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| 1 | Logistics: How long to wait before scheduling 2nd date?The earlier the better. Most girls have at least 2-3 other guys hitting them up, so if you wait too long you will become irrelevant and they will ignore you. | /r/askTRP | 29/06/18 08:31 PM |
| 7 | successful approach - no sex though"I said that she was ready to fuck the other day, she said that day wanted, but now she is holding off" WAY too overt on this. You can't negotiate desire. If she's not feeling it in that moment, she's not feeling it. Nothing you will say will change your mind, especially not a comment like that. For future reference: if you do invite her back, give her some plausible deniability. This can be a movie, drinking tea, Super Smash Bros. You name it. I don't like your chances, but I would hit her up o… | /r/askTRP | 28/06/18 07:56 PM |
| 20 | A lot of TRP boils down to how you go about/present/and word things you say and do. Can someone give me some examples of BP wordings and RP wordings. Like the same situations but handled differently.The best word in the RP vocabulary not often seen in the BP world is the use of the word "let's". Instead of "When and where would you like to go eat?" RPers usually say "let's go to X place at Y time" Instead of "would you like to come back to my place for some wine?" it's "let's go back to my place for a glass of wine" Instead of "where do you want to go next?" it's "let's go to X bar for some drinks" You get the idea. The key is to take charge. It might seem awkward to you at first, but women… | /r/askTRP | 28/06/18 06:19 PM |
| 24 | I can’t do this anymore.You're too fixated on women for your happiness. YOU are responsible for YOUR happiness. Find a mission in your life unrelated to women: be it career or hobby wise. Pursue that mission like a motherfucker. When you contribute to something bigger than yourself, it makes a big difference in your life. Monk mode would be good for you at this point. Read up on that. | /r/askTRP | 27/06/18 09:37 PM |
| 3 | Being upfront about seeing other girls?Women like mysteries. They like to think of you as some case or code that they are trying to crack. They want to feel stuff. If you are upfront with them, you kill any kind of emotional intrigue. The best analogy to describe it is this: Being upfront with a woman is like starting up a game of Clue and then telling everyone within the first five minutes of the game that it was Colonel Mustard in the bedroom with the lead pipe. It kills the fun. | /r/askTRP | 27/06/18 08:46 PM |
| 10 | Being upfront about seeing other girls?Keep hooking up with them and never bring up "the talk". If they do, kick the can down the road and say something vague like "I need to get to know you a little better before I can make that decision". Keep doing that until they give you an ultimatum. Then level with them. Remember: women communicate COVERTLY, men communicate OVERTLY. Overt communication most of the time is a huge turn off for them unless they are very attracted to you. | /r/askTRP | 27/06/18 08:38 PM |
| 53 | Blue pill virgin - Am I being played by this girl? (Its been a year)Wow this was cringeworthy. You told her you loved her and it went nowhere? Ouch. Don't worry, we've all done stupid shit before, myself included. Your best bet is to stop initiating any and all conversations with her, game other women and live well. Do not contact her again. Fair warning: women LOVE having orbiters. There's a possibility that she will reach out to you after you soft next her to try and suck you back in. DO NOT take this as a sign that she has reconsidered dating you. She has not… | /r/askTRP | 27/06/18 07:48 PM |
| 9 | I am afraid of ghosting her after sexI would just keep banging her until she initiates "the talk". Then shut her down. No need to ghost | /r/askTRP | 27/06/18 07:39 PM |
| 2 | Grabbing drinks with some coworkers tomorrow. Advice in building a foundation/social status?Just as a general rule, I wouldn't shit where you eat, even if the girl is in a different department. I have done that before and it didn't end well. It gets awkward, rumors spreads like wildfire and in any altercation between the guy and the girl, EVERY girl will side with the girl (she could send you a video of her taking triple penetration while you were dating and they would STILL side with the girl) and 60% of guys will side with the girl because they low key want to bang them. If it ends r… | /r/askTRP | 27/06/18 07:19 PM |
| 5 | My chances got pathetically sabbotaged with a girl, should i still try since it was out of my control and how?My goodness you are getting WAY too worked up over this and sound WAY too thirsty. For starters, WHY are you asking her about her bf as one of the first things in your conversation? That is a HUGE self-inflicted wound, especially since you had never met her before. You should have just gamed her as if you were just meeting her for the first time, and if she ever brought up the boyfriend just ignored it and set up plans anyway. Then you called out your friend on that? I am CRINGING right now. If … | /r/askTRP | 27/06/18 03:29 PM |
| 2 | Can hold frame with other girls, but not with ex-oneitis, why?A few things I think lead to exceptions 1) You have a true abundance mentality - You've been slaying so much that when you see exes, you're just like "oh yeah, her again" and it's not something that crosses your mind. 2) Your relationships ended on your terms or mutually good terms - I find in cases where a guy ends the relationship or they both agreed it was bad, then everything is good. BUT, if the girl rejected or ended it with the guy, especially if the guy went full blown Billy Beta on them… | /r/askTRP | 26/06/18 04:13 PM |
| 27 | Ever been on the recieving end of these 2 manipulation tactics?Often times, if you want to find out what someone is up to, just listen to what they are accusing you of doing. It is a common thing you see in life and is a good rule to live by. | /r/askTRP | 26/06/18 04:01 PM |
| 22 | Can hold frame with other girls, but not with ex-oneitis, why?This is what I would call "revertigo". When you deal with a girl you had oneitis for from your beta days, you will resort back to all of your old tendencies with them. It is an established routine you have developed and because of that, you are wired to behave that way around them. It takes a ton of time and effort to reverse those tendencies. It is not worth it quite frankly. On top of that, when you are dealing with that ex-oneitis, she remembers all of your cring-like tendencies you had aroun… | /r/askTRP | 26/06/18 03:55 PM |
| 3 | Pointing out a woman's bullshit / When playfulness failed?I like to expose things people say via pointed questions as opposed to outright confrontations. In this case, I would have asked her if she had any inspirational stories about any of the people she dealt with. When you ask questions, you win either way: She will either tell you a story that engages her emotions and think you are super interested in her life, or she will be exposed for being a bullshit artist who has no interest in actually helping people. In the case of the latter, you can come … | /r/askTRP | 25/06/18 06:25 PM |
| 30 | Ariana Grande: Another example of AWALT, Female Rationalization, and Victim Card.It has always amazed me how quick women are to blame others for things they do. I remember when I was still BP I called out a girl for bailing on plans 3 times in a row for what I thought were bogus reasons (RP me today knows damn well that one bail without a reschedule is done). She got upset and responded with "I guess all I can say is sorry that stuff comes up." You can bet your ass if the shoe was on the other foot she would be going OFF on me for constantly bailing on plans. This is a conse… | /r/TheRedPill | 15/06/18 07:36 PM |
| 25 | Why do I get mad when I see girls I like talking to other guys?This is textbook scarcity mentality and possible oneitis. If you latch onto one girl, you start to get super beta/obsessive/needy. The solution it to develop a better abundance mentality. Make a conscious effort to talk to as many girls as possible. When she is doing that, talk to other girls in the vicinity as well. You need to put yourself out there more, otherwise this type of behavior is going to blow up in your face. | /r/askTRP | 07/06/18 09:28 PM |
| 3 | Which girl? Help me chooseGame both #2 and #3. If you are in town for a weekend, hit both of them up for drinks then pick separate nights for the two of them. If it's just one night you're around for, still game both of them, see which one is actually free then go from there. If they are both free, I'd go with the Slovakian because you never tried anything on her yet. If you're worried they'll forget who you are before you get back, shoot them an occasional text (or even a funny introductory level one at that) but don't … | /r/askTRP | 07/06/18 08:53 PM |
| 5 | How do I salvage my failed college life.It's not about the grades you make, it's about the hands you shake. Focus on the now: Get good grades in your last semester, go rambo on the job applications, don't list your GPA on your resume (the overwhelming majority of employers don't care about it anyway) and get involved in extra curriculars. The goal should be twofold: 1) Get the best grades you can possibly get 2) Meet as many people as possible | /r/askTRP | 07/06/18 08:40 PM |
| 21 | BP friend cries for gf to not break up with him, and rejects all of my advice."They have to WANT to change" That is exactly right. I will also add that often times, people need to think that they came to the epiphany themselves for them to truly internalize it. A lot of us at TRP know that a lot of guys will never really change their habits until they get repeatedly crapped on over and over again. Then they will start to realize that maybe, just maybe what they had been conditioned to believe isn't actually true. What's going on with your friend is textbook inexperience a… | /r/TheRedPill | 07/06/18 08:03 PM |
| 4 | What are your favorite books?12 Rules to Life by Jordan Peterson | /r/askTRP | 06/06/18 09:39 PM |
| 4 | When does one become an orbiter?Orbiters are guys who give women all of the validation of being in a relationship, but get none of the intimacy that most relationships have. The best example I can think of was I had a friend who was OBSESSED with this one girl. He would spend all of his time with her, follow her around and would give her the "I am in love with you" type of look. He NEVER got with her, and she would openly tell him that she sees him as a friend. But, he would constantly still spend his time with her. He was bas… | /r/askTRP | 05/06/18 07:36 PM |
| 5 | How to deal with shy girls?With shy girls, you usually need to take it slower and ease into it more. Keep inviting her out (but don't go overboard on it because it could turn her off), be flirty and have good times. If you feel the moment is right, try some light kino in certain situations. If you two are isolated and there's tension, say "fuck it" and at the very least K-close. Eventually, try to hangout with her at your place or hers and escalate. That is where you will have your best bet at getting the girl to open up | /r/askTRP | 01/06/18 07:46 PM |
| 17 | Most women who hit on me or check me out are married or in relationships, why is this?For the married/in a relationship girls checking you out, it means either A) They aren't satisfied with their man and want to branch swing or B) Trying to make their SOs jealous As for the fact that way more girls check you out when you're with another girl: That is just because when you are with other good looking girls, it validates yourself to them. | /r/askTRP | 01/06/18 07:37 PM |
| 6 | Feeling disconnected from most peopleDevelop a mission. Whether its related to your career, health or religion. Devote yourself to that cause as much as you can. When we work towards something bigger than ourselves, we tend to care less about what people think and instead are focused on completing tasks. It makes interactions a lot more fun. When you are passionate about stuff, it shows and people are a lot more drawn to it. It makes conversations easier too. As for drinking, your best bet is to find groups, clubs or organizations … | /r/askTRP | 31/05/18 09:23 PM |
| 3 | Struggling with my guy friends when talking to girlsTheir behavior stems from anxiety and insecurity. 90% of guys are total pussies when it comes to approaching, have been conditioned to believe that a cold approach is "creepy" and believe that women are never receptive to it. So they automatically think you are bothering them and want to diffuse the situation. The way you combat this is twofold: 1) Tell them your motives behind these approaches: Tell them you are trying to put yourself out there a little more and that when you are talking to gir… | /r/askTRP | 31/05/18 09:13 PM |
| 3 | Seeing 2 TRP posts in my post history, in what way do they show a broad misunderstanding of TRP concepts?Your content on them was removed so I can't see the body of text. But I'm going out on a limb to say why I think they were taken down: Post titled "to those who do not lift": People were very off-put by your "don't eat at all" advice. People on TRP are all about self-improvement, but they felt this could ruin someone's life and wasn't helpful. Post entitled "immoral vs. amoral" : I think SirKolbath's comments in your post says it all. Read that if you haven't | /r/askTRP | 31/05/18 09:05 PM |
| 5 | How do I get past the cringe of leading women using a language I’m not comfortable with?Realize a few things: 1) Struggling with a language is the ULTIMATE get out of jail free card. If you say something bad just tell them English is your first language. If you’re that concerned about it say it to them in English then translate. 2) You will actually hit it off with girls better in French. That is because you will most likely have an accent when you speak, and girls love accents. Everything you say will be considered 10 times funnier 10 times sexier. Realizing these two things will … | /r/askTRP | 31/05/18 03:25 PM |
| 6 | Applied some slight text dread game the last couple of weeks. LTR just exploded out of the blue over text and I had to explain. Was it right?Her behavior could mean one of two things: 1) She is hooked on you and is really scared that you are going to leave her. 2) She has been doing some shameful stuff in her new area (cheating, hitting on guys etc.) and are hoping you break it off so she can sleep/continue to sleep with them Pay attention to her actions in the next few weeks. If she starts to pull away, stops fighting with you and conveniently starts to get "super busy" then you have your answer. As long as you don't overdo it and s… | /r/askTRP | 30/05/18 07:41 PM |
| 2 | Secondhand GirlsIf you want these ridiculous expectations to work out, you are going to have to really lower them significantly. The reality is that 99.99% of girls who are an HB6 or above will have made out with AT LEAST one guy by the time they have hit age 20. It's a part of life and you need to accept that. In your case, if you want to find a girl who passes your "purity" test, look for the nearest land whale near you and pursue it. That's your best bet. | /r/askTRP | 25/05/18 09:04 PM |
| 1 | Went on a date that went seemingly well. Girl is less responsive now though.Alrighty let's unpack some of your fuck ups. She lost interest because you Made a grand total of ZERO moves and pussied out on the date and Got WAY too needy after the date. The texting a few days after about the travel was fine, but then double texting her and making the second text about her Insta story? What the ACTUAL fuck? Your best bet is to go no contact for roughly 1-2 weeks, game other girls and live your life. After you think it's safe to say she is back from her travels, try one last … | /r/askTRP | 25/05/18 08:30 PM |
| 9 | How do you handle when she asks about your sexual past?I usually just say "a gentleman does not disclose those details" and then leave it at that. If they keep pressing, I just start smiling and laughing and saying different variations of it: "It's classified" "HAH, please" "Well [insert name], that's an excellent question and I thank you for it. I think it's great that we live in a country where we can ask questions, because without questions, we just have answers. And an answer without a question is a statement." Bonus points if you make a move on… | /r/askTRP | 25/05/18 06:45 PM |
| 2 | Don’t be a mate guarder like this guyI mentioned it as an example when responding to an askTRP post the other week. It actually was part of what motivated me to write this post. | /r/TheRedPill | 25/05/18 06:17 PM |
| 2 | Don’t be a mate guarder like this guyI was paraphrasing stuff she had said throughout the night | /r/TheRedPill | 25/05/18 01:13 PM |
| 17 | How much do you text your plates, outside of logistics?The "text for logistics only" rule is generally targeted towards the "billy beta" type guys who will shower a girl with compliments, memes and videos over text then make ZERO effort to actually meet. It is mostly to prevent them from self inflicted wounds. You do not need to take it verbatim. I think you're playing it just fine: If she messages you out of the blue, send back something clever/funny and leave it at that. | /r/askTRP | 24/05/18 07:44 PM |
| 14 | Girlfriend going for drinks with new colleagues.Yeah I do not see the problem here at all. Let her hang out with her coworkers and you should set up other plans with your friends. | /r/askTRP | 24/05/18 07:41 PM |
| 18 | Ex has told me that one of my friends was messaging her inappropriately after we broke up.Hard next this girl. She is messing with your head and trying to start stuff for attention/validation. Ain't nobody got time for that nonsense. As for the friend, I would severely limit my interactions with him. When you see him in person, crack jokes, be polite, don't bring it up to him and act like you normally would. But DO NOT initiate any more contact with him. Hang out with other people instead. | /r/askTRP | 23/05/18 09:39 PM |
| 1 | Cancelled dateTry one more time in 1-2 weeks, if she bails again without a reschedule... Then you can turn out the lights, party's over. | /r/askTRP | 22/05/18 06:19 PM |
| 62 | Why is it that every female in the @askwomenadvice subreddit disagree with everything that aligns with trp’s principals? For instance, they all think that there isn’t such a thing as “shit test”.The best way to describe this is through languages: When you are learning another language (let's use French as an example), you are learning things in class like "imparfait" and "passe compose". To you, it makes sense. But to French people, this technical form of teaching makes ZERO sense to them. Why? Because the language they speak naturally is engrained in them. They've internalized the concept, so they don't need to sit around and be like "yeah what I said was passe compose, now he's replyi… | /r/askTRP | 22/05/18 01:57 PM |
| 6 | Question on LTR and Spining PlatesYou can be faithful and effective in an LTR as long as: 1) You are significantly higher/perceived to be significantly SMV than her 2) You already have a great lifestyle in place to the point where she is not constantly on your mind. Develop as many hobbies as you can and be as busy as possible so you don't have time to think about all of the clingy/needy/beta af things you could be doing to turn her away. | /r/askTRP | 21/05/18 05:51 PM |
| 5 | demoting LTR? anybody had success with it?If you have very strong emotional intelligence, then yes you can demote an LTR to plate status. The issue you are going to run into is that exes know how to push ALL of your buttons. They know what gets you upset, all of your flaws and what you are self-conscious about. Demoting an ex to plate is possible, albeit difficult. | /r/askTRP | 21/05/18 05:28 PM |
| 12 | the red pill and TV/MOVIES . is watching shows with blue pilled main characters hard to do for some of you ?I just think to myself "that's not how this works. That's not how ANY of this works" and laugh. | /r/askTRP | 18/05/18 10:08 PM |
| 4 | So my ex LTR texted me after 5 days of being broken upGhosting works. You did mention she is a coworker though so if you don't want her to cause a scene or demonize you at work, respond with something very generic like "nice." and leave it at that. | /r/askTRP | 18/05/18 10:00 PM |
| 13 | Anyone bad at defending themselves in the moment?The most important thing is that you are learning something off of every encounter you feel you could've improved. You will stumble along the way but not making the same mistakes twice is key. Best example I can think of is this: I had a friend who around all of the girls we were gaming, he would say "Bupkiss1290's company he works for is EVIL". The first few times he said it, I would just laugh it off and ignore it. He always felt like he won that encounter so he would keep saying it in front o… | /r/askTRP | 18/05/18 07:12 PM |
| 2 | Potential Fight... What's the best course of action?If you're really that desperate to go to that bar then do the following: 1) Ignore the guy's prescense at the bar - he is looking to provoke you and get a rise out of you. If you do not make any eye contact or acknowledge his existence, he's more likely to leave you alone 2) If he keeps bugging you, follow baldeagle0304's advice and get video evidence of him doing anything potentially illegal towards you. | /r/askTRP | 18/05/18 06:17 PM |
| 5 | Potential Fight... What's the best course of action?The idea that you have so few friends that you HAVE to go to a bar where you could get into unnecessary legal/medical trouble tells me that you do not understand abundance mentality or the meaning of the word "cuck". | /r/askTRP | 18/05/18 06:09 PM |
| 3 | Potential Fight... What's the best course of action?Take a few weeks off from going to that bar with your friends. If you really want to go out and drink and they're dead set on going to that bar, find another group of friends to drink with for a bit. Sometimes you give a bully a bit of time and space, they'll find another person to target. | /r/askTRP | 18/05/18 05:57 PM |
| 7 | Am I interpreting my breakup correctly?You COMPLETELY lost frame when you told her to "fuck off", and I am going to tell you why that right there was the straw that broke the camel's back on this whole relationship: Women usually get bored of their LTRs after 1-3 years. That's just natural. In this case, she was not only getting bored, but you weren't doing anything career wise that would have excited her. She had her direction in life, you didn't. HUGE turn off for a lot of girls (not all, but ones that are in med school absolutely … | /r/askTRP | 18/05/18 04:50 PM |
| 5 | How do i break this cycle ? Masturbation relapsing poor Bipolar No good therapists ..... im stuckA few things: 1) Get a job that keeps you really busy. If you are constantly busy and doing stuff, you won't have time to have anxiety attacks or time to think about masturbation. It also creates better routines/habits for you to work off of. The more structure in your life, the easier it is to combat mental illness. 2) Adequate sleep and healthier diet: Get AT LEAST 8 hours of sleep and eat as healthy as it is humanely possible. Depression and anxiety are at their worst when people aren't treat… | /r/askTRP | 18/05/18 04:27 PM |
| 4 | She said yes, but....only as friends. BUT WAIT...!!!Ok so it’s clear you’re not listening to the “don’t shit where you eat “ advice. So here are my thoughts besides that: 1) When she says “we are going as friends”, that is code for “let’s just be friends” which is womanese for “I’ve NEVER wanted to fuck you, I’m NOT going to fuck you and I’m NEVER GOING TO WANT FUCK YOU”. If you think you have ANY chance at getting ANY kind of action with this girl, you are delusional. I give it a 99.99% chance she is not sexually attracted to you based upon this… | /r/askTRP | 18/05/18 05:06 AM |
| 4 | Crying when watching a sad movie with the gfIf she sees you tearing up make a lighthearted joke about it: “I’m not crying, YOU’RE CRYING” “Who started cutting onions in here? Hate it when that happens” Make it humorous and you’re good to go. | /r/askTRP | 18/05/18 12:42 AM |
| 10 | Went on bumble for the first time in a long time, it seems that at least 60-70 percent of the women there are overweight or obese.Yes, the overwhelming majority of girls on there are fat. But if you want a chance at less fatties, don’t swipe on them. They have an algorithm that sorts out your preferences so if you swipe right on everything your profile won’t be as available to the better looking ones. | /r/askTRP | 18/05/18 12:38 AM |
| 22 | I feel like I fucked up my life and I'm starting to think TRP is BS. So confused rn :/TRP doesn't say that women are inferior, that is a total straw man. What TRP DOES say is that you shouldn't put them up on a pedestal and treat them like princesses. They are different from us in certain ways and do really shitty things just like the rest of us, but they are human beings nonetheless. TRP mostly just warns guys not to go over the top with them (showering with gifts, doing all the crazy rom com stuff, etc.) Most importantly, TRP philosophy calls upon you to do what makes you happy… | /r/askTRP | 16/05/18 05:17 PM |
| 21 | Why do they hate us ?I find there are 3 types of people who hate TRP: 1) (Probably around 50%+) - People who have never actually read TRP but have heard some offhand comments about it (most likely from males on here in the anger phase) that made it sound like it was just a bunch of sexist pigs. 2) (Probably around 40%) - People who don't want to make significant change in their lives so they would rather just look at the world with blue tinted glasses. 3) (Roughly 10%) - People who are scared that their preferred tr… | /r/askTRP | 16/05/18 04:49 PM |
| 15 | Dread, while a powerful tool in a red pilled man's arsenal, doesn't work until you have her hooked in.I agree with your conclusion to a certain extent, but I want to add one thing: The key to effective dread is to not be open with them about how much you get around. You need to show your value in your actions. Chat up girls at bars, get lots of IOIs and be flirty. But DO NOT disclose to her how much you get around. If they ever ask or do that "is this what you do with all the other girls?" shit test, just be like "a gentlemen does not disclose those details" and smile. Or be coy about it. Leave … | /r/TheRedPill | 16/05/18 04:33 PM |
| 7 | Should I go through with this?Invite her over and get some action. Don't bother bringing any of that up unless she does. If she starts calling you her bf or says you are dating, cut it off. Until then, enjoy the ride. | /r/askTRP | 15/05/18 05:20 PM |
| 1 | Going out for a few months, no results so far.For reference - Going out consistently for a few months and complaining about not getting laid is like going to the gym three or four times and complaining that you're not built like Superman. My most important piece of advice is this: DO NOT go out with the main priority in mind of getting laid or gaming girls. Go out with the SOLE intention of having a good time. If you happened to get laid, cool. Becoming a more social person is a process. Here's is what I would recommend: More gym time: Part… | /r/askTRP | 14/05/18 09:42 PM |
| 7 | Women & feminists, who rule society right now, want to make it illegal for men to have any sexual interest in them - how to survive as a virgin?Is this for real? Seems like a troll post. Statistically speaking, you are WAY off base. Currently, 82% of American women do not considering themselves to be feminists, and that number is around the same in most of the developed world. I would get off the internet and engage in more real human interactions. You will realize that the overwhelming majority of women are not psycho feminazis... | /r/askTRP | 14/05/18 06:03 PM |
| 2 | NLP texts? Feedback appreciatedI would only change the last part from "if you want to hook up at the beach and get the fire going with me" to "you should come along, it'll be fun." Everything else seems good. | /r/askTRP | 14/05/18 04:50 PM |
| 2 | Don't get BITTER. Get BETTERBulking is really hard mostly due to the diet aspect. You have to eat a TON. The 2 meals I really like to prep are as follows: Chicken Carbonara: Grilled Chicken, Angel Hair Pasta, Tomatoes, Spinach, Alfredo sauce (1600 calories, 60 gs of protein) Mongolian Chicken: Grilled Chicken, Egg noodles, Celery, Broccoli, Red Peppers, Green Peppers, Mongolian Sauce/Teriyaki Sauce (1060 calories) Really I would recommend eating as many chicken and rice combinations as humanly possible. Burrito bowls, chic… | /r/TheRedPill | 11/05/18 05:29 PM |
| 5 | Girl with previous interest came back.Do you have her number? If so, text her and set up plans. If not, send her a snap of you out at the bars or clubs with some stupid caption like "where the party's at" and see if she replies. | /r/askTRP | 11/05/18 03:52 PM |
| 7 | Girl takes several days to initiate text convo, seemingly updated Tinder as wellTry setting up one more hang out, invite her back to your place at the end of it and escalate. If she bails without rescheduling or doesn't want to go further than kissing, then turn out the lights, party's over. In any case, DO NOT confront her about any bullshit. It is a complete and utter waste of time and will make you look like a tool to all involved. | /r/askTRP | 11/05/18 03:29 PM |
| 2 | Don't get BITTER. Get BETTERIt won’t ruin you, but it won’t be doing you any favors that’s for sure. One beer a day is managable albeit not ideal | /r/TheRedPill | 11/05/18 12:43 PM |
| 3 | Don't get BITTER. Get BETTERI got my dieting advice from a guy who is total genius when it comes to working out and dieting, here is my story on it and here's my advice: I consume at least 3,000 calories a day and would eat 200 grams of protein, 400 grams of carbs and roughly 90 grams of fat. I only started taking it very seriously since early March, so I am a little over 2 months into this routine. Keep in mind I work out at least 5 plus days a week and hit every muscle group at least once a week. The key though is to mak… | /r/TheRedPill | 10/05/18 08:40 PM |
| 17 | They came to me in flocks when I was a 100kg addict, now that I quit that life and lost 30kgs, I can't score.A few pieces of advice: 1) If you haven't already, start going to the gym as much as you can. It will get you in better shape, boost confidence and get women to be more into you. 2) Learn some new skills - You cannot go wrong by being in a band or playing one of guitar or piano. You don't even have to be that good at them, the fact that you can play turns girls on. Best example for me is last night: I was on a date and I could FEEL her getting on with her day because quite frankly, I'm not the m… | /r/askTRP | 10/05/18 03:11 PM |
| 3 | How to “reaaproach” adviceYou'd be surprised at how well a re-approach can go sometimes. Just find something generic/simple to talk about (how was your weekend? Did you see X things/go to X event?) and go from there. I've had times where I approached someone and I thought it went horribly, then saw them later in the night and it turns out they were really into me. | /r/askTRP | 10/05/18 02:53 PM |
| 2 | Where should I go from here? (Life related not specifically girl-related)Are they paying for your tuition for the semester? If not, will it put you deeper in debt? Those questions are far more important than some day where parents get overly emotional about something. | /r/askTRP | 09/05/18 10:05 PM |
| 1 | Where should I go from here? (Life related not specifically girl-related)You can still bang chicks and meet new people without spending money on a degree. All you need to do is live within the vicinity of it all or go to the place on weekends with buddies. Again: only spend THOUSANDS of dollars on tuition and textbooks if A) You can afford it and B) It is actually necessary for your business | /r/askTRP | 09/05/18 09:56 PM |
| 4 | Where should I go from here? (Life related not specifically girl-related)Only do technical courses if it's necessary for the business you plan on opening up. Otherwise, work part time to pay off the loan while simultaneously working on your business. The less you spend on higher ed, the better. | /r/askTRP | 09/05/18 09:45 PM |
| 1 | Girl flaked on my date but had a legitimate excuse and gave a vague let's reschedule. Advice?Nothing wrong with that, you do you man. | /r/askTRP | 09/05/18 09:31 PM |
| 1 | Girl flaked on my date but had a legitimate excuse and gave a vague let's reschedule. Advice?If you're going out of your way to catch this train with her then don't bother. Only do this if it coincides with your schedule already. That way it won't look as needy or desperate. Saying something like "yeah I was planning on taking that train at that time anyway so that works out" to that request would be good. | /r/askTRP | 09/05/18 09:26 PM |
| 2 | Girl flaked on my date but had a legitimate excuse and gave a vague let's reschedule. Advice?Game her on the train ride back if you want to. But after that, I would soft next. If she doesn't reach out to you to set something up (which is highly likely), DO NOT text her for at least 1-2 weeks. Try setting up plans after that time frame. If she blows you off again after that, then turn out the lights, the party is over. For future reference: No matter how busy a girl is, if she is really into you, she WILL make time for you, and will be really specific about it. | /r/askTRP | 09/05/18 09:17 PM |
| 1 | [Serious] What are your favorite openers you use with nice success in indirect daygame?I don't bother doing day game anymore: I just find a street piano, play some tunes and girls will approach me. | /r/askTRP | 09/05/18 09:05 PM |
| 1 | LTR's friend sexually assaults herThis all seems fishy but at this point it's clear you are not going to ever admit she cheated on you. On that note, if you really think this is the case, why don't you call the cops? Why do you have to wait for her to call the cops? Take action. If he threatens her as a result of your actions, report that to the cops too. If she freaks out and breaks it off with you because of that, you have your answer as to what actually happened. Of course, she will say it was because "you breached my trust" … | /r/askTRP | 09/05/18 08:43 PM |
| 2 | Should I just fade from her lifeTo be honest I really don't understand what she is doing that is so bad. Regardless, this sounds like a completely toxic relationship that is LOW on sex and HIGH on drama. Turn out the lights on this one. Party's over. | /r/askTRP | 09/05/18 02:31 PM |
| 4 | Are girls looking at you a sign of attractiveness or what?Generally speaking, eye contact (especially lingering eye contact) is a good sign. That said, the only true way to know whether they find you attractive is to actually go up and talk to them. | /r/askTRP | 08/05/18 07:20 PM |
| 6 | Can you guys feel when there is a woman who is attracted to you around you?Most of the time, yes. You get better at picking out these vibes as time goes on. Tell tale signs generally involve: Heavy eye contact, almost like you're the only person in the room Laughing at almost everything you say Light to heavy touching of arms Teasing you and asking you questions about yourself | /r/askTRP | 08/05/18 07:18 PM |
| 1 | Is it bad if I'm always the one that leads/ask questions in a conversation?Depends on how playful you are about it. If you are stonefaced/a dick about it/arguing with them about political stuff then yeah it's very off-putting. But if you're lighthearted about it and it's something harmless/innocent then you're good to go. A good example I have is I knew someone who did Acapella but didn't have a go to karaoke song. I jokingly gave her crap for that and she thought it was pretty funny. As long as you are upbeat and time it right, it's very effective. | /r/askTRP | 08/05/18 06:44 PM |
| 4 | Is it bad if I'm always the one that leads/ask questions in a conversation?Yes, this is normal. Most people are very self centered and love to talk about themselves. The people who are best at this will listen to their answers, then tease them for any contradictions in future answers of theirs. Don't be afraid to tell them the occasional funny story that relates to their answer as well, but don't overdo it. Your best way forward is to ask questions that engage their emotions. Asking them to recall memories of theirs or funny stories is usually a good place to start. | /r/askTRP | 08/05/18 06:35 PM |
| 6 | Do you let them know your phone Password?Sounds like an invasion of privacy to me. I would get rid of her fingerprint, change the password, and avoid using your phone in front of her as much as possible. | /r/askTRP | 08/05/18 06:00 PM |
| 3 | Next Step???If you haven’t already, set up a meet with her and try to escalate/seal the deal. You’re not going to get anywhere if you just keep texting. This can be literally ANYTHING: Coffee, drinks, Super Smash Bros. You name it. Just go for it. | /r/askTRP | 08/05/18 05:29 PM |
| 3 | Texting college girlsThe way you deal with it is by NOT texting her like the other guys. It will set you apart from the pack and if they're into you, they will do more to vie for you attention. Use texting mostly as a means to set up plans and nothing else. Guys who don't understand that are the ones that end up in the friend zone the fastest. | /r/askTRP | 07/05/18 09:42 PM |
| 1 | What are the fastest ways to identify a time ho?I'm using "time ho" in the sense that it's a woman who leads guys on and wastes their time. Instead of the guys paying her with money, they pay her by giving up a lot of their time. Disregard the first definition I gave. For clarification, there's two different ways to define "time ho" 1) Orbiter/ the first definition I used 2) A girl who gets off on getting attention from guys but has no intention of sleeping with them. | /r/askTRP | 07/05/18 09:08 PM |
| 1 | What are the fastest ways to identify a time ho?LOL A Time Ho is a guy a woman puts into the "friendship zone" in order to do "couple" type activities (i.e., movies, dinner, etc..) with even though she has no intentions of ever dating him or sleeping with him. | /r/askTRP | 07/05/18 09:03 PM |
| 1 | What are the fastest ways to identify a time ho?https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t9QOQNcpuiA | /r/askTRP | 07/05/18 08:52 PM |
| 7 | Is this an example of losing frame?In that case, you didn't lose frame and you're good to go. | /r/askTRP | 07/05/18 08:43 PM |
| 5 | Is this an example of losing frame?Generally speaking, amused mastery is the way to go with that. Laugh off the comment and show her that you really don't care what she has to say. In this case, you may or may have not lost frame. It depends on how you said it. Were you calm? Angry? Laughing? Not enough information to truly gauge whether you lost frame here. Also were they being playful or angry? That must factor in as well. | /r/askTRP | 07/05/18 08:39 PM |
| 3 | plating a girl "friend" in friend circle?Unless one of your buddies has some kind of oneitis for her then no, it will not make your friend group weird. Especially since she already lives 6 hours away. If you think you have a chance, go for it. Shooters gonna shoot. | /r/askTRP | 07/05/18 07:49 PM |
| 1 | Oneitis ventThis sounds like scarcity mentality. If you are getting that worked up over a girl turning down a date, it tells me you need to go out and put yourself out there more. That said, if you really like this girl and it has been a while since the last time you made a move, try setting up plans one more time. Rejection is ALWAYS better than regret. | /r/askTRP | 07/05/18 07:44 PM |
| 4 | She tells her friends she wants to friendzone me, but let's me touch herActions over words. | /r/askTRP | 07/05/18 07:29 PM |
| 2 | How to know if I’m too much of an asshole?The method you're looking for here is push/pull. The people I know who SLAY the most will say something nice to them, then follow it up with a joke to loosen the tension that comes with giving someone a compliment. That's the push/pull technique and it's super effective. You're not being an asshole by doing that, but you aren't being a creepy beta. There's a really good Charisma on Command video about this. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0kaR6-MIV8k That said, it sounds like this girl is really… | /r/askTRP | 07/05/18 07:12 PM |
| 3 | How to deal with misanthropy / feeling of standing out?There's always things you can improve. You need to work on not frowning upon others who want different things in life than you do. Live and let live man. A few pieces of advice: 1) In a town of 25,000 people, you can't be overly picky on who you spend your time with. Go to parties, don't go overboard on the booze/weed, chat people up and work on your social skills for the future. Don't look down on them, look at it as an opportunity to improve your ability to get people to respect/like you. As l… | /r/askTRP | 07/05/18 07:05 PM |
| 6 | Can someone explain this?One of the other tenants to TRP is that when a woman is attracted to you and/or is "fuck yeah" about you, it really doesn't matter what you say or do to her. As long as it's not excessively awful or becomes a routine. You are in that stage right now. As long as it's only an occasional loss of frame and you don't go full blown Billy Beta, you're good to go. I would also add that you remained calm while discussing this stuff. That makes a big difference. Keep doing what you're doing. | /r/askTRP | 07/05/18 03:53 PM |
| 9 | Beta turned Alpga overnight. Is LTR salvageable at this point?"'I really admire how you have enough energy to go out with your friends after a 76 hour work week but not enough to ride my cock before falling asleep' In attempt to stir emotions" Dude... What the actual fuck? In what universe is this "alpha"? You sound like a butt hurt loser with this text. DO NOT pull this shit with anyone ever again. Also 9 week dry spell? That's not a "dry spell" that's her trying to dead bedroom it in hopes that you leave her. Women HATE being the bad guy so they're tryin… | /r/askTRP | 07/05/18 02:06 PM |
| 3 | How to respond to a “maybe”I would just be like "see you soon" then if they keep playing games ghost. | /r/askTRP | 04/05/18 06:40 PM |
| 5 | Extremely insecure about being fat, should I just give up on girls for now?This type of mentality you have will only go away if you take risks and shoot your shots. Rejection is always better than regret, and you will learn a lot from it even if you aren't successful at times. Stop comparing yourself to other people, set some goals, get out of you shell and start interacting with more people. | /r/askTRP | 04/05/18 03:09 PM |
| 4 | is there any hope for me?I say this a lot because it's true: When life isn't going the way you want it to, the solution is NOT to get BITTER, but to get BETTER. When you wake up in the morning, ask yourself "what is one thing I can do today that can make me a better person?" This can be going to the gym, helping out a homeless person or growing a pair and approaching that cute girl you see everyday over in the corner at coffee shop. It can be LITERALLY ANYTHING, but doing one thing each day that you can be proud of will… | /r/askTRP | 03/05/18 09:34 PM |
| 8 | (Popular) girl who liked me knows I ask my friend to tell her secrets to meDude, why are you obsessed with her life if you friend zoned her? Stop trying to dig through other people's dirty laundry, game other women and live your life. If you really want to know more about her, set up plans to hang out with her in person. It's not hard... | /r/askTRP | 03/05/18 09:20 PM |
| 17 | Oneitis is making me crazy and emotional (18 year old guy)Here's what helped me get over my most recent oneitis: I asked myself "what did this girl provide of actual value to me?" All I could come up with for her was: -Sex -Good times -The occasional good book or podcast recommendation -Ukulele lessons for like 3 songs I can find the first from literally HALF the population. The second and third I can get from literally ANYONE. The fourth, a simple Google search would find me a better instructor. While she was very charming and cute, I realized that th… | /r/askTRP | 03/05/18 08:01 PM |
| 9 | Can't get ex out my head it's bad guysWhat you need to realize is that when life doesn't go your way, the solution is not to get BITTER, but to get BETTER. Here are a few things you can do: 1) Go to the gym AT LEAST 5 times a week: This will boost your overall confidence AND make you better looking. Bonus points if you go with friends so you can shoot the shit with them. I find that the moment I go to the gym a lot of my frustrations are unleashed and I am a less angry person altogether. Plus it's easier to attract other girls when … | /r/askTRP | 03/05/18 07:46 PM |
| 2 | What do I doStart slowly pulling away from this one, she's dead bedrooming you and losing interest fast. Do not text her as much, do not set up as many plans, game other girls and live your life. Moving in with her in the future would be a terrible idea. Find a job in the city you want to work in and ignore what she wants. Remember: YOU are responsible for YOUR happiness. Stop catering to other peoples interests and start taking care of yourself. You have limited amount of time and energy. Do not waste it o… | /r/askTRP | 03/05/18 02:13 PM |
| 2 | Maintain contact, or play it safe?Wow... Where do I start? After the first ghost, you should've got the hint that she was just using you for validation. Most likely she hit you up on Snapchat because she was bored. But after that second time, you should've just been like "no worries, sounds good" and soft nexted her. Instead, you decided for some silly reason to COMPLETELY LOSE frame and act like a butthurt tool. Not even slightly surprising she bailed on that third time. Unless you gained like 40 pounds of muscle and won a Nobe… | /r/askTRP | 02/05/18 09:47 PM |
| 6 | Any analogies on women's fluctuating emotions?Women are like cats: if you pet them too much, they go away. | /r/askTRP | 02/05/18 06:51 PM |
| 5 | Plate who previously bought me things etc. flaked on meet up, text with an apology - course of action?I would just say "no worries, another time maybe" and soft next. If she is really into you, she will reach out and try to make plans. No need to chase. | /r/askTRP | 02/05/18 06:27 PM |
| 6 | What's the difference between broke underachievers who get girls, and those who don't get girls?A few things set broke underachievers who get laid apart from those broke underachievers who don't: 1) They hit the gym: Even if they are broke, in the party scene they look good to girls so they have way higher chances of getting laid. 2) They excelled at something in the past: I know guys who SLAY because they used to be really good at a sport or activity of some kind. They coast off of that image they had back in the day and still get laid because of it. They're total bums now, but the nostal… | /r/askTRP | 02/05/18 06:25 PM |
| 3 | Second change or next?Dude, stop with all of the "power politics" nonsense and do what you want to do. If she's marginally attractive and you want to bang her, set up plans. If she bails without rescheduling, NEXT and don't bother engaging her. If you don't want to hang out with her, NEXT. Either way, be ready to walk away from this one at a moment's notice. | /r/askTRP | 02/05/18 04:06 PM |
| 8 | What to do when a girl rejects you after escalation?Dude you were WAY too direct with her. She may have said she was dtf, but you still have to establish some kind of plausible deniability first before you start fucking them. This can be literally ANYTHING: a movie, dinner, Super Smash Bros, you name it. That said, your best approach is to ignore her and move on with your life. Turn out the lights, the party is over for you on this one. | /r/askTRP | 02/05/18 03:58 PM |
| 1 | Not-in-person interactions with particular girlDude stop over thinking everything, grow a pair and set up plans. You can invite her to do literally ANYTHING, doesn't matter. This is the ONLY way to know for sure whether someone is attracted to you or not. If she agrees to spend time with you, you're in business. If she turns you down or bails on the plans without rescheduling, you know your answer. Stop texting her, accept the result and move on with your life. | /r/askTRP | 02/05/18 03:23 PM |
| 3 | For the most part I’m an introvert who doesn’t drink. Should I begin to go out to clubs and bars to put myself out there?My goodness... Stop with all of this self-deprecating CRAP. That attitude is the sole reason you are not getting laid. Unless you are 900 lbs and look like Rocky Dentist, there are girls out there who will be into you, it's just a matter of finding them. You stop with this garbage negativity, I guarantee you will have more success with not just women, but people in general. Going to bars and clubs with people who are high value is good. If you don't like beer, try some other type of alcohol. If … | /r/askTRP | 01/05/18 05:14 PM |
| 5 | Book recommendations?12 Rules to Life by Jordan Peterson | /r/askTRP | 01/05/18 04:53 PM |
| 8 | Is she trying to make me jealous?Soft next. If she reaches out to you and those snaps didn't bother you, act like you never saw anything and set up plans. She is a plate after all. If they did, be polite to her but avoid setting up plans at all costs. When you bail a few times, she will get the message and move on. Regardless of your course of action, DO NOT bring up those snap stories with her. It will create unnecessary drama in your life and make you look like a tool. | /r/askTRP | 01/05/18 04:51 PM |
| 4 | How do I get over hating my oneitis?A few things you can do: 1) Go to the gym at least 5 times a week: This will boost your overall confidence AND make you better looking. I find that the moment I go to the gym a lot of my frustrations are unleashed and I am a less angry person altogether. Plus it's easier to attract other girls when you are in good shape. 2) Be constantly busy. Whether it's hanging out with friends or working late at the office, always keep focused on something productive. It will prevent your mind from wandering… | /r/askTRP | 01/05/18 03:38 PM |
| 8 | This girl I'm dating talks about her ex all the time. Red flag?If you are banging her and want to keep banging her, demote to plate status. Otherwise, quit wasting your time with someone who would rather be with someone else. | /r/askTRP | 30/04/18 08:32 PM |
| 6 | To text or not to textDO NOT double text, especially given all the info you provided. You asked a question, and she didn't even take the time to answer it, but it's not because she didn't see the text. Wait until she replies (if she replies at all) and go from there. It sounds like you can turn out the lights on this one, party's over. At this point, your oneitis will continue if you continue to maintain contact with her. Assume she is not interested in seeing or talking to you, and move on with your life. The less c… | /r/askTRP | 30/04/18 08:23 PM |
| 7 | Friends rarely invite me to do things with them. I'm usually the person who has to initiate everything!Look the reality is that life is not going to hand everything to you on a silver platter. YOU are responsible for YOUR happiness. You want to hang out with a group of people? Text them and try to tag along or set up plans. Don't sit around like a little bitch waiting for them to come swooping in and invite you out. Initially, you will always be the one making plans. But as time goes by, you will find that eventually people will start hitting you up more regularly as they become more comfortable … | /r/askTRP | 30/04/18 05:22 PM |
| 2 | Got labeled a misogynist, what should I do?Let it blow over. People forget about stuff very quickly, ESPECIALLY during drunken nights out. Your life is not something people think or talk about regularly so unless you're constantly bringing it up it won't be a big deal. If you find this night to be a persistent problem over the course of a month, look for new people to spend time with. Then maybe come back to these same people when you've had some time away from them. | /r/askTRP | 30/04/18 05:00 PM |
| 1 | Random thought: What would you do if you woke up after a night of getting 🍺 and realize that you fucked a tranny? We had a debate about this topic in my class 😂I would never tell anyone it happened and cut off all contact with the transgender person. I would get tested for STDs and continue living my life as if it didn't happen. | /r/askTRP | 30/04/18 04:55 PM |
| 2 | Is "be a good girl" pressure a possible theory as to why college girls in my city are hardcore to game?I grew up in Canada and there's some truth to this. Cost of living in Toronto is so ridiculous that a very significant portion of people live with their parents. Some parents are complete helicopter ones as well so that adds an additional challenge. Though I would add that this is not unique to Canadians: people living with their parents generally do not like hooking up with randos around them. It's awkward and uncomfortable. That said, all that means is that you have to be more bold about every… | /r/askTRP | 30/04/18 04:33 PM |
| 4 | Really? You seemed annoyedI'm really confused as to what the hell you want out of this. You don't sound even remotely interested in this girl, so at this point I would just ignore it. | /r/askTRP | 27/04/18 09:00 PM |
| 2 | Answer?I would wait until you are free to set up plans to respond to that text. Or I would just give a very generic response, ignore her next text and set up plans around a time you are free. | /r/askTRP | 27/04/18 08:10 PM |
| 2 | Answer?She's doing this for one of two reasons: 1) She is bored and is looking for attention/validation 2) She really is in to you and actually was busy I would respond to her question and at some point in the conversation (either right away or after 4-5 texts back and forth), say "On [insert day] we are doing [insert activity]. You should come, it'll be fun!" If she's not about it, you know your answer. | /r/askTRP | 27/04/18 07:57 PM |
| 15 | Reputation in High School is shattered. Comeback?A few things you can do: 1) Any extracurricular you think would enjoy or be good at, join it. Bonus points if it's a sport, but it can be ANYTHING (theatre, choir, band etc. Again, ANYTHING. As long as you are good at it people will be drawn to you). Gives you an easy opportunity to meet people in a more organic way as opposed to the cold approach. 2) Get involved in community projects/organizations/groups or get a job that incorporate people from other schools. I remember at my high school in m… | /r/askTRP | 27/04/18 07:36 PM |
| 1 | WHAT WOULD YOU DO ?I would give it another week, see if she gets the hint that there's nothing going on here. If she doesn't, you're going to have to level with her and hope she doesn't unleash the psycho demon in her. | /r/askTRP | 27/04/18 02:19 PM |
| 2 | “ I’ll have to get back to you” after asked her outI give it a 98% chance she does not get back to you. Just reply with “sounds good” and continue living your life. DO NOT expect any kind of reply or you will be disappointed. | /r/askTRP | 26/04/18 08:07 PM |
| 9 | Why do beautiful girls have fat friends?Usually it’s for ego boost so they can feel better about their looks. Though sometimes it can also be because those just happen to be the people who are always available for them to make plans with. Attractive girls are some of the flakiest/most unreliable people you will ever meet. Say what you want about ugly/fat/weird people, but I find they are way more dependable when it comes to making plans. Pretty girls know they can hit fatties/uglies/weirdos up and they will move mountains to hang out … | /r/askTRP | 26/04/18 08:05 PM |
| 2 | What if ?What if we stopped asking crazy hypothetical questions and deal with it if/when it actually happens? | /r/askTRP | 24/04/18 02:00 PM |
| 2 | Informing a plate that she's a plateYou're not lying by omission, you don't even know what her intentions are. There's a very good chance she is totally okay with everything. A lot of women out there are not looking for anything serious. No need to bring anything up. If she doesn't like your dynamic or wants more, she will tell you. | /r/askTRP | 24/04/18 01:48 PM |
| 3 | Confused about social status and SMVTwo potential things: 1) Likes attention and is leading you on 2) Is actually into you Only way to find out is to try and make plans with her outside of class. Try setting up something, if she bails without rescheduling, you know your answer. Also quit it with the self-depreciating "I can't believe a girl is into me" crap and take her off the pedestal. You will be a lot more successful in general when you do that. | /r/askTRP | 23/04/18 11:44 PM |
| 6 | Asked a girl if she wanted to hang out on my day off. No responseI received this advice a while back and I would recommend it to you as well. The problem is that you're acting as more of a taxi than a train. You are trying to set up too many one on one plans instead of living your life and bringing them into your world. Next time you are out with you friends, hit up some girls and be like "hey, we are doing x at y. You should come, it'll be fun." The more time you take to build her trust, the easier it will be to set up one on one plans. Unless they are super… | /r/askTRP | 23/04/18 11:31 PM |
| 2 | Fear regarding reputationYou can't control other people's behavior, you can only control your response to their behavior. If you have a good group of people you surround yourself with then none of that matters. Odds are your friends won't care and the people who you think were laughing at you will forget about everything within the next few hours. You're psyching yourself out. In the grand scheme of things, none of that will matter. Rejection is always better than regret. | /r/askTRP | 23/04/18 09:20 PM |
| 4 | holding frame: theory vs realityIt sounds like you dodged a bullet in this case. What a psycho... Ultimately, it appears you have a scarcity mentality. You need to learn to realize that you have options and that she is not your end all be all. Don't be afraid to put yourself out there and chat up other girls. Knowing that you have options (or knowing there is probably something better out there) is KEY to not losing frame in practice. You do that, you will not believe how easy it is to hold frame. Remember: YOU are the prize, … | /r/askTRP | 23/04/18 08:39 PM |
| 1 | Girl Giving me mixed messages, need advice on what to do nextThat’s a good strategy. You could be overthinking everything and who knows, maybe there’s a chance she’s still into you. Though as people have mentioned on this forum, if she bails this next time and doesn’t offer an alternative, you’re best off moving on with your life and gaming other girls. | /r/askTRP | 21/04/18 05:47 PM |
| 1 | "I don't date"“Who said anything about dating?” | /r/askTRP | 21/04/18 02:27 PM |
| 4 | Girl Giving me mixed messages, need advice on what to do nextThere’s no benefit in trying to overthink this. There could be any number of reasons this happened. Maybe you were too needy, maybe a hotter guy hit her radar. Who knows, and quite frankly, who cares? What you need to understand is that “mixed messages” IS the message. It’s her covert way of saying “I’m not attracted to you anymore but I like your attention and validation you give me.” The best rule to operate off of is “Fuck yes or no” because women who are still into you do not act the way you… | /r/askTRP | 21/04/18 02:22 PM |
| 3 | Date with a very shy girl tomorrow...HELPBecause 7 is associated with hitting the jackpot when you go out gambling. | /r/askTRP | 20/04/18 10:19 PM |
| 1 | Date with a very shy girl tomorrow...HELPTake your age and divide in half. 20/2= 10 Now add 7: 10 + 7 = 17. If you are dating anyone below that age, it is creepy... | /r/askTRP | 20/04/18 10:10 PM |
| 3 | Abundance?I would reach out and try to set up plans. If she bails again and doesn't reschedule, NEXT. | /r/askTRP | 20/04/18 07:40 PM |
| 8 | girl calls you a bitchLaugh and escalate | /r/askTRP | 19/04/18 07:15 PM |
| 1 | Can i still get sex from this somehow, or will the weekend and our talks cause her to hamster in a bad way?You had your chance to show you were different if you would've agreed to "hang out and chat" in her living room... You blew that one. I would soft next/ghost for like a week then come around again and try to set something up. | /r/askTRP | 19/04/18 06:52 PM |
| 1 | Can i still get sex from this somehow, or will the weekend and our talks cause her to hamster in a bad way?No use in overthinking everything. If she is down to chill, go and chill. If she bails then she lost interest. As for the Snapchat stuff, either come up with something clever and send it to her a while after she has sent you stuff or don't respond. Either works. | /r/askTRP | 19/04/18 06:43 PM |
| 1 | Can i still get sex from this somehow, or will the weekend and our talks cause her to hamster in a bad way?If you really want to see her, then go see her. If you really don't want to drive an hour, try to get her to meet you halfway. If you don't care, go over there, chat her up, escalate and ease into everything. If you try something and she pushes you off, then laugh it off, don't get upset. Spend maybe a little bit more time there then take off. If you want to try something again before you leave, go for it. Yeah you might feel like you wasted your time if she turns you down, but at the end of the… | /r/askTRP | 19/04/18 06:28 PM |
| 8 | New Girl Manages to Offend 3 Times in A WeekWow... Everything was going great until the 2nd cancellation. You totally lost it there. When a girl cancels and gives you a SPECIFIC day, you are still good to go. You should've held frame, been like "no worries, sounds good" then waited until the next day to hit her up. Instead you got WAY too needy and tried to negotiate with her. Seriously dude put the cock away and just chill until the next day. She probably bailed that third time because she lost attraction to you after that. Then you took… | /r/askTRP | 19/04/18 06:17 PM |
| 1 | Just wondering if I did everything right"Are you still seeing your boyfriend?" I wouldn't ask this question personally, seems insecure and you're starting to veer into her frame by doing that. Then again, if a girl is into you it really doesn't matter what you say. No need to overthink this. Just do the following below: Get her number (if you don't already have it), msg her for a meetup and go from there. No need to overthink everything. You should be able to plate this, it doesn't sound like she would be into anything serious anyway. | /r/askTRP | 19/04/18 06:08 PM |
| 2 | Lady 40 years older than me is hot and I wana get her number. What you all think about that ?I mean, if you are into it, go for it I guess. It is your life, not mine. My recommendation: You'll have plenty of time to have sex with women that age when you reach that age. Try getting with women who are closer to your age. | /r/askTRP | 19/04/18 04:21 AM |
| 4 | Sense of humor is fading or is it evolving?It sounds like you are becoming more mature. It's still important to have a sense of humor, but at the end of the day, a true alpha does what THEY want to do, not what OTHERS want them to do. It's possible this was a way of stress relief. But I would also add that part of it was probably that you liked the attention you were getting and it made it easier for you to get along with everyone. A lot of us are very fixated upon what others think of us, and I think this was the case for you, which is … | /r/askTRP | 19/04/18 04:19 AM |
| 1 | Am I crazy?Wow, based upon what you said it sounds like this woman was a total psycho. Thank your lucky stars you are getting out of this with minimal damage to your life. Some people's lives get totally ruined off of this kind of drama. As we get older, it becomes more difficult to emotionally invest in significant others so that might be contributing to your problem. However there are only really 3 things that will truly help you move on: 1) Time - Break-ups, especially one as dramatic as this one, take … | /r/askTRP | 19/04/18 04:10 AM |
| 77 | Girlfriend never creates drama. Never does anything weird. I don't know what to do.As long as you keep doing what you are doing, don't sweat it. It sounds like she is "fuck yeah" about you and when that's the case, they will act exactly how you've described it. | /r/askTRP | 18/04/18 09:39 PM |
| 3 | I need to change my personality.If you're killing it at your job/school, getting laid regularly and feel good about the direction your life is going then there is nothing wrong with it. If the opposite is the case, you've got a problem and need to tone it back. | /r/askTRP | 17/04/18 02:29 PM |
| 4 | Parties or DatesIf you're not comfortable dancing, house parties are best for you. Most of the time people don't dance there. Honestly you don't even need to know how to dance. Just listen to the songs that people you know like to listen to, remember the lyrics and sing along with people when those songs come on. That is way easier and is what most people who are "dancing" do anyway. If you're not comfortable with that, just strike up some conversations, get some digits and set up plans for a different time in … | /r/askTRP | 16/04/18 06:58 PM |
| 3 | Contacting Someone Through Facebook?I would only do this if you saw them recently and have an excuse to hit them up. Otherwise it is just creepy | /r/askTRP | 16/04/18 02:59 AM |
| 17 | Getting a better social life? (23M)You got options: 1) Networking/local events - Look for events going on in the area and go to them. Don't be afraid to engage with the people there. It is usually way easier when you have something in common or a purpose with the people there. 2) If you have old college or high school acquaintances in the area, don't be afraid to hit them up. Some of my best friends right now were people I barely knew in college but I messaged them and tried to set up plans. 3) Take lessons on something to learn … | /r/askTRP | 13/04/18 09:44 PM |
| 2 | How to get rid of a plate? A bit overwhelming...You got 3 options: 1) Pretend to be busy (better yet, actually be busy), FOREVER. They will eventually realize that this many scheduling conflicts is statistically impossible and fade away 2) Ghost 3) Level with her With a plate I'd go with option 1 and if she keeps pestering you bust out option 2. | /r/askTRP | 13/04/18 09:20 PM |
| 3 | For you 9-6 office guys, how do you find time for approaches during the week?Mostly bars. But train/bus stations, coffee shops, and anywhere you can hear yourself talk is good too. | /r/askTRP | 13/04/18 03:52 PM |
| 1 | Showing interest vs being needy?Don't think, just do. You want to flirt with her and engage in kino? Do it. You want to do something fun on the dance floor? Do it. You want to dance with her? Do it. You want to escalate further while dancing? Do it. You want to invite her back to your place for [insert plausible deniability excuse]? Do it. Remember: YOU are the prize. NOT her. You adopt that mentality it'll work out a lot better for you. | /r/askTRP | 13/04/18 03:48 PM |
| 4 | Had a second date scheduled but they canceled - how to handle?If you want to try to meet again, you got two options: 1) Wait a few weeks and try to set up plans then 2) Pick a day you are free next week and see if she is down for it Neither of these have high likelihoods of success. The use of the word "maybe" is usually a telltale sign you are not high up on her priority list. That can be for a variety of reasons but there is no use in overthinking it. At this point, you should withdraw any emotional investment you may have in her, game other women and li… | /r/askTRP | 13/04/18 02:51 PM |
| 2 | Keep her interested or keep silent?9 days out is super risky because so much can happen. I would message her either the day before or the day of, keep it as close to the actual day as possible. | /r/askTRP | 12/04/18 11:27 PM |
| 2 | Escalating in a social circle?I would message her earlier in the day you want to see her and ask her what’s she’s doing. If it doesn’t sound like she’s up to anything, make plans. If she’s going to be hanging out with some friends, say “we’re doing x at y, you all should come, it’ll be fun” and set up plans with her for another time while you all are hanging out. If she’s busy, try again one other time on a different and if she bails again without rescheduling either time soft next her. | /r/askTRP | 12/04/18 10:49 PM |
| 1 | Why do women have the advantage over text?I'm thinking of it in more of a "frame" sense. The more you text her, the more validation you give, the more likely it is you will slip into her frame and it gives her more control of everything that is going on. If you have a life and spend less time texting her, then that builds more intrigue and she'll need to actually spend time with you if she wants the level of validation she is looking for. The less you text, the more incentive she has to actually meet up with you. I agree with your point… | /r/askTRP | 12/04/18 10:03 PM |
| 4 | Keep her interested or keep silent?If you have plans already set in stone, DO NOT continue to text her. It kills attraction, gives you less to talk about when you meet up and makes you seem like you have no life. | /r/askTRP | 12/04/18 09:30 PM |
| 2 | For you 9-6 office guys, how do you find time for approaches during the week?I save my approaches for the weekend. If you really want to approach during the week though I would try it at lunch time. Try to see if there's a girl at a food court or cafeteria you would like to talk to and go from there. | /r/askTRP | 12/04/18 09:04 PM |
| 2 | Girls shit testing me by threatening no sexSo glad you got the reference! | /r/askTRP | 12/04/18 08:59 PM |
| 13 | Girls shit testing me by threatening no sexFor future reference: if she threatens to cut off the sex again, just rub one out. Hell do it in front of her. It's the most empty threat there is. That's like someone locking you out of the fridge when you have unlimited amounts of sandwiches in your pocket. | /r/askTRP | 12/04/18 08:43 PM |
| 7 | Escalating in a social circle?The only way to test this is to invite her to hang out just the two of you. If she flakes or the two of you hang out and you don't get a chance to escalate, then you know where you stand with her. | /r/askTRP | 12/04/18 05:09 PM |
| 87 | I don't understand why people hate the red pillI find there are 3 types of people who hate TRP: 1) People who have never actually read TRP but have heard some offhand comments about it that made it sound like it was a bunch of sexist pigs. 2) People who don't want to make significant change in their lives so they would rather just look at the world with blue tinted glasses. 3) People who are scared that their preferred treatment they receive will be jeopardized if they see more people taking in TRP material and thus lashing out at anyone spo… | /r/askTRP | 12/04/18 04:48 PM |
| 2 | ConversationAt the end of the day, it really doesn't matter what you talk about with a girl if she is into you. Given this fact, don't overthink conversations. If you assume attraction and are confident, that will shine through with them. That said, there are two things you should stay away from in conversation: their exes and their "guy troubles". Unless you want to turn into her emotional tampon gay friend, steer clear of any conversations about these subject matters. If either comes up, change the subjec… | /r/askTRP | 12/04/18 03:07 PM |
| 6 | My world view is shattered and I seriously need some guidance from you guys.You need a mission. You seem to be focusing solely on the social aspect of everything. What do you want to accomplish with your life career-wise or personal-wise? Whatever it is, devote your time to that and only that for a while. | /r/askTRP | 11/04/18 07:23 PM |
| 11 | Girlfriend dumped me, went on a date, she found out and freaked out.I’d just respond with “lol” and ghost her ass | /r/askTRP | 11/04/18 02:20 AM |
| 1 | Advice on a bunch of (possibly) mixed signals from a friendThere’s two possibilities here: 1) She’s DTF 2) She likes the validation you give her as an orbiter To truly find out, invite her to your place for some wine. If she comes over and bangs it’s #1. If she bails or comes over and doesn’t fuck it’s possibility #2. Ball is in your court. | /r/askTRP | 11/04/18 02:17 AM |
| 5 | Help with a way to deal with my flaws/insecurities and getting an alpha mindsetThe best way to deal with all of this is to go out and experience life. Surround yourself with good people, be interested in others, and tell funny stories. The more you put yourself out there and the busier you are, the less time you have to get anxious about stuff. | /r/askTRP | 09/04/18 08:45 PM |
| 3 | Am I having one-itis or just hamstering?Always remember: Rejection is better than regret This is a case of regret, that's why you're thinking about it. Next time you see her, talk to her. If you don't see her again, lesson learned. You'll get over it, no big deal. | /r/askTRP | 09/04/18 08:22 PM |
| 1 | What did I do wrong asking this girl out (field report)?"It was a good time, I could teach you the new moves sometime" If you are going to actually escalate, do it in person. Text for logistics only. That was my point. | /r/askTRP | 09/04/18 08:18 PM |
| 10 | How does one not get angry/depressed/frustrated seeing hot girls and just having no idea how to talk to them?Join extracurricular activities and play sports. Those are by far the best ways to meet people in college. Don't be afraid to engage in conversations with people in classrooms as well and ask them to meet up to study. The key is to put yourself in a situation where you share something in common with people and can make conversation as easy as possible. | /r/askTRP | 09/04/18 07:43 PM |
| 1 | What did I do wrong asking this girl out (field report)?You tried to do too much with it. Why are you inviting her to the pool if you want to teach her the dance moves? Just say we can rehearse so you don't fall behind then set up a meet somewhere where you can actually practice dance moves. No need to say words like "sensual" or invite her to a pool that sounds way too thirsty. | /r/askTRP | 09/04/18 07:39 PM |
| 3 | Dealing with Lack of RecognitionWhen people are accustomed to seeing someone a certain way, they HATE it when they start to change. I would either associate with those less and find other people to hang out with OR keep acting the way you are until they start to accept who you have become and change their ways. If they keep treating you like garbage go back to option A that I mentioned | /r/askTRP | 06/04/18 09:44 PM |
| 2 | Stuck in the anger phaseSounds like you need some time away from her where you can focus on yourself. Go to the gym, play some piano, hang out with your buddies, ANYTHING. Just give yourself 3-5 days away from her with minimal to no contact. And for heaven's sake, do NOT tell her this. Just do it. | /r/askTRP | 06/04/18 09:35 PM |
| 12 | Any chance to get past "let's just be friends" talk?OP You are not going to get a better truth bomb than this one. Please actually take this advice | /r/askTRP | 06/04/18 02:41 PM |
| 4 | Sexually frustrated college student, where am I going wrong?"I’m insatiably horny and all I want to do is get my dick wet" How is saying something like this not the textbook definition of "obsessing over pussy"? Even within your response you admit to it being a big fixation... Remember: YOU are the prize, not the girls. If you can adopt this mindset every time you talk to them it makes a big difference. Sounds like you have not adopted this mentality yet. | /r/askTRP | 28/03/18 04:56 PM |
| 2 | Sexually frustrated college student, where am I going wrong?"I’m insatiably horny and all I want to do is get my dick wet" Therein lies your problem. Women can smell desperation from a mile away and thus are more likely to be off-put. You are overthinking everything and not letting everything unfold naturally. Relax, you'll get better at this as time goes on. When you go out with your boys or go to a party, having a good time should be your number one priority. If you happen to get laid, great. But that should not be the #1 priority. Go out, have good ti… | /r/askTRP | 28/03/18 04:37 PM |
| 3 | My ex-LTR has 'made friends' with my current open-LTR and wants to ruin it - how to respond?As long as your ex isn't actually a dude who wants to bang your current LTR, you're good. Ignore it and keep doing what you're doing. If your ex tries to sabotage everything, your current LTR will catch on and stop seeing her. | /r/askTRP | 28/03/18 02:26 PM |
| 4 | Financial decisions ( moving out or stay home for a bit longer )Give it a few months to save up. Make it you new mission (aside from going to the gym and getting buff of course). Financial wellbeing takes precedent over girls | /r/askTRP | 27/03/18 10:41 PM |
| 1 | What do you think of women like Lauren Southern, Tommie Lauren, Faith Goldy ... ?My Mom works as a chief client officer for one of the top law firms in North America. She works hard day in and day out and doesn't take crap from anyone. | /r/askTRP | 27/03/18 10:08 PM |
| 3 | What do you think of women like Lauren Southern, Tommie Lauren, Faith Goldy ... ?I agree. But as we know on TRP, it is not what they really want. | /r/askTRP | 27/03/18 10:06 PM |
| 10 | What do you think of women like Lauren Southern, Tommie Lauren, Faith Goldy ... ?While politically they are very conservative, they push a lot of BP narratives when it comes to dating. I remember watching a video where they asked Lauren Southern about dating and she said that she wanted a nice guy who would treat her right and that looks weren't particularly important to her... That last statement is flat out false. Tomi also says similar things. Can't attest to Faith though. They're entertaining, but I wouldn't prop them up as RP women. | /r/askTRP | 27/03/18 09:10 PM |
| 4 | Girl threatened to stop talking to me."Lol alright [insert middle name]" Or GHOST | /r/askTRP | 27/03/18 06:50 PM |
| 5 | How to act with a girl who shows clear interest even sluttiness towards you in public/social situations?If you're in a situation where you're uncomfortable about escalating with someone, get their number and set up plans for another time. Then escalate during that time. You also could've invited her out to grab drinks with your boy and escalated there. | /r/askTRP | 27/03/18 03:20 PM |
| 2 | Building a social circle from scratch. Any advice?I've done this multiple times in multiple cities. The start is always going to be hard to meet people. But here is what I recommend: 1) Your best bet is to take up some new hobbies to occupy yourself. This summer I moved to a new city and I devoted myself to three things: Going to work, going to the gym and learning how to play piano. That kept my mind occupied on other things besides people. It worked wonders because it gave me more things to talk about with other people when I did run into oth… | /r/askTRP | 26/03/18 10:52 PM |
| 4 | Girlfriend sending old nudesAsk her for new ones or say "you've already sent this one" but don't mention the whole "other guys saw these" thing because that makes you look needy/jealous. | /r/askTRP | 26/03/18 08:28 PM |
| 1 | How to handle meaningless "give me attention" texts?Ask yourself this question: "Can I walk away from this situation with little to no repercussions?" If the answer is YES, then by all means go for it. If the answer is NO, stay away. | /r/askTRP | 26/03/18 08:13 PM |
| 5 | I'm a 27 year old "beta male" who has never had any trouble finding a girlfriend or having sex. TRP theory question.You're straw-manning TRP. TRP isn't saying that women are only into people who are douchebags and treat them like garbage. Anyone who says that either isn't RP or is a phony. TRP is all about self-improvement: working on things bigger than yourself, excelling at different skills in life (lifting, sports etc.), not putting women on a pedestal and changing your mindset from "women are the prize" to "I am the prize". At the end of the day, women want guys they are ATTRACTED to. If you establish ATT… | /r/askTRP | 26/03/18 08:07 PM |
| 3 | How to handle meaningless "give me attention" texts?Keep doing what you are doing (ignoring those texts) and DO NOT SHIT WHERE YOU EAT. I learned this the hard way a few months ago. I hooked up with one of my coworkers a few times (she was sending me very similar texts to what you just mentioned, but I engaged and got too emotionally invested) and asked her out. She agreed and then bailed on me last minute because she just "wanted to be single". She then spread a bunch of false rumors about me to the whole office to make me seem like the bad guy.… | /r/askTRP | 26/03/18 07:52 PM |
| 6 | To fap or not to fap..From what I hear, NoFap is good for roughly 7 days because it raises testosterone and peaks on day 7. After that, if you continue NoFap your testosterone levels go down. If you think it is getting in the way of your ability to function, fap on the 8th day (or a day where you know you're not going to do anything social or going to the gym because rumor has it fapping can kill your gains) of your cycle. DO NOT fap to porn. | /r/askTRP | 26/03/18 07:37 PM |
| 3 | Signals at WorkYou're not going to listen to this (I didn't at the time), but DO NOT SHIT WHERE YOU EAT. I learned this the hard way a few months ago. I hooked up with one of my coworkers a few times, and asked her out. She agreed and then bailed on me last minute because she just "wanted to be single". She then spread a bunch of false rumors about me to the whole office to make me seem like the bad guy. All of my female coworkers sided with her because 95% of the time, girls side with girls, and most of the g… | /r/askTRP | 26/03/18 06:50 PM |
| 14 | The Do's and Don't of coffee dates ?At the end of the day, if a girl is attracted to you, you can say or do just about anything and she'll be into it. That said, here are my thoughts on some of your questions: Try to arrive just a few minutes after she does. I've never tried to kiss them to start the date. I usually wait until near the end to try anything. I sit across from them, and really anywhere is good. All up to you. Sitting right next to them would create better kino opportunities if you're about that. The key is to get the… | /r/askTRP | 26/03/18 03:29 PM |
| 3 | How to kill my feelings for my gf?The best way to actually kill feelings is to end it, block her on all forms of social media and delete her number. That way, she won’t be giving you reminders and you can continue to live your life. If you’re desperate to keep it going, try to give her subtle hints that you think she should go to gym. Start inviting her to the gym, eat healthier around her and incentivize her to get more attractive. If she doesn’t turn it around then end it and do what I mentioned in paragraph one. | /r/askTRP | 26/03/18 12:08 AM |
| 1 | Best song on guitar to drop pantiesHey there Delilah - Plain White T's Free Fallin' - Tom Petty Banana Pancakes/Upside Down - Jack Johnson Daughters - John Mayer | /r/askTRP | 22/03/18 09:22 PM |
| 6 | Regrets after rejecting.It’s never fun to reject someone. The person who gets rejected WILL get upset, and that’s natural. However, what you will need to remember is 2 things: If you aren’t into her then stringing it along is even worse than rejecting her/cutting it off. That will lead to even worse fireworks. Short term pain, long term gain. You can feel good knowing you manned up and told the truth. Now you won’t have to worry about her anymore It may suck right now, but know that what you did was the right thing. | /r/askTRP | 22/03/18 06:48 PM |
| 6 | Dealing with Women who need to be the center of attention, who deride others in petty ways when not given attention?There's a great "Charisma on Command" video about how to stand up for yourself and not be mean about it. https://youtu.be/M5mgdJDEgwU Personally, when people say mean/snarky stuff to me, I say polite things in return with a smile. People get the message, and they usually look like a tool to all involved in the process. Ex. "Thanks for letting us know" Me: "You're welcome, happy to help!" I remember one time I was talking with this girl and the first thing she said to me was "you have some of the… | /r/askTRP | 22/03/18 05:37 PM |
| 2 | How to respond to this date invitation?What she thinks is not important. Do you want to go with her or not? If yes, go. If no, don't go. It's that simple... | /r/askTRP | 21/03/18 07:19 PM |
| 2 | Lost frame, read unicorn's whatsapp messages, got caught, friends are shunning me thinking I used them to get close to her, I'm alone, pathetic in their eyes, how to deal with consequences like a man?When something falls apart, the solution to this is not to get BITTER, but to get BETTER. Get involved in different activities, do not bother to reach out to that group of friends and if you aren't already, start going to the gym. Remember: There are plenty of people in the world to meet. Your self-worth is not dependent upon this aforementioned situation. | /r/askTRP | 20/03/18 08:02 PM |
| 2 | Weird form of ASDThis sounds like a colossal waste of time. Women who are "fuck yeah" about you would not be pulling any of this nonsense. If you want to try one more time, go for it. Otherwise, soft next. Game other women and live your life. | /r/askTRP | 20/03/18 07:01 PM |
| 4 | Right, I'm finally willing to go all in with the gym. I want to put on as much weight as I can, as fast as I can.You know you messed up and you owned it. Now it's time to move on to the harder part: actually improving yourself. If you want to bulk up, going to the gym is half the battle. The other half is proper dieting. I didn't catch on to that for a very long time so even though I was going regularly, I was getting nothing out of it because my diet was terrible. I've swapped it up and I've gained roughly 20 lbs in the past few months. I would start with this 5x5 program in the beginning and go from ther… | /r/askTRP | 20/03/18 06:19 PM |
| 1 | Fuck catching feelings, help?Sucks to hear about all that, glad you are okay. Sounds like that girl wasn’t worth your time. Move on, game other girls, take up hobbies and try to excel at stuff so you can set yourself for as much success as possible in life. Most importantly, do what makes you happy Good luck! If you haven’t already, read the sidebars. | /r/askTRP | 19/03/18 08:45 PM |
| 7 | Anxious about my size: What sort of girth is mean't when girls say "pencil dick"?Girls like to talk a big game but at the end of a day, when a girl is into you, none of this stuff matters. You could have a 2 inch dick, but if she’s “fuck yeah” about you she will not give two shits. No need to worry about it. If certain girls don’t like it that’s their problem, not yours. | /r/askTRP | 17/03/18 02:19 PM |
| 3 | Question for a friendYou are best off just to move on. Don’t say “I didn’t find you attractive”, that’s pure butt hurt. Here’s how I would play it: “This is 2018. I thought women wanted to be equal to men?” Or just ignore it. Either way, don’t say “I didn’t find you attractive” | /r/askTRP | 17/03/18 02:16 PM |
| 2 | On the path of renewal. Advise me on my current outlook.All of this looks good. I'd add two things: 1) Don't forget to lift early and lift often. 2) When you make a mistake, own up to it and learn from it | /r/askTRP | 16/03/18 08:38 PM |
| 2 | Ex has new boyfriendYou screwed up and you know it. If you have the temptation to keep looking at it, either block her profile or stop going on Reddit. Why do you care whether she "upgraded" or not? Your relationship is done, time to move on. Live your life and let her live her life. If it bothers you that much, start going to the gym. Even if it doesn't, go to the gym and start lifting. | /r/askTRP | 16/03/18 08:06 PM |
| 16 | Common Tinder shittest I’ve gotten recently"What are you going to do about it?" | /r/askTRP | 16/03/18 07:32 PM |
| 7 | I'm not sure if I'm doing something terribly wrong or if the girls are straight up being weird. Help me!As you mentioned, the dating world is a numbers game, and not everything is going to go your way. If something doesn't work out, there's no need to get worked up over it. You already know this though so now I will give you some actual advice: 1) Saying, "'if the chemistry is right, we'll head to my place to watch a movie" is WAY too direct and is a mood killer for a lot of girls. Go on the date, ask her at the end "what are you up to now?", if they have nothing going on, say, "I was just going t… | /r/askTRP | 16/03/18 07:02 PM |
| 3 | Help Scheduling A Tinder DateNot rescheduling after bailing 9.8/10 times means that they are not interested. You're best off just moving on from this one. BUT, if you don't give a shit about whether she sees you as too needy, by all means ask about Saturday. Or, you can ask about next weekend, but I give it a %0.00001 percent chance that you will actually get to meet up with her then. Your only other real play is this: "That sounds fun. Are you all going out to the bars for it?" If "yes", try to get you and your friends to … | /r/askTRP | 15/03/18 09:22 PM |
| 13 | Does completely ignoring someone if they rejected you count as part of RedPill?Ignoring a girl so that you can move on with your life and get better is very RP. Ignoring a girl because you are pissed things didn't go your way and want to get back at her is NOT RP. I understand that it's easy to get a kick out of someone else seeming miserable, especially one that it appears you really liked. But to me, this comes across as pure butthurt and makes you seem way too emotionally invested in whatever the fuck your dynamic was with her. Also, never shit where you eat. I learned … | /r/askTRP | 15/03/18 05:17 PM |
| 4 | Setting up a date one week in advance...What is important to remember is that for the most part, men are logical and women are emotional. From a logical perspective, you are doing NOTHING wrong. This is exactly how a mature, rational person would handle the dating situation. Sadly, a lot of younger women do not operate this way. I will also add that the vast majority of women are on Tinder for ego boosts, NOT actual dating. In some cases, it doesn't matter what you do, they WILL FLAKE. It's all about sorting out the wheat from the cha… | /r/askTRP | 15/03/18 04:09 PM |
| 4 | I keep messing up my chances with women by being a nice guy. Really need help on how to change?That's the spirit! Patience is key. Results will come over time. | /r/askTRP | 15/03/18 02:18 PM |
| 10 | Are girls actually as repulsed by signs of anxiety as I think they are?A lot of girls think it is cute when a guy they are attracted to seems nervous around them and is constantly stumbling upon his words. It makes you look more human to them. That said, do NOT under any circumstances outright tell them you have an anxiety disorder or reveal mental health vulnerability. Unless they are really into you, they will be very off put by it. You would be surprised at how unsympathetic girls are to guys with mental health problems. | /r/askTRP | 15/03/18 02:16 PM |
| 9 | I keep messing up my chances with women by being a nice guy. Really need help on how to change?It happens, give it some time and focus on other things. Another girl will come along and you will forget about that one. The most important thing is to learn something from all of it. | /r/askTRP | 15/03/18 02:12 PM |
| 3 | Girl I know starting to act a lot more socially anxious around me these days. Sign of attraction?It's one of two things: 1) What you mentioned: She is becoming attracted to you 2) She gets nervous around other guys now that she is in an LTR and doesn't want to do anything to upset him. The only way to truly find out is to ask her out and escalate or wait until they break up to make your move. That, or try to get some intel from one of her friends. | /r/askTRP | 15/03/18 02:09 PM |
| 47 | I keep messing up my chances with women by being a nice guy. Really need help on how to change?Go to the gym a lot. That way, you get bigger and more attractive, so you can get away with making more mistakes when talking to a girl. It will also boost your confidence in general. Usually this type of behavior you're describing flares up because of A) Scarcity mentality - You don't have a lot of prospects or plates so when one rolls around you put them on a pedestal and start freaking out. And/or B) Not being fully comfortable in your own skin, thus looking for other women for happiness/vali… | /r/askTRP | 15/03/18 01:57 PM |
| 41 | Is It Beta to Tell Her A Girl You Miss HerInstead of saying "I missed you" you should jokingly say "did you miss me?" when you haven't seen them in a while. It makes you seem less needy and more lighthearted. | /r/askTRP | 14/03/18 09:56 PM |
| 34 | What goes on in the female mind during no contact?They might miss some of your attention in the beginning, but they get over this stuff quickly. The reality is that most semi-attractive girls have 4-5 guys hitting them up on a regular basis, so it's normally a lot easier for them to move on from someone. Unless they perceive you as really high SMV, you're a celebrity or you were really special to them, it won't make much of a difference in their life. Though as you are aware, the point of non contact isn't to try and win them back or rattle the… | /r/askTRP | 14/03/18 07:44 PM |
| 2 | When you hear men complain and become easily frustrated and angered would you consider this a beta move?I’d say yes. BUT, even if you don’t consider it beta, it’s a telltale sign they: A) Have bad frame And/ Or B) Have scarcity mentality and don’t get around very much Life in the dating world isn’t always going to go our way. The less we get worked up about it, the easier it is to move on, game other women and get laid. | /r/askTRP | 13/03/18 03:44 AM |
| 3 | What is the smart way to eliminate approach-anxiety?I would add that while practice makes perfect, surrounding yourself with good people is key. If you have friends with high SMV and you know are liked by everyone, it in turn boosts your confidence when approaching. That's because you got a group who can either talk you up or help you laugh it off when you get rejected. It makes everything more lighthearted. Put simply: You put yourself into as many social situations as possible (bars, volunteering etc.) > the better your social skills get > The … | /r/askTRP | 12/03/18 08:51 PM |
| 12 | For those of you into the rural lifestyle, do you find it harder to women?You're making the mistake of basing your decisions off of where your best odds of dating are. You are responsible for your own happiness, not other people. If you want to live in the mountains and you have the financial means to do so, just do it. If the dating thing ends up being too big of a problem and prevents you from being happy, move back to the city. | /r/askTRP | 08/03/18 04:28 PM |
| 1 | To fap or not to fapI did debate in high school too and I met a shitload of people through it. If you are good at debate that’s a double bonus because people will be more drawn to you. In fact, I met my first ever LTR through it and got hookups in college from it strictly because they remembered who I was. Keep at debate, it is a great start. In the summer there are debate camps and stuff too I highly recommend you look into that. Very easy way to meet other debaters across the country Though if you’re not willing … | /r/askTRP | 07/03/18 02:19 AM |
| 2 | (Tinder) - Was this a bot or did I go full retard?Next time you think it's a bot don't accuse them outright. Most bots are programmed to deny that they are a bot anyway. Just start asking random questions and if their responses make no sense then you know what's going on. That was painful to look through... | /r/askTRP | 06/03/18 11:08 PM |
| 3 | Got stoodup on a date over a jokeYeah I'd just say, "I'm free tomorrow night, come to my place and we can talk then". If she declines and doesn't reschedule then move on. | /r/askTRP | 06/03/18 10:56 PM |
| 1 | To fap or not to fapIt never hurts to go lift and get better clothes, I strongly encourage that. Generally speaking for your case I would add two things: 1) Building good frame normally requires interacting with a lot of people. Throw yourself into as many different social situations as possible. 2) Limit the amount of fapping you do to 1-2 times a week so that you have more incentive to at the very least talk to girls. You will be more confident in these situations as a result. | /r/askTRP | 06/03/18 10:53 PM |
| 5 | Got stoodup on a date over a jokeNo use in overthinking why she stood you up. If she gives you a time you can reschedule to then take it. If she bails the next time or doesn't give you a time where she is available, then NEXT. | /r/askTRP | 06/03/18 10:41 PM |
| 5 | To fap or not to fapIf you're in monk mode and not getting laid, then fapping maybe 1-2 times a week is alright, but don't overdo it. If you do fap, avoid porn because it sets up ridiculous expectations. I would also say that you should only fap if you know you don't have to deal with a lot of people over the course of the next few days. From what I hear (could very well just be placebo or junk science), fapping releases a lot of dopamine. So even though you feel great for the first few hours afterwards, it'll make… | /r/askTRP | 06/03/18 10:34 PM |
| 5 | High schooler with oneitis looking to for advice1) Join extracurricular activities where you interact more with people outside of your school. Debate, Mock Trial, Tennis, Basketball, Football, Church groups, ANYTHING. You need to remind yourself as much as possible that there are more people in life than the ones in your high school. 2) Keep yourself busy. If you are busy watching movies with friends, playing sports, lifting or whatever you won't even have time to have them live in your head rent free. Next time you're in that class, pay very… | /r/askTRP | 02/03/18 08:26 PM |
| 10 | It's either you like her, or she likes you.This is pretty common I would say among LTRs. We want what we can't have, and the less available people seem to us, the more we want them. When both the guy and the girl genuinely believe that they cannot do any better, that's when you see mutual happiness in an LTR. This happened with one of my LTRs for a period of time, but I got too beta/needy/weird and ruined it. It also happened in the earlier stages for another LTR of mine, except I eventually started to realize she was insane. Overall tho… | /r/askTRP | 02/03/18 08:13 PM |
| 4 | I was beta. Should I ignore a girl?It seems like you already know this, but you can pack your bags and move on from this one. It is OVER. If you see her often and don't want it to be awkward when you see her in person, just reply with "I've just been busy lately, when I'm free to chat I will let you know." Leave it at that. Do not let her know. If you could care less about everything and don't see her regularly, just keep ignoring her. The key is to not show butt hurt on the surface while not giving her validation in practice. | /r/askTRP | 27/02/18 11:18 PM |
| 1 | Having issues forgetting my ex...Thinking about an ex is certainly a natural thing to happen, and everyone operates differently in how long it takes for them to get over something. If you haven't done any of this already, I would do the following: 1) Write out a list of all of the bad things they did to you 2) Block her or unfollow her on ALL (and I mean ALL) social media 3) Find a mission or hobby that you really enjoy and make that the main thing you are constantly thinking about. Any time she pops into your head, reprogram y… | /r/askTRP | 26/02/18 05:20 PM |
| 11 | 90% of girls flake when I ask to grab drinks on tinder.A lot of girls on Tinder are just on it for validation/ego boost so regardless of what you do they're going to flake or ghost the minute you try to set up plans. There's nothing you can do except be a famous person or model to change that. One potential strategy though for those that are actually game to meet up with guys is to try getting their number or Snapchat before setting up plans. One of my friends within 5-7 messages always says "my Tinder messes up a lot so just text me at [insert numb… | /r/askTRP | 21/02/18 09:51 PM |
| 9 | Can you be friends with girls?There are only three scenarios where you can be friends with girls: You are with someone you perceive to be of higher value than them You are not attracted to them You are gay | /r/askTRP | 20/02/18 09:40 PM |
| 4 | How did I handle my old Oneitis?She's already turned down your advances twice and wanted you to grab dinner with her family. That is a telltale sign she is not attracted to you but likes your company enough to have you around as an orbiter. I would ghost personally. If she messages you to chill you're okay with seeing her and NOT having sex, by all means spend time with her. Otherwise, pretend to be busy and next her. | /r/askTRP | 19/02/18 10:38 PM |
| 8 | Inexperienced (possibly virgin) prospect. How to proceed?I'd give this one last shot, especially if she explicitly said she's ready. Try setting something up and escalating. If she bails on either hanging out (and doesn't reschedule) or on the sex then NEXT. If she bails this next time I would take it as a case where she is just bread crumbing you and wants your attention. Ain't nobody got time for that nonsense. | /r/askTRP | 19/02/18 07:47 PM |
| 1 | Over invested in a girlYou're putting in way too much time and not getting anything good in return. Soft next is correct. | /r/askTRP | 16/02/18 07:29 PM |
| 1 | Feeling TenseIf you have the money, I recommend one of a massage, physical therapy or maybe even seeing a chiropractor. A lot of this could just be bodily function problems that are difficult to control unless you seek help. If you'd rather not spend the money, try getting into the habit of sitting in positions that make you uncomfortable for prolonged periods of time until it starts becoming normal. This however is tough and takes a lot of time. | /r/askTRP | 16/02/18 06:06 PM |
| 2 | How to handle people giving you shit for fucking something up?Laugh along with them. People only give you shit if they think it is getting to you. Laugh along, and if someone gives you crap about it and you remember a time where they messed up, bring that up as well to try to deflect. | /r/askTRP | 16/02/18 05:37 PM |
| 1 | Depictions of RP Truths in Popular MediaBarney Stinson from How I Met Your Mother is for the most part RP | /r/askTRP | 16/02/18 05:35 PM |
| 3 | Critique this approach - what could I have done betterIf you don't get a chance to isolate you're not going to get anywhere. It sounds like they were pretty protective of her. The only real advice I have for the situation is to be friendly to her friends and make a stronger effort to get on their good side. By doing so, they may be more inclined to let her be isolated with you. However, all in all, there's no point in overthinking this. She could've said this because HB7 needed the charger that night or she was not interested. If you have no other … | /r/askTRP | 16/02/18 02:46 PM |
| 1 | Where to meet girls now it has become almost impossible to get anywhere in clubs?I'd play a song they recognized, they would get really excited. They would then start talking to me and hitting on me. If they didn't know how to play I'd teach them some easy songs and kino. If they did then we would teach each other songs and kino. Then I'd either number close or bring them back to my place. Not a whole lot else to it. | /r/askTRP | 14/02/18 05:13 PM |
| 1 | What are you alpha tunes that get you pumped for the gym or before a night out?West coast classics all day, everyday. My favorites include: Hypnotize - Notorious BIG California Love - 2Pac The Next Episode - Snoop Dogg + Dr. Dre Straight Outta Compton - NWA | /r/askTRP | 14/02/18 05:10 PM |
| 4 | Social Media Advice?I don't have Insta, but on my Facebook I generally do alright w/ profile and cover photos (120 + likes on each) these days. Here are the things I noticed do well and things that don't: Good profile pictures + posts: Done with a professional camera Suit up! Have some kind of accomplishment being showcased in it (trophies, famous person etc.) Having attractive people surrounding you Photo with significant other and funny caption Bad profile pictures + posts: Blurry camera photos Bad quality selfie… | /r/askTRP | 14/02/18 04:53 PM |
| 5 | Is it too soon to hit her up?Next time you plan on going out to the bars or drinking/partying, hit her up relatively early in the evening asking what she's up to that night. Get her either to meet up at the pregame or at the bars. If she agrees to meet, escalate when you see her. Try to seal the deal as the night goes on. If she bails or is busy, see if she tries to reschedule because that's usually a good sign. If she doesn't, ask her what she's doing on X day (whichever one you're free) and invite her to do whatever you f… | /r/askTRP | 14/02/18 04:30 PM |
| 1 | Don't know how to proceed.She just wants attention, she doesn't want your dick. Maybe she just hates the thought of you with someone new. Means she won't get as much of your attention. | /r/askTRP | 14/02/18 04:17 PM |
| 3 | staying yourself and still getting laid?Don't drop your hobbies. Try to attend events related to video games and anime where meeting people is more common. Also surround yourself with good people who can help you get laid or can connect you with girls to game. | /r/askTRP | 14/02/18 03:58 PM |
| 1 | Says she had a bf but would love to be friendshttps://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/7vz4cj/i_really_want_to_be_friends_but_its_selfish_to/ | /r/askTRP | 14/02/18 03:32 PM |
| 2 | Tinder date wouldn't meet me at the bar, wants to meet sober?Don't worry about what she's thinking or what she means by it. Overthinking ruins everything. What do YOU want to do? Do YOU meet up with her sober? If so, set up something with her sober. You'll get a better idea of what she thinks of you when you meet up with her then. If she bails on that, if you don't want to meet sober or if you don't connect then NEXT. You messed up on the bar thing but you've got at least a chance to connect and escalate with her. Don't fuck it up this time. | /r/askTRP | 14/02/18 03:10 PM |
| 1 | Advice after end of LTRYou’re putting way too much stock into girls being your source of happiness. Remember: YOU are responsible for YOUR happiness. Stop being so dependent on others, go out there and do things you are passionate about. Unfollow your ex (don’t block or delete them just have it so they don’t show up on your newsfeed), delete her number and focus on yourself. If you need hobbies, I highly suggest learning piano and going to the gym. If you go out a lot, don’t focus on getting laid, focus on having good… | /r/askTRP | 14/02/18 06:25 AM |
| 6 | Best Response/Comeback For When A Girl Calls You Sexist?I would ignore her comment, ask “well can you cook?” And if she says “yes” try to set up a date/hook up opportunity where she cooks for you. If she says “no” , jokingly ask, “so how do you know most girls aren’t bad cooks?” OR if you can cook ask “well how about I teach you how” or something like that. You can think of one liners all you want but the key is to follow ABE: Always. Be. Escalating. | /r/askTRP | 14/02/18 06:15 AM |
| 1 | Where to meet girls now it has become almost impossible to get anywhere in clubs?There were pianos outside and one at a bar in my city. When I would play both outside and at the bar I’d regularly game 2-3 girls a week and have sex at least once a week if not more. I’d always get positive receptions from girls regardless of whether they played or wanted to fuck me or not. You don’t even need to play insanely difficult songs. If you learn easy riffs to recognizable tunes (All of Me, Viva La Vida and Not Over You by Gavin DeGraw all come to mind) you will get so much positive a… | /r/askTRP | 14/02/18 05:50 AM |
| 7 | Met 22yo 6.5/10 virgin girl at Club, took her virginity. Trying to stay ice-cold to avoid ONEITIS. How do I deal with her falling in love with me?I'd take one of three approaches if you're not interested in an LTR: 1) Keep doing what you're doing. Don't discuss relationships or go on dates and just keep the sex train rolling. 2) Make it clear she's a plate and that it's never going to be more than that. If she's okay with that keep spinning it and if she's not move on 3) Start pretend fawning all over her and confessing your love in hopes that it turns her off. Women hate needy/clingy guys and you are not being one at this point, which mi… | /r/askTRP | 13/02/18 11:41 PM |
| 1 | GF wants to watch 5o shades for Valentine'sMight as well watch it, but I'd give her shit for wanting to watch it, and make jokes throughout. I don't think it'll raise stupid expectations, she knows it's a fictitious movie. Escalate during (if you're comfortable showing PDA in a theater) or after the movie when you both go home. | /r/askTRP | 13/02/18 10:52 PM |
| 7 | Where to meet girls now it has become almost impossible to get anywhere in clubs?The key is to surround yourself with good people and work on things you're passionate about. It sounds like you are overthinking everything. Do you have a bunch of friends (male or female) that you can hit up the clubs or bars with? If you're just going to places stag, that creates all kinds of problems because you don't have others who can validate that you're a cool guy. Branch out your social network as much as possible: go to networking events, social events, hit up old friends to hang out e… | /r/askTRP | 13/02/18 10:40 PM |
| 3 | Movie on a "Date"I'd go with "The Conjuring" personally. | /r/askTRP | 13/02/18 10:14 PM |
| 3 | I couldn't escalateFrom what I gauge it sounds like she just saw you as an orbiter and wasn't interested in having sex with you in the first place. BUT bro, she was sitting next to you on the sofa and you didn't escalate there? You dun messed up ANY chance when you failed to act there. Right off the bat when a girl is in an LDR you are playing with the deck stacked against you. You have to be calm move fast. The SECOND you give her a chance to reconsider everything, it's over. The moment she decided to sit in the … | /r/askTRP | 13/02/18 09:51 PM |
| 46 | Says she had a bf but would love to be friendsI really like Fnordsnord's approach on all of this: Text her saying "Sure, let's be friends" or "Sounds good" And then don't be friends. Activate ghost protocol, or be be busy any time she hits you up. Do not go into her orbit, live your life as you already do and game other girls instead. If she breaks up with her bf and wants more in the future, she will msg you. No need to chase. | /r/askTRP | 13/02/18 08:29 PM |
| 3 | Does deep conversation kill attraction?If she is the one asking you those questions then I would say either be passionate or be funny. But if you're going to answer the questions intellectually and you're not passionate about the subject, don't engage from a serious standpoint. If you can be both of these (passionate and funny) you're golden. | /r/askTRP | 13/02/18 08:24 PM |
| 4 | Does deep conversation kill attraction?Gauge how much substance you think the girl has and go from there. If you ask deep questions to a girl and she's giving you short replies or seems uninterested, change the subject to something more playful. Otherwise, keep it going but make sure that she is doing most of the talking. The more she talks, the more mysterious you are and the better it is. Bonus points if you ask her deep questions they never thought about. Girls I get with love it when I ask them hardball questions. If you do find … | /r/askTRP | 13/02/18 07:57 PM |
| 4 | When you first start out, how do you overcome your blue pill hardwiring?Experience and repetition. The more you find yourself getting rejected/dealing with people, the more you can weed out some of the BP hardwiring in your head and correct that going forward. If you are sitting around thinking of ways to become RP, you won't change any of your habits. Act first, think later. | /r/askTRP | 08/02/18 10:08 PM |
| 1 | Tinder Convo: Where did I go wrong?Given her response of "I would show you if I could but I can't so that sucks for you", it sounds like she was just using the app for fun/an ego boost and it would not have really mattered what you said at that point. It happens and given that you weren't planning on going over there it's not a big deal. Only two things I'd suggest are as follows: After "but it's the best tho" saying "prove it" instead of "mhm I'm sure" After she said " I would show you if I could but I can't so that sucks for yo… | /r/askTRP | 08/02/18 09:27 PM |
| 2 | Are the red and blue pill making over generalizations about male and female sexuality?I just joined Reddit about a week ago. Is it possible you are thinking of someone else? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/17 06:17 PM |
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