that? If yes, continue the relationship, work part time and be a housewife. If no, end the relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/23 02:28 AM
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I’m in my mid 20s and I didn’t wait until marriage because I’m not religious and it’s not important to me (still have only been with the man I ended up marrying anyway lol) but I’m here to tell you STICK TO YOUR GUNS. So many men in university are going to try and pressure you and they’ll tell you all sorts of horrible things but DONT GIVE IN. Always be true to yourself!!
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/23 09:46 AM
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17 - went on my first ever date with the man who was my soon to be boyfriend 19 - bought my first house with said boyfriend 19 - got first pet! A cat! 20 - got first puppy and two more (accidental) cats 21 - bought my second house and potential forever home with same boyfriend (homestead with 40 acres). 22 - got second puppy and also lots of animals like sheep, goats, chickens, horses (yes, my husband is sick of me and my menagerie) 23 - engaged 23 - sold first house for good profit 24 - married…
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/23 09:41 AM
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I laugh at the men in TRP forums who claim their fertility value never decreases because they can have babies forever. Yeah, unwell babies. That’s exactly what every woman wants.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/23 04:34 AM
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It’s also interesting that now the birth rate has dropped, governments are scrambling to find ways to bring it back up. This is despite the fact that, within the past 30 years, they’ve done nothing but make parenting as unappealing and unattainable as possible. Like you said, we just aren’t taught how to be happy and healthy anymore. We aren’t given any resources but most don’t have the time to find the answers themselves. It’s all about the “grind” and what makes the gov the most money. Like, d…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/23 04:33 AM
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Do you have any other similar book recommendations? I’m just starting to get into learning about my hormonal health, fertility, etc and I’m going to come off the pill now that I’m married and try Daysy as a birth control method (not ready for offspring just yet lol). There’s a lot of information out there and it’s a bit overwhelming at the moment 😅
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/23 04:26 AM
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The problem isn’t him leaving her, the problem is him committing to her through marriage and then wanting to have children with her.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/23 10:48 PM
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Yes it’s just going to blow up and end.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/23 05:19 AM
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Maybe find common ground in your interests and go from there! My two best friends are single and looking to mingle so it’s sometimes just a reality that we’ll be around single men. My husband trusts me, though, and my friends are really good at backing me up when pushy guys try their shit and are happy to leave if I’m ever uncomfortable. Anyway, I also REALLY don’t like clubbing (I will attend for a hens or a friend’s birthday party but I won’t go out of my way to go because ew). I find chill ba…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/23 09:16 AM
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Yeah phone format can be sooo annoying sometimes! But yeah OPs boyfriend is just a wank. He won’t get respect from anyone in his life and start to lash out further. Insecure men need to be alone for some time.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/23 09:19 AM
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It is in the comments of this post. I haven’t read through OPs post history.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/23 06:15 AM
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I’m not reading into it. She literally said he likes to make offensive jokes and make people uncomfortable. He’s called her a slut. Talked about how hot other women are. He’s asked her for threesomes even though she’s repeatedly told him she isn’t interested in that. He’s just an asshole and a bully but, you are right, most people don’t respect bullies.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/23 01:25 AM
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Or it could be the fact that he’s a raging asshole to everyone around him?
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/23 10:50 PM
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He just sounds like a fucking asshole. People can hold strong/controversial opinions without being an asshole about it. Also, calling you a slut and negging you about other women is just bullying. He doesn’t allow you to relax and lean into your feminine side but, instead, he ensures you’re always on edge and leaning into your masculine. It’s not going to work long term.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/23 10:29 PM
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Yes perspective is sooo important. I’ve had ladies ask me how I started homesteading because they want to be like ballerina farms and I just have to gently let them know that real farm life involves a LOT more poo and a lot less free time 😂
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/23 10:24 PM
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She has seven kids now and I’m 100% sure she has help especially because the kids are homeschooled. I’d say she at least has 2 people (nanny and governess). Yeah it’s definitely an unrealistic view of motherhood and homesteading but I focused on the homesteading part because I’m currently childless. Yes she always has those kids climbing all over that damn cow. Also driving vehicles without kids strapped in, etc. I did grow up in a farming community so I’m only slightly traumatised about machine…
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/23 10:19 PM
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Whilst her content is beautiful please be mindful that she and her husband are VERY wealthy and she comes from an extremely wealthy family. Her lifestyle may look very wholesome and basic but a lot of money has gone into making it appear that way. It’s definitely not a realistic interpretation of a normal life homesteading and could mislead a lot of people. I’m definitely not saying don’t look at her content as it is BEAUTIFUL and it gives you the warm fuzzies but, like all things on the interne…
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/23 03:14 AM
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First of all, I think you need to allow some grace for both yourself and your boyfriend. Your reaction might not have been perfect (and his certainly wasn’t perfect) but your lives have been flipped in a short 2 weeks and some tension is expected. He (in a very minor way) messed up. You asked him to fix the problem. He didn’t. You went out of your way and fixed it yourself. Of course he’s going to feel some sort of guilt/negative feeling and he had difficulties expressing it properly. Sleep depr…
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/23 02:16 AM
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But if said man knows about her past and chooses to get into a relationship with the woman anyway, he should not make her feel bad about it afterwards. He 100% has the choice to find a low/no body count woman but, if he chooses to be with someone who has had several partners before him, bringing it up repeatedly to argue makes him insecure and pathetic.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/23 12:29 AM
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Yes but if she changes herself, it should be for herself and not for someone else. If she made these changes just for a man (and a relationship that does not appear to have any longevity) then sooner or later the cracks will begin to show.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/23 12:26 AM
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First of all, you say you changed basically everything about yourself for this guy. Whilst I don’t think that sleeping around is great, you shouldn’t let a man build your personality to suit himself. Eventually, the cracks will begin to show. You should decide who you want to be and how you want to act on your own. Secondly, he sounds mighty insecure. Of course, it’s 100% his choice if he wants to be with a woman with a low/no body count but he’s chosen to be with you. You can’t go back and unfu…
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/23 12:24 AM
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Hahahaha sorry it did sound a bit spooky now I’m reading it again. I was actually trying to be reassuring that a fight will most likely happen but it’s not the end of the world lol 😆
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/23 09:56 PM
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We eventually had a fight. We have a big fight now like MAYBE once or twice a year.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/23 08:40 PM
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Also now low blows during fights!
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/23 09:31 AM
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My husband and I didn’t fight for the first 3 years of our relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/23 09:31 AM
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I think you’re bound to fight eventually if you live with anybody - whether it be sibling, parent or housemate. My husband and I didn’t fight for almost the first 3 years of our relationship and we’ve been together 7 years now. We’ve had a lot of stressful events in life (buying business, deaths in family, cancer, my spleen exploding and trying to kill me, me being unable to work, mortgage rates increasing, etc). It just happens.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/23 09:18 AM
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My husband and I never fought seriously for nearly the first 3 years of our relationship. I think the first year-ish is definitely the “honeymoon phase”. We fight occasionally now after 7 years. Maybe 2 huge blowouts a year (usually alcohol fuelled and very silly) and 2 mild disagreements a month (also usually very silly and because one of us are tired and cranky). Like living with anyone (sibling, parent, housemates, etc) you WILL fight sometimes and, occasionally, you will fight often during t…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/23 09:13 AM
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This. I used to insist on paying when my husband and I first started dating as teens but he’d never let me. I think it’s definitely a good idea to sincerely offer but not get annoyed/too dramatic if the man insists on paying instead. As we got older (late teens/early 20s) we just split it by whoever was picking up the food/closest to the till.
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/23 08:36 PM
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People assign importance to different things and that’s okay. You might not care if you get married, if your kids have the same last name as you, etc etc but I do care. Lots of people in RPW care. I love being married and I enjoyed throwing a big party for all my family and friends and wearing a pretty dress (it is materialistic but it’s fun).
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/22 10:57 PM
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In NSW, AUS it’s called a defacto relationship. Also, I added an edit to my response. Sorry if it’s a bit rambly.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/22 12:35 PM
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No idea. In my country if you live with someone for 6 months you’re essentially legally married so maybe it’s different to America. Any old girlfriend that you live with can take half your shite. ETA: my husband and I have never had any issues around marriage. He actually caught ME off guard by asking me. I’m nearly 25 and my mum didn’t start having kids until she was 32 so I was sort of working off that age for marriage/kids. He’s a firm believer in the family unit, though - even if he’s not re…
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/22 12:29 PM
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I never asked him to get married. Ever. I was actually very surprised when he asked me due to our ages. We’d talked about marriage but my parents didn’t start having kids until my mum was 32 so I was thinking on the same sort of timeline. My husband is traditional but not religious. He thinks kids should have a family all with the same name - not the mother having a different last name as he feels that’s exclusionary. He’s also a tradesman so he doesn’t gain anything by marrying me. He also want…
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/22 10:52 AM
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I’m just a marriage minded person. I can’t imagine my kids having a different last name to me. I want them to have a married mum and dad. It’s important to me and if it means “nothing” to him, then why shouldn’t he just accept the piece of nothing paper and get married?
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/22 10:07 AM
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I’m 25 and married to someone I’ve been with for 7 years. I’ve had many friends who whinge and whine to me that they do xyz (cooking, cleaning, crazy sex shit) for a man who won’t even commit to them. Why do it? My husband has never had issues committing to me. I was always marriage minded and so was he. We both believe it to be important for kids to have married (united) parents and everyone share the same last name. If that is not important to you, that’s fine. I just have lots of friends comp…
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/22 10:04 AM
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Whilst I do agree somewhat, I generally meant that: if a man isn’t giving you what you need, you should not be going above and beyond. In fact, you shouldn’t be wasting your time at all.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/22 06:59 AM
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It’s important to myself and my husband even though we’re not religious. We believe it’s important to call each other husband and wife and for our kids to have married parents.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/22 06:58 AM
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In my country all a couple has to do is live together 6 months and you’re essentially married but men are still getting into long term relationships with women. I think the problem is that there’s no real incentive to marry because they get all the perks of a wife without the big flash wedding. That’s why I say don’t do wifey shit if you’re not a wife.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/22 06:54 AM
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At the same time it’s one of the reasons women should avoid doing wifey shit for boyfriends. Where’s the incentive to marry you?
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/22 06:17 AM
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I’ve always been a kind and gentle person and it came naturally to me but being bullied made me harden just to get through high school mentally intact. I was a very easy target for girls. I’m glad I learned how to defend myself and not to take crap but I’m even more glad I can be a soft and loving person again now that I’m an adult and married to my wonderful husband.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/22 10:12 PM
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I didn’t know who they were because I don’t use tik tok but now I truly understand what sort of person you are.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/22 06:39 AM
1

It’s how my husband thinks? He would never cheat on me nor would he allow me to sleep with other men? Like, obviously men who feel as though they’re lacking something would look elsewhere but most wouldn’t. Also don’t you worry about him getting another woman pregnant, bringing home an STD or deciding his side piece would be a better wife? Don’t you get icked out that you’re at home and he’s out fucking randos? I just can’t wrap my head around the dynamic.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/22 06:01 AM
2

Yes, because the average woman is on reality tv. Go buy some self improvement plans from one of those scammers or something
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/22 06:00 AM
2

I don’t even have tik tok but good work outing yourself as a doofus. ETA: ohhhhh you’re into reality tv I get it now.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/22 03:12 AM
4

I didn’t say anything about anyone being rich??? I also don’t want a red pilled husband because that means having a husband that negs, “spins plates”, etc. My husband is traditionally masculine. Good family. Very good with his hands. Very straight and narrow. Wants me to stay home with our babies on our hobby farm. Etc, etc. He does make lots of money but that’s irrelevant. BUT we are not religious so we have no qualms with people living their own lives and doing what they want so long as it doe…
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/22 11:44 PM
1

I still don’t understand why he would need to have sex with other women? If he’s having meaningful sex with his wife, what would be lacking that he needs to go elsewhere?
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/22 11:09 PM
3

Which values, specifically, is it dedicated to? ETA: besides what I already mentioned - finding a high value partner.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/22 11:03 PM
4

???? Redpill women come from MANY walks of life - they don’t have a singular perspective on life nor do they have the same life experiences. High value men are the same. Not everyone here has the same values.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/22 09:49 PM
2

You literally wrote “men don’t see sex as anything special” So which is it?
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/22 09:47 PM
3

In my opinion, a high value man doesn’t want to cheat on his wife. That’s weak behaviour. I wouldn’t tolerate it - no matter how tall, rich and charismatic he is.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/22 09:05 PM
3

My husband has expressed many times, unprompted, that he feels sex with me is special and makes him feel closer to me emotionally. Maybe your husband just likes to cheat on you?
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/22 09:02 PM
7

Any RP content created for men (especially those YouTube videos that use a lot of emotionally charged language) should be taken with a truckload of salt. People like Kevin Samuels, Andrew Tate, etc are making money by putting down women and spouting negative views against women - and it works! The low value men eat that shit up because they’re angry and looking for somewhere to place their blame. Remember, high value men wouldn’t spend their time sitting online all day purchasing Andrew Tate “pe…
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/22 09:00 PM
5

No, because redpill has nothing to do with how you want your wedding to look. It has everything to do with seeking out positive male led relationships. You can have a rainbow wedding with drag queens and still be redpilled.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/22 08:52 PM
1

Yes. Have had one since we were just boyfriend and girlfriend because we just sort of knew we were gonna get married at 22 and 23 lol. We both splurge sometimes but we are both responsible with money and bills are always paid first. We have a redraw on our mortgage (extra money can come off once we put it on) which we basically use it as a savings account. We can see literally everything the other person buys.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/22 08:17 AM
3

I get your point but what she brings to the relationship isn’t exactly relevant to her question or our responses? I think, personally, this man wouldn’t pass my vetting requirements. Poor financial decision making is a no no.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/22 06:28 AM
4

Yeah, totally agree with you. Make your decision quickly and, if you decide to leave, get yourself sorted to move on. A man who makes such poor financial decisions is not fit to be making babies with. Maybe he’ll change but it’s not worth the risk. He wouldn’t pass my personal vetting requirements.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/22 06:26 AM
6

She didn’t have a baby? She aborted it?
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/22 06:25 AM
3

From your other comments, it simply seems that you were both at a crossroads in life and she no longer saw your lives aligning or she felt you were no longer what she wanted. I will say, when you enter into a relationship, you agree to uphold certain responsibilities - especially when the relationship reaches a point of LTR and marriage. For example, women are at a financial disadvantage in the workplace due to children so, if they want a certain lifestyle upheld whilst they have children, they …
/r/ExRedPill24/12/22 10:19 PM
3

First of all, I don’t think it’s very nice of your husband to make you watch what he wants to watch and not what you like? Could you instead watch movies or shows you both like? I like colouring books and puzzles, myself (I also do yarn crafts but yeah I have dogs and cats and small children around and they do make it difficult lmao).
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/22 06:42 PM
3

Yeah it is actually at the moment. I see a lot of tik toks making jokes about disrespecting women (even some really dangerous themes about age, consent, stealthing, etc). But in the last decade, many women used twitter to make similar (possibly less harmful, but disrespectful all the same) so I guess it was inevitable.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/22 10:51 AM
1

For context: what is your hustle? Then we can give you more advice x
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/22 09:54 AM
2

Why are you wearing shoes on the carpet? Is this an American thing?
/r/MensRights12/12/22 06:17 PM
-16

Genuine Q - do you think women spend 80% of the money because they are the ones doing the grocery shopping and shopping for their partners and children? I do 99% of the food shopping and I also buy my own clothes and my husbands clothes/shoes. I definitely spend 80% of the money but rarely on myself. I also work full time. Do you think women in this study were not working full time even though most households are 2 income? If both parties work full time, is it not fair that they both split house…
/r/MensRights12/12/22 05:34 PM
1

Yeah I’m a stick because I nearly died and spent 3 weeks in icu only allowed to eat clear foods and now I’ve got a lifelong chronic illness! At least I’m skinny!!!!
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/22 02:47 AM
3

I think men naturally want to select a healthy mate. As much as a lot of people don’t want to hear this and there are a lot of very strong and capable obese women, obesity isn’t healthy. It’s usually a symptom of physical disease, mental illness or plain laziness - all of which are unattractive to most men. None of this makes someone a bad person but it decreases your ability to have kids, your ability to work, your ability to live a long and healthful life, etc. Thinness is currently the beauty…
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/22 02:45 AM
1

Yeah I was on the top end of healthy and was on a healthy weight loss journey to get back to my pre COVID smaller frame. I didn’t hate my slightly larger body at all. Then I got sick and dropped a heap of weight and all of a sudden people (mainly men, my mum and my MIL) were complimenting me and saying how great I looked. I was solidly in the middle of the “underweight” BMI category. Very disheartening.
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/22 02:32 AM
4

Yep. It’s just very basic maths. Subtract 500 from your TDEE. You wanna pig out at dinner? Okay, don’t eat breakfast and lunch. Go buckwild and eat 1700 calories at dinner. Normal days, divide it by 3 and have 3 good meals. Don’t snack. Don’t drink alcohol except for special occasions. The weight will come off.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/22 02:33 AM
17

I agree and I don’t mind dating advice but honestly there’s been a bit of “my boyfriend won’t talk to me, ignores me, says mean things, won’t get a job, puts his mum above me BUT he’s a high value man in other aspects - what’s wrong with me?” Like what do you even want people to say here girl?🤣🤣
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/22 01:42 AM
6

If my husband and I want to go on a trip, I do all the organising and he drives and carries my ridiculous amount of crap. It’s just one of those things. I will say, the not mentioning the fight cancellation is very annoying. Even if he thought you got the email too, why didn’t he say anything? Lesson learned - don’t use his email again. You definitely need to express your concern that, even if you are the organiser, he needs to be an active participant. If you want to continue this relationship,…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/22 08:28 PM
5

How many tattoos are we talking? Are we talking some little trashy tattoos you got in your very early 20s? Or larger body pieces?
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/22 08:17 PM
31

There’s also been an uptick of women talking about being in relationships with men who clearly don’t even like them, though. I sometimes have to double check which sub I’m in.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/22 08:00 PM
16

Not to mention the idea they perpetuate about women always being in the right and men being evil prevents women from owning up to their mistakes and growing as people. That’s how you end up with a bunch of emotionally stunted 30 year olds still in university about to switch their degree for the 7th time.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/22 07:59 PM
27

Thanks for explaining! I’ve always considered myself a feminist (in that men and women deserve equal rights and opportunities within society) but I have sought out and obtained a more “traditional” lifestyle and a mostly male-led relationship. It’s definitely made me question how I fit in here. I want to stay and home on my hobby farm and have lots of babies and milk goats. I get side eyed when I say this to people - even in my small country town! In my opinion, the whole point of feminism SHOUL…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/22 07:57 PM
1

Sorry what’s that?
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/22 11:35 PM
1

I think her only complaint is their sex life, though? I don’t think she stated she has issues with anything else?
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/22 11:19 PM
1

What other things do you think they need to hash out? Not sure either.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/22 10:50 PM
1

I understand that but he’s obviously capable of finding women attractive. Do you think maybe he’s just not attracted to OP at all?
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/22 10:16 PM
5

I get that, but then why is he turned on by other women in sexy lingerie? Why he is he actively seeking out other women to turn him on?
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/22 02:57 AM
5

You’re so close
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/22 03:29 AM
3

If you do those things to your partner, you are abusing them. Plain and simple. Google the definition of verbal abuse. Don’t encourage women to keep their abuse private. Abusers and their actions should be outed to the world. If he’s calling his wife a cunt and a bitch repeatedly, he’s being abusive. Im not “deciding” anything. I’m going off definitions and FACTS.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/22 02:55 AM
10

What? If anyone, man or woman, is calling their spouse a bitch or a cunt or engaging in any other form of belittling, name calling, swearing, etc then that is verbal abuse. Doesn’t matter if he’s “right” because that’s mostly subjective. He could think he’s “right” because she bought the wrong cut of meat. Just don’t abuse your spouse, it’s not that hard.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/22 01:48 AM
16

He is verbally abusing his wife though.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/22 11:53 PM
2

Interesting, thanks for your reply. I, personally, don’t think there’s a comparable group of women to incels because inceldom goes further than just “no sex”. There’s the resentment, hatred, entitlement, strange inclination to commit mass violence or talk about committing violence and we’ve even got some manifesto writing thrown in there lmao. There really is no comparable group of women. Femcels come close buuuuut they’re not even really the same. Another thing is that there’s a very long histo…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/22 08:14 PM
2

Yes
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/22 05:17 AM
1

Ok chill out.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/22 02:11 AM
0

I’m not one to defend raging feminist, usually, but it’s definitely a spectrum. You can’t say every feminist hates women, is filled with rage and hatred, wants to cause all men pain and suffering and feels entitled to sex with men? Femcels are the equivalent, I would say.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/22 10:11 PM
3

An incel literally means involuntary celibate? How are feminists involuntary celibates?
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/22 07:59 PM
3

You think feminists don’t have sex???
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/22 05:42 AM
5

Where I live, a moderate suburban home is about $500,000. Best thing I did was buy a fixer upper at 19 and now my husband and I own a 40 acre homestead worth $1 million+ at 24 and 25 years.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/22 03:07 AM
3

When my husbands working at home for the week, we often meal prep together! It’s a fun Sunday activity!
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/22 09:53 PM
7

And the average income on onlyfans is $180 including all the top earners. So most women who use it are only making $20-$40 a month. It’s not an easy, well paid gig like Tate tells everyone it is.
/r/ExRedPill19/11/22 01:04 AM
2

I (24F) have severe chronic depression and anxiety and I am married (7 year relationship) very happily. If you want to chat, hit me up. All is not lost.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/22 08:53 AM
5

Yeah if he’s into men’s red pill then the man is almost definitely not celibate.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/22 02:20 AM
2

We own two houses together. Bought first one at 19 and 20 and bought our second at 22 and 23. Married at 24 and 25. Kids are on the cards eventually but I’m not in any rush although it would be nice we have so much else we want to do. Our life goals are pretty much the same. Sure, we may end up divorced, that’s definitely a possibility. I do try not to dwell on that, though because it’s pretty depressing lmao.
/r/ExRedPill13/11/22 05:19 AM
1

Yes but OP said that women only want “the tallest” men. My husband is by far not the tallest man getting about or even anywhere near the category of “tallest” - so my point still stands.
/r/ExRedPill12/11/22 10:15 PM
1

Yes but OP said that women only want “the tallest” men. My husband is by far not the tallest man getting about or even anywhere near the category of “tallest” - so my point still stands.
/r/ExRedPill12/11/22 10:15 PM
3

Sounds more like he’s insecure and is trying to see if he can make her jealous i.e. confirm that she really likes him. He’s too immature to have a conversation about it so he’s pulling dumb shit to get a reaction like a toddler.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/22 11:52 PM
1

Intermittent fasting is a super easy way for me to lose weight. I love eating HUGE, delicious, carby dinners with my husband because I just love food and cooking - it’s basically my love language. I feel breakfast and lunch are “meh” because I eat alone so I just stopped eating breakfast and lunch and only drink black tea/coffee and water until dinner time when I go HAM. It works really well for me and I can eat huge meals of pasta, bread, cheese, beer, wine etc etc and continue to lose weight. …
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/22 05:57 AM
17

He’s beating down your self esteem because he knows you can do better.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/22 06:01 AM
9

No. They’re not masculine or strong. They’re low value, weak, losers who know how other low value men work and seek to profit off this. Their teachings don’t make any sense and those TRP influencers barely even follow TRP at all anymore. They just use phrases and terms to get views, rile up men and make money.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/22 12:37 PM
12

Sorry but Tate and Hulse should be the furthest thing from your mind at all times. Their opinions aren’t even real. They exist to make money off sad losers who can’t get women and, you know what, good for them. I’m telling you that any man that listens to the “teachings” of Tate is not high value.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/22 03:16 AM
3

I gotta get on my foot game - any recommendations for products?
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/22 05:34 AM
15

Well, I’m very in love with my very sexy husband and he’s 5’11, I’d say we’re pretty well off but by no means rich (we both work full time) and although I think he’s sexy asf he’s obviously not the most handsome man in the world (it would be nice if he was, though, we’d probably have a lot more money). Here’s the thing, in the same way that men like to have sex with attractive women, (this may be shocking to you) women also like to have sex with attractive men. If both genders are looking for a …
/r/ExRedPill07/11/22 07:54 PM
33

What are you talking about? We women are a hive mind and only want Chad.
/r/ExRedPill07/11/22 07:47 PM
5

It’s almost as if women are humans and have varying traits and complexities lol Some of this red pill stuff makes me chuckle
/r/ExRedPill01/11/22 01:02 AM
-4

I work at a real estate agency. We have one rule for our tenants and will give LITERALLY anyone else a chance - “no teeth, no lease”.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/22 01:52 AM
2

I don’t think people who don’t like kids should have them just as a duty to society. Child abuse rates would be much lower. They’re not special snowflakes for not wanting them. The majority of western society is very pro children. Most people still want kids. I can imagine it is a pain in the ass to be someone who doesn’t want kids to be asked all the time about them. I do want kids and it’s annoying.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/22 01:45 AM
4

I think kids are weird and gross but I still want kids. I don’t think people who don’t like children should have them. Child abuse rates would be much lower.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/22 01:43 AM
1

I am both adorable and sexy lol
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/22 11:30 PM
21

Girl, you might wanna move out of the house not just the bedroom. There’s a lot of great advice in this thread. It sounds like your husband is going off the deep end. The keeping lights on and playing loud music so you can’t sleep? Crazy person behaviour. Make sure you’re safe, please.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/22 08:45 PM
4

Just come here and ask questions. I’m basically bed bound, give me something to do! 😂
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/22 07:59 AM
1

I don’t say no unless I really don’t want to. If I’m in pain or unwell of course I’ll say no. My husband wouldn’t ask anyway because I’m a total whinger and he knows 😂 If I’m sort of on the fence or I can’t pinpoint why I don’t want to then I’ll just say yes. So far, I’ve never regretted it. Sometimes, it’s a no because I want to, say, shower beforehand or I need to run a time-restricted errand. In this case, I’ll initiate later on.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/22 10:56 PM
4

Respectfully, I think you should actually want to have sex with the men that you have sex with instead of just handing it out because they’ve earned the right. Sounds like a positively miserable existence to me.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/22 10:54 PM
1

He just said you were annoying. It’s not negging. He’s just letting you know how he feels. Anyway, if he is attempting to neg you then I’m inclined to say he’s not worth your brain space anyway. He’s following TRP logic in which case he’s likely not looking to anything long term. Life is too short to engage with people who play such games.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/22 10:52 PM
3

I think that you should just married someone you WANT to have regular sex with. I mean, that’s what I did. No dramas over here.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/22 07:19 AM
8

I think a lot of modern women are swamped with the expectation to work outside of the home as well as to 90% of the care tasks in the home and more of the childcare if the couple has kids. It’s a well researched phenomenon that, in working couples, men do less work. If you’re stretched to your limit and then someone tries to put their dick on you after just watching you drown then you’re probably not going to have a very happy reaction lol I know I’m definitely more responsive when I’m not worki…
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/22 09:12 PM
5

You sound like a delight to be married to.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/22 09:09 PM
3

My first time was at 17 and it was with the man I ended up marrying at 24. I had no interest in any boys or men before my man. You’re better off waiting to lose it to someone who means something to you. Too many ladies regret their first times and it messed them up emotionally. Don’t rush.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/22 02:25 AM
4

It’s fine to have a masculine streak if you can leave it at the door when you come home. Get that bag girlie but don’t let it run your relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/22 09:18 AM
32

Don’t get me wrong, my husband has female friends but they are wonderful women who respect our relationship. Some of them have even become more my friends and two of them were bridesmaids at my wedding. Men and women can be friends but him pointedly excluding you from this new relationship is bad news. I think (although gone girling the man is tempting) it’s best to say you saw that he had a date with this woman, you know he lied to you about it and that you’re now planning to leave. He will pro…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/22 03:21 AM
5

Don’t do that. That would be a very silly move. Although, if you would do it if you were married it might be an idea to pick up a couple of hours doing it per week (like 10 hours) to get a feel for it. You might quite literally fucking hate working with your boyfriend and that would probably be good to know before you throw away your career lol Edit to add: he also might not like working with you. Women have to wear different hats in the workforce which they don’t wear at home. It can make them …
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/22 08:55 PM
3

Yes, there’s nothing wrong with being soft and gentle with a boy as a mother. It will teach them to be soft and gentle with their wife and potential daughters in the future. My brothers learned how to cook, clean and be kind/courteous from our mother and they were also roped into princess dress ups and nail painting with me as an older sister. They’re now fine young men in their 20s who are very sure of themselves because my father modelled appropriate behaviour for them. It’s the role of a comp…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/22 11:14 PM
16

My husband doesn’t wear his ring during the work week because he works with his hands. He’s very much not a jewellery person either. He knows I like him wearing it, though, so he puts it on for the weekend so long as he’s not doing any yard work. He will also wear it if we go out to dinner somewhere during the work week. Maybe this sort of thing would be a good compromise for you guys?
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/22 10:18 AM
5

Well, yes, he should be but he’s obviously not so that’s why OP is here lol
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/22 03:20 AM
17

No, they should separate because that’s truly not what OP wants and she believes in monogamy. Above commenter meant that, because he’s thinking about becoming single, she should be as well. He’s no longer being a good husband so she should not make the effort to be a good wife.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/22 03:15 AM
6

Did you ask for the towels or just take them?
/r/ExRedPill12/10/22 02:55 AM
8

Oh wow, did I hit a nerve? How much money did you give her? Edit to add: I’m not American nor do I live in/anywhere near America.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/22 08:05 AM
19

Girly is just making her money of sad, low value men who want to screech from the rooftops “see even a woman sees how unfair it is”. It’s very performative but good on her for making a buck lol.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/22 09:52 PM
8

Yeah, a lot people only seek out relationships with their “type” if they have one. Plenty of men only date blondes, etc. My husbands type is definitely petite brunettes but he dated several of them before me and didn’t marry any of them (together 7 years now). Looks only get you so far, personality and other attributes get you over the line.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/22 09:49 PM
8

Look, whoever that girly is is just trying to make money off sad, low value men who feel resentment towards women and/or hate them. More power to her or whatever for taking advantage of that because there’s a pretty good market for it at the moment. The space is obviously not designed for you. Just remember, it’s the internet. She’s making money. She’s likely not like that in real life. Another thing, problems in your relationship are not likely to come from “not being feminine enough” but they …
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/22 10:26 PM
5

I think Piers Morgan is a dickhead and a total wanker for many reasons but, no, I don’t think he’s a misogynist specifically for not finding most women attractive. I would say I only find MAXIMUM 5% of the male population attractive myself.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/22 05:36 AM
2

Sounds like you’re aiming to do all the right things! I just want to throw out that there are diets that are PCOS specific designed to help you lose weight as well as alleviate symptoms (including weight gain). You should look into that! I’ve got a girlfriend who is on a PCOS diet which her dr put her on. She’s very happy with the results.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/22 11:21 PM
5

Y’all will jump through so many hoops I’m worried your back hurts. How does calling yourself below average make you sound not confident? I think he’s just mature and grown enough to realise that not everyone is a 10/10 and there’s quite literally no point deluding yourself into believing you’re more attractive than you are. I’m only 24 and I don’t understand redpillers either. Am I too old? My 25yo husband doesn’t either. We went outside, found a human we liked, agreed on a life timeline and got…
/r/ExRedPill07/10/22 11:17 PM
9

I’ve come to the conclusion that redpillers must just shut their eyes when they go outside or log into Facebook and Instagram in order to ignore all the average looking women with average looking men who are perfectly content. Do they think women with their “endless options” just go through 100 relationships a year?
/r/ExRedPill07/10/22 11:10 PM
12

Im referring mostly to men being more likely to stray once children come into the relationship (ultimately ending the relationship) and men being more likely to abandon their wives when she is diagnosed with a bad illness. Although, I am referring to marriage and LTRs where men are more likely to leave. Women may be more likely to date flippantly and leave earlier. I haven’t read any statistics on that, though.
/r/ExRedPill07/10/22 07:58 AM
10

Statistically, men are actually more likely to leave when the “hard times” happen.
/r/ExRedPill07/10/22 07:36 AM
1

Same.
/r/ExRedPill07/10/22 07:35 AM
15

Yes! This is something a lot of TRP just doesn’t understand: women who get into abusive relationships dont just think “wow this guy is so horrible to me i love it”. Like, they don’t get beat on the first date and decide they want to stay. These guys hide their true self for months or even years, making these women emotionally and financially invested in them before taking off the mask.
/r/ExRedPill07/10/22 06:12 AM
2

I’ll try and reply to your notes from my own perspective! I’m in Australia, too, so likely have a different world experience but I’ve read a lot whilst deciding on how child rearing would fit into my life. this is strange because I’ve only every heard anti breastfeeding from ultra conservatives where I’m from. I’ve actually heard “breasts are for your husband, not your children” come out of a woman’s mouth lmao I was baffled (really had to hold my tongue). All the hippy dippy leftists I know are…
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/22 02:52 PM
4

Is that somewhat like how your dishonestly framing women as the only ones with these “pair bonding” issues? Edit to add: you keep avoiding the actual question. Why do you only care about pair bonding when it comes to women?
/r/ExRedPill06/10/22 10:09 AM
4

Did I ask for information about men being abusive? What are you even talking about? It’s only since you’re acting like such a knowledgeable person on the topic of pair bonding, I asked for sources about it in relation to men. If you only have sources to back up your point of view, well, that’s pretty piss poor and embarrassing. If you TRULY cared about pair bonding and not just fighting the “good” fight against wamen, I’m sure you’d have some? Yes? I mean chronic illness sounds pretty scary, doe…
/r/ExRedPill06/10/22 08:44 AM
4

Who said you’re not allowed to? Who made this rule? Now, since you’re so passionate about this pair bonding thing. I’m sure you’ve got lots of research about how it impacts men? I mean, of course you’d care because it impacts you! Or, do you just hate women and skew your research to cast a bad light upon them?
/r/ExRedPill06/10/22 06:39 AM
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And what does the research about men say?
/r/ExRedPill06/10/22 05:49 AM
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I’m alone a lot too! My husband regularly works up to 80 hours a week so he doesn’t even get time for hobbies. He works in different states of my country (Australia) too mostly so he’s not even home of an evening. When he does have time in the evenings at home, he often helps coach the local junior football teams and he’s on a darts team that plays Wednesday nights (even though he can only make about 20% of the games). I used to get emotional about it as well but I’ve learned to keep busy and lo…
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/22 02:01 AM
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This is not it, honey. You’re barely an adult. Your brain isn’t fully developed. He’s preying on your naivety. Your gut is telling you that something isn’t right so please don’t ignore it. Why do you think this man can’t/won’t date women his own age or even 10 years younger than him? He knows exactly what he is doing. He will get you pregnant, make sure you’re completely reliant on him and then make your life a living hell. Do not marry him. Please, your life is worth so much more. You deserve h…
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/22 12:49 AM
2

I’m not sure what information you’re referring to that is “leftist”? Can you elaborate further which information you feel is politically biased so we can give you alternate resources? Expecting Better is a good book. Also, just looking on the r/pregnant sub is good for everyday personal experiences so you can prepare yourself for certain real-life things.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/22 12:38 AM
4

Sounds more to me like OP wants a woman to be in an intimate relationship with but can’t understand why he’s not getting that when he’s so smart?
/r/ExRedPill05/10/22 09:23 AM
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Looks matter reasonably but most men are very aware that when children and time happen, womens bodies suffer so they often mentally acknowledge this when thinking in terms of marriage. Even if you’re wholly average, you can present above average. If you have quality abilities for a LTR and an agreeable personality on top of this, you will be a candidate for many a HVM. Don’t get fake boobs just for a potential man who doesn’t even exist yet because, at the end of the day, you have to live with i…
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/22 06:23 AM
9

First, please stop calling women “females”. Second, reflect on your actions that might make women feel uncomfortable. I know you feel women should be impressed by your intellect but do your male companions regularly notice and praise your intelligence? Do you expect them to be impressed and point it out? When you have conversations with women, how do they usually play out? Do you dominate the conversation with your own thoughts, do you disregard what the women you’re talking to have to say, do y…
/r/ExRedPill05/10/22 06:08 AM
3

There’s only one sure fire way to fix this problem: don’t have sex with a man before you make it official. Men who only want sex do not care if you want to be their girlfriend. It doesn’t matter what you want if you’re still giving them what they want with basically no strings attached. I know sex is great and all but a man is not going to seriously pursue you if you don’t give him anything to work for. What’s the incentive for them? This will also very quickly weed out the fakers who only want …
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/22 02:16 AM
1

But there’s my point again, those ‘recovering’ BP men hold so much resentment and sometimes even hatred that they just end up spiralling. I think a lot of times they don’t need TRP, they need therapy to increase their self worth and confidence before going anywhere near TRP.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/22 02:14 AM
3

This is a fair and well thought out point. Whilst the theory itself is pretty straightforward (and effective), my main point is a lot of men use the community as an outlet for resentment and anger - which is fine because it’s just the internet. Another thing is, I’ve never met a man in real life who was extremely into TRP that I would consider “high value” in any way, shape or form. This has caused me to form the opinion that a lot of the men who follow it aren’t actually implementing the princi…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/22 01:19 AM
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I think we’re getting a bit off the rails in terms of the actual question and my very simple opinion that red-pilled men generally would make bad LTR partners. I appreciate your perspective, I really do. It just doesn’t align with my perspective and worldly experiences and that’s fine!
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/22 01:08 AM
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This is the correct response 😂
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/22 11:52 PM
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So, yeah, bullying then? If you feel the need to knock your partner off a pedestal when they feel good about themselves… what the heck? If I did that to my husband I would be a bully and abusive. Women say that because, like me, the only men I’ve ever met in real life who worship people like Andrew Tate and endorse TRP are not, in any way shape or form, high value. I think a lot of RPM spend more time on the internet discussing ways to looksmaxx and complaining instead of actually doing the work…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/22 11:52 PM
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Yes, OBVIOUSLY, I’m not saying the sub for men should cater to women. For example, I would say that TRPW views men in a good light and encourages positive relationships with them despite being a women-centric sub. I think we’re pretty pro-men over here as there always advice on how to support your man and encourage him. There’s even been posts about compliments to give men, etc. I think, personally, TRP is anti women and that is great for hookups but not conducive to a healthy LTR. Just a remind…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/22 11:32 PM
4

Okay that’s great but I dont know how that’s relevant to anything I said? I’m still of the belief that any man who is “red pilled” would not make a good partner for most, if not all, women.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/22 11:25 PM
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No thank you! Their whole goal is self serving and not very pro-women. They have philosophies like “spinning plates” (seeing multiple women) and “negging” (bullying) their partners. Infidelity and emotional abuse are not conducive to happy, long term, relationship in my personal opinion. I think you’ll also find a lot of these men use TRP as an outlet for their dislike of women due to lack of success. Every time I see a man VERY into TRP and pick-up culture, I imagine he’s not showered in a whil…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/22 08:53 AM
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First and foremost: Go to school, get good grades, get a job. Don’t focus on boys at your school. They’re likely trying to get only one thing out of you and, if they’re genuine, they’ll stick around until you’re ready. Boys your age can talk lots of sweet talk to get what they want. Be wary. Be especially wary of older men who will inevitably start hanging around in the months before you turn 18. Find and maintain quality friendships with other girls. Foster kindness and grace within yourself. B…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/22 05:18 AM
2

Even the most beautiful, sexy women get cheated on. Cheaters will cheat and they’ll never change. Shitty men just use “You weren’t satisfying me” as an excuse to shift the blame when they cheat on their partners. If he’s going to cheat, he’ll cheat regardless of what you do. If you don’t think he will, stop worrying.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/22 12:29 AM
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Why did you move it to January if you want it so badly? X
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/22 02:39 AM
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I don’t earn more than my husband but I watched my mother have a similar experience to you where she wanted to be home with us but supported my father through starting up his own business. They were both late starts (mum-30s and dad-40s for their first kid, me) and then dad decided to start a business after 2 more kids. In the end, it all worked out very well and they just sold that business for millions and lease out the building for a very steady weekly income and they’re still in love, miracu…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/22 09:58 PM
1

I’m married to a man who has no tattoos so my opinion isn’t entirely relevant. I find tattoos attractive so long as they’re not offensive and are not hideous/tacky. If I were to suddenly find myself back to dating, face tattoos would be a big no and my preference would be none on the hands/neck. It’s just art and doesn’t define a person (unless they’re prison/gang/etc tattoos of course) so it’s not necessarily a red flag. It’s just personal taste and it’s not your taste.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/22 09:11 PM
2

Both myself and my husband are atheists but I personally would never be in a relationship with anyone who was religious. It would cause far too many issues with child rearing. Although, I’m vegetarian and my husband is not. We don’t cook meat at home (unless it’s outside on the grill) as I don’t like the smell in the house. I also cook 90% of the meals and he is happy to cook the other 10% vegetarian. People are horrified when he says we only eat vego at home and he says “she’s a good cook so it…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/22 08:40 PM
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He doesn’t love you. You sound young so you’ve got plenty of time to find a faithful partner. At your age, it’s not worth the struggle to stay with a weak minded and unfaithful man. I’d say if you checked his phone he hasn’t stopped talking to that girl at all.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/22 05:05 AM
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Don’t encourage young women to let their husbands/boyfriends cheat on them. They deserve faithful and strong men not weak-minded, pathetic losers.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/22 05:03 AM
2

Going to throw in to say you’re proud of him when he tells you and achievement - men love that shit
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/22 10:02 PM
2

I’ve been with my husband 7 years. We’ve never broken up. If you plan to be married, this instability isn’t conducive to a long and happy marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/22 07:20 AM
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All of this, yes but remember not to be a doormat. Always be kind and empathetic but never let someone walk all over you because they view your femininity as weakness. Women should never forget how to stand up for themselves and their family where necessary. Too many young girls let LV men and older women stomp all over their boundaries because they’ve been taught to be accomodating to everyone. You need to stick up for yourself by being firm and believing 100% in your convictions and boundaries…
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/22 11:30 AM
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Still plenty of time these days. She’s likely got at least a decade to have a kid.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/22 01:30 AM
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Yes but I simply wouldn’t want my partners porn out there for other people. It’s just something I couldn’t get over. My husband definitely wouldn’t want my porn out there either. To each their own.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/22 09:00 AM
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Yeah i dont know why you’re getting downvoted. My husband wouldn’t like my nudey photos on the internet and I’m sure he’d be VERY upset if he found I’d been posting such content. On the same note, I’d be upset if I found he posted the same. I would not stay with him if I found he posted nudes online but now that she has, she should ignore it.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/22 06:50 AM
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This is a very common situation that women find themselves in - they become sick and their male partner leaves them. I am sure you’ll be able to find support groups with other women who have similar experiences. Good luck. Hope everything works out alright and, if it doesn’t, I hope you have a good remaining months/years.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/22 04:05 AM
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I wish someone told me about the psychological impact of hormonal birth control before 15yo me was prescribed it. I’ve been on it for nearly a decade now and in that time I’ve been diagnosed with chronic depression and anxiety. Sure, genetics come into play with my diagnosis but I believe the pill exacerbated my issues. I know what you mean about your wife being like a “wall”. I just feel flat all the time. It’s a whole effort to be enthusiastic. I imagine that, with kids, your wife just didn’t …
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/22 10:10 PM
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