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Great idea! Edit: I mean, this idea is splendid because it really makes me think that I need to be more descriptive as well. I already have a decent vocabulary, but I seldom use it to it's fullest extent. Thank you for this incredible, creative, and insightful self-improvement strategy. :)
/r/seduction02/02/18 02:53 AM
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You could say that, but it's rather vague. "Sometime" could be next week or next month. At best it's telling her that you're only kinda sorta interested in hanging out with her maybe. So, if she concedes to the 'sometime' request, then she's automatically telling you both "yes" to the request and "yes" to the sub-communication that she likes you (because why else would she agree to hang out with someone without any actual plans?). That's two yes's, bro. Take the pressure off her by either giving…
/r/seduction17/01/18 07:06 AM
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Get back into working out for sure. Focusing on the positive aspects of yourself is primary to living a good life that's inviting to the woman you're going to end up with. It sounds as though you kinda already know what your issues are, but let me spell them out in my words: you need to practice believing that you are worth it to any girl (confidence) and you need to find a different group of friends that maybe doesn't drink so much. Alcohol never helps. The fact that it's socially acceptable sh…
/r/seduction17/01/18 06:52 AM
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He should be the one on here asking the questions, so we can speak directly to him. While it's great you're here for him, it's difficult to give advice through someone else. That said, I'll attempt it. Situational openers are ALRIGHT. Questions are alright as well. Though, statements are better. They show character and subtly allow the other person to make a statement in response. For example: "How was the quiz?" becomes, "That quiz was...expressive adjective". There's a boundary to each person …
/r/seduction17/01/18 06:17 AM
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no expecations
/r/seduction17/01/18 05:57 AM
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Stop drinking. Start meditating. If your mind is getting in your way, then let your mind go...
/r/seduction17/01/18 05:57 AM
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Focus on more substantial forms of communicating. Like posts if you want, but don't count on her reading into it as much as you are. Unless you've already hooked her, in which case she'll be looking for your presence everywhere anyway...and in that case a like still wouldn't hold much sway. I would recommend liking only that which you would like if she was a good friend.
/r/seduction04/01/18 11:42 PM
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Congrats!
/r/seduction02/01/18 07:36 AM
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Being weird? No. Thinking that weird=bad? No. There are two levels to this: Being and labeling. You can't help being yourself. You can, however, help the label you put on yourself. You can also help the associations you make with that label. It sounds to me as though you're making the association of bad with weird. While mainstream society may think that this is true, there is a large portion of our society that associates weirdness with good qualities...like bravery and uniqueness. It's up to y…
/r/seduction02/01/18 07:33 AM
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This sounds like the question: "If I'm fucking this girl, does it mean she likes me?" What I mean by that is that you already know the answer to this question. There's nothing you can do to fuck it up except to try to be someone you're not within the context of the situation. I say keep it up, and don't lose the tension you've already created with her. You could also state your feelings toward her point blank. You actually don't need to be friends with her after you find out if she's interested …
/r/seduction02/01/18 07:24 AM
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Late night fudge brownie sundaes. Or a late home-cooked dinner. If you have any mutual interests, like music or movies, that could be a good reason for her to come over to your place. Hell, McDonald's would work in a pinch. It really doesn't matter as long as you keep the interaction flowing and roll with the punches.
/r/seduction02/01/18 07:16 AM
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You need to address your own fear for what it actually is in life, not just with girls. Really look at it. Analyze it and face it. Recognize that it doesn't have any power over you unless you let it. Acknowledge to yourself that you aren't the center of everyone else's world and that whatever you do; however you THINK others are judging you, that you're judging of yourself is much more significant. Your thoughts matter. Theirs don't when it comes to your self. Try to be less picky about who you …
/r/seduction02/01/18 07:07 AM
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Make statements, with questions implied. In other words, take whatever question you are about to ask and flip it onto yourself internally, then state your answer to her in a way that keeps it open for her to respond with a like-answer or question. If she needs leading after you share your statement, then and only then ask a question. For example: "How was your day today?" [turned inwardly to yourself] becomes "My day was pretty good today..." Then, you wait for her response, letting the silence …
/r/seduction02/01/18 06:39 AM
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I know I'm too late, but you should have turned that into a sexual thing by saying something about lips being loose in another way.
/r/seduction02/01/18 06:28 AM
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What physical and verbal stuff occurred before you two had sex in the past? You'll want to replicate.
/r/seduction29/12/17 03:01 PM
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True.
/r/seduction29/12/17 02:42 PM
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Thanks for saying that. I hear ya. I read a lot of stuff I don't 100% agree with. I try to take what is good and leave what is maddening.
/r/seduction24/12/17 08:17 PM
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I'm just here to help other guys and to learn myself. Please don't call me names like 'fraud'. It hurts my feelings. I read a book, and it seems as though the OP in this thread could be helped by reading it also. I never said I knew everything about autism...so I'm not sure where you're getting that from. If you're going to continue to be argumentative toward me and call me names, I'm going to ignore you.
/r/seduction23/12/17 10:59 PM
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Alright. Instill all of that into one word, and whenever you find yourself saying 'little bitch', force yourself to say that one word instead. Say: "I am [your word]". This is the format of an affirmation. If your mind finds it hard to believe at first, say it in the progressive: "I am becoming [word]" Affirmations are good because you can do them anywhere at any time and they're personal to you. A great audiobook to listen to is John Alexander's "How to Become and Alpha Male".
/r/seduction23/12/17 03:16 AM
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Fair enough. I didn't see it that way when I read it, and if he did mean it that way I'm with you. We have to prop each other up. Solidarity!
/r/seduction23/12/17 03:08 AM
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Dude! Props for being here to work on self-improvement! You. Are. WAY. AHEAD. If you tell me you put 100 dollars per month into a Roth IRA, I'm going to be extremely delighted. Consider beating them to the punch with the whole friend-zone thing. With the next girl you meet, tell her right off the bat: I just want to be friends. If she asks why, just tell her you like her style and you don't want to ruin your friendship with any of that relationship awkwardness. BOOM. Mic drop. (don't say boom mi…
/r/seduction23/12/17 03:01 AM
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Read "Influence" by Robert Cialdini. There's a part in there that speaks to this same phenomenon of a woman going back to a guy after breaking up and then marrying him, even while he breaks all the promises he made to her in order to get her back. I don't think women dislike manipulation when it works. I think they only dislike it when it doesn't work. Consider a commercial: when you like the product, when the pitch is clever and speaks to you, and when it catches on to the point that you think …
/r/seduction23/12/17 02:56 AM
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That's not very nice. Campaign's right to be mad, though misguided in his conclusion that OP needs to find another girl, because clearly the issue is disrespect from the ex, and indecision on the OP's part. I would have liked to have read what Camp had to say in his paragraph.
/r/seduction23/12/17 02:48 AM
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It totally IS a huge deal! For several reasons: First and foremost, you're lying to her. You obviously feel you're being disrespected by this other guy, and you're not doing anything about it. Second, Well...actually...that's really the only problem here. Respect. Tell her that you do find it disturbing that her ex feels he has the right to hit on her like that. Tell her that you've thought about it rationally, and if he wants to continue being friends with you, he's going to have to cut the shi…
/r/seduction23/12/17 02:45 AM
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I like that response. It's very well thought-out. Though, in practice, a rejection might not always allow the opportunity for that kind of response. In those cases, I feel that it's more important for one to simply THINK something along those lines. Anything that will stop that awful spinning into horridness from happening. An example of my own experience is after a girl literally RAN away from me in a bar and hid behind another guy, I struck a power-pose (look up Amy Cuddy for more detail on po…
/r/seduction23/12/17 02:33 AM
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Well, first-off. NEVER think that about yourself. Take that word out of your vocabulary. Replace it with something you find inspiring. It sounds like you're already examining yourself, and that's great! Keep that up! What's the opposite of a little bitch to you?
/r/seduction23/12/17 02:26 AM
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Read The Rational Male for more detail. It's a bit 'conspiracy-theory', but it does have a lot of valid points when it comes to the sexual market value of men and women. The rest of the posts in this thread pretty much say all that I would have said. You're good, as long as you take care of yourself.
/r/seduction23/12/17 02:21 AM
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"Only with girls I feel a special connection with. Was I wrong?" This answer acknowledges the truth, vindicates her pride, and challenges her right back. Bat that ball right back into her court.
/r/seduction23/12/17 02:13 AM
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I asked because the way you write is a bit disjointed. What I'm seeing is that you have some pacing issues. Perhaps this translates into your game while talking with girls. I would recommend listening to Carlos Xuma's Alpha Man Conversation and Persuasion. You can probably find it online for free. Briefly, I'll just say there has to be a give and take while conversing with someone: you have to give of your mind/thoughts, and take theirs in turn.
/r/seduction22/12/17 09:43 PM
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I'll be honest. I don't have many personal results to back that up. I was being a bit boisterous in my outlook. Rosy glasses. I started arguing with you out of anger, and I'm sorry for that. My anger was derived from my perception that you were putting another guy's dreams down. I believe we should be lifting each other up. I can see now through your reasoning that you're just trying to be realistic (and you've got your own issues that you're working through that are different but related to OP'…
/r/seduction22/12/17 04:13 PM
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Are you foreign? Why are you not gifted with words?
/r/seduction21/12/17 03:39 PM
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I don't want to logically force you to make the leap that is required for you to believe in the truth of what I'm saying. I could point out that not all hot women fit the profiles you have set forth as samples, but that's just a numbers game. We are both trying to fit our subjective opinions into objective reality by asserting our claims. The truth is I don't know what the whole of reality contains. I just choose to have faith that anything is possible, and that a guy with a deformity, a guy wit…
/r/seduction21/12/17 10:14 AM
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All things end in due time. It's not when but how or why it ends. Make sure it's on a high note in terms of the potential relationship with a biased toward you (for instance, "hey! I know you are sorry to see me go, but I really have to run and be awesome somewhere else for a while." hand squeeze, prolonged eye contact, half smile, and the slow turn away, holding eyes a fraction longer, then exunt).
/r/seduction21/12/17 09:44 AM
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Focused. I'll leave it up to you as to whether or should be breath focused or topic focused. Both are a clearing of your mind of all the mental stuff, including the blockages.
/r/seduction21/12/17 09:36 AM
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You didn't do anything wrong. We don't know what she's going through . What is clear is that she did not have a strong enough incentive for her to meet you. It sounds as though you both had several chances but didn't click. if you want to give it one last chance , then tell her what I just told you above, and then emphasize your willingness to meet in person and give HER a chance.
/r/seduction20/12/17 08:25 PM
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You say you've never spoken with these people. That is an issue. That's something that you can change. I would suggest having a friendly conversation with Or around the people Who are antagonizing you . At this point, they are probably stuck in a habit loop that will be hard to break . Sound things you can do to help are :Starting now, love yourself and affirm you're not creepy (with words such as "I am cordial, friendly, open, comforting, kind, loving, caring, etc.). Stoically ignore all though…
/r/seduction20/12/17 08:17 PM
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That's what I was picturing: a shabby dressed guy that doesn't wash himself and hobbles everywhere.
/r/seduction20/12/17 08:01 PM
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Giving someone attention and validation isn't a bad thing in and of itself . It's only bad when you have goals that are different than hers (I.e. You want her and she doesn't want you). It sounds to me as though you didn't take her maybe as a true no, since you're still thinking about it. This is a problem because you're lying to yourself and also, to a lesser extent, to her and to us. Being forthright with your intent is a much better, albeit harder, route. What you've actually done here in her…
/r/seduction20/12/17 07:55 PM
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I like the twist in control. I would also add that op could only give attention/validation when he gets something of value to him. Whether that is sex, friendship, mutual attention/validation, or something else.
/r/seduction20/12/17 07:40 PM
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Close can be a misnomer. If you're having a good time then there is no reason to. If you're good at starting and continuing interaction then simply continue interaction and see where it may lead. Game is a process. Seduction is a process. There is an ebb and flow to it, and the idea/word "close" isn't helpful in this context because it implies a STOP. In music, spots of silence can enhance the piece, but the ends come after crescendo and usually a reiterating of the main theme as a short "promis…
/r/seduction20/12/17 07:23 PM
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I agree with your conclusion that one should look for a personality, but not that that's a limiting factor for a guy. Any guy can get a HOT girl with the right attitude and skill. The beliefs you mentioned and feel are true are just -beliefs. Even over-arching societal beliefs can be wrong, though. What we have to consider is this: if societal beliefs are causing a negative impact (hopelessness), do we HAVE to conform to those beliefs?
/r/seduction20/12/17 07:10 PM
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You hinted at my point yourself when you said you think the social difficulty stuff is worse.
/r/seduction20/12/17 06:48 PM
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True. I think that habit of pickiness can and is overcome all the time though by the figurative biological clock, by alcohol, and by other disruptors like societal pulls ( I think a lot of game deals with utilizing these disruptors). What I didn't say in my comment is that I don't put much stock in societal norms OR biological imperatives.
/r/seduction20/12/17 06:44 PM
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Meditation.
/r/seduction20/12/17 06:37 PM
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All mens' advantages reside in first action and choice. Displays of power, strength, and vitality. And in presence. if you're familiar with the dynamic between power and control, where the more control you have the less power and the more power you have the less control, the man's advantage is having the power to do what he desires with less chance of social failure in the choosing...at the cost of less control of the outcome (I.e. The woman accepts/rejects at her will).
/r/seduction20/12/17 03:20 AM
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This seems to be the societal norms of advantages.
/r/seduction20/12/17 03:12 AM
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Not really the point of his question.
/r/seduction20/12/17 03:08 AM
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'bp as fuck'?
/r/seduction17/12/17 07:04 PM
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No. Women, like men, tend to be very bad at putting the right words to their own desires. Some of it's inexperience. Some of it's a lack of awareness of self. Some of it's social conditioning. Some of it's self-denial. A lot of it is just incomplete, because there is a difference between the intangibility of desire and the words that can be formed to describe that desire. I'll say that again for emphasis: There is a gap between desire and the words available to be able to describe that desire. W…
/r/seduction17/12/17 04:12 PM
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Embrace the Greek life. Those events are precisely the kind of events that you can ONLY experience while attending college. Once you're out of college, you don't even stand a chance to get invited or to invite someone to a Greek party. Pick one house that represents your own personal interests, and then go chat up the members. Or become one, if that's your style. You could also start your own social group. This would be the long-game. Pay attention to what people are posting on public notice boa…
/r/seduction17/12/17 03:44 PM
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First off- Make sure you have the strut down. Swagger. Keep your chin held high and look like you know where you're going and you need to get there without interruption. Then, interrupt. lol You can literally say anything. Like you said, chances are you'll not run into them again, so have fun with it. Be like: "HEY! That's MY sidewalk! I'm going to have to charge you the toll. It's seven digits." Second-Actually HAVE plans. There's usually so much to do on a college campus that not having plans …
/r/seduction17/12/17 06:05 AM
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Some people listen to inspiring music, some use mantras or affirmations, some use totems (like a special set of clothes), and some workout every day. It's whatever makes YOU feel that healthy sexuality that anyone can feel. Then, feel that all the time. Or, offer yourself cues so that you can turn it on when needed. Like a code word. Or a balled fist.
/r/seduction17/12/17 06:00 AM
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I always looked at dancing as an analogue for sex. It's a socially acceptable way to show off your body and the way you can move it that indicates sexual viability. With that in mind, if you're having trouble 'letting loose' in public, that just means you're modest. Dance or don't dance: stay cool.
/r/seduction17/12/17 05:56 AM
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Just consider how lucky you are that it's only a 'mild' facial deformity. Then, stop thinking about it. I know that that's like telling you to stop thinking about a white elephant, but seriously. STOP. Stop using that as an excuse to slow you down on your journey to self actualization. If you have the goal to bang a hot girl or many, then get out there and game the shit out of them. You game like you've never gamed before! DAMNIT peruvian! NOTHING. NOTHING is impossible. There may only be one wo…
/r/seduction17/12/17 05:45 AM
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Peruvian, don't listen to this guy. He's lost whatever it is that would attract a hot girl, and he's putting that shit onto us. I'm sorry you feel that way, Aeon, but you're wrong. There are literally billions of women on this planet, and not all of them are the same. Most of them are actually pretty good people too.
/r/seduction17/12/17 05:39 AM
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Yeah. Get a girl that is actually yours. Jealousy is a natural emotion. Appreciate what you have right now. Not what you don't have. One little mental trick you can pull on your brain is every time you see something/one that someone else has, say "Good for him/her".
/r/seduction17/12/17 05:30 AM
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Read The Rational Male
/r/seduction17/12/17 05:24 AM
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I think it's important for you to become that which you profess to hate. Stop judging those that talk too much, and tell your life story in the way that you feel is appropriate to those you deem worthy of hearing it. I don't see any problem with being picky. In fact, every man should have standards. It sounds to me as though you're using your standards as an excuse, however, and that's not good. Please! Please communicate more. If you need help with conversation skills, I would look into Carlos …
/r/seduction17/12/17 04:18 AM
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I think the best place to ask this question would be wherever you are...the bar, a restaurant, the grocery store, the library, the park, the movies, your friends group, etc.
/r/seduction17/12/17 03:12 AM
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I'm surprised at how many times my answers to peoples' questions/pleas for help are the same thing: State. In this case, you're worried about how you're coming off to others, which in and of itself it a disruption of your own personal state (the act of worrying/fearing gets in the way of how you come off). It doesn't sound to me like you're actually AFRAID so much as you aren't in a sexual state already. Do you use daily affirmations? If you're CONSTANTLY in a sexual state, and CONSTANTLY open t…
/r/seduction17/12/17 03:03 AM
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lol that title... Seriously...why?! You remind me of my extremely melodramatic best friend. The problem isn't Sara. It's you. Specifically, it's your desire and the inevitable suffering that comes from that. Usually the suffering isn't this clear-cut and obvious. For that, be thankful. We all have poisons in our lives, and we go around touching each others' wounds and pressing each others' buttons because it gets a response. The length of your rant tells me that those feelings you have aren't go…
/r/seduction17/12/17 02:28 AM
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Talk about something light and funny. You want to keep whatever rapport you've already built with her intact. If the rapport was built via an app, then what on your profile and hers was the connection based on? If the rapport was built via texting between you two, then be cool bro. Don't feel like you HAVE to say something funny or anything more than logistical stuff. If you DO think of something to say, then say it. Don't be afraid to fuck it up. That fear is the enemy. She is just a human, lik…
/r/seduction17/12/17 02:00 AM
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I think the trouble a lot of guys have with this is getting to a point where "walking away" actually means something personal to them. I think there are many ways to 'walk away', and not a lot of them are nice. The mental twist required for a nice guy to do this is akin to killing off a part of yourself. So, guys are wanting comfort in doing something what other guys (who have already done it) are saying is super easy. What I say is that the You that is truly there; has been there in the past, i…
/r/seduction16/12/17 09:19 PM
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Alright. So, I took a progressive view of the pyramid idea and by no means is it complete. My basis for this being a model we could follow is that it takes the person through an interconnected set of thoughts and actions from the most basic skills to the highest skills. Here it goes: The first level (base): Brick one-The physical stuff-good hygiene, well dressed, body language/position, health, eye contact/movement, etc. Brick two-The mental stuff-confidence, drive, state, focus, attitude, perso…
/r/seduction16/12/17 09:01 PM
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I was thinking in more general terms than you have laid out above. I've got a sheet of paper I've been brainmapping on for the past hour, and I think I'll need a bigger sheet. What I've got so far is actually four basic divisions or bricks for the base of the pyramid: The physical stuff, the mental stuff, the verbal stuff and the social stuff.
/r/seduction16/12/17 02:49 AM
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I like the concept. What about an internal/external division as well? I'll think about this more and maybe draw a picture.
/r/seduction16/12/17 01:18 AM
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Yes
/r/seduction16/12/17 01:15 AM
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You choose whether you want to love someone or not. I personally believe that you should love whoever you're having sex with. or at least have sex with only those you have the potential to love. love is many things. It is a choice it is feelings it is action and some say it is everything . You have control over the choice aspect . you don't have control over the hormonal aspect . so as long as you're keeping in mind the certainty that feelings will develop and that your actions taken will inevit…
/r/seduction16/12/17 01:01 AM
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Sex and love go hand-in-hand. Respect and love are two sides of the same coin. If anything, respect on both ends-male and female- enhances the love and therefore enhances the sex. If sex between two people is lacking in either love or respect , the relationship is tenuous. I recently read a book called "Love and Respect", which espouses the idea of an unconditional respect toward men and an unconditional love toward women. With this in mind, I'm now looking for a woman that I feel I CAN uncondit…
/r/seduction15/12/17 06:36 PM
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Great advice! I'm in the same position as OP and nolo has helped me out. Thanks!
/r/seduction01/11/17 05:12 AM
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She just wants to hang out. Don't read into it too much.
/r/seduction29/10/17 01:21 AM
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Talking about your feelings about the ex is a good way to build rapport. Your comment about there being a reason you're single now is a sign that you still have something to say about the matter. Use that material on her. Ask if she's available to talk, yell her you really enjoyed talking with her those years ago (making subtle reference to the flirtation), and build a connection. Make it about your problems, though. Not about your ex's problems. Tell her what you did wrong within the context of…
/r/seduction29/10/17 01:11 AM
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Say how you feel. If your truth is that you liked hanging with her, and you would like to continue that, then tell her that. Say "I've really enjoyed spending time with you these past few days/weeks/months and I'd really like to continue doing so. Would you like to go out with me to dinner/coffee/movie/for-a-walk/amusement park/water park/card game/music fest/theater show/literally anything?"
/r/seduction29/10/17 01:02 AM
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Yeah. She's not being honest with herself, just like a lot of other people. You could say something like, i'll make all your wishes come true. The issue is in taking her wishes seriously. I can wish for a million bucks, but until I put the work in, I'm going to have to live with what I got. Actually....that's better. Say "I could wish for a million bucks...etc"...then end it with pointing out what she's got:a hot, young twenty-something.
/r/seduction29/10/17 12:56 AM
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You mean "supplicating TO her", not "supplicating her". I'd take it as an IOI, and yet I wouldn't go for a girl at work. She would have to initiate anything in order for me to even consider this option...especially taking into account our societies' views on office romances, politics, and any manager/employee conflicts of interest. There's nothing inherently wrong with meeting someone at work. People just make it wrong by being dumbasses about it. It would be easier for you if you were in an act…
/r/seduction02/02/17 01:31 AM
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That's not something. That's a frickin miracle! FCK YEAH MAN!
/r/seduction30/01/17 05:57 AM
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There is no try-only do. Either you are creepy or you are not, depending on the perception of the observer. You could always go up to her and ask her if she thought you were creepy, and if so...then why? I think it's normal to be apprehensive in tense situations, which is what a situation will most likely be when a man and a woman make eye contact for the first time. I also believe that you have complete control over how you feel, and you have a little bit of control over how other people feel a…
/r/seduction30/01/17 03:31 AM
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That's funny. I was just talking about this subject in another post. "I don't get rejected" was the main topic, but I took the opposite stance. My argument was basically a philosophical one that separated anything anyone could view as "rejection" from the "self". When you pose a question or propose a potential scenario (such as telling a woman you'd like to do and have done sexy things to and from her), any rejection she may proffer is either a rejection of the query or a rejection of her own po…
/r/seduction30/01/17 03:24 AM
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You need some lateral thinking. You've got five percent, so now let's improve your numbers. You do that by focusing on the stuff you're doing right, and making it all better. Try applying your sexy skills in different areas. Those girls that reject you on those 'bad nights' aren't rejecting you. They can't reject you. What's rejection? Nothing. It's an answer to a question that YOU posed. That's not rejection of YOU. "No" is just one of the answers to the question you're posing. You're giving th…
/r/seduction30/01/17 03:17 AM
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I don't open during night game at all. You're right, though. It doesn't matter in the long run. Nothing matters in the long run. Even looks. They'll eventually fade away for all of us. The initial attractions that occur in clubs are seldom long-lasting. All those hotties will eventually become fat, wrinkled, and old. If you're the hottest guy in the club, even if everyone agrees about it, your hotness is still only temporary. It's situational. So, I don't open in night clubs. I look for connecti…
/r/seduction30/01/17 03:09 AM
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We're both fighting against turning this into a wink wink nudge nudge situation, aren't we?
/r/seduction29/01/17 07:24 PM
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Yeah. I know. I've not heard of rooshv, though. I'll have to check him out. I felt a little hesitant writing that for the reason you spelled out. To further your point (and perhaps to confuse the situation more), if you say something like that and get results, it's a sure-fire way to calibrate yourself as well as take it as a sign from the girl whether she's generically interested in you or not.
/r/seduction29/01/17 07:22 PM
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Oh my god! This is the best day ever! Fcukin love it!
/r/seduction29/01/17 07:18 PM
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There's no such thing as failure. Look to Tony Robbins for more on that. To address your specific needs right now, I'll ask you what you think it was that caused those negative things to happen? Being single and being lonely are two separate things. One does not lead to or cause the other and vice versa. The world may curse you. Your friends may curse you. Your family may curse you. LET THEM. You don't have to curse yourself. WHAT you tell yourself is the LENS through which you see the world. Co…
/r/seduction29/01/17 06:48 PM
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Look to Nash's equilibrium and game theory for help. When you're the only available guy, you're rare...until you aren't. The rarity of you is where the value lies. Once you give in to one of the girls, you're telling her and all the other girls that she's the winner...and as a result your value is lost (temporarily). Your best bet is to utilize your situation to find the STRONGEST girl possible (better if you choose the one you feel the strongest connection to as well). Not physically, but menta…
/r/seduction29/01/17 06:32 PM
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Truth
/r/seduction29/01/17 04:04 AM
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It would be a sore way to reject an offer of sex without strings by getting offended. I personally would not much like being the third wheel in an open relationship. That said, "leading a guy on" usually refers to a woman withholding sex while pandering for a relationship with boundaries. You're asking for the opposite...offering sex while withholding a relationship. Boundaries are still important, I would say. If you're interested, a good book on polyamory from a guy's perspective is Neil Strau…
/r/seduction29/01/17 03:47 AM
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Thank you. Upvote!
/r/seduction29/01/17 03:28 AM
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Don't try to use these friends in this way. Women, unless they are REALLY fucking cool, seldom have a guy friends' best interests at heart. They know what the fuck they're doing when they go over immediately and 'game' a girl up for you. They're proving that it's EASY, and that they're so awesome. Fuck that. Tell them never to help you out again. Tell them you want to be just friends with them. Leave the gaming to your own capable hands. The simple fact that you HAVE female friends that you're n…
/r/seduction29/01/17 03:06 AM
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There are two aspects to game: inner game and outer game. You seem overly concerned with outer game: ...getting results. Part of outer game is having an answer or response to all the possible outcomes from any possible approach scenario. Constructing and executing an approach scenario properly is also part of outer game. The question "How's your night going?" as an opener is a weak, generic opener that doesn't really merit anyone's interest or attention by itself (good inner game may play a role…
/r/seduction29/01/17 02:38 AM
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Just a title? That's all we get? No backstory about where this question came from? No detailed scenario? I'd downvote this, but I really do like the question. I'm not going to answer it because it feels a little too much like one of those questions you find on OKstupid asking about what you want, then what you want HER to want, and then asking about how important it is to you. Utter ridiculousness. lol
/r/seduction29/01/17 02:02 AM
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Playing hard to get is a subtle art of push-pull. You HAVE leave them with a glimmer of hope, and always end conversations/interactions on a high note. Continue to do what you're doing already to get the attention. Change one thing at the end, though. After she gives you those IOI's like peeking over, hinting, quipping, etc...and after you give her the cold shoulder (that would be considered either a push or a pull depending on your perspective), reverse the flow of the interaction. Throw her a …
/r/seduction29/01/17 01:57 AM
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It's because of that last little bit you stated..."I'm generally the type of person who prefers to keep myself to myself". You then put a big "BUT" in there that tries to hide or qualify this little statement away, and it doesn't fool me one bit. There is something in you that is not open to being approached by women, and they're getting close, but not too close because they're feeling the same fears and anxieties that any man might feel before approaching a woman (assuming that we're talking ab…
/r/seduction29/01/17 01:19 AM
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If you're exhausted, then perhaps you need to get some more sleep. Or drink an energy drink if you want to push it. I go out sober all the time as well, so I know what you mean. I think regular exercise would also help, because there's an emotional wall that's being hit at around that time as well...and it's EASIER to just go home as opposed to pursuing those base desires that were entertained earlier in the night. If you're good at the kiss-close and the number-close, then perhaps it's time to …
/r/seduction29/01/17 01:04 AM
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I'm under the impression that club game is a numbers game more than anything. Second, or perhaps in conjunction with that, is the impression that you're the life of the party. People skills are club skills. A club is just a place. It's not magic. There are general rules and guidelines to follow, and yet they aren't really any different than the social rules and guidelines that say...a Starbucks might have. It's all about intention and perceived intention, as well as social proof of those intenti…
/r/seduction29/01/17 12:52 AM
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PERFECT. Women love casual! All you have to do is look at your wants and needs in the present as worthy and normal...maybe even a bit better than normal...justified. Yes. Justified. A good defense for the stance of simply looking for the short-term is the idea of NOW. We only have, and are only guaranteed NOW. It's a simple argument, and when it's time to talk about your plans with her (i.e. after you've already built up attraction, rapport, etc.), you'll be ready. Just don't lie.
/r/seduction29/01/17 12:41 AM
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Love it! Great post! One thing I would try to change if I were you: the idea that you'll be "working on [your masterpiece] until you die". It's not that I have an issue with the idea of long-term growth. It's the lack of specificity with your plan for your future. I'm having trouble articulating here...the future...cannot be...it's...words and stuff. leh sigh
/r/seduction29/01/17 12:35 AM
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Cocky-funny to the rescue! Tell her that "her lack of attention towards your needy self has offended you and that you're divorcing her. The papers should arrive shortly. Let's keep this civil, though. She can keep the dog. " If she doesn't at least respond to that with some banter back and forth, then she's not interested. DON'T bring up the idea of a date again. She's already given you the sub-message that she's not interested enough to text you back. What you're trying to do here and now is ge…
/r/seduction29/01/17 12:20 AM
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They've heard variations of the word/meaning "no" too many times, and have given it more credence than their own words/meanings "yes".
/r/seduction16/01/17 08:37 PM
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I think it doubles as a practical and an emotional connector. You can get lost in a crowded place, but it practically grounds you to the person you're with at the moment. It also grounds you to the moment that you built up with the person before-maybe on the dance floor, through eye contact, words, body movement, etc. It also sets up a dynamic of leader-leadee that can play into how the rest of the night goes. If you're high enough value to each other, then the hand-holding could be just a forma…
/r/seduction16/01/17 07:29 PM
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This could totally work.
/r/seduction16/01/17 06:07 PM
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I fucking love it. Great idea, man! :)
/r/seduction16/01/17 06:05 PM
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A couple of years is acceptable if you've been focusing on other aspects of your life. If you're ready and willing to get back in the game, then there is literally nothing stopping you from doing it but yourself. You already have a lot of experience behind you to draw from, plus whatever you've learned about yourself in the between time since your last lay. It all adds up to who you are now and where you're heading. Take the "I'm a handsome, but not striking guy" and turn it into "I'm a handsome…
/r/seduction16/01/17 05:52 PM
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Realize the whole truth of the situation as you see it, and then communicate to her as best you can how you see it and why. Tell her you're willing to hear what she has to say in her defense, for you are a reasonable dick. Then, if she's willing to acknowledge and respect your viewpoint and your time from now on, you'll be willing to give her the opportunity to not be flaky with you in the future. You might also demand in the moment a definitive answer from her if you're not willing to deal with…
/r/seduction16/01/17 05:30 PM
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Expectation management. Come from a place of high-value, confidence, authenticity, etc. Emphasize your strengths, even in texting. (Look at texting as a whole, and place yourself on a scale that makes you look better.) If your confidence and strength lie in meeting face-to-face, in a coffee bar, after a light meal, after daily exercise, in a specific pair a shorts, with a smile on your face, after texting for the meetup, then do all that. Those are just examples. Insert your own scenario that pu…
/r/seduction16/01/17 05:19 PM
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That's only if she's being subtle and your didn't go in gung-ho right off the bat to show your instant attraction. Your normal approach is good under normal situations. Hesitation should change your strategy to a more subtle approach, however, like bumping her back or something even less direct if you can think of one in the moment.
/r/seduction15/01/17 07:31 PM
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I don't think video games are the way to lasting happiness. Neither is game. What do you really WANT in life? You sound like you're confusing the desire for apathy with the desire for serenity the face of adversity. I'd say try affirmations in conjunction with daily exercise. Keep video games as an outlet, but as long as you're comparing video game time against social time (the two actually have nothing to do with each other unless you mentally connect them, like you seem to have done), promise …
/r/seduction10/01/17 09:03 PM
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I've read that book. Agreed. It's amazing.
/r/seduction10/01/17 08:52 PM
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Could try matching her, bump for bump to test the waters before going in for the semi-warm approach. Also, never point out tactics girls use to get your attention unless they are HB9-10 or unless you've already built rapport... Or unless you're tired of their shit already and you're willing to blow it all to Hell. As I stated in my reply to OP, a softer opening is better when they are being subtle about getting your attention. You don't really have to say anything on the dance floor, though. Com…
/r/seduction10/01/17 08:28 PM
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The second girl was being too subtle. You called her out on her tactic, when she didn't want you to know about it. For her, it was too meta to be talking about her own game while she was in the midst of playing it. You would have been better commenting on something insubstantial about her... Like Carlos Xuma recommends "I just wanted to say you've got a really good energy about you. I would have kicked myself if I didn't say Hi!" Third girl sounds great to keep around as just friends- she might …
/r/seduction10/01/17 08:18 PM
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Seems like you're being pretty sensible about it to me. Is she willing to stick around for another five years without children?
/r/seduction10/01/17 08:00 PM
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ASD might be part of it, but it also doubles as a ploy to gain your approval and could be a test to see if it's just a one time thing or if it's going to develop into something more. I'd say on the surface is anti-slut-defense. Yet, since it's happening after sex, there must be something more. I'd say they are begging for you to commit, so they can have the option of whether to say yes or no to you in the long term. In that way, it's a bit of a trap question/statement. Cocky-funny is my gut reac…
/r/seduction10/01/17 06:27 AM
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You can't compare yourself to other guys. You can only compare yourself with yourself. You don't know what is going on in their heads. You don't know what their motivations or dreams are. Consider befriending one of these overly talkative guys, and emulating his behavior around these girls. Muscles, good looks, height, and confidence aren't everything, but you're starting off a lot better than a lot of other people by acknowledging those positive traits within you. The reason I'm telling you to …
/r/seduction10/01/17 05:55 AM
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I'm sorry about your mum. I want you to know that there is never just one way out. There is never just one solution to a problem. If you're thinking that your relationship is getting in the way of your self development, then consider talking with your partner before making the choice. I've been told that if you're still grieving for the loss of a loved one, you shouldn't make any major life decisions while that's going on. That said, there is no set time frame for grief, and you're the one who h…
/r/seduction10/01/17 05:42 AM
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Listen. It's her mistake if she doesn't text you back because of something you said. You can calibrate and recalibrate all you want in the moment, but in that past moment you were sure that what you sent was right. You should trust that your decision is a reflection of you, and don't be hard on yourself for making a "mistake". There are no mistakes, but thinking and believing makes it so. Just change your mind about yourself in the past. If you don't like yourself now, or you would like to handl…
/r/seduction10/01/17 05:18 AM
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Good deal. And not to be a downer, but when shit does hit the fan... Which it will, because it does for everyone that puts themselves out there, don't panic. Realize that the negatives often outweigh the positives in our memories because that's the way humanity has survived for thousands of years... But we're not in the jungle anymore... Nothing's actually going to harm you. That's just your brain telling you that getting rejected sucks. Just tell your brain to shut up and do what it's told or e…
/r/seduction10/01/17 05:10 AM
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You know it's OKAY to put a book down if you don't relate to it, right? You might not fit that author's definition of what a nice guy is. "Nice guy" has become a pretty loaded term, anyway. I'm sensing a lot of cognitive dissonance in this post, which suggests you're trying to work out something on your own that that book didn't quite work out for you. Keep reading, my friend. Just because he's got DR in front of his name doesn't make his shit smell good. You can't empirically know where you are…
/r/seduction09/01/17 08:24 PM
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Don't stop social contact 'til you get a solid 'no' or you lose interest. You could try the fibonacci sequence with your pings to test the waters. Or any pattern would do (don't get too nerdy with the math...it's just to get you to text her while making it fun for you, and getting rid of any anxiety about whether you should text her or not-if you have a pattern set already, you won't have to worry about it). If you felt the loss of the window, then you could reasonably imagine she felt it too. I…
/r/seduction09/01/17 08:02 PM
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Ok. So, first you need to drop the word "can't" from your vocabulary. Be open to any possibilities. That's why I asked if you're willing to be just friends with a girl. Pick a girl. Any girl that you'd be willing to be friends with and ask her if she wants to hang out. If there are no social opportunities, then you make them by opening up to the people around you that you're willing to open up to. That's why you need to take the word "can't" out. Because even in a small suburban/rural city there…
/r/seduction09/01/17 07:48 PM
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There's a good book called The Power of Eye Contact you could check out.
/r/seduction09/01/17 07:24 PM
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The writing gods were shining down upon me in that moment. lol
/r/seduction09/01/17 07:23 PM
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It sounds like you're already pretty open with your body and body language. You just need to perfect it. Look at your nervousness as something you can control. If you've ever heard of conversation as the passing of energy back and forth like in a tennis match, then this next visualization may make sense to you. Imagine body-language-energy that's yours to share. When you feel awkward, your body shows it, and starts this negative feedback loop wherein your body affects your emotions and your emot…
/r/seduction09/01/17 06:48 AM
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I don't know why, but the idea of the girl you describe turns me on a little bit. I think you and I have the same 'type'...if there is such a thing. I've got a feeling that if you just wait it out and listen to her, she'll tell you what you need to do to get close to her in some way or another. The fact that she left isn't a good sign, but if you acknowledge it to her the next time you see her and tell her that that's not okay to leave you alone like that (because you like her and you thought yo…
/r/seduction09/01/17 06:11 AM
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I like the bartending idea. You can make a lot of cash if you find a busy bar. I wouldn't count on a job alone to increase your confidence, though. I would try one or several of the recommendations from the book "Miracle Morning": affirmations, meditation, exercise, reading, writing, and visualization. Confidence comes from two Latin root words: Con, meaning "with", and fidence, meaning "faith". The only thing that consistently increases faith after the initial 'leap' into whatever activity you'…
/r/seduction09/01/17 06:03 AM
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I'd like to re-write this whole post with a positive bent. Here goes: Men can find themselves chosen for romantic consideration, based on any number of criteria; some women prefer a man to take charge. Others want to lead a relationship. Some respond to sexual language. Others prefer a more subtle way. Some can't help but give attention to men for being "too forward". Others give attention to men for being coy. Some find a confident demeanor to be such a turn-on that they challenge it by calling…
/r/seduction09/01/17 05:50 AM
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The 'no expectations' attitude.
/r/seduction09/01/17 05:32 AM
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Assume she wants you since she agreed to come out with you. Play to your strengths, and be willing to go a little bit outside your comfort zone. Open with something that you talked about on the dating app, but quickly move on from there. Change seats/venues if things start to get awkward. Don't be afraid to touch her to lead her to where you physically want to go. Smile, and be a gentleman, but don't put up with any shit you wouldn't take from your best friend. Know that if it goes to shit you'r…
/r/seduction09/01/17 05:31 AM
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It sounds like you're a real honest guy, just by what you're writing here and how you're writing it. What I would suggest is just to start with a smile. With that situation on the bus, you had ALREADY started to communicate something intangible to this girl, and she responded in kind. You don't know what could have come of it, since you didn't talk with her. By opening with a smile, one that grows from your eyes to the corners of your lips, and into the toothy grin of someone who looks like he j…
/r/seduction09/01/17 05:24 AM
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I don't think that looking at women as distractions is the right way to go about improving your inner game. They should be the icing on the cake...the cake of your own awesomeness. My buddy and I talk about girls and game far more than what used to be normal for me and him. Yet, we're both doing better in the female department and in life in general as a result. You gotta work out whatever shit you gotta work out. Don't let guilt get the best of you, and don't think that it's a waste of time whe…
/r/seduction09/01/17 04:27 AM
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How big is your high school? How big is your town? Are you into any sports, after-school activities, or clubs? Are you willing to be just friends with a girl? These are some questions I have before I'll attempt to help you out.
/r/seduction09/01/17 04:26 AM
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I've been in this situation before. It's a good way to tell how into you she is. If she's into you, she won't give a shit how much mental porn you read. Just take her to a store, point at a cosmo magazine, and tell her to readjust her expectations if she gives you shit for trying to improve your game.
/r/seduction09/01/17 04:14 AM
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