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Totally. You're living your lives together, no? its about work division as much as anything else. A woman can be a better wife, mother, whatever her goals are, by not worrying about finance or upkeep and the mundane. But like you said, it has to be with the right person, someone you know will make the best, moral choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/26 02:13 AM
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Bull shit. A therapist would tell someone to cut off their friends because there success makes them resentful? I don't believe it for a second. Its like quittinf because someone else gets a promotion even though they deserved it. Itd just childish behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/26 10:35 PM
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It doesn't need to be like that. I would never expect anyone to follow someone they didn't trust to lead. If some dueche wants to control for controls sake that's ridiculous. And its dumb for a man to ignore his wives feelings and opinions. Ideally the man would already be leading his own life before the woman came along. She just rides along. Its not for everyone, however, it does need to be real not imitated.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/26 10:34 PM
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Why support a poor decision? Itd only going to make him lonely. Still single and lonely. How about some accountability. Work on himself own bis faults and work on it. Become someone who a woman might want to be with. Or i guess just cut out everyone who gets a girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/26 08:44 PM
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Again disagree. Cutting the friends off is not good. Not. Good.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/26 08:36 PM
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No thr solution is to man up and fix himself. His friends are not problem. His resentment is. He needs mental help. Cutting out his support system is harmful. How could you not see this? How can isolation be a good thing? Frankly I think he's a whiney bitch and friends dont deserve that. But to suggest him cutting off people that care about him is a good thing is wrong. Just... bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/26 08:20 PM
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Can't back peddle now. You've been arguing the point the whole time. Wrong is wrong. Always suggest the best path. Condemn the wrong ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/26 08:11 PM
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Your entire mindset is deeply harmful. How could I ever concede any moral ground? Its grounded in selfishness, envy and anger. With no better solution than to cut out anything that makes you uncomfortable. Its weak and sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/26 07:43 PM
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Im sorry you think not agreeing with you is me doing this. I sincerely think you are harmful in your opinions and fast out wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/26 07:34 PM
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I dont know what that means. Im just not going waste my effort explaining self improvement and how to handle lifes difficulties.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/26 05:45 PM
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Ugh. I see we are very different. This discourse is pointless. Good luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/26 05:07 PM
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Therapy. Therapy. Therapy. He needs to fix his problems. Would you tell your child to quit sports because some other kid is better? No you push for improvement. Its such a narrow minded path with no movement for fixing the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/26 04:49 PM
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No its not. Isolation is never a good thing. Again, the problem isn't the friend. That resentment and anger will still be there. The friendship wont. Its not going to stop your friends success. Its not going to help OP be successful. Its not a solution in any sense of the word.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/26 04:46 PM
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Sure. But why would you be angry your friend is experiencing a good thing? This is a bigger problem. The friends arent the problem. The anger is.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/26 04:41 PM
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What if their management skills was drugs or violence? There is healthy ways and unhealthy ways to manage distress. Furthermore its not distress its bitterness and jealousy. It comes from a place of anger and resentment.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/26 04:35 PM
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Yes. You're entitled to do whatever. The very ethics of the situation is what is at question. That was the whole point of the post. I think its narrow-minded, selfish and sad. But yes. You do you. Op and do op. But self improvement is the healthy option not cutting out anyone who has success where you do not.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/26 04:28 PM
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No. I would assume they are you friends for a reason and enjoy yoir company. But after our brief exchange I'm doubting it. You're likely doing them a favor. Go isolate and be a lonely miserable troll. Just know, that is your choice. You should try being happy for someone if empathy is even in your capacity.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/26 04:22 PM
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Are you not cutting your friends out of your life? They didn't do anything wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/26 04:18 PM
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No. We're expecting people to live their own lives. Fun fact, billions of people on this planet are having sex. Right now in fact. The only difference between them and you is you. Accountability. What are you doing wrong? Don't hold your friends at fault for doing something right.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/26 04:16 PM
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Its not for everyone. I dont care what people do. It doesn't have to be someone's in charge. Its team work. Different roles for different people.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/26 04:03 PM
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Its not for everyone. Its for people that want to live this way. A woman can feel comfort knowing that everything is handled. A man can feel pride providing and taking care of his own.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/26 04:02 PM
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Their portion. Depending on their lives. Working. Fixing things, planning things. Making sure everything that needs to be done gets done. Why do ships have captains? There should be someone to make decisions. Doesn't mean they just choose what is best for themselves but hard choices for everyone involved. Securing deals and routes. Making sure everyone below them eats and stays safe.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/26 04:00 PM
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To an extent. You don't just follow a guy because he says so. It needs to be earned. On the other end of things, I think the things she's worried about are trivial. Dinner, child care, kids parties? Those are just day to day ongoing things. Back to my metaphore, should the captain have to micromanage everybody on the ship or should they be trusted to do their portion?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/26 03:56 PM
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Its not all or nothing. A captain runs a ship, yes. But it takes everyone on board making decisions and doing their part. The captain sets the course, makes the deals, makes it happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/26 02:31 PM
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Comparison is the theft of joy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/26 12:33 PM
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Blaming everyone except for yourself. Typical.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 05:43 PM
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I think they liked what they saw, then whatever came out of his mouth ruined it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 04:28 PM
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Because it does work.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 04:20 PM
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I read your post. Your upset the women that talked to you didn't want to touch your pp.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 03:58 PM
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If a woman wants a bitch they will date women.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 03:54 PM
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I disagree. Standing in the corner acting weird then timidly approaching and being akward doesn't work.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 03:53 PM
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I think people approaching and talking strictly to have a conversation is okay. Not everyone you meet needs to be in the context of sex or relationships. If more men approached with this mindset perhaps the environment could be different.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 02:35 PM
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I can't say this enough, read the room. Know your own limitations. If she avoids eye contact dont talk to her. If she's a dime and your lacking confidence at all, dont bother. Read the room and make reasonable approaches. You dont know these people, afterwards you wont know them either. Shoot your shot and ve respectful. Bear in mind women will notice you going around and approaching. Read the room first.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 01:46 PM
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You do you. Cut off friends. Isolate yourself. That friend has a better car, cut him off. This one got a new job, cut him off. If this is easier than improving yourself do it to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 10:04 PM
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There is a curve sure. But everyone should strive to be more outgoing. Regardless. "Some can tell its learned". What about every single other person that can't? Even if they do, the net result is talking to more people and putting yourself out there, which is the goal.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/26 07:06 PM
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Strong disagree. You can learn anything at any time. Talent is interest + time.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/26 06:36 PM
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Depends on the woman. But its always better to be outgoing. Its the one thing you have control over. It is a learned ability.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/26 06:03 PM
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They might be. However, if she didn't look like she wanted attention why would I give it? And if she's just a people pleaser that's on her and I will find out soon enough. You can't go around and wonder if someone is fake.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/26 08:02 PM
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You walk in and make eye contact. woman A quickly averted her eyes or attention. Woman B smiles and gives eye contact. Tell me i can not make quick assessment, is she hot or cold?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/26 07:56 PM
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I think there is some misunderstanding. Your entitled to opinions and thought abd are allowed to express them. If he wants to lead its important to listen. He doesn't just get to be right all the time. Discuss your opinions and trust him to make the right choices. If you don't trust his decisions then this direction wont work.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/26 03:53 PM
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Its a litmus test, not definitive proof of interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/26 02:59 PM
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Luke warm approaches. Read the room. Make eye contact and smile. If its returned then talk.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/26 12:10 PM
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Im into gender roles. I prefer women who are.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 03:21 PM
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Because I like her. Duh.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 01:56 AM
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I wouldn't take you somewhere I couldn't afford.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 01:56 AM
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The mindset is off to begin with. My own orgasms are easy. I dont need a woman for that at all. Its the experience, I want to make her cum, thats why im there.
/r/MensRights27/07/26 04:29 PM
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It depends. If I invite a woman out for dinner I should and want to pay, I invited her.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 10:47 PM
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They are consenting with bad information. Lies are a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 12:15 PM
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Women dont want to be denied either. Men just need to be okay with it. If she's into you there won't be a creep factor. Just read the room and be a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 05:40 PM
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It depends where the information is coming from. Red pill is a tools like a gun. You can use it to better yourself and build a life. Or you can be a predator. Both however, show that it works.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 02:19 PM
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You say that. But these sad lonely men dont seem get it. Its not some mind blowing concept. These me were raised too soft and spoiled. Unfortunately they are the loudest voice on here and the least likely to get the message. However, sometimes men need reminders that they need to ship up. Own their shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 12:50 AM
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There are plenty of resources that promote the right ideas without harping on the nonsense. The idea at the beginning was women want a successful good-looking man. You will not likely be loved for just who you are. That hurts alot of guys. But that alone is the red pill. Everything else is just ideologies people have shoe horned in.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 04:42 PM
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Sorry about whoever hurt you buddy.
/r/ExRedPill05/07/26 11:38 AM
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100%
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 11:35 AM
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Dude. Those guys were being ignored before they got all butterflies hurt by redpill. They could do something about it but they would rather rant on forums.
/r/ExRedPill04/07/26 06:06 PM
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Hard disagreement. Thats very black pill. The core is women want men who are improving. Men who have their shit together. They get angry because they are lazy. They can't look at themselves and handle hard truths.
/r/ExRedPill04/07/26 01:02 PM
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Ive heard it put like this, women want men to control. But they will fight him tooth and nail. Its a test to see if its real or if he can maintain control.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 07:04 PM
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What harm can come from self improvement? I think people get the wrong idea about redpill when people get mad instead of motivated. They dont want to look at themselves and face hard truths. They want the world to change. Not have to put in effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 06:39 PM
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Nothing. It meanders through horrible thought processes snd ideas. But someone lands the right idea. The best thing anyone can do, man or woman is work on themselves. Build their own life. Be happy with and by yourself. You will find someone to share with but dont depend on them. Trust is great, intimacy is great. Relying on them to be happy is not. Giving yourself to someone I hopes they wont break you is not.
/r/ExRedPill03/07/26 06:08 PM
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Sure. I was simply stating that the message was the takeaway from the book
/r/ExRedPill03/07/26 06:01 PM
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To be dependent on another person sets you up for failure.
/r/ExRedPill03/07/26 05:59 PM
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No. But alot of people need it.
/r/ExRedPill03/07/26 05:51 PM
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I disagree with the motives and the preaching, however the lesson is solid. I believe working on yourself to become outcome independent is the best gift a man can give themselves.
/r/ExRedPill03/07/26 04:39 PM
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You're not being very agreeable.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 01:24 PM
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I feel like this debate has seen its course. I think we believe the same things just articulate different. I stand by what I said.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 01:22 PM
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https://preview.redd.it/7ij6qe57m0bh1.jpeg?width=640&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=6bdabe0c81e8dfdf1d7b09904cebc880c11e1c7d
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 01:17 PM
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No. Im implying sometimes being agreeable is the wrong choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 01:15 PM
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You are "willing to agree" its the definition afterall.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 01:14 PM
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Its context. Would you prefer a man let other men touch you and harass you because he's nice and agreeable? There is a time and place. You can even handle situations is a nice manner and be disagreeable. No thank you I don't like that. So is disagreeable by inverse not nice?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 01:11 PM
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Balance. Its okay to nice. Its okay to share different opinions. You can't be always agreeable. You can always be nice though. They are not the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 01:08 PM
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Im confused. Did you not say you want men to be agreeable?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 01:04 PM
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No its when guys let them.selves get walked over. Just because they would rather say yes than voice their opinion. There needs to be balance. You can't just live your life a the whims of other. Yourself matters too. And yes obviously I know the definition of agreeable. Would you prefer if someone never disagreed? Where is this line?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 12:59 PM
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Sure. But context matters. What's the opposite of that? Someone who just never wants to agree and is a dick all the time? Noone wants to be around that person.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 12:56 PM
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That's not agreeable, thats being friendly, nice, empathetic. Agreeable is saying yes when you dont really want to. Agreeable is not standing up for yourself. It leads to being used, building animosity. Its okay to do be all those things but you also need to self advocate and stand up for yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 12:54 PM
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Your right. I stand by what i said though.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 12:43 PM
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100% anyone seeing this read: no more Mr nice guy. Covert contracts are awful.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 12:35 PM
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Most women dont want agreeable men. Your personality doesn't have to change its behavior. Serving off in your mom's basement is not the lure people seem to think it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 12:26 PM
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I think the statement is too blanketed maybe even outright wrong. Alot of these men have been spoiled as children. They dont know about hard work or discipline. On top of that they are brats. They want the world to bend to them with little effort. They are toxic just perhaps in different flavors.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 12:19 PM
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Income is one part of the picture. What a man does with his money is important too. You can have all the money but if you just go home and sit on the couch that's not attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 03:39 PM
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Those things are but pieces to a puzzle. To a man who has his life together. A man who is responsible, diligent and hard working. Women respond to those things. A man who controls his life. Im not going to pretend looks arent part of the equation. But it isn't the most important thing. But I can guarantee a man who is taking care of business is taking care of his body. You can spout about how the woman isn't really into the dude. But I disagree. She could be with a better looking man? But she's …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 12:07 AM
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I think there is alot of people who get the redpill message wrong. Its not that women are doing anything wrong. Men just arent being men. Women shouldn't be ashamed or ridiculed for having standards, whatever they are. These boys want to be treated like men while acting like a child.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 05:55 PM
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Agree to disagree. Im a firm believer that as men we the chance to make what we want of our lives.i refuse to believe women are the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 02:44 PM
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Noo. We all come her for the same thing. To discuss relationship dynamics in a defined context. They simply say respond saying things these guys don't want to hear. Truth can hurt. Being told to grow up and take agency in your life may hurt these guys fragile sensibility but they arent attacking them. They are trying to help.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 01:50 PM
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100% choosing your partner is the most important thing you will do. No woman should just attach themselves to the first ship that comes by. People should always be vetted on both sides. Regardless of whose leading a team all inputs matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 03:31 AM
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Of course. And its not for every woman. But leading requires competence, integrity and will power. You dont demand respect and say you'll deliver these things. You live a life worth respect and admiration and those things will come. You dont chase the butterfly, you build a beautiful garden.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 01:23 AM
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I feel like this is what people who only listen to ranting incels think of redpill. The core of redpill is building your frame. Building your life, yourself and your surroundings. A woman will follow your lead because you are already leading a life. She enters the frame. You dont take control you are in control.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 12:59 AM
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You're saying women get on here just to terrorize men?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 04:37 PM
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I agree that alot of people should do exactly what you're saying. However, if they did they wouldn't need this sub. Until they do they will? Or something like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 03:58 PM
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I know this is an exredpill space. The underlying problem with redpill is the response to the information. Lots of men get angry. Trying to control the narrative by lashing out. Noone wants to look inward and hold themselves accountable. Blaming women and society is easier than doing work.It does embrace materialism and a push for status. But those things don't need to be extreme. Better yourself, build a life worth living.
/r/ExRedPill29/06/26 12:24 PM
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No. The other option is stop. Look inward and work on yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 10:25 AM
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Where's yours man? Dude. Try talking to a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 02:38 AM
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You already know the truth. Incels are incels for a reason. Women want to ignore them. They dont inherently dislike them. But when they try to argue they should get pity sex or that women's choices are wrong or that they should.have any opinion at all over their autonomy there is an issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 12:45 AM
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You can only ignore something so long. You wave your self pity flag around enough someone is going to tell you to get it out of their face.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 12:30 AM
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Dude. Women dont care about those men at all. They hardly even register their presence. Noone is making jabs at them. Maybe the other guys when asking why they can't get a woman. But for the most part. No.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 12:08 AM
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What threat is there going to be? An army of unmotivated people who can't control their own life? Angry rants on reddit is the most that will come of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 03:54 PM
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There's many reasons why you might be in this situation. You may be aiming too high. Your life might not be something a woman is looking to attach to. I dont know you and i dont know what your life is like. You sound anxious. The thing to eternalize is either the type of women you chase needs to change or you do.
/r/ExRedPill17/06/26 04:18 PM
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Dude. This whole post screams everything wrong with your situation. Just because nobody cares you're not getting laid doesn't mean women deserve oppression and hardship. Forcing a woman to fuck you is only perpetuating woman's issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 01:52 PM
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This. These same men are often so unwilling to address their own shortcomings. Embracing a double standard and nit wanting to put in effort. They want to feel superior to those men the women are choosing focusing on the only positive attributes they may have. Being a simp doesn't mean you should be more desirable than those "losers".
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 01:49 PM
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Only if you let them. It always comes back yourself. Build a life for yourself and find someone who wants to go for the ride. You're driving you choose the passenger.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 10:29 PM
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Men with no self respect will put up with bull shit. The scarcity mindset is a dangerous thing. There are plenty of women. Choosing your partner is the most important thing you will do. Hold out for the right one.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 05:22 PM
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I think the issue here is a separation between red pill men and red pill boys. There are men that own their shit. And then there is the men who see redpill and just get angry because they are lazy and can't fathom getting their shit together. They want different things. I believe you are describing the former.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 10:32 AM
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Id argue that the goal is not to marry the 20 something. Ask Leo. And the common man is married to someone around his age. The discussion isn't about what is common it is what is possible. If you have your own place, car extra money and are in shape, you can pull a 20 year old. It doesn't have to be all of them. Just 1 or 2.
/r/ExRedPill02/06/26 02:26 PM
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I think your metaphor is backwards and it shows a flaw to your thought process. Women aren't the employers in this case they are the employees. They have freedom to choose who to work for. Its the men's job to to filter the women. If Noone is applying its because the job sucks. Offer better pay or work environment and they will apply.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 02:17 PM
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Sounds to me like your confidence needs help. There are plenty of shorter men with love lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 02:09 PM
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Again. They dont see it as a problem. Sex less men see it as a problem. Women as a whole are doing fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 09:08 PM
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Thats not their problem. Not their fault. The world is full of men, no, boys who want to be coddled and get participation trophy sex. Always worried about what women are doing. They need to look at themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 07:55 PM
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Irrelevant. You, men, whoever lives in this mentality. They want women. Women are attracted to certain things. To ignore that and just hope women choose them is dumb. To hope a woman settles for them is sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 07:03 PM
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I know what you said. You think you are the better choice. Until a woman agrees with you, you are wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 06:53 PM
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Its their standards. Not yours.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 05:55 PM
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This argument is so backwards. Instead of worrying who these women are loving people should take a look at themselves. Accountability. There is a lot of stress on looks and money, but those are just litmus tests. Is your life something they want to attach to. Be someone a woman would want to invest in. Not whine and whimper because the women have standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 03:03 PM
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I feel like you missed the mark. Redpill is clear in the fact that men deserve nothing. You become a man a woman will be submissive too
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 12:17 AM
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Oh of course. Enthusiasm is key.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 01:06 AM
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Its simpler than all that. That is all true but it's mindset. Pride in a sense. I want to make her feel good. Communication and effort is realistically the key. As with doing anything, work hard and research.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 12:39 AM
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The reason I have sex is to make her orgasm. The experience getting there is the fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 11:51 AM
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Depends. If I ask someone to do anything I'd assume I was paying
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/26 10:43 PM
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Its not like people dont know this. Everyone knows if you work out and work on yourself you'll have more luck with women. But people are lazy. Your argument is so petty. "Why bother everyone can improve" it's a bulletin lazy excuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 10:50 AM
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Its not about what is ideal or what is most efficient. Its about living a life that is fulfilling.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 07:07 PM
-4

Sure. But hate for the right reasons. Like church.
/r/ExRedPill02/04/26 03:52 PM
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I think this is a small facet of the bigger picture. To ignore looks and status is for obvious reasons impossible. But you're not wrong, composure and attitude go in line with the whole picture. I think that's the important bit. A man who is successful and works on himself is the same type of man who confidence. Who can have these conversations and standby who his points with conviction and not be petty over small arguments. This also ties in with why women are drawn to assholes. They exude conf…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 02:09 PM
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No no no. Red pill losers want this. There are two takeaways from a red pill mindset. One is that women have standards and the standards are higher than they should be. So men have two options. Be better or be whiney little bitches because the woman he likes wants a rich good looking dude and would rather rape (which is what I consider what is being put on the table here) than look at themselves and work on themselves. These aren't red pill men, they are redpill boys. Losers who dont want to own…
/r/ExRedPill02/04/26 02:01 PM
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That makes sense. You weren't the only one who commented on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 12:49 AM
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I dont think he said bodybuilder.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 10:06 PM
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Not at all. Its setting yourself up so a woman can't dictate your life. She's either along for the ride or gone.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 01:39 AM
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What is the alternative? Have someone else take care of you? Self reliance is the only solution.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 10:52 PM
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I guess cause they can have babies? Idk.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 01:01 PM
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Not at all. I feel like you're projecting. The goal is to build yourself up. You dont need women. If you want to get married have a family, that's great. But I'd recommend a prenup. The goal is to be self sufficient. If you can't be happy alone get some help, therapy or whatever. Codependency is a sad existence. And yeah women get handed shit. So what? Be a fucking man. I dont want hand outs i earn what i get. Children get handed shit too. Cry about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 01:00 PM
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No. I encourage young men to get to work. Stop being coddled. They want to be treated like women while calling themselves men. If they can't get a job it's because they have lived soft lives. There are jobs out there go get them. Nobody owes anyone anything. There are so many people in this world who have successful lives are they going to blame that on being short and ugly too?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 10:52 AM
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I think you have a misrepresentation of what male privilege is. Its not a golden ticket to an easy life. Its the opportunity to build whatever life you want. As a male you dont need anyone. You succeed and fail.on your own merit.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 08:13 PM
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I think this comes down to one thing. If she isn't into you, that's not her fault. Nobody owes anyone anything. If you want to be desired then be someone worth desiring.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 01:42 PM
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You said it can't be determined what works.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 12:59 PM
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Sure. But to maximize success one should pursue any avenue available. Especially if they are already positive attributes. I think it's downright silly to think looks and money dont matter. Or to say there isn't enough data. Its everywhere. Granted I'm not a woman, but I've observed both without the other garnering results.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 12:17 PM
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I find that you dont really even get to see real personality until so late in the game. There's makeup for looks and personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 12:09 PM
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100%. All we have is observation and experience. They both tell me similar things. I find it unlikely that successful men are stumbling into success.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 12:06 PM
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Plenty of short dudes are getting laid. Just not you. Your height is clearly not the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 11:56 AM
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This whole mentality of blaming another person for your own shortcomings is ridiculous. Women shouldn't have to lower their standards. A sex life isn't something your born into like an inheritance. Your old man got laid. Build a life. Work on yourself, your surroundings. Build a life a woman would want to be apart of. If your anxious or have other issues, work on those. Its all excuses.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 11:47 AM
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Bring peace. He provides a house, make it home.
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/26 01:39 PM
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Comes back to the ol doppler-dommer effect. If she wants it, your good. If she doesn't you're a creep.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 05:33 PM
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I disagree. The redpill wants you to succeed. It isnt throwing around metrics to make yourself feel bad. Its showing men where the bar is. Women have expectations in life. And it isn't black and white. There is a spectrum of women and lifestyles. You dont need to meet all the requirements to find love and success. Should you take care of yourself? Yes. Should you strive to build a life that your future wife would want to.be apart of? Yes. Don't blame someone for showing you the way just because …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 05:49 PM
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The captain of a ship doesn't steer the ship. The role of a leader is to provide. Whether its guidance, physical, or material.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 09:15 PM
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What are these monarchs? I dont care what my money does after I die.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 02:03 AM
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It sucks. I think if the lies would stop. "You're good enough the way you are". "someone will love you for you". "Just be yourself" These lies are ruining young men. Granted kids dont listen anyway, but I'd like to think if someone told me to own my shit work on myself and body to be someone worth desire. it might have made a difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 11:31 AM
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What do you want for dinner?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 04:13 PM
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Read context. You come across as a very bitter person. You cant convince the world to change.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 09:39 AM
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Tell me you are short without telling me you are short.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 02:14 PM
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With that attitude, sure. There are ways to change that. The whole point of purple is to identify the red pill things as plausible and then to be blue and love women anyway. Build yourself and your life. Go to the gym, get a degree. Whatever just be building. There is a reference to a "frame" that alot people miss. Its not just an attitude or way of being for women to latch onto. You literally need to build your life into something a woman wants to be apart of. If the women that like passive men…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 05:40 PM
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Then stop expecting women to be attracted to men they dont find attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 04:26 PM
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I was speaking to the irony of the situation. Guys are unattractive to women they want but are too good for other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 02:31 PM
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Its easy when its fun. If you catch feelings you may not feel the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 01:59 AM
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Its nieve to think looks dont matter. Attraction is important. Yes Attraction can build, however, being a nice guy at work doesn't necessarily do that. Im nice to everyone even if they are weird or funny looking. Most people are going to be friendly. I think there needs to be some standards being lowered for these men as well. That pretty outgoing girl that youre friendly with at work, she has plenty of guys that are nice. Why would she choose you? Find your partner. Some geeky girl hiding somew…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 08:57 PM
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There is a mantra of sorts. "How you do anything is how you do everything." If these people aren't even running their lives proficiently (income, health, hygiene). Odds are youre going to see similar efforts towards their children.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 12:06 AM
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Isn't this the same thing that's always hashed out? Women can sleep out of their class but cant marry out of it. (Exceptions happen.) I see alot of women who dont have alot going for them. Maybe a kid or other life situations wondering why the young, single, successful good looking dude only want to sleep with her. I think I a little retrospection and insight could help. People lie. That guy never wanted a relationship. You were used. Look at your life and what you offer.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 12:45 PM
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No excuses. Plenty of jobs. Plenty of hustles. If you want it, it's out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/25 10:17 PM
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There is money out there to be made. Just a matter of putting in the effort. Comfort is the death of masculinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/25 01:15 AM
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To be fair, if you're good-looking enough, you can get away with a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 02:39 PM
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Well put. There are 2 types of pillers. Those who take action and those who scream, mashing their cheese dust covered fingers on their keyboard. A tiny bit of empathy or insight would show these people. You get what you give. Be somebody someone will want. As Confucius said, "Be yourself, unless that's person sucks."
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 12:51 PM
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Now you see, you didn't get the memo either. Taking the pill means understanding that some of those things are their fault and some aren't. But mostly, a driving force to be better. Be someone worthy of desire. No sympathy trophies in dating. I see your angle. The message some men are getting. Crying in their mom's basement because women want successful good-looking dudes. Thats because they blame others for everything. They are more vocal and louder. You can teach a man to fish. You can't make …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 12:46 PM
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It's not about doing anything about it. Its about understanding. It's about knowing. You spend your whole life looking for a fairytale. Life shows you otherwise. You cant punish people or change things. Only thing a person can do is take it in and adjust your own path, knowing what is actually happening. This makes some people angry, some people motivated. There lies the problem, angry people are more vocal. They want some comeuppance. They want to scream and argue how unfair things are. Those p…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 11:40 AM
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I think this is where a lot of people diverge. It's not necessarily a problem, just something men should be aware of. That's what taking the pill is. It is observing and understanding.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 11:23 AM
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I feel like you are arguing moot points. The exact numbers are irrelevant. The statements are the important part. Women are weaker, and men generally want something from them and can be inclined to take it. Telling young men these things are bad doesn't seem like an awful thing to do.
/r/MensRights10/09/25 02:48 PM
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My guess, she intended on sleeping with you. At some point she caught the ick.
/r/MensRights15/08/25 08:41 PM
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Maybe if your modus operandi is to manipulate people into getting what you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 07:41 PM
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OP. Read no more Mr nice guy. You are almost perfectly describing covert contracts. "If I do x I'll get y". If you're being nice to a woman to get her to sleep with you then pull back after she says no, that's bad. Someone should be nice and giving because that's who they are. Not because they expect something. Pulling back after declined shows your true intentions. Friendship wasn't it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 07:24 PM
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People are entitled to want they want and desire what they desire. It's not women's fault they aim high. Why wouldn't they. It's not that these angry men can't get into relationships. They are hippocrits. They are aiming high with little to offer.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 04:06 PM
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Alot of people are getting the message wrong. Women aren't in the wrong for wanting things and having high standards. The main thing to realize from all of this is that you don't get handed anything as a man. You deserve nothing. You need to hustle and hit the gym. Become a man worth desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 02:05 PM
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I disagree. There are options. He wasn't the last man on earth. He was still the man she chose. Above other options. Not her first choice sure, but her choice all the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 05:48 PM
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Isn't that what this is about? The woman in question can't get the man she wants. So she is going for something less. If she could have what she wanted she would have it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 04:13 PM
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Then don't be with her. Low agreeableness is abrasive. You have choices, too. Just decide where you are settling and to what degree. I'd take a conventionally less pretty woman if she was agreeable and nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 04:05 PM
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Personality is part of the package. A 10 is a 10 looks and personality. Just as a guy is perceived. It's a total package. Either way, everyone wants a 10. Anything less is settling.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 03:58 PM
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It's a two-way street, man. You want a 10. I know you do. We all do. Any woman less than that is settling. If you can settle and be content, why can't she? You may not be her first choice. But you are her choice. That's going to have to be enough
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 02:16 PM
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