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butterflyrising1/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 01:02 PM
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Girl I sincerely hope you got out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 06:43 AM
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Exactly . She must not have kids because no real mother would ever post this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 03:25 PM
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What a disgusting woman. I would save my child over ANYTHING or ANY man She’s messed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 03:24 PM
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You can do it! I too left an abusive alcoholic . I promise it never gets better . It will be tough but you will make it thru! Pm me if you need support anytime :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 04:04 AM
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This post is gold thank you! I have a huge pile of uni work to do and after I plan to focus 100 percent on my self care
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 01:57 PM
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He messages me suggesting we should quarinteen together . Umm , boy ? Bye .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 09:08 PM
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Is calling them hot a bad thing ? Lol ooops
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 09:05 PM
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Oh girl I can totally relate . My neighbour who I thought was one of my closest friends , we bonded together over bad relationships. All of a sudden she met someone , moved him in within the month, and their kids are telling everyone they are siblings now. Plus, the dude doesn’t drive, is under employed etc . Now I never hear from her ! Hope She doesn’t need me again, lol . I’m a great friend but I realize there are many women out there who ditch everything for some not even half decent dick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 09:04 PM
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wow Thanks for tips I feel motivated now :) trying to level up by my birthday in June
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 02:43 AM
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Please give us tips on how to be more fit ! I’ve had one child , I’m 32 , I’m okay, sort of haha , I really want to level up in this area ! I’ve been told I look 25 but I still carry bit of the baby weight !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 09:15 PM
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He responded to my direct “ I don’t do the hookup thing I prefer to date “ By saying he wants to keep seeing me and he can do that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 01:07 PM
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Very true . I never pay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 01:05 PM
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Ahh I see , well maybe the second date could be the larger investment ? Like if the coffee goes well he could buy dinner next time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 04:12 AM
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I feel nervous about eating dinner with a guy on a first date , is something wrong with me ? Perhaps I’m so used to low effort but I feel far more comfortable walking somewhere with a cup of coffee , easier to chat that way without embarrassing food mistakes or spilling all over myself or awkwardly trying not to talk while chewing. I’m a naturally shy person. Would it be weird to want to warm up to someone without embarking on a fancy dinner together ? It’s more of a comfort thing to me than a l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 03:40 AM
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K so I need to share a success story of boundary setting Been reading here for awhile , started applying the FDS principles . Said I wouldn’t accept low effort , all of a sudden he’s now making the effort , and this was with no promise of any hook up or anything at all Is it true that HVM will try and act LV unless or until you challenge them? Just thought I’d share a small Piece of successful change from my usual pick-me antics which I’m trying so hard to eliminate I feel so confident !!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 03:37 AM
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I was warm, I just alluded to the fact that I had options, for some reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 12:30 AM
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Np! Keep doing what you do, from one proud mom to another .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 02:46 AM
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Just a lot of kissing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 02:22 AM
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Honestly I have a history of ignoring red flags . I legitimately used to make myself blind to them and idealize the person I was with . And then it was too late, they had me hook, line, sinker . The amount of effort i put in for nothing disgusts me now, as well as the verbal and mental abuse I experienced . I think having a very narc parent that invalidated my emotions in my childhood and teenage years led me to be a people pleaser. I struggle with this to this day. I haven’t been letting myself…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 12:52 AM
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Ladies I am wracking my brain trying to determine what happened exactly . He took me out to a nice restaurant last week before the social distancing . We followed it up with a drink and pool game. I think too much was said on my end ... maybe . I suggested/hinted that it may be interesting to hang out sometime somewhere that doesn’t involve alcohol, we both complained about our exes (probably a mistake) and my message was left on READ !! Otherwise I don’t think I saw any red flag, I was rather f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 12:44 AM
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I can’t count how many times I’ve played the fool, girl. Be kind to yourself and vow never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 12:40 AM
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Thank you ! I’m not sure why I am flagged a throwaway account, i just opened this account ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 01:55 PM
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Same, Mine became abusive after my daughter was born. The situation isn’t perfect but I’m happy to have my child. No we don’t need men, women don’t seem to acknowledge that , not all of us had the child to trap some lvm, many of us walked away and saved our children from abuse . And created safe and happy lives for our kids. Sick of society condemning single moms, this group should applaud how we found the inner strength to walk away and rise every day beside our child, teaching them high values…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 03:58 AM
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Omg I love this so so much! Thanks for this post . I, too, had many bad years and a child with a lvm who also has two other children. I love putting energy into my 4 year old who is very talented with dancing and singing. I have so much pride for how she has turned out with no help from him. So glad I dropped the dead weight ! And congrats to you and your little girl .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 03:51 AM
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I feel ashamed when I remember all The times I have done this over the years . Facepalm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 03:29 AM
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I’m super tired and fed up, ghosted three different people I was talking to after realizing they were absolutely low value , by reading these threads and comparing . But I’m starting to think there is for sure something wrong with me too. I guess a bad childhood and teenage years has left me not being myself with people , being a bit of a “yes “ girl, and basically selling myself short for most of my adult life with men who I wasted my time with . It’s a let down for sure . And I know in a lot o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 07:11 PM
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Just acting uninterested , leaving him on read, ignoring phone calls, basically appearing uninterested and unbothered I think it’s a wall I’ve put up from being used to dealing with lvm for fear of being hurt I find the more I run the more he chases But I know it’s not a healthy way to act at all I have a lot of things I need to work on and probably should abandon dating for a few years
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 01:41 AM
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I agree, he shows those traits but of course he could turn low value within a moment !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 11:15 PM
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Sort of , sort of talking to a HVM last week and I can’t believe it but I’ve scared him off with my pretending to be the “cool girl” defense mechanism tactics . I’m so embarassed . I think I may as well Just stay away from men until I can fix myself .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 05:45 PM
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This post is so on point . I, too, have the maladaptive coping strategy of acting like the cool girl with no standards. I only started realizing since finding this page how much this hasn’t served me and has destroyed my life and self esteem. I am hopeful starting therapy will make a dent and I can change .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 12:12 PM
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