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Red Pill Theorybrokenmess/r/TheRedPill03/11/17 07:22 AM
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I always recommend RSD Todd. He's got some really good content and is very intelligent and thorough in his analysis.
/r/seduction23/02/18 06:46 AM
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Yeah, the problem is... if these are their best hits, they are not very good at all. And I would even say that these interactions did not go very well, except fort the fact that they got the job done in terms of getting the number. But getting the number is not what counts in pick-up. The interactions were stale and ended before both parties knew very much about the other person. A bit more comfort, teasing and qualification would have been more appropriate. Also, one guy literarily said "let's …
/r/seduction22/02/18 03:10 PM
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Feels like it was luck and good looks that made you get the numbers. The approaches and interactions were actually pretty weak.
/r/seduction22/02/18 02:51 PM
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Sadly for those who eat up this kind of garbage is that reality/life is far more complex than a study based purely on sexual attraction.
/r/TheRedPill21/11/17 08:20 AM
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polyglot. What languages do you speak? Native Asian language and English do not count.
/r/TheRedPill14/11/17 09:18 AM
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reacting to stuff you don't like is very masculine while being passive and just take shit from others because you're afraid is a very typical feminine trait. Not taking shit from others is an active trait, not a reactive one. The definition you give to "reaction" is not what I was referring to.
/r/TheRedPill03/11/17 08:58 AM
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So she's basically saying "anyone who does not think like me should be shown the finger and shamed." How dare people have their own opinions?
/r/TheRedPill31/10/17 01:09 PM
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I would replace "receptive" to "reactive" and constantly in a state of worry and ready to please/obey. Being completely reactive to any situation and always ready to adapt is feminine. The masculine attitude is about being proactive and in control. Emotionally blaze to what goes on around you.
/r/TheRedPill17/10/17 05:15 PM
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Women are allllll about psychological stimulation. No. They are after the emotions they get from an interaction. I agree that looks matter little, but most of them can't even spell psychology. They are absolutely 100% responsive to emotion. And if you learn how to manipulate that, you are in.
/r/TheRedPill17/10/17 05:00 PM
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That's one way of looking at things, though I don't agree. People are much more complex than the boxes we put them in for our own sense of security.
/r/TheRedPill13/10/17 06:29 PM
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You should be banished to the sidebar. Sorry for not making a religion out of TRP and taking everything with a grain of salt. Some of us like to think for a change and make their own minds about certain topics.
/r/TheRedPill13/10/17 06:28 PM
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It's mostly about males who have suffered from bad relationships and who developed a sort of hatred for the lifestyles which rejected them.
/r/TheRedPill13/10/17 11:42 AM
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may make women feel less powerful Why do you care if it may or may not make them feel powerful or not?
/r/TheRedPill13/10/17 11:37 AM
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What about the you are enough mentality? If she must envy you, you are put in the position to develop into something she can compare to and this is coming from a weak framework because you are constantly in her frame by reacting to her desires. She desires to envy you and you have to provide that man that she can envy. This is nonsense. Develop yourself for you and remember that on your journey you are enough and she has to impress you, not the other way around. Constantly thinking about what sh…
/r/TheRedPill13/10/17 09:08 AM
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This is ludicrous and complete garbage, if we can't see past it and become angry/vengeful we are not being anything more than schmucks who take the bait. Best reaction is to laugh it off and keep doing what you want. Being reactive to such bullshit is the definition of a feminine attitude. I can't believe some people take things seriously and complain about it or get into unnecessary arguments or begin to develop hate for women because of this.
/r/TheRedPill13/10/17 09:04 AM
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I'm a huge anime fan Since you're here, take the red-pill and stop being a manchild. Anime is not for men. It's a waste of time and energy that has little to zero gain.
/r/TheRedPill13/10/17 06:47 AM
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What is the currency that an attractive woman possess? Sex appeal. This is the exact thing men are attracted to. Not really. Viewing people in terms of currency is simplistic and superficial. Not to mention that sex is not everything a man looks for in a woman. If you believe that I would like to wish you good luck passing the 5th grade.
/r/TheRedPill13/10/17 06:45 AM
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I agree with most of this, however.. Women’s number one fantasy is to be taken by a stranger. That might be a fantasy, but the real desire is to feel vulnerable to a man. That's it, if she doesn't feel that vulnerability her desire will go away and of course, if she has to take care of you and your emotions, she will never be able to feel attraction.
/r/TheRedPill13/10/17 06:40 AM
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Sorry but this is some major BS and I won't buy it for one second. To separate between love and desire is one thing, but to link this to Viagra sales is complete nonsense and sheer speculation. To then go on and apply this imaginative pattern to the whole world is completely useless and proves nothing but the authors' delusion.
/r/TheRedPill13/10/17 06:36 AM
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I guess girls now a days dont want to behave like girls they want to be Tomboys and be treated as if they are a man. Girls don't actually want that, they are following a certain trend/agenda/propaganda pushed forward aggressively by women who think they know better, but actually don't.
/r/TheRedPill12/10/17 04:30 PM
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Stop being reactive. Do you thing, be on your path and simply let the unimportant things truly slide. Let it go. It does not help you at all. You are making progress, and that's good, but why do you constantly need to turn to others in order to receive good feedback? You don't need compliments to keep going, you need a good head on your shoulders and an unreactive, carefree, BLAZE attitude.
/r/TheRedPill12/10/17 12:18 PM
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Shame you posted this here where most people don't mature past the point of seeing men as either betas or alphas. They don't understand the intricacies of a complex relationship and fall into the category of judging emotionally based on previous bad relationships where they ended up getting hurt. And instead of taking responsability, they run away (hence mgtow). Marriage and life is not comfortable and we only make it easier for ourselves if we run away like immature kids when things do not go o…
/r/TheRedPill12/10/17 11:11 AM
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At this point I knew this relationship was one-sided and I was constantly in her frame. Congrats for reading the situation well and keeping your cool. You did good. Thanks for sharing.
/r/TheRedPill12/10/17 10:50 AM
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I agree with most of this, however, it usually goes without saying that no woman who has already invested a lot of time in you will suddenly drop you at the slightest sight of weakness.
/r/TheRedPill12/10/17 10:44 AM
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You don't seem to understand how women work. An attractive woman, any woman in fact, wants to feel vulnerable in front of a man, and even though she has a ton of other guys available to her, she will try her hardest to find a quality man and will find motivation to take care of her man. I've seen a lot of beautiful women who are just simply torn apart when men in their lives leave them. So when you finally get your own car (or woman), your instinct is to treat it with respect and care because th…
/r/TheRedPill11/10/17 07:26 PM
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Life is much more complex than this. To expect absolute consistency on all levels is completely ridiculous. You should mature past the point of seeing people as either cucks or Chads.
/r/TheRedPill11/10/17 01:27 PM
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will anything that I am able to change, actually better my reality and my chances of getting laid? yes, but getting laid should not be your priority. I am physically inferior to other males Why live when I am genetically inferior than everyone else? Stop comparing yourself to others, please. You first need to understand that you have to be emotionally solid and have a different outlook on life. You are too emotional and you sense a need to impress others in order to become successful. You don't …
/r/TheRedPill11/10/17 01:24 PM
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Inferiority complex turned into superiority complex. This approach oozes a need of a reaction from others as opposed to truly be on your path.
/r/TheRedPill11/10/17 01:14 PM
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Agree and amplify. Don't accept to be put in a reactive state to comments like these and don't take them too seriously.
/r/seduction05/06/17 02:35 PM
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sorry for my horrible english writes perfect english
/r/seduction01/06/17 07:46 PM
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Labeling people as low or high status is pretty immature IMO. You need to start being comfortable with yourself and these things will not even matter.
/r/seduction01/06/17 07:45 PM
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Go for it. At least do it for the reference experience.
/r/seduction01/06/17 07:42 PM
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Adopt a posture of blase emotional distance. Feeling down is a a reactive state to a scenario and it will bring you even more misery. Take control of your emotions and simply move on like it did not even happen.
/r/seduction01/06/17 07:34 PM
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Find a hobby you are genuinely interested in and keep investing in it with patience and perseverance.
/r/seduction01/06/17 07:32 PM
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hug her. handshake is cringy af.
/r/seduction01/06/17 06:25 PM
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So the whole concept of TRP is based on having no morals and just focusing on the individual, completely disregarding other people. You can't stand moralizing because without it, you are allowed to continue in your pursuit of self-love and self-indulgence. Like I've stated above, it tickles your ego and conserves your sense of self-worth. You agree with it, because it's comfortable that way for you. Attracting and having sex with (married or in a LTR) women is easy and comfortable. But being in …
/r/TheRedPill17/05/17 05:15 AM
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You don't feel man enough unless you go for married women? Is this some sort of fetish of yours and you can't get off without it? Please grow the fuck up. Stop being selfish, immature and irresponsible. I get that this tickles your ego and conserves your sense of self-worth but it is pathetic.
/r/TheRedPill16/05/17 06:11 PM
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Nobody has a perfect life. Stop comparing yourself. Stop projecting your ideals on others. Just because you see somebody talking to women confidently it does not matter they have all their shit together. Why do you care about their life so much? Go on your path and genuinely don't care about others.
/r/seduction15/05/17 07:54 PM
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Why do you want to simplify everything like that? Things are not black and white.
/r/TheRedPill14/05/17 07:35 AM
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text does not put you in the friendzone. Your feminine behavior does.
/r/seduction06/05/17 08:25 PM
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IMO extremes never work. You should not bee nor too cold, nor too warm with her. Any crossing of limits into extremes will make her uncomfortable. That's all there is to it. She has to feel comfortable.
/r/TheRedPill04/05/17 08:39 PM
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Whenever I hear the term test I instantly want to puke. For men, to be in a constantly reactive state to a woman's test/moods is the ultimate loss of masculinity. The key is to adopt a state of GENUINE blase emotional distance to all of her bullshit tests/moods. You are a man on his path, she's just along for the ride. That's it.
/r/TheRedPill27/04/17 08:17 PM
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Find another girl. You would hate it if you were in her bf's shoes.
/r/seduction23/04/17 10:15 AM
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This post is so sad and offers not positivity whatsoever. It definitely comes from a place of bitterness and hurt. I don't know who hurt you in life and why you are so unhappy and miserable, but spreading this to others is not the greatest idea. Consider the fact that whatever you call "reality" could also be a construct of your own mind to rationalize why everything is going so bad and to come up with answers. I'm sure it works for you, but reading it, makes you feel empty and useless. It offer…
/r/TheRedPill21/04/17 11:40 AM
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yes. you are the man, you initiate, you invite, you take charge.
/r/seduction19/04/17 10:34 PM
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sorry but this cracks me up. (no pun intended)
/r/seduction16/04/17 06:26 AM
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Yes. Todd is the most intelligent PUA out there and his content will help you a lot.
/r/seduction15/04/17 02:11 PM
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Yeah. That's what most people controlled by sex think.
/r/TheRedPill15/04/17 12:20 PM
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if she isn't showing affection is because you gave off needy vibes and that turns her away, the worst thing you can do is want her to be affectionate again and running after her thinking that will help. listen to other advices here. ignore her. read about freezeouts and have some respect for yourself.
/r/TheRedPill15/04/17 10:40 AM
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so you are basing your whole point on sexual frustration?
/r/TheRedPill15/04/17 10:36 AM
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It doesn't have to make sense. Just something to get it going. Maybe she'll find it funny. maybe she won't. why are you over-analysing this?
/r/seduction12/04/17 08:21 PM
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If you don't want to make it seem like a cold approach. Go completely indirect, and just start a random conversation. It can be anything. Coffee shop. Sit next to her. "Why does it smell so good in here?" Stand next to her. "How tall are you?" And that's it. You go from there. Remember you approached them, so it's your responsability to keep the conversation going until they trust you. Start showing your fun personality and everything will be natural. Be relaxed and not too invested in them. Hav…
/r/seduction12/04/17 06:17 PM
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something tells me you're under 23
/r/seduction08/04/17 07:58 AM
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it proved that first impressions are superficial and that's it. you hardly needed an experiment to prove this. however.. i guarantee you if you continue to act sensitive and like a kid you will end up alone. sure, women find it cute at times, but in the long run it will KILL attraction for sure.
/r/seduction08/04/17 07:32 AM
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uhm.. no. women want someone who makes them FEEL like a woman. aesthetics is important for breaking the ice and getting a positive first impression. Sure, if you are handsome/clean it definitely helps with managing this first impression. But in the long run, the way she feels about the person they are next to will make all the difference. Your image does not define your behavior with women, you can look alpha as fuck, but if you are weak, needy and emotional, her attraction to you will fade quic…
/r/seduction08/04/17 07:12 AM
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"we should get coffee some day when we're both free"
/r/seduction07/04/17 10:07 PM
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There is not such thing as a pick up line. You can start a conversation using anything really, but the rest is up to you. If you think something magical will happen using from a "line" you are sadly mistaken. You have to put in the work. To work on yourself, and then to go after the girls you find attractive.
/r/seduction07/04/17 03:58 PM
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you don't. attaching your ego and self-worth to a random comment is ridiculous. don't play the victim game and don't react/respond to negative comments at all. don't think about them at all. simply brush them off like it wasn't even said, or use the old agree and amplify technique.
/r/seduction06/04/17 09:09 PM
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This fetish of yours and has nothing to do with seduction.
/r/seduction06/04/17 09:06 PM
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Don't ask her. If she doesn't reply at all, which she probably won't at this point, text her something random 3-4 days after you were supposed to go out and don't bring up the subject.
/r/seduction06/04/17 09:02 PM
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She's not worth it. If she considers cheating on her BF, she will definitely consider cheating on you if the opportunity presents itself.
/r/seduction06/04/17 07:32 PM
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I am more handsome and in a better shape than any of them I will laugh at her choosing that worthless guy to copulate with over me Dude, comparing yourself to others and making fun of a girl's choice completely misses the mark on being unreactive and grounded. It automatically puts you in a weaker frame, with a deep-seeded need to impress and looking at others for feedback. It puts you in a reactive state by default because you are still ruled by emotions and feelings of inferiority which transf…
/r/seduction06/04/17 07:12 PM
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see her how she sees herself. i'm pretty sure she is human, and has her own insecurities and doubts.
/r/seduction06/04/17 07:06 PM
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show intent through tease and kino. that's the next step. compliments are worth nothing if they are perceived to be coming from a low value individual.
/r/seduction05/04/17 06:35 PM
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They like it, if they are into the guy.
/r/seduction30/03/17 05:36 PM
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Having your best self-interest in mind is the definition of selfishness. Growing up is also part of growing as a man, whether we like it or not.
/r/TheRedPill27/03/17 07:55 PM
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Looks/glances do not matter. If she doesn't look at you, it doesn't mean she is not interested or she rejected you. She can't make that call because she hasn't EXPERIENCED you. She'll become receptive once you engage her emotionally.
/r/seduction26/03/17 05:44 PM
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Makes a lot of difference. From being overlooked to actually having girls/people in general paying attention to you. Plus exercising makes you feel great inside thus giving you extra-confidence. Do not even question this. Taking care of your body shows you respect yourself.
/r/seduction26/03/17 07:05 AM
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selfish and unnecessary imo
/r/TheRedPill25/03/17 09:22 PM
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Sounds to me like you are immature and frustrated. Probably too young to understand, but believe me, you don't have to give women excitement, thrill and tingles all the time to make them happy. If you believe that then you will begin every interaction with a woman from an inferior frame and you will always be in a reactive state, constantly wanting to please her by giving her the thrills you think she needs. Slow down a bit and keep yourself together. Being grounded is what it's all about. The k…
/r/TheRedPill18/03/17 02:42 PM
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reported.
/r/seduction11/03/17 05:13 PM
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if she opened up via text and if she also told you some personal things, that means she also invested something in you, so why not do the same? I say she's just shy and you should go slow.
/r/seduction07/03/17 09:02 PM
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you don't have to be "the guy everyone knows" to be good with women. you just need to learn to show intent and control your emotions/feelings.
/r/seduction25/02/17 10:50 PM
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any advice? yeah.. stick to daygame.
/r/seduction25/02/17 10:41 PM
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never ever bring her flowers in the first date. you can be romantic with a woman who is already in love with you, but you will never make someone fall in love with you through romance. save that for later.
/r/seduction25/02/17 10:39 PM
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showing intent is a masculine trait. it only implies neediness if it comes from a weak, reaction-seeking frame. if it's shown without worrying about the outcome, it's the most powerful tool one can have with women.
/r/seduction25/02/17 08:26 PM
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one word: don't take yourself too seriously.
/r/seduction25/02/17 06:15 PM
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yes, that's exactly that. you are on your path, you have interesting hobbies, i'm sure she will come crawling back if you ignore her a bit, or at least you will get more interesting girls in the future
/r/seduction22/02/17 08:41 PM
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be on your path, focus on yourself and stop caring so much about what she will do.
/r/seduction22/02/17 08:22 PM
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play it cool, like it's no big deal. you have your things to deal with. but getting worked up over a woman usually implies she runs the show and you are reacting like a puppet to her scenario. you are following and not leading, and that is not attractive at all. you have to flip the script. let her react to you, and don't be the one following her every move thinking how you will respond. that's where you go wrong. you are desperate to make a good, cool impression and you forget about the fact th…
/r/seduction22/02/17 08:12 PM
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the best way to get past this issue is to stay non-reactive emotionally. you make it sound like she's some sort of goddess. (and she's not). stop putting her on a pedestal because that implies she has more value than you in the relationship and you're fucked. try forcing yourself into a different way of seeing things. value yourself more and see yourself as the prize. you are the shit. she should be 'gaming' you. you are enough on your own. you don't need her. but don't act all bitchy and childi…
/r/seduction22/02/17 07:53 PM
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just do your thing and don't think about her. give her space. she'll come back, they always do if you're not desperate. also, please ask yourself: how well is your life independent of anything else? or how easy it is for her to change your purpose/mood etc.?
/r/seduction22/02/17 07:16 PM
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This is probably a bait thread. Nobody could ever do something like that and expect it to work. But if it's serious, please don't ask women for advice on women. ever.
/r/seduction16/02/17 08:43 PM
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A PUA's goal is to get good with women, not dancing.
/r/seduction16/02/17 08:40 PM
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a woman needs to be emotionally connected to another person. spike her emotions and you are half way there. you improved yourself, but don't act all bitchy and special just because you feel you deserve attention. fuck that. you have to engage her emotionally. talk about her, say random things about her, make fun of her and have other options.
/r/seduction15/02/17 09:24 PM
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Hi.
/r/seduction15/02/17 08:21 PM
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this is too much
/r/seduction15/02/17 08:21 PM
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"that was the best answer ever". NEVER give a girl you just meet this much validation.
/r/seduction15/02/17 08:03 PM
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" don't friend zone me ;-)" in a joking way - is a horrible idea. It oozes neediness and desperation. you want to be confident and in control. please don't bring her flowers.
/r/seduction15/02/17 05:18 PM
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Learn to be aware and control the frame of every interaction, especially with women. If you are coming from a weak, needy place, acting all nice and hoping she will get back to you, chances are she won't.
/r/seduction15/02/17 06:34 AM
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Tinder is horrible because the girl automatically has the higher value because she knows she can chose from the other guys that hit her uo. She can easily reject you, through no fault of your own, because she hasn't experienced you. And I mean your presence/personality.
/r/seduction13/02/17 09:13 PM
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Yeah, he's the best in my opinion. Very intelligent and extremely well-spoken. He has raised my game just through his videos and helped me step-by-step.
/r/seduction13/02/17 09:00 PM
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Women preffer actions over words. Showing intent is much better than stating intent. Especially at the beginning of your interactions. You can say sexual things afterwards, but kino is huge to build attraction.
/r/seduction11/02/17 05:31 PM
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If you ARE relaxed, she will follow. If you try to MAKE her relax, you are looking for a reaction and that's not good. Teasing her gets her emotions aroused and every woman is attracted to the emotions you give her. Of course don't push her buttons, but don't be her emotional tampon either.
/r/seduction11/02/17 11:36 AM
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2017 great free content everywhere on the internet still using routines
/r/seduction11/02/17 08:56 AM
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IMO you are over-analyzing every little gesture and detail. You go about this interaction in a very delicate manner. From your description she is shy and has difficulties opening up. She's probably nervous and self-conscious and wants to make a good impression so she tries to act “cool”, “aloof”, and “standoffish” because she feels awkward. It's pretty standard actually. Be patient with her, smile and hold eye contact, if you don't have the chance to talk to her, try to tease her and PLEASE don'…
/r/seduction11/02/17 08:47 AM
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ex-rsd immersion coach
/r/seduction10/02/17 10:44 PM
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it's not about what they like to hear, it's what they like to FEEL. whatever you say, you should look to emotionally engage the girl and spike her interest through statements about her. remember, that's her favorite subject.
/r/seduction04/02/17 01:05 PM
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This is horrible. "So, how does this thing work? Are we dating now?”. "Roses are red, violets are blue, I like your face, can I get to know you?”. Are you fucking serious man?
/r/TheRedPill31/01/17 10:13 PM
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everyone's a victim these days. how about not giving a fuck? whatever happened to that piece of advice? virgin shaming. this is the first time i hear about this and it's a made up term for irrelevant opinions. who cares? who the fuck should even care or pay attention to that? you are reacting like a bitch to some random tweet. I understand your point about her, but come one, stay non reactive and do not give a fuck.
/r/TheRedPill31/01/17 10:08 PM
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if you have to resort to these kind of manipulative games, your relationship is already in trouble and that girl is definitely not mature enough emotionally for a serious thing. the question you should be asking is is she worth the effort?
/r/TheRedPill31/01/17 10:02 PM
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ok calm down. you're seeing A profile and making huge generalizations about men and their standards.
/r/TheRedPill31/01/17 09:58 PM
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This is got to be the worst and most desperate idea I've ever came across. ANY girl will leave if you're not emotionally stable and strong mentally. Craving love and affection so much is a clear sign of weakness and will leave you exposed and emotionally vulnerable regardless of how skinny/fat the girl is.
/r/TheRedPill31/01/17 09:50 PM
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Don't be so hurt by this. Why do you care if she smiles at you or not? You should smile first and show some balls. Also, just because a girl hasn't looked at you or smiled at you, it doesn't mean she's rejected you. It just means she hasn't experienced you. She has no idea what it's like to talk to you or be in your presence. Come from a different frame. Ever thought that maybe THEY are nervous and self-conscious and not confident enough to smile at you?
/r/seduction31/01/17 05:04 PM
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you have to realize and come to terms with the fact that women want to feel vulnerable in a relationship. that's all there is to it. they are not masochists, they just want to feel vulnerable and are looking for someone stronger than them.
/r/seduction27/01/17 11:22 PM
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she was being ironic.
/r/seduction21/01/17 11:54 PM
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he worked for it. you can learn from his stories that you need to work for everything.
/r/seduction21/01/17 10:08 AM
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Yeah, he has great looks, but his mindset is also in the right place. His theory, not infield, is what I like about his videos. The first 3 chapters from the natural have some solid info on the women psyche, particularly the difference between what a woman says and what she truly wants.
/r/seduction21/01/17 09:53 AM
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He's great. Check out RSD Todd and RSD Max. I'm against buying stuff from anywhere, but Max's The Natural completely changes your outlook on women and will definitely help you out.
/r/seduction20/01/17 10:58 PM
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He's fucking great. Really smart and very thoughtful in his approach. RSDMax also has some pretty good content.
/r/seduction17/01/17 08:20 PM
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I've been impressed by RSD Todd. I think he has great game and he explains it logically and thoroughly in his videos.
/r/seduction15/01/17 08:52 AM
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90% of game is self-esteem, getting out of the house and having a fun laid-back personality, not on being "alpha". 100% agree
/r/seduction14/01/17 05:01 PM
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Deeper conversations could arise from asking her about her fears. Or asking her if somebody she was close with died. Ask her how it made her feel. You can share your own stories and fears and it will create an intimate, yet powerful connection between you two.
/r/seduction14/01/17 11:20 AM
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Once you realize you put too much pressure on things because you attach your ego and your self-worth to thoughts, concepts or things you think are important, but in reality you could do without, you will start seeing things differently and detach yourself from your old way of thinking and start living free. You will not give a fuck because you will realize how easy it is for your mind to trick you to give meaning to things which are ultimately meaningless.
/r/seduction10/01/17 08:50 PM
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How about accepting yourself? Trying for confidence to hide your lack of confidence does you no good, because it comes from a place of inferiority. Don't let your weaknesses become your inferiority complex. Rise above it and see yourself as an outsider. Accept the way you are and be at ease with everything. Confidence is being ok with whoever you are. Do you think confident people switch confidence on and off? No. They just go about their day like it's normal.
/r/seduction10/01/17 05:54 PM
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i agree with this. it's all about where you come from. when complimenting, some people come from an inferior frame. For example pausing right after they make the comment - as if they are looking for an immediate reaction in the girl. And she feels it. It puts some pressure on her and makes you seem weak. But if you say it casually and don't make a big deal out of it, changing the subject and talking about something else, or making a joke, you take the pressure off her.
/r/seduction10/01/17 05:33 PM
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Kind of a bad idea in my opinion. You should not apologize at all.
/r/seduction08/01/17 03:35 PM
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Ask her out. Show intent and be clear in your intentions. Nothing spells manly more than knowing what you want and going for it. Even if she'll reject your escalations at first, she will respect you as a man.
/r/seduction08/01/17 02:16 PM
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Sounds like this girl likes you. I'd keep texting, but don't do it very often and try not to reply right away. Go for the second date where you have to escalate physically.
/r/seduction07/01/17 08:16 PM
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You're making assumptions about me and my experience and you could not be further from the truth. You attach your ego to comments like these and start making excuses and backtracking. You seem to want to be a dating coach or offering advice and you cannot stand a different opinion than yours and start making ridiculous assumptions about the person delivering these comments which contradicts what you are saying. You have your version and I'm glad it works for you, but for people looking for serio…
/r/seduction03/01/17 08:41 PM
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You are missing my point. It's not the mindset of "losing power and being a little man" it's about not being needy and showering her with validation. It's guaranteed that she'll lose interest if you do that often. You should have a mindset of having a good life without her. Also, why are you asking her "Drinks? Later?". Asking for approval instead of "Let's grab a few drinks later" is not nearly as effective.
/r/seduction03/01/17 07:49 AM
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Watch this, thank me later. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zmfvxkJ4C1I
/r/seduction02/01/17 06:01 PM
1

great post. couldn't agree more.
/r/seduction02/01/17 05:59 PM
1

So many things. From making conversations with women from chit-chat and exchanging of information to really making it man-to-woman and also to make moves. To grab her hand, to go for the kiss, to state your intent. But one of the best advices I've read is the following: "The key for the man is to adopt a posture of blase emotional distance alternated with loving tenderness. Too much of either and she’ll run off." Learn to control your emotions men, and you're at least half way there.
/r/seduction02/01/17 01:43 PM
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These are horrible. Telling a woman you want to seduce that you "wish to cuddle under a blanket with her" and that you are "thinking about her" or any emotional outpourings is complete game-suicide. Sure, if she's into you, you might as well say whatever you want as it really doesn't matter. But learning game is learning to rely on your skills, not on your looks, to get girls who are not that receptive to you in the first place.
/r/seduction02/01/17 01:39 PM
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Paying this much attention to her will probably turn her off in the long run. Treat her well, but don't make her the center of your life. Have hobbies, take time for yourself, talk to other girls, go out with friends. She should know she's just another part of your life, not your entire life. She has to understand that there will be moments when she will be neglected. And prepare for shit-tests.
/r/seduction02/01/17 01:03 PM
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basically we need feedback because we feel insecure. a confdent person does his thing without worrying or being affected by people's opinions. other people's opinions do not make up his reality. he's on his own path and he does not care about some stranger's validation.
/r/seduction31/12/16 01:42 AM
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She's 16. Give it time. That relationship won't last. Also, if she's "a good friend" that means she sees you as exactly that, a friend. Or, more bluntly, a person she feeds off for validation. If you want her, make a move. Try holding her hand, hugging her, or going for the kiss. Even if she rejects you, or gives you the cheek, she'll know what you are about and will see your further interactions from a different perspective. Act unfazed and blaze if she rejects your advances. Make her realize t…
/r/seduction31/12/16 01:37 AM
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"Hi" would be a good start. "I can't stay very long, but your style caught my eye and I had to come and meet you to see if you're cool." Whatever you say, make it low investment and try to come from a high value frame. Ideally you should have her prove herself to you.
/r/seduction31/12/16 01:31 AM
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one advice: don't attach you ego to the whole thing. if you see a pretty girl, walk up to her and begin a conversation. that;s it. if it leads to something great, if not, move on.
/r/seduction30/12/16 10:12 PM
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the basic thread of a text interaction is one of flat-line communication followed up by emotional spikes. you need to spike her emotions for her to be engaged. the easiest way to do this is to have her talk about herself. or to have her qualify herself to you. you should simply say something like "you know what's interesting about you..." and then you can continue with a thing you genuinely find interesting about her. a neg could also work to get her emotions somewhat triggered and to have her i…
/r/seduction30/12/16 08:07 PM
1

talk to her directly. don't come from a needy place. make her qualify herself to you. you are the fucking prize. don't agree with her answers and build tension. it will be fine.
/r/seduction30/12/16 01:00 AM
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It's not a move, it's a question. Don't ask. Just go for it. Dance, hold hands, go for the kiss.
/r/seduction30/12/16 12:58 AM
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being this superficial. do her a favor and move on.
/r/seduction30/12/16 12:57 AM
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Using words like "effortless" and "X's secret" completely turn off my attention.
/r/seduction22/12/16 06:12 PM
1

Just don't let your emotions get the better of you. That's all they are, emotions, nothing more. They do not define you.
/r/seduction11/11/16 07:15 PM
1

The goal is to feel good about yourself and to trust/have confidence in yourself. that is attractive and impressive, even though it's not your goal, but a consequence of the fact that you are ON YOUR OWN PATH.
/r/seduction07/10/16 09:01 PM
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since she's smarter, you won't be able to attract her through your choice of words and logic, but you can still arouse strong emotions in her, which is what truly counts when it comes to pick-up. what you should not do is feel intimidated by her intellect and try to overcompensate or to qualify yourself in any way. or worse, comparing yourself to her and apologize for your flaws.
/r/seduction01/10/16 04:38 AM
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being skilled at playing the guitar/flute or singing is a great way to show value. also being interested in films, psychology, practicing some kind of contact sport (martial arts, kung-fu etc.) and riding motorcycles helps with DHV a lot. basically any passion you have for a specific thing and being on your path will be good enough in game. the girl should always feel like she's the second priority in your life beneath the passion.
/r/seduction01/10/16 04:33 AM
1

Yes. Basic principles of man-to-woman interaction. About the female psyche and about masculine energy. These things should be taught in school.
/r/seduction30/09/16 07:44 PM
2

good job. remember to make a move. it's critical to show man-to-woman intent when interacting with her.
/r/seduction30/09/16 07:43 PM
3

why would you blame someone? if she rejects you, move on. don't take these things too personal.
/r/seduction25/09/16 09:56 AM
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the mental block you are experiencing when you can't talk to her like you talk to your friends comes from the tendency to have her hooked and to get immediate reactions from her. my advice would be to be totally detached from these things and simply express yourself normally without caring about how she is reacting. it should never be about the result, but always about the experience. if you lead, she will follow.
/r/seduction20/09/16 05:31 AM
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Dude, your perspective oozes neediness. Like you're not fulfilled as man if she doesn't ask about you. Why do you care so much? Let her enjoy the experience of talking to you and that's it. Stop being so attached to the interaction. You're obviously seeking a reaction and if she doesn't give it to you, you are feeling like shit. It's a bit immature imo. The fact that she's talking is already a good sign. All you can do is comment on her answers by stating something about yourself casually. If sh…
/r/seduction20/09/16 05:17 AM
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keep your texts short and to the point. be a little more detached when texting. if you are having a longer text conversation make it interesting by randomly switching subjects, making fun of the girl and control the frame of the conversation. even in "text game" (which i also believe does not really exist) you have to have her react/qualify herself to you. if she is the one leading the conversation's topic, then it's obvious that you are reacting/following her ideas/narrative.
/r/seduction20/09/16 05:10 AM
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i found that the best way to open-up girls like this is to start cold reading them and guessing stuff about themselves. they'll love talking about themselves.
/r/seduction19/09/16 07:59 AM
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yeah, sure. it's called: go out!
/r/seduction10/09/16 11:03 AM
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Well done. You could tell you were scared/nervous, so congrats for stepping up and showing courage. You should learn from this and what I would suggest is to pay attention to your tonality. It was weak and soft, probably because of the emotions. I suggest you take a look at this video and I hope you find it useful. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zmfvxkJ4C1I
/r/seduction04/09/16 12:10 AM
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That's your ego telling you that you should stay safe and "not be creepy". Basically you are afraid of the perception other people have about you. Is that really worth more than what you believe/know to be true?
/r/seduction04/09/16 12:04 AM
5

cuties
/r/seduction03/09/16 10:55 AM
2

it's simple. be on your own path and don't compare yourself to anybody. make progress, make mistakes, make adjustments, but be on your own path and be convinced that the road will lead you to where you want to go. and for the love of God, don't compare yourself to anybody.
/r/seduction03/09/16 09:28 AM
4

next time you see her alone, just ask her out.
/r/seduction03/09/16 09:23 AM
5

don't sell yourself or try to impress. be as natural and relaxed as possible.
/r/seduction20/06/16 08:24 AM
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reputation first of all. you will get a bad rep if you hit on every co-worker you find attractive. Also, even if you find a nice girl and get in a relationship with her, assuming it ends, you're forced to see her everyday. i suggest you keep your personal life as far away as possible to your job.
/r/seduction06/06/16 05:52 PM
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Being direct is not about going after a girl JUST because you find her physically attractive. The whole point of being direct is to make it clear to her that you are not talking to her just because you're her new best girlfriend.
/r/seduction06/06/16 05:25 PM
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the next one will be better. it always is.
/r/seduction03/06/16 04:07 AM
2

You're young. Give it time. You miss the memories most of all and the key is to build new ones, better ones.
/r/seduction03/06/16 03:44 AM
2

kino, dude. that makes the difference. small things like high fives, putting your hands on their back as you guide them through the pub/bar, touching their forearm when you joke with them. don't be afraid to touch them.
/r/seduction26/03/16 07:07 AM
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it means she's taking charge of your interactions and you don't stand a chance if you accept it.
/r/seduction18/03/16 06:39 PM
1

I'd agree with combining both. Go natural, but have some lines prepared in case you get stuck.
/r/seduction16/03/16 08:38 PM
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It's a good opening, but unless you establish some sort of rapport, you're depending on your good-looks to avoid flaking.
/r/seduction15/03/16 06:25 PM
1

This is not the place you want to be if you're strictly looking for sex. If you need sex to satisfy your sex drive, hire a prostitute. This sub is for people who want to better themselves and become better in every aspect of their life, without depending on validation/attention from another human being.
/r/seduction04/03/16 06:55 PM
1

ask her if she's good at picking presents. you want to buy something for a friend and you're unsure.
/r/seduction04/03/16 06:45 PM
1

women are turned on by being wanted, by being desired. play with this idea in your own mind and straight up tell her that you enjoy going out with her and that she's fun and all, but that you'd also want to fuck her brains out. If you have the balls to say this, you are golden. It will trigger an emotional response in her brain, and even if she rejects you, you will have her attention for good. It's gonna change her perception of you and she will think about what you more often. The key is to sa…
/r/seduction22/02/16 05:46 PM
2

The only thing these "products" teach you is to face your ego and your fears. The problem lies in the fact that you fear other people's judgement and want to stay in a safe zone, away from humiliation. But guess what, people don't care. They are too busy with their own lives and do not give a shit about you. So go do your thing, without fear. Because you have nothing to fear. You can learn everything about seduction by yourself if you just put yourself out there more. Your ego needs to feel it a…
/r/seduction21/02/16 11:02 AM
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No. Don't hesitate anymore. No more "hang outs". You don't want to be her new best girlfriend. Trust me, she wants to know exactly what you want from her, or else she will be confused and will treat you like a friend. The sooner you state your clear intentions, the better.
/r/seduction21/02/16 10:54 AM
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Nice. Congrats on having the balls to approach. If you like her, go for it :)
/r/seduction20/02/16 11:28 AM
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all you need is the courage/balls to say shit they don't usually hear. get some authority over her world. that's it. it's all about confidence and attitude. nothing else. girls who are attracted by looks/money are not worth having anyway.
/r/seduction12/02/16 07:30 PM
2

think about the fact that today could be the best day you've ever had. you never know what might happen.
/r/seduction12/02/16 07:22 PM
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Hope this helps, bro. If you're not sure what to talk about keep this advice in mind: there is a successful entrepreneur who came up with the "Pyramid Method" when talking to other people. It basically sums everything up in 4 categories: Environment - this is where you want to start. Talk about your surroundings: place, cars, nature, what can be observed at that moment etc. Behavior - next thing, you take the conversation to another level and continue by talking about behaviours. other people's …
/r/seduction31/01/16 07:58 AM
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I know a trick that does the job for many people. Hold something in your hand while talking to them. A bottle of water, a phone, a book... something to keep your hands occupied. Just don't fiddle around with it awkwardly.
/r/seduction30/01/16 04:29 PM
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There is no failure, only feedback. You've already won by approaching. Next time it will be better, now you know it's not that bad :)
/r/seduction30/01/16 04:24 PM
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