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| 1 | NO RESULTS AND HUNDREDS OF APPROACHES.....Where do you get those numbers? For night game I'd say I end up sleeping with 20-30% of the women I approach the same night. I'm average looking and my game is shit/nonexistent. | /r/seduction | 04/03/19 05:08 PM |
| 1 | How to text a girlhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0jfKyCF9AVw | /r/seduction | 29/01/19 05:30 PM |
| 1 | TextingHyperbole is the same as exaggeration. | /r/seduction | 16/01/19 02:05 PM |
| 6 | Is nice guys that bad?The way I think of it neediness is, by definition, a bad thing that will erode your relationships, not just to girls. It's fine to let a girl know your needs and wants. E.g. saying: "I like you and want to see you again." But that's being assertive, not needy. | /r/seduction | 16/01/19 11:49 AM |
| 31 | Is nice guys that bad?You don't need to play games. But many guys will play the "nice guy game", e.i. not saying what they really mean out of fear of offending the girl, letting the girl choose activities on dates out of fear she won't like what he likes, etc. The nice guy game is a game of fear and neediness. You don't need to be bad to get girls. But it helps to be assertive and not hiding who you are. | /r/seduction | 16/01/19 11:35 AM |
| 1 | TextingScripted lines will just hamper you from learning more interesting conversation. Instead follow the principle: Don't be boring. Don't say the obvious or trite. Be unpredictable, use exaggeration. Boring: Hey, just went out for a beer with a friend. What are you doing? Better: Me and my freakish friend just escaped from a shady bar filled with ferocious MILFs. What mischief are you causing tonight? Use adjectives and hyperbole to spice it up. Instead of asking bland questions, tease with assumpti… | /r/seduction | 15/01/19 05:22 PM |
| 4 | Textinghttps://tomtorero.com/2017/10/28/torero-texting-guide/ | /r/seduction | 14/01/19 05:35 PM |
| 1 | Need advice on just being better at talking or textingObserve, share, ask — O.S.A. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5iksEnkzMf4 | /r/seduction | 07/01/19 06:49 PM |
| 3 | Probably the strangest question hereI don't agree that you should use memorized techniques in a relationship, that's what I mean when I say he should stop gaming. Saying I love after a high point would be such a technique. See, the techniques you mention are behaviors that will come naturally for people who are mature and secure in themselves. Sure, you should do self-development (inner game) by self-reflection, meditation, talking to friends, seeing a therapist — but you should not memorize scripted behavior, it will disconnect y… | /r/seduction | 29/12/18 05:56 PM |
| 5 | Probably the strangest question hereThe problem with that kind of behavior is that it comes from a place of fear/neediness. Instead of being brave enough to be vulnerable, you rely on manipulative techniques. In the end normal women will sense that neediness and leave you. Neurotic women might stay, but life together will be hell. That book sounds like crap. If you need a book you should rather read Manson's Models. But the first thing you should try is to connect with your feelings and train yourself to be brave enough to express… | /r/seduction | 29/12/18 05:47 PM |
| 4 | Probably the strangest question hereNo, it doesn't. You need to stop gaming when you're in a relationship. Many PUA techniques are developed to manipulate drunk girls into one night stands. If you continue using those techniques it will either end the relationship or completely fuck it up. | /r/seduction | 29/12/18 05:23 PM |
| 5 | Probably the strangest question hereI think you are misusing PUA techniques meant for fast seduction, not building a relationship. Your behavior comes from a place of fear/neediness. Be brave, tell her how you feel, stop playing games. Normal women find that kind of emotional vulnerability attractive. | /r/seduction | 29/12/18 05:19 PM |
| 3 | What are some ways to approach or say an opening line to girls at a club/lounge? I've been getting a lot of IOIs recently and not sure how to approach.It's basically showing interest and disinterest at the same time, which creates tension. E.g: "If I liked nerdy girls I would be all over you." | /r/seduction | 29/12/18 05:02 PM |
| 2 | What are some ways to approach or say an opening line to girls at a club/lounge? I've been getting a lot of IOIs recently and not sure how to approach.I think it's a mistake to get hung up on the words in the opener. Eye contact, tone of voice and body language matter much more IMO. Not a fan of push-pull, I like qualifications better. | /r/seduction | 28/12/18 11:45 PM |
| -2 | What are some ways to approach or say an opening line to girls at a club/lounge? I've been getting a lot of IOIs recently and not sure how to approach.I give a specific, honest compliment. For instance: "I noticed you because of the elegant way you move." The compliment will be different for different women. Sometimes I just say: "I like you", "Hi, who are you?", etc. Before saying anything you have to have her full attention by being present physically and maintaining strong eye contact. | /r/seduction | 28/12/18 09:33 PM |
| 1 | what is a 'normal' level on confidence/courage? Might I need meds?What you describe is completely normal. Could meds possibly help? Maybe, but that's really not something you'd want to use for this. | /r/seduction | 22/12/18 12:43 PM |
| 3 | Give her an experience, not just a dateTwo reasons why you shouldn't overinvest on the first date: If you two turn out to be incompatible all your mental and monetary investments are now a sunk cost. If you do like the girl you risk coming off as needy and insecure. With an early overinvestment you signal that you do not think you are enough, but that you have to impress the girl by external means. That's a huge turnoff for most women (and men). You lose either way. I really see no upside to extravagant first dates. | /r/seduction | 10/12/18 07:29 PM |
| 113 | Give her an experience, not just a dateFirst dates are for getting a feel for whether you are compatible or not. I think they should be low stake and easy to retreat from — as much for your own sake as for the girl's. Having a coffee, grabbing a beer or just going for a walk in the park are good activites for this. Also, you should not try to impress the girl with the date by selecting a fancy location or going to an expensive restaurant. Comes off as needy. Why would you want to impress a person you don't really know yet? For all yo… | /r/seduction | 09/12/18 07:08 PM |
| 1 | Can someone tell me whether I should ask this person out or if I'm being an idiot.It's not creepy. But you shouldn't ask her if she's single and if she want's to go on a date. Too much too early. Simply write something like: "Hi, it was cool seing you again. Do you wanna grab a coffee sometime?" | /r/seduction | 07/12/18 03:38 PM |
| 1 | What is my moveThe danger of telling her you like her in your room is that you trap her and force her to make a decision there and then. Instead of telling her with with words, you can use eye contact and touch at the party. That will charge the interaction and you'll both know you like each other. Ideally you should signal: I want you, but I don't need you. In other words, do show sexual interest by intense eye contact and touch, but at the same time show that you'll survive without her too. E.g. don't cling … | /r/seduction | 07/12/18 11:19 AM |
| 1 | Can someone explain what it means to speak emotionally?Don't ask about facts. They are boring (for men too, usually). Insted probe for meaning. Ask why-questions. What do you like? Why did you decide to become a firefighter? When you talk abbout yourself, tell her why you did something, not just what you did. Don't just tell her what you do, tell her why you love, or hate, your job. | /r/seduction | 07/12/18 10:35 AM |
| 3 | Can someone explain what it means to speak emotionally?Wtf? Try this: Like men, women are basically fueled by a need for connection and relationships. | /r/seduction | 07/12/18 10:31 AM |
| 1 | How to be more intresting and also anyone have some topic suggestions when approaching a girl?Focus on meaning and emotions, not facts and logic. You can ask a few fact questions, like where are you from, what do you study etc. to get the conversation going. After that focus on why-questions, probe for meaning. Why do you study medicine? Why did you move here? Relate to what she says and share something about yourself, agree or disagree with what she just said or tell a story what she said just made you think of. E.g. tell her why you moved to the city you're in. Be honest and say what y… | /r/seduction | 06/12/18 07:29 PM |
| 4 | A QUESTION TO ALL YOU GUYSShouldn't be mutually exclusive. For me it depends on the girl and the situation. But generally, if there is attraction, I think it's great for both if you can have sex as soon as possible, then see if you are a good match for a relationship. It's better than the other way around. | /r/seduction | 05/12/18 05:15 PM |
| 7 | Girl refuses my offer to carry her backpackAsk yourself if you would ask a girl you found physically repulsive the same thing. In any case, unless she's got serious musculoskeletal problems, I don't think you should ask to carry a girl's backpack in 2018. | /r/seduction | 05/12/18 03:07 PM |
| 15 | Girl refuses my offer to carry her backpackI don't think offering to carry a girl's backpack is a good way to hit on her. It would probably be better if you, in a cheeky way, asked her to carry your backpack. | /r/seduction | 05/12/18 02:50 PM |
| 3 | How to ask a cashier/barrista out?You can test the water by giving her a compliment that isn't too sexual, e.g. that you like a piece of clothing she's wearing, a tattoo, whatever. Maintain strong eye contact, see how she responds and try to start a conversation from there. If you have a good conversation and she seems interested you can consider asking her out in the end. | /r/seduction | 03/12/18 03:35 PM |
| 2 | Men of r/seduction, can you help me?About your text: Lose the &s , use ands. Remove "trying to pass myself off as a lady". I like the rest. "I'd love to have someone special to share it with!" might make some wary you'll want to get married straight away, consider sofetning it. The part where you write what you're looking for turns me off. It comes off as a bit entitled, and I don't think these kind of statements really work as filters, e.i. the phrase "for God's sake know what you want" probably won't prevent you from being conta… | /r/seduction | 01/12/18 11:46 AM |
| 1 | At a bar alone, what to doJust sit down at the bar. Others at the bar will initate contact with you or you can initate contact with them. Sometimes solo girls will sit down next to you — if so obviously start a conversation. Instead of asking questions you can throw out some assumptions, e.g. "You look exotic. I'm thinking Spain, maybe Italy." You will often be wrong, but that's a good thing, the girl will correct you and start talking. Use your eyes. Don't be afraid to look around. If a woman you like looks back, hold h… | /r/seduction | 01/12/18 11:22 AM |
| 2 | I (24 yo f) trying to seduce my low libido boyfriendDo not try to make him jealous. Simply ask him if he thinks once a week is fine or if he too would like to have sex more often. I think you're right about domination being a turn-on for him and I think you can play with it — hold his hands down, cover his eyes with your hand, tell him what to do, etc. Nothin peev or rape like in that. If he gets turned on by that you're doing the right thing. | /r/seduction | 28/11/18 09:02 PM |
| 4 | I finally did my first cold approach!"I like me too!" Quite witty. Guess I like her too now. Congrats on approaching, takes balls. | /r/seduction | 26/11/18 10:19 PM |
| 3 | How do i walk up to a girl without seeming like a awkward creep?Start practicing meditation/awareness techniques daily. | /r/seduction | 24/11/18 08:54 PM |
| 3 | How do you deal with woman that challenge you?They are testing you to see that you can handle some pressure. You respond by either ignoring it or exaggerate with humor. E.g: She says your shirt looks gay. You respond with a laugh and tell her that must be because your gay friend helped you pick it out. | /r/seduction | 24/11/18 01:37 PM |
| 2 | Low approach anxiety Openers for (fancy dress) themed club nightFor indirect openers check out the O.S.A method: Observe, share, ask. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6t5px479hPA But I think it can be worth it to go direct. Open with an honest, spesific compliment. Indirect openers can work, but you both know why you've approached, so just get it out of the way. Being direct shows boldness. For continuing conversation, focus on why-questions. State your opinion. Make the girl qualify herself. E.g: "What are you into? What do you think about [x, y, z]?" Don't … | /r/seduction | 23/11/18 11:36 AM |
| 2 | I'm a funny, smart, amazing, interesting guy... but I dont wanna date you. So let's just be friends?On the dates, did you show sexual interest in her? E.g. did you touch her or try to kiss her? | /r/seduction | 23/11/18 09:33 AM |
| 171 | How to give off a sexual vibe?Eye-contact is fundamental. When you look a woman in the eye, don't hide the fact that you want her. Maintain eye-contact. This is a very clear signal you are interested in a woman sexually. | /r/seduction | 22/11/18 08:48 PM |
| 2 | I recently discovered the seduction community and plan on making it my priority. Help me get startedI would start with a regular meditation practice. I like Vipassana insight meditation, but most methods would work. Meditation helps you be more aware, relaxed and in touch with your body. Then I would start practicing assertiveness in areas where you want to improve. Do you have flaky eye contact? Be aware of it in interactions and make an effort to improve it. Do you sometimes automatically agree with people in a conversation? Start challenging them (in a friendly manner). I think a lot comes … | /r/seduction | 16/11/18 11:05 AM |
| 4 | I recently discovered the seduction community and plan on making it my priority. Help me get startedI don't think it's about being a though guy, I think it's about being bold, aware, assertive and curious. I don't know the Models book. I'm reading The Mystery Method now — and while it has some interesting information I think the techniques it recommends are too flashy and relies too much on faking it. Check out James Marshall's videos on youtube, I like his awareness based approach much more. I think the number one thing you should focus on is not being afraid of signaling your interest. If yo… | /r/seduction | 15/11/18 07:47 PM |
| 3 | How to behave with an extreme alpha feminine woman on first few dates?Your mindset should be that you should be able to talk to her like you talk to one of your male friends. Do not try to impress her. Try to connect to her by asking why questions instead of what questions. And don't just ask questions, reveal things about yourself as well. Don't hide what you really think, even if you think she might disagree with you. | /r/seduction | 13/11/18 08:40 PM |
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