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This is the case, I can’t tell if you’re joking though. I realize I’ll never have this level of trust again and probably won’t genuinely consider future women I’m with great friends, but with the current situation I simply can not screw my head on straight. Idk about unicorn, but yes this is a rare relationship that would be impossible to recreate.
/r/askMRP01/02/20 02:08 AM
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I’m pretty sure we have to publicly state we are married for anything like common law, but I’ll look out for this.
/r/askMRP01/02/20 01:30 AM
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Not doubting that is an option, but going to take a hard pass. My moral compass is spinning but I’m going to take a direction other than south.
/r/askMRP01/02/20 01:29 AM
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Heavy, daily use during highschool/college, ages 13-21, then ramped down from there. Now I view it 2-3x/month. No SSRIs. I'll do some googling on the effects of its use.
/r/askMRP16/10/19 03:14 PM
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I try to control the thing when in a public gym with gym shorts on. If I stared long enough, probably yes.
/r/askMRP16/10/19 02:35 PM
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Hmm, good thinking. Trying to find a balance since I have way more free time than she does with her being in grad school. I need to focus on planning a couple fun activities during the weekend when she does have time.
/r/askMRP16/10/19 02:33 PM
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Yeah I'm concerned with the last sentence. My fiancee is attractive but not all that fit, she keeps to a healthy weight but does not work out at all. I guess that's where the 1000 ft rope concept comes into play. I see all these women at my climbing gym and it's night and day.
/r/askMRP16/10/19 02:30 PM
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That's somewhat where I'd like to get to. When I initiate in those situations I usually am met with an awkward laugh and a "not right now". This is fine and I go on with my day, but I don't see how that would ever change. I've tested with continuing after the "not right now" by laughing it off and continuing to be overtly sexual, but haven't had much luck and don't want to look too pushy/needy about it.
/r/askMRP16/10/19 02:26 PM
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This is one I'm working on. Weekday nights are usually not sexy for me, but that's when my fiancee is the most receptive. My best times are weekend mornings and afternoons, where I tend to get shooed away. I kinda get it since we just woke up and I haven't had time to mess around and put her on edge about the whole thing. It doesn't hurt my feelings, but that's when I'm most relaxed.
/r/askMRP16/10/19 02:17 PM
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I am about as often as I initiate, which is way less than I had been for a while. But since I'm not losing my mind over it my initiations have been half-assed honestly, leading to some half-assed sex on both of our ends. I probably just need to be more intentional and fun with it.
/r/askMRP16/10/19 02:13 PM
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Not that I want you to answer this question for me, but I'm engaged and have started to come to this realization, and it's making me spin my wheels. My thinking now is if the relationship is so great, it will just last on it's own without a legal binding. If kids come into the picture, we could consider it then, but even then my fiancee is career oriented and would be self sufficient without me.
/r/askMRP16/10/19 02:09 PM
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I wish my dad had gone into depth on his views on marriage. I asked him once why he married my mom, he said "She was the first woman I ever met that didn't completely annoy me". What would you tell your sons?
/r/askMRP16/10/19 01:21 PM
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Yeah how the hell is that manageable. Sacrificing on sleep is detrimental, so if he doesn't he's somehow getting off work, spending time with the kids, eating dinner, spending time with his wife, and getting ready for bed, all in ~2 hours.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/19 03:28 PM
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Is Rollo universally respected by this sub? He has a lot of great insight to offer, I just worry taking one individual too seriously. I understand why he operates under a pseudonym for privacy reasons. Is there something special about him other than his books that give him credibility?
/r/askMRP08/10/19 01:48 PM
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Seems like an arbitrary rule. Do I make new female friends as an adult? No. But I do have female friends from my childhood I still see here and there, I view some of them as sisters to me.
/r/askMRP25/09/19 01:42 PM
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OYS #8 - I need a break. Life doesn't give you breaks. Stats: 26, 6’2”, 173 lbs, 14% bf. Lifts: SQ 170x5; DL 245x5; OHP 120x5; Bench 185x5; Rows 160 x5. Doing some fucked up version of PPL with rock climbing 2-3x per week. Currently climbing in the V4-V5 range when bouldering (starting to get average). Married 0, together 7 yrs. Report: Physical: Fell off this past week. Went into survival mode to get through the week. Still was active, climbed 3x and played some tennis. Back to the gym. Mental:…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 04:32 PM
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Poor taste joke I guess. I've actually played some cricket myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/19 08:00 PM
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bowl a wicket I thought this was America!
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/19 07:18 PM
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Hmm, this could be the case. For months on end I was initiating at least once a day, the fact that she isn't in a remotely receptive mood does throw in a curve ball. I usually take a seat and wait for her to come back around in situations like this.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/19 01:05 PM
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Well thank you for the smack. I have a lot to soak in. I probably need to talk to someone IRL about this stuff, just not sure who.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 05:41 PM
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For sure. Guy is an M.D. and was previously engaged so I thought he knew some things...
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 05:34 PM
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is your fiance giving you everything she has? Emotionally: Fifty Fifty depending on the day Physically: Definitely not Household: Close to zero effort Financially: I'm supporting us both while she's in school Random selfless acts: On rare occasion Reasons, lots of reasons. Financial investment, history, the thought of letting down our friends and families, the fact that I'm the one that proposed, she will be making $100k+ in 3 years, we have two cats together (I only love one), and one awful rea…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 05:29 PM
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Read your OYS, wow does that sound like my fiance. You are very right that there shouldn't be a doubt in my mind that this woman will make a great wife, yet here I am with quite a few doubts. Was your wife as depressive as she is now early in your relationship?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 05:05 PM
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It's a lot to think about. Whatever mess I make in the end I'll be accepting it as my own making. I went to a good friend 1.5 years ago because I hadn't ever talked to anyone about what our relationship was really like. I was fully prepared to walk away then and there. He went on about how he'd never known a couple as awesome as us and I'd be an idiot to throw it away. I took his poor advice and went to a couples counselor with her, which at least got me to begin being introspective about what w…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 04:56 PM
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Why does any guy get married? I wanted to spend my life and raise my children with this woman, but since proposing early this year and beginning to work on myself and read this sub/other content, my perception of what our relationship is and will be has slowly shifted.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 04:29 PM
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I appreciate it. It's a lot to take in as I continue to come out of this haze. A lot of regret and confusion, a lot of mental sorting of things. We absolutely aimlessly drifted to this point, which I'm becoming all too aware of now. I do like her, a lot in fact, when she likes herself. But when she starts going down this endless rabbit holes of self hatred she's not someone I want to be around or deal with. I thought she had moved past this type of thinking, it's the first time I've seen it crop…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 03:46 PM
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OYS #7 - What is life anyways? Stats: 26, 6’2”, 174 lbs, 14% bf. Lifts: SQ 170x5; DL 245x5; OHP 120x5; Bench 185x5; Rows 160 x5. Doing some fucked up version of PPL with rock climbing 2-3x per week. Currently climbing in the V4-V5 range when bouldering (starting to get average). Married 0, together 7 yrs. Report: Physical: Doing well here, but not disciplined enough. I'm consistently lifting 4x per week and climbing 2-3x per week. My diet is much more consistent than in the past, but I still let…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 03:18 PM
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Whatever the "game" was it seems like it worked since you've made 3 reddit posts about it happening to you lol
/r/askMRP16/09/19 07:06 PM
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Let's say I'm you, 6 months out from your wedding. What do you say to yourself to convince you to bail?
/r/askMRP16/09/19 05:36 PM
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Just to clarify, by shrimps do you mean counselors? I’m so confused.
/r/askMRP14/09/19 06:26 AM
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I'd say I've watched it once over the past 3 weeks. The effects I've seen is less random fantasy/obsession with sex, and less frustration when turned down for sex. Sometimes my drive confuses me where I want it all day every day, then I'll want it just once or twice a week. I think cutting it out balances that out a good bit.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/19 06:26 PM
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OYS #6 - The lessons of being a wet paper bag Stats: 26, 6’2”, 173 lbs, 14% bf. Lifts: SQ 170x5; DL 245x5; OHP 120x5; Bench 185x5; Rows 160 x5. Doing some fucked up version of PPL with rock climbing 2-3x per week. Currently climbing in the V4-V5 range when bouldering (starting to get average). Married 0, together 7 yrs. Report: Before getting into my emotional crap, I'll talk about fitness. I'm so done with losing weight. I have not been focusing as well as I should have and often miss my protei…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/19 01:38 PM
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Very well said, and very contrary to the way I’ve thought for a while. My next OYS/brain dump will be a weird one.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/19 03:39 PM
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I'm starting to gain clarity, but how do you ever know what you truly want? I realize how dumb that sounds, but specifically for a career or being "certain" on a partner, my mind is often stuck with a list of pros and cons. I haven't taken the process as seriously as I need to be, I'm sure the answer is something that comes with time/experience/perseverance.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/19 07:03 PM
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OYS #5 Stats: 26, 6’2”, 176 lbs, 14%bf. Lifts: SQ 185x5; DL 245x5; OHP 120x5; Bench 185x5; Rows 160 x5. Doing some fucked up version of PPL with rock climbing 2-3x per week. Currently climbing in the V4-V5 range when bouldering (starting to get average). Married 0, together 7 yrs. Report: I really don't want to post this one. It is full of the word she, largely because I fucked up in some ways. But I have to move forward. Week was going well. Was really feeling in the groove of things with mysel…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/19 02:51 PM
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You're right that I can not moderate, in any sense of the word. I wish it didn't have to come to this, but I think I do need to abstain from most of those vices for a while. I honestly don't know if I could, because I associate socializing so much with drinking. I'm going to give it a shot.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 10:31 PM
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I’ve been playing with that idea and will continue to. We manufacture pretty specialized stuff that wouldn’t work well as a product, so we’d likely be investing in new machinery if we move to a product to keep the blood flowing within the business.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 05:13 PM
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I agree it’s a major issue. I think the next step is being open with my guy friends about what I’m dealing with and asking them to hold my accountable, as well as making it a focus with the accountability coach I’ve been working with. It has little to do with the substance, and everything to do with the habit of comforting myself/hiding issues. The attention seeking is a weird one for me and one to keep an eye on. I don’t actively seek it but I thrive on it when it does happen. My self-view shou…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 04:54 PM
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This is a direction I think we are heading. I’ve been placing a focus on engineering design solution groups who need prototypes with a fast turn around. We make decent profits on those jobs, the issue is the frequency of orders is sporadic and completely dependent on what work comes across their desk.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 04:43 PM
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OYS #4 Stats: 26, 6’2”, 181 lbs, 14%bf. Lifts: SQ 185x5; DL 245x5; OHP 115x5; Bench 185x5; Rows 160 x5. Doing some fucked up version of PPL with rock climbing 2-3x per week. Currently climbing in the V4-V5 range when bouldering (starting to get average). Married 0, together 7 yrs. Report: I'm pretty retarded. I need to build external structure to keep me in check. I lie to myself all the time, make excuses all the time. My fiance may not always see or know that, but she can sense it. This past w…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 03:36 PM
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The more I drink is directly correlated to depression and shitty feelings. I may have to read that book, I'm starting to feel this too. It's odd since drinking does lead to some fun, care-free situations for me, but the next day is typically ruined. Comparing this morning of lifting and not drinking last night vs Monday morning not lifting and drinking Sunday, it's night and day.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 03:39 PM
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OYS #3 Stats: 26, 6’2”, 174 lbs, 14%bf. Lifts: SQ 185x5; DL 245x5; OHP 115x5; Bench 185x5; Rows 160 x5. Doing some fucked up version of PPL with rock climbing 2-3x per week. Currently climbing in the V4-V5 range when bouldering (starting to get average). Married 0, together 7 yrs. Report: I left you guys for a while. You scared me to be honest. But I couldn’t help but look around through the new lens I’d picked up from reading posts here and there. Things have been going well, but need to go bet…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 03:08 PM
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OYS #2 Stats: 26, 6’2”, 184lb, 18%bf. Lifts: SQ 175 for reps; DL 225 for reps; OHP 110 for reps; Bench 175for reps; Rows 150 for reps. Using SL 5x5 and starting with a cut. Married 0, together 8. Report: I don't think I have a ton this week. Kept up with lifts, hobbies, and reading. Reading needs to get stepped up, it's the one thing I take time from and I often end up with only 20-30 minutes at the end of a day. Getting things done in general without having to talk about it first, it feels good…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/19 11:10 PM
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Noted. The hobbies and reading have helped immensely as it makes it difficult to get bored. I should clarify when I say 3-4 drinks on weekdays I mean total for that week, not per day. Either way I do need to reduce the intake.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/19 06:19 AM
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Thought that might get pointed out.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/19 09:41 PM
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OYS #1 (Ready to get fucked up) Stats: 26, 6’2”, 184lb, 18%bf. Lifts: SQ 210 for reps; DL 225 for reps; OHP 110 for reps; Bench 165 for reps; Rows 145 for reps. Using SL 5x5 and starting with a cut. Married 0, together 8. Report: Stole this format from another user, seems well organized. Been choking down the pill since January, half assing it along the way. This brought some okay results, but that's not enough. Since lurking this sub I've began applying MRP principles, mainly DL 1-3, slowly mov…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/19 06:49 PM
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What do you mean when you say using red pill philosophy to achieve blue pill goals? Would this be similar to following all red pill principles, but with an end goal of making your wife like you more vs an end goal of being all you can be and taking what you want from life?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/19 10:29 PM
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