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16

Unbelievable. Good on ya both for getting out and for saying no
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/23 11:31 PM
7

So move on. She will NEVER admit she cheated or had a plan to get out. She absolutely DID, but she, like so many, can separate and rationalize it. You have the knowledge that you were depressed and she, despite reciting the vow, “for better or for worse” bailed when you were in the throes of worse. In 2 or 3 years you’ll be amazed at how much better off you are.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/23 02:48 PM
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You trusted a woman you loved and respected who didn’t love or respect you. Tough to hear, but true. Hang in there, brother. It gets better.
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/22 05:07 AM
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“The guy is a knobend. He totally used his position to take advantage, HR would have a field day. But what ahole starts hitting on a newly separated employee who is still living with her ex. An ex that you know pretty well. I have heard from other people since that he is a bit of a creep.” Plenty of assholes do this, all the time in every work setting. It’s happened to a lot of us. Some day you’ll want to thank him for getting her out of your life.
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/22 05:06 AM
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That’s no way to live Brother. Get out and get out fast.
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/22 12:33 PM
6

Oh so your wife works for the same principal minds me did. Sorry bro. You want to thrash him but someday you’ll want to thank him.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/22 11:44 PM
2

She’s right, brother.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/22 11:01 PM
7

All par for the course, my man. It happens, and it’ll happen again. Thousands, probably millions of us have been there. u/furiousmustache already said it all so well. I was with my woman a combined 25 years when it fell apart. When we hit what would have been 25th anniversary, the tsunami of mixed emotions was real. Reconnect, do therapy, walk- a lot. Read mindless fun books. Use the positive side of this forum. You’ll get there and we’ll get you.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/22 04:54 PM
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You are where I once was. In a few years you’ll be better than ever
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/22 10:39 PM
4

This is the answer. She’ll keep everything, including your name.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/22 10:25 PM
4

This. She isn’t your friend and no matter what the past was like, she will never be your friend again.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/22 12:59 PM
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We are. Most of us anyway. Especially if we work in a field that has been metoo’d to death. Overly cautious becomes a survival skill
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/22 11:23 AM
1

It is all based on my own similar experience and what worked for me. Your mileage may vary.
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/22 11:57 PM
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Simple answer- don't date. Don't go looking. Do therapy. Walk. Think. Keep building you. Be authentic and insist on authenticity. Do things that interest and inspire you. Identity why and how you are a people pleaser and develop your boundaries. When those things are done and you are ready and open to it, someone will show up on the scene and you will be strong yet soft, honest, and better off.
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/22 11:45 PM
12

Pay the ten bucks or whatever it is for the candles. Scrape up the hotel money. Make the trip for your kids.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/21 12:29 PM
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Jesus. Please get a therapist and work through this to see your own value and worth- and I don't mean financially. You allude to suicide and that is the most alarming part of all of this. Don't do it. All that would do is justify the insane selfishness of the cold hearted woman who instigated all of this, and destroy the life and well being of any children you have. Trust me I know- I contemplated the same thing. You are not this woman's new found and narcissistic view of you or the world. You a…
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/21 04:43 PM
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But it was an epic run on sentence.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/21 12:03 AM
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So sorry. Get help with this, fast. Get a therapist NOW to help you process it all and learn to adjust. Get healthy. Walk. A lot. Be able to be there and be a strong, caring, supportive presence for your daughter. That kid is gonna need you. She is more important right now than any hobby or anyone else. Do not date. At all. Focus on your mental and physical health and your child's well being. Lean on your friends, focus on your work, and seek the help of a professional counselor. You WILL get th…
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/21 02:24 AM
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Get a good lawyer and get out NOW.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/21 11:21 AM
7

Lean on your friends and family. Resume hobbies or take up new ones. Exercise daily. Get a therapist and dig in to who YOU are. Meditate or pray. Find work you enjoy. Be you my dude.
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/21 02:50 PM
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Good luck. I've (M51) contemplated dating but the large gut resulting from stress eating and drinking through a dead marriage and long divorce have me convinced I wouldn't do very well.
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/21 02:05 PM
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Good for you, brother!
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/21 09:34 PM
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