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Well if you don’t accept the brain science, there’s a difference in life experiences from a 20 year old and 35 year old, many of which allow someone to grow up, such as having life responsibilities outside of writing college papers.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 02:41 PM
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I don’t think so. I think there are women who are open to men who make less money and don’t see them as losers. They love them for who they are. And then you have women who want a men with drive and If the reason the man is poor or low income is because he’s not trying to achieve more, then some women won’t be attracted to that. For instance, I was poor growing up (annual $5k-$10k household income for five) and my mom worked hard to achieve more and now she’s middle class and I’m upper middle cl…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 08:35 PM
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I don’t care nor do I inquire about past relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 08:25 PM
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Communicating from the beginning so there’s no assumptions on my part has worked well for me. Others can choose not to communicate their expectations and hope for the best. It’s all good.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 03:40 PM
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“You should not need to communicate this?” /// Yes, if someone has been dating someone for a couple weeks or a month, for example, and they expect exclusivity, they should indeed communicate this, as clearly not everyone dates the same or has the same expectations. Simply communicating something so basic helps avoid potential issues. “Do you communicate that you don't like to be lied? Or that you don't like assholes ? Or that you don't like to be abused? It's common sense.” /// Your examples are…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 03:19 PM
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“I do care that he hides it from me and I see it as a lie if omission.” I find that if expectations are not set, some people will not see dating others and not mentioning it as lying by omission, because it hasn’t been confirmed as an expectation. It should be common sense that we all know that we’re expecting commitment even though exclusivity has not been discussed.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 02:56 PM
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Right. I find communication helps as well. Once I feel like I’d care if they’re seeing someone else, I have that talk, so that I don’t assume they know that I expect them to date me only.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 02:21 PM
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Do you communicate that you’re expecting exclusivity? That’s all I’m suggesting people do if they want to make sure they’re on the same page.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 08:18 AM
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About 6 out of 10 women usually or always have orgasms, so you have extremely good luck or technique. “A 2018 studyTrusted Source found that 86% of lesbian women said they usually or always orgasm during sex, compared to just 66% of bisexual women and 65% of heterosexual women.” Female orgasms: What you need to know
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 04:30 AM
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Nice. This sounds like the ideal way.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 09:44 PM
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“No, I don't but in general I don't have to because of the type of women I pursue. For my specific situation, I tend to only go for the introverted, reserved beauty types, and luckily for me, they tend to not have much sexual experience. My current and last relationships were both virgins.” Interesting. Personally, I find perceived or confirmed virgins, introverts, beauty types or not, it’s best to communicate all expectations including exclusivity. I would never assume because someone is a virg…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 06:01 PM
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Do you communicate this when dating someone or just hope they’re on the same page?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 03:02 PM
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I can understand how you’d feel. For me, until we confirm exclusivity, I follow a “don’t ask don’t tell“ approach because I don’t want to know if a man I’m dating has been seeing others while we weren’t technically committed and I don’t want to put a man in a situation to lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 04:48 AM
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“This isn't some outrageous concept. If your entiere concept of a relationship boils down to a game of simon says, you shouldn't be in one.“ Communication is not a game of simon says nor is it outrageous to suggest that people express their needs and expectations in a dating relationship. Not everyone dates the same or has the same expectations, so communication is essential to being on the same page.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 04:42 AM
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I think that’s traditional or one way of dating. So that everyone is on the same page, I think communication is key and those expectations should be explicitly shared to avoid confusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 03:27 AM
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That’s interesting. To me, I expect until we’ve confirmed exclusivity that any man I’m dating may be seeing or having sex with others, and it doesn’t bother me, so it’s interesting to hear a lot of them feel the opposite. Thanks for sharing.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 02:32 AM
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These men should make it clear that they expect exclusivity so there is no “cheating” or confusions.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 02:25 AM
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I think if someone feels like they ext the relationship to be exclusive, they should make that clear so there is no “cheating.” Because if one person assumes exclusivity while not communicating it, the other won’t know and may continue to date others, because they think you’re still dating others. Also the person may want to be exclusive but don’t want to put all eggs in one basket if exclusivity isn’t confirmed. If you except commitment, it’s best to be upfront.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 02:24 AM
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Is it cheating if they’re not exclusive? Or are you referring to dating in which they’ve agreed to commit?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/21 08:56 PM
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Escorts face greater risks.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/21 07:00 AM
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I don’t like it’s hypocritical. For instance, an overweight unfit woman can be attracted to fit men only. Now does that mean she will attract fit men? Of course, she’ll attract some fit men who are open to dating overweight unfit women but if she wants a wider dating pool, she may have to be realistic that she’ll attract even more of those fit men if she adopts a fit lifestyle. Perhaps from living an unfit lifestyle, she recognizes that’s something she doesn’t want in a partner as she works on h…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/21 06:19 AM
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I agree. It is critical that intersectionality is acknowledged. Both racism and misogyny are at play here, not just racism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 05:43 PM
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Thank you. I think it’s important to recognize that people may have different comfort levels. And I appreciate hearing different perspectives. I’m glad to hear your thoughts are similar to mine. It helps knowing there are man ok with a little boundaries to start. I mean I definitely would like to get close to a date once I’ve established that I’d like to do so. Then after we’ve been sitting across from each other, if rapport and comfort has built up, I’ll be inching closer to him eventually. Any…
/r/seduction18/02/21 09:31 PM
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Great! Take care.
/r/seduction18/02/21 05:43 PM
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For you it does help with rapport, but it doesn’t help for all. For some people it will be a turn off on a date if the date gets too close to start. You or whoever can keep downvoting me, but it doesn’t change the fact that everyone’s comfort level is different. For me I like starting across snd as I get comfortable throughout dinner, then I’ll get closer. Now go downvote this different preference.
/r/seduction18/02/21 05:27 PM
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I mean that’s what people are posting. They want to remove a physical barrier to get close. How is it being rude or assumption? That’s literally what’s being posted. Why else would you want to get close aside from having physical contact?
/r/seduction18/02/21 05:23 PM
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It’s just a personal comfortable level for everyone. While that feels appropriate to you, it may not for another. Just as my feelings will not translate to all. I prefer starting across and if I’m interested throughout the date, I will remove the physical barriers by telling my date to come closer or I’ll move closer to him.
/r/seduction18/02/21 05:04 PM
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For me I prefer sitting directly across from my date, and if things are going well and I’m interested, I’ll welcome my date getting closer (or I’ll get closer). I wouldn’t want a man just assuming from the start that I want or am ok with him being all up in my personal space, dinner date or not.
/r/seduction18/02/21 04:58 PM
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It really depends on the people. There’s no one way of dating.
/r/seduction18/02/21 04:54 PM
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“I think it’s absurd when you try to state you are a woman as a means to somehow lend more credibility to your opinion.” I never mentioned being a women to lend more credibility. I may be a man for all you know. I stated a general reason why some women may have downvoted since you asked “lol why is this getting downvoted.” Feel free to take my post as one of the various reasons why the post was downvoted. It was just one plausible reason to “why is this getting downvoted.”
/r/seduction18/02/21 04:49 PM
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Even at a four person table, I never understood why (obviously aside from a man wanted to get a feel) that a date would need to sit directly to the left or right of me. If we’re at dinner to get to know each other, I find it makes most sense and is less odd to sit directly across from me. Of course we’re all different and this is just my opinion for me.
/r/seduction18/02/21 03:55 PM
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I didn’t downvote it but I’m sure it sounds creepy to those who downvoted. Like you’re choosing “first dates that ensure there won’t be a physical barrier” just sounds odd. Honestly I’d rather a man say he chooses first dates that allow him to get to know me, not allow him to touch me or have physical contact by ensuring he chooses a date that specifically ensures there won’t be a physical barrier. However I’m sure there are women that appreciate you’re sole focus on physical, it’s just other wo…
/r/seduction18/02/21 03:50 PM
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Lol well I enjoyed it. Thanks for posting. 😊
/r/seduction01/01/21 07:37 PM
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True I guess. The instrumental immediately played in my head as I read the words. Haven’t heard the song in years but immediately recognized it lol
/r/seduction01/01/21 07:36 PM
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Don’t know why Hey Ma got down voted. I used to love that song!
/r/seduction01/01/21 03:33 PM
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