| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 248 | Glad to find a platform for female empowerment in dating that doesn't glorify sex work | RANT | bruhmerica | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/19 07:50 PM |
| 0 | I have a really long and somewhat disjointed list of non-negotiables and for this reason I've just about given up on finding my forever person. I'm only 22 and this is gonna suck. | SEEKING ADVICE | bruhmerica | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/20 04:59 PM |
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| 1 | Do Porn-Free Men Even Exist?Describing reality isn't the same as normalizing LV behavior though! Doesn't mean that women are dumbasses to try to meet and date the few HVM that are out there, just means that that search will turn up futile for the vast majority of women. I think that's fair to say. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 08:32 PM |
| 4 | Do Porn-Free Men Even Exist?I honestly don't know why we even still want to date men. Heterosexuality is a curse. I give up 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 09:18 AM |
| 12 | I don't know if this info is verified or not, but if it is, this is why hypergamy is important! 😖Marriage is usually a scam from what I can tell | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/20 03:57 PM |
| 5 | I no longer envy married people. Too many are involved in miserable marriages.This is what it seems like from my perspective | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 12:18 AM |
| -1 | I nEeD aDvIcEYeah I'm gonna straight up say her actions were weird af and I'd have the same reaction if my male partner did that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/20 09:51 PM |
| 28 | Home alone with my hair on fleek like...My thoughts exactly. At 22 years old I'm finally caving to the pressure to wear makeup. I see it as something that could be fun but all my prior interactions with makeup just screams that it's not for me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 05:12 AM |
| 8 | Reminder that women ALWAYS get the short end of the stick with FWB. They aren't even good at the friends OR benefits partI've learned that fwb relationships cost more than they're worth. I had a lot of fun and was treated like a princess by my fwb but ended up with nothing to show for the relationship as a whole. It's not a good feeling and not something I'd ever recommend to other young women. We're leaving fuck buddies in the past. All it does is incentivize fake-deep relationships and make sex incredibly easy for men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/20 08:24 PM |
| 7 | More kneejerk defenses of porn and threats we’re all going to die alone unless we accept it. “Nice Guys” don’t make overt threats, they wrap it up in some concern trolling.He's right. Most men watch porn. And the ones who are principally against porn are likely super religious...and that's another thing I refuse to tolerate in my relationships. I have resigned myself to living out my life on my terms, whether that be "alone" (why is there such a negative connotation attached to that?) or coupled with a man I feel meets my expectations. If the man doesn't enter the equation then that's fine. I'll make lots of friends and money to fill my time 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/20 08:12 PM |
| 75 | The truerateme sub has a detailed section for women but not men...I feel so sad for my sisters who feel the need to have crispy crusty musty dusty idiots rate them | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 01:02 AM |
| 3 | Frogs rule, LVMs drool!What a wholesome dream. Please don't give up your amphibious babies for a man. They're so much cuter and will bring you more joy than any man who asks you to give up your life passion for him will. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 04:16 AM |
| 7 | Me and my impossible standards. If only I was hot AF I could get a man.This literally isn't even a lot to ask... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 04:49 AM |
| 3 | I want to get sterilized. Advice?Bilateral Salpingectomy doesn't affect hormones actually! It's just the removal of the fallopian tubes. Menstrual cycle continues as normal 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 03:30 PM |
| 5 | I want to get sterilized. Advice?Yeah the surgery is as minimally invasive as it can possibly be. I was back on my feet within a few days, completely back to normal in a couple weeks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 03:28 PM |
| 6 | I want to get sterilized. Advice?OP, I'm 22 and childless. I got it done last year at 21 by the first gyn I ever visited. I support you. It"s nice to get the opinions of other women. It can be reassuring. You are not crazy or immature for thinking ahead and taking steps to protect your future. Choose your gyn strategically. I chose a young female doctor who graduated from a really good liberal med school. That worked for me. Start there but don't get discouraged if your request isn't granted. Doctor shop if you need to! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 03:26 PM |
| 24 | I want to get sterilized. Advice?I'm 22 and I got sterilized at 21. I strategically chose my gyn and I had no problems getting it done. I'm probably just lucky, but I'd say choose wisely, OP! And don't give up. Doctor shop if your insurance allows! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 03:18 PM |
| 0 | I have a really long and somewhat disjointed list of non-negotiables and for this reason I've just about given up on finding my forever person. I'm only 22 and this is gonna suck.I appreciate this, thanks. Like I said, I like to look at these things from the perspective of the "me" that I know at present. These are just things that I know about myself and what I want now. Not to say these things will never change, but most of them I don't see changing. Esp the vegan requirement. I can't share a life with someone who is at odds with one of my most basic ethical beliefs. I understand your concern about older guys. I've dated a couple and both were very sweet, very respectf… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 12:00 AM |
| 3 | I have a really long and somewhat disjointed list of non-negotiables and for this reason I've just about given up on finding my forever person. I'm only 22 and this is gonna suck.If someone doesn't feel like almond milk is vegan, that's fine. I'm glad there are so many plant sources of calcium that no one has to rely on it for their needs if they feel that way. There's no surefire way to completely avoid animal deaths with modern farming/harvesting practices though as far as I can tell. If by vegan you mean "not harming any animals ever" then no one is vegan. Veganism is actually not defined that way though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/20 10:39 PM |
| 2 | I have a really long and somewhat disjointed list of non-negotiables and for this reason I've just about given up on finding my forever person. I'm only 22 and this is gonna suck.Thanks for this. I'm definitely working on me for now. This is very encouraging. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/20 10:08 PM |
| 7 | I have a really long and somewhat disjointed list of non-negotiables and for this reason I've just about given up on finding my forever person. I'm only 22 and this is gonna suck.Ouch. But yeah. This is why I'm working on finding fulfillment in myself first and foremost. It's just feels so nice to be booed up 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/20 10:07 PM |
| 10 | I have a really long and somewhat disjointed list of non-negotiables and for this reason I've just about given up on finding my forever person. I'm only 22 and this is gonna suck.Yeah I agree as well. I don't expect everything to go exactly as planned but there are just some things that I know about myself at this point that I don't see changing. Of course, you can never "see" those things ahead of time, but I operate from what I know about myself at present. I will say that I'm discovering new things about myself at an alarming rate these days. Thanks for this 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/20 09:42 PM |
| 2 | How much do you spend on beauty?Yup yup. I'm talking very basic though. Like moisturizer for example, I use any non-comedogenic plant oil that's got some occlusive qualities and castor oil for the humectant. Super cheap. It looks very dewy, or as people who actually have shame would say...greasy. But I like it, it gives me the "glass skin" look that I really like. Nothing feels worse to me than a dry face/lips. I use bar soaps for hands, body, and face , a separate one for each (that's by far my biggest expense. I'm addicted t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/20 07:21 PM |
| 16 | How much do you spend on beauty?😂 I appreciate the honesty. In reality most things we do "for ourselves" are really so we don't become ostracized by others. Ex. I stay in shape because it's objectively easier to go through life as a skinny rather than a plus size woman 🤷🏼♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/20 02:07 PM |
| 10 | How much do you spend on beauty?Yeah posts like this confuse me... the common answer to "why do you wear makeup/hair extensions/etc?" Is always "I do it for myself" but if that were the case then why should it have any bearing on whether a man pays for your date or not? It implies that there's some kind of transaction there. Like because you went through all the trouble to look decent, that he owes you. I don't spend more than like $200/yr on beauty (don't wear makeup, use lots of diy products) and I've STILL never paid for a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/20 01:58 PM |
| 1 | What are your opinions on this?Nah I'm good on the marriage thing. I value Independence and self-sufficiency over everything. "As a wife, you can avoid this situation." We can also avoid it but just not being dumb. Having your own life and career outside of the relationship. Putting yourself in a position where the only person you need to depend on is you. The best way to protect yourself and your assets is not to legally sign half of it away to a person you've known for less than 2 years. 5 years... that's a strong maybe. Bu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 01:48 AM |
| 1 | What are your opinions on this?exactly... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/20 05:53 AM |
| 17 | What do you think of ¨Living together apart¨ relationships?OMG...new goal. Sharing a duplex is the cutest shit I've ever heard. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 09:01 PM |
| 9 | What do you think of ¨Living together apart¨ relationships?Ideal | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 09:00 PM |
| 11 | I'm trying to read The New Rules but sis... The mysogyny...I apologize for making you feel that way. The joke was maybe a bit much (it's a quote from The Office). However, we do understand what you're trying to say. But essentially what you are doing is painting men as lizard brained idiots that we need to compensate and look "pretty" for to appeal to them or we'll be looked over. And you're right. In many cases, that's true. But the men who exhibit that level of thinking are exactly the ones we DON'T want. We all want to be attractive. Men do too. We a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 08:25 PM |
| 7 | Sacrificing Love for Marriage?I'm like 90% against marriage but having a child with someone is one situation in which I feel that it may be warranted, for legal and financial protection of you and your child. Especially because buddy's already up there in age. When your child is 20, he'll be 80... Even so, he's not the guy. He's not ready for marriage but he had a child with you? Just think about that... children are an even more permanent commitment than marriage is. All I can say is, DON'T MARRY BECAUSE OTHER PEOPLE EXPECT… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/20 12:11 AM |
| 67 | The men in my city are trash so I hired an elite matchmaking service to set me up with men in better cities #levelupbitchesI'm intrigued...poor, yet intrigued... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/20 01:18 AM |
| 7 | Squirtmeisha: Used on/off in FWB for four years, dumps LVM, lets him back in a year later.It's pee. Or mostly pee. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/20 11:39 PM |
| 2 | Squirtmeisha: Used on/off in FWB for four years, dumps LVM, lets him back in a year later.🤢🤢🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/20 11:37 PM |
| 14 | THISOuchie. This is the right answer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/20 01:20 AM |
| 7 | Freinds with benefits is over!Quick sidenote...you keep typing "then" when you should be using "than." Just a heads up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/20 01:19 AM |
| 1 | OP (25F) dates old, post wall male (40M), is SHOCKED at his low-libido & unfulfilling, lackluster sex, feels insecure with lack of sexual foreplay. There's NO BENEFIT to dating someone much much older... and let this be a DAILY REMINDER TO TAKE ZERO SHIT FROM MEN!!Why | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/20 12:45 AM |
| 20 | I love my small boobs rantI love my tiny lil tiddies 😭💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/20 01:46 AM |
| 24 | Standards (Get Some)Steve Harvey is a typical misogynist clown | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/20 09:49 PM |
| -5 | LVM -Hates MakeupMen can very well prefer women who have "high-standard" look but not prefer made-up women. Makeup, wigs, and weaves do not automatically translate to high standards of appearance. ”why does it bother you so much that a woman take pride in how she looks. Why do you care so much about why she wears makeup/extensions?"--That's not a reason to categorize a man as LV...it's two questions. The first question is poorly formed. Taking pride in your appearance does not have to mean altering your appearan… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/20 09:14 PM |
| 10 | More evidence that you should never, ever disclose your sexual historyI would prefer to be partnered with a guy with a low body count because it shows me we share some values, such as being selfish with who we share the most intimate parts of us with as well as impulse control. .....barring some weird incel shit or considerable age gaps, for me personally, lower body count is better. My ideal partner would have a body count similar to my own. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/20 07:28 PM |
| 7 | Married 11 years, together for 13, and he has YET to eat me out.Why do we do this to ourselves | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/20 02:47 AM |
| 27 | Glad to find a platform for female empowerment in dating that doesn't glorify sex workNever thought of it this way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/19 11:22 PM |
| 71 | Glad to find a platform for female empowerment in dating that doesn't glorify sex workSex work reaffirms the notion that women are commodities that can be bought, sold, and controlled. So no matter how much any one sex worker benefits monetarily, it cannot be said to benefit women. It literally puts a price on the female body. Not to mention that you can only get far in sex work if you modify your body and presentation to match men's pornified image of what a woman should look like. It's a step backward imo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/19 10:14 PM |
| 10 | Why Doesn’t FDS Focus on Improving Physical Appearance? Do Looks Matter For Attracting a High Value Man?Wow wow wow. I felt this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/19 07:51 AM |
| 3 | Need help reconciling FDS with refusing marriageThis is my whole deal. I honestly don't think I'll ever find a guy that I think is worth marrying. I'll die alone before I settle and that's on periodt. I'm completely with you. u/Janedola | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/19 04:23 AM |
| 48 | Reminder: if nobody knows you’re together, you’re single, sis.I hate announcing relationships on social media though. It just feels weird. Don't understand the concern for social media specifically. Now, if he's going out of his way to make sure none of his buddies meet you or insists that his family "doesn't need to know" after you've been serious for a while, then there's a problem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/19 12:31 AM |
| 51 | If he can't set aside an hour to call you, or text promptly back and forth, byeeeYeah I hate this. No one is entitled to my time and attention 24/7. I'll be by my phone and still not respond immediately because I DONT WANT TO. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/19 06:04 PM |
| 6 | Settle a myth for me, fellow actual womenIt's definitely pee. Sorry. If it's not ALL pee, it's MOSTLY pee. The only thing that connects to your urethra that produces any substantial amount of clear/translucent liquid is your bladder. Myth created and propogated by porn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/19 04:17 PM |
| 16 | Marraige....don't do it. Marriage is a woman's grave my sisters. We've been sold a shitty bill of goods.Thanks for putting this into words. We acknowledge the fact that men are trash but then go and legally, financially, and inextricably bind ourselves to them after 2 years (recommended in this sub)? Hell nah sis I'm good. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/19 10:03 PM |
| 3 | If you have any Pick Meisha friends like this, take this as a sign to give them the boot 🥾I will never understand how it's considered pick-me to not wear makeup when so many women feel like they need to wear makeup to be presentable to men...so they'll be picked. Somebody please make it make sense. The fact that women feel like they need to wear makeup to be presentable period when men can just wake up and go is so sad to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/19 05:13 PM |
| 1 | All of you deserve to die a painful deathHe big mad y'all 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/19 12:41 AM |
| 5 | Sign in a shared restroom in Clevelandyeah I worked at taco bell and the men's room smelled like my niece's guinea pigs cage and had like 3 millimeter thick pee calcium deposits in the grout and shit wiped in various places also soo | /r/MensRights | 26/04/17 07:58 AM |
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