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| 276 | Perfect response to “not all men” | STAY WOKE | brooke_157 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 01:52 PM |
| 227 | Why don't men seem to pull their weight in relationships? | DISCUSSION | brooke_157 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 05:23 PM |
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| 1 | How do I(19M) get comfortable with girlfriend (21F) being of the view 'I hate men' while being a man?My argument has remained exactly the same throughout this thread: that statements don’t exist in identical historical and social contexts, so they don’t necessarily carry identical social meanings. Instead of responding to that point, you keep arguing against positions I never took. “Because your refusal to take accountability is exactly why people don’t trust women to be in positions of power.” Take accountability for what? I haven’t refused accountability for anything. I never argued that wome… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 02/07/26 05:18 PM |
| -1 | I think a lot of people on this sub needs to learn to separate the feminist theory, from the people who talk about it. Otherwise we risk to fall back into sexism.I’ve been having discussions with people elsewhere in this subreddit, and honestly I was met with a lot of bad faith, a lot of anger, and a lot of sweeping statements about women in general. It became really difficult to actually talk about the ideas. That’s why I really appreciated your post and I’m genuinely glad there are people willing to look at both sides instead of just picking a team and defending it no matter what. I think a huge part of the problem is that everyone seems to mean someth… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 02/07/26 05:13 PM |
| 1 | How do I(19M) get comfortable with girlfriend (21F) being of the view 'I hate men' while being a man?You’re arguing against a position I never took. At no point did I say “I hate all men” is okay. My argument was that “I hate men” and “I hate women” don’t exist in the same social and historical context, so they don’t carry identical social implications. That’s a completely different claim from saying either statement is acceptable. You keep acting as though recognizing the difference between punching up and punching down means I’m endorsing punching. I never said it was okay to “punch” anyone. … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/06/26 02:58 PM |
| 1 | How do I(19M) get comfortable with girlfriend (21F) being of the view 'I hate men' while being a man?No it’s not. It’s the belief that people of all genders should have equal rights and opportunities. Pretending your caricature is the definition of feminism isn’t an argument. Your replies come across as angry, emotionally reactive, and not particularly coherent to me. I’m not going to engage any further. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/06/26 03:42 AM |
| 1 | How do I(19M) get comfortable with girlfriend (21F) being of the view 'I hate men' while being a man?You’re doing exactly what you’ve criticized me for doing throughout this thread. You’re taking one issue where men are disproportionately burdened and acting as though it disproves every other structural issue women face. The fact that men have historically been conscripted into wars is also a structural issue. I’d argue it’s one that largely emerged from historical gender roles created in societies where MEN overwhelmingly held political and military power. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/06/26 03:34 AM |
| 0 | How do I(19M) get comfortable with girlfriend (21F) being of the view 'I hate men' while being a man?The irony is that you’re asking for empathy while showing absolutely none to someone who’s spent this entire thread trying to meet you halfway. You’re right i’ve had enough. I won’t be engaging further. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 24/06/26 01:49 AM |
| 3 | How do I(19M) get comfortable with girlfriend (21F) being of the view 'I hate men' while being a man?I really appreciate you saying that, genuinely. And I understand where the knee-jerk reaction comes from if you’ve had a lot of conversations with people who have made those arguments. Thank you for hearing me out and responding in good faith. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/06/26 09:22 PM |
| -3 | How do I(19M) get comfortable with girlfriend (21F) being of the view 'I hate men' while being a man?A man who’s been abused by a woman can absolutely become wary of women. I don’t have an issue with acknowledging that. The difference is that women are also responding to broader population-level patterns, not just isolated bad experiences. That’s why I brought up violent crime statistics. If your response is that every statistic is too biased to tell us anything meaningful, then I don’t really know how we’re supposed to have any conversation about social issues, because we’d have to dismiss vir… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/06/26 08:00 PM |
| 1 | How do I(19M) get comfortable with girlfriend (21F) being of the view 'I hate men' while being a man?I think if men are being unfairly scrutinized or dismissed in situations like domestic abuse or sexual harassment then that’s genuinely a problem and one we should be trying to address. I don’t think male victims should ever be treated as less credible simply because they’re men. I guess where I think we differ is that I don’t see that as a reason to stop looking at broader social patterns. To me, both things can be true at the same time. Men can absolutely be victims and deserve support, while … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/06/26 07:04 PM |
| -3 | How do I(19M) get comfortable with girlfriend (21F) being of the view 'I hate men' while being a man?Yes feminism is an ideology, so by definition its members share some core principles. But “feminists hate men,” or “don’t care about male victims” are not defining principles of feminism. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/06/26 06:47 PM |
| -8 | How do I(19M) get comfortable with girlfriend (21F) being of the view 'I hate men' while being a man?“Shut your mouth.” Really? For someone who’s arguing that men should not be dismissed why is your response to immediately tell someone to stop speaking when they’re trying to engage with you in good faith. I’ve been respectful throughout this discussion. I’ve repeatedly said that men can be victims, that men’s feelings matter, and that I don’t think saying “I hate men” is okay. I’m here because I disagree with your argument, not because I dislike men. But instead of responding to what I actually… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/06/26 06:21 PM |
| -4 | How do I(19M) get comfortable with girlfriend (21F) being of the view 'I hate men' while being a man?Women aren’t generally wary of men simply because they had one bad experience. They’re responding to broader social realities. Men commit the overwhelming majority of violent crime, and roughly 90% of homicide offenders are male. That doesn’t mean all men are dangerous. It means women are making risk assessments based on both personal experience and population-level patterns. We do this all the time in other areas of life, we recognize statistical risk without assuming every individual in a grou… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/06/26 05:47 PM |
| 0 | How do I(19M) get comfortable with girlfriend (21F) being of the view 'I hate men' while being a man?It’s interesting that rather than engaging with my argument, you’ve immediately decided you know my character and my motivations, that I’m self-righteous, arrogant, and motivated by “morally justified bigotry.” I’m not going to do the same thing to you because I don’t think that’s a productive way to have a conversation. I’ve already said that I don’t think I hate men is an okay thing to say. I’ve acknowledged male victims and men’s emotional well-being throughout this discussion. I’m here becau… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/06/26 05:37 PM |
| 1 | How do I(19M) get comfortable with girlfriend (21F) being of the view 'I hate men' while being a man?I think you’re conflating a structural analysis with a moral judgment about individuals. Acknowledging that a social hierarchy exists doesn’t mean every man is an oppressor. You’re describing how some people misuse these concepts, and I agree that happens. Some people absolutely dismiss male victims or weaponize patriarchy to stereotype men, and I don’t support that. But that doesn’t mean the underlying structural analysis is wrong. It means people are applying it poorly. The answer isn’t to sto… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/06/26 05:33 PM |
| -16 | How do I(19M) get comfortable with girlfriend (21F) being of the view 'I hate men' while being a man?Acknowledging a social hierarchy doesn’t mean every individual man is powerful in every interaction or that men can’t be victims of abuse. Obviously they can? Individual exceptions don’t erase broader structural patterns. A man being abused by a woman is still a real victim and deserves support. But that doesn’t disprove the existence of a wider gender hierarchy any more than one wealthy woman disproves sexism or one poor white person disproves racism. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/06/26 11:06 PM |
| -17 | How do I(19M) get comfortable with girlfriend (21F) being of the view 'I hate men' while being a man?I actually agree that saying I hate all men to your boyfriend is wrong. I don’t think we should normalize talking about any group of people that way. But I don’t think your take is an accurate representation of why people see the two statements differently. The difference isn’t that “I hate men” only hurts men’s feelings while “I hate women” somehow does something magical. It’s that those statements exist within completely different social contexts. When a group already sits lower in a social hi… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/06/26 05:35 PM |
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