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Germany as well. Including a new "protection against violence" law that defines both gender-based and domestic violence as something done against "women and their children". By then defining victims of domestic and gender-based violence as those who have a right to support and treatment, it excludes men, children not living with their mothers, and those not identifying as women from this right. The law was also changed from a more gender-neutral approach basically last minute, strongly supported…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/01/26 01:23 PM
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Why am I not surprised... sigh, disappointed, but not surprised.
/r/EverydayMisandry13/09/25 10:42 AM
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This always makes me wonder whether they'd grant the same leniency to men who have trauma related to women. (Alright, who am I kidding, people with this kind of opinion quite likely won't.) As someone with genuine, diagnosed PTBS triggered by the presence of women, I feel like I'm expected to work on it and "get over it" as some kind of bare minimum, instead of blaming an entire gender for a few bad and harmful ones. And don't get me wrong, I am actively working on confronting and overcoming tha…
/r/EverydayMisandry13/09/25 06:10 AM
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And yet, here in Germany, most parties just voted to change an upcoming gender-neutral "Protection Against Violence Act" into one that's only and explicitly aimed at women. Some parties abstained from voting, but apparently, not a single person voted against this. I thought things were looking better for a while, but there is still so much political effort being expended to suppress the idea that men can also be victims in any way. Elections are coming up and I'm just frustrated.
/r/EverydayMisandry15/02/25 08:48 AM
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Scholarships and student teacher jobs too, at least that's what I experienced at my university. Stuff like an already ~75% female field only having scholarships for women, or male students getting different (and discouraging) application sheets for academic jobs than female students.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/02/25 07:11 AM
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Bisexual trans guy here, and I'm in the same situation. The LGBT community and local trans groups even feel like the least supportive spaces I've been in, and they were the only ones to outright tell me that any problems I have are my own fault.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates10/01/25 07:14 AM
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At university, studying a field with an overwhelming majority of female students. There were still only scholarships for women, and professors could openly advertise that they preferred to hire female student assistants. When I applied for one of those positions, the application documents I got actually contained a part about this "preferential hiring of women" that was not present in the papers the female applicants received (the professor probably didn't know that I was on friendly terms with …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/10/24 06:03 PM
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My husband told me about having one of those back in the 1990s, so it's not even a new phenomenon.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/10/24 05:28 PM
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My spouse told me that back in his school days, girls got top grades in sports for basically showing up while the boys, even those who already played multiple sports, barely ever got a good grade. Seems that was more widespread than we thought.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/06/23 06:08 PM
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The not-so-subtle bias is one of the reasons why I'm getting less and less motivated to finish my degree. Lecturers randomly bringing up the "patriarchy", wearing shirts or carrying items with feminist slogans scholarships and special events only for women, in a field that is already predominantly (professors) to overwhelmingly (students) female classes in "feminist linguistics" and similar stuff trying to apply as a student teacher and getting back an application with a bolded, obviously copy-p…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/06/23 06:42 AM
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Same here. I'm frustrated with the prevalent attitude that if you care about male advocacy, you must hate women and generally be a horrible person. And even many spaces ostensibly designed to talk about men's issues end up centering on women's issues instead or putting the blame on men for their own problems - something that happens to me often enough in real life that I don't need it on the internet, too. It's refreshing to have a place like this.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/06/23 06:53 AM
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If this is the same Massachussetts study, this one doesn't seem to be reliable or even designed to address the topic of granted custody requests in the first place: A common misperception is that fathers are granted sole or joint physical custody 70% of the time when they request it. The Ann Landers column responded to one father, "you are wrong when you say fathers have difficulty gaining custody. Recent studies have found that fathers who fight for custody win sole or at least joint custody in…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/06/23 06:34 AM
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Married to a man and happy that way. Okay, not really happy that it still doesn't feel safe to hold hands in public and he has to lie about his "wife" at work, sigh... but our daily life feels pretty chill and that's how I like it. I could have ended up marrying a woman, and I don't know whether things would have been different - I don't think I'd be with someone who has completely different interests and an incompatible outlook on how a relationship has to work, but it's all speculation.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates10/05/23 09:39 AM
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As someone who lived as a girl/woman for 30 years, it also baffles me how young women nowadays feel like things are so much more dangerous. But then I look at the internet and what they are told by the media and (mostly) other women, and it seems almost like young girls and women nowadays are given some sort of reverse cognitive behavioural therapy. Instead of combatting cognitive distortions to overcome trauma, they are introduced and reinforced, and sometimes it almost feels like they're gener…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/05/23 06:27 AM
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I ended up getting help from the campus family office which contacted one of the uni's daycares, but the whole project was a weird exercise in prejudice. First, the professor invited some researchers of child-directed speech to give a presentation, and they ended up referring to mothers as mommies ("Mamis") the entire time while talking about fathers only as... well, fathers ("Väter"). No "mothers", no "daddies". Kinda felt like they had a bias from the start, and that didn't exactly make their …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/05/23 08:27 AM
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Wow, that's so frustrating. I saw further below that you didn't stay in the field, and I don't fault you for that given the circumstances. I hate how prejudice keeps genuinely caring men out of the childcare field or drives them away. Kind of reminds me a bit of a research project we had to do at uni. Since it was about child-directed speech, we had to find a child below 3 to talk to, but some of us didn't have children that age in their family. So the (female) professor casually stated that we …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/05/23 07:36 AM
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Yeah, that sadly matches what I heard here in Germany. A kindergarten teacher told me that she'd had a few male colleagues over the years, but every time without fail, parents (she actually said "mothers") started to hint and complain that they were "uncomfortable" with them being there, and that led to the men feeling uncomfortable in their job as well. All of them quit very quickly. Maybe we need to look at the perception of men and fathers in regard to children in society as a whole. If attit…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/05/23 08:53 AM
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Okay, that's a funny coincidence. I only lived there for half a year (exchange semester), so I didn't have as much opportunity to experience all sides of the culture, but even a lot of young classmates seemed to have really traditional mindsets. For example, I remember talking about dating culture in one of my classes, and the female Japanese students were very insistent that men had to pay and that they would judge the hell out of one who didn't. A male classmate told me in secret that boys als…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/05/23 08:22 AM
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That reminds me of some research I did on mental health stigma in Japan. It's probably not very different in other countries, but that's the one where I saw some actual studies. In addition to (and probably also because of) their smaller social circle, men tended to be among those groups who were most likely to have "empty toolboxes" when it came to managing mental health struggles.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/05/23 05:03 PM
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I totally get the ADHD thing (got diagnosed last autumn, and it explains so much). Actually, I'm supposed to make an appointment to discuss medication, but instead, I'm doom-scrolling all day and feeling bored and frustrated at the same time. At least I'm starting to get my housework sorted out - still at a slower pace than I'd like, but seeing those tidy spice shelves feels so satisfying.
/r/MenSupportMen05/05/23 10:17 PM
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That makes a lot of sense. Since they're a charity, they rely on founding and donations from outside, so they'll obviously want to present their cause as important and widespread to warrant support. I can somewhat understand that, and I believe that most of their causes are genuine and reasonable. But they start losing me when it comes to those vague definitions and including a lot of other, often unrelated issues under the topic of (anti)feminism. If they count anti-LGBT sentiments, criticism o…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/05/23 01:28 PM
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Thank you for digging this up, for some reason I couldn't find this at all. It does sound less concerning than what Dr. Harry stated, so whatever he heard may have been exaggerated or distorted. Most of the points they list as "antifeminist incidents" also seem to be actual harassment, open threats etc., and I agree that those things should warrant a closer look. A few points are a bit vague and have potential to be overgeneralised, though - I wonder how others feel about them, maybe I'm just ov…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/05/23 12:36 PM
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A lot of good and interesting points, but there was one thing I found pretty concerning: We have this, is, I just found out that in Germany they’ve got this new situation where if people criticize gender studies or feminism, they can be, there’s a hotline they can be reported to, so there’s things that if you feel very strongly, no matter how strongly about a particular thing, you can’t talk about it because you get, if you’re in Germany, you can get reported to the hotline, and socially it’s th…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/05/23 08:17 AM
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Thank you. Unfortunately, this kind of worldview is already seeping into some LGBT spaces and creating its own problems. After reading this article, I think I am beginning to understand a bit how it happens, but I still find it concerning. I told my story on here before, but I've heard the kind of anti-male rhetoric the author mentioned in the local support groups I visited, and it kept getting worse. There was a general lack of additional support for trans men to begin with, as people seemed to…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/04/23 09:19 AM
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I was curious and found a study from 2019 where about 23% identify as feminists, so that might be it? At the same time, one third of respondents (more than the global average) believed in the gender pay gap as the worst issue women face, and 59% insisted it was men's responsibility to support women's rights. Maybe it's a case of a very vocal minority, or maybe the percentage is higher in those positions that can influence public perception (e.g. media or academia). Public discourse and political…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/04/23 11:56 AM
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Bonjour voisin. In Germany, it feels the same, especially in academia. And in politics... well, there was even a case of the Green party photoshopping all male party members, including minority men, out of a picture to emphasise them being majority female and some of said men defending this. And don't get me started on the whole debate about gendering language, even linguists now suddenly think that prescriptivism is a good thing (but only if it's prescriptivism they like, the rest is still icky…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/04/23 08:06 AM
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Oh, so it is about Fortnite-the-shooter, then? Since we were talking specifically about mental health-related advertisements and the other poster (mis?)typed it as Fornite, I thought it was most likely not about the shooter and they were referring to some sort of mental health service I'd never heard of. I was so confused when nothing came up on Google, so I thought I should ask for clarification... but it looks like I simply misinterpreted what the comment was about.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/03/23 02:14 PM
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Genuine question, what is Fornite? I've never heard about it and googling (even put into quotes) only gives me Fortnite results. Maybe it's regional or US only? But if there are ads out there that include all types of people, that's definitely nice to hear.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/03/23 05:22 AM
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Same here, sadly. I was very active in trans and LGBT advocacy for a while until even my local, non-US groups started leaning more and more into the "men bad, cis bad" attitude that I had thought only existed in some radical spaces online. I felt like I wasn't welcome in my own space anymore and eventually quietly left. Before that, I'd always felt that the LGBT community was one of the most open-minded ones that allowed people to unabashedly be themselves, no matter whether or not they fit into…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/03/23 12:28 AM
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I'm sorry for some of the responses you received, and I hope you'll still see my message. I've made similar experiences when it came to general positivity images online, the kind you'd see on self-help or mental health advocacy blogs. They almost exclusively feature women, the art style tends to be cutesy, suggestions are the same you mentioned (to be fair, I've seen a lot of mentions of exercise, but it tends to be stretching, going for walks, yoga/pilates etc.). Just like you, I don't think an…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/03/23 11:52 PM
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I've made similar experiences, especially when it comes to being explicit. And in decades of pen-and-paper roleplaying, the most aggressive and/or horniest characters I encountered were almost always played by women. Not that there's anything wrong with playing such a character, and I personally wouldn't make a negative judgment about their players (caveat: if the player knowingly makes others uncomfortable and refuses to turn it down, that's a different topic). But I keep seeing complaints that…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/03/23 10:15 AM
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Its so hypocritical because I know for a fact that women are just as pervy as men are, yet for some reason they are allowed to be like that and men aren't. True, just look at sports or band fans... Even in unexpected places like the Sumo fandom. I've started taking screenshots because I'm constantly baffled by what female fans get away with and are even applauded for. Talks of "supple manflesh", rating their asses in live chat with everyone cheering on, there's even a fan artist turning the banz…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/03/23 09:54 AM
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I was also thinking about that. My partner and I are both men, and while our apartment is reasonably clean, there are a few things that only get done occasionally. It's clearly not up to my mum's strict standards, although ironically enough, she never taught me how to clean when I was younger. She just kept yelling at me and throwing everything to the ground, which was... not helpful. In the end, it was my (again, male!) partner who taught me to clean and cook, and at the moment I'm mainly a hou…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates26/02/23 02:09 AM
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For me, it really began when I transitioned from female to male several years ago. Having been born in the 1980s and grown up as a girl, I still never felt like I was inherently disadvantaged or couldn't be anything I wanted to be. I collected toy cars, played soccer, and discussed Star Trek with female classmates, and the only instance of open sexism I encountered was a physics teacher asking why there were so many girls in his class. Well, many of them went on to pick STEM advanced courses in …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/02/23 04:06 AM
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I’ve literally seen comments directly saying that autistic men need to self-educate themselves on being a decent person PINNED on feminist-themed Instagram posts. As a fellow autistic man, this is also bothering me to no end. I saw a similar comment when quite a while ago, someone recommended the Menslib sub and I went to check it out. The first post I saw was by an autistic man who was worried that he would unknowingly commit microaggressions. He explained that he was trying very hard to adhere…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/01/23 08:20 AM
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Exactly, and that part is definitely something that affects my mental health and that of some other men I know. I believe that people should be cautious about generalising whole groups, and I speak up when someone negatively generalises all women, members of minority groups, orientations etc., but somehow, the same courtesy often isn't extended to men. At worst someone will go "ugh, #notallmen" and accuse the person of sexism merely for pointing out that many men wouldn't think or act in a certa…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/01/23 12:53 AM
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I'm only 15 minutes in, but there are already some points that made me think. One is the idea that men's problems are self-inflicted (while women's problems are often seen as societal or at least inflicted by an outside source) and the discussion about male suicides. As someone who lost his father to this and who has literally been told that "if you have problems, they are your own fault", this hit very close to home. I like how he mentioned that men and women might respond differently to psycho…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/01/23 12:38 PM
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The same happened at my university. There are a few men's bathrooms left, but many of them - especially those in convenient locations - were converted to gender-neutral ones, while women's bathrooms were left untouched. I generally think having some gender-neutral bathrooms is a good idea. But now there's the issue that some women will opt for gender-neutral bathrooms but still feel uncomfortable with men being in "their space", using the urinals that are still there, etc. So men's bathrooms hav…
/r/EverydayMisandry02/01/23 02:44 AM
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Thank you for your reply and, just as before, you don't have to apologise! I enjoyed reading your perspective, and there's no need to be hard on yourself for making a justified assumption. To be honest, I'm genuinely happy that you're asking for clarification. I've always been pretty candid when people had questions, but I've noticed that nowadays, a lot of them are too afraid to ask because they don't want to offend. And while I appreciate the sentiment, I see nothing wrong with genuine curiosi…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/12/22 12:19 PM
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No need to apologise, you didn't come across as anything but curious! And I see where you're coming from; looking back at it, my wording definitely isn't perfect (that's what I get for trying to write posts in English in a hurry, heh). What I was trying to express is less "stereotypical masculinity as a goal", and more like being a trans man whose self-expression and interests happen to fall more on the "stereotypically masculine" side. Years ago, this felt entirely different, and at least my lo…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/12/22 10:21 AM
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Exactly this. And I find it really frustrating - it feels hypocritical because it invalidates our identity as men under the guise of being open-minded, and it pushes both a "cis bad" and "men bad" rhetoric that I consider wrong and harmful.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/12/22 09:49 AM
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here it's no secret how in many leftist spaces masculinity is at worst outright demonized, and thus comes in transmasculinity as a 'soft' alternative to be fetishized and praised because at least it's not cis masculinity. which is 'toxic'. all i can now think about is... surely this is incredibly uncomfortable for trans men, to be fetishized for things like binders. I wouldn't say it's necessarily fetishised in general, but there is a certain subset of people that perpetuates the image of trans …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/12/22 02:10 AM
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Trans man here, and that is sadly my experience, too. Even in trans support groups, there were no resources for us at all since it was expected that we basically take testosterone and pass immediately. Apparently, passing always works perfectly and is the only struggle or insecurity we face - never mind that we're also trying to navigate a pretty tricky situation and deal with facets of our life that we haven't encountered before. I'll never forget the one meeting where a trans woman monopolised…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/12/22 01:07 AM
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