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If my wife ever told me she was going to commit suicide I would notify the police immediately.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/16 10:50 PM
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That link is awesome. Most of what he's saying is spot on (but you need to invest in a good car seat for your kid if you drive a lot). I wonder if he would say the same about raising three children by himself instead of one.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/16 07:06 PM
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Thanks for commenting. 3 - I swallowed the pill and started rapid self-improvement a month or two before she gave birth, so I don't understand why my new awesomeness (and I really am awesome) hasn't turned her into the sex slave that I always wanted. I made this same mistake early on. Remember that the "awesome" you is your new baseline in your relationship with your wife with children involved. This is what is expected of you, and, in my opinion, what you should expect of your wife when she has…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/16 06:55 PM
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Thanks for commenting. Definitely true. YMMV.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/16 06:47 PM
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I think so, but I see what you're getting at. There's definitely a difference between caring for others (your wife and kids, not just anybody) more than yourself and martyring yourself to the cause.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/16 06:47 PM
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Thanks for commenting. You are on the right track with your thinking. I want to start by saying that breastfeeding triggers physiological impediments to sex in your wife's body. Unfortunately, it is also the best thing you can do for your kids until they are old enough to drink cow's milk. Do not ever encourage your wife to stop breastfeeding while your kids are too young for cow's milk. If your kids are old enough to drink cow's milk, then I would gauge your wife's intentions about duration of …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/16 06:44 PM
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This is great. Thanks for sharing that. I am going to steal your motto for my own marriage. I think that Americans in general have fallen into the bad habit of thinking that sacrificing the marriage for the kids is the noble thing to do. Nothing could be further from the truth.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/16 06:10 PM
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Thanks for your comment. Dating your wife is harder when her patience and energy are sucked out over the course of the week by two little ones. You are correct, and you are also correct that what I'm calling for here is a massive undertaking. That is why you must decide what sex with your wife is worth to you at this point in your lives. If your wife is not worth this effort then I would agree that you need to have that very honest conversation with her and then either separate, divorce her, or …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/16 06:05 PM
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This is a great comment. Thank you for posting. Too many women use it as an excuse and we aren't allowing that anymore Mr. Nice Guy, especially not in MRP. This is especially great, and I will consider adding it to the OP. If your wife is making excuses or manipulating you then you need to recognize that and handle it appropriately. I think that each of the men here knows his wife's character and what is in and out of character for her. If your wife is a habitual complainer, manipulator, lazy, w…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/16 06:01 PM
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Thanks for your comment.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/16 05:58 PM
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Thanks for your comment. I think that you are right about some women using child-rearing as a crutch to influence BP husbands. I think it's important for the men here to decide whether or not what we're saying here applies to their marriage.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/16 05:57 PM
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Thanks for your comment. I'm not an expert on child-rearing, but I have read time and time again that getting the children into their own bedroom is critical to the health of your relationship with your wife. Your bedroom is for you and your wife. I don't know anything about your culture, but I believe that parents (especially your wife if she is SAHM) need their own safe space away from the children. The bedroom is one of these places. Not only that, it's the most ideal place for you and your w…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/16 05:54 PM
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Thanks for your comment. You wrote, It is harder being a dad working at paid work and then doing "your share" at home whilst being treated as an idiot and having the woman you fell in love with become a raving harpy denying intimacy and thinking you are a loser... Emphasis mine. First of all, you are 100% correct. It is very difficult to do all of those things and, at the end of the day, come home to a wife who despises you. I've lived it just the same way you have, and that's one of the main re…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/16 05:49 PM
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Thanks for your comment. I am a big fan of your blog, The Family Alpha. It has helped me tremendously. I will continue to make posts about RP family leadership because I believe that it is my niche on this subreddit. The next one is called "Sharpen Your Knives."
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/16 05:44 PM
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Fitness Increase frequency of lifting from 4 days per week to 6 days per week. Incorporate cardio into workout routine on Day 30. Diet Maintain current lunch time meal plan: chicken breast, quinoa, fruit (add greens). Begin supplementing with Creatine and multivitamin. Eat breakfast every morning to increase caloric intake to aid in bulk. Cut drinking to Saturdays only - 3 drinks max. Hygiene GET MY OWN SOAP AND SHAMPOO GODDAMN. My wife and I share a bar of neutral hand soap and shampoo. I've ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/16 07:55 PM
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Thanks Prof. I enjoy your podcasts. Lack of Kino is a major weakness in my Game. I like how the operative word of Dread Level 6 is "practice." I'm going to start today.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/16 06:49 PM
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Thanks for your comment, and thanks for the link. You will see from my posts that the quality of sex declined in inverse proportion to the amount of money I made. This really hits home with me because I had this exact thought last night while I was reading. I made the mistake of creating a covert contract out of bringing home good income.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/16 06:47 PM
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Thanks for commenting. Working on that now.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/16 02:36 PM
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I'm glad you're here and happy to see that you didn't react to the caustic response. You sound like my wife. Cheers.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/16 10:32 PM
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What's OYS? Thanks for the link.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/16 10:24 PM
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I would argue that if you are having to debate, neg, or "sweet talk" your wife for sex, you are already planted firmly in her Frame. You are starting with a deficiency in both of the examples you gave. Frame goes so far beyond sexuality and relationships. It's mainly about figuring out who you are and what you believe and sticking to it. An example of a high SMV-man's Frame within the sexual context of a relationship would be him leading his wife to the bedroom and them having sex without having…
/r/askMRP19/01/16 10:19 PM
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This is generally correct, but the examples suck. Frame is the lens through which you view yourself and the world. An example of maintaining frame would be the conscious act of not letting someone else impose their version of reality on you. Here's a great example. Observe Zappa maintaining his frame: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8ISil7IHzxc
/r/askMRP19/01/16 09:47 PM
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Make a decision: either have a final conversation with her about it where you lay it all out, or forget about it forever. Choose. If you decide to have a final conversation about it with her, I would lead with this: "It really erks[sic] me that she's so pious about this and tries to reverse it on me." This may sound harsh, but you're hamstering about all of this just like a woman would. Either you air it all out or you don't, and then you move on. This is what men do. You're 100% in her frame. W…
/r/askMRP19/01/16 09:43 PM
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If you want negative field reports just visit r/askmrp. That place is like Baghdad compared to this subreddit. The majority of the posts in this subreddit come from more experienced men who are further along in their development.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/16 07:52 PM
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Becoming "comfortable in the uncomfortable" was a zen-like state for me at first. I just had to take a deep breath and accept it and slow my thought process. I realized early on that I was really bad about trying to fix a problem the minute it came up. Like I was running out of air. This is totally the wrong way to go about it. Then, my outlook on it became very similar to amused mastery. This state, for me, was achieved through fielding problems and resolving them. Jocko Willink talks about CHO…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/16 04:03 PM
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Read the sidebar. If you've already read it, read it again.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/16 04:38 PM
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This is tricky to answer in a "YMMV" kind of way. You know your wife better than we do, so ultimately it's for you to decide whether she's sincerely "not right" or whether she's just making excuses for poor performance. It sounds to me like the two of you are on the road to good things. Pregnancy is a bitch and it wreaks havoc on women mentally and physically. That's not to say that it should be a crutch, but because you know your wife, you know whether she's really feeling the burn or whether s…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/15 04:14 PM
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This is great advice. I would add that I will often tease my wife playfully during sex if I want her to loosen up. It can help if you sense that she is tense and needs to relax. Best done when you can sense that her arousal is peaking. The other thing is that you can get away with murder if you know how to turn your wife on sexually. And I mean REALLY turn her on. Do the things that only you know she likes to the point where she's squirming and red faced - you know the deal - and then try someth…
/r/askMRP23/12/15 03:08 PM
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Do you see any signs that she views sex an obligation? Your problem might stem from her feeling obligated to have sex with you instead of inspired to have sex with you.
/r/askMRP22/12/15 05:05 PM
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Here's what I'm seeing: You're encountering moments in your daily life where you are experiencing the new reality of not having your wife in your life. Bear with me on that sentence. Whereas before it was just a thought - "My wife and I are no longer together" - now you are experiencing the reality of the situation. IE: People are finding out about it "through the grapevine", the parking attendant has noticed that your wife isn't with you. This is completely normal and to be expected. I lost my …
/r/askMRP21/12/15 03:38 PM
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