TheRedArchive

~ archived since 2018 ~

bruckbruckbruck Archive

View 0 posts and 127 comments by bruckbruckbruck on TheRedPill subreddit and various other subreddits related to The Red Pill community.
Search in:
In subreddits:
More
Filter by year/month:
Upvotes Title Category Author Subreddit Date (UTC)
Upvotes Comment on Subreddit Date (UTC)
2

Seems like her main concern is that she fears you gaining influence with your daughter as her expense. Especially if she agrees to give you more time with the daughter. Imo you should offer her an olive branch. If she agrees to 50/50, you can try to use your growing influence with your daughter to help her and her mom's relationship by regularly encouraging your daughter to appreciate her mom. Also remind her that your daughter would take her mom less for granted if she didn't see her the majori…
/r/MensRights29/12/21 09:27 AM
37

Well she's also clearly struggling with the reality that she is seen as only second best in her child's eyes. I can understand since my son sometimes chooses his mom over me and it hurts. But she needs to accept that reality and move on. And yeah she probably also doesn't want to give up child support.
/r/MensRights29/12/21 09:19 AM
1

Agreed. With the exception of those who have been through some sort of trauma, young healthy first world attractive white girls definitely seem incredibly clueless about their privilege. (Only old white rich boomer men might have them beat)
/r/MensRights21/12/21 09:53 PM
1

Women appreciate when men are open. Unfortunately many are turned off by tears. So I'd say be careful with crying in front of people who haven't gained your trust (including men) but don't be afraid to be open with people who have earned your trust.
/r/MensRights20/12/21 06:43 AM
5

I would just say "sorry, I just took what you said literally and was trying to be helpful. No need to insult me and be sexist towards me over a misunderstanding. Have a nice day." Make it clear to anyone else reading your comments which of you is being polite and well-meaning and which isn't. She will probably reply in a way that makes that even more clear.
/r/MensRights16/12/21 11:29 PM
1

I don't see why you have a problem with non-binary people.
/r/MensRights16/12/21 11:21 PM
20

Don't know about the sub as a whole but I don't think the commenter was making fun of non-binary people. Only making fun of how people like OP mentioned categorize everyone by gender (and other demographic characteristics) and behave differently depending on who they talk to.
/r/MensRights16/12/21 11:18 PM
0

Some truth to this despite being a massive generalization
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 10:30 PM
9

You might be right, but it seems like most of those men (and in some cases women) are just lashing out primarily because they are lonely.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 10:36 PM
3

I see why you are annoyed by that. In some cases people are lying to themselves. But speaking as a man, I do believe it can be helpful to try to be happy being single. It's good for our mental health. And it also makes it easier to meet people, ironically. The kind of women who have sworn men off entirely because they hate men are probably doing us a favor by removing themselves from the dating and gene pools anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 10:33 PM
1

Yeah, definitely signals that she's not emotionally recovered from the fallout of the previous relationship. In that case I didn't continue with her because I had a feeling even a casual relationship would eventually involve her dark emotions spilling out. Not worth the risk.
/r/seduction31/10/21 08:37 PM
1

Not necessarily. Sometimes its "youre so much better than my ex"
/r/seduction31/10/21 01:59 PM
2

That's true. If I wanted a relationship I would listen intently.
/r/seduction31/10/21 01:57 PM
8

Or their rebound...
/r/seduction31/10/21 01:56 PM
2

This
/r/seduction31/10/21 01:55 PM
0

What I meant is that if you are an immoral person, in my view you do have a moral responsibility to change.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 05:26 AM
6

I agree. Additionally, I don't think we should be looking for somewhere to lay the "blame" in the first place. I think what you are getting it is that we should try to understand why people are struggling, instead of blaming or shaming them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 07:21 PM
7

This is true, as long as the individual in question is not actively hurting anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 07:14 PM
9

Youre right. This post is very reductive. Saying a mental failing of an individual is their "fault" is not helpful. We all have our mental and emotional struggles and we rarely are able to help people overcome or manage those conditions by shaming them. I do appreciate that the post mentions both men and women, as people of any gender can struggle.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 07:12 PM
1

Well yeah, if you don't care about kids and you don't care about long term compnanionship, then don't get married. There's no one right path for everyone. I'm just pointing out that for some people it is worth it if they have different priorities.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 08:42 PM
1

Sure but if they got divorced now she would deserve half their earnings from that period as much as he does. Not every wife carries her weight. But some do
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 08:32 PM
1

In what way?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 08:13 PM
1

I agree that if you don't think a woman is bringing enough to the table (her own job, raising kids, etc) to justify splitting your yearly earnings with her, then don't get married. I say this as a man. But as a counter example, my dad may have earned the salary, but my mom was the one who raised us three kids. If they got divorced, is she not entitled to half the money they earned while together? I'd say what she did was more valuable to the family than what he did. (Btw in a divorce you get to …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 03:02 PM
3

Not every women is identical. Some women will fuck you over, some will be committed. Just like guys
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 05:40 AM
1

Yeah but they won't necessarily take it that way. They'll often assume you're mad and passive aggressively judging them.
/r/seduction18/10/21 02:09 PM
2

Yes it's very alpha of you to throw a tantrum and get pissed whenever you get turned down...
/r/seduction18/10/21 02:07 PM
1

Depends on the tone you say it with and how cynical the person is. Some people will read bitter passive aggressiveness into a line like that, regardless of how you intended it.
/r/seduction18/10/21 02:04 PM
0

I find this interesting, since it takes the pressure off everybody in a good way. But I kinda disagree with the second part. You gotta be careful if you don't specify it's a date and then make a move. These days some crazies will act like you sexually assaulted them if you're not super upfront with your intentions.
/r/seduction18/10/21 02:02 PM
1

Ok my bad
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 03:04 PM
2

I understand your frustration but if you interpret everything a woman says this way it may end up being a self fulfilling prophecy for you. I wish you luck though.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 02:32 AM
6

I think she's essentially saying confidence and personality are more important than looks
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 11:07 AM
0

Ok so explain why men aren't doing the same. Why aren't men also being monopolized by a small subsection of very attractive women? Here's the answer - those very attractive women are often looking for more exclusive arrangements. While the most attractive men are often not.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 04:10 PM
2

Thank you for being so honest in sharing your story with me. That sounds terrible man. She definitely put you through some insane shit. I would get a restraining order just for some extra protection. And I really empathize with what you said about sticking around because love was supposed to be unconditional and require sacrifice. I was in the same situation. Both of us have certainly learned our lesson there. Overall it sounds like you are very self aware about your own flaws and contributions …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 02:12 PM
–

That sounds reasonable to me then.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 01:45 PM
0

Often that's because women themselves don't really know imo
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 12:22 AM
–

Woah, you will never date again because of a bad two year relationship? Wtf, you seem so reasonable and then you say something so over dramatic! There's tons of people that are less crazy than our exes. We all know tons of normal people who are happily in relationships. Now we know the red flags to look for. We can find normal non-crazy people too. Take your time but don't just give up!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 12:20 AM
1

I can understand that. I definitely feel pressure sometimes to omit certain things when I talk to certain women who I think might misjudge me if they heard that info. For instance Covid affected the amount of work coming my way and while I work on changing that I'm happy to not draw too much attention to that part of my life. (Even me telling you this is an example of me being honest about something that people might judge me for because I choose to believe in myself and not give a fuck) It make…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 12:12 AM
3

You make very good points. People are definitely hard to put in a single box. Everyone is different.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 11:39 PM
–

What is your strategy that works if you don't mind telling me? In what way are you dishonest? Also what do you mean by bring the goods in this case?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 11:38 PM
–

Haha I personally wouldn't encourage risky behavior (for all the reasons you mentioned and also because it often ends badly for the other person too). Just taking the time to see what best suits you, figuring out your level of options, and then settling down after you're sure you've found somebody on your level (and definitely not just looks). I gave into complency and settled with a woman in my 20s despite feeling I might be able to do better (she was very attractive and we had a great life tog…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 11:26 PM
2

It's evolutionary psychology. Sex for women in prehistoric times lead to pregnancy and being saddled with the child. While men could impregnate as many women as they wanted without settling down. So women are instinctively careful about only having sex with a man that they trust to have the traits of a good father and to actually stick around while men will often bang just about anything if they can get away with it. (Obviously this is only one aspect of the story. People are more complicated th…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 10:21 PM
–

Well I meant that they should date around before settling. Whether or not they are interested in FWB is up to them. Are you in the habit of breaking condoms? If not then why are you so worried about pregnancy?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 10:17 PM
–

Btw perhaps I'm wrong but I actually think many women would be attracted to this level of self-interest if you are honest about it. Many women respect a man who lives for himself and is blunt and direct about what he wants. There's a reason many women like bad boys.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 08:52 PM
–

At least you are self aware. For the rest of our sakes please try to do as little damage as possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 08:48 PM
–

So you're not doing this out of low self esteem then. You just don't care about other people and find it easier to indulge yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 08:46 PM
–

But if the man isn't attractive enough to have a FWB, why would his girlfriend be paranoid... I never said attractive men (however you define attractive, not just looks) shouldn't seek FWB. I think attractive men should date around and even aim for FWB unless they want to settle down and have kids or they meet their dream girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 08:43 PM
–

Shitty women and shitty men both contribute to the dating scene being on high alert.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 08:41 PM
3

I define success as not only having a positive experience but also being a positive part of other people's lives. In fact, I think most people derive a self esteem boost from knowing that they made the lives of other people better as well as their own. Defining success as "I'm gonna get mine, fuck everyone else" seems like it would lead to a shallow, lonely existence. But it IS the easy way - people who can get what they want easily by misleading others don't need to take the same risks as every…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 08:39 PM
2

I think that's fine. I personally don't have a problem with people who make it clear by their conduct that they're just casually hanging out and find the person attractive and let things flow naturally. My problem is with the type of people who shower someone with affection and attention to get sex and then cut and run soon after leaving people mistrusting going forward. A lot of people have been burned by this kind of thing and the dating world is full of distrustful people as a result. I defin…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 08:24 PM
8

Except he could get plenty of pussy from a girl he was dating. He just wouldn't be able to get a FWB. So what? Nobody is entitled to a fuck buddy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 05:47 PM
4

And in reality being honest and still finding success is a pretty great feeling. Men who aren't attractive enough to find a FWB while being honest should probably just settle for a girlfriend rather than trying to be a "player" when they don't have the ability without deliberately misleading someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 05:36 PM
4

Well it depends if you overtly tell her you are interested in something serious or not. For me, even withholding the info that I am not looking for a serious relationship is a problem because willingly entering a situation where I know the other person will be hurt is something that would make me feel like a douchebag.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 05:34 PM
1

Lying
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 05:29 PM
6

Yeah these people screw over the rest of us by making women distrust all men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 05:29 PM
8

Yeah because most woman are looking for a boyfriend not a fuck buddy. While men are often the reverse. So your example ignores that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 05:28 PM
1

As a man I sometimes do the same thing in the casual dating world. I worry about being too nice and a woman mistaking that for me wanting to be her boyfriend, even though I've been clear I want to keep things casual.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 11:19 PM
3

It's not because she's actively thinking about kids with you (though she might be). It's just that women are evolved to want to have sex with men who have the qualities of a good father (both genetic and behavioral)
/r/seduction10/07/21 01:12 PM
35

Exactly. Girls can't be your main goal. If they are, then you've got little of value going on in your life.
/r/seduction10/07/21 12:55 PM
8

I assume this was online dating? If so, that's the tough thing about talking to someone for months before meeting up. Imo you should have video chatted at least so you both would have had a good idea what you look like. It's possible you are slightly less good looking or tall or give off a slightly less confident/masculine vibe than your pictures or her imagination and so she wasn't feeling it when she saw you. Both of you end up feeling like you wasted time. If she genuinely wasn't into you, th…
/r/seduction05/07/21 08:04 AM
2

It might not change your behavior, but it will change your body language. (That said, assuming attraction feels like it could easily lead into creepy entitlement in some cases imo. Better to believe that you are attractive to many, many women and be ok if this one woman is an exception I think)
/r/seduction03/07/21 12:24 AM
1

Great except you imply men don't care about relationships, only purpose?
/r/seduction03/07/21 12:19 AM
8

Hahaha, purposeless as an art form and a form of rebellion against society's mores. I like it
/r/seduction03/07/21 12:18 AM
2

If you don't have friends to hang with, Meetup.com is great to find social stuff to do. Or you could just befriend some girls you meet through dating apps even if it doesn't work out romantically. If all else fails, just ignore her texts for a day and then say "sorry missed your text. I've been out with friends". Technically not a lie since you didn't specify the time frame haha
/r/seduction27/06/21 11:31 PM
1

It's true that saying they are lucky to be with you is obnoxious (though that's not what the commenter above said I don't believe). Better to think "I think I'm great and many other people do too. I bet we'd have fun together. If you're not interested, that's cool. We both have other options."
/r/seduction27/06/21 11:22 PM
1

Yes. Every time you lie about who you are it hurts your self esteem because it reenforces in your own mind that you find the real you to be inadequate.
/r/seduction27/06/21 11:19 PM
1

I partially agree but why would you want one of those fake as hell gfs that you get by playing games? Being real but not needy is best because you can attract real but not needy women.
/r/seduction27/06/21 11:18 PM
1

Depends. If you are having strong feelings towards her right out the gate, that's a red flag from most girls point of view. Also, if you are going to express yourself, make sure you do so in a calm centered way that demonstrates how you feel but also that you can manage your feelings if she tells you what you don't want to hear. Basically she wants to see if you're an adult who can manage his feelings without getting overwhelmed by them. And that you have enough going on in your own life to not …
/r/seduction27/06/21 11:08 PM
1

I think almost everyone gets taken on an emotional roller coaster in the beginning, whether they are successful or rejected. The best thing you can do is desensitize to yourself to the lows of failure AND the highs of success. Even if that woman had been into you, you still would have been taken on an emotional roller coaster that might have ended up being stressful and distracted you from other things in your life. That's the value in playing the numbers game and not allowing yourself to get to…
/r/seduction27/06/21 06:24 PM
2

If you're really that confident in yourself and confident you can make women happy, that's 90% of the battle. You just need to get more experience, both with rejection and with success. Then the stakes won't feel so high anymore. You'll get there.
/r/seduction27/06/21 03:01 PM
1

Sometimes women can be good friends but like you said, only if they seem to really care about you and are there when you need them to be.
/r/seduction27/06/21 02:55 PM
1

Go on tinder and be open to matching with women slightly below your current expectations. Then you can honestly say lots of women are pursuing you. It will remind you that you have value and more attractive women will sense that and be more attracted to you as a result.
/r/seduction27/06/21 02:54 PM
2

I think it's more the latter. Not all women are scheming
/r/seduction27/06/21 02:45 PM
3

I don't see anything wrong with him telling her she was attractive when he asked her out
/r/seduction27/06/21 02:43 PM
3

Amen. It's ok that there are attractive, likable people that sometimes we just end up being friends with and nothing more or even just moving on from entirely. There's literally billions of other women on this planet.
/r/seduction27/06/21 02:38 PM
7

I think the YouTuber School of Attraction is a great companion to Models.
/r/seduction27/06/21 02:33 PM
5

What's wrong with making it obvious? You don't have to make it awkward. She knew you liked her all along and was still friends with you so what would have been the downside to telling her? Also I agree with the comment below that you should also be pursuing other girls and telling her about it. Let her know that you are interested but not desperate and just waiting around for her. If there are no other women, just exaggerate your success on dating sites or getting numbers at the bar or whatever.…
/r/seduction27/06/21 02:29 PM
1

My sex life recently has been as colorful as a Charlie Chaplin film is a good line if you're talking to the right person ie somebody who can relate and likes that you are being vulnerable in a jokey way
/r/seduction14/06/21 03:18 AM
3

Read Models by Mark Manson since it's about exactly this topic. Be confident, direct, honest, and vulnerable to attract worthwhile women that you can build a genuine connection with. Don't give a fuck about the many who aren't interested. They're not compatible so just be glad you found out immediately rather than wasting each other's time. Keep a reasonably open mind about looks imo. I'd rather have a super cool, super fun sexually, low drama FWB who is merely cute than get with a model who my …
/r/seduction29/05/21 03:01 PM
1

I would say "reliable" or something like that not use the word "strong" which could mean many other things.
/r/seduction29/05/21 02:58 PM
1

So you could attract women who have been judged unfairly off appearance alone...
/r/seduction29/05/21 02:56 PM
2

Boring has negative connotations. A better way to frame that would be disciplined and enjoying the simple pleasures of life rather than the impulsive stimulation seeking potentially ADHD lifestyles of others.
/r/seduction29/05/21 02:55 PM
1

Not a specific woman, but more just the general type of women you like.
/r/seduction29/05/21 02:53 PM
1

And Models
/r/seduction29/05/21 02:52 PM
1

I do think this sort of dynamic can often encourage some men to be toxic assholes and for some women to enable them. And the word "subordinate" is definitely loaded and not the ideal word to use here. That said I get your point but it is a real desire that many women (and some men) have to find someone who is in control. It takes pressure off them to let someone else take the lead. Plus there is often a primal sexual attraction that some have towards more confident and in control people. For ins…
/r/seduction29/05/21 02:46 PM
-1

You can, just lower your standards and hook up with a less attractive lonely girl. Its still the same experience.
/r/seduction29/05/21 02:35 PM
1

Beyond it just being the obviously more moral option, if you want a genuine connection with worthwhile women and not just a lot of meaningless sex, go with honesty. Some women will be attracted, some won't. But even the ones who are not attracted will still often lead to meaningful conversations since you are being your true self. And then you are more likely to establish an ongoing FWB or even romance if that is what you want. Also it is much better for building a deeper multi-faceted confidenc…
/r/seduction29/05/21 02:19 PM
1

Yes, different parts of ourselves come out with different people
/r/seduction29/05/21 02:11 PM
2

Don't pursue anything serious until you sort through your emotional shit and feel better about yourself and know more of what you want. I'm coming out of a traumatic divorce and have been pretty clear with women that I'm not ready for anything serious because of what I've been through recently. Sometimes leads to FWB, sometimes just friends. Coming out of a divorce both are welcome. Some women will likely be turned off when they hear you are going through a lot of shit right now. But others will…
/r/seduction29/05/21 02:05 PM
22

You gotta learn to force yourself not to care about rejection. In fact welcome it. Read the book Models by Mark Manson.
/r/seduction16/05/21 07:17 PM
1

I think he knows that he's doing something wrong. You don't have to rub it in. He's just saying that it's more complex than just being afraid of women.
/r/seduction16/05/21 07:16 PM
23

Lower your standards in porn too
/r/seduction16/05/21 07:10 PM
18

No problem! Just keep going. We've all been there at one time or another
/r/seduction16/05/21 02:40 PM
9

That's still at least 50% about her. But yeah I agree.
/r/seduction16/05/21 02:00 PM
63

Lower your standards and get some experience. Rip off the bandaid. It gets a lot easier once you have some experience and confidence under your belt. You can always pursue woman of a higher standard after you have some experience and confidence.
/r/seduction16/05/21 01:56 PM
11

China is ultra capitalist. I lived there 5 years. You're talking about authoritarianism, not socialism. (Not that I support socialism)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 03:09 AM
2

Agree, if a guy is asking those questions than he is basically giving up.
/r/seduction09/05/21 02:02 AM
3

Well said.
/r/seduction09/05/21 12:26 AM
2

I feel like a confident, assertive guy can talk about whatever he wants. The issue is being confident and assertive and not passive and needy
/r/seduction09/05/21 12:24 AM
1

I relate to this. Maybe in this situation we just need to stop consoling and instead say "hey if you're sick of dbags and are looking to date a guy who knows how to treat a woman with respect, you've got my number" (Although if you're long time friends that ship may have sailed) If they're not interested, they're not interested which is fine. Just gotta keep trying with other women. They won't respect us as potential partners if we can't be honest about what we want. Check out the book Models by…
/r/seduction09/05/21 12:23 AM
7

Not if he enjoys himself
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/21 04:40 PM
5

Yeah and if they are thinking about you they are probably just projecting something else on to you rather than who you really are.
/r/seduction04/05/21 03:17 AM
1

Yeah. Doesn't really fix the core problem though
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 03:03 AM
1

How so?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 05:20 PM
1

I don't quite understand. What is the healthy outlet for these issues? Banging a lot of women he meets in bars?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 05:20 PM
3

Yeah, sounds like she always put what she wanted ahead of what you wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/21 08:01 PM
1

In my experience they certainly work. Depends on the person. Some people just need more seratonin to mellow out
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/21 07:58 PM
6

To be fair, as long as those antidepressants are working, it might not be a problem. The real problem are the troubled ones who don't take medication or get treatment.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/21 02:40 AM
9

I relate to this and went through something similar with my ex. For me, looking back the warning signs were there in that she could often be petty towards others in her life, even in the days when she was still committed and loving to me. In the future I can't imagine commiting to someone who hasn't demonstrated an incredible capacity for empathy towards everyone in her life and not just me. Were there any warning signs with your ex? Hard to believe that a person who would abandon you so easily …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/21 02:30 AM
1

https://youtu.be/dqkZaTsjMjM
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/21 06:02 PM
2

I am friends with a few woman who I have pursued who weren't attracted to me or didn't see us as a romantic match. Friendship is an option even when romance doesn't work out. Usually their lack of romantic interest surprises me because of our funny conversations and emotional connection but such is life. I think you and are on the same side. I'm trying to make sure this kid doesn't fall for red pill bullshit
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/21 02:16 PM
1

Just talk to a lot of women and see what you find. Get used to rejection. Every time you get rejected it gives you a chance to become tougher and more unbreakable. A lot of women are insecure. Especially older women since men tend to go for younger women. And obviously the less attractive women are often very insecure and desperately looking for someone to be really attracted to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 10:51 AM
1

Ok. Just don't let them turn you against all women. Sure some are shallow (same as men), but there are lots of good women out there who just want the same things we want. There are women right now having the same doubts as you. Good luck!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 10:35 AM
1

Well that's why you come to purple pill. To hear other perspectives. Red Pill is just one opinion
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 10:22 AM
4

Yeah, men are trying to impress women and it is easier to impress a virgin who literally has no point of comparison. But women want to be impressed and a virgin male will probably not be particularly skilled.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 10:15 AM
1

Good point about conservatives actually being the ones who are least supportive when a man is abused and most likely to blame the man. That is definitely what I personally experienced. (Though I think some more anti-male feminists often times do the same shit)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 10:13 AM
1

Very few women cheat. And if she is cheating, you would know because you see her lose interest in you. So then you break up with her and gain confidence as a result.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 10:09 AM
1

You can do both at the same time. Date an average looking girl and see if she makes you really happy. And use that relationship to gain confidence and experience so if you still aren't happy maybe you can pursue more attractive girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 09:55 AM
1

In my experience if you can pick up women at bars, sure, then go for the hookup or FWB if that's what you want. But on dating sites and apps, women will only accept guys who are interested in a LTR (unless you are a 10). Don't worry about her cheating on you. She won't cheat if she loses interest in you, she will break up with you. Which is fucking fine because then you just take what you learned and move on to the next woman. You should expect to date for a little bit, things not to work out an…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 09:52 AM
1

I'm average and I've never heard a single word about it. Except for some petite women (in my case Asian but I'm sure it's not just them) who occasionally will feel some pain if you have rough sex because they are built for smaller guys. Otherwise I don't think any one has ever cared about my penis size. Some dating apps allow you to specify the height of the girl you are looking for. I'm currently dating a woman who is only 1 inch shorter than me so even if you are 5 ft 6 or whatever you are goi…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 09:44 AM
1

And don't feel bad if you end up really happy with a woman who is not an 8, 9, or 10. Who gives a fuck? If you are happy, you are happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 09:31 AM
1

Definitely easier to find a girl looking for LTR than casual sex. The hottest guys are going to get the most casual sex. But the same hot guys can only be in one LTR at a time. So you have a lot less competition. Plus woman looking for casual sex will be way more focused on physical attraction. Looking for a LTR they will be looking for a mix of physical attraction, personality match, and true commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 09:25 AM
1

Wow, I've never heard that hierarchy before but thats absurd. Imo is more like 1 confidence 2 money 3 physique 4 height 5 face 6 humor 7 sexual confidence and ability 8 style 9 dick size You can do a lot for 1-3 and 6-8. Plus wear elevator shoes for 4. And then after a woman is attracted to you, follow the woman in this thread's advice to form a real bond and actually get her to be loyal to you and not just want to fuck you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 09:17 AM
2

I've said it elsewhere but better to get out there and start dating slightly less attractive women and gaining confidence/skills if you are not ready to date more attractive women yet. You will gain more by putting yourself out there with real women than by reading books with lots of acronyms and overthinking matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 09:07 AM
1

The truth is in the middle imo. Kind and funny on it's own could just lead to the friend zone if she doesn't also find a guy confident and attractive in some way. But I agree it's better to try to forge a real connection than the hot and cold machievelli bullshit some are peddling here.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 09:00 AM
3

You didn't mention height. But you can wear some "elevator shoes" (on Amazon to make yourself look a lot taller. Not much different to how women wear push up bras to make their breasts look bigger. If you are worried about baldness just wear a hat. Or own it, since some women probably like it. If you're worried about dick size, go talk to a sex therapist and learn how to gain sexual confidence via other methods. Dick size is only one minor aspect of sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 08:51 AM
1

Maybe start pursuing women who are less attractive than you normally go for. Who knows maybe you'll actually really hit if off with one. If not, at least you will gain a lot of dating and sexual confidence that will help you attract more attractive women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 08:46 AM
1

Probably more likely with shorter girls and Asian girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 08:42 AM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter