buni223 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
19	How To Deal With Not Being What He Wants?	DATING ADVICE	buni223	/r/RedPillWomen	30/03/22 04:59 PM

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7	What to do after you've played too hard to get and how to Honestly this is a little dramatic for something so simple. I get where you’re coming from but you’re overthinking a crazy amount and learning to relax and not overthink is a very important skill for the future, and especially regarding men. I feel like at 22, you should have the skills (self-confidence, maturity, rationality) to go up to this guy, who isn’t a stranger but a friend, and talk to him about it. Why don’t you just say you’re sorry for coming off cold, that you thought he was pissed …	/r/RedPillWomen	29/09/23 06:00 AM
4	My boyfriend watches a lot of RP content I disagree with and find kind of unsettling Why don’t you ask him to not talk to you as much about it or not watch it when he’s around you? Just tell him it’s too much and you want to talk about other stuff. If he doesn’t stop then you have your answer and can choose what to do next. Although that sounds like it’d be a shame if he’s truly as otherwise wonderful as you made him out to be. because it means he’s dumb enough to believe it I mean, people could say the same thing about you. Actually, he could say the same thing about you. Doesn…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/09/23 02:58 PM
5	Husband is (almost) perfect: How to balance his sexual fantasies and my faith Ahh that background info is important and helps to clarify the situation. I hope you two can find some type of happy medium.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/09/23 12:49 AM
2	Husband is (almost) perfect: How to balance his sexual fantasies and my faith Hm personally I don’t believe he doesn’t have a porn addiction or hasn’t been watching something along those lines which is making him act this way. There are plenty of people, religious or not, who wouldn’t want to be involved in swinging. You can be a Christian and find ways to spice things up while at the same time not involving other people lol. I’d start with what he’s been watching though, doesn’t seem like the kind of thing people just randomly decide to start doing	/r/RedPillWomen	17/09/23 12:02 AM
4	Struggling with new BF's clothing preferences for me I agree. Health trumps looking sexy 24/7. For the work out clothes, maybe OP could wear the comfy clothes for when she's actually working out. But on regular days, she could wear sexy sporty stuff. I went through the same situation but my boyfriend wanted me to dress much more modestly. Going out in crop tops or showing cleavage, he’s not okay with that if I’m in public (if I’m at home or we’re in private somewhere it’s fine). It’s still difficult for me sometimes. But it’s worth it because I wa…	/r/RedPillWomen	15/09/23 09:37 PM
9	Should I take my husband’s word and just drop it? OP, I just read in your post history that your spouse is verbally abusive. If this were my friend, I would never advise her to re-enter an abusive marriage, whether it’s mental/emotional or physical. You asked him to leave because he was being so verbally abusive, and then he betrayed you. Imho, you shouldn’t stay. But if you do, I’d advise you go to therapy to help deal with the trauma and very strongly encourage him to do the same. I think if people had read your post history, the comments sec…	/r/RedPillWomen	12/09/23 01:39 AM
1	Have you changed anything in your appearance to better your relationship? I did this and I actually miss the jet black 💔 Was one of my favorites in all honesty. But I get you when you say your SO prefers the natural. I think our natural hair color often compliments our undertones the best but because we’ve always had it we want something different. If you haven’t tried it yet, a demi or a demi gloss can help make things look more natural as you try to lift the darker coloring :) Although I might dye my hair lighter in a little while 😅	/r/RedPillWomen	02/09/23 05:44 AM
4	Have you changed anything in your appearance to better your relationship? I felt like I sold out I love how you phrased that honestly. I used to get super in my feelings about insecurities caused by negative influences around me, I would internalize to the max, but as soon as I started looking at it from a more rational POV, I stopped wanting to change myself. I feel lucky in that my SO hasn’t done that to me. He prefers me to not wear make up, he likes my freckles, he thinks my break outs are cute (lol), he hates the idea of me ever getting cosmetic stuff done, also …	/r/RedPillWomen	31/08/23 09:05 PM
2	I want to get skinny to make our relationship better—help. Piggy backing what other people have said, you need to be in a caloric deficit no matter what. OMAD is pretty easy to do, just make sure you’re keeping your electrolytes up. Volume eating is an option of how to do OMAD, basically low cal food but a lot of it. Example, a piece of protein like fish/chicken/meat + three cut up cucumbers or half a watermelon, etc, once per day. Try not to snack, it’ll increase the time it takes to lose the weight. It’s impossible for lifting not to do things for you…	/r/RedPillWomen	25/08/23 05:57 AM
3	I don’t like that my boyfriend is a gamer. I played it takes two with my bf and it was so much fun 😭 there’s also a garden game where you can build a house and you sort of don’t want to play it single player, I’ll try to find it and edit it in in case anyone here is interested lol Edit: it’s called Grounded!!!! Arguably imo as good as It Take Two, plus you can install cheats to move around faster (:	/r/RedPillWomen	25/08/23 12:22 AM
2	Husband keeps showing me and my children videos of women doing face contouring. However, the "all" word can have a different meaning to the one you suppose. In other words, a word or phrase’s meaning can depend on the context and the receiver, right? If that’s the case, then your hang up about the word “pig” in comparison to “shapeshifter” doesn’t matter so I don’t get your hang up. Substitute whatever equivalent word that you find to be an appropriate and you’re still left with the issue of what I originally brought up. your interpretation of shapeshifter is very negative.…	/r/RedPillWomen	25/08/23 12:09 AM
5	Husband keeps showing me and my children videos of women doing face contouring. Semantics. I mean, really lol. It’s nowhere near as bad? Does “all men are jerks” satisfy my argument then? I’ve heard men use the word “shapeshifter” or “catfish” irl and online as caustically as the word “pig”, so that’s why I used it here. Regardless, whichever is worse subjectively to you or whoever else doesn’t matter. This is similar to how you said the meaning of “all” can mean different things to different people in different contexts. It’s probably just hyperbole but my point was in ref…	/r/RedPillWomen	23/08/23 05:13 AM
12	Husband keeps showing me and my children videos of women doing face contouring. No, I don’t really think he is. If he was trying to teach them to look at their character, he wouldn’t be saying “all women are shape shifters”. I’m assuming part of the reason OP has a problem with it is because of the key word “all”, for obvious reasons. What if it was a mother showing her daughter stories of men acting like jerks and telling her “all men are pigs”? There’s a way to go about this and I think OP ought to talk to her husband about this.	/r/RedPillWomen	23/08/23 04:24 AM
10	For ladies in the "danger zone" approaching The Wall (25-29): what happens if you get a bf, date exclusively for 1-2 years, and then break up? You've effectively wasted your time being loyal to one man who won't marry you. Do you date other men while in a relationship until you get a proposal? 25 is not in danger of hitting the wall omg 💀 I genuinely feel so bad for people who think like this	/r/RedPillWomen	18/08/23 07:18 AM
5	How do some women date men with high body count who say they wouldn’t date a woman with high body count? How were the studies intended? Do you know my intention? It doesn’t matter if you don’t care about them - your apathy doesn’t change what research has shown. My intention was only to show that attractiveness can be enhanced by desirability. I agree that men also are more attracted to women who are more desirable (trophy wives, anyone?). But I think we can have a realistic conversation about how our culture affects desirability, and what that looks like for both men and women, and culturally spea…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/08/23 02:37 PM
17	How do some women date men with high body count who say they wouldn’t date a woman with high body count? People have different value systems. I think a lot of women in this situation view it either as a nonissue or “just how it is” type of thing. I’ve met women in relationships with men who had crazy body counts, and one of them told me she felt prideful (not in a negative way) and special that he chose to marry her rather than continue to sleep around. Not to be TMI but one of them was just turned on by the fact he had way more experience than her (like…way more) and it enhanced their intimacy. Bu…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/08/23 06:14 AM
16	Would you forgive cheating in my situation? Completely agree. I don’t mean to moralize, but it’s honestly a little freaky how many people are saying flirting “isn’t a big deal”. OP’s husband wasn’t “just” flirting. He waited for his wife to go abroad to have an emotional affair with someone else. He lacked the self control and the loyalty to his wife to completely shut it down. At any point, he could have told her he was struggling, but he chose to indulge and cheat while she wasn’t around. All this while they’re trying for children. I do…	/r/RedPillWomen	12/08/23 09:53 PM
3	Should the man still pay the bill if a woman asks him out on a date first? Sure c: It kind of looks like suggesting but done so in a way that it’s a bit more assertive than simply implying or showing basic interest. One of the ladies is an equestrian (still is at 60!!). She announced, in a small group of people at the stables (was a club that she recently joined), that she was going to ride her horse somewhere later on that evening and if anyone wanted to come. The only person in the group she knew somewhat well was her now-husband. Back then they were just familiar wi…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/08/23 05:53 PM
3	Should the man still pay the bill if a woman asks him out on a date first? Oh yeah I wasn’t saying you said it was a hard rule. I was just adding an anecdote about my personal experience about what I’ve seen out in the wild haha. Most married women in my life let the men ask them out, but the few that I know who initiated first also have long and happy marriages.	/r/RedPillWomen	08/08/23 05:56 PM
3	Should the man still pay the bill if a woman asks him out on a date first? What I’m about to say is the exception and not the rule, but two of the longest married and happy couples I know started with the woman initiating first. Both have been married 35+ years. Both women basically soft-asked (it wasn’t the standard “do you want to go out to dinner and a movie?”) and got the ball rolling. Generally speaking I think quality men should and will initiate first and you should wait for him to do so, but I don’t think this is necessarily a hard rule from what I’ve seen.	/r/RedPillWomen	08/08/23 05:21 PM
8	Are You Single Until You're Married? I just…can’t believe this is real 😐	/r/RedPillWomen	25/07/23 09:19 PM
12	How to Win Back a High Value Man? You should move on. If he wanted you back he’d make moves to get you back. Insecurity ruining things is something we all experience. But like the billboard thing, maybe you could take this as a sign, too. It wasn’t meant to be, he isn’t the right guy for you, you can improve your self-confidence, and you learned a few lessons here. Trust me, it’s better to bow out gracefully and cut your losses versus texting him one last time and looking desperate. It’s over and time to move on.	/r/RedPillWomen	22/07/23 07:24 PM
1	Well-off boomer women give bad romantic advice! Lol that isn’t implication of causation. It would be if the researchers boiled their result down to age, but I didn’t think I needed to mention that since it’s obvious. I’m saying that I learned about those studies and have seen people link those studies on here, so I find it difficult to hold that bit against this woman or call it bad advice. I think it’s a little reductive to assume I’m not aware that the data is affected by things like culture, generational differences, economic swings, etc.,…	/r/RedPillWomen	21/07/23 08:13 PM
1	Well-off boomer women give bad romantic advice! I’m sure there have been lol. High school sweethearts that last until their dying breaths, however rare, are a thing, and I don’t think a factor like social standing is one of the end-all-be-all’s of those types of marriages. My point was that while I agree with you that many older women are out of touch, especially boomer generation women, your post asks, “Why do they give bad advice?”. And there are several instances in the video where I completely saw where she was coming from, agreed with he…	/r/RedPillWomen	21/07/23 08:04 PM
1	Well-off boomer women give bad romantic advice! I never said it was. I’m saying that I’ve seen that bit of data be used as advice, obviously contextually, and I don’t think the context in this case is much different from when I’ve seen it used by others on this sub. It seems inconsistent, at least for myself, to be bothered by this woman advising to not get married too quickly or too young when I’ve seen others do the same thing on here.	/r/RedPillWomen	21/07/23 07:57 PM
2	Well-off boomer women give bad romantic advice! Isn’t there a statistic that shows people are more likely to divorce when they marry too young? I think another statistic shows that if the age gap is too large (I think it’s over 10 years), you’re also more likely to divorce. It’s funny because I found out about those stats on this sub lol. I agree the boomer gen is out of touch, but there’s nothing wrong with advising women to just be careful about choosing their lifelong partner and when. Personally I would also agree that exchanging your “yo…	/r/RedPillWomen	21/07/23 05:47 PM
9	What kind of male attention do you get IRL? The places you’re going to get attention from guys around your age are college settings. Parties, sports events, bars, etc. More importantly a lot of people meet each other through their friends. When I first started college, I started getting approached immediately and frequently by guys my age and so did most of my friends. A huge part of it had to do with how quickly we all cliqued up. We all sort of knew each other, which makes a lot of younger men feel way more comfortable hitting on a girl…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/07/23 09:47 AM
4	I'm 27 and Never Had a Boyfriend... Those are all awesome things, you’re on the right track. I agree with someone else who said to visualize your ideal person/home life. Having a clear picture of what you want can sometimes help with motivation.	/r/RedPillWomen	30/06/23 02:10 AM
8	I'm 27 and Never Had a Boyfriend... About the twitter thing, yeah, I met someone on there in my late teens (I was an adult) and it was bad. Really bad. If you meet someone online and it’s not a dating app, the same dating app rules apply, albeit timing may be different. Meet within 6 months, don’t send lewd/nude pictures, and make sure you go through his following & likes before getting involved. Maybe I’m just traumatized from twitter but getting doxxed is a real thing and I’ve seen it happen to lots of friends. At the same time …	/r/RedPillWomen	30/06/23 12:41 AM
2	Do you share location w ur bf Yeah I do and we got into a huuuge fight about it when I said I didn’t want to a second time. This was sort of early on in our relationship. The first time I said no, the second time I said no, and boom, queue argument. I thought he was wanted it out of jealousy, worry, and testing to see how agreeable I’d be to do what he says. This was before we lived near and later with each other. It turns out it was more of a safety thing because that area wasn’t so great. His whole family shares their loca…	/r/RedPillWomen	22/06/23 08:30 PM
9	Your Home is a Reflection of You Your mom sounds like a real one lol. I loved every point you had, I can’t pick which one is my favorite. I like how they managed their differences in public/private and had each other’s backs, how your mom supported him during financial difficulties, and their bedtime routine. It sounds like they were mutually so understanding of one another. What a good role model you have :)	/r/RedPillWomen	17/06/23 08:18 PM
7	Left holding the baby... Ok? So why post here if you know the advice you have won’t be helpful since your values are different? I went through your profile and saw that you’ve posted in that 1950s housewife sub which is super fetishistic. I remember the first post I ever saw on there was something along the lines of “Your Job is to Suck and Serve.” All of the top posts are pornographic. A lot of fetishists come here pretending to be one thing, or they come here and give advice from a different angle to ours (which is qu…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/06/23 07:17 PM
7	Left holding the baby... I don’t think he’s the bad guy. I think from her post they seem out of sync and need to come back together again. I don’t really care so much about the label of traditionalism as much as I care about loving, cohesive, strong knit marriages and families, which is what I stand by. No one is encouraging her to be resentful but rather reassuring a new mother her feelings are understandable and the situation can be resolved with communicating, patience, and understanding. Nothing wrong with telling y…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/06/23 07:08 PM
14	Left holding the baby... ? This is a weird response imho. Whether someone is traditional or not, human emotion such as resentment doesn’t dictate who or what they are. A traditional wife should be met by a traditional husband. Since he has a stressful job, a night out every once in a while doesn’t sound too bad. But for it to be very frequent and, on top of that, overnight (!!!)? That doesn’t really sound like trad husband behavior. Additionally, I just think it’s strange to tell a new mother that she is being demanding…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/06/23 05:47 PM
7	Traditional and “Progressive” Men are not mutually exclusive I think there’s a difference between old school liberals (older millennials and up) versus young millennial/gen-Z liberals. I used to live in one of the most blue cities in the country, and my experience was that a lot of older (say 7-10+ years) liberal men were somewhat old fashioned when it came to their relationships. Not entirely traditional the way a lot of RP people consider traditionalism to be, but to the point where I feel a lot of women on here would match with them based on ideals, va…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/06/23 01:29 AM
1	Mantra The appreciation journal is a really good idea, not just for our s/o’s but for every day things in life :) I feel like on days when things seem bleak, looking back on little notes about what we were grateful for a month or year ago would really help to lift the mood up. This was a wonderful post btw. I recently went through something very similar with my boyfriend. We fixed it, but he made that first move, which I feel bad about. Another reason why I so respect him. He finds solutions to problem…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/06/23 05:13 PM
0	Why Your “Fat Reduction” Workouts Aren’t Working. r/StrongCurves and r/PetiteFitness are two of the best subreddits on here. Highly recommend them if you’re confused about where to start. Petite Fitness in particular is helpful for shorter girls (below 5’4). Also Caliber is a free work out app, probably the best one I’ve ever used. Also I feel like intermittent fasting gets overlooked a lot. My boyfriend used to be a power lifter and even he had days where he did IF to achieve certain things while training. Oh and r/CICO is good, too.	/r/RedPillWomen	10/05/23 03:23 AM
11	Many RPM and some RPW content creators are against no-fault divorce. Do you agree with this? I have nothing to offer since I’ve never been married or divorced, but this reminded me of Steven Crowder, who complained that Texas has a No Fault divorce law, after the video of him verbally berating his very pregnant wife surfaced lol. I think it’s just important to remember there is always a grey area and being totally for or totally against something can often hinder people rather than get them what they want.	/r/RedPillWomen	06/05/23 04:25 PM
3	I feel like a failure Yeah thank you 🙌🏻 The rules say moralizing isn’t allowed and all types of people are welcome, which is great and how I think this space ought to be, but that doesn’t mean this place should become a kink space (really any space other than what it is meant to be already) and I don’t think that’s the mods’ intentions either.	/r/RedPillWomen	04/05/23 05:20 PM
6	I feel like a failure Idk why this is being downvoted. This isn’t even a critique about OP’s interests with the kink stuff. One of those subs has pretty hardcore messaging about being a housewife, but it seems like some of it is geared toward “if you’re not doing it this way, you’re doing it wrong” (look at the most popular post in the 1950s one). Like, it makes sense I guess, but I feel like it’s not totally out of the question that maybe “feeling like a failure” at 21 for not having kids (sorry but lol) may be link…	/r/RedPillWomen	04/05/23 04:19 PM
18	Do you think it’s possible to be a mainly stay at home wife, only working part-time and have my man be the main breadwinner if I don’t want kids? No one is saying it isn’t. The comment by the person you responded to is simply pointing out the poor choice of words. Words have power, so this person is just giving a reminder of that, ie stick to “saving up” over “fun”. What you or anyone else on this sub thinks of her doesn’t matter; the advice we’re meant to give is how to communicate with potential partners. girls just wanna have fun. That’s all they really want. No, that isn’t all they want. People don’t choose to have kids and a mortgage…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/05/23 09:40 AM
16	Do you think it’s possible to be a mainly stay at home wife, only working part-time and have my man be the main breadwinner if I don’t want kids? Lol this isn’t shaming. It’s just that most men in this sphere or with similar ideals tend to want kids. Maybe the question wasn’t phrased the best way, but it’s something men will ask you in the dating phase anyway, even if you screen them out. Hell, everyone asks, men and women alike. However, I disagree about the “putting out” thing since RPW already teaches that we should be available in that sense as much as possible, save for times off illness/distress/etc. OP, I think the red flag is when…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/05/23 06:41 AM
1	Let Men Own You. LOL are you joking? Don’t be rude to people for pointing out the obvious.	/r/RedPillWomen	27/04/23 08:53 PM
13	Let Men Own You. Set up a call, wtf? 😭 Honestly there are two things that reaaallllyyyy creep me out that non-RPW women sometimes point out, and it’s this (ie the whole “owning” thing) and then the “childlike” thing. But at least we have something to laugh at with this post lol.	/r/RedPillWomen	27/04/23 08:50 PM
3	Permanent ban off another subreddit for “participation” in this one weird flex but OK Matrix Yeah I was just kidding lol. It’s kind of a petty idea for a rule for a petty thing anyway 😅😅	/r/RedPillWomen	21/04/23 11:26 AM
3	Permanent ban off another subreddit for “participation” in this one weird flex but OK Matrix Maybe we can add a sticky or a rule about it so it stops getting posted as much 😅	/r/RedPillWomen	21/04/23 09:12 AM
4	How do I get over his wandering eye? Thank you for the addition :) I have found that more and more men are aware of the dangers of porn. It’s so encouraging to see men openly speaking out against it as porn addiction becomes more mainstream as a problem people are facing.	/r/RedPillWomen	21/04/23 02:17 AM
1	How do I get over his wandering eye? Ok thank you for responding! I really liked the comparison you made between both genders in the first post. I’ve honestly never thought about it that way :)	/r/RedPillWomen	20/04/23 12:21 AM
17	How do I get over his wandering eye? No offense, but this reply comes off as wicked jaded. Unfortunately, it seems like you’d be surprised what a good man would do for a woman he truly respects and loves. I say this with respect and empathy for you. If you choose to wait to “believe it when you see it” with your current S/O, you’ll probably end up waiting for a long, long time. Like I said, people show you who they are. Pretty sure “don’t expect anyone to change” has become something of a mantra in this sub, too. For example, you j…	/r/RedPillWomen	20/04/23 12:18 AM
2	How do I get over his wandering eye? this is why some RP men are saying to be toxic. It girls emotional experiences Can you explain this part please? I agree with what you’re saying but I got a little lost in the weeds at this part. Are you saying RP men know women value emotional experiences over physical ones and use that to their advantage when “spinning plates” or wtvr it’s called? I agree with the other person who said this was very incisive though :)	/r/RedPillWomen	19/04/23 11:16 PM
25	How do I get over his wandering eye? I’m confused why you’re considering marrying a man who openly checks out other women where you can clearly see him doing so, uses porn even though you are not okay with it, and has caused insecurities in your sex life (based on what you’ve said). The first two may or may not be total deal breakers, but the last one is very alarming since you’ve also said you’ve felt “nonexistent” in the relationship. It’s a bitter pill to swallow at the end of the day; but there’s a difference between noticing a…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/04/23 11:04 PM
4	do I look fat/overweight to you? A tiny overweight but not in a bad way. You have a really pretty pear shape that some girls I know would love to have. I’d switch out the smock shirt for something that hugs your waist a little more. Also 10 pounds is basically water and won’t show you a huge or even very noticeable difference unless you’re 1) very short 2) shredded or 3) underweight/close to being underweight. If you don’t want to go to the gym, try intermittent fasting. There’s the 16/8 hour method, or OMAD. Also at home you c…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/04/23 04:18 PM
3	Mental illness and having children Are you asking if we think it’s wise to have kids when you have a family history of mental illness, or how to approach your boyfriend in order to change his mind? I believe I can support them and my other children better than my family has in the past I think this is the only naive part. You’re saying you can support them, but can the father of your future children? Are you vetting for someone who understands mental illness and can cope with a family member having something as serious as bipolar…	/r/RedPillWomen	14/04/23 07:00 AM
14	Boyfriend making comments about women multiple times I agree with this. I also think going forward, OP should screen out men who follow OF accounts or a lot of instagram models on social media. It’s one thing for a man to unfollow these accounts once he’s in a relationship, it’s another for him to continue to actively follow and browse through them when he’s with someone. And “I’m always doing things wrong” sounds like he doesn’t take you or your needs seriously and is just trying to elicit sympathy. OP you know what to do and you shouldn’t waste …	/r/RedPillWomen	13/04/23 06:51 PM
13	Can someone kindly assess me unicorn list and tell me if I need to lower my standards? Honestly I think you’re either trolling or desperately in need of help for self esteem issues. This reads like a caricature of RPW from someone who doesn’t like RP or the community. If not, I suggest you stop putting yourself down or you will most likely and inevitably attract manipulative, bad, and/or weak men into your life.	/r/RedPillWomen	11/04/23 05:25 AM
12	Can someone kindly assess me unicorn list and tell me if I need to lower my standards? hell, he doesn’t even have to call me beautiful if he’s not comfortable with it! I mean, do you hear yourself right now? This is not meant to be rude, I just genuinely don’t understand your thought process beyond your standards being incredibly flawed. “He has to meet basic adult minimums and be tall, and he doesn’t have to call me pretty!” Seriously? You might as well be asking for an abusive partner who will prey on your insecurities with that line of thinking.	/r/RedPillWomen	11/04/23 04:39 AM
7	Our marriage (F33 and M35) is fine but we lost our spark (because of me...?) Screenshotting this and saving it in my do-not-delete album because this is amazing advice I’ll probably need to read once I have kids. Thank you for this wife and mama 🙏🏻	/r/RedPillWomen	11/04/23 03:48 AM
2	Our marriage (F33 and M35) is fine but we lost our spark (because of me...?) I’ve heard of this rule actually but more so in medical circles. I think it’s 18-24 months but less than a few years. I also think this is the reality for many couples in the US right now. I know a lot of couples and families that are choosing to space out when they have kids because of economic reasons, which can save a marriage in some cases. Besides medical reasons to wait a while before having another kid, I think this advice applies to thousands of couples who simply cannot afford to have c…	/r/RedPillWomen	11/04/23 03:47 AM
16	Can women increase their dating value or worth to men at all? I mean, why would you face fierce competition among women of other races? Most people date and marry within their own race and if they’re truly religious, their own religion. There are studies showing white men, on dating sites, primarily match with white and then Asian women. If you’re thinking you’re going to face “fierce competition” to find a white dude to marry, when you yourself are white, then I think this is an issue of either self worth (ex: suggesting that dying your hair blonde would …	/r/RedPillWomen	10/04/23 01:00 AM
1	I can't cope with my non-RPW past Oh thank you so much! I’ve been here off and on for a few years and I’m so grateful to what I’ve learned from the people here so this is really cool :)	/r/RedPillWomen	07/04/23 05:53 PM
1	I can't cope with my non-RPW past Can I ask what the star means? I’ve never gotten one before 😅 and yes, I agree pineapple :)	/r/RedPillWomen	07/04/23 07:32 AM
1	Skirts? - Where to buy some I like? Altar’d State :)	/r/RedPillWomen	06/04/23 09:09 PM
3	Please, don't underestimate the power of communication Ok honestly I’ve seen people on this sub encourage open communication very often but I have also seen a (minority) of people sometimes give bad STFU advice. It happens infrequently to the point I can’t remember the last time I saw it but I have a vague memory of a few posts in mind. So I get where OP is coming from. It can be really confusing at times, too. The only way I learned to kind of wrap my head around the concept of STFU is by relating it to the phrase “pick you battles wisely”. That’s …	/r/RedPillWomen	06/04/23 09:07 PM
4	I can't cope with my non-RPW past I disagree that this is more one issue than the other but religious guidance would definitely help. Religion is only one element to her post. The rest has a lot of do with RP. There are literally hundreds, if not thousands, of posts on here about how to handle high body counts, what to do if a man asks about a past you’re not proud of, how to deal with low self esteem/feeling undeserving of being a SAHM or being with an HVM, nun mode, coping with mistakes and/or bad relationships, etc. I actuall…	/r/RedPillWomen	06/04/23 06:51 PM
7	I can't cope with my non-RPW past Ok so when I was a little older than you, I was in a similar situation. I never slept with him or did anything with him besides kiss a few times but I was in a very similar boat to you regarding some of the other stuff you mentioned. And when you say nightmares, I know exactly what you’re talking about and feeling. Same thing happened to me. It would actually surprise you how many girls have done stuff like this, not even trying to be camgirls but essentially ending up that way even though they …	/r/RedPillWomen	06/04/23 06:41 PM
3	How to Spot a Feminine Man Lol the emotional and sensitive thing is so shortsighted, sorry OP. I know masculine men with incredible emotional depth and part of the reason why they’re so charismatic and well liked is because of their sensitivity, as in, they’re very aware of their emotions and the feelings of others. I think a better point would be inappropriate displays of emotion or emotional irrationality/volatility. But that’s not a feminine trait. Maybe you mean overly sensitive but this is a distinction that is neces…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/04/23 06:14 AM
2	Is this cheating? Uhm, I don’t know how this isn’t cheating. I feel like this is clearly a subjective thing. I literally cannot imagine liking another guy’s entire profile + DMing him about something “revealing” he’d posted, and my boyfriend staying with me or vice versa. Some people consider purposeful flirting cheating, too, which is how it is in my relationship. Maybe the people who said otherwise have a different idea of cheating, but this would be it for me. I would leave in a heartbeat especially at 20. I’m…	/r/RedPillWomen	30/03/23 02:55 AM
1	Pattern of dating/talking to military guys, hasn’t worked out, would appreciate advice! Lolll yeah I actually kinda like it but definitely not appropriate with little cousins around 😅	/r/RedPillWomen	29/03/23 01:19 AM
13	Women Have Lost All Power And How They Can Get It Back I feel like this is true and false. In the context of normal men who want monogamy and a family, then women still hold the keys to sex and dating. In the context of the current world, however, where polygamy and hypersexuality have been increasingly normalized, hookup culture has been normalized and forced upon us, dating apps exacerbated hypergamy imho, sex is easily acquired if you have the money for it, porn usage and addiction have been on the rise for decades, men aren’t making as much mone…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/03/23 08:55 PM
1	Dealing with jealousy - boyfriend looking at women he knows on IG I think it’s a good thing he unliked the pictures. Maybe he forgot to unlike the others or maybe he didn’t want it to look sus if you ever found out. Best case scenario, he cares enough to do that and cares if you find out and he won’t go creeping again. How is he in other regards? Is he a good partner? Do you see anything long term with him? Can you see you two overcoming other challenges in the future? Does he do anything else shady? I don’t think the knee jerk reaction to leave is a healthy o…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/03/23 05:29 PM
1	Pattern of dating/talking to military guys, hasn’t worked out, would appreciate advice! 🙌🏻🙌🏻	/r/RedPillWomen	27/03/23 05:58 PM
3	Pattern of dating/talking to military guys, hasn’t worked out, would appreciate advice! Awesome I’m glad it’s helpful to whatever degree. It’s just harder to back out when you’re already attached and in over your head. But that’s with any guy, isn’t it? 😉😭 I hope you continue to meet a wide variety of good people this year who treat you well and are what you’re looking for :)	/r/RedPillWomen	27/03/23 04:54 AM
12	Pattern of dating/talking to military guys, hasn’t worked out, would appreciate advice! If you’re in college then it’s probably just where you’re looking and the amount of time to men you’ve met ratio. Maybe your experiences have been different to mine but a lot of military guys are like that - crass, intense, unflinching when it comes to sensibilities I guess (like the joke you mentioned). My brother’s out in Pendleton right now. My boyfriend is from SoCal, was stationed out there as well, and has a tour under his belt. I have a few friends that have served that were out west too.…	/r/RedPillWomen	27/03/23 04:31 AM
1	Giving This Up Omg an Altar’d State opened up at my mall a year or so ago and I LOVE it! Haha I didn’t think many people knew about them, I hope they’re getting more popular. I actually wear some of the shorter things but I think it’s all about concessions haha. If I wear a shorter skirt then I cover up on top or I pair it with tights. If I wear a crop top (no cleavage though) then I wear baggy mom/boyfriend jeans so nothing is tight around my hips. Altar’d state is a tiny bit pricy but you can make so much wo…	/r/RedPillWomen	25/03/23 01:46 AM
6	Giving This Up Yeah I went through a phase before getting with my boyfriend where the attention suddenly didn’t feel so good anymore. It actually felt really, really bad. Like to watch men, of all ages, in real time and right in front of me, mentally undress me, and then realizing that it was ME who chose to leave the house dressed that way and I had no one else to blame but myself — that really freaked me out. Honestly it was crushing (not to be dramatic lol) but also scary. I had almost 0 self awareness when…	/r/RedPillWomen	24/03/23 07:41 AM
2	Christian response to single women, do you agree? I’m Catholic and I have never seen this. Lol. Maybe it’s my age, where I live, my denomination, or something, but a lot of Christian women I know are super proactive when it comes to dating. Like my deep southern Baptist friends to my hardcore Orthodox friends have never just…literally waited for it to happen. They’re just abstinent before marriage, picky, or don’t sleep around, so some don’t get married immediately. I grew up in private Catholic school and have never seen this before. It’s real…	/r/RedPillWomen	23/03/23 07:52 AM
8	Trigger warning: Men really do cherish a flat stomach You’d think this point would’ve been stressed already on a sub which frequently has the advice/foresight commented that “most men want children/a family”. I’m 5’1 and have been underweight several times before; even at my thinnest, you could still see the bump where my internal organs were. You can even kind of pinch it. It’s not fat, it’s literally your insides lmao. The fact her boyfriend is grabbing at her stomach given her problems and THIS is what she made of losing 5lb is crazy to me.	/r/RedPillWomen	22/03/23 04:46 PM
17	Trigger warning: Men really do cherish a flat stomach Those that are commenting “OP is saying something most women don’t want to admit/hear” are obviously not aware of the ways in which people project their eating disorders online in seemingly innocent ways, and it really shows lol. OP, you have made posts in binge eating disorder subreddits. We both know an ED therapist would warn against making a post like this, ESPECIALLY so that others could read it. You know that women know a flat stomach has been the ideal for a long time, and I don’t feel li…	/r/RedPillWomen	22/03/23 03:27 PM
8	My husband hit on a 19 year old when he was 39, makes me feel uneasy. F25 with M42. Oh I’m so dumb, I don’t know how I missed the glaringly obvious title 🤦🏻‍♀️ I’m not encouraging her to leave though. I said we don’t have enough info to suggest either or. Imo her best bet is reframing what value means to her and to her husband and also having an honest conversation with him. Hamster wheeling will only cause more issues down the line. We don’t know what he’s like as a father so I don’t think comments about their kids are appropriate atm until she adds more info. Edit: but that i…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/03/23 03:48 AM
18	My husband hit on a 19 year old when he was 39, makes me feel uneasy. F25 with M42. I mean, you’re dating someone who goes for younger women. He might be a creep, but did he ever lie about that? Because right now, you’re choosing to be with a guy that tried to pull a 19yo at the age of 39. 20 really isn’t that different from 19. The only thing you can do outside of yourself is talk to him. Is this a long term thing? Are you looking to get married? Is he around for the long haul? I think I read somewhere that the most divorce-resilient marriages are between people who have a max…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/03/23 01:22 AM
20	What are your thoughts on Domestic Discipline/Taken in Hand relationships? This sounds much more like a fetish thing than anything. I also think it’s worth mentioning how alcoholism skyrocketed back in the good old days of the 50s, how underreported domestic abuse was, and how women often couldn’t just leave or go to the police. I don’t think articles or advertisements are evidence enough of what “spanking” (lol) actually looked like back then. I imagine many women who experienced this didn’t ever really give explicit consent to it but couldn’t argue otherwise. And I t…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/03/23 09:55 PM
0	Best makeup products at Ulta? RedPillWomen, PLEASE help! 💕 For foundation personally I use MAC Studio Fix almost every day, if I use liquid foundation then Maybelline Fit Me, full coverage for a fancy event I use Estée Lauder’s Double Wear, and tint (which is different from foundation imho) is either Missha’s Perfect Cover BB cream or EM Cosmetic’s cushion foundation. Concealer really depends on what you’re going for, Maybelline’s Instant Age Rewind is fine or MAC’s studio finish for blemishes (never under the eyes). For blush my hack is applying dots o…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/03/23 01:03 AM
0	Best makeup products at Ulta? RedPillWomen, PLEASE help! 💕 A lot of these depend on your skin type. It’s impossible to answer what the best is when you don’t mention if you have dry/oily/normal/combo skin, what your skin tone is, if you have sensitive skin, etc. I recommend r/PaleMUA for base recs (including blush/bronzer). R/MakeupAddiction is good too. My #1 mascara tip is to find a mascara with a tubing formula. Super rough description but basically tubing mascara wraps around your eyelashes as opposed to sliding on; it reduces transfer. My fav rn is…	/r/RedPillWomen	15/03/23 11:22 PM
1	Deep depressive episodes? Real talk Have you identified why this happened? I agree with someone else who said you should check your supplements and vitamins if this happened out of thin air. If you’re on BC it might have to do with that too. The most important thing would be to go to therapy if these episodes are truly, deeply depressive. I also think it isn’t productive to feel like less than a woman; you are a woman, as innately valuable as you ever will be, you’re just going through something right now and you have to get to th…	/r/RedPillWomen	15/03/23 02:25 AM
2	Dealing with jealousy - boyfriend looking at women he knows on IG Oh well that subject is not what I referred to by sort of sliding it in. I meant easing in about the deleted history/following past sexual interests or partners. What I meant is he will probably put two and two together and how he responds will help you determine what kind of man he is, ie does he feign ignorance, is he honest, how does he respond to soft confrontation, does he not have a problem with it, etc. It isn’t normal for men to use friends’/friends’ SOs as jack off fodder lol. It just i…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/03/23 06:07 PM
1	Dealing with jealousy - boyfriend looking at women he knows on IG Hi sorry I missed this. Think quality time over quantity. Maybe this would be a good time to have a serious chat if you haven’t already. You can slip it in under the guise of something else, ie, “I was wondering how you feel about me following exes or past flings because I feel more strongly about you now and I want to make sure we’re on the same page.” Even if you’ve already talked about this, chances are he’s going to realize you know about the search history and he may bring it up by himself.…	/r/RedPillWomen	08/03/23 08:30 PM
3	Dealing with jealousy - boyfriend looking at women he knows on IG Deleting the search history is weird. To play devil’s advocate for a moment, I know a lot of guys who are in relationships but follow some girls from the past. Sometimes it’s to avoid creating drama, or because they barely use social media and haven’t bothered to unfollow, or they don’t care about them so also can’t be bothered to unfollow them. All men look at other girls, the difference is not all actively seek them out. The guys I know who do this don’t talk to these girls anymore and don’t p…	/r/RedPillWomen	07/03/23 04:05 PM
23	Dealing with jealousy - boyfriend looking at women he knows on IG I think you should listen to your intuition without hamster wheeling. You’ve only known him for two months but you know him better than we do. Keep vetting. I actually disagree with someone who said to conquer jealousy with pride; being prideful can lead you to avoiding red flags or dumping people who might’ve been a good match for you. That’s bad advice imho. You shouldn’t be making major decisions based on pride, jealousy, anger, depression, etc. You can conquer anything with rationality, whil…	/r/RedPillWomen	07/03/23 07:17 AM
3	Mindset advice - waiting for a baby I’m the same age and in the same boat as you so this is all stuff I had to tell myself a while ago haha. But it’ll happen in time and I’m sure you both will be great parents :)	/r/RedPillWomen	03/03/23 11:01 PM
8	Mindset advice - waiting for a baby Other people with kids have left better replies, but one thing I think people don’t always talk about is the well-being of the actual child and not just enjoying your childless life right now. Like, you have baby fever and you want to have a baby because of your own desire to, but would that be the best thing for the future child right now? Is it more heartbreaking to wait a few years to really get yourselves together before you have a baby or is it more heartbreaking to imagine the child in a h…	/r/RedPillWomen	03/03/23 10:38 PM
7	embarrassed to say that I left the man I was trying to build a future with Yeah I’m gonna have to agree, he didn’t deserve your kindness. People don’t just randomly wake up attracted to what he’s into. He knew but didn’t tell you. You shouldn’t feel embarrassed that you bought into his lies. A few decades ago, tons of gay men hid that they were gay so they could have the quintessential American family life. None of those wives were at fault or should feel ashamed that they were being lied to. Next time you’ll know how to vet better. In the mean time, try getting your a…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/03/23 09:23 PM
2	Tell me this is stupid Hahaha yeah I figured, it was just those two words stated so bluntly that made me laugh 😂😂	/r/RedPillWomen	01/03/23 03:43 AM
11	Tell me this is stupid Jeez wtf lol	/r/RedPillWomen	01/03/23 02:08 AM
6	I can’t be helped I need whatever the red pill Reddit page has been feeding him Uh, no you don’t. There’s a difference between that sub and this one. The male version is mainly for guys like your boyfriend, who don’t usually want a traditional marriage in the sense that they’re in a monogamous relationship. This one is for women who want a faithful, long term, more old school relationship. First of all, I want to say I am so so sorry. I’m also 23 and my boyfriend is also 28 and so I can relate in terms of where y…	/r/RedPillWomen	22/02/23 01:47 AM
1	What do you guys think of the future for men being single dad's through surrogacy? That occurred to me when I went through his history. Don’t even wanna think about it. I really hope it’s not the case 😬	/r/RedPillWomen	08/02/23 03:59 PM
7	What do you guys think of the future for men being single dad's through surrogacy? You are literally OBSESSED with surrogacy according to your post history. It’s kind of weird.	/r/RedPillWomen	08/02/23 02:07 PM
2	Caffeine Alternative Try the ask doc’s or supplements sub. I also get super sick from caffeine, specifically coffee. A few weeks ago I was violently nauseous just from a cup early in the morning - it was sickening 🤢 My system is just really sensitive to coffee and energy drinks for some reason. As for the tea, are you sure it’s not the tannins? Some teas have tannins, which can make you sick (nauseous) if you drink without eating or the tea is heavy on tannins.	/r/RedPillWomen	08/02/23 12:40 AM
2	Thoughts on age gaps? Lol yikes. Alrighty then.	/r/RedPillWomen	07/02/23 10:15 PM
2	Thoughts on age gaps? ?? No it isn’t, and it isn’t a “narrative” either. That creep-meter is basically built into women, imo, and it’s partially why vetting exists, so what are you talking about? The first half of this isn’t great advice but it’s also weird you would openly dog everyone here advising OP to vet for creepiness. Am I, at 23 and with the best man I’ve ever met, envious because I offered realistic anecdotes? Your comment about age is so redundant that I don’t even know where to begin. This is literally rp…	/r/RedPillWomen	07/02/23 10:00 PM
4	Thoughts on age gaps? I’m glad it’s coherent since I was all over the place while writing it lolll thank you	/r/RedPillWomen	07/02/23 09:26 PM
3	Thoughts on age gaps? I’m so glad that there is a positive response to my comment because I was really worried it would be flagged or something, so thank you!! Happy for you in your relationship as well, it’s always nice reading about lasting and healthy marriages like yours <3	/r/RedPillWomen	07/02/23 09:26 PM
18	Thoughts on age gaps? (Super long omg sorry 😭) I pretty much exclusively talked to older guys from 18 to almost 22. My best friend dated a man 13 years older than her from 18 until 21ish. All these guys I’m mentioning were kind of into redpill stuff but not Andrew Tate or “plate” level. All wanted a traditional lifestyle, kids, to provide, etc. So this is where I’m coming from. I don’t think you’re necessarily going to be abused. Like, it doesn’t always look like abuse. It looks more like losing out on a few years be…	/r/RedPillWomen	07/02/23 07:52 PM
5	how much can a female be a incel typically or that stereotype Prioritizing anything over the safety of your children isn’t a feminist issue, it’s a cultural one, and maybe you should focus on your culture’s failure to do so rather than western women lol. You’re not even one of us so why do you care?	/r/RedPillWomen	05/02/23 11:30 PM
4	how much can a female be a incel typically or that stereotype The well-being and safety of children is more important than you obeying your husband. The divide in our cultures is very clear :) Also, even if you are trolling, it’s really creepy and weird you would use kids for your joke.	/r/RedPillWomen	05/02/23 04:28 PM
5	how much can a female be a incel typically or that stereotype Hey, didn’t you just post about “finding peace” with your child rapist pedophile brother in law being around your daughters because you won’t tell your husband you’re not okay with this because of your cultural and religious practices? I think the west has it’s issues, but no western woman, wife, or mother that I know would allow their daughters to be exposed to such danger and/or justify it, extended childhood or not. While there is much criticism of the west to be made, you clearly should not …	/r/RedPillWomen	04/02/23 10:34 PM
2	Labelling men and yourself as RP in everyday life I think once you have it figured out more, you would be an awesome contributor in terms of field reports on this sub. Some of the more experienced ladies on here will write really informative and substantive…essays? I guess? about their experiences. I can see you helping newer people along their journey since you write well :) Your best bet going forward would be to say you’re more old schooled. From my experience, I think saying that you agree with a lot of RP takes comes off as trying to be on…	/r/RedPillWomen	04/02/23 03:47 PM
1	Labelling men and yourself as RP in everyday life Yup I agree. I think there are different ways to distinguish between what being redpilled or what is redpilled or how redpilled something is based on one’s definition. Most of the time people in this sub are talking about it from a relationship pov.	/r/RedPillWomen	04/02/23 03:43 PM
3	Labelling men and yourself as RP in everyday life what could you say you are if asked? Uh, you wouldn’t be asked this. In real life, no one asks if you’re redpilled. Keep in mind being “RP” and being redpilled about a specific topic are two totally separate things and you’re more likely to be asked about the latter than the former. I agree with other people saying you’re taking the RP stuff way too far; it almost seems as if you’re “rping” (role playing) being RP lol. I feel like decades ago, women probably acted a lot more “redpilled” than any…	/r/RedPillWomen	04/02/23 08:46 AM
26	I'm so used of wearing jeans- how do I transition to wearing pants? how do I transition to wearing pants You…put on a pair of pants. Go to the mall, try on different pants, and buy the one pair that fits your criteria. Also jeans aren’t masculine or immature tbh. If you have a nice body and good fashion sense, you can style “up” jeans.	/r/RedPillWomen	30/01/23 07:03 PM
18	Just discovered my boyfriend's father was convicted for sexual abuse. What do I do? I think you should probably break up with him. It’s not only that it’s been a month; it’s that you have a bizarre view of the world, in my opinion. “These things travel through families” - no, actually, they don’t. You are wildly misinformed and I don’t think you know what you’re talking about. What things? Child abuse? Sexual assault? Criminal history? You should look up some verifiable stats because it’ll probably surprise you how wrong you are. Also, I personally wouldn’t bring this up to him…	/r/RedPillWomen	10/10/22 12:09 AM
5	Pearl's 2 cents on YouTube creators It’s funny because back in 2013, I was 13. The “anti feminist” and “anti sjw” thing became really big on tumblr; in fact, I think it began on tumblr around 2011. After a few years, it became super embarrassing to call yourself an “anti feminist” so people stopped. 10 years later, it’s making rounds, especially on tik tok, except none of it is new, enlightening, or useful information. It really is just outrage content. A lot of people don’t know this, though, so it’s not as easy to brush off as c…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/10/22 11:29 PM
12	My little love ❤️ Your body didn’t ruin it. You are not at fault. You wanted that baby, you clearly love that baby, and you carried him (❤️) for as long as you could. Medically speaking, I think you should follow your doctors advice. Everything happens for a reason and He does have a plan for you and your family and it’ll work out in the end. I’m sorry you’re going through this and also praying for you :) Maybe some therapy might be beneficial as well to get you through the process.	/r/RedPillWomen	06/10/22 10:55 PM
3	How many of you guys dye your hair/have alt girl styles yet are still conservative? Yeah I did the whole egirl/goth thing when I was 19-21!! I dyed my hair pitch black, had side bangs, did my makeup all dramatic, I would wear ripped tights with skirts lol. I’m 23 now and my style is now more artsy/y2kish but I know a lot of girls who are conservative that dress differently/have alt music/makeup taste. The only thing is the hair. Most online conservative alt girls I knew never dyed their hair crazy colors because everyone knows what the stereotype behind blue hair is. Not saying…	/r/RedPillWives	30/09/22 02:02 PM
3	he said he doesn't want to take a step in our relationship because he is not sure about the trajectory of his life. It’s unfair to think he’s just using you as a back up plan. He isn’t. You guys weren’t dating, had no obligations together, and he still spoke to you for two years. He’s just been honest, which is the most you can ask from him. You aren’t a priority because you’re not his girlfriend. He very, very likely is not the one. You should agree to stay only friends (no flirting) or cut contact and meet new people. I’m currently dating a vet, we met during his last year of service and started dating two …	/r/RedPillWomen	30/09/22 01:01 PM
2	How to look good after 15+hrs bus rides? Ok so I wear contact lenses and I’ve never taken a long bus ride but I have done long plane and train trips. For contacts, I bring hand sanitizer, contact solution, and my contact case. In your case, I would bring a spare bottle of water. What I’ve always done is go to the bathroom, wash my hands, then put in my contacts. For you what I would do is apply the eye drops, next use your hand sanitizer, THEN clean your hands with the water from the spare water bottle, and then apply the contacts. I w…	/r/RedPillWomen	29/09/22 07:13 PM
1	How do I get over anxieties he’ll think I’m too old for him? What everyone else said but I think you have to realize that a lot of people don’t really change that much in terms of how “old” they look between 20-30. I know the media tells us that they do or we have our own anecdotal evidence, but people who take care of themselves typically don’t show massive aging. Like, if you’re taking care of your skin, it really isn’t that shocking that a 29yo woman isn’t automatically haggard lol. And I think a lot of people realize this, you know? So if I were you, …	/r/RedPillWomen	27/09/22 04:13 PM
1	How to deal with intrusive yet sweet girl? Maybe she’s mainly friends with other church/Christian people so she isn’t aware that on the outside, even with other Christians, saying something like that could get her in trouble. That’s so wild she said that, my jaw dropped when I read it. Wasn’t expecting that at all	/r/RedPillWomen	27/09/22 03:09 PM
1	How to deal with intrusive yet sweet girl? Ummmm she said WHAT???? Wtf…why the hell would she ever say that to someone lmao	/r/RedPillWomen	27/09/22 02:59 PM
1	Men-women relations will fall apart once AI is so advanced as well as robotics that fembot girlfriends will be produced where these fembots will be the perfect woman thanks to AI like in the anime Saber Marionette J, biological women would lose their appealing to men Is your Reddit avatar literally a fedora? And then you have the audacity to post this? 🤡💀💀💀💀	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/09/22 04:41 AM
1	No, a nanny can't be a child's primary attachment figure. Well, I guess is attachment theory is just another psych idea, then it probably does come down to belief. I think much of your belief on this is based on your own ideals; every situation is different, every kid is different, even when we’re speaking in generality. Personally, I’ve seen two cases where the caregiver (nanny isn’t an accurate term for it here) became the primary figure, and it has lasted long term. Neither were family. In my opinion, it isn’t fair to tell a kid, or someone who grew…	/r/RedPillWomen	14/09/22 09:16 PM
1	No, a nanny can't be a child's primary attachment figure. I understand, but it’s literally true. I think we’re on totally separate pages about what “can” means and what the attachment is. The hormones, chemicals, etc that bond a mother to her baby is irreplaceable; biologically, there is nothing that will or can compare. Add to that a mother who, even if she works full-time, spends quality time with her kids, she will most likely (if not certainly be) the primary attachment figure in a single-parent home. There are studies showing that quality time>qua…	/r/RedPillWomen	14/09/22 08:10 PM
1	No, a nanny can't be a child's primary attachment figure. Lol this isn’t really insulting to SAHMs though. It’s something that can psychologically happen if sufficient conditions are met. Should it be this way? No, of course not. I understand exactly what you mean by this trend of equating motherhood and really womanhood itself something that is interchangeable or replaceable, but this article explaining that how a shift in a primary attachment figure may come about isn’t insulting. I think it’s the idea of this happening - the way of society is organi…	/r/RedPillWomen	14/09/22 06:13 PM
6	Old photo That sucks. I think we all can imagine what it’d be like to find a picture like that. Actually, I see guys talking about it more often. Like a guy accidentally finds an old pic of his girlfriend with another man - it can short circuit anyone’s mind for a moment. To deal with it, I’d ignore it because it was from forever ago. And if he’s not your first, it’s not like he did anything most couples haven’t done. Maybe to make it easier, you should try to imagine if he found your old pics (even if yo…	/r/RedPillWomen	14/09/22 02:57 PM
19	How have you found like minded woman to be your friends? I don’t think the focus should be the “red pill lifestyle” when seeking friends. A lot of my friends (22F) in relationships are conservative, normal, and already living the lifestyle without realizing it. Some are religious. Only two of my best friends are aware of trp. So your likelihood of finding someone who even knows about this stuff is pretty low. Are there any groups you could seek out online near you? I know Facebook typically has big groups based on interests you could join. Maybe try a…	/r/RedPillWomen	26/08/22 03:36 AM
0	Are gymbros a red flag ? Looking better = vanity and chasing girls (if they’re straight). There’s nothing wrong with that, just like there’s nothing wrong with a girl going to the gym to look better and become more attractive.	/r/RedPillWomen	12/08/22 09:44 PM
1	Are gymbros a red flag ? ??? It’s a gym. That’s implied. Most guys that invest in the gym are looking to get stronger, look better, and be healthy. Why in the world would this ever be a red flag?	/r/RedPillWomen	12/08/22 08:53 PM
1	Are gymbros a red flag ? Lol wait what other reasons are there to go to the gym??	/r/RedPillWomen	12/08/22 08:10 PM
19	Andrew Tate Yeah, Tate is gross. My bf is friends with people who are in the same circles as Tate and apparently he’s very generous in terms of helping his friends make money, succeed, etc. Obviously his whole bravado act is as gross as Dan Bilzerian’s. The man says he’s slept with upwards of 600 women and supposedly wants a virgin 🤢 But his comments should not trigger you. He’s an e-celeb, and his opinion should be taken with a grain of salt. Virginity IS valuable for many women and to many men, whether fo…	/r/RedPillWomen	11/08/22 06:26 PM
1	Why do some women date/marry guys who aren't good in bed? Just seems like bait considering your past post history. There’s some extremely explicit stuff in there, even going as far as your brother’s porn preferences. Idk this sub attracts a lot of creeps and the other day I saw another post that seemed like a troll. But maybe I’m wrong ¯_(ツ)_/¯	/r/RedPillWomen	09/08/22 02:22 AM
1	Why do some women date/marry guys who aren't good in bed? Did anyone look at OP’s post history? Seems like they might not be as genuine as they seem 🧐	/r/RedPillWomen	09/08/22 12:03 AM
28	He enjoys anime and it's slowly killing my attraction. I know people use throw aways a lot when posting here, but this could not be more of an obvious troll post. “My HVM bf is the literal light of my life but he likes anime and I can’t get over it” lmao	/r/RedPillWomen	07/08/22 05:41 AM
2	At the beginning of my marriage but it’s not what I imagined. I think it really boils down to communication then. A $15-$20k change in starting pay, or change in whatever he told you, warrants some kind of discussion. People don’t make that kind of mistake when $$$ is on the line like that. Same thing with the kid situation. Is he generally indecisive? Does he flip flop on issues often? Is it possible he’s just not thinking super hard about the SAHM situation so he just said whatever? Lots of guys do the latter, as we know lol. From your reply, he sounds u…	/r/RedPillWomen	04/08/22 09:42 PM
8	At the beginning of my marriage but it’s not what I imagined. Not unreasonable to want security and for your husband to make good on his promises. In terms of logistics, keep applying to different jobs/see if you qualify for food stamps/go to soup kitchens or low income markets/etc. Tell your family what’s going on and see if they can help, if possible. The debt thing is very concerning to me. I’ve seen so many men say they don’t want to marry someone with a lot of debt…and we can see why. Can he apply for loan/debt forgiveness? Refinance at all? In terms …	/r/RedPillWomen	04/08/22 07:20 PM
2	How To Deal With Not Being What He Wants? Alrighty, I’ll start working on that :)!	/r/RedPillWomen	02/04/22 01:03 AM
3	How To Deal With Not Being What He Wants? Ok I can go ahead and do that :) Should I make an entirely new post or just edit this one?	/r/RedPillWomen	01/04/22 08:16 PM
3	How To Deal With Not Being What He Wants? I definitely will, I feel like I should have left it up for other women who are in need of some advice :/ But anyway, this thread really helped remind me we need to work on communication. Thanks again :)<3	/r/RedPillWomen	01/04/22 07:12 PM
3	How To Deal With Not Being What He Wants? So I spoke to him yesterday and basically let myself cry and be open with him, which I think triggered his protective instincts. He was very apologetic and said he didn’t realize that these certain things were making me extremely upset. I mentioned to him how I also need to hold my end of the bargain up regarding certain things so that he wouldn’t feel as if I was attacking him. We gained a sort of resolution so now I’m hopeful as to where things go. As far as the “why” he’s with me, he just rei…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/04/22 06:14 AM
2	How To Deal With Not Being What He Wants? Thank you :’) I’m a bio major so this made me laugh. I can’t believe I never thought about telling him this. I appreciate your response.	/r/RedPillWomen	31/03/22 02:08 AM
1	How To Deal With Not Being What He Wants? I’m so sorry about your experience, and I’m glad you found someone who builds you up. My partner does bolster me and encourage me and also supports me, he does so many nice things, but sometimes he says stuff that is so cruel and poorly thought out. So, for example, he tells me not to lose weight all the time, too, but then he randomly negs me about my appearance or height. It worries me for the future because there are too many mixed signals. I’m going to talk to him about this. Thanks for resp…	/r/RedPillWomen	31/03/22 02:07 AM
2	How To Deal With Not Being What He Wants? Hi, thanks for responding. This is someone who I’m still dead set on marrying. Like, we have stuff in place to get engaged and married already. I feel very guilty because this is entirely one-sided and I can’t give all my specifics. Also, thank you SO much for that handle, security is a big deal to me and I feel like I’ll benefit a lot from her insight. Thanks again.	/r/RedPillWomen	31/03/22 02:04 AM
2	How To Deal With Not Being What He Wants? Yeah, I do. He teases and negs a LOT and sometimes it’s really, really difficult to deal with because he won’t stop until I make it known. I want to talk to him first before I make any decisions about leaving, though, since we have a life together, etc. Thanks for responding.	/r/RedPillWomen	31/03/22 02:02 AM
1	How To Deal With Not Being What He Wants? Sneak dissing is a really good term for it. I don’t feel like he’s pity dating me, it feels more like he loves me and is committed, but that he wishes I was a little different. And he makes it known he wishes I was different in those ways. It makes me feel less-than almost. Thank you for your advice.	/r/RedPillWomen	31/03/22 02:01 AM
3	How To Deal With Not Being What He Wants? Thank you for responding. I plan on asking him a variation of this. One of the things he’s said is that he’s with me because he wouldn’t be able to find someone like me - that I have a huge heart and I’m very accepting, loving, and encouraging. At the same time, when he lists my inadequacies, he says stuff like, “Well, I should be grateful that you’re x, y, and z, even if you’re not [insert what he wants].” I’m lacking in like 2 traits he likes, but I just think it’s so hurtful to have him tell …	/r/RedPillWomen	31/03/22 01:59 AM
1	How To Deal With Not Being What He Wants? Yeah, the cheating comment stunned me. I was so upset about that and when I brought it up to him, he changed the conversation to something that I did to upset him. He has valid reasons to be mad at me for what I did, but afterward, I found myself apologizing for it instead of what we were originally talking about. At the same time, I feel like I haven’t made changes I told him I would, so maybe that’s where some of the frustration comes from?	/r/RedPillWomen	31/03/22 01:56 AM
2	How To Deal With Not Being What He Wants? Thank you so much for the book suggestion.	/r/RedPillWomen	31/03/22 01:54 AM
1	Consanguinity “Asking for validation” and “exploring my feelings” are essentially identical in your case based on your post history. You ARE asking for validation because you want other women in a similar situation to chime in and act as a support group for you, hence the “I wish I didn’t feel this way”. This is very obviously an emotional call for help, and in case it isn’t obvious, no forum or website will give you what you need. I saw in your comment history you basically refused therapy because you live i…	/r/RedPillWomen	27/03/22 06:30 AM